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I dated a girl with BPD, it was a fucking nightmare, she built me up and made me the happiest man and was super obsessive with me. She then switched and would try to tear me down as a human at every opportunity. It’s such a toxic thing to live with, if you have a woman like this LEAAAVE.
me too ! she tattoed my name on her back a week ago, now sat night she's nowhere to be found. 2mmrw she'll say she fell asleep. or her phone didnt have signal where she was. ive caught her in atleast ten lies, one time i saw her at a bar , i told her i saw her, and she still denied it for 2 weeks,
I feel you brother. I was married to a narcissist for many years and had two children with her. The kids are grown now and tell me I should have left and divorced when they were little. Then I got in a relationship with a woman with BPD and it was even worse. Total insanity with here mood swings, anxiety, depression and I was the blame for it all. I had enough experience although it took me a while to see what was going on to walk away before the marriage she wanted so desperately.
Had a gf 10 years ago who had a committee that collectively convinced her that she could do better. She bought it and broke up with me. As one would expect, the committee consisted of a woman twice divorced and cheating on her third husband, another that was divorced, and a third that had actually cost the gf her no drugs allowed job at one point by giving her a joint for her birthday. I saw a pic of her recently. She had put on 100 pounds. What a fright. Me, still single, retired, bought a Harley with best friend who did the same, looking to build a retirement home. No regrets.
This was a hard lesson for me to learn. I kept asking myself why my girlfriend cared more about the opinion of her friends than mine lol? I didn't realize she didn't have a mind of her own until she broke up with me and started dating someone her friend thought would be a better match. And the guy was a drug dealer.
Yes had a girl that I cared for leave me when I was young for someone with more money. Now she lives in a van and I am on the opposite side loaded with rentals.
Before my wife and I got divorced, her female boss got divorced from her husband, father of her 3 kids. She ran away at 36 with a guy who was 24 and rode motorcross bikes for a living. Left her kids in the lurch. She would call my wife and URGE her to also get divorced. About how it was NEEDED. You see this alot, one woman in a social group will run away with a guy and urge the rest of them to do it. That was 10 years ago. The motor cross guy dumped her, no shock, and she became a man-hater, but sued to get the kids custody back after running away without accountability for a YEAR, and yet the Colorado court gave it to her. It was a female judge. It was insane. Those poor kids. She started to drink and even after my wife and I got a divorce, they stopped being friends. So a toxic woman can come from social circles.
@@agentcooper4627 As men when we remove the sex urge ( after we cum) we see when a woman displays red flags and see if we really like her. Today most women are not worth the hassle. They are sweet at first and when they get comfortable ( e.i. move in, marriage, mother of your kids) they suddenly switch then change to a new script. One advice is don't tell her anything big that you value, see if she discloses who she is and what she likes and dislikes. Date SLOWLY. Say less and listen and decide. Once she talks about sex just say you are open minded(but don't have any wants at the moment) and let her talk about her sexuality. IF SHE has sexual baggage she will want to dump her shame on you and make you accept it. She will spill a lot of big beans BUT Don't be judgemental, act cool like if you are talking to a stranger ( which she is). She will say more and more...even if you feel it is too much act cool and let her talk.....( Again don't be judgemental). If she says things that are deal breakers to go forward just nicely break up with her later not immediately. Don't do it when she is opening up. So do it a few days later and do it swiftly and don't keep contact afterwards . Avoid sex because she may ramp that up.
Tattoos are a sign of trauma. I dated a women covered in tattoos, she told me that she got a tattoo each time she had a trauma because they were better than self harm, this was straight from the horses mouth. Any women with tattoos will have issues. Next time you meet a girl with tattoos, subtly ask her the story behind one of her tattoos, I guarantee it wont be a nice one.
I met one like that, 13 tattoos, 27 piercing and she was 19... yeah she was cute and fun for spicytime 2 times, but she flirted with other guys right in front of me... she got dumped FAST!
the best story i heard was. this dog saved my life. it taught me responsibility and accountability. she is a walking red flag, but that tattoo was from her heart and genuine. also her dog is one of the most well behaved and lovable Pitbull's i have ever seen.
And 99% of women that you’ll encounter on dating apps these days will have at least one of these issues! It’s almost unbelievable that the majority of modern women are completely undateable and will probably die alone.
@@21skeptik when women advise other women. usually its the worst advise that they can give. it can also be a subconscious "crab mentality" at play as well.
And it's only half the list. I'm sure the full list covers at least 95%. It's frustrating when you meet someone you see potential in, then you learn she has the same red flags as the rest of them.
Take it with a grain of salt.. these guys are all human and I doubt they have their personal shit completely figured out. It’s impossible to go 20/ for 20 on red flags they mentioned in todays market lol. It’s a good guide though and they make great points.
Becoming a 10% guy is easier than ever though. Have you seen the competition? Like fuck me, imagine being part of the greatest generation when Eastwood, Heston etc were the standard and everyone had served in war. Meanwhile my competition has lower test than my grandma and are enslaved to the screen.
Disagree. I've had women obsessed with me and they smoked and had tattoos. It didn't end well each time. If a woman is obsessed with you she could have bpd; stay away from that.
@@johnnym9909 yea l agree with Johnny. Genuine desire is great but obsession is just weird. Females that become obsessed have crazy in them and it rarely ends well.
Found my x partner read tracking me. She told me I need to be obsessed with her. Accused me of wearing Cologne to impress other women ( weird considering she had just bought it for me and I was going to hang out with her in that moment too ). Trust me obsessed is a huge red flag. You think it’s flattering at first but your going to pay for it in the end.
Divorced in California after 6 years of marriage. She was a stay at home mom. Court made me pay for her attorney. I contested nothing hoping to cut my losses. Not so fast. Her attorney drug it out for years since I was paying his bill. BTW, she picked one of the top divorce attorneys in the county. I had just lost my job (100k a year) when she filed and took a position with lower pay ( 70k) because I was getting hit with $3000 a month support and had to get some money in the door as fast as possible. Horrible experience. Nearly impossible to get your custody agreement followed. No one cares if you are the man.
California is especially brutal to men. That's why Ellen Nordgen had her attorney claim Tiger's main residence was in California. The courts there will invalidate pre-nups and just fuck the man over.
Commiefornia. Disgusting place to even start a family so I don't know what you were thinking. Were you at least living in a mainly middle-upper class white and Asian area like Irvine? Even then the schools are gay factories. I always wonder about people who walk into parenthood with no plans and expect to put their kids in disgusting public schools.
Daddy issues explains why my ex told me she loved me but would start fights with me. She'd go full Cathy Newman. Id say "Im not interested in chasing other girls" and she would reply "Oh? So youre saying you want to see other girls!" Who else has experienced this? She takes your words, twists them 180 degrees, starts a fight and then says "we are always fighting. This isnt going to work. I love you but you don't love me. I cant do this anymore" and then they dump you. My ex gf is textbook daddy issues.
Be aware they are very narcissistic, nothing can fill the void that exists inside them , always chasing attention even by degrading themselves. Thank god i've finished that relationship before i would regret it deeply.
Definitely childhood issues, maybe with mummy more so than with daddy. Mood swings, shit testing, inimitable reasoning, rewriting history, victimhood, toddler tantrums and mind games. It’s a continuous power play, although she would deny that of course. They run on the latest emotion all the time and wil have you walking on egg shells to keep the peace. The day you realize this cannot work is a sad one, because you tried so hard for so long, and because you have to face the fact you have been willfully blind.
As a female, I do agree with your red flags. I view tattoos as the only kind of artwork that depreciates over time. No matter what color they start with, over the years, they seem to turn green and blurry. How refreshing for gentlemen to not embrace tattoos. And your other comments are spot on as well.
He did say one or two small ones that can’t be seen basicallly with a short sleeve shirt or private area That’s fine but if you want a sleeve tattoos I’m sorry but me personally I think it looks gross
@@exhibitdesign901 from that part of the world and have seen in Tahiti, on Maori etc - no, I'll pass. Just because indigenous people do it doesn't make it wonderful. Maybe some aesthetic value at 2 weeks, by year 2 its dreadful.
@@zamar2158 I think we are agreeing - sort of. I think no matter what color tattoos begin with, they all tend to end up green and blurry. However I like the tribal ones that belong to the culture that first created them, in that I find it belongs to that culture and find it beautiful in that regard. But then I am viewing through my culture and it really doesn't matter does it?
I remembered when I got a job some years ago. There was this lady who is a 9/10 and was in charge of helping me with the tasks I had to learn. Many dudes were approaching her everyday, so I preferred to keep things professional. She started making small talk with me and trying to get my attention. I just talked to her when it was necessary, but I thought it would be great if we could go out on a date. Found out she was already dating with a dude from other company while she was secretely dating another dude in my departament. I am glad I didn't make any move. The reason? I saw a small tatoo on her wrist the first day I met her, and the video of Coach Adams talking about tatoos as red flag was the first thing that came to my mind.
