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sorry to be so offtopic but does any of you know of a trick to get back into an instagram account? I somehow lost the login password. I would appreciate any help you can offer me!
Don't forget to workout, it's amazing how different men and women treat u when ur buff. It will make it easier to get laid but more than that ppl respect u more. Don't neglect back workouts, that's what tends to go bad for ppl first. Kind of sad ppl are like that though, I respect ppl that are kind and respectful, no matter how they look or how intelligent they are but the reality is the general population is not like this.
@@Froggy-jn9mu I improvise for weights, use body weight and a backpack full of stones. Mostly workout for me, mostly workout the posterior chain so I have good posture. Any form of exercise is good, and we should workout for ourselves. As a bonus u will get laid more and have ppls respect but that's not the number one reason to do it. It's just good for u.
"A pleasant 6-7 is far better than a cunty 8-9" - word brother. Most 8's and 9's are absolutely horrible people. I'll happily settle for an easygoing 7 with humility and a positive attitude.
Agreed. The bad part is social media skyrocketing the was it is...is having the 6-7's posting pictures of their cleavage, having 100's of betas telling them they're gorgeous...now they've got an inflated false smv...making them think they're 8 or 9's along with the entitled attitude.
@@Last-Lap-Lando4 This is true. An active social media presence is an immediate disqualifier for me. The amount of work and stress it takes to retrain a woman out of that is just not worth it.
@@MMA-CLIPS2 It’s different depending on what country you’re in. I am currently in Germany and social media really isn’t as big here. Most of the women my age have a Facebook account which they barely use and that’s it. If they want commitment from me, they delete Tinder and give me the unlock code to their phone. You’d be surprised how willing some girls are - but again - different culture,
I am a mom, stepmother, wife for 18yrs. You are so right!! My husband occasionally helps around the house which is super nice of him. He works hard and puts up with a lot of shit at work. Feminists need to go away. Men are meant to be men! I am so lucky to have a man that still thinks I'm hot, when I'm so not, he puts up with my moods and crazy moments. I try to never talk down to him or act like I don't need him. And yes, I put out! Good grief women are mean! I love my lumberjack. Keep encouraging men to embrace their Alpha side.
Thank you for your candor. I’m a very hard working alpha, but I always try to find ways to help out around our house! It shows caring and respect for my woman- who adores me!
You have recognized something a lot of women never do. If more women were like you, there would be more stable and balanced LTRs. Having a woman who invests in respecting her man and focusing on taking care of him and actually showing a desire to take care of him can be incredibly attractive even if a woman doesn't necessarily look like 8-10. I would say that emotional intimacy is the cornerstone of any successful LTR. And the above things are a good foundation for having healthy emotional intimacy with a man.
I agree, his tone in the email really annoyed me. He came across as a very good example of the “entitled male” nit-picking at his life as its not his idea of perfection. He has 4 kids by different mothers, yes his life is going to be made complicated by the choices HE made. “BUT Wahmen treat me like a BETA wah wah” - I am playing the world’s smallest violin for this chump.
The guy actually sounds like a tool. A rich tool, but a tool none-the-less. The thing is, if he grows out of it, he'll have no problem finding a woman later.
4 kids is gonna be a major red flag for women. He’s getting exactly what he should be I’d say. Imagine dating a girl with 4 kids. No chance in hell I’d ever do it. Even if she was a dime..
@@Alkatraz581 stop saying this statement again and again. No matter how different women and men are, there are some similarities. Most single women don't want single dads. Just look around yourself. And if you think otherwise, you've been fooled totally
Finally, some ine with my opinion on that Social Media horse shit ! Right on Bro.! It took 3 months to quit and get disentangle from that fuckin Facebook, but man in glad that I did!!
Throwing a like on this before Rich can finish his intro. This is what we need to hear. Edit: this channel is part of the reason why I've decided to reshape my life. I wouldn't say I was totally blue pilled, but I needed to improve. I've recently gone back to the gym, and I'm starting a business with a great friend of mine. Thank you for the inspiration Rich.
@Wes Takahashi thank you. I've been feeling better since I started a week ago. Better sleep, better food, better routines. Reading more (which I love) and just maximizing my potential.
This guy has it all ... bank, looks, sports cars, social status, owns several business, and multiple spinning plates ... he is living the dream, and he has children. Why screw this up by getting into an LTR? Like Rich said “LTRs are a lot of work compared to spinning plates”.
We look for the things we don’t have,not the ones we do. Apparently this is your definition of “livings the dream” . He thought so too, but it’s not enough. If money ,cars and different women are the end goal, something is fundamentally wrong there.
It's part of his programming. He seeks validation from women. He is both addicted to relationship fantasies and also the need to satisfy his ego by sleeping with multiple women. He needs to do a lot of soul searching and figure out what he really wants from life. Cause it seems like he is living a flashy life with little substance. Maybe he should dedicate the next couple of years to being the best father to his kids rather than looking for relationships.
@@Sohelanthropus …. Good for you … Many men do not find 100% of what they are looking for in one woman. Above all once they woman gets comfortable that she is the only one … she will treat you like a fan .. as she knows there is no competition
the dream is to get 1 very good woman, but usually what happens is that the very good woman ends up dumping the guy and then he's back to not very good women
Not sure if its that easy, either you are a leader or you are not, same goes with being an alpha or not. In the world of work or social surroundings...which one are you? The one in front leading the team, or the one listening and executing...are you the one picking up the venues etc or the one following. Are you the one leading the dance or sitting down in your corner. Etc...
I didn't gain my 'mindset' through practice and imitation but through shedding lies and bullshit. Once your brain finishes growing and you are on a level playing field with the rest you realise how dumb the rest of this species is which leaves nothing but the feeling like you're on top and ahead.
What I could grasp from him is sense of happiness, belonging, and self comes from being in a relationship. Those two things are no related at all. He must look inside and see he doesn't need anyone beside himself to be feel those things. It takes time, but it worth it. Women will compete for you, trust me.
I was thinking the exact same thing. What this guy needs is to ditch the plate spinning and ideas of LTRs, and spend time with himself (ONLY). Eventually he'll have all the answers he ever needed.
The marriage rate is at 33/1000. ALL-TIME LOW. Men are checking out. Take the signal for what it is. Take Rich's advice, learn the system, and game it to achieve the attention you desire while maintaining control of your assets.
@@rainofkhandaq6678 Who gives a rip which member cheats? This is not even the point. If the man cheats, HE gives away the keys to his house, his children and his money, if the woman cheats, HE gives away the keys to his house, his children and his money.
@@TTGBUNKER Facts. Even worse, the Man will be asked, what he did to MAKE her cheat. She doesn't have to take responsibility for her actions. Ridiculous.
Just started reading “the unplugged alpha”. I grew up with a single mother and I’m glad to have found your channel. Maybe it will help me get things figured out. Things were certainly easy in high school and college picking up women I didn’t even need to give any effort. But after a few bad relationships I’ve taken a long break and trying to get back in the swing of things. I ordered another book you recommended just waiting for it to come in. Thanks for all your advice dude. Keep up the good work!
Hi brother from another mother. Cheating is beta because he agreed to start a LTR and compromised. Alpha behavior is being able to say “I like you, but I’m seeing other people too. If you’re OK with that we can still date and hang out. No compromise.” Cheating is not alpha. Love your content.
@@metalxner5411 cheating is a disloyal act. If you want to explore your options you have the right to tell the girl you just met and like “I like you, but I am not looking for something serious. If you’re ok with that, then great.” Some will say no, some will have no problem. Disloyal people cannot be considered alphas. Alphas put their position clear.
@@CesarGalanYT oh ok, I agree. I will tell someone I like hat I'm into then, but cing other people, because I've never been the type to be ok with cheating. Not sure if that makes me bets or not...
You are right, have met one guy with 2 teenagers, and generally, women were avoiding him like cancer. One woman she was dating him for a while and her parents were very much against it, eventually, she left him.
Been blue pill for all my life until I understood I can't fix, change, heal a woman who is a BPD train wreck. Had 6 since 2016 (split from a 12 year LTR in 2015) and managed to eject all 6, once I heeded the red flags they ALL waived inside 3 months each. Now thanks to this channel I have zero tolerance to be a tampon and I'm far more focused I my purpose and mission, I've cleared out ALL toxic friends and family and I have so much more energy to give to my circle and I feel so positive about the future. Thanks Rich for your ongoing no nonsense approach to self improvement, its too easy for guys to feel sorry for women who make poor choices, that's what let me down in the past, so now I am saying "I'll do me" "you do you" etc.
@@The_Kirk_Lazarus yes all 6 were disordered, either BPD or NPD or both. It’s far more common than people realise. Every one craved validation, lied, manipulated, took no responsibility when exposed and were very angry underneath and incredibly self pitying,
How’s being faithful to your wife a beta conditioning? I’m just asking, not criticising. How can you expect loyalty from her while you’re not giving the same in return? Sounds hypocritical to put it mildly.
