@Free Speech All I know is what she tells us. Clearly, she blew him off first but came back to him when "whatever" went to cr@p, ... back to her "castaway" like he should be thrilled. Why would anyone want to commit to someone who didn't see them as their soulmate the first time around? I've always said it's a waste of time to try and make it again with anybody you couldn't make it with in the first place. Old feelings of resentment, distrust or "whatever" will still be there preventing a successful, blissful relationship.
@@thembicosta4394 I've recently been ghosted by one of my best friends of over 10 years. I even asked what I have done and the answer was nothing, just that we're both busy. Might I mention no busier than ever. Oh well.
@@lokisfriend ....The same thing happened to me about 40 years ago and it still saddens me when I think about it. All relationships have expiration dates but sometimes it's best not knowing the reasons and just accept the loss. Their purpose for being in our lives has been fulfilled.
irishwench333 Me too ... 25 year friendship. No explanation, no confrontation, no fighting. I noticed a behavior change in her towards me as I became more and more successful.. She had become condescending and negative about my advancements in my business..I would ask her, is there something going on? Had I done something to upset her? She'd always say, no..everything is fine. But, then the ghosting started. She completely cut me off from any invites to get togethers, etc. and then just completely cut me out of her life! I was so devastated! I'm still so hurt, healing is slow. I loved her like a sister. It's been 3 years ...I'm still not over it!
Elizabeth Booth sometimes people ghost for safety reasons. When you first meet somebody and you think everything is great because they love bomb you and then they text you and when you don’t respond fast enough they’re pissed that you weren’t responding and then accuse you of things that you didn’t even do and you hardly know this person and they have bahaved like this....Sometimes ghosting is an absolute necessity.
Britany B Totally agree! If someone is abusive and you’ve just met them or they stalk text because they think you haven’t responded fast enough and they are angry or drunk that’s it for me. There’s nothing to say at that point. I wasted too much time too on those types thinking it was my fault.
@@Omonike88 Of course dealing with an abuser is an exception to that rule. I'm referring to instances where the other person finds that they want something different out of life than their partner.
@@Mitsubachi2529 sometimes you never know who is an abuser. I ghost someone 5 years ago, and I am so happy. He never took me to his home, and always had some excuse why he couldn't. I don't want to get into graphics, but I believe he was homosexual or bisexual. I ghost him. 5 years later, I heard he died. Now, what if I would have continued that relationship? Maybe I would be dead too.(aids) too many women are dead because they confronted their man about infidelities.
@@Mitsubachi2529 Thanks. Great perspective. unfortunately, I am hearing so many men who are disrespectful to the woman. I am so tired of this, that I have been celibate after that last relationship I've mentioned.
Got ghosted by a guy that was in the Navy...fast forward to 4 years later he found me on social media. He was homeless and living in his car/hotel. Gave me a sob about how he needed somewhere to stay for a few weeks...Be mindful of how you treat people.
@Rainbow swirling Island girl NOPE! I listened his sob story and referred him to a few shelters... This genius was saying he is homeless, but at least I'm homeless with a Jaguar...he was a lost cause.
@@JJmetaphysics I can agree many people never look into themselves,i was ghosted twice and it forced me to look within, and i realized I was too emotional and i handled stress in a horrible way,i become irrational, argumentative,controlling it wasn't pretty. Then i realized maybe they dodged a bullet and am a horrible woman. So i didn't disturb them again. I cant love people selfishly,the only person i could control is myself. Love is a beautiful thing and i pray that everyone who experiences it in it's fullest potential appreciate what they have.
Ghosting someone who is in a serious relationship with you or engaged to you is horrible I don’t understand how someone can be so cruel all it takes is 2 mins to break up with someone or even less. Poor lady see it has a blessing from God, your lucky you saw his true colours before marrying him. Best of luck Cade.
I think it’s ALWAYS a good idea to wait until man proposes or to leave him alone if you tired of waiting. Men are extremely difficult to settle down these ways, most of them are scared of commitment. You being ready doesn’t make him ready. And if you do propose do it in private so it makes it easier for him to refuse. He said yes not to make you AND your girls feel disappointed.
Same goes for women too. My friend refused her boyfriend’s proposal 2 times and now says she wants to end it all.... I feel sorry for her now ex boyfriend, but maybe he can finally move on and find someone better.
I have "ghosted" (distanced myself) from a few friends in my life. If they give it some thought they'll know why I did it. It's usually the condescending behavior or the backhanded compliments. Some people just don't deserve second chances.
Ghosting destroys you, my partner of 20 years done this to me when he went off with someone we both knew. I know I’m better off without him in my life but 4 years later I’m still haven’t come to terms with what he’s done or how he could do it.
I got ghosted by a man I had known for 16 years previously. We started a relationship and within a month he ghosted. When I finally got ahold of him he said "it just didn't feel right". Well why not just say so? We are now arms length friends and I know he regrets it but no second chances. It's a character flaw.
Some people just do not like explaining. I, for instance, live in my own, individually standing house, before leaving i always check that there is no across the road neighbour getting in their car or just hanging around. I just can not stand to make an eye contact and say hi. We have never had any problems or negativity, just hi and bye. When it is unavoidable. I m happily nmarried with 3 grown up children, so not like i m some sort of a hermit. Just do not like contact with people. Always go for self check out cash register. Never shop at any market
I actually proposed to my husband years after I had said no to his.. I figured that he deserved that so I did it in front of our all our family and friends. It was incredible!
When you leave for 3 years you can't expect anything. I had a girlfriend that dumped me to date an aquaintence. 5 years later after she had been turned inside out and stomped on she got back ahold of me and was all about what a mistake that was and how she really loved me and how that would never happen again. I told her I would try to get beyond it. A couple years later I was not over it and told her I am just not feeling as forgiving as I thought I might. She immediately ghosted me and was married within the year. When you have seperated from someone for some time don't ever expect things to be what you thought they were in the beginning from either side of the street.
@Free Speech I have watched some of those videos but most of the ones I saw were angry men talking about using and manipulating women. People in general tend to be manipulative these days regardless of gender. Doubt in the early 90's MGTOW was even thought of as a movement. I have since studied manipulating tactics and have some recogintion of toxic people in general. Seems the best advice yet is don't ignore your gut feeling about a person. The hair on the back of you neck rises for a reason.
My husband did this to me I was ghosted right after loosing our home pets and belongings, I'm saying we literally lost absolutely everything from one moment to another, I was devastated to say the least. He left the hotel room at around 11pm before he left he said "i just want to be myself; this is too much for me" took his clean clothes i washed for him that day and walked out that door, i honestly thought he was coming back for us (us meaning my daughter from a previous relationship, that he raised since she was 9months old, this was in 3/2018 so she was about 8yrs old already). He didn't come back knowing full and well that we were completely dependant on him i was unemployed no money no friends no family no food no water no NOTHING it was so cold and we where hungry thirsty tired, we ended up being homeless to the fullest extent of the word. Our first night sleeping in the street was at a Walmart parking lot right across the street from that hotel; where he threw us away like a piece of trash. (Im getting emotional with the memory) It was the hardest thing i don't wish it to my worst enemy 😔
I'm so sorry this happened to you and your poor daughter , to have brought her up since 9 months old and to essentially abandon her and her mother is really, really traumatic. You didn't do anything to deserve that. Neither of you did. I hope you're doing better now.
