Nah, for adults naps tend to interfere with night-time sleep. If you're already getting 8 or more solid hours of sleep at night and still need naps to feel refreshed then you might want to check with your doctor.
The conclusion is you don't need fancy stuffs to educate your babies. Love, attention, physical interaction, lingual interaction & environmental interaction will do just fine
@@viiperbiite Which are most effectively fostered by interaction with people, feeling grass and breeze, playing with pets, being read/talked/sung to, and learning to walk by crawling and pulling up. Language is key in the first five years. Make eye contact, talk and laugh and sing, hug and hold, and your baby will thrive.
@@viiperbiite I have heard that rich people interact with their babies more. If true, that's a perfect explanation as to why babies with access to more economically advantaged environments tend to be better of.
Lmfao! Hahaha OMG this was hilarious! It's currently 1:30am and my 16 month old daughter is awake, playing and was just running around the house before I safely put her in her gated play area so I can walk the dog and take a personal "mommy time out".... yesterday, she was up until 8:30am. Sleep has regressed to infancy sleeping style. And progressively been getting worse since the 1st tooth broke through during the summer (at around 10 months old)
mozismobile my 10 year old sister can’t sleep through the night in her own! Don’t wake up your baby to eat! They will wake up when they want to eat! Let them sleep!
@@tierracaccitolo .... That's one of my biggest fears regarding my daughter. My fiance and I co-sleep and bed-share.... he works nights 5 days a week so I don't mind the bed-sharing because since day 1, our daughter would only sleep on my chest. Otherwise, not at all. BUT, my fiance has insomnia, I too have insomnia/sleeping issues. My father had insomnia, my younger and older brother have insomnia, my fiance's father had insomnia..... the chances are pretty high that Adrianna Marie may end up getting insomnia being as though that it runs heavily in both sides of the family..... Not sure if this pertains to your 10 year old sister in any way BUT I definitely would love to know if this is so that I, as the primary caretaker (stay-at-home Momma Bear) should watch out for.....
@@tierracaccitolo .... Yes! Absolutely don't! I remember when my Ma came over one day during this past summer and my fiance and I just literally got Adrianna Marie down for a nap. My Ma wanted to see her and went into our bedroom alone. Sure as shit, 2 minutes later, I walked into the room and Adrianna was waking up. I asked my Ma if she had woken her up and she denied it. A few weeks later, she confessed to indeed waking her up because she wanted to hold her and play with her. Unaware that we were trying to get her on a set sleeping schedule and also unaware that Adrianna would freak out because she doesn't like anyone waking her up unless it's (primarily) me or my fiance. The only time I wake her is if she had a bowel movement in her diaper, because I don't like her sleeping through that for numerous reasons.... hygiene being the main one. Or, if I know that she's not feeling well and too much time has lapsed between a bottle, food or water. Even then though, I gently wake her and I'm able to get her back to sleep fairly quickly because she's still in the drowsy/half asleep state. You know what I mean?
Me: 19 years old, had a kid in feb 2020, bad upbringing, learning things for myself, taking college classes (looking at business / language) Doing much better for sure
Me: 17 years old, gay, no boyfriend, no social life, in high school graduation limbo, no job, physically cannot have my own biological child and am too young to adopt. Also me: Yes, I need this right now in my life. Parenting guides.
Me: 21, no girlfriend, don't have kids or any small children around, not yet intent to have kids, rushing to study to my CPA, working my ass out of a business through a pandemic scenario. Also me: I need this parenting skills right now
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If you're finding that you need a nap longer than 30 minutes and/or napping after 3:00 p.m., see a sleep specialist. There may be something wrong with your nighttime sleep causing you to be more tired during the day.
I grew up in a very abusive and violent home but my brother and I always dreamed of being loving parents. Now I'm going to be an auntie!!! And videos like this, communities like this, people like this, are going to help us love and raise a beautiful human being 💜 thank you!!
I relate to this a lot! I was emotionally and physically abused and never had any emotional support. It made me extremely socially anxious, self conscious, lonely, irritable, and depressed. I never had a normal childhood. I always fantasized about raising a child to never experience what I had to go through and grow up to be an empathetic and bright minded child. I thought about the ways I would teach my kid how to approach situations and the world in an open minded way. These videos really help me achieve my dream with the research!
@@vanessarodrigues717 😂😂😂 @ Go take a nap! My momma would say "go lay your tired little head down" whenever I said something stupid. My dad would say "Go play in traffic" whenever I did something stupid. You brought back memories of my childhood.
My 2 yr old takes a 2 hr nap and I LOVE IT. For awhile she did 2 2 hour naps. Anyone wanting to get rid of a nap-time or doesn’t “do schedules” for the parents “benefit” is just insane.
@@Lea-ov8vq idk if you’re joking but if you can remember being a toddler I’m surprised, but also naps can be very beneficial depending on your lifestyle.
@@irislelu not relying on a youtube video but doctors! RUclips is used by colleges, so I think it’s safe to say we can rely on them for videos like this lol
They are perfect representations of their professions lol. The pediatrician is really animated and vocal, while the psychologist is very calm and controlled. A very lovely and informative video.
The pediatrician has the exact condescending tone and body language that makes people not want to bring up questions and concerns with medical providers because they don't want to be made to feel even more stupid on something. It's why people prefer Dr. Google over a real doctor more and more: zero judgement telling you that your failing.
@@KatieCottingham You use Google as your primary method of medical care? Mate, if you thought the condescension was worse before, wait until you're rushed to the hospital saying, "But Google told me it wasn't a big idea!" and see what happens.
Katie Cottingham that is honestly so deluded lmao. you should be more concerned with the welfare of your child than your feelings and how comfortable you are with an actual professional. google can be unreliable. get out of your own close minded head
People often forget that, when a baby is crying over something, like because something scared them or they got hurt, it quite literally could be one of the worst things that happened to them in their entire life at the time, not even an exaggeration, ofcourse you should be picking them up and comforting them!
My baby cries because he doesn't have the right binky sometimes. Sometimes he cries because HE took his bottle out of his mouth. He's a BABY he has big emotions in his tiny package and doesn't know how to regulate them, comforting him helps him learn how to comfort himself and give him the confidence that someone will be there when something is wrong. Now that he's over 6 months if he's fussy I let him try to self sooth, when it gets to upset crying I jump in to comfort. Everyone tells me what a happy baby he is!
I remember one night lighting struck next to our sons window I was like oh it’s not that deep then I had to pause and think as a new baby that’s a loud sound a sudden flash of light and mom and dad are nowhere to be found I would’ve figured out
The other is a pediatric physician. One of my nursing professors would get PISSED whenever someone called physicians strictly doctors because she was a doctor of nursing and felt left out😂
@@sabrinazzz3257 one is a physician and the other is a psychologist. One is in medicine and the other in psychology. The fields overlap but arent necessarily the same
Everyone should know how to take care of a baby - young kids, teenagers, unmarried men and women, gay men and women - it is for the benefit of the very survival of your species that you know how to care for one. It is a much deeper knowledge than math or literature for the brain
I would like to add to myth 8 that there is DEFINITELY a difference between a general "I need food/comfort/changing" cry and a "something is wrong, for God's sake help me!" cry. Example. My mom was in in a restaurant with a friend one time. Her friend had not had kids. A family came into the restaurant and started to put a 1-2 year old baby in a high chair. The baby started screaming bloody murder. My mother's friend scoffed and said "that child is a brat." My mother said "No, there is something WRONG with her, that is NOT a fussy tantrum cry." Come to find out, the wooden high chair had slats and they had accidentally wedged her one arm between two of the slats and it was a very small gap and they were actually really hurting her arm! They had to cut the thing to get her out! DO NOT IGNORE A PANICKED CRY! A baby will let you know when something is REALLY wrong!
@@Sunnylyndis I'm just starting to try for kids with my husband, I can't wait to experience this. But even I can tell when a crying baby is really suffering and not just tired.
Very true, i remember working in a nursery and felt awful. one day a baby was kicking up a fuss and we couldnt work out what was wrong she had been fed, slept, changed etc.... It was only 30 mins later I realised there had been a miscommunication about her nappy cream and on her last change i hadnt put her cream on so her poor bottom was bright red-i felt awful and was 100 % my fault as soon as we realised we smothered her with the cream and left her nappy off for a bit and luckily she was fine an hr later but yeah felt terrible whoops.
I've been told that often (especially by older folk): don't spoil your baby by carrying them too much, if they're fed and clean and still crying then just ignore them. It goes against every parental instinct, but it's still a surprisingly prevalent myth.
why is everyone so mean about the readhead-lady? she actually says quite interesting things. maybe she could've let the other lady speak a little bit more but she seems very nice.
@@nicoleknapsack257 I know but I think it's because she works so much with babies and toddlers. As she said, people naturally talk differently to them so they will learn language and I think her "explaining- mode" is automatically kinda toddlerish or parentese as she put it :)
I didn't notice anything about her voice but it bothered me how she kept turning her whole body to talk to the other lady instead of talking to the audience. Her general body language was just all over the place too, I found myself wondering if she was on something.
My kids are in their teens now, but I'll never forget our pediatrician thanking us for calling in the middle of the night when we thought something was wrong, even when it turned out that what we were worried about was perfectly normal. It was the most amazing thing.
I am *obsessed* with the woman on the left's personality. She is so endearing & captivating. The kind of doctor who will make you feel comfortable asking questions & going to see her. She seems really cool
Perhaps because they know their baby better than him. All babies are not exactly alike. While some of these things apply across the board, but some do not.
@@circedelune lol that sounds so dumb. A pediatrician is a medical worker, the parents are just parents and obviously want the best for their kid. But they cannot claim to know more than the pediatrician.
My mom told me I was a wildcard. I never took naps, was very energetic, almost never cried only laughed, needed an extra feeding at night because I used up all my energy, i stood before I crawled and my first word was “duck”. I was all over the place.
I never crawled. My mother said around 8 or 9 months old I used the edge of the sofa to stand up and then walked perfectly across the room, no wobbling, no falling.
Lol. My son, start walk 8.5 months, talking 8 monts was taking just 2 naps unti 1year old, them no one was eble to make he sleep. Always on the go. Today he is 14, very intelligent and still not sleeping much, nut way more calm.
"Spoiling" a child can only happen when they are old enough to understand cause and effect, an infant is not. Spoiling happens when you do not have consistent rules and boundaries that you enforce with a child. All children need secure attachment, love, and a responsive adult to develop normally.
Clayton Paisley infants have been shown to understand cause and effect as early as 3 months of age. We’ve seen infants make the connection between ‘I cry’ and ‘mom comes running’ they also laugh because they find it funny. Later on in development you can even start ‘disciplining’ as early as 9 months. This discipline would not look like an older child’s discipline. It could be baby bites, parent picks up, parent give no emotional response. The baby starts to get uncomfortable because they’re not getting the emotional response they’re used to. It might last 10 seconds but through consistency the infant will eventually make the connection between ‘oh I do xyz and this unpleasant thing happens’ and the behavior reduces. Finally cortisol (the stress hormone) is set in an infant at about 6 months of age. So the important part of their attachment style forms from birth to 6 months. After that they will not produce any more cortisol then they levels they’ve already experienced. Some believe this is why emotionally neglected children tend to have more physiological signs of stress. Haha sorry for the soapbox. 🙈
i always remember the No Honey rule bc in 1st year of vet school, when we were discussing bees, our prof said "so can you give honey to a baby to help them sleep? well.. you CAN, but they aint waking up no more" 😭😭😭😭
I love the red haired pediatrician. She's so engaging and seems like she makes every visit fun for both parents and children. She seems to care about others.
She's very engaging, but in an annoying way. She over enunciate words, and leans too much forward. She's a bit too 'in your face' for my liking. I feel like she talks to me as if I was a small child
Naps are not only necessary for the baby; they are necessary to give parents a break. When my baby is napping, I can center myself and take care of stuff around the house. Shoot, or take a nap myself!
Valerie Wood but doesn’t it make your child impossible to be handled by other adults. Doesn’t it make you child only want you and want to be constantly held?
kadeja mckinzie not really. I’ve been studying developmental psychology for a while and I’ve yet to see any evidence of this. Like they were saying, holding your baby is great for that parent child bond :)
@@kadejamckinzie3 I haven't experienced this. In fact that seems more to do with the baby than whether the parents hold them all the time or not. I know parents who practice the "don't always hold the baby" mantra but their baby positively dislikes others
@@kadejamckinzie3 no sorry I think you misunderstood my comment, I dont just carry around my babies all day that would alot on me lol I just pick them up when they're crying and also randomly to give them hugs and kisses. I also give them lots of time on the ground to be independent and explore their worlds using their bodies naturally and Ive never noticed my kids becoming clingy or overly attached to me. But I do have to say my oldest who is now almost 9, we have a great relationship compared to some other mother daughter relationships ive seen at that preteen stage.
I’m pregnant right now and I can’t imagine not letting my baby nap, and not giving him loving cuddles when he cries ...🥺 my heart couldn’t handle just letting him sit there while he cries
We are kind of wired to be like "omg the baby is crying what do I have to do to stop it!?" I don't really look to biological essentialism for many things; usually arguments that something is "natural" are usually misplaced. and people want to attribute a lot of things to genetics and biology that really should not be. But that is one case where I think we are kind of hard-wired on both fronts. Genetically, attentive parents are selected for. By the same toke, noisy, demanding babies are selected for over quiet babies. Like, in those first months, a baby's survival depends both on the baby making its needs known, and on the parents being able to tend to its needs fairly rapidly. Making the baby wait doesn't really help anyone, and just gives the baby a bunch of signals that things aren't peachy. It's adding a bunch of stressors that really don't need to be there. So yeah, as a new parent, I don't understand how people can do that. It seems like the best thing is letting the baby know that no matter what happens, I will be right there with him.
My dad's mom literally would block my mom from coming to me when I cried. She said that one time they even locked the door to the room I was in bc I would get spoiled...
@@PandaJanna0604 my mom also said that she would just let me cry, but sometimes a baby just wants some interactions... i would never just leave it cry doesnt matter even if it just wants my attention ill give it!
Just had my first son three months ago. All of my friends and family told me I needed to stop waking him up every 2.5-3 hours on the dot even at night to feed him the first month. The whole don't wake a sleeping baby myth, but he was a preemie and it seemed so important to feed him a lot. I feel so much better about my choice after watching this! Same with my choice to just talk to him as if he were any other adult, full sentences and even big words. Thanks so much for the information :)
You did exactly the right thing. Especially for a preemie. They have some catch up growing to do & can also tire easily. Frequent feeds are best. Way to go new mommy!
When feeling uncertain consider talking to your pediatrician! They know everything about you and your baby’s situation and will essentially give out the most accurate info, take care.
You did exactly the right thing. Newborn babies NEED to be fed every two to three hours. Depriving them of that is essentially the equivalent to starving their brain. People think it’s fine to just let them sleep when in reality it’s extremely harmful.
