Should You Trust Your Gut Instinct? | The Mel Robbins Podcast
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I guarantee you’ve never heard gut decisions explained this way before. Because I stumbled upon it in a very random way-while touring colleges with our son Oakley!
You can use this perfect hack anytime you feel torn, uncertain, or scared about how people might feel.
What you’re about to learn is so helpful and memorable, you’ll turn to it over and over again.
Going with your #gut always changes the trajectory of your life. It just does.
That’s why I don’t like the term "trust" your gut.
It’s not about trust. You KNOW your gut is right. You’re just scared to go with it.
So join me, Oakley, and two of my friends. I’m taking you on an entertaining and profound tour today.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you'll learn:
00:00 Intro
04:04 The moment of my junior year in high school that changed my future.
09:38 I am not proud of this mother moment when I lost it.
17:56 The question Oakley asked is what we all do when we give up our power.
19:22 Here’s what a hard no “feels” like for Oakley.
22:27 Do you feel a “yes” in your body like this too?
24:25 What our brilliant tour guide did when he separated parents from students.
25:34 When it comes to big decisions, step away and go on your own tour.
28:19 Here’s what a “no” and a “yes” usually feels like in your body.
30:13 You’re going to love Amy’s “next big thing” story and how she just knew.
34:06 We all have an opportunity in our lives to use this powerful tool.
36:08 Do you have the courage to do this?
43:34 So what do you do when you hear the NO louder than the YES?
1:01:04 Jessie literally followed her heart and became her own “tour guide.”
1:05:11 Stop staying you don't “trust your gut” and start saying this instead.
1:06:49 Take time to do this EVERY day, but especially when you have a big decision.
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Did this video give you the confidence to finally trust your gut and no longer let fear consume you? If it did, I’d so appreciate it if you'd hit the subscribe button to stay in the know about all future episodes!
"Trust your gut, for it speaks the language of your inner wisdom. Your instinct is a powerful compass that guides you towards your true desires and protects you from the noise of doubt. Embrace your intuition, listen to its whispers, and have the courage to follow where it leads. Remember, your gut instinct is your greatest ally on the journey of self-discovery and decision-making."
My dad and mom always said that when I became an adult, I needed to make my own decisions. They stuck to this until they both passed. I gained great confidence in the decisions I made. Most of the decisions I made were successful. I never consult or listen to anyone who wanted me to make different decisions or told me I could not do anything I put my mind to.
I'm quitting my job as a special Education teacher! But it was hard when I kept thinking about the kids and my awesome team. When I really thought about what I wanted, it was so easy. One of your other podcasts was the tipping point for me, Mel. Thank you!
By the way, I frequently use your tools to teach my high school students...the 5 second rule, and the "I'm ok, I am safe, I am loved" (crossing your arms)...they are shocked at how quickly they feel better.
11 school days left! I'm so excited for my next chapter!
Also...read the book called QUIT!!!
I worked for the Social Security Administration for 22 years as a GS-09. From day 1, I applied for GS-10s and GS-11s…for the next two decades, to no avail. What got me outta there? I gave myself the mission to eliminate my DATA ENTRY job with software (that I would teach myself how to write). When i included that app with my applications, I got hired immediately as a GS-12. I didn’t know I could skip grades! $67,000 to $100,000. Interestingly, that was STILL THINKING TOO SMALL. $105,000 to $180,000 by leaving the government (there’s even more potential).
Wow! What an incredible idea that was to teach yourself to write the software to replace your job. That's brilliant! Congratulations!
@angi334 Thanks Angela! I’m finally seriously working on my first few millions.
It sounds like you saw his going to that university as an opportunity for a "social do-over" with the university. I can relate. Oakley is lucky to have an inspiring and supportive mom.
I just went through this “gut” feeling with my Corporate America job. I went with gut feeling. Thank you…..the gut tells the truth….listen so you don’t vomit.
