Giving Birth In Your 20s VS Your 30s

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  • Опубликовано: 6 июн 2024
  • In 2016, for the first time ever, more American women had babies in their early 30s than in their 20s. Giving birth at any age comes with changes - to your body and bank account. But there are some key differences between giving birth in each decade.
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  • @FriedEgg101
    @FriedEgg101 4 года назад +18545

    The best time to have kids is when you're mature enough not to treat them like a burden on your life.

  • @alissarosenbaum4969
    @alissarosenbaum4969 5 лет назад +9448

    20s = body is right .
    30s = money’s right .

    • @bella4lyfe0
      @bella4lyfe0 5 лет назад +147

      Alissa rosenbaum no🤣 age doesn’t mean money. I have more money than most 30 year olds I know. And I’m 18.

    • @KhushiSharma-ci2kf
      @KhushiSharma-ci2kf 4 года назад +577

      @@bella4lyfe0 thats probably your inheritance?

    • @bella4lyfe0
      @bella4lyfe0 4 года назад +59

      Khushi Sharma I don’t have a inheritance lol. My moms a waitress and my dads a restaurant cook lol

    • @mdruhulaminshikder9295
      @mdruhulaminshikder9295 4 года назад +143

      Ladies, you do realize that men are getting prepared to take care of the money problem, right ? So pick the right guy and only worry about health. ☺

    • @KhushiSharma-ci2kf
      @KhushiSharma-ci2kf 4 года назад +39

      @@bella4lyfe0 sorry... So you earned it from your business maybe

  • @esmeralik1d247
    @esmeralik1d247 3 года назад +1664

    My mom had me at 43 my dad was 47.
    And let me tell you they are the the best parents ever!
    They were always chill and understanding

    • @AsthaSinhaYT
      @AsthaSinhaYT 3 года назад +17

      Same

    • @allthatjazz9000
      @allthatjazz9000 3 года назад +43

      Jeez that's far too old. I could never.

    • @gecenthareynolds2658
      @gecenthareynolds2658 3 года назад +111

      Awwww. So happy that your mum had a safe pregnancy and now you’re here. ❤️❤️

    • @esmeralik1d247
      @esmeralik1d247 3 года назад +20

      @@gecenthareynolds2658 thank you☺

    • @michellejohnson9177
      @michellejohnson9177 3 года назад +4

      Wow were your parents ever married to anyone before with any kids?

  • @sofl7406
    @sofl7406 3 года назад +2619

    Early 30s seems perfect, young enough to be youthful and old enough to go through a lot of life experiences. Of course I’m speaking for myself. Everyone sees life different

    • @nunyabuissness8058
      @nunyabuissness8058 2 года назад +30

      I agree

    • @saurabhsuman8079
      @saurabhsuman8079 2 года назад +76

      That's the most ideal stage of your life when you're mature enough and mentally strong to go through pregnancy. And yeah wealthy enough so as not to compensate for any of your luxuries.

    • @SieMiezekatze
      @SieMiezekatze 2 года назад +41

      I would like to have it at my late 30s, I am graduating from medicine, 😬I wanna enjoy my work

    • @zy8753
      @zy8753 2 года назад +12

      Jesus started his ministry in His early 30s. 😁

    • @zy8753
      @zy8753 2 года назад +1

      @П. even better, I know Him. 😁

  • @claire2247
    @claire2247 3 года назад +7441

    Having a baby in their 30's is not what caused those women to live longer; they were a different population. Individuals who tend to wait to have children tend to be more educated and have healthier habits, which leads to their living longer.

    • @christieritter9332
      @christieritter9332 3 года назад +538

      Great point! Correlation not causation.

    • @Abdullah34610
      @Abdullah34610 3 года назад +188

      Correlation isn't causation as others have said, so almost the entire video is a useless contortion of data.
      Though they didn't say wait until 30s, they said last child in their 30s. So someone can start in their 20s, and continue having children until their 30s. I don't know if that changes the conclusion though.

    • @CMM726
      @CMM726 3 года назад +50

      Yes and less stress means better health

    • @joanmedina7105
      @joanmedina7105 3 года назад +7

      I totally agree with you.

    • @mastersnet18
      @mastersnet18 3 года назад +128

      Yes exactly, it’s a matter of higher socio-economic status. Wealthier women tend to live in areas that encourage them to get a college education, including grad school and start a high-powered career. There tends to be more emphasis on travel, career advancement, and getting married before even thinking of having a child. They are also healthier on average. That is probably why the health issues weren’t as prevalent.

  • @ajflores5649
    @ajflores5649 3 года назад +12133

    I’m currently 33 and pregnant with my first babies (yes I’m having twins). For me, this is the perfect time. I got to enjoy my 20s, finish college, travel, and enjoy my marriage for 4 years. Now I can enjoy being a mommy and give my babies the attention they need. ❤️

    • @nicolejade5651
      @nicolejade5651 3 года назад +670

      Wish u a safe delivery 💖

    • @radiantrenee406
      @radiantrenee406 3 года назад +322

      Yes!! You are blessed. I wish u all the best and them precious babies

    • @solgb6676
      @solgb6676 3 года назад +117

      Happy for you!

    • @jetacysdelights2695
      @jetacysdelights2695 3 года назад +101

      this is amazing wishing you all the best

    • @pbj4338
      @pbj4338 3 года назад +84

      If you work full time, you're still putting your education and job before your kids. Putting your kids in daycare, the only acceptable form of neglect.

  • @Sam89365
    @Sam89365 3 года назад +2718

    My parents told me weekly that a baby would ruin my life while I was growing up. (Normal don't have sex scare tactics) Now that I'm in my late 20s they're pressuring me into having one and I'm like... Naw, you said they would ruin my life. I think I'll just be selfish and enjoy free time ☺️

    • @spiralithil
      @spiralithil 3 года назад +16

      I need to understand the full story as to really see what happened....but I would say it's never really difficult as people make out out to be really or atleast what people I trust told me...it really depends on the genes of the parents on how babies demeanour come out like the people who told me that are usually out going, stoic, "problem solver" and smart so I have seen their teenagers be the same as their dad less of a trouble maker....sure there are moments here and there but it really is because they are still in their development phase and their human brains are still developing and mostly the problems aren't that serious. Well take my advice and go when your financially stable and mature and will understand life better and start forward thinking rather being the edgy teenage pessimist.....
      Have a nice day!

    • @cappycafe
      @cappycafe 3 года назад +195

      @Precious Erving-Frimpong people don’t need to have children to be happy, and if you don’t have the mental capacity to have children that’s ok 👌

    • @AmyHoldaway27
      @AmyHoldaway27 2 года назад +121

      Omg parents sometimes XD now they want grandkids huh? They’re probably bored now that you’re older and want someone to spoil, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea for them to be telling you what to do, especially when it would be you that would have to take care of a baby, not them.

    • @zylnexxd842
      @zylnexxd842 2 года назад +71

      Tell them to stfu. They have no right to pressurize u to have a baby

    • @Violet-du9bk
      @Violet-du9bk 2 года назад +5

      Spot on!

  • @floracrestanello
    @floracrestanello Год назад +316

    I'm having my first baby in 4 weeks and I'm 36. Never been healthier in my life than now, and my baby is perfect, no complications, never ever felt bad , I felt kinda sleepy the first month , and my hips hurt a bit now that he is head down , but that's about it, I've never had this energy or this kind of mental peace before in my life. I'm actually still going to work everyday and very active! Definitely the right choice for me to have my baby at this age! It's been a dreamy pregnancy and I'm very grateful! Don't be afraid to wait ladies

    • @sofia-wn2xv
      @sofia-wn2xv Год назад +2

      Have they been born?
      My mom had me at 37

    • @roenin
      @roenin Год назад +2

      Your kid in his twenties and definitely in thirties will see you as grandma more than a mother though. That's what you have to deal with.

    • @ruthlesslistener
      @ruthlesslistener Год назад +10

      @@roenin my mother had me in her 30's, I'm in my 20's and she still looks just like the mom I always remember her to be, maybe just a little looser around the edges. I don't think that the 'this is mom' instinct could be shaken no matter how old either of you get

    • @antoniakoseva6399
      @antoniakoseva6399 Год назад

      @@roenin True. My parents had me when they were older (my dad was 53) and other kids always thought they were my grandparents and laughed at me... Also, this generation gap makes it so hard for me to communicate with them... Having a kud when you're older is not that fun actually especially for the kid!

    • @makdem4603
      @makdem4603 Год назад +1

      My mom had me when she was 30 and I’m now that I’m 33, I’m always getting her confused for my grandma… not. Past 18, I think kids think about this way less. Their parents are just this abstract vision they summon for money.

  • @angelas5099
    @angelas5099 5 лет назад +14870

    I think giving birth later means that the parents are more mentally prepared to raise a kid plus they are financially stable and can take care of the expenses better. So they can raise happier and healthier kids

    • @PiscesSun_Capricornrising
      @PiscesSun_Capricornrising 5 лет назад +255

      Exactly. That's the only difference

    • @gabbyslife4965
      @gabbyslife4965 5 лет назад +269

      Happier? Not completely

    • @djmcwj7369
      @djmcwj7369 5 лет назад +171

      I dont think that age prepares you for IT... Just saying i Was ready...

    • @decoraqueena6413
      @decoraqueena6413 5 лет назад +487

      Financially prepared, yes. Mentally, no. No amount of prep or education can get you fully ready for the stress of raising a child.

    • @enfpflower5751
      @enfpflower5751 5 лет назад +36

      That’s too risky for the baby.

  • @nikkigee4483
    @nikkigee4483 5 лет назад +2991

    My mom was 39 when she gave birth to me and 41 to my sister. My classmate before even thought that she was my grandma but who cares. She's the best mom🤷‍♀️❤️

    • @apples6244
      @apples6244 5 лет назад +234

      It was the opposite toward me. My mom had my brother and I very young. Everyone always mistaked her as our older sister or the babysitter. As long as mom is loving and takes care of you then age doesn't matter.

