Pediatricians Debunk 16 Baby Myths
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- Опубликовано: 16 май 2024
- A pediatrician and a developmental psychologist from the Mount Sinai Parenting Center debunk 16 of the most common myths about raising infants and toddlers. They explain how baby walkers don't help babies learn to walk and how certain toys won't make babies smarter. They also debunk the idea that picking up a crying baby spoils - instead, you should be holding, touching, and snuggling that baby.
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as a former baby i can say this is true
This needs more likes 😂😂
Sarah It really does.
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HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHA
This comment is soooo underrated
Me: 19 years old, no boyfriend, no social interactions, in college, no intention of having a baby anytime soon
Also me: No honey. Got it.
Oh no, don't be sad, you can find people to talk to in discord. It definitely helped me and I got better using English
Me: 19 years old, had a kid in feb 2020, bad upbringing, learning things for myself, taking college classes (looking at business / language)
Doing much better for sure
Me: 17 years old, gay, no boyfriend, no social life, in high school graduation limbo, no job, physically cannot have my own biological child and am too young to adopt.
Also me: Yes, I need this right now in my life. Parenting guides.
Me: 21, no girlfriend, don't have kids or any small children around, not yet intent to have kids, rushing to study to my CPA, working my ass out of a business through a pandemic scenario.
Also me: I need this parenting skills right now
@@elkyubi4281 bruh where did discord ever come up
I like how their energies are so polar opposite and still they agree about EVERYTHING
Their "energies"?
How do you feel energy?
Red head is more outgoing and the blonde is more stiff
The force is strong with this one
The blonde isn't stiff, she's calm. Caaaaaaalm. Which I imagine panicked, harried parents appreciate.
The conclusion is you don't need fancy stuffs to educate your babies. Love, attention, physical interaction, lingual interaction & environmental interaction will do just fine
yea, tl;dr don't do anything that seems stupid. millions of years of evolution made the parents feel what to do by instinct.
@@wojtekpolska1013 👍🏾
That’ll give them basic survival skills. But they won’t be able to afford to survive on their own without intellectual abilities and other skills.
@@viiperbiite Which are most effectively fostered by interaction with people, feeling grass and breeze, playing with pets, being read/talked/sung to, and learning to walk by crawling and pulling up. Language is key in the first five years. Make eye contact, talk and laugh and sing, hug and hold, and your baby will thrive.
@@viiperbiite I have heard that rich people interact with their babies more. If true, that's a perfect explanation as to why babies with access to more economically advantaged environments tend to be better of.
"babies should be sleeping through the night"... yeah, now if someone could just explain that to the baby!
Lmfao! Hahaha OMG this was hilarious! It's currently 1:30am and my 16 month old daughter is awake, playing and was just running around the house before I safely put her in her gated play area so I can walk the dog and take a personal "mommy time out".... yesterday, she was up until 8:30am. Sleep has regressed to infancy sleeping style. And progressively been getting worse since the 1st tooth broke through during the summer (at around 10 months old)
I swear, it’s as if they don’t listen.
mozismobile my 10 year old sister can’t sleep through the night in her own!
Don’t wake up your baby to eat! They will wake up when they want to eat! Let them sleep!
@@tierracaccitolo .... That's one of my biggest fears regarding my daughter. My fiance and I co-sleep and bed-share.... he works nights 5 days a week so I don't mind the bed-sharing because since day 1, our daughter would only sleep on my chest. Otherwise, not at all.
BUT, my fiance has insomnia, I too have insomnia/sleeping issues. My father had insomnia, my younger and older brother have insomnia, my fiance's father had insomnia..... the chances are pretty high that Adrianna Marie may end up getting insomnia being as though that it runs heavily in both sides of the family.....
Not sure if this pertains to your 10 year old sister in any way BUT I definitely would love to know if this is so that I, as the primary caretaker (stay-at-home Momma Bear) should watch out for.....
@@tierracaccitolo .... Yes! Absolutely don't! I remember when my Ma came over one day during this past summer and my fiance and I just literally got Adrianna Marie down for a nap. My Ma wanted to see her and went into our bedroom alone. Sure as shit, 2 minutes later, I walked into the room and Adrianna was waking up. I asked my Ma if she had woken her up and she denied it. A few weeks later, she confessed to indeed waking her up because she wanted to hold her and play with her. Unaware that we were trying to get her on a set sleeping schedule and also unaware that Adrianna would freak out because she doesn't like anyone waking her up unless it's (primarily) me or my fiance.
The only time I wake her is if she had a bowel movement in her diaper, because I don't like her sleeping through that for numerous reasons.... hygiene being the main one. Or, if I know that she's not feeling well and too much time has lapsed between a bottle, food or water. Even then though, I gently wake her and I'm able to get her back to sleep fairly quickly because she's still in the drowsy/half asleep state. You know what I mean?
Me
Is a Male
Is 17 Years Old
Doesn't have a child
Doesn't have a GF
Doesn't even want children
"Pediatricians debunk 16 Myths"
Yes pls...
Same here xD but idk as a female I think some of these are interesting to know :3
Andrew Scott lol
You were waiting for the two of them to kiss?
Maybe 😏
you never know when you'll have to take care of a random baby
I grew up in a very abusive and violent home but my brother and I always dreamed of being loving parents. Now I'm going to be an auntie!!! And videos like this, communities like this, people like this, are going to help us love and raise a beautiful human being 💜 thank you!!
I relate to this a lot! I was emotionally and physically abused and never had any emotional support. It made me extremely socially anxious, self conscious, lonely, irritable, and depressed. I never had a normal childhood. I always fantasized about raising a child to never experience what I had to go through and grow up to be an empathetic and bright minded child. I thought about the ways I would teach my kid how to approach situations and the world in an open minded way. These videos really help me achieve my dream with the research!
I am an internet stranger and I’m so proud of you and your brother! You’re going to be a great auntie!!
Aww this breaks my heart. hope you and your brother are doing better now. You’re going to be a great auntie!! ❤️
God bless you and your family
It's nice that you've become positive through your negative experience. I hope you enjoy being an aunty.
People often forget that, when a baby is crying over something, like because something scared them or they got hurt, it quite literally could be one of the worst things that happened to them in their entire life at the time, not even an exaggeration, ofcourse you should be picking them up and comforting them!
Yes. Like up to that point, that could be the worst thing they have experienced.
@@ChickenPermission617 yes indeed being as they might have only been on the planner for 2 weeks it doesn't take much for things to be new
My baby cries because he doesn't have the right binky sometimes. Sometimes he cries because HE took his bottle out of his mouth.
He's a BABY he has big emotions in his tiny package and doesn't know how to regulate them, comforting him helps him learn how to comfort himself and give him the confidence that someone will be there when something is wrong. Now that he's over 6 months if he's fussy I let him try to self sooth, when it gets to upset crying I jump in to comfort. Everyone tells me what a happy baby he is!
I remember one night lighting struck next to our sons window I was like oh it’s not that deep then I had to pause and think as a new baby that’s a loud sound a sudden flash of light and mom and dad are nowhere to be found I would’ve figured out
We discovered my nanny baby that was fussy was having gas. The mother changed her diet (breastfeeding) and it fixed it.
“Naps aren’t necessary.” Naps are necessary in all stages.
Agree
Don't rely on RUclips video
No I've never napped since I was a newborn
@@Lea-ov8vq idk if you’re joking but if you can remember being a toddler I’m surprised, but also naps can be very beneficial depending on your lifestyle.
@@irislelu not relying on a youtube video but doctors! RUclips is used by colleges, so I think it’s safe to say we can rely on them for videos like this lol
I’d rather spoil a baby than having a baby feeling emotionally neglected
"Spoiling" a child can only happen when they are old enough to understand cause and effect, an infant is not. Spoiling happens when you do not have consistent rules and boundaries that you enforce with a child. All children need secure attachment, love, and a responsive adult to develop normally.
