@surprisedpikachu As a woman I can confirm this, the man's looks and more importantly his height is way more important to me than this body language stuff.
Sunday morning 21 November 2021. 1. Good posture. Sit up straight, shoulders back, chest out! 2. Open body language. Be aware of the situation. A good one is to drive with left hand on the steering wheel and right hand on the back of the seat. 3. Eye contact. 4. Making small adjustments. Fix hair, adjust coat or tie. Be carful about this one, don't fidget. 5. Let loose on your shoulders, a little sway while walking. Thanks Courtney!
I just want to let you know that the shoulder thing is real. I've been on a few dates recently and I would say 3/4 of the women that I went out with actually mentioned my shoulders to me. I thought it was weird at first. But now it just helps me walk more confidently. Hope that helps someone.
Thank you courtney, one of Jordan Peterson's 12 rules is "to stand up straight with your shoulders back"... it is a small trick but it really helps with my confidence.
@@gargantuangoose9098 You must be sexist. She's literally in the self-improvement business and you fucking think she doesn't know who Jordan Peterson is?
Even if it's not about attracting women, i have started implementing me these and internally, I notice that I feel more confident and attractive in myself. I think it's good to start doing it for yourself first. You have better conversations with people whether you find them attractive or not. And you will naturally feel more relaxed and have a good time.
Can confirm brother. I actually started implementing these things like 4-5 months ago without even realizing it, and I guarantee you I'm a totally different person right now.
Also walking : dont walk to fast. Slow and easy just relaxed. Walking too fast is like if you are hiding away or running away from women. Take a breath relax walk in a relaxed pace.
before i start watching this video, i just wanna thank you for all your content (fun fact: i'm about to strt listening to the video while i'm working out)
I like how this 20 something year old woman dating coach used a photo of a 53 year old man to show masculine ... truth be told, I've never felt more like a man than my 40's and now early 50's..
Shoulders - lol - Courtney - I have had many women, yes, even at work, back when there was an "office" just GRAB my shoulder... I couldn't understand why, but it's just hilarious like they just GRAB onto you randomly... Never really thought about it before til now.
Last month, I was the lead actor in a dramatic theater production, my first ever play. Many people who saw the performances (all women, now that I reflect on it) told me afterwards how much they noticed my body language. There were lots of times when I wasn’t saying a word but a facial expression, a look, or just how I positioned myself relative to the other actors on stage without saying a word was very noticed by people out in the audience 20 or 30 feet away from the stage. This wasn’t just once, I heard this from three or four different performances. So there is definitely a lot of visual power in position and movement even when you’re not saying anything.
I was watching your "Why Aren't People Satisfied" video yesterday, and combined with this video, it explains why younger people are so depressed, anxious, melancholy, etc. It because you're all slouching. When you put your head down you automatically put yourself in a submissive body position which demotes lack of confidence, which is not only bad for your mental health but your physical health as well. And many people aren't consciously aware of this, but they tend to slouch every time they stare into their cell phones when scrolling their texts, phone calls, Facebook feeds, etc. You're absolutely right about body posture, and while simply sitting up straight with your shoulders spread across and your head up facing forward isn't going to cure depression, it will absolutely change your mood and your state of mind, not to mention take pressure off your neck and shoulders.
I disagree with it making you more "submissive" I personally walk,sit, stand with a slight slouch and in jobs iv had over the years the lead person really on me and my opinions to do things/ make decisions. If I was viewed as "submissive" they wouldnt bother asking my opinions on things when I'm not in a management roll at all
@@lockonstratos7787 I feel like it makes you look submissive. That doesn’t mean you are submissive. I’m sure you’ve proved yourself more than enough brotha! Keep on keepin on
Eye contact is something I struggle with a ton! For many years, I've had too many scream "STOP LOOKING AT ME!" People are nuts. I'm actually working on it
Long story short, I was a shy kid/guy back then, didn't make a lot of eyecontact, but i'm not sure what made me change it, but for me now, I can make/keep eyecontact with people, when talking/listing.
as someone who also struggled (still struggles) with this, start with someone you know, maybe even a person on the screen like Courntey here... not in terms of staring contest, but pretend you have a conversation with a youtube person talking into their camera and try to hold eye contact for a bit. What also can help is a relaxed setting and do not actually stare right into the eyes, if it gets boring or tedious, you can also fixate on a point slightly below or beneath or next to the eyes of the person in front of you, sort of like with a webcam. they sometimes have a little dot or something to help you look into or next to the camera. same principle. I think what helps in a conversation is holding eye contact while listening and when it is your turn to speak, you can maybe use your hands for gestures or let your eyes wander around when maybe explaining something, this is sort of your pause time where you are allowed to look away. Maybe not for all the time, try to establish eye contact later again, but that way it may be less awkward than just staring the entire time. But also that can be really interesting, especially with strangers... I mean there are all sorts of challenges around like who blinks first, who can hold the longest and so on, and especially when you start to wander and for example stare at the lips instead, this can get really electrifying and sensual even.
I have always had trouble getting to a first date, but after that I was good. I have been unknowingly doing all of these things. Great advise Miss Courtney as always.
I went from dad bod to shredded V tapered look in 7 months which has boosted my confidence level and in turn i automatically adopted this kind of body language. I get A LOT more attention from women as opposed to when I wasn't as fit. The physical look only gets your foot in the door though, so to speak, it's maybe 10% of my "swag". The other 90% stems from an abundance mentality that comes with all of the attention. If you add a few qualities to your mentality, outlook, and physical nature (body language) you can keep the attention of a woman a lot longer than what your physique can achieve. Remember, looks only gets your foot in the door. These qualities include, but are not limited to; relaxed, care free, abundance, self entertained/amused, energetic, stoic, strong eye contact, unyielding frame.
