To me, showing that footage from her unrealeased documentary was counterproductive, 'cause everytime she was like "oh, that was all a lie, I wasn't being honest"... Girl, this is your *4th* documentary, how do I know you are being honest on this one?
I would like to shout out the assistant that was apparently the ONLY PERSON with any SENSE in that whole situation and called 911, because she CLEARLY knew that Demi’s life was more important than Demi’s reputation. I could not believe that the people who “cared about her” actually had the nerve to think about the sirens when Demi was literally found naked in her bed turning blue. 😀
I know I felt so badly for her. Her blue haired sober coach seemed like she just trotted out of Coachella, and isn’t the most...idk...deep? . “Y’all this is lit” WHO IS STILL SAYING LIT ESPECIALLY IN THE CONTEXT OF A DOCUMENTARY PRODUCTION, WHICH IS NOT THE APPROPRIATE CONTEXT??!
She had to hide calling 911 so she would not get in trouble. Dear lord help me. That's exactly how ppl die. And these are the ppl she is surrounded by on daily basis....
I also felt bad for her. Imagine feeling guilty for trying to save someone's life? And the cookie thing, plus having to wake her up. That woman is an angel for putting up with all of that.
Totally agree. Demi clearly isn’t a person who can dabble. She said in the documentary that she relapsed with her old standbys and within 2 months (weeks?) she was on CRACK. She doesn’t have a grip on this.
No matter the reasons for smoking, there are real consequences. You can lose up to 10 IQ points and lose emotional and intellectual capacities. You can’t get IQ back and it takes years of therapy to get emotional and intellectual capacity back.
period girl weed is not a "clean" and "harmless" drug like everyone wants it to be. they glamorize it because it alters their state of mind and distracts them from their reality!
I feel like if someone has 3 strokes, a heart attack, experiences liver and kidney failure and can no longer see in their peripheral vision... then, gets into a whirlwind relationship, gets engaged, then breaks off said engagement after finding out their fiancé is a snake and oh! also, they’ve started to actively explore their sexuality and spirituality all in the last... what?... two years?! They need to take several seats for several years before doing anything they used to do in “moderation”. I was a little confused by that.
Right like 2 years is NOTHING. I got wasted on a wine tour in college, ate $20 of Taco Bell (a lot) and threw up. And I didn’t drink wine for 12 years. I got food poisoning off fish at 11 and didn’t eat it for 15 years. I just can’t imagine her associating drugs or booze with anything positive. And yes she’s in such a state of flux this isn’t the time to be digging up old demons that don’t seem to serve her well.
@@bleudiamondbleu EVERY resource! It looked like they had to do the ABSOLUTE most to keep her alive. Like, if she had been a “normal” person with average access to healthcare, they would’ve died or been much worse off after the fact. I’ve never heard of blood being taken out and put back in and having the tube SEWED to your skin. 😧 I couldn’t even comprehend what they did to put oxygen back into her body.
I've loved Demi since her OG days on as the bell rings ... But she needa to take the largest step back and keep her ass seated until she good good. Like girl just go buy a house in the boonies and live yo freaking life PLEASEE. 🤭
As someone who has been in recovery for substance abuse for five years I absolutely agree with you. It’s scary that she continues to be enabled by those around her too.
The creepiest part of the documentary to me was when the assistant talked about finding her unconscious and instead of calling an ambulance called the head of security. Then 10 minutes passed before the assistant had to SNEAK AWAY to call an ambulance. I’m sorry, but no one around her cared about her, they cared about her image, and let her lay there blue in the face before calling for help.
My thoughts exactly, made me think about how they called Mary Kate Olsen instead of an ambulance when they found Heath Ledger?! Like, every second counts in these situations! And also the fact that Demi’s security guard got so much more credit and gratitude from Demi than the girl that actually saved her. I felt for her she seemed so sad and kind of traumatized by the whole thing.
It’s a big phrase in the douche hipster realm-people who want the accolades of sobriety without the actual work. And, it’s never something someone asks about-like being vegan or doing CrossFit or being sexually fluid-it’s information that’s forced upon you.
My brother is an addict. He started doing drugs when he was a teenager. Like Demi he tried to get sober in his 20s by staying off hard drugs and just drinking and smoking weed. It didn't work and soon he was back doing meth. He didn't overdose like Demi (thank god). His drug use came to a head when he physically assaulted my sister and threatened me with a knife when i stopped him. He had minimal jail time and afterwards entered rehab. He was in rehab for a year. The rehab he went to made him completely change his lifestyle. He couldn't smoke cigarettes or even cuss. When he got out he continued to be completely sober and cut ties with friends he had since he was a kid. It was hard but he's been sober for two years because he changed everything about his life. From the way Demi spoke in this interview I have no confidence in her so called sobriety. I don't know how people (her fans and family) can watch this interview and think she doesn't immediately need to be in rehab.
@@isabellalora6533 My brother is doing great thank you! He's been sober for 2 years since rehab so 3 years total. He has changed larger aspects of his life like holding a full time job, volunteering in the community, discovering hobbies he enjoys, finding religion and going to church. To everyday things, like what he does and doesn't consume. He eats healthy and exercises regularly. At the height of his drug use he was significantly under weight. He has no social media, he doesn't hang out with old friends (people he once did drugs with), he has a set sleeping schedule and more things like that. To some it may sound extreme but he is very happy.
@@mazie2012 Demi should go to the same rehab as he did too :( she went to rehab I guess but she couldn’t succeed like your brother... why I don’t know.. 🥺🤍💗🌷
No, you’re not alone. You’re right. She is lying to herself, not to me, because I know she is lying. I think everyone at this point sees that. I personally just can’t stand her anymore. It’s a shame, she is so talented, but I just can’t anymore.
She’s going to OD again if she keeps it up, which I hope doesn’t happen. She said she’s Californian sober, which means she still uses lightly. Shame on her. When you are an addict you either stop it all or you continue being an addict there is no in between. Demi, Hire yourself an in home specialist 24/7 and keep yourself sober, it’s what you need.
She’s not using any hardcore drugs which is what she has the biggest problem with ... she said she drinks from time to time in moderation and sometimes smokes weed but that’s it. y’all need to do ur research first
@Margaret Benitez she was drunk the night of her overdose. do you think she would’ve called her dealer at 4am if she wasn’t intoxicated? it’s a slippery slope for addicts.
Every single doctor and addiction expert HAS all done their research about what weed and booze leads to. No one STARTS at crack. They’re called gateway substances for a reason.
I feel like Demi is still not owning her stuff entirely. I think it's crazy that she nearly died and continues to drink casually. She's an addict, drinking casually is not something she should do and she knows that.
@@hjkayel9610Yeah, it’s all sad. She can’t just smoke once in a while like most people. It’s sucks that she knows better yet continues the same behavioral patterns. I hope and pray she isn’t found dead one day.
I don;t think she wants to be sober. She looks more like she wants to nub the pain and after her overdose there is more of it to deal with...I don't see her getting sober any time soon.
I don’t feel she’s changed entirely ... IMO. Now saying that she’s drinking in “moderation” was pretty sad to hear. Being “California sober” is disrespectful to the sober community and Frankly dangerous. Having “one drink” is every alcoholics classic lie they tell themselves. Maybe you can pull it off for a little while, but it’s a progressive disease.
First: Why do you care? If it is her decision to make you shouldn’t judge. Second: Staying not entirely sober is an actual therapeutic approach to save her from totally breaking down. Cause apparently staying 100% sober didn’t work for her. Just be open for new ways of recovery :)
@@markusrichter5446 First, I’m allowed to share my opinion she is a public figure and shares every detail of her life. 2nd: Research alcoholism and addiction. 3rd: She can do whatever the Fuck she wants, and clearly does. However, saying you’re “California sober” is bullshit nonsense.. she’s not sober. Period. Stop glamorous and minimizing ADDICTION. “Therapeutic approach” okay... sure.. This was the same girl doing 8 balls of coke..
I’m really curious how doing drugs leads someone to NOT doing drugs 🤔 Very interested to read the Harvard Medical Journal review on how to get sober by doing MORE drugs 😂
She is so entitled. If she were a common addict she would have been living on the streets and died long ago. Most people can’t afford this huge support system she had in place but to her it was all a massive inconvenience.
Agreed. She may have legitimate issues but she’s also pretty spoiled. She doesn’t understand the privileges and resources that she has at her disposal to help her. Most people do not have an assistant that’s going to walk into their apartment to save them from ODing. They don’t have access to luxury rehabs with 24/7 coaches to travel with to help keep them on the right path. Or a team of specialist doctors saving their lives when they slip up. This should tell everyone how little help the average addict has in our society. The average addict barely has the transportation to get to an AA meeting. Is bunking with three other addicts in a tiny room in a rehab house eating cereal for breakfast. Is being told ‘we don’t have an open bed right now’ for the tenth time while calling local hotlines even just trying to get into a rehab. This is the story of one very rich person with addiction, it’s not a documentary on addiction itself. Im not saying it doesn’t have its place but it could be very misleading to those who don’t know about an average person’s journey in trying to get sober.
Well part of what got her that support she has still has many cons and negatives. Her fame is part of the problem, so your argument is kind of pointless. She is a special case compared to others because of her lifestyle and career. Because she is famous, she has a lot of fans that want to know how she's doing and what's going on in her life. So, she makes documentaries. You don't like it? Then mind your own business and stop pretending to be better than someone who is trying to be open about things that are important to her, because that's what her fans WANT.
@@dahliadaydream6897 im not pretending to be better than her, and i dont think i am. I've just grown up with a lot of people who struggled with mental health and addiction, so am extra invested when i see celebrities discussing it. I agree, fame must be a huge part of her struggles, it does make her case different to most people's, and most celebs do take their fans on their journey. That being said, people can still have opinions, and discuss the topics covered in a documentary, as well as their view on the celebrity too????? 'mind my own business' doesn't apply here. She's a public figure. It's a public documentary. This is a space for discussion.
Most people don't have a voice of 4.2 octaves, most people haven't been working since the age of 7 to achieve their dreams...and most people don't make millions for record labels. So no it's not being JUST entitled , is actually achieving something due to talent, hard work and of course luck.
@@ΠολύχρωμηΑλεπού-δ4ι who gives a fuck about her voice range if she’s a nasty person? Being able to sing isn’t an excuse for awful, spoiled behavior. This is the same woman who tried to bully a small fro yo shop. The woman is awful and so are groupies like you
Literally everyone knows an addict can't have their drug casually, she's lying to herself. Hell, I've heard of people with DECADES of recovery behind them slip up and spiral into addiction, she hasn't even managed two full years of sobriety since she nearly died. She's not recovering, this is denial. Hopefully it won't end with her in a body bag.
