A Schizoaffective Dad and Supportive Daughter (Hallucinations and Parenthood)
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- Опубликовано: 10 ноя 2021
- Brandon is diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. His daughter, Kye, helps him understand when he is hallucinating. The two know there is a genetic component to schizophrenia and are trying to reduce Kye’s chance of inheriting this mental disorder. Together they have found that even if life isn’t perfect, it is still worth living.
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Brandon, thank you. I do not say this lightly, but our conversation has made me re-evaluate my own personal relationships and even connections from my past. You provided the world something extremely valuable with your strength, honesty, and advocacy. Thank you.
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Brandon rocks!
I have undifferentiated schizophrenia and ptsd an depressed an panic attacks and anxiety and agoraphobia an I have family and friends who know me well but sometimes it's like I'm not me an I get mad an sad I was told I have this since I was 19 years old!!
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Brandon, this interview was so moving. Your vulnerability, honesty & kind heart totally shine through🌄. I am so glad you have a wonderful family support system. Your children seem so grounded & awesome. Thank you for speaking from your heart. Your interview moved me deeply. Truly wishing you the Best in life❤️
To the daughter; NEVER stop asking questions. You are not nosy, you are curious, intelligent, and hungry for knowledge. These are qualities that will take you far! Be proud of that quality, I am proud of you and I don't even know you! ♥
I will share this with her! Thank you
@@brandonlashley2819 ♥♥♥
Trueeee!
Don't be afraid to be nosey!
Preach! It is true!
Embarassing? He's fighting all day. He should be proud. He deserve to be just as loved as he loves his Princess. Hearing him talk is a huge thing. Way to go!
So well said! He is a warrior but his battles are invisible to the rest of us. Have a great day 😊
And she does love him. So much.
I absolutely agree!
yes! so inspiring.
He's an incredible person.
this guy seems like a better dad than the majority that i know despite what he’s struggling with. he has nothing to be ashamed of and a LOT to be proud of! ❤
EXACTLY!!!!!!
So true!!
I totally agree
I wish people talked more about mental health and having children. There's still so much stigma around it. I have a daughter and she understands at 4 that I am sometimes sad and need medicine to be happy. It's the only way I have been able to help her understand my anxiety and depression.
100000% true!
He seems very fragile and delicate emotionally, but so strong at the same time with conveying his thoughts. What a man!!!
It’s how genuine he is. Love this family dynamic.
It’s the benefit of being bipolar.I am also bipolar and it trains you to look at the more positive
@@SonaROX86 no it doesn’t… lol
@@pillowtalk1925 it does if you're consciously trying to notice and influence your reactions to your emotions and impulses
@@Liam-ke2hv This is so true. After seven years of therapy I choose to see good and realize the negative people put out, whether directed toward me or someone else, has more to do with them. And I choose how I allow myself to respond. It's a learned skill.
The fact that his daughter assumes that all kids love their parents shows what an amazing job that he has done as a father.
absolutely!
my daughter would consider herself beyond blessed to have a father like him. her totally self absorbed so-called "normal" dad is basically dead to her.
the world needs more dads like this one
i know right 🥺💜 protect her at all costs.
So very true!!
He’s an inspiration being so open and honest and kind and caring. He’s an amazing person who’s clearly worked hard to get where he is.
That blew me away. They're doing so good with her, it brings up so many feelings about what I didn't get. But I'm happy people are out here being raised with so much love.
A masters degree, a special education teacher, a painter, a beautiful father, and he thinks he isn’t interesting ??? And listen to the daughter just rattling off his positive attributes. So beautiful.
Brandon, you are a beautiful and very interesting person my friend. You’re so so considerate and your laugh is adorable.
He really is a remarkable person. I don't know him and I'm proud of him. What a gem.
Couldn't agree more 🤍
We love you! There are plenty of people like you. I have had colleagues with mental issues similar to yours and they were great to spend time with and very interesting.
You would be one person I would love spending time with.
Great comment.👍
Yes, this, Brandon you are so beautiful and your family is so lucky to have you in their lives
His daughter is living proof that this man is an amazing human being.
Absolutely 💯 %
"I never realized how much you could love a person until I had a child." I've said this so many times. He's absolutely correct!
Yep it changed me as well
I had no empathy before I had children .I like the way he called it a brain disease think that's a really cool way of describing it .
Same here!
He has NOTHING to be embarrassed about. Stand up guy. He’s so much more than his diagnosis
That last sentence was great! He IS so much MORE than his diagnosis!!! God bless them both!!
