I don’t think anyone would take that as a negative! Actually, one time in 6th grade they gave us these little pine trees for Arbor Day to plant when we got home. I was rubbing it on my face because it tickled and felt cool, and suddenly I heard a laugh. I stopped and looked, and the boy I had a crush on was staring at me laughing. He said, “You remind me of my dog.” To this day, that’s still one of the nicest compliments I’ve ever gotten.
I was sexually, physically, mentally and emotionally abused by my family as a little girl. I have an excellent therapist and a husband who loves and accepts me as I am. It is possible. Big hugs.
Is it just me, or is this guy one of the purest of hearts. I don't know him personally but I really get the sensation that he is just a very kind man. And the older he gets, the more loving and kind he will become. I just wish we could all be more like him.
He is living like Jesus or the Buddha would've wanted all of us too. We should up look up to this man, the essence of masculinity is compassion and protection of those in need.
I have been diagnosed with Asperger's and Depression and it comforts me to watch this video. I thought that no one would be able to love me because I don't even love myself.
Start a discipline of treating yourself with kindness every waking hour, and as much as possible. It doesn't mean indulging in whatever feels good... It's also doing the hard things that are necessary. Your heart knows what it really needs. Develop trust in yourself. Put signs up in places you frequent to remind yourself to trust yourself. When you are depressed, write messages to your future self on how to treat yourself better. I also struggle with depression and I know we can't fight for our glory every day, but fight for it when you can. Others will see your love and want to be a part of it, whether they know it or not. The secret of love is that it's contagious, and it starts with us.
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven. The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved. JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16 Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.' Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late. We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now... 'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen. 🎉❤
"I don't need to solve or to understand your depression" - here's a great message for those caring for someone who is struggling emotionally. The first thing anyone needs is for their state to be accepted, rather than "fixed".
This man, his girlfriend, everything they do.. I'm a very negative person and I have my own stuff but I can feel you both restore my faith in humanity. Thank you both for everything you do, for the way you are.
Es muy lindo tu comentario ! Son contadas las personas que nos dan la posibilidad de pensar "que no todo ésta perdido". Como en el manto de la noche (humanidad), las constelaciones nos señalan ésa verdad ! Saludos.
I knoooow! Whenever I’m feeling negative I always seem to find this channel. This dude is like an angel on earth. He is doing God’s work in helping us complex humans understand each other and to connect. I feel so much more conscious of my compassion for others and consideration of what others might be going through when I watch these videos.
I'm currently in a very dark place, and your videos are bringing back my faith in humanity. Thank you for everything you guys have done and continue to do.
Hope you are doing okay a couple months on from typing this, and thank you for being brave enough to say something! Seeing the videos on this channel also make my life brighter than I was able to previously make it for myself. I think it's a sign that all things are meant to be the way they are. Everyone learns and grows at different paces, and EVERYONE on EARTH needs help from EVERYONE ELSE! That is SPECIFICALLY what society was intended for!
@@cashtaylor9804 Hey! Still in a dark place, but I'm waiting for medication and have since then been able to surround myself with a supportive circle that I'm beginning to warm up to! Thank you for the reply :)
@@conanmcclanahan1069 Hey! I'm sorry for not responding, at the time 2 months ago I was at my worst. Since then, I finally went to my doctor about these issues, and now I am awaiting medication. I also (very luckily) found myself a new and supportive friend group that I am very grateful for.
@@conanmcclanahan1069 It deleted my response to you? I sent a similar message as the last one, but included an apology for not responding 2 months ago due to that being the worst of it. I'm doing much better now! Still feel low moments, but having a support system makes it that much easier to stay positive. And yeah! This channel does wonders on bringing awareness to mental health. Quite possibly the biggest impact I had so far to get me into taking the first step on my mental health journey. There's a lot of stigma about sharing these things that I used to feel anxiety over, but it took a RUclips channel for me to learn that I was wrong my whole life about emotional intelligence and expression. It's not natural for us to keep it repressed, but when it's learned it's hard to unlearn.
They are truly our saving grace. If only we could care for them physically, as well as they care for us. I just don't feel we have a handle on the best (yet most economical nutrition) for them, or ways to keep them as healthy as we could. Everyone should be able to experience the daily, healing love of a pet, but we don't always make it easy. I'll think on that.
@@sherryd.3425 I agree, I also wish there were better food options for our beloved pets! I'm always thinking those pellets can't be very good for them, even the "best" made ones.
Dogs & cats know when we're sad, that's the beautiful part of it. They know and want to make sure we're okay. They are pure love, like angels in different forms.
He has helped her build herself back up, rather than hand her the hammer to break herself down. Idk if that makes sense to others but it's just important to be in a relationship with someone that won't manipulate your mental health vulnerabilities I feel.
When you really love someone, it's hard to watch them struggle, but easy to not run away. Even on the worst days, you don't want to run, you just want to learn how best to help.
Absolutely, being brave and vocal are key parts towards recovery and self awareness. It brings back the control someone feels once the limbic system is activated into safety protection mode of please, fight, flight and/or freeze.
As a mid 40's male, I've learned to not listen to my brain anymore. I just live and don't care what others think. I try to be a good husband and a better father to my 2 girls. Took me a lot of years to get there.
So do I. I see more of my struggle represented in Alyssa than anyone, ever. And all I see is a strong, smart, beautiful and worthy person in her who is deserving of the world. This video reminds me that I am just the same and deserving of the same. Just like you.
The same, I wish this for everyone. Every person deserves this kind of person in their lives. 🙏 Also wish there was someone this compassionate and caring in my life. Two beautiful people ♡ Keep it up, you guys are very loving and I think you two are amazing. Much love from the Netherlands!
I am a retired psychologist and happened across this video and frankly you two are super clear and conscious of your beings and it is a joy to see the love you give to each other. A wonderful couple that are supporting each other on your paths whatever they may be. A great example to many couples today struggling not with maybe clinical labels but just people not aware of their being ness. You are a light as a couple
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven. The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved. JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16 Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.' Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late. We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now... 'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen. 🎉❤
Totally wrong. She is 100% Spirit. This perfection makes it an impossibility that she has these disorders. Recovery is not medical or mental. It is knowing the Truth and changing the belief that these disorders are real to the fact that they are lies. You can’t trust the 5 senses here.
I doubt Chis will see this on a 3 year old video (maybe, this one is about his personal life and relationship with his life partner) but I really have to say what an amazing person you are. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the good you do in this world. You are a literal ray of light, spreading love and joy to millions. If I could impact even 1/1000000th of the people you have, I would have accomplished my goals in life. Thank you for all you do Chris, you are a living saint. You make the world a much brighter, happier, loving, and more beautiful place.
Rejection Sensitive Disorder is common for ADHD folks. it is SO exhausting and devastating to think everyone hates you 24/7 and really destroys you mentally. I relate to you so much and am so grateful to you for sharing your experience.
Damn. I was diagnosed ADHD in the 70s and my parents didn't like what Ritalin did to me so I was left to deal with it on my own without any therapeutic or dietary help. I mean, I'm glad for it because I've learned so much on my own but there's so much I still don't know. I am always feeling rejected and it's affected every friendship I've had in my 50 years. I'm so grateful for my children and loving husband who accept me for who I am, but knowing that would have saved me a lot of heartache the past 45 years. Thank you for this comment because it's provided me with a new avenue of introspection and healing. Bless.
Your comment was the first time I’ve heard of this disorder. I’ve spent hours researching it and it was like reading articles about myself. It all makes so much sense and I can actually see a way to incorporate this into my own self-healing journey. Thank you so much 🙏🏻
@@_lynno I am glad that it helped! I too only found out about it recently, and I can assure you that at least knowing what is going on with you does make life easier. I was seeing a therapist at the time and was actually really pissed at him for not ever mentioning RSD because that was really the only reason I was in therapy. I found out about it through a friend of mine and was stunned that a licensed psychologist was less educated on this topic than a teenage girl. Knowing why I am the way I am gave me relief and made me feel less isolated because I always thought that I was the only one who was struggling with relationships in this way. I hope that in the future more people will know about RSD because you cannot properly heal before you know the cause of your pain.
Wow I have extreme adhd and I always feel like this, to the point where isolate and I only have 1 friend left. I didn’t know this was adhd related. Thank you
When Chris asked what it's like to think that nobody likes you it cut right to my core when I saw her tear up. Devastating is about right. It's an awful feeling.
@@kimmiske7821 I'm sure that she didn't mean to hurt your feelings. It's a hard question for a son to ask of his mother. It probably guts her to hear her son ask her that.
I couldn’t answer that one, if someone asked me. I think she’s so brave! 💕 Chris is amazing, though he didn’t understand perfectly, he’s always being open, always trying. I dream of such a relationship. Yet I feel uncomfortable sometimes even, when others are so kind, as I am not used to it. I always ended up in a relationship, where I had someone drag me down, when I tried to stay, and endure, even help them. I used to ignore warning signs, thinking I didn’t deserve otherwise, and that was as good as it gets. It’s wonderful knowing, others have the right support, through their mental health struggles.❤️❣️
@@kittykaitcandykillet8160 there's few feelings worse in this world than the constant nagging thought I have which roughly equates to "Nobody likes you. And you deserve it because you are unlikable and utterly worthless/useless. You are no good to anybody and that's why you don't have any friends."
Lots of comments about how great Chris is and how lucky Alyssa is to have someone like Chris who tries to understand her. Kudos to Chris. But oh my gosh, Alyssa! Your level of self realization is inspiring. When you have those dark thoughts - the negative things you tell yourself about yourself - it can be all-consuming. It takes such strength of character and a high level of compassion to change the narrative in your own head and challenge those thoughts. Chris sounds like a supportive partner, but ALYSSA did and is doing the hard work of challenging those negative thoughts and living with her diagnoses while not letting them define the person she is. Mental health issues are a struggle, and it takes a strong person to find the energy and self-compassion to fight through to a place of patience and acceptance while understanding you might fall back into bad days and have to dig your way out again. Alyssa, you are inspirational. Keep going, Queen!
Definitely agree with you, I found it super motivational, I feel I can relate to Alyssa's pain and to see someone approach their own struggles with such wisdom and heart has given me a needed boost that maybe I can too. Slowly but surely rebuilding my social media around people like this.
Bro this video is amazing I felt like embarrassed because of how much they showed us. I had this feeling like I shouldn't be here, and yet I'm thankful because I learned so much and I'm really grateful that these guys shared such a raw real part of their life with us. I think what they do is amazing and I wish them the bestest life.
