4 Problems You Will Face If You Move in With Your Girlfriend
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Hey Rich, you seem in a lively mood today, It suits you when you're this chirpy!
Hey Rich...
There's more to common law than just a common law marriage....
Common law....... That which is common to your beliefs and that of your society.... Remember your beliefs are protected under freedom of religion...... In the legal society it is custom to divide assets between the two parties..... Since these two parties identify as legal persons.... Plaintiff / defendant
In the common law society I identify as a man and she as a woman.
In my society any man or woman that is in in breach of contract is not entitled to any financial compensation.... It is not the Court's duty to hold your ex liable for breach of contract it is your duty... And if you hire a lawyer a member of the legal society he's going to run you through the buzz saw.....
You have to go into court on your own as a man not as a defendant....
And come along you must know how to not accept titles unless there's a benefit..... There's no benefit being a defendant in court ....there's no benefit being a taxpayer ....there's no benefit being a resident....
Show me a law that says every man and woman must do XYZ....
I can show you laws that says resident taxpayer driver voter motorists must do XYZ.... the minute you accept titles they have total control over you....
You must know that there are no orders coming out of divorce Court... It's all consensual agreements....
If there are do not carry out those orders without fair and just compensation from said magistrate that signed the order... Or else that makes you a slave .....voluntary servitude is not outlawed in this country..... I hope this all makes sense..... Check out karl lentz RUclips channel..... On the subject
The days of men committing suicide over dividing assets could end tomorrow if everybody knew this....
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@christiphclizzle9480 Request one of the chapters that don't stink?
Rich are you serious about that story. The guy never lived with her and she's entitled to half or even something. She shouldn't get anything. That story gets my blood boiling. Fuck me that's bullshit. I think I'll move to Romanian with Andrew Tate.
@@IrontoughItalian Canada has weird law and all depend on the judge mood. The guy was suppose to pay for the rest of her life but they ruled it for 10 years because they spend 10 years together. She get 50k a month for 10 years, more than what you and I will make in a life time.
In my 2 year relationship, I totally avoided being betatized (just because im so stubborn). But man oh man it was exhausting. I just wanted to come home from work and relax without having to defend my frame. It was never ended barragement of attempted betatization. Easier to just live alone
Same
Me too bro, feels like they’re trying to break our balls and destroy our frame! Ended the relationship, because once you lose the frame sooner or later she will break up with you, but after she has humiliated and disrespected you 1000 times, it’s torture!
They ALL try it. They're so predictable I just find women boring now. I know what a woman is going to do before she even does it.
I let her live at my place. I came home from nightshift and I went to work with my bike before.
Small apartment, bedroom next to the entrance.
I put off my protections, with velcro. Tried not to do too much noise because she was asleep. Normally, I came from nightshift.
But sure, it made some noise, big clothes, helmet, velcros. And the bedroom door wasn't closed!
So I came to bed and she said: wasn't it possible to make even more noise?
I was like come on... but had not the energy to argue.
Always these small things to trigger you and to make her point, she trying to be the boss... was always jealous af without no reason, behaved crazy from time to time.
Man I am happy I did break up, and glad she gave me the keys back from my apartment. Saved me a lot of money to change the locks 😂
Rich hates organization lol
Women in your life can consume an incredible amount of mental bandwidth if you let them.
🤯
😂
They're insufferable
Amen
They position themselves exactly for this. All the arguments, drama, distractions, etc are to grab your focus and attention and redirect it to themselves. Also to weaken your resolve.
I was in a great relationship with solid woman. I asked her to move in to help with her expenses. Relationship went down the toilet in a hurry.
Yep cause she over 10 days in a row. Well you basically living here. Help pay. Now your place is strait up infected. I’ve lived with 3 girlfriends and all of them as messy as fuck. Might not have a lot of stuff but they don’t clean shit.
Always do bro. You find yourself chipping in more since they belive sex for them is not necessary like men.
If she was so solid, why she need help with finances?
@@Corsairforu she was going to school full time.
@@phxrsxwell that's her problem.
Judging by my experiences living with my now ex wife - and literally every guy I’ve known who has or still lives with a woman - Rich is spot on about how they behave when you live together.
The part that really rings true especially is their constant nagging about petty shit around the house. “Oh, you didn’t put the spoon in the dishwasher the right way. Oh, the towels have to be folded this way.”
They are insufferable.
I think Richard makes the mistake - as you are, it seems - of universalizing specific life experiences. This is not an important part of my experience with women at all. I've been with two women in life who didn't follow the Manospherian dictates such as these. They were present to some, minor degree,, but nothing particularly disturbing (to me). But I wouldn't universalize my experience, either. Some women do behave in a stereotypical fashion. All I know for certain is that you can choose a woman who is healthy and good for you. It's not "programming" as one person here childishly characterized it; rather, it's simply a fact. I have my own life and the lives of probably a dozen relatives and friends who demonstrate that fact.
💯 facts
Yup, or why do I drink so much water, why do u use restroom so much, why u hungry again, why do you sleep so much, why why why super annoying! The sex ain't worth it at allllll! Anymore no chick
Well you obviously suck at loading the dishwasher get it right and she won’t bother you 😆
You guys are weak. I'm the one nagging her about the spoons and towels and i can reason why my way is the good way, and in her house might i add 😂. If you beat them to it they become real quiet about it. Just like men aren't that complicated. Neither are women
Then again i have a natural asshole stubborn don't give a fu.k side, so maybe is that.
You could not pay me to marry again let alone live with a woman again.
I could understand a man marrying a woman for spiritual reasons. Aside from that? Why would you?
Marriage can be really unpleasant for women as well as men. A lot of times, it's simply not worth it whether you are a man or woman.
From personal, hard earned experience: moving in with your gf, whether you move in with her or she moves in with you, IS A STUPID IDEA. If your idea is to 'test drive' the broad before proposing, DON'T. The fact you need to do a test drive means you're not matched up well.
DO. NOT. LIVE. WITH. YOUR. GIRLFRIEND.
Thanks
What this man said 👆🏾
Amen! Say it louder! 👍
Hindsight is always 20/20 lol
I tried it twice. I won't be trying for the 3rd strike.