This video really helps me out :) I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first child and the amount of overwhelming and contradicting information I'm getting is insane. From all the well-meant tips I've gotten, only a couple seem to be correct. I'm not even a parent yet, but I'm already made to feel like I can never do it right. It's exhausting.
I recommend reading Bringing Up Bébé by Pamela Druckerman, Expecting Better & Cribsheet by Emily Oster, and The Whole-Brain Child by Siegel & Bryson! I'm 30 weeks along with my first and these books have really helped me feel prepared for my son's arrival. They all help you sift through the nonsense that people spread about pregnancy, babies, and children.
Highly recommend not using corporal punishment as well, it's proven that it can cause your children to have higher chances to develop mental illness. Also, patience is something you're gonna need. Hitting a child will only scare them, and make them fear you, and not understand that doing something is bad because it's not nice.
”Holding the baby is spoiling her”🤦🏻♀️ you can’t spoil a child with love and affection. When a child feels loved, and therefor safe, they know that their parent Will be there for them when they need them and keeping them safe. Instead of ignoring a crying baby, scared of ”spoiling them” by picking them up, they Will think that the parent will not come even tho he/She cryes after them and they Will get stressed. A baby comunicates by crying and they cry for a reason, to let their perent know that somentings not feeling right and they need their perents.
This isn't necessary true. Babys are incredibly smarter than you think. If you comfort a baby when they are "crying" because you told them off or they couldn't get what they want they pick up that you are doing so and do it more often as they know all they have to do is cry and they'll get what they wont ( not trying to be mean just informative) 😁
When I was little I cried for God knows how long my mom called my pediatrician but even after trying everything I wouldn't stop crying, she called my dad and he left work early the moment he got home and picked me up I stopped crying.
@@log9700 I’m on the same boat with my baby. I don’t know how many experts advice to search trying ro find a solution, bur no one really gives an straight answer on how to tackle this. I have refused to let her crying , but it’s getting to a point that I’m not seeing many other options😞.
It's funny that when I tried to show my mother in law a couple of these myths, she in fact said that what they are saying are myths, and that honey wont hurt a baby, and giving a baby water is good. Im so glad that my husband is alive today!! and it goes to show that at some point whether true or not, ppl will believe what they believe.
Some people will never change their ways especially older generations they always think they know better than a doctor which is frustrating because I go through this with my toddler lol
@Christina Fusco yes and it gets me thinking..i really hope i dont end up that way. Do you think that its just fate? We're just doomed to repeat our mothers and grandmothers ways by not believing what our kids and grandkids will tell us one day? I hope not. Lol
My mil is the same. Hubby is 40 years old. We have two babies. When she pulls the old way of doing things I jsit say there is 40 years of science to say that’s not the best way
I was an early talker. English teacher now. My brother didn't walk until he was almost two. He just became an attorney. Having a baby in the internet age must be so damn stressful.
It's only stressful if you allow it to be. The internet hasn't stressed me out whatsoever. Maybe it's the child psychology courses that I took that makes me not so concerned.
@@jessicaely2521 I respectfully disagree. My degree in psychology has taught me that various studies that looked into the impact of the social media age has increased expectant mothers' fear of not doing things "right" because we are bombarded with so many conflicting discourses that dictate how to "raise a child right"
That actually makes me feel a lot better. My daughter is almost 16 months old and still not quite walking. It’s hard to not worry if something is really wrong.
That's why I said MAYBE. Maybe doesn't mean definitely 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. Would you rather possibly instead of maybe? It's been great to have the internet for me. The internet was the one that told me that you weren't supposed to put Vicks on a baby under the age of 2. When I was a kid my parents didn't know this. When I brought my daughter home from the hospital I found some blood discharge in her diaper. I jumped onto the internet and found it's totally common and they said when to start to worry. This saved me an extremely expensive trip to the hospital. In Switzerland the nurses want to do all of the diaper changes on the baby so they know what's going on with the baby. There was no discharge papers for me to sign, nothing telling me what to expect, and nothing telling me when to come to the hospital. I think there is no paperwork telling you about anything because they know that a midwife comes out to your house the day your baby is born or the day after (I didn't pay a dime for the midwife. Midwives are paid by taxpayers).I passed a golf ball size blood clot about 9 days after I delivered. Of course it was after the midwife and she wasn't answering my phone calls. Again I jumped on the internet and found out it was totally normal for the first 2 weeks. The internet told me what to look for when my water broke. I swore I wouldnt be one of those moms that went to the hospital 100 times. After waiting the hour like the internet said I started to the hospital and 9 hours later I had a beautiful healthy baby girl. I guess when new parents look things up the ignore the fact that there's always a range for things. Walking range is 9-18 months. At the end of 18 months is when you should start talking to the doctor.
@@SavannahReach Don't stress my daughter is 17months and just started walking on her own. Before that she only walked while holding onto to someone or something.
My sister and I started out the same length as infants we have the same parents she ended up 5'4" and I'm 5'11" so infant size means NOTHING to adult size obviously. Strangely, my kid and my sis' 3 kids all ended up 5' 7".
My siblings and I were "big" for Asian standards so we weren't "overweight" by Western standards. We're Asian. We're 5'3, 5'6 and 5'2 as adults respectively.
When I was a baby my mum was constantly worried about me because I barely ever cried just slept all the time. She asked so many doctors and turned out I was just a calm lazy baby.
When you do introduce your baby to new food, particularly if there is a risk of allergies, make sure it's not before bed time so if there is an allergic reaction you are around and can see it and seek medical advice
@@clubito2 I'm allergic to thc and had never been exposed to it and then went into anaphylactic shock 10 years ago when exposed the first time and diagnosed at the drs.
watching this video just made me appreciate even more than i already do just how much time and love my mother was able to dedicate to me as an infant. she read to me, she spoke to me all the time, she played with me after a 12 hour workday every single day. I'm convinced it's that nurturing she gave me that led me to become such an early talker and an avid reader and "outdoors kid"
'-I already got it' *"Return it"* her deadpan mom tone makes me feels like returning all of my amazon purchases despite none of them having anything to do with babies
Honestly, my kids were in walkers. But not until they could already walk. I used it to keep them from getting into the kitchen or reaching places they weren't allowed.
i like how ginger head lady is listening so carefully and enthusiastically nods all at right moments, I feel she spends a lot of time with babies and almost acts like one:D And she almost never interrupts blond lady, only with short remarks just like all babies do:D EDIT: my first time getting so many likes!:O Thank you all, all I expressed in this comment is purely my opinion about ginger head lady, and it doesn't mean i don't like blond lady, and although I may not be the baby behaviour expert I'm still allowed to share my perception of them:) and thanks again for the likes and heated conversation!;3
Riya Kang As a mom, babies interrupt all the time and listening carefully and enthusiastically nodding at the right moments aren’t characteristic of a baby.
@riya kang. That lady is a doctor. She's an experienced physician. She knows its her job to listen intently to countless distressed/worried parents with a sick child. Obviously she's very good at it.
She is a great pedia, well they both are. You can tell they are really passionate about their careers and I love that, wish more physicians were this connected
My cousin had her first kids in 2020 and the amount of reading and learning she had to do is astounding... I never knew you'd need to learn so much about a new born human
@@heiroot Humans is the correct term to generalise the living thing we're referring to. A person is usually used to denote one particular human with its own personality. Thus it's correct to say "We learn about the safety of handling newborn humans." Instead of "newborn persons".
I wish I could send this to the older women in my family. They all think I’m spoiling my 7 week old because I hold her a lot. And don’t let her cry longer then a few minutes if I could help it
Google attachment parenting, it's what you are doing. It is a natural way to a parent it goes with your gut instincts. Don't listen to the older generation who were told by doctors to let your baby cry. They were influenced by a pediatrician called doctor Spock and unfortunately it's followed down to other Generations. I used to breastfeeding and attachment parenting with all my children they turned out successful.
Hey, if it helps to hear this then I was always (apart from when crawling) carried in a baby sling by my mum (out shopping, around the house etc.) or a baby backpack thingy by my dad (when he went on dog walks) and given lots of cuddles and contact growing up, and it's been a big contributing factor to me feeling confident within myself and growing up not spoilt but completely loved!
Hey if you hold your baby too much... you'll be criticized. If you let you baby cry... you'll get criticized. Because we naturally think that our parenting is the best parenting when in reality... you have to follow some rules of course, but education... is so different from one family to another. If your baby and you are healthy and happy, continue to do what you are doing.
Can we also talk about pregnancy myths. I can't stand hearing this..."Oh, you have acid reflux? your baby is hairy." Really? Ohhh, I though it was just my stomach that was in my chest. smh
Actually this one is true. Apparently constant acid reflux reflects a high level of a certain hormone that is responsible for your baby having more hair. Edit: Not all the time, but it is a trend.
@@kendralopez4530 Of course there is more than one reason for having heart burn, but the myth is actually true, apparently. Heart burn can be a symptom of the presence of a hormone responsible for the full head of hair. It doesn't mean that every mother has heart burn for one reason, of course, so it isn't a reliable indicator.
Unfortunately too many parent lack the ability to do both, and I’m curious to see who has the ability to do both effectively and how their kids grow up.
Am I the only pregnant person watching this 😂 this video is a godsend, right on time! I'm being treated at Mount Sinai for this pregnancy so I look forward to possibly working with their teams!!!
Sanam Jamshidi Nawaz The first few months will be hard but it’s amazing so enjoy every moment and if you don’t have the energy to tidy the house or put fresh clothes on and leave the house. Don’t. Feed the baby until it’s not hungry so if formula feeding if it finishes the bottle, feed again until it rejects the bottle. White noise on RUclips is your friend when baby is crying and most of the items you get you will not use lol
“Don’t spoil your baby” I’m sorry the only way they can communicate is through crying. If you don’t immediately help them, then you are 100% neglecting them. You don’t know if they’re hungry, if they’ve spoiled themselves, if they need cuddles, or whatever. Take care of your children.
Cool dude. I agree that you cannot spoil a little baby by picking them up when they cry! But yeah as a nanny you get paid and then give them back at the end of each day. However, for us parents without nannies, or any help at all, it simply isn't always feasible to "immediately" pick up our crying babies. 5 minutes of crying whilst we go to the toilet, or maybe get a moment to shower or eat, wont harm them. In an ideal world we wouldn't experience fatigue or maybe we would all have nannys. So dude, I would totally say that not immediately picking up a crying baby is not "100% neglect". I would say 100% of parents are guilty of neglect if this is the case. Never picking up a crying baby or hardly picking them up is neglectful of course.
I would have agreed with you until they shared the allergy myth about introducing peanuts (or other things) at 4-6months. No solids should be introduced until after 6months and even then not until certain milestones are reached. The 4-6m intro research is from food industry so profit biased.
I'm an immunologist, and the food allergen avoidance in early life recommendation has been so incredibly difficult to reverse! I am so glad you brought it up. It is something that many people, healthcare providers included, are not aware of.
My son is now 22 and when I had him I was told by pediatricians to not give him any food until 6 months because there are allergies in my family. He has hay fever and if I had to do it again I would give him food at 4 months, he was breastfeeding and it was constant and he never slept. I can say it didn't work for us and sometimes doctors are wrong.
@@heavencentric2276 It's a phenomenon called "oral tolerance." The gist is that if a foreign particle is introduced to the immune system via the GI tract, that educates the immune system to not respond to it (tolerance). It's how your immune system learns to not respond to food. If the first exposure is through skin or respiratory tract, which are ways by which potential pathogens can invade the body, the immune system is more likely to recognize that as a foreign object to react to. If you have existing food allergies, one possible treatment is called "oral immunotherapy treatment," which is medically supervised intake of the allergic foods in small amounts. Essentially this retrains your immune system to become tolerized to the allergen.
@@2degucitas That is correct. That medical advised was based on a study that found that infants have more permeable IG tract than adults. It did not link delayed food introduction to allergies in anyways. However, the advice for withholding potential food allergens allowed for subsequent medical studies in children comparing the effects of delayed food introduction. It was found that the incidence of allergies increased when children were not introduced to potential food allergens early in life. These findings lead to the reversal on the advise.
My oldest started saying single syllable words at five months, and walked at eight months Hasn’t really stopped speaking since haha, my youngest walked at nine months and didn’t utter a word until 18 months. Both are bright happy smart kiddos.
Code Name I think some kiddos are just ready to go! They want to do what they see you doing and are showing independence early. Some other kiddos are a little more laidback and take their time because they know that mom or dad is right there for them! I like to think it’s a personality thing
Haha. It's a running joke in my family that when I was a baby (and even as an adult) I'd wait until I was perfect before doing something. I was a late talker, but spoke first I'm sentences, not words. Late walker, but I could run almost as soon as I could walk. So much personality for sure! 🤷♂️
My little girl was making animal sounds around the 5 month mark and could name a few animals and family members by 8 months. She basically hasn’t had day time naps or shut up since she started talking haha. She’s not 2 until end of next month and will use full sentences. Tonight I asked her to get ready for bed and she said “No thank you mammy, I can’t go to bed yet” when I asked why she said “well, I don’t want to. We watch Steven universe on telly first? Then maybe bedtime” Like, you’re 22 months old...I’m not arguing with your logic, go to bed please haha
@@freemodulation my best friend was like that. Didn't speak until she was 3... and then she ran through the house wet from climbing out of the tub and named EVERYTHING. She was reading novels by 5. My brother walked before he ever crawled and when he crawled, he crawled backwards. Babies are weird.
Skipping naps also trains your baby and kid 3 or younger to stay up when they are tired. So, at bedtime if they would rather play, they are very good are forcing themselves awake.
I have a 4 year old and 8 month old. While moms were lamenting about how many times their kids woke up in the middle of the night, I freaked as both my kids slept through after 6 weeks. I would wake up and check on them, rouse them. They would wake up and then fall back to sleep, wanted nothing to do with the boob until 6 a.m.
I have a 9 month old. He’s been sleeping through the night since he was 13 pounds. I believe he was 3 months old. Even as a newborn I had to wake him up at night to feed him. 70% of the time as a newborn he would wake me up right at about every 3 hours but there was that 30% where it’s 4-5 hours. By the time he was 3 months. I would have to wake him up and it was causing him to be frustrated and fall asleep while drinking the bottle and not even finish it. So I asked the pediatrician and she said once he gets 13 pounds let him sleep through the night. Just make sure he gets enough formula during the day. I was so happy. And 6 months later he still sleeps through the night. From 8:30pm-7:00-30am you don’t hear a peep from this boy. He would have the occasional wake up at 3am but I go in there put his pacifier back in his mouth and he falls back to sleep without any fight. He sleeps through out the day and takes 2 hour naps at least 2-3 times a day. He only cries when he’s hungry or he’s tired or he accidentally hurts himself. Literally that’s it. He don’t cry for nothing else. So he’s the worlds easiest baby lol He doesn’t want to be held all the time. I can put 2-3 toys in his crib and he won’t say shit. Only his cooing or laughing. He comes to my job (I work at a daycare) he’s literally the best baby/child there. The director loves him so much he’s the only child she’s buying a present for. Lol I’m truly blessed to have my son lol Oh and he’s been in his crib in his own room since 3 months. Not bc I wanted to but because he wanted to😅 I had his bassinet right by my bed but when I moved in my sleep it would shake his bassinet and he would automatically wake up and be upset he’s awake 🤣 the moment I put him in the crib is when the true sleeping through the night became a reality.
