Guys aren’t falling in love quickly. There is a difference between falling into lust and falling in love. You cant truly love someone you don’t know. You can fall into limerence, but even that is make believe because it’s imagining the person as you would prefer them to be instead of getting to know who they actually are.
POV : when u find out that boys fall in love quicker then us LIKE ME WHEN I FOUND OUT THAT I WAS LIKE THEN WHY THE HECK CANT I MAKE MY CRUSH FALL IN LOVE WITH ME !!!!!!!
Not true always. In Infatuation you many attractive. In love at first sight, your heart beats at just a sight of them. Even talking normally with them becomes a huge task
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. It seems like it's impossible for men and women to emotionally connect with each other. Women do emotionally connect with other women, better than men do. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
@@icysnow57cold64Mistake #1: you talk as if men and women are a different species. You can't group them all into strict categories. Look at them as individuals, not some complex bug you have to decode. A lot of these problems are systemic. It's not that men are more logical and women are more emotional, it's just that women develop stronger social bonds growing up. The cycle is perpetuated, but it can be broken down.
@@SpaQueenRocks Women have a far stronger emotional bond with other women than they do with men. The emotional bond between two women is far stronger than the emotional bond between a man and women is. It seems that men could never have a strong emotional bond with other men like how women do with each other. Men often don't complement their friends, while women are always complimenting each other. Women always complement their friends.
And sometimes we can fall in love or become attached quickly but slowly fade away as we get to know you and don’t like your personality or how we’re being treated
Yes. The way we fall in love is how he treats us. Is he respectful or is he utterly disrespectful? He has to be kind and respectful. Sweet but not a pushover. Strong and have self respect for himself. He needs to care about people but again, not be too much of a people pleaser or pushover. But generous in his kindness. Self respecting and courageous. Bold & intelligent. Fun and adventurous. He needs to know what the woman he wants needs. And it’s not that complicated to give her that once he knows. And u’d find that women don’t require a whole lot. Just what a human needs. A quality experience of life. Women don’t care to make more than a man. We just care to have our own things & our own jobs and fun things we create. We just want stuff of our own & i’m so grateful we have that now. So thank you 🥰😘😘😘
@@moonlightstargem1006 I would have to disagree with “he needs to know what the woman he wants needs”. Men are not mind readers and women’s feelings can change so we can’t always guess what she wants or needs at that moment.
@@bikoiscrazzy4007 Lust is not obsession that’s limerence. Lust is sexual desire. That’s all lust. One night stands are based off lust, not obsession. They are not the same thing. And attraction is more closely related to lust. If it’s any kind of sexual desire that is lust.
Man watching a this makes me think am I a girl because I don’t look at a girl and say she is the most beautiful girl ever it’s the personality that counts the most
exactly your hormones rush to your blood and pump your pant up and your heart did not get broken as often so you are full of love. later your hormones decrease and you get cold hearted because of rejection.
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. It seems like it's impossible for men and women to emotionally connect with each other. Women do emotionally connect with other women, better than men do. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Depends on the woman, generally if you keep giving them the same stimuli and provide them with “consistent” not too consistent affection over a long period of time. They eventually come around to some form of love.
Agree. I mean you can't fall in love with a stranger. You might want to have sex but "fall in love"? No. That's why "love at first sight" doesn't exist.
@@Carolbaskin23that’s interesting… the eyes part. I’ve experienced something like this but it was like I recognized their soul. It wasn’t love but definitely a deep connection through the eyes. ✨🙏🏽
@@Carolbaskin23all girls know how to make a man think they’re falling with their eyes tbh it’s just lust once you talk to to them for a while that you know
he is talking about enjoying having a sexy girlfriend i have done that without loving them at all , i have loved one woman and she was overweight with tattoos 😂 because of the amount of time i spent with her and so cool stuff , it’s time and experiences moments that make people fall in love , if you fall in love instantly it’s your cock talking and your blinded by that .
But then if he is disrespectful or racist unkind etc if you are still in love with him then you don’t love yourself enough. Self respect is walking away from low quality men
As a girl, I sometimes forget that boys fantacise about girls. Probably cry bcuz of us. Daydream about us. Wishing we would notice them. I feel a lot better now that I know boys don’t just care about football. They actually have warming feelings too.
@@Stranger_Edits-011 well that's the thing. What's the point though when women never like a man enough to just ask him out. Because they can wait for them to come around and ask them out. I hate that we do that but it's evolutionary. I wish we were incapable of liking you all as you all are incapable of intimacy and romance. Just waiting for that one guy you don't even like to convince you to date or marry them. And all the life you can just pass a fake smile and fake the love because you never even liked them in the first place. What's the point to date then when the girl never even likes you what's the point of touching her when she doesn't even like to touch you. She just fakes it for whatever reasons.
It wasn't her face that hooked me. It was the fact that I could have meaningful conversation with her, and that she was eager to learn new things from me. She didn't shut me out, or try to play me. She simply didn't promise me much. Because she knew she had little to offer. But was grateful and honest, and loved everything I offered her, things or knowledge. I haven't felt that appreciated by a gal outside my family in a long time. Certainly not someone I could reach out and hold. She had a certain disillusionment with society, and so did I. The magnetism was a given. And then, she vanished. That's why I can't stop missing her, even if I roll my eyes at some of the poor choices she made in her youth. She could be in prison, and I'd still want to write to her! What she built with me, I don't want it to evaporate. I don't want it to have all been for nothing.
@@thanksmaybe4103 : She's bad at holding a job, and dependent on her cousins. I don't trust them. She has no phone. There's no way to contact her. Can't have a meaningful relationship if there's zero way to stay in touch. I don't know where she lives. We've only ever had any contact with each other at the gas station.
