12 Early Signs A Relationship Won't Last
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
- Are you looking for the red flags and signs a relationship isn't working? A rocky start to a relationship doesn’t necessarily equate to a miserable one. After all, conflicts and misunderstandings are bound to arise in any relationship. However, a lot of the problems you’ll be dealing with later on usually occur in the beginning. Are you currently dating someone? Are you looking for red flags? If so, watch this video. Share it with someone who might need it.
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animation: Grace Cárdenas Cano
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
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I feel like if you watch this, you definitely care about your relationship.
I really do but I feel like my relationship is one sided
Then there’s me watching even tho I’m not in a relationship lol
@@xxvain lol
I'm in a relationship...but I feel like I'm giving to much n getting too less....its actually silly to think..may be...but when my partner calls me I am always available...like 99.99% available...but when I call him or try to spend time with him..he is asleep..or else he picks up the phone n asks me to hung up just bcoz he wants to sleep...N this thing frequently hurts me but I try my best to hide my pain behind my smile...stillI I fail sometimes when its unbearable...I am in that point in my life n relationship that I don't know what to do..what to say and how to react ....I really fo need a 3rd person help😢🥺😓🙏
I should've cared when we were still together
Bad comunication and not being able to resolve conflicts and collisions is what ends relationships for me.
This is why I just ended my marriage. We have just about all these signs but communication was our biggest and most heart breaking thing for me. If two people don't communicate well, no matter how hard they try, maybe they're just not meant for each other...
Or when you try to talk about how you feel about something in the relationship and she starts to lash out and starts to gaslight you in always making drama...
Especially when communication is slowly disappearing not like the usual before
That's why I ended the relationship....
Relatable, we were never the wiser back then, Happy life stranger.
the fact that my girfriend literally broke up with me over text while i was in the middle of watching this video 💀💀💀
Damn, I hope you're alright
@@parklez3250 thank you haha, I'm going to be okay, I just need a little time to heal
I’m gonna end it or try to
She’s said she never loved me
I was too invested in her
I tried my best to be the best boyfriend for her and she said it was all a joke
It’s been a good run guys I hope to die and go back to wherever I came from
I watched this about 2 months into my last relationship and went “oh thank god I don’t have any of these signs.” Came back again 7 months after that relationship ended. The signs just hadn’t surfaced yet since they were still in the lovebombing phase. This video is 100% correct 🤷
Literally had the same experience except i watched it a year into our relationship
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2. in Relationships. all. Love ❤️ together.
3. staring. at. each other.
4. Smile.😊.
5. metal. where college
6. from lost years 20201.
7. Filst kiss 😘
@@Nya-Nya-Blue. AmyJoMurry Relationships 2 years ago after
Strong friendship all. Love ❤️ together
20201. AmyJoMurry woking together.
Staring at. each other.
like you.
Samee!!
This is me too. We broke up at almost one year then get back together, Now we live together for two months it was just very painful to separate but maybe it's for the best
I'm not ashamed to admit I was the toxic part of the relationship. The reason being, is that I've since identified and taken care to fix those habits I'd formed. And my lovely ex, has helped facilitate my getting better as a person for it. That woman is a goddess and deserves nothing but praise for her patience.
Kudos for being man enough to admit it.
Becoming responsible for your own words can help your self esteem build character. Speak positive for what you believe and you will get what you need,
love this energy
More power to you! And we need more people like her!
You’re very lucky! I’m in your day one shoes right now
"Tell me who your friends are and I tell you who you are"
Has no friends.
Deadass tho, explains a lot for me
You're a nobody
You dont exist
@@MattBG67 let me hope thats a joke
😂❤️
My wife of 20 years made me feel like I could be my truest self since day 1. Before we even got married I cried in her arms over this very fact. To this day she says she doesn’t remember that moment 😂 😆 😝. But she’s my best friend, and I can’t see myself with anyone else besides her. Here’s to another 20 years!!
Aww this is so sweet☺️happy 20 year anniversary for you guys!!
This restored my faith in men a bit...I look forward to the part in my life when I meet someone who appreciates and chooses me from day 1. I entered all past relationships with an attitude to understand them, in hopes of it being reciprocated only to find out down the line that they lie, use me and dim my light. Working on myself to prevent similar relationships I have to leave in future
@@stararmy7219 thank you.
@@Ellie-nq6ws if you can meet a man that can connect with you on an emotional, intellectual, and more than a physical level engage him thoroughly. They exist, you’ll definitely know the difference.
I love hearing these stories!
All the best!
Is there ever really a perfect time for a relationship though? I feel like if two people who are very goal driven end up falling for each other, then they’ll never really feel like it’s the perfect time fit a relationship
you rather feel free
Yeah I think it’s really just about the mental space either person is in, even if things like work or school or other responsibilities get in the way of meeting each other’s needs, you have to know yourself and your own capacities to both give and receive love.
I strongly disagree with 4:08. I was a total sh!tbag that nobody wanted to be around until my SO forced me to basically rebuild myself from the ground up by changing everything; my personality, manners, and respect (lack thereof) completely 180d.
Now I’m actually semi-tolerated by society. Not sure what it is she saw in me worth giving a chance but I’d still be a despised miscreant today if not for her.
It is important to maintain your identity in any and all relationships...
More important is to keep your money far from them...
🗣🗣🗣🗣💯💯
Daniel Esteve lmfao I have made some bad investment calls
Daniel Esteve I’ve made some bad decisions too regarding sharing my coins , sigh
Yes it is but it's not always as possible as we'd like it to b unfortunately 😔. Ik this 1st handedly cuz I live in a relationship like what was discribed in the video & I am constantly questioning my true identity. Which in my opinion no one should have to do if ur in a honest, loving, caring, & trustworthy relationship.
No hate but, dont break up with someone just because of this video
look out though
@@deen_771 ye
What if someone is getting depressed for these exact reasons?