That's really not necessarily true, that's a big assumption that 12 step programs push and 12 steps haven't been proven to get anyone sober with any more success rate than white knuckling it, weaning off, pharmaceutical replacement like methadone therapy, etc. It is possible to get to a point you're strong enough to just have a drink at dinner, have a joint, etc while staying away from hard drugs. Do I necessarily think that's a good idea for Demi, whose going through a hard time and had a heart attack and three strokes? No. Absolutely not. I don't even think this documentary should have been made, though I did watch it. It's like she thinks just because she made it out the 27 club she's okay. But to say all addicts must stay completely 100% sober or you can't live can sometimes even be counter productive and cause you to have much more intense relapses. Sometimes it's a lot healthier to just have smoke weed or have the occasional drink at dinner (provided alcohol isn't your drug of choice, which to be honest I think Demis always been using opiates and blaming it on alcohol).
@@ladysilverswirl5588 methadone therapy and such still has the ultimate goal of weaning you off the drugs, and methadone is 100% NOT for recreational use as Demi states she's using. Methadone is literally prescribed by a doctor IN your rehab program and if you abuse it you lose it. When I said "having a drug casually" I did not mean using it in small doses for medical treatment, those couldn't be more different from each other.
you have never met this woman. you do not know her, you probably will never know her. do not pass invasive judgement on someone YOU DON'T KNOW. anyone that would try to state a personal view about mental health and/or addiction on someone they've never met is not qualified enough to have a view on the matter in the first place.
People act like self-esteem is supposed to just fall out of the sky and into your brain. It comes from self-awareness and actually putting in work and BEING someone you can be proud of
Self-esteem is on a competence-confidence interval. The more you practice healthy, responsible behavior the more competent you become at it, and that competence leads to natural confidence in yourself. Which in turn, expands your mind to feel capable of becoming even MORE competent and self-sustaining. And the loop just continues. That competence-confidence equates to how self-esteem gets built.
I don't get why this is the 3rd documentary about Demi being sober. When I saw that she was coming out with another documentary about sobriety it honestly got me irritated. Specially after the over dose. At this point I don't believe she's sober. Am not even part of her inner circle and am irritated about her lying. If she doesn't want to be sober that's fine but stop making documentaries about how you changed.
@@shallonlester it is like when you buy ton of cute fitness wear but you do not actually direct the energy where it is essential - to actually go to the fitness. I don’t want to underestimate the struggle and how hard it is.
I feel for her but it has to be so frustrating to be her friend. She, from what we know, hasn't really put in the work to be an adult. Imagine an addict that doesn't have her resources. A normal person/ addict can't control the world around them to "be sober" they have to power through life, family and friends gatherings full of alcohol
Lol just mind your own business then? She can make as many documentaries as she wants. Everyone's journey is different. Oh how shocking to find all these bigots on here...
Let’s be honest these people had a vested interest in her being sober. She was their livelihood and was the money maker. Therefore they were trying to keep her sober by sheer force so they could keep her working but she did not want to be sober herself. That was never going to work. Really she should have taken some time away to focus on her recovery when she was ready to do the work.
I agree with everything you said. I also found it weird how Demi and her family basically blamed it on her team. The rules were there for a reason and time has shown she needs someone to take care of her or provide the structure she needs until she realizes she has to do it herself.
I didn't know until today that Demi did a sobriety documentary in 2012. At this point it feels like these are just surface-level therapy sessions for PR. She should do the work in private before talking to the public.
Hence that project was shelved because of her relapse.. Whats hard not to understand? I don't think opening your life to discuss about drug affliction is a PR stunt. It's a serious msg to send a msg to her fans that she isn't a perfect person that her journey would help other ppl who are also struggling like her.
While its important to be understanding, we shouldnt have to bend over backwards just to be supportive of people. We all are on our own paths which we ourselves are responsible for and no one else.
When someone has a new documentary every two years...well it's a red flag. Demi is famous but does she really have to make a movie every now and then to explain herself? Or is it another way to monetize her private life? The biggest stars in the industry only have a few documentaries in the whole life, while Demi lives this neverending drama that's turning into a TV show...with sequels.
her first doc was after her first rehab when she was 18or19 i guess. she was 6 years sober after that okey and she made a doc about how her addiction was too bad then we know and how she made it thru which at the time her ed was too bad because she felt like she needed to be thin to be a pop star and her team at the time controlled her food she ended up relapsing and oded she is here to tell us what happened which she doesn't have to but she clearly wants to show people you can get up from every fall
@@zehrab936 You don't need to film FOUR documentaries to show people a good example. She is still in her 20s and the fact she already has 4 documentaries that address her struggles and issues is alarming. We all have some sort of trauma (I survived bombing and war) but it doesn't mean we should monetize it.
@@antigonasrb she has 3 doc in total not 4 and that's how you look at it there are actually a lot of people who says its helping them gives strength to keep going or appreciates talking publicly because there is a lot of stigma to it she is trying to be better and trying to help people who has no voice she is lucky and she knows it
I really hope she's changed. She (her music) helped me through my darkest times. I relate to her a lot (minus the addiction thankfully). It broke me when she overdosed
I noticed a pattern in every documentary Demi has come out with she’s telling the truth and coming and clean about the lie she’s supposedly been living And at this point it’s just like OK can I even believe this newest documentary because you say this one is telling the truth but you said that about the last one...so?Personally I think she needs to focus on truly being sober and working on herself and not these documentaries where she’s “laying it all out on the table” acting like she’s a completely fixed person and all her problems are in the past.
Agree. And it’s concerning that every life issue, addiction, relapse she has becomes a documentary PR product that is marketed. That to me is really troubling. If her management truly has her best interests at heart they should give her the space and peace to truly discover herself, she shouldn’t have her experiences packaged and sold and promoted. Watching her at a “premiere” for this documentary made me sad. She’s clearly still figuring things out and has to take some kind of position around having it figured out to “sell this story.”
Criminals are not allowed to do tell all's or similar stuff that promotes and makes them money off their crimes. I think the same restrictions should be in place for addicts. They get all kinds of assistance aide to get help, sometimes even more than everyday people who are struggling, like a single mom for example, or rape victims. While I believe that they should be able to tell their story in an effort to help others or to get their truth out I don't think they should be allowed to monetize it in any way. No one should be making money off of their dangerous addictive and destructive habits like that.
Andi James The fact that she put off telling this story for over two years, until she had music to promote etc: just sickens me. If saving other people was really her #1 concern, she’d just have given a free interview talking about what the fuck happened years ago. If the aim is to save lives, you don’t wait until you can make a big production of it. And then after aaall that, she’s not even fucking sober now? What a joke.
She should have stopped touring and worked on herself. Sucks that she had to continue her contracts because it may have been worse financially if she didn’t, but at what cost?
She didn’t actually forget the lyrics, she already spoke about that moment a while ago. She just didn’t want to sing that part of the song because she didn’t feel “sorry” at the time.
Self aware addict who tells the truth is very rare. The first documentary I was sympathetic. Second documentary admitting to lying on the first, but now she is telling the truth. At this point I expect the next documentary to confess to the lies of the last. She says she is very good at convincing people she is fine. I was annoyed but cant stop watching. It is her life and her body, she can be reckless if she wants I guess. I hope it ends well. I want to complete the sentence "Lack of...." sincerity. She is full of $h!t, I agree.
I think what surprises me most (and what I fear most for her) is that she literally went from being sober, to having a drink , “running into” her former drug dealer with a backpack full of drugs about the same time and doing literally every fucking drug he had in his backpack with admittedly by her no moderation WHATSOEVER. In less than one months time after 6 years sober. That’s a HARD FALL off the wagon. She’s beautiful and talented and funny and I’ve actually learned a lot about my own addiction/sobriety by observing her actions. I actually got sober after listening to her song “Sober” about a million times while high as hell thinking “this is seriously the soundtrack of my life and its fucking sad and painful” but when she overdosed (and I work in medicine, I knew how close to death she was by what was being said in the news) I literally put the booze and drugs down. And you’re right - she’s surrounded by enablers. I’m scared for her because I believe if she relapses again she won’t survive...like Whitney Houston and Michael Jackson who also were surrounded by enablers.
First, Shannon, I am so sorry for what happened to you, and I am proud of you for everything that you have created and who you have become in spite of such a horrible event. I am sorry that the people in your life did not support you, and I am proud of, and thankful for your incredible personal strength. When you told your story, I saw what you felt and I believe you. Because I feel that same way when I tell my own story. Like for one small millisecond everything in you stops because you’re in so much pain you forget how to breathe, your brain forgets how to function, and your heart forgets how to beat. Then you’re left with the overwhelming urge to cry, and the feeling of your rib cage begin slowly torn open from the inside. I’ll tell you the same thing I told the police when they did not believe me, and the same thing I tell myself when the memory becomes too much. You did not ask for it. You did not do it to yourself. You did not deserve it. You are not to blame. I’m sorry if that was inappropriate or invasive, it’s something I wish that I had been told by someone else, and I though maybe you or someone else might need to hear/see it now. My original comment seems trite and completely irrelevant now, so I’ll save it for another time.
I’m so sorry no one told you those words when you needed to hear them-I think the vast majority of girls who go through it fail to hear it. So I’ll say it right back to you: you didn’t deserve it either. And it doesn’t make you less of a person. It makes you a warrior and a dragon.
@@pandaxpress4651 videos with his wife.. That's the same as the manipulative guy who proposes at a huge event. Cringy isn't even the word, its straight corrosion imo
Yeah, all the friends sounded very ignorant and that's not a bad thing, I dont know anything about keeping someone sober. So they were hired to be an assistant or a choreographer and then are being asked to speak on such a complicated topic such as drugs and addiction
I thought that too-why is keeping a grown woman sober THEIR job? It’s her job. And it just goes to show-as she said with so much resentment and a huge lack of gratitude-ALLLLLLLL these people watching out for her doesn’t really mean anything at the end of the day.
when the part about her friend walking in on her doing heroin happened i was so confused...how would you NOT call someone ASAP!!!! how would people not notice she was using hard drugs after a few months? so strange.
Addict is usually synonymous with manipulator. For people who genuinely want to get better it’s the manipulativeness that goes first, then you’re just left with a physical dependency/literal habit
Thank you for the words "you can't save your parents". Yesterday, my mom was fired (she's 59), she had not been going to work and they fired her. She has been drinking for several years. Yet, it was me who spent the whole day yesterday thinking what I could have/should have done to prevent the situation and what I should do about it now. Egh.