@@thanksmaybe4103 : Nope. She lost her phone. And I don't know where she lives. I'm not about to scour the ghettos in Florida to recon her out either. But her aunt may be able to get me in contact with her mom. It's a start.
No women ever told me I disrespected her. That's how good I am but men with respect they mean they will do all the decision making in relationship or veto. HELL NO
Guys never fall in love, except the hopeless romantic nice guy that no girl wants... Most guys just lust over a girl, chase after and then get bored once they catch them. It's the girls who are obsessed with the idea of falling in love.
I'm surprised why do ppl keep comparing " females" and "males" ppl are different those are two things that cannot be compared...at least in my point of view
Incorrect... You are attracted to someone and you can lust over them That's the entire concept of dating apps. Swipe if you are attracted and in turn engages the carnal instincts. Love has nothing to do with appearances or sexual interests, stop conflating this and trying to pass off as "information" If you fight the lustful urges from the first times meeting someone, then a bond greater than the lust from appearances will form and that's where you start to have a sensation of "love" but if you just hop into bed and make everything physical and about the "eye candy" then this is not love, and a large issue within failed relationships with incompatable values and this goes for anyone...
Yeah as a woman I can definitely relate with that. When I see a cute guy, I’m like “woah he’s really pretty, I like his eyes” and stuff like that, and I’ll like talking with him, but it takes me longer than most- literal MONTHS oftentimes to feel TRULY safe with the person, like fully knowing them and them knowing me for who we are. Then and only then do I truly feel like I can give in completely and love someone
For a dude: Being in love is a negative emotion. For a dude: Treating "being in love," like it is a good thing, is the exact same thing as treating religion (i.e., irrational thought) like it's a good thing.
Oh really? So men “love” with their eyes? Lol. Anything pertaining to your flesh is lust not love. Being a visual creature means appearances grab your attention. That attention is coming from a place of carnal desire. Not love. So being a visual creature has nothing to do with love. It says everything about your testosterone though. 👍
No, women are more likely to be emotionally intelligent and comfortable with the wide range of emotions. Men are more emotional and often in a stunted reactive way. I can see why they get infatuation mixed up with love due to that. It’s based on how we’re socialized.
Yeah I think you need to learn the difference between emotional, and emotionally intelligent- you’re clearly getting the two mixed up. Emotionally intelligent is one of the reasons women don’t fall in love on a whim or because a guy is just physically attractive.
Love is the gentle touch that soothes the weary soul, the whispered words that ignite the spirit, and the silent understanding that bridges the spaces between us. It is the most beautiful symphony, composed of shared laughter, tender embraces, and unspoken promises. In the tapestry of life, love is the golden thread that weaves through every moment, binding hearts together in a bond that transcends time and distance. It is the anchor in the storm, the guiding light in the darkness, and the warmth that envelops us on the coldest of nights. Love is not measured by grand gestures or extravagant declarations, but by the simple acts of kindness, compassion, and acceptance that we bestow upon one another. It is found in the everyday moments - a lingering gaze, a reassuring touch, a heartfelt smile - that speak volumes without uttering a word. So let us cherish love in all its forms - romantic, familial, platonic - for it is the essence of our humanity, the fuel that drives us forward, and the greatest gift we can give and receive. May we nurture it, protect it, and allow it to blossom within us, lighting up our lives and illuminating the world around us. For in the end, it is love that truly makes life worth living, and it is love that will endure long after everything else fades away."
Yes, I can tell when a guy is falling in love with the idea of me verses who I truly am based on how quickly they move. If they put you too much on a pedestal you'll come off it quickly.
@@Slidehhy I think the point she’s trying to make is that guys who put their girls on a pedestal too quickly are also the type who will throw them away and move on to another girl just as quickly.
Nicely explained the difference between the two. And for a guy, lesser the experience he has with girls, the sooner he's going to fall in love with a girl. Even though there are exceptions, I believe that almost all guys have a "oneitus" in their early dating life. That's why spinning plates is advice often recommended, it makes you less attached to a single woman, prevents you from having unrealistic fantasizes in your head and most importantly, gets you into the abundance mindset. With that mindset you then radiate confidence, which will then attract the quality women you want. Thanks for another informative Short!
Man I’ve been with tons of women and I still get oneitis. It happens. Women are damn beautiful and it’s easy to fall for them hard, no matter how much experience you have.
What you say is true by the book (rollo,cooper). But you have to be a one percent-er To get in that situation of abundance and spinning plates technique. As a younger guy I use to fall in love with the very hot girls from the luxurious clubs here in Eastern Europe (mostly models). Then I grew up and started to learn most of them were trash and very few of them were wife material 😅 anyways they married guys 30 years older than them and rich of course
Yeah that’s definitely not how it happens with me. I’m a guy and I really need some time to fall in love with anybody. It takes at least 2 months of dating her to make that happen. I never understood how you can fall in love with a person if you haven’t even slept with them 🤔 That was always a mystery to me. I don’t just look at another person and think „wow they are so awesome“ and then just fall in love with them. That’s totally not how I‘m wired 😂
You don’t need to be “spinning plates” you just need to separate reality from fantasy. When you see a beautiful woman you start projecting your ideal traits onto her and that’s when you start to develop a crush. But then you find out the real her and realized she is nothing like you’ve hoped and you end up disliking her and now that infatuation you had is gone.
Man, woman, boy or girl that’s called infatuation/lust anytime someone doesn’t take time to evaluate boundaries, morals, values, beliefs, financial goals or any goals that can influence any relationship. Take it slow. Don’t ignore the red flags & inform yourself of toxic relationships of any dynamics. Do the work on yourself first for a while before any relationship.
