Born Addicted to Opioids (The Forgotten Victims of the Drug Crisis)
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- Опубликовано: 29 мар 2023
- Liam was born with multiple drugs in his system and quickly went into withdrawal. Today he is diagnosed with autism, anxiety, depression, ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder (ODD). Doctors also found that his brain is malformed. Liam wants others to know that he is trying to control his impulses, but it can be difficult.
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One of the main things I hope this video illustrates is that Liam is a victim. The exposure to drugs while he was developing caused his brain to become malformed. As a result, he now struggles with anger and impulse control. Children with ODD are often labeled as "bad" children, but it is much more complex than that. Also, I just want to point out that it is entirely possible for a child to be diagnosed with ODD without exposure to drugs in utero.
Thanks for making videos on this stuff!
Amazing tribute, bro. Thanks so much for this and other profiles you do.
I've had a kid with ODD in one of my jobs, and theirs was due to severe abuse. One of the sweetest kids I've ever met, SUPER self aware, and they were working SO hard to grow from their past.
The fact that Liam said "if I could find a human friend" broke my heart. He seems like a very sweet, smart child, and he's very well spoken. I hope he finds some wonderful friends soon.
As someone who is in school for special education , this helped give me a brief insight into the world of ODD
@@Cimorelli102 I don’t think they mentioned that , he looks 11 or 12 in my eyes
Little bro speaks more articulately than half of the people my age.
@2ndPeterVBlack absolutely agree!!!
He is articulate because his parents encourage and model it.
i know right its so crazy
I hope he makes some friends in middle school and he stays himself cuz he seems like a funny kid
its a thin line between crazyness and intelligence
He’s a smart kid and somebody is telling him otherwise
I would imagine kids at school
@@what.theguac9290 so sad :(
Very actually
Yeah, it's great he seems to love computers, they have been the salvation for many with autism.
Cause he’s ‘different’ and ppl(for example teachers) dont know how to deal with him. They either dont have experience or dealing with him is tiring - cant blame them, but it isnt excuse also.
"Me and him don't have no friends." 😢That hurts my heart.
Ik I would be his friend
breaks my heart 😢
bro this dude seems like such a vibe, i'd hang out with him any time
100% me too 😂
yeah fr
Nahh frr
IKRR
LITERALLY exactly what i'm thinking
“It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees” that hit hard.
@@laylam4241 jeez man
:(
Yeah even family
@@dp1084 So what? Maybe he can learn to follow some damn rules.
are you brain dead?
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Considering all the drugs his mom took while pregnant, he is doing great. I'm surprised he made it out.
I mean, he still has a long way to go… Only time will tell where he will end up ..
@@alsoleve99 He will never follow the rules, I dont think he'll ever be able to support himself.
@@kerafyrm_lol that’s the limit you put on yourself. Rules are meant to be broken and as you get older you have to learn how to not get caught doing it, we do it everyday. Do you not slow down when you see a cop in traffic in hopes that he doesn’t catch you going 10 over and then immediately speed up when you’ve passed him? Most of us abide by the rules when it’s convenient to keep us out of trouble but would break them if they stood between us and something that really matters, again we see that everyday. Have you every analyzed what rules are and what it means to have rules? Who comes up with the rules? In our case it would be a governing body, what exactly qualifies them above anyone else to determine what can or can’t be done in life? How egotistical do we have to be as humans to sincerely believe we can make rules that tell people how they have to live? When you look at the wonder that is life and existence how on earth do you get convinced that rules that are man made get to govern any of how this works? Following rules simply implies that it is ok to have someone else’s view imposed upon you and that you have to fall in line with that, I don’t need there to be a law to say that I shouldn’t harm someone because I understand that on my own and can govern myself accordingly. Nobody needs a law to tell them they should or shouldn’t do something because we already possess that ability to determine those things naturally, if you are unable to see right from wrong on your own then it’s time for some introspection
@@kerafyrm_ im not big on following rules either and i support myself just fine. Not being totally controled by norms is a good sign, just because a mom has had lots of drugs while pregnant, does not not always mean the kid will be damaged, or cant recover. people, animals and plants can go through a lot and succeed. but only time will tell. i wish him the best
@@kerafyrm_Don't make assumptions about a literal kid's future life
This mother is a super hero. The amount of patiences she has is out of this world.
Foster parents and adoptive parents are amazing ❤️❤️
Poor mother, you can see the pain on his face due to the damage that the biological mother did to that child
Don't call that woman his "biological mother", all she did was give birth. She's not a mother and will never be. The woman who's in the video and takes care of him however, is his mother.
I am wondering how much of it are drags influence his brain Development and how much is inheritted. There are certain personality traits/brain chemistry that make you easier to get addicted. One of it is ADHD, that we know runs in family.
He is beyond smart. He's more intelligent than many "normal" kids.
I feel so bad for Liam. He reminds me of myself age 10-12.. Books were my friends. Books were my school. I learned so much from them.
I wish I was a kid who used books as her best friends when I was younger, I absolutely love reading now, been doing it consistently for a while now, not to mention all the reading in school, but truly one of my biggest regrets and my parents were nvr rlly the ones to enforce it on me lol im ranting @@a.lhatfield7375
Likely because he is autistic
Are you kidding?
@@LarinaMitr-dd1to I believe people with challenges have strengths that those without challenges don't have. They have intelligence specific to their conditions. I see it in my own kid.
Can we take a moment to appreciate the mom- she is solid as a rock.
You talking about Larry?
Totally agree, the woman is a saint ❤ I think he is in good environment despite a rough start in life.
so truee,,I salute her for taking care of such an angel
She's a saint
It’s very sad to hear she has no “village” left to help her.
When he sat in the background and told the camera what he is doing, for those wondering. I just loved that, I so often think about unnecessary things that happen and he just answered it. Made me feel like he could see a whole different perspective. I really hope he will do well in life and find some good on this „trash earth“.
as a person who got diagnosed with ADHD as a little kid, I can understand how frustating it can be to be aware of your own disorder and how differently your brain works from anybody else's, and not be able to change that.