It's always about balance, you dont want to spoil your kids but you dont want them to feel neglected either
Word :)
Clayton Paisley infants have been shown to understand cause and effect as early as 3 months of age. We’ve seen infants make the connection between ‘I cry’ and ‘mom comes running’ they also laugh because they find it funny. Later on in development you can even start ‘disciplining’ as early as 9 months. This discipline would not look like an older child’s discipline. It could be baby bites, parent picks up, parent give no emotional response. The baby starts to get uncomfortable because they’re not getting the emotional response they’re used to. It might last 10 seconds but through consistency the infant will eventually make the connection between ‘oh I do xyz and this unpleasant thing happens’ and the behavior reduces. Finally cortisol (the stress hormone) is set in an infant at about 6 months of age. So the important part of their attachment style forms from birth to 6 months. After that they will not produce any more cortisol then they levels they’ve already experienced. Some believe this is why emotionally neglected children tend to have more physiological signs of stress.
Haha sorry for the soapbox. 🙈
a person 🤦♂️
This video really helps me out :) I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first child and the amount of overwhelming and contradicting information I'm getting is insane. From all the well-meant tips I've gotten, only a couple seem to be correct. I'm not even a parent yet, but I'm already made to feel like I can never do it right. It's exhausting.
youre gonna be fantastic, good luck
I recommend reading Bringing Up Bébé by Pamela Druckerman, Expecting Better & Cribsheet by Emily Oster, and The Whole-Brain Child by Siegel & Bryson! I'm 30 weeks along with my first and these books have really helped me feel prepared for my son's arrival. They all help you sift through the nonsense that people spread about pregnancy, babies, and children.
Hope you and baby are doing well.
Highly recommend not using corporal punishment as well, it's proven that it can cause your children to have higher chances to develop mental illness. Also, patience is something you're gonna need. Hitting a child will only scare them, and make them fear you, and not understand that doing something is bad because it's not nice.
@@urgae9125 very true!
My kids are in their teens now, but I'll never forget our pediatrician thanking us for calling in the middle of the night when we thought something was wrong, even when it turned out that what we were worried about was perfectly normal. It was the most amazing thing.
Who tf doesn't pick up a crying baby?
Me....LOL!!
Nazi soldiers who burn babies
Onision
I've been told that often (especially by older folk): don't spoil your baby by carrying them too much, if they're fed and clean and still crying then just ignore them. It goes against every parental instinct, but it's still a surprisingly prevalent myth.
Latino parents 😂
Naps are important for me.
I even think they are important for everyone man. When people get unnecessarily angry at something,sometimes, i tell them to take a nap.
I second that. Lol I remember taking naps in preschool and hating it. But now I need to take a nap.
@@vanessarodrigues717 😂😂😂 @ Go take a nap! My momma would say "go lay your tired little head down" whenever I said something stupid. My dad would say "Go play in traffic" whenever I did something stupid. You brought back memories of my childhood.
My 2 yr old takes a 2 hr nap and I LOVE IT. For awhile she did 2 2 hour naps. Anyone wanting to get rid of a nap-time or doesn’t “do schedules” for the parents “benefit” is just insane.
In kindergarten naps felt like a a punishment, as an adult they are a treat!
I would like to add to myth 8 that there is DEFINITELY a difference between a general "I need food/comfort/changing" cry and a "something is wrong, for God's sake help me!" cry. Example. My mom was in in a restaurant with a friend one time. Her friend had not had kids. A family came into the restaurant and started to put a 1-2 year old baby in a high chair. The baby started screaming bloody murder. My mother's friend scoffed and said "that child is a brat." My mother said "No, there is something WRONG with her, that is NOT a fussy tantrum cry." Come to find out, the wooden high chair had slats and they had accidentally wedged her one arm between two of the slats and it was a very small gap and they were actually really hurting her arm! They had to cut the thing to get her out! DO NOT IGNORE A PANICKED CRY! A baby will let you know when something is REALLY wrong!
100% true, it’s like an instinct when you hear your child cry, you know the difference between the two types of crying
I always thought this was a myth. Im an aunt to 4… one little noise and I know what baby wants. It’s really something special.
@@Sunny-ot1vo I'm just starting to try for kids with my husband, I can't wait to experience this. But even I can tell when a crying baby is really suffering and not just tired.
Omg. Poor child. Thanks God your mom interfered and helped her❤
Very true, i remember working in a nursery and felt awful. one day a baby was kicking up a fuss and we couldnt work out what was wrong she had been fed, slept, changed etc....
It was only 30 mins later I realised there had been a miscommunication about her nappy cream and on her last change i hadnt put her cream on so her poor bottom was bright red-i felt awful and was 100 % my fault as soon as we realised we smothered her with the cream and left her nappy off for a bit and luckily she was fine an hr later but yeah felt terrible whoops.
My mom told me I was a wildcard. I never took naps, was very energetic, almost never cried only laughed, needed an extra feeding at night because I used up all my energy, i stood before I crawled and my first word was “duck”. I was all over the place.
I never crawled. My mother said around 8 or 9 months old I used the edge of the sofa to stand up and then walked perfectly across the room, no wobbling, no falling.
Lol. My son, start walk 8.5 months, talking 8 monts was taking just 2 naps unti 1year old, them no one was eble to make he sleep. Always on the go. Today he is 14, very intelligent and still not sleeping much, nut way more calm.
Duck! That's so cute 😊
Maybe u meant to say F*** hahahahah
@@redroselace9545 could be but my brothers word was "tractor" (we are not even a farming family). So I think we just really liked the Barnyard
I'm 34 and naps are still important for my daytime behavior and emotional development...
Same age. Same findings. Lol
Yes afternoon nap otherwise I’m cranky and throw tantrums.
@@SL-lz9jr I second that xD
yep, the real myth is that you only need naps when you're young. >
If you're finding that you need a nap longer than 30 minutes and/or napping after 3:00 p.m., see a sleep specialist. There may be something wrong with your nighttime sleep causing you to be more tired during the day.
“Up to 3 years of age naps are really important”... me a 28 year old I deeply disagree it stops that quickly
Roweisha Gray omg same
Naps are really important to brain development for kids up to about 3, after that it’s mostly for rest.
Nah, for adults naps tend to interfere with night-time sleep. If you're already getting 8 or more solid hours of sleep at night and still need naps to feel refreshed then you might want to check with your doctor.
sooo true ! why stop at 3 ? In Spain they still take naps in the afternoon. Can we do that too ?
I would agree that naps are required way longer past the age of 3
I love the contrast of energy! the pediatrician being cool chaotic and the psychologist being calm and collected
Me too! It’s like I’m watching my husband and I 😆
Lol I was laughing by the end at how still the psychologist was where the doctor was so animated
Naps are not only necessary for the baby; they are necessary to give parents a break. When my baby is napping, I can center myself and take care of stuff around the house. Shoot, or take a nap myself!
I'm sending it to my husband. So he knows how to treat me as as the baby I am.
Isabella S Ew
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This just took a weird turn 😂 but bully for you
Um
Hahahaha
knowledge is power no matter if you have a baby or not.
This comment should be top comment
You’re absolutely correct! It takes a village to raise a child!
Everyone should know how to take care of a baby - young kids, teenagers, unmarried men and women, gay men and women - it is for the benefit of the very survival of your species that you know how to care for one. It is a much deeper knowledge than math or literature for the brain
Absolutely. I have 3 nieces and 1 nephew, all under 4 years old. This video is making me the most powerful babysitter in the world.