@@lauramorgan27 ur right though lol 😂 I felt the bitterness a bit as well especially when someone is doing better than him. Tate speech interview with him u can tell tate is on another level and rich critiqued how he accumulated his wealth in another vid 😂
@@kiljupullo First - This can easily go both ways , especially with the preaching of “spinning plates” and second - you want her to never go anywhere just so you can trust she’s not cheating? That’s not how trust works..
Have seen the harem arrangement. It was common among importers a couple of generations ago. It had a practical use. Travel took time. Chicago to Tokyo took six days. The business trip could take several months. The importer would have a wife with kids in each operational jurisdiction and the local wife became operating manager. They were called Dragon Ladies because they had a vested interest and were ruthlessly single minded protecting ‘her’ business
"Listen, my son! Listen, son of my womb! Listen, my son, the answer to my prayers! Do not spend your strength on women, your vigor on those who ruin kings." Proverbs 31:2-3
what I like about this channel is that he teaches you how to have a successful life. not just success with women there's more important things in life than women.
I understand the odds and risk is not in the mans favor for an LTR/monogamy, however the want for this is still there, despite spinning plates through out majority of my 20's/ being with dozens of women, I am willing to throw all that away to be with 1 women. I do not have a scarcity mindset or am prescribed to strategic pluralism due to being a chad, however at soon to be 29 I much rather spend time with 1 women and build something together/ properly vet over years, rather than continuously going to pound town. I work on myself have no problem being alone, have hobbies, masculine friends, consumed red pill content for years etc, however this want is still there and feel like will only get stronger with age. knowing what I know from the red pill community, it makes me sad that the chances of me having this are so slim that it is almost not worth trying. How do I combat these desires , that I know stem from a gynocentric social order to serve the female imperative ?
I don't think he could have the right answer for you, that's far from his narrative from what i'm learning. LTR's are bad and according to Rich, it's always better to go around banging girls. Seek advice on this desire somewhere else, i've found Jordan Peterson's advice on LTR's to be far better and practical when considering marriage. Still, a lot of work to do, but also a lot of great things to get from it. I believe there are, and i don't think that it makes you or me a beta.
Exactly! Any of his next partner will be on his level - which is low. We all get what we really deserve. You can fool yourself but if women/men is picked only by looser/golddigger/beta/cheater it's actually what your worth is. Beta women date beta man etc.
last girl I went out with was an 8. Instagram 18,000 thirsty followers. She was a hell of a lot of work. Beautiful girl ,18 when I started dating her and 20 when I walked away from her. You are right Rich and 8 or better is too much work. Years ago it was not like that but now with social media it is different indeed.
Him dealing with 6-8s type woman with no meaning while being a high valued man, to me , it seems like he strived all his life to get to this point just to be “the man”. He still has 0 confidence in himself. All that he acquired is just bait for woman that he thought would make up for his lack of confidence. I see that all the time; the guy with the fancy car / clothes/ good job/ in shape ect only to be the same lame as before when he got all that. Spinning plates with a bunch of woman doesnt make you the man and he is realizing that hard which is why he will eventually settle down with a 5-7 ish type girl. Word of advice: everything the guy has and accomplished for himself STILL didnt make him an alpha. To become an alpha, you must first shake off the mentality of the beta. He didnt , he’s just a beta with alpha type status: A Catfish
Well put. It's the fakery coming out the woodwork. Was just replying to another commenter who was suggesting practicing alpha behaviours, told the guy that you have to first shed the lies and bullshit instead of trying to act and imitate.
I think the best advice to give this guy is tell him to imagine he's 59 and make decisions based on that.. he'll think VERY differently I reckon. He's not in the real world of most guy's that comment on this channel.. he's very fortunate.
I know a lot of entrepreneurs (males/females) in their mid 20s who r well off financially; through Ecom amazon/shopify stores, trading, real estate etc....Ull be impressed how many if they focus on their success and possession to make them happy it makes them feel the opposite...makes them feel empty to the verge of depression. I was astonished when I heard them talk like that 😂 but I never focused on the externals to be happy only on my level of performance on the day to day and being at peace with myself lol. Never was I attached to the external material ever as I knew as a kid this stuff doesn’t fix the hole felt inside if there’s actually emptiness within. 🙏👌
This was good. I think u nailed it with the comment “ltr is as much work as plate spinning”. My personal feeling as a 37 y/o man who’s lived with my last three ltrs in my home, I think possibly the pinnacle is two 10’s coming together monogamously yet living separately. Then when and if marriage or children is necessary, considering moving closer to eachother yet maintaining dual residence. Stay overs, fine, shared ownership, fine, live together in one house all the time until death, not fine, not sustainable. We’re in a new time of dual empowerment, male and female. Honor that. Never two chefs in the kitchen. The chief usually “sleeps” alone. My two cents.
What Rich touches on in other videos is that a LTR can be in that 13 or even that 3 percent if you are able to spend time apart. I'm in the medical field and aren't home all that often. Mind you, we do talk on the phone, but when I come home the fire is burning as bright as it ever did. Familiarity breeds contempt and distance oftentimes helps re-instill some mystery and intrigue.
The following excerpt from the book Sexual Market Value by Chris Capetown answers your question in detail: “Men’s instincts tend toward polygamy, women’s toward hypergamy. Hypergamy, for those who don’t know, is women’s congenital inclination to continually trade up in men. The word has Greek origins (hyper meaning ‘above’ and gamos meaning ‘marriage’) and originally referred to women’s tendency to “marry up”, but applies equally to non-matrimonial relationships. Whereas all men have a natural urge to copulate with a great variety of fertile women (because, in our evolutionary history, such behavior improved our chances of gene proliferation), women have a corresponding biological drive to have relations with the highest quality man they possible can (for the same reason) and to gain exclusive commitment from that man. Briefly put, men want a lot of women, women want one really great guy. Men and women’s respective sexual interests are therefore perpetually at odds, and the competition is zero sum in nature; for one sexual strategy to succeed, the other must be thwarted. If women are to fulfill their reproductive goal of getting exclusive commitment from a man, the man cannot simultaneously fulfill his reproductive objective of impregnating a harem and vice versa. Which of the two strategies prevails has varied throughout history. During certain periods and in certain areas, men were free to indulge their polygamous nature, as indeed they still are in certain contemporary societies. In the current industrialized world, however, female reproductive interests benefit the most. Polygamy is banned and monogamy is strongly encouraged, while hypergamy is not discouraged. Women are thus at liberty to fulfill their natural biological imperatives at the expense of men. For most of human history, only a minority of men but a majority of women managed to reproduce, because a relatively smaller proportion of dominant men slept with a relatively larger proportion of the women, partly because the dominant males within a tribe tended to mate with many women but also because far more men than women suffered a violent demise. Picture an armed conflict between two tribes. What happened to the men and what happened to the women? The men from each tribe fought each other and the losing side of males were killed, often along with their children. The women, however, were kept for mating purposes. Women who pledged eternal allegiance to her tribe, the “I would rather die than sleep with the enemy”-types, were killed. So women developed a certain willingness to (sometimes reluctantly, other times not) mate with the men who killed their husbands, fathers and brothers. This happens even today. Monogamy later developed because it promoted superior civilizations and stabilized society. Dominant chiefs who did not hoard all the women for themselves but instead let more of his followers have wives could build a greater degree of support among a larger number of men, making his army more formidable and reducing the occurrence of internecine strife. Monogamy is also the healthiest environment in which a child can grow up (because having both a mother and a father improved the child’s security and access to resources), which meant higher rates of survival within monogamous tribes. Both male polygamy and female hypergamy are perfectly natural and healthy preferences insofar as they have evolved over the years to better ensure the continuation of our DNA. All other things being equal, a woman who had children with the most successful and highest possible status man she could get (status and success have, admittedly, meant a variety of things over the years), had a greater chance of passing along her genes. A woman who, after first having children with one man, bore the child of another, only enjoyed a genetic advantage if the next man was of higher status. Conversely, the more fertile women a man banged, the greater his chances of passing along his genes. The reportedly prolific lover Genghis Khan, for instance, who spent decades bedding the wives and daughters of the men he subjugated and killed, as well as building a harem of thousands of young women, was perhaps history’s most successful man in terms of reproduction: A 2003 study headed by Chris Tyler-Smith found that 0.5% of all men alive are direct descendants of the great Mongol invader of lands and wombs. Whereas men’s natural desire for promiscuity is curbed through institutional and social reinforcement mechanisms (marriage, religious edicts, disapproval), female hypergamy is somewhat more tolerated in post-industrial societies. If you want to understand more about why this is the case, read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. Hypergamy is also the reason why men and women love differently. The abovementioned Tomassi was the first to introduce me to this idea: Only men are truly able to love a mate unconditionally. Women are not. When discussing some of the topics in this book with a friend of mine, he asked “Shouldn’t men find women who love them for who they are instead of what they are? One who doesn’t care if you are rich or poor. One who will stay with you through thick and thin?”