I feel your pain Cassandra. I too had similar experience although not as drastic as yourself....I hope your doing ok now?...These individuals are narcissist, many live with these characters without even knowing....I wish you and your daughter healing and luck for your futures.
Ghosting isn't just dating, its friends or business contacts also or just anyone in your life. I had a close friend who ghosted me for half a year and then suddenly tried to come back as if nothing really happened. It's one thing if they sent me a message saying "hey I'm not happy with such and such that you've done and I think we need to be apart for a bit or stop being friends" but they just blocked me on everything with no hint of why. Then they come back and expect me to just act like nothing happened. I was friends with this person since childhood which is why it's so weird. I decided not to do the same back to them and tell them I had a major issue with what they did and that if they were unhappy with me they should have at least made me aware of the problem when they knew me for this long. Can't believe adults do this sort of thing.
I'm kind of suspicious that he may have been getting some revenge. She dumped him after his proposal? You'd be surprised, even adults will go through some effort to get revenge when they've been hurt that bad. I've seen people do it. I recently had a friend who made her ex fall in love with her only to get revenge on him. It was shocking to see her bother with all this but I guess she was really hurt. Life's too short for this kind of stuff though.
I got ghosted by my husband of 4 years.. of every day being with this person. We never have been separated at all. He was a narcissist. I learned a lot about narcissism and toxic people.
@@caressaclark1042 Your only human and will naturally feel this but I rather be single then to deal with Toxicity. I suggest to meet your own needs. Learn to build healthy female relationships and hang with your girls and family.
This happened to me. Not the ghosting, the faking being ill. He told me he had cancer and needed to have treatment and didn’t want me to see him going through it etc . I was tipped off and went to his place. He was back with his WIFE!!!!
Ghosting someone is the most immature, cowardly, and disrespectful act anyone can commit! It is Wrong in every sense, it doesn't matter how one tries to analyze it! It certainly is a GINORMOUS reflection of the individual's character, and only that individual's. Someone with these character traits has a deep need for healing. Something is far out of balance, out of equilibrium, emotionally, and mentally. Atleast, that's how it appears to me.
He proposed. You weren't ready. After three and a half years of dating. Gee do you see any red flags in this scenario? At that point you both should have parted ways.
I agree with you Jeff. No one would say no to getting money or anything good in their life so if someone says no there’s a reason the first time.. And Olivia you don’t know the story of what’s really going on behind closed doors with your pastor
@Free Speech you are obsessed with fertility as if it was your best weapon against women. We aren't talking about just sex and popping kids but about love, commitment and honesty. This couple already had their children from other marriages, they were looking for a companion. So, sorry but your argument doesn't make sense
@@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 This Free Speech sounds all MGTOW. Saying exactly the same script they say. Like all women at a certain age are clones. Not all couples want or have children either. Plenty of happy childless couples around. Not all women are looking for a sperm donor either.
I think we've all walked away from an association of one sort or another without much or any warning, however, dumping someone during an engagement is despicable. OMG, but to fake his own death and get his adult son also involved in the deceit! She dodged a bullet....he did her a HUGE favor, however painful. This guy has a very serious mental problem---likely a psychopath---which is better to discover before marriage than after.
I agree. I don't know about this man but everyone should study or read about sociopaths or psychopath . They usually start off extremely charming but then start to give subtle clues.
@@deva190 .....What's most frightening is that acc to Dr. Susan Forward, there are millions out there in circulation with a well-honed but phony persona. Chances are good we'll be duped at least once during our adult lives.
@Free Speech you are sick in your head and soul (if you have one). Ghosting is never justifiable. It just shows a grand level of immaturity and a lack of empathy. A man could talk things through and simply say "I've decided to get back to my ex-wife". And that's it! Ghosting is done when there's the intention of hurting the person being ghosted. It's twisted
@@cloudy1164 That's a bit extreme. It's not distasteful it's just not tradition. Like I wouldn't propose to a guy but I don't think it matters if a woman does. I think it ruins the tradition and romanticism of it a bit though. For me it's not so much that I'm the woman, it's more that I don't want to marry someone unless they are the ones pushing for it because I don't want to marry someone who felt pressured into it.
It can also be ghosting if a boyfriend or girlfriend stops all contact for days or weeks and suddenly appears back in your life without apology or a very weak one.
Happened to me in 1992 and engaged. I hurt so much and took me until a couple years ago to let go of the pain. I thought the rejection meant I was the problem. He was. He was a coward and couldn't end it like a grown up
As much as I'm all for equal rights and no stereotypes between genders I wouldn't propose to a man , that's why I would let him propose he will when he's ready
I’m usually not a fan of American chat shows . . But I like Mel Robbins. Never heard of her before. Just found her on RUclips. Love the way she interviews . . Yep I’m a fan ❤️
Both men and women "ghost" people and always have. It really just goes to show, we really never ever know anyone. And that includes someone you're married to. You never know what a person is really thinking.
Simply not true. I’m happily married to the same guy for 40 years. He’s never let me down. Not because he’s just SO IN LOVE with me. But because he’s just a fantastic human being. If he wasn’t happy, he’d tell me, and we’d figure out what to do about it. I hope we’re together forever, but only if we’re both happy together, because he’s the best person I’ve ever know, and he deserves happiness.
Men like to chase, it’s their instinct to “hunt”. So if you want a man to want you, please let him chase, sit back and let him figure it out. Now, if he’s a boy, sure, go be his mom and do everything for him. He will love you until you ask for him to be responsible. You want a boy or a man? She is being a mom to this boy and start asking him to be “committed”, it just doesn’t work. Please be the woman and date a man...and consider there’s not much quality men available nowadays, please take care of your own castle 🏰. Trust me, you will be happier that way. And happiness should really be our priority in life. You can do it all by yourself and you are already doing it. Save the money hiring investigators to hunt him down, please. If anyone wants to leave your life? Let them. Rejection is God’s protection!
I've been the ghostee and the ghoster it's not a nice thing to do. when I ghosted someone, I eventually apologized because I felt so bad about doing that. No one deserves that.
I ghosted a friend of mine from high school because I saw that the friendship was one sided and I was tired of her fuckery of never having my back when it came down to certain things, so one day I unfollowed her on all social media and when she texted me I simply didn't answer. She finally got the hint and a week later sends me a text saying that she sees what's going on but says she doesn't care for our friendship anyway and "wishes me the best of luck". Still to this day I am happy that she's out of my life because now there is no more drama.
