I love that you touched on walking on the side closest to the street when walking with a lady. That is something I was taught at a young age. I go out of my way to do that. It was something my wife noticed and loved when we went on our first date. She never had a man do that for her. Unfortunately, I don't see a lot of men doing that anymore.
It’s an outdated tradition whose original reasons for following no longer hold. Gentlemen would walk on the outside to keep their ladies from getting splashed when horse wagons go by. Additionally, in some inner city underworlds, pimps would walk with women street-side if they were for sale, and on the inside if off-market. Who still knows this, or even cares? Men who make a show of walking on the outside do so only because they’re told to. Not only that, it actually puts the woman in a more vulnerable position as any threat is likely to come not from the street (a car jumping the curb? When have you ever seen that?) , but the side of buildings and alleys.
One of my favorite tips is when speaking to a group, do your best to have your back to a wall, or back to the bar and let the group surround you. It set you as the center of attention even if you aren’t speaking. And anyone looking from afar will think so as well.
When you are addressing someone, make sure that your body is facing them and squared towards them. This applies to whether you're standing or sitting. This shows attentiveness to them, you're not afraid to place your vulnerable centerline (where all the physically vulnerable body parts are) at them, and you visually take up more space because you are at your broadest, if that makes sense.
Yes! I find it helps to communicate attentiveness (and keep me focused) in a group setting to turn not only my head but also my shoulders/torso toward the person speaking. It also creates more dynamism amongst the group to keep the focus shifting.
Yeah. What’s up with the flaccid handshake, these days? It’s easy to do, fellas - apply a moderate amount of pressure without squeezing the life out of their hand. Not too hard, not too soft, just assertive and assuring
I think one of the lessons that has helped me the most is dont slouch. This comes into what you were saying with in your point "space" whether sitting or standing, it also plays into "stability" where keeping an upright posture is more comfortable to maintain over a long time and I find I do not need to adjust my posture if I am standing erect. It also conveys an air of confidence to those around you
Love what you said about the sidewalk. I always did this in dates instinctively, and the primary reason I remember it is because the girls I dated would point it out from time to time. It shows you are considerate, protective, and thoughtful.
Loved what you said about moving slowly. That is my husband to a tee. He is very deliberate and decisive in his movements, including his speech. He rarely messes up or breaks things, unlike myself, who is always flitting around like a butterfly and prone to clumsiness. I do know, however, that the best way to look ladylike and composed is to sloooowwww doooowwwnnn.
I've definitely seen women react differently with me after I keep I contact when chatting with them. Little smiles, little cute expressions of interest.
Watching your "classically masculine" series I've thought about how it's not easy to make these changes just by force of habit. I think all the things you've pointed out we should change are symptoms of underlying moods or perceptions about oneself. For example, if you seem to fidget a lot and have a hard time staying still and steady, like you mention, it means you're probably nervous or alert. So moving a lot would be the symptom resulting from being nervous, and I think it would be a lot easier to focus on calming down and relaxing, instead of just trying to stay still (you'd stop moving, but would remain nervous and tense). Another example would be talking slower like you mentioned in a previous video. I personally struggled with this beacause I worried too much what people thought of me, so I wanted them to know what I was thinking as soon as I did to get validation (or to adjust my thoughts if I had negative feedback). It's interesting how I talk so much slower, seem calmer, and stopped saying so much unecessary stuff after I spent a while working on not caring what others thought of me. Treat the problem, not the symptoms. Great video.
Yeah. Ideally, figure out where the behavior stems from and treat the cause, but often times, there’s something to be said for just faking it ‘til ya make it. Even superficially learning to control the symptom can ultimately lead to alleviating the underlying cause. Eventually your brain will get the memo that you’re OK with this now, whether that’s a firm handshake, standing tall and confident, sustaining eye contact or whatever it is that makes you uncomfortable
One thing that helped me with eye contact issues was to go for a stroll and make brief eye contact with everyone comfortably along my path. It's just a quick acknowledgement glance and perhaps a nod. One would be surprised how fast they get used to it. It also helps you with posture too, as you've got to keep your chin up to see everything coming your way.
I’ve been doing that lately myself. It’s crazy how people walk by each other now on the street and don’t even acknowledge one another. That little casual glance, a smile and maybe a nod of acknowledgment really goes along way. Almost everybody responds favorably to it
@@pensivepenguin3000 Exactly. When you first start making it routine, you think you might trigger someone, they'll get aggressive, but it's not so. We all like pleasant attention, especially if we instinctively know there's no ulterior motive behind it. It only takes an extra second to be courteous.