Some people may feel that this lit up the lightbulb. But YES its not good to leave someone right away just because you watched a video. But the video is information, and it that information starts the gears a-turnin' then perhaps it is better to look into your relationship a little deeper and question the things you related to the video. In that way, the video is a supplement to one of the reasons a person would walk out, but not THE definitive reason. Let's hope that anyone who broke up because of this video had other input as well, such as thinking a lot about it, input from friends, reading, etc. whatever it may be.
kinda think this 😭🥺
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The girls voice is calming what-
Agreed
0:55 1. Your relationship is solely about the romantic pull
1:29 2. You don't like their friends
1:57 3. You spend too much time together
2:24 4. Your relationship feels one-sided
2:48 5. You feel controlled
3:18 6. You can't be yourself around them
3:51 7. You don''t feel accepted
4:26 8. You fight all the time
4:49 9. You don't trust each other
5:37 10. They're regularly mean to other people
6:07 11. They're passive aggressive
6:41 12. The timing isn't right
hope this helped
Oh thank you
God bless you
Thanks dude
Gosh. Literally EVERY "relationship" I've ever had. 😕
My parents' marriage is like this, too. It's also very codependent, too. It's been like this for DECADES, in fact, and ever since I was born, I've never recalled them being loving or affectionate towards one another. They should've been divorced a long time ago, but, alas, they're still married after 40+ years. I don't count this at all, though. They've just been roommates who hate each other but became too used to it, and it's bad enough that my dad actually CHOOSES to sleep on the couch and did that for so long now that he can't fathom ever sleeping in a real bed. This affected my sister and me, too.
If anybody sees these signs in their relationship, please do yourself a favor and break up with that person. Do not think about giving them a second chance, lest they take advantage. And definitely do not marry them, much less have kids to drag into this chaotic situation.
If you are watching this while you are heartbroken, because the relationship you had was perfect to you and you try to find a reason why he is gone, I feel you. I am struggling too.
Hope you are okay Gaia. Go no contact, and work on yourself. Life is short, either he comes back or someone else better will come into your life. Do the self care work and take care!
Honestly! My heart aches so much because I know how much I was willing to make it work despite everything but he just watched me put in all the efforts. I’m really begging God to heal me.
💜💜💜
@@blessingugochi2029 just try and see it from another point of view...if you tried so hard and he didnt do anything, its good riddance! hes not the one for you, you need someone who puts equally as much effort as you did. Value yourself more and come to realise that he wasnt good enough for YOU, not the other way around. Realising this should make it a little bit easier to get over it. I know its hard in the moment, but time will show you it was a good thing to happen, not a bad one!
There was a lot of issues, the main one was the timing wasn't right. I'm a better person now, which he helped me to be. So is he, he's a better person now because of me and he told me this. But he is my soulmate, and I cannot escape this horrible crushing feeling that what is done, is done. It's too broken and the past is inescapable. He sees me as his best friend, and I wish I could do it all again as the person I am now, go back in time, start fresh. But it's over and I am having a really hard time accepting it or moving on with my life.
I saw him every Saturday. The first 1-2 months was amazing, for him it was like a get away from the issues he had prior to me. It was a fantasy. It was a dream. He was amazing. We were perfect. I became attached to him and he became the only person I wanted to talk to and hang out with. However, on his birthday, 18 hit him and all the issues he had prior to me had toppled on top of him meaning he was going through serious things in life and gave me less attention. As I took that personally and I did not know at the time, I brought up more and more issues between us in our relationship and created a lot of stressful situations for him. I stopped becoming the thing which made him forget about all his problems and our relationship became another problem. This created a bigger drift between us and he took to his games and his friends as a distraction which left me alone for longer and created even bigger issues.
Please take this from me and do not become attached or dependent on your partner to bring you happiness. It kills a relationship. You are not ready for a relationship if you are. You need to grow and accept yourself and love yourself before you love someone else.
I can very much relate to this 😭
Very relatable😭😭
Exactly what happened to me. I feel you.
Very self aware
But if you are already dependent on them how do you undo it ? 😭😭💔
Relationships last because two people make a choice to keep it, so we need to fight for and work for it. Being someone’s first love may be great, but to be their last is beyond perfect 🖖
So truee💕💕
Long story short, love is a choice :)
@Bekah L. so how do you guys choose who to love?
and since when is love a choice?
@Bekah L. if what you guys said includes Family love then maybe I don't really choose to love them maybe I do maybe I don't
@@monabohamad2242
He meant its a choice to stay and fight for it if you choose it to work.
You can choose to make it work because you love someone. Even after the feelings arent so strong anymore.
Bold of you to assume I'll end up in a relationship someday.
WOOOOOOW SAME
😂😂
They don't assume, you're the one who clicks the video
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LOL, jk jk jk XD
Yeah, I'm too ugly and short to even TRY
Lol, good comment.
this video validated my feelings on my relationship, it feels so good to be in a healthy relationship, and know that our small disagreements are ok, as long as we talk them out :)
Ive been overthinking my relationship and this def made me overthink it more
Same..
Samw
Literally same :,)
So I'm not the only one...
Hahahaha
When my husband and I first started dating, we spent 8+ hours a day together. This was not due to co-dependence. But the fact that we were both in the same college classes and had the same major. We made good lab partners because we worked well together. We hung out with our friends seperately or together, but we liked and still like spending a lot of time together. We'll have been married for 6 years in May.
Opposite situation--my bf and I don't have any classes together (very different majors) and I dislike studying together because it feels like he's so focused on whatever important work he's doing, and all I can do is wait for him to be done. So right now we only spend time together when we're both free. Do you have any advice on how I can become more comfortable with studying together?
@@ben24763 I honestly don't have specific advice. We just got along very well, and even if we weren't studying together it was enough to be studying in the same room, but not necessarily studying together. I don't expect him to be constantly engaging with me. If he is focused on something, I let him finish and do my own thing and vice versa. We understand that if one of us is in the zone, then the other doesn't interrupt.
@@ben24763 had the same situation as you when I was in highschool. I would say just do your own thing (talking to friends, drawing, finishing tasks) that's what I did and I hope it helps for you too ^^
Wow... Sounds wonderful... Congrats and wish you both many many more loving years ahead!
@@ktm5130 My partner and I are the same but we aren't in any schooling. He works and I'm a SAHM. It's pretty rare for us to spend any time apart because we are best friends and genuinely prefer to spend time together. 6.5 years together now. We of course have the option to do separate things, but we rarely choose to, except once or twice a year when he has a lads holiday with his mates.
I don't think anyone should force themselves to spend time apart just because "experts" say it isn't healthy to spend "too much time together". I feel like they should just leave it at "Don't be codependent."
"You can't take a joke ugh"
...I heard that a million times
I don't know how to feel about this. I always kind of felt that, that was a red flag, because not everything is a joke and when I continued watching the video and mentioned that sign. Uuuf, I was like daaamn... I could relate to 5 and I feel that is too much for too long.