    • @ApplePro121
      @ApplePro121 5 лет назад +64

      my mom had me at 40!

    • @nikkigee4483
      @nikkigee4483 5 лет назад +14

      @@apples6244 that's very true😊❤️

    • @Ash-sw6sc
      @Ash-sw6sc 4 года назад +13

      @@apples6244 so good having mom who looks like your older sister you are lucky

    • @abdullatheefilikeshinchan1391
      @abdullatheefilikeshinchan1391 4 года назад +27

      i agree ur point... age is does not a matter only mother' s pure love won ur heart and my heart also such a golden comment iam so happy to replay your comment......i feel so proud of u ......ur mother is really lucky to have u as her child

  • @humanbng7123
    @humanbng7123 2 года назад +413

    Having kids when parents aren't ready just leads to toxic homes filled with frustration with parents blaming each other.
    That does more damage

    • @Couchpotaytoooo
      @Couchpotaytoooo 2 года назад +12

      Or the couple is already have problems in their relationship but the woman is already pregnant so they're just staying together for the kid(s) and that creates a really dysfunctional household where it's toxic and everyone wants out but can't. (Speaking from experience)

    • @douche8980
      @douche8980 2 года назад

      Right, age is only important if under twenty or 4O+ for Women and 5O+ for men but ignoring age there are even bigger factors into having healthy children such as the financial and mental health of both parents involved.

  • @ebonymitchell6963
    @ebonymitchell6963 2 года назад +246

    My mom had me at 41. She’s now 73 and still moves around like she’s in her 20s.

    • @karimachelihi8744
      @karimachelihi8744 2 года назад +19

      god blessssss her

    • @An_anshika710
      @An_anshika710 2 года назад +4

      Well thats too old idk

    • @douche8980
      @douche8980 2 года назад

      That's very great to hear :)

    • @mercy5004
      @mercy5004 2 года назад

      See I think it really just comes down to the person. My aunt just had her kids in her 40's (and she didn't even birth them, her wife did) and her body is wearing down fast. She used to be quite the athlete and then like, 44 hit and she's never been the same.
      Meanwhile my grandmother had her kids young (20-24 when she gave birth) and was really spry up until cancer took her real fast in her 60's.
      Then my great grandfather (despite most of the men of the family dying relatively young) is kicking around at 93 still doing all his own yardwork, cooking, cleaning, etc.
      But my paternal grandfather didn't even make it to 34 (also cancer).
      I'm always glad to hear of older people staying healthy and spry...but there's a lot of young people who take that longevity for granted and think they are guaranteed to get that 80 sem-odd years lol.
      Gotta enjoy life while you have it and put less worth on the concept of numbers (I gotta do this by that, or I gotta wait until this) :)

    • @user-ch3co5yu1q
      @user-ch3co5yu1q Год назад +13

      @@An_anshika710 literally who cares what you think bro

  • @user-md6td9qz4l
    @user-md6td9qz4l 5 лет назад +4627

    Just get kids when you’re ready for it girls

  • @moonie406
    @moonie406 5 лет назад +5975

    my mom was 36 when she birthed me. we're broke and she never went to college. im short and stupid. i have no twin.

    • @folklorelover13
      @folklorelover13 5 лет назад +160

      moonie awww 😭

    • @oumayma7803
      @oumayma7803 5 лет назад +577

      you're stupid because you're saying that about yourself !

    • @melaniep4099
      @melaniep4099 5 лет назад +246

      moonie
      ok you’re only stupid if you tell yourself you are so don’t be so harsh on yourself!

    • @unoriginal1086
      @unoriginal1086 5 лет назад +139

      My mom was 40 for me. I'm tall and a 95 average...

    • @elsavillarreal7952
      @elsavillarreal7952 5 лет назад +167

      Use your phone or computer to read instead of watching you tube not fiction,something informative. Go volunteer at a hospital to become wise. Go volunteer at a shelter and see if you think you are still broke. You need book smart and street smart. Those 2 will transform you into a better human being trust me.Come back after you do all of that and thank me. Wether it be years or months.

  • @lireesh2
    @lireesh2 2 года назад +485

    I had kids in my early 20s and now I have a teenage who I can keep up with and enjoy many fun adventures with. My daughter is my size and height and we sometimes share shoes and clothes..it’s not that bad to have kids earlier. It’s about what works for you and your partner and the lifestyle you both created together and the many memories of getting there together!

    • @MC-uc1hw
      @MC-uc1hw 2 года назад +6

      Goals! Hehe happy for you!

    • @Mrs.rdgz22
      @Mrs.rdgz22 2 года назад +3

      Same here 🥰

    • @douche8980
      @douche8980 2 года назад +8

      I think any age from 2O-5O good so as you are financially stable and able to properly care for the child with at least a six figure annual income.

    • @brendabenitez7359
      @brendabenitez7359 2 года назад +8

      I also have a daughter close to my age and we enjoy those things. But I’m sorry you can’t afford to give your kids nothing. You have no career and no money in your early 20’s, my daughter struggled with me financially and that wasn’t fair to her

    • @lireesh2
      @lireesh2 2 года назад +24

      @@brendabenitez7359 well they are well dressed, well fed, has too many toys, lives in a very comfortable home and got to travel occasionally. They didn’t really struggle. Money was tight on a monthly basis for mom and dad but we made it! The way I see is struggling is part of life rather it’s in a form of having a child at a younger age or struggling physically, emotionally, childhood traumas or with other things in life. Sometimes struggling help us grow stronger mentally. I’m just glad to have kids young, it work out in our circumstances. I want to start my family young and do fun things with them in my 30s and I fulfilled that dream and currently enjoying every part of that decision right now. Not everyone can or desire to do that, I know.

  • @shelbyr2163
    @shelbyr2163 2 года назад +70

    I'm 32 and pregnant with my first baby. It seems like the perfect time. We're settled in our careers, own an income property, traveled a bit, enjoyed our marriage for 2 years and this just seems like the natural next step.

  • @decent2613
    @decent2613 5 лет назад +4203

    30s? I see babies getting shot out of my highschool peers like NASA shuttles.
    UPDATE: Its January 30 2021, I'm no longer in highschool, and there are still hundreds of NASA shuttle babies coming from my friends and peers.

    • @karinamontes4322
      @karinamontes4322 5 лет назад +101

      Decent 😂😂

    • @mariahamour977
      @mariahamour977 5 лет назад +55

      same lmao ik..what is it , a new trend..?

    • @AdeleiTeillana
      @AdeleiTeillana 5 лет назад +133

      So... Not very often then? Because that's how often NASA sends shuttles up.

    • @decent2613
      @decent2613 5 лет назад +90

      @@AdeleiTeillana often enough that when it happens no one really cares anymore

    • @AdeleiTeillana
      @AdeleiTeillana 5 лет назад +35

      @@decent2613 You do realize that NASA hasn't sent a shuttle up since 2011, right? I don't call that "often enough" that no one notices.

  • @RoseDupouy
    @RoseDupouy 3 года назад +2403

    I tried for a baby for the first time at 34 and BAM! Here I am, 24 weeks pregnant 😬 thought it would take me over a year

    • @RoseDupouy
      @RoseDupouy 3 года назад +16

      @Reagan's America thank you ❤️

    • @amedori18
      @amedori18 3 года назад +69

      How exciting that you succeeded on your first try! Congratulations!! ☺️🎊

    • @RoseDupouy
      @RoseDupouy 3 года назад +14

      @@amedori18 thank you so much!

    • @twiggyxfme1124
      @twiggyxfme1124 3 года назад +17

      They be saying the sperm and eggs thingy is so sensitive yet yall be taking over a year to get pregnant- This don't make sense tbh.

    • @amstevens23
      @amstevens23 3 года назад +4

      Good luck lol

  • @ReginaGrace2011
    @ReginaGrace2011 2 года назад +281

    I desperately wanted to give birth in my twenties but it did not happen for several reasons - I could not afford to support a child, my relationship did not work out, I was busy working developing career. Now in my early thirties with a steady 9-5 job making six figures, I feel much more secure about having a kid.

    • @saljpal3
      @saljpal3 2 года назад +13

      I have a cousin in the same boat, hope it works out for her.

    • @jewelciappio
      @jewelciappio 2 года назад +4

      Try for one and maybe think about adopting if god doesn’t let a birth happen for you. There is no reason a woman who wants to raise babies should ever be without a baby. ❤️

    • @vanessarico6510
      @vanessarico6510 2 года назад +1

      🙏

    • @brendabenitez7359
      @brendabenitez7359 2 года назад +1

      I agree

    • @zebakhawaja
      @zebakhawaja 2 года назад +1

      🙂 Me too... I'm in the same situation. I feel more secure now. But I think I might like taking some parenting classes.

  • @elleshaw9837
    @elleshaw9837 2 года назад +269

    I had my children in my 20s when I was young enough to enjoy them and energetic enough to run after them. Now I'm in my 50s and can still play with my grandchildren with no major illnesses and aches and pains. I'm still young enough to travel and live a fulfilling life. No soccer games, carpools and PTA meetings. I have complete mental, spiritual physical and emotional freedom. I'm happy that motherhood stage of my life is over.

    • @vivalachoba
      @vivalachoba 2 года назад +34

      Who says people don't have the energy in their 30s? They're 30, not 70!

    • @salabeebop
      @salabeebop 2 года назад +17

      I feel the same way. I've had my children young and by the time I'm an empty nester I would still have the energy and stamia to hang with the grand kids. Given several diseases I have which slow me down already, I'm glad I had my kids early as the opportunity may have passed me by had I waited.

    • @salabeebop
      @salabeebop 2 года назад +26

      @@vivalachoba I know I had a lot more energy as a 20 year than I did as a 30 year and kids require a lot of energy. I think the number of kids you want would also be a factor as running after 3 is different to running after 1.
      Either way, she's sharing her story and she's happy with her decision. Sounds reasonable to me.

