DEMI LOVATO ENGAGED: The Psychology of the Non Binary They/Them Pronoun People | Shallon Lester
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I’m a gay man who is horrified by the direction of the LGBT community as of 2023. Let me shed some additional light on non-binary. Non-binary is not a real identity. It is an identity born completely out of ‘queer theory’ classrooms, nothing more, nothing less. It’s not a real identity they way that say, being Black is a valid identity. When you look at the Black community in the USA, you will find black conservatives, black liberals, black vegans, black meat eaters, black Catholics, Lutherans, Muslims, I even met a black Jew once. My point it is that there is a huge spectrum of identities, beliefs, and personalities in the Black American community. When you meet someone who calls them selves non-binary, they are only extreme, extreme leftists. This is a political identity and nothing more
Pinning this! 1) your username is giving my life 2) I’m bisexual and I am also horrified by the direction and corrosiveness of the gay community.
They dropped the B from LGBTQ because to say someone is bisexual affirms that there’s only two genders. So we can go fuck ourselves I guess right? And then they have the audacity to preach about being inclusive??
Miss me with that. People need to get an identity based on achievements and contributions to the world.
This was so nicely said! Thank you for sharing❤
Nailed it!! 🎯💯
Amen! Enough with the ideology of the sick left. Whoever that is. Thank you for sharing your perspective. Truly! This identity age we are living in is extremely dangerous. I imagine you are a very intelligent well rounded person. There is no other reason you would be following Shallon. 😎
Is it me or are the majority of non binaries also white “women” ?
Five years ago, my daughter was suspended from school for calling a girl she instead of they. It's completely insane and out of control.
OMG 🤦
There's got to be more to the story such as repeated " she " calling to bully or harass, etc. Not shading your daughter but doesn't make sense it was a one off accident. Come on
You can defend yourself by stating you're 'pronouns dyslexic' and threw a nevrotic tantrum while screaming and be as crazy and destructive as possible.
If they cannot top your madness, you win.
@@Sarah-pu6mcI was bullied mercilessly for my entire school career until I went to uni and my school didn’t care one bit. They would bully me openly in class and the teachers just ignored it. If I complained, their response was well what did you do to provoke them or well bullying happens we can’t control it (despite supposedly having a 0 tolerance policy for bullying). I even got bullied by a teacher. Yet, literally no one cared. But god damn if you even ACCIDENTALLY misgender someone. It’s complete nonsense. When else in history has the majority been expected to orient around the minority of the population? Isn’t democracy meant to be majority rule, not mob rule?
Seriously??! Just for that? Sweet Jesus. The world has gone mad
When Demi broke off her last engagement to Max, she mentioned something along the lines of, “It didn’t feel authentic for me to be with a man sexually.” But here’s the thing, did it ever occur to her she just wasn’t sexually compatible with MAX specifically? Why the huge overcorrection to “now I’m non-binary”? Also - clearly she’s fine with dating men, so that wasn’t the issue? I mean I could go on and on. I looooved Demi for years and I think she has one of the most amazing voices ever. I just hope she’s more grounded and happy now.
Glow up idea: book recommendations! You are so well-read and articulate. Definitely something I, and I’m sure many of us, would like to improve on in 2024. Can also be documentaries/podcasts etc too. Happy New Year everyone!
This!!
Good luck, that will take hundreds of good books
Following. I need something new to watch.
The Pronoun game is a way for people to control others. They get pleasure in correcting what people say, and destabilizing the other person and the conversation.
And therefore destabilizing society and allowing for anarchy
Yes! I was arguing with someone online about who knows, I said "he" (person had a beard in profile pick my bad) and then ENTIRE CONVERSATION turned into how i said the wrong pronoun!!!! What was my response?" Woops sorry, what would you prefer?" Still mad at me even after I apologized??? So are we just doing this to get in arguments?
@@Neco2684 No, we aren’t doing this just to get into arguments. “They” are doing this just to get into arguments. Misery loves company and these people are miserable beyond belief.
If someone yells at you for misgendering them, just let them know that they are, in fact, misgendering themselves…and keep it moving. Don’t waste valuable time entertaining their drama and delusion.
