Being attentive… If you learn to listen to a woman when she talks, and give her your undivided attention, and actually be “present”’ in the moment with her. Meaning, you’re not thinking about anything else, or what you’re going to say, but you’re just there for her… and at the same time, you’re making a lot of eye contact with her, and she can feel all that - she’ll no doubt be very TURNED ON - and she’ll be thinking about you NON-STOP! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
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This is the type of advice I like. It encourages authenticity and plays into the hand of how I was brought up. I was brought up to be a gentleman, but I was recently believing that being a gentleman would just lead to me being taken advantage of, used, disposed of, and forgotten. Thank you for painting a picture of characteristics men can practice. Your words bring value to you as a person. I appreciate the wisdom.
Being attentive… If you learn to listen to a woman when she talks, and give her your undivided attention, and actually be “present”’ in the moment with her. Meaning, you’re not thinking about anything else, or what you’re going to say, but you’re just there for her… and at the same time, you’re making a lot of eye contact with her, and she can feel all that - she’ll no doubt be very TURNED ON - and she’ll be thinking about you NON-STOP! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 true that she would think about if you listen to her but she won't f**k you and guys are here to get laid not campaigning for a friendship
@@Tommy_007 I'm sure the whole spectrum of men watch this stuff. Your comment elevates women to higher status. They're just people man. You can date better if you want.
Thursday afternoon 17 March 2022. 1-be attentive=pay attention to what she is saying 2-Independent=attractive, have boundaries 3-Be a Gentleman 4-Non-physical compliments 5-Try something new together Thanks for what you do for us, Courtney. Congrats on 288K subscribers. Take care and all the best.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
As someone who has spent most of his working life in customer service, I watch for how my date treats other customer service employees. Especially if there is an issue with the service. Then I might compliment them by saying, "I like how you handled that", or "You're very patient". Those kinds of compliments have substance to them. Thanks for your videos! Mark
I actually often wonder how many future Karens are bombing this and don't even know what they did wrong. I've worked in customer service type stuff before (haven't most of us at least once in youth?) but even without that it's a pretty big no-brainer that if they can't handle themselves, throw a tantrum, get arrogant or entitled, act rude and insulting to even the waitress, you already know who he or she is going to be as a person in other areas of their life. Being rude, pushy, impatient, entitled, arrogant, and condescending to somebody trying to help you while they're at work has got to be one of the absolute biggest redflags there is, right beside shit talking all your other exes.
Yeah...you're quite right that this topic always looks like a click-bait subject on RUclips...which is a shame. It feels predatory to see titles like that....preying on the insecurities of weaker guys. You're doing a great job, Courtney, by stepping in to bat for the blue team. You've got my vote.
I want a JOB.... but i don't want to show up every day and focus in it and want to be very intentional..... Don't want to be clingy ya know...... Why date if you DONT want to spend all the time figuring out if this person is for you? We have been doing this for centuries.... people are confusing dating... with just fun and casual connection.
They calk 1 text a day needy. Its crazy now. Do not listen to this bs advice. Go no contact. Teeat them poorly they wonder what you are doing it creates attraction.
You definetly deserve compliments out of good karma. You have put into your projects so much effort and help to others, that’s really special. Makes you shine like a true beautiful kind person.
I’m a mental health counselor and addiction counselor and I use these videos all the time! I highly recommend these videos to anyone who is single or in a relationship. Well informed men are respectful men.
if you are mental health counselor, then you should know that if a woman is flawed in the head, BPD, DA, Emotionally unavailable, emotional abuser, then there is NO WAY she will be reciprocating no matter what you do...if woman demands her new lover to wear protection, then it should also be mandatory that both of them should sit for a psychological tests too and the results should be presentable to each other before getting into a relationship....it may sound corny but in reality it saves a lot of problems. and I am sure that mental health counselors have better chance to pick their romantic partners than poor untrained men.
I'm 24 and got out of a 7 year relationship with my high school sweet heart earlier this year. These videos help tremendously now that I'm trying to date, I feel like it's getting me caught up to speed, thank you for that!
@@rivalchavez9250 doubtful, women are hypergamous and she probably monkey branched. She wont be back unless she is 'getting something' of greater value out of it than from the other hundreds of thirty guys hitting on her all the time and buying her stuff like beta simps do best. She is spoiled for choice, so she WONT cone back, with a 99% confidence interval
Hard part about dating in ‘22 is if you’re in your late 20’s/30’s both of you are so busy that if you each set strict boundaries and have a life outside work, you’ll literally never see each other. It’ll just never happen. We want to date, but act like our whole lives are getting upended by scheduling in a new person.
@@ghostliberty1603 that's not fantasy it's reality. If you try to force something it'll never happen. Learn to roll with the punches and not get knocked down
@@Ishthemane4 I agree, but something bigger is going on in our culture and it feels very new. The difference in just a few years seems dramatic. I hardly see any single men building successful relationships anymore. Half the young guys in my office have never had a girlfriend. Some have never been kissed. I’m older and can get dates regularly, but it’s hard to connect with anyone now… time restraints, pride or fear keeping one or the other from giving the time we do have instead of doing other things, dates costing 30-$100 each if you’re a guy, crazy expectations, I just see despair and both sides complaining. It’s just depressing AF, not about getting up after getting knocked down… there are no knock downs to get up from.
Vau, I watched tones of your videos and want to say THAN YOU for your hard work on positive, healthy energy!!! Not only your content is helpful and amazing, also you as a person are very inspirational: calm, clear, analyzing, you found YOUR OWN WAY to talk about the topic. That is very very important to find YOUR OWN WAY of expressing that even more leads to THE BEST VERSION OF YOU. Basics + originality = one of the formula to be happy. And the main point is in the procces to be happy, to care about mental health, not to reach bilion dollars or to "finally get a girlfriend". I am really inspired, shared some of my thouths after watching dozens of videos! THANKS! Greetings from Lithuania!!!
Something I appreciate about your videos is that the things you suggest are focused on the person that will be on the receiving end of it. It’s not “do this for you”, it’s “do this because the other person will appreciate it for this reason” and I have a lot of respect for that
A sincere video without any of the silly manipulative games associated with modern dating. Nothing new but deeply appreciated. Keen on checking out your other videos now, thank you!
I like how you always try to give the best advice to men and women in helping them with not only finding someone to date but to also help themselves out. Thank you Courtney for your videos because they help alot of us out including myself. 👍🏾
Best thing I think most people could do to find a date or any kind of meaningful relationship is fix their own selves first. In every conceivable way. Being obese, greedy, impoverished, lazy, arrogant, and entitled and immodest isn't going to help you be around anyone you're going to want to be around. I'm so thankful I finally quit smoking. It's still alienating feeling sometimes not being able to go for a smoke or drink but you eventually realize the people you'd meet for drinks often aren't worth spending your life around anyway.
It's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden ebook called the attraction advantage there’s so much useful tehniques, secrets and information, I’m shocked
Courtney, I am 42 YO and newly divorced after 14 years (hence why I am watching you). I make presentations every day and have a channel...still I am incredibly impressed with your pose and maturity. This is all really helpful. A woman who is a lot younger than me...frankly the age of my students...has the maturity to teach me how to engage in my new world. It's very impressive. But I'm also impressed with how well you present these videos: authenticity, intelligence, grace. Bravo.
YES!!! This is fantastic! Focus on what to do, instead of what not to do. Identifying red flags and knowing what not to do are good things, but tend to have a negative connotation. But, this focus on what to do is so much more positive. - I love it. As always, great content and insightful. Thank you for what you do 🙏
Thank you so much for you advice and videos. I’m a pretty shy guy with a social anxiety and a speech impediment. Seeing your videos always makes me feel more confident! Keep up the great work!
Takes this as you will, but the majority of social anxiety nowadays is due to porn. So if you watch it, which you probably do, STOP! And if you don’t, which means your probably lying, STOP! That’ll cure most of your “social anxiety” problems.
