NEVER Make These Two Mistakes With Women
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Hey Rich. I got your book...it's great stuff. I was wondering if you would be interested in interviewing me on your channel? I have an idea regarding marriage that I think needs to be included in the red-pill mindset (if it isn't already). It involves the option of marrying very early in life (around 15-16 yr old...the way our great grandparents did). I'd love to bounce it off of you because it is an important piece of the puzzle that is not being discussed in the community. Please get back to me. Thanks
Can I get your book for ARRR (Pirate Chain), and not $$$ ?
Your book is charging men's lives
Excellent content. I've been sharing your channel with many younger fellows whom are impressionable. Then I proceed to teach them a pinch of wisdom and guidance.
"A man will lose money chasing women, however a man will not lose women chasing money" I don't remember who said that but it's gold
@Mc LOVIN exactly my opinion. What do I really want? Sit in a fancy car? Or for example experience endless mountains.
Mountains=easy choice
Tell that to bill gates
The point is understood but the quote is awkwardly worded and actually implies that "a man will not lose women who chase money."
@@riproar11 it needs that comma toward the end
If you don't have money you're not getting her in the first place..
At 19 I thought the same thing. At 47 I lost everything including my 3 children. Don’t get married, it’s simply not worth it!
It's a 'shit contract'..
@Kuba P It’s obviously because of his ex-wife.
@Kuba P because his ex wife was a vile creature
You said it all I have been trying to make a decision on getting married but now no
@Jesus loves a Shovelhead had at 23 she left now married and gave birth recently
I'm 22 and fresh out of the marines, this advice is priceless. I saw way to many guys in the service wife up the first chick they meet in town and end up a depressed mess 2 years later.
Facts! Living in a Trailer home somewhere Also. Semper Fidelis
So many cheaters and broken/broke men in the army. The army taught me a lot about woman and $. I can see a Alamo a mile away now.
@@robmarine393 Erah
And buy a Challenger or a Mustang lol
@A H I feel that way to hard. With all the stress that comes from working in a combat mindset day in and day out, then throw in getting cheated on while serving... and they wonder why one of us suck starts a pistol every 30 seconds.
For everyone bashing this kid, none of us started out with this information, we all had to learn it as we go. Some of us sooner, some of us later.Every master started out as a beginner. Tyler needs to focus on being his own mental point of origin and the rest of his life will fall into place.
Solid perspective frank
Exactly brother, the ones bashing him act as if they’ve never done the same thing he has
I really don't want to use the word "bashing". Personally...
More like aggressive ARM WAVING!
As in No! No! No!
Turn AWAY, you are going to the Slaughter House.
He is here to get good sound advice. And he is getting that advice, no doubt..
A real pity the rest of us at a more "advanced" age in our lives.
Could not get ALL this life saving advise at our finger tips when we where younger.
We instead, learned the VERY hard way....
Walking into the Slaughter House....
Especially at 19. At 19 that's really a good age to learn this stuff. You rather have a 19-year-old, who's relatively free, learn this than a 30 some year old who's been through 2 marriages already. The damage is only to his ego and not to his life or financial situation.
@@donaldcodes I’m impress that you were able to recognize your privilege and be grateful for it, privilege is usually invisible to those who have it.
What most modern women want in 2021;
"The power and benefits of a man
The privilege and entitlement of a woman
The accountability and responsibility of a child and the self-awareness and life experience of a new born baby! "
Some folks refuse nature's plumbing and it's pangs
What most modern women want in 2021;
"The power and authority of a man
The privilege and entitlement of Traditional a Lady
The accountability and responsibility of a child"
dont worry later comes big cry and sadness.
This is gold and should be on a T-shirt
Oh that's hilarious!
“Hope” & “Just be yourself” are destructive advices for men. Always be improving.
imo just be yourself means to be authentic and not a fake people pleaser
@Jesus loves a Shovelhead
You all should, guys! The better saying is... discover yourself! Most men haven’t even taken time or put in time to discover themselves before they jump into relationships, which in turn makes them become so unnecessarily needy & clingy! Take time to discover yourself!
@Jesus loves a Shovelhead
Now that’s my aspiration right there! Wouldn’t it be so nice if we could all retire so early! Purpose has no retirement however... You might’ve just retired early so you can discover your true purpose!
@Jesus loves a Shovelhead
I salute you, sir! As a US Navy veteran, myself, I can attest to how extremely challenging it can be for our vets to smoothly transition back into the civilian life! Especially in the recent times when most were deployed!
That’s commendable & speaks a lot!
"never change" "you'll find someone" "you'll make such a great husband" "never be 'that' guy" "you're such a good man".
Listen to this man Brother's, I wish my pops gave me this jewel when I was younger. Like Rich say's : Women don't care about your struggle, they wait at the finish line and pick the winner.
