These GREEN FLAGS Make Woman a KEEPER

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  • In this video you will see what are the green flags that make a valuable woman worth keeping on a long term basis.
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  • @Kolgart
    @Kolgart 2 года назад +2649

    Summary of green flags:
    1. Good relationship with her father. She likes strong masculinity.
    2. She takes care of you if you're sick.
    3. She stays away from toxic entertainment (news, drama, reality shows, gossip, social media garbage).
    4. Generally positive about life and work.
    5. She has some purpose in life, except a boss girl.
    6. She takes ownership for her choices in life, accountability.
    7. Low notch count. The lower the better. She doesn't compare your worst to someone else's best.
    8. She's pleasant and doesn't nag you consistently.
    9. She encourages and supports your purpose.
    10. She's active and she exercises.
    11. She has culinary skills (unless you prefer to cook, personal choice).
    12. She's tidy, cleans up and continues to do so unprompted.
    13. If you have kids, she knows how to engage with them and how to treat them (not necessarily as her own kids, but like a niece or nephew).
    14. She doesn't use her phone as an attention device. She isn't posting publicly (unless she's selling/promoting something).
    15. Obedience. She's a complement to your life, not a focus.
    16. She doesn't compete with what you're doing.

    • @drewtakesprofit8897
      @drewtakesprofit8897 2 года назад +193

      #14. damn near every girl is out after that one lol

    • @carparthero
      @carparthero 2 года назад +62

      good luck finding a modern-day woman that embodies #6 lol.
      women rarely, if ever, take responsibility for bad choices they make.

    • @UnpluggedDiesel
      @UnpluggedDiesel 2 года назад +53

      @@drewtakesprofit8897 Nah, somewhat decent amount of chicks have their gram on private and don't add random dudes. Dated a chick that was private, rarely posted but was a smokeshow IRL. She did have a problem with mindless scrolling though.

    • @drewtakesprofit8897
      @drewtakesprofit8897 2 года назад +75

      @@UnpluggedDiesel I dated a girl who would switch her ig from public to private back and forth all the time, and archive photos then reupload them. just weird shit. the type where we would be on a trip and shed be all "can you take a pic of me" and id be like "why dont we take a photo together?" and shed get mad lol

    • @dre4505
      @dre4505 2 года назад +5

      @@drewtakesprofit8897 aha

  • @LordHolley
    @LordHolley 2 года назад +1219

    My mother told me many times growing up "if you want a quality woman, you need to be a quality man".

    • @rosadelrio5120
      @rosadelrio5120 2 года назад +46

      And she was right!

    • @davidx8152
      @davidx8152 2 года назад +50

      True but it's not so much about quality as female expectations nowadays. Is there any love anymore or is it more a survival of the fittest arms race of constantly needing to be a "high value male" when just being a hardworking regular man appears to be insufficient.

    • @pnwlady
      @pnwlady 2 года назад +26

      Exactly, you can’t ask/expect things from a partner that you aren’t bringing yourself.

    • @hmead2810
      @hmead2810 2 года назад +17

      like attracts like.

    • @panagenesis2695
      @panagenesis2695 2 года назад +2

      Bingo!🎩👏👍

  • @SniffBackBetter
    @SniffBackBetter 8 месяцев назад +189

    A HUGE one for me is when she's self aware enough to realise when she's wrong and is willing to apologise. That seems to be so rare now.

    • @kasparsstraut2247
      @kasparsstraut2247 5 месяцев назад +5

      Spot on!

    • @alaska49girl
      @alaska49girl 5 месяцев назад

      Men don't do that, though soooo....

    • @scottwtodd
      @scottwtodd 4 месяца назад +4

      Almost impossibly rare . Kryptonite is accountability, responsibility.
      Really… most are like an entitled child.

    • @Sevoflurane2014
      @Sevoflurane2014 3 месяца назад +3

      Dude my ex could NOT admit when she was wrong. Ever. We could never communicate without yelling half the time. Once she got wound up you couldn't get her back down. She would scream at you and you would ask her to lower her voice in a calm way and she would yell and say No! It was just awful. But it was odd. She had a lot of green flags too. It was so weird. At the beginning it was amazing and then things started to show.

    • @Wookinpanub235
      @Wookinpanub235 2 месяца назад +1

      So after 33 years of marriage I learned how to do everything myself.
      We were both extremely busy and both knew how to cook, clean and share all the duties .
      Now that I’m widowed since cancer took her Im wondering if I even meed a woman.
      I can do everything myself.
      Do I really need a relationship with a woman who in my age group is looking for a man to take care of her?
      I’ve been thinking hard about this.
      I can do everything myself, my way on my terms and my time.
      It may just do me fine to just have casual relationships with younger chicks ….as long as I can keep them just that I really don’t need the hassle of a future bad relationship.
      My soul mate in life died….Ill never be able to replace her, I have all the skills to het along in life just fine without a Mommy figure so why bother?
      I have young chicks hitting on me all the time so why not just have some clean fun and be a freaking batchelor with benefits?

  • @alexbaum2204
    @alexbaum2204 2 года назад +83

    Just had partial knee replacement surgery last week (just turned 49, so quite young for it). My girlfriend was there every step of the way. I got a hotel room for the first 5 days to avoid stairs. She was there with me every day. Had to go take care of the dog at night. Had tears in her eyes when she would leave - just hating to think of me being in the kind of pain I was in. But I explained she didn’t want to be around when I couldn’t sleep. She did such an amazing job that, after almost three years together, I felt like I had fallen in love with her all over again. Feel really proud to be with her. Those good women are out there. Just gotta be patient and be comfortable with who you are too.

    • @gardenofeels6872
      @gardenofeels6872 2 года назад +9

      Why don't you marry her if she's so great?

    • @nelsonhibbert5267
      @nelsonhibbert5267 6 месяцев назад

      @@gardenofeels6872 Because he's got a BRAIN

    • @MidnightPolaris800
      @MidnightPolaris800 5 месяцев назад +1

      She was crying about her position of going out and cheating on you😂

    • @finding_beauty_for_you
      @finding_beauty_for_you 4 месяца назад

      That's awesome, hope you can make her your wife.

    • @elizabethv7411
      @elizabethv7411 Месяц назад

      3 years and no ring. Playing with fire

  • @theresurrectionmen8707
    @theresurrectionmen8707 2 года назад +864

    Good to talk about positive attributes once

    • @angelsegura6407
      @angelsegura6407 2 года назад +32

      Fr 🤣

    • @porterdallenbach1639
      @porterdallenbach1639 2 года назад +43

      Yeah we need more of this in the red pilled community

    • @se.i.4393
      @se.i.4393 2 года назад +9

      @@porterdallenbach1639 yeah better because they get butthurt and get negative energy about all these stuff, that won't make them any better

    • @di3486
      @di3486 2 года назад +27

      It’s important because the bitterness caused by the bad apples are making men not noticing the good ones.

    • @dominicsarria-wiley8985
      @dominicsarria-wiley8985 2 года назад +19

      Yes thank you. Everybody wants to talk about what is wrong with women but very few of these red pilled gurus want to talk about how to recognize quality…

  • @ullscarf
    @ullscarf 2 года назад +293

    The illness one's a definite. I once came down with appendicitis on the morning I was supposed to be going on holiday with my girlfriend. It was some of the worst pain I've ever endured and I was rushed to hospital in near collapse. And all she could say was that I'd ruined her holiday.

    • @lgx2410
      @lgx2410 2 года назад +51

      Just wow

    • @jasonsanders8091
      @jasonsanders8091 2 года назад +41

      That's narcissistic, and you're well clear of her! Not all girls like that.

    • @ullscarf
      @ullscarf 2 года назад +16

      @@jasonsanders8091 She didn't boil the bunny but she did go on holiday and leave it to starve. Definitely a narcissist, if not a sociopath. Most of my girlfriends have been lovely.

    • @user-ku7pm9zv4m
      @user-ku7pm9zv4m 2 года назад +9

      That's horrible, I also went through that same condition...it hurts like a biatch!

    • @losethe4752
      @losethe4752 Год назад +2

      Well you did ruin the holiday, that is the truth, however it was a health issue, completely out of control!

  • @DHW256
    @DHW256 2 месяца назад +5

    My wife wins almost all of these. I wish she took better care of herself, but she's had a few incidents, lately, which are compelling her to exercise and win that battle. Her family is blessed by her. I wish my father had it so good.

  • @blendi3825
    @blendi3825 Год назад +117

    “She takes care of you when you’re sick”. After a couple of months I was dating her, I fell sick. She went out with her friends and left me at home alone. I ignored the red flag. Right now she is asking for a divorce after having 2 children. A girl of 5 and a boy of 3 years old. Shame I didn’t have your book 7 years ago, will have save me tons of pain.