@@467076 honestly you are right about this, fast beating heart in social situations, anxiety, stammering, unfocused, brain fog, porn is an addiction and just because our society makes it seems normal doesn’t mean it’s good for you.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
im sorry, alot of these advice ONLY work if the girl finds you attractive (in looks). Otherwise, follow these steps to get yourself a one way ticket to the friendzone
@some goon exactly, girls want that, but they also want risky. Most basically want a well rounded dude.. which doesn’t come often and that’s the hard truth
Courtney I like the fact that you’ve made this a platform to share your knowledge in a genuine fashion. There are many that wouldn’t take the time. I am a therapist and see many men who have self esteem challenges stemming from them feeling like women aren’t “true” with them. I guide them to specific videos and workshops and I think yours would be helpful because of ur approach. I appreciate your delivery... so affirmations to u. 😊. Btw, ur bf giving u the scarf, stud move! 👍.
I am so glad that so many guys are looking to you for advice. You are so healthy and well-intentioned. We need so much less toxicity in the dating world.
What a load of ¢RAP. The only "toxi¢ity" in the dating world is women's preposterously high desires. There are only so many ¢HAD$. Whilst ¢HAD will sleep with 9O% of women, odds are 99% of women will not land a ¢HAD, and more importantly, most women aren't attractive enough to land a ¢HAD in a relationship... but still, most women hope and dream and lu$t and chase after ¢HAD while ignoring or rejecting real men who are average or slightly above average but are making the world turn and so¢iety run and are behaving genuinely with mas¢ulinity ♂as men. And no, I'm not a "nice guy". I've had plenty of success with women in my 38 years of life and only taken ¢rap from the first one before I learned my lesson about what women are and what they feel and what they want. $till, there is only so much a real man like myself or many, many, many, many, many other real men can do in a dating market where 9O%+ of women are delusional about their own sexual market value and what they can attract ($POiLER: MO$T CAN NOT land a relationship with a ¢HAD, they can land in ¢HAD'S bed but never in a relationship with him because they simply aren't attractive enough for him to want to give up all his options). Ladies, if you're looking for "toxi¢ity" in the dating marketplace you have only to look at your own behavior.
Being a gentlemen will make you stand out . Good women remember good men. Manners have gotten me places in my career I never thought possible and some very memorable dates...and relationships.
You touched my heart with your positive comments. I am a heart person, and I enjoy being me and accepting my partner for who she is. I am so proud of her for being who she is. Thank you Courtney for your common sense approach in relationships. I always want to learn new ideas in relationships. Thank you!
After watching videos like this from you other RUclipsrs, I can't tell you how different my perspective is now. I'm not doing things now because I'm trying to impress somebody else. It's now because I have a genuine interest, whether it be work, or hobbies, or just general curious interest about things. I assume that the right person will find what I do attracting to them, instead of just trying to do things that I think will attract them. I want what I am to be pleasing to people, not just a people pleaser. Appreciate the videos, and while some of them don't apply to me, I find them very helpful.
I was once on a plane sitting at the window and I'd sometimes talk to the woman in the aisle seat since the seat between us was empty. She got up and while she was away, the flight attendant was picking up garbage and she accidentally spilled something on the woman's seat. When the woman got back and saw the wet spot, I took the blanket I had and put it on her seat. I was happy that I thought to do that, and I'm always happy when I think to do nice gestures.
Important thing is forgotten to mention that's the stuff which works after you have passed through looks&masculinity test. Doing any of those without a girl being attracted first is sure way to end up in the friend zone / ghosted. Be badass first and great husband later (masculine ≠ asshole, masculine = badass)
I'm an Interviewer and be attentive became my second nature. You need to 'Listen' to your interviewee and pick something to make a flow of conversation, get some detail discreetly and get something interesting on topic or a new one. I think it helps not only on a date but when interacting with other people too. And thank you for your channel too! I learned a lot about what women thought and some deep psychology. Very eyes-opening!
I love how you approach these topics, Courtney. Thank you for taking the harder, healthier approach in life in a world where it’s so easy to do the opposite. You’re great!! ❤️❤️❤️
04:08 - Boundaries - Here's what I do - every year after the holidays I go through my list of contacts and I ask myself - "Do these people add or remove from my life and it's purpose? Do they care about my best interests? Do they make an equal effort in our relationship/friendship?" Then I will keep the ones that do, and move on from the ones that don't. I've had to remove TOXIC family members from my life, people that I thought were my friends, and people that only contact you when they "need" something, aka: Users/"it's all about Meeeeee" / Narcissists. As a man, all of these types drain you of your energy that needs to go into your purpose. It also mitigates against being the listener to episode 108 of "Oh poor meeeee, look what happened to meeee" with the losers out there that purposefully self sabotage and want you to join them.
Great advice for those who already found someone to date. The really hard part is finding the someone in the first place. Especially if your in your mid 50s.
Thanks for promoting being genuine instead of games and tricks. Finding a good woman that cares for who you really are is so much better than playing games for short-term relationships.
Love how humble, direct and intentional you are in your mannerisms when communicating relationship advice. Not always easy to find in my daily interactions, men or women. How was that?… lol.
Hard to feel safe to be open like that after my last relationship turned out to be a player kissing me and 2 other guys at work all in the same day playing with our emotions and giving us false hope while she decided on dating another guy. Wasted 2 months on her, and she plays the victim when 2 of us just walked away from her BS claiming we were disrespectful to her..... I honestly am feeling like giving up on modern woman, don't matter if they are 37 or 26, they are still planning the field playing mind games and toxic manipulation tactics too much this past year.
Love your perspective (not just here but throughout your content). Always positive, healthy and impactful. Thank you! Would love to gain your insights on relationships that are transitioning out of the "new" phase but not yet at the commitment phase. Finding a cadence, keeping it fresh while settling in a bit (hope that makes sense)
The most important thing that Courtney is doing here is promoting being a true version of yourself while also helping guide men that might not fully understand how to articulate themselves with women. I agree with her 100% that a lot of content I watch on these topics are manipulative and I’ve never felt comfortable using any tactics I’ve learned from videos like that because it’s not true to who I am. Where as with Courtney’s content she’s just giving you a little boost in confidence while also helping you maintain your true personality with a women. Very important knowledge she’s sharing with us. It has helped me tremendously my first date with a girl I like went really well today because I was able to use some of the knowledge I’ve learned from these videos and feel confident being myself on the date.
I needed this video. I'm thirty, and I yearn for my one woman that I will marry. The past women I dated failed and this video helped me figure out clear reasons why. Thank you.
Courtney I am kind of new to your content, and it is really nice to hear reasonable opinions about these kind of topics. I am glad channels like yours exist, hope you grow a lot!
Thanks for this video. Your voice stands out to be. While soft and sweet it is also confident. You come across as being very real. While absolutely gorgeous with luscious hair, more importantly, you are intelligent. Lastly, your videos are soulful. They come from the heart, thus making a real impact. Thank you and keep up the good work!!
Cool outfit, Court! I really like the duality effect that your sweater creates. I find myself covering one half of your video image, then the other, just to see how you'd look with either color. It makes me think nonstop about YOU!
I was able to show that I remembered a female friend's dog's name twice. So if you know a woman who's a pet owner, refer to her pet(s) by name as much as possible.
I appreciate you so much, Courtney ☺️.....Im a bad introvert and don't go out much. Struggled with confidence. Your videos, watching them everyday, has done some wonders in terms of that confidence and using the right tips to get the ladies. Keep up the amazing work and continue to look stunning everyday. :)
Being attentive… If you learn to listen to a woman when she talks, and give her your undivided attention, and actually be “present”’ in the moment with her. Meaning, you’re not thinking about anything else, or what you’re going to say, but you’re just there for her… and at the same time, you’re making a lot of eye contact with her, and she can feel all that - she’ll no doubt be very TURNED ON - and she’ll be thinking about you NON-STOP! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
i LIKE that you focus on the healthy relationship and genuine compliments.. I think it's a part of your personality which is really precious. Have a nice day
Great advice! This helped simplify it, I tend to overthink things. I heard "don't tell a girl you like her, show her you like her." Of course that doesnt mean being a simp or hiding your attraction for her.