I moved in with my ex 15yrs ago.
When we were talking about moving in together we both agreed that I would pay the rent (I made more money than her) and she would pay for groceries and the utilities.
Well about 3 months in her car insurance was due and asked if I could pay it for her so instead of paying it for the month I paid it in full for 6 months.
A few months after that I found myself in the grocery store buying groceries and went I got home I went online and paid the electricity bill and cable bill. When I sat down with her and reminded her of our agreement on how we would split the living expenses she got very upset with me and said, "You make like 3 times more than me. You're the man and you should pay for everything." We ended up having a bad break up 2yrs later.
My advice guy do not live with your GF. The only reason to live with a woman is if a child is involved (YOUR CHILD) because I do believe a child needs to be raised in a 2 parent household.
Marraige
Can you elaborate why it needs to be my child?
@@Emm2004 Seriously??
Bro when it's not your kid you have all the responsibility but with no authority
As a woman I don’t want to be a test drive my time is precious. I don’t want to get pump and dump
@@mYsTiCaLiEs Well the only way I see you being a pump & dump is if you give it up too quickly. But if you are looking to move in with a guy so he'll support you let me tell you the guy will know
There's lots of guys out there that had a clean police record, until they moved in with their gal. Move in with the wrong gal, she'll do her best to get you locked up.
yes. i was the cleanest church boy in the entire ghetto (yes used to live in one) and never had a track police record. now i do! Now i am "scared" from the police like any other thug. wtf happened to my life.
@@Matthieu260582 sorry to hear that bro. Better move precisely
That's a scary thought 😳
Facts! I never had a criminal record until I moved in with my psychotic ex
No comment :)
Don't do it. You're much better off living alone. It's not just a woman thing. It sucks living with guys, too. Be around people when you want to and not because you have to.
Yeah.. Years ago I split a 3 BR with a couple of guys. The youngest one, in his Sr. year of college, handled the natural gas bill. So, *that* was the highest bill each year, because of heating in the winters. Myself and other, oldest roomie would net out his share of "our" expenses, and cut him a check for the net gas bill obligation. When we went our separate ways, I came home from work one day. He was talking with the other roommate. Well, the young guy apparently filed for relief from the gas company, claiming he was a student on a fixed income, and was on a payment plan. As in, he did *not* pay the balance due each money, even though I and the other roomie gave him the cash. He *instead* spent the cash going out with his GF. He owed I think in the neighborhood of $2,000 (in 1994 dollars), and didn't know what to do.
@@M0viLover Damn that's brutal.
The key is just not to force the puzzle together. If you're dating a broke girl and financially elevating her life and she knows it, she's not going to nag over dishes in the sink and will just handle it (unless you've picked a self-centered idiot). A roommate can work great if you have dissimilar interests (e.g., one's a car person and wants the garage whereas the other doesn't care about the garage). I've had great experiences with gfs and friends alike.
People who live alone tend to die on average much earlier than those with a partner
@HaikesXO found the woman
I never got married but I did move in with my girlfriend for almost two years. The sex stopped, I ended up being relegated to the basement and I found myself feeling miserable when I heard the garage door opening.
I had the same relationship.... I would hide in an unheated basement with the dogs and a TV..... I worked 65 hours a week and could not stand going home.... finally... one day... my dog... a very happy Labrador... heard her voice in the next room and ran off to hide. That is when I knew... she wasn't just making my life miserable, she was abusing my dog when I wasn't there... 48 hours later.... I had my shit out.
You moved in with your girlfriend...1st and last mistake.
@@mikebraun9673 that is one wise man. Props to you Mike 🙏🏻
Like she was coming home or leaving 🤔👀 in the night ?
@@mikebraun9673 what a beta!
My ex wife divorced me over twenty years ago and I have lived alone ever since and to be honest so far so good.
The issue with "live in arguments" is not the 10 minutes of arguement it's the hours and sometimes days of awkward silent treatment which leads to a lack of focus on the things that facilitate you raising your game. You start to neglect yourself.
Wow! This is 100% true
The silent treatment following the blowout is so predictable
So true
My experience with a live in girlfriend was the worst relationship I ever had. Everything seemed great before she moved in. Lots of sex. She was super into me. Almost no fighting. She moved in, all of a sudden everything I do is wrong in her eyes. Constant criticism. Leads to fighting all the time. Sex disappeared. Eventually I kicked her out. That took a month from the time I wanted her out to her actually leaving. Her having no where to go, and threatening to get authorities involved etc meant I had no real power at this point. Legally she had 30 days. Once she finally left, a HUGE relief and a strange feeling that even being with someone for years you really don’t know them until they move in. Means I now don’t trust them or want to live with another women ever again.
You really don't know someone until you live with them. I've learned that the hard way.
This sounds like my most recent story. The sex stopped. She actually told me I folded my clothes the wrong way, Im 54 years old. I wasnt allowed to have overhead lights on as they gave her headaches, I couldnt watch tv in the other bedroom I had to go to the den because 2 Tvs gave her a headache, she screamed at me and had a complete breakdown on Sunday I asked her to move out on Monday. This was the 5th time shes completely freaked out on me.
Then started in on me with her calling the sheriff sht . She barely paid me rent, she barely paid for the bills, she hadnt given me any money for December yet and it was the 10th. She told me I really couldnt legally put her out( yes she had somewhere to go.) So I told her ok cool ,when I leave for work every day Ill take the modem with me, as she worked from home and needed wifi. Then I told her that I would go outside and cut the power to the house . Then I told her if that didnt work I would go outside and cut the water off.
She told me I was cruel, I told her that threatening to call the sheriff was the last straw and gtfo. When she started in on the Sheriff stuff I could literally see her making up something on me and me getting carted off to jail. Had to nip that in the bud. She f#cked around and found out.
So, moving in was a good idea before making it permanent.
@@aquilifergroup I suppose yeah, but it seems like it doesnt work out great for most people in general these days so maybe just best to live separately. Why ruin a perfectly good relationship.
@@litedawg Wow that is a crazy story. She sounded like a nightmare to be around. Glad you got her out of there.
