So true, it’s amazing how you can be at the lowest moment of your life, and then the next the best moment of your life. I experienced that when I gave birth.
Dear pregnant women and new moms. Don’t worry if this isn’t your experience, it’s okay. If you feel dread, horror, loneliness and darkness immediately after birth (or even much longer), you are not dysfunctional. Sometimes ppd, ppa and ppp make us think we are losing our marbles or homicidal. I wish someone told me this before I experienced it. Talk with your OB. This WILL pass over time and you WILL find your way through. 💖
I definitely didn't have the love at first sight with my first because it felt like even though I felt her in the womb, we were really just strangers getting to know each other. I did however feel it for my second so I'm glad I got to experience it.
@@HyLo-rule you Kpop fans are annoying af. Whenever someone with a Kpop profile picture comments about a serious topic you instantly hone in on the picture. Like get a life or something.
How old are you? Like age 10-11? That's something kids around that age think and say along with comments how french kissing isn't higenic and end up asking their parents if they ever engaged in french kiss and everyrhing ends in a big laughter.
Dani By Uh ok. I’m 24. And I have every right to fear childbirth, a lot of women do, yet I hope to overcome it one day. And what a weird metaphor you used, at the age of 10-11 French kissing was the last thing on my mind, I doubt I even knew (or cared) about what it is...
Agreed. My labor and delivery didnt go as expected. It was very difficult, to the point they wanted to do a c section but it in my best interest. My first concern was that she was normal. My second thought was literally, "good, that's over. Now can I have water?" I was fond of my baby. They handed her to me and I looked her over. Everything seemed to be in the right place. My husband was crying and thrilled. I just didnt feel that overwhelming love. I felt kinda crappy actually. I was exhausted, my BP was so high my head hurt horribly. I had a 103 degree temp. Oxygen, and IVs, and a catheter and 12 people in the delivery room. They took her to the NICU because she had a temp too. Husband went with her. I was just kind of relieved that everyone left so I could have a drink of water and have some privacy. It took about 3 days before I was enthralled by her. It's been 17 years and it gets better every day.
Our boobs start filling up with milk literally seconds before baby starts screaming for milk. I noticed this pattern with my firstborn. I dont recall ever being told this is a thing. I remember one day my son was sleeping in the living room while I was getting something in my room. We were at least 20 feet from each other. I couldn't see him he couldn't see me. Next thing you know I feel my breasts getting hard and full. I would say it was at 3 seconds my son started wailing. That was the moment I realized this is real! We have impressive powers
I never wanted children until I got pregnant, then its like my brain made a 180 degree turn and all I think about now is my baby boy 😍😍 really odd feeling of joy when I think about him, as if he was my purpose to live
Superlative you say “just that” as if it’s nothing . It’s more important than anything in life . Name me one thing that’s more important and worth living for than a child you give birth to. No career or love life can give you more satisfaction and natural devotion than to be ur child’s purpose in life ! You won’t understand until you become a mom.
I'm 14 weeks pregnant with my 1st baby. I have so many feelings and emotions. I'm nervous bc I'm gonna be a single mom an I have no family or friends where I moved too. It's gonna be hard and I'm probably going to struggle some but I got this for us. All of this is going to make me stronger. I got this.
I hope everything is going well. I am a first time mom and my baby is almost 3 months old. Even with all the help from family and friends the beginning was very tough for me. I'm praying for you and baby.
Yes, I wish postpartum was talked about more. I feel like with all the hormones going on, something can backfire. Maybe the feel good hormones dip or don’t live up to what they need to do for the brain, or maybe the sudden change in hormones don’t mix well with the mental chemistry. I so wish we talked about this more
@@acethegreat2946 how to you mean? But I think chemicals have a big part to play. I know married, consensual adults who just had their first baby. And she went through bad post partum where she had to remind herself that she loves her baby. I think that mom shame is a part of it too. She often says that she needs to remember that she’s fine as a mom, and is a decent mom, because she feels like a bad mom.
That's so true, all my life I have seen my friends love their mothers. When asked they just said "Its my mother and who doesn't love their mother". Sadly the answer didn't satisfy me, 😔 all my life I have wondered why my mom and I don't have the bond that most families do, always felt something was wrong with me to be needing a reason to love my mom. The fact is it didn't come naturally to me, I am very grateful of everything she has done for me, I respect her and sometimes inspired by her too. But the lack of connection is always felt and it hurts to have a mother and still not be able to depend upon her for support and love when you are at your lowest.
Awwww pray about it! ☺️🥰 that’s great seeing other men desire this! My husband said as a young boy he dreamed of being a husband and father....he doesn’t know but he may be a father soon.... he’s gonna be sooooooo happy 🤧😁
Lucky are those mommies who don't experience post-partum depression, it affects a woman and her mind in the worst way possible 😔😭. Mommies need love and support too❤
@@pznks are you this dumb or joking??? He said the super powers are "daddy instincts" which means you are some how more aware since you have to take care of your child not flying around dumbass
@@tylerbrown3135 I really don't see the humour in everyone saying " the title of the video sounded like if you were gonna have superpowers", and no, no it doesn't, it literally doesn't exaggerate as much as the people who joke about it
The feel good hormone release right after birth make total sense. I gave birth to my first child 15 months ago completely unmediated. It HURT. Worst pain I ever felt in my life. But as soon as I heard my daughter cry & saw her, all of the pain was gone. 15 hours of pain gone in seconds. I honestly don’t even remember the pain enough to describe what it felt like other than painful. I was just so fixated on her & making sure she was okay that I didn’t even care that I had a second degree tear. I tried to stand up to get her right after lol
Our brains should be releasing feel good hormones during the birth process so you wouldnt have to deal with the pain instead. Your vagina was probably too small, vagina rips are too common
Wow 😭😭😭 I am 32 week pregnant and I can’t believe theese things will happen to me also, To the person didn’t see enough love from mother… I hope I will be able to give enough love and support for my children so they will not suffer like me…
Marcie Godard wow that is horrible. I’m so sorry you went through that! People are quick to tell others to have kids but they don’t realize the price some women pay. That is so scary. I had no idea post partum depression could be that serious! I’m so glad you got through it though! It shows just how strong you really are! Thank you so much for sharing. 💜💜💜💜💜
Marcie Godard, thank you for sharing your postpartum experience and I am very sorry to hear what you went threw! I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with my first child and Negative dangerous tough comes to my mind specially while driving to work. The area where I work is not so nice so I’m constantly thinking that something or someone could hurt us. I can’t wait to go on my maternity leave. Especially since at work we have now a new manager/supervisor who is constantly harassing me with the uniform dress code. Like she had never been pregnant before. Ugh 😑
My birth was extremely complicated but once I saw my baby everything was instantly perfect!!! All I can remember is the gratitude that I was finally holding her!! 💖💖💖 Best. feeling. ever.