Take care of yourself, it's normal to worry about your mom. But make sure you are getting hell yourself to cope with this situation. Well done for acknowleding that it's not YOUR problem to solve. We can it support and encourage not Solve other ppls problems
I think Demi gets some kind of attention high from the spotlight and is a true narcissist. She doesn’t talk as she’s hit her lowest point yet. She shares the details of the strokes, blindness, etc & in such a monotonous way that makes me think she wants people to feel bad for her. Does she feel bad for herself? Does she feel shame? All of these documentaries where she’s grasping for attention meanwhile she’s gaslighting herself and her fans. I hope she pulls through but she’s disingenuous and comes off as narcissistic. Somebody that had three strokes and more SHOULD not be delighting in doing a press run where she admits to doing weed and alcohol? I don’t see this ending well for her.
this is so absolutely spot on, I truly do agree. two things can be true at once of course no one in their right mind would want to see a young woman’s/addict’s story end tragic, but let’s be real the truth always hides in plain sight. what is it, 3-4 documentaries now? attention is one of her other addictions as well like you said.
Jesús this video got me so deeply, i think this Is the best u have done so far, I'm gonna keep it y save it and lisen it all the days of my life 👌🏻 So Good. Thanks Shallon
Authenticity is so unappreciated these days, especially with social media. It's quite rare to find a RUclipsr like Shallon who speaks THE truth. People need to understand that living in a bubble without discipline and getting irrationally triggered by everything won't do them any favors.
You hit a nerve today. I was molested by my uncle and much of my family did not believe and the ones that did just told me not to allow myself to be in a room alone with him. My dad also was an absentee father who always ran when the going got tough and was not there financially or emotionally. I am also a very strong fire breathing dragon type of woman. I rely on no one but that means I have difficulty trusting in a partner. I have to work on how to be strong and allow someone in.
her previous management had been with her since disney days, they saw her thru her first rounds of treatment and overtime they not only weren't able to assess her objectively but literally exploited, controlled and micromanaged her. 6 yers of sobriety in LA in ur 20s can be isolating and naturally as an addict relapse is inevitable, but she was literally keeping this all secret. Her bravery and honesty to talk about the situation considering it was almost 3 years ago is the most inspiring thing. The docs aren't a long enough representation of the work she's def doing behind the scene.
I literally found this channel last night and I’m obsessed! I’m a recovering addict and I agree with everything you say one million percent! You aren’t bashing Demi ( I hope nobody thinks that) but you are being objective and honest about the behavior. She definitely reminds me of my old self and I hope someone will love her enough to be honest and even break off relationships with her if necessary to make her wake up . It took many years of relapsing and suffering for me to finally take responsibility and get well. With all of the resources at her disposal I do have it doesn’t take her as many years. And no, moderation is not an option for addicts. Not possible!
I don't care about Demi Lovato and her addiction problems but I when I saw, that Shallon has posted a video, I knew I am in for a treat and I was not disappointed. I needed the "you are the master of your own life" pep talk . Thank you! I have been feeling unsatisfied with a lot of things in my life and feeling self-conscious, discouraged, sort of depressed and tired. And I have been trying to find ALL the excuses, including pandemic, etc., etc. All the self help topics help a lot to set my head straight. Thanks!
For me I smoke weed about 4-5 times a year and have never had the desire to do anything more in my life. For Demi I just don’t know how her still casually smoking weed as an addict works for her. That’s just insanely dangerous to me.
@@daphnereloaded3480 i don’t think this person meant the cannabis itself, when addicts are in recovery it’s best for them to stay away from all substances. including alcohol, even if they’re not addicted to alcohol. demi has so many issues and addictions it is insanely bizarre that anyone thinks it’s safe for her to continue smoking marijuana even if it’s on occasion. it’s way too much of a slippery slope for her and she’s on her last life.
DEMI, DEMI, DEMI.....she reminds me of Gwyneth Paltrow's character in the movie Country Strong 🎯. Watch it and see what happened. Demi is walking hand in hand with her own demise. What the fuck is California sober????? 🤔😥 Amy Winehouse all over again. 🙄 I hope she finds way to make it all work and save herself. She is a powerhouse and raw and loving to her fans. 🔥🥰 For her having the World on a string is not enough.....it doesn't feed what's writhing inside her. Pray for Demi that she can make it work this time.🙏
I LOVE that movie! And yes exactly, it was hard to watch Amy’s spiral bc she thought she had a grip on it but any one could see she didn’t. And it’s ok not to, but we can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.
Recovery doesn’t look the same for everyone. For some people, abstinence works and for some people, especially the medical issues she’s currently having, medical marijuana could possibly help a lot. I pray that she finds peace and stays in recovery, whatever that means to her.
Omg I'm so glad you said mentors don't exists. I've been waiting for a mentor to just show up especially in 2020 and this did not happen. I finally had to speak up and ask people for help. Thanks for this reminder.
Unfortunately, harm reduction doesn't work when someone has a history of relapsing, getting themselves in life-threatening situations, or compromising others. I think it's a little tone deaf. I think a label like "California sober” may serve to support the addict’s denial of their disease. I hope for the best and that she continues to work on herself, but I hope there's not ANOTHER DOCUMENTARY about "setting the record straight" again. 🙄😔
@@ntmn8444 I think yall should start investigating. Her first documentary was in 2012 about her problems with alcohol. Her second documentary was in 2017, the time where she was controlled by her team and she thought she was okay, but she really wasn't. Her third documentary was to be in 2018 and it was in relation to the TMYLM tour, but it was not released due to the overdose.
This one of incredibly difficult for me, being in recovery myself from those exact drugs and having to safe my fiancé multiple times before he ended up passing away.. Watching everyone laugh while she forgot the words to her own song was f**ked up straight up. I am honestly worried about her, because she’s just not ready to stop.. and when she is ready (again) because relapse happens.. it might just be too late. Fentanyl has taken the opportunity of deciding when to stop. I’m in a small city in Canada, and we’ve lost more people to fentanyl OD then covid in Canada. She’s just not ready, and it’s very clear. Which is scary as hell! A heart attack/3 strokes wasn’t enough to keep her straight, and those types are lifers I’m sorry. I’m a huge Demi fan, I mean damn her song “sober” literally made me come clean about my use AGAIN and I’m on my 3rd year sober this June. But I am scared for her
Same, I’ve been in sobriety (off IV fentanyl) for several years and lost my best friend 3 years ago to an overdose. She was “only smoking weed” too, and everyone was satisfied with that bc she wasn’t using heroin anymore (after a long battle using) I worry for demi after seeing that documentary. She doesn’t seem to really understand what addiction means, and I also think the people around her continue to enable her by not setting clear boundaries and expectations about what it means to be sober either. Not that it is their disease to control or dictate, but they’re going along with the narrative of California sober is “sober enough” bc it’s better than X and seem to be absolving her of consequence and accountability for her continued use. It allows Demi to use and stay in denial about being able to successfully. How many times in the rooms do we hear “i thought i could control drinking/smoking socially or in moderation” before they hit their rock bottom and have to totally give up control? This is denial that anyone who’s dealt with addiction can spot a mile away. Makes me sad to see.
@@rinn1061 totally agree!! That life is absolutely terrifying, and you end up knowing people who’ve overdosed 5+ times and wonder why they keep going back. Because it’s that powerful.. Even scarier for Demi starting with soft and Xanax, and her life spiralled so badly to where she needed all those people to begin with.. now she’s tried the even harder stuff, and that was the immediate reaction. I don’t want to sound like such a bummer, but she’ll end up right back where she was.. like you sad once you’ve been there you can just spot it.
"California sober" actually works really well for my boyfriend, and it has for the past three years. He went through extensive childhood trauma and abuse. As a result, he is diagnosed with BPD and a side helping of ADHD. He's gone through therapy, holds down a good job, and works on himself, but he also smokes weed to manage the worst of his symptoms. At first, I was resistant, because I was bought into the NA mentality of total and complete abstinence. He tried that lifestyle for a while, but it just didn't work. He was all over the place and barely functioning due to his mental health conditions. It was miserable for everyone involved. The weed evens him out and mitigates the worst of his anxiety. He could start taking ADHD medication and anti-anxiety medication, but seeing as methamphetamine and benzos were his substances of choice when he was in full addiction, he doesn't want to take the risk. California sober works for him, and it works for me as the person who spends the most time with him. Maybe it will work for Demi Lovato too.
@@bwoww13 It's not. NA has an incredibly high relapse rate and so do most traditional rehab programs. In fact, new research is showing that certain substances such as psilocybin, DMT, and MDMA (all currently classified as illegal drugs) are likely to be far more effective treatments for addiction when paired with supportive counseling. The reason Demi is probably going to relapse (I agree with Shallon) is because it's readily apparent that she has done absolutely zero introspection, therapy, and the hard work that goes with it to confront why/how she became an addict in the first place/to change her mindset and lifestyle. It's not because she is smoking weed. Demi's problem, is that she is smoking weed and drinking without any internal mental shift. That's why it is going to continue to be a slippery slope for her.
@@ancelinee3169 I'm on suboxone because I was addicted to opioids just cuz it's a prescription and legal doesnt mean I'm sober. Your either using or not. I feel worse off than when I was using because suboxone is so hard to come off because of withdrawals. I've been stuck on it for almost 10 years. So from my opinion it's better to be clean 100%
@@bwoww13 Got it. My opinion is that most of the newer research is showing that total abstinence and sobriety (NA method) for the sake of total abstinence and sobriety isn't actually terribly effective long term. Functionality and mental health looks different for different people. Granted I will admit that I think the phrase "California Sober" is stupid.
My thing is, she didn't tell a drastically story than what she's kept with. She admitted she lost control after her 6 year anniversary, she was still sober for 6 YEARS! She admitted that she slipped with alcohol first and then kept going downhill in a 4 month span. She wrote her song sober and let people know "Hey I lost it I'm struggling" she literally said she's struggling. I don't see her as lying at all. Just because she didn't elaborate on the drug even tho in the song it talks about cold sweats and shakes like that's not coming from alcohol so it implied other drugs. I just don't see the point of the "she's lying about her life all the time" claims.
I think it’s important to note that when her bestie (Matthew) said what he said along the lines of “you can’t tell me what to do”, the act of rebellion statement, it was more about her eating disorder, not doing drugs. She has been very vocal and upfront about the fact that she suffers from an eating disorder and the fact that she was watched like a hawk on what she and others around her were eating is what made her so depressed that it DID lead her back to the drugs. Her issues with her dad, along with the eating disorder she has been battling, are the root of the issue.
Omg!!!! I found you cause I love a bit of Demi... but OMG you cracked me up soooo much- it was the not getting uppers and downers that got me, the way you talked about you will eat one (lobster and choc)... then the other. Jesus made me laugh so much, thats it, im a subscriber and can’t wait to hear more
I’m sorry but I call Bull shit. I don’t think she’s clean, or completely done using. I am an addict in recovery and I know where I was, and what I was saying when I wasn’t done either. Mark my words. She is still using, or well on her way to it.