On top of all that he's raised an amazing daughter, beautiful to see how much they care for each other
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For real and I can't believe his daughter is only 9 years old.. she sounds wise beyond her years when she speaks. My sister is 9 years old and a very smart girl but THIS girl is SMART smart.
Michelle Gambacorta. You are a very beautiful woman.🐼♥️
She’s 9???? She’s so mature!!!! These two are blessed to have each other
Us children with parent with schizophrenia feel like we have to become more mature because sometimes the things we go through depending on the person we have to be the adult or we feel like we do.
I was the adult in my situation at the age 7 because my mother mixed her mental health with drug use and she hasn’t ever come back from that
@@kianamarie9348 My heart goes out to you Kiana, I pray that you find rest and that your mother finds healing, you both deserve that at the very least ❤️
maybe its becuase at times she has to feel responsible for him. Maybe for example answering hallucination questions or making him feel better. They seem to have a very lovely relationship though, and its so beautiful to see that.
@@kianamarie9348 I feel for you. I do think it may be a little broader, though. I would say children who grow up in difficult situations tend to be forced to grow up faster or they'll break under the weight of it.
My mother was bipolar and an IV drug user (meth), and there really wasn't much difference between me and the average adult by the time I was 14. In fact, a lot of my friends at that point were 20+ years old, because I just didn't get along with people my own age.
she's extremely intelligent
Kye's answer to the question, "Do you love your dad?" tells you everything you need to know about the loving family she is surrounded by. "Everybody loves their parents" is such an innocent take, because she's known nothing but love her whole life.
Realized that as well
My mom has schizophrenia and has been outside of society for over 15 years, so I really appreciate this video. Brandon, you are SUCH a good dad, and working through your struggles every day. Don't give up, because you are so worth all of that effort, and your wife and daughter are so blessed to have you.
And his lovely stepson!
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he’s the kind of dad every girl dreams of. warm, and kind and seems like you could tell him anything. talks to you like an adult but also like your his baby girl. this was so beautiful seeing their relationship.
Nah.
Yes
@@depletable yeah
Nope.
@@depletable lol. You silly goose.
This does a lot to humanize neurodivergent parents. It is possible to be a good parent with a neurodivergence or even a true disorder.
I am been thinking about how different words have different connotations. Disorder: bad, not a part of you, needs to be cured.
Disability: Not bad nor good, but a part of you and doesn’t need to be cured.
Schizoaffective disorder can be truly disabling, as is with any other condition. And also another secret: you can get services for Schizoaffective disorder.
I also agree 💯
But, I am also not interested in parenting in anyone (unless it’s a furbaby, snakes, spiders, birds or … my villagers in ACNH) and I don’t want to carry a child.
""true disorder""
My mom has same diagnosis as guy in the video & she tries to be a good parent even though she may not be
@@HolyGoddessMotherAnne don’t adopt to prove something to society. Adopt only to help children.
I'm a parent with schizoaffective disorder depressive type to one amazing daughter (pregnant with a son too) and his message moved me to tears so many times. I don't feel so alone now. Thank you, Brandon. For your courage and strength in getting through every day and for sharing your story.
Lots of love for you and your family! :)
When he said “I just want friends” my heart sunk to the bottom I feel so bad for him I hope he ends up getting some friends god bless him and his family and everybody❤️
I’m the Step-Son in the video! Glad to have been apart of something so impactful and important to Brandon😁! I looked just as anxious and awkward as I thought I would but oh well it was worth it 😂. Kind of surreal getting to see the behind the scenes of a channel that I watch and know about! That was very interesting and something I thought I would never get to see❤️! It was very nice meeting and talking with him, albeit a bit awkward😂! That’s kinda the vibe that I’m used to bringing tho 😂! If anyone has any questions or comments drop it down below and I’ll happily respond 😁❤️
You have a great future ahead of you. It's really good that you are able to share your feelings with your family in a proactive way, that is priceless.
I love Brandon and Kye.
You did a great job! You all seem like such a great family. Very real and genuine!
Can you tell your dad he’s a rockstar for me please 🙋🏼♀️ like plz tell him
@@marisberg9299 u got it 😁❤️. They are checking out the video rn but I will after
he has raised her well. he seems like a GREAT father.
He is a sweet daddy. She is adorable, and his stepson seems nice and friendly too.
God bless them!!
Ugh, my heart goes out to him so much. It breaks my heart to hear him call his symptoms embarrassing but I totally get it. I don't have Schizoaffective disorder but I'm quite mentally ill and totally understand that mentality.