    • @tonym3712
      @tonym3712 9 месяцев назад +12

      Sorry to say this but what Rich is saying is just common sense. Even if you hadn't been sick she shouldn't have gone out with her friends when she was in a relationship with you.

    • @TheSusu125
      @TheSusu125 7 месяцев назад +2

      Yes, huge red flag. Dating is coming attractions, the previews like of a movie. People don’t change. If they lack empathy now they always will.

    • @Mikexception
      @Mikexception 6 месяцев назад +3

      Right. I never forgotten my exwife that Christmas when just I got high fever and flu and she "in response" took both children to another city to friends and left me alone for all Holidays till New Year almost not able to walk with dog under my care.

    • @oraciosanchez6984
      @oraciosanchez6984 5 месяцев назад

      She trash, and no man gonna want to marry her, your free bro!! Atleast she out of your life forever, some women will string you on for decades. Freeeee

    • @windihari
      @windihari 5 месяцев назад +2

      I am so sorry.

  • @terrodar19
    @terrodar19 2 года назад +178

    I knew this chick that married some good guy, he got into a terrible accident and was bedridden for months, plus physical therapy, etc etc. She left him in the middle of all this because it was just too much for her. What a complete POS this woman

    • @warfield4785
      @warfield4785 2 года назад +32

      It sucks to see this. I work in brain injury rehab. The sad reality is that this is how it is for potential future disabilities people. Males are more likely to obtain a brain injury so it’s more prevalent. But women with brain injuries experience the same issues with their spouse. Having said that, I work with a recovered brain injury guy who’s wife wouldn’t leave him. Despite his physical deficits, he became a counselor himself and works in the program. He’s still with his wife and raises his children. He recently has a newborn now. From what I know of him. The guy always maintains frame even at work and is a great loving father that provides for his family.
      I realize this rare. But I’ve known. The guy for years. He’s an incredibly hard worker and doesn’t simp to nobody

    • @warfield4785
      @warfield4785 2 года назад +7

      Just wanted to put out a “success story” for a guy who damn near lost it all. I realize this isnt the reality that most men face when dealing with severe injury. Just wanted to state that even with Guys that have severe injury. Perhaps not all is lost. May take even more hard work than before.

    • @Reevay762
      @Reevay762 2 года назад +9

      That's awful. I've seen to many women in my life (mom, aunts, friends) who yell and are not loving with their man when he's ill. When you're a child, it takes a toll on you psychologically if you have grown up seeing anyone yell when someone is ill.

    • @RKmndo
      @RKmndo 2 года назад +4

      I saw a lot of fellow troops in the military that got cheated on and/or ghosted as soon as they left town for training or deployment.
      Misandrist western courts don't hold women accountable for poor behavior.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад +7

      @Sciencegirl
      Does the dude look after her when she's sick?
      Lol...NO..there's your answer

  • @JJ-ps9xe
    @JJ-ps9xe 2 года назад +255

    The dad thing is hit or miss. My ex wife had great parents, where still married, but she still betrayed me after 22 years. Other girlfriends with good parents for turned out to be basket cases, ones who where raised by single parent, seemed to respect me more. Careful men, results may vary.

    • @andysandoval4601
      @andysandoval4601 2 года назад +49

      The odds of having emotional and mental problems for being raised in a single family home are higher but it is not a guarantee that she will act up.
      People can choose how to respond and live despite being dealt a bad hand.

    • @rosadelrio5120
      @rosadelrio5120 2 года назад +28

      Was looking for this reply. Sometimes it is vitually impossible to have a relationship with a dad, because he is a truly toxic influence, and it is not out of disrespect or hatred for men.

    • @davidx8152
      @davidx8152 2 года назад +26

      One of the most common sense responses I've read on here. The human race (let alone the female of the species) are so unpredictable one can vet for everything and still after one, two or even twenty-two years still end up with a nightmare scenario.

    • @mikebingham9700
      @mikebingham9700 2 года назад +13

      @@davidx8152 There are no guarantees in this life.

    • @davidx8152
      @davidx8152 2 года назад +3

      @@mikebingham9700 Cold comfort for any man thinking that 1+1=2

  • @bradojacko8247
    @bradojacko8247 2 года назад +385

    I think it important to note that a good woman won't follow all these green flags all the time. You gotta leave some room for her to be imperfect and an individual as well so long as there is dialogue and communication and compassion generally with these things without blow ups. No one will hit ALL of these flags perfectly. This is a lot of flags, good as they are

    • @GrandPines323
      @GrandPines323 2 года назад +19

      I agree. I'm dating a woman who has most of these green flags.
      Except for the following:
      • She is a Boss Girl, in that she very driven to find and close real estate transactions and flipping houses. She wants to include me as a valuable partner and teammate.
      • Her vehicle interior and her bathroom is a mess.
      • Her body composition isn't slim and fit like it could be.
      This is where she needs someone with leadership skills to encourage her to improve in these areas.

    • @IEVAKambarovaite
      @IEVAKambarovaite 2 года назад +17

      @@GrandPines323 I'm glad you're accepting her the way she's. However, a woman's diet and the state of her bathroom tell a lot about her.
      This sometimes translates into poor budgeting decisions, binge eating and so on.
      Of course, every case has to be evaluated individually. Just something for you to keep in mind.
      All the best and I hope you're able to maintain a beautiful and healthy relationship with this lady.

    • @GrandPines323
      @GrandPines323 2 года назад +4

      @@IEVAKambarovaite
      In your opinion, what does a messy bathroom or a cluttered vehicle indicate about a women's personality?
      Also the same about her being 20 pounds overweight because of over indulgence in her diet?
      How can both issues be resolved in a healthy relationship manner?

    • @GrandPines323
      @GrandPines323 2 года назад

      @@canecorsomom2023 thank you for replying...
      Not only knowing what to look for in red flags, but also knowing why they're red flags is very important.

    • @bradojacko8247
      @bradojacko8247 2 года назад +2

      @@GrandPines323 it is ok to better each other in a relationship. Lead by example and see if it embolden her to do the same. Start going to the gym regularly and see if she will do it with you. If she has a lot of green flags and some red flags and you like her, you have to do your due dilligence to see what is permanent and what is temporary yourself. Socratic method is great for this stuff. And also, lead by example and see if she'll follow. 20lbs is not morbidly obese. It is totally workable. So, pound the pavement and change your pattern a little and see if she will change hers a little and just needed a little jolt! Too many people just dismissing each other too easily so they dont have to grow or put in any effort. Maybe it doesn't work. Set a time goal, put the effort in, and then drop it if it doesn't work out. Nbd

  • @wynterdawn
    @wynterdawn 2 года назад +68

    I am all of these... and I'm happily married. Girls like me are out there, but you have to get off the dating apps. I do feel like a lot of men are looking for a 9 or 10 in looks. That is going to really limit the search results...plus, as you fall in love, the perception of beauty grows toward your loved one.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 2 года назад +5

      I've been off the dating market for decades. However, in my bachelor days I dated some 9s & 10s, and also some girl next door types. The girl next door types try harder. The stunning women have been taught they only have to show up to receive approval. In a small way I pity the stunners. They have been taught their looks will carry them, so they have no impetus to improve themselves for anything outside of their looks. Granted, they make good eye & arm candy.

    • @hydraulics
      @hydraulics 2 года назад +5

      @@Ace.0.0.0. some lucky guys have a personal taste for specific physical attributes that might make a 6 or 7 on the street a 10 in their world. Super cool if we have that too.

    • @froggiman1
      @froggiman1 5 месяцев назад +1

      Almost all men look for a 9 or 10 but looks can be so subjective. Men look for what is a 9 or 10 in their mind. Plus NO woman wants a man that doesn't consider her beautiful and sexually attractive. If a woman found out her man was not sexually attracted to her he would probably never recover from that.

    • @finding_beauty_for_you
      @finding_beauty_for_you 4 месяца назад

      Thanks for the encouragement and reminder. So true. Especially the last one.

  • @PATRYK-R1
    @PATRYK-R1 2 года назад +205

    Thank You Rich! we need more videos with positive side of women/relationships...

    • @ythandlerandom1278LK
      @ythandlerandom1278LK 2 года назад +7

      He just did a green flag episode, if you haven't seen it, check it out

    • @JWR217
      @JWR217 2 года назад +1

      100%

    • @allenantonioheyllatorre5720
      @allenantonioheyllatorre5720 2 года назад +7

      Yeah refreshing to see. A mans true potential is with a wife and children.