@@rubiesofgold7698 Exactly what I thot. Modern day in the sense that we are more real and honest and I think maybe even the times are a little harder too.
love is patient and kind. love is not jealous.mitbdoes not brag does not get puffed up does not behave indecently does not look for its own interests does not become provoked. it does not keep account of the injury……it bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Her pause when he asked her how she felt when she thinks nobody likes her… I felt that, girl. To not be able to open your mouth because you won’t be able to hold it together. ❤️
This interview reminds me so much of my own relationship. I have depression and autism and my husband pours non-stop love into me. It has been really healing. We’ve been married nine and a half years.
We adopted 6 kids with varying degrees of Fasd. With that came additional diagnosis of clinical depression, ADHD, OCD, possible Bipolar, chromosome disorder, and others. So much of what you said is how some of my kids have felt for years, and a couple still feel that way. Thank you for being so incredibly open and honest about everything. You are a beautiful young lady.
Is FASD Fetal Alcohol Syndrome? I'm an alcoholic who got alcohol in the womb and was adopted when I was 16 months old. I think my diafnoses are Autism, depression and PTSD (complex PTSD if that was in the DSM-5 book.) Also an addict and was diagnosed with bipolar 2(?) But idk about bipolar. Maybe?? Has it been hard having kids with a slew or conditions? I feel like a lost cause because I have multiple conditions, like idk how to get help cause Idk what condition I need to treat. I really believe my PTSD and Autism are the big 2 for me. Thay is amazing you adopted your kids and I hope you're able to offer them the love and support rhey need! I was adopted from Russia and genuinely feel I wouldn't have lived much longer had I not been adopted. So I feel adoption is a very important way to he a parent as long but it requires a lot of love, patience and understanding for the child who has likely already been affected by trauma.
Chris's parents raised him to be a kind, respectful and thoughtful person. Alyssa - you are a wonderful, sweet and gentle soul. You both give me hope for humanity. ❤️
Once you are raised it's up to you to be a good person. He has taken the ball and run with it which is his choice. He does seem however to be blessed with an abundance of compassion and understanding
@@ScotsyCajn Hi Lydia! I'm a Lydia too, so like to say hi to my "sisters", never met a Lydia I didn't like. Also your comment really resonated with me, and what my daughter seems to be dealing with. I want to help her and often I feel helpless.
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven. The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved. JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16 Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.' Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late. We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now... 'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen. 🎉🎉
People who seek diagnosis' are victims and weak-minded and would prefer a crutch/wheelchair/sympathy rather than be able to walk with a slight limp. It blows me away how people like this don't realize that this mental illness nonsense is a first world phenomenon and the rest of the world / the rest of life doesn't just play a fiddle for themselves when things are tough. It's only a luxury afforded to those who have an extremely easy life and need to create drama and excuses.
@@Mr.Sr.Jr. for me, it's about change. Learning to accept what's going on in and around me so I can stay alive. Walk with a limp? Ha! I've spent my life (since age 3) crawling the muddy battlefield with my sword still up as best I can. A slight limp is what my horse had... I ditched it years ago.
I'm a proud sponsor of your channel. As a father of a special needs child that my wife and I adopted from Bulgaria, I can't thank you enough for all the wonderful people that you interview.
Thank you for being an amazing dad to your beautiful child ❤️ and thank you to your wife for taking the plunge with you as well. You're both amazing humans and parents ❤️❤
When Chris got choked up at the end... that was everything. All the pain, fear, confusion, joy, hope and love portrayed in the rest of the video... summed up in a single moment.
Thank you for this. This is so needed for young couples. I am 80, my hubbie is 82. We are married fir 61 yrs. Life is good. God bless you both for being so honest.💟
Believe me boyfriends/ husbands like Chirs exist ......my husband is one of them ...and thank god for these angels ...and Alyssa i have so much respect for you .....for expressing about what you went through and going through so beautifully...wish one day I can do that and help someone ...but for now thanks for doing this ....god bless ❤️
I had an abusive childhood in many ways. Nowadays, as a father, I try my best to raise my children the best way I can. And I would really like to meet his parents. They have done a remarkable job raising him. They should be on a video! I praise them!
This man has such an angelic persona. She's is blessed to have him as her partner, and also to the children and other adults with mental health diagnoses or physical disabilities. You all are overcomers! May God continue to bless you both in all your future endeavors! 🙏🙌🥰
his heart is good but he has an undefinable persona. if I was being unkind I would say he was sort of smug. but I love his channel. but he s not the best part of it.
She is an incredible human being, beautiful and strong. Listening to her felt like she was desribing me, I was diagnosed with the same at 25, but still find it dificult to find someone who I can feel like being myself is ok, so having relationships is so hard for me. So glad she has a wonderful and supportive boyfriend, such a blessing
His response to the question of “how is it to love someone with 5 mental health disorders” made me tear up. 😭 my fiancé is incredible and talks about me the way Chris talks about Alyssa. I have mental health disorders too and they are exhausted among many other things- to have a partner who is not just willing to but HAPPY to be beside you through it all is just… a dream.
Its the most important thing. I'm 40 and have never had someone so supportive as my partner is now. I've never really had someone love me like this before who's aware of all of my mental struggles and issues. He helps me feel like I can manage.
@@nincure I think that's lovely when you find your person. I hope you have a wonderful life together, loving, supporting and caring for each other. Once you have that everything else doable. Xx
I can’t imagine having a partner who loves and accepts you despite your mental health diagnoses. You two are a gift to the world. Thank you for your work, selflessness and care.
This video reminds me of my life partner and myself. Our names are Chris and Angie, and they’re Chris and Alyssa, and much like them it’s been just over 6 years since we’ve been dating. She has Autism and OCD and Epilepsy. I have been there with through it all and I couldn’t be more freaking lucky to have her. She’s been through an unbelievable amount of abuse and has seen some horrible stuff at a young age…it breaks my heart…I’m just so so grateful for her existence and the fact that I can be here to drown her in pure love and hopefully make her feel like things will be okay. The first thing I tell her (or text her if I have work in the mornings) is “Hey hun, just reminding you that you are so strong, and so beautiful”. I NEED her to feel comfortable, she deserves it the most out of anyone I’ve ever seen. Sorry for going on a ramble, I just like to tell other people how strong and beautiful she is.
I just wish I could give you a hug, Alyssa. Thank you for opening up and sharing your experience. I have been diagnosed with several mental health disorders over the past couple of years, as well, and your honesty and openness with your emotions really hit me.
The juxtaposition of bouncing back and forth between how she sees herself versus how Chris sees her was a great filming choice. Greatly depicts the emotional battles many families go through.
It’s so hard to have faith in humanity right now, but this channel makes me believe in human compassion. You guys are making a huge difference. Thank you ❤️
If this makes you feel better, the truth is we ARNT becoming more evil over time, we are just realizing how evil we already were. There will ALWAYS be more good in the world than evil and *the fact that everyone cares about it proves that*
ikr!! i started watching this channel when the world was falling apart and no one was listening to each other... but I always turn this on when I feel angry at other people. this always somehow pops up in my recommended right when I need it.
I really feel this way too. I haven't watched their videos in a while and I realized how much I missed them! It's really easy to get caught up in my personal stuff and close my heart off sometimes and this channel really opens it up!
Yes, SBSK is an oasis for the soul. God bless Chris& Alyssa, all the wonderful people he interviews, and the loveliest people on the Internet, this community!!! 🙏💖🌈
I am just like her and it's one of the reasons why I think I can't be in a relationship right now. But to see that she's found someone like him gives me hope.
I was beaten and isolated from age 8-12. I spent those 4 years in a room with a bed and dresser with nothing to do but stare at the walls. I was allowed out to clean up after my dad and ex stepmother, and go to school. I learned to not care what other people think of me. I made it through 4 years of basically solitary confinement, and nobody’s bad thoughts can phase me. I started having night terrors weekly about my dad and ex stepmother, and still do to this day. The moral of this diatribe is don’t care about other people’s thoughts. I care what my wife thinks and that’s about it.
I am so very heartbroken for you to have endured what you did. You are SO strong, and I genuinely hope you have a lot of love and happiness around you today.
In my opinion SBSK is unparalleled in its honesty, respect and interest in each others experiences and view on life. I have studied Psychology and will start my training for becoming a Therapist soon and I learned so much from you and the SBSK community, so I am forever grateful for the work and heart you put into this channel! Its humanity in its purest form. You both are so beautiful, strong people and I wish you all the best for your future.
Beauties thoughts and words, thank you, and all my best in your chosen vocation. You will be changing lives far beyond your clients, and that's wonderful! 👍🙏💖🌈
@Amber’s Imperfections Thank you so much! Yeah, in Germany it is quite a long journey to become a cognitive behavioral therapist - at least 5 years at university (masters degree) and about 4 more years of special training in the field to get approved as a therapist. :)
I'm autistic and ADHD (both diagnosed at 36 years old), GAD and depression, and this interview gives me so much strength. Seeing how much love involved in your story is amazing.
I have a form of ADHD with social anxiety and other things as well. I've been diagnosed with ADHD since 6 or 7 social anxiety almost 2 years ago. Stay strong and positive
I was diagnosed at 50 with ADD, in addition to depression and anxiety that I've had since my teens. The diagnosis and treatment have changed so much for the positive in my life! Ironically, I had become a teacher for students with disabilities 8 years before, lol. ADD had insidiously impacted my self esteem and life choices in big ways, learning that it is neurological was like, "HA! I knew I wasn't just ___ (dumb, a f-up, etc.) But I was also a better artist because of the ability to hyper focus (puts me into a state where my subconscious and conscious are communicating more) and developed empathetic/intuitive strengths. So grateful that I was diagnosed.
she is so smart. when she said that you have a responsibility to love yourself so that you can better love and support others. the best piece of advice i've honestly ever heard in my life. i love the two of them together
I started crying when he talked about how he feels about her. I've been in a relationship for the past three years and this week she told me she needed a break because my mental health problems are too much for her right now. It happened so many times I just lost all hope that she would accept me and love me regardless of my depression. It's so hard knowing that people see me as a burden. I'm trying to be understanding but it really hurts to think that she can only see the bad things in me, specially now that I'm down and can't really see the good things myself. I wish she could see me the way he sees Alyssa, she's is so lucky to have him as her partner
Understanding takes time. I don't think he could just make click and go forward. I don't know how your partner is, or how has behaved in the past, so I'm not gonna tell you to hang in there at any costs, but give your partner time to live this too. As long as the communication is clear and fluid, taking some time for yourself to reorganize ideas and help you better is not a bad idea. I wish you the best in life, with or without a partner, cause you are, as Alyssa has said, your best cheerleader!!!!!!" loads of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Please do not take offense…. Each of you are beautiful, amazing and loved. Love is not a word love is a feeling and you deserve your own Chris. You deserve a partner that will stand by you no matter what. A partner that sees your heart not your brain. If your partner can’t handle you at your worst then they don’t deserve your best.