I LOVE that he wasn’t sure if someone in Walmart was a hallucination. Cracked me up. 😂 What an awesome father/daughter team.
"Nobody is gonna know what's going on unless you tell them." That hit home. Thanks for the reminder.
I needed that as well
ur pfp ☹️☹️☹️
I wish Brandon, his wife, daughter, and stepson all the very best.
Ditto ❤️
@@olivedog1880 nn...MN is
My father was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia around the year I was born 1987. A psychiatrist told him "you are useless, and will never be a functioning member of society". Shortly after he went missing, lost contact with my mum and I his sisters, his parents. I spent my whole adult life looking for him. Last year the police came to tell me had passed away. When I spoke to the supervisor of disability support provider that worked with him she shared in their notes that he felt he had no one in the world. He died alone. I guess he could never come out of that hiding. No one should have to hide. Thank you for having the courage to show this for others. I never got to have a dad and he never got to have a daughter but I am so glad that you guys have each other.
I'm so sorry, may he rest in peace ❤
The practically quit sleeping part. I had that experience after my late husband passed away by suicide. I would fall asleep, but then I would have terrible dreams. Night terrors probably. I got to the point where I feared falling asleep, even though it’s inevitable. It took grief counseling to help me get through it. I had to do self-talk, and telling myself that I wasn’t going to FEAR anything in my dreams. It took time, but it worked for the most part! I’m thankful for that counseling. I have faced other bad dreams with that outlook as well.
He just lit up when he started talking about his daughter. They have such a beautiful relationship ❤️
He just relaxes when she’s talking
"she can't begin to realize how brilliant she is and what a future gonna be like. That's my favorite thing about her."
Those words right there are amazing. She'll never forget them. And it's something I need to say to my children. Thank you.
I wanted to say that she is a beautiful soul, but caution not to put too much emphasis on "becoming" "someone/something brilliant". She's already great, and she's allowed to make mistakes and falter. She doesn't have to be brilliant or even great in the future. She just has to be true to her heart and her understanding of the world. Sometimes even the good labels "brilliant" can come with great weight - a feeling of hacing to live up to external expectations. Lots of love to you all. I hope that you can interpret the positive intention behind this message.
@@daria3665 totally understand where you're coming from but wanted to point out that it doesn't seem like this particular case is one to worry about :) the dad (and the original comment) both said that the daughter IS brilliant not that she will BECOME brilliant. it's just the way certain parents look at their children; some children will never think of themselves as highly as their parents do, not because they think poorly of themselves but because to that parent, they are just so amazing and spectacular. it has nothing to do with what the child does or doesn't achieve, it's just the fact that they existence. the daughter also seemed touched by the compliment
What a wonderful thing to say. That was really moving 💚💙
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Did anyone else start crying when Brandon did?! 😭 You can feel his love for his wife through the camera, can feel his love for his family as a whole. Brandon, you’re an amazing guy. I think more people would give you a chance to be their friend than you think ❤️
yes I did. The emotion so was powerful and contagious that brought tears to my eyes
Yes I did.
YUP!
Yes! This is one of the best, most raw, enlightening and compassionate interviews I’ve seen discussing the realities of the stigma of mental illness. I’m a SPED teacher too. Thank you for sharing your story and your wonderful family.
I absolutely did. He expressed it so clearly and passionately and relatabley. I felt that love. And my eyes welled up ❤️
My uncle had schizophrenia. It is nothing to be ashamed of. Like any organ in your body the brain doesn’t always work the way it’s supposed to. Sometimes, it turns against you in ways you never thought it would. We really need to de-stigmatized mental health and treat people who have these sorts of illnesses with the same dignity and respect as everyone else.
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This was simultaneously heartbreaking and stunningly beautiful to watch. I've *never* been so moved by another human being's conviction of life and mastery of self. What a role model for his family, his daughter, and a loudspeaker for those who haven't yet discovered their own courageous voice. Absolutely beautiful. This was a privilege to watch, Brandon, YOU are a masterpiece to behold.
I hope he can understand how great and brave he is. It made me sad hearing him speak bad about himself, he is doing a great job with his bright child and he is still doing it! Good job!
I do agree. Being a neurodivergent parent can work, obviously. And even if we do well, we keep holding on to shame about being "too much" sometimes. Which is valid and it shows that you just don't want to hurt anyone around you in any way. But if they just love you and are educated about what's going on, then don't worry. You guys will do the right things. Not just them, not just you, together.
I agree. He's so sweet,i wish he saw how amazing and valuable he is like we see him
Worthy of everyone’s admiration!