Sending all positive vibes to this kid.
Damn, this kid is actually really smart and articulate! Not to downplay his disorders, but wow I think this kid has A LOT of potential.
Bro it’s just a normal kid. It’s crazy how a child not following “rules” means he has a disorder. All that kid needs is someone to tell him that he is just fine
I think hhe is really ahead of other kids of his age... @@stamatiskotakis9110
@@stamatiskotakis9110no.. you can't just judge his behavior only based on what you see in this video. Also you gain nothing from downplaying his disorders (or anyone elses disorder). Autism, ADHD, ODD aren't very obvious so it's easy to misinterpret them as just "bad behavior".
Si si si, yo pensé lo mismo. I thought the same thing, after what he's encountered. Wow 😲 what a beautiful & intelligent 🤓 young man. His mom is to be commended!!
Areas of his brain are malformed. Which means even with potential, some stuff about his disorders can't be changed or improved unfortunately.
Liam's self-awareness and intelligence are remarkable for his age. I hope the ODD can be managed so his other talents can shine.
I hope so too!
That's a made up bs
@@curiousgeorge6921 i wish it was. i was diagnosed with ODD when i was very young. its very very tough to overcome alot of mental challenges. Depression Etc.
@@curiousgeorge6921 What is made-up? You're spouting nonsense.
@@annjepsen1621 heya i think i can give some insight. Im not completely sure of what they mean but from my own research and experience that a lot of the time ODD is used by parents to neglect their own place in their child’s behavior and emotional responses. For me it was used as a way to discredit my questioning and concerns about my education or my autistic meltdowns and just being defiant or just me “discrediting authority”. A lot of people with autism and adhd disagree with the diagnosis in general but i think it just needs to be diagnosed less frequently because its obviously a thing that people deal with on a Neurological level but it also agree that its very often sed as a way to silence neurodivergent voices. I hope this gives some insight but please let be know if I’m misunderstanding
I am surprised how smart he is. But I am much more surprised from that how unbelievably patient and nice is this woman. She is saint and wow... she deserves respect. Just... be strong, you are perfect mom!
I really hope that this mom has some sort of system for herself. A support group of parents that also have children with ODD might be comforting because they are dealing with the same things. Other parents that won't say she's a bad mom or not strict enough. Instead of judging they'll support her. She's doing her best to support her son and help him in any way she can. She also deserves support and understanding.
I'd be so interested to see a follow-up interview with Liam in like 10 years.
Totally
Me too
Yesss
Remember there is hope for us addicts! Even if born addicted.
Его некониролируемые вспышки ярости могут привести к тяжёлым последствиям, сейчас он раскидывает предметы, но мальчик растет,становится физически сильнее и это может плохо закончиться для родителей и окружающих людей,это как вариант,может быть препараты будут подавлять его вспышки ярости,а так парень , умный, очень симпатичный,но проблемы с агрессией явно просматриваются.
You can see Liam's frustration at how different his brain is immediately. He's such an intelligent, articulate, sharp kid and is extremely good at telling us (as much as a kid can) how rough it is to butt up against his neurological hard limits. It's super telling how good he is at self-advocacy at such a young age. Poor kid is trying so damn hard and his biomom set him up to fail.
I call em “Birthers” and “Seeders” and that’s it. They’re not dads, fathers, moms, mothers, or guardians of any type. When you deliberately harm your child, you’re a piece of crap not a parent.
It is sad because he is extremely perceptive, and he's self aware of his condition and emotions. I was not at all as aware of my emotions at this age.
@@xCosmicMuffinManxI literally don’t remember being his age let alone my emotions 😂
And good chance the world set his bio mom up to fail. Most hard core drug addicts have been through horrible trauma.
Don’t blame the mom. Blame the system. Blame the school and blame society
I feel like I’m watching a runaway train. I’ve never been as unsettled by an interview on this channel as I am now. He’s brilliant but incredibly worrisome
Same! He's so intelligent and full of potential, but I worry how his behavior will affect his future. I hope mom finds a support group and Liam gets all the help he needs!
Liam is actually a really cool kid. When I was a kid these are the friends I made. Genuine. Silly. Real. When you’re that, people will be harder on you in school, but you’re going to be a way more awesome adult because you’ll see both sides by that time. I’ll always hope the best for you kiddo stay real
“It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees” that, just hit really hard
Super sad :( and the part where they told her theres no way they'll get money for these kids. Truly heartbreaking.
Real life isn't perfect and neither are families and kids.
I hope the parents, especially the mom who seems to be doing most of the work, have a support system.
lol 😂😂
It hurts my heart so bad.
@@martina5296 uh sure
To Liam's mum - I don't know if you realise, you are his rock, you are his Larry. Much love from a mother with a son that is just like Liam.
Damn... that hit hard...like a rock.
Awhhh that’s so sweet and so true 🥹
This nearly made me cry
@@MaeveWinters sorry x
@@Alexandra_Hill no it’s okay ❤️
Im from germany. Im working with kids like him in families as a social worker. Every day I learn something new. I have the greatest respect for his mother. Thank you for this video.
Thank you so much for this interview. Liam has a tremendous will to live and be involved in the things that bring him alive. I really appreciate how Chris was able to hone in on asking questions about the way Liam decides and makes choices. Or in what he prefers or thinks. Liam made me laugh out loud multiple times and it is evident he is loving by nature as he kept kissing Larry and directly tells his Mom he's going to miss her. It is important for him to feel safe and in charge. Emotional regulation can be difficult for a lot of adults, let alone a really smart youth being told how different he is versus appreciating him for his strengths and capabilities. Goodness, I didn't catch his Mom's name - however, thank you for taking the time to both understand Liam, love him, be a calm energy to guide and educate. Thank you so much for being so genuine in expressing your feelings and concerns for his care. I wish you both every support and care to live with gusto. ❤
"It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees."
This might be the most heartbreaking part of it all. Liam's mom, you are a superhero. He is so lucky to have you. I think one day he will finally be able to see that.