I was ghosted recently by someone I had known for 40 years ......for me it was over in a flash. I felt abandoned but that cut my connection with him permanently.....there is at background to this too long to explain.....I think too much of myself to cry or loose lose sleep. He showed his true character
There's 3 sides to every story, long distance "relationships" are almost impossible to sustain and you need to talk about relationship and work history and not just about hooking up.
This happens more then you would think. My ex lead a double life and told his second girlfriend he had Lunge cancer and told me his aunt had Brest cancer so we would cancel our vacation. We also had an apartment together and he wanted to have two kids, fortunately I didn’t want kids.
Count yourself lucky. He showed his true colours- your lucky you found out early and can move on now. Some people don't find out he's cheating until it's too late- he apparently has been cheating the whole time and you didn't see the signs. He was using you all the time. Goodness knows how many women he was cheating with.
people that ghost in any kind of relationship romantic or otherwise are total childish cowards. If you dont want to carry on with a romance or friendship TELL THEM! At least respect that person by giving them an explanation and closure! so that they can move on.
She got her PhD and he was not good enough so she turns down his proposal. Then her career plans didn’t work out, which included a “better” father figure for her daughters (which she admitted was priority for her) so she rekindled the relationship with her rejected lover. He decided it was payback time, and with his ex safely in the marital bag he ghosts her. I don’t think she’s the victim.
My father did this to us! I just found his obituary. It really has done a number on me. I have a problem trusting men and am very single! Everyone always says,” you are so beautiful, why don’t you have a boyfriend”? I cringe when I think about him and the other day, I just found out that his father wasn’t his real dad. What a loser!
I have seen this both ways with a relative and friends. Sometimes you don't want the drama especially if your the one who has done most of the giving. If I have done the majority of the giving and have done the best I can then I can move on with a clear conscience. I am learning to leave energy vampires behind and love myself more.
Very true and if they are the ones that ghosted you then you don’t need to feel guilty. I told this guy that I like that I will never leave him but if he ghosts and leaves me then it is his fault and choice. I told him from the beginning that anything he does is his choice. I cannot control him.
Yep sounds like my story in a lot of ways. 7 yrs, marriage license, my soulmate, and he left Oct 2020 and I have not come close to recovering. And like you, I am mourning the life we never had, not as good as yours was..just empty promises..no nice get away weekends or anything. You are in disbelief with your situation like I still am with mine.
I was in college and one of the couples asked if I wanted to go roller skating with the group. Before I knew what was happening I was in the front seat of a car between two guys. I have social anxiety disorder and this was a nightmare. Suddenly the drive took a sharp corner and threw me into the other guy who put the moves on me by offering me his hand. I gave him a wet noodle hand and he withdrew. and the three people in the backseat were laughing out loud. He never spoke to me for the rest of the year. It was a small college of about 100 students and we had all our meals together. Three years later I attended grad and he still would not even say hello. I just wanted an exchange so 20 years later I wrote him a letter....no response, thought I sent it to the wrong guy. Saw him on the web last week(40 yrs later) sent him an email. We exchanged emails...he mentioned the letter, he has no memory of that night but apologized and hoped I had learned something from the experience. You bet I did I learned that even people training to be ministers at seminary can be flaming narcissists.Turns out he is not only a narcissist he is a gay narcissist.
And here I thought I was the only one who was deceived with the “cancer story” I would never trust a long distance relationship and don’t even get me started with online dating, perfect scenario for Ghosting and con artists!!!
So called friends have done this to me. People I've known...well thought I've known since I was 8. I don't understand how someone can go from being close enough to be family, to behaving as if we never knew eachother or had anything in common. It's crazy. But I'm not going to chase them.
He probably was hurt when he did everything for her, like leaving work to dig her car out of the snow, and in return she rejected his marriage proposal and broke off with him and then moved away. She didn't seem to realize what she did to him before. The deception made him feel whole again.
She is incredibly beautiful and I hope that she realizes that this situation is NOT about her. Someone is going to love her, she seems like an amazing person and someone anyone would be lucky to have!
I ghosted my partner of 15 years in 2020. We had been together since basically highschool. We had lived together several times before, went to college together and spent every week together. I met a guy in 2019 and realized I wanted to be with a man instead of a woman and didn't have strength to break up with her. I had tried before and each time she cried and was devastated, stopped eating, etc. I didn't know what to do and took the coward's way out. I stopped answering her calls, stopped responding to texts, blocked her on social media and moved. I am now very happy with my partner, and also feel very guilty that I didn't have the character to end things formally. I just somehow feel like her being ghosted is easier on her feelings rather than me telling her I didn't love her like that. I think I'd rather be ghosted than someone tell me they don't love me. Ghosting is cowardly but it also sends the same message a breakup does---with less words and less sting. I still am ashamed of what I did.
@@M1985- Very kind of you to remind me of the current year, but I already know it's 2020 and that women *can* propose to men. I simply don't see the point when secure men propose to women they like enough to marry and always have. Also, please don't assume my gender, that's rude.
@@oliviarogers3559 It was implied. I stated that I would never propose to a man, and got a reply "welcoming" me to 2020 and telling me women can propose. If the person didn't assume my gender, why write that under my comment? Why not just respect personal choices? No amount of pop feminism is going to convince me it is reasonable to propose to a man.
There are always 2 sides to every story. I'm not excusing ghosting but she did end it first, moved and long distance. Then she was ready. Guess he wasn't ready. That shipped sailed.
It’s so weird to get ghosted! I’ve been ghosted a couple of times.. once I was dating a marine (never happening again. Ever.) he told me he was going on one of those missions where they camp outside for 2 weeks I forgot what it’s called. So he wouldn’t be able to see me for 2 weeks. This was when we were saying goodbye on one of our usual weekend dates, anyways, I never heard from him again.... i tried contacting him obviously but he literally would just leave me on read, and deleted me everywhere. Never heard from him again. We were in the exclusive dating phase for a couple of months but no labels yet so idk, luckily I wasn’t in love or too invested yet but better to show me your true colors sooner than later.
OMG! That has happen to me as well. I made it a rule now: Military, police officers are off limits. To much dysfunction and Idgaf if I get heat. The reality is there are many sick, narcissistic, misogynistic people in that community and I am not dealing with that shit. I had many experiences with the military from family to dating. Its a no go.
ChilliepepperZ D OMG!! RIGHT. I had dated a couple marines exclusively and that was the 2nd one who ghosted me. The first one came to me a year or something later to apologize to me that he couldn’t just man up and tell me what was going on. Yeah definitely. Police people are more often than not corrupt as well. It’s disgusting lol. I only know one cop who is my cousin who is actually a great guy lol
It’s not always about being cruel though. Sometimes it’s an abusive relationship and the person ghosts the other person because they need to get away for their safety.