I'm a tall man, 200 cm and recently turned 30 years old. For a very long time I felt that I was the center of attention without even wanting it, so I ended up trying to make myself smaller in terms of my presence. I was opposite of everything mentioned in the video. I just didn't like the attention, and for some reason I felt like I was obnoxious for simply existing at my height. That changed some two years ago or so when I decided to change and "take my space" so to speak. I'm respectful, but am not afraid to make my presence known. This video helped me to get much better insight into it all. I know I already got a huge boost with the help of my height, and I wanted to refine it, so thank you.
Thank you so much man. My entire life I've been a weak feminine people pleasing man. Sure it has made allot of like me for the help I've offered but it has equally attracted allot of disrespect into my life. I'm 21 and I'm looking on building a masculine persona. Please keep such content coming. I can't wait to practice these
As someone who is uncomfortable with eye contact, I have a set of rules that I follow, which is great to add to those mentioned here. At a checkout, after paying, then then receiving the receipt, I will make eye contact as the cashier hands me the receipt. Perhaps a smile... but I do the eye contact for at least 2 seconds, but no more than 6 seconds. ...and it works well.
Yeah, it’s easy to get eye contact wrong, lingering too long or staring such that it’s like you’re burning holes through their soul lol. Takes practice. I usually break eye contact periodically when I’m having a conversation with somebody, otherwise it almost feels awkward
@@liamwildman2846 right. It’s not something that there’s a simple prescription for; rather, you just kind of get used to it. It becomes a natural rhythm in conversation after a while. That said, it’s not immediately intuitive and can take practice
@@pensivepenguin3000 Thanks. Unfortunately, there is a sizable segment of the population where the brain is physically not able to learn to do such things intuitively. Inability to read body language is such a trait. It really is difficult. However, practice can make it work well outwardly - but it will always be meticulous and calculated - never spontaneous or natural.
Same with speech too, actually. Probably 50% of the cognitive effort is attempting to logically decipher meaning from things such as tone, pitch changes, alternate meanings - all in order to properly understand what would probably be an ambiguous statement otherwise.
Lmao you’re over thinking this….to be masculine is to be aware. Have awareness to know when you’re slouching or talking to fast. Have awareness of self and that’s it Think of a Lion how aware they are…
watch Al Pacino, go down the stairs in Sicily right before Apollonia is killed by a car bomb in the Godfather. As a short man, he commands so much respect with this casual, yet controlled walk
For a moment there I thought you were going to say, make a video about how to go down the masculine way lol. That’s certainly a skill ladies appreciate, but potentially beyond the scope of this channel :)
These tips are spot on. I've had the pleasure of dealing with many male leaders over my career and retirement. The effective ones use these behaviors all the time. The really good ones knew how to ramp up and ramp down the intensity of each of these behaviors, according to circumstance. Bravo.
The eye contact and being comfortable with it is incredibely powerful and relaxing not just in meetings and conversations but out in the street or entering a café for example. I have learned to enjoy making eye contact with patrons who will look up at you as you enter the room and nodding with a hint of a smile. Works wonders, the men usually respond in kind, women tend to smile back - incredible. Even saying "hello" to a passing stranger on the street who makes an eye contact. I still remember smoking outside of my office when this african gentleman paced by me with a frown on his face, he cought my glance and I nodded and smiled and he just lightened up with this wonderful, wide smile. Such small human interacions can make your whole mood turn around.
Most used is slow. I'm a Marine and as a junior Marine I was always rushing. But as a leader it's important to be slow and deliberate. It tells your subordinates that you are in control even when things are chaotic. The classic guy walking away from an explosion is the perfect example of this.
Cultivate your inner strength first and foremost and all of these things will come much easier, trust me. Energy is everything. And is the innermost layer of all of these desirable traits.
I love the channel and all of your insights. One more I would add is the way a man walks. Cary Grant's walk across the hotel parking lot in To Catch a Thief is a sight to behold.
I would like to note (as a woman of 70+ years) that while I agree with much of what you say, I would suggest a bit of restraint in setting bottles down audibly (etc.) Such "strength" displays, while in your case well-intended, can be a triggering action for a woman who is unfortunate enough to have been in a situation or relationship where such things were used against her as a form of intimidation or abuse.
As true today as yesterday… but a lost form, sadly not being down simply from father to son, via the “osmosis” of living together/parenting… STELLAR! I was reminded of my Beloved grandfather, the essence of each element you prescribed.