Rich this is the best I've seen you at- this guy really drew you out and you come across as a real guy who is trying to help real people. great interview.
A few times I went to high level corporate dinner parties in Hong Kong, all the really really wealthy types from all over the world with their wives. You don't see a tattooed female among them. The few women who operate in that world they tend to have a very conservative appearance. Ladies, you want the respect of the men then don't look like a rough n tumble carnival hand.
Very great small clip Rich. Were not taught to learn how to properly vet women. And thats where alot of us went wrong. We met a pretty face. Shes agreeable and submissive the first year. You believe shes different from the women you usually date. Then you marry her. Put babies in her. And in year 3 , the real her comes out. So many men get trapped with this. So i proplerly vet women for atleast 2 years and see how she handles stress. A women under distress will tell you alot about them.
As a 52 y/o male, it's been my experience that men with tattoos have the equal amount of poor judgment, bad past decisions, and all the associated problems that a woman with tattoos have. Wayyyyy too many 4 day drinking binges etc. etc. etc.
I have 8 tattoos. Never smoked or drank. Will gross 2.6 million this year with 300,000 net. My main client is one of the wealthiest organizations in the world. I own 3 homes, land, 13 vehicles. Twice widowed and never divorced, I don't believe in divorce or accept it. I've had 38 years of happy marriages, cancer took them both to soon. I'm so sorry for your bad experiences I hope you find peace.
@@samjon6403 well said, you just had to be realistic cause you’ll be forever alone if you’re going to disqualify every girl with one of these 20 flags. Cause they are going to have at least one. I been knee deep in the dating world the last couple years spinning plates and met amazing girls with one or 2 of these flags, it is what it is.
I never have nor ever will date a woman with tattoos or piercings (other than earrings). I'm a boomer and the only people that had tattoos in my youth were sailors or bikers. I'd've passed out if I had a crystal ball back in the day and I could see what was coming...
@@endorphinrider1633 I dated a girl that had a butterfly on her lower back. I found out when i saw her lower back. And a girl i dated had a small rose on her ankle. They seemed innocent. Now i see women with arm sleeves! Ugh
Also, stay away from women who are secretive about their Past. Usually there is something very dark and repugnant in her past deeds which will affect the Relationship with you. Quite a few things in many cases!
Lol how judgemental have you been for these women not to share their past with you? I've heard some crazy shit simply from not being judgemental. Girls tell me everything - to their detriment. Let's me know I need pass real quick.
@TJ No "Mystery-women" for me thanks! I don't need a woman who "shagged" the whole Football Team in her College Days or has 2 "women-beating stalkers" looking for her to kill her! There are women out here like this believe it or not and they will not tell you these things about themselves in most cases. You have to "hear through "The Ethers"" or your shared Social Network.
@@TJ-ml8ttyou are so lost. All women for the most part are secretive about their past. Because they know it will affect their present and future. I swear some of you just think you’re soo smart at tryin to call someone out. 😂😂😂 jokes on you
Dude people who love can also disrespect you. For example if your dad or mom or family member disrespects you, do you just walk away? No bro you try to work it out and manage it. Unless it is something as bad as cheating.
That's exactly what I believe as well. My gf was hungry and needed to smoke weed one night and couldn't find a lighter. I was waiting for meals that I was getting for her and I and also asking for a lighter from people. Then she looked all pissed off and asked me why I was not helping her. I tried to explain I was and she told me to shut up. I told her I will not put up with that disrespect and I took our meals and left. She cried and cried phoning me saying she couldn't help it she was hungry and needed to get high. I forgave her and said we can work on things. Now she doesn't even contact me anymore and is probably getting plowed by one of her ex's.
My first wife was violent…Add alcohol into the mix, and that violent behavior turned into a full blown physical assault. I’d tuck tail, and leave the house. I finally wised up, and never returned to the house until the divorce was finalized. Grandma was right, beauty is only skin deep, and never marry a woman with thin lips.
Rich is 100% spot on here, i'm 49, straight and have been single for the last 10 years, best years of my life. Kiss goodbye to you hobbies and obsessions when you enter into a relationship.
A few years back I had a really good buddy who met some broad 10 years older than him who had every single one of these traits. Eventually she drove a wedge between us and now we don't talk anymore. Some dudes are absolutely blind to negative traits in females. It's pretty insane.
Yeah, that's why you have to recognize these things early, before you catch feelings. Because once you catch feelings, you'll start excusing all those red flags.
(1) Always sleep at least 12 hours a day. (2) Never play pool against a man named after a city. (3) Never date a woman with a dagger tattoo. - The coach on Teen Wolf.
LOL the Bumper Pool champion on American Dad "South Dakota Slim" turned out to be a smarmy teenager named Justin Delano Hemingway (aka Roger). Stay gold.
I was dating this woman. She didn’t make much money and I was totally ok with that. One night on a Thursday evening she had just gotten back from a concert. I had sent her an Uber eats card that evening so she and her roommate could get some food and bond. We were texting that night and she was appreciative and eventually we said our goodnights. For the next three days I got blocked on everything and couldn’t get a hold of her and had no idea why. Turns out in their little bonding session the roommate had convinced her that I was this terrible person and that she shouldn’t be dating me. And of course she believed her roommate. Most women are absolutely miserable and hate themselves, and we know misery loves company. Shortly after that I left that relationship because I knew I’d always be on eggshells as long as she kept that kind of company around to convince her that I was the devil.
@@brickmissing8295 you came to that conclusion after hearing one story? You should be a fortune teller. I’m not going to explain the dynamics of that relationship since you seem to already know all about my mistakes, but just so you know the facts, it was the complete opposite of your assumption.
@@psychopompous3207 eventually she replied and said it was a way to punish me. For what… I never got the explanation. Her roommate was a cheater and liar and planted seeds In her head. I wasn’t the right person for her. She wanted drama, and I wanted peace. It was never going to work but I’m glad I had the balls to leave because she was physically gorgeous.
@@andrewvo8395 Good for you. Nothing is worth more than freedom. Looks fade, and infatuation decreases. But respect is a stronger foundation than "love" and it must be earned.
Yup Tats are a big red flag 🚩 it’s just a fact at this point. The female that l knew who had tatted arms, thigh, & leg had heavy emotional issues and trauma. Not to mention they come with insecurities, tatts are a form of mutilation, l understand their appeal but most heavily tatted people got issues. She’s not a bad person but def nowhere near relationship material.
I hate to be that guy, but she probably IS a bad person! She has simply hid it from you! people who are THAT emotionally damaged tend to do lots of bad things because they have a low regard for others. if they have a low regard for themselves enough to mutilate, they will blame 'other people' for this and mistreat them accordingly at some point. So whether you will label them 'good' or 'bad' they still have a higher propensity to DO or SAY 'Bad' things!
I got with a girl with BPD invited her into my home like a dumbass. Thankfully I got her out in a 1 month was hell though. One moment she was obsessing over me then an hour later I was given silent treatment anytime I tried to resolve anything or ask what the problem is she would just continue the silent treatment than literally like 30 minutes or an hour later she was back to obsessing over me planning our future and family. I was freaked out I basically invited a vampire into my house she constantly started drama I couldn’t sleep my dad even pointed out I had black under my eyes and looked tired he was right I couldn’t sleep and I no longer was excited going out with her because she would constantly have meltdowns over everything would play games constantly just driving with her was impossible always trying to start drama. Thank God after 1 month I got her out!!!!!
If a woman does not adore her father, and adhere to his wisdom, she's as good as fatherless. My experience has been women tend to repeat the dispositions of their maternal female ancestry. It over-rides every other environmental influence, including her father.
No that's not for all women. I know because I am one and I don't let my issues with my father stop me from being happy and living a full life. To use something like as an excuse to abuse you partner is abhorrent
@@Kiskiss3 Of course it's not for all women. But it's of no value to characterize that small % that don't fit the profile. And it never fails that one or more who believe they don't, take exception.
I'm a woman and I 100% believe that I have the same rights as men. In addition to that virtually all women can't do what men can do in certain jobs, therefore if they can't pass the test, then they shouldn't be there. The military is a prime example in combat. If I was a man I wouldn't want a woman in my squad. Another thing I want to comment on is woman that get an exorbitant amount of child support and while they go onto move onto their life, many men are left in poverty. Shared parenting is what should happen if possible in most child custody cases.