When my GF started telling me how to stack tuperware, I flat out told her, that since I can't do it good enough and to her standard, that from here on out, she can do it, to her liking. Pissed her off, but I don't put that stuff away any more.
Yup. Whenever somebody is very particular and picky about the way that something is done then they are the ones that better do it. If they're gonna be OCD about some trivial thing then they don't get to deligate that task to anyone else.
“I can’t do it good enough…”never.
BOSS level
This is not a problem when you don't live with your gf.
The only problem with that is when they take 2 weeks to put it up then crap is everywhere
You're completely right Rich. When dating my wife, she never lived with me and I insisted on a day or two a week for myself. I tolerated absolutely nothing in terms of her out of line behavior. After 20 years of marriage, I tolerate absolutely anything. And, my wife hates me for it...she has lost respect, is angry and resentful.
So why you still with her?
@@rogerward3390 well, Roger, I’m currently living in a small condo unit not far from the house awaiting filing of the papers but thanks for asking.
@@olanderdecastro52 perfect
You should have never gotten married.
@@miguelfilo962 well, maybe but I got an incredible young son out of it who is smart, good, looking, athletic and very social. I just wish I could give him an intact home for the rest of his growing up years. He is now 15 and this is taking a very big toll on him.
Once you are together, your “stuff” that you have in boxes in the attic or garage become “crap” that she wants you to get rid of! Whatever you have in those boxes are YOURS! Whether they are old photo albums, high school year book or your old GI Joes from when you were 6, they are your “ memories “. It’s her way of erasing your past!🤨
I brought some of my belongings to my gf's place.
It's amazing how little room there is for anything of mine outside some clothes and my auto detailing set up in the garage. She has all the other available space occupied.
Just one of the many reasons I kept my house.
I have been single 10 years this year after ending my final LTR. I can't understand why *ANYBODY* would invite that fuckery into their lives in any capacity.
Wise words bro
@@GLY32 I hear you! my girlfriend' lives w/me and her daughter had to move in. I am so UNHAPPY. Don't know what to do...
@tcolemanii1971 I've been in a couple few situations living with women where I wasn't happy, either. The best advice I could give you is to communicate. Don't suffer in silence. It's not fair to you. Good luck brother.
@@tcolemanii1971 Next time they're both out, change the locks, gather up all their stuff, and leave it on the pavement for them. They'll get the message.
What she's done is what cuckoos do. You've been played.
Asking “if she a compliment to my life” is the best way to know if someone is worth being with
Is having free pussy readily available for me is considered "a compliment to to my life"
@@homeacres9454Getting that is not free. Not even close.
@@Leon612 that's true, but having a nice car or house or wardrobe that compliments your life isn't free either.
@@desert4seat It's not free, but it doesn't give lip service.
exactly -- is she bringing you peace or drama? is she complimenting you or draining you?
“I really like going to your place, but I really love coming back to my place!” Fuck yeah Richard! I’m gonna use this line, starting tonight!!!
how did that go?
@@redcircuits110 7 months and counting and hasn’t hurt me yet!
@@stephenwishburne1034 right on!
Whenever she says that you will save money living with a woman the first thing to note is that you won't.
The second thing is that sometimes in life some things are just worth the extra money. Speaking from experience I've done it twice.
Never again......
What she means is She'll save money
@@colinmorgan2737 Well, for example expenses for rent and energy are technically cheaper, because they get divided by two when sharing the same place. But, as David said, that's a false assumption. Women are money burning machines. The cost for literally anything in terms of consumer goods in your house will explode. Plus, you constantly have to fight to keep holding the frame, as Rich explained. And even if you're able to manage it, she will constantly draw attention from you, so your productivity in terms of business, workout etc. will decline.
Ok but she'll get the chap to pay for the rent etc so yeah the man won't save any money and alot of men will sit back and let it happen because Sex. When she does that she'll expect you to spend the rest of your money on her before touching hers
@@maxr1969 I have heard from people renting a small office room to which they go when they need to do work outside of their regular business office just so that they don't get distracted by their wifes.
Newsflash, it goes both ways. I'm a woman who moved in with my bf (now ex ). I met him in early 2013 and we were really into each other. He had very bad credit and I was trying to help him straighten it out. I loaned him money to buy a car and things were okay up until we got an apartment together in late 2013. This man was so irresponsible. He acted like the bill fairy was going to pay the bills. I was constantly on him about paying his half of the expenses. He was behind in his child support with his ex and he was constantly complaining about having to take care of the child. His ex was really good about letting him off easy. Yet, he still complained. Over time, he saw that I was not going to pick up the tab and give him a free ride at my expense. So, he decided to find another woman who would pay the tab. Ultimately, we broke up, and he went to live with her. He owed me $3,000 at the time of our breakup, and he paid me $2,000 up front as I agreed to cut my loss for the other $1,000. I didn't want to chase him down for my money that's why I took that deal. Fast forward, he had a child by this woman. They ultimately ended up breaking up because she saw that he was an irresponsible clown who didn't know how to manage money, pay his bills, and take care of his children. She's stuck raising his child and taking him to court. The point is that there are irresponsible men out there who are broke, deadbeats living off women. A lot of these men are really good looking and that's how they sucker women. I was conned for a while but I was like, you're either going to pay your bills or get out. I wasn't signing up to be his mother.
The point that I'm making is that it goes both ways. Men aren't always the victim here as there are two sides of a situation.
I've always told people I would only get married if we live in a duplex- her side and my side- separate but equal living spaces. I wait for people to laugh and then I say actually I'm not joking.
Good comprise I like that
The stuff she liked about you will annoy the shit out of her after you move in together.
Naked starjumps.
how so?
@@SprezzaturaLifestyle The slapping noise. Drives them mental after a couple of decades....
Running out of tissue. Having to support her horrible car maintenance. And not being able to sleep allday if you want.
Tissues?
Women use 1 roll in morning 1 afternoon 1 night.
I use 1 roll in 1 week
My car maintenance in 7 yrs in prius was only brakes, tires, oil, that's it! Not 1 problem has 400,000 miles still running
@@nightowl6811 a week???? I have colitis and i use one roll a month!