    • @sophiapeterson3686
      @sophiapeterson3686 2 года назад +24

      Thank you for sharing. I love and respect people wanting to wait for their 30s. But when I hear things like "kids will be smarter and happier if you are 30 and not 20" I feel so sad. My baby is loved and wanted even though I am 23. I want to live a happy and full life even if I didn't do everything everyone else's way.

    • @kellyho-sang9802
      @kellyho-sang9802 2 года назад +8

      Thank you for sharing feeling hopeful! This comment section makes it seem as if you can’t be capable in your twenties. 26 going on 27 and I’m happy I had my son when I did

  • @nalaseku4762
    @nalaseku4762 5 лет назад +10333

    I feel like the next generation is going to stop having kids altogether at this point 😂

    • @3StarLogo
      @3StarLogo 5 лет назад +1006

      I mean there is more than enough kids in an orphanage for everyone to have a few kids.

    • @dawn7685
      @dawn7685 5 лет назад +971

      The dumb people will never stop reproducing, so have no fear!

    • @celinak5062
      @celinak5062 5 лет назад +90

      With the risk of dying of tubal pregnancy in some states, yeah

    • @tasmagoric
      @tasmagoric 5 лет назад +353

      Not trying to slam you with words, but I wanted throw my take in at this gag - 30 really isn't that old. If people were all of a sudden only getting pregnant at 60-70. Then you should be worried (much less see how many of them would actually conceive successfully). 30 is a relatively good age to have kids honestly. Hypothetically speaking at that point in life you've got your life together, stabililty, possibly a degree or two, money, and your body/mind is more prepared. Truthfully, its a wonderful age to raise kids at and probably a lot healthier. People are beginning to live a lot longer so no wonder everyone is starting to have kids in later years. I doubt it will really put that much of a dent in the population. We're technically overpopulated as we speak so birth rates going down for a time isn't gonna kick us in the arse too hard. That's if it even manages to bring them down the slightest notch - which I doubt. Considering the video just said you're more likely to have twins at 30 which doubles the amount of kids.

    • @reddreds1
      @reddreds1 5 лет назад +15

      @@3StarLogo no. There is only about 50, 000.

  • @ingloriousMachina
    @ingloriousMachina 5 лет назад +5927

    "You're more likely to have twins in your 30s"
    20s it is then.

  • @Foimay
    @Foimay 2 года назад +395

    I'd rather use my 20's for fun, education, and my career. I'd like for my child to be in a home with a stable income and at that point I'll be more stable as a person too

    • @bernardosaldana9982
      @bernardosaldana9982 2 года назад +4

      Indeed parents that tend to wait instead of having a kid out right tend to be more stable (both in maturity and income) and have had the time to either do whatever they at one point wished to do or had plenty of time to work on thier careers and therefore are more stable to having a child with a good income to help and they can focus almost entirely on their children
      But as always it's a person's decision so it's up to them to choose wisely

    • @mercy5004
      @mercy5004 2 года назад +3

      @@laurag8126 While you are correct on the education and career bit, I do have to say that there's no point in being so hostile.
      If someone wants to be an older parent, let them.
      Personally I enjoyed having younger parents growing up (well, to be fair my whole ass family is "younger", I still have great grandparent's knocking about and driving and I'm 26 lol) and I think that there's a lot of undue stigma of having kids "too young" (very very early 20's) that needs to be abolished.
      But, at the same time, I know some parents who had absolutely no business being parents in their 20's, and "missing out" on a pure wild time in their life caused them to go buck wild in their 30's and 40's ruining their kids and their own lives. If they had waited, they might have been able to get it out of their system before bringing kids into the mix.
      Some of my friends had older parents and loved/love them and the life that being "older parents" afforded them, and wouldn't have had it any other way.
      Yet, some other parent's I know if they had waited to be parents for too much longer... well... they wouldn't have been, or for some, they died just after having kids in their 30's-40's (one from a congenital defect and another from sepsis), leaving their kids with little to no memories of their parents whatsoever.
      There is no "time" to be a parent.
      Sometimes "growing up" means having the maturity to know yourself and what would be good for you, and your family.
      For me, that means a younger mom with a strong support network of family and friends to make up for less independent stability.
      For them, maybe that means being an older parent with more investment capital for their children under their belt, and their ducks squared in a row.

    • @user-my4lf4bx6v
      @user-my4lf4bx6v Год назад +1

      @@laurag8126 nah,the kids won't hate having "grandpa parents" at all.
      My parents had me at their early 40s,and they were the best parents I could ask for.
      Stop with that bs

    • @classysis6264
      @classysis6264 Год назад

      @@mercy5004 I totally agree with you on that hostility part especially. Some of the 20s or teen moms in the section seem to be quite aggressive in their responses 🙄🙄

    • @classysis6264
      @classysis6264 Год назад +1

      @@laurag8126 and it’s also a plus for a kid to come on earth in a financially and emotionally stable and ready household. Most people do not get their money game together before the late twenties-early thirties. And it takes 2 to procreate. Hence you also need to find a partner that’s on the same path as you. How do you get to know someone? By dating that person for a couple of months or even years ( as it’s recommended). Adding up all of that, many people, especially in the US where inflation is killing us would rather wait to be in their 30s to have kids.

  • @waderich9904
    @waderich9904 2 года назад +183

    Their comparisons don’t seem scientifically relevant. They aren’t comparing related groups or related issues.

  • @ravelsparel4055
    @ravelsparel4055 5 лет назад +4910

    Saving you 3mins. The Answer is Money! 🦀

    • @ashleyshim2078
      @ashleyshim2078 5 лет назад +24

      Yup lol

    • @shmookins
      @shmookins 5 лет назад +114

      And longer life, better health, smarter kids and higher chance of twins.

    • @zants_
      @zants_ 5 лет назад +1

      🦀🦀🦀$11🦀🦀🦀

    • @dmarcusliebowitz297
      @dmarcusliebowitz297 5 лет назад +16

      @@shmookins You're a fool if you assume this. Understand that there's merely a correlation between intelligence and being exposed to a media/education influence that steers women towards unfulfilling careerism.

    • @Cleeon
      @Cleeon 5 лет назад +3

      Yaaap, true,money and become smarter

  • @kassandria3964
    @kassandria3964 5 лет назад +3866

    Society: Having kids in your 20’s can set you back. Focus on your education and graduate from college.
    Me: Okay
    -focus everything towards school-
    Society: So when are you going to have kids, the later you wait the harder it will be
    Me: 😐

    • @Crawkid
      @Crawkid 5 лет назад +141

      Everything has a double standard :/ sucks

    • @princesschi7689
      @princesschi7689 5 лет назад +28

      With 21 ur done with college by lick with 24 ur married with 25 u can start a fam

    • @silveeuhxo
      @silveeuhxo 5 лет назад +29

      If i had a quarter for every time. 😒

    • @istormarts6078
      @istormarts6078 5 лет назад +13

      It actuelly won't get that much harder

    • @fiachef6284
      @fiachef6284 5 лет назад +33

      Society can suck it

  • @Megan-di5co
    @Megan-di5co 3 года назад +219

    I am blessed to have had my first child in my 30s. Maturity and financial stability while raising a child is a must in creating a better society.

    • @nerd_alert927
      @nerd_alert927 3 года назад +11

      Agreed! I'm 33 and having my first child in a couple months.

    • @FatBellyChemist1234
      @FatBellyChemist1234 2 года назад +1

      I am 25 y.o and I think of the same.

    • @MelaniaRose
      @MelaniaRose 2 года назад +3

      @@laurag8126 that’s how life is. You have a career and financial security comes with age.

    • @entirelybonkers8832
      @entirelybonkers8832 9 месяцев назад

      @@MelaniaRoseexcept you can have both at a young age and neither at an older age I’ve met 40 year olds that still have to work 5 jobs just to support themselves and I’ve met 18 year olds with houses and cars already maturity doesn’t always come with age and being young doesn’t always make you immature

  • @Majf0821
    @Majf0821 2 года назад +177

    I’m 23, had my first baby at 22 and got accepted into my top choice for my PhD, and my daughter is thriving, beautiful, and so loved. You can have a career and kids too. It’s all in what you want to do and making no excuses!

    • @justalostcause4425
      @justalostcause4425 2 года назад +11

      Phd at 23, how? I turned 25 last month and about to finish grad school. I'm so over the party culture, just want to graduate and start my adult life. I've had my fun.

    • @Majf0821
      @Majf0821 2 года назад +15

      @@justalostcause4425 I graduated with my BS at 21. I double majored. I took a gap year to get married and happened to get pregnant during that year as well. Im a first year. A lot of PhD students already have masters and they are older than 25. Not everyone finds out their passion right at the beginning of college. Also, people have major life changes, and sometimes the timing or even finances doesn't; work out. Some people also just don't have the support. just because people are on a different path than you or on the same path at a different time does not mean you are better or worse than them. I had a baby AND I am doing school. If anything, I think it is better for people to learn about who they are before rushing to finish a career they might hate in the future.

    • @Mooodyyhhh
      @Mooodyyhhh Год назад +16

      Exactly ! I’m doing my masters in 24 pregnant with my first. My next step is pursuing my PhD. You can definitely do both and I’m sick of people discouraging young women from having kids. My mom started at 18 and has her masters degree. Anything is possible if you want it. Older doesn’t mean more successful or stable either.

    • @naraendrareddy273
      @naraendrareddy273 Год назад +2

      I believe you. Now that you're a mom, one big advantage you have is not wasting your 20s by having superficial "fun" and becoming more responsible, careful, mature and dedicated.

    • @naraendrareddy273
      @naraendrareddy273 Год назад +1

      @Noellis Unrestricted casual "fun" as per my personal research and studying has not contributed to any happiness, if anything temporary spike in dopamine and then feeling of emptiness. You know that too deep down unless you're clouded. Anyways, you do you. To each their own.

  • @rosieschweebie
    @rosieschweebie 4 года назад +1606

    Got married at 22, had a baby at 23, been married for 30 years, and our grown up daughter is beautiful and successful!! Life’s been good to me, and I’m am very blessed.😊👍🏾❤️

    • @Kikilu7552
      @Kikilu7552 3 года назад +34

      you are so lucky! I don't even know if I will ever be able to have kids due to my illness.