The closest that it has happened to me is only after I’ve observed them for a while. Their looks, how they interact with people, their body language... I’ve never experienced “love” just by looming at them physically. Sure there are gorgeous guys out there, but their behavior and attitude is what makes or breaks them.
This , men think they are in love with you the first few times you chill then when your hooked and in love they realize it was lust not love at all. Then they dip out & the woman is left broken hearted.
Wow. That’s sth that never happened to me. I allways need at least to month of actually beeing in a relationship with her to fall in love with her 🤔 So can not just walk down the street and fall in love with someone. That seems pretty much impossible to me..
@@florianlion8215 well he’s my exact type just too dreamy.. plus we both sensed it like a mutual love at first sight lol I never thought it was possible either till I met him
@@ang2geejust had this experience happened to me 5 days ago, we locked in twice but the second time time it was so intense we both didn’t know what to say. She approached me smiling & told me I looked familiar to an “old friend” but I didn’t know what to say after that so I drifted the convo out of being overwhelmed. I feel like she wanted to talk more but I was very reserved. I will return to her workplace to ask her out because I’m beating myself for it ahhhhhh
I had a similar experience back in 1995. It was my first day at a new job. We had that moment of locking eyes 👀. I looked up the third time and I continued looking... deeply into her eyes 🥰 and I knew it. I was in love with her. I know she had feelings for me too.. but after a couple of years, she moved away and got married and started a family. But I was already married anyway with two young children and it was them that I didn't want to hurt. I always felt in the back of my mind that marriage would end some day and I got sick of the way she made me felt/feel so I ended it. My point is...if you have any feelings for someone that has feelings for you, don't let something special slip through your hands. Let him/her know.
to our credit we aren't soo shallow. I fell for a woman's personality, empathy, voice. None of that erects my pp. So maybe men fall in love in bw their hearts
@@tromboner6061 From my experience men can fall in love with empathy and voice but it's usually men in the 90k and under income bracket. Don't mean any offense to anyone just calling like I see it
Mine: (School Ver) 1.He always go wherever you go 2. You see him always around you 3.His friends always tease him 4. He always want to close to you and talk 5. He smiles to you 6.Gets jealous when u are with another boy 7.Always wants to make you laugh 8.He wants your attention 9.When he talks to a girl he regrets it 10.Always there for you when u are lonely 11.If someone argues to you he asks u what's wrong? 12.Always eye contact to you 13.Always wanna borrow some of your things. 14.wanna talk to you 15.Always call ur name
I think this is so true. I can’t speak for all women, but I fell in love with the boyfriend who I wasn’t attracted to overtime. He demonstrated his love through actions and commitment, and I just fell in love with him.
If a guy would have to get pregnant he would choose the women to fall in love by evaluating her too alright women are the ones getting ducked so she shouldn't even know if the guy who she ll be with is good or not ya just can't fall I love a first sight periodd that's why guys have more heartbreaks than women
I loved her and she loved me too i could see in her eyes , she respected me a lot and we met each other for first time in university , during these 4 years i kept myself away from girls becuase i dont have money and most important im not the the best version of myself and becuase of that I could not allow myself to get closer to her I have known her for six months and that days that we were toghter was The happiest and saddest days of my life and its about a month that I disappeared myself and I left all social media while i loved her from the bottom of my heart , Maybe you think I did wrong but i cant be myself while im with her , please pray for me
I don’t like videos like this cause it goes both ways for both genders, I know lots of guys that will quickly realize they have feelings and lots of guys that feel the opposite and really have to get to know the person first, and it’s the same for girls. All these videos do is perpetuate stereotypes
Yeah the guys always fall in love quickly wait I tell you one day I spent time alone because I don't have friends I go out for a walk but a boy come to talk to me he said do you have mobile because he want my number but I said no because I want to run quickly I think you know how I feel 😅☺️☺️☺️
That's from society. Women are taught how to live on a date and men are told to go get them, tiger. So the man sees someone he likes and the woman assesses if that man is going to chop her up while he is peacocking and providing safety to prove he won't do that
As a girl this is true i dont fall in love fast but for me i dont know ehy but i have a crush on a guy whom i hated in the first place and if a guy constantly looks at me than i may fall for him
This is false. There are men’s that want true love. A woman that loves them and accompany them. A woman that don’t cheat on them and love them forever.
Wrong there’s a reason why a rich man will change a poor woman’s life because he falls in love for who she is already. You rarely see the opposite most rich woman don’t even acknowledge the existence of men who make less than them they want someone better or equal to them, woman only fall in love based on what you can provide.
Women should be very strategic because they can even lose their life if they accidentally dated a murderer incel. 30% of women are killed by their partners, so they should be smart about it. And falling for anything really quick is dumb 😂 and most of the time that isn't love, that's lust few males have for women.
How i got a boyfriend: So i meat this boy im not gonna say his naMe so there's this boy and he liked me first and I didn't know that and I kind of liked him back but I didn't want to tell him put soon enough start to like become good friends and play together all the time and then soon enough will you be my girlfriend I said yes and he was like oh my God oh my God what the f### yea yea he can cruse and thats how we meant
Well girls around me are not like that so don't generalize
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😐And you wonder why men are always getting rejected 😐 y'all judge too damn much even when all women aren't always like that and all men want is something out of women so they're no different 🤷♀️.
That’s not true at all. When a girl sees a guy she would sleep with, ain’t no telling what he has or doesn’t have. If he hit it right and is at least stable, it won’t matter what he got. You know how many guys with money(who usually isn’t her first choice in looks) get his girl knocked down or stolen by dirty Johnny that sleeps in his moms basement? Money is a negative in dating most times more than a positive cause women that aren’t even attracted to you will fake it to get next to you. If you have money it would be in your best interest to not let her know how much. Her seeing you always being financially responsible would be enough.