I’ve been bashed by moms for giving them a fact about babies because “yOu DoN’t HaVe A bAbY!” Never mind, it’s your kid anyways.
Blonde is talking so calmly.
Ginger is talking so clearly.
I kinda wanna see how they are with babies now please.
OML yes pls 🙂
Unfortunately too many parent lack the ability to do both, and I’m curious to see who has the ability to do both effectively and how their kids grow up.
They have names
I dont trust either with my family
@@sungchansaegyo5058 well i didn't pay enough attention to remember.
This was the most unbiased, accurate discussion of facts I’ve heard from the mainstream medical community 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I would have agreed with you until they shared the allergy myth about introducing peanuts (or other things) at 4-6months. No solids should be introduced until after 6months and even then not until certain milestones are reached. The 4-6m intro research is from food industry so profit biased.
I like that they have a dr and a psychologist. Its nice to hear both sides
they are both doctors
@@sabrinazzz3257 well yes but you knew what I meant. But one general and one specific
Paychologist isn't a doctor
The other is a pediatric physician.
One of my nursing professors would get PISSED whenever someone called physicians strictly doctors because she was a doctor of nursing and felt left out😂
@@sabrinazzz3257 one is a physician and the other is a psychologist. One is in medicine and the other in psychology. The fields overlap but arent necessarily the same
They are perfect representations of their professions lol. The pediatrician is really animated and vocal, while the psychologist is very calm and controlled. A very lovely and informative video.
The pediatrician has the exact condescending tone and body language that makes people not want to bring up questions and concerns with medical providers because they don't want to be made to feel even more stupid on something. It's why people prefer Dr. Google over a real doctor more and more: zero judgement telling you that your failing.
@@KatieCottingham No, I think you're just insecure and arrogant
@@KatieCottingham You use Google as your primary method of medical care? Mate, if you thought the condescension was worse before, wait until you're rushed to the hospital saying, "But Google told me it wasn't a big idea!" and see what happens.
Katie Cottingham that is honestly so deluded lmao. you should be more concerned with the welfare of your child than your feelings and how comfortable you are with an actual professional. google can be unreliable. get out of your own close minded head
@@KatieCottingham ikr! I felt bad for her customers
It's funny that when I tried to show my mother in law a couple of these myths, she in fact said that what they are saying are myths, and that honey wont hurt a baby, and giving a baby water is good. Im so glad that my husband is alive today!! and it goes to show that at some point whether true or not, ppl will believe what they believe.
If a baby is teething, give them a teether that has been in the freezer or refrigerator.If you want to hydridate your baby when its hot, try making a breast milk or formula popsicle by putting it in the freezer but formula or breast milk is best for them
Some people will never change their ways especially older generations they always think they know better than a doctor which is frustrating because I go through this with my toddler lol
Its so frustrating, my mother is the same! No matter what large studies prove, her way is the only way.
@Christina Fusco yes and it gets me thinking..i really hope i dont end up that way. Do you think that its just fate? We're just doomed to repeat our mothers and grandmothers ways by not believing what our kids and grandkids will tell us one day? I hope not. Lol
My mil is the same. Hubby is 40 years old. We have two babies. When she pulls the old way of doing things I jsit say there is 40 years of science to say that’s not the best way
When I was a baby my mum was constantly worried about me because I barely ever cried just slept all the time. She asked so many doctors and turned out I was just a calm lazy baby.
The redhead lady has such a Pediatrician behavior I can really imagine her talking to every parent this way XDD
Lol yes! Very animated, with alot of head movements
I actually got the feeling the other one was a bit annoyed by her animation 🤣
@@Sariahec lol me too!
@@Sariahec not really annoyed, i guess she just don't know how to handle it lol
OMG, I was going to say this!!
I still take naps, it helps with my behavior
😂 same usually around 3 must be elementary school days when done with classes 😂
24 year old mom of a 9 month old. Naps are life lol. I'm a better mother because of the occasional nap.
I think I just found my life mantra lol
My bf thinks I nap too much but I swear, he wouldn’t be able to handle me without them 💀
Ol' Mcdonald had a nap.
I feel bad for you!
Same lol I'm 31 and still get fussy if I haven't had my nap or my meals when I want them 🤣
My cousin had her first kids in 2020 and the amount of reading and learning she had to do is astounding... I never knew you'd need to learn so much about a new born human
Why do you say human instead of person?
@@heiroot
It's wierd right?
As if we need to differentiate them from newborn aliens.
Crap like this is suppressing humans natural instincts....
@@heiroot Humans is the correct term to generalise the living thing we're referring to. A person is usually used to denote one particular human with its own personality. Thus it's correct to say "We learn about the safety of handling newborn humans." Instead of "newborn persons".
watching this video just made me appreciate even more than i already do just how much time and love my mother was able to dedicate to me as an infant. she read to me, she spoke to me all the time, she played with me after a 12 hour workday every single day. I'm convinced it's that nurturing she gave me that led me to become such an early talker and an avid reader and "outdoors kid"
i always remember the No Honey rule bc in 1st year of vet school, when we were discussing bees, our prof said
"so can you give honey to a baby to help them sleep? well.. you CAN, but they aint waking up no more" 😭😭😭😭
Wait what
Lmaoo
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LMAO
Im proud of your teacher for making that point clearly memorable.👏
I am *obsessed* with the woman on the left's personality. She is so endearing & captivating. The kind of doctor who will make you feel comfortable asking questions & going to see her. She seems really cool
Whose left
I am pretty sure he/she are talking about the blond woman
Moo Moo same!
@@unordsmec They said Left thats the red head. This is left 《 and this is right 》
I know right?! She’s such a mood!
I have a 4 year old and 8 month old. While moms were lamenting about how many times their kids woke up in the middle of the night, I freaked as both my kids slept through after 6 weeks. I would wake up and check on them, rouse them. They would wake up and then fall back to sleep, wanted nothing to do with the boob until 6 a.m.
I have a 9 month old. He’s been sleeping through the night since he was 13 pounds. I believe he was 3 months old. Even as a newborn I had to wake him up at night to feed him. 70% of the time as a newborn he would wake me up right at about every 3 hours but there was that 30% where it’s 4-5 hours. By the time he was 3 months. I would have to wake him up and it was causing him to be frustrated and fall asleep while drinking the bottle and not even finish it. So I asked the pediatrician and she said once he gets 13 pounds let him sleep through the night. Just make sure he gets enough formula during the day. I was so happy. And 6 months later he still sleeps through the night. From 8:30pm-7:00-30am you don’t hear a peep from this boy. He would have the occasional wake up at 3am but I go in there put his pacifier back in his mouth and he falls back to sleep without any fight.
He sleeps through out the day and takes 2 hour naps at least 2-3 times a day.
He only cries when he’s hungry or he’s tired or he accidentally hurts himself. Literally that’s it. He don’t cry for nothing else. So he’s the worlds easiest baby lol
He doesn’t want to be held all the time. I can put 2-3 toys in his crib and he won’t say shit. Only his cooing or laughing.
He comes to my job (I work at a daycare) he’s literally the best baby/child there. The director loves him so much he’s the only child she’s buying a present for. Lol
I’m truly blessed to have my son lol
Oh and he’s been in his crib in his own room since 3 months. Not bc I wanted to but because he wanted to😅
I had his bassinet right by my bed but when I moved in my sleep it would shake his bassinet and he would automatically wake up and be upset he’s awake 🤣 the moment I put him in the crib is when the true sleeping through the night became a reality.
Oh goodness. That must full-time job having babies
All 4 of my kids would fall back to sleep within a few minutes into feeding. Waking them up also ticked them off greatly!