. This is a sentiment shared by a lot of good men and I admire the ingenuousness with which he asked the question. It reflects my friend’s propensity for unconditional love and his projecting of that same capacity onto women. But a woman’s love is always conditional. When a man says he want a woman to love him for who he is, the type of love he is referring to is the kind only his mother can give him. Your mother is the only woman who can love you unconditionally. In our brutish past, a man who fell out of love with and subsequently left his aging and bloating wife would jeopardize the survival of their common offspring. So nature left a fail-safe mechanism in place to ensure that men didn’t leave their wives even when they were no longer as aesthetically pleasing as in their youth: unconditional love. This is one reason, incidentally, that although high SMV men often take on younger mistresses later in life (because they are hotter) they still profess undying love and devotion for their wives. They aren’t usually lying when they say this. On the other hand, a woman who remained in love with a man who had, say, become a cripple and lost all his provisioning ability (the male equivalent to a hysterectomy in women) would severely limit her chances of passing along her genes. Women, or rather, women’s genes, could not afford to be irrationally devoted to a man without the capacity to feed and protect his children. And this is why nature left in place an inverse fail-safe for women: conditional love. The truth is, all female love is conditional in one way or another and a man can never separate who he is from what he is. Women marry men either on the basis of already manifested accomplishments or the potential for such accomplishments. A woman who falls in love with and marries young to a man with a promising future is taking a chance on him, but if he turns out to be a listless couch potato later in life, she will fall out of love with him. Now, before you start disparaging women for being so calculating and pragmatic in matters of the heart, remember that a) hypergamy is a perfectly rational reproductive strategy in light of the greater physical responsibilities and risks women have in terms of childbearing and b) it is actually great for civilization. Women are looking to get the most resource-rich men they can and that’s why we have cell-phones, symphonies and self-driving cars. Guys who didn’t look like Brad Pitt still wanted to find a high quality mate, which meant they needed to bring something other than looks to the table. So they went out and created more resources for themselves (and others). Since women invariably flock to the highest quality males this pushes men to continually strive for improvements. Improving themselves, improving the world, creating useful tools, crafting beautiful works of art, writing moving songs and so on. Someone (I don’t know exactly who) once remarked that a man guaranteed a steady flow of blowjobs from supermodels for the rest of his life would be perfectly content to live in a cardboard box. While that statement is no doubt an exaggeration, it illustrates the point that the amenities men have created in this world have not been primarily intended for their own enjoyment, but rather for that of women. We can thank hypergamy for the fact that we all, regardless of gender, get to enjoy these comforts today. Besides, hypergamy doesn’t go on forever. Usually, the impulse to find a higher quality mate stops once a woman has found a man with (what she subjectively perceives to be) an SMV 1-3 points above her own. Women stop acting on their hypergamous impulse when they feel they can’t do better. This is the most salient explanation for why divorce rates are lower among couples that marry later: The women (who in the United States initiate two-thirds of all divorces) have fewer options because they aren’t getting as many lustful glances from men as they used to. This also means that childbearing is a major contributing factor to the curtailing of hypergamy because once a woman becomes pregnant her SMV unquestionably nosedives because she now has children (an additional cost and burden) as well as a less attractive physique than before. Let’s say a woman who has an SMV of 8 marries a man who is a 9 to whom she consequently bears a child. During and after pregnancy, her SMV will be closer to 6 and any further hypergamy would be futile for her as she already has a man three points above her. No other niner men are looking at her today like they used to before she was pregnant, but her husband (who is still a niner) will be by her side. “ Hope this is helpful
If you want a long term relationship, do as I have done. Get into a relationship with yourself. No, that doesn’t mean stay home and masturbate. It means expand your interests, learn some physics, finance, psychology, a sport, travel, etc. you’ll always have something to turn to that you can enjoy or distract yourself with when women are bringing a bit too much drama. A few days, or a couple weeks, to take the focus off the spinning plates will serve you well every now and then.
I've watched many of these videos & as much as I agree w/ most of it, I still have to ask why is using the Golden Rule (treat others as you want to be treated) a good thing in life but a bad thing when dealing w/ the dating world?
I think you are not wrong in that. We all have different ways to maintain a relationship. And actually I agree with you, if I have a woman I WANT to treat her well, make her happy with respect, it just makes me happy. BUT... at this time in my life I think not every person deserves the best of me just for the sake of it. When you try to give everything to someone and that person do not respond in the same way, that is just very painful. Also, sometimes you think that the way you treat someone will going to make that person happy just because you want to be treated that way... but they don't want to be treated that way. In that case you will never notice, the relationship will broke down slowly and you will end bitter because you thought that you acted right and the other person is just ungrateful. So yeah, obviously you give respect to the other person but you have to ensure that person gives you the same amount of respect at minimum... you can't just give without receiving. Also you need to understand that you are dealing with another person with a different worldview, you will try to understand your partner, but you can't pretend you can read her mind. Also you don't want to dedicate yourself solely to make the other person happy, because if you arent happy you will not be capable to give happiness to anyone. So yeah, it's not as simple as you want it to be.
I've know way too many guys like this. They get shackled to a woman and as soon as they're free they focus on getting another woman instead of enjoying their life and new found freedom.
4:42 Re, wanting a long term relationship Guys, you MUST realize that women DO NOT love the way that men do. The saying is, "children, dogs, and women are loved unconditionally." Notice what's missing from that list. LTRs are possible, but it's a lot of work for the man. He has to constantly be aware of his lady's attraction towards him and he will have to game her to maintain and rebuild her attraction as it naturally ebs and flows. This is even true for the top tier guy in this story. The guy must maintain his position as a POTENTIAL source of validation for the woman who is attracted to him, as opposed to an ACTUAL source of validation. This means she wants you to tell her she looks pretty but you don't tell her. Or, you combine the compliment with a jab. Wow, babe. You look really pretty today...except the circles under your eyes. Don't be afraid to tell her "no" or to upset her. Women thrive on and require emotional stimulation. Anger and sadness are emotions. Don't be a dick, but definitely insert some drama into the relationship occasionally. If you don't, SHE will. A relationship with an 8,9,10 is more work, requires more gaming, more dominating, passing more shit tests where her cave man brain is looking for cracks in your behavior as her man. When she starts acting stupid, give her time and space to fuck off for a bit. Don't chase or pester her. If you're doing the above correctly, she'll be back pestering YOU and more submissive than before because she knows you're A-OK without her. DON'T tell her you love her. You can show her, but if you tell her you remove the mystery. Humans, especially women, want what we can't have. When you tell her that you love her, you remove the doubt and make yourself less attractive. Best of luck guys. Remember, once you know and play by the rules of the game you stand a better chance of winning.
Lucky that I’m learning all this at 22 instead of 32. For all y’all 30 & 40 year old dudes out there I’m sorry y’all didn’t have RUclips & all these alpha male channels to get y’all right when y’all was young
I'm 60, never been married....when I was your age, I realized that lifestyle was not for me. I always believe in doing what makes YOU happy, regardless of what others may think (that includes family). My focus is on my job, my workouts and my hobbies. No drama.
You’re definitely right about most people having a lower chance of maintaining a passionate loving relationship. Most people don’t have the knowledge or tools to communicate and get their needs met. John Gray is incredible for relationship tools.
That guy sounds like a mess with his whiny questions. He doesn't have his crap together. He can't maintain a relationship. He has a number of baby mamas. He's not raising his own kids. He supposedly has everything but complains about everything. He seems insecure and narcissistic and obviously needs to do a lot of work on himself and focus on his kids.
I admittedly have had a lot of beta tendencies in life. I have been in a LTR for about 20 years and I own a successful plumbing business. I am 6’4” deep voice. Broad shoulders and the whole bit. My wife and I are definitely not in a good place right now. She is a 9-10 on looks. She is not happy anymore and wants to leave but has not worked outside the home for a number of years. We are trying to buy a second property as a rental. We have three kids together and I obviously love them and hate the thought of our family breaking up but I also don’t want her to stay with me and be miserable. I have a lot of influence in the community and have a broad network of people. From working class to doctors and lawyers. I have been around very beautiful and influential women as well. Some of them making obvious passes at me. I’m at a crossroads as to what I should do. Work to save my marriage or let go and do the things she always wanted. I am a nice guy for sure and that is the beta side of me but I also have a alpha side as Well. As far as running my business and trying new things.
All I can think as I listen to this video is it's amazing how much a single mother can ruin their son(s), even when their sons grow up to be successful. Being raised by a single mother is almost as damaging to sons as being physically/sexually abused by a primary caregiver.
I'm so fucked and dysfunctional from my single mothers abuse that I have previously thought rather have been sexually abused instead because I see those kids in their teens and adult life having more connection even though its a toxic connection with the species instead of me having no connection. It looks better to have something even if it's toxic than nothing at all.