My babies were all great night sleepers, too. I would wake up several times a night just to check if they’re ok, breathing, looking healthy, moving. My initial thoughts were always mixed with feelings of worries, apprehensions why they didn’t cry in the middle of the night. ;)
I have a 4.5 month old and she'd wake my up every 1 - 1.5 hours until I let her sleep in my bed with me one night. She hasn't been back in her bassinet since and sleeps 12 hours. I just leave a boob out for her and she'll latch when she needs to then falls back asleep lol
These myths seem to come from a culture that admires suffering and devalues love. “But I want Aiden to grow up and work in a Fortune 500 company.” Of course you do, Karen. Of course you do.
Exactly! They would say the same story, over and over again "well, you didn't die and we are the ones that raised you..." I am honestly a little concerned on how to deal with my parents after I give birth, because I really don't want to add sugar/sweets/cakes/cookies in my childs diet too soon, and as far as I have seen my parents, they have no problem feeding sugary cake to my brothers daughters. And the young one is only 10 months old. I would be really angry if they do this to my soon to be born daughter... It's stressing me out just by thinking about it
@@heviutza I would set boundaries with them, and if they don't listen, they don't get to see her. Sounds harsh, but you might have a specific regimen for your baby that works for her. They need to adhere to that, and if they don't, they can't get alone time with her
@@tabbijoy6448 Things like stretching the baby to strengthen the muscles , giving the baby under six months little tip of water especially if in the summer and the baby is hot etc
@@heviutza yea too much sugar can cause a stomach upset. But your mother should respect your wishes. If she gets too much it's best to cut off. It's hard but you need to choose.
Yep My daughter was tiny as at birth at 40 weeks,4 pound odd. She's bigger than her brother.he was normal weight at 38 weeks birth. ( grown adults now )
My first was a delayed walker and crawler (11 months and 18months respectively) and he is perfectly normal now as far as motor control and learning skills. I was told by a nurse that if he didn't crawl (on time) he wouldn't be able to read. This was crap. He was reading by age 4. My other child was an "early walker" (8months), and very late talker (3.5 years). They are highly intelligent and the same in motor skills as their older brother. They both read at the same rate. The youngest is into roller derby, and the oldest is into skateboarding
That sounds pretty normal to me? Anytime up to 18 months is fine. Amazed how worried I was for all my children to walk talk at the right time, but most just do it, so all that worry for nothing. Always know someone who claims to have a perfect baby!
I didn’t walk till I was 2 years but at three had memorized a whole chapter in Quran hearing from older siblings( my dad told me) and my learning is fine and now I’m a Doctor.
I remember absolutely adoring my pediatrician as a child. I hadn't met that many people at that age but I knew he was the best one I had ever met! Dr. Curtis shout out to you!
I’m a pregnant lady with a 2 year old... I’m always sleepy... My daughter gets super cranky when she doesn’t get her mid-day nap!!! So we take naps faithfully.
Cupcake Hagar I’m also pregnant with a one year old and I recently had to move back with my mother, she was trying to get him to skip Naptime so he’ll “go to sleep earlier and stay asleep longer” and I had to explain that him not sleeping during the day just makes him a worse sleeper at night
I’m pregnant with my 5th. Oldest two at school, 5 year old gets to watch a movie after lunch while the 3 year old and I both have naps. I’m a much better mother and my 3 year old has much better emotional regulation if we get our naps. Nap them as long as you can get away with it! My oldest napped until a few months before kindergarten! It was amazing! My older kids still need a “rest” time, usually after coming home from school and having a snack. They don’t sleep, but have 15 minutes to just be alone with their thoughts. My oldest usually chooses to read and my second usually plays with his LEGO. School is hard work on their brains!
Almost 80% of this is what my partners mother beliefs in and I mean, she’s almost 50, I don’t blame her for believing in these myths as she is the type of person that doesn’t know how to use a computer or anything like that, and was just told all of this by HER parents when she was growing up and had her kids, since they didn’t have access to any of this info and well yeah. And I still listen to her but 99.99% of the time I do the opposite of what she says. I did believe the “put honey in the pacifier” when she told me that and holy crap I did not know it was that dangerous to do that. Thankfully my baby was just born a few days ago so I haven’t given him a pacifier yet and now that I watched this video I know what not to do so THANK YOU!
I'm a dental nurse and we see a lot of problems with babies teeth when people do things like that or feed a lot during the night as well, also don't put sugar or honey in their drink xx congratulations on your bub!
I totally feel you on this. My grandmother in law tried to put my baby down for a nap with a blanket and pillow in a full sized adult bed!! I never let her have my baby out of my sight after that. One time I wasn't feeling well and let her take my baby out of my sight for about an hour and I swear to god the baby came back with a rash all over their face and I still don't know why... :(
The most scary thing about this is that even some pediatricians believe those myths. Like the fever-teething thing for instance. I remember how my sister was told by her pediatrician how teething was to blame for my nephews fever.
I couldn't believe it when we had multiple parents bring in doctors notes saying it was okay for their infant to attend daycare with a fever "as the baby is just teething and not sick". Unsurprisingly, we ended up with more sick babies as a result. My pediatrician said that babies are more likely to get some of these symptoms (fever, runny nose, diarrhea, etc) not because teething causes it but because teething babies stick everything in their mouths increasing odds of getting a virus of some kind.
My brother, in the first week his son was born told our father that he was gonna start sleep training, because he couldn't handle being woken up multiple times a night. My dad told the story at my daughter's 3rd birthday. Every parent in the room laughed.
My dad tried to stay awake with my mom while she fed my older sister. It was just his way of trying to be supportive. One night, while they were talking, he stopped responding. Mom gently tapped his shoulder, and he fell over on the couch asleep. Mom left him there for the rest of the night, then told him to just stay in bed and sleep because one of them might as well.
Doctors are taught very specific skills and knowledge. Back in the 50s, doctors were looked up to like gods, and that attitude still lingers a bit. If I break my leg or need surgery or have a sickness that simply won't budge, I'm going to a doctor. But for other things? I'll seek out different professionals like nutritionists, midwives, etc.
I just want to let you all know that a medical professional/health professional is not only a doctor. That term refers to any person who is a professional in the medical field, which could be a pediatrician, nutritionist, gynecologist, psychiatrist, and even a veterinarian. So saying doctors don’t know anything about babies and to go somewhere that does specify in that area is not a sensical response to this comment.
Or wall outlet, TV remote, dirty shoes, fork.. fork??? Where did you even get a fork???? STOP RUNNING COME BACK YOURE GONNA GET HURT ..toddlers are insane tiny people
My youngest son cried for 8+ hours a day when he was between 14-16 months. He lost all his words, had a massive regression, and my doctor’s advice was “toddlers have tantrums”. At 6, he has multiple developmental delays. I WISH I could go back in time and have an informed doctor who would have looked farther into it.
@Ooohbopbopboppadoohwah exactly! And it's a damn good one too that it will find anything whether from a verified trusted source or not. That's what people need to look into, the damn source of the information!
I remember watching this video awhile back in case a had a baby, I was overwhelmed by the amount of info. Now, I have an 8month old baby I rewatched because it was suggested. Everything makes more sense now.
Even with an older child who wants lollipops for dinner, I'd argue picking them up and holding them won't spoil them - giving them lollipops will. Acknowledging their feelings, both in your actions and your words (eg "oh, I know, you wish you could have lollipops all the time"), helps them process their emotions and learn coping skills. They learn that acting upset will not get them what they want, but it will get them help with calming down and dealing with not getting what they want.
Don't worry they won't understand but your baby your rules done let anyone make you feel like you are making bad decisions. I have my 1st baby and I hold her all the time. I tell and show my mom how to take care of her.
By now you are struggling with your mom, just be really direct with the things you are not going to accept and make her know that your baby's health is more important than anything. I hope everything went ok, and enjoy your baby.
It was a bit extra and overly exaggerated for me....I scrolled down so I didn't have to watch her animation. lol Funny how different people like different things.
@@noxaccio4988 Yes, the blonde lady was much preferred for me. With young kids, it's good to be more animated, as they get bored very easily (and so do some adults). It makes sense to me that a pediatrician might need to be more animated for her audience, though. I'm definitely not that audience. lol
I saw a documentary where moms in ALL languages spoke parent-ees to their babies in their own tongue. It was wonderfully rewarding as a mom of 3. I had never heard the expression paren-ees until today! Thank you!!
When someone gives advice you always say, "thanks, I might try that next time" and then you go do whatever the hell your doctor or you think is best. Older relatives especially seem to have outdated advice that is sometimes harmful so be polite but then do what you want to do or have been told by a medical professional.
@@hayley534 Not even the doctors, hun. Most of them don't even have children of their own, but think because they're with DIFFERENT babies and kids 10+ hours a day, that they're automatically experts. EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT.
Kaycee Milam of course! The best thing is to do your own research, but only using reputable sources: books, paediatricians, research papers etc. But the amount of rubbish advice I got from people who I hadn't even asked was incredible. Even elderly men had an opinion on how I should raise my child, which is ironic considering none of them had ever even changed a nappy.
“Babies who walk and talk early are the brightest of their peer group” I talked at 10 months old and walked at 8 months old.... I’m still an idiot 😂 dang those myths
I can see where it's coming from tho. Honey does have anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory properties, so in theory it could help reduce the pain of teething. However, babies can't fight off that specific toxin that honey can have which I already forgot the name of, so giving them honey can be dangerous. It's counter-intuitive if you don't have all the information.
I remember getting upset about it, because I learned about the bacteria and my dad's ex wife who's a doctor got mad when I objected when she gets a 2 month old. Tried justifying it with religious "history"... Like... Okay kill the baby, it's not gonna be my fault.
As a premature infant I was born with very weak legs, my parents were asked by the pediatrician to make sure they buy a walker for me. The logic was that once I am old enough for them suspension in the walker but in a way that my I am either forced to stand and support my weight on my feet or I have my feet barely a centimeter off the ground (not me on my tiptoes) would help muscle development and blood circulation. Seems like it worked because I was an early walker and I have totally normal legs now.
Some children benefit from a walker, the majority do not. It's a good idea for parents to listen to a medical professional who knows their individual child's case in preference over a RUclips video giving generalized advice, because there's a lot of exceptions to these rules. For example, if you have a child with a motor disability like cerebral palsy or spina bifida, introducing a walker or wheelchair at the same age that a typical child would be learning to walk can be extremely helpful for their motor and cognitive development.
I when worked at a day care, Some of the children where delayed in walking by 2 months is was at that point we started using them with the parent and Dr. Approval
I HATE when people say don’t pick up your baby so much, it’ll spoil her. Wtf! It’s a BABY! It won’t be a baby forever and so what if it spoils her? I’m the one dealing with it and absolutely loving it. As she gets older she won’t even want to be picked up anymore, it’s not like I’m going to go around carrying a 10 year old. Geez. My older kids don’t even want to hug me anymore let alone carry.
I saw a study not long ago that said u cant coddle (Give too much affection) a baby too much, i think people dont differentiate between spoiling and affection
Lilly idon’t do that with toddlers because it will become a bad habit and they’re gonna want to be picked up constantly. And also I’ve seen babies cry for no absolute reason other than they want to be held it does happen because babies are aware they aren’t stupid they understand if they cry they get picked up even when they do it just to be held.
The Tea in my opinion, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. Yeah picking up a baby can become a habit into their toddler years for the first 4 years and some parents can find it annoying. But I really don’t, because I have a 9 and 11 year old whom I used to pick up aaallll the time but once they turned 4 or 5, that was it. They didn’t want to be picked up anymore. So what’s 4 years of constantly picking up a beautiful little sweet child compared to the rest of their growing life that you will never ever be able to ever again? that’s just my thoughts :)
Govindh Menon definitely! Because their brains are still developing. The Netflix series Babies shows that when we sleep, we move things from short term memory to long term memory. So it’s definitely going to be so important for so many people! Also, sleep is great haha.
Agree strongly with the early talking/walking thing. I walked at 9 months and talked early. My brother didn't speak really until 3 and walked after one. He graduated as top boy of the school and graduated with honors. He's at university with a scolarship. I left school young and I'm not stupid but my brother is far more smart than I.
@@aokimika9249 ah. we have some harmful myths too... we still have gran'mas that insist a bit of whisky rubbed on their gums with sooth teething, or that we should let them sit in a dirty diaper to build up a tolerance to germs... we also have anti-vaxxers but I think that's a world wide epidemic...
@@jacksparrowismydaddy ah.. hm.. I dont know what myths we have.. I heard that letting the baby crawl around without a diaper makes them dry (that the word?) earlier.. wich makes sense to me but.. Also they get some air-
@@aokimika9249 I think it staves off diaper rash. when mine got it I let her not wear it for a little bit but I had to be ready cause she was unpredictable
"never look at chat rooms" Never go to a facebook mommy group when something serious happened! I see it all the time. Simple advice sure that's fine but I constantly see people looking for actual medical advice 😨
There are somewhere around 50 million ppl that get all their information from Facebook. Then they share that as if it is fact and infect the planet. I remember in the late 90s teaching my parents how to use a computer, this is what that got us.
@@bandofmountains Yep, should have never taught them, and convinced them it was only for the younger generations, let em get their info from the local paper instead.
This. It's really scary how people will believe anything on FB or get into intense arguments over silly things about other people's children...etc etc.
My new puppy is scary, he wants to bite my hands all the time for no reason and he isnt vaccinated yet. He is just 7 weeks old but he also already knows Rated 18 actions. Can someone help meeeee hes also a babyyyyy I havent spent time with him since the time he tried to attack me
Megan don’t worry I have a puppy. Around 7-8 weeks that’s when they start teething so you could get them some teething toys. Also the rated 18 actions does not mean he wants to have minions of his own, it actually means he is portraying acts of dominance. My puppy went through the same things and the vet reassured us it was normal.
These ladies are awesome. I am pregnant with my first, and this is making me feel so much better. I can’t wait to love, care, and play with my little baby! Thanks for helping me feel like I got this 😉
My mother and I got it the biggest fight about the walker thing. She kept pestering me and pestering me about it and I kept telling her no. My daughter didn’t walk until 18 months, so before that we had her tested by a state program for delays. I didn’t tell my mom about it until afterward because I knew she would freak and also it’s my kid, not hers. When I told her, she starts screeching at me, “Who are these people? How do they know anything? You should’ve gotten her a walker! She’d be walking right now if you did!” Well, it’s two years later and she’s been walking just fine, sooooo...
jesslesinski Yup!! And a lot of people don't realize that using walkers will actually end up making your kids pigeon toed or bow legged. They are NOT good. Used to fight with my ex mother in law about it 🙄
Walkers are banned in Canada. I have a friend who wanted to sneak one over the border, bc she was convinced they would help her baby walk faster. Im like Noooo!