Unfortunately the sad thing with Demi and other celebrities is they aren’t just another employee in a large corporation like most of us are they are the product that the company makes a living off of,they are that refrigerator going down that line and if something is broken the whole line stops and everyone lines around that refrigerator trying to figure out what the problem is, not because they necessarily care but because they know that’s what they are getting paid to do and if they don’t have that refrigerator they don’t have a business. That’s what’s happening with Demi and other celebrities most of the time their team is just trying to figure out a way to fix them just enough so that they can still perform and still make the money to pay them but they don’t actually care what the underlying problem is they just wanna make sure that she’s good enough to sign their paychecks even if that is sneaking her alcohol or drugs, holding your hand to make sure she goes to the meeting she needs to go to. It’s kind of gross if you think about it no human being should be treated like a cash cow.
@manicpixiedreamgirl notice she said was. Was a Disney star means past tense. In other she was a Disney at one point but isn't anymore. And it's been barely over a decade since she became a Disney star.
@@chaidabangobango wrong. These are some of the ones that didn't spiral out of control down below 1) Dove Cameron 2) Sofia Carson 3) Selena Gomez 4) Moisés Arias 5) Cole Sprouse 6) Dylan Sprouse 7) David Henrie 8) Emily Osment 9) Ashley Tidsdale 10) Monique Coleman 11)Vanessa Ann Hudgens 12) Lucas Grabeel 13) Emily Osment 14) Alyson Stoner 15) Joe Jonas 16) Nick Jonas 17) Kevin Jonas 18) Zendaya
She's also still drinking. That's the same exact thing she did before her overdose. The only difference is now her friends aren't blurring out her drinks in photos. When I first heard of it, I thought it was a terrible idea. Then I heard Demi herself say it in an interview and thought, "Okay, I'm not on board, but it's not as terrible as I initially thought." She really is a good manipulator. At first, I felt better knowing she wasn't completely in the victim role anymore. She did take *some* accountability in her GMA interview. Hearing how you rephrased it (the rebelling thing) makes me realize not much as changed. I hope she figures it out. I honestly wasn't as emotional watching it as I expected to be. Literally everyone in my immediate family is an addict and it's the same way I got desensitized to everything going on with them because they, like Demi, don't really want help.
I love Demi but this documentary is very sad, I don’t think she’s really regretting what happened. Why she don’t have any other friends than people in her crew? I have big hopes for her but I think it’s not her last overdose and next one can be fatal. Also how sad is that her crew celebrated that she didn’t died at 27? Like they all sensed it may happen
She is a liar and a addict ! I really don’t think that this time was for good ! She still drink ,she still smoke ! She needs to stop or it will be another od! An addict cannot smoke a little or drink a little ! What a joke
I completely agree with you. Watching this documentary was difficult because everyone in her life now seems like enablers. She doesn’t seem to be able to take accountability for anything. However, I also think it’s interesting to see how rigidity didn’t fix the problem either. It makes you wonder, what is the proper way to handle someone who isn’t helping themself? As a friend, parent, teacher...whoever you are...what should your role be?
I have learnt a significant amount of self-reliance and the importance of it from you. I'm sad to say that most people in my life do not see how important that is. As you have said before, most people are not capable of insight. It sucks that people don't see pursuing challenges and personal growth as key to a good life. I hope that I can build my own community. But I come back to your videos to be among people who care about growth, even if that community is virtual, and that is truly a gift.
Hey Shallon! I know you’ve touched on the topic before, but can you make a video or podcast about how to navigate a friendship or relationship in which one person is trying to glow up and the other is stuck in their misery? I think this would be super relevant during lockdown season haha
The need to be self-actualized is so important, only we can do that for ourselves. No one else can do it for us, even if they wanted to. Thank you for sharing your story and your truth Shallon! I love your takeaway points at the end of every video.
I ❤️ when she was talking all serious and the off-screen dog came up and she was like, “Oh, hi. We got a little hound dog over here” in that cute baby voice. 😅
All of the people she surrounds herself with are absolutely insufferable. Besides her sisters and that one smart assistant, hearing each one of them talk was just awful. She's surrounded herself with pseudo intellectuals who pretend to have her best interests at heart, but really would never, ever tell her no or call her on her bullshit because they would lose their little gravy train. She needs people who will tell her the hard truths she needs to hear on the daily and will force her to take some responsibility for all of her actions as a grown person...because clearly this tip toeing/sugarcoating/ finger crossing thing is not working. Also...istg that guys stupid purple hat will be the source of all of my rage for the next 24 to 48 hours.
Came here after froyo debacle & let me just say, Shallon is sooo spot on. Thanks to Demi being coddled and catered to by every person in her life, like she’s some kind of God, she couldn’t handle froyo 🤷🏼♀️
I have never done drugs or drank. But I did have a self-harming addiction AND disordered eating. The self-harming addiction was like a drug. I'd go deeper in my arms, moved to my upper arms or thighs, to get the same feeling. It wasn't until I was getting stitched up in the hospital when I knew I had a problem. And I had dragged my friends down with me. My family didn't know because I hid it from them. I had friends who were becoming emotionally exhausted with me because I'd always talk about things triggering me. It wasn't until I got out of a toxic relationship, took a step to identify all the toxic things in my life (and take them OUT), and REALLY felt like I wanted to not have this addiction anymore was when things got better. To me, Demi doesn't want to get better. The mere fact she had everything she needed to not relapse and she still did, shows she didn't want this. She might not ever want it. She always comes out with a documentary and then an album after some tragedy in her life. I admire that she's "open" and "honest". However, if she flat out said, "I'm an addict and I need help", then I'd 100% believe her. But now, it's like that saying "fool me once, shame on you, but fool me twice, shame on me."
I LOVE your videos! I've always felt the same - it's wrong for celebrities to be gaslighting people!! It does more serious damage than people realize even with celebrity BS.
hey shallon, i just wanted to say that the part in this video where u talked about ur sexual assult story made me cry. it hurt me that someone whos videos and advice thats always been there for me had no one there for them. from the bottom of my heart i am so sorry that happened to u. but i want to say that since i was 10 years old (im 17 now) you have been one of the greatest influences on my life and i am beyond greatful for you. i love u shallon, the shalligators will always have ur back 💜
To me, showing that footage from her unrealeased documentary was counterproductive, 'cause everytime she was like "oh, that was all a lie, I wasn't being honest"... Girl, this is your *4th* documentary, how do I know you are being honest on this one?
and she literally states that in every documentary that the last documentary was a lie
I wish I could like this comment 1000 times.
Yaas
wait it’s the 4th?! I thought it was her third and that was ridiculous to me. She’s such a messy Leo, but so am I and this is why I root for her 😭
Exactly! Why so many documentaries on someone so young?
I would like to shout out the assistant that was apparently the ONLY PERSON with any SENSE in that whole situation and called 911, because she CLEARLY knew that Demi’s life was more important than Demi’s reputation. I could not believe that the people who “cared about her” actually had the nerve to think about the sirens when Demi was literally found naked in her bed turning blue. 😀
I know I felt so badly for her. Her blue haired sober coach seemed like she just trotted out of Coachella, and isn’t the most...idk...deep? . “Y’all this is lit” WHO IS STILL SAYING LIT ESPECIALLY IN THE CONTEXT OF A DOCUMENTARY PRODUCTION, WHICH IS NOT THE APPROPRIATE CONTEXT??!
@@shallonlester That's not her sober coach, it's her best friend. The tag included "Former Sober Companion."
She had to hide calling 911 so she would not get in trouble. Dear lord help me.
That's exactly how ppl die. And these are the ppl she is surrounded by on daily basis....
@@TheOlya420 I loved when the dispatcher was like, “No, the sirens will be on. This is a medical emergency.” No games were played. 😂
I also felt bad for her. Imagine feeling guilty for trying to save someone's life? And the cookie thing, plus having to wake her up. That woman is an angel for putting up with all of that.
I agree, people are too chill about weed. They think you can’t get addicted, but if you need to smoke everyday you are behaviorally addicted.
We enjoy to stay high doesn’t mean we can’t function. Some people love caffeine and sugar rushes I like weed high.
Totally agree. Demi clearly isn’t a person who can dabble. She said in the documentary that she relapsed with her old standbys and within 2 months (weeks?) she was on CRACK. She doesn’t have a grip on this.
No matter the reasons for smoking, there are real consequences. You can lose up to 10 IQ points and lose emotional and intellectual capacities. You can’t get IQ back and it takes years of therapy to get emotional and intellectual capacity back.
period girl weed is not a "clean" and "harmless" drug like everyone wants it to be. they glamorize it because it alters their state of mind and distracts them from their reality!
@@Chloe-ul3vd 💯💯💯
I feel like if someone has 3 strokes, a heart attack, experiences liver and kidney failure and can no longer see in their peripheral vision... then, gets into a whirlwind relationship, gets engaged, then breaks off said engagement after finding out their fiancé is a snake and oh! also, they’ve started to actively explore their sexuality and spirituality all in the last... what?... two years?! They need to take several seats for several years before doing anything they used to do in “moderation”. I was a little confused by that.
Right like 2 years is NOTHING. I got wasted on a wine tour in college, ate $20 of Taco Bell (a lot) and threw up. And I didn’t drink wine for 12 years. I got food poisoning off fish at 11 and didn’t eat it for 15 years. I just can’t imagine her associating drugs or booze with anything positive. And yes she’s in such a state of flux this isn’t the time to be digging up old demons that don’t seem to serve her well.
@@bleudiamondbleu EVERY resource! It looked like they had to do the ABSOLUTE most to keep her alive. Like, if she had been a “normal” person with average access to healthcare, they would’ve died or been much worse off after the fact. I’ve never heard of blood being taken out and put back in and having the tube SEWED to your skin. 😧 I couldn’t even comprehend what they did to put oxygen back into her body.
I've loved Demi since her OG days on as the bell rings ... But she needa to take the largest step back and keep her ass seated until she good good. Like girl just go buy a house in the boonies and live yo freaking life PLEASEE. 🤭
Totally agree! This doc was total BS.
As someone who has been in recovery for substance abuse for five years I absolutely agree with you. It’s scary that she continues to be enabled by those around her too.
The creepiest part of the documentary to me was when the assistant talked about finding her unconscious and instead of calling an ambulance called the head of security. Then 10 minutes passed before the assistant had to SNEAK AWAY to call an ambulance. I’m sorry, but no one around her cared about her, they cared about her image, and let her lay there blue in the face before calling for help.
My thoughts exactly, made me think about how they called Mary Kate Olsen instead of an ambulance when they found Heath Ledger?! Like, every second counts in these situations! And also the fact that Demi’s security guard got so much more credit and gratitude from Demi than the girl that actually saved her. I felt for her she seemed so sad and kind of traumatized by the whole thing.