Aaaaaaaaa not do fast actually do you know something that is actually called love at first sight even girls actually fall in love at first sight like only at one look in your already in love
for me it only takes 30 minutes to fall in love, i had a 30 minute convo with this guy, i fell in love with him, i saw him 3 times a year and liked him for 2 years
I don't even talk to that guy, just his kindness, gentleman behaviour attracted me a lot also he's also an introvert so I rarely see him but I guess he's my first love🥲 Some tips to approach him🫠
Don’t believe anyone who’s convinced they’re in “love” with you just because they find you physically attractive. (That’s lust.) Man or Woman. Attraction doesn’t equal love. Unless you can state adequate reasons for “loving” a person, besides how beautiful you find them. “To have someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy” -Urbanrealism
Anyone can fall in love with and “idea” of a person but time with that person is how real love grows .
Which he doesn't know( i think) but he still saying the truth bcs MAJORITY BUT NOT ALL is like that on the video but this..this is different
…or how your hated grows
Time not love but is binding/familiar.(Theroy of love)why difficult and chaos love? 😂
As a serious woman, I give my seal of approval to this.
Its like guys imprint like wolf and girls want long term understanding like vampire 😅
Women don't fall in love because of what you said,
They don't remember you of
what you said, they fall in love because of how you made them feel.
Never look directly into a girl’s eyes. You never know what you could find in there. I made the mistake, and now I can’t find my way back.
Guys aren’t falling in love quickly. There is a difference between falling into lust and falling in love. You cant truly love someone you don’t know. You can fall into limerence, but even that is make believe because it’s imagining the person as you would prefer them to be instead of getting to know who they actually are.
No one really falls in love!!! That's why everybody cheated!
The woman part is wrong for me, i see a girl. I instantly fall for her😂
This is very accurate and very relatable
POV : when u find out that boys fall in love quicker then us
LIKE ME WHEN I FOUND OUT THAT I WAS LIKE THEN WHY THE HECK CANT I MAKE MY CRUSH FALL IN LOVE WITH ME !!!!!!!
I get instant crushes but once I get to know them then I'll say I'm in love
The way you described it for guys is called infatuation.
Infatuation ≠ Falling in love
Not true always. In Infatuation you many attractive. In love at first sight, your heart beats at just a sight of them. Even talking normally with them becomes a huge task
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. It seems like it's impossible for men and women to emotionally connect with each other.
Women do emotionally connect with other women, better than men do. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
@@hijack69that’s not love. It’s a crush. You cannot love someone you don’t know. That is a very superficial idea of love.
@@icysnow57cold64Mistake #1: you talk as if men and women are a different species. You can't group them all into strict categories. Look at them as individuals, not some complex bug you have to decode. A lot of these problems are systemic. It's not that men are more logical and women are more emotional, it's just that women develop stronger social bonds growing up. The cycle is perpetuated, but it can be broken down.
@@SpaQueenRocks Women have a far stronger emotional bond with other women than they do with men. The emotional bond between two women is far stronger than the emotional bond between a man and women is.
It seems that men could never have a strong emotional bond with other men like how women do with each other. Men often don't complement their friends, while women are always complimenting each other. Women always complement their friends.
And sometimes we can fall in love or become attached quickly but slowly fade away as we get to know you and don’t like your personality or how we’re being treated
100%. Women want to be protected and cared for. Not what men in the boyosphere are preaching.
Yes. The way we fall in love is how he treats us. Is he respectful or is he utterly disrespectful? He has to be kind and respectful. Sweet but not a pushover. Strong and have self respect for himself. He needs to care about people but again, not be too much of a people pleaser or pushover. But generous in his kindness. Self respecting and courageous. Bold & intelligent. Fun and adventurous.
He needs to know what the woman he wants needs. And it’s not that complicated to give her that once he knows. And u’d find that women don’t require a whole lot. Just what a human needs. A quality experience of life. Women don’t care to make more than a man. We just care to have our own things & our own jobs and fun things we create. We just want stuff of our own & i’m so grateful we have that now. So thank you 🥰😘😘😘
@@moonlightstargem1006 I would have to disagree with “he needs to know what the woman he wants needs”. Men are not mind readers and women’s feelings can change so we can’t always guess what she wants or needs at that moment.
@@BulldogMindsetArchive Yup they care about protection and care waaaay more than looks and status. 😂
@@BulldogMindsetArchive What are you? king white knight savior of the 304 realm?? Women will always value attention over any single man
That's not love that's lust.
Lust is the need to do sexual taboo things with someone, emphasis on *need*. Love is long term, lust is short term.
Exactly
no that's just attraction lust is more of a obsession
n-n-n-n not in love baby it’s just lust
@@bikoiscrazzy4007 Lust is not obsession that’s limerence. Lust is sexual desire. That’s all lust. One night stands are based off lust, not obsession. They are not the same thing.
And attraction is more closely related to lust. If it’s any kind of sexual desire that is lust.
not all guys fall in love the same way
You're not all the in the same way but in general
I wouldnt say this is general lol. Id say its the opposite
Sure thing for me too
Man watching a this makes me think am I a girl because I don’t look at a girl and say she is the most beautiful girl ever it’s the personality that counts the most
Facts...this dude sounds ridiculous..everyone is different..men and women
Im a guy and i fall in love over time.
How long
@@BrooklynBaby100 5 seconds.
❤
maybe youre gay
@@chaitanyagupta6668sometames I came but you don’t have to with me let’s do it somewhere outside tomorrow with the kids and bring pizza to the game
I feel like instantly falling in love is more of a younger guy trait.
exactly your hormones rush to your blood and pump your pant up and your heart did not get broken as often so you are full of love. later your hormones decrease and you get cold hearted because of rejection.
So how do older guys. Mature guys act?