    • @rosieschweebie
      @rosieschweebie 3 года назад +52

      kiki lu
      I was only able to have one child. I do pray you’ll be able to at least have one... especially since it sounds like you’d like to have children. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @AmberDennis001
      @AmberDennis001 3 года назад +21

      I'm 26 and a Virgin. I wish I.was pretty enough to have been married at 22 lol

    • @rosieschweebie
      @rosieschweebie 3 года назад +53

      @@AmberDennis001 I was a very shy 19 year old when I met my husband in college. I didn't think I was really cute at all ,but I know that was not true. Im sure were very cute at 22, and i pray you met a wonderful man who loves you for you!

    • @oliwiakmiecik931
      @oliwiakmiecik931 3 года назад +38

      I was 21 when I had my baby, I think it's so much better than older as children appreciate the time you give them not the money.

  • @subi1122
    @subi1122 3 года назад +1138

    College brain got me here saying "where are the sources? " Saying "a study says..." doesn't prove anything.

    • @nunyabuissness8058
      @nunyabuissness8058 2 года назад +66

      They put them at the end of the video

    • @galactichoneyxo117
      @galactichoneyxo117 2 года назад +30

      Yeah older body older eggs lower quality. Says evolution

    • @BreakCards
      @BreakCards 2 года назад +9

      I was like show me your bbliography

    • @tropicaldisaster8135
      @tropicaldisaster8135 2 года назад +20

      "Where are those citations and references??"
      🤣🤣🤣

    • @callies8907
      @callies8907 2 года назад +19

      At the end of the video the same way they're at the end of the paper lmao.

  • @trijita6844
    @trijita6844 3 года назад +70

    My mom had me when she was 35 and my father was 42.... I was born extremely healthy and Even my mother was totally fit and fine after she gave birth.
    I am my parents first and only child.
    All my friends and most people in family were born to their mother in their mid twenties,and somehow I have the best health among them till date.As my parents are a bit older and thus more matured, I feel they were able to raise me better than most because of their experiences in life.I till now have an amazing bond with them...
    Also my parents were able to enjoy and utilise their 20s better. My father was able to establish himself very well as a doctor, and my mom learnt french, driving and taught in a school as well as took spoken English classes....also They were able to provide me with stable financial and mental environment for they were themselves stable .

    • @minaraamankwa3964
      @minaraamankwa3964 2 года назад

      Yh but Ur an only child which is kinda sad

    • @lekshmis4748
      @lekshmis4748 2 года назад +11

      @@minaraamankwa3964 That is not sad at all..I am also my parant's only child.Most people assume that we are sad and lonely kids but we are not.

  • @ej1civic95coupe
    @ej1civic95coupe 3 года назад +40

    Way to not freak someone out. “YOU WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN” 😂😂

  • @jennyrotten6354
    @jennyrotten6354 5 лет назад +1156

    My mom is 83. I’m 37. Of course she’s gonna live longer, cause I take care of her!

  • @MoMWifeLifex2
    @MoMWifeLifex2 5 лет назад +1288

    Mommy here that had her first baby at 31. I Loved having ALL my 20's to myself, and starting my mom life in my 30's. done with college and fully stable. 😊

    • @clareseburns8179
      @clareseburns8179 4 года назад +39

      You go girl 👏👏👏👏

    • @Twinflame654
      @Twinflame654 4 года назад +21

      Yess 👏🏼👏🏼 I want to continue doing that as well

    • @intrigue8664
      @intrigue8664 4 года назад +17

      I hope to be just like you! (If I have a stable life and find a worthy man in my 30s)

    • @rtp1968
      @rtp1968 4 года назад +26

      Shawntell Oden That’s fantastic! I had my daughter at 20 and had my 40s and beyond to myself.

    • @magicalindigoadult3838
      @magicalindigoadult3838 4 года назад +3

      Wait to you’re to old wasted ur life

  • @Daisyveniegas
    @Daisyveniegas 3 года назад +48

    Had a baby when i was 29, it was so hard. Had another when i was 31, it was an easier pregnancy. Sometimes each pregnancy is just different. By the way, they are both girls.
    It's actually better mentally when you wait to have kids, you're better prepared financially and you're at the point in your life when you actually want them and are tired of living just for yourself.

    • @shalinitholia1514
      @shalinitholia1514 5 месяцев назад

      Do you wish you didn’t have the baby at 29? And maybe waited another year or two?

  • @PsychicReadingUsaFacebookGroup
    @PsychicReadingUsaFacebookGroup 2 года назад +25

    I was 35 when I delivered my second child. Starting a family in your mid to late thirties is the norm now. I remember taking the birthing class and being afraid I’d be the oldest, but everyone was around the same age accept one much younger woman.

    • @bizznick444joe7
      @bizznick444joe7 Год назад

      @@laurag8126 I hope they never give you grand kids. Antinatalism for the win and it's winning for sure. Hopefully it will crash and abolish children industries and marriage industries pronto! I just want to see them burn down :D

    • @mirellymiranda9591
      @mirellymiranda9591 8 месяцев назад

      @@laurag8126😂😂😂 This is funny. I’ve always wanted to become a mother young it’s my dream, got married at 20 now 21 and I would lovee to get pregnant around 22 or 23 (my husband has good income so financials is not a problem) I already went through all the flack for getting married young and not “living my 20s” whatever that means. As if you can’t still enjoy your life and travel after marriage. Now I have to mentally prepare myself for all the judgement for being a young mom as I’m sure I’ll receive it whenever I do get pregnant

  • @HIFLY01
    @HIFLY01 5 лет назад +1766

    You really only mentioned early 20s and mid to late 30s. You're missing a 9 year gap 25-34

    • @TehreemAnsari
      @TehreemAnsari 5 лет назад +153

      Probably the ideal age, would account for best of both extremes.

    • @jessymonster
      @jessymonster 5 лет назад +53

      HIFLY - the info is WRONG anyway. They used a study from the farmers wives in the 1800s in France!

    • @ashleystreasures8860
      @ashleystreasures8860 5 лет назад +55

      Right, I'm 28 and pregnant with my first child, due in August

    • @Soundsliketara
      @Soundsliketara 5 лет назад +3

      I’m glad someone said it

    • @msch7620
      @msch7620 5 лет назад +7

      The 1st graph also doesn’t even mention the 35-40 year olds

  • @stray_bad_dog_
    @stray_bad_dog_ 5 лет назад +849

    My mom was 36 when she gave birth to my little brother.
    She's 44 currently, and is the world's best mom, I have to say it.

    • @chrisp.9385
      @chrisp.9385 5 лет назад +2

      So how old when she gave birth to you?

    • @bebemax95
      @bebemax95 5 лет назад +40

      Bro... my mom was 23 when she had me. And it was the struggle for real. But when she had my little bro at 39, she treats him wayy better than I was ever treated in my childhood 😂😂

    • @runuu5432
      @runuu5432 5 лет назад +2

      My mom had me in her 42

    • @markiekot
      @markiekot 5 лет назад +21

      @Jessica Marie 34 isn't old though, just more mature

    • @ambermidyette3400
      @ambermidyette3400 5 лет назад +13

      @@bebemax95 the brain isn't fully developed until the mid 20s. Decision making and impulsiveness improves significantly for most after 25. No matter how good a father or mother you try to be, you will have the potential of being far better if you wait till your prefrontal cortex has fully developed.

  • @kreiselsina
    @kreiselsina 2 года назад +59

    I‘m pregnant with my first child and I’m 25 years old. For me, this is the perfect time plus my partner and I are financially stable ☺️ it’s different for everyone, there’s no perfect time in general!

    • @almondswt
      @almondswt 11 месяцев назад +1

      It’s crazy how having your first baby at 25 makes it seem like you’re young compared to everyone in their 30s but I’m 25 and 6 months pregnant and I think this is a good age!

  • @denisenova7494
    @denisenova7494 Год назад +19

    As someone who is 34 I think everyone calling 30 an "older age" deserves a slap.

  • @annamarie5994
    @annamarie5994 5 лет назад +1698

    Idc no way I'm raising a kid in my 20s, that's basically college years and figuring out adult life smh

    • @ddxoxo2
      @ddxoxo2 5 лет назад +11

      Anna Marie right

    • @korinakorinakorina
      @korinakorinakorina 5 лет назад +138

      That's the way to go. I'm 25 and I've got a coworker the same age with two kids. We are on vastly different stages in life and I'm very glad I dont have kids yet. I've also had the time to climb up the career latter more and have a higher income despite working at the same company in a similar role.

    • @korinakorinakorina
      @korinakorinakorina 5 лет назад +3

      Ladder... auto correct

    • @poppyparanormal2189
      @poppyparanormal2189 4 года назад +96

      I’m pregnant at twenty one and wouldn’t change it for the world.
      I never thought I would be blessed with a family and it’s a dream come true.
      Although younger parents may have a harder time in life with a child, it’s still beautiful.
      I have been through so much and I know I will be an amazing mother with a happy and intelligent child whose taken care of.

    • @poppyparanormal2189
      @poppyparanormal2189 4 года назад +42

      Glamorous Taee
      I’d strongly disagree with your comment and have disagreed with similar comments before I beat teen pregnancy.
      I’ve noticed that older parents are usually on the news killing and harming their children.
      I know plenty of teen mother’s who work hard and finished school and have wonderful lives and so do their children.
      I guess it depends on the person.

  • @c.roxana2878
    @c.roxana2878 3 года назад +2647

    I’m 23 and I’ve never cared nor dreamed about having children. The thought of rearranging my life to take care of another little human may bring delight to others and that’s great, but I just know I’d be miserable and that wouldn’t be fair for either of us. I’ve accepted the fact that the rich aunt lifestyle is the one for me. 🥂
    Update: I’m 25 now and finally had a tubal ligation. I’m very grateful I was able to get the procedure done! 😌

    • @meowsticsism
      @meowsticsism 3 года назад +65

      Sameee!