Not pick but f***
Somerhing is wrong with ur statement coz Women r 50% of the society....But if thats right then how many winners we have to match with all of those girls out there ?? A winner can not take all girls around
@@mahmoudezzeldin3265 the truth is women have to hustle hard as well! Western culture and capitalism are owned by relatively few families. The enemy is at the top of the food chain. Billionaires, millionaires, (70%) are those that either inherited money from their families or married into one. We are fighting amongst ourselves, and it's a sad situation. Women get burnt hard by divorce too, and end up as the primary care takers of the kids most of the time. Fast fact- speed, crystal meth, etc. these evil drugs are on the rise for single mothers who can't keep up the pace. Many women in the west don't have families to fall back on. Divorced men remarry more often than women, and the kids are likely not thrilled with a step mom, who likely doesn't care for them either. They just want the dude & his cash / lifestyle, or what is left of it.
The two take aways are for people who have kids- they come first! And, know the middle class are getting worked over by who are at the top of the food chain! Politicians are bought off frequently by those who can do so. The whole structure is designed to make many people little more than slaves! Stop demonizing women, team up, & fight for what's right together! Then teach your kids to do the same! Fight back- not at one another-
Listen young men I am 53 years old and I’ve learned the hard way that if you chase a woman you will always lose. You lose because she’s looking for challenge not a child that needs approval from momma
You lose because she’s looking for a leader she can respect and look up to
You lose because you don’t develop the alpha mindset, the disciplined focus, and learning how to contemplate and navigate through it all.
You lose because she treats you with disrespect like a pair of shoes that will eventually be kicked off for a new pair.
Chase excellence in work and become a master. Build your empire and women will chase you. They will seek your approval. They will be your helper to compliment you. They will find their place that is best for them at your side something they desire but won’t always admit.
Without security a woman feels on edge. A strong alpha male provides that and does not need approval for excellence. But that comes at a cost, that comes from hard work, and blood.
Now stop reading and start bleeding.
Outstanding
That's true and a lot of time you don't even have to do all that. If you have that don't care attitude like this is who I am take or leave most girls will come to you. Thing is Girls always came to me I just didn't know what the heck I was doing back then.
Wow! Thanks. About to let the blood spill
Or just dont commit to any woman. Its fine to be alone and just have friend girls to talk shit with, but dont commit to them, dont be their boyfriend or invite to your house. You get the point
very clever and well written, thank you
I was with a girl 16 years, 1 kid and a couple dogs and a house. The whole relationship she was always saying that I would leave her for somebody else and she would be all alone. I always said no way not going anywhere. Well 4 months ago she tells me that she wants to be with someone else and dumps me. I can't believe how much of a sucker I was.
" she was always saying that I would leave her for somebody else and she would be all alone"
That's classic projection lol
Sounds like her projecting something she was doing. How are you now? OK I hope.
You had the power at the beginning of the relationship and she saw you as a catch, you must have gotten too comfortable and accommodating, happens fairly easily
46. Never been married. No kids. Still playing basketball against kids in their 20s. Just bought a Porsche. Life is good.
"I want one woman that will stay with me for my whole life." 😂 The Disney fantasy is strong with this one.
I live in India , my mom is a so called traditional wife ...both my parents never had a partner before marriage ...it was an Arranged marriage ... celebrating 25 years without a single fight
@@Ayisha4889 Bro stop it, most likely she’s just a women that follows orders. An arranged marriage, so she has no say, she knows nothing else in this world. Not disrespecting her.
@@tomsaywer9883 I can understand where you are coming from ... but believe me ... She is the one that manages our house...decides the budget ...where as father earns money ...No she is not the one that lives like a slave ...my father had never disrespected my mother ...Both of them live happily together .
@@Ayisha4889 Didn’t say she was a slave. But she was trained for this, had no other choice. We you mentioned arranged marriage, all the rules are thrown out. In western civilization arranged marriages are frowned upon.
@@tomsaywer9883 I know Arranged marriages are frowned upon in developed countries ...but guess what ...which country has strong relationship 🤷, which country has strong family system 🤷, we don't have single mothers , we have only 1% divorce rate , Commitment is a thing in my country ...we don't leave each other till death , when it comes to relationships Men are happier in my country compared to yours ..
Dude. I have been there. The moment I slipped up or a hunk came around, I found myself in the second spot position. Luckily, I learned from my very first heartbreak. Single and loving life at 42.
How donu love life if u r single? What do u do with ur sexual desire?
@@mahmoudezzeldin3265 You use that energy in other productive ways. Stay on target.