I don’t think Liam acts the way he does because he’s ungrateful or doesn’t realize how lucky he is to have such a patient and understanding mother.
I don’t think ODD will give him that perspective on his mom as an adult, unless it becomes more manageable somehow.
This quote gives me kinda Naruto vibes
Good lord that hurts. It's so true though. If your child is diagnosed with anything at all, everyone just leaves. They no longer want you in their life cause you might contaminate them
Totally relatable! I understand her completely. I have experienced that with my own child. In fact, I was told one time that my child was one of the hardest children her therapist had ever had to work with. Her therapist was supportive and at least fought for us to get the help we needed when my child was a teen. Unfortunately, he kept getting doors slammed in his face, figuratively, too.
I know the mom truly love this little boy, but I can tell she is exhausted. I hope she's able to have time for herself and mental well-being.
It's crazy to judge others just by watching 1 videos. Westerners make wild guesses about other people's emotions just by looking at their facial expressions.
I want to be Liam friend
I think he needs a younger mom, someone who can keep up with his energy, because he has a lot of it. Hopefully his mom puts him in sports like swimming, so he can focus that energy.
@@novrinkov0053 She literally says in the video she's exhausted. It's not "westerners" making a wild guess, she says in the video. You're also actually just making a wild guess that the commenter is a westerner too so
@@novrinkov0053 nice generalization
Liam should be a youtuber, or streamer, just talking, he's so charismatic and charming. ❤
Well, if he’d stop thrashing his devices…. But this is what many here don’t understand or can’t seem to acknowledge:
ODD has clear neuro-biological roots, which alter the neural pathways and connections.
Especially significant are the issues involving certain aspects of the cortex.
He acts before he considers the results of his actions-this is beyond his control.
The adoptive mother is not “making money” from this neurodivergent young man’s disability.
The string of dx’s likely came about due to the school setting attempting to get services (assistance/therapy) for him.
In an educational setting, they’re not true medical dx’s, but “eligibility codes”-- of which only less than a handful will offer the student any extra assistance.
ODD is very serious; it’s a dx that is given which is usually indicative of extremely serious disorders which cannot be placed on minors.
He is not receiving sufficient support nor services. The diligent mother goes so far as to plead for assistance from her State’s Representative-he fails in his duty by refusing to REPRESENT (his job) her child’s lack of educational support by throwing the onus onto the “taxpayers”.
This misguided excuse, the over-played, ubiquitous worn-out trope, yet still the most effective and popular in the US, is used like an old fly-swatter…to humiliate those in need.
Remember this: Unless you leave this planet young and in an instant, you-too-will someday be in need, unless you’re in the .01%
Liam & Larry, best team in my opinion! Wishing the best to this family. Mom is so strong and loving, and Liam is so smart and fun ! Hope things go well, I can tell he'll continue being a smart young man with a lot of enthousiasm !
Even though he has been diagnosed with all these conditions and difficult to control sometimes, he is still a smart and intelligent young man. They need to stop using the word 'problem' around him and start pushing the positive reinforcements.
Ditto!
Agreed!
Exactly I felt through the whole thing using his diagnosis as excuses around him and giving him fuel to the issues it's important to know and get help for him but some stuff should remain among the adults
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I was in a relationship with someone aspergic. That part was fine, but after 5 years I realised he was using it as a trump card to be an a-hole. Don't give them the excuse to be a-holes
I think he has an ADVANCED sense of humour that his peer dont get. He is very lucky to have a kind mom. I hope he makes the best of it, i see a bright future for this kid.
Definitely.
I'm laughing at all his stuff 😂😭. Such a pure soul.
I 100% agree. I think he’s hilarious
He's bright. I guess the issue is overall balance. Who knows, maybe there is some yet to be discovered modality to help.
I sadly understand this boys sense of humor. He uses the horrible things he went through as a joke to help take back the power he felt he lost at a very young age. My mom was never a drug user when she was pregnant, but my father was an addict. I lost him a few years after I was born. I use the trauma and pain I had as jokes to make myself feel better about what happened. One day this boy will find a good group of friends who understands and supports the jokes because they know it’s not it ever be harmful.
I'm so impressed by the mothers love and patience, that must be so hard for all of them, but it's beautiful to see them trying to learn more and understand each other.
This mum is incredible and has a heart of gold for sure ❤ bless them both 🙏
“It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees.” WOW- what a sentiment. This woman has so much strength
I felt so sorry for her when she said that, it's true, my aunt has a disabled child and she's so alone, she lives in a different country so all we can do is help her financially but it's not fair, I hope to get them legally into the states so she can get much deserved help and my cousin can get the therapy he needs. My heart goes out to all parents who are dealing with this.
@@karinagomez9831 Yes Karina. The child needs THERAPY and Yes, the mom is STRONG but unable to provide that therapy. Allowing Liam to do and say what he wants IS NOT THERAPY. During THERAPY, Liam would be trained adequately and it would not be so as to LET HIM DO AS HE FEELS LIKE. Drugs are destroying the brains of many children, young teens and adults.
@@lulazeta8965 He DOES get therapy.
@lulazeta8965 youve been spewing ignorance and prejudices all throughout this comment section. please leave people alone
@@d.laveyyy What do you think DEMOCRACIY is? I WILL KEEP ON EXPRESSING MY OPINION . Don't ask anyone not to express theirs. It may be you, not I, the "ignorant". You are out of line.
PROTECT THIS MOM at all cost!!! She’s one of a kind.
@@lulazeta8965 what in the world
@@lulazeta8965 if hes not gonna clean his room they arent gonna send him off to a goddamn shelter where'd you get that from
@@lulazeta8965 what is wrong with you?
actually no she seems to be very intolerant and this entire video is legit focused on how awful and "miserable" (to use her own words) it is to raise a child who's a trauma survivor and to raise a neurodivergent child, there are many many kids with ODD (and ADHD, depression, anxiety, etc), and many parents who raise them and don't blame the kids or have a miserable experience. crazy concept: you can love a child with neurodivergences. wow!!! smh. this video was super bad education and promotes ableism, and intolerance of people w different brains
@@Hamdreas can I ask him a question
I really feel sorry for this exhausted mother. She is a very good person who sacrifices her life to help this poor kid, that might never understand how much his parents loves him. I hope one day they get support that they need!
im so glad that there are people out there like this very strong and admirable woman. She is such a blessing to this young mans life.
