I am a personal trainer 💪🏾 and I have to CONSTANTLY tell clients that what they see majority of the time isn’t real. They think that if they do weight training that they will look like these instagram chicks. Ladies... you will look like the better version of yourself. You will definitely build muscle, but it won't look like that😂. Genetics, training, and your nutrition play a HUGE role in determining your shape.
Facts! I also want to add that 90% of people's best version will look great if they can remain consistent with both weights and a lifestyle of eating right. Not like a BBL but definitely great and attractive.
Genetics more than anything. I've always had the tiny waist and the big butt naturally it's hard for me to fathom going to the store or hospital and just buying the body parts you want.
@@michellepreston9799 Naaa. You start eating heavily and not doing anything and you'll see how quickly your "Genetics" go out the window. Especially when you get over 30 and when you have kids. Sis lets not give people excuses to just give up. I have seen countless ladies in Latin America of every race change their body through exercise and let me tell you that the ladies with the African genes have the craziest results and they stay in the gym. I don't think there is any super race but us blacks react VERY well to weights and the right diet and we just waste it because we are lazy. #Gym culture.
These 40+ women on here acting like 18yrolds is pretty disturbing. These older women are suppose to be imparting their knowledge and wisdom to younger women to help them grow in a substantive way. Instead, these 40+ women are acting like competitors. Its disturbing!!!!!!!!!
But they’re not imparting knowledge and they’re not going to because they’re in competition with younger women over the same men. Someone once said that men help younger men because they see themselves IN them. Women don’t help younger women because they see themselves AS them.
Ppl are born with their personalities. Age doesn’t change. I’ve always been a late back, chill, goal getting book work as long as I remember. Ppl evolve but not really change. We often become older versions of our younger selves. Spirit doesn’t age the body is only an Avatar…. Blessings unto you ❤
And what they don’t realize is that the people giving them attention don’t even really like them they are only hanging around that person because they think that it will also bring them attention so it’s like you said it’s all about “attention” it’s the new currency.
@ellisjackson3355 yes and get cussed out, told to mind my business, told I'm too old to understand, or generally to eff off. They have as much respect for their elders as they do for men. ZERO
@vanessacundiff676 hmm. I can understand not wanting to put up with the disrespect. They're dumb for not wanting to heed your wisdom that you don't have to share with them in the first place. At least you're trying to warn them
My ex-wife just did this same thing. It’s sad and we have 2 kids. Stayed out of work for 2 months and had to take loans out to pay bills. My kids are even worried about her. Thinking about getting full custody
I am starting to see some signs of hope for the black community when sisters like Nneka is making videos like this. We need more and we need the good ones to publicly shame these women.
~ Hope is just as bad, if not worse than dope. It is an empty process. Having “hope” is believing in fantasy. I have faith, that the remnants of once proud Black communities will be reduced to ash. I also do believe that the next generation will forge ahead and make “new” communities ~ but “Hope” is that thing that was remaining in Pandora’s box. Just “Hope” after all the ills were released into the world. The Pandora’s box analogy is what comes to mind when I think of what’s remaining of “Black” communities (my personal belief is that that the “community “ exist only online~ but I digress) Hope is a slap in the face to reality, reality suggests that hope is worthless and laughs and mocks Hope. I understand that your comment wasn’t “.that deep” but it’s something that is irksome about the “Hope” mentality ~ we can hope all we want but hope is like faith without works, praying and not believing in God. Hope is akin to creationism versus evolution. We have much evidence on one, (creationism as nothing non living has never created life and it’s never been scientifically proven) while the other (evolution) is just a theory, a hypothesis on life evolving from nothing. Hope is alchemy! Lol! It isn’t real and it’s not rooted in anything tangible.
I dated a guy who told me my legs could handle a backside with more volume. Now I am naturally curvy, (size 12, smaller waist and DD bra size), yet this guy literally asked me twice to get a bbl. Sir, good day!! I broke up with him and promptly moved away from the state we were going to start a new life in. Ladies, the gaslighting is real.
The times we’re living in I don’t blame him for asking. We are seeing what women are doing to their body. We’re to the point men have to ask people if they were born a female. So it’s not gaslighting. It’s looking out for his best interest.
She bragging on a body she bought. Like maam its only yours cause you had the cash not the dedication and determination. That was a wild intro right there
Sometimes no amount of dedication and determination will change your body. My mother had massive hips back in the 60s. Not in fashion at that time. 33 24 38. No amount of exercise or diet was ever going to make her hips small enough to be in balance with the rest of her body. Bone structure. But she tried her best. She did hours of hip roles. And diet just made the top smaller. Sometimes you just need to accept what you have.
I'm tired of all these fake droopy booty, diaper booty, booty look like diaper full of rocks and doodoo. Why don't these slores go somewhere and take care of their dam kids instead of trying to wheel these men inside their webs?
This is Carribean culture specifically if you look at carnival and other festivals from those countries that entertainers like cardi b, Nicki Minaj and even the men like Luke from 2 live crew hail from, the reason why we never saw such behavior in the spotlight is because in traditional southern pre civil rights era black culture it was kept in the basement or club where it belong. After the civil rights and immigration bills were passed in 1965 many Carribean people migrated in mass to places like Miami Florida and New York and now we have it more so in our faces. Many of you are not looking at people’s cultural backgrounds and just lumping everyone into the term “black” but look at their flags on Social media or research and you will see more than often they are from outside of southern black culture.
That influx of this 'Caribbean culture' also permeated black African societies starting in the 90s. The black American(gangsta/hiphop culture) was also making waves in Africa then.(Previously the black american 'Jazz' and civil rights movement culture and the afro-Caribbean rhumba culture was the norm in urban African societies) Today this 'urban' culture is mostly in entertainment and urban slums or ghettos in Africa. And even in those communities it doesnt go beyond teens and young adults. African communities also have their own old traditional 'ratchet cultures' but these are kept tight behind closed doors as you say....we see alot of these 'african traditional ratchetness' in much of that Caribbean and afro American culture thats why many here can relate lol
A few month ago a black woman with five kids went to Mexico to get a tummy tuck and BBL. She along with four other people lost theirs lives in a cross fire. She left five children behind for a false sense of self esteem
The babies didn't get kill because she went to Mexico for a tummy tuck..The kids got killed because the mother was careless. Why did she take the kids to Mexico? Kids get killed in .crossfires often in the USA. and they're not with their mother getting a tummy tuck.
When I was younger I use to want surgery so bad but as I grew up I realized that people are shaped different. It took me to go through my own weight loss journey to understand that I was thinking about it all wrong. By me eating different I started seeing a change and by doing my booty workouts my body started to change naturally. I’m glad I never went through all that.
I considered surgery and non-surgical procedures, but honestly, I know myself all too well. I know the quick fix won't create the discipline I'll need to maintain that body so I'm deciding to workout 15-20mins minimum everyday and eat at a caloric deficit. This is creating a habit that I know I can upkeep even after I meet my physical goal.
I myself have considered a tummy tuck but it's just a thought I'm just too afraid of those risk. So I've changed my eating habits as well as daily exercise but I just have a lot of belly fat after I had my daughter my stomach just never went down but I wasn't exercising either or eating healthy so that's one of the reasons it never went down also muscles being stretched out from having kids.. I'm just choosing to be patient with myself as well as put in the work to get it shape
I'm seeing alot of my black women give up with working out and nutrition way to early. Consistency is hard and social media gives us false representation. I know a couple women that went for the quick fix but I'm wondering the long term mental and physical effects that these surgeries could have.
wow actually making a grown up choice lool i swear women are kids..how do u even get to a level where you even think about getting surgery instead of exercise like an adult
Proves the age old saying: Women are followers. That's why men should focus on being better leaders, for all the right reasons. Leadership, without responsibility and accountability, is the blind leading the blind. So guys, let's reverse this curse of dysfunctional leadership. Our women and kids need us to reestablish our masculine role, with positive attitude and we will get positive results!!!
I'm sorry in my experience I have met not one person who believes that having and exaggerated behind and misshapen hips attractive. I've asked men why do you look at these women and all of them say because it's like a train wreck you can't look away from. These women are getting these surgeries for nothing. I feel so bad because behind their backs there is nothing but ridicule and disgust for them, it's so sad!
Maybe it's your location or even age. My mum is in her 40s and is obsessed with getting a bbl because two of the guys she was dating last year kept telling her how much better she would look with one. Coincidentally, these were younger guys in their late 30s- both were porn addicts btw- so maybe it's a thing with a certain type of age range?
Social Media is what allowed that bridge for women to give stripper culture this much influence over them. Before there was no connection and it was much more limited. It first started with reality tv and then SM allowed them the platform to broadcast the degeneracy to even the youngest of anyone who followed. In our community it has women in a chokehold, this stuff will be a case study in the future and how it mentally affected a whole generation in many ways and not limited to just body modifications but also a get over pay for play mentality
You are right but we the audience did not reject it either..we binged watched reality tv and had parties at strip clubs instead of regular clubs both men and women ..heck prior to marriage many women had stripper parties these are so-called every day regular..around the way girls were doing it ..then by the time SM got hold of us we were already hooked.. Bro or Sis i talk to everyday women at the office and the majority of the ones i speak to all want a big butt.
Yes! Women are looking at naked women all day all year now! Just as much as a man are these days. That's why almost every woman is likely to have a gay experience these days.