    • @c.roxana2878
      @c.roxana2878 3 года назад +165

      @@meowsticsism Exactly! I’d be more than happy to spoil my future nieces and nephews.

    • @stariehearts2366
      @stariehearts2366 3 года назад +141

      @@c.roxana2878 my friend said the same, then she got pregnant on the pill and now she's a happy 26 year old to a gorgeous 3 year old boy, lol. Sometimes life throws you lemons and you gotta run with it and your viewpoint can change. If she didn't have her son, my friend would've said the exact same thing you just said. Crazy how life works :)

    • @prajakta3921
      @prajakta3921 3 года назад +53

      @@stariehearts2366 why didn't she abort?

    • @stariehearts2366
      @stariehearts2366 3 года назад +115

      @@prajakta3921 because she couldn't bare to kill her baby once it happened

  • @isabellamorris9892
    @isabellamorris9892 2 года назад +13

    i’m 20 and having my first baby soon. there’s a lot of women telling me that i wouldn’t be able to travel, enjoy my 20s or even say that it will just be a burden. i do not invalidate their experiences with having a child so young but i would like to say there are few women (like me) who love the idea of raising children and having a family early. there’s nothing wrong with preferences. i’m married, financially stable, and have my own home and i feel that i’m ready to give my child everything they may need.

    • @williamong911
      @williamong911 2 года назад +2

      Thank you. That's is all I can say

    • @douche8980
      @douche8980 2 года назад

      20 was a pretty common child bearing age for most of human history and still is for most of the developing world too 👍

    • @hillaryh.5197
      @hillaryh.5197 Год назад +1

      @@douche8980 Right…it was common when you croaked at 39. Now we live until 95. The problem with having kids at 20, is that your 20’s are for making mistakes to gain wisdom. The world is much more forgiving when you want to sew your oats in your 20’s. When women spend their 20’s having babies and their husbands leave them when theyre between late thirties and forties…these divorcees tend to want to make up for lost time. The world is far less forgiving when your 42 bringing boyfriends around your kids because you were stuck in the house with a husband and babies since 20. No one cares now because women aren’t “forced” like they used to be.

  • @ms_cartographer
    @ms_cartographer 3 года назад +58

    My mom had me at age 30, and I'm fine. I'll have my first kid at age 32. I don't want to raise my kids in poverty.

    • @AprilQuiapo
      @AprilQuiapo 2 года назад +1

      Same here

    • @sukanyachatterjee1632
      @sukanyachatterjee1632 2 года назад +1

      Same here

    • @Alex-gq5no
      @Alex-gq5no 2 года назад

      What does age have to do with raising kids in poverty?

    • @ms_cartographer
      @ms_cartographer 2 года назад +6

      @@Alex-gq5no I'm in my 20s and broke. Most of us in our 20s are broke, so we want to wait until we are financially stable to have kids. Often times, we get more financially stable in our 30s because of the economy being bad right now, and us just starting out in our careers in our 20s and earning a low starting wage while holding student debt.

    • @sarahs3988
      @sarahs3988 2 года назад +1

      Good luck with planning that exactly....

  • @marywatkins9438
    @marywatkins9438 5 лет назад +2282

    Team No Kids here. Happy for the ladies who have them, though.

  • @daniellehoreau7721
    @daniellehoreau7721 5 лет назад +471

    Eh...
    I feel like it should be broken down more because the life stage and health risks are totally different for the mom in early 20s, late 20s, early 30s, late 30s.

    • @bridgettawinchester3063
      @bridgettawinchester3063 5 лет назад +11

      Danielle the health risks are minimal

    • @daniellehoreau7721
      @daniellehoreau7721 5 лет назад +9

      @@bridgettawinchester3063 Maybe...but there are so many people being born and dying everyday even with parents in the "safe range". I would check your (and your partner's) personal family history for the best results.

    • @daniellehoreau7721
      @daniellehoreau7721 5 лет назад +13

      @@bridgettawinchester3063 My aunt had a baby at 44 and her baby is perfectly healthy but I also know a girl who had a baby at 29 and her baby has autism. We don't always know why things happen the way they do.

    • @cocodakilla
      @cocodakilla 5 лет назад +4

      Lol go to poor countries. The issue lie in sperm when it comes to delivering unhealthy or disabled babies not women

    • @daniellehoreau7721
      @daniellehoreau7721 5 лет назад +5

      @@cocodakilla In my first reply comment I did say check *your partner's* history too. Both parents are equally responsible for the inherited genes.

  • @tinaavendano1962
    @tinaavendano1962 2 года назад +72

    I had both my kids in my early 20's and I always loved being a mom. My daughter is my best friend and I can't wait to travel and enjoy adventures with them as well! I wouldn't change a thing! Sometimes having kids at a younger age means you have more of your freedom later on in your late 30's and 40's. It's just personally what works for you. There is no right or wrong choice here.

    • @clewrites
      @clewrites Год назад +11

      Kids in 20s - Enjoy 40s
      Kids in 30s - Enjoy 20s

    • @alezandradavila2581
      @alezandradavila2581 Год назад +2

      I lived my 20s … 30 and 31 works great

  • @soundsaboutright1004
    @soundsaboutright1004 2 года назад +11

    I’m 32 and pregnant with my second. Had my first when I was 25. This pregnancy is just as healthy as the first as far as gaining the right weight and everything going smoothly. My mental health is in a way better place now compared to my first pregnancy though.

  • @aawich
    @aawich 5 лет назад +734

    Had my first son at 25 (was pregnant while 24) and now pregnant with my second at 31 and being pregnant at 24 was WAY easier than now. Just my experience.

    • @Nayero26
      @Nayero26 5 лет назад +120

      Most people this study is #fakenews I don't know anyone in their early 20s that have any complications... It's always older moms

    • @annamiljevic8632
      @annamiljevic8632 5 лет назад +63

      I believe it. I am 31 and pregnant and feel like sh*t physically and emotionally.

    • @annamiljevic8632
      @annamiljevic8632 5 лет назад +39

      **Side note: Happy about my baby, of course, but I think the stress of my body adjusting to this huge change makes me irritable and the morning sickness does not help the situation.

    • @taniyachulan1439
      @taniyachulan1439 5 лет назад +42

      Abigail D. You are 100% correct. It was way better when I was younger this pregnancy is so much harder.

    • @Moss_piglets
      @Moss_piglets 5 лет назад +86

      @@Nayero26 although age is one of the factors, it is more likely the mother's overall health and family history. A healthy 35 year old can have an easier pregnancy than an unhealthy 20 year old.

  • @mosamuel7708
    @mosamuel7708 5 лет назад +291

    My grandma had her first child when she was 18 i think. She's 90 now.

    • @queenditty2783
      @queenditty2783 5 лет назад +53

      Mine had hers at 15 she's 81 , still driving, working & now babysitting her 23 great grandchild ☺️☺️. Grandmas are amazing

    • @mosamuel7708
      @mosamuel7708 5 лет назад +11

      @@queenditty2783
      Damn. Cool OGs still got it.

    • @iwanttomakemusicthatmovesp3415
      @iwanttomakemusicthatmovesp3415 5 лет назад +4

      Well ... This video more like possibilities for me ... But other than that, God bless your grandmother ... ^^

    • @msch7620
      @msch7620 5 лет назад +4

      They are not talking about the 1st one. They are talking any kid after 33. Women of previous generations had a lot of kids which means they had them young and old as well.

    • @Ash-sw6sc
      @Ash-sw6sc 4 года назад +1

      My grandma had child marraige I am from India in that time it was quite legal she gave birth 15 children in her life time I have 7 uncles and 8 aunt's

  • @shamoo4346
    @shamoo4346 3 года назад +2

    This is a so comforting vid for a women like me in my early 30's who wishes to have a family but full of doubts and fears of having one due to the things i see that some of people i know have a hard time bearing one

  • @13myrrh
    @13myrrh 2 года назад +22

    The best time to have a child is when you are ready to have one. It's completely up to you if it's in your 20s, 30s or 40s or never!

    • @saljpal3
      @saljpal3 2 года назад

      I'm glad I can wait even longer if I wanted 😂

    • @srinivaspatel8414
      @srinivaspatel8414 Год назад

      25-30 is best age

  • @fortunatelyfortunate7138
    @fortunatelyfortunate7138 5 лет назад +267

    Currently 26 and leaning toward no children at all 🤔

    • @annamiljevic8632
      @annamiljevic8632 5 лет назад +18

      You might be missing out on the greatest love of all a human could possibly feel.

    • @venuspensus
      @venuspensus 5 лет назад +143

      @@annamiljevic8632 I have a boyfriend and dog and couldn't be happier, people don't need kids to be happy

    • @kenkennedy8719
      @kenkennedy8719 5 лет назад +17

      Well I’m 23 and don’t want any till I’m 36 so you still have lots of time

    • @theirishfairy6281
      @theirishfairy6281 5 лет назад +55

      I knew in my early 20’s I didn’t want kids I’m 40 now and still feel the same. Blessed to have an amazing husband And we have the best time travelling, dining out and outside work having total freedom - I’ve seen the opposite of us married and 2/3 kids , it’s a mess. I’m sure there’s love but get a puppy they love you unconditionally too! Live your life to the full! It’s impossible do that with kids , that’s just the reality.

    • @dd4138
      @dd4138 5 лет назад +18

      Styled by Miranda you leave your dog in the cold behind a gate🙀 that’s awful!

  • @nothanks1239
    @nothanks1239 5 лет назад +125

    Doesn't matter the age, give birth when you are ready so everyone is happy and loved. That's all that really matters in life.