Yeah I agree it’s definitely about control some of the time but it’s improper to argue that the evolution of language is always about control, also “you” is an example of a pronoun which represents both singular and plural Shallon is the grammar queen but still cherry picks
@@Neco2684dang yeah where has the good faith gone
Omg Shallon you’re so right.
I’ve been trying this new thing where I say to myself “I am not weird, I just think I am” and because of this I’ve tried experimenting by messaging people I was convinced disliked me and their responses have been warm and great. I always made myself the victim because I told myself I’m so weird, a loner, different, etc which made me keep people away because I didn’t want to work on myself. It was like insect repellent for love. Looking back I didn’t hold friendships because I was genuinely a bad friend, not attentive to anyone but myself, and generally a bitter person from being bullied, which is why I thought I was so weird. I literally manifested it. I want to smack my old self on her face but I know that she needed to heal first before hearing this harsh truth. Here’s to a new year 🥂 I’m so excited to see what this new version of myself brings.
wow love how you discovered & verbalized this ♥️
That can’t have been easy, but good for you. That’s a level of maturity and growth we should aspire to.
They/them- the new universal code for-
"going through a phase of being both unfuckable and unbearable simultaneously"
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
shallon is obviously an unfuckable bag. hence no children. not a real woman.
😂
Glow up idea: how to be unbothered and accept the things we cannot change.
YES
Haha that’s what we try to achieve in AA.
Hardest lesion I learned as an adult but also the best lesson I learned, how not to stress over things that I have no control over.
Lesson
Love this
Their psychology is simply "i need attention!!!"
i feel bad for shallon, she never had children so she'll never be real woman. she's a shell
Damn, this was a slap in the face. You’re right: Im not studying hard enough. Im already a lawyer but want to move on to being a judge and Im not pushing myself enough. This may seem foolish, but thank you: I dont have anyone to say this to me like you did. Thanks, Shallon ❤️
Same. I'm a nurse practitioner and have been lazy about getting my PhD. I need someone to check me also. Hugs and good luck.
I choose to identify as the long lost granddaughter of Sam Walton. Anyone who says otherwise is clearly against women and families and happiness
I identify as the missing princess Anastacia
I identify as Dolly Parton.
@@shallonlester THIS 🥂✨💖
The fact that every non-binary person I’ve ever seen online or known in real life has some kind of sexual trauma is not a coincidence. Also the majority have crazy hair colors/cuts and face piercing. I’m not saying colored hair and piercings alone are bad, i’m just saying there’s a connection here.. non-binary ppl are this generations scene kids change my mind
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I dated a non-binary individual who went by all pronouns. He implied my personality was a bit too masculine to be a woman. So basically, i had to be open minded over how feminine he was but me with my humour and drive was too much for him.
People adopting a chosen identity and then weaponising their chosen pronouns is purely just another manifestation of how perpetual victim players become bullies.
you can't "choose" to be a woman. you have to have children to be a woman. shallon is a masculine boy.
Male listener here, just found your channel yesterday. I don't get the impression I'm your intended audience HA but honestly I have found all your takes incredibly true and pretty inspirational. Very interesting observations here regarding how people drift off into non-binary... I never understood the psychology before but that actually makes sense.
Very refreshing! I think you're on the frontier of this anti-woke response, love to see it👏🏻
You don't even know what woke means💀
I appreciate that!
@@Lulu-rh2xmAnd you don't know what the word woman means 😂
@@Lulu-rh2xmSocial reject alert. We found one guys
Shallon, and Jeffree Starr,of all people,are literally the only people I have heard standing up for how stupid this is, on the internet.
Really? Like, genuinely. You really haven't? You've never ventured to the corner of RUclips via The Daily Wire Cast Matt Walsh, Candace Owens, Michael Knowles, or PragerU, or Lauren Chen, or Amala Ekpanobi, or Amir Oden, or Blaire White, or Allie Beth Stuckey, I can go on?
@@Momofukudoodoowindu Well yes, I have of course. Sorry, I didn't make that clear. I meant people that were not extreme conservative, and republican, and christian. I meant Shallon, and Jeffree Star, were the only people not on the deep end of that stuff,but still felt this way.
@@Desiree-Laine ah OK 👌🙂 good point I can't think of any moderates either. The moderates or leftists that talk this way I'm aware of have all converted to conservatism at one point or another. I mean maybe Tim Pool but idk if he's ever specifically said non-binary is ridiculous.