@@TXEducation older guys have more money and chose the woman that fits their livestyle.
That’s a over generalization and not always true.
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. It seems like it's impossible for men and women to emotionally connect with each other.
Women do emotionally connect with other women, better than men do. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women don't fall in love with you they fall in love with how you make them feel at that time
Underrated comment
True Af only men r capable of ❤
Even if they're not physically attracted to you?
Depends on the woman, generally if you keep giving them the same stimuli and provide them with “consistent” not too consistent affection over a long period of time. They eventually come around to some form of love.
@@59spadesofalife52I love this comment so much bro
You are not inlove. You are in lust. And that is alright. Just have emotional intelligence to know the difference.
Agree. I mean you can't fall in love with a stranger. You might want to have sex but "fall in love"? No. That's why "love at first sight" doesn't exist.
@@Carolbaskin23that’s interesting… the eyes part. I’ve experienced something like this but it was like I recognized their soul. It wasn’t love but definitely a deep connection through the eyes. ✨🙏🏽
@@Carolbaskin23all girls know how to make a man think they’re falling with their eyes tbh it’s just lust once you talk to to them for a while that you know
Nope. I know some men fell in love at first sight with someone not their type.
@@ryokohonda4619 some , not the majority. And I still believe it is lust for them until they talk to her to confirm if it is something deeper.
When he says guys he’s talking about himself Every man is unique
Fr i couldn't relate less to how this guy finds love
Fr same
he is talking about enjoying having a sexy girlfriend i have done that without loving them at all , i have loved one woman and she was overweight with tattoos 😂 because of the amount of time i spent with her and so cool stuff , it’s time and experiences moments that make people fall in love , if you fall in love instantly it’s your cock talking and your blinded by that .
No not at all True, I’m a girl and I fall in love like at first sight
Guy me never fall in love first glance.......i sometimes think I have a mental of women
But then if he is disrespectful or racist unkind etc if you are still in love with him then you don’t love yourself enough. Self respect is walking away from low quality men
As a girl, I sometimes forget that boys fantacise about girls. Probably cry bcuz of us. Daydream about us. Wishing we would notice them. I feel a lot better now that I know boys don’t just care about football. They actually have warming feelings too.
How do you know that someone at school likes you? Yeah I don’t think so. But probably.
@@Shayal_Vids ?
@@Stranger_Edits-011Girls think that we are only lustful
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Hence i have so many girls trying to attract me using their body and its very distracting
@@Stranger_Edits-011 well that's the thing. What's the point though when women never like a man enough to just ask him out. Because they can wait for them to come around and ask them out. I hate that we do that but it's evolutionary. I wish we were incapable of liking you all as you all are incapable of intimacy and romance. Just waiting for that one guy you don't even like to convince you to date or marry them. And all the life you can just pass a fake smile and fake the love because you never even liked them in the first place. What's the point to date then when the girl never even likes you what's the point of touching her when she doesn't even like to touch you. She just fakes it for whatever reasons.
Why wouldn’t we have feelings and fantasize about women? Lol
It wasn't her face that hooked me. It was the fact that I could have meaningful conversation with her, and that she was eager to learn new things from me. She didn't shut me out, or try to play me. She simply didn't promise me much. Because she knew she had little to offer. But was grateful and honest, and loved everything I offered her, things or knowledge.
I haven't felt that appreciated by a gal outside my family in a long time. Certainly not someone I could reach out and hold.
She had a certain disillusionment with society, and so did I. The magnetism was a given. And then, she vanished.
That's why I can't stop missing her, even if I roll my eyes at some of the poor choices she made in her youth. She could be in prison, and I'd still want to write to her! What she built with me, I don't want it to evaporate. I don't want it to have all been for nothing.
I feel for you
She dumped you huh?
@@thanksmaybe4103 : She's bad at holding a job, and dependent on her cousins. I don't trust them. She has no phone. There's no way to contact her. Can't have a meaningful relationship if there's zero way to stay in touch. I don't know where she lives. We've only ever had any contact with each other at the gas station.
Nothing special I promise you
@@thanksmaybe4103 : Nope. She lost her phone. And I don't know where she lives. I'm not about to scour the ghettos in Florida to recon her out either. But her aunt may be able to get me in contact with her mom. It's a start.
By the time i fall in love hes already met someone he fell in love at first sight
😂
Too bad then, pretty girls are everywhere and high status guys are rarely be found. So women fall in love with the same top 10% of men
when a guy looks at a girl he isn't falling in love, he's interested in her sexually
Agreed.
The falling in love comes later after a few bedroom sessions lol
It's quite the opposite fore tho, i just can't seem to imagine her sexually and don't know if thats good or bad
Nah
exactly idk what he talking about women fall in love quicker
That’s what people think, but me, as a man, I don’t have that type of love, I don’t look at girls “sexually”, It’s their smile.
My standards of women is considered extremely high, because all I ask is for her to respect me and treat me right
I agree , this is the bare minimum but, it's considered extremely high because woman acting like a feminist these days
see how she treats you, other people, and also how her parents treats you and other people. If her mother is a karen, run away
That's the bear minimum they can do for a man the face that's high standards in 2024 is crazy!
No women ever told me I disrespected her. That's how good I am but men with respect they mean they will do all the decision making in relationship or veto. HELL NO
@@randommicsOr some people fantisize about about someone being mean to everyone but has a sweet spot for you
Wattpad mafia boss alpha goofy ish🤦🤦
Guys never fall in love, except the hopeless romantic nice guy that no girl wants... Most guys just lust over a girl, chase after and then get bored once they catch them. It's the girls who are obsessed with the idea of falling in love.
We are not talking about your personal experience 🙄
Girls do the exact same thing
I saw a guy while i was walking,
I fell for him instantly,
We talked,
Now we've been together for 4 years :)
How often you cheat on him?