    • @cavallorosso4329
      @cavallorosso4329 3 года назад +3

      right have a down baby at 40 and love him and be happy, selfish people

  • @sarahivey4225
    @sarahivey4225 2 года назад +6

    I’m 26 weeks pregnant at 31 and mentally I feel super stable and prepared.
    I travelled the world, spent years in college, got to enjoy all my free time, danced on many stages as a performer and now im ready to invest in my little one. There’s no way I wanted to do this in my 20’s but I always knew that :)
    Financially, emotionally, mentally and spiritually - I am so much more ready.. but I do admit I bet my body would have managed the aches and pains better in my 20’s 😂

  • @SierrasCoolChannel
    @SierrasCoolChannel 2 года назад +12

    I had my baby at 18 and that was perfectly fine for my baby and I. Age does not always indicate maturity or ability to raise the child. I'm glad I had my baby because he is a beautiful human being and I love him. And we are both healthy and stable. Don't always judge situations or people based off of a little thing.

    • @entirelybonkers8832
      @entirelybonkers8832 9 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly this I’ve met horrible abusive parents that are older and I’ve met amazing parents that are younger I’m 19 and pregnant and married and have already been through so much just from my life being difficult my childhood ended early and I was ready to move past that I’m happier than I’ve ever been and financially and emotionally as stable as I can be

  • @shaunab5049
    @shaunab5049 3 года назад +245

    The 50% for fertility is very misleading, they quietly said “in your LATE 30s”

    • @heathert5455
      @heathert5455 3 года назад +32

      I don't know if you realize but this video is propaganda. I guess it doesn't really matter in the long run anyways, forget that I said anything.

    • @pratikshatiwari7011
      @pratikshatiwari7011 3 года назад +3

      @@heathert5455 why do you think it's propaganda ?? 😥😥

    • @heathert5455
      @heathert5455 3 года назад +31

      @@pratikshatiwari7011 They make it sound like it is great to have children in your 30's...example "you live longer." However, my paternal great-grandma had her first child at 21 and she lived to be in her 90s. I have one great-grandma who had her first child at 19 and she is still alive (great-grandma will be 96 on 7-2-2021). Just really pay attention to the message. You can usually spot propaganda if you really pay attention.

    • @pratikshatiwari7011
      @pratikshatiwari7011 3 года назад +7

      @@heathert5455 you are right sir /mam they didn't even properly give the links of the studies about which they are talking 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ but of you are woman I have a question for you , Do tell me if I can it or not?😅

    • @heathert5455
      @heathert5455 3 года назад +7

      @@pratikshatiwari7011 I am a woman and a mother of two. I had my first child when I was 25 and my youngest when I was 29.
      On my opinion, the best time to have a child is around age 24 or 25.

  • @sewathome
    @sewathome 5 лет назад +319

    They should include statistics about infertility.
    No one knows beforehand if it's going to take 5yrs to get pregnant. It's a very important part of deciding when to try.

    • @sades_travels1749
      @sades_travels1749 5 лет назад +32

      Absolutely, I started trying to have a child at 28 and now 37,multiple ivf cycles and thousands of dollars later still not pregnant yet. So Boone really knows.

    • @sewathome
      @sewathome 5 лет назад +32

      @@sades_travels1749 Infertility is awful, I'm only 18months in and can't stand the thought of it taking multiple years. But for so many people, like yourself, that's the reality.
      So many people around me have encouraged me to wait until I've been married for at least 5yrs.
      But now experiencing infertility I'm so glad I didn't wait. Who knows how long this will take?

    • @fridaedlund6491
      @fridaedlund6491 5 лет назад +16

      Just wanted to send some love to both of you. Me and my husband tried for four years before we got our baby girl. I know how hard it can be. Take care!

    • @DatCrazyOokamii
      @DatCrazyOokamii 4 года назад +3

      guess there's adoption as well. but good luck ladies hope you get there < 3

    • @nycodary
      @nycodary 4 года назад +19

      @@DatCrazyOokamii scuze me for saying this but this is a huge NO to say to someone who is trying to have a baby. If you can't relate please restraint from making any unnecessary comments. It will be much appreciated! Have a great day and life!

  • @cozywalrus7175
    @cozywalrus7175 2 года назад +8

    What about having kids in your 40s? My mum gave birth to me when she was 37 and my sister at 40

  • @abrieklink9089
    @abrieklink9089 2 года назад +16

    I have two kids and I’m 23. My mom had two by 24 and is in her late 40s, my dad is 45. They are empty-nesters and have four grandkids, absolutely living their best life! When my mom goes out in public with my babies people can’t believe she is their grandma! They always tell me this is the best phase of their life and they’re glad they started young. Ladies, have kids whenever you are emotionally able to care for them. You don’t need to be “rich” to raise amazing and successful children!

    • @teresaslife.
      @teresaslife. 9 месяцев назад +1

      Honestly thank you for this message I’m 22 and married and just found out I’m pregnant... I felt like I made a mistake to conceive this early on but in my heart I wanted to have as much of an opportunity to be with my children from a young age.... even though society(aka friends and family)says I haven’t even “lived” yet.
      What life I was supposed to live I’m still trying to figure out🙃😂
      Anyway thank you for this....

    • @entirelybonkers8832
      @entirelybonkers8832 9 месяцев назад

      Thank you

  • @user-lv4su2uv5x
    @user-lv4su2uv5x 3 года назад +747

    The scary part is -- why giving birth seems like have nothing to do with the dad?

    • @BC-bt7hu
      @BC-bt7hu 3 года назад +173

      Because it technically doesn't

    • @thecutteralicia
      @thecutteralicia 3 года назад +149

      Because it’s the woman who does it...

    • @thegirllikesmovies7389
      @thegirllikesmovies7389 3 года назад +60

      Because it doesn’t

    • @lindaandres5810
      @lindaandres5810 3 года назад +46

      Right like men give birth too

    • @natty.777
      @natty.777 3 года назад +40

      I think it’s more about the bodily changes here

  • @burning4rmwithin
    @burning4rmwithin 5 лет назад +93

    I'm having my first child in my early 30s... still financially unstable with a college degree and poor lol. Being lower middle class American sucks.

    • @apples6244
      @apples6244 5 лет назад +17

      It does suck but you will make it through. I wish all the best for you and your precious baby ❤

    • @wyvern938
      @wyvern938 3 года назад +11

      Being low class in most other countries is way worse. Just a thought.

    • @DJUniMekaju
      @DJUniMekaju 3 года назад +4

      May the Lord bless you. 🙏

    • @lextherapy8208
      @lextherapy8208 3 года назад

      I’m a year late...how’s mom life going? Do you still have the same opinion?

    • @burning4rmwithin
      @burning4rmwithin 3 года назад +3

      @@lextherapy8208 of course. More stress with a child now. Worrying about health care sucks (I live in California). My child needs a lot of therapy that my insurance doesn't cover. Even when you pay for health insurance, there's still copay and deductible. If I were low income, Healthcare and most services are free.

  • @ShadesofSage
    @ShadesofSage 2 года назад +1

    Very insightful 🙏🏿! Thanks for sharing ❤️!

  • @LSBUFU
    @LSBUFU 6 месяцев назад +2

    I miscarried at 11 weeks during age 20. I'm now 35 and 13 weeks pregnant with a baby who is healthy and measures ahead at every scan.

  • @girl-gx2ls
    @girl-gx2ls 3 года назад +90

    20s= you use youthful energy to keep up
    30s= you outsmart them with wisdom

  • @JessG_20
    @JessG_20 5 лет назад +227

    Mid 20s to mid 30s seems to be ideal for women to settle down and have kids.
    the woman's mental health, maturity, and stability are just as important to take into consideration when determining the "best age" for baby making.
    People are crazy with the whole "you'd better pop them out before you're 30 or it'll be too late, you've hit the wall!" Mentality. As are those that think it's ok to wait til their 40s. That's quite unrealistic too. Find the healthy medium.

    • @vivalachoba
      @vivalachoba 4 года назад +29

      You're absolutely right! My mom had me when she was 34 and I've noticed huge differences in her parenting style and mentality compaired to mothers that had their kids in their 20s. She would not take stupid risks that would possibly harm me, she was patient enough to educate herself in terms of baby/child care, she would make sure my needs came 1st because she was willing to make huge sacrifices for her child. And that's because she spent her 20s going to college, treating herself, getting into a well paying job, travelling, etc

    • @illiah9784
      @illiah9784 3 года назад +13

      I think it's just good for women to realize that they dont even know if they're fertile in the first place or how long theyll be fertile.
      I know women in their mid 20s who are struggling with fertility
      So waiting could really hurt their chances
      In any case
      I think women should get their hormone levels and such tested every so often if they even slightly think they might eventually want children
      That way they can catch any imbalance early and work to balance it out as early as possible

    • @cashmereglow7549
      @cashmereglow7549 3 года назад +9

      @@illiah9784 Please stop. Fertility is entirely based on the individual woman's genetics and lifestyle. But mostly genetics because some women are genetically predisposed to endocrine disorders that cause infertility before mid 20s. Even late teens. PCOS, NCAH, aromatase deficiency, etc come to mind. There is a difference between a collective and individuals health needs.

    • @illiah9784
      @illiah9784 3 года назад +3

      @@cashmereglow7549 please stop telling women if they think they might want children to keep in check with their fertility and health?
      Oookay
      You're right. It is down to the individual womans health and lifestyle.
      That's why I'm saying these individual women should all individually get check ups to make sure they are healthy and fertile.
      So if there is any issues or off hormones they can catch it asap. Not once they actually want babies.
      What should they do?
      Not keep in check with their health?
      What is there to disagree with in what I've said?

    • @cashmereglow7549
      @cashmereglow7549 3 года назад +1

      @@illiah9784 I only said "stop" because you were spreading misinformation regarding fertility. Those conditions I listed makes it much harder for young girls and women to properly ovulate and produce the balanced amount of reproductive hormones that aid in fertility. It can start as early as age 17. I didn't necessarily oppose to what you said about getting early blood panels prior to conceiving. It's imperative for all young women to consult with their GPs, endocrinologists, and OBGYNs to ensure their bodies are healthy metabolic and reproductive wise.