For longterm yes it won't work, but if the ultimate goal is to close the distance then yes it works. I have friends happily married to their partners and they all started with LDR.
Terrible for her but good riddance. Anyone that would do that to someone especially when there are kids involved that have grown attached to you and count on you that’s really cruel.
That guy is just too coward. He haven't had the guts to tell her he isn't interested in her anymore, so he stringed her along. Three years of long distance relationship? It doesn't mean anything. You both were far from each other.
I know everyone behaves differently in traumatic situations but I really don't like the fact that she's laughing so incessantly about this issue. It's like she gets enjoyment out of the attention of her own drama. It's kind of disturbing how giddy she is.
Well I would expect her to be more serious. You know; kind of like an adult her age might act?🙄 Instead of sharing personal sex texts between them like she's in middle school and giggling the whole way through. It's just weird. She seems very immature.
😒 Well I was definitely ghosted 30 years ago, but back then it didn't have a name. I actually saw him in the street several months later and confronted him. I didn't actually mind that he wanted to end it, but thought him extremely pathetic for the way he did it. If you want to break things off, then telling that person either face to face, or over the telephone is the best way. Texting or ghosting is the cowards way out.
Ghosted 40 years ago, 1982! A year after, he wrote this pathetic letter basically saying it was all my fault, the words "I'm sorry" never making an appearance. I didn't write back.
If someone ghosts you, consider it a blessing. You wouldn’t want someone like that in your life. They basically did the dirty work for you.
Life's too short to obsess over a guy who couldn't deal with the truth like a man.
@Free Speech All I know is what she tells us. Clearly, she blew him off first but came back to him when "whatever" went to cr@p, ... back to her "castaway" like he should be thrilled. Why would anyone want to commit to someone who didn't see them as their soulmate the first time around?
I've always said it's a waste of time to try and make it again with anybody you couldn't make it with in the first place. Old feelings of resentment, distrust or "whatever" will still be there preventing a successful, blissful relationship.
FACTS!!!
blueshoes915 absolutely, I agree. This is a mess.
quasimobius absolutely people are crazy.
You can get ghosted in a friendship too, it's not always a romantic relationship.
Most likely you know why a "friend" ghosts... I ghosted friends after realizing that they were never friends at all... Nothing left to say 👍
@@thembicosta4394 I've recently been ghosted by one of my best friends of over 10 years. I even asked what I have done and the answer was nothing, just that we're both busy. Might I mention no busier than ever. Oh well.
@@lokisfriend ....The same thing happened to me about 40 years ago and it still saddens me when I think about it. All relationships have expiration dates but sometimes it's best not knowing the reasons and just accept the loss. Their purpose for being in our lives has been fulfilled.
@@msr1116 thank you
irishwench333
Me too ... 25 year friendship. No explanation, no confrontation, no fighting. I noticed a behavior change in her towards me as I became more and more successful.. She had become condescending and negative about my advancements in my business..I would ask her, is there something going on? Had I done something to upset her? She'd always say, no..everything is fine. But, then the ghosting started. She completely cut me off from any invites to get togethers, etc. and then just completely cut me out of her life! I was so devastated! I'm still so hurt, healing is slow. I loved her like a sister. It's been 3 years ...I'm still not over it!
Ghosting is so obnoxious and rude. It basically means you don't have the balls to interact like an adult and deal with a conflict.
Or they just don't really give a fk.
Elizabeth Booth sometimes people ghost for safety reasons. When you first meet somebody and you think everything is great because they love bomb you and then they text you and when you don’t respond fast enough they’re pissed that you weren’t responding and then accuse you of things that you didn’t even do and you hardly know this person and they have bahaved like this....Sometimes ghosting is an absolute necessity.
I ghost toxic people. I’m not giving people energy who don’t deserve it
Britany B Totally agree! If someone is abusive and you’ve just met them or they stalk text because they think you haven’t responded fast enough and they are angry or drunk that’s it for me. There’s nothing to say at that point. I wasted too much time too on those types thinking it was my fault.
Thirston Howell The Bird and Friends! Exactly why put urself in a emotional roller coaster. I’m not getting on the ride
He only pretended to get back with her to dump her back. Some people will go to extraordinary lengths for revenge.
That's exactly what happened .
I agree. My ex came back and ghosted me again.
She dumped him when he proposed!! She asked for it... How humiliating for a man. He probably got with other women in those 3 YEARS.
@@peterhigginsson9875 What!
@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat i actually served Mrs slocombe - Mollie Sugden, when i worked on the check out at Tesco in 1998.
Some of the best advice ever given to me is to always make sure you can financially take care of yourself.
Ghosting has no place in adult relationships.
Sometimes ghosting will save your life
@@Omonike88 Of course dealing with an abuser is an exception to that rule. I'm referring to instances where the other person finds that they want something different out of life than their partner.
@@Mitsubachi2529 sometimes you never know who is an abuser. I ghost someone 5 years ago, and I am so happy. He never took me to his home, and always had some excuse why he couldn't. I don't want to get into graphics, but I believe he was homosexual or bisexual. I ghost him. 5 years later, I heard he died. Now, what if I would have continued that relationship? Maybe I would be dead too.(aids)
too many women are dead because they confronted their man about infidelities.
@@Omonike88 Your case is different. He didn't show you any respect so in turn, you didn't owe *him* any respect.
@@Mitsubachi2529 Thanks. Great perspective.
unfortunately, I am hearing so many men who are disrespectful to the woman. I am so tired of this, that I have been celibate after that last relationship I've mentioned.
Got ghosted by a guy that was in the Navy...fast forward to 4 years later he found me on social media. He was homeless and living in his car/hotel. Gave me a sob about how he needed somewhere to stay for a few weeks...Be mindful of how you treat people.
@Rainbow swirling Island girl NOPE!
I listened his sob story and referred him to a few shelters... This genius was saying he is homeless, but at least I'm homeless with a Jaguar...he was a lost cause.
Some weeds pick themselves.
Yup!
The realest comment ever
You are so right.
Wuuuuu i like this
"A man's rejection, it's God's protection"
Amen I love that
Amen." There but for the grace of God ,go I"
Amen.
❤️LOVE this!!! ❤️
A boy a man wouldn't act like that period
i was ghosted by this guy who promised me the stars and the galaxy lol... but hey atleast i dodged a bullet and its a blessing in disguise.
This earthygirl the trash took itself out.
Maybe he dodged a bullet hence the reason he ghosted yo ass.
@@JJmetaphysics I can agree many people never look into themselves,i was ghosted twice and it forced me to look within, and i realized I was too emotional and i handled stress in a horrible way,i become irrational, argumentative,controlling it wasn't pretty. Then i realized maybe they dodged a bullet and am a horrible woman. So i didn't disturb them again. I cant love people selfishly,the only person i could control is myself. Love is a beautiful thing and i pray that everyone who experiences it in it's fullest potential appreciate what they have.