when I was in high school I said I wanted to interview people and ask them about their career and why they are good at it. I became an accountant and experienced everything she said I hated it. But it lead me to understand my personality and why I wanted to interview people and realize it is a way to express my gifts I am an INFJ and am great at drawing people out and get them to talk about what lights them up I am good at asking the right questions now I am a career clarity coach and teach my clients how to understand your gifts and how you want to express them in a career that is energizing when my clients have that aha moment it is very satisfying that is my reward
this is the way to choose a career you have abilities you have personality traits you either find an outlet to express them or you suppress them
expressing energizes you
suppressing drains you
I knew what I wanted to do when I graduated high school. I got some very discouraging advice from a woman I interviewed for a job with after college. I gave up that dream. I am now 60 and I tinkered with that dream a little over the years, and it still calls to me I realized of all the education I have had I have never really studied what I need to be a success with it. I am about to start that path. As you get older its not just courage, its also mental and physical energy and its the fear of isolation when some friends and family just think you are "ceazy" because you don't just want to be comfortable...you want to live your own path. Thanks Mel
When I applied to college, I wanted to take psychology. My mom pushed me into business, said it would be better opportunities. I was in college, wanted to go into Personnel which is now HR. I was recruited out of college into purchasing and have been there ever since. I got my MBA because that was the thing to do. I’m turning 60 soon and tired of the re-orgs, having to prove myself to new management and not being heard. My department is blamed for everyone else’s lack of planning. I feel too “old” to change to a new career yet burnt out and stressed. Thank you for this podcast. I truly don’t know what to do next. As you said…anything but this. 😢
Is there an Oakley Fan Club? Asking for a friend! He is so amazing and insightful for a young adult.
24 & crucially needed this. Struggle to change the dynamics from Parents/Child relationship to Parents/Adult Child. Decisions are made for me - to the smallest details. Was put into 20 year mortgage behind my back, against my consent (my name’s not on paper, but I’m expected to start paying in the future as it is “my” apartment). The worst is - I cease to be myself too. I’m molded into accepting it, the not-my-life things. Becoming it. Starting to feel comfortable in it (as far as constantly convulsing & being at the edge of tears go). I live only in other people’s prism; mold into their projections.
That’s why every time I find something inside me that is the real me - I protect it at all cost. No one will know. I protect myself from other people perceptions, ‘cause I know I won’t be able to withstand it.
But now? I’m in some sort of slowed-down (pre?) Quantum Leap period. When the things I was fighting for behind the scenes are starting to form some paths for the future - I need to just go for it. Now.
It’s scary. I’m still hiding the real dreams & intentions, but at least I started making visible changes like going to the other country to open a new bank account to be able to do international freelance as it’s impossible in Russia otherwise (and secretly to take an English exam there (can’t take it in Russia anymore) so I can go study filmmaking in & move to UK)
Things are unfolding - projections and smothering is strong, but I’m giving my best. ❤️🔥
Thank you for this insightful & inspiring episode 🌟
The gut instinct is such a hot topic that is not discussed enough, not to mention the lessons you so candidly share being, without a shred of doubt, of high value, timeless, and applicable to anyone wanting to better grasp the decision-making process in everyday life.
I love this podcast!! You always give us a takaway!! Now I can ask myself the question when I need to make a choice " Am I on the tour or am I making up my own mind??" I love the part of not giving in to your emotions in the moment and looking past that into the future you to help you make the healthier choice!! Thank you Mel For teaching us to have the courage to push thru the hard stuff of life.☺️👍💗💗💗
Yes! She's so great!
Gut feelings save life ❤ always listen to your inner voice ❤
Mel, I appreciate you so much! You make me laugh daily, but more important you are so relatable, and inspirational to me. Thank you so much for "putting yourself" out there daily for the better good of us all, especially Women.
I love how he calls mom out. Great convo.
“You should thank them. I have a lot of skills because of it”. 🤭😆😂🤣. Mel, you’re hilarious 💖
Love this! Its kinda like the saying.."if u love what u do, you'll never work a day in ur life." The passion pulls u forward..follow ur passion which is in the heart..😊💖
His voice sounds like Chris. I was listening on Spotify and jumped to you tube to see his mannerism which are like Chris, too. What a nice young man and beautiful family!❤
I used this yesterday to decide what I really wanted to do personally on my day off so thankfully I listened to my gut and I'm now creating my art in my sketchbook to move forward on my journey my passion ,therapy has always been my art I've been doing jobs that aren't creative so let's see and instead of focusing on what I'm not doing (my partner's advice ) be happy in the thing I am doing today ...........love this it helped how you explained this ...... how many of us 'go on other people's journeys ,talk and pattern heard often when young that sticks in your head '!! ❤
I turned to this channel post after facing a HUGE job/career decision and needing some guidance about how i felt about it. I was recently given a job offer to go to work for a pharmaceutical company after being out of the field for 16 years and being age 60!. I have really wanted to get back to getting a full time really good job and the position and company seemed like a fit too good to be true - terrific title - good pay. And, i really needed a good job. However, my gut (i think) seemed to be telling me things. The day i received the phone call offering me the job, my heart sank and i felt instant dread. The whole 4 weeks i had to reach my decision, i felt depressed - like a huge weight was on my body - poor sleep - growing depression - anxiety - loss of interest in things - no peace. There was no "i'd really like to do this feeling". But, it was a great job and position! how could ii turn it down? ....well after watching this video, i decided to turn the job offer down. huge mistake? (or, did i just need to push through it like Mel says? - Isn't that the big question we all face. Wasn't my gut telling me what to do? Was i afraid?)