I agree with all this. If you conduct yourself in a negative way you come across as insecure. I have been in conversation with men who are fidgeting and looking around with their eyes darting. It's a turn off. Some think if they behave in an aggressive way makes them look like a man who's in control.
Great content lately been really enjoying the channel. Something I’ll add to point #5 “stare” is to stare slow. When someone calls your name, don’t jerk your head quickly towards them. This gives off nervous energy. Instead move slow and confident towards them.
I just came here to say well done sir, your videos are great and badly needed in an area with the word most associated with masculinity nowadays is "toxic" and this is the perfect antidote to that nonsense. Take a thumbs up!
As someone who is 1.9m i can say that its impossible to walk without your head looking down....or else you will kick things or stumble and fall all day long
Thank you for sharing great insights for connecting with people. Thru life experience, I have gained these traits and am happy to see someone like yourself helping others. It is a great service to men worldwide.
Well I appreciated the entire vid and I can't say that any one part is more valuable than another. I will say though that I recently had a "misunderstanding" with someone. Basically said good morning to a couple who crossed paths with me in a public space and the woman smiled causing the man to I guess think I was "hitting" on his lady and him taking a posture that showed violent intent. I said one time that I meant no disrespect and then proceeded to maintain a stable posture as we basically stared each other down. I think my posture conveyed seriousness so he eventually walked away. Other traits mentioned in the vid were fantastic as well. Thanks for your content.
The first one is to have a undisturbed mind in the world of the phenomena The second one is to always foster a calm inner strengt The third is to comprehend the void my friend The fourth is to perceive that which cannot be seen with the eye A gentlemen, officer and a warrior
I am really enjoying your channel. Personally, I am a whiskey drinker…Irish and Scotch whiskey, and being a Southern American, I like Tennessee whiskey, or bourbon as some prefer to call it. Since I am new to watching your videos, I haven’t seen anything yet about a gentleman’s manner when drinking alcohol,i.e, whiskey bourbon, champagne, etc. I’ve always thought a gentleman should drink his liquor neat, or with a little water, and not with fancy mixers. That’s for the ladies. But, I certainly don’t have a lock on opinion and would like to hear yours.
I can agree with nearly all of this, the first part about being stable I can agree is important but occasionally there are physical conditions which make that much more difficult, especially for those of us in the advanced age category. I feel the wet tea towel handshake is the absolute worst offense anyone, even women IMHO, can make.
Seems like all of these happen fairly naturally from feeling good about yourself and gaining confidence as a result. I am an introspective, overly-analytical classic Virgo. I flourish in situations that I am comfortable in, but struggle when I encounter something or someone different. Slouching and poor eye contact were big problems, and although I was usually in pretty good shape, I'm shorter and skinnier than most guys, which didn't help my confidence, especially around women. I'm happy to say that I started carrying my bag on the golf course and eating healthy about 7 years ago which has led to weight reduction and made me much stronger. My wife compliments me quite a bit and even brags about me to here friends. Posture and eye contact have improved, as well.
Take a theater movement class or get some instruction in the Alexander technique. Hey, if it good enough for Adam Driver, (former Lance Corporal, USMC), it is good enough for you,
Best one for me to learn-how to move like an athlete with maximum fluidity, power, and efficiency, like a tiger. Examples Sean Connery, John F. Kennedy, and John Wayne.
Never extend your hand to shake a woman’s hand, unless she extends it to you first., And NEVER go in for a hug when greeting, unless she approaches you first. Always keep respectful space, unless it’s a relative.
It's funny how as you get older the more the points you make fall naturally into place. Age gracefully and powerfully but always be Gentlemen. God Bless.
...but what to do when standing somewhere, maybe a queue at the airport, without an accessory such as a cigarette? Looking down at a phone screen isn't projecting confidence, for example.
You can allow your gaze to wander, just exist for a while, see where your curiosity turns your attention. Look around, perhaps share a few words with your fellow suffering humans - "dont you just love waiting in lines?" If scoff you off, just be entertained by how horribly that attempt went.
Relax. Stand up straight with your feet just about shoulder width apart. Head up, shoulders back, but not stiff. Don't lock your knees. Interlace your hands and hold them downwards to the limit they naturally extend in front (basically just below belt level). Occupy your mind with thoughts, ideas, to do lists, or just indulge in some mental quiet.
eye contact just ends with me having fights with other men as they for some reason always get flustered or angry when I happen to catch their eye, no matter if I am happy smiling plain face or growling?
whenever i sit with my friends or any place random moves comes from me and icant control them , i feel like everybody is looking at me then boom ido weird thing am really suffering anyone have tips thanks gentlemens
dumb question but what am i supposed to do with my hands. like when i‘m standing or sitting i‘m always thinking what should i do with them to look natural😂
6:30 Never had a problem with women. Something that worked well for me before i settled down. Serious but drop something playful/cheeky/flirty in then eye contact with a smile It differs culture to culture, in Ireland here playful insults work well followed by eye contact and a cheeky smile. And fast! A masculine man is quick with wit, can have you laughing about something you've said before you've even finished saying it. Well thsts yhe Irish way anyway.