It’s so traumatic why can’t people just say ‘it’s over’ it’s not hard!
It is hard. Sometimes it's best to leave them be. It could save your life.
Say if the person you want to tell "It's over" is emotionally/mentally unstable though? Some people have done that and got themselves killed.
Heartless Woman because they get some sort of satisfaction out of dumping you and leaving you dumbfounded and lost.
@@niccolea2086 yep!!
Cowards
When I'm ghosted I remind myself, "Other people's rejection is God's protection."
Yes! That is one of the best pieces of advice I ever got.
I hypnotize myself to forget them. Lmao
i told a friend the same thing this week....
👍🏻👍🏻 one
I'm sure people ghosted each other in the 1500's, 1600's and so on. It was probably even easier without cellphones and social media.
JANEMAN JANI not if you lived in a small village
Ghosting someone who is in a serious relationship with you or engaged to you is horrible I don’t understand how someone can be so cruel all it takes is 2 mins to break up with someone or even less. Poor lady see it has a blessing from God, your lucky you saw his true colours before marrying him. Best of luck Cade.
I think it’s ALWAYS a good idea to wait until man proposes or to leave him alone if you tired of waiting. Men are extremely difficult to settle down these ways, most of them are scared of commitment. You being ready doesn’t make him ready. And if you do propose do it in private so it makes it easier for him to refuse. He said yes not to make you AND your girls feel disappointed.
Same goes for women too. My friend refused her boyfriend’s proposal 2 times and now says she wants to end it all.... I feel sorry for her now ex boyfriend, but maybe he can finally move on and find someone better.
I have "ghosted" (distanced myself) from a few friends in my life. If they give it some thought they'll know why I did it. It's usually the condescending behavior or the backhanded compliments. Some people just don't deserve second chances.
Then I ghosted my sister I forgive her but I can’t do that to my life my life is precious to me I don’t want negatives around me
Tell them why it helps a lot
Ghosting destroys you, my partner of 20 years done this to me when he went off with someone we both knew. I know I’m better off without him in my life but 4 years later I’m still haven’t come to terms with what he’s done or how he could do it.
Get therapy
i'm sorry you had to go through that. i hope you are better this year. it will never make sense. i hope you can make peace with it soon.
ghosting is so anxiety inducing and CRUEL. i hope she found a real man
She seems like a care taker type...free spirit. The narco-path tends to target them.
He wants out of a relationship so bad, that he’d fake his own death. Damn.
Lol 😂 that’s crazy
It’s probably not the first time he’s acted this cowardly.
Lol omg.
of course he ghosted! as soon as they get married all his lies will be revealed
I got ghosted by a man I had known for 16 years previously. We started a relationship and within a month he ghosted. When I finally got ahold of him he said "it just didn't feel right". Well why not just say so? We are now arms length friends and I know he regrets it but no second chances. It's a character flaw.
Dont be friends with such a person. RUN!
💯💯💯
Some people just do not like explaining. I, for instance, live in my own, individually standing house, before leaving i always check that there is no across the road neighbour getting in their car or just hanging around. I just can not stand to make an eye contact and say hi. We have never had any problems or negativity, just hi and bye. When it is unavoidable. I m happily nmarried with 3 grown up children, so not like i m some sort of a hermit. Just do not like contact with people. Always go for self check out cash register. Never shop at any market
She proposed? no no noooooooo 🤦🏻♀️
And the last 2.5 yrs were long distance. Makes it all the easier to disappear. She never should have proposed. That's not how its done.
Women can propose!
kaffeine69 when I heard that part I nearly spit my tea out my mouth please ladies never propose to a man! 😫😖😖😖
Why can’t women propose? It’s year 2020! Don’t judge others!
I actually proposed to my husband years after I had said no to his.. I figured that he deserved that so I did it in front of our all our family and friends. It was incredible!
There’s always another woman. Men can’t be alone 🤷🏻♀️
Excellent point.
Absolutely
Good Taste and Grace very true
Good Taste and Grace True..
Yeah we can
When you leave for 3 years you can't expect anything. I had a girlfriend that dumped me to date an aquaintence. 5 years later after she had been turned inside out and stomped on she got back ahold of me and was all about what a mistake that was and how she really loved me and how that would never happen again. I told her I would try to get beyond it. A couple years later I was not over it and told her I am just not feeling as forgiving as I thought I might. She immediately ghosted me and was married within the year. When you have seperated from someone for some time don't ever expect things to be what you thought they were in the beginning from either side of the street.
cant go home again
@@MsLuvmusic81
Its never home again. Its different and you know it.
@Rick James
Thats funny....yes I guess so. Subconsciously I must not have been able to accept that because it never did feel right. I had to go.
@Free Speech
I have watched some of those videos but most of the ones I saw were angry men talking about using and manipulating women. People in general tend to be manipulative these days regardless of gender. Doubt in the early 90's MGTOW was even thought of as a movement. I have since studied manipulating tactics and have some recogintion of toxic people in general. Seems the best advice yet is don't ignore your gut feeling about a person. The hair on the back of you neck rises for a reason.
It’s like that saying “you cannot step in the same river twice”
I got ghosted after a 5 month relationship but it was,the best thing ..
My husband did this to me I was ghosted right after loosing our home pets and belongings, I'm saying we literally lost absolutely everything from one moment to another, I was devastated to say the least. He left the hotel room at around 11pm before he left he said "i just want to be myself; this is too much for me" took his clean clothes i washed for him that day and walked out that door, i honestly thought he was coming back for us (us meaning my daughter from a previous relationship, that he raised since she was 9months old, this was in 3/2018 so she was about 8yrs old already). He didn't come back knowing full and well that we were completely dependant on him i was unemployed no money no friends no family no food no water no NOTHING it was so cold and we where hungry thirsty tired, we ended up being homeless to the fullest extent of the word. Our first night sleeping in the street was at a Walmart parking lot right across the street from that hotel; where he threw us away like a piece of trash. (Im getting emotional with the memory) It was the hardest thing i don't wish it to my worst enemy 😔
Oh my! So sorry to hear of that experience! Must have been very difficult for you. How did you both lose your home, pets, etc???
Never be dependent on a man for money, even a husband. Never do that again.
I'm so sorry this happened to you and your poor daughter , to have brought her up since 9 months old and to essentially abandon her and her mother is really, really traumatic. You didn't do anything to deserve that. Neither of you did. I hope you're doing better now.
So sorry for you. You are strong, he was not.
I feel your pain Cassandra. I too had similar experience although not as drastic as yourself....I hope your doing ok now?...These individuals are narcissist, many live with these characters without even knowing....I wish you and your daughter healing and luck for your futures.