Saying that is a tell tale sing of a total asshole.
you probably cant
Gaslightingg
I used to say this thinking my gf had a similar sense of humour as mine. I stopped doing it when she told me she didn't like it. wasn't enough of a change I guess.
My girlfriend most likely won’t see this, but I’m really lucky to have her in my life. Before we met my life was so empty because of my parents recent divorce and my dad moved away I also moved away from all my friends all in the same week I met her and at first didn’t see her romantically but we hung out more often and I just fell in love she treats me with so much respect and love ahhhh I love her so much. I am aware how grammatically incorrect that statement was but idc I love her so much
Me: *I’m your girlfriend and I saw this.*
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XDD sorry this was immature of me but I just want to 😊, hopefully you both still together still, good luck! Keep it strong!
OMG I LOVE YOU IM SO GREATFILL TO HAVE U IN MY LIFE YOURE THE BEST
Bruh listen to me... This is comming from a person who's situation was kindof similar... Try to fight with life alone.. Win over it be happy and then share the hapiness.. Unconciously you will look for hapiness from the other person and im honestly saying that it won't last
@Maja bruh
@@welhungyongmancitywok8189 Nah, it's nothing. Message could be useful for someone else and expressing an opinion and a general piece of advice is easy to do. Braveness is something doesn't suit me, in this case. What that person does in her life is something I don't truly care: everybody does what it wants in its own life and I don't feel like looking for persons' identities for each messages on the youtube.
I am very glad to say that my relationship is fine, but I also realized throughout this video that my relationship with my mom is toxic.
i want to break up with my boyfriend, i’ve never felt so alone when i’m with someone. he purposely humiliates me and my past in front of other people knowing i’m embarrassed about it. he calls other women hot and cute in front of me, he is more affectionate with them than he ever was and will be with me. ive spent so much money on him, he begs for money everyday and get upset w me when i say i barely have any for myself. only time he looks excited to be with me is when i give him sexual pleasure. he gets so irritated with me when i tell him in not in the mood and tells him i kill his mood all the time just by talking. he tells me “i don’t care” to everything i say or enjoy. this person is a literal cancer to me. ive never been so un attracted to someone in my life, so repulsed by someone’s personality. it took me so long to realize but i deserve better, i break up with him tomorrow. wish me luck
I know you didn’t ask, but you deserve so much more and I hope you find someone who makes you feel soooo loved 🥰
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
Whtsaap him"**
How’d it go?
i hope all went well. you deserve so much better than that!! best of luck
when your boyfriend is a red flag, but you're a bull ☠️
:)
😂😂😂😂
@MAYUR TRIVEDI_X_I_19 how did u comment that emoji?-
XD UNDERRATED
:awesome:
I had a breakup yesterday|
these reasons fully match my case
1. Wrong timing :his gf left him, so this time is wrong for us to be together. but still then he was the one who messaged me everyday and started flirting which made me think he was serious about us
2. It feels one sided . he would never try to message me all the time and it felt quite boring. he wouldn't share his life stories with me either. I was the one trying to care for him.
3. based on romance pull- we had a communication gap. but he was only interested in flirting with me. i actually asked him to be more free with me but he stayed quite always and wouldn't even react when i shared my stories with him.
4. he doesn't clear misunderstandings . i asked him why he minded about my telling my friends and family about our relationship. i asked him if anyone said something to him. But no he didn't try to explain. we had another argument on a religious topic. but he didn't try to share his opinion properly . instead he tried to avoid normal conversation all time
5. I can't be myself with him
6. We don't trust each other
sigh my luck is too bad
my boyfriend & i have been dating for 7 months & this is first healthy relationship of my life and this video just validates that to me even more. the only thing on this list thats true for us is we spend a lot of time together, but even then we still make time for friends & family as well. I'm so happy :)
I don't even know you but I'm very happy for you!
Good for you:)
You give me hope
Happy 1 year :)
Still going strong??
My relationship currently doesnt exhibit a lot of these, but some of it yes. And i really want to be with her forever, so im sending this to her and im watching it for myself so that we can improve together as a team. If your seeing this Sofia ilysm and thank you for being my world ❤️
I completely agree: when someone doesn't accept you the way you are and want you to be someone else, stay yourself or leave, it can never be wealthy or sane
That's exactly what everybody does...
Honestly to a degree, if someone isn't ready to also changd and grow with you (of course on both sides!) then that's the biggest red flag for me. When someone is too stubborn to see that they too have flaws that might be hurtful. Of course there's a difference between changing everything on demand and having a conversation about some things that ask for compromise and maybe sacrifice. So yeah, accepting the flaws but also trying to better oneselfs and the relationship. Communication jeij
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It’s about the willingness to evolve to be the best possible person you can be. Some people may “be themselves” but have horrible habits that inhibit their own self growth. Should be motivating each other to be better.
People who disliked realized there relationship is about to hit rock bottom.
just two people XD
@@hugegander9477 perfect XD
No, they're too blind to realize these 12 facts
Edrick Wilson haters have their notifications on :/
@@earllawrence7108 its a good thing tho
Love really is blind, isn't it. Welp, Moral of the story: don't fall in love.
You don't have to stay single. I think you just have to find someone who you can trust not to do any of these things. ❤
I met a guy and we had the most intense friendship chemistry. Sadly we tried to date and that was the worst mistake of my life... It ended pretty badly two years later we're friends again 😂
so relatable...
May I ask why it didn't work as a couple, but did (and does again) as friends?
agree with ^
@@simonedesabata9538 have the same question
@@simonedesabata9538 some combinations of qualities are just perfect for friendship..but as a romantic/sexual relationship is different, they may not go so well together in that case (just my opinion)
Been dating for 8 years, and the signs are more visible now 😔
I have started playing some couple question games like “Lovify”. To understand each other better. In this game, we have to guess each other's likes. This helped me understand my gf's expectations better. And, she is loving it. Cheers, to all couples. We all will make it through 💞
Maybe deliver the "but's".
For example: Your relationship feels onesided.
But maybe your lovelanguages are just different. Then link the video.
People want quick answers and leaving the points like that, might help someone to jump to false conclusions.
People already throw away ppl way to fast rather than reflect and fix
This is very true. Me and my partner have different love languages and had to learn to speak each others love language. 😊
Um no. I disagree entirely. People should be throwing partners away *sooner* than later-women especially need to learn this. It’s not my job to “fix” anyone but myself, and I spent too many years dealing with ‘fixer-upper’ men...building their sense of self-worth and making them feel better, but the relationships never improved. Once I got over that and did the work on *myself* I stopped having crappy relationships, and I feel better about myself.