Liam's personality is straight out of a Malcom in the middle episode. I think he would do great as a comedy writer. He's gifted with incredible comedic timing.
when he said the thing about meta lowering their prices i bursted out laughing. he is too cute
I thought of comedy for him.
He's a really OG dude.
Agree!
There's nothing funny to live with a person that doesn't value nor respect the people that takes care of them.
This boy is indeed a victim of drug abuse but unfortunately he won't make life easy for his caregivers.
If people with asperger syndrome are hurtful to live with, I can't imagine what would be to love and take care of him...
He is a victim, yes, but their foster parents are as well.
I sense he is being ‘told’ a lot about himself that he is making his identity. He is being told who he is, and that that person is ‘faulty’. Of course he feels different when all he’s known is being treated different and being told he’s restricted because of labels. It’s sad how matter of fact he is about himself, but that’s learnt from the adults around him. He’s clearly super intelligent and very self aware
He is but it’s important to tell him the truth… It’s focused on because that is essentially the root of his behavior. Also this video is to talk about what happened.
iABSOLUTELY agree n caught onto that as well
I agree with you completely. I picked up on this as well. I have a family member who has a child with ODD and they are very controlling. ODD is created. I do not think children are born with this
Exactly! ☹️
@@ponygirl9831 uh. well. you are in fact born with odd. its usually something that tags along with autism or adhd which as im sure you know is entirely biological
He seems like the sweetest boy ever. He deserves all the friends in the world and I hope life treats him so well
Мама этого мальчика - человек с большим сердцем и душой. Долгих ей лет в здравии!
он ее просто зарежит в будущем,он опасен для всех!!это маленький не управляемый псих больной!
My heart breaks for Liam. He deserves to find some good friends. He seems like a brilliant mind who was affected by his bio moms decisions. He has a good family who will help him thrive in life.
Every disabled kid I know, including my own, is excluded from friendship. Even the parents don't want the disabled kids at their kid's birthday parties. Sad.
@@Aristotle2000 I totally agree- my 13 year old son is often excluded by my own family! But, I work with special needs adults in a day program and they are all great friends. That social component is so important!
@@Aristotle2000 You need to find your people. People who aren't exposed to disability aren't emotionally equipped and experienced enough to deal with their own awkwardness with affected individuals. That includes potential "situations" involving other children.
@@MandoMTL We are looking. It isn't easy.
@@Aristotle2000 hits too close to home as an autistic kid, people just don't talk to me but lucky enough i like that
The fact that this child is fully aware of his conditions and why he has them shows how incredibly intelligent and mature he is
He has a very bright future ahead of him
Yes, The mom need to learn Liam that he is not a diagnosis. He is not different. The truth is that the parents and adults say it to hom. And the say all of kind of diagnos. Dont put diagnosis on children. Childen can have autism and adhd. Thats it. What i see in Liam is so clear. He have autism spectrum level 1. He have not adhd.
this kid will 100% grow to have ASPD.
@@kathleenschoultz kids can have other diagnoses.
@@kathleenschoultz i agree entirely, the way the interviewer approached him with those questions and his mom talking so much about the diagnosis, the kid will believe people will let him down and that he is not going to be good enough. He listened attentively to everything his mom about him and he believes them. I think he is a very smart kid and he is just following the role he was told to play.
@@kathleenschoultz You’re not Liam’s parent and have no idea what it’s like to try to parent a child like him. By saying he’s no different than any other child, you not only invalidate the intense hardships and heartbreaks the mom experiences every single day, but you deny him from receiving specialized treatments and care a child like him needs in order to thrive. He obviously has a lot more going on than just autism and ADHD; Liam literally has a developmentally malformed brain. Neurotypical people don’t understand that diagnoses can vastly help in understanding how the individual’s mind works and finding the best ways to work with the individual.
I loved listening to this mama talk. You can tell how much she cares and how much patience she has. And what a smart son she has raised. Would love to see an update video on them in the future 💛
She just seems tired and not able to handle him tbh
He reminds me so much of my own son, from looks to intelligence/wit to behavior. Can't help but love him based on that alone. Wishing him a bright future.
When his Mom said "the village flees" broke my heart. Liam isn't the only one needing a friend. Maybe she could look for local parents,going through some of the same issues,to hang out with? He is SO intelligent.
Hopefully there are some available. My son has similar issues (different cause) and she reminds me of me when my son was that age. It's very tiring and frustrating and can wear you down. Shes a terrific mother and i I wish them the best
He is very intelligent. He speaks articulately.
Same 😢
I am a member of many community groups (chronic pain/headache disorders/other issues I deal with) because I CANNOT find real life support within my local community. I don't mind having online support/friends and in fact have formed some close long-lasting (10 years+) friendships. Maybe it's a possibility for Liam? With all the appropriate supervision/safety measures,of course❤️
Liam's mom could also meet other parents on line. There are many of us with children who share at least some of Liam's challenges! It would be good for her to speak with other parents who've found ways to avoid some of the conflict. Sometimes, with some children, just asking a different way can be all that's necessary. Sometimes, to-do lists ('star charts', for example) with lists of tasks that need to be done - in conjunction with some sort of reward (a game together, an offer to talk about Roblox (or another preferred topic) - can be helpful. Sometimes they're not. Sharing both, the useful and the less-so, can be helpful to any parent - especially a parent of an intelligent, opinionated child like Liam (and like my son as well).
Salute to Liam’s mom (not the biological one) for her strength, patience, and endurance in raising him. You are such an amazing mom, Liam is very lucky to have you as a mom.
Agreed, she's a saint!
This!
Absolutely!
Awestruck is a term that shouldn't be used lightly. This is a case where it's not even enough.