I agree! I would have called immediately. She could of died.
Reminds me of Anna Nicole Smith
Yes!
@@Charlotte1333 absolutely
My ultimate goal is officially to sit and watch a celebrity’s documentary with Shallon so we can pause and discuss every 5 minutes.
Samee omg
Same lol
Am I the only one who has never heard the expression “California Sober”
I literally never had before Demi said anything or talked about it. 😂
she invented the term
@@Dash120z no she did not lmfaooooo
It’s a big phrase in the douche hipster realm-people who want the accolades of sobriety without the actual work. And, it’s never something someone asks about-like being vegan or doing CrossFit or being sexually fluid-it’s information that’s forced upon you.
@@shallonlester HAHA!
My brother is an addict. He started doing drugs when he was a teenager. Like Demi he tried to get sober in his 20s by staying off hard drugs and just drinking and smoking weed. It didn't work and soon he was back doing meth. He didn't overdose like Demi (thank god). His drug use came to a head when he physically assaulted my sister and threatened me with a knife when i stopped him. He had minimal jail time and afterwards entered rehab. He was in rehab for a year. The rehab he went to made him completely change his lifestyle. He couldn't smoke cigarettes or even cuss. When he got out he continued to be completely sober and cut ties with friends he had since he was a kid. It was hard but he's been sober for two years because he changed everything about his life. From the way Demi spoke in this interview I have no confidence in her so called sobriety. I don't know how people (her fans and family) can watch this interview and think she doesn't immediately need to be in rehab.
How did he change 😧❤️ that’s incredible! How is he now? Congratulations 🎈!
I’m happy for you! :)
@@isabellalora6533 My brother is doing great thank you! He's been sober for 2 years since rehab so 3 years total. He has changed larger aspects of his life like holding a full time job, volunteering in the community, discovering hobbies he enjoys, finding religion and going to church. To everyday things, like what he does and doesn't consume. He eats healthy and exercises regularly. At the height of his drug use he was significantly under weight. He has no social media, he doesn't hang out with old friends (people he once did drugs with), he has a set sleeping schedule and more things like that. To some it may sound extreme but he is very happy.
@@mazie2012 🌷💗🙏🏻 I’m so happy for him and you! Thank for the reply 🥰🤍💗🌷
@@mazie2012 Demi should go to the same rehab as he did too :( she went to rehab I guess but she couldn’t succeed like your brother... why I don’t know.. 🥺🤍💗🌷
I love Demi but am I the only one who feels like she had lack of remorse/attachment to what happened? Almost like she’s still not owning it?
No, you’re not alone. You’re right. She is lying to herself, not to me, because I know she is lying. I think everyone at this point sees that. I personally just can’t stand her anymore. It’s a shame, she is so talented, but I just can’t anymore.
Is this a type of *narcissism* with the *(celebrity)attention*
Agree. All too staged.
I loved demi so much before
But I can't stan her anymore
it definitely sounds super staged, unlike her pervious documentary. she just seems like she has no emotion toward it, like, at all.
Celebrities are lucky they have talent cause on a regular person level...insufferable
There are so many celebs who’d be straight up homeless outside of Tampa if they didn’t have money.
She’s going to OD again if she keeps it up, which I hope doesn’t happen. She said she’s Californian sober, which means she still uses lightly. Shame on her. When you are an addict you either stop it all or you continue being an addict there is no in between. Demi,
Hire yourself an in home specialist 24/7 and keep yourself sober, it’s what you need.
if she overdoses again then she's definitely not gonna make it.
She’s not using any hardcore drugs which is what she has the biggest problem with ... she said she drinks from time to time in moderation and sometimes smokes weed but that’s it. y’all need to do ur research first
@Margaret Benitez alcohol is a hard-core drug sis, people die from alcohol poisoning daily..
@Margaret Benitez she was drunk the night of her overdose. do you think she would’ve called her dealer at 4am if she wasn’t intoxicated? it’s a slippery slope for addicts.
Every single doctor and addiction expert HAS all done their research about what weed and booze leads to. No one STARTS at crack. They’re called gateway substances for a reason.
I feel like Demi is still not owning her stuff entirely. I think it's crazy that she nearly died and continues to drink casually. She's an addict, drinking casually is not something she should do and she knows that.
I agree completely.
And also still doing weed
@@hjkayel9610Yeah, it’s all sad. She can’t just smoke once in a while like most people. It’s sucks that she knows better yet continues the same behavioral patterns. I hope and pray she isn’t found dead one day.
She isn’t drinking and smoking casually. Coming from an addict/alcoholic myself, her future looks pretty dim.
I don;t think she wants to be sober. She looks more like she wants to nub the pain and after her overdose there is more of it to deal with...I don't see her getting sober any time soon.
mark my words, in 3 years she will upload a new documentary telling us that everything in the last one was false
you’re right i think
If she is blessed to make it. I hope she figures out that she needs to scrap all of this crap and figure out a new way to “get relief”
I don’t feel she’s changed entirely ... IMO. Now saying that she’s drinking in “moderation” was pretty sad to hear. Being “California sober” is disrespectful to the sober community and Frankly dangerous. Having “one drink” is every alcoholics classic lie they tell themselves. Maybe you can pull it off for a little while, but it’s a progressive disease.
Srry but what
@@tristanwady8906 don’t know what to tell ya 🤷🏼♀️ it’s pretty clear.
First: Why do you care? If it is her decision to make you shouldn’t judge. Second: Staying not entirely sober is an actual therapeutic approach to save her from totally breaking down. Cause apparently staying 100% sober didn’t work for her. Just be open for new ways of recovery :)
@@markusrichter5446 First, I’m allowed to share my opinion she is a public figure and shares every detail of her life.
2nd: Research alcoholism and addiction.
3rd: She can do whatever the Fuck she wants, and clearly does. However, saying you’re “California sober” is bullshit nonsense.. she’s not sober. Period. Stop glamorous and minimizing ADDICTION. “Therapeutic approach” okay... sure.. This was the same girl doing 8 balls of coke..
I’m really curious how doing drugs leads someone to NOT doing drugs 🤔 Very interested to read the Harvard Medical Journal review on how to get sober by doing MORE drugs 😂
She is so entitled. If she were a common addict she would have been living on the streets and died long ago. Most people can’t afford this huge support system she had in place but to her it was all a massive inconvenience.
Agreed. She may have legitimate issues but she’s also pretty spoiled. She doesn’t understand the privileges and resources that she has at her disposal to help her. Most people do not have an assistant that’s going to walk into their apartment to save them from ODing. They don’t have access to luxury rehabs with 24/7 coaches to travel with to help keep them on the right path. Or a team of specialist doctors saving their lives when they slip up. This should tell everyone how little help the average addict has in our society. The average addict barely has the transportation to get to an AA meeting. Is bunking with three other addicts in a tiny room in a rehab house eating cereal for breakfast. Is being told ‘we don’t have an open bed right now’ for the tenth time while calling local hotlines even just trying to get into a rehab. This is the story of one very rich person with addiction, it’s not a documentary on addiction itself. Im not saying it doesn’t have its place but it could be very misleading to those who don’t know about an average person’s journey in trying to get sober.
Well part of what got her that support she has still has many cons and negatives. Her fame is part of the problem, so your argument is kind of pointless. She is a special case compared to others because of her lifestyle and career. Because she is famous, she has a lot of fans that want to know how she's doing and what's going on in her life. So, she makes documentaries. You don't like it? Then mind your own business and stop pretending to be better than someone who is trying to be open about things that are important to her, because that's what her fans WANT.
@@dahliadaydream6897 im not pretending to be better than her, and i dont think i am. I've just grown up with a lot of people who struggled with mental health and addiction, so am extra invested when i see celebrities discussing it. I agree, fame must be a huge part of her struggles, it does make her case different to most people's, and most celebs do take their fans on their journey. That being said, people can still have opinions, and discuss the topics covered in a documentary, as well as their view on the celebrity too????? 'mind my own business' doesn't apply here. She's a public figure. It's a public documentary. This is a space for discussion.
Most people don't have a voice of 4.2 octaves, most people haven't been working since the age of 7 to achieve their dreams...and most people don't make millions for record labels. So no it's not being JUST entitled , is actually achieving something due to talent, hard work and of course luck.
@@ΠολύχρωμηΑλεπού-δ4ι who gives a fuck about her voice range if she’s a nasty person? Being able to sing isn’t an excuse for awful, spoiled behavior. This is the same woman who tried to bully a small fro yo shop. The woman is awful and so are groupies like you
Literally everyone knows an addict can't have their drug casually, she's lying to herself. Hell, I've heard of people with DECADES of recovery behind them slip up and spiral into addiction, she hasn't even managed two full years of sobriety since she nearly died. She's not recovering, this is denial. Hopefully it won't end with her in a body bag.
Unfortunately I think this is were its heading. I would be scared straight after almost dying from an overdose.
That's really not necessarily true, that's a big assumption that 12 step programs push and 12 steps haven't been proven to get anyone sober with any more success rate than white knuckling it, weaning off, pharmaceutical replacement like methadone therapy, etc. It is possible to get to a point you're strong enough to just have a drink at dinner, have a joint, etc while staying away from hard drugs. Do I necessarily think that's a good idea for Demi, whose going through a hard time and had a heart attack and three strokes? No. Absolutely not. I don't even think this documentary should have been made, though I did watch it. It's like she thinks just because she made it out the 27 club she's okay. But to say all addicts must stay completely 100% sober or you can't live can sometimes even be counter productive and cause you to have much more intense relapses. Sometimes it's a lot healthier to just have smoke weed or have the occasional drink at dinner (provided alcohol isn't your drug of choice, which to be honest I think Demis always been using opiates and blaming it on alcohol).
@@ladysilverswirl5588 methadone therapy and such still has the ultimate goal of weaning you off the drugs, and methadone is 100% NOT for recreational use as Demi states she's using. Methadone is literally prescribed by a doctor IN your rehab program and if you abuse it you lose it.
When I said "having a drug casually" I did not mean using it in small doses for medical treatment, those couldn't be more different from each other.
you have never met this woman. you do not know her, you probably will never know her. do not pass invasive judgement on someone YOU DON'T KNOW. anyone that would try to state a personal view about mental health and/or addiction on someone they've never met is not qualified enough to have a view on the matter in the first place.
@@khalfani414 it's a youtube comment, you can fuck off into the sunset and not reply if it bothers you so much
People act like self-esteem is supposed to just fall out of the sky and into your brain. It comes from self-awareness and actually putting in work and BEING someone you can be proud of
Well said!!
Self-esteem is on a competence-confidence interval. The more you practice healthy, responsible behavior the more competent you become at it, and that competence leads to natural confidence in yourself. Which in turn, expands your mind to feel capable of becoming even MORE competent and self-sustaining. And the loop just continues.