@@urbanobstaclesMen don't fall in love, it's attraction
I'm surprised why do ppl keep comparing " females" and "males" ppl are different those are two things that cannot be compared...at least in my point of view
Incorrect...
You are attracted to someone and you can lust over them
That's the entire concept of dating apps. Swipe if you are attracted and in turn engages the carnal instincts.
Love has nothing to do with appearances or sexual interests, stop conflating this and trying to pass off as "information"
If you fight the lustful urges from the first times meeting someone, then a bond greater than the lust from appearances will form and that's where you start to have a sensation of "love" but if you just hop into bed and make everything physical and about the "eye candy" then this is not love, and a large issue within failed relationships with incompatable values and this goes for anyone...
Yeah as a woman I can definitely relate with that. When I see a cute guy, I’m like “woah he’s really pretty, I like his eyes” and stuff like that, and I’ll like talking with him, but it takes me longer than most- literal MONTHS oftentimes to feel TRULY safe with the person, like fully knowing them and them knowing me for who we are. Then and only then do I truly feel like I can give in completely and love someone
As a man I feel the same way
For a dude: Being in love is a negative emotion.
For a dude: Treating "being in love," like it is a good thing, is the exact same thing as treating religion (i.e., irrational thought) like it's a good thing.
Someone told me they liked me and I immediately fell in love
😂😂😂😂❤
Which coincides with men are visual creatures, women are emotional creatures. It takes TIME to fully engage a woman’s emotions.
Nah . That's not love. That's just men lusting over your appearance. Being visual isn't an excuse.
Oh really? So men “love” with their eyes? Lol. Anything pertaining to your flesh is lust not love.
Being a visual creature means appearances grab your attention. That attention is coming from a place of carnal desire. Not love. So being a visual creature has nothing to do with love. It says everything about your testosterone though. 👍
@@r.b7979 you are G@¥
No, women are more likely to be emotionally intelligent and comfortable with the wide range of emotions. Men are more emotional and often in a stunted reactive way. I can see why they get infatuation mixed up with love due to that. It’s based on how we’re socialized.
Yeah I think you need to learn the difference between emotional, and emotionally intelligent- you’re clearly getting the two mixed up. Emotionally intelligent is one of the reasons women don’t fall in love on a whim or because a guy is just physically attractive.
Love is the gentle touch that soothes the weary soul, the whispered words that ignite the spirit, and the silent understanding that bridges the spaces between us. It is the most beautiful symphony, composed of shared laughter, tender embraces, and unspoken promises.
In the tapestry of life, love is the golden thread that weaves through every moment, binding hearts together in a bond that transcends time and distance. It is the anchor in the storm, the guiding light in the darkness, and the warmth that envelops us on the coldest of nights.
Love is not measured by grand gestures or extravagant declarations, but by the simple acts of kindness, compassion, and acceptance that we bestow upon one another. It is found in the everyday moments - a lingering gaze, a reassuring touch, a heartfelt smile - that speak volumes without uttering a word.
So let us cherish love in all its forms - romantic, familial, platonic - for it is the essence of our humanity, the fuel that drives us forward, and the greatest gift we can give and receive. May we nurture it, protect it, and allow it to blossom within us, lighting up our lives and illuminating the world around us.
For in the end, it is love that truly makes life worth living, and it is love that will endure long after everything else fades away."
Yes, I can tell when a guy is falling in love with the idea of me verses who I truly am based on how quickly they move. If they put you too much on a pedestal you'll come off it quickly.
So if he loves you too much you will fall out of love with him?
@@Slidehhy I think the point she’s trying to make is that guys who put their girls on a pedestal too quickly are also the type who will throw them away and move on to another girl just as quickly.
Nicely explained the difference between the two. And for a guy, lesser the experience he has with girls, the sooner he's going to fall in love with a girl. Even though there are exceptions, I believe that almost all guys have a "oneitus" in their early dating life. That's why spinning plates is advice often recommended, it makes you less attached to a single woman, prevents you from having unrealistic fantasizes in your head and most importantly, gets you into the abundance mindset. With that mindset you then radiate confidence, which will then attract the quality women you want.
Thanks for another informative Short!
talking to multiple girls as a whole prevent oneitis
Man I’ve been with tons of women and I still get oneitis. It happens. Women are damn beautiful and it’s easy to fall for them hard, no matter how much experience you have.
What you say is true by the book (rollo,cooper). But you have to be a one percent-er To get in that situation of abundance and spinning plates technique. As a younger guy I use to fall in love with the very hot girls from the luxurious clubs here in Eastern Europe (mostly models). Then I grew up and started to learn most of them were trash and very few of them were wife material 😅 anyways they married guys 30 years older than them and rich of course
Yeah that’s definitely not how it happens with me. I’m a guy and I really need some time to fall in love with anybody. It takes at least 2 months of dating her to make that happen.
I never understood how you can fall in love with a person if you haven’t even slept with them 🤔
That was always a mystery to me. I don’t just look at another person and think „wow they are so awesome“ and then just fall in love with them. That’s totally not how I‘m wired 😂
You don’t need to be “spinning plates” you just need to separate reality from fantasy. When you see a beautiful woman you start projecting your ideal traits onto her and that’s when you start to develop a crush. But then you find out the real her and realized she is nothing like you’ve hoped and you end up disliking her and now that infatuation you had is gone.
I fell in love with my boyfriend because of how nice he is to me since we actually started interacting
I've never had someone love me so much 💕
sameee
According to this guy, i need to double check my gender
Same 😂😂😂
Same w/ me
I don't entirely trust looks and try to find out about their personality
I’ve been in the same class with this guy for 7 years and I just realized like a few months ago that I was as in love with him
Nah,my experience is I fall in love to fast & they all dislike me for it. 😢 I'm a woman 🤷♀️
Man, woman, boy or girl that’s called infatuation/lust anytime someone doesn’t take time to evaluate boundaries, morals, values, beliefs, financial goals or any goals that can influence any relationship.