I need to have the courage to make my own decisions ❤can’t wait to see who I’m going to be ❤ xoxo
So much of what you shared is me, kind of spooky. You're the real deal, no phoniness and you have a special way of getting into my head and I really listen. I'm sad that you were not around in my 30's. Feel like it's too late for me but for the younger ladies... Listen to your gut. Remember, you need to be quiet and listen carefully. Thank you Mel.
"What do you think?" I ask my husband this question way too much. I need to be more confident in making decisions for myself. When i do not listen to my body I allow my brain to talk me out of doing the things i really want to do because i let my brain say, "You cant do that, what will so and so think?" Who Cares!!I can now see this through my entire life.
At the age of 54, I am FINALLY making my own decisions. I am still trying to figure out my new life since my kids are adults, one moved out in February and one still here. After listening to this I am so proud of him for making the decision to move out. He didnt ask, "What do you think?" He just did it knowung ut would be what is best for him. I need to tell him.
I like that you said that we may not know what we want to do yet, but that we can work on the ability to recognize that we cant do what we are currently doing anymore and it takes courage to admit this and make the change. This was me yesterday and all last week saying, "I cant do this anymore. This is not working."
I was and still am burnt out. My entire body ached. I am feeling better today for the frist time in weeks.
I had not planned on listening to this podcast but instead I found meself listening to all of it. I could relate to almost all of the things that were said. Especially what happened with your son and the college tours. My story is long but as a mom just watching her baby leave home abruptly and not under the best circumstances, I totally related to all you said.
Thank you for sharing that with us. 🖐
Having your son on there to explain his perspective… as a mom 🥹🥹🥹 OH MY GOD ❤ I loved this.
Always so real Mel! Thank you for being authentic and real because I see myself in you I'm sure all of your listeners do!!
Phenomenal Mel !!! I needed this today to be reminded that energy doesn’t lie !!! Time to level up and pivot🙏🏻👊🏻❤️
Oakley !!! You have a brilliant mother!
@Ngoziekene , yes please!!
How do I dm you??
When you connect with your heart it is always wispiring you the truth ❤ All the poscats that you make and the exercises you gave lead me to the way that I can hear my inner voice. Thank you 🙏
Thanks for sharing your memories & the story about looking for college’s for your children and the emotional stages you went through. My oldest is just about to start the process. I did not enjoy my college years for various reasons so would NOT want her to go to the college I went to. Her cousins go there but luckily she is not even interested. I really want her to have a better experience than me. I liked your story about it being the last day and your adhd brain not computing that you had to get to the airport and onto a flight that afternoon and therefore opting to throw all your stuff out of your room with a ‘free’ sign on it. The way our brains work when we’re young.
Such a blessing to have you as part of my life, Mel. Thank you so much. Over the past 3-4 years, I've made so many positive changes, but under the circumstances, ( regardless of great ideas ), my biggest concern has been, in getting back out in the world. I guess you can say, still in pandemic
isolation mode. You give me the
courage to make most important decisions, that could make major
changes in, not just my life, but changes for so many. God Bless 🙏💗
Are you kidding, you're incredibly fluent! x
Loved this podcast, I found it at the right time!!! Thank you thank you!!!
Again, Mel! This was such an inspiring podcast. You are helping me think things through while I move forward with my life. I've got plenty of support helping me. But, I have to continually remind myself and do self care. Since, I purchased the daily journal, I have regularly watch and taken in your way of describing how we navigate our goals in life. I was surrounded by narc family and a 30 year marriage with one. Your podcast on that subject was so informative. It is very hard to find your own single voice and act from that point. But, I am doing it. Steps forward all the time. I can do it.. Love you!
Thank you for this Mel!! Talk about synchronicity....we just did a college tour with my son yesterday! I'm afraid I hijacked the experience although my husband disagrees.....
It's hard to not fall into using your child's successes as do-overs for your own failings
Ha Ha, they laughed at me when they said I wanted to go to the U of Pennsylvania. Guess who has a big beautiful ivy league diploma now?