That competence-confidence equates to how self-esteem gets built.
You are 100% right...yet people still need to hear it
So true 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Amen
I don't get why this is the 3rd documentary about Demi being sober. When I saw that she was coming out with another documentary about sobriety it honestly got me irritated. Specially after the over dose. At this point I don't believe she's sober. Am not even part of her inner circle and am irritated about her lying. If she doesn't want to be sober that's fine but stop making documentaries about how you changed.
What was it that Shakespeare said about the lady doth protest too much 🤔
@@shallonlester it is like when you buy ton of cute fitness wear but you do not actually direct the energy where it is essential - to actually go to the fitness. I don’t want to underestimate the struggle and how hard it is.
I feel for her but it has to be so frustrating to be her friend. She, from what we know, hasn't really put in the work to be an adult. Imagine an addict that doesn't have her resources. A normal person/ addict can't control the world around them to "be sober" they have to power through life, family and friends gatherings full of alcohol
Lol just mind your own business then? She can make as many documentaries as she wants. Everyone's journey is different. Oh how shocking to find all these bigots on here...
@@dahliadaydream6897 if she can make as many documentaries as she wants, and air them publicly, so can everyone comment on them.
Let’s be honest these people had a vested interest in her being sober. She was their livelihood and was the money maker. Therefore they were trying to keep her sober by sheer force so they could keep her working but she did not want to be sober herself. That was never going to work. Really she should have taken some time away to focus on her recovery when she was ready to do the work.
She tried to reach out for help before she relapsed and her team called her selfish because they cared more about money than her mental health.
Which is why this time it's different bc she is happy and with a manager does not control her and let her take 2 years break
I agree with everything you said. I also found it weird how Demi and her family basically blamed it on her team. The rules were there for a reason and time has shown she needs someone to take care of her or provide the structure she needs until she realizes she has to do it herself.
Being sober = using no mind altering anything.
not true, psychadellics count as being sober
Exactly.
period. all these people out here saying you can be sober while smoking weed daily lmao.
@Acacia Luna exactly! at least you’re self aware, you look so smart compared to so many of these comments haha 🙌🏻
I didn't know until today that Demi did a sobriety documentary in 2012. At this point it feels like these are just surface-level therapy sessions for PR. She should do the work in private before talking to the public.
And she admitted to lying in that documentary a couple of years back. That’s when I lost respect for her.
I feel like this is part of her "brand" now. Sad.
Those are the words I was looking for.... A PR stunt.
She didnt talk about her drug addiction in the 2012 doc though.
Hence that project was shelved because of her relapse.. Whats hard not to understand? I don't think opening your life to discuss about drug affliction is a PR stunt. It's a serious msg to send a msg to her fans that she isn't a perfect person that her journey would help other ppl who are also struggling like her.
I love how brutally honest shallon is. Either she tells you or we find out the hard way and waste our time
The last 20 minutes of your video were all things I didn’t know I needed to here. Props to you for giving like the best monologue of all time👏🏽
While its important to be understanding, we shouldnt have to bend over backwards just to be supportive of people. We all are on our own paths which we ourselves are responsible for and no one else.
Thank you 🙏🏻 so much for this ! I can’t be someone’s punching bag or them draining my energy along with them.
Sometimes we are more into a person getting their live together than they are. This type of support can be counterproductive.
Yes! This! A million times!
If Demi pays someone to wake her up .... I can see her paying someone to put on her seatbelt.
She needs to take SOME responsibility for herself.
When someone has a new documentary every two years...well it's a red flag. Demi is famous but does she really have to make a movie every now and then to explain herself? Or is it another way to monetize her private life? The biggest stars in the industry only have a few documentaries in the whole life, while Demi lives this neverending drama that's turning into a TV show...with sequels.
her first doc was after her first rehab when she was 18or19 i guess. she was 6 years sober after that okey and she made a doc about how her addiction was too bad then we know and how she made it thru which at the time her ed was too bad because she felt like she needed to be thin to be a pop star and her team at the time controlled her food she ended up relapsing and oded she is here to tell us what happened which she doesn't have to but she clearly wants to show people you can get up from every fall
@@zehrab936 You don't need to film FOUR documentaries to show people a good example. She is still in her 20s and the fact she already has 4 documentaries that address her struggles and issues is alarming. We all have some sort of trauma (I survived bombing and war) but it doesn't mean we should monetize it.
@@antigonasrb she has 3 doc in total not 4 and that's how you look at it there are actually a lot of people who says its helping them gives strength to keep going or appreciates talking publicly because there is a lot of stigma to it she is trying to be better and trying to help people who has no voice she is lucky and she knows it
@@antigonasrb and im sorry you had to experience that it must be awful but we should be more uplifting to each other neither we are famous or not
Totally feel you on this
I really hope she's changed. She (her music) helped me through my darkest times. I relate to her a lot (minus the addiction thankfully). It broke me when she overdosed
She’s such a talented young woman. I really hope she’s turned into a healthier corner now
I noticed a pattern in every documentary Demi has come out with she’s telling the truth and coming and clean about the lie she’s supposedly been living And at this point it’s just like OK can I even believe this newest documentary because you say this one is telling the truth but you said that about the last one...so?Personally I think she needs to focus on truly being sober and working on herself and not these documentaries where she’s “laying it all out on the table” acting like she’s a completely fixed person and all her problems are in the past.
YES THANK U. It’s such a pattern of lies and gaslighting followed by a “raw” and ~~~honest~~~ documentary
Agree. And it’s concerning that every life issue, addiction, relapse she has becomes a documentary PR product that is marketed. That to me is really troubling. If her management truly has her best interests at heart they should give her the space and peace to truly discover herself, she shouldn’t have her experiences packaged and sold and promoted. Watching her at a “premiere” for this documentary made me sad. She’s clearly still figuring things out and has to take some kind of position around having it figured out to “sell this story.”
Criminals are not allowed to do tell all's or similar stuff that promotes and makes them money off their crimes. I think the same restrictions should be in place for addicts. They get all kinds of assistance aide to get help, sometimes even more than everyday people who are struggling, like a single mom for example, or rape victims. While I believe that they should be able to tell their story in an effort to help others or to get their truth out I don't think they should be allowed to monetize it in any way. No one should be making money off of their dangerous addictive and destructive habits like that.
Andi James The fact that she put off telling this story for over two years, until she had music to promote etc: just sickens me.
If saving other people was really her #1 concern, she’d just have given a free interview talking about what the fuck happened years ago. If the aim is to save lives, you don’t wait until you can make a big production of it.
And then after aaall that, she’s not even fucking sober now? What a joke.
@@shallonlester who the FUCK she gaslights... Like even if she lies how is that gaslighting towards strangers...
She should have stopped touring and worked on herself. Sucks that she had to continue her contracts because it may have been worse financially if she didn’t, but at what cost?
She didn’t actually forget the lyrics, she already spoke about that moment a while ago. She just didn’t want to sing that part of the song because she didn’t feel “sorry” at the time.
Self aware addict who tells the truth is very rare. The first documentary I was sympathetic. Second documentary admitting to lying on the first, but now she is telling the truth. At this point I expect the next documentary to confess to the lies of the last. She says she is very good at convincing people she is fine. I was annoyed but cant stop watching. It is her life and her body, she can be reckless if she wants I guess. I hope it ends well. I want to complete the sentence "Lack of...." sincerity. She is full of $h!t, I agree.
if what they are doing is not illegal, most addicts tell the truth
She doesn’t know what telling the truth even means.
@@ntmn8444 to be fair, she probably never has
It's called mascing, not lieing for a reason. Most of the times while the person doing it isn't fully aware they do or why they do it.
This is such toxic channels. I feel sad for the minions who cast first stones. Disgusting.
i think, shes still very much an addict and she likes it. and shes not ready to quit. yet...
Shell be giving up her whole personality
Agreed. Drugs and recovery is all she knows. How could she ever quit that?
There will come a time once she dealt with it. She will def push it behind her.
I think what surprises me most (and what I fear most for her) is that she literally went from being sober, to having a drink , “running into” her former drug dealer with a backpack full of drugs about the same time and doing literally every fucking drug he had in his backpack with admittedly by her no moderation WHATSOEVER. In less than one months time after 6 years sober. That’s a HARD FALL off the wagon. She’s beautiful and talented and funny and I’ve actually learned a lot about my own addiction/sobriety by observing her actions. I actually got sober after listening to her song “Sober” about a million times while high as hell thinking “this is seriously the soundtrack of my life and its fucking sad and painful” but when she overdosed (and I work in medicine, I knew how close to death she was by what was being said in the news) I literally put the booze and drugs down. And you’re right - she’s surrounded by enablers. I’m scared for her because I believe if she relapses again she won’t survive...like Whitney Houston and Michael Jackson who also were surrounded by enablers.
"Do what works for you.. in terms of how you organize forks in a dishwasher"
Yesssss. Shallon you are amazing. Theres no one else like you out there!
First, Shannon, I am so sorry for what happened to you, and I am proud of you for everything that you have created and who you have become in spite of such a horrible event. I am sorry that the people in your life did not support you, and I am proud of, and thankful for your incredible personal strength. When you told your story, I saw what you felt and I believe you. Because I feel that same way when I tell my own story. Like for one small millisecond everything in you stops because you’re in so much pain you forget how to breathe, your brain forgets how to function, and your heart forgets how to beat. Then you’re left with the overwhelming urge to cry, and the feeling of your rib cage begin slowly torn open from the inside. I’ll tell you the same thing I told the police when they did not believe me, and the same thing I tell myself when the memory becomes too much. You did not ask for it. You did not do it to yourself. You did not deserve it. You are not to blame.
I’m sorry if that was inappropriate or invasive, it’s something I wish that I had been told by someone else, and I though maybe you or someone else might need to hear/see it now.
My original comment seems trite and completely irrelevant now, so I’ll save it for another time.
I’m so sorry no one told you those words when you needed to hear them-I think the vast majority of girls who go through it fail to hear it. So I’ll say it right back to you: you didn’t deserve it either. And it doesn’t make you less of a person. It makes you a warrior and a dragon.
Hey Shallon, random request here but could you do a video on Derrick Jaxn. He's a relationship youtuber who just revealed he cheated on his wife....
yes!!
Ok what the hell was up with his weird reaction video to his own video? He seems like a narcissist
I want to watch Shallon drag him to hell.
yesssss
@@pandaxpress4651 videos with his wife.. That's the same as the manipulative guy who proposes at a huge event. Cringy isn't even the word, its straight corrosion imo
Yeah, all the friends sounded very ignorant and that's not a bad thing, I dont know anything about keeping someone sober. So they were hired to be an assistant or a choreographer and then are being asked to speak on such a complicated topic such as drugs and addiction
I thought that too-why is keeping a grown woman sober THEIR job? It’s her job. And it just goes to show-as she said with so much resentment and a huge lack of gratitude-ALLLLLLLL these people watching out for her doesn’t really mean anything at the end of the day.
when the part about her friend walking in on her doing heroin happened i was so confused...how would you NOT call someone ASAP!!!! how would people not notice she was using hard drugs after a few months? so strange.