Take it slow. Don’t ignore the red flags & inform yourself of toxic relationships of any dynamics. Do the work on yourself first for a while before any relationship.
I fell in love with him at first sight but yeah, the love increases so much with time.
Men are in Love
Women are in Business
I've fallen in love at first sight. A feeling of comfort, desire, connection, just positive feelings run through you.
Yes it’s like a warmth
The closest that it has happened to me is only after I’ve observed them for a while. Their looks, how they interact with people, their body language... I’ve never experienced “love” just by looming at them physically. Sure there are gorgeous guys out there, but their behavior and attitude is what makes or breaks them.
No guys only confuse attraction with love that’s why they stop caring after few months while women seriously fall for men
I think it is the opposite for most men.
Truth 💯💯
This , men think they are in love with you the first few times you chill then when your hooked and in love they realize it was lust not love at all. Then they dip out & the woman is left broken hearted.
Wrong.
What is happening in the world😢😢😢 , Same thinking people's are 1000kms apart, & I crossed daily to those who are not my type 😢
I'm a man, I don't fall in love like that. Attraction, yes. Love, no.
I fell for him the second I locked eyes with him.. felt like a wave of love washed over me..
Wow. That’s sth that never happened to me. I allways need at least to month of actually beeing in a relationship with her to fall in love with her 🤔 So can not just walk down the street and fall in love with someone. That seems pretty much impossible to me..
@@florianlion8215 well he’s my exact type just too dreamy.. plus we both sensed it like a mutual love at first sight lol I never thought it was possible either till I met him
@@ang2geejust had this experience happened to me 5 days ago, we locked in twice but the second time time it was so intense we both didn’t know what to say. She approached me smiling & told me I looked familiar to an “old friend” but I didn’t know what to say after that so I drifted the convo out of being overwhelmed. I feel like she wanted to talk more but I was very reserved. I will return to her workplace to ask her out because I’m beating myself for it ahhhhhh
@@spookylopez9682yeah, don't let her get away if you think it might work.
I had a similar experience back in 1995. It was my first day at a new job. We had that moment of locking eyes 👀. I looked up the third time and I continued looking... deeply into her eyes 🥰 and I knew it. I was in love with her. I know she had feelings for me too.. but after a couple of years, she moved away and got married and started a family.
But I was already married anyway with two young children and it was them that I didn't want to hurt. I always felt in the back of my mind that marriage would end some day and I got sick of the way she made me felt/feel so I ended it.
My point is...if you have any feelings for someone that has feelings for you, don't let something special slip through your hands. Let him/her know.
Women fall in love between their ears. Men fall in love between their thighs.
Yeah, emotions are between thighs
Their eyes 🤣
to our credit we aren't soo shallow. I fell for a woman's personality, empathy, voice. None of that erects my pp. So maybe men fall in love in bw their hearts
@@tromboner6061 From my experience men can fall in love with empathy and voice but it's usually men in the 90k and under income bracket. Don't mean any offense to anyone just calling like I see it
Damn it stinks there ain't no way bro.
Mine:
(School Ver)
1.He always go wherever you go
2. You see him always around you
3.His friends always tease him
4. He always want to close to you and talk
5. He smiles to you
6.Gets jealous when u are with another boy
7.Always wants to make you laugh
8.He wants your attention
9.When he talks to a girl he regrets it
10.Always there for you when u are lonely
11.If someone argues to you he asks u what's wrong?
12.Always eye contact to you
13.Always wanna borrow some of your things.
14.wanna talk to you
15.Always call ur name
I think this is so true. I can’t speak for all women, but I fell in love with the boyfriend who I wasn’t attracted to overtime. He demonstrated his love through actions and commitment, and I just fell in love with him.
Yea right
Completely wrong for me I look at them up and down and I'm like damn...... he's mine 😅
If a guy would have to get pregnant he would choose the women to fall in love by evaluating her too alright women are the ones getting ducked so she shouldn't even know if the guy who she ll be with is good or not ya just can't fall I love a first sight periodd that's why guys have more heartbreaks than women
Everyday we discover sonething new: for example today i discovered that im a girl😂
I loved her and she loved me too i could see in her eyes , she respected me a lot and we met each other for first time in university , during these 4 years i kept myself away from girls becuase i dont have money and most important im not the the best version of myself and becuase of that I could not allow myself to get closer to her I have known her for six months and that days that we were toghter was The happiest and saddest days of my life and its about a month that I disappeared myself and I left all social media while i loved her from the bottom of my heart , Maybe you think I did wrong but i cant be myself while im with her , please pray for me
I don’t like videos like this cause it goes both ways for both genders, I know lots of guys that will quickly realize they have feelings and lots of guys that feel the opposite and really have to get to know the person first, and it’s the same for girls. All these videos do is perpetuate stereotypes
Most guys fall in love with their eyes, girls fall in love with their ears…
Guy and girl falling in love is the same thing. But sadly society made guys to crave more. But not girls.
You look like Jon Bernthal
Yeah the guys always fall in love quickly
wait I tell you one day I spent time alone
because I don't have friends I go out for a walk
but a boy come to talk to me he said do you have mobile because he want my number
but I said no because I want to run quickly
I think you know how I feel 😅☺️☺️☺️
man love women idealistically
Women love man opportunistically.
Not completely wrong.