You can still have a lot of sex when you Are singel😅 I have much more sex now when Im singel.. and I decide when
It’s truly sad . As a 60 year old man , I got married at 18 and yes - I felt the same way . My grandfather came back from WWI and got that factory job ; raised 5 kids successfully . My dad came back from WWII and raised 5 kids successfully . ( both immigrants ) ME - after 33 years ; after raising 2 kids , home paid off , colleges , weddings , ANNIHILATED in the “ Big D “ ...
Started my life over at 52 ...
Wow... That's my story too. I am 63 & started over at 54. Totally blindsided but fought hard in the divorce courts and ended in a tie... but I had to fight like hell.
Same with me, had to start over at 52, walked away with my car and the clothes on my back.
My turn..55..big D coming soon...pastors widow I married @45 (first time!)...blindsided thought I was safe 10 years ago...nope!..good to be single again!
Divorced at 50 after 20years and 4 kids. I feel lied to and totally abused by society and female nature. I am a good man. Hard working, professional, good dad, loyal, kind, compassionate. Society screwed me big time for that. Now in a mortgaged 1bed lease apartment for last 9yrs after 40yrs of hard work and family commitment. You can probably imagine how I'm feeling.
How old are you , I'm 59 and finally woke up after 3 failed marriages , yes im to blame for all , but I feel alive now and happy , no one tells me what I can and cannot do anymore , please everyone listen to this man he knows what he is talking about , Cher's from Lake Tahoe
3 marriages? damn...
I learned after the first long term relationship
Lake Tahoe ? I live in Reno NV 😊
@Kuba P Marrying 3 times for one..
@Kuba P It is always the man's fault. Take 100% responsibility for your actions if you want to be alpha. Sure, some things are out of your control, but learn how to be a good judge of character, and it will help.
Saying it’s all the mans fault better be sarcasm
This guy is the poster child for your before the train wreck series. The last thing a 19 year old man should think about is marriage. A young man in his late teens and 20s should be to find himself. Try different things, try different businesses, find out what your passion is, find out what your skills are, date different women, educate yourself in business, investing, and life.
@Kuba P true
Facts
I've heard multiple times guys tend to mature around 33. Even then, you have to prove yourself to become a man, no boy becomes man without struggle, we just become older infants, ugly things.
Take your time, strive to become the best, strive to become the best, strive to become the best you can.
Yeah, well, the writer is a corrections officer and already seeking to go all in on “the one” at age 19. At least he contacted Rich for advice.
I agree. Even if he’s full steam ahead with this career, he’s not doing well for another ten years. THAT’S when he’s in a decent financial / professional position to make a solid move. Especially if he want kids because ideally a woman should be in her early to mid twenties when having her first born. Ideally.
I'm 54 now and the first thing I thought when you read the email was: Yep. I used to think exactly that. These ideas have been implanted in your head by society and popular culture. But you find out reality just doesn't work that way. It's a hard slog for men, that's for sure.
The kid is young and lucky he’s being told this stuff early.
I'm nearly 52. And based on my experiences, I believe Rich is absolutely correct. Pursue excellence, as he says. Focus on your making something of yourself. Be a leader (Or at least be independent). The rest will then follow. And don't get hung up on one chick. You'll likely regret it. Thanks, Rich.
33 had a kid with a girlfriend, i thought it was forever all in, but i got lazy, she bounced, i was shocked. Rich's advice rings true.
Amen. At least in my situation i didn’t have a kid... but I definitely sympathise with the “forever all in” thinking...
Exactly the same story, I feel you. Never again
Been there. Fuck'n sucked. 💯
@@HeartGolden because you only realise in this retrospect
@@HeartGolden Because a real women wouldn't do that, especially since most of yall are lazy yourselves and expect men to stay with you.
I'm 26, a late bloomer and I got one thing out of this: "Your Mission,life, and purpose" is what we are suppose to focus on. Thank you.
Thank you, Rich....thank you very much...I'm currently ending my first serious relationship, I'm 27, been with her for almost 5 years...and man..when reality hits, it hits hard..men, we were raised for something that's not real, something that can't happen no more at least in western societies, listen to this man, value yourself...I thought I had a wonderful partner, but it's just never enough, she left...work on yourselves, forget about the dream that was taught to us..
I love how they always say they love the channel and watch it and yet even the basic principles they don't get or do the opposite of.
"Alpha personality" haha. He's a Gen Z kid and he's massively confused. He's found the right guy for advice though. 👏
Got ONE-itis a couple of months ago with this girl that honestly is a 6/10. I completely lost sight of my purpose and goals and of course she rejected me, and good thing she did because I found about The Rational Male and what I was doing wrong. My man here needs to start spinning plates...
Not really an older or more seasoned gentleman. I'm in my early 30s. But I spent my 20s with the "comforting lies" when trying to find the way of life that my boomer parents, and aunt and uncles, and WWll grandparents had. It lead to me being tossed like a cork in so much confusion, growing pains, doldrums, and finally having to completely change most of my life's priorities and beliefs, and start over. I'm doing much better now, and getting better. All I can say is to learn quick and think for yourself gentlemen. The quicker you do, the more ahead of the game you will be.