Her "friends" are there for the paycheck not her I can guarantee that
Addict is usually synonymous with manipulator. For people who genuinely want to get better it’s the manipulativeness that goes first, then you’re just left with a physical dependency/literal habit
Thank you for the words "you can't save your parents". Yesterday, my mom was fired (she's 59), she had not been going to work and they fired her. She has been drinking for several years. Yet, it was me who spent the whole day yesterday thinking what I could have/should have done to prevent the situation and what I should do about it now. Egh.
Stay strong.
Take care of yourself, it's normal to worry about your mom. But make sure you are getting hell yourself to cope with this situation. Well done for acknowleding that it's not YOUR problem to solve. We can it support and encourage not Solve other ppls problems
I think Demi gets some kind of attention high from the spotlight and is a true narcissist. She doesn’t talk as she’s hit her lowest point yet. She shares the details of the strokes, blindness, etc & in such a monotonous way that makes me think she wants people to feel bad for her. Does she feel bad for herself? Does she feel shame? All of these documentaries where she’s grasping for attention meanwhile she’s gaslighting herself and her fans. I hope she pulls through but she’s disingenuous and comes off as narcissistic. Somebody that had three strokes and more SHOULD not be delighting in doing a press run where she admits to doing weed and alcohol? I don’t see this ending well for her.
I suspected this as well, its almost like she romantising it
this is so absolutely spot on, I truly do agree. two things can be true at once of course no one in their right mind would want to see a young woman’s/addict’s story end tragic, but let’s be real the truth always hides in plain sight. what is it, 3-4 documentaries now? attention is one of her other addictions as well like you said.
Maybe she was high as she told the documentart
Jesús this video got me so deeply, i think this Is the best u have done so far, I'm gonna keep it y save it and lisen it all the days of my life 👌🏻 So Good. Thanks Shallon
Authenticity is so unappreciated these days, especially with social media. It's quite rare to find a RUclipsr like Shallon who speaks THE truth. People need to understand that living in a bubble without discipline and getting irrationally triggered by everything won't do them any favors.
You hit a nerve today. I was molested by my uncle and much of my family did not believe and the ones that did just told me not to allow myself to be in a room alone with him. My dad also was an absentee father who always ran when the going got tough and was not there financially or emotionally. I am also a very strong fire breathing dragon type of woman. I rely on no one but that means I have difficulty trusting in a partner. I have to work on how to be strong and allow someone in.
her previous management had been with her since disney days, they saw her thru her first rounds of treatment and overtime they not only weren't able to assess her objectively but literally exploited, controlled and micromanaged her. 6 yers of sobriety in LA in ur 20s can be isolating and naturally as an addict relapse is inevitable, but she was literally keeping this all secret. Her bravery and honesty to talk about the situation considering it was almost 3 years ago is the most inspiring thing. The docs aren't a long enough representation of the work she's def doing behind the scene.
I'm ready to do the work. Let's do this guys! We got this!
Shallon. Your lewk. Giving me life. But your insightfulness? Giving me EVERYTHING
Ik you talk about celebrities but I wish you could talk about Derrick Jaxn
Ooo yaa thats a good one
She's talked about James Charles - he's RUclips based ,maybe there's a chance
Yes please! So much to unpack there
I hope too lol
She probably doesn't know who he is...his main audience was the black community
I literally found this channel last night and I’m obsessed! I’m a recovering addict and I agree with everything you say one million percent! You aren’t bashing Demi ( I hope nobody thinks that) but you are being objective and honest about the behavior. She definitely reminds me of my old self and I hope someone will love her enough to be honest and even break off relationships with her if necessary to make her wake up . It took many years of relapsing and suffering for me to finally take responsibility and get well. With all of the resources at her disposal I do have it doesn’t take her as many years. And no, moderation is not an option for addicts. Not possible!
I don't care about Demi Lovato and her addiction problems but I when I saw, that Shallon has posted a video, I knew I am in for a treat and I was not disappointed. I needed the "you are the master of your own life" pep talk . Thank you! I have been feeling unsatisfied with a lot of things in my life and feeling self-conscious, discouraged, sort of depressed and tired. And I have been trying to find ALL the excuses, including pandemic, etc., etc. All the self help topics help a lot to set my head straight. Thanks!
For me I smoke weed about 4-5 times a year and have never had the desire to do anything more in my life. For Demi I just don’t know how her still casually smoking weed as an addict works for her. That’s just insanely dangerous to me.
Cannabis is dangerous to you? A plant that even children now use for terrible seizures and is literally life saving is 'dangerous' to you?
@@daphnereloaded3480 I think that she means that's dangerous for Demi.
@@jessicalugo2827 Correct. It seems like a dangerous slope for Demi. I pray nothing else happens to her. I just worry for her.
@@daphnereloaded3480 i don’t think this person meant the cannabis itself, when addicts are in recovery it’s best for them to stay away from all substances. including alcohol, even if they’re not addicted to alcohol. demi has so many issues and addictions it is insanely bizarre that anyone thinks it’s safe for her to continue smoking marijuana even if it’s on occasion. it’s way too much of a slippery slope for her and she’s on her last life.
@Anna's randomness WhoCares so true!
Sidenote: you’re stunning.
DEMI, DEMI, DEMI.....she reminds me of Gwyneth Paltrow's character in the movie Country Strong 🎯. Watch it and see what happened. Demi is walking hand in hand with her own demise. What the fuck is California sober????? 🤔😥
Amy Winehouse all over again. 🙄
I hope she finds way to make it all work and save herself. She is a powerhouse and raw and loving to her fans. 🔥🥰 For her having the World on a string is not enough.....it doesn't feed what's writhing inside her. Pray for Demi that she can make it work this time.🙏
I LOVE that movie! And yes exactly, it was hard to watch Amy’s spiral bc she thought she had a grip on it but any one could see she didn’t. And it’s ok not to, but we can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.
She’s not sober point blank! She hasn’t changed. I really hope she doesn’t die.
Recovery doesn’t look the same for everyone. For some people, abstinence works and for some people, especially the medical issues she’s currently having, medical marijuana could possibly help a lot. I pray that she finds peace and stays in recovery, whatever that means to her.
Omg I'm so glad you said mentors don't exists. I've been waiting for a mentor to just show up especially in 2020 and this did not happen. I finally had to speak up and ask people for help. Thanks for this reminder.
Unfortunately, harm reduction doesn't work when someone has a history of relapsing, getting themselves in life-threatening situations, or compromising others. I think it's a little tone deaf. I think a label like "California sober” may serve to support the addict’s denial of their disease. I hope for the best and that she continues to work on herself, but I hope there's not ANOTHER DOCUMENTARY about "setting the record straight" again. 🙄😔
Oh, you know it’s coming. “Listen, about that last documentary. I said I wasn’t lying, but...I was.” She has done that for, like, 10 years now.
@@ntmn8444 I think yall should start investigating.
Her first documentary was in 2012 about her problems with alcohol.
Her second documentary was in 2017, the time where she was controlled by her team and she thought she was okay, but she really wasn't.
Her third documentary was to be in 2018 and it was in relation to the TMYLM tour, but it was not released due to the overdose.
I really love this channel. I am so obsessed with all of her weekly uploads.
I really think her pain runs very deep and we are nobody to judge Demi.
This one of incredibly difficult for me, being in recovery myself from those exact drugs and having to safe my fiancé multiple times before he ended up passing away.. Watching everyone laugh while she forgot the words to her own song was f**ked up straight up. I am honestly worried about her, because she’s just not ready to stop.. and when she is ready (again) because relapse happens.. it might just be too late. Fentanyl has taken the opportunity of deciding when to stop. I’m in a small city in Canada, and we’ve lost more people to fentanyl OD then covid in Canada. She’s just not ready, and it’s very clear. Which is scary as hell! A heart attack/3 strokes wasn’t enough to keep her straight, and those types are lifers I’m sorry. I’m a huge Demi fan, I mean damn her song “sober” literally made me come clean about my use AGAIN and I’m on my 3rd year sober this June. But I am scared for her
Good for you. Please keep it up. You can stay clean. It can and will happen for you as long as you will it.
Same, I’ve been in sobriety (off IV fentanyl) for several years and lost my best friend 3 years ago to an overdose. She was “only smoking weed” too, and everyone was satisfied with that bc she wasn’t using heroin anymore (after a long battle using)
I worry for demi after seeing that documentary. She doesn’t seem to really understand what addiction means, and I also think the people around her continue to enable her by not setting clear boundaries and expectations about what it means to be sober either. Not that it is their disease to control or dictate, but they’re going along with the narrative of California sober is “sober enough” bc it’s better than X and seem to be absolving her of consequence and accountability for her continued use. It allows Demi to use and stay in denial about being able to successfully.
How many times in the rooms do we hear “i thought i could control drinking/smoking socially or in moderation” before they hit their rock bottom and have to totally give up control? This is denial that anyone who’s dealt with addiction can spot a mile away. Makes me sad to see.
@@rinn1061 totally agree!! That life is absolutely terrifying, and you end up knowing people who’ve overdosed 5+ times and wonder why they keep going back. Because it’s that powerful.. Even scarier for Demi starting with soft and Xanax, and her life spiralled so badly to where she needed all those people to begin with.. now she’s tried the even harder stuff, and that was the immediate reaction. I don’t want to sound like such a bummer, but she’ll end up right back where she was.. like you sad once you’ve been there you can just spot it.
Shallon uploaded a video 8 minutes ago and I’m already here! 😅💕
Unfortunately I have the sinking feeling that she is going down the same path as Amy Winehouse which is just tragic.
"California sober" actually works really well for my boyfriend, and it has for the past three years. He went through extensive childhood trauma and abuse. As a result, he is diagnosed with BPD and a side helping of ADHD. He's gone through therapy, holds down a good job, and works on himself, but he also smokes weed to manage the worst of his symptoms.
At first, I was resistant, because I was bought into the NA mentality of total and complete abstinence. He tried that lifestyle for a while, but it just didn't work. He was all over the place and barely functioning due to his mental health conditions. It was miserable for everyone involved. The weed evens him out and mitigates the worst of his anxiety.
He could start taking ADHD medication and anti-anxiety medication, but seeing as methamphetamine and benzos were his substances of choice when he was in full addiction, he doesn't want to take the risk. California sober works for him, and it works for me as the person who spends the most time with him. Maybe it will work for Demi Lovato too.