Denise, yeah some people need to hear this side.
But for others this might be their truth. Especially in recent times.
Thts why i want a more diverse video.
So everyone can find their truth.
Yeah. They oversimplify everything but some of those points are just much more than they seem to be.
Completely agree. Me and my husband also have different love languages. So we talk about it. When we are hurt we communicate. We both work at meeting each other's love and affection needs. Also spending too much time together? One thing we have in common that we do together is video games. That requires alot of time spent together lol.
Before when me and my girlfriend were first learning that we loved each other we were watching videos from this channel like “How you know you met your soulmate” and took quizzes online about it too, but it didn’t end up lasting but I’m happy we won’t have to feel upset because of each other anymore and we’ll learn to let go and I hope any of you that are going through anything bad in a relationship are able to find inner peace
Ty🤍
If you are taking online quizzes to see if you should be with someone… you shouldn’t be with them… you need to clean your room and grow up. Respectfully 🤠
watching this im even more reassured none of these signs have ever showed
4:23 that fart startled me a bit 😂
I laughed so hard 😂😂😂
I thought I hallucinated that! Bwahahhaha!
I was watching this with despair as my last relationship hit all 12 of these and then a fart noise and I was like, ok yeah- don't be too upset since I can still giggle at a toot noise
Fuck I can't stop laughing 😂
I DIED HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
Me too😂😂😂😂
I used to be passive aggressive in my LDR. Honestly he had every right to leave because I was making our relationship difficult so instead he stayed and helped me uncover the root of the problem. We are going still dating and about to reach a 3 year mark. It's not perfect but worth making it work😊
its amazing
@@kata9755 Well all I can honestly share is my experience so here goes I hope it helps:-) Since i grew up not knowing how to communicate my feelings I struggled a lot later as a young adult so he instead encouraged me to be honest about my feelings, why I felt a certain way whenever we faced challenges as a couple as well as in our individual everyday lives with others. it took time but eventually I got the hang of talking about how I felt even about past experiences. That's how I realized I was holding onto anger from childhood experiences which really wasn't dealt with in a healthy was hence I became passive aggressive. Communicating my emotions and getting to understand them was what helped me I guess.
Hi, Are you still in LDR with your partner?
Here ldr and I made it hard for him. I know we loved each other but it was my ego issue that ruined it. He said I'm not the only one who's wrong in this, he was too. We both can't fully make each other happy. It has ended after 10 months together
in your Lana Del Rey?
1.When they never accept their mistakes..
2.Lying
3.When they don't respect you
i hate to say it but i used to be "that guy" mean to everyone else but my gf, sort of controlling, saying the clothes she was wearing were a little too revealing, it was honestly super bad, but, she told me that, and got me help with it, now 2 and a half years later, im super accepting of everything she does, and am actually a really kind person now i think, i will never forget what she did for me
At the beginning of my relationship, I definitely was the toxic one in the relationship. I know I had exhibited a lot of these points. My partner and I are still together now (almost 3 years) and I know I have definitely changed a lot from the past. However, I still think about whether we're still a good fit together for his sake and should continue dating because of the past. They tell me I have changed a lot for the better, but I still hate myself a lot for the behaviors I used to exhibit
i hope you can forgive yourself 💕
Can you help me? I have just started a relationship and I dont wanna ruin it
What did you use to do wrong? And How have you started to change?
@@CriS-jq6em i might not be the one to post the original comment but i think best thing to do is self reflection. It can show your true actions and discover why you formed the habits you do now. It is important in a relationship to not be you vs. them. You need to listen to them and not get defensive about it. Be honest with yourself on the stuff you have done, be apologetic, and actually attempt to change. On the other end, don't hold back on your own feelings and emotions. Talk through problems and don't avoid them. Problems are inevitbale but healthy couples can tackle them. (through talking and other things). There's also love languages test and apologetic languages tests you both can take so you understand one another. You won't have the best/healthiest relationship overnight, but there's hope!
@@brienna224 fantastic answer Thank you, I’ll take a screenshot😂 have a nice day!!!
Oh my god same situation idk why am i so toxic so clingy idk i have tried to change but now he says he is not emotionally open to me because i hurt him with my actions like fighting all the time idk we have been so much worse than this but i hope i change before its too late . 😔
“Is your partner the only person you see?”
Well yes... we are in a pandemic 😂
Facts
plus not everyone loves to hang out with friends especially they do not have friends they love to hang out to
@@acaken7269 🥲it's the "do not have friends" for me
I'm in a relationship currently, and I'd really like to think it's going well, but admittedly, some of these things are what makes me overthink them, especially the spending too much time together bit. Of course we have our breaks for when we have to go to classes, but I feel like maybe that isn't even enough. It'll be our one year anniversary in a week, and I'm so nervous for it
[Edit: thank you everyone for the suggestions and replies! Just letting you know that our anniversary has passed and we're working through our issues quite well! We're still happily together ❤️]
[Edit 2 (March 13th 2023): Thank you all for your suggestions and your stories again. My partner and I have separated just a few weeks ago, but not for ill intent. We both agreed we were just never ready for a relationship as we can barely hold ourselves up. I will admit, it very much hurts, and I miss them a lot. I have hope that things will get better for me, and I'll improve on mental and physical health after this.]
it doesnt have to apply to your specific situation i guess. u can pull it off if everything else is fine
I’m in the same situation except the year has passed and I don’t know how to tell him it’s too much time for me
@@SharaOrianna I was in a situation like that a couple weeks ago, the best thing you can do is be honest with him coz no one wants to be with someone where they ain't all in
I would suggest trying on some days to just hang out with other people, like they have a guys/girls (not assuming or judging) night out or you do.
It is okay to spend loads of time with each other. You have only been together for a year so you are still learning so much about each other. I think that as the relationship progresses it is important to establish independence as far as being okay with spending time without your significant other and not feeling like you absolutely have to be with them 24/7. Overthinking it is never good though, I’d say just do what you enjoy and don’t think about it too much. Relationships are all so different and there is no right or wrong way to establish them.
“Sometimes no matter how much you wanna be with someone, the timing just won't allow it” felt that pain but just accept the fact.