Same boat. Except I was recently shipwrecked thanks to the remainder of those comforting lies in my system. Gradually coming to terms though. And when I set sail again you can bet I won’t fall for the siren song again. Any tips on starting over?
Excellent advice rich as a 23yr old this advice is gold!
Don't.. ever.. marry..
Yea man, 26yr old here and I'm finding so much value to this. Grateful to say the least.
@@piekcruson993 definitely not brother
@@benjii2909 you’ll know when you find a wife material women a submissive, loyal women who can keep your balls empty, mind at rest, and your belly filled... If she can cook that’s a big plus but bro I hope you succeed in life
@@jaysaiuniverse8628 Jesus I needed that mate thank you very much ❤
He’s 19 for goodness sake. He’ll learn the hard way. It’s unfortunate but that is the way it is. I was the same back than. With regards to the soul mate theory. Your own soul is your mate.
I don't think he has to learn the trainwreck way - I'm 18 and I got fully unplugged over the course of the last year. My life goals and all that are much different than they were under the blue pill agenda I bought 2 years ago.
It's possible to get unplugged early if you connect the right dots and realize how it's all a scam made to fuck you over
@@st3llarmemer111 Yeah here I am 10 years later. The only people who are gonna stay is your bros. Hoes will come and go. I've had most of the same friends for decade or over now. The longest girls ever stay is probably 5 mos and that's on a good day lol. There's so much you juggle for a chick to stay around. Friends unless you're purposely trying to drive them away they normally always stay.
@@marioandultrachap what a load of rubbish im young and my "bros" vanished at the speed of light
@@micahcharles4277 it all depends on what type of company you choose to keep speaking from experience
He sadly got a lot of hurt coming.But he will grow from it all and be able to laugh about it one day.
Don’t even consider getting married until you have bank and lots of relationship experience. Then only if you pick a really great woman and want kids.
Their game is more sofisticated than yours. They just wait for foolish men like you who think money can buy them chicks who will sit submissive in their frame. Dream on boy... We men simply need to adapt. I am worried for my 5 year old son growing up in Amsterdam.
Avoid entirely unless you have a solid prenup.
don't get married no matter what, prenups are worthless
Never get married. *NEVER get married.*
Oh okay...so you're suggesting to get married when you have *even more to lose* ... Yeah, wonderful idea.
Bought your book. Passed it on to a guy that recently went through a divorce and is back in the dating game. I’ve also read Rollo’s work. You’ve both helped me a lot. Thanks!
Every teenager should watch this video.
All I wanted to do when I was young and in the Army was get married, have a wife and kids and start family. That didn't work out. Got married at twenty-three and got divorced three years later. Now I have no kids and no wife but I'm happily single, I own my own house, and I'm looking for a business that I can start up and excel in. I have never found a woman who is not a money pit. Every time I dated women, I had to put my aspirations and wants on the back burner. Fuck that. I am the reason I am so successful in my life, not a woman or anyone else. God is the source of my success and I will do all I can to honor Him as a single guy but I don't plan on getting married probably ever again.
Stay strong and stay single
Edit: I'm thirty-four now if anyone is wondering.
Literally same bro. Stay hard
So true, God is getting lost in all of this stuff. These women and even younger women are doing it too. It's actually pretty sad
1 Corinthians 11:7:
“For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man.”
Bless up brother. If you're still interested in starting the business, read E-myth by Gerber. Cheers mate
Facts - I literally had a friend last night say "I just want a girl in my life, to hold, to cuddle, to be with" i wanted to throw up but at the end of the day i couldnt get mad at him, i was like that when i was younger. He will come to eventually in his own time, maybe he may never will - but i found it on my own, when the time came and i hope he does too
Yes, I thought I would experience a marriage just like my parents. WRONG! The women of today are not the same type of women of my parents generation. I was also too nice. Another lesson learned. If you want women become a LEADER!
True.
I made same mistake. I thought women now were loyal like my mother,, grandmother. So naively put all my eggs in the family basket and lost almost everything now to a woman who took everything but some of my pension. She has kids, house, assets, car, and ALL the welfare, alimony, child maintenance. I have never received a dollar, but still have child expenses and responsibilities, my own mortgage and bills. I'm not a 6fig earner. I feel lied to and deceived by women, society, government, the church, school....