Liam is absolutely a victim here. However we need to also keep in mind that everybody is impacted by addiction, even the parent of a child. Not excusing his biological mom's behaviour and choices, but the opioid epidemic is a devastating problem all around. Loved listening to Liam, what strength he has.
The vengeful behavior really has to get under control before he gets any older.
I have rebelious 7year old. It got so much better over time. He reseables this boy. Beacuse of this kid brain demage, I am wondering how much socialosation or teraphy can help :/ some things he says sounds like psychopathic unfortunately :(
@@baassiiaYou do have to differenciate between the actual medical Oppositional Defiant Disorder this Kid is diagnosed with that causes this Behavior in him from the normal Stage of Defiance Kids normally go through anyways. It definitively doesn't help that he also has ADHD: Many Symptoms overlap and play into each other.
His brain is very damaged. Sometimes no matter how much therapy or medication or education, it can’t be changed. His brain is not normal, it developed differently and there was s no cure. Management is the only thing they can do. You must be able to see how loving she is. As she says it’s something he cannot control
Goodluck lil bro! you gon need it!
This child is very smart, inquisitive, and highly articulate.
yeah some kind of special that doesnt work out when you are an adult...
But I think he lacks emotional intelligence and empathy.
@@anayarey yes, I agree.
And funny! And full of humility. Great timing and delivery.
@@anayareyWhy do you say that? Autistic children are often misunderstood as lacking empathy but for the majority it's actually the complete opposite, they are just not good at expressing it.
My heart aches for this mom. You can see she is completely drained.
My heart aches for both of them. I’m sure Liam doesn’t mean to be difficult- he just needs more help, more support and a friend. Just one good friend.
She is an angel. She has life purpose❤❤❤
His brain was injured by his drug addicted biological parents, my heart aches for both of them.
@@jwonTh angel***
@@yikesgina k thx
This kid is so smart, I see myself in him a lot, I pray for his peace and success. I definitely cried when watching this.
this young man is very intelligent . i hope he finds a friend/friends. Mom is doing a a great job and patient.
He actually seems very intelligent, funny, very creative/imaginative. The only problems I as an outsider can see is his ADD and insecurity.
What’s about ODD?
The ODD is almost worse. But adhd is horrible
@@louisasmiles a child that doesn't like rules? Have you had kids lmao.
@@billbailey1511 have you known someome with ODD?
HE IS CAPABLE OF UNDERSTANDING THE CONCEPT OF "PARENTAL AUTHORITY" AND UNDERSTANDING THAT HE CANNOT 'PUNISH " HIS PARENTS WHEN HE IS TOLD WHAT TO DO. LIAM NEEDS TO BE TAUGHT THAT "DEFINCE HAS A PRICE" AND MAKE THE INTELLIGENT CHOICE OF "OBEYING" AUTHORITY.
The fact that she’s not even his bio mom, she had no obligation or responsibility to take this kid in and yet she gave her life to making sure he has a good life, absolutely nothing in return. This woman has a huge heart
Edit: she’s gotta start using some reverse psychology bc telling him what she wants him to do just doesnt seem like its gonna work out lol
dont adopt a special needs child if u dont know what ur getting into
Yeah probably someone whos witty might help in therapy (like with the shirt thing she says "I bet you can't get your shirt on in 5 minutes" or "Wear your shoes first" "that doesnt make sense I'll wear my socks first". I dont think he has a motive besides wanting control, and doing that sort of thinking might guide him towards certain behaviors but it is hard to avoid being manipulative/not be manipulative towards him since it feels like the biggest thing that may affect him in the future
He's extremely smart though. He'll probably learn her new strategy quickly and start resisting that too
Congrats to the mom BUT (!!!) that ODD have a lot to do with her being a single mom and he just didn't see her as an authority figure because she may be afraid of educating him the real way thinking in his past!
This should be changed immediately if they want to save this child's future. All of his adulthood depends on that.
He doesn't follow orders because he never had been "punished" the right way nor had dealt with the real consequence of his actions.
This excessive protection can led to him ending up in an mental institution to save him from prison!
@@JDFe exactly just like he hasn't had consequences he also hasn't had incentives for good behavior either. Sometimes its just to avoid a consequence and keep the peace. Instead he has learned that abuse tantrums and defiance work.
You are a good mother trying her best. Do not listen to the other parents saying that you are not a good mother. In my eyes you are a special person mum 👏🌹
His mother looks so anxious, I hope somebody is also taking care of her ❤️
This woman desperately needs help. She can’t do this on her own. No one should have to do this on their own. I fear for her mental health, and the extreme toll this is having on her.
Truly.
The boy is bullying her
@@jadedtoday1019she says “we” when talking about people thinking she’s a bad parent, and talking about “our” older children. Not sure she’s single.
When you adopt alone no one makes you aware how bad it can get. My adopted child spent time in a mental health unit as a direct result of the first family. She had no idea what she was going to get with that 7 week old new born and she looks absolutely exhausted and in need of some tlc.
Where is the jelly fish then?
In some ways, the more people say he’s different, the more he acts different intentionally
I thought that too.. I'm sure he's a handful but I feel like bringing the diagnosis up isn't a good way to go about things. Like a self fulfilling prophecy.. I feel like you shouldn't tell kids too much about this stuff until they get older and have a higher level of understanding.. otherwise it could limit them
This is all related to the various parts of the brain that control impulse. It’s not his fault that his brain is damaged.
Yeah but he IS different, he has like 7 disorders working at once. I think he is kind of forcing it (with the football helmet randomly for example). But he’s most likely doing that as a result of being isolated & treated as different just for being treated as different for being himself. He’s also rlly young, it’s a common trait for kids his age. At his age I did the same thing
@@slc1161is not only that is a smart kid. Kids are easy influenceables. Is not everything white or black in life. You probably don't even understand.
That was my exact thought, then I saw your comment. I think these things could be holding him back. Maybe they should've kept some of this from him until he was older. By telling him he's different, it seems to influence his actions.
This kid is unhinged. I could never. His mom is a god send. This kid exhausted me just from watching this video.
hes seems like he would be a perfect friend to have at your side, i hope where ever he is right now i hope he is doing well :)
God he’s so charismatic. He could do stand up one day. So clever and bright.