I’m so happy he talked about how important it is to stay away from drugs and alcohol if you have a parent/family member that is schizophrenic. I hope he realizes how important his voice is. What a wonderful person!
I stayed away from drugs and alcohol before I knew I had bipolar disorder and I definitely believe it is part of why I am firstly still alive at 40 but also med-free for 15 years. Early therapy was also part of that . And very tolerant friends and partners. But I'm so glad I never went down the road of drugs and alcohol; it helped give me the best fighting chance for the happiness I have today.
I have schizoaffective bipolar type and I'm a recovering meth and heroin addict. I'm only 21 but I'm trying to stay clean. I mean, drugs are just instant psychosis it's crazy. I'll see people and hear people immediately upon doing drugs and I'm glad I'm on a better path for sure. So so glad they mention that
Or just in general
@@digitalllbath You are doing a great job, stay clean
Yes! Facts! 😇
You should never feel embarrassed, you are a stronger and more loving father than most that I've seen.
I totally agree. I have my issues but my family comes first. Their wellbeing is what really matters ❤
Brandon is so inspiring. This interview actually taught me a lot. Not only about schizophrenia, but also about "life-stuff". Many kids with "normal" dads don't have that good of the relationship as he has with his daughter.
"She has no idea how amazing she's going to be. That's my favorite thing about her."
As a new dad, that one hit the feels.
I hope she never loses the ability to ask questions in such a respectful way. He has raised a great kid. Thank you for sharing your story! This world is mostly an awesome place and full of gentle hearted ppl like you. Keep spreading love and positive vibes. Cheers from Canada! 🍁
Is that your daughter looking down a rifle's sights? god bless you sir! lol
@@KingZealotTactics my niece!
“do you like helping your dad?”
“yes, because it’s spending time with him.” ❤️
I keep seeing comments about him but his wife has to be pretty incredible to have helped raised this courageous young lady and be so supportive of her husband. What a blessing she is
I wish he weren’t ashamed of his schizophrenia. It’s not his fault, it’s just how his brain is, and that’s okay! I hope he figures that out soon, bless him
I think he figured that out already. Also, he is more than his schizophrenia.
I think his message is that he wants the rest of the world to understand that too.
Well said
It's not his fault to be ashamed either, it's a consequence of the stigma in society. He shouldn't be ashamed bc there shouldn't be a stigma.
Carebears 😍😍 I'm 43 but they are my childhood favorite lol, sorry off topic, I so agree with your comment 😊
I like how Kye always looks at her dad when talking about him😌 You can tell she loves him and cares about him a lot
She absolutley does love and care for him a lot😊
I think those are confirmation looks though.
He has such a good personality and I don't find him awkward at all. Actually he seems very loving, natural, personable, genuine, informative, kind, wise and funny! Your daughter is so mature and beautiful! Keep strong man
He’s struggling with himself every day and still a better dad than a lot of mfs out here ❤bless him
I love this guy. He hasn’t given up on himself. He’s raised an awesome daughter. He’s improved the world.
Schizophrenia, Bipolar, Depression, ADHD/Autism, and borderline all run in my Family on both sides.
We are a family that has severe trauma from our struggles in mental health, but we always try to stick together.
I empathize greatly greatly with them all, and couldn't thank Thank them all more for sharing your story publicly .
I have borderline personality disorder and bipolar depression and acute anxiety it's wicked I wouldn't wish it on anyone
I have been diagnosed officially with PTSD and ASD with acute anxiety. Each disorder is it's own struggle, but I've come to find an acceptance in my diagnosis and that has really helped the daily living issues.
I wish you the best in your mental health journey ❤
@@trailer_trash_Barbieвсего вам доброго.
As someone who's stepdad (Pretty much dad as he's been there since I was little) has schizoaffective disorder, I can tell these two are troopers, and he has nothing to be embarrassed of. He seems like a proper top notch bloke. And omg when he cried, that brought a tear to my eye.
Brandon is very articulate and self-aware. He gives me hope for a loved one who has the same diagnosis.
Me too !
I’m sure he has climbed many mountains his entire life and he has not finally made it to the top where he can enjoy his life!! Everyday is a battle and he has won! He obviously had to fight very hard for himself and get help himself! He’s an amazing person who has never given up!!
The way he wiped away his tears while he talked at certain points 🥺 Brandon, thank you for being brave enough to share your story. I pray for light on you and your family!
I join my light with yours for them🌟💖💫
How would you define love? "It's the ability to tolerate someone for long periods of time" -- That is actually the best description of love I've ever heard!