Thank you for another great podcast…I wish I had heard this many years ago!
If my mom would have ever acknowledged "I was not on my best behavior that week," it would have been SO incredibly validating for my siblings and I. So I'm launching mama stars your way 😂🎉✨⭐🌟💫
My mom did not admit to her kids if/when she did anything less than perfect. We learned that mistakes caused us to become more isolated. I never realized how wrong her attitude was until I had my own son. Thank goodness for natural instincts!!!
In highschool I was also motivated by dismissive jerks. I got C's until I realized I wanted to go to college, and then got straight A's; my parents were probably frustrated with that, but they knew nothing of ADHD and mental health diagnosis for minors.
College was fun for me, learning and being able to earn praise; I didn't participate in the social aspect. I chose the college that offered me the largest scholarship (50% off!!). It did have a higher tuition than the others I got into even with the discount, but the name was good. Had a recognizable class ring, and I do meet other (always friendly) alumni each time I wear my own ring out.
The professors there supported me all the way through, even the year I took off between, until I finished with my Masters degree. They insisted it would be a waste for me to not get a graduate degree, and helped me with finding a scholarship and funding. Those teachers had no idea my dad had passed right as I started graduate school, and I was living with a "boyfriend" who was abusive and SO toxic. The odds were definitely stacked against me, including my own choices and warped sense of self. Those professors had NO idea that they had opened a door (and stood on both sides with landing lights LOL) for a young woman who would have never stumbled through that door without external intervention. I ended up being really glad I chose the private university, vs the branch campus version of our state university. I do wish I had been able to do the on campus life thing, but I saved 8k/semester by commuting via bus. Accessing those professors who actually took interest in me, who let me in their offices to ask my long lists of questions, who made things work when my transportation couldn't line up with the schedule I needed to graduate (a professor sat with me two hours each week so I could take the required class "independently" before remote learning was a thing, like what a kind soul!!) I was also pleased I was able to find friends who didn't drink and party so much, who also felt like their education was their ticket out of whatever background they had come from.
Anyway. College rant. Thanks for being a good mama role model! We need more moms to normalize the struggles & difficult decisions, and to show each other that we do not need to be perfect in order to maintain happy and healthy homes. A healthy dose of humility and authenticity always helps me get back on track with my wild toddler.😊
The in-depth review of "what does yes feel like in your body, what does a no feel like? How can you tell, when do you know?"
Something my mother never reviewed. My dad reviewed when I was about 8yo, and didn't with either younger sibling. Teaching and affirming following our own spirit, that the information is valid and can be used to guide us, is definitely very timely for a young adult, teenagers, and probably preteen, as well. If anyone would have told me my gut feelings were valid it would have changed my WORLD!
Definitely going to review this with my son. He needs to know to follow his Spirit. My hope is that his life won't be AS painful if it doesn't take him until he is 30 to figure out he can go inside for guidance!
The last time I trusted my gut, I got ROYALLY SCREWED OVER!!!
Love you, love your podcast and your books! Keep doing what you do! 😻
I’m cracking up because I am seeing so many things in common including an internship out of paralegal school with the Michigan atty general and basically ran out of there when they offered me a job! Of course now it would probably be great with the bad ass women over here running the state. Thanks so much so glad I’m not alone;)❤
omgosh I just love you Mel! Just had my youngest son grad college this weekend!
Mel, you’re just the best❤
Thank you so much, Mel!! You are the best!
This Is so amazing!!! Thank you Mel!!!! ❤❤❤
I've never met Mel .she seems like a pretty cool woman. It's incredible the different subjects and solutions that are discussed. Thanks Mel 🍺🍺
Phenomenal as always! Thank you!
Fantastic episode!!!
That was great Mel. 🥰
The No is louder than the yes, true.
He’s so cute! Good to see your family on here!!❤
Awesome podcast Mel ❤️❤❤
LOOOOOOOOOVVVVVVEEEEE IT!!!!!!!!!!
😢 this is SO true!!
Thank you ❤
Mel Robins I love you 🎉❤
This podcast just made us best friends 😂!!!!!!!! You are sooooo funny and real ♥️! I love the college seeping around stories 🤣!!! I was literally cracking up in my car this morning!!! Oh and I can totally relate!😂
THIS WAS SOO GOOD
To hear what right for you"👍
I love u toooooo muchhh❤❤❤❤❤
Mel, Jessie, you are awesome as always!