My babies were all great night sleepers, too. I would wake up several times a night just to check if they’re ok, breathing, looking healthy, moving. My initial thoughts were always mixed with feelings of worries, apprehensions why they didn’t cry in the middle of the night. ;)
I have a 4.5 month old and she'd wake my up every 1 - 1.5 hours until I let her sleep in my bed with me one night. She hasn't been back in her bassinet since and sleeps 12 hours. I just leave a boob out for her and she'll latch when she needs to then falls back asleep lol
The most scary thing about this is that even some pediatricians believe those myths. Like the fever-teething thing for instance. I remember how my sister was told by her pediatrician how teething was to blame for my nephews fever.
Some doctors are sadly outdated.
I couldn't believe it when we had multiple parents bring in doctors notes saying it was okay for their infant to attend daycare with a fever "as the baby is just teething and not sick". Unsurprisingly, we ended up with more sick babies as a result. My pediatrician said that babies are more likely to get some of these symptoms (fever, runny nose, diarrhea, etc) not because teething causes it but because teething babies stick everything in their mouths increasing odds of getting a virus of some kind.
A teething cold may have been the case
Mom of 5 kids here, you can never cuddle your babies enough, the baby stage goes by so fast you'll never regret holding them.
Valerie Wood but doesn’t it make your child impossible to be handled by other adults. Doesn’t it make you child only want you and want to be constantly held?
kadeja mckinzie not really. I’ve been studying developmental psychology for a while and I’ve yet to see any evidence of this. Like they were saying, holding your baby is great for that parent child bond :)
@@kadejamckinzie3 I haven't experienced this. In fact that seems more to do with the baby than whether the parents hold them all the time or not. I know parents who practice the "don't always hold the baby" mantra but their baby positively dislikes others
@@kadejamckinzie3 no sorry I think you misunderstood my comment, I dont just carry around my babies all day that would alot on me lol I just pick them up when they're crying and also randomly to give them hugs and kisses. I also give them lots of time on the ground to be independent and explore their worlds using their bodies naturally and Ive never noticed my kids becoming clingy or overly attached to me. But I do have to say my oldest who is now almost 9, we have a great relationship compared to some other mother daughter relationships ive seen at that preteen stage.
Valerie Wood thank you so much I want to become a mother in the near future so I’m learning all that I can to be the best mother I can be.
I love the red haired pediatrician. She's so engaging and seems like she makes every visit fun for both parents and children. She seems to care about others.
I think she's a little ott
She is a redhead
Jocelyn K She has no soul tho 😔
Floppy Dumpling actually, we’re the only ones with souls. The rest of ya’ll are just jealous
She's very engaging, but in an annoying way. She over enunciate words, and leans too much forward. She's a bit too 'in your face' for my liking. I feel like she talks to me as if I was a small child
My first was a delayed walker and crawler (11 months and 18months respectively) and he is perfectly normal now as far as motor control and learning skills. I was told by a nurse that if he didn't crawl (on time) he wouldn't be able to read. This was crap. He was reading by age 4. My other child was an "early walker" (8months), and very late talker (3.5 years). They are highly intelligent and the same in motor skills as their older brother. They both read at the same rate. The youngest is into roller derby, and the oldest is into skateboarding
I was a late walker too and grew up to become an athlete so there's that. im glad your kids are doing great too and skateboarding is fun!
That sounds pretty normal to me?
Anytime up to 18 months is fine.
Amazed how worried I was for all my children to walk talk at the right time, but most just do it, so all that worry for nothing.
Always know someone who claims to have a perfect baby!
I didn’t walk till I was 2 years but at three had memorized a whole chapter in Quran hearing from older siblings( my dad told me) and my learning is fine and now I’m a Doctor.
My youngest son cried for 8+ hours a day when he was between 14-16 months. He lost all his words, had a massive regression, and my doctor’s advice was “toddlers have tantrums”. At 6, he has multiple developmental delays. I WISH I could go back in time and have an informed doctor who would have looked farther into it.
@@KVOTHE_33 no.
@@KVOTHE_33ew, your comment is the ugliest one out of all the braggers. Congratulations for overcoming such incredible odds.
Look into doing a heavy metal detox 👀
I’m pregnant right now and I can’t imagine not letting my baby nap, and not giving him loving cuddles when he cries ...🥺 my heart couldn’t handle just letting him sit there while he cries
We are kind of wired to be like "omg the baby is crying what do I have to do to stop it!?"
I don't really look to biological essentialism for many things; usually arguments that something is "natural" are usually misplaced. and people want to attribute a lot of things to genetics and biology that really should not be. But that is one case where I think we are kind of hard-wired on both fronts. Genetically, attentive parents are selected for. By the same toke, noisy, demanding babies are selected for over quiet babies. Like, in those first months, a baby's survival depends both on the baby making its needs known, and on the parents being able to tend to its needs fairly rapidly.
Making the baby wait doesn't really help anyone, and just gives the baby a bunch of signals that things aren't peachy. It's adding a bunch of stressors that really don't need to be there.
So yeah, as a new parent, I don't understand how people can do that. It seems like the best thing is letting the baby know that no matter what happens, I will be right there with him.
My dad's mom literally would block my mom from coming to me when I cried. She said that one time they even locked the door to the room I was in bc I would get spoiled...
@@PandaJanna0604 wow thats the most effed up thing i’ve ever heard. your mom should’ve taken you and left
@@PandaJanna0604 my mom also said that she would just let me cry, but sometimes a baby just wants some interactions... i would never just leave it cry doesnt matter even if it just wants my attention ill give it!
@@PandaJanna0604 that is so messed up, how did your mother cope
Conventional advice “Never wake a sleeping baby”
Twin mom advice: “if one baby wakes, wake the other to keep them on the same schedule.”
1000% or risk NEVER SLEEPING AGAIN
Omg too funny 😂😂 but i totally understand the reason why you would wanna do that😳
Lol. Good to know.
How do you manage two sleeping babyes in the same time? I always wondwred about that.
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I actually love these two together. They bring two very different energies, yet work really well together.
Even with an older child who wants lollipops for dinner, I'd argue picking them up and holding them won't spoil them - giving them lollipops will. Acknowledging their feelings, both in your actions and your words (eg "oh, I know, you wish you could have lollipops all the time"), helps them process their emotions and learn coping skills. They learn that acting upset will not get them what they want, but it will get them help with calming down and dealing with not getting what they want.
This works with husbands too
THIS is spot on the perfect way to explain spoiling vs teaching/comforting/coping skills.
Am I the only pregnant woman who appreciate this being recommended to me since it help me prepare for my baby.
ForAHint Classic nope im trying to mentally prepare myself as much as possible 😭
ForAHint Classic my daughter is ald 3 years old and i do find this helpful too ❤️
38weeks pregnant here :D
I have a 9 month old and I still find it helpful
@As4tori Sun yes. All of that. It helped so so so much
I honestly thought it said “pedestrian” in the title and thought: “But why would a random pedestrian know a lot about babies?”
Whatevenhappenshere What if it’s profesional PEDESTRIAN 🚶♀️
You made me LAUGH so much and i woke up my poor baby 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Whatevenhappenshere. You mean “Pediatrician/s”.
Lmaaoooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I saw a documentary where moms in ALL languages spoke parent-ees to their babies in their own tongue. It was wonderfully rewarding as a mom of 3. I had never heard the expression paren-ees until today! Thank you!!
These ladies are awesome. I am pregnant with my first, and this is making me feel so much better. I can’t wait to love, care, and play with my little baby! Thanks for helping me feel like I got this 😉
I was an early talker. English teacher now. My brother didn't walk until he was almost two. He just became an attorney. Having a baby in the internet age must be so damn stressful.
It's only stressful if you allow it to be. The internet hasn't stressed me out whatsoever. Maybe it's the child psychology courses that I took that makes me not so concerned.