Yesss he's so witty and smart!
He was extremely lucky, and he has a bright future ahead of him. I hope he takes advantage of that and lives his life exactly how he wishes to
That is because of the heroin - it makes you a hero!
Its the drugs
Edit out the misused big/ special names Lucy and mil (in Ermilio) and big terms God and bright and clever and up etc that only reflect me THE only God / Goddess / Lady / Leader / Queen / Princess / Boss / Star etc and the only Lucy / bright being etc, and pronouns can never be with capital letters when referring to others / hum’ns, only when referring to me - big terms and capital letters all reflect superiority, and such things only reflect me THE superior being and the only lovable / loved being etc, and big terms / love related terms cannot be misused by hum’ns in any way!
She seems like she's on the edge of a nervous breakdown bless her. Her strength and resilience is amazing.
There is a real disconnect in this world where heroes like her are ignored whilst those deserving of disdain are elevated.
Not a nervous breakdown, but a woman multi-tasking to her absolute max... keeping an eye on her hyperactive child, responding accordingly, keeping herself together, and holding an interview for the guests, in front the camera, and the eventual internet...
I don't think she looks like she's about to have a nervous breakdown at all...
She's just busy and stressed
@@savannahnickel1041 I actually agree that she is white knuckling on the verge of a major breakdown
Very sad reality
Definitely over whelmed and is worried about his future. She feels alone in this. She is trying her best but the village is no were to be found.
This is a good example how messed up our society is and why we have so many shootings and homeless. People just look the other way when they are children then when they become adults the village is still no were to be found. There is a lot of good in this world and this woman is one of the good. Adopting this child knowing he would have some special needs. I have a lot of respect for her.
Hopefully she can keep him on a straight path. Who knows what would of happened if he ended up in our system that is overwhelmed. I hope she is reminding him how much he is loved every day he needs it desperately because life is a struggle for him. Her love can be his shield from the outside world, his safe zone.
I am a former NICU social worker and think often of the NAS babies and the struggles they face growing up and even as an adult. Thank you sweet mom for being there and advocating for him. Liam your are very smart and keep working with your parents, doctors, therapists and teachers. You have a bright future ❤️
The amount of self awareness he has, is incredible! What an amazing kid.
That mom is probably one of the most patient people I've ever seen, what an amazing woman.
Especially, as a adopted mom. I love to have a mom like her❤❤❤😊😊
She probably heavily medicated
@@quorincollins9965 what kind?
@@quorincollins9965 He was the one who called her names.
@@quorincollins9965 you did not understand what was going on if this is your belief
I can’t help but feel bad for both Liam and his mom. He didn’t choose to have ODD, autism etc. but you can tell he’s a very intelligent, self aware, well spoken kid. When he heard his mom say people call her a bad parent and he said “Well they’re wrong”, you know he meant that. Just like his mom i hope he has a bright future, rooting for you Liam
well i think he said they’re wrong for thinking they should set more boundaries.
Only one had a choice.
The way his interviewer said "biological mom" implies it was an open adoption
Hm
Beautifully phrased. Liam is a gifted and intelligent boy and he'll surely do well in life. God bless 🙏
this is so sad. I'm so glad there's people like the adoptive mom with wo much love and patience to give kids like him a chance to gain their life back 😓😓
I think he is kinda misdiagnosed. Of course he is socially isolated, he is ridiculously articulated. He has a really smart sense of humour. He doesn't have ADHD, he can't concentrate at school because he is clearly BOOOORED. The medical "professionals" are just giving him a bunch of labels based on symptoms, ignoring the obvious: he is crazy intelligent. He just needs a catalyst, something to use all that brain power on. And people that are on his intellectual level. If I felt that everybody I relate to is as smart as a chicken I would also go crazy.
There's a book called Brain Energy, he would probably benefit from that approach too.
He seems way smarter and self aware than other kids his age
Right?
He should identify as a rock to get out of school if the school is gonna be unfair
@@HolaEspanyol transphobia? We are all over the 2010s attack helicopter
@@gabrielwong9063transphobia shouldn’t even be a word. U can’t change what u are
It's typical for autistic kids.
He’s intelligent for his age, so that’s not a problem. It’s his behavioral issues which can be corrected over time. Wish the kid the best in life.
A child with normal brain development can improve behavioral issues over time. Liam has a whole different set of challenges, including Autism which does not change over time. He will always be different, I agree he is highly intelligent. He’s very witty too. I hope he continues to get the support he needs and finds a way to thrive in life. I think it’s important not bypass his challenges while holding him in high regard.
@@biancamichelle11I only have Anxiety and Autism. However, my behavioural problems have completely disappeared. I think it is totally possible for his behavioural problems to disappear if he gets the right support.
How old is he
@@biancamichelle11it really depends on your personality, cant say that for everyone because it CAN change (doesnt mean it has to) especially because were getting more and more options to reduce the negative symptoms by e.g. neurofeedback
as you already implied in ur comment, everyone is different
I think that just because this kid had a rough start people have been underestimating him. he seems genuinely brilliant and very funny
I don't think this is really talked enough and I appreciate it. My husband was also born addicted.
I find Liam extremely sharp and I believe his self-consciousness can lead him to a good self-control. Hearing him answering Chris' questions that fast and with such depth makes me think he's going to be a very smart man. To the mom: you're doing an amazing job despite what other people think. Your patience and strength is what your son needs. Keep up
Not sponsored!
@@madelaki 😂
people always say that about people with a large amount of self-consciousness, but to be honest, it really doesn't make life a whole lot easier.
@@yesjo1456 I agree actually. It's good that you pointed that out.
@@yesjo1456 Idk, I was very self conscious at his age, and also had imaginary pets, but if I were interviewed like that I probably wouldn't be able to get a single word out
I can't even imagine being Liam's adopted mom. She is so incredibly strong in taking care of Liam. She is such a true blessing of this world. I hope she and Liam get the help they need.
she keeps him inside, and seems to not let him socialize. I'm sure he would have friends if his mom let him go outside for the day and play with neighborhood kids.