Yes, his daughter is brilliant, but that's probably due (to a great extent) to how brilliant he is. He raised her kindly and with his good heart made her understand what really matters in life. They are both lucky to have each other. Wish you all the best💙
PD: I hope he'll come to realize there's absolutely nothing he should be ashamed of.
I struggle with schizoaffective disorder as well, hearing this story has made me feel less alone in this world. Thank you.
You are not alone Laz.... We're here for you...im herr for u
The most wonderful about this channel, is that it shows cases that used to be kept under the carpet for too long, it takes us closer to people like you, helping us to understand you more, to be prepared of how to act, when something happens to you while you're having a crisis or spacing out, or whatever it is that's causing you your illness.
You're not alone, you may never have too many people in your life (and probably that's a good thing from a point of view), but you'll have those who'll be just enough and worthy to stay by your side.
Like someone who is missing a leg or something and learns to live with what he has, thus you must keep on living with your struggle, embracing your fears and becoming stronger and stronger. Just a small step day-by-day. And my tip: use humor even the blackiest in your darkest hours. It helps!
I'm so sure it's not easy at all and I'm speaking without dealing with what you do, we all have our own issues, but whenever you feel really down in a quite deep hole alone, try to remember that some people around the world (like us, watching these videos) and near your circle, are thinking of you and are worried about you! So, you are not alone, try to remember this! 😊🍀
Your voice is important and your perspective is needed in this world!
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@@pixie23 couldn’t have said it better, I really do love this channel
If people treated mental health as cancer what a difference the world would be
My dad has mental health issues he never got diagnosed and we all suffered.. this man being so open.. his love for his daughter.. ugh crying
Took my dad years just to seek treatment. I don’t think he’s even taking his meds and I’m 100 % positive he is schizophrenic.
I grew up with a dad with schizophrenia, without the kindness Brandon has, such a beautiful human being and his family is so lucky to have him in their lives.
The way that this child is treated respectfully by her parents by informing her and talking to her with truthful yet age appropriate words is really encouraging.
Me and my dad both have schizoaffective disorder. We both deal with the stigma from it. Every time I look in the mirror I see my dad. This was SO awesome to see being talked about. Thank you so so much
I think of it as any other disease. Alcohol, drugs,gambling. I'm diagnosed with bad anxiety, though I've never heard of good anxiety...lol
I'm bipolar 1 and 2, I have a heart disease, I'm in Remission of Hodgkins Lymphoma back at 23. I'll be 51 next month, still in Remission.
I used to do all I can to keep the focus from me at social gatherings. We all know it's easier to focus on someone else, than to look in there own back yard...
I'm sorry, I understood when you said it's awesome to ya when your talked about. People definitely need to check themselves to remind them that there not qualified to judge anyone
I had so much shame and guilt when I used heroin for 13 straight yrs.
Once I started learning more about the drug, what is done to me and my daughter
He is very brave to speak so openly. He’s working so hard at being a good parent. His daughter is so smart and aware.
Your daughter is so lucky to have such a loving father. When she teared up when you were saying how amazing she was, that feeling is one of the most important in the world
The fact that he is talking openly about mental health is one of the best things he can do for his child’s development and health in the future. I’m 24 and am just now learning to identify and describe feelings because I didn’t have that growing up
That was by far the most eye-opening interview you gave done this far. Having men talk about their mental health and relationships with their diseases is so valued. Thank you Brandon for sharing your story.
One of my best friends in the world has schizoaffective disorder, and his story is similar to this man’s. Over part of the 16 years I’ve known him, I watched him go from a college student who worked, lived by himself, and had a steady job, to completely losing his grip on reality. He skipped town with a traveling group and moved across the country. During that time he used a lot of drugs and didn’t care of himself at all. When he came back he never was able to live a steady life again. He would hold down jobs for a few months, but would always end up losing them. Now he lives off of SSDI and govt assistance (no judgement, just stating how his life changed drastically), but is medicated, is a cat rescuer and still has the same wonderful sense of humor he’s always had. Thankfully he now is more self aware of his triggers and is able to live alone, with some assistance from his family.
I understand unfortunately. Thank you for being such a good friend
My uncle developed schizophrenia after he was in the gulf War and doesn't talk to anyone besides his parents and it makes me so sad. I wish nothing but the best for this wonderful man and his family!!
This is one of the most thought provoking interviews I have seen in a while.
What does it make you think of?
@@aghoulinthewhould everything . the wonders of the human brain , societies natural lack of empathy . Self blame.m, Self Acknowledgement , therapy thru honesty . Everything
I’m 50, been in treatment since 14. Started with depression, then bipolar, now schizoeffective.