I read about this online so I didn’t give my baby a walker. He’s still not walking. My 2 sister in laws gave their babies walkers and they started walking by 10-11 months. They walk Normal, not bowl legged or anything like that. That’s why I don’t believe these things anymore.
Umm Abdullah that just happens to be your situation though. i had walkers when i was young and couldn’t walk on my own until 2 years old. it’s different for each child. doesn’t mean they will be unsuccessful in life at all. motor development does not equal cognitive development
caitlyn Exactly! That’s what I mean. It doesn’t make any difference if you use a walker or not. No positive or negative outcome, physical nor cognitive.
Thank you!! Thank you for the part about the babies being bow legged! My in laws tried to make me feel like such an awful mother because my son was bow legged when he started walking. He started walking at 9mos, and I tried to tell them it was normal, that he's walking early. Went to a pediatrician, and a pediatric podiatrist, and they all said I was right, but the in laws continued to try and make me feel awful. So, thank you so much!!!
And the peanuts!! They also attempting to make me feel like a failure, because I let my son have a couple french fries, and they said I was awful because it could have been made with peanut oil. Not because I gave them french fries, but because of the damn peanut oil. I tried to tell them it was a myth, but they, again, insisted I was wrong. 😑
@@Disgruntled_Fork I di t think I've ever seen a baby eat "baby food" my entire life. Maybe it's my country but the shit I can live on wouldn't kill my kid, he's not a dog as in dogs with chocolate.
Agree with almost all of this, except what is said with the influence on sleep after three months. It is known that many children go through sleep regressions between 4-6 months and actually need more feedings and more closeness than younger babies… AND THAT IS OK! No need for sleep training there!
Enjoy those special cuddles while you can❤ my baby started sleeping through the night at 14 months once I cut the night time breastfeed because I’m pregnant and started the weaning process. Now I lay awake after numerous trips to the bathroom and wouldn’t mind a little cuddle from her😂 not long until her baby brother will be here….still have at least another 18 months of interrupted sleep aka immense love for my beautiful babies🫶🏽 I also hear once you’re a mother - you never sleep again! Just something I have accepted, and would happily sacrifice for their comfort. I could never hear my darling cry and knew sleep training wasn’t an option for her or me. Each to their own! I also had the privilege of not going back to work, so what is time when no alarm telling you to get up and go.
Expressiveness is important when interacting with children. It's also an important element in sign language, which can help you communicate your child. It can also help you communicate without your child (if mommy and daddy need to talk about grown-up things).
Haha when I was a child, the doctors thought my parents were abusing me because I didn't know how to walk but when they tried the other skillset, like fine motor skills, I was able to do so many things other children could not! I was an early talker too. I guess I just didn't want to walk because my parents carried me everywhere and I was lazy.
My son has been very slow on his motor skills. We almost had him evaluated by ECI to check for delays. BUT the same thing! He's been ahead with his social, language, and fine motor skills! Luckily I have a great pediatrician who simply pointed out that, yes we should monitor it, but sometimes babies focus on growing some skills over others.
I walked early, fine motor skills perfect etc.. buuuuut talking .. didn't start talking till I was 4.. I said mamma, pabbi (dada) and EH (point at whatever I wanted).. I could talk.. just wasn't interested.. so when I had the "4 year old checkup" I had to have that checkup 3 times.. now I am a 33 year old that speak fluently 3 languages :)
Vikingplanner one of my younger sisters was like that, we’re pretty sure she just doesn’t want to stop being the baby lol, she’s 5 now and talks just fine but still acts like a baby and imitates our 2 yr old sister
I was 18 months when I walked fully. I mostly sat on my butt and did jigsaw puzzles. My dad is a doctor and he would just shrug and say I was normal in all the other milestones.
Are these parents you are with all day? Sometimes parents need a moment. If you see a parent in public do something while you pass by, it doesn't mean they do that all day. There's also a lot of pressure on parents to keep their kids quiet in public. If your baby is being fussy, you get a lot of stares and nasty comments, so parents will often do whatever quick fix to get them to quiet down. Personally I don't give mine electronics in public but I totally get the fear of having a fussy child in public when society has such a negative view on loud children
@@DSDaly yeah you're right.... when you're out you just arent able to deal with ppl being nasty with you So yh But the original comment ..... yes I have actually seen kids on phone literally all day Like They literally have a phone.. tablet... computer.... all for them N I'm sitting here thinking abt my first phone I got at 17 But I know parents who do have their kids on devices all day When you try to get them to play they are clueless
Unlike the other Comment of the lady getting smart with you I actually agree with you. Even though you just see them for 30 minutes out of the whole day you can usually tell the parents that take time to teach and do actual things with their kids from the ones who just stick them in front of a TV and let them play on the game
As a swede it is so interesting to see the myths we share and also hear new and to me, odd myths that I have no cultural and historic framework for. The "babys need water when it's hot" myth confused my so much I first thought the myth said to splash or bathe your child in cool water as I have never ever heard anyone suggest babys need anything other than formula and breast milk. Hearing new weird myths is one reason I really enjoy these debunk videos. I also love when experts share their scientific knowledge in a way that is accessible, entertaining and easy to grasp for the majority of people. The bigger scientific knowledge and understanding people have the better!
As a Canadian I am just as confused as you by that water myth. Like who believes that? Probably the same person who thought a baby doesn't need a nap?!?!
I’m American and also never heard that before. I wonder if maybe they said that one just to have the opportunity to make sure people know that babies don’t need water.
as a former baby i can say this is true
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Sarah It really does.
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This comment is soooo underrated
“Up to 3 years of age naps are really important”... me a 28 year old I deeply disagree it stops that quickly
Roweisha Gray omg same
Naps are really important to brain development for kids up to about 3, after that it’s mostly for rest.
Nah, for adults naps tend to interfere with night-time sleep. If you're already getting 8 or more solid hours of sleep at night and still need naps to feel refreshed then you might want to check with your doctor.
sooo true ! why stop at 3 ? In Spain they still take naps in the afternoon. Can we do that too ?
I would agree that naps are required way longer past the age of 3
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"Pediatricians debunk 16 Myths"
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Same here xD but idk as a female I think some of these are interesting to know :3
Andrew Scott lol
You were waiting for the two of them to kiss?
Maybe 😏
you never know when you'll have to take care of a random baby
The conclusion is you don't need fancy stuffs to educate your babies. Love, attention, physical interaction, lingual interaction & environmental interaction will do just fine
yea, tl;dr don't do anything that seems stupid. millions of years of evolution made the parents feel what to do by instinct.
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That’ll give them basic survival skills. But they won’t be able to afford to survive on their own without intellectual abilities and other skills.
@@viiperbiite Which are most effectively fostered by interaction with people, feeling grass and breeze, playing with pets, being read/talked/sung to, and learning to walk by crawling and pulling up. Language is key in the first five years. Make eye contact, talk and laugh and sing, hug and hold, and your baby will thrive.
@@viiperbiite I have heard that rich people interact with their babies more. If true, that's a perfect explanation as to why babies with access to more economically advantaged environments tend to be better of.
"babies should be sleeping through the night"... yeah, now if someone could just explain that to the baby!
Lmfao! Hahaha OMG this was hilarious! It's currently 1:30am and my 16 month old daughter is awake, playing and was just running around the house before I safely put her in her gated play area so I can walk the dog and take a personal "mommy time out".... yesterday, she was up until 8:30am. Sleep has regressed to infancy sleeping style. And progressively been getting worse since the 1st tooth broke through during the summer (at around 10 months old)
I swear, it’s as if they don’t listen.
mozismobile my 10 year old sister can’t sleep through the night in her own!
Don’t wake up your baby to eat! They will wake up when they want to eat! Let them sleep!
@@tierracaccitolo .... That's one of my biggest fears regarding my daughter. My fiance and I co-sleep and bed-share.... he works nights 5 days a week so I don't mind the bed-sharing because since day 1, our daughter would only sleep on my chest. Otherwise, not at all.
BUT, my fiance has insomnia, I too have insomnia/sleeping issues. My father had insomnia, my younger and older brother have insomnia, my fiance's father had insomnia..... the chances are pretty high that Adrianna Marie may end up getting insomnia being as though that it runs heavily in both sides of the family.....
Not sure if this pertains to your 10 year old sister in any way BUT I definitely would love to know if this is so that I, as the primary caretaker (stay-at-home Momma Bear) should watch out for.....
@@tierracaccitolo .... Yes! Absolutely don't! I remember when my Ma came over one day during this past summer and my fiance and I just literally got Adrianna Marie down for a nap. My Ma wanted to see her and went into our bedroom alone. Sure as shit, 2 minutes later, I walked into the room and Adrianna was waking up. I asked my Ma if she had woken her up and she denied it. A few weeks later, she confessed to indeed waking her up because she wanted to hold her and play with her. Unaware that we were trying to get her on a set sleeping schedule and also unaware that Adrianna would freak out because she doesn't like anyone waking her up unless it's (primarily) me or my fiance.
The only time I wake her is if she had a bowel movement in her diaper, because I don't like her sleeping through that for numerous reasons.... hygiene being the main one. Or, if I know that she's not feeling well and too much time has lapsed between a bottle, food or water. Even then though, I gently wake her and I'm able to get her back to sleep fairly quickly because she's still in the drowsy/half asleep state. You know what I mean?
Me: 19 years old, no boyfriend, no social interactions, in college, no intention of having a baby anytime soon
Also me: No honey. Got it.
Me: 19 years old, had a kid in feb 2020, bad upbringing, learning things for myself, taking college classes (looking at business / language)
Doing much better for sure
Me: 17 years old, gay, no boyfriend, no social life, in high school graduation limbo, no job, physically cannot have my own biological child and am too young to adopt.
Also me: Yes, I need this right now in my life. Parenting guides.
Me: 21, no girlfriend, don't have kids or any small children around, not yet intent to have kids, rushing to study to my CPA, working my ass out of a business through a pandemic scenario.
Also me: I need this parenting skills right now
@@elkyubi4281 bruh where did discord ever come up
@@kevinkevin9525 Me: 18 years old, gay/pan, no significant other, no social life, also in HS graduation limbo, also can't have own biological child
Also me: Please be my friend you have a James pfp and I love James and I'm socially awkward but you seem cool but I'm socially awkward
I'm 34 and naps are still important for my daytime behavior and emotional development...
Same age. Same findings. Lol
Yes afternoon nap otherwise I’m cranky and throw tantrums.
@@SL-lz9jr I second that xD
yep, the real myth is that you only need naps when you're young. >
If you're finding that you need a nap longer than 30 minutes and/or napping after 3:00 p.m., see a sleep specialist. There may be something wrong with your nighttime sleep causing you to be more tired during the day.
I grew up in a very abusive and violent home but my brother and I always dreamed of being loving parents. Now I'm going to be an auntie!!! And videos like this, communities like this, people like this, are going to help us love and raise a beautiful human being 💜 thank you!!
I relate to this a lot! I was emotionally and physically abused and never had any emotional support. It made me extremely socially anxious, self conscious, lonely, irritable, and depressed. I never had a normal childhood. I always fantasized about raising a child to never experience what I had to go through and grow up to be an empathetic and bright minded child. I thought about the ways I would teach my kid how to approach situations and the world in an open minded way. These videos really help me achieve my dream with the research!
I am an internet stranger and I’m so proud of you and your brother! You’re going to be a great auntie!!
Aww this breaks my heart. hope you and your brother are doing better now. You’re going to be a great auntie!! ❤️
God bless you and your family
It's nice that you've become positive through your negative experience. I hope you enjoy being an aunty.
Naps are important for me.
I even think they are important for everyone man. When people get unnecessarily angry at something,sometimes, i tell them to take a nap.
I second that. Lol I remember taking naps in preschool and hating it. But now I need to take a nap.
@@vanessarodrigues717 😂😂😂 @ Go take a nap! My momma would say "go lay your tired little head down" whenever I said something stupid. My dad would say "Go play in traffic" whenever I did something stupid. You brought back memories of my childhood.
My 2 yr old takes a 2 hr nap and I LOVE IT. For awhile she did 2 2 hour naps. Anyone wanting to get rid of a nap-time or doesn’t “do schedules” for the parents “benefit” is just insane.
In kindergarten naps felt like a a punishment, as an adult they are a treat!
“Naps aren’t necessary.” Naps are necessary in all stages.
Agree
Don't rely on RUclips video
No I've never napped since I was a newborn
@@Lea-ov8vq idk if you’re joking but if you can remember being a toddler I’m surprised, but also naps can be very beneficial depending on your lifestyle.
@@irislelu not relying on a youtube video but doctors! RUclips is used by colleges, so I think it’s safe to say we can rely on them for videos like this lol
They are perfect representations of their professions lol. The pediatrician is really animated and vocal, while the psychologist is very calm and controlled. A very lovely and informative video.
The pediatrician has the exact condescending tone and body language that makes people not want to bring up questions and concerns with medical providers because they don't want to be made to feel even more stupid on something. It's why people prefer Dr. Google over a real doctor more and more: zero judgement telling you that your failing.
@@KatieCottingham No, I think you're just insecure and arrogant
@@KatieCottingham You use Google as your primary method of medical care? Mate, if you thought the condescension was worse before, wait until you're rushed to the hospital saying, "But Google told me it wasn't a big idea!" and see what happens.
Katie Cottingham that is honestly so deluded lmao. you should be more concerned with the welfare of your child than your feelings and how comfortable you are with an actual professional. google can be unreliable. get out of your own close minded head
@@KatieCottingham ikr! I felt bad for her customers
People often forget that, when a baby is crying over something, like because something scared them or they got hurt, it quite literally could be one of the worst things that happened to them in their entire life at the time, not even an exaggeration, ofcourse you should be picking them up and comforting them!
Yes. Like up to that point, that could be the worst thing they have experienced.
@@ChickenPermission617 yes indeed being as they might have only been on the planner for 2 weeks it doesn't take much for things to be new
My baby cries because he doesn't have the right binky sometimes. Sometimes he cries because HE took his bottle out of his mouth.
He's a BABY he has big emotions in his tiny package and doesn't know how to regulate them, comforting him helps him learn how to comfort himself and give him the confidence that someone will be there when something is wrong. Now that he's over 6 months if he's fussy I let him try to self sooth, when it gets to upset crying I jump in to comfort. Everyone tells me what a happy baby he is!
I remember one night lighting struck next to our sons window I was like oh it’s not that deep then I had to pause and think as a new baby that’s a loud sound a sudden flash of light and mom and dad are nowhere to be found I would’ve figured out
We discovered my nanny baby that was fussy was having gas. The mother changed her diet (breastfeeding) and it fixed it.
I like that they have a dr and a psychologist. Its nice to hear both sides
they are both doctors
@@sabrinazzz3257 well yes but you knew what I meant. But one general and one specific
Paychologist isn't a doctor
The other is a pediatric physician.