@@Momofukudoodoowindu All of those people are insane, including jeffree starr. That dude has done so many horrific things. I wish some actually worthwhile people spoke out because those bozos won't convince anyone of anything. But the right people never will because the cult comes down on actual good people swift and hard.
@@Maialeen Completely disagree. You're throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Every talking head in the political space says both good or bad things at some point. You need to listen to dissenting voices that make you uncomfortable.
Good Lord... why can't MORE people just freaking SAY all of this!!!??? We are all (mostly) thinking it! 😡
Rightt ?!! So many people are afraid of getting canceled or something ! I wiiiiish more people would express how ridiculous this is 😠
Make your own channel and say what you want then 😂
Not true. Some people like me couldn't give a shit what other people do with their lives if it doesn't affect them.
Because the internet makes you think the weirdos are the majority and we, the sane ones are the minority but we are not. They have bullied and gaslighted people into staying silent.
Everyone is thinking it… but at work I’m scared I’ll lose my job … We even had meetings over this horseshit and how to politely ask somebody’s pronouns… and I’m on the edge of just losing it with these idiots.. When we do seminars we are not allowed to say “ Hey guys” or “ hi ladies and gentlemen “ WHAT THE ACTUAL F ????? I’m seriously gonna be like , nope … I’m not playing this game anymore….and then I’ll get fired 🤦🏼♀️
“Ugly is changeable “, 🤣🤣🤣 my exact thoughts! You are a natural comedian Shallon, love you!, 💕💕🤪
I love how this woman has no filter and tells it how it is.
Will never forget Carol Burnett saying years ago that the only people who can refer to themselves in the plural are royalty and people with worms. 🙀😹😹
OMG 🤣
LMAO
The thing I don't really get about being non-binary is that there is no one right way of feeling like a woman. You can be a tomboy, sporty, butch, feminine, hyper-girly, eclectic and present yourself however you like but it doesn't invalidate your gender. And the irony is that a lot of non-binary people kind of have the same look. It's what we would have called androgynous in the past, but apparently, that word doesn't exist anymore.
The thing that disturbs me most about the whole they/them “movement” is the forcing a new term on to the rest of us, like??? Why does it feel almost like a slur when they call us cis..? I can’t explain it but it’s very unsettling bc now you’ve stripped me of my own identity/title ?? That’s really not ok. We didn’t choose that. I have no issue with you calling yourself whatever you want to, it genuinely doesn’t affect me, I’ll even humour you and refer to you as the they/them title if it genuinely means that much to you and it would hurt you if I didn’t.. sure I can do that if you’re someone in my life, I don’t want anyone to feel bad about themselves (in the same notion I would go along with a child calling themselves a superhero or a princess, it’s harmless and it means the world to them so ok let’s go your highness 😂). However, insisting that now I refer to myself as something other than girl/she/women where by you correct me and add “cis” to my identity is actually incredibly hypocritical and unkind. No thank you, I take offence.
That’s it. That’s all. ✌🏽
the terms cis and trans have existed long before gender identity in humans became a big thing. if you don't want to be called cis... trans is kind of the only other option, soooo
its not a slur to be called cis. it is literally saying that your gender assigned at birth matches with the gender you identify as. do you not want that? because like i said, the alternative is trans
you can totally just refer to yourself as a woman. no one is stopping you from doing that. its just a prefix that is added when there is a necessity to differentiate between a cis person and a trans person, so unless that's the case you don't have to add that you are cis? you are still a woman, just as a trans woman would still be a woman even if she didn't add trans as a prefix (i'm using women as an example since that's what you commented about)
Glow up video idea: reaching your goals, maybe your personal system of setting goals, keeping track of your progress. Also, staying motivated when you have goals so high no one around relates to you
I second this idea!!! People think I’m delusional because I have such big goals (maybe I am, who knows 🤣).
Yes please!
You’re based Shallon. Based as hell and I love it
#BasedWife4Lyfe
@@shallonlester so let me get this straight shallon you’re trying to invalidate Demi’s identity. Use flash you can be non-binary and still get married to the opposite sex. You’re a moron.
It’s fucking refreshing
Glow up topic: how to be a good friend/pick good friends - leveling up your non romantic relationships
Yes !