The legal aspect is a bit of a dilemma: reveal your wealth and she'll go after it through the courts at the end of the relationship, hide it and women generally won't be interested in you to begin with!
I hid mine in offshore accounts and in physical assets like bullion and artwork and I then went through the family court without losing anything beyond my legal fees which was a huge win.
The average guy doesn't have enough to hide offshore. He's struggling.
@@mig7290 It's not hard. My first offshore account was opened when I was a 21yo backpacker with just a few grand saved. It was simply something that I needed as part of a working holiday.
It doesn't need to be in some banking secrecy haven, it just needs to be in a jurisdiction where the ex's lawyer won't search.
Using cash to buy unregistered bullion is also an easy way that almost anyone can keep their savings safe from both government printing presses, and family court lawyers
@@seansingh8862 explain further please i’m 20 right now and i want to set myself up for life. How do you open such an offshore account?
@@bombgames1579 bro just download a bitcoin wallet lmfao.
I'd delete this posting, bro. Lol
Had someone given me this advice in the past would have made me a happier person today.
I'm in my 50's now with a bit of life experience under my belt and feel that I now have a pretty good bead on things to do with women and life in general. I so wish that I had this knowledge back in my 20's and even 30's (my father was a weak henpecked man who crumbled under the jackboot of my sociopathic narcissist of a mother, and his favourite saying regarding relationship conflict & challenges was "turn the other cheek"), as it would have saved me from a heap of heartbreak and financial ruin. But then again, I would have probably been too stubborn to listen back then too!
@@philip4193 what advice would you give your 20’s and 30’s self?
@@sunshinestate1306 I can whittle it down to two main things when it comes to women and relationships. ONE: Do not be afraid to be single. When I was young I was always rushing from one relationship to the next, fearing that by being alone and not having a steady girlfriend in my life would somehow see me "missing out" on things. Now I have learnt that it is the exact opposite; a person must spend periods alone in order to undertake personal growth and reflection and make them a better and more rounded human being and a better partner. Long term relationships (particularly whilst you're young) can stifle your creativity, career prospects and progress through life.
And TWO; to paraphrase Rich Cooper, always bring a woman into your frame and not the other way round. Women will always try to shit-test you and convert you to a Beta by a thousand concessions, however it is far more difficult for them to succeed in this if you have your own life, friends, hobbies house etc all separate from hers. You can spend time with a woman and have her add value to your life, however you must always have your sanctuary that you can retreat to when her just being a woman gets too much. I am in a LTR at present however we live apart and have our own lives, and things have never been better; a woman will generally be far more agreeable and grateful for your time (and less likely to take you for granted) if she does not see you all the time and thus suffers from a degree of competition anxiety.
@@philip4193 thank you so much for the answer. What about if you want a family? I want the best environment for my kids and unfortunately it seems like marriage is the best choice. I’d rather not live with a woman tbh however I did tell my gf of 8 months she could move in when we hit 1 yr. I don’t want to be one of these negative nancies all talking down on marriage like it can’t work. My parents have been married 30 yrs so I’ve seen it. I’m not afraid to be single what so ever. I’ve been single all my adult life. This girlfriend is my first real one. That attitude definitely helps I agree. Any business or life related advice? I love hearing from people who have been through it. Thanks again
@@philip4193 Thank you Phillip, this is golden lesson
Extremely valuable insight! Also, pray that you havnt moved in with a covert narcissist. Once moved in she will do her best to gradually destroy you and paint you as the villain and then end up sueing you for as much of your money and assets as possible under Cnd family law.
Pissed myself laughing. So so true. Was going to move mine in in two weeks. Im not now. Thanks Rich
Don't play house...no sharing of bills, phones, anything. Don't let her leave crap at your place either.
you're are exactly right Rich! I dated a lady for 5 years and decided to move in with her. Day one she started the betatization crap to the point that after 60 days, she was talking to me like I was some charity case even though I made twice as much as she did. Needless to say, I moved back out and ended the relationship after 21/2 months of living together.
How much you make means nothing. Plenty of rich geeks get walked all over and betatized every day
You and this video might've just saved me. My current gf is in Chicago and wants me to move in with her after being together for 2 years. Im tired of my current state and have already gone through all variables including the lease being in her name thing. Through just visiting alone Ive already come to see the 'toilet seat' concession from her and am reconsidering all of this by just reading people stories.
@@mavrickwatts4030 I'm no expert but from my own experience, if I were to live with another woman, it would definitely be from a my house standpoint . Our house might work with a level playing field but I can assure you, her house is you being one step from being homeless and putting up with her BS til you move out like I did. Good luck brother!
@@fiddlefolk definitely appreciated. I've been toying with the idea but am at the end of my current lease in a month. Might be reconsidering which would end the relationship but it is what it is.
If you're dating or married hope you have better leverage if not equal.
Me and my girlfriend are communicating a lot and I learned to choose my battles. She also knows compassionate suggestions. For instance instead of being rude by telling me how to do something. She’s like “baby”
Or “honey can you do it like this.” When it comes to cleaning and stuff I don’t mind. She also told me in advance the kitchen is hers so I said that’s fine I like eating and not cooking. At the end of the day we are doing this for our relationship and I think communication and kindness and receptiveness is important. Not every battle is worth fighting. We all grew up and learned how to do things differently, it’s about being compassionate when you ask your loved one to do something and that’s where a lot of woman mess up. I also think, when it comes to cleaning men can overall do better at least from my friends, but there are ways to go about it.
I haven’t been in a serious relationship in 10 years and I’m in no rush to change that. Man should not settle down until 50 in my opinion
Have u looked at the chances of having babies at the age? Miscarriage, preclampsia etc increases when a man’s age is older.
@@tjc4085 What’s your point?
@Jim Scheifla my point is… literature on fertility found that older men who have babies with younger women = babies with high risk of autism, schizo etc., also miscarriages increase a lot more. Men who want to be fathers to healthy children should take this into account
@@tjc4085I saw it happened vice versa
😂. 50... When you're set in your ways and making her miserable
This is an example of why relationships don’t work nowadays. Too much ego. Too little understanding for one another. No one ever cares to take a step back for every once in a while
Well, that’s just sad
My best friend is living with his girlfriend after only dating her for less than a year. She already used her power against him in arguments. By saying i will throw you out if you don't do this and this. I told him leave her and get your own place but he refuses to listen.