I think you’re right and it’s very unfortunate that society and men in particular, including me, have placed so much emphasis on a woman’s ass. So many have been hurt by this and I wish I’d learned better sooner.
Society has placed the focus on a big butt and BBLs so women and transwomen are seen as the equal. (BBLs, Breast Implants, Tummy Tucks, Fake Lashes, Lip Injections, Fake Nails, and Wigs)
"I've never seen big butts saving any lives, quite the opposite" - truer words have never been spoken. I am a 68 yr old woman, and decided long ago against a tummy tuck, I think I was too scared. But ever since then, I decided I would never surgically alter my body for anyone. Now as for becoming a multi milliinaire ... hmmm... no. I have learned to love myself exactly as I am and use nutrition and exercise vs surgery. Am I perfect? Am I rich?Hell no. But I love myself and glad I didnt subject myself to the current physical shape shifting. Also, many, not all, but many, BBL's look ridiculous
My wife friend had body surgery in DR years ago. Now she's always in pain and doctors here in New York won't touch her.She's now taking Access-A-Ride from place to place because she physically can't drive anymore. The cost of beauty can drive some to a lifetime of pain or death.
@@nnekaonyilofor she’s better now health wise but now because of the other surgeries to save her life. She couldn’t keep weight off from tummy tuck, so it was pointless in the end. I’ll love her at any size or any condition, women please listen to your man if you trust him.
@@Antoniodagreatthat’s what I believe as well. Because if she does something even tho you tell her you like the way she looks currently then it’s obvious that it might be for someone else
@@Antoniodagreat I thought so too smh we talked and she told me three of her coworkers had it done. They told her it was no big deal and were much happier after. But it’s 2023 you might be right anything is possible lol
There’s so much cap from many of the men in the comments section. Most of you don’t date for substance. You choose women who look a certain way then hope she’s good to you. Even if she’s not good to you, you keep her to boost your self esteem and feel validated by your boys. The reason women go get work like this done is because they want the attention you guys give women with the BBL look. I would never risk my life and future legacy by modifying my body for the male gaze or to be chosen by a man. Those women may increase their options but at the end of the day, most of you cheat. There’s no prize to be won for those women either. Women are unknowingly sharing their men regardless of their booty size, her physical appeal, her wifely qualities, cooperation, femininity, her acrobatic talents in the bedroom and whatever else men claim they want. Ladies, it’s not worth the risk…most men are loyal to two things: themselves and their desires. Also they won’t risk their life in this matter to appeal to women. We should be more like them in this regard. Learn to value your life and your legacy.
@sauniisthaname Right, many men give them attention, but good successful men don't marry these women. It's an over sexualize fantasy, For sex yes, for a side chick yes, but that's it. Men don't take these women seriously. Most good successful men like women who are naturally beautiful, fit, and friendly. No big weaves everyday, no long finger nails, with a naturally fit body.
There's literally a man saying a black woman is masculine if she has short NATURAL hair, not straight, but NATURAL type 4 hair which is texturist. By that logic, I guess Nicki Minaj would be considered a feminine woman (her natural hair is long) even though she displays many masculine personality traits. They are superficial and confused. The length of a woman's hair doesn't determine her femininity or her substance.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682what he's saying is that he hates Black women but he will tolerate them if they look appealing enough to others. I have had a Black man who told me he only liked permed hair. Not straight hair, permed hair. He only liked women in an unnatural state.
As a man I can't lie seeing a big round behind, thick thighs and a relatively smaller waist (She can have some body fat) is appealing to men (At least me). However, you can get close to that by working out and dieting. It won't be exactly the same but it can be done and within your genetics and look good. Hard work, diet and being natural is the best way. No BBL's are needed however hard work and sacrifice is.
And this is why many women do it to get the attention. Most men I hang out with, grew up with etc (most of them were and are football players, coaches, business men) they said it’s cool to look at but when you are feeling a woman all of that is not necessary. Of course they want to be attracted to their wives or the women they are in relationships with but having a huge butt you can sit a cup on isn’t necessary to get a man’s attention.
All the excessiveness has ruined it. I miss the look of women in the 90's. Maybe its because I was a teenager then. And you remember the things that impact you in those years. But naturally colored, shoulder length hair, natural looking faces, and normally proportioned bodies are so much more visually appealing.
@@RahYisrael99 I know too many men who love all types of women. There is a difference in a grown boy and a mature minded-man. A grown boy looks at nothing else and considers nothing else except lustful desires. A grown man has eyes too and sees beauty but he knows how to look a bit deeper. Sometimes we have exceptions of people based on age and we shouldn’t. We all play a role in this as far as this topic is concerned. It’s so much more I could write on this subject but I will say I wish more people would spend less time on social media or at the least take a break because there are certain topics that are a bigger deal here than in the real world. There are some men who dislike and/or jealous of women even the ones they are with because of their internal struggles
@@RahYisrael99Exactly, I been noticed , Most of these men act like they hate women, Always insulting us about how we wear our hair makeup, eyelashes, how we dress ,Always talking about we looking for attention Trust and Believe, us black women are not worried about you black men .....DON'T FLATTER YOURSELF .🙄
I'm in my mid-50s. The problem has been created for natural women. My butt is 50 inches naturally. 40 DD naturally. Thick thighs. Shapely legs. I've never wanted. It created a lot of problems for me because obviously that's the first thing men see and they are like dogs. It's really disgusting. I don't know why women want that kind of potentially dangerous attention. I've been walking down the street and have men pull up. I've been offered money so many times. It's dangerous.
@FalaqX Oh, everything is tight. I was taught to take care of myself or get it back when I'm caught lacking, unlike these modern women who have to buy a wig, lashes, plastic nails, and a BBL to look and feel good. As a boyfriend told me once, "Women paying good money for what you already got." I'm sorry for you.
Wellington's decision to retain some of the "butt shots" that she travelled out of the country to remove speaks volumes. (1) She knows that the original _"procedure"_ has put her health at risk. So she takes an additional risk to get the silicone removed. (2) In spite of the extra risk of removing the silicone, she refuses to have it all removed, *_thus negating any potential benefit of having it removed in the first place._* (3) She's having some of it retained for aesthetic reasons, instead of doing squats and resistance training to achieve the best possible natural results. She's a multimillionaire, so she can certainly afford a personal trainer (or team of trainers) and a chef/nutritionist to help her get there naturally...shortcut much? (4) In so doing she is consciously choosing to allow the principal component of *BEACH SAND* to remain in her body after making her fortune selling "health products." (5) She is doing this to be aesthetically pleasing *_to whom?_* To men? Which ones? To women? Certainly not "just for herself," because true self love would cause her to prioritize self-preservation over aesthetics.
The crazy thing about this is that when it comes to content like this woman is putting out ever noticed that there's very few women that are in the comment section which means that women are not actually interested in trying to better themselves😅😅😅
I appreciate your intellect and your content here. As an older black man, I've been seeing this unFold for a number of years now, and I see it's coming down to a Spiritual Battle therefore statements from intelligent and black women of integrity are gonna mean a lot.
These procedures are short gains but have long term costs. Yes eating healthy and going to the gym is work but the gains and lessons learned are worth it.
Anytime there is a negative aspect to what they wanted and pursued it will end up being a man's fault somewhere down the line. A lot of women will say that men are attracted to the look, so a lot of women will do this surgery thinking men will take them seriously afterward, not knowing that it is the personality and attitude that will make a man think of a woman later. Having a nice proportioned body is just a checkmark. Remember, "it's always Jermaine's fault".
Stop the cap dawg, men (especially us blk men) won't even look at a woman twice if her butt is not big. A lot of men overlook a women's personality because a lot of y'all only care about the physical appearance.
@@rexxlashell99 I agree, a lot of black women and other women who are attracted to black men, definitely do things to attract the black male gaze and the rise in BBLs is a testament to that. Most women aren't getting BBLs to attract white or Asian men. It's a fool-proof way to get a black man (if you're a black woman): long straight weave, BBL, light skin. And this isn't a standard just for the "hoodrat" down the block, this standard seems to apply even to black men with money, education and status.
@@rexxlashell99 we as blk men don't want fake breast or fake butts. Yes we like a woman who is thicker than a snicker like Cherokee D Azz. But we also like em skinny like Coi Leray. Sorry but women like Malia Obama are fine fine an they don't have booty. I'm sure they approach alot. But these women aren't getting BBLs for regular men. They getting it to get props from other girls ie girl on girl action They may also get it if their only fans or work at. A strip club for better tips. Because frankly the woman with bigger butts or bigger booty will get more attention in those two arena's. But on average most of women with a butt natural butt over 50 years old never been married. Very rare a woman with a big butt keeps a husband or even get one. Men typically marry women who are built like Jada picket Smith, grace Jones, Angela Bassett, Viola Davis. Not women built like cardi B unless a thuggish looking guy with tattoos on his face like offset. Thugs may go for them hood looking chicks with the sharcarri colorful weaves, the mink eye lashes, the tattoos all over her body, an the BBL like Nicki Minaj who is also married to a convicted felon for heinous sex crime. But regularly every day working black men want a woman who is not made with with fake parts
I know a few women who got BBLs. The thing is you could tell it wasn’t for them. It was because they were getting older and trying to lock down a guy. I think women need to start holding other women accountable. Bring back shame. Not everyone is a bad B. You don’t have to twerk every time you leave the house. Wear w/e you want, but respect yourself. It’s sad all around.