I would add, If you're gonna give a compliment, be sure that it is a conversation opener. Don't just saying something for the other person to say, "thank you." Try adding a follow up question to the compliment. "You're eyes are hypnotic! They remind me of an anime character; do you watch any anime?" What you've done here is not only give a compliment, you've shared something about yourself, explained why your opinion exists and you've opened your conversation to include her. You're closing statement should be an invitation. ... "That's awesome. We should get together and watch some anime shows sometime?" Or if you're already together, "Wanna watch some anime shows tonight?” What this does is show that your are interested in sharing a common interest while enjoying her company and something that reminds you of them.
@@GarandNewbie So I guess the past 3 relationships I had where anime, sex and chills ensued, were just not actually happening and I imagined it all? Wow, here I thought women were individuals and could choose to like anime.
Courtney, you are an amazing young woman. I really appreciate how you break things down to an actionable perspective and how honest all of your advice is. Keep doing your thing and posting it, I love watching :)
I appreciate your honests and sincere take on this topic. I'm not sure how I got RUclips's algorithm to send me all these videos of, "HOW TO GET HER TO CHASE YOU!" or "MAKE HER BEG FOR YOUR ATTENTION!!!" But they all come off slezy and manipulative. If a woman falls for cheap tactics and one-liners like that, she's gonna do it again for the next creepy guy can comes along. I found just being confident in who you are, respectful, passionate about the things you love and yes setting healthy boundaries attracts the right kinds of people and makes for long and healthy relationships.
Good points, it's great to connect on a deeper level. It's crucial to have things in common as well, especially the important things like beliefs, principles, passions, interests, etc. I'm only interested in long term/marriage, so these aspects are very important to me!
I've been single for many years now. I'm to scared to start dating again. My first problem is social anxiety. Secondly, I love being single. Nobody can tell me what I can and can't do.
Hey Courtney, thank you for your informative content! Is there a possibility that you cover a men's skincare routine in a video? For example a simple and an extensive one. Since you are into skincare I think we can learn a lot :)
Ya know. More than anything, I think I enjoy this channel and am willing to take your words to heart since you (and your girlfriends) seem to have a good head on your shoulders. I'm looking forward to the next video and thanks for helping me be a better version of myself!
I'm glad to hear this said by a level-headed woman; at the same time, it's disappointing to think I've dated so many DUDS for females, as none of them seemed to appreciate ANY of these things. Hell...I even found out 3 were badmouthing me precisely because I did treat them like a gentlemen--but the one girl that had gone out with me and enjoyed our date was the one that told me. We can only hope these tips will help others, although I fear people in general are getting FAR too shallow and materialistic--because I see less and less real desire to communicate between the sexes--and more of a "can you make me see stars" mentality. By the way, I've never thought any of your videos that I've seen have seemed manipulative at all; in fact, I've found them refreshingly open. Thank you!
Yes that's the problem. Even if half of this advice is correct, it's "outdated" in the sense that ppl are just becoming backwards animals who worship pleasure over intimacy.
Speaking of compliments, I have to give you one! You make my day whenever you upload a new video! It's like being in a class I wasn't able to be in, and I've been keeping every lesson in mind every day of my life. P.S. You make a great teacher.
become invisible when you meet her, no story, no past no future, just you and the girl. trust me you gonna love women in a whole new fresh way. have no intention, no fixed idea about where the relationship will go, nothing nothing nothing. even the identity of you being "ugly" or "handsome" or "Average" looking guy remove it also, be empty when you meet her and see what happens. your mind will be blown away because the universe supports you, the universe wants you connect to the best possible mutual attraction, you just caught in your mind all this damn time. all the women you wished to get, are waiting for you.
QUESTION YALL!! skip these details if you want: So this woman, who is generally professional in a formal way, however acts more 'normal' like an introvert. She was my Counselor for a 4 week program on career growth and she was very helpful with editing my resume and stuff. Over time she started to show signs of interest and attraction, has said i'm "adorable, there's something about him" to my aunt(who also is a counselor there) and i only know this because she told my dad, who told me. This happened on the last day of the 4 week program. On the same day, she's asked that I come in again Dec 1 at 11am to go over a job I recently got accepted to(currently still in the process so i havent started working yet). The morning I showed up, she did her makeup/hair and looked better than I've seen her look during the 4 weeks I've known her(maybe coincidence? Idk). She was also still acting herself, however more kind than usual & would try to be more helpful than necessary(Example. she offered water and wished she had some food for me, cuz I mentioned I had a busy morning), and overall just acted a little weird(in a good way imo)... also btw, we would text(business-wise), but overtime even her ways of texting me changed, by adding '!' to her sentences and would also overall sound slightly more personal in text messages(Ex. "if you want help with editing email, please let me know!" "Happy to help!" etc.) Currently, I'm awaiting on another text message from her because, that same morning, she said she'll check in with me next week to see how the job is going. Bottom line, she was being my career counselor during the 4 week program, but now she's being more like a mentor to me who plans on keeping in touch throughout my life, respectfully. I started liking this woman around the time she started showing interest and attracting towards me(not because of it, however). I'm 24y/o and she's like 4-5 years older than me, and it's normal for me to like a woman at least months older than me, but not years. She's one of the most mature and smart woman I've ever met, but she's also similar to me as were both introverted and not-so-bright(we dont laugh easily, we dont show expressiveness so easily, but were not boring either, and we both act confident with ourselves, and were are both kind, however she generally likes to act less personal & more professional than me) My question is, I want to ask her out, but professionally I am her client, and she is my counselor, so how can I ask her out without ruining what we have going so far? My gut tells me it's going very well and she's only waiting for me to make a move,, but the only problem is she's not giving me and OBVIOUS sign. So while I feel confident she's attracted & likes me at all, it's not objectively confirmed. Again sry for the long speech & question. Feel free to be brutally honest w me.
Courtney is such a cool 🐥. I've really learned a lot about girl-mechanics, which I'm miserably clueless about, from Courtney. Courtney is like that one sister I never had.
How to get a woman to think about you: - do a fart around her to impress her - forget how to speak - say that you forgot everything - fall down every time she passes by you
"Women are incredibly attentive to detail" Unless they are doing shady shit behind your back. Then a simple question like, "So what did you do Friday night?" Becomes an amnesia filled Alzheimer response with zero detail. Lol
I've been watching your videos...For a young woman you have such an understanding of having a healthy relationship... Being a 53 yr old....I'm still learning
So this one may be a long time coming but it’s timing is inspired by your talk here. My 23 year old son walked into the living room one day while I was watching one of your videos. After watching a bit with me, he said wow dad…shocker you are listening to the super attractive woman giving relationship advice. I had to pause. I actually hadn’t really even thought of you as attractive or anything like that. I asked him what he meant and he pointed out all of your physical attributes as a 23 year old young man might, though he was respectful. After acknowledging his observations and agreeing, it occurred to me, I had really never seen these things. I have watched maybe 30-40 of your videos and was pleased that it was your brain power, insights and delivery which drew me in. So, thank you for all of those things and allowing a guy to appreciate a smart and wise woman for the things she is, other than just a pretty face which we really play no part in making.
Ngl 3/5 of these screams nice guy. These may work with women who are marriage minded but most women will string or make men jump thru hoops. Most women have had ONS and fwbs. Despite how much you despise the manipulation, there is always a game to be played. In fact, it starts with the girl putting on makeup.
Dont apologize for just because, tell her "no" when you need, tease her, make fun of her is she acts goofy, call her on her bullshit. She have enough simps in her dms, no need for another one.
@@Filthy_Larry It's very basic tips for guys in teens/early 20's who have no experience. Not necessary full of shit, but that's not how attraction works.
@@Filthy_Larry She mentioned dating bad boys and now found nice guy Teddy. But have to give kudos for her covering Matt Cross, Todd Valentine and Richard Cooper videos. She has her bad boy phaze, wake up before it's too late and now is somewhat redpill aware.