"if I was a man I wouldn't want a woman in their squad". True. I was the only female out of 65 men in Ql3 (Battle School) and the recoursed guys (failers from prior course-previously injured) all hated me lol! I was defended soooo much in the beginning from the guys I went through basic and holding with, but after a couple of months, my ability to keep up, and mouth all the men off, made them change their minds about me, and soon I had cigarettes when ever I needed them because I became one of them! 🤣🤣🤣
Note: In Russian, "Soviet" means "committee". The Soviet Union literately means the Union of the Committees. And what matters for the committee is not each of its members as individuals, but the committee itself.
Tattoos alone eliminates about 80% of women where I live. And of course there are plenty of other red flags in the 20% left. Basically, we're out here looking for a needle in a haystack!
well theres nothing women do about the tattoos its from the past, you have a past a woman would have to understand and move on from, hopefully I'll have a good man to see my tattoos as ink in my skin I cant help. @@PrickFlair
There are still plenty of good women without the red flags, lol. You'll find them taking the same personal development courses, writing courses, anything related to physical and financial improvement, and classes on exciting hobbies, and literature.
dagger nails means she can barely type, cant do any hobbies, work, or cook or anything that involves using your hands, playing a musical instrument, turning a wrench, using a broom. She is too"good" to do things that involve using your hands !!!
Borderline Personality Disorder? Even mental health professionals try to stay away from that kind of women, they are impossible to deal with. Dating an ex: love triangle, some of the most toxic things in relationships along with cheating, which is also a love triangle.
I had seen the study before (actually the paper written about the study done) it has now been scrubbed from the internet. the Red pill guys had mentioned it pre-Kovid, but havent found it since.
All of these things are on that list are potentially true. The real problems start the first time you roll over and don't stand up for yourself and your needs. I see and have seen plenty of mates that fell into this trap. It hasn't gone well for them afterwards.
I agree with the red flags. I would like to add though, that not every dad is perfect and having a fucked up dad (e.g. abusive or narcissistic) does not mean a woman does not deserve a good husband later on. The point IMO is that you take care of your mental health and tackle issues that accured in the past rather then generalizing and saying"All woman who have dad issues mean a red flag.". Heavily depends on how she deals with it nowadays and if she overcame it etc.
Good pint. Should we rather talk about "healthy male rolemodels" for cases like the one you describe? If the dad is abusive, narcissist etc. perhaps the daughter/ son has a great relationship with stepfather, grandfather etc. And her mother should at least have a positive view on men.
I believe saying she has daddy issues implies that she has not worked through and moved past that trauma. Many probably never do. If she's done counseling and is no longer carrying that baggage, that's different.
@@susanlovesjava4961 Why are you two "women" on here watching "the 20 red flags?" Something went wrong in your life/relationship and you're trying to find out "why" ?
I'm about to talk to my girl about being friends with her ex. If she's not cool with it, it's over. I should have mentioned it when I first found out, but I was a bit taken back
Rich, I know you didn't go thru "All 20 Red Flags" ~ but, to me, you left out THE MOST IMPORTANT RED FLAG! If I don't get my way, there's going to be a Hell of a Fight. This applies to everything, big & small ~ (buying the large bag of potato chips, or, the medium size).
#5 Actually experienced this one. Was dating a LEO down in the L.A. area, while I lived in Santa Barbara at the time, and we'd been dating for about 2 months. We seemed simpatico on most things, but one day we were at her place chilling and watching something on TV and I made a joke about something and I don't know if she didn't know her own strength, or if it was intentional, but she suddenly got up and punched me really hard mid-chest. Now, anyone that knows anything about fighting knows that you can stop someone's heart by striking them there, so I was taken aback by both the force she'd hit me with, as well as the fact that she'd actually struck me for no damn good reason. I just got up, said "What the f*ck?!" and left. Never went back. Took only one call from her. Explained my position. And that was that. I actually had a fist-sized bruise appear there the next day. Now, knowing she was a LEO, I could have sent photos and gone down to the local PD and filed charges and whatnot, but I was raising my teen daughter on my own and just didn't think it would be good for her to see dad going through a DV/assault court proceeding at that time. I just left it at the fact that I'd cutoff that potential for further toxic behavior in my life. Only thing that really angered me more than the incident itself, was that when she called me, she kept insisting I was "overreacting". That comment, and the bruise the next day, were what almost did push me to file charges. But I just figured I'd never ever see her butt again and leave it at that.
I should add. I've never ever again considered dating a woman who was employed in a field that pushed them more into the 'masculine zone' than if she worked in an office or career that tended to be more classically a majority of women. Nursing, teaching, accounting, etc.
Absolutely, 100% avoid dating women who work in hyper-masculine occupations like cop, firefighter, paramedic, corrections, or military. The traits needed to survive in these fields breed masculine women who get emotionally eff-ed up because of the things they do and see in their jobs. To make matters worse, many of these women self-medicate the stresses of these jobs with booze and drugs, and wind-up getting involved in workplace flings. I'd add nurses to the list, as well: feminist occupation, stressful, and shiftwork breed emotional trouble. Teachers and psychologists should go no the list, too: highly woke educations turn women in these jobs into man-haters.
We’ve all been mucked up by our pasts, it’s nobody’s fault, horses are for courses, etc…….. Rich Cooper is an honest man’s man - the truth informs or hurts………
I think they should have required classes on red flags and the importance of communication in relationships in school. I would have avoided so much suffering in life had I known better. However, I do realize that you can grow for the better by going through difficult circumstances in life. I wouldn’t be who I am and where I’m at in life if it weren’t for God carrying me through the trials.
Nobody ever mentions: When a man makes more money on aggregate than a woman...who is he generally spending that money on? Women who would shrink the 'wage gap' are literally cutting their own throats.
Females with those nails I assume have bad hygiene as well, they collect bacteria easily. Those claws demonstrate who they are as well and they're never pleasant
One thing I've noticed about men is that when they find a woman attractive, they often try to explain how something works, or teach them something that they are passionate about. They do this because they want to show their value. Like hey, I know good shit, and I'm a good person to know! But women often see it as "mansplaining" because they don't understand why anyone would do that. If you are attracted to them why not flirt directly? But that's the problem. Most men don't know how to flirt properly, and they are trying when they are explaining what they are passionate about. Its all a mess.
Dang! My husband sure did luck out. I am glad I have knowledge of these traits and chose to not have them at all or not carry them into my marriage. My marriage and husband are most important, second only to God.
Keep an eye out for the Big Four - Progressive, Feminist, single mother, and lots of tattoos. Those alone will cut out 90% of the women you should be avoiding.
A very good point you make about the type of jobs a woman will do and how much they make as a result. A few years ago my daughter was dropping me off at a part of the airport that catered for FIFO to the mine sites. She made the point " this looks like an airport for men" Yes about 95% of the people there were men. If you take this into account I wonder if there is any differance in income for men and wemen.
@@setokaibasbankaccount9109 I always told myself I am not opposed to a tattoo for something meanable but I have not found any good reason to mutilate myself for any reason. It's permanent
If there ends up being a higher power we’ll face in the afterlife, I can image his opinion about tattoos: “I bestowed you with infinite freedom and a boundlessly innovative mind, and the best you could do was to scribble on yourself…”
I went on Reddit and stated that it's unwise to have a society that normalizes high body counts for women. I got downvoted like crazy -1000 votes. That is the culture.
I was raised by a stepdad and I hated the man with a passion. He and my mom had two sons together. So my stepdad had two step children and two of his own. My two half brothers were completely his kids. My other brother and myself were second class citizens. He was the reason I moved out the house the day after I graduated Highschool. I would never raise someone else's kid as I think it's nearly impossible to truly love another man's kid as you will never be the "real" father.
It's fundamentally important to have control or your emotions. Let your choices about women come frome REASON not the euphoria of the excitement of the new relationship.
I have been saying that for years about women and tattoos being more than simply art. To my mind it's a reflection on the masculinity or lack of masculinity of today's men.
How do you identify women with high body counts? Character profiles can only do so much, there are plenty of "nice" acting and looking women who have actually been through lots of men.
There are some signs you would probably pick up on if you're observant. For instance, if she is nice and enthusiastic about getting sexual with you on the first date, that probably means she's been with a lot of guys before you.
Stirling cooper brushed on perfectly cause he explained exactly a girl I fucked who had a high notch count. When she’s flakey, doesn’t respect your time, doesn’t do wifey things to try to impress you so she can stick around , inability to pair bond( fucks but can easily hop to someone else the next day) a girl with morals would put in effort to stick around after being with a new partner cause she doesn’t want to add another notch. Look him up on body count cause girls would never tell you the truth when you ask but they are some key signs to know or have an idea
Depends, if you get her comfortable enough (right environment and right time e.g. she's tipsy or just after sex) she's gonna tell you all you need to know. No need to ask it directly, you can indicate you had a girlfriend with high body count and see her reaction.