Morals, principles, code of honour etc is another one that matters. Having your own opinions, and courage in your convictions, is another good one, even if you piss women off with them. For example, I oppose abortion (especially when it is used as a form of contraception for irresponsible couples), and I stand by that opinion, even if it makes women mad. And yet, women, no matter how much they get triggered, always end up respecting me for sticking to my guns and refusing to back down. In many cases, you can use the angry butthurt women as a springboard to bounce off, to impress the more attractive ones. Show them that you are not going to back down, no matter how much they try to bully and shame you for your thought crimes, and other women will look at you and see a guy with a big pair of balls. Because many men will tell women what they want to hear, because they are ingratiating and begging for approval. So if you show women that you can think for yourself and have your own opinions, that you are no pushover, and that you will stand your ground and fight for what you believe in, they will be impressed, because they will see you as a real man, not a supplicating simp.
@@zalamael True, but it's a balancing act too. Sure, you should have strong and personal opinions and principles no matter to whom you interact with. Showing a I-will-not-change-for-anyone attitude does not automatically attract any pretty girl however, they may sometimes just dislike for your opinions. Sometimes being open and flexible about things can have a desired effect of respect from the other person, yet not becoming a pushover, like you said.
Hi Courtney. I want to thank you for caring about us men succeeding with ladies. I love your mindset, especially the 2%er things you've said. I find you thorough in your presentations. If I go on dates again, at least I'll know what I'm getting into from now on.
Body language is one of the very first things a woman will notice about you when you approach her (to ask her out). And one of the most important things you need, is confidence. If you are confident, your body language will radiate it, and women will pick up on it, in the way you walk, the way you sit, how relaxed you are, how you hold eye contact etc. The best advice I could give a young guy who hasn't got a clue how to go about making himself more attractive, is to learn martial arts. Whether it is boxing, MMA, thai boxing etc, learn a fighting art, so you can learn to defend yourself. Being able to handle yourself in a fight, is a guaranteed method of increasing your confidence. And it will come with additional bonuses if you take it seriously, such as developing a lean, athletic body (which is also highly attractive to women). And if you want to level up even more, learn to dance (such as Salsa etc). Having the confidence to be able to dance with a woman, will have them flocking to you. I don't do Salsa, my music is Electro Swing, and I can dance fairly well to it. Whenever I get up and dance, I often get women coming over to me asking if I will dance with them. It is a great way of putting yourself out there and getting women to come to you, rather than being invisible and having to make the first move.
Good tips! Good posture is important for so many reasons, ranging from being more attractive, to affecting your mental health ("Stand Up Straight w/ Your Shoulders Back" Jordan Peterson Rule #1). Your perspective on small adjustments was interesting ot hear someone mention, because when people talk about preening, it's often in relation to helping guys pick up on signs of interest from girls.
There is something that can be said for what your physique says about you. However- Never EVER underestimate what cannot be developed in a gym or on a floor mat. Its an inner quality: Confidence. Confidence from within most definately enhances the positive impression of you in the eyes of others. (And don't confuse an overinflated ego with true confidence. The former will only alienate you from others). I made up my mind to take steps to improve my health and wellbeing. I made drastic changes to my diet, eating wholesome healthy food. I exercised regularly. I felt better, slept better, my cognition greatly improved as did my overall mood. Of course my physical appearance changed for the better. It goes without saying women around me took notice and before long sometimes I noticed they would turn around and glance at me as I walked past them. But it wasn't their attention that was my main motivation for doing do. I was doing it for MYSELF. If anyone else took notice of any changes in me, that was secondary, and I am sure probably most didn't. No concern for me. I just kept it moving on my personal agenda for self improvement. I have learned that when you Invest in yourself and dont worry about trying to catch the attention of women around you, sooner or later, It is inevitable that they will take notice of you. What you do from there is up to you. But continue on your path to self improvement.
This is another helpful gem Courtney. It's crazy that us guys and women aren't taught this at a younger age. One thing i do when in public is i present a kind, friendly energy. I always smile or look approachable. It's naturally how i am. I'll also greet people too with a friendly hi. I definitely had to work on my posture and eye contact. As i get older, that and the open body language part becomes more natural for me. Thanks for telling me about the one arm thing. You rock and i wish you a lovely day/rest of the weekend my friend 😊🙌🌻
It's important to understand that putting on the "mask" of confidence by adopting these habits, they can help a little bit to decrease anxiety. BUT.....but.....it's no substitute for doing the work it takes to actually gain true confidence or reflect genuine interest in a woman.
I implement some of these into my life, made some changes to my style! And i got mistaken for an employee at 7 different stores at the local shopping mall where i live 🤣🤣
All of the female advice on dating is always about how to adapt to what the woman wants. if you have to do that regardless she's not for you. Let her find whatever guy she wants and go on about your life
The men on here are feeding into these "mind games" way to much smh😆 My man, DO NOT CHASE, SWEAT, OR SHOW THIRST no matter what or who lol. Be poised and move fluidly and TAKE YOUR TIME like men do. Be poised. Be confident and self-reliant when in large crowds (especially), and hold your own. You must be attractive, be about your business and have goals (long and short), and own your word, get your appearance together (stay well groomed and be versatile in your wardrobe, suits to urban to casual-for all occasions. They love a man that's versatile), show that your intelligent, and have some paper💵 lol. Educate yourself and speak intelligently, while projecting your voice. Besides, if she's NOT feeling you or is uninterested for whatever the reason (Keep in mind it's not you most times and remember she has personal issues as well, so don't take the cold shoulder seriously, because these chicks is TWISTED🥴 anyway zun smh), and it does NOT MATTER HOW MUCH these videos suggest you portray a certain way to be, she's made up her mind the first 5 minutes about you. Let these popoffs's sweat you, champ. I'm 54, so trust me on this. Am I right, gorgeous Nilla Wafer?😏🌹🍷 Stay strong men...🥂💪🏾✊🏾💯💯💯
You know why women date a lot of jerks? Cause they don't follow any rules or tips, including these. Confidence comes from recognizing self worth, by valuing yourself. Its not a list of behaviors its a mindset. A truly confident man is not concerned with posture or eye contact or shoulder positioning, he does what he wants, what he feels and doesn't apologize for it. I know that she's trying to help but she is unknowingly leading these boys astray, grooming them for the friendzone.