@@Laurius57 that’s what I’m talking about. She’s not what she seems. Courtney is damaged goods. She couldn’t resist the bad boys. Now she has a soy boy to control. You just can’t trust women. Especially Courtney.
I live in Australia and I love learning how women feel so a big thank you Courtney for putting yourself out there you’re a big help to struggling 56 year old men like myself 😀
She’s on point with the advice. You must not date good looking women. These are the basics she’s dishing out. Being a beta simp is what lands you in the friend zone.
@some goon what being on your purpose and not making some girl front and center in your life is simping?? She telling you to have a life and the girl should be the compliment to your life, not the center of attention. Maybe you should watch again.
As always, great video. Some comparative notes from me: Being attentive - Very true. I think that when a person actually remembers what the girl is saying, you follow up. I think that using syllogism helps with this. I try to remember three things that she says, and I actually work on those three things to better get to know and understand her. What I get in return, is her knowing that I am interested, and that I care about her thoughts, opinions and interests. One doesn't need to SIMP to accomplish this. Gentleman - There are times, where I might over-do this, where there is a point where I am insistent on opening the door, pulling open the chair, standing as she enters the room, etc. This is something that I am raised upon doing, however. I find that if you show that you *naturally* show your customary ways, that it shines better, than just being chivalrous. No physical compliments - I ESPECIALLY AGREE WITH THIS! While there are subtle ways to acknowledge that she's pretty? I often find that if you acknowledge a person's character? Her inner-strength? She remembers that. To find inner-worth and assessing and selecting upon that, shows that you're not shallow, and that you really value that person. Trying something new: This can be hard in Cleveland, but it's something that if you engage per seasonal events, can grow bonds stronger than just heading to the bars and nightlife. Because let's be real: Heading to West 6th every week isn't doing anyone any favors (You already know what I mean by this!).
Last Week Me & My GF of 5 years have called it a day.Her Choice lost feelings!! I was mature about it and said she needs to be happy. This also happened in Feb 2021 and wanted me back in July 2021…Which we did.Her hysterectomy Op in 2020 change her,Sent her in to early menopause. I really hope this turns around!!
Watched this 2 years ago, got married a year and a half ago. It's interesting to see how this changed after marriage. I used to look her directly in the eyes on the date and she knew she had my 100% attention. After marriage I kept catching myself talking when she just wasn't listening that was annoying. Then other times I found she would just talk to talk and when I'd ask deeper questions I found she didn't really care about what she was saying. But the final lesson was that she is very comfortable in my presence and it's not so much about the deep connection day to day, but rather existing comfortably together as life partners. She's so comfortable that she speaks without worry of judgement
I dont know if it's going to make a woman think about you non stop but I think these are good points. I had not been in dating for a while but met a girl I really liked a lot and from lack of experience fucked it up but from there learned a lot and this is helpful too. I think the other thing I would mention is that it's like anything else you need to practice and get out there. Don't be afraid to have dates and make mistakes too or have them not go so well. Not everyone is going to jive well. Also is opportunity to learn something new and grow. Attitude is everything no matter what you are learning. Thank you for the video this was helpful.
This is great info that i already know. My problem is the idea that a woman may expect this stuff continually. After a while its just exhausting trying to endlessly impress someone to keep them in your life. Its unsustainable to stay at the fantastic guy level. The idea that a person has to be near idolized just to have something that resembles acceptance and companionship is pretty daunting and eventually is just empty and exhausting. Talk about keeping a guy interested, like, have a personality and be stable and committed.
You are literally the most intelligent, graceful, authentic female RUclipsr I've ever seen 💁🏼♂️ now that i know of you, and the type of female i would love to have ... it's discouraging knowing i won't find another Courtney in life as I'm sure you are one of a kind 🥰 that being said, thank you for showing me there is someone like you in existence !
There are other girls that are nice and intelligent. It's not always easy to find, but I'm sure you will stumble upon one of them and she will like you back. It's just a question of time. 🙂
1:00 Be Attentive.
2:10 Independent= Attractive.
4:20 Be a Gentleman.
5:05 Non physical Compliments.
6:40 Try Something new together.
thanks for the timeline
Attentive, independent, and try something new, are good the other two will actually repel her away and cause her to lose attraction for you.
Thank you angel from heaven
Lol Keep being good…cheers
Thanks timestamps buddy
Having a great relationship now a-days is incredibly hard, but there is always hope.
❤️
of course we not live in 20s or 30s 😁🤣
Impossible
Being attentive…
If you learn to listen to a woman when she talks, and give her your undivided attention, and actually be “present”’ in the moment with her.
Meaning, you’re not thinking about anything else, or what you’re going to say, but you’re just there for her…
and at the same time, you’re making a lot of eye contact with her, and she can feel all that - she’ll no doubt be very TURNED ON - and she’ll be thinking about you NON-STOP!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 wow I love your advices thank you 😚🌷
A woman should complement your life - not - be the focus of it.
Can one eventually transition to Focus Status?
Found this out the hard way
@@HighSpeedNoDrag Are you asking if you can eventually make a partner your priority focus in life?
Red pill and black pill gents, will allow the bridges you burn to light the way
True
Amazing content in this video! I rarely suggest anything in comments, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is a game-changer. It provides deep knowledge on wealth and self-care that can really make a difference. Take care, everyone
This is the type of advice I like. It encourages authenticity and plays into the hand of how I was brought up. I was brought up to be a gentleman, but I was recently believing that being a gentleman would just lead to me being taken advantage of, used, disposed of, and forgotten.
Thank you for painting a picture of characteristics men can practice. Your words bring value to you as a person. I appreciate the wisdom.
Courtney you’re the wise sister I never had! You’re very consistent and your content is always refreshing.
I know, right? She is indeed a very good woman
Pandering 101
Right on.
Woman do not share women secrets ; to men :: like men share tips about getting women to other men
She is a goddamn rainbow unicorn in a desert oasis...
This is the non-toxic advice we all need! ❤
Being attentive…
If you learn to listen to a woman when she talks, and give her your undivided attention, and actually be “present”’ in the moment with her.
Meaning, you’re not thinking about anything else, or what you’re going to say, but you’re just there for her…
and at the same time, you’re making a lot of eye contact with her, and she can feel all that - she’ll no doubt be very TURNED ON - and she’ll be thinking about you NON-STOP!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 true that she would think about if you listen to her but she won't f**k you and guys are here to get laid not campaigning for a friendship
@@seanwilson9302 If you play your cards right - she will!
Changing her emotions = changing her mind! If you know what I mean. Lol
I'm sure she (and many other women) wouldn't date men that use RUclips videos to learn how to approach women...
@@Tommy_007 I'm sure the whole spectrum of men watch this stuff. Your comment elevates women to higher status. They're just people man. You can date better if you want.
Thursday afternoon 17 March 2022.
1-be attentive=pay attention to what she is saying
2-Independent=attractive, have boundaries
3-Be a Gentleman
4-Non-physical compliments
5-Try something new together
Thanks for what you do for us, Courtney. Congrats on 288K subscribers. Take care and all the best.
👏🏾👏🏾
Happy b-day to your comment brah
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden ebook called secrets of the elusive girl
never thought a book could help me this much. highly recommend
@@minela227… what does the book contain? What methods does it apply? What’s the perspective it gives the man? Good topics are worth talking about.
Get this book it helped me a lot
Author?
@@ItsRyRytheGuy lexnory
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Considering your comment has only 5 days under 2 year old video and already 776 likes and no single comment, I think you're a bot promoting that book.
perfectly legitimate comment 🤭
It’s an ai generated book too 😭
@@_ian69Allah is one God God is Allah Allah has 99 names Allah is almighty
@@ThumpertTheFascistCottontaildon't die as a disbeliever
As someone who has spent most of his working life in customer service, I watch for how my date treats other customer service employees. Especially if there is an issue with the service. Then I might compliment them by saying, "I like how you handled that", or "You're very patient". Those kinds of compliments have substance to them. Thanks for your videos! Mark
Lame!! Lol
@@jwinchester1320 not lame
Oh hi Mark
I actually often wonder how many future Karens are bombing this and don't even know what they did wrong. I've worked in customer service type stuff before (haven't most of us at least once in youth?) but even without that it's a pretty big no-brainer that if they can't handle themselves, throw a tantrum, get arrogant or entitled, act rude and insulting to even the waitress, you already know who he or she is going to be as a person in other areas of their life. Being rude, pushy, impatient, entitled, arrogant, and condescending to somebody trying to help you while they're at work has got to be one of the absolute biggest redflags there is, right beside shit talking all your other exes.