Therapy/nutrition/ and drugs maybe. Nutrition and supplements are great. We want to be as fair as possible to people, but your health is #1 and someone one day will see it as just a chance to help someone they love. Someone I've finally met treats me that way. I know it's hard. I'm sorry.
I would say, you are still lucky. You have a partner that is being honest with you - even it hurt your feelings or let you down, they chose to be honest with you. Do you know how rare that is? That's why you see so many cheating couples and broken trust.
The self-awareness at 5:30 is something PAINFULLY relatable to those of us with certain disorders. It's like, "I KNOW this is wrong, I know I don't deserve it, I know I shouldn't think these things, but why am I still thinking it?" It's genuinely so devastating, and it feels like being stuck in quicksand..
Every time I forget what love is, every time I feel like i'm alone and nobody will understand me and that love doesn't exist, I watch this video. I truly had never seen something this pure before. I love this channel, you guys taught me so much about so many things that I can't ever say thank you enough.
The love of God is unconditional, as His nature is to love. We love, because He first loved us. His name is Jesus Christ and He is your Heavenly Father ❤️😊
Aw. When Chris said "to me, in my eyes you're perfect", it was honestly like he was talking to me, the way he looks at Alyssa felt like he was speaking that to my soul, and it truly helped me feel more accepted. Love their love, may we all be so blessed to see the love that surrounds us ❤
“ I love you exactly how you are” I was lucky enough to have a man that said this to me all the time but he passed away from brain tumor complications 😢 I wish there were more men like him❤
As someone diagnosed with CPTSD , ADHD, OCD, Major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, and a slew of other acronyms, hearing Alyssa's experience and seeing her express herself in such a raw manner was really powerful. Having all these labels can feel incredibly isolating, shameful and intimidating. Self doubt is a mighty foe, and it makes you think you're alone, unloved and undeserving. Alyssa's story is sooo validating, and it was a relief hearing that someone out there understands. It was super brave of her to come on here, there are so many more of us out here experiencing the same struggles and we often don't realize that. Thank you Alyssa, for sharing your story, and being so vulnerable. 💛
Her soul can be seen through her eyes! All those emotions and feelings erupting as she thinks about it, at the start of the video. Very moving interview. God bless you both, Alyssa and Christopher!
I am amazed at how very articulate Alyssa is in all her responses, she really explains her illnesses in a way that makes it understandable for others to grasp. Thank you!
Thank you for making this video, my partner and I each go through our share of mental health struggles, Autism, ADHD, OCD, Anxiety, and Depression, some shared some not. This just gives a wonderful perspective on how important it is to communicate and ask for help during low times, especially when both partners are in a low time, it's so crucial to have a network of friends and family who will support you as well. Really needed this today as we both had a pretty rough day yesterday. We have also been together 5, almost 6 years now, and having someone who listens and understands me so well has been so healing, but challenging in some ways since we're so similar.
When Chris said “You are worthy, you are worthy times a million” my heart just melted. He is the sweetest you both are!!! I love this interview! Thanks! Keep up the love ❤️ omgoodness!!!!! I just watched the end 😭 U2 Bless U ❤️❤️❤️
As someone who had lost faith in dating for myself and for other people, having been in abusive relationships, being abused because of my mental conditions, seeing how awful and abusive people can be.. THIS interview restored my faith in humanity. That good people do exist. Y’all two are the sweetest and so amazing people for the work you do and the people you help. Thank you for all you do. ❤️
Hey, I know this is old but I just wanted to tell you there's more of us out there with great relationships despite so many illnesses and/or trauma in the picture. I'm physically and mentally disabled and my partner is healthy and loves caring for me. I do what I can to support him back and I think it's formed a stronger, closer relationship. I hope if you haven't found your person, you will soon. You deserve it too no matter what problems you struggle with.
The second Alyssa started talking about what it feels to feel disliked + unloved, through to the end, I was just crying. So much of this resonates, and it’s odd knowing I have a partner who loves & accepts me in many of the same ways, yet I can see that here but still not feel it in my own life. This was really moving in so many ways.
Literally crying for 45min straight lol. God, imagine having someone love you that much? Despite the hard times, the struggles, they still being there. I wish you two the best, SBSK is definitely one of my fav channels.
Can we acknowledge that Chris nor anyone else is "pure golden retiever so of COURSE he is by her side listening" like he also needs love support, he also has weak moments, as a partner he will also feel stressed because he sees someone he loves hurting like that. Its importantto see that, he's able to be who he is not just because of a naturally good disposition but because he probably worked so hard and learned so much, to be a good support as a partner. I strive to be like him although I admit I have a long way to go. But seeing how hard he works encourages me
To see her cry bc she feels like ppl don't like her is so far from that. You and your husband have helped sooo many ppl including me! Ppl like or love you more then you think. You guys started something amazing! Please keep up all the great work. You both are amazing! Watching these videos helps my ptsd, depression, anxiety and my mental health so thank you both for what you guys do! And to your wife, she is a wonderful human being! My wife and I truly think you guys are great and great together!
I have almost the same combination of diagnoses (I have OCD, ADHD, anxiety and depression) and this video really moved me. Living like this is devastating, and it's invisible. I understand you completely Alyssa and I really hope you are managing ok at the moment. You're a good person. ❤️
I am literally this girl. How I always feel, think perceive things. Seeing and hearing the sadness in her is literally like hearing myself talk or think. I honestly never thought anyone was experiencing the exact things I do. I have read and watched alot on mental illness but I don't think anything has clicked as much for me as this has.
Guess what Ashley? I am literally this girl, too. Swap out trichotillomania with dermatillomania, and I am exactly this girl. And I had just about the same reaction to this video as you. I’m not saying this to minimize or trivialize your reaction, or anything you’ve gone through. I’m saying this to tell you that I love you, and that we really are okay, because if you’re like me, then you really can’t hear that enough. Hugs from Indiana
Me too. I've been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and trich but am in processed of possible adhd diagnosis. And after hearing her talk, I think I also have OCD. I never realized that writing writing letters in the air/my hand and counting syllables over and over really was anything much but between how often I do that and how often I worry and think of scenarios in my head of awful things happening - it really does make me think I have that too. I have a perfect life otherwise but just truly can't feel the elation I should.
I really resonated with Alyssa, especially with the severe anxiety/depression, which used to be truly crippling. I've improved a lot over time, but I still really empathize. It's nice to know people who go through these struggles can feel less alone through this channel.
Everytime I feel myself starting to lose faith in humanity, I come back to this page and am reminded that compassion, kindness and empathy still exists. You are truly beautiful human beings.
I have these five diagnoses. I can say it can definitely get better. I’m doing well, a world away from where I was 10 years ago. Five years ago, too. Much love to you both!
There are guys like this nowadays, but there are people who sadly neglect/deny them because girls would want something different then complain guys are shi8
This Boyfriend is truly an amazing soul. So accepting of her and others. Omg when he got choked up I could not keep from shedding a tear. He is wonderful.
I have a similar basket of letters in my diagnosis, and one thing I've realized by mid-life is that it's ok to be single. I've turned my focus away from people and more towards nature and animals. You don't have to give back to anyone if you're overwhelmed, just hanging out with a nice sunset is worthy as well.
For some, it may be a wise decision to be single. Many of us find it next to impossible to sustain balanced relationships - all while fighting to find a way to live with complex mental illnesses. It takes years of therapy, developing hobbies, and testing Many medications before we can start to feel well enough before we can begin to discover our own personalities.
I’ve watched this video several times, as with many other SBSK videos. This is by far my favorite❤. It proves their desire to reach and tell the stories of “special” kids/people is rooted in love, acceptance, and experience.
Alyssa and I were in band together in high school. I never noticed or knew about any of your conditions. I never had a problem with anxiety or depression until I was in my mid-20s. Been prescribed and has helped a lot in the last 5 years. Thank you for sharing all of this. It helps to know that there are people out there who I viewed as "okay" but have so much brewing behind their eyes. It helps everyone out there. Thank you!! Great organization as well.
Medication doesnt help. It masks it. Pills are only useful to make you stable enough to go to therapy. Speaking from experience. I weaned off the pills after 15yrs. Dont allow yourself to be on pills for so long as me
I have most of those diagnoses and my boyfriend is like Chris, trying to learn while loving. It’s something I could never imagine and I love him very much
I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, and then as bipolar, and neither of those diagnosis were correct. When I was finally diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum, that felt absolutely right. She sounds to me like she's also an Aspie (high functioning autistic person). OCD, bipolar, anxiety disorders, major depressive disorder are all common misdiagnosis of autism in women because women will mask more then men.
@@youraveragemfdoomenjoyer5513 Masking has nothing to do with hiding the way you feel it is about mimicking others and the way they operate and communicate to seem 'normal' or neurologically typical and women with autism are masters at this and that's why many of them do not get diagnosed it's really hard to recognize in women because not enough research has been done in the way it effects women specifically and yes masking is another reason why it's harder to get diagnosed
"Society is collapsing, and people are starting to recognize that the reason that they feel like they're mentally ill is that they're living in a system that's not designed to suit the human spirit." I came across this quote & its really helped me understand some things about myself and the things I have delt with for a very long time. I was diagnosed with depression in 2016 and your story is very much similar to mine. I'm almost 30 as well and have ignored my feelings & thoughts and have had several nervous breakdowns. I praise your growth 🙌 and you really do inspire me to open up more and seek appropriate help with no shame. Thanks guys 💜
You sound like you're hugely growing!! To understand that you can't ignore feelings is enormous part of getting better. Don't stop treatment, be open and discuss the painful and shameful. Even when you feel like quitting, stay with it. Hugs and support!