After I had my daughter, anytime someone new would hold her it was like someone would flip a switch in my brain and I would immediately break out in a sweat and stare like a hawk. You know how a cheetah looks at a gazelle right before it starts chasing it? I looked that creepy 😳 It got better as she got older, and now she’s got a sibling on the way! Also- I didn’t immediately love her. I was more intimidated by this tiny crying little person I suddenly was responsible for (even though she was planned and we were ready, it’s still so scary!) I doubted myself as a mother for the first few weeks and had a few meltdowns, but my love for her has grown and grown and I think my heart just may burst! So if any of you mommas feel guilty like I did, don’t sweat it, everything comes in time!
I gave birth today. The nurse changed my baby's diaper and the cold made her cry. I nearly jumped out of the bed to kick the nurse's ass, before coming to my senses. Also, the pain stopped me. Good for all of us.
@@murieldavis9438 it is normal for woman to experience depression during as well as after pregnancy. due to hormonal changes and physical changes that happen in the body . i encourage you to speak to a health care provider about community groups for pregnant women battling depression. it may help you through to meet women who have and still are battling and beating depression Evey day. you are not alone . remember we are all human we are not perfect. just because you are depressed does not mean you do not love your child or yourself . you are going through changes rapidly it can have an effect on the mind. you are loved . take time out to accept the process and your truth make steps towards a short term goal that makes you feel happy . also know you are not alone and i am here for you too. this is a safe space for you to speak and share feel loved . bless you be well have a beautiful night
Muriel Davis I cant begin to comprehend how you must be feeling as I do not have any children as of yet. I do experience depression though and you have so many people who love and support you. Don’t struggle alone. Speak to someone about it. You are a strong mama and you CAN do this ❤️❤️ sending my love xxx
@Purple Citrine I felt super depressed at the beginning of my pregnancy. Could be my hormones and the fact that I really did not want to have a baby now but it's happening so it was a lot to take in. Plus with terrible morning sickness and fatigue I was not happy. But everyone else was happy about my pregnancy but me. I felt sad that I felt like that and mad. But I'm in my second trimester now and I started to feel better. I feel happier and I feel like I embraced the fact that I will be a mother soon. So happy I finally stopped puking and I have a lil more energy. So just take it one day at a time. Don't be too hard on yourself. Pregnancy is not easy and it's weird but it's also beautiful and you will be an awesome mother. 💓💓💓
My sis gave birth a month ago , and today is my nephew's first monthsary . Idk just about parents (my sis and her husband) , but our life became happier since he arrived too! We were there when he was born but later came back to our hometown and to say I'm missing him will be an understatement!!! Im ready to fly alone and go meet him and spend time with him 😭❤️
This is a great explanation video, but please remember that sometimes this connection doesn't come immediately after birth. Also know that post partum depression can interfere and thats okay, but talk to someone if that's the case. Its okay to no be okay after child birth, if your not okay.
Please please please do not feel bad if you don't love your baby at first look. This is common with mothers. Do not feel ashamed either. Speak to your midwife.
For new mums it’s also normal to give birth and not have that overwhelming loving feeling. After all they are a stranger and over time you will love your baby more than anything. Just don’t stress if you don’t get that movie style moment.
Ever since my daughter was born, I could feel deep love, in love, it was amazing 😍😍😍😍😍 I still feel in love until this day. 2 years after I gave birth.
Alright but is no one gonna talk about how awful pregnancy is 😂 my first trimester is finally ending thank goodness but this has been rough! And why am I suddenly so much more aggressive, I just want to throttle everyone.
I didn’t want kids for the longest time until I met my bf. What I feel like should be talked about is what makes you want to have kids. Like me and him both have baby fever like it’s crazy because I never wanted them. Now I do. I feel like that’s not talked about a bunch.
Congratulations to all the new moms, it gets better. It doesn't matter how big they grow they're still your baby, mine is starting high school and I'm still sensitive to her needs, motherhood is great !!!!
Hahaha true true, after my baby was born I got used to sleep for 2 hours a day, things got better after she hit 3 and she stayed asleep the whole night.
Oh man I can vouch for this. I used to be completely aloof all the time and super lazy and not function without 9 hours of sleep. Having my kid changed that for good like day and night, not just out of necessity, my thought processes and needs are very different on a physical and mental level, I can function on much less but have more joy and contentment weirdly
That’s interesting to me. I’m the same way I don’t even work but still never been very productive and can be lazy but it’s just I don’t handle stress good and need a lot of sleep. I’m pregnant now and feel like all I do is rest and sleep and be most in bed. Try to take walks and I cook, clean and bake sometimes but I wonder how I will handle motherhood and less sleep and all that comes with it. I hope my brain will change so I just learn to deal with it all
@@FlawlesZMa Pregnancy is really exhausting in a different way. Your body is operating at an intense level and your metabolic rate shoots up. Once you’re no longer pregnant, you begin to get your strength and energy back and it helps to handle the new responsibilities. It does help a lot to keep your body in as healthy of a state as possible with nutrition and trying to stay mildly active by walking and such. I had bad postpartum anxiety and depression and I realized I was not taking in good nutrition or catching up on sleep when baby was napping.
I’m glad they added dads in there. I think they get left out. Something changes when you hold your baby for the first time. Seeing them smile causes reactions too. The key is like the video said…dads who are active with they’re babies.