Married 22 years. Husband is best to help with all of my issues, never condemnation.
I have 2 teen boys. My younger is 14 and recently diagnosed with bipolar.
Like you- I never knew I could love something as much as a child. So thankful for mine, just like you. 💕
Thank you for sharing
You’re extremely lucky to have a husband and children. I only have depression which is lucky, but I don’t think I’ll ever get a loving family of my own .
@@Randompotatoes-qs7bm I didn’t marry till 31! Don’t give up hope that someone needs you as much as you need them!
I love how he's named them as a tribute to The Witches of Eastwick!
I love how much love this family has also, it's absolutely beautiful
I really wish people didn't feel the need to apologize or feel embarrassed about crying. It's perfectly normal!
The daughter is so darn sweet. Recently I found out a way to cheat hallucinations as a schizophrenic… a man said that he pulls out his phone to video them and if they show up on the camera they’re real and if not, not real 😊
That’s a great tip !!!
What a great idea... phones to the rescue again!
That's genius until you go to record someone who doesn't want to be recorded in public. Lol
That's a great tip & you don't need to record.
@@leahwilliams9333 if its in public, then chances are its legal. if its in private, there could be some issues.
I hope Brandon reads the comments on this video and knows what an incredible father he is. He may struggle with sschizoaffective disorder but he has risen above a lot of dads that don't have diagnosis. Kye is so lucky to have a dad with such a tender heart that is always open to conversation and can help her to live a healthy, full life. I am so sorry you have felt like you had to hide for so long. You are breaking the stigma by doing this interview. Thank you SBSK and thank you Brandon!
This touched my heart so deeply. What a great relationship.
No one chooses to be mentally ill. Him and his family are amazing. I’m glad they have each other 🖤🌺🖤
“Sometimes it’s just easier to be alone”. I’m so much more at peace when I’m alone. I totally get it. Though I also have lost contact with nearly everybody I’ve known.
You're a good father, your daughter seems like she will be a compassionate, upstanding citizen who will make the world a more intelligent and better place.
Better than a lot of parents I’ve seen raise their kids
The fact that Kye just naturally assumes everyone loves their parents shows what a good mom and dad she has. :)
"sometimes its easier to be alone" "but at the exact same time it gets very lonely"
that one hit home
I have a dad who is schizophrenic and this video reminds me of him. I miss him so much… i hope he is happy in heaven now….
Wow! She is so mature for her age. Huge respect to her and her dad to have the courage to speak up about this disorder on this channel!
I appreciate that they are prioritizing the mental health of their children, through counselors etc. Growing up in a house with a parent having a chronic disease, I have seen how easy it is for other people to get left behind accidentally. The conscious effort really warms my heart! Such a lovely documentation.
Agreed, well said.
Lived it, I mean the part about having a parent with mental illness, being left behind and falling through the cracks, not the other part.
Yes! My heart was applauding him for realizing what she needs.
Completely agree
I love these two. I bet you could write an award winning movie putting together random anecdotes from their time together. She is soooooo ahead of her age and has a soothing effect on him. He is an adoring father. Love them.
i was thinking exactly the same thing, they are a movie/documentary worthy duo 100%
This guy is doing so well. Imagine struggling every minute of every day and still being able to function and raise an incredible daughter. He’s obviously so loving and capable. I hope he can find a way to see how incredible he is.
"He could be your brother." My older brother is schizophrenic, his dad was schizophrenic (ended up taking his own life in front of my brothers face when he was 5 years old) and I have a friend who is schizoaffective. My brother was our protector when we were younger. He was intelligent, got all A's, and when he was 17 he moved away. Because of circumstances I didn't see him again for 5 years and by that time he had gotten into drugs, alcohol, wrecked a car, and was fully in the grip of schizophrenia. My brother goes long periods of time where you can't get ahold of him, can't reach him mentally, he is in that well. Down that hole. I would love to be this man's friend. Everyone meets you where they are at, and you meet them where they are at.
I'm very very sorry that this has happened to you and your family. I hope your brother is alright and your family is safe
I feel like you should try being your brothers friend first though and try to reach him. Start from there
PLease give him the book 'Your soul's plan' by Robert Schwartz. It might resonate with him on a deep level. If it does then that's his way out.
I got it at 15 and have a similar circumstance. I love all three of my little brothers to death, but I understand they can’t be around me all the time. I’m sorry for you, but I’d bet that your brother loves you very much.