    • @wanjirukarago9308
      @wanjirukarago9308 2 года назад +13

      True tired of negative sides.

    • @mikeg1433
      @mikeg1433 2 года назад +11

      Agreed. It’s easy to sit around and point out all the problems that others have and there’s so many RUclipsrs just so obviously playing off of emotions with that formula to make easy money.

  • @Bootsystem66
    @Bootsystem66 2 года назад +24

    Listening to these and many commentaries convinced me 100% I married a narcissist.
    When I was sick, my ex would not bother or waste her time on me. Would not have a joint savings. I paid all bills etc and she did her gym and yoga leaving me constantly with the kids. Talked down on me in front of my friends etc. Took no responsibilities and lied repeatedly
    ...and wait for this. ...... she petitioned fir divorce when I was grieving my brother's death; and he's body still in the mortuary...
    Now free and picking up the pieces while caring for my boys that I fought years to save. Please guys learn from watching these talks. Will certainly save your lives

    • @almacolic
      @almacolic Год назад +1

      I hope you are in a better place now.

  • @glowgirl8171
    @glowgirl8171 2 года назад +99

    I've been married for 45 years. Caring for my husband whenever he was ill or going through a tough time has been one of the most fulfilling, calming, peaceful things I've ever known. He doesn't have to tell me I'm beautiful or bring bonbons home. He shows his love in special ways that others probably don't witness as "love". When I'm down, I suddenly find him fixing things I've been bugging him about or doing the dishes or a load of laundry and of course, there's always that look of love . We both take care of each other and at the end of the day, when I lay my head down, I know I'm blessed to have a guy who worked his behind off, loves me and our children,supported my career and what else can I say? He's a damn good man.

    • @jasonsanders8091
      @jasonsanders8091 2 года назад +4

      You're a very fortunate woman!! So glad for you!

    • @cedricbixler4068
      @cedricbixler4068 Год назад +3

      God bless your marriage. We need for females like you.

    • @stuford
      @stuford 7 месяцев назад

      Well my lady..you are a fantastic woman! Love to you and your man 🙏

    • @DavidMRudy-kn8ed
      @DavidMRudy-kn8ed 6 месяцев назад

      god bless you. you give me hope there is someone out there that could experience this with me.

  • @firefei87
    @firefei87 2 года назад +114

    I have followed many men on the "Manosphere" and the one thing that I have noticed is always the negative. This is the first time where I hear about "Keeping" a woman. I personally would like to keep a woman and not live only the bachelor life. I'd like to hear more from others on what attributes would be eligibility to keep a relationship going. More Green Flags please

    • @jbar85jb22
      @jbar85jb22 2 года назад +11

      Yeah a lot of men of the manosphere are often called incels because of posting nothing but bad behavior of Women. When it is not the case.

    • @tomaszsosnowski9279
      @tomaszsosnowski9279 2 года назад

      Apex Mindset has a green flag series.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 2 года назад +9

      I too, married a woman with many green flags. All the things Rich listed are good. More than anything, she must be an asset to your life. A complement. We all have the occasional bad day. Things work best between me and wifey if I am 1) polite, honest, & direct. 2) when I display integrity- or, when my words & actions ALIGN.
      Also important is to be comfortable saying 'no,' and be polite, honest, direct.

    • @cristinap273
      @cristinap273 2 года назад +11

      Most of this men are frustated and can't properly treat a lady. They're traumatized by women. They need to grow up.

    • @stevec3526
      @stevec3526 2 года назад +2

      @@cristinap273 Like you know what it means to be a man?
      What most men are told about women want in a man is totally wrong. Disneyland
      Also, few women have a clue as to what men want in a woman worth marrying.

  • @cr3d294
    @cr3d294 2 года назад +57

    My ex had a great relationship with her father. Didn't keep her from drinking like a fish.

    • @rjunbn
      @rjunbn 2 года назад +7

      weak father. same thing with my ex gf. I only noticed long after having broken up with her, the mother ran the house, best father in law I've ever had though.

    • @kingbucketz182
      @kingbucketz182 2 года назад +4

      @@rjunbn Yeah my girlfriend’s father was actually a heroin addict but he somehow held down a job as a fighter fighter though (until one day he didn’t) She loved her dad because through it all he still loved the hell out of his kids and she’s values that, even though she knows he had a problem. Anyway my girlfriend still turned out to be a major green flag which is rare. I mean let’s face it. I’m black and so is she. This isn’t something that’s very common among us.

    • @toddbr5959
      @toddbr5959 2 года назад

      @@rjunbn Wow it's like you are on my mind dude! I was thinking about that with a girl that i was dating. I know her father and her father is a decent doctor beloved by everyone in his area but he looks weak. His daughter that i used to date is very manipulative and she goes to different clubs all the time getting drunk! Nothing like her father. Her brother is mostly like her father.

  • @Miss_PANDAS
    @Miss_PANDAS 2 года назад +339

    Very good advice. However, I will say as a Conservative woman we are looking for Conservative men. That is, men with high morals. If a mans past is full of one night stands and casual affairs we are not interested. Worldly women might not care about a man's escapades, but these women are Liberal, feminist types, and a good man looking for a good woman will avoid these types. It's incongruous to expect high morality from a woman while a man indulges in an immoral lifestyle.

    • @ivanvidojevic2461
      @ivanvidojevic2461 2 года назад +38

      Agreed

    • @cianamartin3932
      @cianamartin3932 2 года назад +48

      As a virgin woman, agreed!

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад +79

      Truth.
      These pump&dump dudes looking for all the green lights .
      Lol

    • @billpetersen298
      @billpetersen298 2 года назад +7

      If only it were that easy. I married a quality woman, that I respect. Turns out, she couldn’t do physical intimacy. A king size bed was needed, so there was no excuse for touching.
      25 years, no parole, and I didn’t even get, to kill anyone. Is a very long time.
      I totally get what you mean, about double standards, on a show like this.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад +1

      @@billpetersen298
      Why didn't you divorce her and live the life you wanted? Instead of complaining
      Didn't you date and have sex? You would have found that out.
      You have only yourself to blame

  • @Law19157
    @Law19157 2 года назад +26

    One of the five love languages is acts of service. If you love somebody you serve them, it shouldn't be a chore. You do it because you want to not because you have to. If it becomes a chore the love is gone or wasn't there to begin with.

  • @TinCanToNA
    @TinCanToNA 2 года назад +314

    So grateful for my wife. I sorted through so many women to find her, and she stood out because she had all these green flags and more I would say. The top quality aspect I think is respect. If she loves and respects you, like as an aspect of her existence, then you will experience the night-and-day difference. That’s when the “honeymoon phase” isn’t a phase. That’s when she volunteers to stop advertising to other men via social media. That’s when you get constant validation sex. I truly wish that for every man and woman.

    • @ralx225b
      @ralx225b 2 года назад +9

      Glad you found her!! Thanks for sharing!!!

    • @thevegastan
      @thevegastan 2 года назад +14

      Had that once. But the hidden red flag was: she wasn’t mine to take. She’s already taken.
      It’s fucking weird cause she’s going behind her guy but she’s portraying ALL of these green flags.

    • @TinCanToNA
      @TinCanToNA 2 года назад +12

      @@thevegastan the monkey-branch-receiver’s paradox you describe is answered by a reflection on the concept of loyalty. If she is so ruthless as to monkey-branch while in a relationship, you can safely assume that her character requires her to do that to you eventually. Contrary to the black-pilled notion that every woman has a back up man while in a relationship, some women actually do avoid that tendency. That’s why respect and demonstrable loyalty are so important. I would even contend that the woman you describe did not have as many green flags as you think you saw; she wasn’t available, she certainly was not avoiding advertising to other men, and so forth. You were likely blinded by dick-thinking. Be grateful you avoided her

    • @davidx8152
      @davidx8152 2 года назад +9

      I think what you are describing was far more prevalent/available 20+ years ago. It's not impossible now but online dating has all but destroyed the female psyche.

    • @RussellTurner
      @RussellTurner 2 года назад +8

      @@thevegastan That was a show for you, bro.

  • @petronellakayanan5160
    @petronellakayanan5160 3 месяца назад +4

    The cullinary responsibility should be shared. It's a lot of work!

    • @MS45636
      @MS45636 3 месяца назад

      Having studied nutrition for around 4 years now i believe theres only 3 types of way to eat. Only 1 of those ways takes lots of work and its the balanced clean diet approach etc.

    • @noremac0123456789
      @noremac0123456789 Месяц назад

      Yea…she needs to know to cook “because, l like to eat” 🙄

  • @Scott45fl12345
    @Scott45fl12345 2 года назад +195

    Nice to see a change in topic.
    Thanks for what you do Rich.