The reality is men are attracted to all different shapes or sizes. Curvy, tall and slender, etc. Back in the day natural was beautiful. but people are doing what is popular now.
@@Giles2014 doubt it. It’s just for more attention/validation. 2-3yrs after your surgery, I can see it now “he was an abusive, jealous, narcissist so I had to leave him.”
It’s sad how Satan has influenced so many into vanity that it is literally causing death. I do appreciate her transparency about her journey but the fact that she is that vain to want to keep a portion of a TOXIC DEADLY chemical in her body just to not have a flat butt is the definition of insanity.
I love the truth you telling! Don’t stop, and let women know natural beauty is the way. Stick with the way you are born. Big butts are not the be all, be more than than what you have.
It looks terrible in person too. Black women really don't need to do this. It's getting so bad I know an Attorney with a botched BBL. Why on God's green earth does an attorney need one?
I live in Atl which is ground zero for the surgically enhanced IG model types and I'll say this. A woman's beauty is her social capital. Personally, I've been allowed to penetrate spaces outside the urban community due to desirability politics (I'm tall, lean, w/delicate features and dark skin). These surgeries are especially popular in the BC because curves and a voluptuous backside is the standard of beauty in black spaces and elevates your lifestyle in a positive way. If it didn't so many women wouldn't be risking their lives to do it. I've seen it and not hating on it. Being curvy and beautiful in general is a hustle for many of these ladies. I've seen women who were overlooked fly over to Columbia and come back living the high life because they were now seen as desirable and more successful to the men they were trying to attract. Would I get plastic surgery? No but then again I'm happy with the way I look naturally and know I'm privileged meaning I know society views me as conventionally attractive already. Diet/exercise can only take you so far is you're not conventionally attractive. Hell, even animals go for the strongest and most aesthetically pleasing because it shows strong genes to continue their bloodline. It's a primal instinct. When people find you attractive, you're treated better and life is easier in a lot of ways (harsh truth). Ex. People who have been overweight, lost the extra lbs, and compare their lives before & after. I say if you're gonna take the risk, do lots of research and don't cut corners as far as cost. To each their own.
First, I want to say thank you for your content! What I don’t understand is what happen to embracing your age and feeling fortunate to be older. I grew up in a very rural area, only 2 red lights. The older folks always taught us it was a privilege to get older and with older comes changes in your body. I feel like all of this is because people want to look and feel younger and that time has passed. I’ll be 40 my next birthday and don’t even want to do the things I did in my 20s. But I guess I have seen similar things among men as well. I played football in high school and college and men took PEDs (performance enhancing drugs) to become stronger and faster. So I kinda understand the wanting to look a certain way for a certain reason. But I just don’t get the people who want the look just to have it. Personally I want my woman to look her age. I feel she is more comfortable with who she is and I know as we get older we gonna eventually have health problems, I don’t either of us making our bodies worse for an aesthetic look.
I have seen 40 year olds and 50 year olds that are gorgeous. I think one of those problems is we keep pushing that 40 is old when it really isn’t. There are women who are 40+ and you wouldn’t even know it because they age well. I don’t know any woman between 40-60 that want go back to their 20s. Many will say they feel healthier, better, and wiser about their lives. Life is about growth and the journey but based on social media standards it has changed drastically. Again it’s social media not the real world. I thing we have to look at what is really being pushed social media wise and what’s really happening in the world. Aging and or aging well has to do with genetics and how well you care for your health and body, but we all will get older.
Nneka I agree with you there is a lot of fakery going on here too in the UK… For me it’s the talons and the extra long thick fake eye lashes and the highlighting & contouring that all women seem to be doing to themselves ! I don’t believe in elective surgeries or fake add ones… For me it’s way too expensive to look fake so I don’t bother hahaha ! I am a 100% real from the hair on my head to my highly arched dancers feet hahahaha ! My mantra is ‘Learn to feel confident in your skin because it’s the only skin your gonna be in’ Thanks for your insights ! Ciao Bella
I'm glad I click on this video. I just met a woman who clearly got a BBL but would not admit it. She said all this is her natural body. I told my boy she's living in her Lie-dentity
There's a lot of beautiful - physically - black women and they NEED ZERO modification to their bodies: All they need is fitness regime and their naturally good genetics would do the rest... The problem with many of these women is not physical (the fact there's some women who think they need surgery is suggestive of the REAL problem). And yes it's obvious: The problem in many black women is their primitive mentality: * Self-Conceit (unable to self-reflect and improve) * Over-Weening Ego (delusional self-expectations) * Narcissism (destructive to others around them) * Stupidity mixed with Aggression (a complete lack of femininity) In a word: These black women have not worked on improving their internal CHARACTER. They were blessed with a good hand from Mother Nature and they totally squander it. With that said, I've met, talked to, interacted with some black women who were religious and all I can say about those ladies: "God Smiled Upon Them In Every Which Way." Bear in mind I'm not religious myself: These ladies had worked on completing themselves as elevated people who will end up producing children who are successful and happy and functional in a society.
Strip club culture and hip hop culture are NOT intertwined in black American culture. Those are remnants of GHETTO or lower class, street culture which are different. I think you need to better understand the class dynamics of black America before you make sweeping characterizations of us as a group. Middle class and upper class black Americans often bristle at those elements of our people. Moreover, many urban lower class whites and others fully embrace it so it is not only us. But I like much of what you have to say and you've earned yourself a subscriber.
I hear you. The tragedy is that blacks are too often defined by the worst among us while other groups tend to be defined by the best among them. This is partly politics but it is partly own own fault.
Hate to break it to you, but strip club culture and Hip Hop culture dominate Black American culture. Even middle and upper middle class Blacks get swept up by it.
I like how you brought socioeconomic class into the discussion. As a formerly homeless woman, I can say not every woman should even attempt to look sexy. Unlike the weird BBL ladies, I was doing everything I could to avoid the male gaze. Rape is a thing. While looking basic in such a situation gets old, I actually did not want to look "desirable".
I couldn't agree with you more. You pretty much covered all bases. The most disturbing aspect of your commentary is just how pervasive and negatively impactful the "Strip Club" culture has become in the thought paradigms of a lot of women. You've touched on it before, and I've expressed my thoughts but I still can't process how a lot of women just don't get that they're trying to emulate a fantasy on an everyday basis. A fantasy is something fantastic, wondrously imaginative or unreal. And to be somehow convinced that contouring your body (putting your life at risk) to make yourself sexually desirable (absent of the qualities that men desire) will translate to making you relationally desirable is a fantasy in and of itself.
If a trend where wearing a lump of shit around your neck started and men were like 'wtf are you doing? That's a piece of shit', I'm at the point where I truly believe these women would fight you and defend their lump of shit. Because they see it as 'Stop insulting me!', as opposed to 'maybe I should listen... and not just because he's shouting it a couple metres away from me'
The products do work with a lot of exercise and discipline, but coach Stormy who I have never cared for doesn't like most black or Latin women don't put in the work. Her body is all bought none of it is real, and she had to tell everyone that her butt was fake because like Nikki it was to obvious you cant go from being flat to having 40 plus inch butt she told she had surgery because there was no other way. She became the millionaire because she is at the top of the pyramid scheme and got followers based on a flashy life style and people hopping they could one day be there.
At 58 yrs. young. the more I listen and experience the mentality and behaviors of "modern western women" - particularly in the black communities - the less desirable they have become to me! Now I'm just biding my time until age 62 to retire and live abroad (Asia) to experience "cultural freedom"!!!
met a woman a few weeks back with a great bod. I was very impressed with her and showed her my tummy after she showed me hers. I told I did several things which include bicycles. i asked if she did bicycles. She didn't know what the hell I was talking about. I knew from enough online body shaping videos that there was no way you could have a tummy like hers and not know what the bicycles exercise was if you were at all doing the work yourself. I concluded she was make regular visits to a doctor.
Amongst other reasons, I recently left my ex because she wouldn’t stop telling me that she’s going to get BBL. I was constantly telling her not to but she refuses to listen. I kept telling her that I love her and she just needs to watch her weight because she is about 5”7 150+. These girls wanna look like celebrities so badly meanwhile they have men who genuinely care for them and end up losing a potential husband.
I'll never understand why women fantasize about each other like that. Guys don't try to break their back and their bank to go get surgery to look like another guy. If they do, somethings wrong mentally. Once women start feeling love for themselves, like most men do, they will stop having these surgeries and cause those doctors to go out of business. Self love is the main goal and the 🔑. 💯
My mother was ill. She had a personal support worker come in every day. Dozens over the years. Every woman who was black spent major money on hair, nails, other beauty stuff. All the other ladies, from all around the world, did not. Easily thousands of dollars a year. One lady told me... "Hair is very important to a black woman." They could be from Nigeria, USA, Caribbean, Congo, Uganda ... They all spent a major part of their income on beautifying themselves. It amazed me how many styles of hair a person could have, every few weeks a $300+ hair do. (the Nigerian) They were all, to a person, very nice ladies and great to sit and talk with.
Yeah, I don't know why they won't spend that money on taking care of their natural hair. Some reason they think us men like all the fake stuff. But I do see a lot of other groups of women at the nail salon, lots of makeup, going tanning ect.