  • @gemmalear9029
    @gemmalear9029 3 года назад +20

    I'm 38 and got pregnant within 10 weeks 😊

  • @amarahsrabbitry1073
    @amarahsrabbitry1073 2 года назад +7

    Having my first this summer and I am 22! This was NOT the original plan, but my husband and I are in a great place to raise kids (he’s 27). Emotional maturity, a house, savings (financial stability). I did want to live another year or two without children, but I can say I am really excited to start this season of life. I feel blessed. And honestly, I don’t think anyone feels ready to have kids. I have amazing parents and two sets of grandparents who can help us along the way.🥰

    • @douche8980
      @douche8980 2 года назад

      Mother nature gives us all a window of time to produce our offspring and for those who miss the boat there is always adoption or buying a pet for company 👍

  • @pastordonkoh7692
    @pastordonkoh7692 5 лет назад +839

    how can I give birth to myself?

    • @Medium-RareSteak
      @Medium-RareSteak 5 лет назад +86

      Simple: wait. Soon enough you should be able to shed your entire skin and that skin should start to shake around violently and stand up completely and bing bang boom, there you go. You have given birth to yourself

    • @Arkew_
      @Arkew_ 5 лет назад +7

      @@Medium-RareSteak genious

    • @jinteeel3916
      @jinteeel3916 5 лет назад

      *pcos

    • @Drie_Kleuren
      @Drie_Kleuren 5 лет назад +5

      Use the command: /Rebirth that should work in the latetst update...

    • @loa7194
      @loa7194 5 лет назад

      It's simple load up an old version of minecraft and use the duplication glitch on ur self

  • @megamind8901
    @megamind8901 5 лет назад +378

    Can you please provide links of the study rather than providing the name of the website. It gets easy for reading the whole report. Btw Great video.

    • @dusscode
      @dusscode 5 лет назад +12

      ALEX PETERS this is not how in-text citation works.

  • @yasminsweety123
    @yasminsweety123 2 года назад +5

    Im 26 and expecting my first baby 🥰 im so happy and gratefull for this blessing ...live is an adventure , Just be positive , loving , and live in the moment.
    Take nothing for granted xxx

  • @aftynrose8129
    @aftynrose8129 2 года назад +11

    Yet here I am, 20 years old, 6 months Pregnant/ 23 Weeks, planned Baby, have everything Ready, Financially everything is fine too! Plus, I have No regrets 😂🥰

    • @Mustaches4017
      @Mustaches4017 2 года назад +2

      Yeah, ignore this video it's propaganda. I'm on the same boat as you

    • @vprez4925
      @vprez4925 2 года назад +5

      Exactly. Me having a kid in my 20s motivated me to get the job I didn't think I was good enough to get. Kids push you to grow up faster.

    • @fernandamathers8203
      @fernandamathers8203 2 года назад +1

      same here! 21, 11 weeks and planned pregnancy ! we’re able to do it and we’re even okay with me staying at home with the baby ! didn’t really like how this video talked about it

    • @dreamingblue3939
      @dreamingblue3939 2 года назад +1

      I'm 19 here and still in school, but hope to be a mom in my twenties too. Good for you, and congratulations! :D

    • @somethingbambi875
      @somethingbambi875 2 года назад

      I was also 20, never thought it was very young. Always wanted kids early so I got to spend more time with them, and though money is ofc good, I also think it's good that they learn about how to save and thoughtful. I hope I get to be a young grandma too, I don't wanna live till 90 I don't think 😅

  • @aleynawastaken
    @aleynawastaken 5 лет назад +204

    My mom was 21 when she had her first kid. She has always told me: “ whatever you do, do not have children in your 20s. See the world, get a stable job and find yourself first”.

    • @Fleurdecarmel
      @Fleurdecarmel 3 года назад +18

      No. Don’t listen to her.

    • @sharonlivid3914
      @sharonlivid3914 3 года назад +49

      listen to her

    • @Nokss87
      @Nokss87 3 года назад +9

      Now you're 40 single passports a career and no babies.

    • @c.roxana2878
      @c.roxana2878 3 года назад +44

      @@Nokss87 Sounds like a win to me 😌🍾

    • @yuyukawa9104
      @yuyukawa9104 2 года назад +9

      Agreed, my mum had me at 19 and she wasn't mature, she was poor, homeless and as a result my childhood was screwed. Wish she had me at 27 or 30

  • @bbygrlpt2
    @bbygrlpt2 5 лет назад +76

    My mom had my sisters in her 20s and then she had me at 44. She says all her pregnancies were normal but she couldnt enjoy my sisters too much bc they were very poor. With my dad was different and they both gave me a great childhood. Love them❤️❤️

  • @ccyesenia07
    @ccyesenia07 2 года назад +4

    I had my first baby at 30 and it was extremely tough on my body due to my genetic kidney disease. I always wanted kids early on before I knew about this disease and looking back I wish I would’ve had kids in my early twenties. I think yes if we’re mentally ready for them, it will be a blessing in your 20’s or 30’s. I obviously didn’t have the best financial supporter family to help me on that journey so that’s the only thing that stopped me but if I could go back in time my priorities would’ve been so different. Being a mom is the best feeling in the world!! I wish I could have just one more but I’m not sure if it’s possible anymore.

  • @EngPMgt
    @EngPMgt 2 года назад +7

    I am 37 and single 😅
    I am highly educated (phd), financially stable (high paid job), healthy (follow intermittent fasting, high protein & fibre diet, workout daily), maintain my beauty (hair and skincare), and have fulfilled life (hobbies/travels/family gathering)
    The only issue is that i am not beautiful 🤣 it’s genetic so i have no hand on it
    Having a baby won’t be an issue, the main issue is having a husband who really love and cherish me! Not to cheat with other women because they are 10x more beautiful than me 😅😂

    • @deathmatch692
      @deathmatch692 2 года назад

      😢

    • @lizzyli4775
      @lizzyli4775 2 года назад

      I really think you’ve a positive outlook on life and will meet a man loves you for who you are❤️ Beauty is very subjective. My partner always thinks he’s not attractive and a bit worry about if I would leave him one day. But I honestly think he’s a handsome guy, haha☺️ let alone super smart😝 I’m sure you are gorgeous in some people’s eyes😍👏

  • @polkadot2234
    @polkadot2234 5 лет назад +388

    This video should have been titled “Why You Should Wait to have kids until you’re in your thirties” Because it’s completely one sided...

    • @gracehaven5459
      @gracehaven5459 4 года назад +14

      Sometimes the truth hurts

    • @Kirby5413
      @Kirby5413 4 года назад +34

      @@gracehaven5459 That's not the truth, that's propaganda! They didn't even list the benefits of having kids in your early 20s, let along your mid-late 20s. It was completely one-sided and it never went into the grey area of 20s vs. 30s.

    • @intrigue8664
      @intrigue8664 4 года назад +3

      @@Kirby5413 They did. They mentioned less fertility and pregnancy complications.

    • @AmazingStoryDewd
      @AmazingStoryDewd 4 года назад +3

      @@Kirby5413 There are studies explaining why having kids in your early 30s is the optimal choice for both health and wealth reasons.

    • @deejayslowmotion6428
      @deejayslowmotion6428 4 года назад +1

      Yes!!!

  • @marijanagolubovic9434
    @marijanagolubovic9434 5 лет назад +145

    I said I would wait to have kids til I'm 25, which is this year! guess what! ain't gonna happen! I'm just too immature and too broke xD

    • @marijanagolubovic9434
      @marijanagolubovic9434 4 года назад +1

      @BossWafflez I agree...but still not there yet.. I mean I have for my basic needs, not yet for sbd elses

    • @bymalonie
      @bymalonie 3 года назад +8

      @@marijanagolubovic9434 lol girl you got this if you don’t want kids don’t have them!

    • @ichiirah
      @ichiirah 3 года назад +8

      Lol i wanted kids at 25 but look, i am 27 now 😂

    • @shooeng
      @shooeng 3 года назад

      Omg so true

    • @babianna5609
      @babianna5609 3 года назад

      Retweet

  • @NotTotallyHopeless
    @NotTotallyHopeless 2 года назад +15

    My mom had me at 40, and the experience was mixed. They were more stable financially than my friends parents, but there was less physical play time and more naps for my parents than for me. I guess it's sort of a balancing act, but it does put a burden on your children in their mid 20s to start taking care of you.

    • @katik4208
      @katik4208 2 года назад

      Exactly. Also grandparents are non-existant at this point

    • @Nicolee7764
      @Nicolee7764 6 месяцев назад

      This is good feedback, Thank you.

  • @Laika123
    @Laika123 Год назад +13

    My mother had kids in her 20s . I am happy having a young mom , she did everything with us, had fun and sportive activities. I dont care if we had not so much money, now we are big and she is still healthy , active and will be a great young grandmother 🥰

  • @christypassy
    @christypassy 5 лет назад +188

    This is not how I was expecting this video to go AT ALL! I kinda feel better to be in my early 30s without kids because society's pressure was lowkey starting to get to me. Thanks for this!

    • @jollytotjuice
      @jollytotjuice 5 лет назад +6

      Ya just be prepared to be still raising your kids in your 50s.

    • @Yas-ei3st
      @Yas-ei3st 4 года назад +17

      @@jollytotjuice my mum be raising teens and shes 50. She says it isnt that bad as she's still pretty healthy and active if she wasnt it would be hell.

    • @serenitybeats1677
      @serenitybeats1677 3 года назад +26

      @@jollytotjuice y’all act like 50 is super old. If you maintain a healthy lifestyle you’re literally fine

    • @EB-wt2ty
      @EB-wt2ty 3 года назад +7

      @@jollytotjuice you’ll probably age poorly with that kinda attitude.

    • @jollytotjuice
      @jollytotjuice 3 года назад

      @@Yas-ei3st same with my parents. They had 2 kids in their early 20s and then one in their late 30s and they said it was definitely easier when they were younger.