Its such a confusing and obsessive pain
I think the worst part about this is that looking from both me and my partners perspectives, over half of these checked out for our relationship and I hate that I'm the one who ended up doing half of these things to my partner yet never realized it until it was too late. At least it's never too late to improve though.
my gf always played the victim, couldnt communicate, seemed like she didnt want to be around me, and our relationship was one- sided. she broke it off with me a while ago, and im glad.
She was cheating
She defo used you. Anyways there's always other fish in the sea. Keep your head up
Indeed
My ex did the same to me, i was not happy when he dumped me but grateful now, kinda
"It's one thing when your partner tells you they love you and care for you, but another one they don't show it in their actions." 2:26
Omg if only i had seen this video i would be avoiding a long time of pain. Okay, so it had started because of romantic feelings to each other. Well, I told him first that I did. But we were just so different from each other. We had so little in common but I tried so hard to ignore that. Sadly, he did not and just kept bringing it up all the time. I didn't like most of his friends and he always made fun of my friends, my closest friends, even though I never insulted any of his friends. He just became a whole different person when he was around those "friends" and I never liked that person. The relationship always felt like one-sided. He decides what we do, where we go, what we eat, I didn't have a say in it most of the time. He always controlled me. "Be like that, act like that, wear like that" and none of "that" was me. We fought like a hundred times because of that. He would never accept or change that so I would just try to end the fighting because I didn't want to fight anymore. I could never act like the real me around him. There was always something wrong for him. Like, I'm a childish person. I like to dress like that, I like to act like that, I like to talk like that. But he was always like "act like your age, why are you so childish?". I could never have fun when I was with him. He wouldn't accept me like that. I changed my whole style because of him. I wore things that I wouldn't normally wear but that still didn't make him happy. He would make fun of people behind their back. Even though I always tell him to stop saying these things, he wouldn't stop. AND the worst part is that he would just keep talking to those people that he makes fun of. He was...utilitarian. He always thought that he would get advantage of these "friendships". He was so passive aggressive. Like, he would mention something I am or I do in the middle of a conversation with me and other people but he would mention it like I didn't do it. Like, I was kind of trying to figure out some things about my sexual preferences. I thought I was bisexual back then and he would be like "Glad my girlfriend isn't bisexual or anything". I know what you're thinking, "why didn't you break up with him if he was so horrible?". I was afraid of being alone. I didn't have many relationships. I didn't have many people who actually liked me. So if I left him, I'd be alone, again. The "love" I was feeling made me blind. But, at the end, I met someone while I was still with him. I met someone that when I was with I could be "me". I fell for him, when I made sure that I was feeling something for him, I broke up with my boyfriend. We started dating. And I realized all these bad things about him after we broke up. Now I am sincerely happy. I actually feel like this relationship is my reward. I believe, well we both believe that we're soulmates. I actually feel like, and really really REALLY hope, this one will last. Pray for us guys!
Hope your relationship goes well ❤ damn, your boy emulated pretty much all the signs except for sign 12, which I have to say I could fill in for you. I'm 18, blind, really curious about relationships, but I would lose everything if I even tried to pursue something with someone. However, I can only promise that when the right one comes along, I won't control them or do any of that stuff because I can't even see what people wear 😂
Most important one is when there is too much of mutual dependency and a belief that a relationship is always meant to be exciting.
but to a woman, it is! That is why we fall in love...we believe you will always offer that same level of love. Boy, are we wrong!
@@stephaniep1761 I absolutely understand. We all crave love but at the end of day, every human being is different and no matter how hard they try, they cannot give you the exact some love you except. The best way would be to be open towards all form of love that comes your way including yours.
@@shivamnow Actually, men and women should both learn what the opposite gender needs. It is fairly universal, but in our age of equality, we have blurred the divide.
@@stephaniep1761 Absolutely. It's applicable for both the genders Stephanie
The thing is the world is shitty enough, if they are really going through a rough time then it would be selfish to expect something from them. But when everything is cool you should be having an exciting time With your partner. And if they don’t want to have a good time then what are you together for, to bitch and moan to eachother?
Me and my SO had most of these issues from the beginning but the fact that we have evolved from alot of these red flags means we're on a good track. Whew! 😌 Working hard to make it work!
The constant conflict was a serious issue since the beginning of my relationship with my recent ex. He wouldn't elaborate on his negative feelings, accused me of everything that was wrong, gave silent treatments and kept me guessing what was wrong. We were together for 5,5 years and every day with him felt like he was a bomb waiting to explode in my face if I pushed the wrong button. When I got together with my current boyfriend I burst into tears when we had our first argument and it was resolved within 15 minutes, both being open about how we felt and then apologized to one another. My ex still says that the issues were as much of my fault as they were his. I hope he grows. For the sake of himself more than anything else.
Your ex sounds toxic af. Glad u got out
Congratulations 🎊
My ex has been giving me the silent treatment, stone walling and has ghosted me for 2 weeks after I told him I want my things back. Things that are irreplaceable; heirloom things, things he wanted but I said no, and a notebook with a credit card #, exp. date and security code in it. I canceled the CC, but the only way I can get my things is to #1 find where he is (I 99% know where) and when he'll be there and then I have to drive an hour there to get my things. It's crazy making.
It's very hard to keep a relationship when one is mentally unaware of how a relationship runs (I'm her first bf)
Am I the only one who was thinking "that's not my boyfriend.....that sounds like my mum!" Or just me??
If I described my relationship with my mom TO my mom (or anyone else) but changing it for some guy's name, everybody will tell me it's toxic and should leave.
Lmao!😩😩😩
Lol. Indians have it worse.
@@sreya2004 True
Toxic family members are really hard to get away from sometimes. There are videos on this channel about unhealthy family relationships. Look after yourself!
"The timing isn't right"
When your significant other has the emotional maturity of a bratty 11-year old. Maybe in 15 years she'll grow out of it. Nah.
Or he
u guys ok?
I gotta say this is true, anger management control is a huge breaker too. If they say you're immature with how you go out and like to have a social life when you should be focused on them and then throw a fit about anything they have deep issues and can't handle being in conflict. That's a huge sign
Relationships are overrated and our media is pretty convincing that we won't ever be happy if we are single.
If relationships are overrated then so is being single
Im single and its better that way why be in a relationship when 99 of the time it wont work out
@@jodiarias4688
so why do people get to be in a Romantic Relationship at all if it's so terrible and overrated and doesn't even work 99 of the time?