The only way to not be foolish any longer is by having had been foolish
I'm 63 & married 30 years with 5 kids on a single income. I worked hard and paid all the bills and sent all my kids to university. When the last kid left so did she. She tried to divorce rape me but I fought. I believed the lies that no longer apply to these feminist women. You are 150% correct on all points... maybe 200% correct. I was destroyed but I recovered. It was hard & most never recover. Listen & learn men... Listen and learn.
this car is a maintenance nightmare....looks cool i guess
Are you an accountant by any chance?
Hehe - I drive Bentley. If you want a performance car that is not in the shop get the new Porsche. Outperforms the McLaren and most other cars.
Way more comfortable and doesn't depreciate at the same speed as other cars.
I do remember how shocked my firm ideas were, when i heard women saying some things so self-evidendly which weren't empathetic at all not to say outright cruel.
And when that angelic image was shattered and removed from the pedestal, it hurt a fair bit but after that... i laughed.
Hard.
And i still am. :)
Remember grandpa home from the war also had a interest rate for his savings.
Buy USDC and keep it in a "crypto bank", Celsius Network pays 10% APY on USDC
Also far higher interest rate for a mortgage (foolish to be indebt for most other things especially cars). Saving is only a 1st step to *investing* which is how to grow wealth, not saving alone.
Rich, your content is gold, been following you for 3 years now!
I can't even lie, I had a similar mindset to this kid when I was 19 yrs old. Such a big mistake!
Don't get One-itis like I did kid. I wasted a lot of years on one girl I thought I'd live a Disney fairytale with and reality hit me like a ton of bricks. It was literally like Neo seeing the real world for the first time.
Don't waste your young years chasing girls. Save your money, stack your money. Invest in yourself and your purpose. Get out of your parent's house, have your own place and build the life you want for yourself. If you're on track women will present themselves because they see your focus is on Something greater.
In today's scenario if a guy wants a steady relationship with a woman he needs to date multiple girls to understand their nature and find the most compatible one. The Oneitis behaviour is not fruitful.
@Box Addict who tf has time to deal with multiple women like that? I can barely handle one.
Yeah, two jobs, a business and I invest in crypto I couldn’t date two girls if I wanted to.
@@glitchinthematrix555 I think he meant spin the plates.
Great advice Rich! I'm 64, divorced twice. You are spot on. Hypergamy is 100% real men. There are no "unicorns." My last longterm relationship was 6 years of wasted time. I did all the 'right things,' only to have my unicorn Monkey Branch to another dude. Fellas, Rich is right, listen and seek your purpose and make you #1 in life. I will 'spitball' here and say maybe 10% of women can be dependable for a 'longterm' relationship-maybe, but as Rich states, make sure you move lateral or up in dating. The Courts are still going to give the women the best deal. I had to start over 3 times, and am glad I kept my place to myself in my last relationship! Despite her Mother Theresa image, she wound up being a Big Rat! You are the MAN Rich. Wish I'd learned this stuff before my errors.
Seems like your the one that is making the mistakes in finding the right women. Maybe it’s not her
My story is as weird as it gets.
I wasn’t familiar with the alpha beta blue pill red pill terminology until recently after my divorce. I was alpha in my teens and late 20s and up until being engaged to my ex wife. I had sex with many women, had some STD scares and told myself I needed to settle down. My ex wife was a quiet and ‘nice’ person (or so it seemed) and she was 8 years younger than me when we met (she was 21.)
I treated her like all the other girls until I popped the question and realized this woman was going to have my babies. She was head over heels for me before that. Then I started treating her like gold, we got married, and over a few years she became a shittier and shittier person the more I dated her. I filed for divorce after some intervention from my dad (strong, wise man that wanted me out sooner) and she tried to crawl and claw into my life. Suddenly she was nice again, which turned me off even more so after the years of being treated like shit.
Even though the divorce was recent, so many things dawned upon me. I wanted that marriage to work because I didn’t want to fail at marriage. My dad was a strong role model and had me in mixed martial arts and the gym young, surrounded by other male figures (very, very large Balkan family) and I think if I didn’t have this it would have fucked me.
Now I don’t even think I want to be married. I’d rather live like I did in my 20s, but the one night stands get old. The real issue is I want kids, but I don’t want marriage. Maybe it’s me being skeptical because of a shitty marriage, either way the dating scene has changed significantly since I’ve last been single and it’s only decreasing my want to be married.
Come on!!! At 19 WE ALL had that mind set. And I DID find my soul mate. It's my DOG.
Lmao
😂19 taught me well too, found out I had a guitar at 20 I'm 22 and I adore the daylights out of my guitar😁🤺🤺🎸
Yeah my family fed me that marriage crap and I thought that way when I was 19, none of my relationships lasted longer than 3 years. Didn’t get married till 35 and I’m 44 now. Embrace being single and do what the man in the video says - it’s fantastic advice.