One of my nursing professors would get PISSED whenever someone called physicians strictly doctors because she was a doctor of nursing and felt left out😂
@@sabrinazzz3257 one is a physician and the other is a psychologist. One is in medicine and the other in psychology. The fields overlap but arent necessarily the same
knowledge is power no matter if you have a baby or not.
This comment should be top comment
You’re absolutely correct! It takes a village to raise a child!
Everyone should know how to take care of a baby - young kids, teenagers, unmarried men and women, gay men and women - it is for the benefit of the very survival of your species that you know how to care for one. It is a much deeper knowledge than math or literature for the brain
Absolutely. I have 3 nieces and 1 nephew, all under 4 years old. This video is making me the most powerful babysitter in the world.
I’ve been bashed by moms for giving them a fact about babies because “yOu DoN’t HaVe A bAbY!” Never mind, it’s your kid anyways.
I like how their energies are so polar opposite and still they agree about EVERYTHING
Their "energies"?
How do you feel energy?
Red head is more outgoing and the blonde is more stiff
The force is strong with this one
The blonde isn't stiff, she's calm. Caaaaaaalm. Which I imagine panicked, harried parents appreciate.
I would like to add to myth 8 that there is DEFINITELY a difference between a general "I need food/comfort/changing" cry and a "something is wrong, for God's sake help me!" cry. Example. My mom was in in a restaurant with a friend one time. Her friend had not had kids. A family came into the restaurant and started to put a 1-2 year old baby in a high chair. The baby started screaming bloody murder. My mother's friend scoffed and said "that child is a brat." My mother said "No, there is something WRONG with her, that is NOT a fussy tantrum cry." Come to find out, the wooden high chair had slats and they had accidentally wedged her one arm between two of the slats and it was a very small gap and they were actually really hurting her arm! They had to cut the thing to get her out! DO NOT IGNORE A PANICKED CRY! A baby will let you know when something is REALLY wrong!
100% true, it’s like an instinct when you hear your child cry, you know the difference between the two types of crying
I always thought this was a myth. Im an aunt to 4… one little noise and I know what baby wants. It’s really something special.
@@Sunnylyndis I'm just starting to try for kids with my husband, I can't wait to experience this. But even I can tell when a crying baby is really suffering and not just tired.
Omg. Poor child. Thanks God your mom interfered and helped her❤
Very true, i remember working in a nursery and felt awful. one day a baby was kicking up a fuss and we couldnt work out what was wrong she had been fed, slept, changed etc....
It was only 30 mins later I realised there had been a miscommunication about her nappy cream and on her last change i hadnt put her cream on so her poor bottom was bright red-i felt awful and was 100 % my fault as soon as we realised we smothered her with the cream and left her nappy off for a bit and luckily she was fine an hr later but yeah felt terrible whoops.
I still take naps, it helps with my behavior
😂 same usually around 3 must be elementary school days when done with classes 😂
24 year old mom of a 9 month old. Naps are life lol. I'm a better mother because of the occasional nap.
I think I just found my life mantra lol
My bf thinks I nap too much but I swear, he wouldn’t be able to handle me without them 💀
Ol' Mcdonald had a nap.
I feel bad for you!
Same lol I'm 31 and still get fussy if I haven't had my nap or my meals when I want them 🤣
Who tf doesn't pick up a crying baby?
Me....LOL!!
Nazi soldiers who burn babies
Onision
I've been told that often (especially by older folk): don't spoil your baby by carrying them too much, if they're fed and clean and still crying then just ignore them. It goes against every parental instinct, but it's still a surprisingly prevalent myth.
Latino parents 😂
why is everyone so mean about the readhead-lady? she actually says quite interesting things. maybe she could've let the other lady speak a little bit more but she seems very nice.
Allium Porrum it’s the way she talks that’s so obnoxious
@@nicoleknapsack257 I know but I think it's because she works so much with babies and toddlers. As she said, people naturally talk differently to them so they will learn language and I think her "explaining- mode" is automatically kinda toddlerish or parentese as she put it :)
Agreed. I don’t have a problem with her. She’s exaggerated and engaged, but that’s because she’s passionate. And it’s not even annoying.
because she is fuckin annoying
I didn't notice anything about her voice but it bothered me how she kept turning her whole body to talk to the other lady instead of talking to the audience. Her general body language was just all over the place too, I found myself wondering if she was on something.
My kids are in their teens now, but I'll never forget our pediatrician thanking us for calling in the middle of the night when we thought something was wrong, even when it turned out that what we were worried about was perfectly normal. It was the most amazing thing.
I'm sending it to my husband. So he knows how to treat me as as the baby I am.
Isabella S Ew
😂😂😂😂
This just took a weird turn 😂 but bully for you
Um
Hahahaha
I am *obsessed* with the woman on the left's personality. She is so endearing & captivating. The kind of doctor who will make you feel comfortable asking questions & going to see her. She seems really cool
Whose left
I am pretty sure he/she are talking about the blond woman
Moo Moo same!
@@unordsmec They said Left thats the red head. This is left 《 and this is right 》
I know right?! She’s such a mood!
My dad is a Pediatrician and I've heard him make these stuff clear to his patients a million times lol but they don't care -_-
Reasonably have a great day
Perhaps because they know their baby better than him. All babies are not exactly alike. While some of these things apply across the board, but some do not.
@@circedelune lol that sounds so dumb. A pediatrician is a medical worker, the parents are just parents and obviously want the best for their kid. But they cannot claim to know more than the pediatrician.
@@circedelune what in the hell😂 thats crazy
@@circedelune source - trust me bro
My mom told me I was a wildcard. I never took naps, was very energetic, almost never cried only laughed, needed an extra feeding at night because I used up all my energy, i stood before I crawled and my first word was “duck”. I was all over the place.
I never crawled. My mother said around 8 or 9 months old I used the edge of the sofa to stand up and then walked perfectly across the room, no wobbling, no falling.
Lol. My son, start walk 8.5 months, talking 8 monts was taking just 2 naps unti 1year old, them no one was eble to make he sleep. Always on the go. Today he is 14, very intelligent and still not sleeping much, nut way more calm.
Duck! That's so cute 😊
Maybe u meant to say F*** hahahahah
@@redroselace9545 could be but my brothers word was "tractor" (we are not even a farming family). So I think we just really liked the Barnyard
I’d rather spoil a baby than having a baby feeling emotionally neglected
"Spoiling" a child can only happen when they are old enough to understand cause and effect, an infant is not. Spoiling happens when you do not have consistent rules and boundaries that you enforce with a child. All children need secure attachment, love, and a responsive adult to develop normally.
It's always about balance, you dont want to spoil your kids but you dont want them to feel neglected either
Word :)
Clayton Paisley infants have been shown to understand cause and effect as early as 3 months of age. We’ve seen infants make the connection between ‘I cry’ and ‘mom comes running’ they also laugh because they find it funny. Later on in development you can even start ‘disciplining’ as early as 9 months. This discipline would not look like an older child’s discipline. It could be baby bites, parent picks up, parent give no emotional response. The baby starts to get uncomfortable because they’re not getting the emotional response they’re used to. It might last 10 seconds but through consistency the infant will eventually make the connection between ‘oh I do xyz and this unpleasant thing happens’ and the behavior reduces. Finally cortisol (the stress hormone) is set in an infant at about 6 months of age. So the important part of their attachment style forms from birth to 6 months. After that they will not produce any more cortisol then they levels they’ve already experienced. Some believe this is why emotionally neglected children tend to have more physiological signs of stress.
Haha sorry for the soapbox. 🙈
a person 🤦♂️
i always remember the No Honey rule bc in 1st year of vet school, when we were discussing bees, our prof said
"so can you give honey to a baby to help them sleep? well.. you CAN, but they aint waking up no more" 😭😭😭😭
Wait what
Lmaoo
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LMAO
Im proud of your teacher for making that point clearly memorable.👏
I love the red haired pediatrician. She's so engaging and seems like she makes every visit fun for both parents and children. She seems to care about others.
I think she's a little ott
She is a redhead
Jocelyn K She has no soul tho 😔
Floppy Dumpling actually, we’re the only ones with souls. The rest of ya’ll are just jealous
She's very engaging, but in an annoying way. She over enunciate words, and leans too much forward. She's a bit too 'in your face' for my liking. I feel like she talks to me as if I was a small child
Naps are not only necessary for the baby; they are necessary to give parents a break. When my baby is napping, I can center myself and take care of stuff around the house. Shoot, or take a nap myself!
Mom of 5 kids here, you can never cuddle your babies enough, the baby stage goes by so fast you'll never regret holding them.
Valerie Wood but doesn’t it make your child impossible to be handled by other adults. Doesn’t it make you child only want you and want to be constantly held?
kadeja mckinzie not really. I’ve been studying developmental psychology for a while and I’ve yet to see any evidence of this. Like they were saying, holding your baby is great for that parent child bond :)
@@kadejamckinzie3 I haven't experienced this. In fact that seems more to do with the baby than whether the parents hold them all the time or not. I know parents who practice the "don't always hold the baby" mantra but their baby positively dislikes others
@@kadejamckinzie3 no sorry I think you misunderstood my comment, I dont just carry around my babies all day that would alot on me lol I just pick them up when they're crying and also randomly to give them hugs and kisses. I also give them lots of time on the ground to be independent and explore their worlds using their bodies naturally and Ive never noticed my kids becoming clingy or overly attached to me. But I do have to say my oldest who is now almost 9, we have a great relationship compared to some other mother daughter relationships ive seen at that preteen stage.
Valerie Wood thank you so much I want to become a mother in the near future so I’m learning all that I can to be the best mother I can be.
I’m pregnant right now and I can’t imagine not letting my baby nap, and not giving him loving cuddles when he cries ...🥺 my heart couldn’t handle just letting him sit there while he cries
We are kind of wired to be like "omg the baby is crying what do I have to do to stop it!?"
I don't really look to biological essentialism for many things; usually arguments that something is "natural" are usually misplaced. and people want to attribute a lot of things to genetics and biology that really should not be. But that is one case where I think we are kind of hard-wired on both fronts. Genetically, attentive parents are selected for. By the same toke, noisy, demanding babies are selected for over quiet babies. Like, in those first months, a baby's survival depends both on the baby making its needs known, and on the parents being able to tend to its needs fairly rapidly.
Making the baby wait doesn't really help anyone, and just gives the baby a bunch of signals that things aren't peachy. It's adding a bunch of stressors that really don't need to be there.
So yeah, as a new parent, I don't understand how people can do that. It seems like the best thing is letting the baby know that no matter what happens, I will be right there with him.
My dad's mom literally would block my mom from coming to me when I cried. She said that one time they even locked the door to the room I was in bc I would get spoiled...
@@PandaJanna0604 wow thats the most effed up thing i’ve ever heard. your mom should’ve taken you and left
@@PandaJanna0604 my mom also said that she would just let me cry, but sometimes a baby just wants some interactions... i would never just leave it cry doesnt matter even if it just wants my attention ill give it!
@@PandaJanna0604 that is so messed up, how did your mother cope
Just had my first son three months ago. All of my friends and family told me I needed to stop waking him up every 2.5-3 hours on the dot even at night to feed him the first month. The whole don't wake a sleeping baby myth, but he was a preemie and it seemed so important to feed him a lot. I feel so much better about my choice after watching this! Same with my choice to just talk to him as if he were any other adult, full sentences and even big words. Thanks so much for the information :)
You did exactly the right thing. Especially for a preemie. They have some catch up growing to do & can also tire easily. Frequent feeds are best. Way to go new mommy!
Always do what feels right for you for your baby, not anyone else.
When feeling uncertain consider talking to your pediatrician! They know everything about you and your baby’s situation and will essentially give out the most accurate info, take care.
You did exactly the right thing. Newborn babies NEED to be fed every two to three hours. Depriving them of that is essentially the equivalent to starving their brain. People think it’s fine to just let them sleep when in reality it’s extremely harmful.
What’s worse? A baby not getting a full night’s sleep or a baby starving? It is actually that simple.
This video really helps me out :) I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first child and the amount of overwhelming and contradicting information I'm getting is insane. From all the well-meant tips I've gotten, only a couple seem to be correct. I'm not even a parent yet, but I'm already made to feel like I can never do it right. It's exhausting.
youre gonna be fantastic, good luck
I recommend reading Bringing Up Bébé by Pamela Druckerman, Expecting Better & Cribsheet by Emily Oster, and The Whole-Brain Child by Siegel & Bryson! I'm 30 weeks along with my first and these books have really helped me feel prepared for my son's arrival. They all help you sift through the nonsense that people spread about pregnancy, babies, and children.
Hope you and baby are doing well.
Highly recommend not using corporal punishment as well, it's proven that it can cause your children to have higher chances to develop mental illness. Also, patience is something you're gonna need. Hitting a child will only scare them, and make them fear you, and not understand that doing something is bad because it's not nice.
@@urgae9125 very true!
”Holding the baby is spoiling her”🤦🏻♀️ you can’t spoil a child with love and affection. When a child feels loved, and therefor safe, they know that their parent Will be there for them when they need them and keeping them safe. Instead of ignoring a crying baby, scared of ”spoiling them” by picking them up, they Will think that the parent will not come even tho he/She cryes after them and they Will get stressed. A baby comunicates by crying and they cry for a reason, to let their perent know that somentings not feeling right and they need their perents.
Right & holding the baby will help increase moms milk production
I hate when ppl say that
Today my baby cried so hard when I went to the toilet. She refuses everyone and I had to do business fast to comfort her 😂
This isn't necessary true. Babys are incredibly smarter than you think. If you comfort a baby when they are "crying" because you told them off or they couldn't get what they want they pick up that you are doing so and do it more often as they know all they have to do is cry and they'll get what they wont ( not trying to be mean just informative) 😁
@@ethanhall7108 a baby isn't going to know the difference tho. Babies just know they want food and pooped or some company
@@jai_lyricz ok you're intituled to your wrong opinion
When I was little I cried for God knows how long my mom called my pediatrician but even after trying everything I wouldn't stop crying, she called my dad and he left work early the moment he got home and picked me up I stopped crying.
lmao
Aww that’s sweet. Well sucks for your mom but cute story now that you’re older 😂
My baby cousin literally cries when his parents are just *ONE* inch away from him.
I believe u. My baby has 4wks born n she crys. Her lungs out and i give my husband the bby she stops crying n just looks at him all calm
@@log9700 I’m on the same boat with my baby. I don’t know how many experts advice to search trying ro find a solution, bur no one really gives an straight answer on how to tackle this. I have refused to let her crying , but it’s getting to a point that I’m not seeing many other options😞.
The redhead lady has such a Pediatrician behavior I can really imagine her talking to every parent this way XDD
Lol yes! Very animated, with alot of head movements
I actually got the feeling the other one was a bit annoyed by her animation 🤣
@@Sariahec lol me too!
@@Sariahec not really annoyed, i guess she just don't know how to handle it lol
OMG, I was going to say this!!