I feel like I'm not the target audience for these videos. I don't do meetings or business and it's been years since I've worn a suit. Oh, and I can't thank you enough for the point about taking up other people's space. Taking up space is fine and all but taking up other people's space isn't masculine, it's being a jerk. I guess that's a sore spot for me.
Eye contact is so powerful, yet so lacking in young men. I routinely intimidate Millennials and Zoomers without ever saying a word. I would add that gentlemen with real, practical fighting skills tend to blade themselves to others, even during casual conversation, and naturally position themselves to avoid exposing their neck and back. This becomes instinctive and is a tell of a man who has skills, to those who can read body language.
Depends what combat sport they are proficient in. BJJ guys are hard to spot by their stance, Muay Thai guys fight facing pretty square to their opponents. Bladed stance likely indicates a boxer/kickboxer or even a more traditional martial artist.
Always look other men in the eye when you meet them on the street, especially if you're escorting a woman. Another masculine man you meet will understand and appreciate that.
The whiskey bottle example is not correct and the examples after that before taking up space are also incorrect. Put the bottle down with class and own the room.
It’s not that big his back blade is showing making it look larger than it really is. It would not hurt having a little bit larger lapels to balance the look.
"My God, Johnson is a smart guy, but I really need to get him to move faster. This is a factory, not a city park." "Yeah, but he's mad manly, isn't he?"
Where are how you position yourself in a room is critical. Envision that someone is going to come in any door and attack you, and place yourself in the ideal position to observe and defend against such an attack. By choosing that position you automatically have a position of power which others will unknowingly perceive. It is also important to consider the angle of your body as well as your head. It’s perfectly polite to turn your head toward whoever is speaking, but the angle of your body is who you are centered on. If people are not angled toward you, then you are lower on their status hierarchy than whoever they are turned toward. Also, just be tall.
There is an another “s”: Surrounding”. A gentleman is very aware of his surroundings and knows the appropriate way to conduct themselves.
I love that you touched on walking on the side closest to the street when walking with a lady. That is something I was taught at a young age. I go out of my way to do that. It was something my wife noticed and loved when we went on our first date. She never had a man do that for her. Unfortunately, I don't see a lot of men doing that anymore.
Unfortunately, so many women have come to expect the bare minimum. It only makes it more important to be a gentleman
It’s an outdated tradition whose original reasons for following no longer hold. Gentlemen would walk on the outside to keep their ladies from getting splashed when horse wagons go by. Additionally, in some inner city underworlds, pimps would walk with women street-side if they were for sale, and on the inside if off-market. Who still knows this, or even cares? Men who make a show of walking on the outside do so only because they’re told to. Not only that, it actually puts the woman in a more vulnerable position as any threat is likely to come not from the street (a car jumping the curb? When have you ever seen that?) , but the side of buildings and alleys.
It's a good thing that most people don't do it, it makes it easier to stand out
Most men don’t do it because these women today aren’t worth getting hit by car for….I believe this act should be only for certain women
@anonymouslakernerd7214 you ever drive by a puddle in your vehicle? it still splashes
1. Stable
2. Slow
3. Strength
4. Space
5. State
Thank you for the content you are sharing.
If you’re going to jump the man’s content at least spell the fucking words right / reveal their accurate meanings.
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I closed my laptop decisively, tomorow i will go buy new one as a masculine man XD
Hah!
One of my favorite tips is when speaking to a group, do your best to have your back to a wall, or back to the bar and let the group surround you. It set you as the center of attention even if you aren’t speaking. And anyone looking from afar will think so as well.
Thanks dude ❤
The music bed you chose for this video is perfect. Masculine, elegant, and cool.
It's called "jazz". Pretty cool uh?
That jacket is absolutely a pleasure to see
When you are addressing someone, make sure that your body is facing them and squared towards them. This applies to whether you're standing or sitting. This shows attentiveness to them, you're not afraid to place your vulnerable centerline (where all the physically vulnerable body parts are) at them, and you visually take up more space because you are at your broadest, if that makes sense.