The scary thing is that men who've experienced female nature can relate to the message. Most of us are aware of the message but only a few can truly day they understand and will apply. My advice is that we keep sharing these truths to the young ones and most importantly be patient with them. Time and experience will bring understanding
100% correct!!! Really needed this advice at 18 years old!
I started out with Tyler's mentality at that same age. If I had the knowledge back then that I have today, I would be rich. Costs a lot of money to maintain a relationship, and then it really hurts when she decides you are not good enough. Thank god I began to understand that marriage was a trap, and never stuck my foot into that. Great advice, I hope Tyler heeds it.
A woman's wealth is her beauty, she is born with it.
A man is born broke, and must build his wealth. The maturation process for a man is entirely different than it is for a woman.
A young man needs time and freedom of movement. He needs the ability to live in a shack or on a couch if need be to go to the next level.
Once a man has built something and wants to become a family man he will be ready to look at women 10 years his Junior and have the wisdom to choose well.
There is a saying, men are like wine, they get better with age, and women are like milk, they expire.
I believe a woman's wealth is her knowing how to be a woman and her rightful duties to know her place in the relationship. My wife and I know our limitations and boundaries with each other. She is a complement to me and I respect her for this alone. The rest is bonus.
I thought the same way as Tyler, just finished 4&1/2 yrs of hell. (Just got my divorce decree.) Still fighting for joint custody of our 3 children... Don't be in a rush to get married, don't go in unprepared, maintain situational awareness even around your date, pay attention to the details, and learn from other guys mistakes.
Solid advice as always
This happened to me after 21 years married and 5 children together. She found what she felt at the time was a better deal and we got divorced. And I take care of myself and make over 100k per year.
5 kids? And another man took her? Smh
LITERALLY...concentrate on yourself , your goals and your future...she's not yours
IT'S ONLY your turn ...
Then your yesterdays trash to her
Im , New To This Channel All I can say To This Gentelman At 19 i was out ta High school & working And im, 40 now And Still LEARNING !! & I STILL HAVE A LOT TO LEARN!!
Best RUclips channel I ever watched. You and Coach Redpill are my rocks!!
Marriage has been destroyed by both parties.
I married a girl that cheated on me while I was dating her. I’ve been married to her a long time and realize that she has never respected me. She talks down to me in front of friends. I should have known. My advice is to NEVER get married.
You should take a look at your relationship with your parents. If you allowed a girlfriend to talk down to you, you probably learned that from your parents.
Such valuable information I wish I received when I was 19 years old. Let it sink in and hopefully you listen to Rich!
I needed to hear this today
He's extremely independent but he lives with his parents
He has an alpha personality but wants to find a woman to spend the rest of his life with at 19.
Yeah, sure!
Ronaldo!
One hell of a mobile studio 🔥
This video is so good
I had to watch it twice
Spot on, on all the videos
Trying out different relationships is a very good idea especially for a 19 year old. Your apple comparison was a good one. My one early requirement of a woman or girl was for her to be independent and confident enough that I didn’t need to entertain or tend. I’m so glad I felt that way then because I feel that way today in spades...as does my wife. For me needy people are “cling ons” and I have a low tolerance for them. When your woman has confidence (not arrogance) coupled with empathy that’s a very good sign.
Even the Klingons aren't that cling-ons like the needy people.
This kid is 19, at least he’s learning early and young. There are dudes who learn this much much later in life.
Great talk. And yes, the Auto Start/Stop feature on vehicles, and cylinder deactivation as well for that matter, is basically ruining any chances a car will be reliable and cheap to own/maintain for a longer period of time.
Richard you are saving lives one video at a time thank you from Trinidad and Tobago
I want to thank you for your sensibility and your intelligent advice to men. It's particularly important for young men who have no experience with women of their age, to listen and understand your sage advice. "You're here to chase your purpose." Excellent. The 19 year old that wrote to you that you mentioned in this video is far too young to think his only purpose is to find a woman to spend the rest of his life with. I am not positive that he will understand the apple metaphor that you used, but it wasn't bad. If I were a young man that was single I would definitely date around, have fun with it, build your own life before settling down with the first woman that comes along. I didn't even realize that a young man of 19 would even think the way he was thinking, but that's the proof that they exist because he wrote it and sent it to you. Can anyone stop him before he gets hurt? I think you can. Glad he found you. Now, I hope he takes your advice. I liked and subscribed. You make a lot of sense. Not just to the guys that follow you, but you make sense to me. Will like and subscribe.
I'm 19 right now, and honestly if what you say is reality, I'm never going to find a partner...
Listening to The Unplugged Alpha, love it so far, thanks Rich.
So incredibly true
Ah to be naive and simple minded at 19 just as I was at that age. As the years went by I slowly saw the truth slowly unfold before me. This kid is no different than we were at his age. He'll eventually learn as he walks the path of life.