I am concerned about your misunderstanding surrounding collagen and adding it into your protien shakes. You were right to add it Mel, COLLAGEN IS AN IMPORTANT COMPONENT FOR THE BODY - NOT JUST SKIN AND HAIR About 30% of our total body protein is collagen. And collagen itself is comprised of amino acids that are the building blocks for connective tissue that is present in every major tissue in the body, including the muscles. So I am concerned that you were misinformed, and in turn, others will be misinformed. ADD HYDROLIZED COLLAGEN PEPTIDES to your drinks or take them as capsules, do not dismiss how important it is for good health!
Hi Mel, I needed to listen to this podcast. My big decision right now is about becoming a mother whether it happens or not.. I cannot get pregnant naturally, I’m heading into my mid 40s and I cannot let go of needing to become a mother, so I have to rely on IVF to fulfil this need. I was told that in order for me to get pregnant I’d need an egg donor, because my eggs due to other health complications were no good. Adoption especially at my age is impossible in Australia, and I am open to it, the next best thing was to accept carrying partially someone else’s baby, experience pregnancy, motherhood and all of that which I’m currently in the process of doing. It’s very scary experience because as much work, effort and hope you put in this journey you do not know what you are going to end up with.. it can all fail or you could end up with beautiful children which you add to your family. This journey is life changing, makes you dig deep and super stressful.The need to get to there is that desire to get to the next stage of my life, going to college/getting a job/whatever is that next step is a step towards progression, my evolution. Your podcasts and take control training give me the tools to put things into perspective, and move forward… thank you ❤.
Can you foster if adoption isn't an option? I'm not sure if there's a view to adopt as part of it but when the child turns 18 wouldn't then be possible to adopt them if you both agree to it?
Our world makes so much about motherhood and having to experience the pregnancy to count as a mum yet that's entirely false. I hope it does work out for you.
I've been doing this but unable to find a single job that I can do as an autistic/ADHD person who's still struggling with anxiety/panic attacks and still recovering physically from my last burnout.
Good job for not doing pharmacy. I chose pharmacy but didnt know myself at the time lol
Your husband putting his hand on you - definitely my husband and me.
Sounds like Amy manifested her goldmine. Go Amy!!!
My gut is anxiety ridden and stressed so hard to trust sometimes.
If anyone truly trusts their instincts, instincts will scream out at you
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I feel like I’m at the end of my rope, and I shouldn’t be this depressed 😢✝️✝️
Had me at 7:09 🎉
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I feel my gutt in my stomach lol😊
I prefer the episodes where Mel is the only one giving advice
Wish she hadn't felt she needed to refer to the numerous"skills" she picked and that her husband should feel grateful for it.
Making more in 1 month than you did all last year? That makes me anxious. I’m skeptical that she didn’t know the deal might come through before she announced this. Regardless, this was just luck and not like she did anything to make it happen. Odd story that is a bit bad to share.. gonna have a bunch of people making unrealistic pronouncements or rash decisions that maybe aren’t the best.
Ok, I’ll play the law of attraction game … “I’m gonna make a million dollars in the next 30 days!”
She was trusting her gut that said that she should follow that. There was nearly an entire room of people that heard it and went "that's a hell no for me" but for her she had that pull that she needed to follow it and it was a hell yes.
I've read too many genuine experiences of this happening for people it just blows my mind.
Yet for me I've never had LOA work even when I went all in with zero reservations, no hold bars, and no focusing on the goal point/outcome (since this takes away from being in the moment and following the inspired actions) and it wasn't until I was knocked out of that mode by an incident and then stopped to check everything around me it was just all worse, zero improvements anywhere.
I do know that going "I'm going to have X come into my life by Y time" won't work unless it feels light and pulls you, I've tried that a few times too because I keep being drawn into LOA. Apparently there has to be some level of executive functioning ability so that leaves me, a neurodivergent, out.
hooray
Shame all or kids do uni like your collage and most stay at home. Not like the states.
I’m a little put off by this episode. Seems to be more like Mel’s life than the usual routine.
I love hearing about Mel’s life! They are actually my favourite episodes.
Why so many f*** word. The message would be even better with out it. 🙁
So... You basically hijacked his day at Dartmouth. And pretty much made it all about you.🤔🙄
She did for some of it and was calling herself out for it. You've zoomed in on one part of the whole video and, based on your comment, missed the message being conveyed.
The F bombs....you can do better.
Oakley is so solid and steady that it’s REALLY worth celebrating. This kid feels good to be around and hear thoughts from.
Thank you both for doing this episode. I learn so much from youth.
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