@pandemicneetbux2110 don't die as a disbeliever
Yeah...you're quite right that this topic always looks like a click-bait subject on RUclips...which is a shame. It feels predatory to see titles like that....preying on the insecurities of weaker guys. You're doing a great job, Courtney, by stepping in to bat for the blue team. You've got my vote.
You really are amazing, I think a lot of guys have forgotten how to be a gentleman
I *love* how being needy and clingy is an automatic FAIL. We all have needs, but do *not* be needy. Got it!
Yes exactly, you want to balance between being needy and distant, both extremes are bad
@@zachmurray101maybe present is the best term here. You don’t need anything but you also give your attention and are not distracted with other things.
I want a JOB.... but i don't want to show up every day and focus in it and want to be very intentional..... Don't want to be clingy ya know...... Why date if you DONT want to spend all the time figuring out if this person is for you? We have been doing this for centuries.... people are confusing dating... with just fun and casual connection.
They calk 1 text a day needy. Its crazy now. Do not listen to this bs advice. Go no contact. Teeat them poorly they wonder what you are doing it creates attraction.
You definetly deserve compliments out of good karma. You have put into your projects so much effort and help to others, that’s really special. Makes you shine like a true beautiful kind person.
I’m a mental health counselor and addiction counselor and I use these videos all the time! I highly recommend these videos to anyone who is single or in a relationship. Well informed men are respectful men.
if you are mental health counselor, then you should know that if a woman is flawed in the head, BPD, DA, Emotionally unavailable, emotional abuser, then there is NO WAY she will be reciprocating no matter what you do...if woman demands her new lover to wear protection, then it should also be mandatory that both of them should sit for a psychological tests too and the results should be presentable to each other before getting into a relationship....it may sound corny but in reality it saves a lot of problems. and I am sure that mental health counselors have better chance to pick their romantic partners than poor untrained men.
I'm 24 and got out of a 7 year relationship with my high school sweet heart earlier this year. These videos help tremendously now that I'm trying to date, I feel like it's getting me caught up to speed, thank you for that!
You're 24. You'll be fine
Did she ever come back?
@@rivalchavez9250 doubtful, women are hypergamous and she probably monkey branched. She wont be back unless she is 'getting something' of greater value out of it than from the other hundreds of thirty guys hitting on her all the time and buying her stuff like beta simps do best. She is spoiled for choice, so she WONT cone back, with a 99% confidence interval
Hard part about dating in ‘22 is if you’re in your late 20’s/30’s both of you are so busy that if you each set strict boundaries and have a life outside work, you’ll literally never see each other. It’ll just never happen. We want to date, but act like our whole lives are getting upended by scheduling in a new person.
If it’s meant to be it’ll be, simple as that
That was all by design, unless you think that is pursuit of happinesd
@@Ishthemane4 quit living in a fantasy, people are fickle and will make excuses
@@ghostliberty1603 that's not fantasy it's reality. If you try to force something it'll never happen. Learn to roll with the punches and not get knocked down
@@Ishthemane4 I agree, but something bigger is going on in our culture and it feels very new. The difference in just a few years seems dramatic. I hardly see any single men building successful relationships anymore. Half the young guys in my office have never had a girlfriend. Some have never been kissed. I’m older and can get dates regularly, but it’s hard to connect with anyone now… time restraints, pride or fear keeping one or the other from giving the time we do have instead of doing other things, dates costing 30-$100 each if you’re a guy, crazy expectations, I just see despair and both sides complaining. It’s just depressing AF, not about getting up after getting knocked down… there are no knock downs to get up from.
Vau, I watched tones of your videos and want to say THAN YOU for your hard work on positive, healthy energy!!! Not only your content is helpful and amazing, also you as a person are very inspirational: calm, clear, analyzing, you found YOUR OWN WAY to talk about the topic. That is very very important to find YOUR OWN WAY of expressing that even more leads to THE BEST VERSION OF YOU. Basics + originality = one of the formula to be happy. And the main point is in the procces to be happy, to care about mental health, not to reach bilion dollars or to "finally get a girlfriend". I am really inspired, shared some of my thouths after watching dozens of videos! THANKS! Greetings from Lithuania!!!
Something I appreciate about your videos is that the things you suggest are focused on the person that will be on the receiving end of it. It’s not “do this for you”, it’s “do this because the other person will appreciate it for this reason” and I have a lot of respect for that
I liked how you showed your genuine interest when you rifled through all my belongings at my home when I was passed out.
A sincere video without any of the silly manipulative games associated with modern dating.
Nothing new but deeply appreciated. Keen on checking out your other videos now, thank you!
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If you have over $300,000 in the bank, show her a bank statement. She won't stop thinking about you.
😂😂😂😂😂
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If all she thinks about is money, then I am leaving her for the streets.
i dont want that kind of woman tho.
😂😂😂 I mean you aren’t wrong she might tell her friends about you too.
I like how you always try to give the best advice to men and women in helping them with not only finding someone to date but to also help themselves out. Thank you Courtney for your videos because they help alot of us out including myself. 👍🏾
Best thing I think most people could do to find a date or any kind of meaningful relationship is fix their own selves first. In every conceivable way. Being obese, greedy, impoverished, lazy, arrogant, and entitled and immodest isn't going to help you be around anyone you're going to want to be around. I'm so thankful I finally quit smoking. It's still alienating feeling sometimes not being able to go for a smoke or drink but you eventually realize the people you'd meet for drinks often aren't worth spending your life around anyway.
What I like about you and your videos, is your authenticity. We can feel like your genuinely honest and you have experience. Keep up the good work!
It's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden ebook called the attraction advantage there’s so much useful tehniques, secrets and information, I’m shocked
damn u bot
It's a book or what .....I Don't understand wht u r talking about
Courtney, I am 42 YO and newly divorced after 14 years (hence why I am watching you). I make presentations every day and have a channel...still I am incredibly impressed with your pose and maturity. This is all really helpful. A woman who is a lot younger than me...frankly the age of my students...has the maturity to teach me how to engage in my new world. It's very impressive. But I'm also impressed with how well you present these videos: authenticity, intelligence, grace. Bravo.
She's brilliant. I'm 52, happily married 26 years and I listen AND learn from her.
YES!!! This is fantastic! Focus on what to do, instead of what not to do. Identifying red flags and knowing what not to do are good things, but tend to have a negative connotation. But, this focus on what to do is so much more positive. - I love it.
As always, great content and insightful.
Thank you for what you do 🙏
Thank you so much for you advice and videos. I’m a pretty shy guy with a social anxiety and a speech impediment. Seeing your videos always makes me feel more confident! Keep up the great work!
Takes this as you will, but the majority of social anxiety nowadays is due to porn. So if you watch it, which you probably do, STOP! And if you don’t, which means your probably lying, STOP! That’ll cure most of your “social anxiety” problems.
@@467076
Try saying that to a psychologist.
@@467076 I would look more to a chaotic or unpredictable childhood environment as the likely cause, but you may be right, who knows.
@@danhhoang5947 most psychologists are full of sh!t just like doctors and lawyers.
@@467076 honestly you are right about this, fast beating heart in social situations, anxiety, stammering, unfocused, brain fog, porn is an addiction and just because our society makes it seems normal doesn’t mean it’s good for you.
This will make you a friend, if you'll miss independence step. Love yourself, don't be needy, have options.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
im sorry, alot of these advice ONLY work if the girl finds you attractive (in looks). Otherwise, follow these steps to get yourself a one way ticket to the friendzone
Gone down the yt blackpill rabbit hole already?