Salute to all the mothers. Childbirth must be unbearable. Respect Queens and thank you for life. You didn't have to carry us for 9 months but you did.🙏🙏🙏
@@brumhelldah917 have to disagree with you. Post partum can occur with healthy adults, healthy pregnancies, smooth deliveries and or healthy babies. The body increases in hormones for the pregnancy and to prepare for birth. Once the baby is delivered the hormones cut back to normal levels over the next few days after delivery. And sometimes lower than normal levels. Also consider the new stress of being a mother. While it is a joy, you are sleep deprived because every noise they make, you hear. You have additional responsibilities you didn't have before. And if you are doing it alone, have a sick baby, don't have adequate supplies or any additional stressors, it can make the adjustment less than smooth. If possible it's best to get you and baby into a routine so that mom can sleep and keep her sanity. Ask for help from people you can stand and know that it's okay to walk away from a crying baby so that you don't hurt them.
I hope you are well a year after this comment!! I popped mine out in November and struggled the first couple months really badly. But things are turning around and I hope with all my heart they are for you too!
When they placed my newborn daughter in my arms I felt like a mama bear. I had this primal instinct to protect her. Even from her own father. I was so protective of her and wanted to get everyone away from her. I wouldn’t even let the nurses take her so I could sleep. I’m still that way 7 years later.
How would you feel when your kid moves out then? Also you should let her dad play with her more. Fun fact: mama hens are more protective than mama bears. Most birds are. When i had my newborn placed in front of me it looked so ugly and gross, then it started looking cute 2 years down the road and thats when i started feeling like a mama hen.
How about the bad things... like depressed... loosing your hair.... you forget things... and don’t remember where you put things....you cry for no reason mood swings.... your body changes...
love my life and family I think if the video pointed out every little detail that happens, it would be an hour long video. So I think they touched mostly on what happens to MOST moms ☺️
Jessica W I know right I just had to say it... I have three of my own and oh my god I have had all these things happen to me and more I believe so it’s not all sweet and cuteness at the end of the day....
I only had 1 but I never had any of those experiences! The only mood swings I had were crying because of how much I love her! Lol I’m one of the lucky ones I guess
Jessica W ☺️ I see.... yeah my first daughter I had nothing bad happen to me and I did not breastfeed I don’t know if that had something to do with it I was happy normal... my second one another girl and I breastfeed her...and oh my god for the first time I experience something different the hairs falling the depression was horrible the crying for no reason having a hard time to get out of bed and do the normal things... I ended up going to the emergency room because I couldn’t literally stop crying and felt like I needed help and yes the doctor told me I had postpartum depression and o had stoped breastfeeding so it was a hot mess... but thank god I took it day by day it went away... for my third one my little boy now 2 I was extremely scared because of everything I went through... but I took the chance and thank god I did not get depression again my hair did fall but hair grows back ... I do get emotional but the normal... i guess every pregnancy is different right..... well hopefully if you ever have another one you won’t go through something like I did take care and have o good day 😉
I have borderline personality disorder. My ability to regulate my emotions and control my temper increased SIGNIFIGANTLY when i had my child two years ago. I thought it was just because i loved my child so much, that i found the strength it took to be a better person for her. But its interesting that in this video it mentions that your brain literally puts more work into regulating your emotions after giving birth. Pretty amazing.
Great information! I don't remember much of my daughter's first 2 years. Working full time, while nursing which meant pumping at the office. Got home and took over watching her from her dad and he would be off to school. Plus he was dealing with a pulled back muscle which meant he could barely hold her the first few months. That was really hard.
It's not just the mother that changes. I've never had children of my own, but I was in the delivery room when my neice was born, I stayed with my sister and her new baby for 6 months to help out. Thinking back I found myself being very protective of both my sister and her new baby and the slightest noise alarted me. Which I was never like that when my other sisters kids were born. Then again I wasn't around them a lot while they were pregnant with them nor with them at those births.
fulcrum 291 Yeah... Because a lot of illnesses, diseases, microbes were unknown... So doctors would study cadavers and go right on to help a birth without even washing their hands and stuff... No fancy meds so any complications and you'd probably die... Health&medicine in the past was seriously crazy man... I'm so glad I was born in the 20th century
Its been nerfed several times with the release of the abortion update where woman's are allowed to choose whether to have a baby in addition with the update of birth control pills. But the abortion update seemed to be overused do moderators are thinking about nerfing the time period in which one can have an abortion. Theres also been a DLC pack on giving ur child to foster care to make ur game play easier.
hmmm this makes sense. my sister when she wasn't married, she used to be a lot more strong and won't ever cry easily on anything. but after marriage and giving birth she's so emotional and fragile. i asked my another sister on how she's changed so much from brave girl to an emotional woman. then she smiled and said when you'll become father in future then you'll know. thanks for reading.
I can honestly vouch for this. THIS IS TRUE. Since having a baby I am so different I can’t even explain,I’ve become so brave,so aware and EVERYTIME I look in her eyes,my whole chest turns into mush
First few weeks, every minute is equal to a day or a month, especially after c section. After that, every day moves so fast that, without clicking pictures you would miss most of those precious memories.
I didn’t “fall in love” with my newborn immediately. Mostly just relief it was over and then sleep. I fell in love probably a few weeks later. Just want to normalize different feelings. My husband immediately fell in love though. I think it was a reality setting in response.
How quickly you forget the pain is crazy. By the next day I'm always ready to go home and get back to life as usual. I've birthed 4 babies and soon it will be 5.
Many moms have killer awesome instincts, right after birth. But trust me, as a mom to a 3.5 year old, your brain goes crazy and scatters everywhere! In some ways, real moms are like superheroes. And the older out children get, they see us as superheroes , same with real dads. And as parents, we try so hard to to live up to our child's or children's expectations. And when we fall, it tears us up inside. I know it does me, when I feel like I've let my son down!
Childbirth used to be the highest cause of female mortality in the old days. Even today, in nations without access to adequate healthcare, women often die from birth-related complications. Additionally, some women sustain injuries from giving birth that can leave them incontinent, sexually dysfunctional or infertile. All rewards come with a risk; just thought I'd so this so people can make informed decisions.
It is not always "love at first sight" For me it was certainly "protective at first sight" and I hated having to leave my 1st baby in the NICU but it definitely took a week or two to feel the lovey feelings.
Even though the video’s focus was on changes seen in the mom, I’m really glad that the changes also seen in dad were at least touched on. I’m expecting my first child in 4 months, and even as a biochemistry grad I didn’t know that expectant dads experience symptoms during pregnancy and the postpartum period as well. We don’t get talked about almost at all, so it was really nice to see outside of scientific papers.