Update Milo please. This sounds like a really toxic relationship.
Stop telling people what to do and myoob
@@bikelifepov9617 actually that is some sound advice we should all adhere to. The only way we learn (myself included) is making stupid mistakes. Giving one's friend advice on their personal affairs will get you nowhere except resentment. Well said Bikelife.
some dudes like to be told
Suggest to him to flip the curb on her head. All he must partake in is an accumulation of reputationally destructive and defamatory documents of his girlfriend as a utilized leverage against her to release in due course as the guarantee of her choice for healthy behaviour. Women function through the prospect of reputation and it’s wholeness. Threaten this as an incentivization, with the ability to execute without your back trace, and you will assure self preservation and security. Nudes, personal pets, personal items of sentimentality or expense: e.g. staged break in, Doxing of her loved ones information - are all an excellent starting origin of personal vulnerability and it’s exploitability to other strategic openings. Stay dangerous.
Everything you said is 100 percent true.
Oh my god this all happened to me. And the worse it got, the worse the bedroom fun got. This is all 100% true.
I knew a guy who was homeless every time he broke up with a girlfriend and in his 50's!!!
Once a woman farts in front of me, that’s it I let her go. It really saves a lot of this BS in the future. I keep the house,dog,and my stuff
no more problem.😂🤭
Farting is a HUGE turn off even if we have been together for years
Idk lol, I do it infront of her and she does it infront of me. I find it dumb to go to the toiltet to fart, which my mom constantly nagged me and still does when im at her place. Tbh I couldnt care less, im just relaxed bout it and dont give it to much value. Its natural
This is why I fart first, so she can see who she dealing with.
Who cares, if you're both comfortable with each other. One less thing to argue about, no wonder marriage doesn't last.
@@khanhcao3123 right. I thought only highschool boys complained about this
Rich you are absolutely right i was married for 8 years and ill never ever marry again or live with a girlfriend its the most problematic and toxic situation
Yep. The first year of my 7 year relationship was fun and exciting. Once we moved in together, it was all downhill from there. Looking forward to being on my own again in the near future. Never again.
I am widowed .I've done the whole kids and family thing . I have a girlfriend now , and we live 100 miles from each other , and you are absolutely correct in everything you say . Take it from me , been there done that , I have the years of experience , again what you are saying is spot on .
Men and women do not care about the same things . It is great to go visit and stay at her place for a while , but damn it's so nice to get home into my space ... where I don't give a shit how the Tupperware is stacked (in fact I don't have any Tupperware) or any of the other trivial BS things that they (women) seem to care about ... that.... mean jack shit to us men (most men....that have a pair).
If I want to store some auto parts in the GD house I do it , if I want to store camping gear , fishing gear, in the house , I do it , If I want to go fishing, or go wheeling and camping, deep into the bush for a a while I just do it .
If I want to get up at 2:00 AM and go into the shop and work on the jeep I do it..... and I don't have to listen to any mindless nattering.
Yeah it's nice to visit the whole relationship thing for a while and then get the frigg out...and back to reality and doing man (important) shit , whatever I want , whenever I want , and no Bla Bla Bla
Trying to appease the female of the species, that thinks completely differently than , the male of the species is an act of frustration that can't be measured , and will turn a strong man into a lump of clay , all backbone removed , a mere shadow of their former self.
Why would anyone want to go from freedom to bondage!! Crazyness!!
Cheers Wild Bill.
Great comment Bill, what you say is so true…
Awesome
💯 facts
100 miles? Hopefully shes the one that comes to see you. Many times I haven't wanted to take 20 minutes to cross the city for someone.
@@CommoditySC Yes she comes to see me as well .
Hey Rich
Regarding; ~4:17 - ~4:51
I looked at my parents / uncles / granpdas / friends , and you know what? I do not find even ONE, truly happy marriage. Baa - what's more, I wouldn't want any girlfriend that my buddies currently have. ANY.
I read one sentence - we are humans, we think that we are easy to live with, but we are really difficult to live with.
Ur looking at it wrong. Are they still together? Well that’s a successful marriage. Maybe it seems miserable on the outside but they probably appreciate their marriage and each other in a way u can’t see.
No one said marriage was a fairy tale. The point is really to take care of the kids together and have someone to exp life with.
The key is she needs
to know that anything she
asks of you means she must
provide something parallel
to you NOT INCLUDING SEX
which is so core that it IS
the relationship
Never live with a woman or another man. Decades ago I had a woman move in with me. One day she disappeared for three days then came back claiming she had been in the hospital getting an abortion. I didn’t believe it. But I let her stay.
Shortly after that a fireman showed up at my house looking for her. He was her side piece. When this happened I called two buddies of mine, packed her shit show up, and moved it all into her grandmothers front yard and left it there. That was in 1987. I never had any girlfriend move in again.
On a side note I’ve been married almost 30 years now. I can’t count the number of times I’ve told my wife “ you married the wrong man. You should’ve married a limp wristed panty waist that is controllable “.
I agree with you. Healthy relationships are about respecting each other's boundaries and not trying to "control" your partner. I was living with a man who had a severe OCD problem. He couldn't handle having me in his space and told me to move out. I didn't try to control him or change him but neither one of us could handle living together because he felt that I was in his personal space and I felt that he was disrespecting my boundaries. I had to conform to his OCD rituals and accept them. I couldn't handle it (no sane person could). After we broke up, it was like a breath of fresh air.
I know what a woman is going to do now before she even knows she's going to do it 💯👍
Made this mistake 10 years ago. Then her daughter started puberty, and then the gf started menopause. Was the perfect storm let me tell u..
Lucky you weren't accused of you know, bring "inappropriate" with the daughter. Now you have to worry about two females gunning for you, instead of just one.
My girl would never do that to me! Said the simp. 😂 Jokes aside... Great video. Full of truth bombs. Much appreciated.