@@monabohamad2242 because they are lonely or they want something else from my pride is so big i wont let anyone destroy that 🤡
@@jodiarias4688 what does any of that even mean?and you're not saying that there's anything wrong with not wanting to be lonely are you? cuz if there's nothing wrong with being lonely and maybe even WANTING to be lonely then there's nothing wrong with wanting to not be lonely
I guess it's kinda of all a Matter of Perspective
I've realized a lot of my faults and have made efforts to be a better communicator. When I talk to my ex, I always tell her that everything is on her terms. I will not pressure her. I love her still, I understand, I do not interrupt her. I make sure she feels heard. The only problem now is that she wants to give her rebound a try. I hope she comes back to me one day. I know I took her for granted and eventually received the silent treatment, but now I know how to be on the same team as her. I believe that you can overcome incompatilities to become compatible with healthy communication and compromise. I had a lot of maturing up to do emotionally.
I now understand that it's not just what you say, but how you make the other person feel that matters.
People can change for themselves and the ones they love if they want to.
watching this makes me feel so much better about my relationship, I love my girlfriend so much and this made me realize how great we are for eachother. Of course not everything is sunshine and rainbows constantly, but we care enough, have the teamwork, trust and maturity to work through shit together.
🥰🥰 Aww I wish you both the best for your relationship 😄😄
Good luck to both of you! :D
@@meowmeow8457 Thank you >w
@@MrJgreenwell2000 :DD
I experienced some of these things in my first marriage that only lasted 8 years. Left that mess and toxic man. Now in a different state, both mentally and geographically, i have the exact opposite with my currant marriage. Just celebrated our 14th anniversary on the 3rd of August. I have for years now know what a good, healthy relationship is supposed to look like, and feels.
“Perfection is a Myth”
That quote hits different
I think it’s natural to have more disagreements the more you spend time with someone. You shouldn’t be bickering all the time, but I think there’s a learning curve / adjustment period. To me, what matters is how productively you confront each other, rather than how frequently - coming from a place of love and understanding, rather than the need to be right.
The guy am with always wanna be right it’s always a competition
I will not lie, these help me be a better boyfriend. I love my girlfriend to the moon and back, but I also didnt realize how I truly was acting and reading her signs wrongfully, until I started watching these videos. Forever greatful and thankful for videos like these. So many signs I've realized with my girlfriend and in myself, now I feel like I could love her better than I already do. I thought I knew how to love her before, but you know what it's been said "when you watch the truth, then you understand and realize at the same time." Thank You.
The mark of a truly deserving boyfriend is one who can both admit these things, and change for the benefit of his partner! Props to you man, hope you and your girl are doing okay and that you have the best life together!
This is so beautiful, I wish you and your girlfriend the best.
@@Irenebloom she has left me been single now since. Anyways I wish nothing but the best for you!
@@ethanloch3802 hey sorry it took so long to reply. She has left me and have been single since. Thank you for your kind words, It’s because of people like yourself who show that they care is what kept me from going insane. Thank you again.
@@michaelbishop2930 I don't know why she left you, but you should know that it's people like you who are the ones who set an example for a good relationship. So many people nowadays forget how important the connection is. It's so materialistic and people think it's all about looks and money. Even money can't buy a personality. Never forget that, and I hope whatever happens you keep your attitude from your original comment with the next one, and if she doesn't leave you, I can assure you you'll make her very happy.
Wow I did not expect to get instantly relaxed by their voice
Remember, “Every new beginning comes from some Other beginning’s end “
Closing time coded 😂
You don’t have to go home, but you can’t stay here
Just binge watched every single relationship video. My first relationship just ended, and since it was my first I think I deserve some leeway, but I messed up in well over 70% of the problems voiced in all of your videos... Im still recovering, but once I feel well with myself Ill be ready to not make those mistakes again!
We just broke up. And yeah! These signs are right. But it pains me coz I love that person so much 😢
Laleh Starbuck ok hitch
Just broke up with my boyfriend aide I didn’t feel accepted and I felt controlled. He felt I was being passive aggressive when really he’d be so overly aggressive with his criticisms that I’d need time to process it before just lashing out and saying the first thing out of anger. When I did put my foot down and said “enough” he told me he now felt like he couldn’t express himself freely because of how I’d take it.. I like him. But I can’t date him. Not like that
Yeah that guy seems to have a few issues, him gaslighting you would be be the tip of the iceberg. So many people would be so much better off if they could identify the redflags like you did as well as taking decisive action to keep your self healthy. Sorry for your loss but good for you
Good on you for leaving him! It sounds like you're better off without him.
sunofpeter2 thank you
M B thanks 🙏
@@cian2898 Yes Miss Musa. I was told recently that relationships are got you giving 50% and the other person giving 50%. It's both of you giving 100%. Made me look at myself pretty hard, realized i had overlooked alot of red flags. what a mistake.
I admit I developed emotional dependence from horrible past relationships. It makes it extremely difficult to maintain a healthy relationship, especially a romantic one. But it's doable. It just takes a lot of patience from both sides to be able to improve it.
Honestly, I just got out of a relationship a few months ago and most, if not everything mentioned in this video, applies to how things were in that past relationship. This cleares up many things and now I know how to avoid such a toxic relationship like that one. So thank you for making this kind of videos. They help a lot!! ❤️❤️❤️
Awww nobody cares
@@Datboiiijoshua If you don't care, why do you even read AND answer these messages. You are definitely a very rude and toxic person.
@@Datboiiijoshua But I do.
I'm single for years now, coming from a toxic relationship. Watching this video is entirely about guiding myself away from the trauma that I have been through
How can a relationship last, if you never had a relationship?
I do feel like i haven't felt what love feels like. Maybe i just havent met the right person, maybe i wont ever fall in love.
I let the future decide and don't rush anything.
Me and my boyfriend have the same friend group, and it's actually how we met. We share a lot of the same experiences with our mental health and even though I don't understand his interests I listen and learn about what he's into so I can understand things better They mean a lot to me and I know that our relationship is healthy because we may have arguments or something annoys us but we always solve the problems
Things to add: 1) Dosen't respect boundaries. 2) Dosen't respect your friends and family. 3) Tries to isolate you and turn you or others against you. I'm sure there is more but these are the first I thought of. 😥
When you see the world through rose colored glasses all the red flags just look like flags.
I have watched a bunch of your videos. They have been depressing because the bad signs mentioned in them were nearly all present in my first relationship (I'm in my second hopefully last relationship), which ended after 10 yrs, 8 of them married.