Most new moms don’t get that loving feeling for their baby before it smiles and laughs.
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I felt that a wide elastic band was attached to my brain out to my child and I could only look or walk away as long or as far as any average person could turn their head or walk away with the tension of a big elastic pulling on them. So intense, I made it my career for 20 years, motherhood was my greatest achievement.
I’m nowhere near becoming a mom but ever since I hit puberty I’ve had baby fever. I can’t wait to put love and attention into my own little human some day and teach them the ways of life!
Having complications at birth and being sepperated from your child triggers the worst grief. Having your baby at birth is something that is incredibly beautiful.
When I was labor I was so miserable and in so much pain but after my babies were born, I had that amazing natural high and was so happy, I def felt what they’re talking about in the video. It tricks you into going through labor again with another baby 😂
Then what happens to the mother’s brain if her baby dies at birth? When my son was born (stillborn) I felt so empty inside. I couldn’t stop crying. But for some reason it gave me peace when I was able to see him and hold him for a bit.
Birth, the worst feeling in the world. Holding newborn immediately after birth, the absolute best feeling in the world.
So true, it’s amazing how you can be at the lowest moment of your life, and then the next the best moment of your life. I experienced that when I gave birth.
@@indiag89 but was it better than cocaine tho?
Qing Wu never had cocaine 😂 but it was definitely a very happy feeling
@@qingwu917 chocolate
I don’t know. Toothache is up there! (I’m a mum)
The thumbnail makes it look like You gain 1000 IQ If you have a baby
Polish Filipino xdddd
@@LolXd-gz6rt you like "xdddd", dont you squid ward?
It's more like dying while you're pregnant.
Ikr 😂😂😂😂😂 makes you want to give birth if your a girl
I wish 😂
science insider: makes a useful video about how pregnant women’s brains change after giving birth
comment section: *talks about thumbnail*
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@@RED-47 pls i forgot i commented this lmao-
@@-maya-6498 😂😂😂
I love how no one is talking about the fact that people put cocaine in rats.
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You are totally right Shinae! 🙃
Y A yessir
I thank those animals who died giving us science, knowledge and medicine
THANK YOU!!!! I was thinking the same thing!!!
Nothing special if you are a biology student.
Dear pregnant women and new moms. Don’t worry if this isn’t your experience, it’s okay. If you feel dread, horror, loneliness and darkness immediately after birth (or even much longer), you are not dysfunctional. Sometimes ppd, ppa and ppp make us think we are losing our marbles or homicidal. I wish someone told me this before I experienced it. Talk with your OB. This WILL pass over time and you WILL find your way through. 💖
Yes very true to say
Thank you for this.
Why are there not many likes on this comment? Can we normalize women adapting to the new role and not this blsht "love from first site"?
I definitely didn't have the love at first sight with my first because it felt like even though I felt her in the womb, we were really just strangers getting to know each other. I did however feel it for my second so I'm glad I got to experience it.
This is all good but pregnancy and childbirth are still terrifying.
So is Rosé
Lisa and Rosé such queens
@@HyLo-rule you Kpop fans are annoying af. Whenever someone with a Kpop profile picture comments about a serious topic you instantly hone in on the picture. Like get a life or something.
How old are you? Like age 10-11? That's something kids around that age think and say along with comments how french kissing isn't higenic and end up asking their parents if they ever engaged in french kiss and everyrhing ends in a big laughter.
Dani By Uh ok. I’m 24. And I have every right to fear childbirth, a lot of women do, yet I hope to overcome it one day.
And what a weird metaphor you used, at the age of 10-11 French kissing was the last thing on my mind, I doubt I even knew (or cared) about what it is...
Not all mothers have a direct connection with their babies when they're first born
My Psychology teacher didn't have a click with her son for awhile
Jolly It’s true. For some mother’s it takes a little time... it did for me.
It took months for me to feel connected.
Isn't this postpartum depression?
Ana Martinez never realized being pregnant could be so dark.. :C that's just sad
Agreed. My labor and delivery didnt go as expected. It was very difficult, to the point they wanted to do a c section but it in my best interest. My first concern was that she was normal. My second thought was literally, "good, that's over. Now can I have water?" I was fond of my baby. They handed her to me and I looked her over. Everything seemed to be in the right place. My husband was crying and thrilled. I just didnt feel that overwhelming love. I felt kinda crappy actually. I was exhausted, my BP was so high my head hurt horribly. I had a 103 degree temp. Oxygen, and IVs, and a catheter and 12 people in the delivery room. They took her to the NICU because she had a temp too. Husband went with her. I was just kind of relieved that everyone left so I could have a drink of water and have some privacy. It took about 3 days before I was enthralled by her. It's been 17 years and it gets better every day.
The thumbnail makes it look like if you give birth you get superpowers 😂😂😂
iuvenis animo true 😂
Are you related to Pinocchio 🤥?
Delta Beta no , thank god Im not 😂
@@fantome133 🤣 it's a nice picture I like it 👍
Delta Beta thank you , I enjoy my pic 😂
It’s so interesting how the body works
and scary
Urs
Our bodies are universes
how *GOD* works!
elisabeth fors flawlessly designed
Our boobs start filling up with milk literally seconds before baby starts screaming for milk. I noticed this pattern with my firstborn. I dont recall ever being told this is a thing. I remember one day my son was sleeping in the living room while I was getting something in my room. We were at least 20 feet from each other. I couldn't see him he couldn't see me. Next thing you know I feel my breasts getting hard and full. I would say it was at 3 seconds my son started wailing. That was the moment I realized this is real! We have impressive powers
That's called having a Let down,to push milk from the back of the breasts toward the nipple.
yes!!
When are yo gonna be the mother of my son
Damn you poor woman we the males would never imagine the pain you have when giving birth
Amazing
I never wanted children until I got pregnant, then its like my brain made a 180 degree turn and all I think about now is my baby boy 😍😍 really odd feeling of joy when I think about him, as if he was my purpose to live
Superlative you say “just that” as if it’s nothing . It’s more important than anything in life . Name me one thing that’s more important and worth living for than a child you give birth to. No career or love life can give you more satisfaction and natural devotion than to be ur child’s purpose in life ! You won’t understand until you become a mom.