I can't stand yall trying to shame black women form doing something every race of women on thus plant does. Black women have every right to do what ever we want with OUR money. 😊😊
@suziepickes702 you need to get out of your emotions. Where does it say you can't do what you want with your money? This lady in her 50s told me that weave didn't get popular until the 80s. She said the hair style back in the day was something called the mushroom. She also told me she does hair. All together, this female spent $300. The question is, why can't you spend that money on taking care of your natural hair? If you have naturally short hair, you can style it, and you can buy natural products that will help you grow it. Help me understand the need for all the fake hair, the long braids. Are you looking for attention? Every woman has their own reason why they do what they do. But if it's for attention, we are not asking you to do that.
@@suziepickes702no one is shaming you guys rather you guys are shaming yourselves. Time is coming when you guys will be left alone with all this Bs. I’m so happy men around me are waking up. Not f givn to this fake a** everywhere.
Nneka C. Onyilofor I agreed with everything in your video for the exception of your Aaliyah analogy. Aaliyah had an athletic body, she also paid her dues in the gym and dance studio to possess that flat stomach. Encouraging heavier women to just be happy with a fat stomach is not the way, we should be encouraging our women and men to exercise and eat right. I'm not saying every woman would have a stomach exactly like Aaliyah's, but you definitely have a better chance at getting there with proper exercise and a good nutritional diet.
Judging by Appearance is like driving into a Wall painted to look like an Open Highway. Appearance is the Apron the monster wears while maneuvering in the Kitchen. Accomplishment is the Tablecloth that makes the cardboard box appear to be an Exquisite Dining table.
Yes I used to be a replacement in TLC back in 2015-2016 the tea really worked I had some great results from the tea health wise. My menstrual headaches went away the nutraburst was really good too. I still have some tea in my pantry😃
I'm small but had children in my youth so my stomach muscle is now very weak, even though I workout daily. I did consultations for a simple tummy tuck and all the surgeons literally tried to up-sell additional procedures. They all lost the sale because that's not caring for my health or mental health, that's caring solely about your wallet. I never did the procedure. I guess I'll just keep wearing my blouse outside my pants or accept my little bulge. 😂😂
You should check with an holistic doctor or medical doctor to see if there are any natural ways to strengthen your stomach and then build it up & tighten through exercise. There are always other options instead of cosmetic surgery and procedures. Don’t give up on yourself. 🙏🏽❤️
@@tamarastone141 it definitely isn't easy but commitment and discipline are sorely lacking in our country these days. We're so stuck on instant gratification
You start glowing and become an instant 10/10 and if anyone tells you otherwise, let them know you personally got a message from the creator to say 'God is watching you?... This is the time for delusion, right?
Even Dr's have came out and said that ppl who get these elective procedures are basically guinea pigs because they are still currently doing research on the long term effects of a lot of it. It's going to be interesting to see.
Naturally curvaceous since age ten. It is annoying the number of people who think i have had a tummy tuck and bbl. My back hurts all of the time due to the capaciousness of my buttocks. No surgery, no enhancements, genetics. It saddens me to see so many women falling prey to the hyperbole.
One of the natural advantages black women had with their image was a naturally great rear end. Then, they went out and ruined it with dangerous procedures that make them look like caricatures. Procedures and looks that men say they don't want them to get. Procedures women say they don't care what men want, they do these things for themselves. Then, when the procedures produce horrific results, the women blame men and THEIR unreasonable beauty standards. Really?!?! Men don't want the weaves, the baby hair, those rodent eyelashes, tattoos, ridiculous nails, pumped up asses, tons of makeup, or seeing you hanging out of your clothes. But these same women say they want honesty in their man. They want high value men while acting low rent. The women are now being misidentified as strippers or trans due to all of this. And they have the nerve to be upset. As DJ Khalid says, "Congratulations, you played yourself."
Nneka, This is a real insightful video. Thank You for sharing. If I may add, I think the Fear of Aging also plays a hand in BW getting these procedures done especially for those who are single with children. One of my former classmates who followed me is who she calls an influencer, she is also a single mother and she still dresses like a 20 year old, midriffs, hiphugger jeans, miniskirts etc etc. These women honestly believe that nothing has changed after having kids. They just refuse to grow up and put on some clothes. I truly feel sorry for these women and the men who think this stuff is Hot. These Guys are just as delusional to pump and promote this behavior as well. That's all I have to say.
@@MsPrice-pn2py nah at 45 they still think there's a prince charming coming. 60 is the bullseye age for women. They care less the granny mustache is growing in. Chin hairs are blooming. Its over with. Time has been wasted
I always thought that your mental health is more important than physical beauty. When you say you want to contribute to black women. Try starting with they're mind, than the heart. Black woman have always been physically attractive.🤔✌️😎
What happened to “working for it”? I was very overweight a few years ago, I took the steps to change my lifestyle to get results. These people pay this money for these bodies and don’t even maintain them, and end up back on the table yet again. This is so sad. Seems like a lot of insecurities
I am a personal trainer 💪🏾 and I have to CONSTANTLY tell clients that what they see majority of the time isn’t real. They think that if they do weight training that they will look like these instagram chicks. Ladies... you will look like the better version of yourself. You will definitely build muscle, but it won't look like that😂. Genetics, training, and your nutrition play a HUGE role in determining your shape.
Facts! I also want to add that 90% of people's best version will look great if they can remain consistent with both weights and a lifestyle of eating right. Not like a BBL but definitely great and attractive.
@@dwighthayles1226 I agree 👍🏾!
REAL REALITY vs fake fantasy
Genetics more than anything. I've always had the tiny waist and the big butt naturally it's hard for me to fathom going to the store or hospital and just buying the body parts you want.
@@michellepreston9799 Naaa. You start eating heavily and not doing anything and you'll see how quickly your "Genetics" go out the window. Especially when you get over 30 and when you have kids. Sis lets not give people excuses to just give up. I have seen countless ladies in Latin America of every race change their body through exercise and let me tell you that the ladies with the African genes have the craziest results and they stay in the gym.
I don't think there is any super race but us blacks react VERY well to weights and the right diet and we just waste it because we are lazy. #Gym culture.
How can a group of people cry so much about a beauty standard but then destroyed their bodies like this?
@visitation-ofjesusthechris3670stay up my brother in Christ. Keep speaking truth, life and the way!
Because any type of sense or logic tastes bitter to them
Preach
we're walking,living double standards
Some people are desperate for attention. I don't like too much attention. Don't group us all in.
These 40+ women on here acting like 18yrolds is pretty disturbing. These older women are suppose to be imparting their knowledge and wisdom to younger women to help them grow in a substantive way. Instead, these 40+ women are acting like competitors. Its disturbing!!!!!!!!!
But they’re not imparting knowledge and they’re not going to because they’re in competition with younger women over the same men. Someone once said that men help younger men because they see themselves IN them. Women don’t help younger women because they see themselves AS them.
What’s even more disturbing is the thought of what the black community will look like in 20 years when my generation are in their late 40s.
They want to be in competition with everyone trying to prove their worth because of their deep insecurities.
Of course there are trying to compete for men , men are causing this
Ppl are born with their personalities. Age doesn’t change. I’ve always been a late back, chill, goal getting book work as long as I remember. Ppl evolve but not really change. We often become older versions of our younger selves. Spirit doesn’t age the body is only an Avatar…. Blessings unto you ❤
Women dont want love. They want attention
Absolutely!
Attention is the new drug for these dysfunctional narcissists.
Deeep
Real Talk 💯
And what they don’t realize is that the people giving them attention don’t even really like them they are only hanging around that person because they think that it will also bring them attention so it’s like you said it’s all about “attention” it’s the new currency.
THANK YOU!
As an Elder Black woman, I am so worried about the beauty standards our young women are following.
Do you talk to them about it?
@ellisjackson3355 yes and get cussed out, told to mind my business, told I'm too old to understand, or generally to eff off. They have as much respect for their elders as they do for men. ZERO
@vanessacundiff676 hmm. I can understand not wanting to put up with the disrespect. They're dumb for not wanting to heed your wisdom that you don't have to share with them in the first place. At least you're trying to warn them
@@ellisjackson3355 I leave them with "when you choose the behavior you choose the consequences." 🤷🏿♀️
I'm starting to like it over here. The common sense and rational thinking is strong in this space.
Right me too! Mature and true healthy convo.❤
I was just thinking the same thing! I might F around and start donating!
Facts
My ex-wife just did this same thing. It’s sad and we have 2 kids. Stayed out of work for 2 months and had to take loans out to pay bills. My kids are even worried about her. Thinking about getting full custody
Omg! I am so sorry to hear this. 😥
Sending prayers hugs and strength that’s crazy y’all could’ve worked out and ate a little better.
Thinking???? I would make every attempt. No disrespect but Her priorities are all wrong.
Don’t think…do.
If you can afford to do it Do it 🤷🏽
A lot of women are in competition with each other 💯
A woman blaming men for all their problems is like the jelly on your sandwich blaming the peanutbutter for it being waaaaaaaay to sweet.
@@DHARQAXIAN Enjoy
They scapegoat us so they can make as many mistakes as they want..an say it's because they have no good leaders.
Instead of them being good women
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Brilliant 🔥🤣
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I am starting to see some signs of hope for the black community when sisters like Nneka is making videos like this. We need more and we need the good ones to publicly shame these women.
It's a wrap. No hope for these hors
SOMETHING's gotta give eventually, it's turning into a circus!!