I don't judge people. It doesn't sound like you do either. However I have always been a people pleaser, neglecting myself naturally; I did not learn about the truth of alcohol until about three years ago. I had fun 19-23 years of reckless drug use, everything and anything, then it became a life and death thing with K2 (Synthetic 'weed' 🐂 💩), switched to alcohol and was okay-ish in my opinion: it was easy access, no need to hide, become a part of society in a more confident you, until there were issues with the law. DUI started my streak of "bad luck" but more specifically inability to stop myself from drinking 1, and afterwards my inability to stop for days at times. These sprees would last 3-4 days at a time. It wasn't until I finally switched my brain from, "oh I blacked out, that's funny" to " oh shit, where will I be tomorrow? Would it be in jail, at the hospital, or the mortuary. I couldn't stop. I wanted to want to stop, but the fear was incredible, even if it meant not kicking myself out of the house countless times to go and drink and even been homeless once. It was a hell of my own. Bridges and math would be on my side should I ever have the 'courage,' after all, 18 wheelers were part of the increasing frequent reoccurring thoughts. I will spare the details, but essentially came to this conclusion. I have to be selfish with myself and my energy. Don't get me wrong, I am a giver, helper, and healer (traumas/depression/etc.) If the person can be 100% honest. Often compassion, love, honesty, and humility are perceived as weaknesses. Except, when the person has the desire to take that first step to pivot out of their own hell, they can have a complete shift in paradigm(s) and even psyche transformation (Honesty + openness + humility + a higher power of their own conception). I'm currently a month sober, even with family, blood related this time instead of my ex's family) members waiting for my next relapse. No car, no job (sort of), and even my own dad mostly saying I can't do it because of his own limitations. Lol Everyone can do it. You just gotta take that first step. Much blessings, many wows.
Damn. I’ve learned from this channel that I’m a trash male in every possible way. The only thing I seem to have is a great relationship of nine years. I have no money, a crap job and I was fat when we met. This is weird. I need to find out why she’s really with me hahaha. I enjoy the channel anyway.
i dont give a shit about relationships or women in general and im a broke university student, if i had his success i'd legit have women hold pineapple leaves and feed me grapes
Totally agree on that spinning plates take less effort than an LTR. However, with the right woman, it can be worth it, but you need to be aware on not falling into a beta state just because you are in a LTR. You need to keep doing you, regardless of LTR or not, else she will lose respect for you.
Great vid as always Rich. Question: why does a top tier guy with 4 kids from 4 different women necessarily throw red flags??? I've personally had women tell me that an attractive guy doesn't lose points for having kids or failed marriages - it can actually increase his stock b/c the fact that he's passed another woman's tests and she's chosen to reproduce with him confirms his genetic worthiness. You've mentioned in the past that the top 10% of men are doing 90% of the banging and that a woman would rather be with a high value married guy than a lower value single guy; wouldn't it stand to reason logically and statistically then that the few alpha males in the world would be having lots of sex (and kids) with lots of different women??? Seems like simple math to me. In many pack animals like wild sheep, deer, etc...the dominant male in a herd bangs ALL the females so that only the BEST/STRONGEST male genetics are passed to the next generation. It's a double standard but throughout much of human history (and in many animals) the few dominant males have disproportionately spread their genetics to the female masses; this must be the natural order and to this day a man who sleeps with a lot of women is generally praised as a "stud" while a female who sleeps with multiple men is generally criticized for being a whore and slut shamed. Some people will say this is outdated thinking but modern norms that contradict our whole evolutionary past and discount our deeper genetic and primal nature cannot possible be authentic or healthy. Double standards are broadly condemned in modern western societies but that totally violates the natural order of things (evolution/natural selection) IMHO. I know we're highly evolved animals, but we're animals nonetheless and these conflicting signals between what society and women tell us we should be vs what's ACTUALLY driving their behavior at a more primal level leaves a lot of guys dazed and confused. Too many guys are drinking the modern "be a nice guy" Kool Aid even though it's counterproductive to their goals in life and violates human nature and female nature on a much deeper level. Would love to hear everyone's thoughts...
What's the point of spinning plates. Life isn't exclusively about sex and pleasure. What about creating a family, contributing to your nation and pleasing God. You'll live satisfying yourself and never generate anything meaningful like children or if you do, they won't be raised in the right environment.
Yea wont be shocked if the kids this guy has had with multiple women end up resenting him in the future. A lot of people don't get that being a parent is a full time job. It's not just about providing financially. It's about being invested in the kids lives, giving love, assurance, discipline and emotional support.
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sorry to be so offtopic but does any of you know of a trick to get back into an instagram account?
I somehow lost the login password. I would appreciate any help you can offer me!
@Finnegan Mario instablaster :)
Treat her like a celebrity and she’ll treat you like a fan
Men back in the day had 1000's of girls in their kingdoms
Two way street.
Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a peasant.
Well said
@@kevinboswell1891
Yes, the king.
One man in the whole kingdom
Im gonna be indestructable i'm learning all these things at 17 and applying it to my life.
Oh you're going to be thanking yourself later. Stay hard!
Experience builds character, never forget that.
Good for you, beware of hubris however, the P is STRONK.
Don't forget to workout, it's amazing how different men and women treat u when ur buff. It will make it easier to get laid but more than that ppl respect u more. Don't neglect back workouts, that's what tends to go bad for ppl first. Kind of sad ppl are like that though, I respect ppl that are kind and respectful, no matter how they look or how intelligent they are but the reality is the general population is not like this.
@@Froggy-jn9mu I improvise for weights, use body weight and a backpack full of stones. Mostly workout for me, mostly workout the posterior chain so I have good posture. Any form of exercise is good, and we should workout for ourselves. As a bonus u will get laid more and have ppls respect but that's not the number one reason to do it. It's just good for u.
"A pleasant 6-7 is far better than a cunty 8-9" - word brother. Most 8's and 9's are absolutely horrible people. I'll happily settle for an easygoing 7 with humility and a positive attitude.
Agreed. The bad part is social media skyrocketing the was it is...is having the 6-7's posting pictures of their cleavage, having 100's of betas telling them they're gorgeous...now they've got an inflated false smv...making them think they're 8 or 9's along with the entitled attitude.
@@Last-Lap-Lando4 This is true. An active social media presence is an immediate disqualifier for me. The amount of work and stress it takes to retrain a woman out of that is just not worth it.
@@mayorofthenonsense That eliminates roughly 85% of women these days, but I have to agree. I can't stand the social media addict type.
I wait for them to turn 18
@@MMA-CLIPS2 It’s different depending on what country you’re in. I am currently in Germany and social media really isn’t as big here. Most of the women my age have a Facebook account which they barely use and that’s it. If they want commitment from me, they delete Tinder and give me the unlock code to their phone. You’d be surprised how willing some girls are - but again - different culture,
I am a mom, stepmother, wife for 18yrs. You are so right!! My husband occasionally helps around the house which is super nice of him. He works hard and puts up with a lot of shit at work. Feminists need to go away. Men are meant to be men! I am so lucky to have a man that still thinks I'm hot, when I'm so not, he puts up with my moods and crazy moments. I try to never talk down to him or act like I don't need him. And yes, I put out! Good grief women are mean! I love my lumberjack. Keep encouraging men to embrace their Alpha side.
Thank you for your candor.
I’m a very hard working alpha, but I always try to find ways to help out around our house! It shows caring and respect for my woman- who adores me!
Thank you for being honest. Other girls need an example to follow which is hard to find when most of the girls boys and men/women stay silent.
You have recognized something a lot of women never do. If more women were like you, there would be more stable and balanced LTRs. Having a woman who invests in respecting her man and focusing on taking care of him and actually showing a desire to take care of him can be incredibly attractive even if a woman doesn't necessarily look like 8-10. I would say that emotional intimacy is the cornerstone of any successful LTR. And the above things are a good foundation for having healthy emotional intimacy with a man.
He puts up with moods and crazy moments. You re a little bit too old for that shit arent you?
@@mikelalbisu2304 nah, just human.
Poor guy. My heart bleeds for him... Half of his "questions" are humble brags.
I agree, his tone in the email really annoyed me. He came across as a very good example of the “entitled male” nit-picking at his life as its not his idea of perfection. He has 4 kids by different mothers, yes his life is going to be made complicated by the choices HE made. “BUT Wahmen treat me like a BETA wah wah” - I am playing the world’s smallest violin for this chump.
If I saw this guy I’d help him out by putting my boot in his face. Then he’d have something to cry about.
The guy actually sounds like a tool. A rich tool, but a tool none-the-less. The thing is, if he grows out of it, he'll have no problem finding a woman later.
I agree. Its because he has 0 game. Still a lame and he learned that everything he got didnt make him more of an alpha, just a high valued beta
Agreed!! Dude sounds like a cry baby little boy inside still.
this guy wants to get married but he has red pill knowledge so hes afraid he ll get screwed
You summarize it almost perfectly.