@Superlative my mom is the same way she said I live for my kids.
@Superlative wow u are clearly not a parent lol
Superlative most likely you’re childless..
@Superlative Most likely a feminist
I'm 14 weeks pregnant with my 1st baby. I have so many feelings and emotions. I'm nervous bc I'm gonna be a single mom an I have no family or friends where I moved too. It's gonna be hard and I'm probably going to struggle some but I got this for us. All of this is going to make me stronger. I got this.
Big hugs to you. 💜
You do got this! Hope all's well
@@WatchingBadTV thank you ❤
You got this you badass woman! Wow you're so strong! I hope it's all easier than you expect!
I hope everything is going well. I am a first time mom and my baby is almost 3 months old. Even with all the help from family and friends the beginning was very tough for me. I'm praying for you and baby.
I don't understand this because I'm a male. But, I love my Mom, and my sisters. Thank you for making me live. :)
That is beautiful.
@SpiritedPackage Sweet, sorry.😕
You’re going to make me cry😭
Bieng a father can also be an amazing feeling.
🎵 Ooh, you make me live... 🎵
Sadly the mother sometimes don’t ever develop a connection with their baby. Some actually have resentment. It’s quite sad
Yes, I wish postpartum was talked about more. I feel like with all the hormones going on, something can backfire. Maybe the feel good hormones dip or don’t live up to what they need to do for the brain, or maybe the sudden change in hormones don’t mix well with the mental chemistry.
I so wish we talked about this more
@@rayebae6368 or it’s has to do with how she got pregnant.
@@acethegreat2946 how to you mean?
But I think chemicals have a big part to play. I know married, consensual adults who just had their first baby. And she went through bad post partum where she had to remind herself that she loves her baby.
I think that mom shame is a part of it too. She often says that she needs to remember that she’s fine as a mom, and is a decent mom, because she feels like a bad mom.
That's so true, all my life I have seen my friends love their mothers. When asked they just said "Its my mother and who doesn't love their mother". Sadly the answer didn't satisfy me, 😔 all my life I have wondered why my mom and I don't have the bond that most families do, always felt something was wrong with me to be needing a reason to love my mom.
The fact is it didn't come naturally to me, I am very grateful of everything she has done for me, I respect her and sometimes inspired by her too. But the lack of connection is always felt and it hurts to have a mother and still not be able to depend upon her for support and love when you are at your lowest.
@@poojashree5838 Relatable :)
I'm still looking forward to being a great husband & father to my future child.
Toiyuan-Pierré Forté Your intentions alone will make it so
This is a dope proclamation 👌🏽
I’m glad I’m not the only one.
Awwww pray about it! ☺️🥰 that’s great seeing other men desire this! My husband said as a young boy he dreamed of being a husband and father....he doesn’t know but he may be a father soon.... he’s gonna be sooooooo happy 🤧😁
When that'll happen, ill welcome you to the club 😇🤘
Lucky are those mommies who don't experience post-partum depression, it affects a woman and her mind in the worst way possible 😔😭. Mommies need love and support too❤
As a male, can confirm the real super powers for men are daddy instincts unlocked after your first born.
cholesterolkilla do you also get to fly?
@@pznks are you this dumb or joking??? He said the super powers are "daddy instincts" which means you are some how more aware since you have to take care of your child not flying around dumbass
@@doggobear2120 yes he is joking...
@@tylerbrown3135 I really don't see the humour in everyone saying " the title of the video sounded like if you were gonna have superpowers", and no, no it doesn't, it literally doesn't exaggerate as much as the people who joke about it
Oh stfu. Men.men men this aint about u
The feel good hormone release right after birth make total sense. I gave birth to my first child 15 months ago completely unmediated. It HURT. Worst pain I ever felt in my life. But as soon as I heard my daughter cry & saw her, all of the pain was gone. 15 hours of pain gone in seconds. I honestly don’t even remember the pain enough to describe what it felt like other than painful. I was just so fixated on her & making sure she was okay that I didn’t even care that I had a second degree tear. I tried to stand up to get her right after lol
Our brains should be releasing feel good hormones during the birth process so you wouldnt have to deal with the pain instead. Your vagina was probably too small, vagina rips are too common
Jessie Jay I was induced. I was 41 weeks & 4 days. Pitocin was the only medication I received.
Exactly.
Wow 😭😭😭 I am 32 week pregnant and I can’t believe theese things will happen to me also, To the person didn’t see enough love from mother… I hope I will be able to give enough love and support for my children so they will not suffer like me…
@@yeganamobeenali8436 how did your delivery go?
due in 3 weeks. I feel already in love with the baby. the kicks, the rolls, the hiccups.
Awwee I pray you have a safe delivery momma to be
Good luck to you!!
Enjoy your 8-hours of sleep while you can
Remember, due dates are just an estimate. If your baby doesnt come the exact date, dont worry 🙂
Good luck to you and your baby! 🥰
Postpartum psychosis was the not-so-fun brain change for me...
Feel better soon hon!
Hang in there sweets, everything will eventually be alright ❤️
I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. Is it ok to ask, what did you experience?
Marcie Godard wow that is horrible. I’m so sorry you went through that! People are quick to tell others to have kids but they don’t realize the price some women pay. That is so scary. I had no idea post partum depression could be that serious! I’m so glad you got through it though! It shows just how strong you really are! Thank you so much for sharing. 💜💜💜💜💜
Marcie Godard, thank you for sharing your postpartum experience and I am very sorry to hear what you went threw!
I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with my first child and Negative dangerous tough comes to my mind specially while driving to work. The area where I work is not so nice so I’m constantly thinking that something or someone could hurt us. I can’t wait to go on my maternity leave. Especially since at work we have now a new manager/supervisor who is constantly harassing me with the uniform dress code. Like she had never been pregnant before. Ugh 😑
GOD IS amazing I thank god everyday for my beautiful son 🙏♥️
AMEN! Exactly 💓✝️ HE IS GOOD and Only HE is Good
Amen!
Amen! Children are a blessing 💝🙏
You look so good! I've looked like some troll thing ever since I gave birth
Only looking at thumbnail: So by giving birth the mom obtains superpowers
After watching video: So I can produce breast milk?