@@CopperBased 1000% If you know what to listen for they will tell you everything and if you have a good memory they will tell you something. AND 123456 months later they will tell you the exact opposite not remembering what they had told you before that is how you catch them lying and know what’s really going on. Also whatever they tell you when they’re drunk or whatever they tell you when they’re really angry that’s the truth. And lastly and probably the most important of all is always trust your gut if something doesn’t seem right and all of a sudden you feel like you’ve been punched in the stomach your gut is telling you something really really really wrong and if you hear voices to tell you something believe the voices it’s your intuition the universe god whatever you wanna believe talking to you trying to get you out of trouble. that’s what they really mean and feel.
Fuuuq my ex back in the day was showing ALL of these signs. She left because she was "talking to her friends" and they told her to leave me. While were dating she was talking to a blaq dude with a TVR also twenty years older and was hanging around him and then shortly after left me. Even though she said "don't worry about it" 😂😂😂😂 I was such a dumbass. Much love from the UK
Excellent video. I've sent a few of your videos to a woman friend I knew from 25+ years ago whose life and relationships went off track from subscribing to feminism. Women need to hear a man's perspective because all they ever hear are from other women. One thing about the lawyer though....in the past 15 or so years being on social media, women always say that their attorney tells them it's going to be hard because so many men get away without paying child support and something like 90% of divorces pay zero alimony. And this is for divorce or just baby mama situations involving custody and child support, not marriage. So I wonder if lawyers just tell their clients in general like "You're lucky you have me fighting for you" whether they are a man or woman.🤔 I have no doubt that men can get screwed in court and even more so if they were never married. Society takes care of single mothers but nobody cares about "baby daddy" situations
I went through a very short relationship. Thought she was the one. Ended in heartbreak cos of one major red flag... She was still in love with her ex and was not only still friends with him (after she left him for abusing her), but i gave her the option to stop talking to him or i leave... She literally chose him... 😂
Dude I gave the same option to the woman she picked her male friends I was out, she just happened to text me yesterday some random shit I just ignored it
@@luisvilla799 dude respect! It's hard . I usually say them in that scenario, "how would you feel if your mum was friends with other dudes , going out and messaging them. And how would your dad feel?" And they still think it's normal, they are too far gone. On to the next one brother
@@Bloom0to9 yeah man they try to justify it so I’m out I’m starting to see it more in the latin American culture more, I always see it in the black and Anglo American culture and some think it’s okay, they woman I mentioned happens to be of mixed race black and white and tattoos and 2 baby daddy I just wanted to smash but saw the red flags and was out now after I have told numerous times don’t call or text she still does
@@luisvilla799 You and I may have different boundaries (i dont think that is the case) but I suggest to, take a step back and ask yourself what you would advise if your best friends if they were in your position. Me personally, I would run for the hills if I were you haha
The last statement, about how the "right" woman can change your life for the better - this is SO rare it might as well not exist (like 1 in a 1000 type of thing). The best you can realistically hope for is not changing it to much worse and even that is only worth doing if you really, really want kids (and it's far better not to want them).
wow... number 1 was literally the last two women I had relationships with! I'd say I'm a fairly decent guy, I don't cause conflict, I plan accordingly with my partner, I'm communicative, good with kids etc.... both had daddy issues, and I think when they see decency in any man, they really don't know how to handle that. and they WILL find ways to be abandoned by you, and in turn, blame you for it. not gonna happen again
The last chance to pull the ripcord is to look at your future mother-in-law, take that times 10 then you know exactly how the girlfriend will be. From my experience, this is 100% reliable Greetings from Germany
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im fit healthy and tons of free time, anyone has anything over minimum wage for me?
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I dated a girl with BPD, it was a fucking nightmare, she built me up and made me the happiest man and was super obsessive with me. She then switched and would try to tear me down as a human at every opportunity. It’s such a toxic thing to live with, if you have a woman like this LEAAAVE.
me too ! she tattoed my name on her back a week ago, now sat night she's nowhere to be found. 2mmrw she'll say she fell asleep. or her phone didnt have signal where she was. ive caught her in atleast ten lies, one time i saw her at a bar , i told her i saw her, and she still denied it for 2 weeks,
Ditto and I almost left my job/city to move in with her. So glad I saw the truth before it all went down. Dodged a bullet.
I feel you brother. I was married to a narcissist for many years and had two children with her. The kids are grown now and tell me I should have left and divorced when they were little. Then I got in a relationship with a woman with BPD and it was even worse. Total insanity with here mood swings, anxiety, depression and I was the blame for it all. I had enough experience although it took me a while to see what was going on to walk away before the marriage she wanted so desperately.
6 years of that hell. Will NEVER live like that again.
Seems more like a narcissist
Had a gf 10 years ago who had a committee that collectively convinced her that she could do better. She bought it and broke up with me. As one would expect, the committee consisted of a woman twice divorced and cheating on her third husband, another that was divorced, and a third that had actually cost the gf her no drugs allowed job at one point by giving her a joint for her birthday. I saw a pic of her recently. She had put on 100 pounds. What a fright. Me, still single, retired, bought a Harley with best friend who did the same, looking to build a retirement home. No regrets.
@treeghettox Omg hahaha!
This was a hard lesson for me to learn. I kept asking myself why my girlfriend cared more about the opinion of her friends than mine lol? I didn't realize she didn't have a mind of her own until she broke up with me and started dating someone her friend thought would be a better match. And the guy was a drug dealer.
Had a very similar experience, makes you wonder if they realize how dumb they are
@@sbek1337no they don't.
Yes had a girl that I cared for leave me when I was young for someone with more money. Now she lives in a van and I am on the opposite side loaded with rentals.
Before my wife and I got divorced, her female boss got divorced from her husband, father of her 3 kids. She ran away at 36 with a guy who was 24 and rode motorcross bikes for a living. Left her kids in the lurch. She would call my wife and URGE her to also get divorced. About how it was NEEDED. You see this alot, one woman in a social group will run away with a guy and urge the rest of them to do it. That was 10 years ago. The motor cross guy dumped her, no shock, and she became a man-hater, but sued to get the kids custody back after running away without accountability for a YEAR, and yet the Colorado court gave it to her. It was a female judge. It was insane. Those poor kids. She started to drink and even after my wife and I got a divorce, they stopped being friends. So a toxic woman can come from social circles.
The late great Kevin Samuels said “single women keep women single.”
He was not lying. I hear about these stories time and time again.
@@agentcooper4627 As men when we remove the sex urge ( after we cum) we see when a woman displays red flags and see if we really like her.
Today most women are not worth the hassle. They are sweet at first and when they get comfortable ( e.i. move in, marriage, mother of your kids) they suddenly switch then change to a new script. One advice is don't tell her anything big that you value, see if she discloses who she is and what she likes and dislikes. Date SLOWLY. Say less and listen and decide. Once she talks about sex just say you are open minded(but don't have any wants at the moment) and let her talk about her sexuality. IF SHE has sexual baggage she will want to dump her shame on you and make you accept it. She will spill a lot of big beans BUT Don't be judgemental, act cool like if you are talking to a stranger ( which she is). She will say more and more...even if you feel it is too much act cool and let her talk.....( Again don't be judgemental). If she says things that are deal breakers to go forward just nicely break up with her later not immediately. Don't do it when she is opening up. So do it a few days later and do it swiftly and don't keep contact afterwards . Avoid sex because she may ramp that up.
Tattoos are a sign of trauma. I dated a women covered in tattoos, she told me that she got a tattoo each time she had a trauma because they were better than self harm, this was straight from the horses mouth. Any women with tattoos will have issues. Next time you meet a girl with tattoos, subtly ask her the story behind one of her tattoos, I guarantee it wont be a nice one.
At best it’s “we were drunk on a hoes trip and did it!”
wow , never looked at it with that perspective , thank you ,this was actually pretty helpful
I met one like that, 13 tattoos, 27 piercing and she was 19... yeah she was cute and fun for spicytime 2 times, but she flirted with other guys right in front of me... she got dumped FAST!
the best story i heard was. this dog saved my life. it taught me responsibility and accountability. she is a walking red flag, but that tattoo was from her heart and genuine. also her dog is one of the most well behaved and lovable Pitbull's i have ever seen.
some dumb married woman who was obsessed with me got tattoos when she had a fight with her husband to spite him
“I wish I saw this shit 20 years ago.”
Damn right
Yep
Me 30 yrs ago.
We wouldn't have listened... 🤦♂️
Amen to that. I'd be retired with a bundle in the bank.
Watching this at 27 . Feeling thankful. But still could better if I saw this at 20
1. Daddy Issues
2. Feminist
3. Competitive
4. Slew of Past Boyfriends
5. Violent Tendencies
6. Tattoos/Piercings, Scary Nails
7. High Bodycounts
8. Committee of fools
9. Alcohol/Smoking, Drugs
10. No work ethic, unhealthy. Poor hygiene.
And the Number One red flag is.....(envelope please).....she's a modern woman !