I decided to follow you for a little bit and fact Is a man should not have to learn from someone how to be a man, sometimes I slouch it’s because I am looking at something on a computer screen or lean in to listen to a conversation. Good hygiene, good body language should be practiced because those things are for personal confidence not necessarily for women.
Courtney, could you please make a video about helpful tips for men with Asperger's Syndrome and/or ADHD when it comes to attracting women? While I do many of the things mentioned in this video, I struggle with body language and eye contact because of my condition.
You come off as someone who truly gives honest insight and you actually care about guys and want to see them succeed. There's more good guys out there than bad. You throw a rope out there to the good ones. God bless you sweets.
*Thinking about putting my arm behind the lady's seat* Well driving my stick shift is going to get interesting... Love the videos Courtney and glad to see your channel growing! You'll hit that quarter million in no time.
What she imagines when she says those things is the Handsome Guy, and not your ugly/average face. Handsome Guy doesn't need to do anything he just simply need to exist and yeah it's not about personality so if you're smart you gonna realize what i mean
Watched another body language video that mentioned shoulders too, so I did an experiment on my date a few nights ago. Wore a good-fighting shirt that is nice at my shoulders, paid attention to keeping them back but loose the entire date. When we were making out while saying goodnight n the parking lot, guess what; her hands went right up to my shoulders and she caressed them for most of the time Was pretty nice!
You almost bought me to tears. You said my life. It messed me up. I didn't understand until Kevin Samuels said something about it. It made me get a therapist. It helped me see clearly. Thank you Ms Rivah.
Alright, time to practice these steps on Courtney 😂. On a serious note, these are things that other ladies have mentioned when I’ve asked what led to the attractiveness as time went on. When all these characteristics come natural it helps greatly.
It does help, but confidence has to real instead of logically thinking about how to stand makes you look weird. Honestly, these body language tips work best when other men are around and don’t have good body language. Your good body language makes you look more alpha and that’s what women are attracted to the alpha male. That’s the one secret that most of these people don’t tell you.
Speaking with a little bit of masculine depth in your voice is always great too. Not really “body language,” but I think chicks take note of that. As always, great tips Courtney.
If you ain’t got the pretty eyes and the pretty face, all of these amount to absolutely nothing. Without the pretty eyes and the pretty face you are VERY resistible, in fact you are INVISIBLE. Chase excellence, not women.
@@westonpm My friend, without the pretty eyes and the pretty face YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTIVE. Without the pretty eyes and the pretty face you will be dismissed in a split second, you’re not worth a second glance. You probably got the pretty eyes and the pretty fave, and so it’s hard for you to accept what i’m saying here. Your face defines your place in a woman’s mind. Shallow and simplistic, i know, but is true.
@@HolyRainbowism That's true in some ways man, I don't dispute that. Just meaning, it's not entirely true. There are ways to focus on the things that can change, which make it less true. Know what I'm saying? Similar to IQ; one can't change the genetic dice roll, yet they can hack their lack, with hard work and perseverance.
I asked the girl I like (it was in person) to talk through text but mainly meet in person outside of work for walks or something similar. Any advice or first text options? First time I've ever done this, I want to just ask her stuff and talk but don't want to come off as to forward or random. Thing like why or how she learned to cook so many things or her taste in specific things? Please any advice is appreciated.
Bottled farts!? I second your motion to give this person more ear and attention. But Bottled farts? Does that person yeet the bottle into the ocean after bottleing the gut spirits, in hopes to summon a fish or is it like a wish kinda thing, like shooting a star😅😅😅 hekon wondering this situation of fart bottleing girl. Just why? Maybe it's for navigation purposes? If she were to light the Bottled fart, kinda like an oil lamp? What's done in the dark come to light?😅😅😅
I just hope to never come in contact with that particular brand of bottle. Popping that bottle would probly clear a football field. Imagine what the person would smell like.
Yea he might have all the qualities - body language, confidence, wit etc, but if he is ugly ...(in my eyes ) then hit the road pal. New relationships are about physical attraction!!
I have built a habit of doing all of these even subconsciously already (except for one) and I agree, these are all true! I like to think I can tell whenever I walk more confidently but I have never paid attention to my shoulders. That’s my takeaway from this video.
Let me tell you something miss.. I'm from the hood and believe me the game has taught me all the shwag I need .. your teaching nerds or something....😂😂😂😂
You can dress really nice and have your hair perfect or whatever and do whatever and do whatever body language you want but if she's not atttracted to you it's already doomed
Ms Ryan, thank you again & that part about the eyes & the staring was soooo funny, made me laugh so hard. All of your knowledge & skills have been & are so extremely helpful to me. This is such an amazing channel. Thank you...
It’s like that phenomenon, when you get a new jacket that you love., When it’s new you get looks. But when you’ve worn it a couple of times no one’s looking anymore. This has always kind of baffeled me, since the women probably don’t know if it’s brand new or if you have had it for a week. It’s probably not the new jacket that get the looks, as much as my body language when i’m wearing something brand new.
I like the James Bond thumbnail 👍 Body Language is very much underestimated.These tips are awesome and you look like you’re about to hit the GYM after the video is done 💯👌 Great Video Courtney! And I Love your work ethic so much, I appreciate the time and effort you do to do your research to give us the right advice we should be using instead of telling us what we need to hear and not what we want to hear 💯🙏🏽 much Respect and Love ❤️🙏🏽
I know all of these. But i dont do it because i dont want to attract people. Its not that i want people to look me bad. But i just want to keep people at arms length. Because for me my problem is I can attract people pretty easily men and women and i dont want this unwanted attention all the time. I just wanted sit in a corner like a normal person minding my own business but most of the time thats not the case.I dont know why but people seems like magnet always gravitated towards me. Its annoying.Please leave me alone take a hint.