Well done for being brave to share these personal struggles, and for mentioning trichotilliomania (one form of OCD), which is rarely talked about perhaps because it causes shame, guilt and embarrassment. I think that is like a vicious circle because doing it causes shame, and shame causes feeling of inadequacy and frustration has to be taken out on something - like hair, which is also a source of shame if it never looks neat enough or grows where you don't want it!!. Being anxious, stressed or frustrated makes me fiddle with my hair or pull it out, often unintentionally because I just get bothered by split ends and squiggly bits which I should ignore or cut off, not pull out the whole hair! But then it becomes a habit I can't stop unless I am keeping my hands busy doing something useful. Being asked why I do it also causes stress because it's hard to explain, and it's something I just find myself doing for no reason. Perhaps because of anxiety, but sometimes I don't know what I'm anxious about other than being afraid of being told off for making a bald patch. Perhaps part of the trouble is feelings can't be put into words. I also blame boredom, forgetting what I am supposed to be doing, or having cravings for sweet things I should not be eating and trying to avoid giving in to them! Anyway whatever causes it, being told off about it doesn't really help, it just means someone else thinks you just need more self-control, which is hard when you have any kind of OCD. I was also told I should do some sort of cognitive behaviour therapy, but I don't really understand what that involves and found my own ways to manage - like keeping my mind and hands busy. 'Computer therapy' mostly!! I have ideas about depression as well - and OCD in general... But on a more positive thought = this video is great showing how love can overcome or overlook all sorts of issues and people can accept each other just as they are. Keep on smiling - you two do a good job being honest about 'stuff' and I hope your RUclips channel helps more people understand and express what they go through and struggle with. More conditions have names these days than they had decades ago, and maybe more need names. I made one up: HSDDS "Hyper-sensitive discomfort distraction syndrome". Is that a real one or is it just a characteristic of autistic spectrum disorders or a symptom of PTSD? It seems more a physical thing than a mental one, but could cause or be associated with mental problems because of how physical sensations affect emotions and brain and how we choose to cope or how we find ouselves trying to cope without choosing deliberately, if that makes any sense! I mean I just can't concentrate on anything intellectual or serious when I'm uncomfortable, overwhelmed or irritated by any sensory stress. Even just a buzzing insect flying around bothering me or an itch that needs scratching! Sorry this got too long!! Life is complicated!
This makes me feel so seen and it gives me hope that I'll find someone who can love me exactly as I am with all my diagnoses also. Thank you for sharing this. Alyssa, you are so incredibly brave and you are so, so loved. Thank you for being you. You are a gift. You both are!
Alyssa, this video really resonated with me. I have BP2, anxiety, and bad depression. A partner of 2 years left me because of my mental illness, so it is encouraging to see amazing people like Chris are out there to accept us for who we are. I cried so many times watching this because you voiced thoughts I have always had but struggled to articulate. Thank you for your insights and vulnerability. You are an amazing, strong woman.
Trust that the person who walked out was a good day thing. The right person with enough patience and kindness will enter. Until then, love yourself and maybe get a rescue pup too (but that's just my personal opinion lol). Have a great day ☺️
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven. The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved. JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16 Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.' Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late. We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now... 'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen. 🎉❤
I'm a single father of 5 boys. I know what it's like to watch someone you care about struggle. It hurts a lot. You have to let it flow through you everyday to manage it. Stay goofy. Sometimes, we have to smile not to cry. Humor is the best medicine.
Thank you both so much for sharing this. My wife has these exact same 5 mental disorder diagnoses and we have such an amazing relationship. That said, it’s really really nice to hear someone else express things that I’ve thought, felt, seen, and heard myself that I wasn’t sure if anyone else could ever relate to because our situation feels so unique. The journey certainly isn’t always easy but it is 1000% worth it.
I am 64 and for the first time in my life listening to her I realized there was actually someone who was going through exactly what I did. I am so proud of have far you have came. Thank you for sharing with us. 💕
You both are truly blessed and are both teaching each other a lot. It definitely is a gift to have someone accept you for who you are no matter if you have a mental health disorder or not.
@keren cormier - One thing I would change is Chris' response that he wouldn't change Alyssa's diagnoses because she is perfect as is. But since she is continuing with therapy, she WILL change. Reassurance that he will continue love her through her personal evolution would go a long way in giving her the emotional permission she needs to keep changing. Noodle, of course, will continue to love her intuitively through her coming changes.
This is the first video I went to go find once I heard comments were back on. This was such an amazing and brave post. I have watched it more than once because it really resonated with me. My hope is that you have more good days than bad days and you still find small moments of enjoyment during the bad days. I love the relationship between you two from the small glimpse we saw. I hope you guys have many more days of silly to come. You are worth every minute of praise because you are working on yourself every single day and that is a huge accomplishment. Thank you for sharing. I sincerely appreciate it on a personal level.
I agree this is a big part of needing help. One thing that helps me is thinking about how I feel when I have the ability to help someone. The best days I have are those I get to help someone. That is why they call it the gift of your need, when you allow someone to help you out is a gift to them. Please consider this when you feel you are a burden...
As someone with anxiety disorder, PTSD, depression and ADHD I get this so much. I wish her all the success in the world with her therapy. It is awful to be so trapped in your own mind (especially with a critical interior voice) and feel disconnected from the world at times. No one is harder on me than I am. I would never talk to anyone the way my inner voice talks to me. It is like an abuser you can't escape from.
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He is such a golden retriever boyfriend. I mean that in the absolute best way possible.
Oh my god I thought I was the only one who saw that xD
the accuracy 💯
He's Mr. Peanut Butter
I don’t think anyone would take that as a negative! Actually, one time in 6th grade they gave us these little pine trees for Arbor Day to plant when we got home. I was rubbing it on my face because it tickled and felt cool, and suddenly I heard a laugh. I stopped and looked, and the boy I had a crush on was staring at me laughing. He said, “You remind me of my dog.” To this day, that’s still one of the nicest compliments I’ve ever gotten.
This is perfect ❤😇
I was sexually, physically, mentally and emotionally abused by my family as a little girl. I have an excellent therapist and a husband who loves and accepts me as I am. It is possible. Big hugs.
Warms my heart. ♥️
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True!
I am very happy for your healing.
But I live in Brasil, I don’t believe in love here.
Maybe it’s happen there.
Hugs.
Is it just me, or is this guy one of the purest of hearts. I don't know him personally but I really get the sensation that he is just a very kind man. And the older he gets, the more loving and kind he will become. I just wish we could all be more like him.
I agree completely.
I feel like he's the Mr. Rogers of our time.
I definitely agree. He seems like an amazing guy.
He is living like Jesus or the Buddha would've wanted all of us too. We should up look up to this man, the essence of masculinity is compassion and protection of those in need.
@Weedgy Apex im so sorry hearing about that, hope you will find someone like you
I have been diagnosed with Asperger's and Depression and it comforts me to watch this video. I thought that no one would be able to love me because I don't even love myself.
Start a discipline of treating yourself with kindness every waking hour, and as much as possible. It doesn't mean indulging in whatever feels good... It's also doing the hard things that are necessary. Your heart knows what it really needs. Develop trust in yourself. Put signs up in places you frequent to remind yourself to trust yourself. When you are depressed, write messages to your future self on how to treat yourself better. I also struggle with depression and I know we can't fight for our glory every day, but fight for it when you can. Others will see your love and want to be a part of it, whether they know it or not. The secret of love is that it's contagious, and it starts with us.
Can we just give a shoutout to the people that raised this amazing man👏
Unfortunately not, we don't know who they are.
@@Stonktradomus They know who they are. If they see this, all the better!
Too true! What a fabulous guy :)
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven.
The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved.
JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16
Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.'
Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late.
We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now...
'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen.
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"I don't need to solve or to understand your depression" - here's a great message for those caring for someone who is struggling emotionally. The first thing anyone needs is for their state to be accepted, rather than "fixed".
Yes!! What a good point
That's really helpful, so hard when someone insists they try to understand you... When it's more helpful they just accept you.
True ❤
Yes, I'm well aware everyone isn't a trained to fix mental health. It's like just be there and don't kick me when I'm down!
i think most of the time people want to “fix” is because they’re afraid to lose this person to suicide
This man, his girlfriend, everything they do..
I'm a very negative person and I have my own stuff but I can feel you both restore my faith in humanity.
Thank you both for everything you do, for the way you are.
Es muy lindo tu comentario !
Son contadas las personas que nos dan la posibilidad de pensar "que no todo ésta perdido". Como en el manto de la noche (humanidad), las constelaciones nos señalan ésa verdad ! Saludos.
I knoooow! Whenever I’m feeling negative I always seem to find this channel. This dude is like an angel on earth. He is doing God’s work in helping us complex humans understand each other and to connect. I feel so much more conscious of my compassion for others and consideration of what others might be going through when I watch these videos.
I am the same way. Very negative and also cynical.
Meee!!! Too,,they restore my faith in humanity too.Thats a great observation.💙
Well said. I agree. ❤
I'm currently in a very dark place, and your videos are bringing back my faith in humanity. Thank you for everything you guys have done and continue to do.
Hope you are doing okay a couple months on from typing this, and thank you for being brave enough to say something!
Seeing the videos on this channel also make my life brighter than I was able to previously make it for myself.
I think it's a sign that all things are meant to be the way they are.
Everyone learns and grows at different paces, and EVERYONE on EARTH needs help from EVERYONE ELSE!
That is SPECIFICALLY what society was intended for!
Hi, I hope you're feeling better! It's been approx 4months since you commented. I just wanted to check on you and see how you're doing?
@@cashtaylor9804 Hey! Still in a dark place, but I'm waiting for medication and have since then been able to surround myself with a supportive circle that I'm beginning to warm up to! Thank you for the reply :)
@@conanmcclanahan1069 Hey! I'm sorry for not responding, at the time 2 months ago I was at my worst. Since then, I finally went to my doctor about these issues, and now I am awaiting medication. I also (very luckily) found myself a new and supportive friend group that I am very grateful for.
@@conanmcclanahan1069 It deleted my response to you? I sent a similar message as the last one, but included an apology for not responding 2 months ago due to that being the worst of it. I'm doing much better now! Still feel low moments, but having a support system makes it that much easier to stay positive.
And yeah! This channel does wonders on bringing awareness to mental health. Quite possibly the biggest impact I had so far to get me into taking the first step on my mental health journey. There's a lot of stigma about sharing these things that I used to feel anxiety over, but it took a RUclips channel for me to learn that I was wrong my whole life about emotional intelligence and expression. It's not natural for us to keep it repressed, but when it's learned it's hard to unlearn.
This gives me hope that there will be someone who will accept, understand, and love me regardless of my mental health problems. Thank you.
There will be!
Remember - women get with who they want; men get with who they can.
@@ShredHeadJHJ well, with that attitude..
god bless you can have you get the man you need and want
Of course there will be
“What is it like to feel like everybody constantly doesn’t like you?” The way her mood literally changed in front of the camera broke my heart
I started crying. The feeling is too familiar
Why do he asked that 🥲
I cried at hearing that question, I felt like he was asking me personally and I could not answer it.