  • @johnsnow5264
    @johnsnow5264 Год назад +7

    All this sounds exactly like my wife. Thats why we have been together for over 25 years... sometimes it's good to hear it from such videos to see the treasure I have here in my home.

  • @Stringwar
    @Stringwar 2 года назад +23

    I was away one time with my mates and their wives, I had a really bad allergic reaction to a beer (some wheat based drinks give me really bad reflux and stomach pain). All the wives came in and looked after me, asked if I was ok, brought me drinks.....except my (ex) wife.

  • @ChosenPlaysYT
    @ChosenPlaysYT 8 месяцев назад +4

    The #1 is what’s her baseline. Like on a normal day is she smiling and pleasant and fun to be around, or is she moping and depressed and venting on social media.

  • @orlandomontes6177
    @orlandomontes6177 2 года назад +38

    Hello, I'm currently dating a young woman who actually has all the green flags you explained and I'm really thankful, + she's beautiful and hot. But of course, I had to become a high value man to deserve this, I work hard, study hard, go to the gym, I eat clean, I'm able to protect her and I'm kind. She's a keeper but she's with me because she feels safe.

    • @finding_beauty_for_you
      @finding_beauty_for_you 4 месяца назад +1

      Sounds awesome, most men hope that there more green than red flags. God bless your relation.

    • @MS45636
      @MS45636 3 месяца назад +2

      Thats great, 2 years later, how are things with her ?

  • @charliegogolin6295
    @charliegogolin6295 Год назад +6

    Man everytime I hear one of my buddies having problems with women you are the first person I suggest. Even when a girl I'm with shows me a guy that is trying to get with her I'll take her phone and send a message to him telling him to get your book😂 thank you for turning my life around

  • @irenemoore8670
    @irenemoore8670 9 месяцев назад +8

    How about all of these things are reciprocated?? If I am a woman, who is working full-time, just as much as my man, then , things should be shared. All peeps in the house can load the dishwasher and unload it. For that matter, for the most part, both should be equally responsible for appointment setting and KNOWING who the kiddos pediatrician/orthodontist/dentist is without being ignorant of “who” the kiddos practitioner is. Additionally, if mom is still at work and dad is home, it is NOT up to mom to determine what dinner is as the mister has been home long enough to figure it out. The man should also compliment the woman as well. If she is working and he is home early, then don’t expect her to be making dinner when she gets home after you and kids have been home for hours! Unless the man is willing to support, FULLY, the woman to stay home and be domestic, then that is a different situation. What can a man do to be useful as well? Both are equal in a partnership….the woman is not the maid.

  • @GurlsiLike
    @GurlsiLike 2 года назад +524

    If she does things to make you happy and make your life easier without you having to ask, shes a keeper. If she cooks, clean, and satisfies you sexually without you having to mention it, more green flags. If she adapts to your mindsets and picks up similar ideologies as you, green flag. If she enjoys staying home with you on your nights off instead of being out with her single friends, green flag. Most importantly, if she leaves her phone around with no care and isn’t sneaky about things, more than likely she is faithful & thats the biggest green flag.

    • @LifelsGreat
      @LifelsGreat 2 года назад +31

      This is beyond a dream girl lol can you imagine

    • @bloochoob
      @bloochoob 2 года назад +5

      If she’s from Stepford that’s a green flag, or green something…🤮🦠🤢👽

    • @mohammedzaid9737
      @mohammedzaid9737 2 года назад +17

      I have this !! And she is hot lol must be lucky or something

    • @GurlsiLike
      @GurlsiLike 2 года назад +11

      @@mohammedzaid9737 same brother. Past 5 years. Been through many so i can differentiate well. A lot of my friends have longterm girls that lack these attributes and i feel
      Bad for them.

    • @mohammedzaid9737
      @mohammedzaid9737 2 года назад +8

      @@GurlsiLike I hear you , rough out there for some guys . Been with mine over 10 years . Going strong 💪

  • @josetheman239
    @josetheman239 2 года назад +11

    Culinary skills to me is most important one. Lots of women out there have zero clue about nutrition they either think not eating meat is healthy or they'll feed your children processed crap and Coca-Cola and place them in front of a tv while they scroll through Instagram. Also stay away from those women who are always posting restaurant food on their social media.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад

      I'm a woman and have amazing culinary skills. Guys always ask if I can cook.

    • @josetheman239
      @josetheman239 2 года назад

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 Well then hit me up...

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад

      @Cheese Doodle nyggah
      Just a fit healthy feminine feminist who is a fantastic cook and can create dishes far better than any frumpy trad wife.

  • @windjamrr
    @windjamrr 2 года назад +10

    This was a refreshing addition - instead of what’s wrong with women. Posting what’s right sets the bar.

  • @theboombody
    @theboombody 2 года назад +26

    I think my wife and I work well together. She does enough to keep me happy and I do enough to keep her happy. If it's all too one-sided with only one partner providing any benefit, that other partner will only have so long to count their blessings before they either start pulling their weight, or learning what it's like to be on their own.

    • @davidx8152
      @davidx8152 2 года назад +1

      Interesting; I do wonder whether this was the case from the 1500s (or earlier) to the 1970s. Or is it the case that the encroachment of the state with advances in social security for women (e.g. single mother assistance), no-fault divorce law and family law courts favouring women either through access to children or financially devastating divorce settlements resulted in women being (rightly so) less reliant on men. This then results in any relationship automatically entering 'blessings countdown mode' the moment she is not happy with the balance of power.

    • @1twistedcpl6575
      @1twistedcpl6575 8 месяцев назад

      What is "enough?" Isnt that the same as bare minimum?

  • @mariusd5913
    @mariusd5913 2 года назад +20

    One thing we need to bear in mind is that none of these things are static qualities. Like a woman may treat the one guy right and the other one not, may be in a phase in her life where she is good with men and in another time where she is critical of men. You may date a woman and she will take care for you, but after 10 year of marriage she couldn't care less. When a woman has the prospect of getting her needs met, she is willing to make all the right moves she want you to see. but when she is tired of you or have new objectives those green flags terns red, well its also possible for red flags to turn green as she outgrow some of her childishness. But red or green flags in women are not fixed, it changes with her interest, the relationship etc. Predicting a relationship is still a dark art. Your best probability is when have her needs met, but that takes work from you. The worst red flag is a woman who dont meet your needs, that takes communication skills from you. Any woman can be a red or green flag woman depending if she gets what she wants from you or not.

  • @gottafly30
    @gottafly30 Год назад +5

    Rich, this is a great list. I would reposition away from the word 'Obedience'. I believe you mean that it in a more complimentary and supportive way. So I would use "Cooperative". Love your channel dude.

  • @Reevay762
    @Reevay762 2 года назад +17

    Good points. For me, the most important would be taking care of your husband when he's sick. I've seen to many women in my life (mom, aunts, friends) who yell and are not loving with their man when he's ill. When you're a child, it takes a toll on you psychologically if you have grown up seeing anyone yell when someone is ill. It's worst than being ill.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 2 года назад

      Some people should never become parents. Or, just because you can have children, doesn't mean you should.

  • @elainebmack
    @elainebmack 7 месяцев назад +2

    It's really refreshing to hear the term "green flags" as opposed to the usual red variety that so many people go on and on about these days. Your list of green flags is a darned good one and makes perfect sense. I really enjoyed this posting a lot. Thank you!

  • @fatgirlboy9341
    @fatgirlboy9341 2 года назад +58

    that was the breaking point of my marriage. It years ago I was sick, i asked her to pass me the medicine and she yelled at me for not getting them myself where as I really wished someone would take care of me without asking.

    • @PriestOfFilm
      @PriestOfFilm 2 года назад +5

      Just reeks of self-involvement and conceit, with some deep-seated resentment of you for showing weakness, even if it is a rational and explainable one due to illness which anyone and everyone goes through. Plus the vows literally say 'in sickness and in health' - I guess she discarded those from her ethics lol

    • @kingbucketz182
      @kingbucketz182 2 года назад +7

      I’m sorry you had to go through that BS man. That really sucks. She was actually just a pos human being.

    • @cocoskirt
      @cocoskirt 2 года назад +10

      Yep same with my ex. Started to see a pattern where she would get really resentful and spiteful when I was going through difficult times. Breaking point was how malicious she was the night before I had to admit my dad to icu. He’s ok now but that was an eye opener because I realised this woman would not have my back when life threw a curve ball.

    • @paulerdosdaughter
      @paulerdosdaughter 2 года назад

      @@cocoskirt So you wanted an emotional slave?