And 99% of women that you’ll encounter on dating apps these days will have at least one of these issues! It’s almost unbelievable that the majority of modern women are completely undateable and will probably die alone.
Women who talk all the time-insanely jealous women and “pills”-always unhappy!
What is committee of fools?
@@21skeptik when women advise other women. usually its the worst advise that they can give. it can also be a subconscious "crab mentality" at play as well.
Rich this list pretty much describes 75% of the dating pool today for single men.
And it's only half the list. I'm sure the full list covers at least 95%. It's frustrating when you meet someone you see potential in, then you learn she has the same red flags as the rest of them.
Take it with a grain of salt.. these guys are all human and I doubt they have their personal shit completely figured out. It’s impossible to go 20/ for 20 on red flags they mentioned in todays market lol. It’s a good guide though and they make great points.
25% is awesome I played Video Games with a 1% drop Chance of the item😂
The full list disqualifies 99 percent 👌
Becoming a 10% guy is easier than ever though. Have you seen the competition?
Like fuck me, imagine being part of the greatest generation when Eastwood, Heston etc were the standard and everyone had served in war.
Meanwhile my competition has lower test than my grandma and are enslaved to the screen.
Deadliest red flag: isn’t obsessed with you or have genuine burning desire for you
idk about the deadliest
maybe ur just not a highly attractive guy
Disagree. I've had women obsessed with me and they smoked and had tattoos. It didn't end well each time. If a woman is obsessed with you she could have bpd; stay away from that.
@@johnnym9909 yea l agree with Johnny. Genuine desire is great but obsession is just weird. Females that become obsessed have crazy in them and it rarely ends well.
@@johnnym9909 Every square is a rectangle, but not every rectangle is a square.
Found my x partner read tracking me. She told me I need to be obsessed with her. Accused me of wearing Cologne to impress other women ( weird considering she had just bought it for me and I was going to hang out with her in that moment too ). Trust me obsessed is a huge red flag. You think it’s flattering at first but your going to pay for it in the end.
Tattoos are like beards. Both are masculine, neither are bad, but I don't want them on my women.
Most tattoos that women make are bad to be honest, spider on left hand, fairy on neck and dog paw on ankle 😂
@@ShredzZ_SteamDeck_Gameplays Yeah and they always try and act like there's some deep meaning behind them
😂
The worst is the thigh tat on women. All are bad but that thing sends me running the other way.
They are kind of hot on women.
Divorced in California after 6 years of marriage. She was a stay at home mom. Court made me pay for her attorney. I contested nothing hoping to cut my losses. Not so fast. Her attorney drug it out for years since I was paying his bill. BTW, she picked one of the top divorce attorneys in the county. I had just lost my job (100k a year) when she filed and took a position with lower pay ( 70k) because I was getting hit with $3000 a month support and had to get some money in the door as fast as possible. Horrible experience. Nearly impossible to get your custody agreement followed. No one cares if you are the man.
California is especially brutal to men. That's why Ellen Nordgen had her attorney claim Tiger's main residence was in California. The courts there will invalidate pre-nups and just fuck the man over.
Not surprised that a California court would make you pay her lawyer bill. Really f**cking sucks that you had to go through all that.
Yup.
Yikes, very sad.
Commiefornia. Disgusting place to even start a family so I don't know what you were thinking. Were you at least living in a mainly middle-upper class white and Asian area like Irvine? Even then the schools are gay factories. I always wonder about people who walk into parenthood with no plans and expect to put their kids in disgusting public schools.
Daddy issues explains why my ex told me she loved me but would start fights with me. She'd go full Cathy Newman. Id say "Im not interested in chasing other girls" and she would reply "Oh? So youre saying you want to see other girls!"
Who else has experienced this? She takes your words, twists them 180 degrees, starts a fight and then says "we are always fighting. This isnt going to work. I love you but you don't love me. I cant do this anymore" and then they dump you.
My ex gf is textbook daddy issues.
Never go full Cathy Newman
Been there brother, no logic can go through to her head. And whatever you will say she will twist it. Psycho , have to stay away
Be aware they are very narcissistic, nothing can fill the void that exists inside them , always chasing attention even by degrading themselves.
Thank god i've finished that relationship before i would regret it deeply.
Definitely childhood issues, maybe with mummy more so than with daddy. Mood swings, shit testing, inimitable reasoning, rewriting history, victimhood, toddler tantrums and mind games. It’s a continuous power play, although she would deny that of course. They run on the latest emotion all the time and wil have you walking on egg shells to keep the peace. The day you realize this cannot work is a sad one, because you tried so hard for so long, and because you have to face the fact you have been willfully blind.
It's called Borderline Personality disorder@@VivatVeritas1
As a female, I do agree with your red flags. I view tattoos as the only kind of artwork that depreciates over time. No matter what color they start with, over the years, they seem to turn green and blurry. How refreshing for gentlemen to not embrace tattoos. And your other comments are spot on as well.
Maybe in the west I guess 😂😂😂
He did say one or two small ones that can’t be seen basicallly with a short sleeve shirt or private area That’s fine but if you want a sleeve tattoos I’m sorry but me personally I think it looks gross
@@leonhenry4861 true, if you have ever traveled to Tahiti where tattoos began, that type of tattoo is truly beautiful.
@@exhibitdesign901 from that part of the world and have seen in Tahiti, on Maori etc - no, I'll pass. Just because indigenous people do it doesn't make it wonderful. Maybe some aesthetic value at 2 weeks, by year 2 its dreadful.
@@zamar2158 I think we are agreeing - sort of. I think no matter what color tattoos begin with, they all tend to end up green and blurry. However I like the tribal ones that belong to the culture that first created them, in that I find it belongs to that culture and find it beautiful in that regard. But then I am viewing through my culture and it really doesn't matter does it?
I remembered when I got a job some years ago. There was this lady who is a 9/10 and was in charge of helping me with the tasks I had to learn.
Many dudes were approaching her everyday, so I preferred to keep things professional. She started making small talk with me and trying to get my attention. I just talked to her when it was necessary, but I thought it would be great if we could go out on a date.
Found out she was already dating with a dude from other company while she was secretely dating another dude in my departament.
I am glad I didn't make any move. The reason? I saw a small tatoo on her wrist the first day I met her, and the video of Coach Adams talking about tatoos as red flag was the first thing that came to my mind.
lol as if the tattoo has any casual connection to her promiscuous behavior
@@umaxi96 dissonance
@@umaxi96 seriously?
@@umaxi96 they mostly do.
@@umaxi96 poor judgement is poor judgment
Rich this is the best I've seen you at- this guy really drew you out and you come across as a real guy who is trying to help real people. great interview.
A few times I went to high level corporate dinner parties in Hong Kong, all the really really wealthy types from all over the world with their wives. You don't see a tattooed female among them. The few women who operate in that world they tend to have a very conservative appearance. Ladies, you want the respect of the men then don't look like a rough n tumble carnival hand.
LOL
Great advice sir
Thanks!
Very great small clip Rich. Were not taught to learn how to properly vet women. And thats where alot of us went wrong. We met a pretty face. Shes agreeable and submissive the first year. You believe shes different from the women you usually date. Then you marry her. Put babies in her. And in year 3 , the real her comes out. So many men get trapped with this. So i proplerly vet women for atleast 2 years and see how she handles stress. A women under distress will tell you alot about them.
As a 52 y/o male, it's been my experience that men with tattoos have the equal amount of poor judgment, bad past decisions, and all the associated problems that a woman with tattoos have.
Wayyyyy too many 4 day drinking binges etc. etc. etc.
Facts. They also don’t wanna hear that they also made a very poor decision. You are telling the truth.
Tattoos scream YOLO bad judgement
This is ridiculous. Many get tattoos as a sign of brotherhood. E.G Military.
@@Tindel10 now they've. What next?
I have 8 tattoos. Never smoked or drank. Will gross 2.6 million this year with 300,000 net. My main client is one of the wealthiest organizations in the world. I own 3 homes, land, 13 vehicles. Twice widowed and never divorced, I don't believe in divorce or accept it. I've had 38 years of happy marriages, cancer took them both to soon. I'm so sorry for your bad experiences I hope you find peace.
Rich, you've toned it down which looks good on you. As a woman wanting the best for Men, your red flags are spot on. 🎯
Being realistic 99% of girls are going to have at least one of these red flags. It’s so hard to date around these signs
I think you'd have to find some 18 year old virgin from a very religious family nowadays, like an Amish or Mormon woman.
@@samjon6403 well said, you just had to be realistic cause you’ll be forever alone if you’re going to disqualify every girl with one of these 20 flags. Cause they are going to have at least one. I been knee deep in the dating world the last couple years spinning plates and met amazing girls with one or 2 of these flags, it is what it is.