Ghosting isn't just dating, its friends or business contacts also or just anyone in your life. I had a close friend who ghosted me for half a year and then suddenly tried to come back as if nothing really happened. It's one thing if they sent me a message saying "hey I'm not happy with such and such that you've done and I think we need to be apart for a bit or stop being friends" but they just blocked me on everything with no hint of why. Then they come back and expect me to just act like nothing happened. I was friends with this person since childhood which is why it's so weird. I decided not to do the same back to them and tell them I had a major issue with what they did and that if they were unhappy with me they should have at least made me aware of the problem when they knew me for this long. Can't believe adults do this sort of thing.
I'm kind of suspicious that he may have been getting some revenge. She dumped him after his proposal? You'd be surprised, even adults will go through some effort to get revenge when they've been hurt that bad. I've seen people do it. I recently had a friend who made her ex fall in love with her only to get revenge on him. It was shocking to see her bother with all this but I guess she was really hurt. Life's too short for this kind of stuff though.
I SO wish Mel's show was still on. We need her practical wisdom these days‼️
I got ghosted by my husband of 4 years.. of every day being with this person. We never have been separated at all. He was a narcissist. I learned a lot about narcissism and toxic people.
I got ghosted by my husband two months ago, how. Could you move on? Did he ever try to reach back?
How to lose value in his eyes : propose to a man.
a lot of the comments did not realize she said he proposed a few years in and she said no. From that point there was confusion.
I know exactly how she feels.. when you find the person you loved is not who you thought he is, it`s like you`re mourning their death.
this why I prefer to be single
The only way to be happy as a female is to be single. Truth
@@suesheification
It's so lonely though.
I like to be held in bed at night.
@@caressaclark1042 Your only human and will naturally feel this but I rather be single then to deal with Toxicity. I suggest to meet your own needs. Learn to build healthy female relationships and hang with your girls and family.
This happened to me. Not the ghosting, the faking being ill. He told me he had cancer and needed to have treatment and didn’t want me to see him going through it etc . I was tipped off and went to his place. He was back with his WIFE!!!!
Izzy Meadows was there no red flags in your after thoughts? It’s hard to see them in advance sometimes...
This scenario left me shocked
OH MY GOD! Wowww...
Did you find him online?
Wow, that sucks!
Ghosting someone is the most immature, cowardly, and disrespectful act anyone can commit! It is Wrong in every sense, it doesn't matter how one tries to analyze it! It certainly is a GINORMOUS reflection of the individual's character, and only that individual's. Someone with these character traits has a deep need for healing. Something is far out of balance, out of equilibrium, emotionally, and mentally. Atleast, that's how it appears to me.
He proposed. You weren't ready. After three and a half years of dating. Gee do you see any red flags in this scenario? At that point you both should have parted ways.
I agree with you Jeff. No one would say no to getting money or anything good in their life so if someone says no there’s a reason the first time.. And Olivia you don’t know the story of what’s really going on behind closed doors with your pastor
@Free Speech you are obsessed with fertility as if it was your best weapon against women. We aren't talking about just sex and popping kids but about love, commitment and honesty. This couple already had their children from other marriages, they were looking for a companion. So, sorry but your argument doesn't make sense
@@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 This Free Speech sounds all MGTOW. Saying exactly the same script they say. Like all women at a certain age are clones. Not all couples want or have children either. Plenty of happy childless couples around. Not all women are looking for a sperm donor either.
@@saharagold correct
@@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 In fact, the happiest longest lasting couples I know are childless. Including my aunt and uncle who are in their 70s.
I wish my ex had ghosted me when we were talking rather than marry me and cheat on me. 🙄
She described the layers of mourning perfectly.
I think we've all walked away from an association of one sort or another without much or any warning, however, dumping someone during an engagement is despicable. OMG, but to fake his own death and get his adult son also involved in the deceit! She dodged a bullet....he did her a HUGE favor, however painful. This guy has a very serious mental problem---likely a psychopath---which is better to discover before marriage than after.
I agree. I don't know about this man but everyone should study or read about sociopaths or psychopath . They usually start off extremely charming but then start to give subtle clues.
@@deva190 .....What's most frightening is that acc to Dr. Susan Forward, there are millions out there in circulation with a well-honed but phony persona. Chances are good we'll be duped at least once during our adult lives.
This beautiful lady should thank her worthless ex- boyfriend for not wasting anymore of her life
@Free Speech you are sick in your head and soul (if you have one). Ghosting is never justifiable. It just shows a grand level of immaturity and a lack of empathy. A man could talk things through and simply say "I've decided to get back to my ex-wife". And that's it! Ghosting is done when there's the intention of hurting the person being ghosted. It's twisted
Yea the adult son part is AWFUL!
I mean props to the ex husband for being a decent person and looking into this.
"We actually proposed to him"
And she wonders what happened
Sarah Al-E. Yes! Especially as she had previously rejected HIS proposal and moved far away.
Sarah Al-E. I don’t understand woman who propose to man it’s not right please ladies never propose to man!
@@wowso4 I would never propose to a man.
Sandra Jefferson It’s distasteful...
@@cloudy1164 That's a bit extreme. It's not distasteful it's just not tradition. Like I wouldn't propose to a guy but I don't think it matters if a woman does. I think it ruins the tradition and romanticism of it a bit though. For me it's not so much that I'm the woman, it's more that I don't want to marry someone unless they are the ones pushing for it because I don't want to marry someone who felt pressured into it.
It can also be ghosting if a boyfriend or girlfriend stops all contact for days or weeks and suddenly appears back in your life without apology or a very weak one.
That's called a red flag.
That's a covert narcissist scouting for new supply.
Jenny Gibbons I couldn’t agree with you more.
@@jennygibbons1258 hoovering.
@@lizh4933 yes indeed, that's the return after the scouting for fresh meat absence.
Idk. The fact that she had to propose to him wasn’t a great sign.
Happened to me in 1992 and engaged. I hurt so much and took me until a couple years ago to let go of the pain. I thought the rejection meant I was the problem. He was. He was a coward and couldn't end it like a grown up
Girl, you dodged a bullet! Now you see his true self! Don’t forget it! Go be your awesome self living his awesome life!
As much as I'm all for equal rights and no stereotypes between genders I wouldn't propose to a man , that's why I would let him propose he will when he's ready
@Rick James why?
I’m usually not a fan of American chat shows . . But I like Mel Robbins. Never heard of her before. Just found her on RUclips. Love the way she interviews . . Yep I’m a fan ❤️
Both men and women "ghost" people and always have. It really just goes to show, we really never ever know anyone. And that includes someone you're married to. You never know what a person is really thinking.
You are absolutely correct!
@@thekiwisqu33z34 Truth, when people show you who they are believe them
Simply not true. I’m happily married to the same guy for 40 years. He’s never let me down. Not because he’s just SO IN LOVE with me. But because he’s just a fantastic human being. If he wasn’t happy, he’d tell me, and we’d figure out what to do about it. I hope we’re together forever, but only if we’re both happy together, because he’s the best person I’ve ever know, and he deserves happiness.