@@fml2266 you're just assuming
this exactly 🥹 a saint who saved a child in this world. i hope she keeps it up, she is such a good influence. she needs not just kind words, but action in the form of support. 💙 i wish i could help
@@fml2266 Not all kids accept kids they don't know into their play, regardless of whether or not they live in the same neighborhood. Also, not all neighborhoods are suitable for play outside (I don't know what their neighborhood is like, but a place off a busy street with no sidewalks, for example, isn't the kind of place in which children should be allowed to play outside without adult (or older responsible teen) supervision).
Great story. Thx for sharing
Hearing him talk abt his mum like that must take a lot of guts I've gone through this aswell it's hard but you'll get through with it wee man xxxx
He actually seems pretty intelligent. It's so sad his biological mom made such poor decisions.
i would 100% be friends with him if he was in in my school xd
probably what made him smart
@@saramorin4792 Uhhh nooo. It left him with behavioral problems they said. Imagine how smart he would be if his mom didn't do opioids.
@@coolman36kmaway34🧢
drugs completely rewire your reward system, not sure they had much choice
I just want to give the lady a big hug, seriously. What a saint human being she is. I could feel the internal struggle and exhaustion and patience and kindness.
this. man she deserves everything good
Why is she a saint? Because she’s being a decent parent to her kid? You normally don’t call parents “saints” for that. It’s almost like your think he must be a burden to deal with, like him being disabled makes him hard to love…
@@stellarae8257 no but she could have refused to help him, she could still do that if she wanted to. This child is not a burden but it must not always be easy, I think he still needs more attention than other kids.. all the things she has named he has are not usual and common for that age yet she has to deal with them. Obviously she chose to do this but doesn’t mean we can’t respect her for doing what she does..
@@stellarae8257 yes. he wasn't her responsiblity. YES IT'S NOT FAIR TO HIM, DOESN'T MEAN ANYONE OWES HIM. He is a damn hard child to live and deal with and she chose to do that selflessly, cause she is not his birth mom, SO SHE IS A SAINT
@@neetisthegoal3108 she may be saint or may be not but your exam is for sure on 7th may dude..(im sorry i saw ur name and had to reply😅)
Just a few seconds listening to him talk, his articulation, his choice of words,...hes very intelligent. I hope the mother will support that
I love everything about this kid. He's really smart and he's gonna be someone really important when he grows up believe me
Can we please acknowledge how funny Liam is? He has an amazing sense of humour and he looks very creative. I hope he finds his way and make a great circle of friends.
He made me laugh so much. His hilarious.
Is he trying to be funny though? Idk
Bippity bippity bippity “ 😂
@@rl5725 does it matter if he's trying to be?
@@ruby8718 yes it does matter. It can be frustrating to him seeing people laugh because he can't properly interpret people's emotions or reactions.
This woman has her hands full, and it's only going to get harder as he gets older. I hope she gets the support she'll need.
ODD was nearly a breaking point for me to deal with. Finding patience and understanding is extremely difficult when raising a child with strong ODD. I was fortunate to have a good child psychologist which made a world of difference over the years. My child is now much lower on the ODD spectrum now. She had the self knowledge by around age 11 to realize the issues with ODD and she worked hard to understand it and learn to manage it. It could improve with professional support.
Agreed. My heart breaks for her watching this video. She’s working so hard to get him help but, she really needs help too. 😔
I feel so bad for her in this situation. 😢
Mom is exhausted and most likely feel completely alone in the world as a mom. She is not alone, lots of us moms out here know exactly where she is and how she feels. Step back and breathe!
This lady is amazing ❤
4:29 "not sponsored" LOL omg I feel like I could spend hours listening to him talk
Right? Smart kid
Yes, I would love to be his friend. I think all that stigma and an unhealty kids enviroment is what helds him from being socialized.
I am quite similar in behaviour. I would Love to have him as a friend!
Sheesh. This situation is beyond rough. This lady’s continuous stress level is through the roof. Her eyes dart when there’s a loud noise, she’s jumpy, she’s always on alert and on the lookout. Imagine what that does to your body and hormones. Also imagine the mental toll of attempted manipulation (what’s the food you want in this house- so he can throw it out), verbal karate, and helplessness.
I know the kid has a lot of issues and as a perent its definitly good to differienciate these issues to bad behavior but i think beeing a little strict might go a long way. I can only admire this woman for beeing able to go through this everyday but when it comes to the emotional manipulation i think its important to enforce rules at these moments even if the kid is disabled. Its the same with people justifying devious actions from autistic people. Strictness goes a long way. You dont need to be as hard on the kid as you would a normal kid but even with all those disorders you can understand if you arendoing something bad. For example when he threw her food away, he knew his mom would get upset about that so he definitly understands when ever he is doing something he is not supposed to do and he keeps doing it because he gets away with it
@@myguy2656 Do you honestly think she's never tried being strict with him...? Reminds me of when people tell folks with acne to just "wash their face a little more often". Like gee, thanks, never thought of that. The kid literally has a malformed brain and a disorder which causes him to oppose anything she says, her tone of voice isn't gonna change that. It will make him resent her though, because he can't control it.
@@Evelina_412If you think strictness is about the tone of voice you're not understanding the word.
@@Evelina_412I thought she said they were working on boundaries?
@@myguy2656I understand exactly what you mean and I agree. Also yes he's very smart and listens and hear EVERYTHING EVERYTIME mom talks about his diagnosis to people. Kids are already pretty smart and okay off of things whether they're diagnosed with an illness or not they're smart 😉😉
❤stay strong. My wife and I went thru this with my son. It worked out for him in the long run.
him & his pet rock.. 🖤i just want to remind this young boy how smart he is despite everything. he’s so well spoken and has so much personality.. thank god for his mother.