@@samjon6403 The biggest thing is finding a woman that holds her self accountable.
That's why you prioritize Rich's list starting at 1.
The dagger nails is her saying, “I am never going to do anything practical or useful for you”.
I always reinforce with my daughters that tattoos are a sign of lack of self control.
A Tattoo is a sign of an issue.more tattoos,more issues
If she has tattoos, it is also a sign that she does not have self respect, no respect for her own body.
I never have nor ever will date a woman with tattoos or piercings (other than earrings). I'm a boomer and the only people that had tattoos in my youth were sailors or bikers. I'd've passed out if I had a crystal ball back in the day and I could see what was coming...
Tattoos I never had a problem with but I did find most crazy girls drive a Subaru 😂
@@endorphinrider1633 I dated a girl that had a butterfly on her lower back. I found out when i saw her lower back. And a girl i dated had a small rose on her ankle. They seemed innocent. Now i see women with arm sleeves! Ugh
Also, stay away from women who are secretive about their Past. Usually there is something very dark and repugnant in her past deeds which will affect the Relationship with you. Quite a few things in many cases!
Lol how judgemental have you been for these women not to share their past with you? I've heard some crazy shit simply from not being judgemental. Girls tell me everything - to their detriment. Let's me know I need pass real quick.
Thats Red flag #15 Liars.
@@TJ-ml8tt Some women are smarter than others! sounds like you prefer the dumb ones!
@TJ No "Mystery-women" for me thanks! I don't need a woman who "shagged" the whole Football Team in her College Days or has 2 "women-beating stalkers" looking for her to kill her! There are women out here like this believe it or not and they will not tell you these things about themselves in most cases. You have to "hear through "The Ethers"" or your shared Social Network.
@@TJ-ml8ttyou are so lost. All women for the most part are secretive about their past. Because they know it will affect their present and future. I swear some of you just think you’re soo smart at tryin to call someone out. 😂😂😂 jokes on you
I only have one red flag: disrespect.
The instant a woman shows me ANY disrespect, I'm out.
Stems from these red flags, disrespect comes way later.
Dude people who love can also disrespect you. For example if your dad or mom or family member disrespects you, do you just walk away? No bro you try to work it out and manage it. Unless it is something as bad as cheating.
@@rabbiehossain7938 my mother and father have NEVER disrespected me. If yours have, I'm sorry.
That's exactly what I believe as well. My gf was hungry and needed to smoke weed one night and couldn't find a lighter. I was waiting for meals that I was getting for her and I and also asking for a lighter from people. Then she looked all pissed off and asked me why I was not helping her. I tried to explain I was and she told me to shut up. I told her I will not put up with that disrespect and I took our meals and left. She cried and cried phoning me saying she couldn't help it she was hungry and needed to get high. I forgave her and said we can work on things. Now she doesn't even contact me anymore and is probably getting plowed by one of her ex's.
@@gitgenKE Yeah
My first wife was violent…Add alcohol into the mix, and that violent behavior turned into a full blown physical assault. I’d tuck tail, and leave the house. I finally wised up, and never returned to the house until the divorce was finalized. Grandma was right, beauty is only skin deep, and never marry a woman with thin lips.
Same. Im trying to keep my distance from my ex-gf, but it's tough refusing her invitations.
@@EL-ee4cz
Keep taking those invitations….. you’ll get f*cked in more ways than you’ve ever imagined.
Grandma was always RIGHT!
🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭 thin lips 💋
@@xxyyzzplants131 Truth !👍
Rich is 100% spot on here, i'm 49, straight and have been single for the last 10 years, best years of my life. Kiss goodbye to you hobbies and obsessions when you enter into a relationship.
A few years back I had a really good buddy who met some broad 10 years older than him who had every single one of these traits. Eventually she drove a wedge between us and now we don't talk anymore. Some dudes are absolutely blind to negative traits in females. It's pretty insane.
Megan Markle
Yeah, that's why you have to recognize these things early, before you catch feelings. Because once you catch feelings, you'll start excusing all those red flags.
@huntstyle I thought my buddy was intelligent but turns out he must be incredibly stupid. She looks like Freddie Mercury too. No joke.
(1) Always sleep at least 12 hours a day. (2) Never play pool against a man named after a city. (3) Never date a woman with a dagger tattoo. - The coach on Teen Wolf.
Or a state....
LOL the Bumper Pool champion on American Dad "South Dakota Slim" turned out to be a smarmy teenager named Justin Delano Hemingway (aka Roger).
Stay gold.
i know im 12 months late, but i have spent my entire life thinking it was cards, not pool. I cant believe ive been living by the wrong rules.
If she is contentious and unfeminine, that pretty much encapsulates the 20 red flags.
The entire law can be put into one sentence. You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
I was dating this woman. She didn’t make much money and I was totally ok with that.
One night on a Thursday evening she had just gotten back from a concert. I had sent her an Uber eats card that evening so she and her roommate could get some food and bond.
We were texting that night and she was appreciative and eventually we said our goodnights.
For the next three days I got blocked on everything and couldn’t get a hold of her and had no idea why.
Turns out in their little bonding session the roommate had convinced her that I was this terrible person and that she shouldn’t be dating me. And of course she believed her roommate.
Most women are absolutely miserable and hate themselves, and we know misery loves company.
Shortly after that I left that relationship because I knew I’d always be on eggshells as long as she kept that kind of company around to convince her that I was the devil.
Sounds like you were messaging her too much and sending her too many gifts = creates an impression of needness and low value.
@@brickmissing8295 you came to that conclusion after hearing one story? You should be a fortune teller.
I’m not going to explain the dynamics of that relationship since you seem to already know all about my mistakes, but just so you know the facts, it was the complete opposite of your assumption.
Wait...so she reneged and then reached back out to you? Or did you have to contact her? What was her excuse?
@@psychopompous3207 eventually she replied and said it was a way to punish me. For what… I never got the explanation. Her roommate was a cheater and liar and planted seeds In her head. I wasn’t the right person for her. She wanted drama, and I wanted peace. It was never going to work but I’m glad I had the balls to leave because she was physically gorgeous.
@@andrewvo8395 Good for you. Nothing is worth more than freedom. Looks fade, and infatuation decreases. But respect is a stronger foundation than "love" and it must be earned.
thank you Mr Cooper. Thank you.
The tramp stamp era was insane 😂😂😂 now they’ve moved into sleeves and chest tats
And neck/face tats
@@jimbojones9118neck and face tats are usually signs they were being pimped.
Booty hole tattoos too had a girl with a tattoo on her booty said “king me” 😂 like bruh
Yup Tats are a big red flag 🚩 it’s just a fact at this point. The female that l knew who had tatted arms, thigh, & leg had heavy emotional issues and trauma. Not to mention they come with insecurities, tatts are a form of mutilation, l understand their appeal but most heavily tatted people got issues. She’s not a bad person but def nowhere near relationship material.
I hate to be that guy, but she probably IS a bad person! She has simply hid it from you! people who are THAT emotionally damaged tend to do lots of bad things because they have a low regard for others. if they have a low regard for themselves enough to mutilate, they will blame 'other people' for this and mistreat them accordingly at some point. So whether you will label them 'good' or 'bad' they still have a higher propensity to DO or SAY 'Bad' things!
Heavily tatted versus has a few or one or two is completely different IMO
I call the committee 'the war council.' Overcoming the war council can be really hard
I got with a girl with BPD invited her into my home like a dumbass. Thankfully I got her out in a 1 month was hell though. One moment she was obsessing over me then an hour later I was given silent treatment anytime I tried to resolve anything or ask what the problem is she would just continue the silent treatment than literally like 30 minutes or an hour later she was back to obsessing over me planning our future and family.
I was freaked out I basically invited a vampire into my house she constantly started drama I couldn’t sleep my dad even pointed out I had black under my eyes and looked tired he was right I couldn’t sleep and I no longer was excited going out with her because she would constantly have meltdowns over everything would play games constantly just driving with her was impossible always trying to start drama.
Thank God after 1 month I got her out!!!!!
If a woman does not adore her father, and adhere to his wisdom, she's as good as fatherless. My experience has been women tend to repeat the dispositions of their maternal female ancestry. It over-rides every other environmental influence, including her father.
No that's not for all women. I know because I am one and I don't let my issues with my father stop me from being happy and living a full life. To use something like as an excuse to abuse you partner is abhorrent
@@Kiskiss3 Of course it's not for all women. But it's of no value to characterize that small % that don't fit the profile. And it never fails that one or more who believe they don't, take exception.
@@svartvist 🤨
I'm a woman and I 100% believe that I have the same rights as men. In addition to that virtually all women can't do what men can do in certain jobs, therefore if they can't pass the test, then they shouldn't be there. The military is a prime example in combat. If I was a man I wouldn't want a woman in my squad. Another thing I want to comment on is woman that get an exorbitant amount of child support and while they go onto move onto their life, many men are left in poverty. Shared parenting is what should happen if possible in most child custody cases.