@@jessicaely2521 I respectfully disagree. My degree in psychology has taught me that various studies that looked into the impact of the social media age has increased expectant mothers' fear of not doing things "right" because we are bombarded with so many conflicting discourses that dictate how to "raise a child right"
That actually makes me feel a lot better. My daughter is almost 16 months old and still not quite walking. It’s hard to not worry if something is really wrong.
That's why I said MAYBE. Maybe doesn't mean definitely 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. Would you rather possibly instead of maybe?
It's been great to have the internet for me. The internet was the one that told me that you weren't supposed to put Vicks on a baby under the age of 2. When I was a kid my parents didn't know this. When I brought my daughter home from the hospital I found some blood discharge in her diaper. I jumped onto the internet and found it's totally common and they said when to start to worry. This saved me an extremely expensive trip to the hospital. In Switzerland the nurses want to do all of the diaper changes on the baby so they know what's going on with the baby. There was no discharge papers for me to sign, nothing telling me what to expect, and nothing telling me when to come to the hospital. I think there is no paperwork telling you about anything because they know that a midwife comes out to your house the day your baby is born or the day after
(I didn't pay a dime for the midwife. Midwives are paid by taxpayers).I passed a golf ball size blood clot about 9 days after I delivered. Of course it was after the midwife and she wasn't answering my phone calls. Again I jumped on the internet and found out it was totally normal for the first 2 weeks. The internet told me what to look for when my water broke. I swore I wouldnt be one of those moms that went to the hospital 100 times. After waiting the hour like the internet said I started to the hospital and 9 hours later I had a beautiful healthy baby girl.
I guess when new parents look things up the ignore the fact that there's always a range for things. Walking range is 9-18 months. At the end of 18 months is when you should start talking to the doctor.
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Don't stress my daughter is 17months and just started walking on her own. Before that she only walked while holding onto to someone or something.
My dad is a Pediatrician and I've heard him make these stuff clear to his patients a million times lol but they don't care -_-
Reasonably have a great day
Perhaps because they know their baby better than him. All babies are not exactly alike. While some of these things apply across the board, but some do not.
@@circedelune lol that sounds so dumb. A pediatrician is a medical worker, the parents are just parents and obviously want the best for their kid. But they cannot claim to know more than the pediatrician.
@@circedelune what in the hell😂 thats crazy
@@circedelune source - trust me bro
As a swede it is so interesting to see the myths we share and also hear new and to me, odd myths that I have no cultural and historic framework for. The "babys need water when it's hot" myth confused my so much I first thought the myth said to splash or bathe your child in cool water as I have never ever heard anyone suggest babys need anything other than formula and breast milk.
Hearing new weird myths is one reason I really enjoy these debunk videos. I also love when experts share their scientific knowledge in a way that is accessible, entertaining and easy to grasp for the majority of people. The bigger scientific knowledge and understanding people have the better!
As a Canadian I am just as confused as you by that water myth. Like who believes that? Probably the same person who thought a baby doesn't need a nap?!?!
@@breezybre2670 ikr! im just as shocked and im from the Middle East, so now I really wonder where that myth is coming from lol.
I’m American and also never heard that before. I wonder if maybe they said that one just to have the opportunity to make sure people know that babies don’t need water.
I have a one week old and I found this video VERY informative. Thank you ladies for the education.
Me: I decisively don't want children.
RUclips: here's a video about babies
Me: I still don't want them. *Clicks on video.
That's what I thought as well! 🤣
😂😂😂 me too
But it's good to know when you have to babysit sit or may get a bonus child.
Same
Amanda H yes, my niece is my birth control, and my other sister is about to have her first kid so it’s nice to see these facts.
why is everyone so mean about the readhead-lady? she actually says quite interesting things. maybe she could've let the other lady speak a little bit more but she seems very nice.
Allium Porrum it’s the way she talks that’s so obnoxious
@@nicoleknapsack257 I know but I think it's because she works so much with babies and toddlers. As she said, people naturally talk differently to them so they will learn language and I think her "explaining- mode" is automatically kinda toddlerish or parentese as she put it :)
Agreed. I don’t have a problem with her. She’s exaggerated and engaged, but that’s because she’s passionate. And it’s not even annoying.
because she is fuckin annoying
I didn't notice anything about her voice but it bothered me how she kept turning her whole body to talk to the other lady instead of talking to the audience. Her general body language was just all over the place too, I found myself wondering if she was on something.
As a premature infant I was born with very weak legs, my parents were asked by the pediatrician to make sure they buy a walker for me. The logic was that once I am old enough for them suspension in the walker but in a way that my I am either forced to stand and support my weight on my feet or I have my feet barely a centimeter off the ground (not me on my tiptoes) would help muscle development and blood circulation. Seems like it worked because I was an early walker and I have totally normal legs now.
Some children benefit from a walker, the majority do not. It's a good idea for parents to listen to a medical professional who knows their individual child's case in preference over a RUclips video giving generalized advice, because there's a lot of exceptions to these rules. For example, if you have a child with a motor disability like cerebral palsy or spina bifida, introducing a walker or wheelchair at the same age that a typical child would be learning to walk can be extremely helpful for their motor and cognitive development.
I when worked at a day care, Some of the children where delayed in walking by 2 months is was at that point we started using them with the parent and Dr. Approval
I work in a nursery and this is really helpful! Good for explaining why we do things!🥰
'-I already got it'
*"Return it"*
her deadpan mom tone makes me feels like returning all of my amazon purchases despite none of them having anything to do with babies
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Honestly, my kids were in walkers.
But not until they could already walk.
I used it to keep them from getting into the kitchen or reaching places they weren't allowed.
Just had my first son three months ago. All of my friends and family told me I needed to stop waking him up every 2.5-3 hours on the dot even at night to feed him the first month. The whole don't wake a sleeping baby myth, but he was a preemie and it seemed so important to feed him a lot. I feel so much better about my choice after watching this! Same with my choice to just talk to him as if he were any other adult, full sentences and even big words. Thanks so much for the information :)
You did exactly the right thing. Especially for a preemie. They have some catch up growing to do & can also tire easily. Frequent feeds are best. Way to go new mommy!
Always do what feels right for you for your baby, not anyone else.
When feeling uncertain consider talking to your pediatrician! They know everything about you and your baby’s situation and will essentially give out the most accurate info, take care.
You did exactly the right thing. Newborn babies NEED to be fed every two to three hours. Depriving them of that is essentially the equivalent to starving their brain. People think it’s fine to just let them sleep when in reality it’s extremely harmful.
What’s worse? A baby not getting a full night’s sleep or a baby starving? It is actually that simple.
Agree strongly with the early talking/walking thing. I walked at 9 months and talked early. My brother didn't speak really until 3 and walked after one. He graduated as top boy of the school and graduated with honors. He's at university with a scolarship. I left school young and I'm not stupid but my brother is far more smart than I.
Both of you are giving me life , thinking about starting a family and obv clueless thank you!
When I was little I cried for God knows how long my mom called my pediatrician but even after trying everything I wouldn't stop crying, she called my dad and he left work early the moment he got home and picked me up I stopped crying.
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Aww that’s sweet. Well sucks for your mom but cute story now that you’re older 😂
My baby cousin literally cries when his parents are just *ONE* inch away from him.
I believe u. My baby has 4wks born n she crys. Her lungs out and i give my husband the bby she stops crying n just looks at him all calm
@@log9700 I’m on the same boat with my baby. I don’t know how many experts advice to search trying ro find a solution, bur no one really gives an straight answer on how to tackle this. I have refused to let her crying , but it’s getting to a point that I’m not seeing many other options😞.