Yes! I find it helps to communicate attentiveness (and keep me focused) in a group setting to turn not only my head but also my shoulders/torso toward the person speaking. It also creates more dynamism amongst the group to keep the focus shifting.
I make a point of shaking hands when greeting a fellow man. I detest a limp handshake in return, but it is sadly very common.
Yeah. What’s up with the flaccid handshake, these days? It’s easy to do, fellas - apply a moderate amount of pressure without squeezing the life out of their hand. Not too hard, not too soft, just assertive and assuring
Walk with purpose.. that's my favourite movement trait. Always look calm, in control and decisive.
I think one of the lessons that has helped me the most is dont slouch. This comes into what you were saying with in your point "space" whether sitting or standing, it also plays into "stability" where keeping an upright posture is more comfortable to maintain over a long time and I find I do not need to adjust my posture if I am standing erect. It also conveys an air of confidence to those around you
Love what you said about the sidewalk. I always did this in dates instinctively, and the primary reason I remember it is because the girls I dated would point it out from time to time. It shows you are considerate, protective, and thoughtful.
Loved what you said about moving slowly. That is my husband to a tee. He is very deliberate and decisive in his movements, including his speech. He rarely messes up or breaks things, unlike myself, who is always flitting around like a butterfly and prone to clumsiness. I do know, however, that the best way to look ladylike and composed is to sloooowwww doooowwwnnn.
Thank you for the help sir. The slow walk and movement la without being afraid to make your presence know is what has helped me in a positive way.
This information has given me more self-confidence in social situations. Thank you.
I've definitely seen women react differently with me after I keep I contact when chatting with them. Little smiles, little cute expressions of interest.
Watching your "classically masculine" series I've thought about how it's not easy to make these changes just by force of habit. I think all the things you've pointed out we should change are symptoms of underlying moods or perceptions about oneself. For example, if you seem to fidget a lot and have a hard time staying still and steady, like you mention, it means you're probably nervous or alert. So moving a lot would be the symptom resulting from being nervous, and I think it would be a lot easier to focus on calming down and relaxing, instead of just trying to stay still (you'd stop moving, but would remain nervous and tense).
Another example would be talking slower like you mentioned in a previous video. I personally struggled with this beacause I worried too much what people thought of me, so I wanted them to know what I was thinking as soon as I did to get validation (or to adjust my thoughts if I had negative feedback). It's interesting how I talk so much slower, seem calmer, and stopped saying so much unecessary stuff after I spent a while working on not caring what others thought of me. Treat the problem, not the symptoms.
Great video.
Yeah. Ideally, figure out where the behavior stems from and treat the cause, but often times, there’s something to be said for just faking it ‘til ya make it. Even superficially learning to control the symptom can ultimately lead to alleviating the underlying cause. Eventually your brain will get the memo that you’re OK with this now, whether that’s a firm handshake, standing tall and confident, sustaining eye contact or whatever it is that makes you uncomfortable
One thing that helped me with eye contact issues was to go for a stroll and make brief eye contact with everyone comfortably along my path. It's just a quick acknowledgement glance and perhaps a nod. One would be surprised how fast they get used to it. It also helps you with posture too, as you've got to keep your chin up to see everything coming your way.
I’ve been doing that lately myself. It’s crazy how people walk by each other now on the street and don’t even acknowledge one another. That little casual glance, a smile and maybe a nod of acknowledgment really goes along way. Almost everybody responds favorably to it
@@pensivepenguin3000 Exactly. When you first start making it routine, you think you might trigger someone, they'll get aggressive, but it's not so. We all like pleasant attention, especially if we instinctively know there's no ulterior motive behind it. It only takes an extra second to be courteous.
I'm a tall man, 200 cm and recently turned 30 years old. For a very long time I felt that I was the center of attention without even wanting it, so I ended up trying to make myself smaller in terms of my presence. I was opposite of everything mentioned in the video. I just didn't like the attention, and for some reason I felt like I was obnoxious for simply existing at my height. That changed some two years ago or so when I decided to change and "take my space" so to speak. I'm respectful, but am not afraid to make my presence known. This video helped me to get much better insight into it all. I know I already got a huge boost with the help of my height, and I wanted to refine it, so thank you.
Thank you so much man. My entire life I've been a weak feminine people pleasing man. Sure it has made allot of like me for the help I've offered but it has equally attracted allot of disrespect into my life. I'm 21 and I'm looking on building a masculine persona. Please keep such content coming. I can't wait to practice these
If you take this guy as an inspiration, you'll remain a feminine type.
Watch videos about being masculine.
stand up straight with your shoulders back.