My son is in hospital with this...very comforting to see this guy n his lovely daughter. He gives me hope..
I truly hope your son is well enough to leave the hospital soon! I hope this does not offend you but I will pray for him and you. Take care of yourself because you can't be there for him if you don't.💜
@@kimberlymarino7344 aw thankyou. and prayers most welcome x
Good luck to you and your boy.
Good luck
One of my parents had schizoaffective disorder, already passed away. They were the sweetest and most humble person that I've ever met, but it was hard growing up because of the crises and we always lived in small homes. It requires a lot of patience, it can definitely be an isolating experience for both the person living with the illness and the family. I didn't cry for years because it was hard understanding the emotions I went through with zero help from professionals, but now that my loved one is not here anymore I cry when thinking about them. My parent wouldn't have been able to explain the disorder like Brandon, he's very self-aware so I guess it's different for all people. But I can guarantee the people living with the illness are very smart and so strong. He also seems very sweet and it warms my heart.
It's hard for a child to process seeing a parent deal with schizoaffective disorder, but I hope his daughter has sincere support and that she grows up to be a patient person. It's easy to make mistakes when your emotions get bad and you feel like no one understands. Wishing the best to anyone living with this illness. They deserve love, care and understanding.
So much I want to say. I can feel his exhaustion. But to the daughter, shes absolutely gorgeous. His gift
I wanna tell him that he shouldn't be embarrassed about anything. Brandon is extremely brave. This story is absolutely heartwarming. And his daughter is amazing ❤️
I needed this interview today at this moment. I came to RUclips looking for something to relate to. Schizoaffective has taken almost everything from me and I’m building back but today I am tired. Thank you for what you do and thank you for being courageous and speaking out.
Bethany it is very tiring trying to be "normal" when your brain chemicals aren't doing normal things. If you stay open to hearing about how others with our disorders feel it is easier to recognize when you are spiralling down. Brandon said that well.
A therapist once said that we each have a garbage can full of things we don't want anyone else to see. We sit on the lid of that
can to keep them all hidden inside. Sometimes we get tired, sad, lonely and get tipped off the lid by something stronger that day. We have to use all of our coping skills to deal with that "thing" and make it weaker so we can climb back up and control the lid.
I believe in you and all of us who daily fight for a "normal" life.
@@sharynhay9993 thank you so much for saying that. It helps to know people understand. This week has been one of the most stressful weeks of my life and definitely the most stressful since my last inpatient hospitalization last year. I feel like I am relearning every single thing about my life and building everything back except I’m also a homeschooling mom of 4, running my husbands paperwork side of his business and a million other things. This week just a series of random events happened in rapid succession and I truly felt today it might break me and I can’t go back to where I was. I want to hold on to these coping mechanisms I’ve learned. I’m going to keep fighting. I am just so exhausted by life kicking me when I’m fighting to get back up from the disorder kicking me down. It seems life and the disorder just take turns. I’m not into pity parties, and I know this week will end and I will see better days. I’m just so so tired. Thank you for listening and for your heartfelt reply.
@@bethanyrochester9699 I see you. *hugs*
@@JJBAS-bv6ki you’re so kind. Thank you 💖
@@bethanyrochester9699 I see you, Bethany. You have a lot on your plate. Homeschooling mom of four, wow! You’re amazing just to be doing that! Bethany, don’t give up, don’t forget how beautiful and awesome you are.
I love this family so much. He’s doing a LOT more than most Dad’s these days even though he has a severe disability.
My grandma had schizophrenia. My dad and I have a very large age difference (believe it or don’t but he was born in 1936) and during the time period he grew up in, such cases were not treated well at all. His mom was lobotomized for her condition, which makes me so so sad considering how kind and loving my dad described her to be before. I’m just glad that the stigma around schizophrenia and schizo-affective diagnosis’ is being seen in a much better light. I like that this video portrays this man and his daughter so well, compared to my grandma’s situation, it’s nice to see someone like this humanized.
"I'm not afraid of you finding out of I just tell you." That hit me real hard. The peace and confidence you see in a person who is no longer chained up.
Freedom
My mother was schizophrenic so I understand the position of the daughter and I am very proud of her.
Agree. I wish that a certain someone I care about could find the courage to open up to me. I’d consider it an honor to know that I was trusted that much. I feel like that’s becoming more unlikely with every passing day, and it hurts. 😔
as a schizophrenic person I love these videos, we need to destigmatize it, us hiding from the world only makes it worse, so I appreciate how respectful the comments are. If you are not schizophrenic please stick up for us beyond this video.
gotchu g
yes, the world still needs you! will be thinking of you and advocating for you in my little corner of the world.