@@cdr9515 Right?! Me too.
@@cdr9515 Yess! Me too!
He’s one of the most emotionally intelligent person I’ve ever witnessed on this earth! He makes such a great effort to understand! He’s a gem 💎
He might be the devil praying on the weak 🤫
Who do you think you're kidding exactly?
@@1deep499 *preying
@@Ultamami Oops 😳
@@1deep499 I have that worry too. But I pray that it’s not true
You struck gold when you found Alyssa. And so did she. What a wonderful love story.
Her whole vibe changed when the dog got up on her lap. What a huge blessing animals are for us humans. 💜
They are truly our saving grace. If only we could care for them physically, as well as they care for us. I just don't feel we have a handle on the best (yet most economical nutrition) for them, or ways to keep them as healthy as we could. Everyone should be able to experience the daily, healing love of a pet, but we don't always make it easy. I'll think on that.
@@sherryd.3425 I agree, I also wish there were better food options for our beloved pets! I'm always thinking those pellets can't be very good for them, even the "best" made ones.
@@eternal_nomad I don't know where you live but in the US you can buy refrigerated, less processed food for them.
Dogs & cats know when we're sad, that's the beautiful part of it. They know and want to make sure we're okay. They are pure love, like angels in different forms.
That is why I got m daughter, age 14, who seems to struggle with much of this, last year. It's helping.
Bless her for being so brave and bless him for never running away.
Yes❤️
He has helped her build herself back up, rather than hand her the hammer to break herself down. Idk if that makes sense to others but it's just important to be in a relationship with someone that won't manipulate your mental health vulnerabilities I feel.
When you really love someone, it's hard to watch them struggle, but easy to not run away. Even on the worst days, you don't want to run, you just want to learn how best to help.
My "person" just lied.He broke me worse.
Absolutely, being brave and vocal are key parts towards recovery and self awareness. It brings back the control someone feels once the limbic system is activated into safety protection mode of please, fight, flight and/or freeze.
As a mid 40's male, I've learned to not listen to my brain anymore. I just live and don't care what others think. I try to be a good husband and a better father to my 2 girls. Took me a lot of years to get there.
you got this man. im rooting for you
i’m happy to hear that! time is key to everything.
Как научится НЕ слушать свой мозг?
Based
@@basedanon420 You have the same first name!
I rewatch this every few months. 😢 it’s so wholesome & real.
So do I. I see more of my struggle represented in Alyssa than anyone, ever. And all I see is a strong, smart, beautiful and worthy person in her who is deserving of the world. This video reminds me that I am just the same and deserving of the same. Just like you.
Hey Kim! I love this channel. One of my favorites 💞
I hope everyone gets to feel this level of love in their life.
That's a precious wish, hope for you, too. 🙏💖🌈
The same, I wish this for everyone. Every person deserves this kind of person in their lives.
🙏 Also wish there was someone this compassionate and caring in my life.
Two beautiful people ♡
Keep it up, you guys are very loving and I think you two are amazing.
Much love from the Netherlands!
i never felt any kind of real love. not sure if i ever will
@@Tatusiek_1 🤗
@@revdrtiffanyfoster hopefully one day
I am a retired psychologist and happened across this video and frankly you two are super clear and conscious of your beings and it is a joy to see the love you give to each other. A wonderful couple that are supporting each other on your paths whatever they may be. A great example to many couples today struggling not with maybe clinical labels but just people not aware of their being ness. You are a light as a couple
And individually as well.
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven.
The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved.
JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16
Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.'
Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late.
We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now...
'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen.
🎉❤
Totally wrong.
She is 100% Spirit. This perfection makes it an impossibility that she has these disorders. Recovery is not medical or mental. It is knowing the Truth and changing the belief that these disorders are real to the fact that they are lies. You can’t trust the 5 senses here.
This is one of the saddest and sweetest videos you’ve done.
Goes to show love is real.
You’re genuine
It's eye opening.
Love is just a chemical process.
@@GgByAngelthen life is just a chemical process
@@winstonmcfinston What? Why?
@@winstonmcfinston How what's Chris like or Done ? Xxx
I doubt Chis will see this on a 3 year old video (maybe, this one is about his personal life and relationship with his life partner) but I really have to say what an amazing person you are. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the good you do in this world. You are a literal ray of light, spreading love and joy to millions. If I could impact even 1/1000000th of the people you have, I would have accomplished my goals in life. Thank you for all you do Chris, you are a living saint. You make the world a much brighter, happier, loving, and more beautiful place.
He's doing a lil of God's work, isn't he!!
Rejection Sensitive Disorder is common for ADHD folks. it is SO exhausting and devastating to think everyone hates you 24/7 and really destroys you mentally. I relate to you so much and am so grateful to you for sharing your experience.
Damn. I was diagnosed ADHD in the 70s and my parents didn't like what Ritalin did to me so I was left to deal with it on my own without any therapeutic or dietary help. I mean, I'm glad for it because I've learned so much on my own but there's so much I still don't know. I am always feeling rejected and it's affected every friendship I've had in my 50 years. I'm so grateful for my children and loving husband who accept me for who I am, but knowing that would have saved me a lot of heartache the past 45 years. Thank you for this comment because it's provided me with a new avenue of introspection and healing. Bless.
Your comment was the first time I’ve heard of this disorder. I’ve spent hours researching it and it was like reading articles about myself. It all makes so much sense and I can actually see a way to incorporate this into my own self-healing journey. Thank you so much 🙏🏻
@@_lynno I am glad that it helped! I too only found out about it recently, and I can assure you that at least knowing what is going on with you does make life easier. I was seeing a therapist at the time and was actually really pissed at him for not ever mentioning RSD because that was really the only reason I was in therapy. I found out about it through a friend of mine and was stunned that a licensed psychologist was less educated on this topic than a teenage girl. Knowing why I am the way I am gave me relief and made me feel less isolated because I always thought that I was the only one who was struggling with relationships in this way. I hope that in the future more people will know about RSD because you cannot properly heal before you know the cause of your pain.
@@tanyasorin4619 that's a thing? Shhii makes sense now
Wow I have extreme adhd and I always feel like this, to the point where isolate and I only have 1 friend left. I didn’t know this was adhd related. Thank you
When Chris asked what it's like to think that nobody likes you it cut right to my core when I saw her tear up. Devastating is about right. It's an awful feeling.
Dutbf
Sometimes we I’ve asked my mother why everybody hates me. She answered with, “I don’t know!.” Gee thanks mom.
@@kimmiske7821 I'm sure that she didn't mean to hurt your feelings. It's a hard question for a son to ask of his mother. It probably guts her to hear her son ask her that.
I couldn’t answer that one, if someone asked me. I think she’s so brave! 💕 Chris is amazing, though he didn’t understand perfectly, he’s always being open, always trying. I dream of such a relationship. Yet I feel uncomfortable sometimes even, when others are so kind, as I am not used to it. I always ended up in a relationship, where I had someone drag me down, when I tried to stay, and endure, even help them. I used to ignore warning signs, thinking I didn’t deserve otherwise, and that was as good as it gets. It’s wonderful knowing, others have the right support, through their mental health struggles.❤️❣️
The people who resonated with that knew the look she had, the emotions it was hard hitting.
@@kittykaitcandykillet8160 there's few feelings worse in this world than the constant nagging thought I have which roughly equates to "Nobody likes you. And you deserve it because you are unlikable and utterly worthless/useless. You are no good to anybody and that's why you don't have any friends."
Lots of comments about how great Chris is and how lucky Alyssa is to have someone like Chris who tries to understand her. Kudos to Chris. But oh my gosh, Alyssa! Your level of self realization is inspiring. When you have those dark thoughts - the negative things you tell yourself about yourself - it can be all-consuming. It takes such strength of character and a high level of compassion to change the narrative in your own head and challenge those thoughts. Chris sounds like a supportive partner, but ALYSSA did and is doing the hard work of challenging those negative thoughts and living with her diagnoses while not letting them define the person she is. Mental health issues are a struggle, and it takes a strong person to find the energy and self-compassion to fight through to a place of patience and acceptance while understanding you might fall back into bad days and have to dig your way out again. Alyssa, you are inspirational. Keep going, Queen!
Yes I am amazed with her self realization! Beautiful couple 🥹❤️
I totally agree
Thanks for your support for Alyssa. She is really an inspiration.
Definitely agree with you, I found it super motivational, I feel I can relate to Alyssa's pain and to see someone approach their own struggles with such wisdom and heart has given me a needed boost that maybe I can too. Slowly but surely rebuilding my social media around people like this.
@@shanehill3804 Yes! You can!
Bro this video is amazing I felt like embarrassed because of how much they showed us. I had this feeling like I shouldn't be here, and yet I'm thankful because I learned so much and I'm really grateful that these guys shared such a raw real part of their life with us. I think what they do is amazing and I wish them the bestest life.
I completely agree!
He really is a precious light in the world. He is the definition of a humanitarian. Complete opposite of narcissism.
He is empathy in action.
He’s a modern day version of Mr. Rogers. I hope and pray that their humanitarian work continues to grow.
@@rubiesofgold7698 yes I totally agree. Young Mr Rogers 🤣❤️
@@rubiesofgold7698 Yes!!!!! He even speaks a bit like him!!!
@@rubiesofgold7698 Exactly what I thot. Modern day in the sense that we are more real and honest and I think maybe even the times are a little harder too.
love is patient and kind. love is not jealous.mitbdoes not brag does not get puffed up does not behave indecently does not look for its own interests does not become provoked. it does not keep account of the injury……it bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Her pause when he asked her how she felt when she thinks nobody likes her… I felt that, girl. To not be able to open your mouth because you won’t be able to hold it together. ❤️
You said it.
And to just not have the words to describe the pain…
Red: you have the most beautiful eyes!
She immediately got so sad. It was hard to watch.
Me to i struggle with feelings of worthlessness and sorrow
This interview reminds me so much of my own relationship. I have depression and autism and my husband pours non-stop love into me. It has been really healing. We’ve been married nine and a half years.
You both are very lucky 😊
That’s amazing. So good to hear great stories like this!
I wonder what Chris’ diagnosis are?
@@clairecochran9765 perhaps, eternal optimist?
How exhausting for him though.