- Jordan peterson
As someone who is uncomfortable with eye contact, I have a set of rules that I follow, which is great to add to those mentioned here. At a checkout, after paying, then then receiving the receipt, I will make eye contact as the cashier hands me the receipt. Perhaps a smile... but I do the eye contact for at least 2 seconds, but no more than 6 seconds.
...and it works well.
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Yeah, it’s easy to get eye contact wrong, lingering too long or staring such that it’s like you’re burning holes through their soul lol. Takes practice. I usually break eye contact periodically when I’m having a conversation with somebody, otherwise it almost feels awkward
@@liamwildman2846 right. It’s not something that there’s a simple prescription for; rather, you just kind of get used to it. It becomes a natural rhythm in conversation after a while. That said, it’s not immediately intuitive and can take practice
@@pensivepenguin3000 Thanks. Unfortunately, there is a sizable segment of the population where the brain is physically not able to learn to do such things intuitively. Inability to read body language is such a trait. It really is difficult.
However, practice can make it work well outwardly - but it will always be meticulous and calculated - never spontaneous or natural.
Same with speech too, actually. Probably 50% of the cognitive effort is attempting to logically decipher meaning from things such as tone, pitch changes, alternate meanings - all in order to properly understand what would probably be an ambiguous statement otherwise.
Make a video explaining How to go down and up stairs in a masculine way, how to get in and out of a car, how to close the car, in a masculine way
Lmao you’re over thinking this….to be masculine is to be aware. Have awareness to know when you’re slouching or talking to fast. Have awareness of self and that’s it
Think of a Lion how aware they are…
Sarcasm.
I'm familiar with your game.
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watch Al Pacino, go down the stairs in Sicily right before Apollonia is killed by a car bomb in the Godfather. As a short man, he commands so much respect with this casual, yet controlled walk
For a moment there I thought you were going to say, make a video about how to go down the masculine way lol. That’s certainly a skill ladies appreciate, but potentially beyond the scope of this channel :)
These tips are spot on. I've had the pleasure of dealing with many male leaders over my career and retirement. The effective ones use these behaviors all the time. The really good ones knew how to ramp up and ramp down the intensity of each of these behaviors, according to circumstance. Bravo.
Concise, good examples and logically structured video....... well done.
The eye contact and being comfortable with it is incredibely powerful and relaxing not just in meetings and conversations but out in the street or entering a café for example. I have learned to enjoy making eye contact with patrons who will look up at you as you enter the room and nodding with a hint of a smile. Works wonders, the men usually respond in kind, women tend to smile back - incredible. Even saying "hello" to a passing stranger on the street who makes an eye contact.
I still remember smoking outside of my office when this african gentleman paced by me with a frown on his face, he cought my glance and I nodded and smiled and he just lightened up with this wonderful, wide smile. Such small human interacions can make your whole mood turn around.
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THAT comment is absolutely class & wholesome. Thank you for this inspiration.
Most used is slow. I'm a Marine and as a junior Marine I was always rushing. But as a leader it's important to be slow and deliberate. It tells your subordinates that you are in control even when things are chaotic. The classic guy walking away from an explosion is the perfect example of this.
Cultivate your inner strength first and foremost and all of these things will come much easier, trust me. Energy is everything. And is the innermost layer of all of these desirable traits.
I love the channel and all of your insights. One more I would add is the way a man walks. Cary Grant's walk across the hotel parking lot in To Catch a Thief is a sight to behold.
And it sure worked for him! 😉
Thank you. Very helpful.
I would like to note (as a woman of 70+ years) that while I agree with much of what you say, I would suggest a bit of restraint in setting bottles down audibly (etc.) Such "strength" displays, while in your case well-intended, can be a triggering action for a woman who is unfortunate enough to have been in a situation or relationship where such things were used against her as a form of intimidation or abuse.
I agree!
As true today as yesterday… but a lost form, sadly not being down simply from father to son, via the “osmosis” of living together/parenting… STELLAR! I was reminded of my Beloved grandfather, the essence of each element you prescribed.
An everything matters, everything is fine...what will be will be, attitude.
I agree with all this. If you conduct yourself in a negative way you come across as insecure. I have been in conversation with men who are fidgeting and looking around with their eyes darting. It's a turn off. Some think if they behave in an aggressive way makes them look like a man who's in control.
Great content lately been really enjoying the channel. Something I’ll add to point #5 “stare” is to stare slow. When someone calls your name, don’t jerk your head quickly towards them. This gives off nervous energy. Instead move slow and confident towards them.