    • @aliciamoncada4810
      @aliciamoncada4810 2 года назад +8

      Wow, so sad. I remember I had a first date with a guy a couple of years ago, he suddenly felt sick, I went to the pharmacy to get him medicine, and after that day he ghosted me. I felt like a clown🤡... But I'm glad that there are still men that would appreciate that and want to be taken care of when sick.

  • @hazor777
    @hazor777 2 года назад +17

    There is no definite example - there's grey areas with everyone's lives, perceptions and experiences. The more we can be aware of our own thoughts and motivations the clearer it is to make better decisions.

  • @migol1984
    @migol1984 2 года назад +6

    First thing he says made me shout in my bathroom because I've been saying this a lot and no one is listening. If her father is around IT'S A GOOD SIGN. If she has a strange relationship or comes from a broken home, it's a bad sign. Father's are important. It can't be stressed ENOUGH!!!

    • @Sidorvm
      @Sidorvm 7 месяцев назад

      what if father abused the daughter?

  • @gage8787
    @gage8787 2 года назад +8

    I’m 18 and it seems like these types of women don’t exist. I workout 6 times a week and focus on myself and business, so hopefully one day I can find one like this.

    • @ikr2377
      @ikr2377 2 года назад +2

      They do exist.
      I'm like that and many other women in my community are like that...
      Just finding the right man is is hard...
      Because we live world's apart

    • @exoticindiaa
      @exoticindiaa 2 года назад +2

      Atleast be 25 years old to understand women, till then just have fun !

    • @sfletch3042
      @sfletch3042 5 месяцев назад +2

      At the age of eighteen , you're in no position to decide whether not any type of people exist , to be honest😂

  • @makattak88
    @makattak88 2 года назад +71

    Remember guys, this isn’t 100 % and it has to fit or life, but for the most part this is a fantastic guide.
    My girl doesn’t cook but that can be taught on fun date nights.
    She doesn’t know her Dad but she has a decent family with men involved.
    I’d say the biggest threat is social media, especially intsa. If she doesn’t post hardly at all, HUGE green flag. Huge.
    Sure, Red flags, but they can be worked on. When everything else is green, you got a winner.

    • @ArchMage1011
      @ArchMage1011 2 года назад +1

      Everything stated here is opulence, except the last part. Red flags can not be worked on. Sequential fact pattern can not be altered externally unless the party is 6 years of age, as self esteem plateaus at 7 years young and programmable prior. Move on for satiation, not sustenance. If the red flag does not cause 1st 2nd or 3rd degree burn once touched, it is not worth moving on.

    • @frankservant5754
      @frankservant5754 Год назад

      aAMEN TO THAT

  • @Divinia93
    @Divinia93 2 года назад +25

    I definitely look at how a man treats his mother, sisters, women in his life, etc. I had a man refer to his mother as the b word, I excused myself to the “restroom.”
    I love how you are talking about the positives.

    • @stevec3526
      @stevec3526 2 года назад +7

      Unfortunately, some mothers are seriously that way.
      I ended up breaking up with a former GF because her mother was a narcissistic mess.

    • @scottprofitt1065
      @scottprofitt1065 2 года назад

      What would you do if your mother told you that she just wanted you for the welfare money? I just simply don't have any contact with her nor do I want it from her.

    • @Divinia93
      @Divinia93 2 года назад

      @@scottprofitt1065 that’s not your fault, I’d suggest therapy and surround yourself with loving, patient people

    • @scottprofitt1065
      @scottprofitt1065 2 года назад +3

      I'm fine with it, and moved on I don't see any need for therapy, unless I want to throw money away and there are much better ways spend my money.

    • @ffxiisucks
      @ffxiisucks Год назад

      Woman: "Be honest"
      Man: "My mother is awful".
      Woman: "How dare you be honest"
      *Flees the restaurant

  • @McPh1741
    @McPh1741 2 года назад +6

    A woman that can cook. Hell yeah. As a friend of mine says, “Ain’t nothing like lovin’ that comes from the oven.”

  • @thisdyingsoul76
    @thisdyingsoul76 5 месяцев назад +2

    I'm one of those guys who likes to cook. My wife can cook, and is very good at it, but I do most of the cooking. Its a creative outlet for me. She would usually prefer my cooking to most restaurants.

  • @clintblundon4880
    @clintblundon4880 2 года назад +40

    Really enjoying the book. I'll finish it tomorrow. 56(M) married to 57(F) for 34 years in June. Two adult kids. I can only say my instincts must have improved rapidly because at 23 I certainly wasn't that enlightened, and I dated some batch&t crazy women prior to marrying. Probably some luck as well. All green flags on your list, and even with that, marriage is no picnic. We have a solid relationship, but it could and should be substantially better. I own it.

    • @DA.35
      @DA.35 2 года назад +1

      The book is awesome. Listening to these videos along with book makes the understanding of the dynamic way, way better

    • @drewtakesprofit8897
      @drewtakesprofit8897 2 года назад +2

      married since 22? any regrets? what made you get married so early?

    • @clintblundon4880
      @clintblundon4880 2 года назад +7

      Great question, Drew. I had just turned 23, but yeah, very young by today's standards. Too young. 1988 was a much different time. It was actually quite common to get married right out of high school in the 80's. Most of those marriages that I'm aware of failed though. I wasn't particularly good at playing the field either, because I really had no clue what I was doing. I lost my dad a 9 years old and I was primarily raised by women, so I was trying to figure out how to be a man. I was a stud. 6'2", 215, muscular and in great shape, but resources like Rich's content and others weren't as readily available, so I didn't understand my SMV. I was commissioned as a lieutenant into the Army at that time, so I was entering a risky profession as well. Maybe biologically I recognized the need to breed to ensure my bloodline continued. Not sure, but my instincts suggested to me this was a good woman who I loved and someone I had a feeling would be a great partner. We had and still have common goals and belief systems - green flags across the board. She complements my life very well. Marriage is very hard work though, even with green flags. We have issues in our relationship. No red flags, but things that require effort and maintenance. Is it worth the effort? Yes. Would I marry her again? Yes, but I'd probably wait awhile and sample the buffet a little more. Ironically, my interest in Rich's content is mostly for my 23 year old son. I've picked up quite a few useful things for me to improve my relationship (mostly with myself), but it could be a game changer for my boy. I told him to have the book finished by Sunday so we can have a discussion.

    • @italkgory99
      @italkgory99 6 месяцев назад

      @@drewtakesprofit8897people got married earlier back then

  • @impudentdomain
    @impudentdomain 2 года назад +31

    This is very positive. Other people in the Manosphere will only speak badly about women. But if you think all women are toxic then you are no better than the feminists who think all men are toxic. I think we all agree it is harder to find good woman than ever before but it is not impossible.

    • @michaellupo107
      @michaellupo107 2 года назад

      Hi yz Zee oi

    • @stevec3526
      @stevec3526 2 года назад

      Most YT Manosphere contributors are not anti-woman. They are anti-feminists and anti-304s.

  • @zoeyjusko7258
    @zoeyjusko7258 2 года назад +64

    I don't know any woman under the age of 50 who can come anywhere close to fulfilling all these green flags. It takes a long time for women to grow up this much. I think I was about 35 when I finally realized I had never really taken responsibility for my bad choices in life. My husband said he was just glad I finally realized that on my own. So grateful to have made it passed all that drama. We're just living out our happy retirement years. Good luck searching for that unicorn. It's like the equivalent of women searching for their prince to ride in on a white horse.

    • @goodfoodandtoursjamaica
      @goodfoodandtoursjamaica 2 года назад +4

      I agree, I was feeling the same way. We are all healing from some past trauma. We have to be understanding.

    • @dian277
      @dian277 Год назад +7

      you're joking. Most of the women i know in real life have at least half of these, and others that aren't listed. Men do have to look in the right place. Many of these aren't about how smart they are, how fast they learn or how receptive they are at learning, but about how wise they are. i don't know what exactly it takes to be wise, but some times it can be harder to attain than getting a Ph.D.

    • @SKBottom
      @SKBottom 9 месяцев назад +1

      Unfortunately, by the time they are 50 or over, they have so much damage and baggage, they have tons of red flags, no matter what green flags they may have.

    • @wuy4
      @wuy4 7 месяцев назад +2

      What you say is true Zoey, but it's society's (and our) failing that young women these days aren't taught that these traits are the ones that matter. Instead they are taught almost the complete opposite at a young impressionable age. These green flags are not only desired by men, but also help women better realize their dreams of finding that high quality man. In the recent past, this wasn't a unicorn search, but it has now become one. I do think asking for ALL of them is overboard, but I think most guys understand that it's just a review of what to look out for.