Marriage should be punishment for shoplifting or some other similar crime.
DarkBinina: *_Pretty much, yeah._*
Back to the plantation is getting screwed ...with little sex
Right, babe?
Listen to this man. It's been a year of constant work and this is the best I've been mentally physically financially.
4 kids is gonna be a major red flag for women. He’s getting exactly what he should be I’d say. Imagine dating a girl with 4 kids. No chance in hell I’d ever do it. Even if she was a dime..
Plus it's multiple mothers! I'm surprised that he's had any success in life because he seems like an impulsive screwup.
Women and men are different
Stop saying its the same
@@Alkatraz581 stop saying this statement again and again. No matter how different women and men are, there are some similarities.
Most single women don't want single dads. Just look around yourself. And if you think otherwise, you've been fooled totally
@@tulipbubbly3748 most single women will date dads for stability and success. most men will not date moms unless they’re a dad.
Yea fuck that shit i stress myself out, if i did that i probably kill myself if i somehow married her.
He thirsts for female validation. That's his problem. He made his bed, well....now he must deal with the baby mammas. LOL
😆 truth
Why just laugh and not help? Men bury each other when we are the only ones who can help each other
Would say avoid instagram, Facebook etc at all costs and go about life focussing on you rather than others.
@Life of Attenborough
Yeah Showcasing a high-value life in insta is par for the course
Finally, some ine with my opinion on that Social Media horse shit ! Right on Bro.! It took 3 months to quit and get disentangle from that fuckin Facebook, but man in glad that I did!!
Throwing a like on this before Rich can finish his intro. This is what we need to hear.
Edit: this channel is part of the reason why I've decided to reshape my life. I wouldn't say I was totally blue pilled, but I needed to improve. I've recently gone back to the gym, and I'm starting a business with a great friend of mine. Thank you for the inspiration Rich.
This is exactly literally what I did
@@hosamnasre7397 stay on the path. We all need to keep each accountable.
@Wes Takahashi thank you. I've been feeling better since I started a week ago. Better sleep, better food, better routines. Reading more (which I love) and just maximizing my potential.
This guy has it all ... bank, looks, sports cars, social status, owns several business, and multiple spinning plates ... he is living the dream, and he has children. Why screw this up by getting into an LTR? Like Rich said “LTRs are a lot of work compared to spinning plates”.
We look for the things we don’t have,not the ones we do. Apparently this is your definition of “livings the dream” . He thought so too, but it’s not enough. If money ,cars and different women are the end goal, something is fundamentally wrong there.
It's part of his programming. He seeks validation from women. He is both addicted to relationship fantasies and also the need to satisfy his ego by sleeping with multiple women. He needs to do a lot of soul searching and figure out what he really wants from life. Cause it seems like he is living a flashy life with little substance. Maybe he should dedicate the next couple of years to being the best father to his kids rather than looking for relationships.
Because we as men want 1 woman bro, that's the truth, it's in our nature
@@Sohelanthropus …. Good for you … Many men do not find 100% of what they are looking for in one woman. Above all once they woman gets comfortable that she is the only one … she will treat you like a fan .. as she knows there is no competition
the dream is to get 1 very good woman, but usually what happens is that the very good woman ends up dumping the guy and then he's back to not very good women
I never clicked so fast lol
It's not like you're going to be awarded with a gold medal or some shit in the afterlife
Worddddd
@Minjin X hahahahaha indeed, just got dumped so... cant argue with that haha
You uncircumcised freak
It takes practice, you become alpha by practicing alpha habits
This comment is gold -
Simple and Intuitive, Thank You
@@ryanturner7125 yes sir!
Not sure if its that easy, either you are a leader or you are not, same goes with being an alpha or not. In the world of work or social surroundings...which one are you? The one in front leading the team, or the one listening and executing...are you the one picking up the venues etc or the one following. Are you the one leading the dance or sitting down in your corner. Etc...
I didn't gain my 'mindset' through practice and imitation but through shedding lies and bullshit. Once your brain finishes growing and you are on a level playing field with the rest you realise how dumb the rest of this species is which leaves nothing but the feeling like you're on top and ahead.
@@bettermanchannel770 Fake it until you Create it
What I could grasp from him is sense of happiness, belonging, and self comes from being in a relationship. Those two things are no related at all. He must look inside and see he doesn't need anyone beside himself to be feel those things. It takes time, but it worth it. Women will compete for you, trust me.
I was thinking the exact same thing. What this guy needs is to ditch the plate spinning and ideas of LTRs, and spend time with himself (ONLY). Eventually he'll have all the answers he ever needed.
Beautiful
If u can't be alone than u don't love yourself
The marriage rate is at 33/1000. ALL-TIME LOW. Men are checking out. Take the signal for what it is. Take Rich's advice, learn the system, and game it to achieve the attention you desire while maintaining control of your assets.
True but what are the rates of the Man cheating vs the women cheating, or who does what fault?
These are factors I rarely see getting brought up.
@@rainofkhandaq6678 Who gives a rip which member cheats? This is not even the point. If the man cheats, HE gives away the keys to his house, his children and his money, if the woman cheats, HE gives away the keys to his house, his children and his money.
@@TTGBUNKER Facts. Even worse, the Man will be asked, what he did to MAKE her cheat. She doesn't have to take responsibility for her actions. Ridiculous.
Just started reading “the unplugged alpha”. I grew up with a single mother and I’m glad to have found your channel. Maybe it will help me get things figured out. Things were certainly easy in high school and college picking up women I didn’t even need to give any effort. But after a few bad relationships I’ve taken a long break and trying to get back in the swing of things. I ordered another book you recommended just waiting for it to come in. Thanks for all your advice dude. Keep up the good work!
So good looking guy with sports car collection is having issues with women... Imagine us regular dudes.
Just like the imagined issues feminists have
Don't be a douche, treat woman like a friend you enjoy hanging out with.
@Tim Barrett Guess I hang out with different woman than.
Do you already have four kids why would you want a LTR what are you doing????
@@marquezmercado1480 shut up
Lmao. RIGHT!
@@marquezmercado1480 the same reason a man wants a relationship with four children. They both have children in tow.
A picture of a guy next to Dan Belzarian carries no value today.
Agree.
And makes you look like a massive douche to ACTUAL good women
I don't think it ever carried any value. Dan is a fraud.
This comment will age well
Did it ever?
The “Beta Tampon”...... Damn what a great term for the description!
Our perception creates our reality...DESIGN A MASCULINE MINDSET
Nice well said !
LMFAO the dirty sanchez at 10:31 😭🤣
Impressive analysis, Richard.
Dense conclusions as well.
Hi brother from another mother.
Cheating is beta because he agreed to start a LTR and compromised. Alpha behavior is being able to say “I like you, but I’m seeing other people too. If you’re OK with that we can still date and hang out. No compromise.”
Cheating is not alpha.
Love your content.
Can u explain a bit more
@@metalxner5411 cheating is a disloyal act. If you want to explore your options you have the right to tell the girl you just met and like “I like you, but I am not looking for something serious. If you’re ok with that, then great.” Some will say no, some will have no problem. Disloyal people cannot be considered alphas. Alphas put their position clear.
@@CesarGalanYT oh ok, I agree. I will tell someone I like hat I'm into then, but cing other people, because I've never been the type to be ok with cheating. Not sure if that makes me bets or not...
You are right, have met one guy with 2 teenagers, and generally, women were avoiding him like cancer. One woman she was dating him for a while and her parents were very much against it, eventually, she left him.
@Ill Matix Damn I woulda tried to stick it to her at least. I mean you were out on a date already lol.
It is really difficult to train children and teach them the difference between good & bad right wrong, nice video
Been blue pill for all my life until I understood I can't fix, change, heal a woman who is a BPD train wreck. Had 6 since 2016 (split from a 12 year LTR in 2015) and managed to eject all 6, once I heeded the red flags they ALL waived inside 3 months each. Now thanks to this channel I have zero tolerance to be a tampon and I'm far more focused I my purpose and mission, I've cleared out ALL toxic friends and family and I have so much more energy to give to my circle and I feel so positive about the future. Thanks Rich for your ongoing no nonsense approach to self improvement, its too easy for guys to feel sorry for women who make poor choices, that's what let me down in the past, so now I am saying "I'll do me" "you do you" etc.
Yeah, their masks slip pretty fast once you see the signs.
Wow. Powerful comment. Happy for you that you embraced the red pill. Stay focused on being the very best version of yourself!
Were you with 6 women, who all had BPD?
@@The_Kirk_Lazarus yes all 6 were disordered, either BPD or NPD or both. It’s far more common than people realise. Every one craved validation, lied, manipulated, took no responsibility when exposed and were very angry underneath and incredibly self pitying,
@@simonthompson7820 so they were typically “modern” women.
This is the content we need
I like this video, a response to a higher value man with awareness compared to lower betas. We all slip up, just do the work guys!