"if I was a man I wouldn't want a woman in their squad". True. I was the only female out of 65 men in Ql3 (Battle School) and the recoursed guys (failers from prior course-previously injured) all hated me lol! I was defended soooo much in the beginning from the guys I went through basic and holding with, but after a couple of months, my ability to keep up, and mouth all the men off, made them change their minds about me, and soon I had cigarettes when ever I needed them because I became one of them! 🤣🤣🤣
@@LanaMyslyvetsPlanners whatever lol
@@90secondsuntilmidnight How can you be do rude to another women?
@@LanaMyslyvetsPlanners how many did you smash?
Glad I stumbled across your videos rich. Great content
Note: In Russian, "Soviet" means "committee". The Soviet Union literately means the Union of the Committees.
And what matters for the committee is not each of its members as individuals, but the committee itself.
"Komitet" is Russian for "committee"
"Tyolka" means miserable heifer
@@starguy2718 As we have "council" and "committee". Synonyms.
Совет is more like a council.
The Russian and Chinese flags are Red...coincidence? 😂
Tattoos alone eliminates about 80% of women where I live. And of course there are plenty of other red flags in the 20% left. Basically, we're out here looking for a needle in a haystack!
This guy is old he doesn't have it all right
@@tresjolieme81the truth hurts
well theres nothing women do about the tattoos its from the past, you have a past a woman would have to understand and move on from, hopefully I'll have a good man to see my tattoos as ink in my skin I cant help. @@PrickFlair
There are still plenty of good women without the red flags, lol. You'll find them taking the same personal development courses, writing courses, anything related to physical and financial improvement, and classes on exciting hobbies, and literature.
@@MikaAltidorMMC you missed the key part: "where I live."
On Tatoos, .. It also shows the girl doesn't think about the future. That's just my take.
The biggest red flag possible:
"What are your thoughts on open relationship's?"
The worst question you could possibly ever be asked.
For dudes it’s fine. Women don’t get that opportunity. Unless they’re for sale. I can have many, she will have me!! Or she can walk.
She always gone be thinking about Tyrone’s c*ck fellas.
[Jada Pinkett-Smith has entered the chat]
I mean, I would be walking away before the question was even finished.
Hit down accidently
dagger nails means she can barely type, cant do any hobbies, work, or cook or anything that involves using your hands, playing a musical instrument, turning a wrench, using a broom. She is too"good" to do things that involve using your hands !!!
Great point.
Borderline Personality Disorder? Even mental health professionals try to stay away from that kind of women, they are impossible to deal with. Dating an ex: love triangle, some of the most toxic things in relationships along with cheating, which is also a love triangle.
Or women with depression. Keep your depressed a$$ away from me. I ain’t got time to be a therapist.
Great clip and advice Mr Cooper, Thank you
Would dreadlocks fit into the tattoo/piercing category? Not a full head of dreadlocks but like 2?
Brilliant. Thank you.
Did anyone hear which study he referenced regarding body count and pair bonding etc? I’ve heard this a lot and want to read it myself
I had seen the study before (actually the paper written about the study done) it has now been scrubbed from the internet. the Red pill guys had mentioned it pre-Kovid, but havent found it since.
It’s called the Teachman study. You can google it. Dr Jay Teachman conducted the research.
All of these things are on that list are potentially true. The real problems start the first time you roll over and don't stand up for yourself and your needs. I see and have seen plenty of mates that fell into this trap. It hasn't gone well for them afterwards.
Its called the 90 days shit test. If you fail, you go from relationship to relationshit. All woman pull the 90 days shit test.
"Dagger claws"
I call em CARDI B NAILS.
Raptor claws is the one for me
No way they don't have no kidding feces under those nails. Disgusting.
Purely Practical Points, Respect for u Sir!!
I agree with the red flags. I would like to add though, that not every dad is perfect and having a fucked up dad (e.g. abusive or narcissistic) does not mean a woman does not deserve a good husband later on. The point IMO is that you take care of your mental health and tackle issues that accured in the past rather then generalizing and saying"All woman who have dad issues mean a red flag.". Heavily depends on how she deals with it nowadays and if she overcame it etc.
Good pint. Should we rather talk about "healthy male rolemodels" for cases like the one you describe? If the dad is abusive, narcissist etc. perhaps the daughter/ son has a great relationship with stepfather, grandfather etc. And her mother should at least have a positive view on men.
I believe saying she has daddy issues implies that she has not worked through and moved past that trauma. Many probably never do. If she's done counseling and is no longer carrying that baggage, that's different.
Very helpful advice.
"Never trust anything that bleeds for 5 days and doesn't run into the woods and dies.."
- Advice from some solid old guy when I was like 20
Disgusting. Why do you hate all women so much. Grow up.
And then some of our dads talk like this and wonder why we have daddy issues
@@MeganWall1019 go drink a BudLight in your safe$pace...
And if not for that you wouldn't even be here. Keep denying an eternity of biology and reality.
@@susanlovesjava4961 Why are you two "women" on here watching "the 20 red flags?" Something went wrong in your life/relationship and you're trying to find out "why" ?
I'm about to talk to my girl about being friends with her ex. If she's not cool with it, it's over.
I should have mentioned it when I first found out, but I was a bit taken back
Update? What happened
Yes we need updates
I divorced my wife as she still kept her ex on snapchat. Don't trust that shady app
Rich, I know you didn't go thru "All 20 Red Flags" ~ but, to me, you left out THE MOST IMPORTANT RED FLAG! If I don't get my way, there's going to be a Hell of a Fight. This applies to everything, big & small ~ (buying the large bag of potato chips, or, the medium size).
You're right. THIS is the biggest red flag for me too. Also, coaxing or trying to manipulate the guy for small or large decisions
#5 Actually experienced this one. Was dating a LEO down in the L.A. area, while I lived in Santa Barbara at the time, and we'd been dating for about 2 months. We seemed simpatico on most things, but one day we were at her place chilling and watching something on TV and I made a joke about something and I don't know if she didn't know her own strength, or if it was intentional, but she suddenly got up and punched me really hard mid-chest. Now, anyone that knows anything about fighting knows that you can stop someone's heart by striking them there, so I was taken aback by both the force she'd hit me with, as well as the fact that she'd actually struck me for no damn good reason. I just got up, said "What the f*ck?!" and left. Never went back. Took only one call from her. Explained my position. And that was that. I actually had a fist-sized bruise appear there the next day. Now, knowing she was a LEO, I could have sent photos and gone down to the local PD and filed charges and whatnot, but I was raising my teen daughter on my own and just didn't think it would be good for her to see dad going through a DV/assault court proceeding at that time. I just left it at the fact that I'd cutoff that potential for further toxic behavior in my life.
Only thing that really angered me more than the incident itself, was that when she called me, she kept insisting I was "overreacting". That comment, and the bruise the next day, were what almost did push me to file charges. But I just figured I'd never ever see her butt again and leave it at that.
I should add. I've never ever again considered dating a woman who was employed in a field that pushed them more into the 'masculine zone' than if she worked in an office or career that tended to be more classically a majority of women. Nursing, teaching, accounting, etc.
Absolutely, 100% avoid dating women who work in hyper-masculine occupations like cop, firefighter, paramedic, corrections, or military. The traits needed to survive in these fields breed masculine women who get emotionally eff-ed up because of the things they do and see in their jobs. To make matters worse, many of these women self-medicate the stresses of these jobs with booze and drugs, and wind-up getting involved in workplace flings. I'd add nurses to the list, as well: feminist occupation, stressful, and shiftwork breed emotional trouble. Teachers and psychologists should go no the list, too: highly woke educations turn women in these jobs into man-haters.
I was in law enforcement for 20 years. Never knew a female officer who was happily married. Never.
@@FritzDWhiteevery one of her coworkers would harrass the shit out of you till the day you die
@@BirdDogey1 Holy shit, really?
Listen fellas: Even Rich wish he'd seen this stuff 20 yrs ago. We all do!!
We’ve all been mucked up by our pasts, it’s nobody’s fault, horses are for courses, etc…….. Rich Cooper is an honest man’s man - the truth informs or hurts………
Each red flag has a pointed base which when impaled thereon will cause you pain and trauma. A bad choice in a partner can be death by 1000 cuts...
@ 10:30 they are discussing the crabs in the bucket theory. When one crab is almost out of the bucket another crab will reach up and pull him down.
I think they should have required classes on red flags and the importance of communication in relationships in school. I would have avoided so much suffering in life had I known better. However, I do realize that you can grow for the better by going through difficult circumstances in life. I wouldn’t be who I am and where I’m at in life if it weren’t for God carrying me through the trials.