Since the divorce i have watched these videos and noticed that there were red flags from the start of the relationship. My current relationship is, happily, the opposit. Nothing but green flags.
I dont have any of this signs, except the timing, we are in quarantine, separated, and we used to hang out together, its a little difficult, but i love her, and we are trying to pass this
My ex was all of those. I can't believe we've dated for 8 years and broke up last year in December. I feel amazing being single!!
By watching half way through I feel like I'm in for a long and healthy relationship for once 🥺🥰
All these comments are so genuine and heartfelt. What a great community. Glad we can bond together everyone ❤
The "nice to me but mean to other people" is a huge one for me. If im on a first date and my date is disrespectful to the waitress thats a HUGE red flag, because i know that's how they'll treat me once all their shiny new armor wears off.
I understand why we shouldn't change our partners (#7), but it gets more difficult when they have something that negatively impacts your relationship. I thought I was encouraging my ex when I tried to show him that he was headed towards a very dismal life. Not making goals, not having a major picked out despite being a junior in college (and not even trying to figure it out), eating fast food or frozen meals exclusively, nicotine addiction, dirty/messy apartment, not having a strong support system. To me, those were all major concerns. And the root of it was that he didn't care about bettering himself. After a year, I'd never seen anything in him that would make me go, "yeah. this guy's character is good."
I should've just left him, I know. I convinced myself that I was a good girlfriend. I rearranged my priorities, I pointed out our differences, I cooked him meals that he didn't appreciate and I got upset when he showed me that in his actions. In the end, he resented me. Maybe we are "too different". Maybe nobody's in the wrong. But tell me, is there a girl who wants all of this? Is there a girl who would be fine dating someone who didn't even own a toilet brush until his friends made fun of him?
my ex is the exact same way, messy, unhealthy, jobless, in debt, college dropout, and doesn’t want to get better. but he left me to “work on himself” and what’s he doing a month later without me to take care of him? absolutely nothing. still jobless. still lonely. when i was with him i’d do my best to help him out but after a year and a half of him not getting his shit together, he breaks up with ME so he can work on himself.
i only put up with it for so long bc i believed he could get better, but he never wanted to. now, i feel much more free not having to worry about his problems and how ignored i felt to have my feelings swept under the rug. all i can say is don’t settle for less, bc i definitely settled with him to begin with and convinced myself that it was better than i thought it was.
You shouldn't change your partner, but I think you can tell when someone should be striving for growth. Not your job to grow them, and you don't deserve to be burdened by someone who's taking advantage of you. You don't even need this list, they're just not a good person.
Seems like your ex is depressed af
@@emmafernandez7531 if I had a girlfriend like you I'll be in heaven so sad 😌😌there's no one for me like you concern your boyfriend
In my case I'm the one who took all the responsibility and care but still she left me without saying anything 😞
Ppl who want to stay will stay regardless and will work their way to healthy relationship..
So, theres no right way or what u could have done to make em stay. No one is already educated in love.. they stay and they learn!!
Imo 👀
I think it's definitely about the mutual will to stay together and learn. If it's one sided in that regard that would be really toxic otherwise
Agreed
Still Deppresed the video is from 48 minutes ago & you’re comment is from a week ago , how
Hey how can you comment 1 week ago it's just posted today😶🤯
@@atsuyak768 I am in the one sided boat myself. Toxic isn't the right word, heartbreaking for sure. It's more confusing than anything else. Especially when kids and marriage were being discussed the night before the break.
i just got out of a one sided relationship i pray the next person i meet is not one sided
POV you’re either single, crushing or just went through a break up
I'm the last one
I'm a burger so no problem for me
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All of the above sir lmao
@@ambrosiawilliams839 how ? 😳
After seeing these videos I am honestly so scared to get in a relationship.
Problems in relationships are inevitable but they can get fixed. don’t let them scare you away from meeting someone that could make you really happy
Being scared is not a solution here
It's fine, media is not as it is. People are much more different, as real life is. Conflicts r also inevitable, but you can act, even without rushing into one 🙂
You just know when it's the right one. You feel like you can be totally yourself around them and loved for who you really are!
I think some of these can also be used for not only romantic relationships, but for friendships as well. One big red flag I found in a lot of relationships. I currently have is the lack of communication. Also, somebody you’re in a relationship with regardless of what type it is if they’re constantly on their phones when they are around you but when they’re around their other friends, they ignore your messages. That’s a big red flag too.
If you’re unhappy in your relationship look into at what you want and what your partner wants. If you’re not in it there’s your answer, free yourself from a miserable life of holding on to something that’s already dead. 💔
I wanted to know what if you lose feelings but u still care about that person like u wanna let go but u are thinking he'll be broken without me or smth like that😭I am sooo confuse I keep overthinking about breaking up it's been two weeks and it's making me sad.plz give me some advise bcz this is my first ever relationship with someone
Personally, i think if you have had a good relationship with this person, you can probably try to spice things up or try “dating” him/her again cause it’s normal relationship can be boring that’s life. But if you feel like you have absolutely no feelings left then be real with yourself and try to imagine a life without him/her. How does that make you feel? That’s your answer. As much as you care about this person romantic feelings can’t be forced, it will cause harm to both parties. .
@@mayrasanchez1896 THANKKK YOUUU SOOO MUCHH
When you don't have anything you do together, being interesting people can prevent running into that wall.
Though, someone you try new things with is something you can have in common and a thing you do together.
Ambipom for the way
Trust within each other is a must. You definitely don't want to hear the phrase 'I don't trust you' from your partner. Specially if this distrust comes from their past relationships. It is difficult to be mindful and understanding in their way to overcome this fear if they are willing to overcome distrust, but it is even heartbreaking making the, perhaps, mistake of forgiven them over and over for this and discover that, in fact, instead of trying to deal and overcome this fear, they expect that time will solve their problems. I know I'm full-on venting my experience here, but just in case anyone is ever found in this position, please, chose wisely. Don't you ever force yourself to stay in a relationship where you end up feeling invalidated and frustrated for your partner's unresolved past trauma. You may try to help them get through it, it is honourable, but remember that your feelings also matter, and that you shall firstly take care of yourself.