❤️❤️
This is a beautiful comment, thank you for sharing. I’m not schizophrenic and I don’t any mental health conditions but I’ve learnt so much from this channel. I am more understanding towards others and empathetic! We’re all the same after all
My dad is schizophrenic. I’ve seen two really bad break downs. My childhood friend or 16 years is schizophrenic as well. A lot of us can definitely understand whether we are dealing with it or have family/friends dealing with it. We see you.
My niece is diagnosed as schizoaffective with paranoia. There is no hiding possible for her and she stays in denial, refuses her medications. I just want to say "good job" to Brandon for realizing his issue and doing all he can do to love his daughter and stay in the moment. Good luck to you Brandon. Please make sure your daughter knows she cannot cure you. But she can love and support you. God Bless.
Watching these videos are therapy for me. I sit here & smile, laugh, cry, nod & sometimes feel the pain they are talking about. I just found this man 3 days ago. I’m sorry I forgot your name but what I do know is you’re an angel without wings. I can’t get any of my housework done because I’m glued to your videos. All of these precious people with their disabilities need you to help us understand what it’s like. I’ve learned so much already. My heart is full of love for them & their parents (and siblings) I’m 58 & I have 5 mental disorders. I think you are a blessing & so are these people you’re interviewing. God bless y’all!
Really beautiful how he talks about his wife. That’s love; the way his day-to-day marriage relationship works, such comfort.
I had 12 wonderful years with my wife, who had schizo-effective disorder. I spent a lot of time helping her navigate what was real and untangle / interpret the auditory hallucinations she frequently had to deal with.
I wasn't always as patient as I could have been but it was a privilege to be trusted so much by someone I loved with such a difficult disease. Thank you for sharing this families story.
What an humble spirit you have, Adam! Thank you for being your wife's hero when she needed you most, and for staying open to the world, that's a real man! 💪👍🙏💖🌈
Thank you for what you did!
Is it the Adam Gardiner from florida?
Lots of love to you Adam
This video means a lot to me man, i want this guy to know that this video right here has made me finally speak about what i'm going through. I'm 31. ❤️
So scared of what's coming, but im talking to a professional right now and it feels like im finally seeing light. This was the little push in my back i needed
I want to write so much more man, but there's just so many words. Im just thankful for this video to cross my path.
@@DjVerox best of luck mate
Yes, good luck! And remember how cool and brave this guy is when you feel like giving up!
He really doesn’t seem all that different from everybody else. He is well spoken.
"still hiding and keeping secrets from the world just in order to be part of it." Wow. That was so well said.
I feel so bad for all the shame and guilt he carries. Imagine feeling that way on top of dealing with his hallucinations and constant fear and low mood? It's like feeling embarrassed you have cancer... it's an illness, he didn't ask for it, and you can tell he's such a kind soul. He didn't deserve it.
I never understood how much you can love someone until I had a child….so true.
As an adult person with autism and gnarly anxiety (among other things), you two? Make me feel MORE comfortable because you're authentic. You're real. You're not wearing masks to hide yourselves. You talk about the good times and describe the encompassing darkness of the bad.
That... to me, is what I hope more people could do and be.
Beautiful. I was raised by a schizophrenic mother who is a wonderful person and so much more than her illness. There have been ups and downs in our relationship of course but she always made sure my sister and I were taken care of. Watching this video and hearing Brandon speak so eloquently and so open and honest truly brought tears to my eyes. Seeing the relationship between him and his daughter felt like looking in a mirror. That little girl has such a kind and compassionate heart already at only 9 yrs old. She will do wonders for humanity. Thank you for this video ❤️
Amber, you are so lovely for saying so to the world. Love to you and others who are so strong,
Amber, I was also raised by a mother with schizophrenia. She was the most loving kind person I’ve ever met on this planet, she was my best friend. There are so many misconceptions, this is a great video.
My roommate who is one of my best friends has schizophrenia and bipolar. I’m probably one of the few friends she has told. She does an amazing job of masking this but I can see the days where she is struggling more. This has put a lot into perspective.
Hey man. If by any chance you’re reading this, know that you’re an awesome dude and I’d be flattered to have a friend like you by my side.
I don’t know, just felt I had to say this
The best father of the year award has got to go to this man right here. He is a good man, I myself have schizophrenia as well as both of my parents and do my best to avoid the topic as well as much as I can. It takes strength to talk about your battles in front of a larger audience and my respect for this man is unfathomable. You’re awesome dude