    • @sfletch3042
      @sfletch3042 5 месяцев назад

      You must not know very many women😂

  • @psalm2forliberty577
    @psalm2forliberty577 Год назад +12

    My lovely late wife Sheri was a champ in the kitchen & bedroom both.
    She'd cook meals for her fam as a teen. Wowed me from early on - a more skilled chef than my own Mom.
    She was the most promising Girl at our Church College age ministry.
    How I landed her is a true Miracle & losing her to Cancer a tragedy.
    She had about 90% of the Green Flags you mention Rich.
    God help me be worthy of her successor.
    Appreciate your sage advice my friend.

    • @mistresskate9799
      @mistresskate9799 2 месяца назад +1

      @psalm2forliberty577 Sorry for your loss. Love and light to you! ❤

  • @joebiden6163
    @joebiden6163 2 года назад +48

    Right timing. I currently have a fever and the first thing my girl did is call me straight away and tell me is that she gonna drop off the rapid Covid test kit. Didn’t have to ask. Little shit like that I appreciate. I would drop any girl that looks the other way and doesn’t even offer to help.

    • @freedomhonkhonk5169
      @freedomhonkhonk5169 2 года назад

      @the stream lol

    • @georgedroy
      @georgedroy 2 года назад

      Solid username

    • @attilaseyfullah8522
      @attilaseyfullah8522 2 года назад +1

      @@stayawayfromthewoke3412 doesn't matter if what she does doesn't actually help at all, It's her intention to help that matters. Even the emotional support of being cared for is very valuable.

    • @emiliaewa7981
      @emiliaewa7981 2 года назад +2

      But that's a natural reaction for a woman. We are i general care given, that's a woman's nature.

  • @raymondotoole2600
    @raymondotoole2600 2 года назад +14

    The big one in my opinion is the relationship she has with her father ! Please gents if you’re going to have a little girl bring her up right… set those boundaries at the start and tell her right from wrong. Sure she’ll need to explore a little in life as she gets older but be that funny cool dad who rides when she’s in need of advice or trouble

  • @stephena5752
    @stephena5752 2 года назад +30

    This is super helpful. Just got out of a 6 month marriage after picking up on the fact that my life was a living hell. We dated 5 years. I’m an attorney, have a huge house, am funny, workout and have an amazing relationship with my family. She sat around and picked her nose. Thanks for the advice! I’m also 33 so I’m happy to get out now

    • @Groover1964
      @Groover1964 Год назад

      I hope she was smoking hot.

    • @stephena5752
      @stephena5752 Год назад +1

      @@Groover1964 she was not 😂

    • @1twistedcpl6575
      @1twistedcpl6575 8 месяцев назад

      6 month marriage...wow! And it was all her fault it failed! Good thing you bailed before it was too late!

    • @DavidMRudy-kn8ed
      @DavidMRudy-kn8ed 6 месяцев назад

      did she pick her nose in the 5 years before marriage

    • @stephena5752
      @stephena5752 6 месяцев назад

      @@DavidMRudy-kn8ed She was 21 when I met her so I figured it was that youthful charm lol. Turns out it wasn't. lol

  • @larcm3
    @larcm3 Год назад +2

    I'm so glad my wife has all the green flags and none of the red flags. Been happily married for 12 yrs now

  • @elisakabelis9755
    @elisakabelis9755 2 года назад +11

    Great points... Im a green flag girl. I am a high value woman dating my bf over a year. He says I am a breath of fresh air, we have never fought. If there is an issue that comes up that could become a deal breaker for me I am up front stating the issue sounds like drama or trauma and I don't do either so let me know how this is going to go... I have been thru the loss of my husband unexpectedly 8 hours after getting married and I refuse to settle or be put thru any further dramas or traumas. I am very level headed reasonable and expect that in return. I always take care of him when he's sick, cook or get food when I know he will be late or tired for him and his sons to make sure he can just come home and unwind. Relationships should be a refuge not another battle field

  • @brandbergsq8411
    @brandbergsq8411 11 месяцев назад +10

    Re: All green flags... goes both ways! 😅

  • @666Victor777
    @666Victor777 7 месяцев назад +11

    Good relationship with a father isnt always a green flag, maybe he worshiped her and raised her like a princess. then its a red flag

  • @helsinkisuomi
    @helsinkisuomi 4 месяца назад +2

    As a woman, thank you for mentioning at the beginning of the video that men also need to work on themselves.

  • @stevenpavia3647
    @stevenpavia3647 2 года назад +9

    It’s a fine line between an alpha man and being too selfish.

  • @theharshtruth8563
    @theharshtruth8563 2 года назад +21

    Another green flag : general reciprocation
    If you're in a relationship and her birthday comes along, and you celebrate it with her
    and when when your birthday comes, she gives it the same importance as you gave
    hers, that's a green flag.
    As many relationships I've been in, I've only met one girl who remembers my birthday
    without the help of facebook alerts. I've broken off with girls who either forget my
    birthday or doesn't give it the same attention as I gave theirs. 2 of them used the
    excuse "but a girl's birthday is important though. you're a guy and guy's shouldn't care
    about presents and cake. You're not a kid." and these are girls whom when I skipped
    out on their birthday the same way they skipped on mine, they threatened to cheat
    so I just dumped them.

  • @robfigulski1139
    @robfigulski1139 2 года назад +10

    Honestly, if she has/had and great relationship with her father and looks up to him, and the father was a masculine man on his purpose, the majority of the others points all fall into place. It should be the very 1st thing you ask her. Great video!

    • @cristinap273
      @cristinap273 2 года назад +2

      Many people don't have good relationship with their fathers. It's not something the son/daughter can change since the parent is an adult and they mosty can't change.

    • @Matthieu260582
      @Matthieu260582 2 года назад +1

      She must have a good relationship with her parents but SHE MUST be separated from them once married. When dating i asked her about her father she spoke only praises to him. However a few years down after the marriage this father made it impossible to stay together and she went back to his house literally. So the father flag is not necessarily what it seems. Separation betweeeb daughter and father must be clear and definitive.

  • @drapered7762
    @drapered7762 2 года назад +5

    For the Biblical types, the qualities of a noble women is in Proverbs 31.

  • @riproar11
    @riproar11 2 года назад +65

    My older brother wasted four years of his life with an annoying girlfriend. One thing that struck was that she pretended to be high class by wearing expensive clothing when she didn't finish high school, but eventually obtained her GED. She quit her senior year to model and it didn't go well. The big red flag was that she would pick things from ten of her girlfriends' boyfriends/husbands and compare them to my brother. "Susanne's boyfriend took them on a 7-day Caribbean cruise." "Angela's husband bought her a diamond necklace." "Jenn's husband bought her a Land Rover." My brother explained to her that he can't compete with the gestures of ten men and to just focus on one with a similar salary.
    She offered to make him lunch one day and when he arrived from work there was a firetruck outside the rental home and half of the kitchen was burned.

    • @eazymethod01
      @eazymethod01 2 года назад +9

      Read this slowly and then the last sentence... damn.

    • @billpetersen298
      @billpetersen298 2 года назад +2

      You said model, but didn’t say, that hot!!

    • @leorashirley1769
      @leorashirley1769 2 года назад +1

      😂 Fire engines! Are you sure it was for a fire?

    • @riproar11
      @riproar11 2 года назад +1

      @@leorashirley1769 Fire engines even arrive at highway auto accidents. It gives firemen opportunities to perform a drill to train new members and keep the crew in practice.

    • @leorashirley1769
      @leorashirley1769 2 года назад

      @@riproar11 Your reply is way too practical, it was a joke! And your name is Riproar.... I was expecting better.

  • @Baelstrax
    @Baelstrax 2 года назад +20

    I am currently married to a green flag, really happy my choices were good. The only issue is doing more excercise, but thats my fault, my wife does everything I say, that includes excercise, only catch is we have to do it together, I need to be more active, thanks for the advice.

    • @angelicaangel2624
      @angelicaangel2624 2 года назад +1

      She does everything you say? I doubt that.

    • @Baelstrax
      @Baelstrax 2 года назад +1

      @@angelicaangel2624 Almost everything, your right lol

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад +2

      She'll get fit and hot, and leave you for a ripped dude who won't ask her to do things

    • @wtfvids3472
      @wtfvids3472 Год назад

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 i thought women loved men who told them what to do. i think i dont care anymore... i dont think women have a clue about a thing. nor do most people.