"I am sitting here with bad posture and you probably noticed" - trust me when I tell you NOBODY here even thought about your posture ever in any of your videos
I agree with Everything. I've been trying to practice eye contact but Adhd can get in the way. At that point, I'd just let them know so they wouldn't get the wrong idea... Plus, when you said loosen up your shoulders, I did a dance to loosen them up... surprisingly it worked 😂
I'm just boring because I don't like to talk a lot or hold a long conversation... it's just exhausting. It's like after 5-10 min of talking, it's too much... I lose girls after 2-3 dates.
You know Gents....."This little Blueberry Lemon scone is hawt"...what is her nationality?...No I will not invest time in finding out - I know there are faithful followers on this forum.....Let's have it lads....what's her nationality? - Thanks
@surprisedpikachu she’s a relationship hustler just like the rest of these content creators man , she says the same talking points as the rest of them ….. MALE or FEMALE.
@surprisedpikachu you took the words right out of my mouth 😂😂😂😂😂, no offense but he’s beyond goofy, nerdy as all hell , they don’t even look like they would even be together.
Lol, I've heard the words "relaxed" and "calm" like 50000 thousand times in this video, what are the antonyms to "relaxed" and "calm"? Thats what Im 24/7.
Personally, I'd say the guys I tend to notice look more 'relaxed' than 'confident.' Like just chillin and enjoying where you're at. Mfs that take themselves too seriously give me the ick.
Sitting up straight, not slouching, and keeping your chin up has so much that is backed by psychology. Read 12 rules for life, an antidote to chaos by Jordan Peterson. I believe it’s the first rule. It’s so cool it’s got the psychology, uplifting words, lobsters, it’s just great!
This is very smart advice. It's weird but it's helped so much. A lot of this is from a woman. She's telling us what she wants. I feel so silly not knowing I was being hit on so many times while doing all of this lol.
wth..I'm doing everything wrong..how did i ever got a gal to like me is beyond me now.. I have posture that says...I don't really care.. my body language is probably ok.. and eye contact is ok too..maybe even creepy.. I never make small adjustment...cuz I literally don't care for appearances for some reason..and I do prefer ladies who are low on the makeup..and wearing for comfort more than appearance..and can talk about deep topics and have compelling opinions and hobbies... shoulders are fine..I guess.. am I the gal inside ?
1:10 Good posture.
2:07 Open body language.
3:32 Eye contact.
5:12 Making small adjustments.
5:52 Let loose on your shoulders.
ty bro
Thanks Raghav
MVP here
Many thanks,cheers
@surprisedpikachu As a woman I can confirm this, the man's looks and more importantly his height is way more important to me than this body language stuff.
Courtney Ryan: “Loose shoulders.”
*Me walking like Conor Mcgregor doing his loose shoulder warmup routine
"All these beautiful women flocking to you, an you have no idea why"
Courtney, it HAS to be the dad bod and the crocs/socks combo
😂 totally
"sigmale dresscode" *badass music start's playing*
my half-sister made comments about my composure and dick size
Oh yes, that combination drives the ladies wild 😆.
You won’t be able to keep any thing off you with the croc/sock combo.
Sunday morning 21 November 2021.
1. Good posture. Sit up straight, shoulders back, chest out!
2. Open body language. Be aware of the situation. A good one is to drive with left hand on the steering wheel and right hand on the back of the seat.
3. Eye contact.
4. Making small adjustments. Fix hair, adjust coat or tie. Be carful about this one, don't fidget.
5. Let loose on your shoulders, a little sway while walking.
Thanks Courtney!
I just want to let you know that the shoulder thing is real. I've been on a few dates recently and I would say 3/4 of the women that I went out with actually mentioned my shoulders to me. I thought it was weird at first. But now it just helps me walk more confidently. Hope that helps someone.
I concur 💯 !
Shoulder press is key.
@@Imran-Lalani 💯
@@Imran-Lalani bro he said let loose of shoulder not gain shoulder muscle
@@creamofthecrop5868 😂
Eye flirting is cute but don’t ever expect anything more
More than likely, she just wants attention
Thank you courtney, one of Jordan Peterson's 12 rules is "to stand up straight with your shoulders back"... it is a small trick but it really helps with my confidence.
I’d be shocked if she knows who JP is
@@gargantuangoose9098 he is just a pop intellectual who prefers doing videos instead of writing serious papers at academic level
@@gargantuangoose9098 You must be sexist. She's literally in the self-improvement business and you fucking think she doesn't know who Jordan Peterson is?
@@carlosr944 and he knows what hes talking about
@carlosr944 At least he's helping people have better lives.
Even if it's not about attracting women, i have started implementing me these and internally, I notice that I feel more confident and attractive in myself. I think it's good to start doing it for yourself first. You have better conversations with people whether you find them attractive or not. And you will naturally feel more relaxed and have a good time.
Can confirm brother. I actually started implementing these things like 4-5 months ago without even realizing it, and I guarantee you I'm a totally different person right now.
Also walking : dont walk to fast. Slow and easy just relaxed. Walking too fast is like if you are hiding away or running away from women.
Take a breath relax walk in a relaxed pace.
before i start watching this video, i just wanna thank you for all your content (fun fact: i'm about to strt listening to the video while i'm working out)
So happy to help! Thanks for being here!
I like how this 20 something year old woman dating coach used a photo of a 53 year old man to show masculine ... truth be told, I've never felt more like a man than my 40's and now early 50's..