Am I the only pregnant person watching this 😂 this video is a godsend, right on time! I'm being treated at Mount Sinai for this pregnancy so I look forward to possibly working with their teams!!!
Sanam Jamshidi Nawaz Good luck!!!
Me too! 13 weeks left
Im pregnant tooo. 25 weeks and im glad i came across this video 😄
Sanam Jamshidi Nawaz The first few months will be hard but it’s amazing so enjoy every moment and if you don’t have the energy to tidy the house or put fresh clothes on and leave the house. Don’t. Feed the baby until it’s not hungry so if formula feeding if it finishes the bottle, feed again until it rejects the bottle. White noise on RUclips is your friend when baby is crying and most of the items you get you will not use lol
Make sure you stock up on freezer meals the last 2 months
I like the thought that the first few months of Life are the fourth trimester so that you are encouraged to hold them and to comfort them as if they were still inside you so just keep them close to your body and this helps them get through those first few months of life.
Yeah I imagine birth is quite hard on babies. Like being forced out of your reality into an entirely different universe you had no idea existed. It seems terrifying to me. We always talk about how hard birth is for mum but never think of what baby goes through. Probably why it takes them months to adjust to their new reality.
Aw, this is kinda cute! Thanks :)
I'm childfree but I'm so glad I watched this! This was FASCINATING.
Child free is a sad state to be in, how old are you??
”Holding the baby is spoiling her”🤦🏻♀️ you can’t spoil a child with love and affection. When a child feels loved, and therefor safe, they know that their parent Will be there for them when they need them and keeping them safe. Instead of ignoring a crying baby, scared of ”spoiling them” by picking them up, they Will think that the parent will not come even tho he/She cryes after them and they Will get stressed. A baby comunicates by crying and they cry for a reason, to let their perent know that somentings not feeling right and they need their perents.
Right & holding the baby will help increase moms milk production
I hate when ppl say that
Today my baby cried so hard when I went to the toilet. She refuses everyone and I had to do business fast to comfort her 😂
This isn't necessary true. Babys are incredibly smarter than you think. If you comfort a baby when they are "crying" because you told them off or they couldn't get what they want they pick up that you are doing so and do it more often as they know all they have to do is cry and they'll get what they wont ( not trying to be mean just informative) 😁
@@ethanhall7108 a baby isn't going to know the difference tho. Babies just know they want food and pooped or some company
@@jai_lyricz ok you're intituled to your wrong opinion
When you do introduce your baby to new food, particularly if there is a risk of allergies, make sure it's not before bed time so if there is an allergic reaction you are around and can see it and seek medical advice
midorishiwa thank you!
midorishiwa you can’t have an allergic reaction to something you have not been exposed to before
Aleida Hernández. Then how do people have allergic reactions to their first bee sting?
@@clubito2 I'm allergic to thc and had never been exposed to it and then went into anaphylactic shock 10 years ago when exposed the first time and diagnosed at the drs.
@@clubito2 yes, you are not exposed to anything until you have it for the first time...
I feel so encouraged since i am a dad who usually play with my baby withouth anything but just interaction , language and self effort . This one helps me a lot , thanyou ❤
Interesting about the teething fever one! I heard that one from a few daycare workers when I was working there, but then it was just by one or two degrees in the safe range rather than actual fever. I'll remember that. I do remember the no honey or water rule. On hot days we gave them cool formula, made from pre-boiled water of course.
My sister and I started out the same length as infants we have the same parents she ended up 5'4" and I'm 5'11" so infant size means NOTHING to adult size obviously. Strangely, my kid and my sis' 3 kids all ended up 5' 7".
I’m 5’3”
I was 9 pounds and 7oz forget the inches and now I'm 4'11 😂
I was way overdue at birth and came out 24"
My siblings and I were "big" for Asian standards so we weren't "overweight" by Western standards. We're Asian. We're 5'3, 5'6 and 5'2 as adults respectively.
For real, I'm not sure how long I was but I was almost 10 lbs as a baby, my bf was a modest 7lbs. Today I am 5'2 130 and he is 6'3 and 230.
To everyone in the comments: see you in ten years when we actually have kids
Mary Jane Over my dead body. I reject this omen.
Rude.
Yea you'll have lil newborn babies n I'll have teenagers (15, 14. And 11)
Lmao I’m 19 and you don’t have to have kids
I’m 28 so more like 1-2 years for me
Thank you fo this informative video! I'm very glad to see the "babies who talk and walk early are smarter" myth get debunked, because my grandparents (I'm talking about my dad's side of family) said that and it really hurt.
I've always been someone who doesn't talk much since young and I'm very introverted. When I was a baby, I started talking way later than my cousin (the one who's the same age as me), and my grandma straight up told my mom I was stupid and that my cousins were so much smarter, in front of the whole family. She wasn't even sneaky about it! It made my mom really sad and humiliated, and it made *me* sad when she told me about it.
My cousin's dad (I dunno about his mom) seemed to take pride in it too, and I dunno if I'm overthinking this, but I did see that he made sure to hold onto that pride and keep it alive, aka try to compare me to his son and believe that I'm the stupid one. Explains why he didn't like it when he saw how well I was doing well in school while his son didn't care about his grades, which made him tell my mom "your daughter only does well cuz she lives in the city!" They had no interests in sending their son to college and he didn't want to either, but they saw that I was going to college so they told my parents that college was stupid and a waste of money. Turned out sending their son to the millitary costed way more than my college fee every year. I dunno how that works, but it happened.
I could go on about things in our life and say "I'm way smarter than my cousin", but honestly, it'd be very unfair to him cuz he wasn't the one saying those things to me, and that's just plainly untrue. I'm not better than my cousin and I'm in no way shaming him for his decisions. Our decisions aren't better or worse than the other, they're just *different,* and I respect what he's doing. That's why I've been trying to keep the focus on his parents, and honestly my grandma too, because they're the problem. And that's just one of the many, many messed up things they did. And I don't wanna be superstitious, but they almost always get clapped back by karma. Aside from the things I've stated, they recently lost a huge sum of money because of a "you can get 1 million dollar without losing anything!" scam. Frankly speaking, my parents did teach me not to fall for those scams, and I know not everyone has people to educate them on it so I'm not trying to insult anyone who has done it at all. I'm just laughing at my dad's family cuz really? You called me stupid because I talked later than your son, but you fall for that type of scam, as grown middle aged and over middle aged adults?
If your child talks and walks earlier than their peers, then that's great! You're allowed to be proud of it, but don't try to shame others' children for not doing the same. It's rude, hurtful and sometimes you'll get karma clapped back at you. Because I talked late as a baby, many other people told my parents the same thing, that I'll grow up stupid. But a lot of them ended up having kids that either do stupid things as kids or don't rise up to "good standards."
I just wanna clarify that
1. People did stupid things as kids, that's totally normal. I'm just saying it cuz, lots of people who said that to me think that their kids are "better" and "more mature" than me, when their children ended up doing the same things such as falling from their bed or wetting their beds. They failed to recognize that those are normal kids things.
2. When I say "good standards", I'm talking about toxic social norms that those parents have on their and other people's kids. For example, you must be a doctor, engineer or at the very least, get into college with a science-related major to be "successful". That's the mentality one of the people that I encountered had. She always tried to make it look like my successes are either because of luck or the system made it easier for me (she once actually LIED to others about how me passing the entrance exam to get into my dream high school wasn't at all impressive, because I came from a "shitty middle school where all students are stupid", so the system "gave those students an easier test", when in reality we all had to take the same test). She never explicitly say it, but I think she does believe that I'm stupid and her daughter is way superior. Then I end up getting into a biology major in college while her daughter gets into a social-related major.