  • @hollybigelow5337
    @hollybigelow5337 2 года назад +40

    Wow! As a woman I clicked on this out of curiosity, and to be quite honest I was expecting another one of those "bottom shelf" men belly aching about why "top shelf" women don't worship them and put up with their impossible standards and even sometimes abuse. I am so glad this was something better. I 100% agree with everything in this video. I will also say to any men who have had to deal with "bottom shelf" women, if it makes you feel any better you aren't the only ones having to deal with these kind of women. We women absolutely hate those kinds of behavior as well. It always drives me crazy when toxic female behavior is excused and justified. It's ok to call it out, and it is ok to cut those women out of your life. It is better to be single than to be with someone who is toxic.

    • @TheSanityMachine33
      @TheSanityMachine33 2 года назад +3

      "As a woman" hehe
      ever see men saying "as a man...."
      hehe

    • @TuAmigoElMorrocoy
      @TuAmigoElMorrocoy Год назад

      @@TheSanityMachine33 I have, in feminine spaces. Actually I just saw a comment like this in a video by Chrissie. This is a masculine space, so I think it makes sense that women do the same

    • @TheSanityMachine33
      @TheSanityMachine33 Год назад

      @@TuAmigoElMorrocoy I have no idea who Chrissie is.
      Women are always saying the "as a woman" thing.. not just here. ;) that's why men laugh. it's funny.
      it's so common that I half expect every woman to begin saying anything that way.
      along with "not all women are like that"

    • @TheSanityMachine33
      @TheSanityMachine33 Год назад +1

      @@TuAmigoElMorrocoy P.S. relax! it's okay! we realize you're not even aware of how much you do that.
      in general women have no awareness how they come across. hehehee.

  • @lifevacay
    @lifevacay 2 года назад +11

    Pretend to be sick for a day and you'll know everything you need to know about who you are dating.

  • @armandm.2166
    @armandm.2166 2 года назад +11

    "She had more green flags than a st paddy's day parade!!!" Lol 😆 love your content Rich! I have your book! Great work!

  • @MC-ec7en
    @MC-ec7en 2 года назад +145

    I love listening to your content, completely agree & don’t get offended at all as a female. I’m married with 3 kids, but I have 2 beautiful young girls and I’m terrified for them when they enter the relationship world. I talk to them all of the time about developing into a top shelf woman. They’re pretty and smart but that’s not going to be enough. Also, I was a single mom when I met my husband and don’t get offended when you tell men not to date single women either. I will definitely tell my son he shouldn’t date a single mom and hope that he will be an alpha male who ends up with a green flag woman. When I met my husband, he was a 7 and I was an 8 (my score dropped after having a kid jk). He is now a 9 and I know HE is the prize now and do not take him for granted.

    • @PeacePrototype
      @PeacePrototype 2 года назад +9

      Where can men find women like you Michelle?

    • @elisaelias23
      @elisaelias23 2 года назад +19

      @@PeacePrototype do you mean women with low self esteem?

    • @MC-ec7en
      @MC-ec7en 2 года назад +17

      @@elisaelias23 😂 okay 👍

    • @dgomes1967
      @dgomes1967 2 года назад +5

      @@PeacePrototype Oh that's easy. Let me sum it up real quick. Single moms are not looking for love. They are looking for help and resources. That is their main priority. What man in his right mind and with any self respect want's to raise "Chads/Tyrone's" kids. No thanks

    • @teenindustry
      @teenindustry 2 года назад +5

      What if your girls weren’t pretty ? That is something nobody can control

  • @MrRobuo
    @MrRobuo 10 месяцев назад +2

    Glad we're taking some time to focus on positives... refreshing.

  • @octaviojimenez5832
    @octaviojimenez5832 2 года назад +9

    Flag #1 only works if you´re not a hypochondriac, or get sick very often. You have to be healthy so that illness seldomly comes to you, and when it does, she´ll be there for you. Fleag #2 please include Korean dramas. Obedience is often related to the relationship she had or still has with her dad.

  • @michaelgriffin691
    @michaelgriffin691 Год назад +3

    I went overseas, found a traditional woman, and wow, definite green flag, listening to you confirms it

  • @ler3968
    @ler3968 2 года назад +9

    Glad Rich said it first. The guys first have to clean themselves up to get the nice women to "connect" with them to start some interactions. So many younger dudes seem to think the grunge-homeless look driving the 1975 Yugo car is cool.

  • @redwanlak753
    @redwanlak753 2 года назад +1

    For me a good hearted women, the most important

  • @GiaGDixon
    @GiaGDixon 2 года назад +10

    I run a femininity channel and it always makes me beam when I see handsome, capable men helping out other handsome, capable men trying to level up! Thanks for sharing this! This is so specific for men. Do you have one for ladies? What green flags to look for in men?

    • @jasonsanders8091
      @jasonsanders8091 2 года назад +7

      1.straight forward
      2. Respects both his parents
      3. Can be humble
      4. Low body count
      5. Doesn't condemn others
      6. Cheerful
      7. Reliable, turns up on time, does what he promises, pays back debts/ bills, returns borrowed items
      8.Good work ethic
      9. Is able to self criticize, admit fault at times. Not overly defensive.

  • @colibri67
    @colibri67 Год назад +3

    Nobody, not even my wonderful wife, is able to match up to all of these green flags. She's not obsessively house proud, but then neither am I. We each have chores; one of mine is bringing in firewood and coal, while she cleans and prepares the fireplace for the next time. We also have our recreational and social interests which usually are done separately, but we go to dance classes together every week. My woman is more than 90% green flags, so I'm very lucky.

  • @surfbum8166
    @surfbum8166 4 месяца назад +2

    #2 care for you when sick is a BIG RED FLAG. A lot of guys miss this one because they’re used to being solid and dealing with pain but nurturing is a key feminine trait

  • @r.s.4174
    @r.s.4174 Год назад +3

    I just made the test with my wife of 22 years and she ticked all the boxes. Fun fact: I picked her from a bar in Pattaya, the biggest brothel in the world.

  • @hoodoooperator.5197
    @hoodoooperator.5197 2 года назад +4

    The competition thing rings very true for me. My ex was OBSESSED with earning a higher salary than me. It was so off putting. She couldn't even handle working in a coffee shop, how was she going to get above £45k?! 🤦‍♂️

  • @BigJohnNewsChannel
    @BigJohnNewsChannel Год назад +4

    Agree 95%. After 35 years of marriage, some of this stuff varies. Some of your answers expose your age. It is great being 63. That said, a 40 year old woman ought to be at her peak. Same with guys.

  • @roliver3165
    @roliver3165 2 года назад +3

    I remember 20 years ago when were dating and my wife needed to borrow my car because hers was in the shop. She brought it back washed with a full tank of gas and she had the worn out windshield wipers replaced.

  • @Lea-ik5cs
    @Lea-ik5cs 2 года назад +6

    I was in an LDR and he was sick for a week and I sent him a care package because I couldn’t be there with him physically. And he LOVED IT. Women always find a way if they don’t it’s laziness

  • @roccocarlino067
    @roccocarlino067 2 года назад +15

    I find single mothers have an amazing ability to change from green flag to red flag.Yes, some are thinking SM are red flag period... however they will show you extra love, care and attention for the first 6 months and then slowly fall into their world of selfishness. Most women have the ability to go from green flag to red flag at some point. Remember women are eternal emotional survivors, they will change their colours at any given time to gain their desired result. The green flag isn't fool proof, a man always has to be a step ahead of the game or he soon will be played. I've seen too many green flags that eventually change colour.

    • @stevec3526
      @stevec3526 2 года назад +4

      Just avoid all single mothers. They are just a waste of a single man's time and money.

    • @tinamenon1593
      @tinamenon1593 2 года назад

      How many men on here have been raised by single mothers?......so are you saying you hate your mother for struggling and sacrificing for you? Even Ronaldo whose dad was a permanent alcoholic (sadly as a result of ptsd as a soldier) and his mother did everything including work to maintain the family and he respects his mother and she was a single mother in all respects.

    • @richardjamesclemo6235
      @richardjamesclemo6235 2 года назад +1

      Been with a single mother for 3 years, she has all the green flags in this video, zero red flags, that’s why I am with her, even though she knows exactly what I think of single moms. She does exactly what I say, and she will tell you it makes her life better, because it does.

  • @eugchern5215
    @eugchern5215 2 года назад +7

    Mate, my wife has ticked all the green boxes and I was feeling happy before this video and it just confirmed my choice and my constant corrective actions to make it like this. Great video. Will share with my sons and teach my daughter how to become the best woman for her man.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад +1

      You would want your own daughter to become a glorified slave to a man?