🎉🎉🎉 great topic
please @shallonlester
Thanks shallon, I will re-watch this video every week not to not forget when I feeling down. I have been stagnant in my life for the past 5 years and running away from my problem, running away from my education.
5 years doing nothing.
I have very VERY poor self discipline.
I also was saying the same thing as your ex-boyfriend.
Even my little brother was saying similar thing about the fact that this is life and I need to grow up, work to create the life I want.
My brother said that taking a part time job will help me gain on maturity, I took one.
I wish I knew you when I was in high school I would have not screw up my studies and could have possibly work to be an engineer, but it is too late I feel like, I am already 23 going 24 but it is what it is but I still want to get a diploma.
Thomas sowell is right life is hard we have no other choice than to face it.
I got my engineering degree after 30. It’s never too late ☺️
Nobody is being taught resilience anymore. This is real life and you will not always win. You will not always get your way. Your feelings will get hurt. Use that as fuel to become a better version of yourself and enjoy yourself as a person, not as multiple genders with ego's as fragile as a popsicle in a heat wave.
This video is a huge slay, Shallons done it again 🎉
I wish everyone in this nation would watch this video. You hit the nail right on the head on this topic. Slam dunk.
And lastly, I wish that therapists would tell their clients exactly what you are saying. Instead, they tiptoe around the insanity.
Bingo! 🎯
Unfortunately they would be risking losing their license
Yeah they aren't allowed to. It would be discrimination. Even if their clinical training tells them their client is dealing with something else, they can't say it like that. They have to be affirmative on the gender stuff and then work around it to the other issues. It's ridiculous.
I am in med school and they dont let us even debate about that
@@mariaeduardac1177 omg. That’s insane. Congrats on being in med school!! Such an achievement!
“If you had someone who was trying to lose weight and they had a doughnut room in their house” that’s when I lost it 😂😂😂😂
I was shopping and my cashier was a nice person who appeared feminine. I looked at their name tag, it’s said they/them, and name was BATMAN.
Their name tag literally was BATMAN. Their coworkers, CALL them Batman. So …that was an experience that stays with me. I’m pretty open minded , but even that really had me like, What the fuck.
Love alllll your videos. I live for them !! Might have to join your test group soon. 5 videos a week sounds amazing!!!
I hope Shallon sees this. Because BATMAN is the perfect example of the stupid shit.
Bruh😂😭 at that point you're so open minded that there's a border crisis in reality, cuz we got the literal most unhealthy person in the room running narrative control over all the employees and the companies customers. 😭
I used to work with a transwoman called "Zombie"
I worked with a lady whose actual last name is Batman. She answered the phone “Batman here”. It made me giggle.
I work where we wear name tags and they let us use obviously fake names to avoid stalkers because that has been a big issue in the past. Maybe use critical thinking sometime.
I'm an androgynous leaning lesbian. My pronouns are still she/her. I also don't like the direction the woke LGBT community is taking either. Thanks for speaking on this subject Shallon. Happy New Year!
I’ve know four they/thems personally. One was a man who wanted to transition but couldn’t afford to do it. Another is a lesbian who has BPD and a drug problem. The last two are teenagers who I am assuming are doing this because it’s the popular thing to do now.
"I refuse to learn this language" should be the default. Who wants to 'learn' random nonsense terms. Just live your life, everything doesn't revolve around you once you have an issue, no matter how empathetic we all are
Your Demi videos always make me laugh cause they're so true! 😂
I dunno, for me Demi's biggest clown move is a toss up between singing to a ghost to help it overcome trAUmA, or saying we shouldn't refer to aliens as aliens because because it's offensive to them. She got dissed by Neil deGrasse Tyson for that one, and it was chicken soup for my I'm Done With 2021 soul.
My rule is, if he can't commit to typing full words, he certainly can't commit to a future with me.