  • @TXRealtorAbigailSturis
    @TXRealtorAbigailSturis 3 года назад +404

    I am blessed enough to have 16 month old twins, a husband, and a degree at 22. 😌

  • @jasminebarros5584
    @jasminebarros5584 Год назад +5

    Honestly if you think your ready emotionally and financially for it then it doesn’t really matter when you decide to have them. Your life your journey.

  • @dannymay2820
    @dannymay2820 Год назад +3

    I started having children in my early 30s. And I can say that I am way more responsible and prepared mentally than I would of been in my 20s. My 20s was a mess and I just partied all the time. When I got into my 30s, a lot of my views changed and I started to want different things. I am thankful and consider myself lucky to have waited til I was mentally there. The only thing I can say that is worse having kids in your 30s is that I feel more tired and don't have that energy that I had in my 20s. Also I have to add that having kids gave me a new perspective, goals and wants in my life. Being a good father and raising my kids to be kind and respectful is my #1 goal in life!

  • @sweetjune2010
    @sweetjune2010 5 лет назад +55

    I was healthier when I had my youngest at 32, than I was when I had my oldest at 22.

  • @_aidid
    @_aidid 5 лет назад +55

    Age does not matter if livelihood is healthy.

    • @Print229
      @Print229 5 лет назад +1

      And grandparents-to-be are healthy. Childcare costs about $800 to $1600 per mo in my area (most expensive for babies). That's for daycare. Private care costs $22 to $25 per hr. If you are older, you are reeeeaaaallllly going to miss that free childcare from your parents. And, if grandparents get sick and elderly? Guess who has to make their meals and help them toilet, too?

    • @Ash-sw6sc
      @Ash-sw6sc 4 года назад +1

      COrrect

    • @evilclown42
      @evilclown42 4 года назад +2

      You’d think that. But coming from a healthy women who struggled with infertility for almost 4 years at the age of 25 I’m very glad it was at 25 and not 35. “Health” isn’t always the be all. There is so much more to it then this video talks about.

    • @jacqueminor3379
      @jacqueminor3379 4 года назад +1

      Healthy doesn’t always equal fertility unfortunately

  • @faeryix
    @faeryix 3 года назад +9

    My mom had me when she was 26 and she had my brother when she was 30. She's still in perfectly good shape :)

  • @Emily-dl8ij
    @Emily-dl8ij Год назад +12

    22 and pregnant with my 1st. I have always wanted to have children early so I can be in their lives longer but whatever age you decide, as long as you love your babies that’s what matters

  • @Athenasmusica
    @Athenasmusica 3 года назад +808

    You didnt talk about infertility or more chances to have your baby with more sindromes .

    • @capivara6094
      @capivara6094 3 года назад +151

      yeah, the chance of having a baby with sindromes is way higher in your 30s, and even higher in the 40s. But I'd say that this is not really a problem, since I'm totally ok with early pregnancy abortion.

    • @CL_G
      @CL_G 3 года назад +211

      I've read that it's more syndromes (birth defects) due to the age of the male and his inability to produce the amount and quality of "soldiers," that he produced in his 20's. Men at age 50 have a 6x higher rate of producing a child with defects than in his 20's and it doesn't matter what age the female is.

    • @godsgirl7201
      @godsgirl7201 3 года назад +60

      @@capivara6094 u don't deserve to have kids

    • @roadrunner3232
      @roadrunner3232 3 года назад +12

      @@CL_G true .

    • @zinnatislam444
      @zinnatislam444 3 года назад +66

      They literally said that the chances of getting pregnant drops to 50%.... also "sindromes" lol

  • @SunnyRae10
    @SunnyRae10 5 лет назад +103

    I'm almost 32 and been in a 12 year relationship and still praying for my first baby.... I really want twins!! Give a like if you hope it happens 🙏

    • @RRC879
      @RRC879 3 года назад +3

      How's it going?

    • @SunnyRae10
      @SunnyRae10 3 года назад +1

      @@RRC879 I totally forgot I commented this....😞 Still No babies for me... 😞

    • @RRC879
      @RRC879 3 года назад +3

      @@SunnyRae10 Don't be sad please. You're still in your early thirties. There's still much hope. And if nothing works there's still the concept of Test Tube baby.
      I hope that God gives you a blessing in the form of a baby. 😇😇

    • @nana8135
      @nana8135 3 года назад +2

      I hope you get baby's ❤️

    • @alsokaitlin
      @alsokaitlin 2 года назад +1

      @@SunnyRae10 aw I know its been a year so, any luck yet? Also, I really hope your day was blessed with happiness and all your other days will be great

  • @GoldenFrizbee
    @GoldenFrizbee 3 года назад +1

    I'm 30 and freaking out about my maternal clock and when "it's going to happen"... I feel very very comforted by this information and I would love twins. Thank you!

  • @angelinatjokro4806
    @angelinatjokro4806 3 года назад +4

    Quarantine brought me to some weird places

  • @scarlettcobain5312
    @scarlettcobain5312 5 лет назад +76

    Lets push this to 40 vs 30

    • @sarahbrennan1342
      @sarahbrennan1342 4 года назад +1

      Scarlett Cobain exactly lol 😂

    • @michaelaannperez8683
      @michaelaannperez8683 4 года назад +1

      🤣🤣🤣 thinking the same

    • @eurekahope5310
      @eurekahope5310 4 года назад +4

      Odds of getting pregnant in an entire year of trying at 40 are 36%. By 45 only 1 in 20 will get pregnant after a year. If you are married and relatively stable financially, I recommend you don't wait too long. Even if you have your first at 35 (only 1 in 2 get pregnant in a year), if you want to bless your child with a sibling at 37, it will statistically take a couple years or possibly not occur at all. If a couple has to pay for fertility treatments, there goes the money they saved by waiting to have children.
      I fear too many women may miss the blessing of children if they wait for the "perfect" time or pour everything into career only to find career will never love you back.

    • @annika9348
      @annika9348 4 года назад

      40s is definitely too old if you want to have good chance of having a healthy baby and siblings for the baby

    • @fannyyyyyyyy
      @fannyyyyyyyy 3 года назад

      Nooo,

  • @moonchild1257
    @moonchild1257 4 года назад +44

    My mom was 46 when she had me...
    Y'all are late on the trend

    • @Laura-Yu
      @Laura-Yu 3 года назад +3

      My grandma was 40 when she had my mom in the mid 60s...it’s been a long practice

  • @denizfindikbalci5385
    @denizfindikbalci5385 2 года назад +14

    Pregnant with my first at the age of 29 (and I am struggling to decide on which group I belong to). My 20s were terribly tiring since I did a PhD right after graduating from college. Now I feel like I am doing something for myself for the first time in a very long while, very excited!

    • @jalahhorton5761
      @jalahhorton5761 Год назад

      Congratulations! I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy💕

  • @cozmacelina7511
    @cozmacelina7511 2 года назад +8

    My mom had me when she was 20. She’s a mother of three now, has 3 bachelor degrees and we are best friends. Age is nothing without motivation. Would’ve been easier for her without us to get her degrees? Sure! But having me and my sisters didn’t stop her for minding her own business and taking care of herself.

  • @nadiagoutam6630
    @nadiagoutam6630 5 лет назад +269

    Where do you guys get your information from? Maybe consider including your reference in the description box

    • @jessymonster
      @jessymonster 5 лет назад +24

      Nadia Goutam the info is WRONG so I doubt they would cite sources. They literally put whatever they wanted.

    • @rosyorbit9229
      @rosyorbit9229 5 лет назад +7

      Nadia Goutam it’s at the end of the video underneath “sources”

    • @dearbrave4183
      @dearbrave4183 5 лет назад

      Nadia Gutam Thank you!

    • @dearbrave4183
      @dearbrave4183 5 лет назад +1

      @@rosyorbit9229 nope those are more links to their other videos

    • @lynndwho
      @lynndwho 4 года назад

      @@jessymonster all kinds of sources have these statistics, the government etc. And none of it means anything because people defy statistics all the time. If you are 20 something having a kid or already have kidz, be honest and look around at majority of the other people in their 20s compared to teens with kids. Think about yourself as you get older you probably learn a little bit more about life and learn from your mistakes. We get wiser... I mean most of us do. That doesn't mean you can't succeed at 20 it just means that more people that are at that age are facing different struggles. Most of the time as we age and get more experienced we make more money which we are usually able to provide more stability... of course there is older as well who end up with set backs etc.

  • @daniella4620
    @daniella4620 5 лет назад +41

    I’m not sure if I want kids yet but I’d rather do it in my 30s so I can have fun in my 20s

    • @princesschi7689
      @princesschi7689 5 лет назад +4

      U can have fun with kids

    • @daniella4620
      @daniella4620 5 лет назад +8

      Princess Chi that’s true but it costs more money and I’m kind of impatient in the first place so I guess maybe they aren’t for me. Still too young to decide tho

    • @sarahbrennan1342
      @sarahbrennan1342 4 года назад

      Princess Chi I think she probably means partying and clubbing 😀

    • @indiaxlovee
      @indiaxlovee 4 года назад +8

      Sarah Brennan or travelled the world? Lol thats more fun than clubbing

    • @ahhwe-any7434
      @ahhwe-any7434 3 года назад

      @@indiaxlovee you actually sound more like a karen

  • @AshaSelfsDemoFilms
    @AshaSelfsDemoFilms 2 года назад +4

    First kid in my early 20's.
    2nd (same relationship) 15yrs later.
    Had both natural.
    Fortunately, good diet, exercise and willingness to evolve are values passed down in my family.

  • @aayat1331
    @aayat1331 2 года назад +18

    Here In India society pressurize woman's to have baby in teen age or in early twenties. Most of the girl do the same. The in laws and relatives deside on when the couple have baby. And if you don't listen to them they will make your life a true hell.
    I feel pitty for them they don't have there own life.

    • @yanchin6704
      @yanchin6704 2 года назад +1

      Stop spreading rumors no one forces to have kid in their teenage unless until they are socially dangerous beings and stop generalizing whole india if u are in a shitty place of India here in South of India mostly woman are giving birth after they are crossing their 25 or more even I think it is same for west and east of india