I’ve been married for a little under a year, we was together for 3 years prior. Everything he said is correct and honestly it’s genuinely depressing, I’m leaving the relationship early next year and I can’t wait, I’ve learnt marriage is a life of misery it’s seriously not worth it
You cant clock out this early, its too soon
@@kapambwekapambwe4131lol
The purpose of marriage is procreation. Not sure why anyone would do it otherwise
@@Lee-wg7en and why get married for having kids..
because statistically it gives the children a better chance at procreation@@11burnout
She will turn you into a Beta which is basically a nice guy which women hate. Men must maintain their standards and boundaries.
Ive never been happier than when i live alone. I put up with 11 years of stress. Im 1 year clear of it and happy.
I highly endorse this man's view. He knows of what he speaks.
I don't believe in marriage and I don't believe in living together and no kids 😊
And you have your sanity and all your money.
@ronkomro7759 Kids tend to drain your resources more than a girlfriend or wife. Where I live in Texas, if you get divorced, there is no such thing as alimony but there are child support laws that stipulate you have to make monthly payments. They will garnish your paycheck for child support every time you get paid until the child(ren) turn 18.
@cyn5962 exactly why I adopted ( I don't pay child support). The point is that I decided if and when I wanted kids( I has a vasectomy ), best decision I ever made along with not wanting to get married or will never live with a woman ( my choice, my life, my sperm, my money, my house).
NOBODY that lives together is truly happy, if your friends tell you so I guarantee unequivocally they are LYING!!!!!!
You can't guarantee that .😂😂😂
I've seen both sides of the coin, myself and my brother.
Unfortunately my brother became a vegetarian, gained weight, and moved to a large city away from family. He constantly carries a phone & always is ready to listen to her BS. He has a kind of chubby wife and gets no sex.
I on the other hand, kept my frame, increased my wealth, connections, physique, and dealing calmly with any BS from wife. Now, despite having 2 daughters, when I come home my wife literally jumps on me... make your choice :)
With this profile photo I can't believe you 😂
One of the best and most important videos from Rich
I am in a relationship 100% in her frame: her country, her culture, her language, her house and working for her. I have learned to be stoic and life is tolerable by speaking half as much and listening twice as much. I'm 58 and very mellow. I realize I have broken every rule of this channel.
tell more about it please
Japan?
@@robolson1843 Colombia
Do you have a plan to free yourself?
Get ur man card back bro..
“ The fufu and the crystals.”😂😂
I haven’t shared a space with a girlfriend in over 15 years. Backing out of a comingling of lives and properties SUCKS lol. Today’s woman makes me want to even less. My nephew not long ago had a gf tryin to push her way into his place and he caught her rummaging through his things all the time when he was getting out of the shower and stuff. She never trusted him and he was loyal. I told him she probably knew she couldn’t be trusted and was mirroring that towards him. She was the Only Fans girl not him lol. Social media has spawned an age of distrustful people. I don’t see myself living with a woman again. Not unless she’s a unicorn. Before I consider a relationship I’m looking at her relationship with that phone.
Problem with not moving in together is, after a certain number of years, the "competition anxiety" goes through the roof and is a big problem in the relationship. Speaking from my own experience. The anxiety and jealousy becomes an obsession.
Problem four is called palimony. In the US, it differs by state, but not sure if judges will enforce it even if the state doesn't support it.
Be wary of who you move in with.
Also, you have to evict her. You can't force her to leave, if she lives with you. No bueno.
Spot on. I just went through this and ended a 2 yr LTR and the increasing arguments followed everything you said.
No relationship with women, no problem. 😎
Rich you've been so helpful educating me on the risks of women and relationships in the modern world. I've seen so many relationships with friends and family fail like you explain. Nobody invests time to educate themselves on how men should approach this topic. So many just get caught up in sex and feelings and commit to these bad relationships and get screwed later.
I've been educating myself the last few years as I achieved a high point in my career. Now I have a nice house, car, assets, stocks. I extensively plan before big decisions or projects and took that attitude with women and your content too. Want to make sure I safeguard my assets, and keep peace in my life. Thank you for being so honest and straight forward with this stuff. Been extremely helpful.
Should the idea of wife and family come to you, put everything into a trust managed by a friend or third party. Do not encroach on these assets, and do not draw from them for the marriage support cash flow. In California my brother managed my rental house and I never took from or provided for that with my time. When the divorce was over that asset was left intact. I was screwed everywhere else though. Another thing she must continue to work as long as you do. If she quits working it’s over. That’s the agreement. Don’t let her pull this “she’s now a bird in a cage and you have to support her” b/s. Prenups were not a thing when I got married, they are now. Her prenup is 1,000’s of pages of family law, you need one too. Spell everything out. N very be embarrassed to ask for what you want.
@@doyourbest7655 I'm sorry you went through that. Thank you for the advice, I will certainly keep it in mind for the future.
It’s only difficult because we change. If we didn’t change after cohabitation these problems wouldn’t exist.
Wrong. It’s a trap.
Should send this to my buddy. Married his 1st girlfriend when he was in his mid-20 (actually it was his 1st date ever!). 15 years and 2 kids later he divorced her and now in his late 50s is having his latest girlfriend move in with him. This will be live-in girlfriend #3 . Having to kick out the previous 2 , is telling me how well he gets along with this one ! Still has not learned his lesson but I am hoping for his sake this one is "the keeper"
Hey Rich I dig your more relaxed casual demeaner here. Keep up the great work.
I had the frame from day one, I never stayed monogamous. I had side chicks during the entirety of 8 year relationship. The moment I stopped having side chicks is the moment it all went south. It’s just that I was raised by a very strong male figure and I did martial arts from an early age, I was also in the military and studied philosophy and psychology. Never ever get comfortable. I had kids with her, so she had her hooks in me. Luckily I had a prenup and everything so I escaped that pretty well. Always keep your frame, keep your mystery for as long as possible by having a great mission in life.