What annoys me about Demi is what she is SO talented ! Her voice has been incredible since the camp rock days and when she actually focuses on making music consistently she makes bops , but her career is now just based on bullshit and drama . I’ve known a few they them girls in real life and it’s always girls who are boring or not attractive and don’t feel good about themselves. I’ve also heard actual trans people on the jubilee debates talk about how non binary is basically just people inserting themselves into an actual medical condition that can be diagnosed and they don’t transition etc just call themselves “they “ and claim to be oppressed 😂
Actually Demi had been out of drama since she went to rehab at the end of 2022. She hasn’t started any scandals in a long time. I think the reason why she’s so happy and is drama free because she’s dating someone. If she was single then she’d probably be a mess. She made a good rock album last year though
@@mikemoffett6499 see even that annoys me. Her testimony is that she prayed that the one true God would bless her with a singing voice so that she could praise and worship Him. And now she's out here making songs about the serpent in the garden of Eden in first-person and making "evil" a kink. Its demonic behavior.
@@Sarah-pu6mc agree with you entirely. It's so obviously curated and you can even sense the difference between your average Joe middle class doing it versus a celebrity whose been groomed to do it.
@@Momofukudoodoowindu I get that but that’s not scandalous at all. She really hasn’t done anything problematic since 2021. But I really only think that because of her boyfriend. But she has religious trauma and that’s how she deals with it. It’s not that deep
@@mikemoffett6499 why are you using the word "trauma" in the same sentence as "its not that deep"...? That's... it literally is deep, trauma is. But ya, I think her bf* has distracted her from being too in the spotlight, which has been good for her image.
She announced she was non-binary when she was getting a lot of back lash for attacking a small business that served sugar free treats. It was a very convenient announcement that she was non-binary, and it worked. People stopped attacking her for her stupidity and cheered her on.
This is why I love shallon.
The advantage of someone calling themselves a they/them is that I immediately know not to waste my time any further, it’s kind of convenient lol
I steer clear, too afraid of offending them
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lol omg so true !
@@Wild_flower_415 but you just used the pronoun them? see how easy it is? you probably didn't even think about it, because it has always been a part of the english language. that just shows how easy it is to refer to someone by the correct pronouns
@redguysuperiority He meant them as plural not singular, he used the pronoun how it was made to be used
Thank you for your comments about grammar!! Yes! A barometer for a man's maturity 100%.
I love the videos focused not on men and relationships, but on psychology. Great one.
Girl, I am as politically liberal as liberal gets, but I am also a med student who wants to specialize in psychiatry. You are 100% right about the pronoun thing. People need something that makes them feel special and when their physical appearance doesn't, they turn to pronouns.
So perfectly said! Hit the nail on the head. There were many non-binary and trans people at my high school (I’m a gen Z), and I feel like literally all of them were hiding from their childhood trauma or “playing” with their gender because they saw their friends do it, or just in general how trendy and subconsciously promoted LGBT+ has been over the past 10 years.
Demi jumped fast in a relationship and engaged fast. She going through a karmic cycle that she hasn’t learned from.
This is a really important video for so many young women to see! You are fantastic!
This is on my list of favorite videos you've done. You nailed it. Thank you!
Finding your motivation while going through it and taking risks to move your life forward. I can not explain how many people I know who need that right now (be included)
👏👏👏 When I was a teenager the Emo movement was a harmful ideology (hurting your body to express yourself, c'mon?) that was also accepted in media because it was profitable.... kind of similar, don't you think?
Long game eugenics 🎶🎶
Glow up idea: how to get the fuck over yourself, forgive yourself, get your shit together
Well said Shallon!! Everyone on the planet should hear this!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
In my entire life I've never felt as asexual and divorced from my gender as when I was fat!!
That's the Patriachy...
@@salamander8301 I'm a whole ass man.
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@@pizzicatesque yeah and? We live under Patriarchy no matter what whole ass gender you are...
@@salamander8301 this comment is so fucking retarded
I literalllyyy just brought up shallons other demi video like an hour ago to my husband and how savage and true it was. And now this is posted! Love it!
Shallon, your reading of the caption of Demi's fiance was freaking hilarious. Husband grammar! I love it. 😂 This whole video was 100% truth. I too used to be very liberal until three years ago when I worked with a 28-yo obese lesbian who told me she "discovered" she was a man/he/him after taking some really excellent shrooms. I am not making that up. Seeing the instant status and control the pronoun thing gave her over coworkers and managers, who were falling all over themselves to speak exactly as she wanted them to speak, made me sick to my stomach. Everyone was her puppet, with HR's full support--even though she constantly made inappropriate sexual comments and created a classic hostile environment. Thankfully she quit three months later and everything went back to normal. I have to give her credit though for making me really question everything about the left and eventually leave it and become a centrist/moderate. Recently I read an article in Smithsonian Magazine about the nostalgia of American Girl dolls, and at the end one of the interviewees said the dolls are no longer relevant since "being a girl is a social construct and not a biological reality." The topic may be new, but tactic-wise the trans movement is just plain old-fashioned propaganda, manipulation, and censorship.