I'm in this situation right now. I ended it with my ex. We had been only dating for a few months but she questioned everything I did. She said everything I did was weird and sketchy. It hurts knowing I was faithful to her but she couldn't get past the trauma of her past. I was defeat that I actually cried in front of her and she was apologetic during that time but after the break up she said her ex cried too. She said her ex constantly cheated. My ex couldn't let our issues go and would constantly bring it up over and over again. She said everyone she dates always use her as a lesson, and when they stop dating her they end up with someone long term. I'm not sure she said that as a boast or a good thing but that sounds very toxic. I wish I would've played our major issue differently but i feel she would've found something else to argue with me about like she did in the relationship.
I started dating someone going on for a few months now. In the beginning we hung out a lot. Recently decided to only see each other on weekends and one day during our work week. Just to give each person space to do whatever. I feel like ever since we did this, we miss each other's company a lot more, so the time that we are together is more meaningful. I'm lucky my boyfriend is good at communicating and he encourages me to do the same. Working out all the kinks now feels a whole lot better than problems coming up down the line. I'm being hopeful because I really like him and the feelings are mutual
Seeing each other in the weekend and one day in the week is often enough. Spending everyday with someone gets abit too much.
Here's mine: fiance's parents are toxic towards us
As long as he's not toxic, your relationship should be ok. You just have to cut off from those toxic parents or learn to navigate the waters and not make them upset WITHOUT it being draining. For example, my aunt is very toxic about religion. So while I need her in my life, I limit my time spent with her and try my best to not bring up religion, divert the conversation, or just butter up to her if I have to, because she's too dumb to see around it.
@@afreen5058
so do you mean to say that your aunt hates religion? well basically my whole entire family is religious I guess that kinda includes me too
got no parents and i'm totally on my own. so I kinda can't imagine finding a guy who has a family (just like almost everybody else), and i'd always be this kind of +1, and kinda family but not really, and i'd just hate it. Especially if then i had to look after those people, when i was left alone at times when my parents were dying. I secretly hope that if I ever find a good man, he will have no family as well, even if I know it's a cruel fate and I shouldn't wish it upon anybody. I just can't help myself here and I don't wanna deal with any crazy people. Probably gonna be alone forever anyway
@@hanami741 Nah you should be his #1 and a good family would treat you as one of their own. Some people in your position actually really like when their partner has a big family since it's something they never had. When I eventually marry someone that's exactly how it'll be.
Came here after rejecting an amazing person cos of our differences in timing and understood that it was the right choice to make. Thank you .
Hmm I wouldn't make such a serious decision based on a video..., not sure love is black and white
I'm working on being the best version of myself and I had such high hopes for my last relationship. I thought being single for two years would be enough and then I realized that time means nothing when you haven't taken a moment to love yourself, understand your worth and find the person who also values themselves. I slipped into a relationship with a narcissistic person who treated most of the people around him like shit. He was so sweet to me but, that threw me for a loop our relationship moved so fast and became toxic so quickly. Love yourself, know your worth and the right person will come along.
Yeah. Idk. I suck at relationships. I’m done with it. It’s not worth the suffering. Lol
*1 . Your relationship is solely about the romantic pull*
_It became that way because of how much I was pushed away from any physical contact._
*2. You don't like their friends*
_Their friends only pretended to like me and would downgrade me to my friend afterwards_
*3. You spend too much time together*
_To them it was too much time but to me I could spend the whole day with them. Except, when we were out together it felt bitter seeing them wish they were elsewhere_
*4. Your relationship feels one-sided*
_Unfortunately that is what happens when the friend starts dating_ 😒
*5. You feel controlled*
_Anyone would be when the other no longer desiring to vaule the relationship...no matter how much the you values it._
*6. You can't be yourself around them*
_I felt like a happy school kid around them wanting to have fun and be playful. They wanted to be appropriate and act their own age caring of what society thought of them. 😕 So felt held back and on a leash._ ➰
*7. You don't feel accepted*
_I felt that I was going to be let go. Thier dating relationship in, our friendship out. As it always has been and soon became._ 😕
*8. You fight all the time*
_Yeah I fought to maintain the relationship the best I could. Trying everything possible._
*9. You don't trust each other*
Nope. They wanted to trust another more because to them, a date is more important than a friend. They wanting to marry.
*10. They're regularly mean to other people*
_I'm the blunt, outspoken one, their the quiet passive one. Who do you think would be viewed as mean?_ 🙄
*11 . They're passive-aggressive*
_We both were_
*12. The timing isn't right*
_That's what they proclaimed it to be._
Did I ghost-wrote this?
You were just with the wrong person, if you're literally identifying with all of these.
Guess you weren't for each other... I only know this one thing.
Regardless of how much common hobbies u have with someone else, how often u fight, how well u communicate, etc, there's one common thing that u NEED to have.
You both, after every "risky" fight or situation, try to let each other know, how u don't wanna lose them.
(risky situation = the individual feels that the other person might want to break up, due to that situation's impact/effect).
Maybe u did something bad, but till the very end, u never admitted or apologized for that particular mistake. (Or maybe the other person does that).
Both of u feel too upset to give in to the other one, too wronged to apologize. But, both of u, just admit to each other, how u don't wanna leave and you don't want the other to leave.
THAT right there is a bond.
I won't say it's the best. And maybe this is the glue that holds toxic couples together, keeps them from splitting up.
But overall, that kind of a bond, is quite strong.
(I'm only talking about whether the relationship will last or not. If u have this bond, doesn't mean u are in a "healthy" relationship. That's a whole different story.)
U know how kids throw temper tantrums? get hell bent on whatever it is, etc? But when it's time to get serious, they just shut up and go join their parent's side. Or at least stop the rebellions.
They're too immature to communicate properly, but they (deep down) love their parent too much to properly leave their side.
Well said , sounds like story of my life !!!
When you realize a RUclips channel knows you better than anyone else.
two hours after I watched this video, my boyfriend broke up with me
When your ex broke it off 2 months ago and you still want nothing but her back. The feels hurt.
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It's been two more months, how you hangin?
just got broken up with and there were many signs in this video
YEP. Me too...
Same
Same, and I spent like 3 years working on looking for these signs and developing self worth. Sometimes people can pretend to be what we need at first, and that’s terrifying because when they change and you see the real person all these signs show up as well :P
Jon A i’m sorry about that :(
josie Ty, I’m sorry you had to go through it too. But I look at it now as these things happen to either educate us to finding a better person or a reason to give up entirely. I’ve never been good at giving up 😌 I assume you’re the same and we’ll end up doing just fine
12 early signs a relationship wont last: seeing this video on your fyp
Without psych2go, I’d be repeating the same mistake over and over and over again