Ok!!! I'm 45yrs...RIGHTEOUSNESS👔🌹!!!
Agree. 40's and 50's are the most masculine men
Game recognize game
Dope
Ummm she's 41 years old .... she says it in video#235? Lmao
The most attractive thing is having money.🤣🤣
Shoulders - lol - Courtney - I have had many women, yes, even at work, back when there was an "office" just GRAB my shoulder... I couldn't understand why, but it's just hilarious like they just GRAB onto you randomly... Never really thought about it before til now.
Must've been a nice confidence boost
Last month, I was the lead actor in a dramatic theater production, my first ever play. Many people who saw the performances (all women, now that I reflect on it) told me afterwards how much they noticed my body language. There were lots of times when I wasn’t saying a word but a facial expression, a look, or just how I positioned myself relative to the other actors on stage without saying a word was very noticed by people out in the audience 20 or 30 feet away from the stage. This wasn’t just once, I heard this from three or four different performances. So there is definitely a lot of visual power in position and movement even when you’re not saying anything.
I was watching your "Why Aren't People Satisfied" video yesterday, and combined with this video, it explains why younger people are so depressed, anxious, melancholy, etc. It because you're all slouching. When you put your head down you automatically put yourself in a submissive body position which demotes lack of confidence, which is not only bad for your mental health but your physical health as well. And many people aren't consciously aware of this, but they tend to slouch every time they stare into their cell phones when scrolling their texts, phone calls, Facebook feeds, etc. You're absolutely right about body posture, and while simply sitting up straight with your shoulders spread across and your head up facing forward isn't going to cure depression, it will absolutely change your mood and your state of mind, not to mention take pressure off your neck and shoulders.
How you gonna talk about good posture making me read a book like this lol
Then again, if you don't look at a woman, you can't be accused of sexual harrassment
I disagree with it making you more "submissive" I personally walk,sit, stand with a slight slouch and in jobs iv had over the years the lead person really on me and my opinions to do things/ make decisions. If I was viewed as "submissive" they wouldnt bother asking my opinions on things when I'm not in a management roll at all
@@lockonstratos7787 I feel like it makes you look submissive. That doesn’t mean you are submissive. I’m sure you’ve proved yourself more than enough brotha! Keep on keepin on
That and face diapers.
Eye contact is something I struggle with a ton! For many years, I've had too many scream "STOP LOOKING AT ME!" People are nuts.
I'm actually working on it
Long story short, I was a shy kid/guy back then, didn't make a lot of eyecontact, but i'm not sure what made me change it, but for me now, I can make/keep eyecontact with people, when talking/listing.
😂😂
@@CourtneyRyan You int ish for this response, lmaoooo
as someone who also struggled (still struggles) with this, start with someone you know, maybe even a person on the screen like Courntey here... not in terms of staring contest, but pretend you have a conversation with a youtube person talking into their camera and try to hold eye contact for a bit. What also can help is a relaxed setting and do not actually stare right into the eyes, if it gets boring or tedious, you can also fixate on a point slightly below or beneath or next to the eyes of the person in front of you, sort of like with a webcam. they sometimes have a little dot or something to help you look into or next to the camera. same principle. I think what helps in a conversation is holding eye contact while listening and when it is your turn to speak, you can maybe use your hands for gestures or let your eyes wander around when maybe explaining something, this is sort of your pause time where you are allowed to look away. Maybe not for all the time, try to establish eye contact later again, but that way it may be less awkward than just staring the entire time. But also that can be really interesting, especially with strangers... I mean there are all sorts of challenges around like who blinks first, who can hold the longest and so on, and especially when you start to wander and for example stare at the lips instead, this can get really electrifying and sensual even.
I have always had trouble getting to a first date, but after that I was good. I have been unknowingly doing all of these things. Great advise Miss Courtney as always.
I went from dad bod to shredded V tapered look in 7 months which has boosted my confidence level and in turn i automatically adopted this kind of body language. I get A LOT more attention from women as opposed to when I wasn't as fit.
The physical look only gets your foot in the door though, so to speak, it's maybe 10% of my "swag". The other 90% stems from an abundance mentality that comes with all of the attention. If you add a few qualities to your mentality, outlook, and physical nature (body language) you can keep the attention of a woman a lot longer than what your physique can achieve. Remember, looks only gets your foot in the door. These qualities include, but are not limited to; relaxed, care free, abundance, self entertained/amused, energetic, stoic, strong eye contact, unyielding frame.
You missed the qualities of a knight
Morals, principles, code of honour etc is another one that matters. Having your own opinions, and courage in your convictions, is another good one, even if you piss women off with them. For example, I oppose abortion (especially when it is used as a form of contraception for irresponsible couples), and I stand by that opinion, even if it makes women mad. And yet, women, no matter how much they get triggered, always end up respecting me for sticking to my guns and refusing to back down.
In many cases, you can use the angry butthurt women as a springboard to bounce off, to impress the more attractive ones. Show them that you are not going to back down, no matter how much they try to bully and shame you for your thought crimes, and other women will look at you and see a guy with a big pair of balls. Because many men will tell women what they want to hear, because they are ingratiating and begging for approval. So if you show women that you can think for yourself and have your own opinions, that you are no pushover, and that you will stand your ground and fight for what you believe in, they will be impressed, because they will see you as a real man, not a supplicating simp.
@@zalamael True, but it's a balancing act too. Sure, you should have strong and personal opinions and principles no matter to whom you interact with. Showing a I-will-not-change-for-anyone attitude does not automatically attract any pretty girl however, they may sometimes just dislike for your opinions. Sometimes being open and flexible about things can have a desired effect of respect from the other person, yet not becoming a pushover, like you said.
Exactly, being a bloater is not a good look, and close to impossible to look stylish
1.Good Posture
2.Open Body Language
3.Eye Contact
4.Making small adjustments
5.Let loose on your shoulders
Best step: Go out and approach women to build core confidence instead of developing this fake-confident-persona.