Liam, I was not born with opioids in my system, but I share every single one of your diagnoses and from what I could see in this interview, you act *exactly* like how I did when I was a kid. A big part of what makes life with these disorders so tough - at least for me - is that a lot of people who don't think and act like we do can be so dismissive of anyone who acts even a little 'different'. I want you to know that there are lots of people like you out there; as well as people who aren't like you, but who will find you all the more charming and interesting to be around because of it. It took me years to find them, but I promise you - they're out there, and one day you'll find them too.
And to Liams' mom: I was just like your son at his age - seriously, right down to not wearing socks just to spite my parents for telling me to - and my mother handled my oppositional behaviour very similarly to how you handle Liam's. She, like you, was a mom doing her best, and *NOT* a bad mother. Today I'm a young adult, an honours student in my university of choice who also just got offered a graduate school scholarship, and I love my mother to death and tell her it constantly. I sincerely believe that Liam's future will be just as bright, if not even brighter.
@@ababyharpseal6534 Wow, amazing!! thank you for sharing. So your childhood ODD didn't turn into ASPD in adulthood?
I hope a lot of people like and comment on this one, so it rises to the top and Liam and his mom get to see it
You put my thoughts into words better than every of my tries. I hope that Liam can find people like him, like us. Because we _exist_ and we _get_ you.
I hope Liam's mom reads this
i feel like he has such a good sense of humour that only adults would get whereas little kids are not mature enough to process his humour and he's too smart for them to understand.
Yeah he struck me as an old soul in some ways. I hope he gets through this. I struggled with similar things as a kid, and I'm doing ok now. I hope he gets the same.
I was thinking the same thing! I believe he’ll have an easier time making friends when he’s older
Yh seems to me like his brain abnormalities made him very very smart for his age. I think even his mum is not smart enough for him.
hes literally so sociable and smart
He seems like a really really intelligent kid! I really hope that he can get more friends in the future because he deserves it! If you showed me him probably on of the last things I would think is that he is special needs! God Bless You Liam❤❤❤❤
As a 16 year old, let me just say Liam is special. His insight and sense of humor as a kid his age is on a different level. The reason why he doesn't have friends doesn't have to do with his personality/uniqueness but kids' ignorance which can be mainly attributed to their naivety and young age. Liam, keep your head up. Sooner or later, a lot of people will fall in love with your easy-going, funny personality, and you will have many friends! I'm rooting for you. Life will be better soon!
//EDIT: By ignorance, I meant to state unknowledgeable/doesn't know as opposed to being foolish. Also, y'all who think otherwise can say whatever you want but please don't bash anyone else with differing perspectives. Like seriously?? Y'all getting triggered by a 16 year old just writing a nice comment? It's completely fine to state your diff opinions but please don't demean me/other people... geez
And how is your age relevant to anything you had to say?
His peers might be afraid of him because of his tantrums, meltdowns and refusing to play by the rules. He might be treating them bad at times and push them away. Just like he does with his mom. Difference is that she can handle it, children his age can't. I don't think it's fair to call his peers ignorant and naive.
You seem a lot more mature than your age.
@@untilm hahahaha
Calling kids ignorant bc they cant deal with a sociopathic odd kid. Good Lord
“Larry and I have been havin a rough time. Me & him dont have no friends.” Poor baby. I hope he is being treated well by his peers. He deserves friends & love, his mother’s actions shouldnt determine his self worth. He is much more than the substances his (bio) mother decided to take!!! ❤
His birth mother’s actions shouldn’t determine his worth. His mom is loving, supportive, and doing her best.
@@RadMad789 I agree. She seems like she wants the best for him and is dealing with perfectly valid emotions around taking care of him- ensuring he has what he needs while still trying to teach him the regulatory tools needed to navigate life and relationships. Its the natural worry and stress any mother would feel for their child coupled with the love & desire to keep him safe. I wish her the best and thank you for your kind comment! We all need a little more love in this world.
Well put... but I would add that EVERYONE deserves to be treated with respect and kindness... with an active-willingness to try and understand those we don't think we can relate to, from a place of love, rather than ego!
I understand that this isn't how the world tends to operate very often, but I'm really glad that this thriving kid was placed in a caring home, that tries to help him keep thriving... even though the challenges they face seem quite difficult, a lot of the time!
I wonder if that's more of a reflection on the changing social world. I always knew kids like him in school, uniquely charming and witty but obviously damaged from something that went unspoken. Him and I would have been mates
I feel so sorry for that kid he didn’t deserve to end up like this. I never really had that many friends growing up either I wish him the best and will pray for him.
I love how Liam is so self aware. He knows how he's different, why he's different and accepts it
I was a little like Liam. I had a head injury as a baby and I’ve got severe ADHD on top of that. I had a disdain for rules as well. I benefitted MASSIVELY from after school art classes with a very understanding art teacher who let me paint whatever I wanted. Art is for rule-breakers and he let me learn on my own while sneaking some guidance in there. If it weren’t for my dirt bike and my art classes I’m pretty sure I would’ve ended up in jail. I am now an art teacher hoping to impact kids how my precious art teacher did for me. Liam is SMART and funny. Once he finds an outlet or two I think he will figure it out.
YES!!!
This. I didn't have a brain injury but did/do have severe ADHD. And Art saved me. The world you can create, and the way you can sort through this world all through your creativity really helps. It fosters mindfulness, is a form of meditation, and truly helps with trauma processing. Ad from one special needs Mom to another..Stay strong Momma.. God doesn't give us the children we want but the children we need.
@@ItsBrit Same! I was also struggling with severe depression (not sure if it was a result of the ADHD or just separate). I had two art classes my senior year of highschool with the same teacher. Those classes were my refuge, and her patience and understanding for me really saved me that year.
Love this! 🫶🏾
Art is about breaking rules, that's a great point. I feel Liam probably likes the sports he's in. Hockey has rules, but it's also exhilarating. And if no one else is around, ice skating doesn't have rules
I hope the mother also seeks mental health support. She's incredibly loving, caring, and hopeful. But she also needs help as a caretaker of a child with ODD. I truly hope for Liam to do well and grow up to become a loving and grateful man.
This
With the right path this child can turn into something wonderfully, prayers for the child.