@@devinbanks6144 then stop impregnateing them. Black men stay giving their seeds to anyone.
@@suziepickes702 that's the point. Never got that chance
~ Hope is just as bad, if not worse than dope.
It is an empty process.
Having “hope” is believing in fantasy.
I have faith, that the remnants of once proud Black communities will be reduced to ash.
I also do believe that the next generation will forge ahead and make “new” communities ~ but “Hope” is that thing that was remaining in Pandora’s box. Just “Hope” after all the ills were released into the world.
The Pandora’s box analogy is what comes to mind when I think of what’s remaining of “Black” communities (my personal belief is that that the “community “ exist only online~ but I digress)
Hope is a slap in the face to reality, reality suggests that hope is worthless and laughs and mocks Hope.
I understand that your comment wasn’t “.that deep” but it’s something that is irksome about the “Hope” mentality ~ we can hope all we want but hope is like faith without works, praying and not believing in God. Hope is akin to creationism versus evolution. We have much evidence on one, (creationism as nothing non living has never created life and it’s never been scientifically proven) while the other (evolution) is just a theory, a hypothesis on life evolving from nothing. Hope is alchemy! Lol! It isn’t real and it’s not rooted in anything tangible.
I dated a guy who told me my legs could handle a backside with more volume. Now I am naturally curvy, (size 12, smaller waist and DD bra size), yet this guy literally asked me twice to get a bbl. Sir, good day!! I broke up with him and promptly moved away from the state we were going to start a new life in. Ladies, the gaslighting is real.
He was a clown
Good for yooouuuuuu
I don't think I ever heard of a guy requesting his woman to get that done. That's crazy. Glad you left that weirdo.
He ask you twice one time is enough
Glad you got away...😮😊
The times we’re living in I don’t blame him for asking. We are seeing what women are doing to their body. We’re to the point men have to ask people if they were born a female. So it’s not gaslighting. It’s looking out for his best interest.
She bragging on a body she bought. Like maam its only yours cause you had the cash not the dedication and determination. That was a wild intro right there
Yh and their body parts were in stock😂😂😂
Sometimes no amount of dedication and determination will change your body. My mother had massive hips back in the 60s. Not in fashion at that time. 33 24 38. No amount of exercise or diet was ever going to make her hips small enough to be in balance with the rest of her body. Bone structure.
But she tried her best. She did hours of hip roles. And diet just made the top smaller.
Sometimes you just need to accept what you have.
they don't care if its bought as long as it brings that attention which can be converted into $$$$
I'm tired of all these fake droopy booty, diaper booty, booty look like diaper full of rocks and doodoo. Why don't these slores go somewhere and take care of their dam kids instead of trying to wheel these men inside their webs?
Toys, literally. Walking talking misses potato heads w/their interchangeable parts. Able to say, Keep it real.
This is Carribean culture specifically if you look at carnival and other festivals from those countries that entertainers like cardi b, Nicki Minaj and even the men like Luke from 2 live crew hail from, the reason why we never saw such behavior in the spotlight is because in traditional southern pre civil rights era black culture it was kept in the basement or club where it belong. After the civil rights and immigration bills were passed in 1965 many Carribean people migrated in mass to places like Miami Florida and New York and now we have it more so in our faces. Many of you are not looking at people’s cultural backgrounds and just lumping everyone into the term “black” but look at their flags on Social media or research and you will see more than often they are from outside of southern black culture.
That influx of this 'Caribbean culture' also permeated black African societies starting in the 90s. The black American(gangsta/hiphop culture) was also making waves in Africa then.(Previously the black american 'Jazz' and civil rights movement culture and the afro-Caribbean rhumba culture was the norm in urban African societies) Today this 'urban' culture is mostly in entertainment and urban slums or ghettos in Africa. And even in those communities it doesnt go beyond teens and young adults. African communities also have their own old traditional 'ratchet cultures' but these are kept tight behind closed doors as you say....we see alot of these 'african traditional ratchetness' in much of that Caribbean and afro American culture thats why many here can relate lol
A few month ago a black woman with five kids went to Mexico to get a tummy tuck and BBL. She along with four other people lost theirs lives in a cross fire. She left five children behind for a false sense of self esteem
She’s still alive, 2 men from the group died
@@youtubeshadowbansme494of course. And they only went with her to "protect" her. Let them make terrible decisions on their own.
These women are AIRHEADS.
Actually, she’s still alive.
The babies didn't get kill because she went to Mexico for a tummy tuck..The kids got killed because the mother was careless. Why did she take the kids to Mexico? Kids get killed in .crossfires often in the USA. and they're not with their mother getting a tummy tuck.
When I was younger I use to want surgery so bad but as I grew up I realized that people are shaped different. It took me to go through my own weight loss journey to understand that I was thinking about it all wrong. By me eating different I started seeing a change and by doing my booty workouts my body started to change naturally. I’m glad I never went through all that.
Low self esteem is real, just look around. You'll see it.😮
I considered surgery and non-surgical procedures, but honestly, I know myself all too well. I know the quick fix won't create the discipline I'll need to maintain that body so I'm deciding to workout 15-20mins minimum everyday and eat at a caloric deficit. This is creating a habit that I know I can upkeep even after I meet my physical goal.
I myself have considered a tummy tuck but it's just a thought I'm just too afraid of those risk. So I've changed my eating habits as well as daily exercise but I just have a lot of belly fat after I had my daughter my stomach just never went down but I wasn't exercising either or eating healthy so that's one of the reasons it never went down also muscles being stretched out from having kids.. I'm just choosing to be patient with myself as well as put in the work to get it shape
I'm seeing alot of my black women give up with working out and nutrition way to early. Consistency is hard and social media gives us false representation. I know a couple women that went for the quick fix but I'm wondering the long term mental and physical effects that these surgeries could have.
wow actually making a grown up choice lool i swear women are kids..how do u even get to a level where you even think about getting surgery instead of exercise like an adult
So proud of you beautiful black woman. Keep working,you are going to be proud 6-9 months later. 👏 👏
Proves the age old saying: Women are followers. That's why men should focus on being better leaders, for all the right reasons. Leadership, without responsibility and accountability, is the blind leading the blind. So guys, let's reverse this curse of dysfunctional leadership. Our women and kids need us to reestablish our masculine role, with positive attitude and we will get positive results!!!
Thank you
Well said
Well said. It's biblical too
I'm sorry in my experience I have met not one person who believes that having and exaggerated behind and misshapen hips attractive. I've asked men why do you look at these women and all of them say because it's like a train wreck you can't look away from. These women are getting these surgeries for nothing. I feel so bad because behind their backs there is nothing but ridicule and disgust for them, it's so sad!
Like nearly everything with women, they have no understanding of men and how we think.
Attention DOES NOT equal attraction and love ladies.
Don't be naive. Men will look at any thing.
Maybe it's your location or even age. My mum is in her 40s and is obsessed with getting a bbl because two of the guys she was dating last year kept telling her how much better she would look with one. Coincidentally, these were younger guys in their late 30s- both were porn addicts btw- so maybe it's a thing with a certain type of age range?
@@naev.3344big azz is attractive
@@FranSanTeeth90but not marry Anything ! Period
Social Media is what allowed that bridge for women to give stripper culture this much influence over them. Before there was no connection and it was much more limited. It first started with reality tv and then SM allowed them the platform to broadcast the degeneracy to even the youngest of anyone who followed. In our community it has women in a chokehold, this stuff will be a case study in the future and how it mentally affected a whole generation in many ways and not limited to just body modifications but also a get over pay for play mentality
You are right but we the audience did not reject it either..we binged watched reality tv and had parties at strip clubs instead of regular clubs both men and women ..heck prior to marriage many women had stripper parties these are so-called every day regular..around the way girls were doing it ..then by the time SM got hold of us we were already hooked.. Bro or Sis i talk to everyday women at the office and the majority of the ones i speak to all want a big butt.
Yes! Women are looking at naked women all day all year now! Just as much as a man are these days. That's why almost every woman is likely to have a gay experience these days.
Social media is evil
They didn't allow this culture they were begging for it.
Maybe this is who they really are at their core?
Supply and demand....if the people didn't want it and they couldn't make money off of it it wouldn't be a thing
Honestly as far as Stormi I think it's smoke and mirrors ... there is a lot of money to be made off the backs of black women
Yep and "US" as a culture just EAT IT UP!!!!
LMFAOAOAOAO!!!!
This that “low vibrational plate” lady.
And they are eating it up
Huh?... Did someone just say Tyler Perry? 👀
I think you’re right and it’s very unfortunate that society and men in particular, including me, have placed so much emphasis on a woman’s ass. So many have been hurt by this and I wish I’d learned better sooner.
Because today's black men love big butts thats why.
Society has placed the focus on a big butt and BBLs so women and transwomen are seen as the equal. (BBLs, Breast Implants, Tummy Tucks, Fake Lashes, Lip Injections, Fake Nails, and Wigs)
Thank you for being accountable as a man!!
"I've never seen big butts saving any lives, quite the opposite" - truer words have never been spoken. I am a 68 yr old woman, and decided long ago against a tummy tuck, I think I was too scared. But ever since then, I decided I would never surgically alter my body for anyone. Now as for becoming a multi milliinaire ... hmmm... no. I have learned to love myself exactly as I am and use nutrition and exercise vs surgery. Am I perfect? Am I rich?Hell no. But I love myself and glad I didnt subject myself to the current physical shape shifting. Also, many, not all, but many, BBL's look ridiculous
Your comment really resonates with me! 💜💯
Well said!!!