Hi Courtney. I want to thank you for caring about us men succeeding with ladies. I love your mindset, especially the 2%er things you've said. I find you thorough in your presentations. If I go on dates again, at least I'll know what I'm getting into from now on.
Body language is one of the very first things a woman will notice about you when you approach her (to ask her out). And one of the most important things you need, is confidence. If you are confident, your body language will radiate it, and women will pick up on it, in the way you walk, the way you sit, how relaxed you are, how you hold eye contact etc.
The best advice I could give a young guy who hasn't got a clue how to go about making himself more attractive, is to learn martial arts. Whether it is boxing, MMA, thai boxing etc, learn a fighting art, so you can learn to defend yourself. Being able to handle yourself in a fight, is a guaranteed method of increasing your confidence. And it will come with additional bonuses if you take it seriously, such as developing a lean, athletic body (which is also highly attractive to women).
And if you want to level up even more, learn to dance (such as Salsa etc). Having the confidence to be able to dance with a woman, will have them flocking to you. I don't do Salsa, my music is Electro Swing, and I can dance fairly well to it. Whenever I get up and dance, I often get women coming over to me asking if I will dance with them. It is a great way of putting yourself out there and getting women to come to you, rather than being invisible and having to make the first move.
You shud have gotten 1k likes ✊🏾💪🏾
Even with this stare Courtney, you never look crazy! You always look beautiful. So, lucky him!
Aww thank you for your sweet words!
Good tips!
Good posture is important for so many reasons, ranging from being more attractive, to affecting your mental health ("Stand Up Straight w/ Your Shoulders Back" Jordan Peterson Rule #1).
Your perspective on small adjustments was interesting ot hear someone mention, because when people talk about preening, it's often in relation to helping guys pick up on signs of interest from girls.
The last thing any man needs is to be "irresistible to women." If that is the case, he is in for a long miserable expensive life.
There is something that can be said for what your physique says about you.
However-
Never EVER underestimate what cannot be developed in a gym or on a floor mat.
Its an inner quality:
Confidence.
Confidence from within most definately enhances the positive impression of you in the eyes of others.
(And don't confuse an overinflated ego with true confidence. The former will only alienate you from others).
I made up my mind to take steps to improve my health and wellbeing. I made drastic changes to my diet, eating wholesome healthy food.
I exercised regularly.
I felt better, slept better, my cognition greatly improved as did my overall mood.
Of course my physical appearance changed for the better.
It goes without saying women around me took notice and before long sometimes I noticed they would turn around and glance at me as I walked past them.
But it wasn't their attention that was my main motivation for doing do.
I was doing it for MYSELF.
If anyone else took notice of any changes in me, that was secondary, and I am sure probably most didn't.
No concern for me.
I just kept it moving on my personal agenda for self improvement.
I have learned that when you
Invest in yourself and dont worry about trying to catch the attention of women around you,
sooner or later,
It is inevitable that they will take notice of you.
What you do from there is up to you.
But continue on your path to self improvement.
This is another helpful gem Courtney. It's crazy that us guys and women aren't taught this at a younger age. One thing i do when in public is i present a kind, friendly energy. I always smile or look approachable. It's naturally how i am. I'll also greet people too with a friendly hi. I definitely had to work on my posture and eye contact. As i get older, that and the open body language part becomes more natural for me. Thanks for telling me about the one arm thing. You rock and i wish you a lovely day/rest of the weekend my friend 😊🙌🌻
🙌🏼🤍 you got it! Have a good one Georgio!
I love these lists because they are all literally the exact opposite of my entire being. Cool.
When women see me they run the other way 😴
It's important to understand that putting on the "mask" of confidence by adopting these habits, they can help a little bit to decrease anxiety. BUT.....but.....it's no substitute for doing the work it takes to actually gain true confidence or reflect genuine interest in a woman.
I implement some of these into my life, made some changes to my style! And i got mistaken for an employee at 7 different stores at the local shopping mall where i live 🤣🤣
All of the female advice on dating is always about how to adapt to what the woman wants. if you have to do that regardless she's not for you. Let her find whatever guy she wants and go on about your life
The men on here are feeding into these "mind games" way to much smh😆 My man, DO NOT CHASE, SWEAT, OR SHOW THIRST no matter what or who lol. Be poised and move fluidly and TAKE YOUR TIME like men do. Be poised. Be confident and self-reliant when in large crowds (especially), and hold your own. You must be attractive, be about your business and have goals (long and short), and own your word, get your appearance together (stay well groomed and be versatile in your wardrobe, suits to urban to casual-for all occasions. They love a man that's versatile), show that your intelligent, and have some paper💵 lol. Educate yourself and speak intelligently, while projecting your voice. Besides, if she's NOT feeling you or is uninterested for whatever the reason (Keep in mind it's not you most times and remember she has personal issues as well, so don't take the cold shoulder seriously, because these chicks is TWISTED🥴 anyway zun smh), and it does NOT MATTER HOW MUCH these videos suggest you portray a certain way to be, she's made up her mind the first 5 minutes about you. Let these popoffs's sweat you, champ. I'm 54, so trust me on this. Am I right, gorgeous Nilla Wafer?😏🌹🍷 Stay strong men...🥂💪🏾✊🏾💯💯💯
I have to disagree with the one about driving. Fellas always use both hands for driving, not doing it it's just stupid regardless the situation.
1 Peter 5:8
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
Really enjoyed this video! Hit the nail on the head with these 👌
This is way too fucking hard....look...just get a new Harley Low Rider S....and go ride it....be happy. Trust me on that one...
I'd also say that tone of voice is a part of body language. It's a subconscious thing that makes a massive impact on how you're perceived.
I think that my be part of the reason I might struggle with women? could you help me please and thanks?