It's funny that when I tried to show my mother in law a couple of these myths, she in fact said that what they are saying are myths, and that honey wont hurt a baby, and giving a baby water is good. Im so glad that my husband is alive today!! and it goes to show that at some point whether true or not, ppl will believe what they believe.
Some people will never change their ways especially older generations they always think they know better than a doctor which is frustrating because I go through this with my toddler lol
Its so frustrating, my mother is the same! No matter what large studies prove, her way is the only way.
@Christina Fusco yes and it gets me thinking..i really hope i dont end up that way. Do you think that its just fate? We're just doomed to repeat our mothers and grandmothers ways by not believing what our kids and grandkids will tell us one day? I hope not. Lol
My mil is the same. Hubby is 40 years old. We have two babies. When she pulls the old way of doing things I jsit say there is 40 years of science to say that’s not the best way
I guess my thoughts are, if they did it and you turned out okay is it really that bad? 🤷♀️ Throw out the advice you don’t want and let it go.
I was an early talker. English teacher now. My brother didn't walk until he was almost two. He just became an attorney. Having a baby in the internet age must be so damn stressful.
It's only stressful if you allow it to be. The internet hasn't stressed me out whatsoever. Maybe it's the child psychology courses that I took that makes me not so concerned.
@@jessicaely2521 I respectfully disagree. My degree in psychology has taught me that various studies that looked into the impact of the social media age has increased expectant mothers' fear of not doing things "right" because we are bombarded with so many conflicting discourses that dictate how to "raise a child right"
That actually makes me feel a lot better. My daughter is almost 16 months old and still not quite walking. It’s hard to not worry if something is really wrong.
That's why I said MAYBE. Maybe doesn't mean definitely 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. Would you rather possibly instead of maybe?
It's been great to have the internet for me. The internet was the one that told me that you weren't supposed to put Vicks on a baby under the age of 2. When I was a kid my parents didn't know this. When I brought my daughter home from the hospital I found some blood discharge in her diaper. I jumped onto the internet and found it's totally common and they said when to start to worry. This saved me an extremely expensive trip to the hospital. In Switzerland the nurses want to do all of the diaper changes on the baby so they know what's going on with the baby. There was no discharge papers for me to sign, nothing telling me what to expect, and nothing telling me when to come to the hospital. I think there is no paperwork telling you about anything because they know that a midwife comes out to your house the day your baby is born or the day after
(I didn't pay a dime for the midwife. Midwives are paid by taxpayers).I passed a golf ball size blood clot about 9 days after I delivered. Of course it was after the midwife and she wasn't answering my phone calls. Again I jumped on the internet and found out it was totally normal for the first 2 weeks. The internet told me what to look for when my water broke. I swore I wouldnt be one of those moms that went to the hospital 100 times. After waiting the hour like the internet said I started to the hospital and 9 hours later I had a beautiful healthy baby girl.
I guess when new parents look things up the ignore the fact that there's always a range for things. Walking range is 9-18 months. At the end of 18 months is when you should start talking to the doctor.
@@SavannahReach
Don't stress my daughter is 17months and just started walking on her own. Before that she only walked while holding onto to someone or something.
My sister and I started out the same length as infants we have the same parents she ended up 5'4" and I'm 5'11" so infant size means NOTHING to adult size obviously. Strangely, my kid and my sis' 3 kids all ended up 5' 7".
I’m 5’3”
I was 9 pounds and 7oz forget the inches and now I'm 4'11 😂
I was way overdue at birth and came out 24"
My siblings and I were "big" for Asian standards so we weren't "overweight" by Western standards. We're Asian. We're 5'3, 5'6 and 5'2 as adults respectively.
For real, I'm not sure how long I was but I was almost 10 lbs as a baby, my bf was a modest 7lbs. Today I am 5'2 130 and he is 6'3 and 230.
Am I the only pregnant woman who appreciate this being recommended to me since it help me prepare for my baby.
ForAHint Classic nope im trying to mentally prepare myself as much as possible 😭
ForAHint Classic my daughter is ald 3 years old and i do find this helpful too ❤️
38weeks pregnant here :D
I have a 9 month old and I still find it helpful
@As4tori Sun yes. All of that. It helped so so so much
When I was a baby my mum was constantly worried about me because I barely ever cried just slept all the time. She asked so many doctors and turned out I was just a calm lazy baby.
When you do introduce your baby to new food, particularly if there is a risk of allergies, make sure it's not before bed time so if there is an allergic reaction you are around and can see it and seek medical advice
midorishiwa thank you!
midorishiwa you can’t have an allergic reaction to something you have not been exposed to before
Aleida Hernández. Then how do people have allergic reactions to their first bee sting?
@@clubito2 I'm allergic to thc and had never been exposed to it and then went into anaphylactic shock 10 years ago when exposed the first time and diagnosed at the drs.
@@clubito2 yes, you are not exposed to anything until you have it for the first time...
Me: I decisively don't want children.
RUclips: here's a video about babies
Me: I still don't want them. *Clicks on video.
That's what I thought as well! 🤣
😂😂😂 me too
But it's good to know when you have to babysit sit or may get a bonus child.
Same
Amanda H yes, my niece is my birth control, and my other sister is about to have her first kid so it’s nice to see these facts.
I honestly thought it said “pedestrian” in the title and thought: “But why would a random pedestrian know a lot about babies?”
Whatevenhappenshere What if it’s profesional PEDESTRIAN 🚶♀️
You made me LAUGH so much and i woke up my poor baby 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Whatevenhappenshere. You mean “Pediatrician/s”.
Lmaaoooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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watching this video just made me appreciate even more than i already do just how much time and love my mother was able to dedicate to me as an infant. she read to me, she spoke to me all the time, she played with me after a 12 hour workday every single day. I'm convinced it's that nurturing she gave me that led me to become such an early talker and an avid reader and "outdoors kid"
Conventional advice “Never wake a sleeping baby”
Twin mom advice: “if one baby wakes, wake the other to keep them on the same schedule.”
1000% or risk NEVER SLEEPING AGAIN
Omg too funny 😂😂 but i totally understand the reason why you would wanna do that😳
Lol. Good to know.
How do you manage two sleeping babyes in the same time? I always wondwred about that.
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'-I already got it'
*"Return it"*
her deadpan mom tone makes me feels like returning all of my amazon purchases despite none of them having anything to do with babies
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Honestly, my kids were in walkers.
But not until they could already walk.
I used it to keep them from getting into the kitchen or reaching places they weren't allowed.
i like how ginger head lady is listening so carefully and enthusiastically nods all at right moments, I feel she spends a lot of time with babies and almost acts like one:D And she almost never interrupts blond lady, only with short remarks just like all babies do:D
EDIT: my first time getting so many likes!:O
Thank you all, all I expressed in this comment is purely my opinion about ginger head lady, and it doesn't mean i don't like blond lady, and although I may not be the baby behaviour expert I'm still allowed to share my perception of them:) and thanks again for the likes and heated conversation!;3
Riya Kang As a mom, babies interrupt all the time and listening carefully and enthusiastically nodding at the right moments aren’t characteristic of a baby.
@@slhense68 okay:c but she feels like a baby no? I think babies can be different, although I know i never shut up when i was one:D
@riya kang. That lady is a doctor.
She's an experienced physician. She knows its her job to listen intently to countless distressed/worried parents with a sick child. Obviously she's very good at it.
It’s called active listening skills
She is a great pedia, well they both are. You can tell they are really passionate about their careers and I love that, wish more physicians were this connected
My cousin had her first kids in 2020 and the amount of reading and learning she had to do is astounding... I never knew you'd need to learn so much about a new born human
Why do you say human instead of person?
@@heiroot
It's wierd right?
As if we need to differentiate them from newborn aliens.
Crap like this is suppressing humans natural instincts....
@@heiroot Humans is the correct term to generalise the living thing we're referring to. A person is usually used to denote one particular human with its own personality. Thus it's correct to say "We learn about the safety of handling newborn humans." Instead of "newborn persons".
I wish I could send this to the older women in my family. They all think I’m spoiling my 7 week old because I hold her a lot. And don’t let her cry longer then a few minutes if I could help it
Google attachment parenting, it's what you are doing. It is a natural way to a parent it goes with your gut instincts. Don't listen to the older generation who were told by doctors to let your baby cry. They were influenced by a pediatrician called doctor Spock and unfortunately it's followed down to other Generations. I used to breastfeeding and attachment parenting with all my children they turned out successful.
I always tell new mom pick them up and hold them as much as you can they’re only babies for awhile!!.
Hey, if it helps to hear this then I was always (apart from when crawling) carried in a baby sling by my mum (out shopping, around the house etc.) or a baby backpack thingy by my dad (when he went on dog walks) and given lots of cuddles and contact growing up, and it's been a big contributing factor to me feeling confident within myself and growing up not spoilt but completely loved!
My boyfriend gave me crap too, you hold that baby as much as you both want it’s perfectly natural and will do nothing but strengthen your bond ❤️
Hey if you hold your baby too much... you'll be criticized. If you let you baby cry... you'll get criticized. Because we naturally think that our parenting is the best parenting when in reality... you have to follow some rules of course, but education... is so different from one family to another. If your baby and you are healthy and happy, continue to do what you are doing.
Can we also talk about pregnancy myths. I can't stand hearing this..."Oh, you have acid reflux? your baby is hairy." Really? Ohhh, I though it was just my stomach that was in my chest. smh
Flower I had heart burn with every kid and my 3rd son was BALD so that’s a myth lol
@@kendralopez4530 did u call him calilou?
ChinDraws lmao no because his skin tone was a little tan lol
Actually this one is true. Apparently constant acid reflux reflects a high level of a certain hormone that is responsible for your baby having more hair.
Edit: Not all the time, but it is a trend.
@@kendralopez4530 Of course there is more than one reason for having heart burn, but the myth is actually true, apparently. Heart burn can be a symptom of the presence of a hormone responsible for the full head of hair. It doesn't mean that every mother has heart burn for one reason, of course, so it isn't a reliable indicator.
These pediatricians are talking Parentese to us. 😅
kristianmag hahahahaha
Yes!! 🤣🤣
Only one is a Pediatrician
You’re right, the other is a psychologist 😂
Omg hahahahah
Blonde is talking so calmly.
Ginger is talking so clearly.
I kinda wanna see how they are with babies now please.
OML yes pls 🙂
Unfortunately too many parent lack the ability to do both, and I’m curious to see who has the ability to do both effectively and how their kids grow up.
They have names
I dont trust either with my family
@@sungchansaegyo5058 well i didn't pay enough attention to remember.
I love how different these two women are and neither changed their demeanors to match the other. Absolutely wonderful!
Ha I was like these ladies’ energies are like oil and vinegar but together they work.
One is irritating thou...
@@anamariajuch-calero6116 which one ? The red haired?
Is that a common thing for people to imitate people they are interacting with in a setting like this?
Am I the only pregnant person watching this 😂 this video is a godsend, right on time! I'm being treated at Mount Sinai for this pregnancy so I look forward to possibly working with their teams!!!
Sanam Jamshidi Nawaz Good luck!!!
Me too! 13 weeks left
Im pregnant tooo. 25 weeks and im glad i came across this video 😄
Sanam Jamshidi Nawaz The first few months will be hard but it’s amazing so enjoy every moment and if you don’t have the energy to tidy the house or put fresh clothes on and leave the house. Don’t. Feed the baby until it’s not hungry so if formula feeding if it finishes the bottle, feed again until it rejects the bottle. White noise on RUclips is your friend when baby is crying and most of the items you get you will not use lol
Make sure you stock up on freezer meals the last 2 months
“Don’t spoil your baby”
I’m sorry the only way they can communicate is through crying. If you don’t immediately help them, then you are 100% neglecting them. You don’t know if they’re hungry, if they’ve spoiled themselves, if they need cuddles, or whatever. Take care of your children.
P Damien dude I’ve been a nanny for years. You cannot spoil a LITERAL BABY.
Cool dude. I agree that you cannot spoil a little baby by picking them up when they cry! But yeah as a nanny you get paid and then give them back at the end of each day. However, for us parents without nannies, or any help at all, it simply isn't always feasible to "immediately" pick up our crying babies. 5 minutes of crying whilst we go to the toilet, or maybe get a moment to shower or eat, wont harm them. In an ideal world we wouldn't experience fatigue or maybe we would all have nannys. So dude, I would totally say that not immediately picking up a crying baby is not "100% neglect". I would say 100% of parents are guilty of neglect if this is the case. Never picking up a crying baby or hardly picking them up is neglectful of course.
I guess it depends on the age
@Sofía Roura maybe op should have worded it better then. Sounded pretty scaving to me.
@@damien706 Do you let your babies sit in their own shit because you want them to learn not to cry
This was the most unbiased, accurate discussion of facts I’ve heard from the mainstream medical community 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I would have agreed with you until they shared the allergy myth about introducing peanuts (or other things) at 4-6months. No solids should be introduced until after 6months and even then not until certain milestones are reached. The 4-6m intro research is from food industry so profit biased.
I'm an immunologist, and the food allergen avoidance in early life recommendation has been so incredibly difficult to reverse! I am so glad you brought it up. It is something that many people, healthcare providers included, are not aware of.
My son is now 22 and when I had him I was told by pediatricians to not give him any food until 6 months because there are allergies in my family.
He has hay fever and if I had to do it again I would give him food at 4 months, he was breastfeeding and it was constant and he never slept. I can say it didn't work for us and sometimes doctors are wrong.
Can you please elaborate on this? Like does avoiding the foods the child is "allergic" to cause him to have that allergy for life?
Wait, whut? You mean all that careful introduction of foods gradually was a waste of time??!
@@heavencentric2276 It's a phenomenon called "oral tolerance." The gist is that if a foreign particle is introduced to the immune system via the GI tract, that educates the immune system to not respond to it (tolerance). It's how your immune system learns to not respond to food.
If the first exposure is through skin or respiratory tract, which are ways by which potential pathogens can invade the body, the immune system is more likely to recognize that as a foreign object to react to.
If you have existing food allergies, one possible treatment is called "oral immunotherapy treatment," which is medically supervised intake of the allergic foods in small amounts. Essentially this retrains your immune system to become tolerized to the allergen.
@@2degucitas That is correct. That medical advised was based on a study that found that infants have more permeable IG tract than adults. It did not link delayed food introduction to allergies in anyways.
However, the advice for withholding potential food allergens allowed for subsequent medical studies in children comparing the effects of delayed food introduction. It was found that the incidence of allergies increased when children were not introduced to potential food allergens early in life. These findings lead to the reversal on the advise.
My oldest started saying single syllable words at five months, and walked at eight months Hasn’t really stopped speaking since haha, my youngest walked at nine months and didn’t utter a word until 18 months. Both are bright happy smart kiddos.