19 and doesn't want to be used like in the past😂🤣😂. This kid hasn't truly seen anything yet. Wait until he gets married, had kids, built his career and kingdom and then 5 -10 years later "your girl" wakes up one morning and just changes her mind on the vows you took together and takes it all😂. Great video but unfortunately most of these young men won't truly understand until they've gone through it. You learn through pain.
Aye, which is tragic. But I guess that is why experience is so priceless. Sometimes it’s just what we need to go through regardless of what we hear beforehand. Some lessons can only be lived through, not taught
Thanks so much.
Very good advice
Man I love your videos. Always have them on off to the side when I'm doing my work and just play one after another. Hoping that watching them repeatedly will drill the concepts into my subconscious mind and undo all the betatizing bs that's been fed to me since I was a kid and will just become part of my nature. Great insight from a guy who has been through it. And sick sick car you have. All the best Rich. You're doing a whole lot of good.
Men shouldn't even think about LTRs/marriage till their mid-thirties. I got married in my twenties - easily the biggest mistake in my life. The stress and trauma it brings when things go wrong is just awful. It's like gambling with your life.
That doesn't help either, we had a musician in his mid thirties who married a 24 year old woman but she still divorced him when she turned 33. Guess u can't negotiate attraction because he is kinda goofy looking and bald but she is quite attractive blonde.
This would be my advice too. I don't even think us guys know who we truly are until we're mid thirties. I've changed tremendously from when I was 24 (now I'm 28) and still feel like I'll no doubt change more. I cringe when I see guys at 20 getting married - your brain isn't even fully formed and you don't know shit at 20.
@@rudy1999 LMAOO
Still don't know why men marry at their 20s, and men who doesn't even have a stable job, I'm 31 and i have a car, a home and can travel whatever the hell i want but my married friends at the same age are broke and they rent a shitty studio, hell what a horrible life.
You did really good on advising this young man. I wish I had a mentor at nineteen that would have told me this, brothers we have to help out the ones that haven’t heard this from their father. Let’s use our experiences to help out young men.
Rich you are doing gods work
Honestly, I’ve never thought it a good idea to “just be myself”. I know myself well enough to know that I always can find a way to improve. Beyond this, as I travel through life I’m constantly evaluating and changing based upon experience. I expect to never “arrive”.
But also, I’m not sure why I would want anyone to know everything about me. I withhold more or less depending upon the person with whom I’m interacting. And I figure if a woman wants to know me better, she’s welcome to come discover. If not, why should I reveal anything to her if she’s not interested.
The inside is greater than the outside, and it’ll always be that way.
"just be myself" ... He'll have a surprise or two coming. In my experience, women start to try and change you when they think they own you. I met my ex when we both were growing, it was a nice time as I felt admired and appreciated, but once we settled together and married, well, then the nagging truly began. She destroyed my self-confidence so much that I became a total beta, and the more I tried to condescend to her demands, the more she nagged me, it was a vicious cycle. Now I am divorced, and I am chasing excellence again. I also don't have this foolish idea anymore that without a woman I have no purpose. My purpose is now whatever I set my mind to. Now I truly can "just be myself".
It all started with that one confession
Thank you for all you do
"Your thinking anyway you might as well think big" - Rich Cooper. That is gold. Thank you for this video and your other work the more I watch the more I like.
Dude. I thought that way for a long time. I’m now divorced from a cheating wife. Last dude she cheated on me with? Her divorce lawyer
WTF
Comical! they deserve each other: 2 immoral people. What scumbags. BTW has she ever cheated in previous relationships?
Never let a hole change your goal
Focus on purpose not pleasure
Can't wait to read the book! Just bought it.
Thank you for sharing. Alot I didn't know.
Spin those plates and pursue that excellence my young brother! Enjoy your youth.
Great advice if what you want is to be a worldly sinner. If you won't turn to God and believe on his Son Jesus Christ, all your fleshly pleasure will count for nothing; you'll die, and that will be it for you.
@@noone3734 Nothing wrong with Serving God by pursuing excellence. Going off your other comments and logic, how would you attain that sacred Christian marriage?
Answer: By dating multiple ladies at once and vetting them properly.
Yeah, what plate spinning if I don't believe in sex outside marriage? What can I even do with those women lol.
@@noone3734 why would anyone want to accept the "sacrifice" I don't think you really get what that means.
How do you sacrifice yourself, TO YOURSELF. and what sane person would accept an innocent to die?
Like holy shit you people irk me.
He is himself, there was no sacrifice.
Shit there was barely any loss since the guy is fucking IMMORTAL.
Just think about it 😐
Blood sacrifice > Just forgive
Creator of the universe ladies and gents
@@salpertia I'd like to have a conversation with you, because if you think you've found the answers and have come to perfectly logical conclusions, you'd be surprised to see how many legitimate contentions could be leveled against you. You think you've given it a lot of thought, honestly? However, I hate having deep conversations on gootube, since they like to delete comments and shadow ban people.