Men like to chase, it’s their instinct to “hunt”. So if you want a man to want you, please let him chase, sit back and let him figure it out. Now, if he’s a boy, sure, go be his mom and do everything for him. He will love you until you ask for him to be responsible. You want a boy or a man? She is being a mom to this boy and start asking him to be “committed”, it just doesn’t work. Please be the woman and date a man...and consider there’s not much quality men available nowadays, please take care of your own castle 🏰. Trust me, you will be happier that way. And happiness should really be our priority in life. You can do it all by yourself and you are already doing it. Save the money hiring investigators to hunt him down, please. If anyone wants to leave your life? Let them. Rejection is God’s protection!
Gee Lee thank uuuuuu
kaffeine69 A man taught me that when a boy broke my heart lol 😆 we all learnt!
Yesss
@@geelee2964 True! 😊🤗
Nailed it
So she ghosted him first and he just got his revenge. Well done dude! 👏👏👏👍
Always ghost a narcissist
It’s the only way to get rid of them
And because it's the man that typically proposes , when you propose as a woman it unfortunately just comes across as desperate
Says who?
Roo o, it’s only seen that way because of tradition. But tradition is not always right or good.
I've been the ghostee and the ghoster it's not a nice thing to do. when I ghosted someone, I eventually apologized because I felt so bad about doing that. No one deserves that.
I ghosted a friend of mine from high school because I saw that the friendship was one sided and I was tired of her fuckery of never having my back when it came down to certain things, so one day I unfollowed her on all social media and when she texted me I simply didn't answer. She finally got the hint and a week later sends me a text saying that she sees what's going on but says she doesn't care for our friendship anyway and "wishes me the best of luck". Still to this day I am happy that she's out of my life because now there is no more drama.
Some ghost when there’s nothing left to say especially as a result of lies or abuse. Sometimes there’s just nothing left to say.
And some do it when there's no justification. That's abuse.
ashsqx324 Absolutely! If it’s unwarranted it’s cruel and totally abusive.
My ghetto ass has gotten addicted to the Mel Robbins Show.
I was ghosted recently by someone I had known for 40 years ......for me it was over in a flash. I felt abandoned but that cut my connection with him permanently.....there is at background to this too long to explain.....I think too much of myself to cry or loose lose sleep. He showed his true character
There's 3 sides to every story, long distance "relationships" are almost impossible to sustain and you need to talk about relationship and work history and not just about hooking up.
This happens more then you would think. My ex lead a double life and told his second girlfriend he had Lunge cancer and told me his aunt had Brest cancer so we would cancel our vacation. We also had an apartment together and he wanted to have two kids, fortunately I didn’t want kids.
Never ever lower your guard with a man, they’re unpredictable and have a tendency to stray.
spooky katt Did you watch the video? Your apparent description of western women applies perfectly to the man in this situation.
She proposed?! That's a big NOPE!!! Learn from FDS ladies
Count yourself lucky. He showed his true colours- your lucky you found out early and can move on now. Some people don't find out he's cheating until it's too late- he apparently has been cheating the whole time and you didn't see the signs. He was using you all the time. Goodness knows how many women he was cheating with.
Someone that loves you,wouldn't leave you, Someone using you will leave you.
people that ghost in any kind of relationship romantic or otherwise are total childish cowards. If you dont want to carry on with a romance or friendship TELL THEM! At least respect that person by giving them an explanation and closure! so that they can move on.
I just ghosted someone. He made me cry he was so mean. I knew if I didn’t ghost him I’d be abused. I tried to talk to him n he dismissed me n laugh
Some people will have you talk till you're blue in the face, if you have nothing else to say , say nothing ! 👻
The way I GASPED when she said they found a marriage certificate
She got her PhD and he was not good enough so she turns down his proposal. Then her career plans didn’t work out, which included a “better” father figure for her daughters (which she admitted was priority for her) so she rekindled the relationship with her rejected lover. He decided it was payback time, and with his ex safely in the marital bag he ghosts her. I don’t think she’s the victim.
I think you misheard. When he proposed, she was about to move to start her PhD
No. She had moved to WI for rhe PhD
This is the action of a narcissist - feel blessed you & your girls got away.
My father did this to us!
I just found his obituary.
It really has done a number on me. I have a problem trusting men and am very single!
Everyone always says,” you are so beautiful, why don’t you have a boyfriend”?
I cringe when I think about him and the other day, I just found out that his father wasn’t his real dad. What a loser!
lisa anderson I hope you heal from this! Wishing you all te happiness in the world.
I have seen this both ways with a relative and friends. Sometimes you don't want the drama especially if your the one who has done most of the giving. If I have done the majority of the giving and have done the best I can then I can move on with a clear conscience. I am learning to leave energy vampires behind and love myself more.
Very true and if they are the ones that ghosted you then you don’t need to feel guilty. I told this guy that I like that I will never leave him but if he ghosts and leaves me then it is his fault and choice. I told him from the beginning that anything he does is his choice. I cannot control him.
so she wanted him when it was good for her . i think he showed her revenge is a dish best served cold
Yep sounds like my story in a lot of ways. 7 yrs, marriage license, my soulmate, and he left Oct 2020 and I have not come close to recovering. And like you, I am mourning the life we never had, not as good as yours was..just empty promises..no nice get away weekends or anything. You are in disbelief with your situation like I still am with mine.
I was in college and one of the couples
asked if I wanted to go roller skating with the group. Before I knew
what was happening I was in the front seat of a car between two guys.
I have social anxiety disorder and this was a nightmare. Suddenly the
drive took a sharp corner and threw me into the other guy who put the
moves on me by offering me his hand. I gave him a wet noodle hand and
he withdrew. and the three people in the backseat were laughing out
loud. He never spoke to me for the rest of the year. It was a small
college of about 100 students and we had all our meals together.
Three years later I attended grad and he still would not even say
hello. I just wanted an exchange so 20 years later I wrote him a
letter....no response, thought I sent it to the wrong guy. Saw him on
the web last week(40 yrs later) sent him an email. We exchanged
emails...he mentioned the letter, he has no memory of that night but
apologized and hoped I had learned something from the experience. You
bet I did I learned that even people training to be ministers at
seminary can be flaming narcissists.Turns out he is not only a
narcissist he is a gay narcissist.
Obsessed much?
20 years later? Move on please.
And here I thought I was the only one who was deceived with the “cancer story” I would never trust a long distance relationship and don’t even get me started with online dating, perfect scenario for Ghosting and con artists!!!
Mariposa They were in a long distance relationship in fact!
This pooor woman! What the Jerry springer is this!!
This host reminds me of a young Sally Jesse Raphael
Yes...yes...yes...
Yes the look and somehow even the voice.
Totally minus the big red rimmed glasses!
So called friends have done this to me. People I've known...well thought I've known since I was 8.
I don't understand how someone can go from being close enough to be family, to behaving as if we never knew eachother or had anything in common.