Code Name I think some kiddos are just ready to go! They want to do what they see you doing and are showing independence early. Some other kiddos are a little more laidback and take their time because they know that mom or dad is right there for them! I like to think it’s a personality thing
Haha. It's a running joke in my family that when I was a baby (and even as an adult) I'd wait until I was perfect before doing something. I was a late talker, but spoke first I'm sentences, not words. Late walker, but I could run almost as soon as I could walk. So much personality for sure! 🤷♂️
My little girl was making animal sounds around the 5 month mark and could name a few animals and family members by 8 months. She basically hasn’t had day time naps or shut up since she started talking haha. She’s not 2 until end of next month and will use full sentences. Tonight I asked her to get ready for bed and she said “No thank you mammy, I can’t go to bed yet” when I asked why she said “well, I don’t want to. We watch Steven universe on telly first? Then maybe bedtime”
Like, you’re 22 months old...I’m not arguing with your logic, go to bed please haha
My niece talked a lot at five months, becuase she learned from her sisters, but didn't walk until she was a year old. Now she walks everywhere though.
@@freemodulation my best friend was like that. Didn't speak until she was 3... and then she ran through the house wet from climbing out of the tub and named EVERYTHING. She was reading novels by 5. My brother walked before he ever crawled and when he crawled, he crawled backwards. Babies are weird.
Skipping naps also trains your baby and kid 3 or younger to stay up when they are tired. So, at bedtime if they would rather play, they are very good are forcing themselves awake.
That explains a whole lot...
that actually makes perfect sense.
Me
It all adds up😭
Sounds like the perfect way to train up a productivity machine, nice
I have a 4 year old and 8 month old. While moms were lamenting about how many times their kids woke up in the middle of the night, I freaked as both my kids slept through after 6 weeks. I would wake up and check on them, rouse them. They would wake up and then fall back to sleep, wanted nothing to do with the boob until 6 a.m.
I have a 9 month old. He’s been sleeping through the night since he was 13 pounds. I believe he was 3 months old. Even as a newborn I had to wake him up at night to feed him. 70% of the time as a newborn he would wake me up right at about every 3 hours but there was that 30% where it’s 4-5 hours. By the time he was 3 months. I would have to wake him up and it was causing him to be frustrated and fall asleep while drinking the bottle and not even finish it. So I asked the pediatrician and she said once he gets 13 pounds let him sleep through the night. Just make sure he gets enough formula during the day. I was so happy. And 6 months later he still sleeps through the night. From 8:30pm-7:00-30am you don’t hear a peep from this boy. He would have the occasional wake up at 3am but I go in there put his pacifier back in his mouth and he falls back to sleep without any fight.
He sleeps through out the day and takes 2 hour naps at least 2-3 times a day.
He only cries when he’s hungry or he’s tired or he accidentally hurts himself. Literally that’s it. He don’t cry for nothing else. So he’s the worlds easiest baby lol
He doesn’t want to be held all the time. I can put 2-3 toys in his crib and he won’t say shit. Only his cooing or laughing.
He comes to my job (I work at a daycare) he’s literally the best baby/child there. The director loves him so much he’s the only child she’s buying a present for. Lol
I’m truly blessed to have my son lol
Oh and he’s been in his crib in his own room since 3 months. Not bc I wanted to but because he wanted to😅
I had his bassinet right by my bed but when I moved in my sleep it would shake his bassinet and he would automatically wake up and be upset he’s awake 🤣 the moment I put him in the crib is when the true sleeping through the night became a reality.
Oh goodness. That must full-time job having babies
All 4 of my kids would fall back to sleep within a few minutes into feeding. Waking them up also ticked them off greatly!
My babies were all great night sleepers, too. I would wake up several times a night just to check if they’re ok, breathing, looking healthy, moving. My initial thoughts were always mixed with feelings of worries, apprehensions why they didn’t cry in the middle of the night. ;)
I have a 4.5 month old and she'd wake my up every 1 - 1.5 hours until I let her sleep in my bed with me one night. She hasn't been back in her bassinet since and sleeps 12 hours. I just leave a boob out for her and she'll latch when she needs to then falls back asleep lol
These myths seem to come from a culture that admires suffering and devalues love.
“But I want Aiden to grow up and work in a Fortune 500 company.”
Of course you do, Karen. Of course you do.
I demand that you make more comments!!🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
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Aiden and Karen in one sentence 🤮🤮🤮
It's very hard to teach the traditional grandparents about the new era of taking care of babies
Exactly! They would say the same story, over and over again "well, you didn't die and we are the ones that raised you..." I am honestly a little concerned on how to deal with my parents after I give birth, because I really don't want to add sugar/sweets/cakes/cookies in my childs diet too soon, and as far as I have seen my parents, they have no problem feeding sugary cake to my brothers daughters. And the young one is only 10 months old. I would be really angry if they do this to my soon to be born daughter... It's stressing me out just by thinking about it
@@heviutza I would set boundaries with them, and if they don't listen, they don't get to see her. Sounds harsh, but you might have a specific regimen for your baby that works for her. They need to adhere to that, and if they don't, they can't get alone time with her
I’m not sure what type of grandparents yaw had but everything these women talked about is what my grandmother taught me years ago.
@@tabbijoy6448 Things like stretching the baby to strengthen the muscles , giving the baby under six months little tip of water especially if in the summer and the baby is hot etc
@@heviutza yea too much sugar can cause a stomach upset.
But your mother should respect your wishes. If she gets too much it's best to cut off. It's hard but you need to choose.
My mom always told me that my little brother was tiny at birth. He grew up to be a tree.
@Lilas Duveteux so was groot😁
Same with my cousin! He was a tiny tinyyy baby (you'd think he would be a fragile kid) but here he is being 1m87 at age 13😅
@@nadiaarsenijevic8594 WHAT
Yeah my 5 year old and I share clothes I'm 4'11/5ft tall n he's basically my height. My 4 year old is so tiny. So we'll see how big they get
Yep
My daughter was tiny as at birth at 40 weeks,4 pound odd.
She's bigger than her brother.he was normal weight at 38 weeks birth.
( grown adults now )
My first was a delayed walker and crawler (11 months and 18months respectively) and he is perfectly normal now as far as motor control and learning skills. I was told by a nurse that if he didn't crawl (on time) he wouldn't be able to read. This was crap. He was reading by age 4. My other child was an "early walker" (8months), and very late talker (3.5 years). They are highly intelligent and the same in motor skills as their older brother. They both read at the same rate. The youngest is into roller derby, and the oldest is into skateboarding
I was a late walker too and grew up to become an athlete so there's that. im glad your kids are doing great too and skateboarding is fun!
That sounds pretty normal to me?
Anytime up to 18 months is fine.
Amazed how worried I was for all my children to walk talk at the right time, but most just do it, so all that worry for nothing.
Always know someone who claims to have a perfect baby!
I didn’t walk till I was 2 years but at three had memorized a whole chapter in Quran hearing from older siblings( my dad told me) and my learning is fine and now I’m a Doctor.
This pediatrician seems like her patients (kids) probably love her. She is so fun!
I remember absolutely adoring my pediatrician as a child. I hadn't met that many people at that age but I knew he was the best one I had ever met! Dr. Curtis shout out to you!
Errhka this is so sweet 😭
Errhka gave him a whole shout out 😂😂
I’m a pregnant lady with a 2 year old... I’m always sleepy... My daughter gets super cranky when she doesn’t get her mid-day nap!!! So we take naps faithfully.
Cupcake Hagar I’m also pregnant with a one year old and I recently had to move back with my mother, she was trying to get him to skip Naptime so he’ll “go to sleep earlier and stay asleep longer” and I had to explain that him not sleeping during the day just makes him a worse sleeper at night
I’m pregnant with my 5th. Oldest two at school, 5 year old gets to watch a movie after lunch while the 3 year old and I both have naps. I’m a much better mother and my 3 year old has much better emotional regulation if we get our naps. Nap them as long as you can get away with it! My oldest napped until a few months before kindergarten! It was amazing! My older kids still need a “rest” time, usually after coming home from school and having a snack. They don’t sleep, but have 15 minutes to just be alone with their thoughts. My oldest usually chooses to read and my second usually plays with his LEGO. School is hard work on their brains!
Brooke Smith What do you mean by saying “I’m a much better mother...”
Cupcake Hagar i think she meant shes a better mom when she gets her naps :)
My almost 3 year old gave up naps forever ago lol. After she turned 2, it rarely ever happened.
Almost 80% of this is what my partners mother beliefs in and I mean, she’s almost 50, I don’t blame her for believing in these myths as she is the type of person that doesn’t know how to use a computer or anything like that, and was just told all of this by HER parents when she was growing up and had her kids, since they didn’t have access to any of this info and well yeah.
And I still listen to her but 99.99% of the time I do the opposite of what she says. I did believe the “put honey in the pacifier” when she told me that and holy crap I did not know it was that dangerous to do that. Thankfully my baby was just born a few days ago so I haven’t given him a pacifier yet and now that I watched this video I know what not to do so THANK YOU!
Keep researching and do what you think is right. Be firm with others when it comes on to your baby. You are the Mama.
I'm a dental nurse and we see a lot of problems with babies teeth when people do things like that or feed a lot during the night as well, also don't put sugar or honey in their drink xx congratulations on your bub!
ImGlad imYellow just saves a baby’s gums
I totally feel you on this. My grandmother in law tried to put my baby down for a nap with a blanket and pillow in a full sized adult bed!! I never let her have my baby out of my sight after that. One time I wasn't feeling well and let her take my baby out of my sight for about an hour and I swear to god the baby came back with a rash all over their face and I still don't know why... :(
@@bluetrapp9502 why is sleeping in an adult sized bed bad for the baby? I'm genuinely curious
The most scary thing about this is that even some pediatricians believe those myths. Like the fever-teething thing for instance. I remember how my sister was told by her pediatrician how teething was to blame for my nephews fever.
Some doctors are sadly outdated.
I couldn't believe it when we had multiple parents bring in doctors notes saying it was okay for their infant to attend daycare with a fever "as the baby is just teething and not sick". Unsurprisingly, we ended up with more sick babies as a result. My pediatrician said that babies are more likely to get some of these symptoms (fever, runny nose, diarrhea, etc) not because teething causes it but because teething babies stick everything in their mouths increasing odds of getting a virus of some kind.
My brother, in the first week his son was born told our father that he was gonna start sleep training, because he couldn't handle being woken up multiple times a night. My dad told the story at my daughter's 3rd birthday.
Every parent in the room laughed.
My dad tried to stay awake with my mom while she fed my older sister. It was just his way of trying to be supportive. One night, while they were talking, he stopped responding. Mom gently tapped his shoulder, and he fell over on the couch asleep. Mom left him there for the rest of the night, then told him to just stay in bed and sleep because one of them might as well.
I would laugh too. Sorry, part of parenting a new born. The sleep deprivation is rough!
@@simplywhimsysoaps1267 night nanny it is
It’s really frustrating when people so readily believe everything some random person said but not actual valid and medical professionals
To be fair a lot of doctors don't know shit about raising a baby.
Doctors are taught very specific skills and knowledge. Back in the 50s, doctors were looked up to like gods, and that attitude still lingers a bit. If I break my leg or need surgery or have a sickness that simply won't budge, I'm going to a doctor. But for other things? I'll seek out different professionals like nutritionists, midwives, etc.
Such as antvaxxers
lynbabysusu Like the vaccine myths 😒
I just want to let you all know that a medical professional/health professional is not only a doctor. That term refers to any person who is a professional in the medical field, which could be a pediatrician, nutritionist, gynecologist, psychiatrist, and even a veterinarian. So saying doctors don’t know anything about babies and to go somewhere that does specify in that area is not a sensical response to this comment.
Babies are like cats. No matter what toy or bed you give a cat they'll find something else like a bag or cardboard boxes
Lol haaaaaha you are correct.
Totally agree. My baby girl ignored colorful bright toys for a black string.
Or wall outlet, TV remote, dirty shoes, fork.. fork??? Where did you even get a fork???? STOP RUNNING COME BACK YOURE GONNA GET HURT ..toddlers are insane tiny people
I swear to god, if I ever lose my phone, I just need to put my baby down and he’ll find it for me. He ONLY wants my phone and cords. No toys😂😂
I work in a daycare, and you're completely right 😂
My youngest son cried for 8+ hours a day when he was between 14-16 months. He lost all his words, had a massive regression, and my doctor’s advice was “toddlers have tantrums”. At 6, he has multiple developmental delays. I WISH I could go back in time and have an informed doctor who would have looked farther into it.
@@KVOTHE_33 no.
@@KVOTHE_33ew, your comment is the ugliest one out of all the braggers. Congratulations for overcoming such incredible odds.
Look into doing a heavy metal detox 👀
Some parents be like ....
but Google said this
STTOOOPP PLEASE
Google doesn't asks you to believe in myths.
Unless you googled the American Academy of Pediatrics page.
@Ooohbopbopboppadoohwah exactly! And it's a damn good one too that it will find anything whether from a verified trusted source or not. That's what people need to look into, the damn source of the information!
I don’t have any kids and this sounds so complicated lol. Thanks Mom for keeping me alive!
It is tiring but not that complicated. They are you just smaller and newer.
I remember watching this video awhile back in case a had a baby, I was overwhelmed by the amount of info. Now, I have an 8month old baby I rewatched because it was suggested. Everything makes more sense now.
Baby s are ok .. when they get older it s a job
Kids are so awesome that they are worth the effort to figure them out. It's frustrating, but its fun.
It really comes naturally to you. It’s instinct. I was surprised at how smooth it was. And I was alone. Your baby will be perfectly made just for you.
To everyone in the comments: see you in ten years when we actually have kids
Mary Jane Over my dead body. I reject this omen.
Rude.
Yea you'll have lil newborn babies n I'll have teenagers (15, 14. And 11)
Lmao I’m 19 and you don’t have to have kids
I’m 28 so more like 1-2 years for me
Even with an older child who wants lollipops for dinner, I'd argue picking them up and holding them won't spoil them - giving them lollipops will. Acknowledging their feelings, both in your actions and your words (eg "oh, I know, you wish you could have lollipops all the time"), helps them process their emotions and learn coping skills. They learn that acting upset will not get them what they want, but it will get them help with calming down and dealing with not getting what they want.
This works with husbands too
THIS is spot on the perfect way to explain spoiling vs teaching/comforting/coping skills.
Naps are always necessary, tf
Well you're not a baby, so you don't need to..
@@poppytielmann7611 im baby c'mon
-every college student ever
For both the baby and your own sanity
Currently 3 months pregnant. I’m going to struggle trying to convince my Hispanic mom with some of these 🙂
Don't worry they won't understand but your baby your rules done let anyone make you feel like you are making bad decisions. I have my 1st baby and I hold her all the time. I tell and show my mom how to take care of her.
By the way I'm guessing baby is here or close? Boy or girl?
Good luck. How’s it going so far?
Congratulations!!
By now you are struggling with your mom, just be really direct with the things you are not going to accept and make her know that your baby's health is more important than anything. I hope everything went ok, and enjoy your baby.