If you want side chicks, DON'T get married and/or have children
I don’t blame u for having a side piece because most of them has a side piece too. Everyone screws around. Monogamy is not for the long haul
Been living with my lady coming up on 3 years. Issues we’ve experienced are normal I think. Disagreements about who did what chore last kind of fell by the wayside as time went on because we do different tasks in a roughly fair distribution of labor. The thing that has been my biggest struggle is that I’m an introvert and she’s an extreme extravert, and she really doesn’t seem to understand the timing of when I need her to let me do my own thing, and when it is important for her to jump in and not just let me live in my own world. Thankfully we like all the same recreational activities, so whenever she does need attention we can bond over a hobby we both enjoy. But yeah, she can put me in a bad mood pretty frequently by pushing when I need to unwind.
With all do respect, frame sounds weak my friend. The fact that you put up with her not respecting your time when you say you want it, worries me. Best of luck dude.
@@Johnny-Cage Lol, this talk of strong frames is super cringe. Either your woman brings value or she doesn’t. It’s not healthy to think of yourself as superior to your partner, and your time more valuable than hers. If you think like that you’re setting yourself up for failure, because no quality woman will tolerate your arrogance. You, random RUclips commenter, are not a cash millionaire with wealth in abundance, so don’t act like one.
She does respect my needs, and when I tell her outright that I need time to myself to go for a motorcycle ride, or do a workout, complete a project, or read book, she leaves me to it. She just often has poor timing when I’m unwinding or trying to relax with mindless tasks, and she tries to jump in and start planning the next activity or social event. It can be frustrating, but it’s also frustrating to her that I can waste an entire night tinkering or sharpening knives. Anyways, good luck out there. Try not to take these red pill guys too literally, and do some thinking for yourself.
Why are you here then dude?
@@TheTrevelyansway Entertainment and habit primarily. I started watching red pill content 5-6 years ago when I was going through some shit with my ex, and it helped me to realize what a walking red flagpole she and my prior 2 exes were. Helped me to see the behavior patterns of low quality women, and understand what good women truly find attractive in a man. Nowadays a lot of the redpill content creators are fake alpha misogynists, that are grifting for clout. How many of these guys need to be exposed as cucks and simps in their private lives before viewers start thinking for themselves I wonder? Honestly there is a difference between having self respect and boundaries that you clearly communicate to your partner on a regular basis, and being an insufferable douche bag that thinks it’s acceptable to control another human being and rob them of their agency. You will NEVER be in a relationship that doesn’t cause you some amount of stress balancing your individual needs vs her individual needs. Healthy is when you can work together to accommodate each other and lift up your lives collectively. If you’re expecting to just have a blowjob machine at home that cooks and does the dishes, and doesn’t have any requirements of you return, you’re gonna have a bad time.
If you don't have kids, I'd end it. No joke. You will get MORE like you are over time and she will resent you and see you as a lump, unfairly. Don't waste your or her time.
8:54 had me dying, energy shit lol. Rich been dating astro witches in his free time.
Spot on about competition anxiety and betatization by a thousand concessions.
A big factor with my last ex and she lightly suggested that I move in was to keep my place which I'm glad I did. Of course we broke up and I DIDN'T HAVE TO GET ANOTHER OVER PRICED PLACE IN A HOT HOUSING MARKET ONCE WE BROKE UP. It's quite often cheaper and easier to keep your place and you don't lose that frame or territory that changes the dynamic if she owns the place. Unless you're dead certain it'll work out (remember the divorce rate) get somewhere together or you have another option in a worse case scenario if it doesn't work out...
Omg, this video is so on point. I’m addicted to this channel. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Spot on Rich! Thanks for the Crystal clear advice
You don't put a fish you caught in the river into your bathtub. It will stink...
My house is my place of peace, create mystery by not seeing her 24/7
So true Richard Cooper!! I have had all these experiences!! I am MGTOW myself and I have been for 24 years now and it's the best thing I've ever done for myself as a 59 year old man!! Oh, I see a provider when the scratch needs itching. Works great for me. Good providers are not easy to find though. Took me 3 years. But now that I have found her. I'm thinking it is worthwhile.
Fellas.....do your homework before you do this. Trust me on this. I had no idea my GF was as lazy as she is. The signs were all there, but my in my former life as a Ultra Beta Simp, I ignored them. Now all I want is out of this situation.
Work on yourselves, gentlemen. You'll always be better for it.
Lazy in what way?
Lades have low T. They are on their good days like you are on your bad days.
DON'T EVER move in with them. You'll go from hot lover to annoying room-mate immediately.
Clearly, IMHO, modern relationships are TOO fkn complicated to deal with on a day-to-day basis. When the court (or her) sticks its/her head in your tent, you can be screwed for life.
In long term relationships as two people get comfortable together they revert to the mean. A controlling oriented woman will start off being compliant as she is subconsciously on her best behavior. But when she FEELS totally comfortable and that she has her man locked in then she will revert to the controlling behaviors (This isn't intentional in most cases it is subconscious). Controlling people use demands, disrespect, emotional outbursts, character assassination's, and etc as tools to gain control over her subject. This is all very subconsciously driven and it takes two years of therapy for the woman to come to understand that this destroys relationships and to decide to create habits contrary to her intuitive control tendency. Most women will never get therapy for this because they don't see it as a problem they see the man as the problem because he just wont do what she tells him to or he just wont comply with her wants. She thinks his lack of compliance equals that he doesn't care about her so then she feels justified in cheating or ramping up the control. Generally by this point the mans holding frame has weakened a bit and his frame is seen by her as such a barrier to her for so long that she subconsciously stopes carrying about the relationship so why the F put the energy into changing herself. And destruction results!
There are MANY nuggets of truth in this statement. It is worth considering for anyone. It has been suggested that a longer period of dating before marriage or cohabitation will allow you to see them revert to the mean before you’re “committed “. Your time must then be invested with no guarantee the mask doesn’t drop and reveal the monster beneath.
@@zxgy4774 I completely agree. For those who dont believe in living together before marriage it can take many many years of dating. Maybe as much as 5 years. Control tendencies are just one thing that can show up when two people revert to the mean. A persons guard may not drop even after years of dating because they know that at any moment you could easily without legal issues leave the situation. A big sign that the person is still masking behaviors or attitudes after a year or more is that they will push super hard, even threaten to break-up, to get married or lock you down because instinctually it is hard emotionally to mask day after day and not as comfortable and secure as a fully locked in situation. You see if two people are happy and in love together with nothing hidden then they might prefer to be married but would NEVER break-up because the other refuses for reasonable legal reasons.