I just came here to say well done sir, your videos are great and badly needed in an area with the word most associated with masculinity nowadays is "toxic" and this is the perfect antidote to that nonsense. Take a thumbs up!
As someone who is 1.9m i can say that its impossible to walk without your head looking down....or else you will kick things or stumble and fall all day long
I can relate with that
As a 2.02 man, i can agree with you
I agree
You nailed this one.
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Timothe Nicolet
Thank you for sharing great insights for connecting with people. Thru life experience, I have gained these traits and am happy to see someone like yourself helping others. It is a great service to men worldwide.
Well I appreciated the entire vid and I can't say that any one part is more valuable than another. I will say though that I recently had a "misunderstanding" with someone. Basically said good morning to a couple who crossed paths with me in a public space and the woman smiled causing the man to I guess think I was "hitting" on his lady and him taking a posture that showed violent intent. I said one time that I meant no disrespect and then proceeded to maintain a stable posture as we basically stared each other down. I think my posture conveyed seriousness so he eventually walked away. Other traits mentioned in the vid were fantastic as well. Thanks for your content.
The first one is to have a undisturbed mind in the world of the phenomena
The second one is to always foster a calm inner strengt
The third is to comprehend the void my friend
The fourth is to perceive that which cannot be seen with the eye
A gentlemen, officer and a warrior
I am really enjoying your channel. Personally, I am a whiskey drinker…Irish and Scotch whiskey, and being a Southern American, I like Tennessee whiskey, or bourbon as some prefer to call it. Since I am new to watching your videos, I haven’t seen anything yet about a gentleman’s manner when drinking alcohol,i.e, whiskey bourbon, champagne, etc. I’ve always thought a gentleman should drink his liquor neat, or with a little water, and not with fancy mixers. That’s for the ladies. But, I certainly don’t have a lock on opinion and would like to hear yours.
Great video. Love this. I’ve noticed this in all my favorite movies and shows you referenced! 😎
I can agree with nearly all of this, the first part about being stable I can agree is important but occasionally there are physical conditions which make that much more difficult, especially for those of us in the advanced age category. I feel the wet tea towel handshake is the absolute worst offense anyone, even women IMHO, can make.
Seems like all of these happen fairly naturally from feeling good about yourself and gaining confidence as a result. I am an introspective, overly-analytical classic Virgo. I flourish in situations that I am comfortable in, but struggle when I encounter something or someone different. Slouching and poor eye contact were big problems, and although I was usually in pretty good shape, I'm shorter and skinnier than most guys, which didn't help my confidence, especially around women.
I'm happy to say that I started carrying my bag on the golf course and eating healthy about 7 years ago which has led to weight reduction and made me much stronger. My wife compliments me quite a bit and even brags about me to here friends. Posture and eye contact have improved, as well.
@gentz Young man, you have earned a subcriber from this older genteman. Thank you!
Never cross your arms!
Take a theater movement class or get some instruction in the Alexander technique. Hey, if it good enough for Adam Driver, (former Lance Corporal, USMC), it is good enough for you,
Best way to do all this is to be a man of actual value and know it
As always, very helpful.
Best one for me to learn-how to move like an athlete with maximum fluidity, power, and efficiency, like a tiger. Examples Sean Connery, John F. Kennedy, and John Wayne.
This is awesome!
don’t do it gently do it decisively !!! yeah right now i gotta buy a new laptop 😒
Be the best version of yourself
You should be more gentle about some stuff thats like sensitive or prone to breaking easily
Space and stare are my favourite
How do I keep myself from swaying? I have inserts for my flat feet but not even 5 minutes go by when my feet start to hurt. How do I fix that?
Try as I might, just cannot ever get myself to move slowly.
AWESOME video content.
That tie really throws your entire fit off
Never extend your hand to shake a woman’s hand, unless she extends it to you first., And NEVER go in for a hug when greeting, unless she approaches you first. Always keep respectful space, unless it’s a relative.
What if you’re the one approaching her
I don’t agree
A good example of taking up space and a good pace while moving is John Travolta's character of well-dressed mobster Chilly Palmer in Get Shorty.
I did not expect him to be in a full suit
Be your good self yo
It's funny how as you get older the more the points you make fall naturally into place. Age gracefully and powerfully but always be Gentlemen. God Bless.
Those colours look well on you. 😎👍
I falter on the strength part because I have been a bit on the clumsy side forever growing up and feel like a bull in a china shop at times.
...but what to do when standing somewhere, maybe a queue at the airport, without an accessory such as a cigarette? Looking down at a phone screen isn't projecting confidence, for example.