    • @SunRys1
      @SunRys1 2 года назад +1

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 This is the problem and you are apart of it. You guys mention and talk about how being a 'slave,' to a man is a bad thing lol. Men lead, women follow. That's how the world has always worked.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад +1

      @MonKhousE
      It's not the 1950's dude.
      Being a slave to a dude is the worst thing. Why do you think women get an education and job/career to support themselves.
      Women aren't interested in following any man, and they don't.

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад +2

      @MonKhousE
      Ya that's how it worked..you mean operated. Past tense. Leave the past in the past.
      It never worked for women. That's why feminism evolved.

    • @SunRys1
      @SunRys1 2 года назад

      @@wyleecoyotee4252
      No one ever said a women needs to be a slave to a man and yet all you femininazi's love to act like that's all we men want lol. Furthermore... If you want to chase your career/education? Then go ahead! No one is stopping you. Just remember being a dutiful wife isn't something you can read in a textbook. If you will go ahead and sacrifice your prime years to study and go into debt, then by all means feel free to do so. Why should a man have to sacrifice his prime years in investing in you, while he has to take on your debt and liabilities? A lot of you think being married or being in a relationship means that's all you guys need to bring to the table, MOST of you rarely talk about the sacrifices and hardship you both would need to go through. All you guys ever do is complain and argue. No wonder why so many women today are divorced and will most likely end up being single and die alone. Lol, have a good life. I see you will be investing in cat food for quite some time then.

  • @rogerhuggettjr.7675
    @rogerhuggettjr.7675 2 года назад +2

    Good info and confirmation I'm on the right track. I'm 54 and had 3 divorces but am seeing a great girl that hits all your green flags including a 2 body count before me due to a long marriage broken up by his chemical abuse and financial dishonesty to take advantage of her. I haven't seen this kind of commitment from someone since high school and the fact that she out earns me tells me she isn't after my money.

  • @Underground.Rabbit
    @Underground.Rabbit 2 года назад +9

    My mom was 19 and said this to my dad when my brother was born: Hey im realizing i don't need anything else, if you want you must pursue your career, educate yourself, i'm gonna forgo all my plans.
    She enjoys the family life so much and she never spends a single second doing something outside the home obligations. She watches TV for entertainment, she takes care of kids, and cooks, cleans and that's it. Kids are just everything to her. My dad is one lucky man tho i have yet to see anything like her in modern woman.

  • @leeboriack8054
    @leeboriack8054 Год назад +2

    Women I admire are:
    • Played team sports and learned about how to be a team player.
    • Positive about others.
    • Involved in charity and doesn’t use it for photo ops on social media.
    • Doesn’t talk about her grudges resentments, but rather resolutions.
    • Into self improvement with books, seminars and exercise.
    • Offers to share finances with dating, travel, etc.

  • @kenneth6211
    @kenneth6211 Год назад +3

    I started dating a girl this year, and I came down with a very intense illness, doctors still don’t know what it is although, I suspect it is Auto Immune deficiency…
    Not only did she stay with me through (we couldn’t have sex for 2 months) she has been extremely helpful and spearheading a variety of different solutions for me.
    She’s a challenge but that kind of loyalty is very fuckin rare

  • @cattan4696
    @cattan4696 2 года назад +1

    I like that this is focusing on the positives. It's also assuming everyone is responsible. A lot of similar channels descend into woman hating and blaming and Mr. Cooper says straight off you have to be a good man to be able to look for a good woman. Which is fair enough

  • @DanielDelgado_77
    @DanielDelgado_77 2 года назад +1

    This man knows it and speaks it, straight up!

  • @antoniomark7745
    @antoniomark7745 2 года назад +6

    Great video!!!..making guys accountable (to be able to have more options on life)...and bring the positive actions and great qualities of a woman .. there's so many channels just bashing ....salutes

  • @hamadalhamad2089
    @hamadalhamad2089 2 года назад +3

    “Accountability and women are two words that don’t usually go together very often “ Rich

  • @saraparker4082
    @saraparker4082 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for talking about the positive things! So many talks on the red flags.

  • @thisdyingsoul76
    @thisdyingsoul76 5 месяцев назад +1

    I'm happy to say the rare time my wife brings up guys from her past, she does compare us and it is almost always positive towards me. She doesn't even necessarily trash talk them, the focus is always on how I am superior to them.

  • @mikeyspice250
    @mikeyspice250 2 года назад +4

    I live in the UK.
    This host Richard ain't wrong!!! He's right what he's saying, woman doing stuff consistent & unprompted!!!

    • @davidx8152
      @davidx8152 2 года назад +2

      Something tells me finding decent women in the UK is almost impossible given feminism is over the top there.

    • @tinamenon1593
      @tinamenon1593 2 года назад

      Can I ask a question here, what woman is going to do these things at the beginning of the relationship if you haven't even confirmed you want her to be your girlfriend or are exclusive? Let alone have expressed a desire to marry her?.
      Its basic decency and kindness if you're a guest, to help the host (eg if they cooked, you clean etc). I would expect any boyfriend to do these things for me too (as I would do them for him)
      However, if I'm not living with a partner, why on earth should I do his laundry unprompted? Does he do mine? Making the bed is polite decency but some of these things are taking the proverbial.
      Most of these things other girlfriends do for each other too because that's just how well mannered people behave...

    • @williamnunn8847
      @williamnunn8847 2 года назад +1

      @@davidx8152 I'm talking to a German American woman from LA, living here in the UK. She likes that I praise her for being so direct, that's the German side.
      Women in the UK are often fretful, dazed and inaccessible to a IRL approach. So its a numbers game. They want the approach to be ideal, like on set at a film.

    • @davidx8152
      @davidx8152 2 года назад +1

      @@williamnunn8847 I see - I'm of the view that fundamentally humans all start out the same but get acculturated based on the environment they are in. The UK environment is undoubtedly very pro-feminism and does not tolerate otherwise. Hence the expectations.

    • @williamnunn8847
      @williamnunn8847 2 года назад

      @@davidx8152 this makes sense what you wrote, living here.

  • @theharshtruth8563
    @theharshtruth8563 2 года назад +9

    Another thing to observe is how she treats her pets. I have an ex that used to take her bad day out on her kittens and she would throw them on her bed or against the wall like a sponge ball. It was deeply disturbing to see how she used her pets as a tool to vent her anger and take it out on them. I'm also cautious about girls who overpamper their pets as well, but animal abuse is also a huge red flag.

  • @keithad6485
    @keithad6485 4 месяца назад +2

    If a woman has these three things as a start, she is streets ahead of other women - loves to cook for her family, keeps a reasonably clean house, is pleasant to live with.

  • @ShawShank-kr9wq
    @ShawShank-kr9wq 2 года назад +2

    High quality people attract other high quality people. At the end of the day you don’t even need to watch these videos just keep improving upon yourself and value will seek out value

  • @davidcoppotelli3957
    @davidcoppotelli3957 2 года назад +2

    Thanks Rich, Great Video All the Red Flags that you just laid out here are exactly the reason why I'm no longer with my EX Girlfriend. Brained Washed by the Nightly News and the Sunday Morning News Shows. I got very Sick late at night called in the AM Told her I was down for the count. I never heard from her until 6:30 that evening.
    Always on the Smart Phone instead of talking about things that matter or which way our Relationshit is heading. All she did was complain about her job. If it wasn't the Supervisor, it was the Coworkers all they made her feel. Or its was the Hairdresser how she styled her hair or how the hairdresser spoke to her. I could go on. Don't want bore you.
    You already been there and back. . I'm 15 years out a LTR. 8 No Contact I just Walked Away I had enough. I deserve better. Way Better I'm on my own Grind and Purpose. 65, look great feel great. Got my own Money. No Children, No Debt, I enjoy your Channel learned a lot.

  • @DA.35
    @DA.35 2 года назад +9

    This is powerful stuff. A lot of guys live a life that is not fulfilling, because
    1. haven't been taught how to do the thing to achieve that.
    2. how to pick a woman and have her stay in line to keep the life going you want.

  • @mirzahodzic4399
    @mirzahodzic4399 2 года назад +1

    Every man, especially young man should pay close attention to everything Mr. Cooper said. It could save your life from chaotic times and toxic people.

  • @ms2bloved126
    @ms2bloved126 2 месяца назад

    Take care of each other. No drama in your life. Everyone stay off the phone. Nobody wants to hear complaints all the time. Choose a person with good character. A person with their own purpose and goals. Let the past stay in the past. Pick your battles. Support and encourage each other. Keep your body count low. Stay physical because health is wealth. Eat healthy. Determine each others needs and try to meet them. Ensure you have the same values. Keep social private. Be a good Team Mate. No competition with your partner. ❤

  • @Altermyego-
    @Altermyego- 2 года назад +12

    Thank you so much for helping me get my head straight I really appreciate it.