Getting today's education!!
How’s being faithful to your wife a beta conditioning? I’m just asking, not criticising. How can you expect loyalty from her while you’re not giving the same in return? Sounds hypocritical to put it mildly.
Rich gives a lot of good advice but he flirts with toxicity/bitterness quite often.
@@lauramorgan27 ur right though lol 😂 I felt the bitterness a bit as well especially when someone is doing better than him. Tate speech interview with him u can tell tate is on another level and rich critiqued how he accumulated his wealth in another vid 😂
@GIGN Any Mission Any Time In name only lol.
You know when she goes to pre-Christmas party in her workplace and gives you std.
@@kiljupullo First - This can easily go both ways , especially with the preaching of “spinning plates” and second - you want her to never go anywhere just so you can trust she’s not cheating? That’s not how trust works..
Have seen the harem arrangement. It was common among importers a couple of generations ago. It had a practical use. Travel took time. Chicago to Tokyo took six days. The business trip could take several months. The importer would have a wife with kids in each operational jurisdiction and the local wife became operating manager. They were called Dragon Ladies because they had a vested interest and were ruthlessly single minded protecting ‘her’ business
"Listen, my son! Listen, son of my womb!
Listen, my son, the answer to my prayers!
Do not spend your strength on women,
your vigor on those who ruin kings."
Proverbs 31:2-3
the bible is a RED PILL book
what I like about this channel is that he teaches you how to have a successful life. not just success with women there's more important things in life than women.
I understand the odds and risk is not in the mans favor for an LTR/monogamy, however the want for this is still there, despite spinning plates through out majority of my 20's/ being with dozens of women, I am willing to throw all that away to be with 1 women. I do not have a scarcity mindset or am prescribed to strategic pluralism due to being a chad, however at soon to be 29 I much rather spend time with 1 women and build something together/ properly vet over years, rather than continuously going to pound town. I work on myself have no problem being alone, have hobbies, masculine friends, consumed red pill content for years etc, however this want is still there and feel like will only get stronger with age. knowing what I know from the red pill community, it makes me sad that the chances of me having this are so slim that it is almost not worth trying. How do I combat these desires , that I know stem from a gynocentric social order to serve the female imperative ?
Very Good Question!
Would also love to see
Rich come
With a reply to this one ☝️
I don't think he could have the right answer for you, that's far from his narrative from what i'm learning.
LTR's are bad and according to Rich, it's always better to go around banging girls.
Seek advice on this desire somewhere else, i've found Jordan Peterson's advice on LTR's to be far better and practical when considering marriage. Still, a lot of work to do, but also a lot of great things to get from it. I believe there are, and i don't think that it makes you or me a beta.
Yeah, this whole thing was a humble brag. Rich must see that. Still a nice way of telling him to figure out what you really want 🤘
i think when good women see him and find out he has 4 kids from different mothers, BIG RED FLAGS.
Exactly! Any of his next partner will be on his level - which is low. We all get what we really deserve. You can fool yourself but if women/men is picked only by looser/golddigger/beta/cheater it's actually what your worth is. Beta women date beta man etc.
Yep
Most women also have kids in tow so he is actually a good match for many, many if not most the modern women
@@baassiia B-b-but bald audi rich alpha man said high value men have many women
@@justamango942 yes they have mamy but zeeeero of them are value women ;)
*this is about type "I have multiple kids with multiple women"
last girl I went out with was an 8. Instagram 18,000 thirsty followers. She was a hell of a lot of work. Beautiful girl ,18 when I started dating her and 20 when I walked away from her. You are right Rich and 8 or better is too much work. Years ago it was not like that but now with social media it is different indeed.
I agree with you on most points. I will always stay faithful to my wife though. I can't agree with cheating.
I stopped "trying" and started doing/aiming for what I was after, even if it ment crashing face first every now and then.
Him dealing with 6-8s type woman with no meaning while being a high valued man, to me , it seems like he strived all his life to get to this point just to be “the man”. He still has 0 confidence in himself. All that he acquired is just bait for woman that he thought would make up for his lack of confidence. I see that all the time; the guy with the fancy car / clothes/ good job/ in shape ect only to be the same lame as before when he got all that. Spinning plates with a bunch of woman doesnt make you the man and he is realizing that hard which is why he will eventually settle down with a 5-7 ish type girl.
Word of advice: everything the guy has and accomplished for himself STILL didnt make him an alpha. To become an alpha, you must first shake off the mentality of the beta. He didnt , he’s just a beta with alpha type status: A Catfish
Well put. It's the fakery coming out the woodwork. Was just replying to another commenter who was suggesting practicing alpha behaviours, told the guy that you have to first shed the lies and bullshit instead of trying to act and imitate.
Rich, excellent lecture. Could you please instruct us on how to spot attachment styles women exhibit
Not really feeling this hype about IG And strong social media presence. If Los Angels and that kind of shit is your thing then okay...
Awesome video bro! 💯🔥
I think the best advice to give this guy is tell him to imagine he's 59 and make decisions based on that.. he'll think VERY differently I reckon. He's not in the real world of most guy's that comment on this channel.. he's very fortunate.
I know a lot of entrepreneurs (males/females) in their mid 20s who r well off financially; through Ecom amazon/shopify stores, trading, real estate etc....Ull be impressed how many if they focus on their success and possession to make them happy it makes them feel the opposite...makes them feel empty to the verge of depression. I was astonished when I heard them talk like that 😂 but I never focused on the externals to be happy only on my level of performance on the day to day and being at peace with myself lol. Never was I attached to the external material ever as I knew as a kid this stuff doesn’t fix the hole felt inside if there’s actually emptiness within. 🙏👌
This was good. I think u nailed it with the comment “ltr is as much work as plate spinning”. My personal feeling as a 37 y/o man who’s lived with my last three ltrs in my home, I think possibly the pinnacle is two 10’s coming together monogamously yet living separately. Then when and if marriage or children is necessary, considering moving closer to eachother yet maintaining dual residence. Stay overs, fine, shared ownership, fine, live together in one house all the time until death, not fine, not sustainable. We’re in a new time of dual empowerment, male and female. Honor that. Never two chefs in the kitchen. The chief usually “sleeps” alone. My two cents.
Sounds like a classic case of “I want what I can’t have”
Good reviews thanks
I appreciate all you do. Men need guidance in this day and age and our fathers are worse than us.
How can you not love Richard & Rollo you guys are live savers
What Rich touches on in other videos is that a LTR can be in that 13 or even that 3 percent if you are able to spend time apart. I'm in the medical field and aren't home all that often. Mind you, we do talk on the phone, but when I come home the fire is burning as bright as it ever did. Familiarity breeds contempt and distance oftentimes helps re-instill some mystery and intrigue.
This videos is very important
Looking @ this point right now right here on MY LIFE....I changed in some way when I came back 2 the USA .. I dont know in what way tho.
Love your show.
The following excerpt from the book Sexual Market Value by Chris Capetown answers your question in detail:
“Men’s instincts tend toward polygamy, women’s toward hypergamy. Hypergamy, for those who don’t know, is women’s congenital inclination to continually trade up in men. The word has Greek origins (hyper meaning ‘above’ and gamos meaning ‘marriage’) and originally referred to women’s tendency to “marry up”, but applies equally to non-matrimonial relationships.
Whereas all men have a natural urge to copulate with a great variety of fertile women (because, in our evolutionary history, such behavior improved our chances of gene proliferation), women have a corresponding biological drive to have relations with the highest quality man they possible can (for the same reason) and to gain exclusive commitment from that man. Briefly put, men want a lot of women, women want one really great guy.
Men and women’s respective sexual interests are therefore perpetually at odds, and the competition is zero sum in nature; for one sexual strategy to succeed, the other must be thwarted. If women are to fulfill their reproductive goal of getting exclusive commitment from a man, the man cannot simultaneously fulfill his reproductive objective of impregnating a harem and vice versa.
Which of the two strategies prevails has varied throughout history. During certain periods and in certain areas, men were free to indulge their polygamous nature, as indeed they still are in certain contemporary societies. In the current industrialized world, however, female reproductive interests benefit the most. Polygamy is banned and monogamy is strongly encouraged, while hypergamy is not discouraged. Women are thus at liberty to fulfill their natural biological imperatives at the expense of men.
For most of human history, only a minority of men but a majority of women managed to reproduce, because a relatively smaller proportion of dominant men slept with a relatively larger proportion of the women, partly because the dominant males within a tribe tended to mate with many women but also because far more men than women suffered a violent demise.
Picture an armed conflict between two tribes. What happened to the men and what happened to the women? The men from each tribe fought each other and the losing side of males were killed, often along with their children. The women, however, were kept for mating purposes. Women who pledged eternal allegiance to her tribe, the “I would rather die than sleep with the enemy”-types, were killed. So women developed a certain willingness to (sometimes reluctantly, other times not) mate with the men who killed their husbands, fathers and brothers. This happens even today.