Minh Nguyen no it means your body produces the same chemical found in women who breastfeed
And isn't that a super power? 🙄😘
🤣🤣🤣
My birth was extremely complicated but once I saw my baby everything was instantly perfect!!! All I can remember is the gratitude that I was finally holding her!! 💖💖💖 Best. feeling. ever.
After I had my daughter, anytime someone new would hold her it was like someone would flip a switch in my brain and I would immediately break out in a sweat and stare like a hawk.
You know how a cheetah looks at a gazelle right before it starts chasing it? I looked that creepy 😳
It got better as she got older, and now she’s got a sibling on the way!
Also- I didn’t immediately love her. I was more intimidated by this tiny crying little person I suddenly was responsible for (even though she was planned and we were ready, it’s still so scary!) I doubted myself as a mother for the first few weeks and had a few meltdowns, but my love for her has grown and grown and I think my heart just may burst!
So if any of you mommas feel guilty like I did, don’t sweat it, everything comes in time!
Well technically..the baby hacks your system and freakin controls you to love it like a boss baby
I guess it's postpartum depression
This isn't even my final FORM!
I gave birth today. The nurse changed my baby's diaper and the cold made her cry. I nearly jumped out of the bed to kick the nurse's ass, before coming to my senses. Also, the pain stopped me. Good for all of us.
Even when my child cries sometimes, i just look at him and fall in love with his cuteness. Explain that🤔
Excellent. Now please make a video on Postpartum Depression.
Yess!!! I agree
What about depression while being pregnant many people don't talk about that
victoria aponte dealing with this now. This is my second pregnancy
@@murieldavis9438 it is normal for woman to experience depression during as well as after pregnancy. due to hormonal changes and physical changes that happen in the body . i encourage you to speak to a health care provider about community groups for pregnant women battling depression. it may help you through to meet women who have and still are battling and beating depression Evey day. you are not alone . remember we are all human we are not perfect. just because you are depressed does not mean you do not love your child or yourself . you are going through changes rapidly it can have an effect on the mind. you are loved . take time out to accept the process and your truth make steps towards a short term goal that makes you feel happy . also know you are not alone and i am here for you too. this is a safe space for you to speak and share feel loved .
bless you be well have a beautiful night
Muriel Davis I cant begin to comprehend how you must be feeling as I do not have any children as of yet. I do experience depression though and you have so many people who love and support you. Don’t struggle alone. Speak to someone about it. You are a strong mama and you CAN do this ❤️❤️ sending my love xxx
Yes, this cold have made a great platform to discuss this in the video
@Purple Citrine I felt super depressed at the beginning of my pregnancy. Could be my hormones and the fact that I really did not want to have a baby now but it's happening so it was a lot to take in. Plus with terrible morning sickness and fatigue I was not happy. But everyone else was happy about my pregnancy but me. I felt sad that I felt like that and mad. But I'm in my second trimester now and I started to feel better. I feel happier and I feel like I embraced the fact that I will be a mother soon. So happy I finally stopped puking and I have a lil more energy. So just take it one day at a time. Don't be too hard on yourself. Pregnancy is not easy and it's weird but it's also beautiful and you will be an awesome mother. 💓💓💓
My sis gave birth a month ago , and today is my nephew's first monthsary . Idk just about parents (my sis and her husband) , but our life became happier since he arrived too! We were there when he was born but later came back to our hometown and to say I'm missing him will be an understatement!!! Im ready to fly alone and go meet him and spend time with him 😭❤️
i feel you :)
This is a great explanation video, but please remember that sometimes this connection doesn't come immediately after birth. Also know that post partum depression can interfere and thats okay, but talk to someone if that's the case. Its okay to no be okay after child birth, if your not okay.
Having babies usually makes adults more mature and responsible... It's good and essential for the adult personality development. 👍
Please please please do not feel bad if you don't love your baby at first look.
This is common with mothers.
Do not feel ashamed either. Speak to your midwife.
Maybe women I your country feels ashamed
If a mother doesn't love her baby, then she should not be allowed to be with her baby.
This is a very heartwarming science video. At least I can understand why people want children.
Everyone was a child at one point
Everyone would be dead at one point
I’m confused on what these have to do with my comments.
I ate crushed kit kats because the tickets for endgame were sold out.
@ChocFiend every woman above 40 want and regret not having children
I didn’t feel love at first sight when I had my son. I became depressed, I changed over time
For new mums it’s also normal to give birth and not have that overwhelming loving feeling. After all they are a stranger and over time you will love your baby more than anything. Just don’t stress if you don’t get that movie style moment.
Ever since my daughter was born, I could feel deep love, in love, it was amazing 😍😍😍😍😍
I still feel in love until this day. 2 years after I gave birth.
Alright but is no one gonna talk about how awful pregnancy is 😂 my first trimester is finally ending thank goodness but this has been rough! And why am I suddenly so much more aggressive, I just want to throttle everyone.
Yesssssss omg me too!!!! I’m sooo over first trimester! Almost there!
I didn’t want kids for the longest time until I met my bf. What I feel like should be talked about is what makes you want to have kids. Like me and him both have baby fever like it’s crazy because I never wanted them. Now I do. I feel like that’s not talked about a bunch.
How are y'all doing now?
This is random, but imagine a super saiyan woman giving birth?🤔
Yo the thumbnail maid me think of that lol
Thats......not.......funny......maybe..........funny.......???
Hazman poor Gine
the baby might be a villain
Shout out to gine
Bro, did she just become a ninja? 😂💀
Congratulations to all the new moms, it gets better. It doesn't matter how big they grow they're still your baby, mine is starting high school and I'm still sensitive to her needs, motherhood is great !!!!
After watching this I'm still glad I got the contraceptive implant 😂 I love babies just other people's babies
So this explains why I am still able to function. I haven't been sleep in 2 years lol
Hahaha true true, after my baby was born I got used to sleep for 2 hours a day, things got better after she hit 3 and she stayed asleep the whole night.
Lol, so true! I used to tell people---I haven't slept in 5 years, leave me alone!
Ugh im not ready for this lack of sleep, childbirth shit. I’ll just adopt
Imagine males becoming pregnant instead of females. Makes me think of Cosmo
Avery The Cuban I remember that episode of Fairy OddParents now that you mention it.
Ewww... A lot of women would lose attraction towards men.