It's crazy. But I'm not going to chase them.
@Rick James Your troll game is weak sir. Thanks for trying though. 👍
Don't chase anyone.
He probably was hurt when he did everything for her, like leaving work to dig her car out of the snow, and in return she rejected his marriage proposal and broke off with him and then moved away. She didn't seem to realize what she did to him before. The deception made him feel whole again.
This is exactly why I’m stay single forever.
She is incredibly beautiful and I hope that she realizes that this situation is NOT about her. Someone is going to love her, she seems like an amazing person and someone anyone would be lucky to have!
Sounds like a Great “ lifetime movie ” I’m Here for You.
I ghosted my partner of 15 years in 2020. We had been together since basically highschool. We had lived together several times before, went to college together and spent every week together. I met a guy in 2019 and realized I wanted to be with a man instead of a woman and didn't have strength to break up with her. I had tried before and each time she cried and was devastated, stopped eating, etc. I didn't know what to do and took the coward's way out. I stopped answering her calls, stopped responding to texts, blocked her on social media and moved. I am now very happy with my partner, and also feel very guilty that I didn't have the character to end things formally. I just somehow feel like her being ghosted is easier on her feelings rather than me telling her I didn't love her like that. I think I'd rather be ghosted than someone tell me they don't love me. Ghosting is cowardly but it also sends the same message a breakup does---with less words and less sting. I still am ashamed of what I did.
@Diamond ok
I would never propose to a guy. If a guy wants to marry you, he will propose. Come on. This was predictable.
Welcome to 2020. Women can propose...
@@M1985- Very kind of you to remind me of the current year, but I already know it's 2020 and that women *can* propose to men. I simply don't see the point when secure men propose to women they like enough to marry and always have. Also, please don't assume my gender, that's rude.
@@oliviarogers3559 It was implied. I stated that I would never propose to a man, and got a reply "welcoming" me to 2020 and telling me women can propose. If the person didn't assume my gender, why write that under my comment? Why not just respect personal choices? No amount of pop feminism is going to convince me it is reasonable to propose to a man.
I agree. It’s easy to vilify this man for ghosting her but proposing to a man is already major red flag. I feel like there’s more to this story
@@M1985- exactly!!
Sounds like a dysfunctional relationship from start to finish. No judgment...I’ve been there in my own way.
Free Speech Yup.
What a coward. She seems so sweet & fun
She does! Exactly what I've thought
There are always 2 sides to every story. I'm not excusing ghosting but she did end it first, moved and long distance. Then she was ready. Guess he wasn't ready. That shipped sailed.
Seems like pay back. A long slow revenge from this guy.
She does?
She proposed with 3 rings? Run for the hills.
J J ....she’s book smart but seems kinda crazy. He ran for the hills and I don’t blame him. 🏃
He didn’t run for the hills, he was MARRIED. Sometimes even jerks who cheat gain a conscience.
😂😂😂😂
@@LeftHandedAquarius I think he was divorced from the other woman and the got back w her and remarried
Ghosting is immature and rude. No doubt. But, you got ghosted because you proposed to him! That's weird. Don't chase men. DON'T EFFIN DO IT!
This woman is extra. She was doing way too much. That’s why he ghosted her.
Yes, way too much. Over the top.
I kind of agree...why would she message his ex wife/current wife!?
@@joy-115 to warn her? I would want other women to let me know if he cheats.
She scared the mess out of him! Two kids and you want to marry him ? Yeah,he wasn't ready and took the cowards way out! That's what ghosting is.
Nooooo!!!! After 8:00, my jaw was on the ground for 30 seconds!! Then..... I was like, oh no he didn't! That "new" woman will know what's what!!
Why is she still giggling and blushing like they are still together?
It’s so weird to get ghosted! I’ve been ghosted a couple of times.. once I was dating a marine (never happening again. Ever.) he told me he was going on one of those missions where they camp outside for 2 weeks I forgot what it’s called. So he wouldn’t be able to see me for 2 weeks. This was when we were saying goodbye on one of our usual weekend dates, anyways, I never heard from him again.... i tried contacting him obviously but he literally would just leave me on read, and deleted me everywhere. Never heard from him again. We were in the exclusive dating phase for a couple of months but no labels yet so idk, luckily I wasn’t in love or too invested yet but better to show me your true colors sooner than later.
OMG! That has happen to me as well. I made it a rule now: Military, police officers are off limits. To much dysfunction and Idgaf if I get heat. The reality is there are many sick, narcissistic, misogynistic people in that community and I am not dealing with that shit. I had many experiences with the military from family to dating. Its a no go.
ChilliepepperZ D OMG!! RIGHT. I had dated a couple marines exclusively and that was the 2nd one who ghosted me. The first one came to me a year or something later to apologize to me that he couldn’t just man up and tell me what was going on. Yeah definitely. Police people are more often than not corrupt as well. It’s disgusting lol. I only know one cop who is my cousin who is actually a great guy lol
It’s not always about being cruel though. Sometimes it’s an abusive relationship and the person ghosts the other person because they need to get away for their safety.
What a great time to be single!
Its always a great time
This is why long distance relationships don’t work
For longterm yes it won't work, but if the ultimate goal is to close the distance then yes it works. I have friends happily married to their partners and they all started with LDR.
Terrible for her but good riddance. Anyone that would do that to someone especially when there are kids involved that have grown attached to you and count on you that’s really cruel.
Cade is an amazing, strong woman. Plus, I want her best friend's number, so that when I have a crisis I can call her for some sensible advice!
That guy is just too coward. He haven't had the guts to tell her he isn't interested in her anymore, so he stringed her along. Three years of long distance relationship? It doesn't mean anything. You both were far from each other.
He lied about the cancer - he was going back to another woman
I know everyone behaves differently in traumatic situations but I really don't like the fact that she's laughing so incessantly about this issue. It's like she gets enjoyment out of the attention of her own drama. It's kind of disturbing how giddy she is.
She's probably laughing so she doesn't cry. Sad but it happens.
What the hell do you want her to do? Cry? Then be judged for crying about an asshole. She is on TV. It's nerve wrecking
Well I would expect her to be more serious. You know; kind of like an adult her age might act?🙄 Instead of sharing personal sex texts between them like she's in middle school and giggling the whole way through. It's just weird. She seems very immature.
At least she’s putting a brave face on. What a messed up thing to live through.
😒 Well I was definitely ghosted 30 years ago, but back then it didn't have a name. I actually saw him in the street several months later and confronted him. I didn't actually mind that he wanted to end it, but thought him extremely pathetic for the way he did it. If you want to break things off, then telling that person either face to face, or over the telephone is the best way. Texting or ghosting is the cowards way out.
Ghosted 40 years ago, 1982! A year after, he wrote this pathetic letter basically saying it was all my fault, the words "I'm sorry" never making an appearance. I didn't write back.