Ja ja
@some goon exactly, girls want that, but they also want risky. Most basically want a well rounded dude.. which doesn’t come often and that’s the hard truth
I mean… duh.
Love urself first than people will love u
Courtney I like the fact that you’ve made this a platform to share your knowledge in a genuine fashion. There are many that wouldn’t take the time. I am a therapist and see many men who have self esteem challenges stemming from them feeling like women aren’t “true” with them. I guide them to specific videos and workshops and I think yours would be helpful because of ur approach. I appreciate your delivery... so affirmations to u. 😊. Btw, ur bf giving u the scarf, stud move! 👍.
I am so glad that so many guys are looking to you for advice. You are so healthy and well-intentioned. We need so much less toxicity in the dating world.
You are so kind 🥹 thank you!
What a load of ¢RAP.
The only "toxi¢ity" in the dating world is women's preposterously high desires. There are only so many ¢HAD$. Whilst ¢HAD will sleep with 9O% of women, odds are 99% of women will not land a ¢HAD, and more importantly, most women aren't attractive enough to land a ¢HAD in a relationship... but still, most women hope and dream and lu$t and chase after ¢HAD while ignoring or rejecting real men who are average or slightly above average but are making the world turn and so¢iety run and are behaving genuinely with mas¢ulinity ♂as men.
And no, I'm not a "nice guy". I've had plenty of success with women in my 38 years of life and only taken ¢rap from the first one before I learned my lesson about what women are and what they feel and what they want. $till, there is only so much a real man like myself or many, many, many, many, many other real men can do in a dating market where 9O%+ of women are delusional about their own sexual market value and what they can attract ($POiLER: MO$T CAN NOT land a relationship with a ¢HAD, they can land in ¢HAD'S bed but never in a relationship with him because they simply aren't attractive enough for him to want to give up all his options).
Ladies, if you're looking for "toxi¢ity" in the dating marketplace you have only to look at your own behavior.
Being a gentlemen will make you stand out . Good women remember good men. Manners have gotten me places in my career I never thought possible and some very memorable dates...and relationships.
Did you end up ever putting it in the butt?
Yeah but you never get laid...
@auxillery8998 didn't/couldn't read my post huh?
@@thomasmurphy9348 Yes, I read your post? It's a weak POV, open your mind. I don't care I'm doing ok without this YT BS.
@auxillery8998 ...speaking of open minds..ahem..good that you are doing ok with your pov but why comment when you don't need yt BS?
You touched my heart with your positive comments. I am a heart person, and I enjoy being me and accepting my partner for who she is. I am so proud of her for being who she is. Thank you Courtney for your common sense approach in relationships. I always want to learn new ideas in relationships. Thank you!
Listen to her, compliment her, be a gentleman.... good qualities to have in a friend.
Don’t do that,You get put in the same category and you’re screwed because you’re a pleaser and you’re too nice.Not enough of a challenge.
Her main point was to be on a purpose and not make her your entire life. You completely missed the meat and potatoes.
@@joningrum7376 - This stuff is all so generic, nothing new, nothing interesting, nothing useful.
@@joningrum7376 - This stuff is all so generic, nothing new, nothing interesting, nothing useful.
Yep friendzone.
After watching videos like this from you other RUclipsrs, I can't tell you how different my perspective is now.
I'm not doing things now because I'm trying to impress somebody else. It's now because I have a genuine interest, whether it be work, or hobbies, or just general curious interest about things.
I assume that the right person will find what I do attracting to them, instead of just trying to do things that I think will attract them. I want what I am to be pleasing to people, not just a people pleaser.
Appreciate the videos, and while some of them don't apply to me, I find them very helpful.
I was once on a plane sitting at the window and I'd sometimes talk to the woman in the aisle seat since the seat between us was empty. She got up and while she was away, the flight attendant was picking up garbage and she accidentally spilled something on the woman's seat. When the woman got back and saw the wet spot, I took the blanket I had and put it on her seat. I was happy that I thought to do that, and I'm always happy when I think to do nice gestures.
That is a nice thing to do.
*Gentleman*
Important thing is forgotten to mention that's the stuff which works after you have passed through looks&masculinity test. Doing any of those without a girl being attracted first is sure way to end up in the friend zone / ghosted. Be badass first and great husband later (masculine ≠ asshole, masculine = badass)
I'm an Interviewer and be attentive became my second nature. You need to 'Listen' to your interviewee and pick something to make a flow of conversation, get some detail discreetly and get something interesting on topic or a new one. I think it helps not only on a date but when interacting with other people too.
And thank you for your channel too! I learned a lot about what women thought and some deep psychology. Very eyes-opening!
I love how you approach these topics, Courtney. Thank you for taking the harder, healthier approach in life in a world where it’s so easy to do the opposite. You’re great!! ❤️❤️❤️
This is what I can't say i mean since English ain't my first language
04:08 - Boundaries - Here's what I do - every year after the holidays I go through my list of contacts and I ask myself - "Do these people add or remove from my life and it's purpose? Do they care about my best interests? Do they make an equal effort in our relationship/friendship?" Then I will keep the ones that do, and move on from the ones that don't. I've had to remove TOXIC family members from my life, people that I thought were my friends, and people that only contact you when they "need" something, aka: Users/"it's all about Meeeeee" / Narcissists. As a man, all of these types drain you of your energy that needs to go into your purpose. It also mitigates against being the listener to episode 108 of "Oh poor meeeee, look what happened to meeee" with the losers out there that purposefully self sabotage and want you to join them.
Alot of girls jeep the ones that don't care and are toxic towards them. Opposite of what you seem to do.
On SM you may have 5k friends but they will only communicate with you if they need something. Those aren’t friends.
Every year you’re deleting friends how are you even able to make so many friends 😂
So genuine. So truthful. Courtney Ryan only tells you facts. Keep sharing your great content with us!
Great advice for those who already found someone to date. The really hard part is finding the someone in the first place. Especially if your in your mid 50s.
Thanks for promoting being genuine instead of games and tricks. Finding a good woman that cares for who you really are is so much better than playing games for short-term relationships.
Love how humble, direct and intentional you are in your mannerisms when communicating relationship advice. Not always easy to find in my daily interactions, men or women.
How was that?… lol.
Hard to feel safe to be open like that after my last relationship turned out to be a player kissing me and 2 other guys at work all in the same day playing with our emotions and giving us false hope while she decided on dating another guy. Wasted 2 months on her, and she plays the victim when 2 of us just walked away from her BS claiming we were disrespectful to her..... I honestly am feeling like giving up on modern woman, don't matter if they are 37 or 26, they are still planning the field playing mind games and toxic manipulation tactics too much this past year.
Love your perspective (not just here but throughout your content). Always positive, healthy and impactful. Thank you! Would love to gain your insights on relationships that are transitioning out of the "new" phase but not yet at the commitment phase. Finding a cadence, keeping it fresh while settling in a bit (hope that makes sense)
*It’s great to see practical advice like this that encourages building a genuine connection. Thanks for sharing such valuable insights!*
The most important thing that Courtney is doing here is promoting being a true version of yourself while also helping guide men that might not fully understand how to articulate themselves with women. I agree with her 100% that a lot of content I watch on these topics are manipulative and I’ve never felt comfortable using any tactics I’ve learned from videos like that because it’s not true to who I am. Where as with Courtney’s content she’s just giving you a little boost in confidence while also helping you maintain your true personality with a women. Very important knowledge she’s sharing with us. It has helped me tremendously my first date with a girl I like went really well today because I was able to use some of the knowledge I’ve learned from these videos and feel confident being myself on the date.
I needed this video. I'm thirty, and I yearn for my one woman that I will marry. The past women I dated failed and this video helped me figure out clear reasons why. Thank you.
Courtney I am kind of new to your content, and it is really nice to hear reasonable opinions about these kind of topics. I am glad channels like yours exist, hope you grow a lot!
Thanks for this video. Your voice stands out to be. While soft and sweet it is also confident. You come across as being very real. While absolutely gorgeous with luscious hair, more importantly, you are intelligent. Lastly, your videos are soulful. They come from the heart, thus making a real impact. Thank you and keep up the good work!!