Great comment, thanks 👏🏾
My wife friend had body surgery in DR years ago. Now she's always in pain and doctors here in New York won't touch her.She's now taking Access-A-Ride from place to place because she physically can't drive anymore. The cost of beauty can drive some to a lifetime of pain or death.
Damn!
Dang! Thats sad homie.
@@laranini9660No lawsuit if she had it in Dominican Republic.
@@Diane-ne4oq oh yes I know laws are very different there.
I had to talk my wife out of butt shots smh but she went behind my back and got a tummy tuck. Almost lost her life in surgery and we have three kids
Omg! 😢
@@nnekaonyilofor she’s better now health wise but now because of the other surgeries to save her life. She couldn’t keep weight off from tummy tuck, so it was pointless in the end. I’ll love her at any size or any condition, women please listen to your man if you trust him.
@@KngLouievTTVshe’s doing it for other men’s attention man
@@Antoniodagreatthat’s what I believe as well. Because if she does something even tho you tell her you like the way she looks currently then it’s obvious that it might be for someone else
@@Antoniodagreat I thought so too smh we talked and she told me three of her coworkers had it done. They told her it was no big deal and were much happier after. But it’s 2023 you might be right anything is possible lol
There’s so much cap from many of the men in the comments section. Most of you don’t date for substance. You choose women who look a certain way then hope she’s good to you. Even if she’s not good to you, you keep her to boost your self esteem and feel validated by your boys.
The reason women go get work like this done is because they want the attention you guys give women with the BBL look. I would never risk my life and future legacy by modifying my body for the male gaze or to be chosen by a man. Those women may increase their options but at the end of the day, most of you cheat.
There’s no prize to be won for those women either. Women are unknowingly sharing their men regardless of their booty size, her physical appeal, her wifely qualities, cooperation, femininity, her acrobatic talents in the bedroom and whatever else men claim they want. Ladies, it’s not worth the risk…most men are loyal to two things: themselves and their desires. Also they won’t risk their life in this matter to appeal to women. We should be more like them in this regard. Learn to value your life and your legacy.
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@sauniisthaname Right, many men give them attention, but good successful men don't marry these women. It's an over sexualize fantasy, For sex yes, for a side chick yes, but that's it. Men don't take these women seriously. Most good successful men like women who are naturally beautiful, fit, and friendly. No big weaves everyday, no long finger nails, with a naturally fit body.
There's literally a man saying a black woman is masculine if she has short NATURAL hair, not straight, but NATURAL type 4 hair which is texturist. By that logic, I guess Nicki Minaj would be considered a feminine woman (her natural hair is long) even though she displays many masculine personality traits. They are superficial and confused. The length of a woman's hair doesn't determine her femininity or her substance.
Every man does not think that way.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682what he's saying is that he hates Black women but he will tolerate them if they look appealing enough to others.
I have had a Black man who told me he only liked permed hair. Not straight hair, permed hair. He only liked women in an unnatural state.
As a man I can't lie seeing a big round behind, thick thighs and a relatively smaller waist (She can have some body fat) is appealing to men (At least me). However, you can get close to that by working out and dieting. It won't be exactly the same but it can be done and within your genetics and look good. Hard work, diet and being natural is the best way. No BBL's are needed however hard work and sacrifice is.
And this is why many women do it to get the attention. Most men I hang out with, grew up with etc (most of them were and are football players, coaches, business men) they said it’s cool to look at but when you are feeling a woman all of that is not necessary. Of course they want to be attracted to their wives or the women they are in relationships with but having a huge butt you can sit a cup on isn’t necessary to get a man’s attention.
All the excessiveness has ruined it. I miss the look of women in the 90's. Maybe its because I was a teenager then. And you remember the things that impact you in those years. But naturally colored, shoulder length hair, natural looking faces, and normally proportioned bodies are so much more visually appealing.
@@KFontLabmost men these days do not like women. They like how a certain esthetic benefits them.
@@RahYisrael99 I know too many men who love all types of women. There is a difference in a grown boy and a mature minded-man. A grown boy looks at nothing else and considers nothing else except lustful desires. A grown man has eyes too and sees beauty but he knows how to look a bit deeper.
Sometimes we have exceptions of people based on age and we shouldn’t.
We all play a role in this as far as this topic is concerned. It’s so much more I could write on this subject but I will say I wish more people would spend less time on social media or at the least take a break because there are certain topics that are a bigger deal here than in the real world.
There are some men who dislike and/or jealous of women even the ones they are with because of their internal struggles
@@RahYisrael99Exactly, I been noticed , Most of these men act like they hate women, Always insulting us about how we wear our hair makeup, eyelashes, how we dress ,Always talking about we looking for attention
Trust and Believe, us black women are not worried about you black men .....DON'T FLATTER YOURSELF .🙄
I'm in my mid-50s. The problem has been created for natural women. My butt is 50 inches naturally. 40 DD naturally. Thick thighs. Shapely legs. I've never wanted. It created a lot of problems for me because obviously that's the first thing men see and they are like dogs. It's really disgusting. I don't know why women want that kind of potentially dangerous attention. I've been walking down the street and have men pull up. I've been offered money so many times. It's dangerous.
ATLANTA?
How many inches is your belly tho?
@FalaqX Oh, everything is tight. I was taught to take care of myself or get it back when I'm caught lacking, unlike these modern women who have to buy a wig, lashes, plastic nails, and a BBL to look and feel good. As a boyfriend told me once, "Women paying good money for what you already got." I'm sorry for you.
Height? Dress size?
@puggman24 LOL! You mad? You ain't Kevin Samuels. As a boyfriend told me once, "Women paying good money for what you already have." I'm sorry.
This education is truly a gem💎 !
Thank You for touching on this truth🙏🏽✨️
Wellington's decision to retain some of the "butt shots" that she travelled out of the country to remove speaks volumes.
(1) She knows that the original _"procedure"_ has put her health at risk. So she takes an additional risk to get the silicone removed.
(2) In spite of the extra risk of removing the silicone, she refuses to have it all removed, *_thus negating any potential benefit of having it removed in the first place._*
(3) She's having some of it retained for aesthetic reasons, instead of doing squats and resistance training to achieve the best possible natural results.
She's a multimillionaire, so she can certainly afford a personal trainer (or team of trainers) and a chef/nutritionist to help her get there naturally...shortcut much?
(4) In so doing she is consciously choosing to allow the principal component of *BEACH SAND* to remain in her body after making her fortune selling "health products."
(5) She is doing this to be aesthetically pleasing *_to whom?_* To men? Which ones? To women? Certainly not "just for herself," because true self love would cause her to prioritize self-preservation over aesthetics.
Well said, brother. Well said.
😂She cheated and women loves her, nope Pass Port all the way...😊
Spot on assessment. The part where she doesn’t want it all removed, really speaks volumes. Her butt is essentially a ticking time bomb. 💣
Amen, my brother!
This trend, body dysmorphia is sickening I see women on crack with bbl’s 😫.
The crazy thing about this is that when it comes to content like this woman is putting out ever noticed that there's very few women that are in the comment section which means that women are not actually interested in trying to better themselves😅😅😅
they don't want to hear this "garbage" lol. She need to start talking about broke men etc
The content I’ve been waiting on. The community needs you. New sub💕
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I appreciate your intellect and your content here. As an older black man, I've been seeing this unFold for a number of years now, and I see it's coming down to a Spiritual Battle therefore statements from intelligent and black women of integrity are gonna mean a lot.
The older women need to show what’s happening to their bodies now that they have this for years. We’ve seen a few and it was all bad.
These procedures are short gains but have long term costs. Yes eating healthy and going to the gym is work but the gains and lessons learned are worth it.
Anytime there is a negative aspect to what they wanted and pursued it will end up being a man's fault somewhere down the line. A lot of women will say that men are attracted to the look, so a lot of women will do this surgery thinking men will take them seriously afterward, not knowing that it is the personality and attitude that will make a man think of a woman later. Having a nice proportioned body is just a checkmark. Remember, "it's always Jermaine's fault".
Stop the cap dawg, men (especially us blk men) won't even look at a woman twice if her butt is not big. A lot of men overlook a women's personality because a lot of y'all only care about the physical appearance.
@@rexxlashell99 you're talking nonsense!!
@@rexxlashell99 I agree, a lot of black women and other women who are attracted to black men, definitely do things to attract the black male gaze and the rise in BBLs is a testament to that. Most women aren't getting BBLs to attract white or Asian men. It's a fool-proof way to get a black man (if you're a black woman): long straight weave, BBL, light skin. And this isn't a standard just for the "hoodrat" down the block, this standard seems to apply even to black men with money, education and status.
@@rexxlashell99Exactly. They will then be upset when she treats them poorly.
@@rexxlashell99 we as blk men don't want fake breast or fake butts.
Yes we like a woman who is thicker than a snicker like Cherokee D Azz. But we also like em skinny like Coi Leray.
Sorry but women like Malia Obama are fine fine an they don't have booty. I'm sure they approach alot.
But these women aren't getting BBLs for regular men.