He's right, across the board. I'm 44, grew up in a great solid family and extended family. Through decades of my family and extended family, the idea of divorce basically does not exist. In that entire block of 200ish people. I know of only 3 marriages that ended in divorce.
I however, am one of the only people in my family of the past two generations that never married. Why? Because based on this great family background I have certain expectations of how functioning relationships work, both pre and post marrage. Don't get me wrong I love women, but.... I have never met a single woman ; friend or otherwise that would be suitable to take on such a path.
Have dated, had long term relationships. I hold no Ill will towards any of the women I have dated or been in long relationships with, but never (from day one) would I ever have considered marrying any of them.
Women, for the most part have been changed. You can blame whatever you like. Changes not the fact that it is this way.
I'm not saying they're not out there. Am sure the good ones are. But.... Something's been lost in them with regards to holding relationships and it ain't coming back any time soon. No bitterness necessary. Yeah ya might luck out, and all the power to ya if you do.
Just stick to your path. If whatever else works out that's great. If it does not, don't worry about it. Life is pretty amazing with or without women.
Same here, it's actually pretty crazy on the amount of married women that will cheat in a heart beat too. It's getting worse, agreed. I'm noticing even younger women trying to get involved as well. Not a good direction
Nothing but truths in this video. 🙌
great advice bro!
I once happened to have a woman who I truly thought was the "one" loyal unicorn type. It needed to take several years of testing to reveal that she's not. They are chameleons by nature
How did you test her and how did she fail?
rich is actually comedy gold and he doesn’t even realize it.
Love the content bro
Best video in a very long time
Save a life Rich. Send this kid your book for free and hopefully he'll watch every video you've ever made along with Rollo's. The kid still has his cherry in tact (doesn't know any better).
I am 27 and I haven't popped my cherry yet and his videos are treasure trove of warnings.
I've only dated girls who i wanted to marry from the start, I am 34 years old now, and all I can say is it's hard to accept the reality of the situation that women are truly on a different mindset from anything you believe, and the mindset you hold will make you a giant target, as women know how to hide their flaws, attract males, as well as have the psychological insight into who we are based on our domineering mannerisms. If you are in any way aloof, tall, and good looking, you'll be able to date 20 year olds easy at your age, but if you ever show your cards and present resources you are storing and give it a label of "for my wife and kids" some girl is going to see that as a buffet, and tell you what you want to hear.
My advice would be date as many 20 year olds as you can, because once they turn 24 their body begins to sag and they get into the age of child mentality, which will make them even more deceptive, malicious, and narcissistic, as the damage of their past behaviors begins to mount and they put up more filters. I have been genetically fortunate and have got endless attention from females throughout my life, but I was naive and brought up in a proper religion to think there is a morality to proper behavior that if stuck to will ultimately attain a long lasting relationship, because of this I paired myself to some decent quality, low body count, good looking girls, and avoided a lot of fun women in my youth. The only perk to seeking women for long term relationships, is you'll generally meet women who will go on the birth control for you, and you can avoid condoms and bang at the drop of a dime in public, but that has it's risks as well. The reality is you'll have more success in your mid 30s for long term relationship status, i have 28 year old girls left and right who come to me with their values presented in the forefront as I usually make it a point to ignore them and talk shop with the males in proximity, these two girls keeps reminding me she bought land, another girl the other day bent over then said hello to me between her legs, another jumps into my work flow always trying to find a role in what I'm doing. Work on yourself, you have a decade of suffering to overcome before women will take you serious.
I’m extremely atheistic but even I find value in religious beliefs. For they were a way to live life in content and happily. Whether it be christianity or any other philosophy or religion. I subscribe to parts of each values since it truly does make for a more fruitful life.
But you have to remember. Those values were before feminism, birth control, abortions, heavily favoring women in the courts, and other contrivances ever came to being.
Which pretty much gave little reason to be virtuous since the consequences were diminished if not entirely.
So I still hold the belief that holding those religious virtues can still lead to a fulfilling life. I’m willing to bet more committed relationships were better than one night stands or constant flings with the baggage that they bring. It’s soul sucking to have fruitless sex when you can be putting that energy on your drive.
So although you may have missed out. Maybe you didn’t miss out on too much. It’s just a 🐱. There’s 3-4 billion of that walking around and adding them to your notch count will only stroke your ego instead of your drive or purpose.
Great stuff Rich. Every young man needs to hear these things. I made similar mistakes to this guy mentioned. I’ve learned Mental point of origin and chasing excellence need to be the focus of my life. Slowly unplugging from all these comforting lies..
Loved the shoulder check