As far as compliments go, I enjoy listening to your voice and find it very soothing
Be attentive..? seems like all that does is get you in the friend zone because god forbid you care just one ounce.
04:32 “…or gave you her jacket when she was cold.” I thought it was the other way around. Lol.
Cool outfit, Court!
I really like the duality effect that your sweater creates. I find myself covering one half of your video image, then the other, just to see how you'd look with either color.
It makes me think nonstop about YOU!
I was able to show that I remembered a female friend's dog's name twice. So if you know a woman who's a pet owner, refer to her pet(s) by name as much as possible.
🙌🏼
I hate dogs.
I appreciate you so much, Courtney ☺️.....Im a bad introvert and don't go out much. Struggled with confidence. Your videos, watching them everyday, has done some wonders in terms of that confidence and using the right tips to get the ladies. Keep up the amazing work and continue to look stunning everyday. :)
Being attentive…
If you learn to listen to a woman when she talks, and give her your undivided attention, and actually be “present”’ in the moment with her.
Meaning, you’re not thinking about anything else, or what you’re going to say, but you’re just there for her…
and at the same time, you’re making a lot of eye contact with her, and she can feel all that - she’ll no doubt be very TURNED ON - and she’ll be thinking about you NON-STOP!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 shut up
It’s all about the game, and how you play it.
Based.
i LIKE that you focus on the healthy relationship and genuine compliments.. I think it's a part of your personality which is really precious.
Have a nice day
Great advice! This helped simplify it, I tend to overthink things. I heard "don't tell a girl you like her, show her you like her." Of course that doesnt mean being a simp or hiding your attraction for her.
I would add, If you're gonna give a compliment, be sure that it is a conversation opener. Don't just saying something for the other person to say, "thank you."
Try adding a follow up question to the compliment.
"You're eyes are hypnotic! They remind me of an anime character; do you watch any anime?"
What you've done here is not only give a compliment, you've shared something about yourself, explained why your opinion exists and you've opened your conversation to include her.
You're closing statement should be an invitation.
... "That's awesome. We should get together and watch some anime shows sometime?"
Or if you're already together,
"Wanna watch some anime shows tonight?”
What this does is show that your are interested in sharing a common interest while enjoying her company and something that reminds you of them.
I like this.
I don't think any man should tell a woman he is into anime, unless he wants her private parts to become bone dry.
@@GarandNewbie you clearly need to meet the majority of the women I've known in my life my guy lol
@@GarandNewbie no one needs your straw-man argument. Anime isn't the point of the statement at all.
@@GarandNewbie So I guess the past 3 relationships I had where anime, sex and chills ensued, were just not actually happening and I imagined it all? Wow, here I thought women were individuals and could choose to like anime.
Courtney, you are an amazing young woman. I really appreciate how you break things down to an actionable perspective and how honest all of your advice is. Keep doing your thing and posting it, I love watching :)
I love how articulate you are, you leave nothing insufficient in your suggestions. Thank you.
I appreciate your honests and sincere take on this topic. I'm not sure how I got RUclips's algorithm to send me all these videos of, "HOW TO GET HER TO CHASE YOU!" or "MAKE HER BEG FOR YOUR ATTENTION!!!" But they all come off slezy and manipulative. If a woman falls for cheap tactics and one-liners like that, she's gonna do it again for the next creepy guy can comes along. I found just being confident in who you are, respectful, passionate about the things you love and yes setting healthy boundaries attracts the right kinds of people and makes for long and healthy relationships.
Good points, it's great to connect on a deeper level. It's crucial to have things in common as well, especially the important things like beliefs, principles, passions, interests, etc. I'm only interested in long term/marriage, so these aspects are very important to me!
I've been single for many years now. I'm to scared to start dating again. My first problem is social anxiety. Secondly, I love being single. Nobody can tell me what I can and can't do.
Hey Courtney, thank you for your informative content!
Is there a possibility that you cover a men's skincare routine in a video? For example a simple and an extensive one.
Since you are into skincare I think we can learn a lot :)
I’ve been thinking about doing that but the problem is that there is no one size fits all! I can do something though for sure
@@CourtneyRyan Of course since every skin is unique. Some basic tips would be nice :)
@@30SecondsToRini Go to a dermatologist. He/She will answer all of your questions.
@@martinpankov2736 You're right. It is just a bit problematic to get an appointment at a dermatologist, at least where I live
Ditching dairy is one of the best things we can do for health, including skin health!
Super suggestions. Not manipulative. These are ways to connect and allow oneself to get to know someone genuinely. Nice work & thanks!
Ya know. More than anything, I think I enjoy this channel and am willing to take your words to heart since you (and your girlfriends) seem to have a good head on your shoulders. I'm looking forward to the next video and thanks for helping me be a better version of myself!
I'm glad to hear this said by a level-headed woman; at the same time, it's disappointing to think I've dated so many DUDS for females, as none of them seemed to appreciate ANY of these things. Hell...I even found out 3 were badmouthing me precisely because I did treat them like a gentlemen--but the one girl that had gone out with me and enjoyed our date was the one that told me.
We can only hope these tips will help others, although I fear people in general are getting FAR too shallow and materialistic--because I see less and less real desire to communicate between the sexes--and more of a "can you make me see stars" mentality.
By the way, I've never thought any of your videos that I've seen have seemed manipulative at all; in fact, I've found them refreshingly open. Thank you!
Yes that's the problem. Even if half of this advice is correct, it's "outdated" in the sense that ppl are just becoming backwards animals who worship pleasure over intimacy.
Speaking of compliments, I have to give you one! You make my day whenever you upload a new video! It's like being in a class I wasn't able to be in, and I've been keeping every lesson in mind every day of my life. P.S. You make a great teacher.
I'll give another, besides good topics...I really like listening to that calming voice. So refreshing from mostly loud or high pitch strange ones.
I really dont know why i keep watching these when i dont care about dating anymore 😂
become invisible when you meet her, no story, no past no future, just you and the girl. trust me you gonna love women in a whole new fresh way. have no intention, no fixed idea about where the relationship will go, nothing nothing nothing. even the identity of you being "ugly" or "handsome" or "Average" looking guy remove it also, be empty when you meet her and see what happens. your mind will be blown away because the universe supports you, the universe wants you connect to the best possible mutual attraction, you just caught in your mind all this damn time. all the women you wished to get, are waiting for you.
QUESTION YALL!! skip these details if you want:
So this woman, who is generally professional in a formal way, however acts more 'normal' like an introvert. She was my Counselor for a 4 week program on career growth and she was very helpful with editing my resume and stuff. Over time she started to show signs of interest and attraction, has said i'm "adorable, there's something about him" to my aunt(who also is a counselor there) and i only know this because she told my dad, who told me. This happened on the last day of the 4 week program. On the same day, she's asked that I come in again Dec 1 at 11am to go over a job I recently got accepted to(currently still in the process so i havent started working yet). The morning I showed up, she did her makeup/hair and looked better than I've seen her look during the 4 weeks I've known her(maybe coincidence? Idk). She was also still acting herself, however more kind than usual & would try to be more helpful than necessary(Example. she offered water and wished she had some food for me, cuz I mentioned I had a busy morning), and overall just acted a little weird(in a good way imo)... also btw, we would text(business-wise), but overtime even her ways of texting me changed, by adding '!' to her sentences and would also overall sound slightly more personal in text messages(Ex. "if you want help with editing email, please let me know!" "Happy to help!" etc.)
Currently, I'm awaiting on another text message from her because, that same morning, she said she'll check in with me next week to see how the job is going.
Bottom line, she was being my career counselor during the 4 week program, but now she's being more like a mentor to me who plans on keeping in touch throughout my life, respectfully.