They getting it to get props from other girls ie girl on girl action
They may also get it if their only fans or work at. A strip club for better tips. Because frankly the woman with bigger butts or bigger booty will get more attention in those two arena's.
But on average most of women with a butt natural butt over 50 years old never been married. Very rare a woman with a big butt keeps a husband or even get one.
Men typically marry women who are built like Jada picket Smith, grace Jones, Angela Bassett, Viola Davis.
Not women built like cardi B unless a thuggish looking guy with tattoos on his face like offset.
Thugs may go for them hood looking chicks with the sharcarri colorful weaves, the mink eye lashes, the tattoos all over her body, an the BBL like Nicki Minaj who is also married to a convicted felon for heinous sex crime.
But regularly every day working black men want a woman who is not made with with fake parts
Love your content you inspiring me to make one from a male perspective . Great analysis , great message 💪🏿💯
How does one explain to their daughter they may never look like their mother because everything on her had been augmented through surgery...smh
I know a few women who got BBLs. The thing is you could tell it wasn’t for them. It was because they were getting older and trying to lock down a guy.
I think women need to start holding other women accountable. Bring back shame. Not everyone is a bad B. You don’t have to twerk every time you leave the house. Wear w/e you want, but respect yourself.
It’s sad all around.
The reality is men are attracted to all different shapes or sizes. Curvy, tall and slender, etc.
Back in the day natural was beautiful. but people are doing what is popular now.
@@Giles2014 doubt it. It’s just for more attention/validation. 2-3yrs after your surgery, I can see it now “he was an abusive, jealous, narcissist so I had to leave him.”
This was thought provoking content, gives a different perspective.
It’s sad how Satan has influenced so many into vanity that it is literally causing death. I do appreciate her transparency about her journey but the fact that she is that vain to want to keep a portion of a TOXIC DEADLY chemical in her body just to not have a flat butt is the definition of insanity.
I have a natural big butt that drew A LOT of negative attention growing up. I'm still trying to understand what is the fascination.
I love the truth you telling! Don’t stop, and let women know natural beauty is the way. Stick with the way you are born. Big butts are not the be all, be more than than what you have.
It looks terrible in person too. Black women really don't need to do this. It's getting so bad I know an Attorney with a botched BBL. Why on God's green earth does an attorney need one?
Nneka I know you have heard this millions of time, it is my first time here and you look stunning.
Thank you!
Great video. You are a very good woman. You are helping us (our community) sooooo much
I live in Atl which is ground zero for the surgically enhanced IG model types and I'll say this. A woman's beauty is her social capital. Personally, I've been allowed to penetrate spaces outside the urban community due to desirability politics (I'm tall, lean, w/delicate features and dark skin). These surgeries are especially popular in the BC because curves and a voluptuous backside is the standard of beauty in black spaces and elevates your lifestyle in a positive way. If it didn't so many women wouldn't be risking their lives to do it.
I've seen it and not hating on it. Being curvy and beautiful in general is a hustle for many of these ladies. I've seen women who were overlooked fly over to Columbia and come back living the high life because they were now seen as desirable and more successful to the men they were trying to attract. Would I get plastic surgery? No but then again I'm happy with the way I look naturally and know I'm privileged meaning I know society views me as conventionally attractive already. Diet/exercise can only take you so far is you're not conventionally attractive.
Hell, even animals go for the strongest and most aesthetically pleasing because it shows strong genes to continue their bloodline. It's a primal instinct. When people find you attractive, you're treated better and life is easier in a lot of ways (harsh truth). Ex. People who have been overweight, lost the extra lbs, and compare their lives before & after. I say if you're gonna take the risk, do lots of research and don't cut corners as far as cost. To each their own.
First, I want to say thank you for your content!
What I don’t understand is what happen to embracing your age and feeling fortunate to be older. I grew up in a very rural area, only 2 red lights. The older folks always taught us it was a privilege to get older and with older comes changes in your body. I feel like all of this is because people want to look and feel younger and that time has passed. I’ll be 40 my next birthday and don’t even want to do the things I did in my 20s.
But I guess I have seen similar things among men as well. I played football in high school and college and men took PEDs (performance enhancing drugs) to become stronger and faster. So I kinda understand the wanting to look a certain way for a certain reason. But I just don’t get the people who want the look just to have it.
Personally I want my woman to look her age. I feel she is more comfortable with who she is and I know as we get older we gonna eventually have health problems, I don’t either of us making our bodies worse for an aesthetic look.
I have seen 40 year olds and 50 year olds that are gorgeous. I think one of those problems is we keep pushing that 40 is old when it really isn’t. There are women who are 40+ and you wouldn’t even know it because they age well.
I don’t know any woman between 40-60 that want go back to their 20s. Many will say they feel healthier, better, and wiser about their lives. Life is about growth and the journey but based on social media standards it has changed drastically. Again it’s social media not the real world. I thing we have to look at what is really being pushed social media wise and what’s really happening in the world.
Aging and or aging well has to do with genetics and how well you care for your health and body, but we all will get older.
I work with a really dope and realistic trainer. I'm slowly changing my lifestyle and it's working. That's it and all... No surgery
Nneka I agree with you there is a lot of fakery going on here too in the UK… For me it’s the talons and the extra long thick fake eye lashes and the highlighting & contouring that all women seem to be doing to themselves ! I don’t believe in elective surgeries or fake add ones… For me it’s way too expensive to look fake so I don’t bother hahaha ! I am a 100% real from the hair on my head to my highly arched dancers feet hahahaha ! My mantra is ‘Learn to feel confident in your skin because it’s the only skin your gonna be in’ Thanks for your insights ! Ciao Bella
Real men aren’t worried about Ass or Education. Looks etc. a lot of women lost. Praying for them 🙏🏾
These heffas 😂😂😂. Be careful babygirl them heffas gonna label you a hater or pick me
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true. telling a woman the harsh truth is never received well. they immediately attack.
I'm glad I click on this video. I just met a woman who clearly got a BBL but would not admit it. She said all this is her natural body. I told my boy she's living in her Lie-dentity
There's a lot of beautiful - physically - black women and they NEED ZERO modification to their bodies: All they need is fitness regime and their naturally good genetics would do the rest...
The problem with many of these women is not physical (the fact there's some women who think they need surgery is suggestive of the REAL problem). And yes it's obvious: The problem in many black women is their primitive mentality:
* Self-Conceit (unable to self-reflect and improve)
* Over-Weening Ego (delusional self-expectations)
* Narcissism (destructive to others around them)
* Stupidity mixed with Aggression (a complete lack of femininity)
In a word: These black women have not worked on improving their internal CHARACTER. They were blessed with a good hand from Mother Nature and they totally squander it. With that said, I've met, talked to, interacted with some black women who were religious and all I can say about those ladies: "God Smiled Upon Them In Every Which Way."
Bear in mind I'm not religious myself: These ladies had worked on completing themselves as elevated people who will end up producing children who are successful and happy and functional in a society.
Wow. Excellent and valid points were made.
Love her and her mission. We need more women like her for US 🙏🏾
Sad but very true! People learn to love thy selves and find a partner who loves you for you!❤
She said it's about consistency and then I got a tummy tuck 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Strip club culture and hip hop culture are NOT intertwined in black American culture. Those are remnants of GHETTO or lower class, street culture which are different. I think you need to better understand the class dynamics of black America before you make sweeping characterizations of us as a group. Middle class and upper class black Americans often bristle at those elements of our people. Moreover, many urban lower class whites and others fully embrace it so it is not only us. But I like much of what you have to say and you've earned yourself a subscriber.
We really need to figure out a way to put the ninja in a race of its own.
I hear you. The tragedy is that blacks are too often defined by the worst among us while other groups tend to be defined by the best among them. This is partly politics but it is partly own own fault.
@@ContrarianExpatriate facts
Hate to break it to you, but strip club culture and Hip Hop culture dominate Black American culture. Even middle and upper middle class Blacks get swept up by it.
I like how you brought socioeconomic class into the discussion. As a formerly homeless woman, I can say not every woman should even attempt to look sexy.
Unlike the weird BBL ladies, I was doing everything I could to avoid the male gaze. Rape is a thing. While looking basic in such a situation gets old, I actually did not want to look "desirable".
I couldn't agree with you more. You pretty much covered all bases. The most disturbing aspect of your commentary is just how pervasive and negatively impactful the "Strip Club" culture has become in the thought paradigms of a lot of women. You've touched on it before, and I've expressed my thoughts but I still can't process how a lot of women just don't get that they're trying to emulate a fantasy on an everyday basis. A fantasy is something fantastic, wondrously imaginative or unreal. And to be somehow convinced that contouring your body (putting your life at risk) to make yourself sexually desirable (absent of the qualities that men desire) will translate to making you relationally desirable is a fantasy in and of itself.
If a trend where wearing a lump of shit around your neck started and men were like 'wtf are you doing? That's a piece of shit', I'm at the point where I truly believe these women would fight you and defend their lump of shit. Because they see it as 'Stop insulting me!', as opposed to 'maybe I should listen... and not just because he's shouting it a couple metres away from me'
0:14 I’ll never understand people who have a negative feeling about growing old
This channel is going to blow up.
It really doesn't matter if a woman's a millionaire if she is NOT feminine and has a bad attitude. I'm simply not impressed.