He cheated on his ex-girlfriend to be with demi😂😂😂
Glow up topic: how to not be afraid to be seen or put under the spotlight.
How to overcome work haters.
How to reach your full feminine potential.
How to be at top of your work/ network game.
When to be nice and friendly and when to dgaf.
How to stop trying to make everyone like you!??. < and why am I trying to make people i don’t even like to like me??
Glow up idea: how to Get Emotionally Tough and Strong. I've been growing my side hustles and as I've seen success, I've also seen more problems and challenges. I'm a highly sensitive person and really struggle with people pleasing, fear, and playing small to not rock the boat. How to put MYSELF first, not everyone else.
You look good af Shallon!!!! Hair, skin, makeup, bawdy!! Amazing.
THANK YOU! i feel very post holiday pudgy so this means a lot to me lol!
Best therapy session I've ever had! And I've had 20 years of therapy so that's saying something.
I will chew glass before I address someone as "bun" or "bunself"
This!! Shallon you continue to amaze us all. This is just straight facts (we started the trend lol 😂 ) as always I so appreciate your perspective. ❤
i love working out with Shallon, i've been following her for a while, and i am feeling and looking good
I am not non-binary whatsoever but i do use religion- new age spirituality as a distraction to shirk out of doing hard work.
Jordan Peterson says this non-binary stuff is Protestant Individualism (initially a good thing i think Peterson would say) just run totally amok to an extreme.
You are sooooooo BRAVE to take this issue on
A cozy corner of normality, I love that chanel
"a diamond that requires its own wheelbarrow" - Shallon 😂😂
Omg this was so good. I just have to comment again. I couldn't agree more and felt like a weight lifted off me listening to you preach girl! So refreshing ty!
Shallon, who does your makeup?? Your makeup looks professionally done.
Shallon’s Poot Lovato videos are my fav (next to her Megan Markle takes)
As a disappointed ex-fan of Demi, her videos give me a sense of catharsis lol
I too have never met a confident/attractive gender confused person. I've had friends who were they/thems and they would ALWAYS complain about their looks. They weren't even ugly their style was just plain and boring. They also refused to put ANY effort into their appearance like trying new clothing styles or learning to do makeup. Because they were insecure they HAD to make everyone else around them know they were nonbinary🤦🏻♀️. I'm happy to say I no longer speak to them
love your personality!
I love that ur covering this!! Because someone needs to
Yeah, boy this is a needed wake up call for me.😔 Jeeze I am exactly what you're talking about, unfortunately. Molested at 4, raped at 12, groomed and manipulated into a sexual relationship as a teen, married a sex addict who lied and cheated over our 22 year long marriage, with my sister, oh almost forgot the avm at 22 along with brain surgery, including the last seizure 4.5 years ago now. Add to that all I am fairly certain I'm in the midst of perimenopause and all that fun. Ugh I am just so freaking tired... to the point that I honestly do not know what it is I even want anymore. When I think of the things that once drove me I am simply underwhelmed, I couldn't care less, those things just are not the same anymore. These goals and possessions mean very little to me, in truth. It was always our family, our commitment, our connection that meant everything to me. The things are just things and they've all lost their meaning.😔
Glow up video idea: your favorite skin care, haircare, spas and fitness destinations and what you think is worth the money and what is not.
So well articulated. Thank you for breaking it down so well for people. Amazing video.
This video is so comforting! I’m not a part of the non binary or LGBTQ community or anything, but still hearing that I’m not alone with what I feel and struggle with is like a warm hug. It makes me believe that I can get out of it.
Thanks for the voice of reason Shallon. This whole alphabet soup is just mindblowing to me.
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Hey Shallon, I've been curious - are you still doing your light/dark feminine energy series? I really liked the YT videos you put out in October.