The redhead is so exuberant and animated. Because of her I watched the whole video
It was a bit extra and overly exaggerated for me....I scrolled down so I didn't have to watch her animation. lol Funny how different people like different things.
@@stephanier6783 same I was actually kind of put off by her, I much preferred the blonde lady
@@noxaccio4988 Yes, the blonde lady was much preferred for me.
With young kids, it's good to be more animated, as they get bored very easily (and so do some adults). It makes sense to me that a pediatrician might need to be more animated for her audience, though. I'm definitely not that audience. lol
She was giving me anxiety!
I liked both of them lmao
I saw a documentary where moms in ALL languages spoke parent-ees to their babies in their own tongue. It was wonderfully rewarding as a mom of 3. I had never heard the expression paren-ees until today! Thank you!!
Best parenting tip: don’t listen to people! 99% of advice you will get is wrong
When someone gives advice you always say, "thanks, I might try that next time" and then you go do whatever the hell your doctor or you think is best. Older relatives especially seem to have outdated advice that is sometimes harmful so be polite but then do what you want to do or have been told by a medical professional.
@@hayley534 Not even the doctors, hun. Most of them don't even have children of their own, but think because they're with DIFFERENT babies and kids 10+ hours a day, that they're automatically experts. EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT.
Don’t listen to people, but do read good parenting books.
Kaycee Milam of course! The best thing is to do your own research, but only using reputable sources: books, paediatricians, research papers etc. But the amount of rubbish advice I got from people who I hadn't even asked was incredible. Even elderly men had an opinion on how I should raise my child, which is ironic considering none of them had ever even changed a nappy.
Mulan 121 definitely. Tons of bad advice from random people.
“Babies who walk and talk early are the brightest of their peer group”
I talked at 10 months old and walked at 8 months old.... I’m still an idiot 😂 dang those myths
You're likely very smart but not that disciplined. Add some discipline and watch your life take a great ascent.
Einstein didn't start talking until he was 4 years old.
I have a high capacities student that didn't start talking until later. Her started talking already very adult-like.
Never call yourself an idiot please. You are amazing just the way you are.
My cousin started talking at 7, he knew every country with their capital and every parts of your body in and out.
“Putting honey on a binky will help with teething”
Me, knowing that babies can’t digest honey properly: *concerned*
Papa Christ It is not that they can't digest honey. Honey can contain a toxin which babies can't fight, so giving them honey can cause botulism!
I can see where it's coming from tho. Honey does have anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory properties, so in theory it could help reduce the pain of teething. However, babies can't fight off that specific toxin that honey can have which I already forgot the name of, so giving them honey can be dangerous. It's counter-intuitive if you don't have all the information.
@@Thenoobestgirl "Botulism"
@@31browny yes, that.
I remember getting upset about it, because I learned about the bacteria and my dad's ex wife who's a doctor got mad when I objected when she gets a 2 month old. Tried justifying it with religious "history"... Like... Okay kill the baby, it's not gonna be my fault.
As a premature infant I was born with very weak legs, my parents were asked by the pediatrician to make sure they buy a walker for me. The logic was that once I am old enough for them suspension in the walker but in a way that my I am either forced to stand and support my weight on my feet or I have my feet barely a centimeter off the ground (not me on my tiptoes) would help muscle development and blood circulation. Seems like it worked because I was an early walker and I have totally normal legs now.
Some children benefit from a walker, the majority do not. It's a good idea for parents to listen to a medical professional who knows their individual child's case in preference over a RUclips video giving generalized advice, because there's a lot of exceptions to these rules. For example, if you have a child with a motor disability like cerebral palsy or spina bifida, introducing a walker or wheelchair at the same age that a typical child would be learning to walk can be extremely helpful for their motor and cognitive development.
I when worked at a day care, Some of the children where delayed in walking by 2 months is was at that point we started using them with the parent and Dr. Approval
Got to learn so many things only to forget all of them eventually.
I HATE when people say don’t pick up your baby so much, it’ll spoil her. Wtf! It’s a BABY! It won’t be a baby forever and so what if it spoils her? I’m the one dealing with it and absolutely loving it. As she gets older she won’t even want to be picked up anymore, it’s not like I’m going to go around carrying a 10 year old. Geez. My older kids don’t even want to hug me anymore let alone carry.
I saw a study not long ago that said u cant coddle (Give too much affection) a baby too much, i think people dont differentiate between spoiling and affection
Lily people are ignorant
Lilly idon’t do that with toddlers because it will become a bad habit and they’re gonna want to be picked up constantly. And also I’ve seen babies cry for no absolute reason other than they want to be held it does happen because babies are aware they aren’t stupid they understand if they cry they get picked up even when they do it just to be held.
The Tea what's wrong with that? Babies (and older kids) need affection.
The Tea in my opinion, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. Yeah picking up a baby can become a habit into their toddler years for the first 4 years and some parents can find it annoying. But I really don’t, because I have a 9 and 11 year old whom I used to pick up aaallll the time but once they turned 4 or 5, that was it. They didn’t want to be picked up anymore. So what’s 4 years of constantly picking up a beautiful little sweet child compared to the rest of their growing life that you will never ever be able to ever again? that’s just my thoughts :)
"Naps aren't necessary" I'm 22 and I still need a naptime 😂
Same here
I feel this applies to all under the age of 25...
Govindh Menon definitely! Because their brains are still developing. The Netflix series Babies shows that when we sleep, we move things from short term memory to long term memory. So it’s definitely going to be so important for so many people! Also, sleep is great haha.
I'm in my 40s 'n need a nap from my life.... Lol
Im 25 and I still take naps🤣
Agree strongly with the early talking/walking thing. I walked at 9 months and talked early. My brother didn't speak really until 3 and walked after one. He graduated as top boy of the school and graduated with honors. He's at university with a scolarship. I left school young and I'm not stupid but my brother is far more smart than I.
Honey bottle: 'not for children under 12 months'
People: lets put it on a dummy to help teething-
I'll be honest I never heard that.
@@jacksparrowismydaddy I live in germany maybe that's why..
@@aokimika9249 ah. we have some harmful myths too... we still have gran'mas that insist a bit of whisky rubbed on their gums with sooth teething, or that we should let them sit in a dirty diaper to build up a tolerance to germs... we also have anti-vaxxers but I think that's a world wide epidemic...
@@jacksparrowismydaddy ah.. hm.. I dont know what myths we have.. I heard that letting the baby crawl around without a diaper makes them dry (that the word?) earlier.. wich makes sense to me but..
Also they get some air-
@@aokimika9249 I think it staves off diaper rash. when mine got it I let her not wear it for a little bit but I had to be ready cause she was unpredictable
"never look at chat rooms" Never go to a facebook mommy group when something serious happened! I see it all the time. Simple advice sure that's fine but I constantly see people looking for actual medical advice 😨
There are somewhere around 50 million ppl that get all their information from Facebook. Then they share that as if it is fact and infect the planet. I remember in the late 90s teaching my parents how to use a computer, this is what that got us.
@@bandofmountains Yep, should have never taught them, and convinced them it was only for the younger generations, let em get their info from the local paper instead.
This. It's really scary how people will believe anything on FB or get into intense arguments over silly things about other people's children...etc etc.
@@bandofmountains LOLOLLL
This is partially myth. 😊
me: no kids
also me: let me apply dis knowledge to my puppy
Just remember to not put your puppy on a walker, and don't bounce it! It'll get bowl legs
Tbh that’s not a good idea
It does not work to my kitten
My new puppy is scary, he wants to bite my hands all the time for no reason and he isnt vaccinated yet. He is just 7 weeks old but he also already knows Rated 18 actions. Can someone help meeeee hes also a babyyyyy I havent spent time with him since the time he tried to attack me
Megan don’t worry I have a puppy. Around 7-8 weeks that’s when they start teething so you could get them some teething toys. Also the rated 18 actions does not mean he wants to have minions of his own, it actually means he is portraying acts of dominance. My puppy went through the same things and the vet reassured us it was normal.
These ladies are awesome. I am pregnant with my first, and this is making me feel so much better. I can’t wait to love, care, and play with my little baby! Thanks for helping me feel like I got this 😉
Lady in blue reminds me of Claire Dunphy/Pritchett from Modern Family.
This is so true
OMG IT WAS UNCANNU
Omg you’re right
Oh wow i can't unsee it😐
Omg right on lol
My mother and I got it the biggest fight about the walker thing. She kept pestering me and pestering me about it and I kept telling her no. My daughter didn’t walk until 18 months, so before that we had her tested by a state program for delays. I didn’t tell my mom about it until afterward because I knew she would freak and also it’s my kid, not hers. When I told her, she starts screeching at me, “Who are these people? How do they know anything? You should’ve gotten her a walker! She’d be walking right now if you did!” Well, it’s two years later and she’s been walking just fine, sooooo...
jesslesinski Yup!!
And a lot of people don't realize that using walkers will actually end up making your kids pigeon toed or bow legged.
They are NOT good.
Used to fight with my ex mother in law about it 🙄
Walkers are banned in Canada. I have a friend who wanted to sneak one over the border, bc she was convinced they would help her baby walk faster. Im like
Noooo!
I read about this online so I didn’t give my baby a walker. He’s still not walking. My 2 sister in laws gave their babies walkers and they started walking by 10-11 months. They walk Normal, not bowl legged or anything like that. That’s why I don’t believe these things anymore.
Umm Abdullah that just happens to be your situation though. i had walkers when i was young and couldn’t walk on my own until 2 years old. it’s different for each child. doesn’t mean they will be unsuccessful in life at all. motor development does not equal cognitive development
caitlyn Exactly! That’s what I mean. It doesn’t make any difference if you use a walker or not. No positive or negative outcome, physical nor cognitive.
Thank you!! Thank you for the part about the babies being bow legged! My in laws tried to make me feel like such an awful mother because my son was bow legged when he started walking. He started walking at 9mos, and I tried to tell them it was normal, that he's walking early. Went to a pediatrician, and a pediatric podiatrist, and they all said I was right, but the in laws continued to try and make me feel awful. So, thank you so much!!!
And the peanuts!! They also attempting to make me feel like a failure, because I let my son have a couple french fries, and they said I was awful because it could have been made with peanut oil. Not because I gave them french fries, but because of the damn peanut oil. I tried to tell them it was a myth, but they, again, insisted I was wrong. 😑
@@Disgruntled_Fork I di t think I've ever seen a baby eat "baby food" my entire life. Maybe it's my country but the shit I can live on wouldn't kill my kid, he's not a dog as in dogs with chocolate.
ur in-laws are aholes, ur baby is lucky to have a smart mother !
Throw the whole in laws out bestie u know better
In-laws are stupid and annoying. I suggest the one-finger salute.
Agree with almost all of this, except what is said with the influence on sleep after three months. It is known that many children go through sleep regressions between 4-6 months and actually need more feedings and more closeness than younger babies… AND THAT IS OK! No need for sleep training there!
Enjoy those special cuddles while you can❤ my baby started sleeping through the night at 14 months once I cut the night time breastfeed because I’m pregnant and started the weaning process. Now I lay awake after numerous trips to the bathroom and wouldn’t mind a little cuddle from her😂 not long until her baby brother will be here….still have at least another 18 months of interrupted sleep aka immense love for my beautiful babies🫶🏽 I also hear once you’re a mother - you never sleep again! Just something I have accepted, and would happily sacrifice for their comfort. I could never hear my darling cry and knew sleep training wasn’t an option for her or me. Each to their own! I also had the privilege of not going back to work, so what is time when no alarm telling you to get up and go.
I love how expressive the lady on the left is.
Expressiveness is important when interacting with children. It's also an important element in sign language, which can help you communicate your child. It can also help you communicate without your child (if mommy and daddy need to talk about grown-up things).
I prefer the way of the right one 🤷
Me too
@Lyk Dat she looks collected and sophisticated. I love that.
Haha when I was a child, the doctors thought my parents were abusing me because I didn't know how to walk but when they tried the other skillset, like fine motor skills, I was able to do so many things other children could not! I was an early talker too. I guess I just didn't want to walk because my parents carried me everywhere and I was lazy.
Me too, same.
My son has been very slow on his motor skills. We almost had him evaluated by ECI to check for delays. BUT the same thing! He's been ahead with his social, language, and fine motor skills! Luckily I have a great pediatrician who simply pointed out that, yes we should monitor it, but sometimes babies focus on growing some skills over others.
I walked early, fine motor skills perfect etc.. buuuuut talking .. didn't start talking till I was 4.. I said mamma, pabbi (dada) and EH (point at whatever I wanted).. I could talk.. just wasn't interested.. so when I had the "4 year old checkup" I had to have that checkup 3 times.. now I am a 33 year old that speak fluently 3 languages :)
Vikingplanner one of my younger sisters was like that, we’re pretty sure she just doesn’t want to stop being the baby lol, she’s 5 now and talks just fine but still acts like a baby and imitates our 2 yr old sister
I was 18 months when I walked fully. I mostly sat on my butt and did jigsaw puzzles. My dad is a doctor and he would just shrug and say I was normal in all the other milestones.
I don’t see a lot of parents talk or interact with their babies in my life, they just give them their phone
Are these parents you are with all day? Sometimes parents need a moment. If you see a parent in public do something while you pass by, it doesn't mean they do that all day.
There's also a lot of pressure on parents to keep their kids quiet in public. If your baby is being fussy, you get a lot of stares and nasty comments, so parents will often do whatever quick fix to get them to quiet down. Personally I don't give mine electronics in public but I totally get the fear of having a fussy child in public when society has such a negative view on loud children
@@DSDaly yeah you're right.... when you're out you just arent able to deal with ppl being nasty with you
So yh
But the original comment ..... yes I have actually seen kids on phone literally all day
Like
They literally have a phone.. tablet... computer.... all for them
N I'm sitting here thinking abt my first phone I got at 17
But I know parents who do have their kids on devices all day
When you try to get them to play they are clueless
Yeah I'm lucky I grew up without phones
Unlike the other Comment of the lady getting smart with you I actually agree with you. Even though you just see them for 30 minutes out of the whole day you can usually tell the parents that take time to teach and do actual things with their kids from the ones who just stick them in front of a TV and let them play on the game
That's one of the worst things they can do.
As a swede it is so interesting to see the myths we share and also hear new and to me, odd myths that I have no cultural and historic framework for. The "babys need water when it's hot" myth confused my so much I first thought the myth said to splash or bathe your child in cool water as I have never ever heard anyone suggest babys need anything other than formula and breast milk.
Hearing new weird myths is one reason I really enjoy these debunk videos. I also love when experts share their scientific knowledge in a way that is accessible, entertaining and easy to grasp for the majority of people. The bigger scientific knowledge and understanding people have the better!
As a Canadian I am just as confused as you by that water myth. Like who believes that? Probably the same person who thought a baby doesn't need a nap?!?!
@@breezybre2670 ikr! im just as shocked and im from the Middle East, so now I really wonder where that myth is coming from lol.
I’m American and also never heard that before. I wonder if maybe they said that one just to have the opportunity to make sure people know that babies don’t need water.