I started liking this woman around the time she started showing interest and attracting towards me(not because of it, however). I'm 24y/o and she's like 4-5 years older than me, and it's normal for me to like a woman at least months older than me, but not years. She's one of the most mature and smart woman I've ever met, but she's also similar to me as were both introverted and not-so-bright(we dont laugh easily, we dont show expressiveness so easily, but were not boring either, and we both act confident with ourselves, and were are both kind, however she generally likes to act less personal & more professional than me)
My question is,
I want to ask her out, but professionally I am her client, and she is my counselor, so how can I ask her out without ruining what we have going so far? My gut tells me it's going very well and she's only waiting for me to make a move,, but the only problem is she's not giving me and OBVIOUS sign. So while I feel confident she's attracted & likes me at all, it's not objectively confirmed.
Again sry for the long speech & question. Feel free to be brutally honest w me.
Courtney is such a cool 🐥. I've really learned a lot about girl-mechanics, which I'm miserably clueless about, from Courtney. Courtney is like that one sister I never had.
How to get a woman to think about you:
- do a fart around her to impress her
- forget how to speak
- say that you forgot everything
- fall down every time she passes by you
And #5 - Ask her if she can pay for dinner as you left your wallet in your room at your parents house.
Yes fart around her constantly! Everybody loves their own brand and she loves your brand as well
also tell her youre a philathropist
@@Iansguitarstuff
@@whyyeseyec always works
"Women are incredibly attentive to detail" Unless they are doing shady shit behind your back. Then a simple question like, "So what did you do Friday night?" Becomes an amnesia filled Alzheimer response with zero detail. Lol
I've been watching your videos...For a young woman you have such an understanding of having a healthy relationship...
Being a 53 yr old....I'm still learning
So this one may be a long time coming but it’s timing is inspired by your talk here.
My 23 year old son walked into the living room one day while I was watching one of your videos. After watching a bit with me, he said wow dad…shocker you are listening to the super attractive woman giving relationship advice. I had to pause. I actually hadn’t really even thought of you as attractive or anything like that. I asked him what he meant and he pointed out all of your physical attributes as a 23 year old young man might, though he was respectful. After acknowledging his observations and agreeing, it occurred to me, I had really never seen these things. I have watched maybe 30-40 of your videos and was pleased that it was your brain power, insights and delivery which drew me in. So, thank you for all of those things and allowing a guy to appreciate a smart and wise woman for the things she is, other than just a pretty face which we really play no part in making.
Noti gang. Let’s go Brandon!
Woohooo
Ngl 3/5 of these screams nice guy. These may work with women who are marriage minded but most women will string or make men jump thru hoops. Most women have had ONS and fwbs. Despite how much you despise the manipulation, there is always a game to be played. In fact, it starts with the girl putting on makeup.
Dont apologize for just because, tell her "no" when you need, tease her, make fun of her is she acts goofy, call her on her bullshit. She have enough simps in her dms, no need for another one.
For real. Are you saying Courtney is full of shit?
@@Filthy_Larry It's very basic tips for guys in teens/early 20's who have no experience. Not necessary full of shit, but that's not how attraction works.
@@Laurius57 it’s bullshit. When I was in my 20’s, we had to watch out for women like Courtney. They can drive a man to suicide
@@Filthy_Larry She mentioned dating bad boys and now found nice guy Teddy. But have to give kudos for her covering Matt Cross, Todd Valentine and Richard Cooper videos. She has her bad boy phaze, wake up before it's too late and now is somewhat redpill aware.
@@Laurius57 that’s what I’m talking about. She’s not what she seems. Courtney is damaged goods. She couldn’t resist the bad boys. Now she has a soy boy to control. You just can’t trust women. Especially Courtney.
I live in Australia and I love learning how women feel so a big thank you Courtney for putting yourself out there you’re a big help to struggling 56 year old men like myself 😀
Thanks for being straightforward and honest. You set yourself apart from others.
Women think about women nonstop not men.
Lol this is true a lot of the time
@@CourtneyRyan I’m sorry to say that. This is why I started seeing men
This sounds like a friend zone list.
She’s on point with the advice. You must not date good looking women. These are the basics she’s dishing out. Being a beta simp is what lands you in the friend zone.
@some goon what being on your purpose and not making some girl front and center in your life is simping?? She telling you to have a life and the girl should be the compliment to your life, not the center of attention. Maybe you should watch again.
No bro she is not, it's just how you imagine how you approach yourself to a women, level up your game bro
Show her your ATM receipt
Or your bank account balance 😂
😅😅😅😅😅
As always, great video. Some comparative notes from me:
Being attentive - Very true. I think that when a person actually remembers what the girl is saying, you follow up. I think that using syllogism helps with this. I try to remember three things that she says, and I actually work on those three things to better get to know and understand her. What I get in return, is her knowing that I am interested, and that I care about her thoughts, opinions and interests. One doesn't need to SIMP to accomplish this.
Gentleman - There are times, where I might over-do this, where there is a point where I am insistent on opening the door, pulling open the chair, standing as she enters the room, etc. This is something that I am raised upon doing, however. I find that if you show that you *naturally* show your customary ways, that it shines better, than just being chivalrous.
No physical compliments - I ESPECIALLY AGREE WITH THIS! While there are subtle ways to acknowledge that she's pretty? I often find that if you acknowledge a person's character? Her inner-strength? She remembers that. To find inner-worth and assessing and selecting upon that, shows that you're not shallow, and that you really value that person.
Trying something new: This can be hard in Cleveland, but it's something that if you engage per seasonal events, can grow bonds stronger than just heading to the bars and nightlife. Because let's be real: Heading to West 6th every week isn't doing anyone any favors (You already know what I mean by this!).
Last Week Me & My GF of 5 years have called it a day.Her Choice lost feelings!! I was mature about it and said she needs to be happy.
This also happened in Feb 2021 and wanted me back in July 2021…Which we did.Her hysterectomy Op in 2020 change her,Sent her in to early menopause. I really hope this turns around!!
Complimenting a women like "Oh, you are so smart." So, basically, you want us to lie.
Watched this 2 years ago, got married a year and a half ago.
It's interesting to see how this changed after marriage.
I used to look her directly in the eyes on the date and she knew she had my 100% attention.
After marriage I kept catching myself talking when she just wasn't listening that was annoying.
Then other times I found she would just talk to talk and when I'd ask deeper questions I found she didn't really care about what she was saying.
But the final lesson was that she is very comfortable in my presence and it's not so much about the deep connection day to day, but rather existing comfortably together as life partners. She's so comfortable that she speaks without worry of judgement
Because she's the boss and you're the simp..
I dont know if it's going to make a woman think about you non stop but I think these are good points. I had not been in dating for a while but met a girl I really liked a lot and from lack of experience fucked it up but from there learned a lot and this is helpful too. I think the other thing I would mention is that it's like anything else you need to practice and get out there. Don't be afraid to have dates and make mistakes too or have them not go so well. Not everyone is going to jive well. Also is opportunity to learn something new and grow. Attitude is everything no matter what you are learning. Thank you for the video this was helpful.
love the way you keep it clean and no mental games
This is great info that i already know. My problem is the idea that a woman may expect this stuff continually. After a while its just exhausting trying to endlessly impress someone to keep them in your life. Its unsustainable to stay at the fantastic guy level. The idea that a person has to be near idolized just to have something that resembles acceptance and companionship is pretty daunting and eventually is just empty and exhausting. Talk about keeping a guy interested, like, have a personality and be stable and committed.
Courtney, you come off as so genuine and earnest-it is so appreciated-thank you!!
I'm not into dating market anymore, I just want to live my life, only got one. Whatever happens will happen, I don’t care anymore
I like how you said you dont like people “tricking someone or getting out you comf zone” at the end of the day just to try to please one girl
You are literally the most intelligent, graceful, authentic female RUclipsr I've ever seen 💁🏼♂️ now that i know of you, and the type of female i would love to have ... it's discouraging knowing i won't find another Courtney in life as I'm sure you are one of a kind 🥰 that being said, thank you for showing me there is someone like you in existence !
There are other girls that are nice and intelligent. It's not always easy to find, but I'm sure you will stumble upon one of them and she will like you back. It's just a question of time. 🙂
Oh my god shut up dude