You can allow your gaze to wander, just exist for a while, see where your curiosity turns your attention. Look around, perhaps share a few words with your fellow suffering humans - "dont you just love waiting in lines?" If scoff you off, just be entertained by how horribly that attempt went.
@@Scum8ag Thanks. I see what you're saying. Small talk isn't something for though.
Relax. Stand up straight with your feet just about shoulder width apart. Head up, shoulders back, but not stiff. Don't lock your knees. Interlace your hands and hold them downwards to the limit they naturally extend in front (basically just below belt level).
Occupy your mind with thoughts, ideas, to do lists, or just indulge in some mental quiet.
eye contact just ends with me having fights with other men as they for some reason always get flustered or angry when I happen to catch their eye, no matter if I am happy smiling plain face or growling?
Where is the Bauhaus picture my friend? 😅
sure, good and helpful video i suggest you really demonstrate these actions, start yourself then I would be easy to follow and believe.
Pleas men a michele morroni style video pleaseee🙏🏽 love this video thanks💪🏼💪🏼🙏🏽
Oh hey, I have Leil's book!
Step 3 instructions unclear got kicked out of the bar for breaking too many glasses
whenever i sit with my friends or any place random moves comes from me and icant control them , i feel like everybody is looking at me then boom ido weird thing am really suffering anyone have tips thanks gentlemens
Return of the sigma 😈
dumb question but what am i supposed to do with my hands. like when i‘m standing or sitting i‘m always thinking what should i do with them to look natural😂
I assume that the animated character Itachi Uchiha is an elegant character, am I correct?
i really love your youtube name, I want to be a part of the Gent Z
"a gentleman will walk but never run"
When walking, make sure not to let your ankles collapse inwards. This makes you look weak and unstable.
Thomas Shelby-cool, charismatic yet evil
You are amazing
6:30 Never had a problem with women. Something that worked well for me before i settled down.
Serious but drop something playful/cheeky/flirty in then eye contact with a smile
It differs culture to culture, in Ireland here playful insults work well followed by eye contact and a cheeky smile.
And fast! A masculine man is quick with wit, can have you laughing about something you've said before you've even finished saying it. Well thsts yhe Irish way anyway.
What's the name of the movie in the first clip?
I feel like I'm not the target audience for these videos. I don't do meetings or business and it's been years since I've worn a suit.
Oh, and I can't thank you enough for the point about taking up other people's space. Taking up space is fine and all but taking up other people's space isn't masculine, it's being a jerk. I guess that's a sore spot for me.
Amazing ❤
Yes
Eye contact is so powerful, yet so lacking in young men. I routinely intimidate Millennials and Zoomers without ever saying a word. I would add that gentlemen with real, practical fighting skills tend to blade themselves to others, even during casual conversation, and naturally position themselves to avoid exposing their neck and back. This becomes instinctive and is a tell of a man who has skills, to those who can read body language.
Depends what combat sport they are proficient in. BJJ guys are hard to spot by their stance, Muay Thai guys fight facing pretty square to their opponents. Bladed stance likely indicates a boxer/kickboxer or even a more traditional martial artist.
Instructions unclear. I just destroyed my laptop screen
Funfact:
If you're actually confident (unlike 90% of the people who watch this), you don't even need to think about this stuff...
0:00 Who is this man? Is this scene from a movie?
Always look other men in the eye when you meet them on the street, especially if you're escorting a woman. Another masculine man you meet will understand and appreciate that.
The whiskey bottle example is not correct and the examples after that before taking up space are also incorrect. Put the bottle down with class and own the room.
Why is your tie so big?
It’s not that big his back blade is showing making it look larger than it really is. It would not hurt having a little bit larger lapels to balance the look.
#6 Smoke
"My God, Johnson is a smart guy, but I really need to get him to move faster. This is a factory, not a city park."
"Yeah, but he's mad manly, isn't he?"
Does a classically mansculine man color his hair? Seems very popular in some cultures.
It’s totally up to you. If you’re talking about grey, I think it’s wise to embrace the natural look.
No
Nice jacket love prince of wales
Man, that’s a nice jacket. Where did you buy it?
Where are how you position yourself in a room is critical. Envision that someone is going to come in any door and attack you, and place yourself in the ideal position to observe and defend against such an attack. By choosing that position you automatically have a position of power which others will unknowingly perceive. It is also important to consider the angle of your body as well as your head. It’s perfectly polite to turn your head toward whoever is speaking, but the angle of your body is who you are centered on. If people are not angled toward you, then you are lower on their status hierarchy than whoever they are turned toward. Also, just be tall.