We adopted 6 kids with varying degrees of Fasd. With that came additional diagnosis of clinical depression, ADHD, OCD, possible Bipolar, chromosome disorder, and others. So much of what you said is how some of my kids have felt for years, and a couple still feel that way. Thank you for being so incredibly open and honest about everything. You are a beautiful young lady.
❤❤❤ from Peru
Is FASD Fetal Alcohol Syndrome? I'm an alcoholic who got alcohol in the womb and was adopted when I was 16 months old. I think my diafnoses are Autism, depression and PTSD (complex PTSD if that was in the DSM-5 book.) Also an addict and was diagnosed with bipolar 2(?) But idk about bipolar. Maybe??
Has it been hard having kids with a slew or conditions? I feel like a lost cause because I have multiple conditions, like idk how to get help cause Idk what condition I need to treat. I really believe my PTSD and Autism are the big 2 for me.
Thay is amazing you adopted your kids and I hope you're able to offer them the love and support rhey need! I was adopted from Russia and genuinely feel I wouldn't have lived much longer had I not been adopted. So I feel adoption is a very important way to he a parent as long but it requires a lot of love, patience and understanding for the child who has likely already been affected by trauma.
Everybody praising him, but she is also such a sweet, genuine, self reflected person
Absolutely! Such a beautiful girl & it takes a lot to be so open and vulnerable.
Amen
Exactly
Something that he wholeheartedly deserves.
Chris's parents raised him to be a kind, respectful and thoughtful person. Alyssa - you are a wonderful, sweet and gentle soul. You both give me hope for humanity. ❤️
Once you are raised it's up to you to be a good person. He has taken the ball and run with it which is his choice. He does seem however to be blessed with an abundance of compassion and understanding
I started crying as soon as she did. It’s so hard. My mind is such a contradictory place. The best and the worst.
I send you love, Alyssa.
I have those diagnoses and more. Just saying this so you can Know, that I understand. How ….wild… your mind is.
@@ScotsyCajn Hi Lydia! I'm a Lydia too, so like to say hi to my "sisters", never met a Lydia I didn't like. Also your comment really resonated with me, and what my daughter seems to be dealing with. I want to help her and often I feel helpless.
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People who seek diagnosis' are victims and weak-minded and would prefer a crutch/wheelchair/sympathy rather than be able to walk with a slight limp. It blows me away how people like this don't realize that this mental illness nonsense is a first world phenomenon and the rest of the world / the rest of life doesn't just play a fiddle for themselves when things are tough. It's only a luxury afforded to those who have an extremely easy life and need to create drama and excuses.
@@Mr.Sr.Jr. for me, it's about change.
Learning to accept what's going on in and around me so I can stay alive.
Walk with a limp? Ha! I've spent my life (since age 3) crawling the muddy battlefield with my sword still up as best I can. A slight limp is what my horse had... I ditched it years ago.
I'm a proud sponsor of your channel. As a father of a special needs child that my wife and I adopted from Bulgaria, I can't thank you enough for all the wonderful people that you interview.
Thank you for being an amazing dad to your beautiful child ❤️ and thank you to your wife for taking the plunge with you as well. You're both amazing humans and parents ❤️❤
When Chris got choked up at the end... that was everything. All the pain, fear, confusion, joy, hope and love portrayed in the rest of the video... summed up in a single moment.
What a gift Alyssa has in him. He is everything she needs and all of what she thought she didn't deserve. This couple is beautiful 😍
And when he was still trying to smile for the camera.. gah, that broke me. 🥺 Chris, it’s okay to cry! ❤️
Who raised this man? I want to take parenting lessons from whoever brought him up.
Just like Michael Jackson or Nikolai Tesla, people like this aren't raised... just irreplicable gifts
@@cryp0g00n4 😂😂😂
@@cryp0g00n4 mj was abused by his father who formed him into a pop star and then he diddled kids
I'm pretty sure he was not traumatized in his youth like most
Ok. She's making me relapse....
Props for this man for being so straight foward with his intentions and ability to just accept people as they are
It is literally so rare.
This is literally the best youtube video I've ever watched. Hands. Down. This is the universal example of a good relationship.
So glad she didn’t fall into the hands of an abuser!💜
Seriously what I was thinking
Yeah 😢
Yeah it's really rough
could not of said it any better , godspeed
@@mandys0088 did u face an abusive relationship?
Thank you for this. This is so needed for young couples. I am 80, my hubbie is 82. We are married fir 61 yrs. Life is good. God bless you both for being so honest.💟
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wow 61 yrs! thats a lot of years❤️
I hope my daughter meets someone like Chris. They are both loving and are so caring
Any parent would love to have someone like him in life of their daughter
May your daughter meet Chris one day!🤗
I think he’s taken….
This had me crying throughout. Your love for one another and how he shows her his love throughout is so beautiful.
Believe me boyfriends/ husbands like Chirs exist ......my husband is one of them ...and thank god for these angels ...and Alyssa i have so much respect for you .....for expressing about what you went through and going through so beautifully...wish one day I can do that and help someone ...but for now thanks for doing this ....god bless ❤️
So is mine! How did we get so lucky? ♥️
Mine as well, and I'm thankful everyday for having him.
Thank you. Thank you for giving hopeful motivation
Beautifully said, wishing you both the best, sending you so much love.
I have only encountered violent and neglectful men, I pray to be lucky and find a good man
I had an abusive childhood in many ways. Nowadays, as a father, I try my best to raise my children the best way I can. And I would really like to meet his parents. They have done a remarkable job raising him. They should be on a video! I praise them!
Good fathers are a special gift. Your children may not always show it, but you are appreciated.
hugs
Your children must be very lucky to get a loving father like you. God bless you
Boy, i hope to God you don't mean being permissive and overly praising kids for no reason bc then they become as they call them today, "snowflakes".
This man has such an angelic persona. She's is blessed to have him as her partner, and also to the children and other adults with mental health diagnoses or physical disabilities. You all are overcomers! May God continue to bless you both in all your future endeavors! 🙏🙌🥰
I think he is blessed by her as well.
@@Emily-gv3ne yep, exactly.
He's blessed to have her as a partner.
That's so special I wish someone took care of me like you do each other.
his heart is good but he has an undefinable persona. if I was being unkind I would say he was sort of smug. but I love his channel. but he s not the best part of it.
She is an incredible human being, beautiful and strong. Listening to her felt like she was desribing me, I was diagnosed with the same at 25, but still find it dificult to find someone who I can feel like being myself is ok, so having relationships is so hard for me. So glad she has a wonderful and supportive boyfriend, such a blessing
Chris is a gem. So glad he's found love & happiness. His partner is adorable & blessed to have him.
They’re blessed to have each other!
She is the lucky one indeed .
His response to the question of “how is it to love someone with 5 mental health disorders” made me tear up. 😭 my fiancé is incredible and talks about me the way Chris talks about Alyssa. I have mental health disorders too and they are exhausted among many other things- to have a partner who is not just willing to but HAPPY to be beside you through it all is just… a dream.
Its the most important thing. I'm 40 and have never had someone so supportive as my partner is now. I've never really had someone love me like this before who's aware of all of my mental struggles and issues. He helps me feel like I can manage.
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@@nincure I think that's lovely when you find your person. I hope you have a wonderful life together, loving, supporting and caring for each other. Once you have that everything else doable. Xx
@@nincure oh I'm sorry to hear that. I hope that your doing ok and taking care of yourself?
@@KhaleesiMotherOfGuineaPigs Wow! Tell us a little about him; he's a special person.
I can’t imagine having a partner who loves and accepts you despite your mental health diagnoses. You two are a gift to the world. Thank you for your work, selflessness and care.
Yeah I didn’t have that
So true
This video reminds me of my life partner and myself. Our names are Chris and Angie, and they’re Chris and Alyssa, and much like them it’s been just over 6 years since we’ve been dating. She has Autism and OCD and Epilepsy. I have been there with through it all and I couldn’t be more freaking lucky to have her. She’s been through an unbelievable amount of abuse and has seen some horrible stuff at a young age…it breaks my heart…I’m just so so grateful for her existence and the fact that I can be here to drown her in pure love and hopefully make her feel like things will be okay. The first thing I tell her (or text her if I have work in the mornings) is “Hey hun, just reminding you that you are so strong, and so beautiful”. I NEED her to feel comfortable, she deserves it the most out of anyone I’ve ever seen. Sorry for going on a ramble, I just like to tell other people how strong and beautiful she is.
I just wish I could give you a hug, Alyssa. Thank you for opening up and sharing your experience. I have been diagnosed with several mental health disorders over the past couple of years, as well, and your honesty and openness with your emotions really hit me.
The juxtaposition of bouncing back and forth between how she sees herself versus how Chris sees her was a great filming choice. Greatly depicts the emotional battles many families go through.
It’s so hard to have faith in humanity right now, but this channel makes me believe in human compassion. You guys are making a huge difference. Thank you ❤️
No it's the easiest thing in the world to have faith in humanity
If this makes you feel better, the truth is we ARNT becoming more evil over time, we are just realizing how evil we already were. There will ALWAYS be more good in the world than evil and *the fact that everyone cares about it proves that*
ikr!! i started watching this channel when the world was falling apart and no one was listening to each other... but I always turn this on when I feel angry at other people. this always somehow pops up in my recommended right when I need it.
I really feel this way too. I haven't watched their videos in a while and I realized how much I missed them! It's really easy to get caught up in my personal stuff and close my heart off sometimes and this channel really opens it up!
Yes, SBSK is an oasis for the soul. God bless Chris& Alyssa, all the wonderful people he interviews, and the loveliest people on the Internet, this community!!! 🙏💖🌈
I am just like her and it's one of the reasons why I think I can't be in a relationship right now. But to see that she's found someone like him gives me hope.
Rooting for you, babe! Sending light and love 🤍♥️
I feel exactly the same!
Same. 🥺
You deserve love and I hope you find it! Take care of yourself
same
I was beaten and isolated from age 8-12. I spent those 4 years in a room with a bed and dresser with nothing to do but stare at the walls. I was allowed out to clean up after my dad and ex stepmother, and go to school. I learned to not care what other people think of me. I made it through 4 years of basically solitary confinement, and nobody’s bad thoughts can phase me. I started having night terrors weekly about my dad and ex stepmother, and still do to this day. The moral of this diatribe is don’t care about other people’s thoughts. I care what my wife thinks and that’s about it.
I am so very heartbroken for you to have endured what you did. You are SO strong, and I genuinely hope you have a lot of love and happiness around you today.