You really know your shit brother, Top shelf analysis right here. Rich should bring you on the show sometime!
her, "You left this glass outside!", Me, "no I didn't". Her, "if you didn't do it, then who did?" Me, "how the hell am I supposed to know what guy yu had over"...........great example of love on the rocks, and time to pack your parachute. Punch line, a common acquaintance said the she really liked me.
She was constantly telling me how to fold hand blender, which i used for 10seconds. Fold it into original packaging with another 20 things in another room,under another 20boxes,because it should be done that way, even it takes you 10minutes. I did choose not to use hand blender :)
My ex wife tried this beta bullshit with me and she got booted out. Divorced her but she got nothing b3cause I was always aware it might not work out. Just wish I’d come across this community back then so I had the words to describe the shit. Living alone now and my life is awesome
Prenup?
Speaking from experience. Never move into a woman’s house. Ever! Problem solved
My ex betatized the crap out of me. I was so solid when in the beginning, didnt give a damn if things worked out or not. But then i became soft and stopped resisting. Every time i went over to her house she would ask me to do lil things which i didnt mind doing at all. But one day she asked me to bring in the laundry, and it was the weirdest thing, she asked me to bring in the laundry because she had to do something else. So as i was getting the laundry she was at the window just watching me, with this sour face. I didnt understand it at the time, asked her if everything was alright and she said its fine.
Things quickly went downhill from there, she became a horrible woman and forced me to break up with her.
Met a chic in may - moved in to her place in august- left in October 😅 never again
Smart move 'cos you dodged xmas and valentines day.
I had a GF that moved into my house and then started to nag at me about leaving the toilet seat up.
I solved it with one comment, "You're a grown woman. I have to lift the toilet seat up, you can put it down".
"My house. Too bad. There's the door".
Nice made up story
@@max_rove - Prove it.
Moving in is just an easy out when the casual relationship fails. Not IF it fails but WHEN. If you truly love someone and they truly love you then make a public commitment to them and marry. And then work together to keep the marriage successful. I was married for 42 years to a great gal.
I currently live with my gf, and yes, “betatization through 1000 concessions” is very real. The question is, why do guys accept it?😢
The couple Rich is referring to in the commonlaw where he ended up paying alimony was Lisa Climans and Michael Latner. He ebded up having to pay $50000 a month. The province of Ontario courts decided this was "fair" to keep her in the lifestyle she was accostomed to.
What I noticed is... Why are western girls so difficult
TH guy that got taken to the cleaners by a divorce court even though they weren't married or living together made the mistake of telling the woman to give up her job because he will support her.
I got IBS. Farted like hell one night in bed with my girlfriend just next to me in sleep. One month later she broke up with me, "she lost feelings".
bro wtf lol
Where did she lose these feelings? Maybe you blew them away in the breeze.
You think it's just the fart ? 😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣 you dudes be killing me in these comments
@@luxboss2388 It least you're not getting killed by a high pressure gas emission.
i know TONS of couples that moved in together and get along great. i like richs opinion about mostly everything, but some things are simply over the top. most men simply do not want to live alone their whole life. many of us have desires such as children and owning a house with a whole familly. i just think that you can't avoid giving up some things in order to live in the same flat/house with a woman, but that's okay. nobody wants to turn 75 regretting not having a family. you can be successful and still move in with your girl. if she is like atleast 90% green flags and not crazy, you should take the opportunity. always depends on what kind of person she is. if you do not have to give up much in order to live with her, do it.
I agree with this.
But some of the other comments in this thread are really disturbing.
I have followed your teachings for a long time and agree with most of what you practice. However I struggle with the thought that if most men got on board and approach relationships as you do that the result would be many sparsely populated continents in this world. There are ideas put forth that I cannot believe any worthwhile woman would agree to. For example if an intelligent and high value woman knew you thought of them as only a complement to your life and not one of your priorities then I cannot see why they would want to pursue anything permanent with you if that was her goal. And I mean A priority and not THE priority.
Moving in w/ her is PRACTICE, not the end goal!!
Hey man, I am 22 and I was dreaming for like a month or 2 now to rent a flat with my girlfriend to live together in Toronto. But wtf!!!! After one year she is entitled to half of my assets!!!!!! My papa made me promise him was I turned 18 that whenever I'll marry, I will get a prenup. And common law, oh lord, this world is so fucked. I am not planning to live with my girlfriend until she signs a prenup.
Just so you know prenups still won’t 100% protect you from her taking half your stuff.
No marriage and no cohabitation.... i did a 20 year marriage and I'm now 4 years into Bachelor life, and i can say without a doubt that Bachelor life rules.... not touching that IED twice
If she wants you to leave the toilet seat down, leave it down. Then she can complain about you peeing on the toilet seat. That's a win win situation, she gets to complain and you get a giggle.
This is interesting stuff. Just found Rich yesterday on YT. I was married for 14 years and had two kids. Love my kids so glad I went through it. But now I’ve been single for about those same 14 years and I love it! I’m never lonely. I’ve got my family and friends. I love doing whatever I want when I want. I love staying up late into the early morning hours and then sleeping in. Just turned 60 and wondering if there is something wrong with me. Do I have a fear of intimacy? I haven’t even dated since my divorce. I get some of my physical needs taken care of in other ways. Maybe I do have a fear of intimacy but for good reason. I like living alone and doing what I want to do when I want to do it.
My ideal would maybe be to find someone and live separately. I’m retiring soon and would enjoy a travel partner. This content reinforces this idea. I’m seriously going on my first date since divorce this weekend. Got on a dating site on January 1 and talked to somebody I’m going to meet for coffee.
Brother look into going for a trip to the Philippines. It’ll open your eyes big time! 😜
And put Thailand on your list.
@@FirePattaya Yes, I have heard very good things. I most definitely will. Thanks.
Agree although it's soo hard to meet women these days. Dating sites are mostly guys and the women have so many to pick from!
I ain't moving into no woman's house.....period!!