I think she put those on her paid platform.
oh girl, you are so brave for this. claps
Shallon I can't tell u how I keep rewatching the part where u read the caption, masterpiece😂😂😂😂😂
your comments toward the very end of this session are really inspirational. There are several areas I need to “cowboy up”on. somehow listening to your commentary made it crystal clear to me. 💥 thanks
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I agree with majority of what you’re saying. I think a lot of what you are talking about is super “chronically online”. It sounds insane, yes, but when have you ever actually encountered someone like that? I personally haven’t. The internet has unfortunately given everyone a voice, which leads to everyone thinking they are special, are so different, and the need to have their own specific “niche” (example; insane sounding pronouns.)
Sex and gender are different. A long time ago, we as a society decided to create gender norms specifically to boys vs girls. Deciding to explore your gender identity through names, clothes, makeup, etc, is not the same as randomly deciding you want to be a lawyer, or fly a plane. Those are concrete things in society, gender is not concrete. Gender is actually just something we made up. It can be anything you want.
However, there are always people who take things to extremes. Nothing should ever be extreme, IMO. Is there a link between unhappy people, mentally ill people, and those who struggle with their identity? Probably. Can this result in they/thems and other ways to change your identity? Yeah I think so. Sometimes people feel so unhappy and so uncomfortable with themselves, they can’t look in the mirror and change it. Just like you said. So they decide to change themselves completely. But yeah, that’s not how life works. You can’t just be something different unless you actually do the work. Turning those these extreme community’s with pronouns etc, can for sure be comparable to turning to drugs or alcohol to cope. Everyone wants to feel included. Sometimes we pick the wrong community to be included in.
Agreed that trauma can cause people to behavior in erratic behaviors. Those situations are different, rare and have a lot of nuance. It’s hard to comment on things like that when it’s situational and every one is different.
Working on yourself is hard but it’s worth it. Like you say, read the writing on the wall. Most people don’t. The victim card sucks lmfao
IMO this video is discussing mainly chronically online bs which I believe we should all just ignore. There is no need to be hateful. When I see people like this, I feel grateful for myself. Grateful I don’t struggle with my identity to such extremes. I’m sure that will come off as entitled and rude but it’s the truth lol
Just my 2 cents. Love you Shallon
I heard “Take that energy and use it to clean your house”, got ashamed and went to go wash the pile of dishes in my sink. Thanks for yelling at me 😏
Don’t careeee let them be themselves. Also please be kind about mental illness and relapsing. Which is most likely what happened. Also being anything besides for what you where born. Your giggling like your not a bad person who can’t mind your business, get a life and maybe a good family
I just watched this video on Jan 1st, 2024, at 11:09 PM. I’m planning to watch it every week until the end of 2024. My resolution for this year is to trust my instincts, listen to my psyche and never get stuck in a victim mindset.
I love all your videos and thoughts this one was the one I had to control myself not to stand up on a standing ovation and clap like a ridiculous person on a crowded doctors waiting room!!
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Never met a they/them with no other mental health or insecurity issues js 🤷🏽♀️
😂😂 Epic! Please have an entire "shorts" series reading posts in the tone they are written! Great analysis as always.
I identify as a 18 year old hot tall blond. Validate me now!
GLOW UP TOPIC: pushing through “the middle”….I can’t remember what video it was of yours, and it might’ve been a little over a year ago when you spoke about this in a vid or podcast (I remember bc I was listening on the elliptical at the gym, and I know it’s been over a year since I’ve done that 😂). But I remember you bringing it up from a Joel olsteen (sp?) thing you listened to.
With the new year coming, it’s so easy to be super optimistic in goals you want to set, but we never talk about the real tough parts about it. And I remember you saying the beginning is easy, the end is easy…but it’s that MIDDLE that’s so hard to get through! I’m guilty of setting these goals/resolutions so optimistically at the beginning of the year but giving up “in the middle”, and that “middle” becomes my end. Love you Shallon!!! Happy holidays!!
Wow. Spot on. Fantastic definition of social contagion. Thank you for your ability to speak truth and not be afraid, like the rest of us..
This really resonated with me Shallon !!! You make me laugh but im always learning. Thank you so much!
Your BEST show yet!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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As someone not currently killing it in life, you being so welcoming to the Shallontourage sounded really lovely ❤
Ur on 🔥, wow straight to the 🧡 of things. Brutal truth, thanks Shallon🙏🏽