As it should be
Very much true
That's from society. Women are taught how to live on a date and men are told to go get them, tiger. So the man sees someone he likes and the woman assesses if that man is going to chop her up while he is peacocking and providing safety to prove he won't do that
As a girl this is true i dont fall in love fast but for me i dont know ehy but i have a crush on a guy whom i hated in the first place and if a guy constantly looks at me than i may fall for him
Bro what? 😂 If it's instant it's 100% NOT love, its lust
Jeez thats very true im already attracted to my Romanian boy as a friend we literally met on tuesday first day of college
Men don't feel love. It's just lust and domination. Stop falling for it women.
This is false. There are men’s that want true love. A woman that loves them and accompany them. A woman that don’t cheat on them and love them forever.
@@ashifarman4813 no, and definitely not a man of Islam.
Wrong there’s a reason why a rich man will change a poor woman’s life because he falls in love for who she is already. You rarely see the opposite most rich woman don’t even acknowledge the existence of men who make less than them they want someone better or equal to them, woman only fall in love based on what you can provide.
Women fall in love with a man's utility. Men love idealistically. Women love opportunistically. Stop falling for it men.
@@Samantha-wl5uv definitely not a man of Islam
Like American men are any better
No offense to guys, but if this is true for men this sounds insanely shallow to me… it’s basically attraction and projection, not love.
If a girl sees u with a nice car she will faster than any boy😂😂
Say every unemployed ever 😂😂
@@talkingtochapri
Bro i had money
A girl made me unemployed
No. I have a nice car, woman generally dont care much.
@@unemployed452how did she make you unemployed 😂
Yeah it takes a long time for me to have feelings for him so I don’t really want to get in a relationship that quickly
Exactly the opposite to what I experienced. They fell for me quickly and if I developed feelings, it was slowly.
hmm… maybe a change of words? i’d say men fall in love over time, and women love based on how well and consistently you stimulate their emotions
Women should be very strategic because they can even lose their life if they accidentally dated a murderer incel. 30% of women are killed by their partners, so they should be smart about it. And falling for anything really quick is dumb 😂 and most of the time that isn't love, that's lust few males have for women.
girls too have lust, left husband for tha5
30 percent??? That seems like bs
And yet women are still falling in love and having babies with thugs, criminals, and psychopaths. Seems like your message isn’t working.
It is b.s..
Nah, he's attracted to her- not 'in love'.
And she can just see him and think she's in love- because it happens all the time.
I lived with my man for 5 years to see if he was real. He is. 43 years. I truly love him deeply.
How i got a boyfriend:
So i meat this boy im not gonna say his naMe so there's this boy and he liked me first and I didn't know that and I kind of liked him back but I didn't want to tell him put soon enough start to like become good friends and play together all the time and then soon enough will you be my girlfriend I said yes and he was like oh my God oh my God what the f### yea yea he can cruse and thats how we meant
Facts. The way he behaves can change that ❤ in a heartbeat
I fall in love like girls even though I'm a boy
Is that a problem??
The answer is not for me
I don’t FALL in LOVE QUICKLY; however, I DO FALL in LUST pretty FAST!!
Stay blessed, Everyone.
Robert from daytradingwiththelight
Nah. If bro is preselected enough it’s instant for her.
Well not ALL guys fall in love instantly but most do, I fall in love once I get to know her and are good friends with her
Love is a four letter word like fuck and shit
Wow so Fraternities and Sororities work fast!!!!!!!!!!!!😂🤣😶😐😑
It took me 5 years of knowing this person to actually fall in love, sooooo
No it’s the opposite
So men can't differ love from lust...
How Girls Fall In Love,
You show her that your wallet is so thick you can barely close it and does not fit in your pocket.
George Costanza had a thicker wallet than any of us, and still struggled to get the ladies
@@John-ih7gp George Costanza is played by Jason Alexander who has been married for 40 years to an actress.
Well girls around me are not like that so don't generalize
😐And you wonder why men are always getting rejected 😐 y'all judge too damn much even when all women aren't always like that and all men want is something out of women so they're no different 🤷♀️.
That’s not true at all. When a girl sees a guy she would sleep with, ain’t no telling what he has or doesn’t have. If he hit it right and is at least stable, it won’t matter what he got. You know how many guys with money(who usually isn’t her first choice in looks) get his girl knocked down or stolen by dirty Johnny that sleeps in his moms basement? Money is a negative in dating most times more than a positive cause women that aren’t even attracted to you will fake it to get next to you. If you have money it would be in your best interest to not let her know how much. Her seeing you always being financially responsible would be enough.
Aaaaaaaaa not do fast actually do you know something that is actually called love at first sight even girls actually fall in love at first sight like only at one look in your already in love
for me it only takes 30 minutes to fall in love, i had a 30 minute convo with this guy, i fell in love with him, i saw him 3 times a year and liked him for 2 years
I don't even talk to that guy, just his kindness, gentleman behaviour attracted me a lot also he's also an introvert so I rarely see him but I guess he's my first love🥲
Some tips to approach him🫠
I’ve evaluated him for 8 years…
There is no love without mutual struggle
In the end if she finds anyone better than u and rich she will Break up with u.
'.' personal experience '.'
Me lubb yuuu longg thyyymeee
🤣🤣🤣
Cuz women are so complicated it’s so annoying
Women don't fall in love. Women fall in business.
K-pop idols: **exists**
Me: **Falls in love**
That’s true… until you become a guy with options, then the tables are turned
Quite literally the opposite for me and I’m a guy
I'm a girl and when I saw him I realized he's perfect
I am a girl and that's facttttt🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Don’t believe anyone who’s convinced they’re in “love” with you just because they find you physically attractive. (That’s lust.) Man or Woman.
Attraction doesn’t equal love.
Unless you can state adequate reasons for “loving” a person, besides how beautiful you find them.
“To have someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy”
-Urbanrealism