Monogamy later developed because it promoted superior civilizations and stabilized society. Dominant chiefs who did not hoard all the women for themselves but instead let more of his followers have wives could build a greater degree of support among a larger number of men, making his army more formidable and reducing the occurrence of internecine strife. Monogamy is also the healthiest environment in which a child can grow up (because having both a mother and a father improved the child’s security and access to resources), which meant higher rates of survival within monogamous tribes.
Both male polygamy and female hypergamy are perfectly natural and healthy preferences insofar as they have evolved over the years to better ensure the continuation of our DNA. All other things being equal, a woman who had children with the most successful and highest possible status man she could get (status and success have, admittedly, meant a variety of things over the years), had a greater chance of passing along her genes. A woman who, after first having children with one man, bore the child of another, only enjoyed a genetic advantage if the next man was of higher status.
Conversely, the more fertile women a man banged, the greater his chances of passing along his genes. The reportedly prolific lover Genghis Khan, for instance, who spent decades bedding the wives and daughters of the men he subjugated and killed, as well as building a harem of thousands of young women, was perhaps history’s most successful man in terms of reproduction: A 2003 study headed by Chris Tyler-Smith found that 0.5% of all men alive are direct descendants of the great Mongol invader of lands and wombs.
Whereas men’s natural desire for promiscuity is curbed through institutional and social reinforcement mechanisms (marriage, religious edicts, disapproval), female hypergamy is somewhat more tolerated in post-industrial societies. If you want to understand more about why this is the case, read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.
Hypergamy is also the reason why men and women love differently. The abovementioned Tomassi was the first to introduce me to this idea: Only men are truly able to love a mate unconditionally. Women are not.
When discussing some of the topics in this book with a friend of mine, he asked “Shouldn’t men find women who love them for who they are instead of what they are? One who doesn’t care if you are rich or poor. One who will stay with you through thick and thin?”. This is a sentiment shared by a lot of good men and I admire the ingenuousness with which he asked the question. It reflects my friend’s propensity for unconditional love and his projecting of that same capacity onto women.
But a woman’s love is always conditional. When a man says he want a woman to love him for who he is, the type of love he is referring to is the kind only his mother can give him. Your mother is the only woman who can love you unconditionally.
In our brutish past, a man who fell out of love with and subsequently left his aging and bloating wife would jeopardize the survival of their common offspring. So nature left a fail-safe mechanism in place to ensure that men didn’t leave their wives even when they were no longer as aesthetically pleasing as in their youth: unconditional love. This is one reason, incidentally, that although high SMV men often take on younger mistresses later in life (because they are hotter) they still profess undying love and devotion for their wives. They aren’t usually lying when they say this.
On the other hand, a woman who remained in love with a man who had, say, become a cripple and lost all his provisioning ability (the male equivalent to a hysterectomy in women) would severely limit her chances of passing along her genes. Women, or rather, women’s genes, could not afford to be irrationally devoted to a man without the capacity to feed and protect his children. And this is why nature left in place an inverse fail-safe for women: conditional love.
The truth is, all female love is conditional in one way or another and a man can never separate who he is from what he is. Women marry men either on the basis of already manifested accomplishments or the potential for such accomplishments. A woman who falls in love with and marries young to a man with a promising future is taking a chance on him, but if he turns out to be a listless couch potato later in life, she will fall out of love with him.
Now, before you start disparaging women for being so calculating and pragmatic in matters of the heart, remember that a) hypergamy is a perfectly rational reproductive strategy in light of the greater physical responsibilities and risks women have in terms of childbearing and b) it is actually great for civilization. Women are looking to get the most resource-rich men they can and that’s why we have cell-phones, symphonies and self-driving cars. Guys who didn’t look like Brad Pitt still wanted to find a high quality mate, which meant they needed to bring something other than looks to the table. So they went out and created more resources for themselves (and others).
Since women invariably flock to the highest quality males this pushes men to continually strive for improvements. Improving themselves, improving the world, creating useful tools, crafting beautiful works of art, writing moving songs and so on.
Someone (I don’t know exactly who) once remarked that a man guaranteed a steady flow of blowjobs from supermodels for the rest of his life would be perfectly content to live in a cardboard box. While that statement is no doubt an exaggeration, it illustrates the point that the amenities men have created in this world have not been primarily intended for their own enjoyment, but rather for that of women. We can thank hypergamy for the fact that we all, regardless of gender, get to enjoy these comforts today.
Besides, hypergamy doesn’t go on forever. Usually, the impulse to find a higher quality mate stops once a woman has found a man with (what she subjectively perceives to be) an SMV 1-3 points above her own. Women stop acting on their hypergamous impulse when they feel they can’t do better. This is the most salient explanation for why divorce rates are lower among couples that marry later: The women (who in the United States initiate two-thirds of all divorces) have fewer options because they aren’t getting as many lustful glances from men as they used to.
This also means that childbearing is a major contributing factor to the curtailing of hypergamy because once a woman becomes pregnant her SMV unquestionably nosedives because she now has children (an additional cost and burden) as well as a less attractive physique than before. Let’s say a woman who has an SMV of 8 marries a man who is a 9 to whom she consequently bears a child. During and after pregnancy, her SMV will be closer to 6 and any further hypergamy would be futile for her as she already has a man three points above her. No other niner men are looking at her today like they used to before she was pregnant, but her husband (who is still a niner) will be by her side. “
Hope this is helpful
If you want a long term relationship, do as I have done. Get into a relationship with yourself. No, that doesn’t mean stay home and masturbate. It means expand your interests, learn some physics, finance, psychology, a sport, travel, etc. you’ll always have something to turn to that you can enjoy or distract yourself with when women are bringing a bit too much drama. A few days, or a couple weeks, to take the focus off the spinning plates will serve you well every now and then.
I always like to learn stuff from people like you that knows more about the game than sometimes we think we know 100%👍⚓
Well said. Thanks for showing the truths
I've watched many of these videos & as much as I agree w/ most of it, I still have to ask why is using the Golden Rule (treat others as you want to be treated) a good thing in life but a bad thing when dealing w/ the dating world?
There are no rules. Life is subjective and rules are an objective measure. It's not very efficient to be an automaton.
I think you are not wrong in that. We all have different ways to maintain a relationship. And actually I agree with you, if I have a woman I WANT to treat her well, make her happy with respect, it just makes me happy. BUT... at this time in my life I think not every person deserves the best of me just for the sake of it.
When you try to give everything to someone and that person do not respond in the same way, that is just very painful.
Also, sometimes you think that the way you treat someone will going to make that person happy just because you want to be treated that way... but they don't want to be treated that way. In that case you will never notice, the relationship will broke down slowly and you will end bitter because you thought that you acted right and the other person is just ungrateful.
So yeah, obviously you give respect to the other person but you have to ensure that person gives you the same amount of respect at minimum... you can't just give without receiving.
Also you need to understand that you are dealing with another person with a different worldview, you will try to understand your partner, but you can't pretend you can read her mind. Also you don't want to dedicate yourself solely to make the other person happy, because if you arent happy you will not be capable to give happiness to anyone.
So yeah, it's not as simple as you want it to be.
Dude focuses wayyy too much on women and seems like he needs them to exist.
He did grow up in a single mother home situation
I've know way too many guys like this. They get shackled to a woman and as soon as they're free they focus on getting another woman instead of enjoying their life and new found freedom.
I could relate to this guy. Thank you for the advice, Rich.
They don't even bring their own chair to your table 👊
4:42 Re, wanting a long term relationship
Guys, you MUST realize that women DO NOT love the way that men do.
The saying is, "children, dogs, and women are loved unconditionally." Notice what's missing from that list.
LTRs are possible, but it's a lot of work for the man. He has to constantly be aware of his lady's attraction towards him and he will have to game her to maintain and rebuild her attraction as it naturally ebs and flows.
This is even true for the top tier guy in this story.
The guy must maintain his position as a POTENTIAL source of validation for the woman who is attracted to him, as opposed to an ACTUAL source of validation.
This means she wants you to tell her she looks pretty but you don't tell her. Or, you combine the compliment with a jab. Wow, babe. You look really pretty today...except the circles under your eyes.
Don't be afraid to tell her "no" or to upset her. Women thrive on and require emotional stimulation. Anger and sadness are emotions. Don't be a dick, but definitely insert some drama into the relationship occasionally. If you don't, SHE will.
A relationship with an 8,9,10 is more work, requires more gaming, more dominating, passing more shit tests where her cave man brain is looking for cracks in your behavior as her man.
When she starts acting stupid, give her time and space to fuck off for a bit. Don't chase or pester her. If you're doing the above correctly, she'll be back pestering YOU and more submissive than before because she knows you're A-OK without her.
DON'T tell her you love her. You can show her, but if you tell her you remove the mystery.
Humans, especially women, want what we can't have. When you tell her that you love her, you remove the doubt and make yourself less attractive.