You know why women date a lot of jerks? Cause they don't follow any rules or tips, including these. Confidence comes from recognizing self worth, by valuing yourself. Its not a list of behaviors its a mindset. A truly confident man is not concerned with posture or eye contact or shoulder positioning, he does what he wants, what he feels and doesn't apologize for it. I know that she's trying to help but she is unknowingly leading these boys astray, grooming them for the friendzone.
Dr. Livesey confirmed most attractive man ever.
I decided to follow you for a little bit and fact Is a man should not have to learn from someone how to be a man, sometimes I slouch it’s because I am looking at something on a computer screen or lean in to listen to a conversation. Good hygiene, good body language should be practiced because those things are for personal confidence not necessarily for women.
I have found whenever I carry a large pizza 🍕 in my hands . Makes me more attractive to women 😍
Courtney, could you please make a video about helpful tips for men with Asperger's Syndrome and/or ADHD when it comes to attracting women?
While I do many of the things mentioned in this video, I struggle with body language and eye contact because of my condition.
Practise
Broader shoulders is another. Would you prefer Teddy to have bigger shoulders?
How to show that you are a feminist without saying you’re a feminist? Use the word “Manspreading”.
You come off as someone who truly gives honest insight and you actually care about guys and want to see them succeed. There's more good guys out there than bad. You throw a rope out there to the good ones. God bless you sweets.
2:26
Thanks, feminism 🙄.
*Thinking about putting my arm behind the lady's seat*
Well driving my stick shift is going to get interesting...
Love the videos Courtney and glad to see your channel growing! You'll hit that quarter million in no time.
That Paul Walker/Brian O Connor Style! 😎
What she imagines when she says those things is the Handsome Guy, and not your ugly/average face.
Handsome Guy doesn't need to do anything he just simply need to exist and yeah it's not about personality so if you're smart you gonna realize what i mean
Watched another body language video that mentioned shoulders too, so I did an experiment on my date a few nights ago. Wore a good-fighting shirt that is nice at my shoulders, paid attention to keeping them back but loose the entire date. When we were making out while saying goodnight n the parking lot, guess what; her hands went right up to my shoulders and she caressed them for most of the time Was pretty nice!
Lmao boys : do this , do that , dont do that ....
Girls : just smile 🤣🤣🤣
.......and be tall, good looking, with the appearance of wealth and status. "Men display, women choose"
You almost bought me to tears. You said my life. It messed me up. I didn't understand until Kevin Samuels said something about it. It made me get a therapist. It helped me see clearly. Thank you Ms Rivah.
Alright, time to practice these steps on Courtney 😂. On a serious note, these are things that other ladies have mentioned when I’ve asked what led to the attractiveness as time went on. When all these characteristics come natural it helps greatly.
It does help, but confidence has to real instead of logically thinking about how to stand makes you look weird.
Honestly, these body language tips work best when other men are around and don’t have good body language. Your good body language makes you look more alpha and that’s what women are attracted to the alpha male. That’s the one secret that most of these people don’t tell you.
The elevator music kills me every time.
I already do these and no beautiful woman has ever flocked to me
Speaking with a little bit of masculine depth in your voice is always great too. Not really “body language,” but I think chicks take note of that.
As always, great tips Courtney.
🙌🏼 thank you!
What if she sees me, and while going through in front of me , ( she rubs her nose with thumb once )
3:07 I’ve always had a pickup with a bench seat in the front. Even after being married for 15 years, the wife still sits in the middle.
SpEAKZ'💋🌹👠♠♣♠♣LADY C'!!!
Love your material
Always precise with the topic
Always sweetheart
Thank you 🙏🏻
If you ain’t got the pretty eyes and the pretty face, all of these amount to absolutely nothing. Without the pretty eyes and the pretty face you are VERY resistible, in fact you are INVISIBLE.
Chase excellence, not women.
Don't chase, attract 🤙 Developing skills, good health and frame/awareness, attracts the rest. I wish you luck (aka, preparation meeting opportunity).
@@westonpm
My friend, without the pretty eyes and the pretty face YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTIVE. Without the pretty eyes and the pretty face you will be dismissed in a split second, you’re not worth a second glance.
You probably got the pretty eyes and the pretty fave, and so it’s hard for you to accept what i’m saying here. Your face defines your place in a woman’s mind. Shallow and simplistic, i know, but is true.
@@HolyRainbowism That's true in some ways man, I don't dispute that. Just meaning, it's not entirely true. There are ways to focus on the things that can change, which make it less true. Know what I'm saying? Similar to IQ; one can't change the genetic dice roll, yet they can hack their lack, with hard work and perseverance.
Things to do in 2021 and upcoming 2022 be a strong man have strong ideas and don't anyone take you down to their level
I asked the girl I like (it was in person) to talk through text but mainly meet in person outside of work for walks or something similar. Any advice or first text options? First time I've ever done this, I want to just ask her stuff and talk but don't want to come off as to forward or random. Thing like why or how she learned to cook so many things or her taste in specific things? Please any advice is appreciated.
Great advice without being patronizing. Love it.
Courtney seems very smart, I rather listen to her than the other girl that bottles her Farts.
Bottled farts!? I second your motion to give this person more ear and attention. But Bottled farts? Does that person yeet the bottle into the ocean after bottleing the gut spirits, in hopes to summon a fish or is it like a wish kinda thing, like shooting a star😅😅😅 hekon wondering this situation of fart bottleing girl. Just why? Maybe it's for navigation purposes? If she were to light the Bottled fart, kinda like an oil lamp? What's done in the dark come to light?😅😅😅
I just hope to never come in contact with that particular brand of bottle.
Popping that bottle would probly clear a football field. Imagine what the person would smell like.
Say it to teddy because he is a girly man
All the body language points you made, sounds exactly like who 'VIN DIESEL' is, From his 'Fast And The Furious Movie', part 1!!!