Is this guy some kind of angel or something? Heavenly blessed man he is
In my opinion SBSK is unparalleled in its honesty, respect and interest in each others experiences and view on life. I have studied Psychology and will start my training for becoming a Therapist soon and I learned so much from you and the SBSK community, so I am forever grateful for the work and heart you put into this channel! Its humanity in its purest form.
You both are so beautiful, strong people and I wish you all the best for your future.
Beauties thoughts and words, thank you, and all my best in your chosen vocation. You will be changing lives far beyond your clients, and that's wonderful! 👍🙏💖🌈
Best of luck to you!
Licensed Professional Counselor?
@Amber’s Imperfections Thank you so much! Yeah, in Germany it is quite a long journey to become a cognitive behavioral therapist - at least 5 years at university (masters degree) and about 4 more years of special training in the field to get approved as a therapist. :)
Now I understood why Chris has this motivation to help people with mental issues
Her answer about that feeling of being unloved is so good. Educational and important to help people understand. I love her and her courage.
I'm autistic and ADHD (both diagnosed at 36 years old), GAD and depression, and this interview gives me so much strength. Seeing how much love involved in your story is amazing.
I'm autistic and ADHD too, diagnosed at 18. Stay strong!
I have a form of ADHD with social anxiety and other things as well. I've been diagnosed with ADHD since 6 or 7 social anxiety almost 2 years ago. Stay strong and positive
So sorry that you had to struggle for over three decades before you got answers, my heart goes out to you ❤️
I was diagnosed last year with adhd, PTSD and borderline personality disorder at 35 years of age.stay strong, we all in this together
I was diagnosed at 50 with ADD, in addition to depression and anxiety that I've had since my teens. The diagnosis and treatment have changed so much for the positive in my life! Ironically, I had become a teacher for students with disabilities 8 years before, lol. ADD had insidiously impacted my self esteem and life choices in big ways, learning that it is neurological was like, "HA! I knew I wasn't just ___ (dumb, a f-up, etc.) But I was also a better artist because of the ability to hyper focus (puts me into a state where my subconscious and conscious are communicating more) and developed empathetic/intuitive strengths. So grateful that I was diagnosed.
she is so smart. when she said that you have a responsibility to love yourself so that you can better love and support others. the best piece of advice i've honestly ever heard in my life. i love the two of them together
I started crying when he talked about how he feels about her. I've been in a relationship for the past three years and this week she told me she needed a break because my mental health problems are too much for her right now. It happened so many times I just lost all hope that she would accept me and love me regardless of my depression. It's so hard knowing that people see me as a burden. I'm trying to be understanding but it really hurts to think that she can only see the bad things in me, specially now that I'm down and can't really see the good things myself. I wish she could see me the way he sees Alyssa, she's is so lucky to have him as her partner
Understanding takes time. I don't think he could just make click and go forward. I don't know how your partner is, or how has behaved in the past, so I'm not gonna tell you to hang in there at any costs, but give your partner time to live this too. As long as the communication is clear and fluid, taking some time for yourself to reorganize ideas and help you better is not a bad idea. I wish you the best in life, with or without a partner, cause you are, as Alyssa has said, your best cheerleader!!!!!!" loads of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Same, with all of my partners, I just feel like a burden... She's so lucky
Please do not take offense…. Each of you are beautiful, amazing and loved. Love is not a word love is a feeling and you deserve your own Chris. You deserve a partner that will stand by you no matter what. A partner that sees your heart not your brain.
If your partner can’t handle you at your worst then they don’t deserve your best.
Therapy/nutrition/ and drugs maybe. Nutrition and supplements are great. We want to be as fair as possible to people, but your health is #1 and someone one day will see it as just a chance to help someone they love. Someone I've finally met treats me that way. I know it's hard. I'm sorry.
I would say, you are still lucky. You have a partner that is being honest with you - even it hurt your feelings or let you down, they chose to be honest with you. Do you know how rare that is? That's why you see so many cheating couples and broken trust.
The self-awareness at 5:30 is something PAINFULLY relatable to those of us with certain disorders. It's like, "I KNOW this is wrong, I know I don't deserve it, I know I shouldn't think these things, but why am I still thinking it?" It's genuinely so devastating, and it feels like being stuck in quicksand..
Every time I forget what love is, every time I feel like i'm alone and nobody will understand me and that love doesn't exist, I watch this video. I truly had never seen something this pure before. I love this channel, you guys taught me so much about so many things that I can't ever say thank you enough.
The love of God is unconditional, as His nature is to love. We love, because He first loved us. His name is Jesus Christ and He is your Heavenly Father ❤️😊
Epitome of True Love. I cried through the whole thing. They are an incredibly beautiful couple.
I've gotten teary a few times.
Aw. When Chris said "to me, in my eyes you're perfect", it was honestly like he was talking to me, the way he looks at Alyssa felt like he was speaking that to my soul, and it truly helped me feel more accepted. Love their love, may we all be so blessed to see the love that surrounds us ❤
“ I love you exactly how you are” I was lucky enough to have a man that said this to me all the time but he passed away from brain tumor complications 😢 I wish there were more men like him❤
As someone diagnosed with CPTSD , ADHD, OCD, Major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, and a slew of other acronyms, hearing Alyssa's experience and seeing her express herself in such a raw manner was really powerful. Having all these labels can feel incredibly isolating, shameful and intimidating. Self doubt is a mighty foe, and it makes you think you're alone, unloved and undeserving. Alyssa's story is sooo validating, and it was a relief hearing that someone out there understands. It was super brave of her to come on here, there are so many more of us out here experiencing the same struggles and we often don't realize that. Thank you Alyssa, for sharing your story, and being so vulnerable. 💛
I super proud of u bcuz u get 2 make the choice I wish u the best
Her soul can be seen through her eyes! All those emotions and feelings erupting as she thinks about it, at the start of the video.
Very moving interview.
God bless you both, Alyssa and Christopher!
Her eyes are like a gem🥰
I think you are great and make a huge step because you have the power to say all of this things.
She is beautiful ...not just in appearance. ❤
@Shameika Dobbins Lol! Isn't he?? He should be modeling as well. He is incredibly handsome & his eyes, omg
I am amazed at how very articulate Alyssa is in all her responses, she really explains her illnesses in a way that makes it understandable for others to grasp. Thank you!
Thank you for making this video, my partner and I each go through our share of mental health struggles, Autism, ADHD, OCD, Anxiety, and Depression, some shared some not. This just gives a wonderful perspective on how important it is to communicate and ask for help during low times, especially when both partners are in a low time, it's so crucial to have a network of friends and family who will support you as well. Really needed this today as we both had a pretty rough day yesterday. We have also been together 5, almost 6 years now, and having someone who listens and understands me so well has been so healing, but challenging in some ways since we're so similar.
When Chris said “You are worthy, you are worthy times a million” my heart just melted. He is the sweetest you both are!!! I love this interview! Thanks! Keep up the love ❤️ omgoodness!!!!! I just watched the end 😭 U2 Bless U ❤️❤️❤️
Her question was, "Is it worth it?"
I loved the way he looked kind of stunned, as though it never entered his head to question that before!
As someone who had lost faith in dating for myself and for other people, having been in abusive relationships, being abused because of my mental conditions, seeing how awful and abusive people can be.. THIS interview restored my faith in humanity. That good people do exist. Y’all two are the sweetest and so amazing people for the work you do and the people you help.
Thank you for all you do. ❤️
Hey, I know this is old but I just wanted to tell you there's more of us out there with great relationships despite so many illnesses and/or trauma in the picture. I'm physically and mentally disabled and my partner is healthy and loves caring for me. I do what I can to support him back and I think it's formed a stronger, closer relationship. I hope if you haven't found your person, you will soon. You deserve it too no matter what problems you struggle with.
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The second Alyssa started talking about what it feels to feel disliked + unloved, through to the end, I was just crying. So much of this resonates, and it’s odd knowing I have a partner who loves & accepts me in many of the same ways, yet I can see that here but still not feel it in my own life. This was really moving in so many ways.
My heart melted with this video. You two are the best couple I've ever seen. I'm on tears... i just cannot express how much I loved to watch this
Literally crying for 45min straight lol. God, imagine having someone love you that much? Despite the hard times, the struggles, they still being there.
I wish you two the best, SBSK is definitely one of my fav channels.
Why are you crying though ?
@@RamKumar-yi6wn idk empathy?
@@stars19735 fragility isn't empathy
Can we acknowledge that Chris nor anyone else is "pure golden retiever so of COURSE he is by her side listening" like he also needs love support, he also has weak moments, as a partner he will also feel stressed because he sees someone he loves hurting like that. Its importantto see that, he's able to be who he is not just because of a naturally good disposition but because he probably worked so hard and learned so much, to be a good support as a partner. I strive to be like him although I admit I have a long way to go. But seeing how hard he works encourages me
To see her cry bc she feels like ppl don't like her is so far from that. You and your husband have helped sooo many ppl including me! Ppl like or love you more then you think. You guys started something amazing! Please keep up all the great work. You both are amazing! Watching these videos helps my ptsd, depression, anxiety and my mental health so thank you both for what you guys do! And to your wife, she is a wonderful human being! My wife and I truly think you guys are great and great together!
I have almost the same combination of diagnoses (I have OCD, ADHD, anxiety and depression) and this video really moved me. Living like this is devastating, and it's invisible. I understand you completely Alyssa and I really hope you are managing ok at the moment. You're a good person. ❤️
I am literally this girl. How I always feel, think perceive things. Seeing and hearing the sadness in her is literally like hearing myself talk or think. I honestly never thought anyone was experiencing the exact things I do. I have read and watched alot on mental illness but I don't think anything has clicked as much for me as this has.
Guess what Ashley? I am literally this girl, too. Swap out trichotillomania with dermatillomania, and I am exactly this girl. And I had just about the same reaction to this video as you.
I’m not saying this to minimize or trivialize your reaction, or anything you’ve gone through. I’m saying this to tell you that I love you, and that we really are okay, because if you’re like me, then you really can’t hear that enough.
Hugs from Indiana
@@mariecarie1 and Ashley, me, too. This is incredibly validating.
Me too. I've been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and trich but am in processed of possible adhd diagnosis. And after hearing her talk, I think I also have OCD. I never realized that writing writing letters in the air/my hand and counting syllables over and over really was anything much but between how often I do that and how often I worry and think of scenarios in my head of awful things happening - it really does make me think I have that too. I have a perfect life otherwise but just truly can't feel the elation I should.
I’ve cried watching this with the realization of my own challenges
I really resonated with Alyssa, especially with the severe anxiety/depression, which used to be truly crippling. I've improved a lot over time, but I still really empathize. It's nice to know people who go through these struggles can feel less alone through this channel.