If only it was possible
There should be someone who escaped that 😂 as a man
This guy is everywhere
Oh man I can vouch for this. I used to be completely aloof all the time and super lazy and not function without 9 hours of sleep.
Having my kid changed that for good like day and night, not just out of necessity, my thought processes and needs are very different on a physical and mental level, I can function on much less but have more joy and contentment weirdly
That’s interesting to me. I’m the same way I don’t even work but still never been very productive and can be lazy but it’s just I don’t handle stress good and need a lot of sleep. I’m pregnant now and feel like all I do is rest and sleep and be most in bed. Try to take walks and I cook, clean and bake sometimes but I wonder how I will handle motherhood and less sleep and all that comes with it. I hope my brain will change so I just learn to deal with it all
@@FlawlesZMa Pregnancy is really exhausting in a different way. Your body is operating at an intense level and your metabolic rate shoots up. Once you’re no longer pregnant, you begin to get your strength and energy back and it helps to handle the new responsibilities. It does help a lot to keep your body in as healthy of a state as possible with nutrition and trying to stay mildly active by walking and such. I had bad postpartum anxiety and depression and I realized I was not taking in good nutrition or catching up on sleep when baby was napping.
I just had my baby, and so this was cool to watch. It’s also a spiritual change, if I say so myself.. I experienced a shift in mindset during labor.
I’m glad they added dads in there. I think they get left out. Something changes when you hold your baby for the first time. Seeing them smile causes reactions too. The key is like the video said…dads who are active with they’re babies.
This video is unexpectedly wholesome.
Salute to all the mothers. Childbirth must be unbearable. Respect Queens and thank you for life. You didn't have to carry us for 9 months but you did.🙏🙏🙏
A baby is the best gift we can have in this world.
I gotta disagree, giving birth made me depressed
KOKOA KEI I hope you and your baby are well. You got this, truly hope you get through this for both you and your baby ♥️
Postpartum depression is common when there are health issues before you know? Hope you guys are happy
@@brumhelldah917 have to disagree with you. Post partum can occur with healthy adults, healthy pregnancies, smooth deliveries and or healthy babies. The body increases in hormones for the pregnancy and to prepare for birth. Once the baby is delivered the hormones cut back to normal levels over the next few days after delivery. And sometimes lower than normal levels. Also consider the new stress of being a mother. While it is a joy, you are sleep deprived because every noise they make, you hear. You have additional responsibilities you didn't have before. And if you are doing it alone, have a sick baby, don't have adequate supplies or any additional stressors, it can make the adjustment less than smooth. If possible it's best to get you and baby into a routine so that mom can sleep and keep her sanity. Ask for help from people you can stand and know that it's okay to walk away from a crying baby so that you don't hurt them.
I hope you are well a year after this comment!! I popped mine out in November and struggled the first couple months really badly. But things are turning around and I hope with all my heart they are for you too!
When they placed my newborn daughter in my arms I felt like a mama bear. I had this primal instinct to protect her. Even from her own father. I was so protective of her and wanted to get everyone away from her. I wouldn’t even let the nurses take her so I could sleep. I’m still that way 7 years later.
How would you feel when your kid moves out then? Also you should let her dad play with her more. Fun fact: mama hens are more protective than mama bears. Most birds are. When i had my newborn placed in front of me it looked so ugly and gross, then it started looking cute 2 years down the road and thats when i started feeling like a mama hen.
Qing Wu lol 😂
7 years later I’m also still like I was day one
Why would u protect ur child from ur husband? Tf?
N B I’m the same way...I wouldn’t let no one touch her the first two weeks
How about the bad things... like depressed... loosing your hair.... you forget things... and don’t remember where you put things....you cry for no reason mood swings.... your body changes...
love my life and family I think if the video pointed out every little detail that happens, it would be an hour long video. So I think they touched mostly on what happens to MOST moms ☺️
Jessica W I know right I just had to say it... I have three of my own and oh my god I have had all these things happen to me and more I believe so it’s not all sweet and cuteness at the end of the day....
I only had 1 but I never had any of those experiences! The only mood swings I had were crying because of how much I love her! Lol I’m one of the lucky ones I guess
Jessica W ☺️ I see.... yeah my first daughter I had nothing bad happen to me and I did not breastfeed I don’t know if that had something to do with it I was happy normal... my second one another girl and I breastfeed her...and oh my god for the first time I experience something different the hairs falling the depression was horrible the crying for no reason having a hard time to get out of bed and do the normal things... I ended up going to the emergency room because I couldn’t literally stop crying and felt like I needed help and yes the doctor told me I had postpartum depression and o had stoped breastfeeding so it was a hot mess... but thank god I took it day by day it went away... for my third one my little boy now 2 I was extremely scared because of everything I went through... but I took the chance and thank god I did not get depression again my hair did fall but hair grows back ... I do get emotional but the normal... i guess every pregnancy is different right..... well hopefully if you ever have another one you won’t go through something like I did take care and have o good day 😉
thank you. currently pregnant with my first child, and i am going through it. my brain is basically not functioning anymore at this point.
I already love my unborn baby so much I don’t know if it’s possible to love her more
Now make a video: How your pet changes your brain 😃
Yes!
About the parasites your cat can pass on to you
@@TheSoundOfTwang cats have been living with us for centuries and both species have prospered, and we're healthy, so miss me with that bs.
@@TheSoundOfTwang dogs, cats and a lot of things can pass parasites. Thats why u get them their jabs :/
TheSoundOfTwang cats actually make you healthier in multiple ways, you uneducated swine.
Yes there is parasites from pets
And yes there are methods to deal with em, preferably with the advise of a veterinary
I have borderline personality disorder. My ability to regulate my emotions and control my temper increased SIGNIFIGANTLY when i had my child two years ago. I thought it was just because i loved my child so much, that i found the strength it took to be a better person for her. But its interesting that in this video it mentions that your brain literally puts more work into regulating your emotions after giving birth. Pretty amazing.
1:51 I CAME IN LIKE A WREEECCCKKING BAAAAALLLL ! !
This is so cute! Omg I’m 33 weeks and me and hubby are counting down the freaking days 😊😊🥰🥰♥️♥️
I felt same way too..... I love my baby girl so much even when I have a bad day I feel so fulfilled with life!
I'm still very confused, it's alright.