This guy hit the nail on the head.
Nobody ever mentions: When a man makes more money on aggregate than a woman...who is he generally spending that money on? Women who would shrink the 'wage gap' are literally cutting their own throats.
When I was younger the only ladies that had tattoos had been in Prison !
If a woman has talon claws, or dagger nails, is she going to give herself pink eye if she scratches her eye?
Females with those nails I assume have bad hygiene as well, they collect bacteria easily. Those claws demonstrate who they are as well and they're never pleasant
She probably doesn’t even wipe, let’s be honest
Or is lazy bum , can cook , clean etc
Lifehack actually. If a girl has a quote that usually tell you about her insecurities or flaws. It’s amazingly consistent.
"dramaczidal" --"i call it "the Sisterhood" a girl can be caught red handed being evil but the "Sisterhood" will blame men.
Good insights into women and their committees.
One thing I've noticed about men is that when they find a woman attractive, they often try to explain how something works, or teach them something that they are passionate about. They do this because they want to show their value. Like hey, I know good shit, and I'm a good person to know! But women often see it as "mansplaining" because they don't understand why anyone would do that. If you are attracted to them why not flirt directly? But that's the problem. Most men don't know how to flirt properly, and they are trying when they are explaining what they are passionate about. Its all a mess.
The emotional baggage analogy. lol
Dang! My husband sure did luck out. I am glad I have knowledge of these traits and chose to not have them at all or not carry them into my marriage. My marriage and husband are most important, second only to God.
Pure valid advice.
Rich, when you dropping your new book?
If I was a mother to a son, I'd give him the same advice.
My 85 year old mother has a friend group. They laughingly call themselves "The Nags". 😅
😊😂😂
This was great. Very entertaining. :D
Keep an eye out for the Big Four - Progressive, Feminist, single mother, and lots of tattoos. Those alone will cut out 90% of the women you should be avoiding.
A very good point you make about the type of jobs a woman will do and how much they make as a result. A few years ago my daughter was dropping me off at a part of the airport that catered for FIFO to the mine sites. She made the point " this looks like an airport for men" Yes about 95% of the people there were men. If you take this into account I wonder if there is any differance in income for men and wemen.
Tattoos are weird. Why would you want to scar yourself and mutilate your body. I don't get it
Neither do I, it is sad
It’s become a dumb fashion trend. Let’s mutilate the largest organ on our body to look “cool” and get eyeballs from others. It’s corny.
@@setokaibasbankaccount9109 I always told myself I am not opposed to a tattoo for something meanable but I have not found any good reason to mutilate myself for any reason. It's permanent
Maybe to memorialize an awesome person or event, big maybe, still not for me
Buy a print or T-shirt
If there ends up being a higher power we’ll face in the afterlife, I can image his opinion about tattoos: “I bestowed you with infinite freedom and a boundlessly innovative mind, and the best you could do was to scribble on yourself…”
I went on Reddit and stated that it's unwise to have a society that normalizes high body counts for women. I got downvoted like crazy -1000 votes.
That is the culture.
reddit is gay
Reddit is full of estrogen
One of your best clips
I wished I would have known this when I was younger. I’ve made poor decisions on my women during my lifetime.
I was raised by a stepdad and I hated the man with a passion. He and my mom had two sons together. So my stepdad had two step children and two of his own. My two half brothers were completely his kids. My other brother and myself were second class citizens. He was the reason I moved out the house the day after I graduated Highschool. I would never raise someone else's kid as I think it's nearly impossible to truly love another man's kid as you will never be the "real" father.
Mad at the step father🤣
Blame your mom
How about women who post half naked pictures of themselves on instagram?
Thats Red Flag #13 Women seeking Validation
Don’t waste your time on them.
It's fundamentally important to have control or your emotions. Let your choices about women come frome REASON not the euphoria of the excitement of the new relationship.
Man I wish I could send this to someone anonymously 😂
I have been saying that for years about women and tattoos being more than simply art. To my mind it's a reflection on the masculinity or lack of masculinity of today's men.
How do you identify women with high body counts? Character profiles can only do so much, there are plenty of "nice" acting and looking women who have actually been through lots of men.
There are some signs you would probably pick up on if you're observant. For instance, if she is nice and enthusiastic about getting sexual with you on the first date, that probably means she's been with a lot of guys before you.
Stirling cooper brushed on perfectly cause he explained exactly a girl I fucked who had a high notch count. When she’s flakey, doesn’t respect your time, doesn’t do wifey things to try to impress you so she can stick around , inability to pair bond( fucks but can easily hop to someone else the next day) a girl with morals would put in effort to stick around after being with a new partner cause she doesn’t want to add another notch. Look him up on body count cause girls would never tell you the truth when you ask but they are some key signs to know or have an idea
Instagram. Also women will tell on themselves, eventually.
Depends, if you get her comfortable enough (right environment and right time e.g. she's tipsy or just after sex) she's gonna tell you all you need to know. No need to ask it directly, you can indicate you had a girlfriend with high body count and see her reaction.
@@CopperBased 1000%
If you know what to listen for they will tell you everything and if you have a good memory they will tell you something.
AND 123456 months later they will tell you the exact opposite not remembering what they had told you before that is how you catch them lying and know what’s really going on.
Also whatever they tell you when they’re drunk or whatever they tell you when they’re really angry that’s the truth.
And lastly and probably the most important of all is always trust your gut if something doesn’t seem right and all of a sudden you feel like you’ve been punched in the stomach your gut is telling you something really really really wrong and if you hear voices to tell you something believe the voices it’s your intuition the universe god whatever you wanna believe talking to you trying to get you out of trouble.
that’s what they really mean and feel.
Great video
Fuuuq my ex back in the day was showing ALL of these signs.
She left because she was "talking to her friends" and they told her to leave me.
While were dating she was talking to a blaq dude with a TVR also twenty years older and was hanging around him and then shortly after left me. Even though she said "don't worry about it" 😂😂😂😂
I was such a dumbass.
Much love from the UK
Excellent video. I've sent a few of your videos to a woman friend I knew from 25+ years ago whose life and relationships went off track from subscribing to feminism. Women need to hear a man's perspective because all they ever hear are from other women.
One thing about the lawyer though....in the past 15 or so years being on social media, women always say that their attorney tells them it's going to be hard because so many men get away without paying child support and something like 90% of divorces pay zero alimony. And this is for divorce or just baby mama situations involving custody and child support, not marriage.
So I wonder if lawyers just tell their clients in general like "You're lucky you have me fighting for you" whether they are a man or woman.🤔 I have no doubt that men can get screwed in court and even more so if they were never married. Society takes care of single mothers but nobody cares about "baby daddy" situations
I went through a very short relationship. Thought she was the one. Ended in heartbreak cos of one major red flag... She was still in love with her ex and was not only still friends with him (after she left him for abusing her), but i gave her the option to stop talking to him or i leave... She literally chose him... 😂
Dude I gave the same option to the woman she picked her male friends I was out, she just happened to text me yesterday some random shit I just ignored it
@@luisvilla799 dude respect! It's hard . I usually say them in that scenario, "how would you feel if your mum was friends with other dudes , going out and messaging them. And how would your dad feel?" And they still think it's normal, they are too far gone. On to the next one brother
@@Bloom0to9 yeah man they try to justify it so I’m out I’m starting to see it more in the latin American culture more, I always see it in the black and Anglo American culture and some think it’s okay, they woman I mentioned happens to be of mixed race black and white and tattoos and 2 baby daddy I just wanted to smash but saw the red flags and was out now after I have told numerous times don’t call or text she still does
@@luisvilla799 You and I may have different boundaries (i dont think that is the case) but I suggest to, take a step back and ask yourself what you would advise if your best friends if they were in your position. Me personally, I would run for the hills if I were you haha
@@Bloom0to9 I think we had the same boundaries the woman I previously was just a smash plan lucky for me it didn’t get there
When I was young we would refer to tattoos on women as "tramp stamps".
The last statement, about how the "right" woman can change your life for the better - this is SO rare it might as well not exist (like 1 in a 1000 type of thing). The best you can realistically hope for is not changing it to much worse and even that is only worth doing if you really, really want kids (and it's far better not to want them).
These videos are good for men
Red flags everywhere
wow... number 1 was literally the last two women I had relationships with! I'd say I'm a fairly decent guy, I don't cause conflict, I plan accordingly with my partner, I'm communicative, good with kids etc.... both had daddy issues, and I think when they see decency in any man, they really don't know how to handle that. and they WILL find ways to be abandoned by you, and in turn, blame you for it. not gonna happen again
The last chance to pull the ripcord is to look at your future mother-in-law, take that times 10 then you know exactly how the girlfriend will be. From my experience, this is 100% reliable
Greetings from Germany
Great advice