Everytime I feel myself starting to lose faith in humanity, I come back to this page and am reminded that compassion, kindness and empathy still exists.
You are truly beautiful human beings.
I have these five diagnoses. I can say it can definitely get better. I’m doing well, a world away from where I was 10 years ago. Five years ago, too. Much love to you both!
If only more people in the world were as genuine and accepting as he is
I was just about to type the same.. if only 5% of the people were like this guy, the world would look a whole lot different. Tears in my eyes rly.
He's way to Accepting. That's really cool
There are guys like this nowadays, but there are people who sadly neglect/deny them because girls would want something different then complain guys are shi8
BUT it goes vice versa of course.
Ikr? It would be a better place
This Boyfriend is truly an amazing soul. So accepting of her and others. Omg when he got choked up I could not keep from shedding a tear. He is wonderful.
I have a similar basket of letters in my diagnosis, and one thing I've realized by mid-life is that it's ok to be single. I've turned my focus away from people and more towards nature and animals. You don't have to give back to anyone if you're overwhelmed, just hanging out with a nice sunset is worthy as well.
For some, it may be a wise decision to be single. Many of us find it next to impossible to sustain balanced relationships - all while fighting to find a way to live with complex mental illnesses. It takes years of therapy, developing hobbies, and testing Many medications before we can start to feel well enough before we can begin to discover our own personalities.
I’ve watched this video several times, as with many other SBSK videos. This is by far my favorite❤. It proves their desire to reach and tell the stories of “special” kids/people is rooted in love, acceptance, and experience.
Alyssa and I were in band together in high school. I never noticed or knew about any of your conditions. I never had a problem with anxiety or depression until I was in my mid-20s. Been prescribed and has helped a lot in the last 5 years. Thank you for sharing all of this. It helps to know that there are people out there who I viewed as "okay" but have so much brewing behind their eyes. It helps everyone out there. Thank you!! Great organization as well.
Cap
@@johngrimek5151 why would they bother commenting this when Alyssa can just comment lol, doubt it's cap
Medication doesnt help. It masks it. Pills are only useful to make you stable enough to go to therapy. Speaking from experience. I weaned off the pills after 15yrs. Dont allow yourself to be on pills for so long as me
@@blazwura97 big CAP
I have most of those diagnoses and my boyfriend is like Chris, trying to learn while loving. It’s something I could never imagine and I love him very much
I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, and then as bipolar, and neither of those diagnosis were correct. When I was finally diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum, that felt absolutely right. She sounds to me like she's also an Aspie (high functioning autistic person). OCD, bipolar, anxiety disorders, major depressive disorder are all common misdiagnosis of autism in women because women will mask more then men.
Please try to remember you deserve the love, absolutely!!! 🙏💖🌈
@@d.leighannbatemon3192 Agree, 100%.
@@d.leighannbatemon3192 agreed 50% men mask more then women it’s very very not accurate men hide their feelings more it’s a well known thing
@@youraveragemfdoomenjoyer5513 Masking has nothing to do with hiding the way you feel it is about mimicking others and the way they operate and communicate to seem 'normal' or neurologically typical and women with autism are masters at this and that's why many of them do not get diagnosed it's really hard to recognize in women because not enough research has been done in the way it effects women specifically and yes masking is another reason why it's harder to get diagnosed
"Society is collapsing, and people are starting to recognize that the reason that they feel like they're mentally ill is that they're living in a system that's not designed to suit the human spirit."
I came across this quote & its really helped me understand some things about myself and the things I have delt with for a very long time. I was diagnosed with depression in 2016 and your story is very much similar to mine. I'm almost 30 as well and have ignored my feelings & thoughts and have had several nervous breakdowns. I praise your growth 🙌 and you really do inspire me to open up more and seek appropriate help with no shame. Thanks guys 💜
That is a wonderful quote, I love it! Source?
It sounds like something C.S. Lewis would say
I had a horrible nervous breakdown almost 5 years ago and I'm still struggling to put the pieces back together from that.
You sound like you're hugely growing!! To understand that you can't ignore feelings is enormous part of getting better. Don't stop treatment, be open and discuss the painful and shameful. Even when you feel like quitting, stay with it. Hugs and support!
@@professionalcommenter You will! Keep pushing ahead, you will heal!
Well done for being brave to share these personal struggles, and for mentioning trichotilliomania (one form of OCD), which is rarely talked about perhaps because it causes shame, guilt and embarrassment. I think that is like a vicious circle because doing it causes shame, and shame causes feeling of inadequacy and frustration has to be taken out on something - like hair, which is also a source of shame if it never looks neat enough or grows where you don't want it!!. Being anxious, stressed or frustrated makes me fiddle with my hair or pull it out, often unintentionally because I just get bothered by split ends and squiggly bits which I should ignore or cut off, not pull out the whole hair! But then it becomes a habit I can't stop unless I am keeping my hands busy doing something useful. Being asked why I do it also causes stress because it's hard to explain, and it's something I just find myself doing for no reason. Perhaps because of anxiety, but sometimes I don't know what I'm anxious about other than being afraid of being told off for making a bald patch. Perhaps part of the trouble is feelings can't be put into words. I also blame boredom, forgetting what I am supposed to be doing, or having cravings for sweet things I should not be eating and trying to avoid giving in to them!
Anyway whatever causes it, being told off about it doesn't really help, it just means someone else thinks you just need more self-control, which is hard when you have any kind of OCD. I was also told I should do some sort of cognitive behaviour therapy, but I don't really understand what that involves and found my own ways to manage - like keeping my mind and hands busy. 'Computer therapy' mostly!!
I have ideas about depression as well - and OCD in general... But on a more positive thought = this video is great showing how love can overcome or overlook all sorts of issues and people can accept each other just as they are. Keep on smiling - you two do a good job being honest about 'stuff' and I hope your RUclips channel helps more people understand and express what they go through and struggle with. More conditions have names these days than they had decades ago, and maybe more need names. I made one up: HSDDS "Hyper-sensitive discomfort distraction syndrome". Is that a real one or is it just a characteristic of autistic spectrum disorders or a symptom of PTSD? It seems more a physical thing than a mental one, but could cause or be associated with mental problems because of how physical sensations affect emotions and brain and how we choose to cope or how we find ouselves trying to cope without choosing deliberately, if that makes any sense! I mean I just can't concentrate on anything intellectual or serious when I'm uncomfortable, overwhelmed or irritated by any sensory stress. Even just a buzzing insect flying around bothering me or an itch that needs scratching!
Sorry this got too long!! Life is complicated!
This makes me feel so seen and it gives me hope that I'll find someone who can love me exactly as I am with all my diagnoses also. Thank you for sharing this. Alyssa, you are so incredibly brave and you are so, so loved. Thank you for being you. You are a gift. You both are!
I'm sure you will 💙
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Alyssa, this video really resonated with me. I have BP2, anxiety, and bad depression. A partner of 2 years left me because of my mental illness, so it is encouraging to see amazing people like Chris are out there to accept us for who we are. I cried so many times watching this because you voiced thoughts I have always had but struggled to articulate. Thank you for your insights and vulnerability. You are an amazing, strong woman.
Trust that the person who walked out was a good day thing. The right person with enough patience and kindness will enter. Until then, love yourself and maybe get a rescue pup too (but that's just my personal opinion lol). Have a great day ☺️
@@MJ-gj6mj Thank you so much for the kind words. That made my day! I wish you the best!
If you need a person to talk to, there are some kind people here
I hope Alyssa is doing better now 2 years later. I'd love an update on her if anything has changed hopefully for the better ❤️
Same!!
I think sometime next year marks their 10 year anniversary (based on what they said at 2:06), so hopefully we could get a video around then!
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Yes ❤
Yes, I'd like to see an update!!
I'm a single father of 5 boys. I know what it's like to watch someone you care about struggle. It hurts a lot. You have to let it flow through you everyday to manage it. Stay goofy. Sometimes, we have to smile not to cry. Humor is the best medicine.
Thank you both so much for sharing this. My wife has these exact same 5 mental disorder diagnoses and we have such an amazing relationship. That said, it’s really really nice to hear someone else express things that I’ve thought, felt, seen, and heard myself that I wasn’t sure if anyone else could ever relate to because our situation feels so unique. The journey certainly isn’t always easy but it is 1000% worth it.
The way he just looks at her when she’s asking him questions behind the camera, I love it he’s so sweet and caring for her
Yes, such tender strength, it's lovely to see in young people
I am 64 and for the first time in my life listening to her I realized there was actually someone who was going through exactly what I did.
I am so proud of have far you have came. Thank you for sharing with us. 💕
I'm 64 also. I've had very bad anxiety all of my life and had a nervous breakdown 1.5 years ago. Now on meds.
I think she is my twin actually. wow
You both are truly blessed and are both teaching each other a lot. It definitely is a gift to have someone accept you for who you are no matter if you have a mental health disorder or not.
And this dude literally says all the right things. You two are seriously perfect for one another..so honest and smart and sooo kind..
@keren cormier - One thing I would change is Chris' response that he wouldn't change Alyssa's diagnoses because she is perfect as is. But since she is continuing with therapy, she WILL change. Reassurance that he will continue love her through her personal evolution would go a long way in giving her the emotional permission she needs to keep changing. Noodle, of course, will continue to love her intuitively through her coming changes.
This is the first video I went to go find once I heard comments were back on. This was such an amazing and brave post. I have watched it more than once because it really resonated with me. My hope is that you have more good days than bad days and you still find small moments of enjoyment during the bad days. I love the relationship between you two from the small glimpse we saw. I hope you guys have many more days of silly to come. You are worth every minute of praise because you are working on yourself every single day and that is a huge accomplishment. Thank you for sharing. I sincerely appreciate it on a personal level.
Exactly
The “being a burden” I feel that soo deeply
I agree this is a big part of needing help. One thing that helps me is thinking about how I feel when I have the ability to help someone. The best days I have are those I get to help someone. That is why they call it the gift of your need, when you allow someone to help you out is a gift to them. Please consider this when you feel you are a burden...
@@karenbonham1359 thank you!!! 💕
As someone with anxiety disorder, PTSD, depression and ADHD I get this so much. I wish her all the success in the world with her therapy. It is awful to be so trapped in your own mind (especially with a critical interior voice) and feel disconnected from the world at times. No one is harder on me than I am. I would never talk to anyone the way my inner voice talks to me. It is like an abuser you can't escape from.