Make a video on how a mother with PostPartum Depression brain will regulate their bond with the child
Great information! I don't remember much of my daughter's first 2 years. Working full time, while nursing which meant pumping at the office. Got home and took over watching her from her dad and he would be off to school. Plus he was dealing with a pulled back muscle which meant he could barely hold her the first few months. That was really hard.
It's not just the mother that changes. I've never had children of my own, but I was in the delivery room when my neice was born, I stayed with my sister and her new baby for 6 months to help out. Thinking back I found myself being very protective of both my sister and her new baby and the slightest noise alarted me. Which I was never like that when my other sisters kids were born. Then again I wasn't around them a lot while they were pregnant with them nor with them at those births.
This is really cool. I also like how we lowkey got a story of a couple and their baby
You start wanting to speak to the manager
Is giving birth to op? Nerf?
Batman 😂
Nowadays yes, in the past it was nerf too much to the point the mother or the baby died
fulcrum 291 Yeah... Because a lot of illnesses, diseases, microbes were unknown... So doctors would study cadavers and go right on to help a birth without even washing their hands and stuff... No fancy meds so any complications and you'd probably die... Health&medicine in the past was seriously crazy man... I'm so glad I was born in the 20th century
Tiers Zoo wants to know your location
Its been nerfed several times with the release of the abortion update where woman's are allowed to choose whether to have a baby in addition with the update of birth control pills. But the abortion update seemed to be overused do moderators are thinking about nerfing the time period in which one can have an abortion. Theres also been a DLC pack on giving ur child to foster care to make ur game play easier.
Had my first baby and my skin is to die for I mean to DIE for 😍
Awww, explains why my dad loves me so much!! 😍😍😍 He constantly played with me as a child!
hmmm this makes sense. my sister when she wasn't married, she used to be a lot more strong and won't ever cry easily on anything. but after marriage and giving birth she's so emotional and fragile. i asked my another sister on how she's changed so much from brave girl to an emotional woman. then she smiled and said when you'll become father in future then you'll know. thanks for reading.
Crying does not mean that your sister is no longer brave. Emotions don't make a person weak, dude.
I can honestly vouch for this. THIS IS TRUE. Since having a baby I am so different I can’t even explain,I’ve become so brave,so aware and EVERYTIME I look in her eyes,my whole chest turns into mush
First few weeks, every minute is equal to a day or a month, especially after c section. After that, every day moves so fast that, without clicking pictures you would miss most of those precious memories.
I didn’t “fall in love” with my newborn immediately. Mostly just relief it was over and then sleep. I fell in love probably a few weeks later. Just want to normalize different feelings. My husband immediately fell in love though. I think it was a reality setting in response.
So moms gain spidy sense after birth. Got it.
How quickly you forget the pain is crazy. By the next day I'm always ready to go home and get back to life as usual. I've birthed 4 babies and soon it will be 5.
Many moms have killer awesome instincts, right after birth. But trust me, as a mom to a 3.5 year old, your brain goes crazy and scatters everywhere! In some ways, real moms are like superheroes. And the older out children get, they see us as superheroes , same with real dads. And as parents, we try so hard to to live up to our child's or children's expectations. And when we fall, it tears us up inside. I know it does me, when I feel like I've let my son down!
You mean after childbirth the brain scatters? What do you mean by that actually and in what ways is your brain “scattered everywhere”?
The person in the thumbnail looks like she gain telepathic abilities as she gives birth
Childbirth used to be the highest cause of female mortality in the old days. Even today, in nations without access to adequate healthcare, women often die from birth-related complications.
Additionally, some women sustain injuries from giving birth that can leave them incontinent, sexually dysfunctional or infertile.
All rewards come with a risk; just thought I'd so this so people can make informed decisions.
It is not always "love at first sight" For me it was certainly "protective at first sight" and I hated having to leave my 1st baby in the NICU but it definitely took a week or two to feel the lovey feelings.
Labour pains makes me think that I shouldn't have children 👀
I remember when my daughter would cry to nurse and I got this shocking feeling in my head between my eyes, like an alarm.
Even though the video’s focus was on changes seen in the mom, I’m really glad that the changes also seen in dad were at least touched on. I’m expecting my first child in 4 months, and even as a biochemistry grad I didn’t know that expectant dads experience symptoms during pregnancy and the postpartum period as well. We don’t get talked about almost at all, so it was really nice to see outside of scientific papers.
didn't believed my mom years ago when she said that giving birth changed her memory... now i know it's true
Thumbnail: Giving birth makes you go super sayan
Most new moms don’t get that loving feeling for their baby before it smiles and laughs.
I felt that a wide elastic band was attached to my brain out to my child and I could only look or walk away as long or as far as any average person could turn their head or walk away with the tension of a big elastic pulling on them. So intense, I made it my career for 20 years, motherhood was my greatest achievement.
Okkk time to get off RUclips.
sara insanelyyinsane lol me every time but I then say “I’m just gonna watch one more” and it turns out WAY more than one 😂
No drug can feel the natural high of love
I’m nowhere near becoming a mom but ever since I hit puberty I’ve had baby fever. I can’t wait to put love and attention into my own little human some day and teach them the ways of life!
How are you doing now?
The animation is really nice. Its kinda juvenile but its very expressive for the video :)
Having complications at birth and being sepperated from your child triggers the worst grief. Having your baby at birth is something that is incredibly beautiful.
But does it affect your memory and intellect? You can change your emotions in ten minutes with coffee.
When I was labor I was so miserable and in so much pain but after my babies were born, I had that amazing natural high and was so happy, I def felt what they’re talking about in the video. It tricks you into going through labor again with another baby 😂
Lmao!
😂😂😂😂😂
I love the comparison with cocaine.
Single mom here.And i feel dumb after i had my son in 2017.Idk if other moms are like that as well haha
My mom is soooo interactive when home to my house
Then what happens to the mother’s brain if her baby dies at birth? When my son was born (stillborn) I felt so empty inside. I couldn’t stop crying. But for some reason it gave me peace when I was able to see him and hold him for a bit.
Nah, my wife's brain changed because I gave her and the baby a new Bass pro fishing hat when the baby was born
was this in your dream?
Bruh
I started cry from nowhere when I pushed her out I was crying n I was happy like never ever