I can't believe people actually believe this. Ignorant
@@bwoww13 It's not. NA has an incredibly high relapse rate and so do most traditional rehab programs. In fact, new research is showing that certain substances such as psilocybin, DMT, and MDMA (all currently classified as illegal drugs) are likely to be far more effective treatments for addiction when paired with supportive counseling.
The reason Demi is probably going to relapse (I agree with Shallon) is because it's readily apparent that she has done absolutely zero introspection, therapy, and the hard work that goes with it to confront why/how she became an addict in the first place/to change her mindset and lifestyle. It's not because she is smoking weed.
Demi's problem, is that she is smoking weed and drinking without any internal mental shift. That's why it is going to continue to be a slippery slope for her.
@@ancelinee3169 I'm on suboxone because I was addicted to opioids just cuz it's a prescription and legal doesnt mean I'm sober. Your either using or not. I feel worse off than when I was using because suboxone is so hard to come off because of withdrawals. I've been stuck on it for almost 10 years. So from my opinion it's better to be clean 100%
@@bwoww13 Got it. My opinion is that most of the newer research is showing that total abstinence and sobriety (NA method) for the sake of total abstinence and sobriety isn't actually terribly effective long term. Functionality and mental health looks different for different people. Granted I will admit that I think the phrase "California Sober" is stupid.
My thing is, she didn't tell a drastically story than what she's kept with. She admitted she lost control after her 6 year anniversary, she was still sober for 6 YEARS! She admitted that she slipped with alcohol first and then kept going downhill in a 4 month span. She wrote her song sober and let people know "Hey I lost it I'm struggling" she literally said she's struggling. I don't see her as lying at all. Just because she didn't elaborate on the drug even tho in the song it talks about cold sweats and shakes like that's not coming from alcohol so it implied other drugs. I just don't see the point of the "she's lying about her life all the time" claims.
When you said you are a dragon and are living your life for you, that was the moment I hit the like button 😘
Literally Shallon's best quote, "I wasn't offering to share with you. This is my food. I'm going to eat it."
I think it’s important to note that when her bestie (Matthew) said what he said along the lines of “you can’t tell me what to do”, the act of rebellion statement, it was more about her eating disorder, not doing drugs. She has been very vocal and upfront about the fact that she suffers from an eating disorder and the fact that she was watched like a hawk on what she and others around her were eating is what made her so depressed that it DID lead her back to the drugs. Her issues with her dad, along with the eating disorder she has been battling, are the root of the issue.
Omg!!!! I found you cause I love a bit of Demi... but OMG you cracked me up soooo much- it was the not getting uppers and downers that got me, the way you talked about you will eat one (lobster and choc)... then the other. Jesus made me laugh so much, thats it, im a subscriber and can’t wait to hear more
I’m sorry but I call Bull shit. I don’t think she’s clean, or completely done using. I am an addict in recovery and I know where I was, and what I was saying when I wasn’t done either. Mark my words. She is still using, or well on her way to it.
Absolutely. Idk who home girl thinks she’s deluding, but it ain’t me!
Unfortunately the sad thing with Demi and other celebrities is they aren’t just another employee in a large corporation like most of us are they are the product that the company makes a living off of,they are that refrigerator going down that line and if something is broken the whole line stops and everyone lines around that refrigerator trying to figure out what the problem is, not because they necessarily care but because they know that’s what they are getting paid to do and if they don’t have that refrigerator they don’t have a business. That’s what’s happening with Demi and other celebrities most of the time their team is just trying to figure out a way to fix them just enough so that they can still perform and still make the money to pay them but they don’t actually care what the underlying problem is they just wanna make sure that she’s good enough to sign their paychecks even if that is sneaking her alcohol or drugs, holding your hand to make sure she goes to the meeting she needs to go to. It’s kind of gross if you think about it no human being should be treated like a cash cow.
Demi was a Disney kid & they all have to be so perfect and be role models. It's a huge amount of pressure
@manicpixiedreamgirl notice she said was. Was a Disney star means past tense. In other she was a Disney at one point but isn't anymore. And it's been barely over a decade since she became a Disney star.
Exactly. All these Disney kids spiral out of control.
@@chaidabangobango all but Zendaya🤩
if they had to be perfect they wouldnt be snorting coke
@@chaidabangobango wrong. These are some of the ones that didn't spiral out of control down below
1) Dove Cameron
2) Sofia Carson
3) Selena Gomez
4) Moisés Arias
5) Cole Sprouse
6) Dylan Sprouse
7) David Henrie
8) Emily Osment
9) Ashley Tidsdale
10) Monique Coleman
11)Vanessa Ann Hudgens
12) Lucas Grabeel
13) Emily Osment
14) Alyson Stoner
15) Joe Jonas
16) Nick Jonas
17) Kevin Jonas
18) Zendaya
I like how your videos begin by talking about a celebrity, but then shift the focus to a more personal and broader perspective on life.
She's also still drinking. That's the same exact thing she did before her overdose. The only difference is now her friends aren't blurring out her drinks in photos. When I first heard of it, I thought it was a terrible idea. Then I heard Demi herself say it in an interview and thought, "Okay, I'm not on board, but it's not as terrible as I initially thought." She really is a good manipulator.
At first, I felt better knowing she wasn't completely in the victim role anymore. She did take *some* accountability in her GMA interview. Hearing how you rephrased it (the rebelling thing) makes me realize not much as changed. I hope she figures it out. I honestly wasn't as emotional watching it as I expected to be. Literally everyone in my immediate family is an addict and it's the same way I got desensitized to everything going on with them because they, like Demi, don't really want help.
Shallon, thanks for uploading this perfectly in time for my lunch break at work!
Greetings from Australia!
I had a friend in college I went to wake up everyday. I didn’t understand how deep in addiction she was until a year after
I love Demi but this documentary is very sad, I don’t think she’s really regretting what happened. Why she don’t have any other friends than people in her crew? I have big hopes for her but I think it’s not her last overdose and next one can be fatal. Also how sad is that her crew celebrated that she didn’t died at 27? Like they all sensed it may happen
"Why did you came to work drugged?!"
"Because Shallon said she'd challenge me to do so."
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It seems (some) celebrities need to adhere to their script, even if it is not their real story.
She is a liar and a addict ! I really don’t think that this time was for good ! She still drink ,she still smoke ! She needs to stop or it will be another od! An addict cannot smoke a little or drink a little ! What a joke
I didn’t even know she used so much stuff like I was really shocked watching the documentary
Make a video about Elon musk and grimes !!!
I completely agree with you. Watching this documentary was difficult because everyone in her life now seems like enablers. She doesn’t seem to be able to take accountability for anything. However, I also think it’s interesting to see how rigidity didn’t fix the problem either. It makes you wonder, what is the proper way to handle someone who isn’t helping themself? As a friend, parent, teacher...whoever you are...what should your role be?
I have learnt a significant amount of self-reliance and the importance of it from you. I'm sad to say that most people in my life do not see how important that is. As you have said before, most people are not capable of insight. It sucks that people don't see pursuing challenges and personal growth as key to a good life. I hope that I can build my own community.
But I come back to your videos to be among people who care about growth, even if that community is virtual, and that is truly a gift.
She has not changed. I don’t even wanna watch this video cuz I’m tired of hearing about her!
As an OG ShallPal, I truly enjoy your extensive vocabulary. You really have a way with words.
Hey Shallon! I know you’ve touched on the topic before, but can you make a video or podcast about how to navigate a friendship or relationship in which one person is trying to glow up and the other is stuck in their misery? I think this would be super relevant during lockdown season haha
The need to be self-actualized is so important, only we can do that for ourselves. No one else can do it for us, even if they wanted to. Thank you for sharing your story and your truth Shallon! I love your takeaway points at the end of every video.
I ❤️ when she was talking all serious and the off-screen dog came up and she was like, “Oh, hi. We got a little hound dog over here” in that cute baby voice. 😅
All of the people she surrounds herself with are absolutely insufferable. Besides her sisters and that one smart assistant, hearing each one of them talk was just awful. She's surrounded herself with pseudo intellectuals who pretend to have her best interests at heart, but really would never, ever tell her no or call her on her bullshit because they would lose their little gravy train. She needs people who will tell her the hard truths she needs to hear on the daily and will force her to take some responsibility for all of her actions as a grown person...because clearly this tip toeing/sugarcoating/ finger crossing thing is not working. Also...istg that guys stupid purple hat will be the source of all of my rage for the next 24 to 48 hours.
I felt THE EXACT same way!!
Came here after froyo debacle & let me just say, Shallon is sooo spot on. Thanks to Demi being coddled and catered to by every person in her life, like she’s some kind of God, she couldn’t handle froyo 🤷🏼♀️
I feel like she's lying 🤥
I have never done drugs or drank. But I did have a self-harming addiction AND disordered eating. The self-harming addiction was like a drug. I'd go deeper in my arms, moved to my upper arms or thighs, to get the same feeling. It wasn't until I was getting stitched up in the hospital when I knew I had a problem. And I had dragged my friends down with me. My family didn't know because I hid it from them. I had friends who were becoming emotionally exhausted with me because I'd always talk about things triggering me. It wasn't until I got out of a toxic relationship, took a step to identify all the toxic things in my life (and take them OUT), and REALLY felt like I wanted to not have this addiction anymore was when things got better. To me, Demi doesn't want to get better. The mere fact she had everything she needed to not relapse and she still did, shows she didn't want this. She might not ever want it. She always comes out with a documentary and then an album after some tragedy in her life. I admire that she's "open" and "honest". However, if she flat out said, "I'm an addict and I need help", then I'd 100% believe her. But now, it's like that saying "fool me once, shame on you, but fool me twice, shame on me."
Literally as soon as I was done watching I checked to see if shallon uploaded 😂
Same!! I knew she would react to the documentary (or atleast hoping she would when the trailer originally dropped) Shallon never disappoints!
“we will bury him vertical in a gravel pit” Damn Shallon 🤣🤣🤣
I love her advice. Take accountability and be your own hero. So true.
You build a tolerance to weed after awhile. That’s why I quit it was never enough . I could only imagine being an actual addict.
I LOVE your videos! I've always felt the same - it's wrong for celebrities to be gaslighting people!! It does more serious damage than people realize even with celebrity BS.
Shallon this is literally one of your BEST videos --you were spot on
hey shallon, i just wanted to say that the part in this video where u talked about ur sexual assult story made me cry. it hurt me that someone whos videos and advice thats always been there for me had no one there for them. from the bottom of my heart i am so sorry that happened to u. but i want to say that since i was 10 years old (im 17 now) you have been one of the greatest influences on my life and i am beyond greatful for you. i love u shallon, the shalligators will always have ur back 💜
I’ve always said “Drugs aren’t open to the public for a reason”