AGAIN JUST WANNA CLARIFY, I'm NOT saying her daughter is stupid. If she gets into something she likes, that's awesome and I'm happy for her. A social-related major is interesting and helpful too! Any college major is just as valid as another to me.
It's just that, it's ironic. Her mom always believed I'm too stupid to achieve anything, but I ended up getting into something that she considers "the only definition of successful" and wants her daughter to get into, which she didn't. This is just a dunk-on on her mother, not her. If anything, I feel bad for her daughter because her mom has been bragging so much that it's possible her peers actually hated her for it. And who knows what kind of standards and pressure she has to deal with at home with that kind of mother. I'm probably over explaining, but I just don't want to give the impression that I think I'm superior. I just wanna have a laugh at the irony.
Well that was way longer than I anticipated XD TLDR; don't shame others' kids for not doing what your kids are able to do at their age. Everyone is different and grows in different pace. Not only is it not true that they're stupid, it's also rude and hurtful to say it to someone's kids. And who knows, one day you may get karma coming at you. Also thank you again for the helpful video. More people need to learn about this.
I'm 19 years old with no baby or a relationship but it's so much fun watching them explain this
Good preparation!
I wish I could send this to the older women in my family. They all think I’m spoiling my 7 week old because I hold her a lot. And don’t let her cry longer then a few minutes if I could help it
Google attachment parenting, it's what you are doing. It is a natural way to a parent it goes with your gut instincts. Don't listen to the older generation who were told by doctors to let your baby cry. They were influenced by a pediatrician called doctor Spock and unfortunately it's followed down to other Generations. I used to breastfeeding and attachment parenting with all my children they turned out successful.
I always tell new mom pick them up and hold them as much as you can they’re only babies for awhile!!.
Hey, if it helps to hear this then I was always (apart from when crawling) carried in a baby sling by my mum (out shopping, around the house etc.) or a baby backpack thingy by my dad (when he went on dog walks) and given lots of cuddles and contact growing up, and it's been a big contributing factor to me feeling confident within myself and growing up not spoilt but completely loved!
My boyfriend gave me crap too, you hold that baby as much as you both want it’s perfectly natural and will do nothing but strengthen your bond ❤️
Hey if you hold your baby too much... you'll be criticized. If you let you baby cry... you'll get criticized. Because we naturally think that our parenting is the best parenting when in reality... you have to follow some rules of course, but education... is so different from one family to another. If your baby and you are healthy and happy, continue to do what you are doing.
This pediatrician seems like her patients (kids) probably love her. She is so fun!
I remember absolutely adoring my pediatrician as a child. I hadn't met that many people at that age but I knew he was the best one I had ever met! Dr. Curtis shout out to you!
Errhka this is so sweet 😭
Errhka gave him a whole shout out 😂😂
All really great advice... I am now a grandmother for the first time so good to be reminded and educated.
The mention of the growth chart made me smile. I am 5ft 9in, my husband was 6ft 2in, our one and only son was born 60 cm long and 9lb 5oz, when he was two and a half we measured his height and doubled it... 6ft 10in... he actually turned out 6ft 7in tall. His son born two weeks early was the same weight and length and we wonder what height he will be in adulthood... sourcing clothes and shoes are always a problem for other than average size.
My parents are 5'7 and 5'11 but I'm barely 5'4. But I'm a really picky eater so when I stopped growing my pediatrician said it was probably because I wasn't getting enough nutrients. It didn't help that I had my first period at 11.
I love how the the red haired doctor expresses herself and how supportive the blond haired doctor is of her opinions....
They don't at any time talk over eachother, it was a pleasure to watch
Lovely
I love how different these two women are and neither changed their demeanors to match the other. Absolutely wonderful!
Ha I was like these ladies’ energies are like oil and vinegar but together they work.
One is irritating thou...
@@anamariajuch-calero6116 which one ? The red haired?
Is that a common thing for people to imitate people they are interacting with in a setting like this?
I'm an immunologist, and the food allergen avoidance in early life recommendation has been so incredibly difficult to reverse! I am so glad you brought it up. It is something that many people, healthcare providers included, are not aware of.
My son is now 22 and when I had him I was told by pediatricians to not give him any food until 6 months because there are allergies in my family.
He has hay fever and if I had to do it again I would give him food at 4 months, he was breastfeeding and it was constant and he never slept. I can say it didn't work for us and sometimes doctors are wrong.
Can you please elaborate on this? Like does avoiding the foods the child is "allergic" to cause him to have that allergy for life?
Wait, whut? You mean all that careful introduction of foods gradually was a waste of time??!
@@heavencentric2276 It's a phenomenon called "oral tolerance." The gist is that if a foreign particle is introduced to the immune system via the GI tract, that educates the immune system to not respond to it (tolerance). It's how your immune system learns to not respond to food.
If the first exposure is through skin or respiratory tract, which are ways by which potential pathogens can invade the body, the immune system is more likely to recognize that as a foreign object to react to.
If you have existing food allergies, one possible treatment is called "oral immunotherapy treatment," which is medically supervised intake of the allergic foods in small amounts. Essentially this retrains your immune system to become tolerized to the allergen.
@@2degucitas That is correct. That medical advised was based on a study that found that infants have more permeable IG tract than adults. It did not link delayed food introduction to allergies in anyways.
However, the advice for withholding potential food allergens allowed for subsequent medical studies in children comparing the effects of delayed food introduction. It was found that the incidence of allergies increased when children were not introduced to potential food allergens early in life. These findings lead to the reversal on the advise.
Agree with almost all of this, except what is said with the influence on sleep after three months. It is known that many children go through sleep regressions between 4-6 months and actually need more feedings and more closeness than younger babies… AND THAT IS OK! No need for sleep training there!
Enjoy those special cuddles while you can❤ my baby started sleeping through the night at 14 months once I cut the night time breastfeed because I’m pregnant and started the weaning process. Now I lay awake after numerous trips to the bathroom and wouldn’t mind a little cuddle from her😂 not long until her baby brother will be here….still have at least another 18 months of interrupted sleep aka immense love for my beautiful babies🫶🏽 I also hear once you’re a mother - you never sleep again! Just something I have accepted, and would happily sacrifice for their comfort. I could never hear my darling cry and knew sleep training wasn’t an option for her or me. Each to their own! I also had the privilege of not going back to work, so what is time when no alarm telling you to get up and go.
All my babies had baby walkers & my 2 younger ones had bouncing door swings. It was great for them. They did so well & were so happy & free.
My oldest started saying single syllable words at five months, and walked at eight months Hasn’t really stopped speaking since haha, my youngest walked at nine months and didn’t utter a word until 18 months. Both are bright happy smart kiddos.
Code Name I think some kiddos are just ready to go! They want to do what they see you doing and are showing independence early. Some other kiddos are a little more laidback and take their time because they know that mom or dad is right there for them! I like to think it’s a personality thing
Haha. It's a running joke in my family that when I was a baby (and even as an adult) I'd wait until I was perfect before doing something. I was a late talker, but spoke first I'm sentences, not words. Late walker, but I could run almost as soon as I could walk. So much personality for sure! 🤷♂️
My little girl was making animal sounds around the 5 month mark and could name a few animals and family members by 8 months. She basically hasn’t had day time naps or shut up since she started talking haha. She’s not 2 until end of next month and will use full sentences. Tonight I asked her to get ready for bed and she said “No thank you mammy, I can’t go to bed yet” when I asked why she said “well, I don’t want to. We watch Steven universe on telly first? Then maybe bedtime”
Like, you’re 22 months old...I’m not arguing with your logic, go to bed please haha
My niece talked a lot at five months, becuase she learned from her sisters, but didn't walk until she was a year old. Now she walks everywhere though.