Best of luck guys. Remember, once you know and play by the rules of the game you stand a better chance of winning.
All this very true
Beautifully said brother
Gentlemen, you're the gatekeeper of paternity. Learn the lesson that poor guy didn't learn. This is no undo button for unfooking your life.
Nah, this man was not innocent. He cheated many times and most probably that's why he got divorced. Don't see things from one side
"Fist thing is knowing what you want" best advise you can give someone .well done.
This guy is such a comedian. I about peed myself laughing when he said "Well the cops are there so good luck with that!"
if that was funny u should check Alex Becker's channel
Lucky that I’m learning all this at 22 instead of 32. For all y’all 30 & 40 year old dudes out there I’m sorry y’all didn’t have RUclips & all these alpha male channels to get y’all right when y’all was young
I'm 60, never been married....when I was your age, I realized that lifestyle was not for me. I always believe in doing what makes YOU happy, regardless of what others may think (that includes family). My focus is on my job, my workouts and my hobbies. No drama.
having multiple boody count i just dont get it whats the point of it 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
I wish my dumbass had access to this information 10 years ago.
You’re definitely right about most people having a lower chance of maintaining a passionate loving relationship. Most people don’t have the knowledge or tools to communicate and get their needs met. John Gray is incredible for relationship tools.
“The Beta Tampon.” Haha, I’m going to use that. Good stuff
Most people are average. All men should be respected. You shouldn't have to be a big shot just to get some trim or have a loyal marriage.
15 here, I'm done with all the bullshit I've been taught, Time to think on my own.
Hangs out with Dan Bilzerian? 😂 3:12
Newbie here. The more videos I watch of you. The more you remind me of Kratos
I'm glad someone noticed it as well
kratos?
I have to laugh at this guy. He is in the top 20% of all men. The top 1% of earners on this planet earn $37,500 USD a year or more. Let that sink in.
Would you be satisfied as a barely top 1% earner?
24 and my life is definitely changing
That guy sounds like a mess with his whiny questions. He doesn't have his crap together. He can't maintain a relationship. He has a number of baby mamas. He's not raising his own kids. He supposedly has everything but complains about everything. He seems insecure and narcissistic and obviously needs to do a lot of work on himself and focus on his kids.
I admittedly have had a lot of beta tendencies in life. I have been in a LTR for about 20 years and I own a successful plumbing business. I am 6’4” deep voice. Broad shoulders and the whole bit. My wife and I are definitely not in a good place right now. She is a 9-10 on looks. She is not happy anymore and wants to leave but has not worked outside the home for a number of years. We are trying to buy a second property as a rental. We have three kids together and I obviously love them and hate the thought of our family breaking up but I also don’t want her to stay with me and be miserable. I have a lot of influence in the community and have a broad network of people. From working class to doctors and lawyers. I have been around very beautiful and influential women as well. Some of them making obvious passes at me. I’m at a crossroads as to what I should do. Work to save my marriage or let go and do the things she always wanted. I am a nice guy for sure and that is the beta side of me but I also have a alpha side as Well. As far as running my business and trying new things.
Become rich, pompous and arrogant. Beta habits gone and can now lecture others on the topic.
All I can think as I listen to this video is it's amazing how much a single mother can ruin their son(s), even when their sons grow up to be successful. Being raised by a single mother is almost as damaging to sons as being physically/sexually abused by a primary caregiver.
I'm so fucked and dysfunctional from my single mothers abuse that I have previously thought rather have been sexually abused instead because I see those kids in their teens and adult life having more connection even though its a toxic connection with the species instead of me having no connection. It looks better to have something even if it's toxic than nothing at all.
I don't judge people. It doesn't sound like you do either.
However I have always been a people pleaser, neglecting myself naturally; I did not learn about the truth of alcohol until about three years ago. I had fun 19-23 years of reckless drug use, everything and anything, then it became a life and death thing with K2 (Synthetic 'weed' 🐂 💩), switched to alcohol and was okay-ish in my opinion: it was easy access, no need to hide, become a part of society in a more confident you, until there were issues with the law. DUI started my streak of "bad luck" but more specifically inability to stop myself from drinking 1, and afterwards my inability to stop for days at times. These sprees would last 3-4 days at a time. It wasn't until I finally switched my brain from, "oh I blacked out, that's funny" to " oh shit, where will I be tomorrow? Would it be in jail, at the hospital, or the mortuary. I couldn't stop. I wanted to want to stop, but the fear was incredible, even if it meant not kicking myself out of the house countless times to go and drink and even been homeless once. It was a hell of my own.
Bridges and math would be on my side should I ever have the 'courage,' after all, 18 wheelers were part of the increasing frequent reoccurring thoughts.
I will spare the details, but essentially came to this conclusion. I have to be selfish with myself and my energy. Don't get me wrong, I am a giver, helper, and healer (traumas/depression/etc.) If the person can be 100% honest. Often compassion, love, honesty, and humility are perceived as weaknesses. Except, when the person has the desire to take that first step to pivot out of their own hell, they can have a complete shift in paradigm(s) and even psyche transformation (Honesty + openness + humility + a higher power of their own conception).
I'm currently a month sober, even with family, blood related this time instead of my ex's family) members waiting for my next relapse. No car, no job (sort of), and even my own dad mostly saying I can't do it because of his own limitations. Lol
Everyone can do it. You just gotta take that first step. Much blessings, many wows.
How i wished I found your channel 4 months ago
Sounds like he just needs to take a break from women in general. Regroup and get at it later
Damn. I’ve learned from this channel that I’m a trash male in every possible way. The only thing I seem to have is a great relationship of nine years. I have no money, a crap job and I was fat when we met. This is weird. I need to find out why she’s really with me hahaha. I enjoy the channel anyway.
Hey Rich what’s LTR, I’ve just started reading your book and I can’t find acronym for it?
i dont give a shit about relationships or women in general and im a broke university student, if i had his success i'd legit have women hold pineapple leaves and feed me grapes
Totally agree on that spinning plates take less effort than an LTR.
However, with the right woman, it can be worth it, but you need to be aware on not falling into a beta state just because you are in a LTR.
You need to keep doing you, regardless of LTR or not, else she will lose respect for you.
Wish I knew before hand
Blue pill vs red pill is ok but What about Rad 140 vs mk 677?
You can get the baddies, but trust me you’ll pay up. One way or the other.
Great vid as always Rich. Question: why does a top tier guy with 4 kids from 4 different women necessarily throw red flags??? I've personally had women tell me that an attractive guy doesn't lose points for having kids or failed marriages - it can actually increase his stock b/c the fact that he's passed another woman's tests and she's chosen to reproduce with him confirms his genetic worthiness. You've mentioned in the past that the top 10% of men are doing 90% of the banging and that a woman would rather be with a high value married guy than a lower value single guy; wouldn't it stand to reason logically and statistically then that the few alpha males in the world would be having lots of sex (and kids) with lots of different women??? Seems like simple math to me. In many pack animals like wild sheep, deer, etc...the dominant male in a herd bangs ALL the females so that only the BEST/STRONGEST male genetics are passed to the next generation. It's a double standard but throughout much of human history (and in many animals) the few dominant males have disproportionately spread their genetics to the female masses; this must be the natural order and to this day a man who sleeps with a lot of women is generally praised as a "stud" while a female who sleeps with multiple men is generally criticized for being a whore and slut shamed. Some people will say this is outdated thinking but modern norms that contradict our whole evolutionary past and discount our deeper genetic and primal nature cannot possible be authentic or healthy. Double standards are broadly condemned in modern western societies but that totally violates the natural order of things (evolution/natural selection) IMHO. I know we're highly evolved animals, but we're animals nonetheless and these conflicting signals between what society and women tell us we should be vs what's ACTUALLY driving their behavior at a more primal level leaves a lot of guys dazed and confused. Too many guys are drinking the modern "be a nice guy" Kool Aid even though it's counterproductive to their goals in life and violates human nature and female nature on a much deeper level. Would love to hear everyone's thoughts...
Anyone that has to tell you he is ‘Alpha’ isn’t 🙄
So depressing when you break it down to 1's and 0's like that. I'm going to do some pushups now and wake up early today 🤣
5:25 seems his results are either beta chump or a Chad no middle ground.
Can you teach me how to become a balding subhuman? Thanks
I'm 24 and this is like my 4th time watching this cause it's on my dowloads
Sorry if you have mentioned what LTR means, but I am new to listening to your content, but what doe "LTR" stand for? Thank you!
What's the point of spinning plates. Life isn't exclusively about sex and pleasure. What about creating a family, contributing to your nation and pleasing God. You'll live satisfying yourself and never generate anything meaningful like children or if you do, they won't be raised in the right environment.
Yea wont be shocked if the kids this guy has had with multiple women end up resenting him in the future. A lot of people don't get that being a parent is a full time job. It's not just about providing financially. It's about being invested in the kids lives, giving love, assurance, discipline and emotional support.