I love your sincere straight forwardness ti helo us, it's greatly appreciated! You have a beautiful personality and helpful thank you Courtney.
Courtney love from Macedonia !!!
Woman ask for a lot 😆
Fellas, point is - do all of this for YOU. Don’t do it for the validation of women. Create your honey pot, then the bees will come. 💯
Yea he might have all the qualities - body language, confidence, wit etc, but if he is ugly ...(in my eyes ) then hit the road pal. New relationships are about physical attraction!!
What do you mean by ugly ? Explain . Is it ugly in looks or ugly in personality ?
An honest woman, what planet you from
@@ALPHAIRONAI looks!!!!!!
@@angellondian7628 Not planet playboy like yours 🤫
I have built a habit of doing all of these even subconsciously already (except for one) and I agree, these are all true!
I like to think I can tell whenever I walk more confidently but I have never paid attention to my shoulders. That’s my takeaway from this video.
Let me tell you something miss.. I'm from the hood and believe me the game has taught me all the shwag I need .. your teaching nerds or something....😂😂😂😂
Courtney RyaN' is.....A' 🔥💥♠RIOT..🎭..COMEDIC
Both hands on the steering wheel at all times
You can dress really nice and have your hair perfect or whatever and do whatever and do whatever body language you want but if she's not atttracted to you it's already doomed
#2 Driving with one arm around her and one hand on the steering wheel + #3 Make eye contact = Crash! Don't do both :-)
Ms Ryan, thank you again & that part about the eyes & the staring was soooo funny, made me laugh so hard. All of your knowledge & skills have been & are so extremely helpful to me. This is such an amazing channel. Thank you...
It’s like that phenomenon, when you get a new jacket that you love., When it’s new you get looks. But when you’ve worn it a couple of times no one’s looking anymore. This has always kind of baffeled me, since the women probably don’t know if it’s brand new or if you have had it for a week. It’s probably not the new jacket that get the looks, as much as my body language when i’m wearing something brand new.
Wow people care wayyyyy too much on what others think wow.
I like the James Bond thumbnail 👍 Body Language is very much underestimated.These tips are awesome and you look like you’re about to hit the GYM after the video is done 💯👌 Great Video Courtney! And I Love your work ethic so much, I appreciate the time and effort you do to do your research to give us the right advice we should be using instead of telling us what we need to hear and not what we want to hear 💯🙏🏽 much Respect and Love ❤️🙏🏽
the one eyebrow raise?? surely more Roger Moore than Daniel Craig's bond :O
[Any woman walking into a room and sees Henry Cavill]:"MINE!"
That's about it.
The rest of us know our place and stay home.
I know all of these.
But i dont do it because i dont want to attract people.
Its not that i want people to look me bad. But i just want to keep people at arms length.
Because for me my problem is I can attract people pretty easily men and women and i dont want this unwanted attention all the time.
I just wanted sit in a corner like a normal person minding my own business but most of the time thats not the case.I dont know why but people seems like magnet always gravitated towards me.
Its annoying.Please leave me alone take a hint.
"I am sitting here with bad posture and you probably noticed" - trust me when I tell you NOBODY here even thought about your posture ever in any of your videos
Women are so messed up… poor souls
I agree with Everything. I've been trying to practice eye contact but Adhd can get in the way. At that point, I'd just let them know so they wouldn't get the wrong idea...
Plus, when you said loosen up your shoulders, I did a dance to loosen them up... surprisingly it worked 😂
I'm just boring because I don't like to talk a lot or hold a long conversation... it's just exhausting. It's like after 5-10 min of talking, it's too much... I lose girls after 2-3 dates.
That car thing that she mentioned I don't think it is people who drive manual 😂 btw love your videos
You know Gents....."This little Blueberry Lemon scone is hawt"...what is her nationality?...No I will not invest time in finding out - I know there are faithful followers on this forum.....Let's have it lads....what's her nationality? - Thanks
This video is a prime example of the entitlement of women … we have to do all this “ WATCHING DATING TRAINING VIDEOS😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂just to get a “MAYBE”
@surprisedpikachu PREACH BROTHER🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@surprisedpikachu she’s a relationship hustler just like the rest of these content creators man , she says the same talking points as the rest of them ….. MALE or FEMALE.
@surprisedpikachu you took the words right out of my mouth 😂😂😂😂😂, no offense but he’s beyond goofy, nerdy as all hell , they don’t even look like they would even be together.
Lol, I've heard the words "relaxed" and "calm" like 50000 thousand times in this video, what are the antonyms to "relaxed" and "calm"? Thats what Im 24/7.
Personally, I'd say the guys I tend to notice look more 'relaxed' than 'confident.' Like just chillin and enjoying where you're at. Mfs that take themselves too seriously give me the ick.
Sitting up straight, not slouching, and keeping your chin up has so much that is backed by psychology.
Read 12 rules for life, an antidote to chaos by Jordan Peterson. I believe it’s the first rule.
It’s so cool it’s got the psychology, uplifting words, lobsters, it’s just great!
This is very smart advice. It's weird but it's helped so much. A lot of this is from a woman. She's telling us what she wants. I feel so silly not knowing I was being hit on so many times while doing all of this lol.
Who cares what women want
wth..I'm doing everything wrong..how did i ever got a gal to like me is beyond me now..
I have posture that says...I don't really care..
my body language is probably ok..
and eye contact is ok too..maybe even creepy..
I never make small adjustment...cuz I literally don't care for appearances for some reason..and I do prefer ladies who are low on the makeup..and wearing for comfort more than appearance..and can talk about deep topics and have compelling opinions and hobbies...
shoulders are fine..I guess..
am I the gal inside ?
My chiseled body and 19 in arms work with any pose. Take care of your face, body, financial well-being, wet thongs every time Great vid, we’ll done.