@@freemodulation my best friend was like that. Didn't speak until she was 3... and then she ran through the house wet from climbing out of the tub and named EVERYTHING. She was reading novels by 5. My brother walked before he ever crawled and when he crawled, he crawled backwards. Babies are weird.
These pediatricians are talking Parentese to us. 😅
kristianmag hahahahaha
Yes!! 🤣🤣
Only one is a Pediatrician
You’re right, the other is a psychologist 😂
Omg hahahahah
I’m so glad that I watch this video, seriously guys. Awesome content!
These ladies are so passionate about what they do and I love it!!!
Skipping naps also trains your baby and kid 3 or younger to stay up when they are tired. So, at bedtime if they would rather play, they are very good are forcing themselves awake.
That explains a whole lot...
that actually makes perfect sense.
Me
It all adds up😭
Sounds like the perfect way to train up a productivity machine, nice
My mom always told me that my little brother was tiny at birth. He grew up to be a tree.
@Lilas Duveteux so was groot😁
Same with my cousin! He was a tiny tinyyy baby (you'd think he would be a fragile kid) but here he is being 1m87 at age 13😅
@@nadiaarsenijevic8594 WHAT
Yeah my 5 year old and I share clothes I'm 4'11/5ft tall n he's basically my height. My 4 year old is so tiny. So we'll see how big they get
Yep
My daughter was tiny as at birth at 40 weeks,4 pound odd.
She's bigger than her brother.he was normal weight at 38 weeks birth.
( grown adults now )
I've heard of so many of these myths and a few of them are dangerous. Parenting classes should be something all new parents take.
I know! I took a class offered by the hospital and was so disappointed at how many sessions were about the birth itself. I was like "yes, I get it, then what?!"
I loved this 🥰! Thank you so much! It did help me out as a new mother!
i like how ginger head lady is listening so carefully and enthusiastically nods all at right moments, I feel she spends a lot of time with babies and almost acts like one:D And she almost never interrupts blond lady, only with short remarks just like all babies do:D
EDIT: my first time getting so many likes!:O
Thank you all, all I expressed in this comment is purely my opinion about ginger head lady, and it doesn't mean i don't like blond lady, and although I may not be the baby behaviour expert I'm still allowed to share my perception of them:) and thanks again for the likes and heated conversation!;3
Riya Kang As a mom, babies interrupt all the time and listening carefully and enthusiastically nodding at the right moments aren’t characteristic of a baby.
@@slhense68 okay:c but she feels like a baby no? I think babies can be different, although I know i never shut up when i was one:D
@riya kang. That lady is a doctor.
She's an experienced physician. She knows its her job to listen intently to countless distressed/worried parents with a sick child. Obviously she's very good at it.
It’s called active listening skills
She is a great pedia, well they both are. You can tell they are really passionate about their careers and I love that, wish more physicians were this connected
I don’t see a lot of parents talk or interact with their babies in my life, they just give them their phone
Are these parents you are with all day? Sometimes parents need a moment. If you see a parent in public do something while you pass by, it doesn't mean they do that all day.
There's also a lot of pressure on parents to keep their kids quiet in public. If your baby is being fussy, you get a lot of stares and nasty comments, so parents will often do whatever quick fix to get them to quiet down. Personally I don't give mine electronics in public but I totally get the fear of having a fussy child in public when society has such a negative view on loud children
@@DSDaly yeah you're right.... when you're out you just arent able to deal with ppl being nasty with you
So yh
But the original comment ..... yes I have actually seen kids on phone literally all day
Like
They literally have a phone.. tablet... computer.... all for them
N I'm sitting here thinking abt my first phone I got at 17
But I know parents who do have their kids on devices all day
When you try to get them to play they are clueless
Yeah I'm lucky I grew up without phones
Unlike the other Comment of the lady getting smart with you I actually agree with you. Even though you just see them for 30 minutes out of the whole day you can usually tell the parents that take time to teach and do actual things with their kids from the ones who just stick them in front of a TV and let them play on the game
That's one of the worst things they can do.
Thank you so much for this vid! I've learned a lot.
That's very helpful 😊 am definitely going to try this
I don’t have any kids and this sounds so complicated lol. Thanks Mom for keeping me alive!
It is tiring but not that complicated. They are you just smaller and newer.
I remember watching this video awhile back in case a had a baby, I was overwhelmed by the amount of info. Now, I have an 8month old baby I rewatched because it was suggested. Everything makes more sense now.
Baby s are ok .. when they get older it s a job
Kids are so awesome that they are worth the effort to figure them out. It's frustrating, but its fun.
It really comes naturally to you. It’s instinct. I was surprised at how smooth it was. And I was alone. Your baby will be perfectly made just for you.
It's very hard to teach the traditional grandparents about the new era of taking care of babies
Exactly! They would say the same story, over and over again "well, you didn't die and we are the ones that raised you..." I am honestly a little concerned on how to deal with my parents after I give birth, because I really don't want to add sugar/sweets/cakes/cookies in my childs diet too soon, and as far as I have seen my parents, they have no problem feeding sugary cake to my brothers daughters. And the young one is only 10 months old. I would be really angry if they do this to my soon to be born daughter... It's stressing me out just by thinking about it
@@heviutza I would set boundaries with them, and if they don't listen, they don't get to see her. Sounds harsh, but you might have a specific regimen for your baby that works for her. They need to adhere to that, and if they don't, they can't get alone time with her
I’m not sure what type of grandparents yaw had but everything these women talked about is what my grandmother taught me years ago.
@@tabbijoy6448 Things like stretching the baby to strengthen the muscles , giving the baby under six months little tip of water especially if in the summer and the baby is hot etc
@@heviutza yea too much sugar can cause a stomach upset.
But your mother should respect your wishes. If she gets too much it's best to cut off. It's hard but you need to choose.
This has been so helpful, thank you
This was great. Any more on this series?
The redhead is so exuberant and animated. Because of her I watched the whole video
It was a bit extra and overly exaggerated for me....I scrolled down so I didn't have to watch her animation. lol Funny how different people like different things.
@@stephanier6783 same I was actually kind of put off by her, I much preferred the blonde lady
@@noxaccio4988 Yes, the blonde lady was much preferred for me.
With young kids, it's good to be more animated, as they get bored very easily (and so do some adults). It makes sense to me that a pediatrician might need to be more animated for her audience, though. I'm definitely not that audience. lol
She was giving me anxiety!
I liked both of them lmao
“Don’t spoil your baby”
I’m sorry the only way they can communicate is through crying. If you don’t immediately help them, then you are 100% neglecting them. You don’t know if they’re hungry, if they’ve spoiled themselves, if they need cuddles, or whatever. Take care of your children.
P Damien dude I’ve been a nanny for years. You cannot spoil a LITERAL BABY.
Cool dude. I agree that you cannot spoil a little baby by picking them up when they cry! But yeah as a nanny you get paid and then give them back at the end of each day. However, for us parents without nannies, or any help at all, it simply isn't always feasible to "immediately" pick up our crying babies. 5 minutes of crying whilst we go to the toilet, or maybe get a moment to shower or eat, wont harm them. In an ideal world we wouldn't experience fatigue or maybe we would all have nannys. So dude, I would totally say that not immediately picking up a crying baby is not "100% neglect". I would say 100% of parents are guilty of neglect if this is the case. Never picking up a crying baby or hardly picking them up is neglectful of course.
I guess it depends on the age
@Sofía Roura maybe op should have worded it better then. Sounded pretty scaving to me.
@@damien706 Do you let your babies sit in their own shit because you want them to learn not to cry
Thank you for your inputs, really valuable.
I have a faint memory as a child, I remembered being in a walker and i loved it! I really enjoyed my walker and all the toys that comes with it!