Very well thought out, very well produced, very well said 🙌🏾🙌🏾
The products do work with a lot of exercise and discipline, but coach Stormy who I have never cared for doesn't like most black or Latin women don't put in the work. Her body is all bought none of it is real, and she had to tell everyone that her butt was fake because like Nikki it was to obvious you cant go from being flat to having 40 plus inch butt she told she had surgery because there was no other way. She became the millionaire because she is at the top of the pyramid scheme and got followers based on a flashy life style and people hopping they could one day be there.
I do want people to know that there are people out there who have this naturally
At 58 yrs. young. the more I listen and experience the mentality and behaviors of "modern western women" - particularly in the black communities - the less desirable they have become to me! Now I'm just biding my time until age 62 to retire and live abroad (Asia) to experience "cultural freedom"!!!
I like your perspective. And thank you for the natural hair style.
met a woman a few weeks back with a great bod. I was very impressed with her and showed her my tummy after she showed me hers. I told I did several things which include bicycles. i asked if she did bicycles. She didn't know what the hell I was talking about. I knew from enough online body shaping videos that there was no way you could have a tummy like hers and not know what the bicycles exercise was if you were at all doing the work yourself. I concluded she was make regular visits to a doctor.
Now how do you know that maybe she was just a naturally petite woman in that area? And didn’t have to maintain her waist like others do??
Amongst other reasons, I recently left my ex because she wouldn’t stop telling me that she’s going to get BBL. I was constantly telling her not to but she refuses to listen. I kept telling her that I love her and she just needs to watch her weight because she is about 5”7 150+. These girls wanna look like celebrities so badly meanwhile they have men who genuinely care for them and end up losing a potential husband.
Thank you for discussing this sista. I wish Blk Women knew how beautiful they really are.
This is good information sis
I'll never understand why women fantasize about each other like that. Guys don't try to break their back and their bank to go get surgery to look like another guy. If they do, somethings wrong mentally. Once women start feeling love for themselves, like most men do, they will stop having these surgeries and cause those doctors to go out of business. Self love is the main goal and the 🔑. 💯
you are soooooo awesome sister, keep the good work up.
Thank you!
My mother was ill. She had a personal support worker come in every day. Dozens over the years. Every woman who was black spent major money on hair, nails, other beauty stuff. All the other ladies, from all around the world, did not. Easily thousands of dollars a year. One lady told me... "Hair is very important to a black woman." They could be from Nigeria, USA, Caribbean, Congo, Uganda ... They all spent a major part of their income on beautifying themselves. It amazed me how many styles of hair a person could have, every few weeks a $300+ hair do. (the Nigerian) They were all, to a person, very nice ladies and great to sit and talk with.
Yeah, I don't know why they won't spend that money on taking care of their natural hair. Some reason they think us men like all the fake stuff. But I do see a lot of other groups of women at the nail salon, lots of makeup, going tanning ect.
Yall are really trying to sit here and say only black women care about beauty? Nonblack women don't spend money on skin hair care products?
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I can't stand yall trying to shame black women form doing something every race of women on thus plant does.
Black women have every right to do what ever we want with OUR money. 😊😊
@suziepickes702 you need to get out of your emotions. Where does it say you can't do what you want with your money? This lady in her 50s told me that weave didn't get popular until the 80s. She said the hair style back in the day was something called the mushroom. She also told me she does hair. All together, this female spent $300. The question is, why can't you spend that money on taking care of your natural hair? If you have naturally short hair, you can style it, and you can buy natural products that will help you grow it. Help me understand the need for all the fake hair, the long braids. Are you looking for attention? Every woman has their own reason why they do what they do. But if it's for attention, we are not asking you to do that.
@@suziepickes702no one is shaming you guys rather you guys are shaming yourselves. Time is coming when you guys will be left alone with all this Bs. I’m so happy men around me are waking up. Not f givn to this fake a** everywhere.
Nneka C. Onyilofor I agreed with everything in your video for the exception of your Aaliyah analogy. Aaliyah had an athletic body, she also paid her dues in the gym and dance studio to possess that flat stomach. Encouraging heavier women to just be happy with a fat stomach is not the way, we should be encouraging our women and men to exercise and eat right. I'm not saying every woman would have a stomach exactly like Aaliyah's, but you definitely have a better chance at getting there with proper exercise and a good nutritional diet.
Judging by Appearance is like driving into a Wall painted to look like an Open Highway.
Appearance is the Apron the monster wears while maneuvering in the Kitchen.
Accomplishment is the Tablecloth that makes the cardboard box appear to be an Exquisite Dining table.
Yes I used to be a replacement in TLC back in 2015-2016 the tea really worked I had some great results from the tea health wise. My menstrual headaches went away the nutraburst was really good too. I still have some tea in my pantry😃
Nuff respect Sis.I can say no more.
Good content young lady.
I'm small but had children in my youth so my stomach muscle is now very weak, even though I workout daily. I did consultations for a simple tummy tuck and all the surgeons literally tried to up-sell additional procedures. They all lost the sale because that's not caring for my health or mental health, that's caring solely about your wallet. I never did the procedure. I guess I'll just keep wearing my blouse outside my pants or accept my little bulge. 😂😂
You should check with an holistic doctor or medical doctor to see if there are any natural ways to strengthen your stomach and then build it up & tighten through exercise. There are always other options instead of cosmetic surgery and procedures. Don’t give up on yourself. 🙏🏽❤️
I don't understand why these people don't get you are not just your body😢
Arrogance will only take you so far
I will never change my body, God blessed me with life ❤
Instead of looking at your body shape dare to shape your mind through consistent learning and adopt the right values and attitude.
Exactly!
I seriously pray more black men also dare to shape their mind through consistent learning and adopt spiritual morals and values as well! 💯
Black women can't lie about their bodies. The truth is always self evident. This BBL madness gotta STOP!
I genuinely don't get it...just eat well and exercise 3-4 times a week and your body will look amazing! You don't need to have hips like Mewtwo
Lol mewtwo😅
I mean, it's not that easy....I workout too but let's be real. It takes discipline and commitment. It's hard work!
@@tamarastone141 it definitely isn't easy but commitment and discipline are sorely lacking in our country these days. We're so stuck on instant gratification
@@keybearer26 I agree..
You makin a lot of sense
What happens as your body age naturally while having so many unnatural products in it?
You start glowing and become an instant 10/10 and if anyone tells you otherwise, let them know you personally got a message from the creator to say 'God is watching you?... This is the time for delusion, right?
Sick as hell
They will look funny as hell in the nursing home, and I’m all here for it 😂.
Even Dr's have came out and said that ppl who get these elective procedures are basically guinea pigs because they are still currently doing research on the long term effects of a lot of it. It's going to be interesting to see.
See Vivica A. Fox
Naturally curvaceous since age ten. It is annoying the number of people who think i have had a tummy tuck and bbl. My back hurts all of the time due to the capaciousness of my buttocks. No surgery, no enhancements, genetics. It saddens me to see so many women falling prey to the hyperbole.
One of the natural advantages black women had with their image was a naturally great rear end. Then, they went out and ruined it with dangerous procedures that make them look like caricatures. Procedures and looks that men say they don't want them to get. Procedures women say they don't care what men want, they do these things for themselves. Then, when the procedures produce horrific results, the women blame men and THEIR unreasonable beauty standards. Really?!?! Men don't want the weaves, the baby hair, those rodent eyelashes, tattoos, ridiculous nails, pumped up asses, tons of makeup, or seeing you hanging out of your clothes. But these same women say they want honesty in their man. They want high value men while acting low rent. The women are now being misidentified as strippers or trans due to all of this. And they have the nerve to be upset. As DJ Khalid says, "Congratulations, you played yourself."
Are you a man?
All sisters do not gave great asses just like all European are not flat asses
@@nizarr21Are YOU a man ??
Nneka, This is a real insightful video. Thank You for sharing. If I may add, I think the Fear of Aging also plays a hand in BW getting these procedures done especially for those who are single with children. One of my former classmates who followed me is who she calls an influencer, she is also a single mother and she still dresses like a 20 year old, midriffs, hiphugger jeans, miniskirts etc etc.
These women honestly believe that nothing has changed after having kids. They just refuse to grow up and put on some clothes.
I truly feel sorry for these women and the men who think this stuff is Hot. These Guys are just as delusional to pump and promote this behavior as well.
That's all I have to say.
Very good point! The fear of aging is so real.
When most of these women turn 60 the truth will come out.
Sixty...try forty five 😂
@@MsPrice-pn2py nah at 45 they still think there's a prince charming coming. 60 is the bullseye age for women. They care less the granny mustache is growing in. Chin hairs are blooming. Its over with. Time has been wasted
I always thought that your mental health is more important than physical beauty. When you say you want to contribute to black women. Try starting with they're mind, than the heart. Black woman have always been physically attractive.🤔✌️😎
What happened to “working for it”? I was very overweight a few years ago, I took the steps to change my lifestyle to get results. These people pay this money for these bodies and don’t even maintain them, and end up back on the table yet again. This is so sad. Seems like a lot of insecurities
Excellent video…loved how you explained the deception behind some of these women
THANK YOUUU ! I BEEN WAITING FOR THIS TYPE OF VIDEO BC ALL THESE WOMEN DO IS LIE ABOUT SURGERY !
Thank you for posting this video. I hope young Women watching
Mfs come from under the knife and swear they a fitness expert 🤣
Struggle builds character not ego. Didn't let that go over your head 😎