I'm in a relationship...but I feel like I'm giving to much n getting too less....its actually silly to think..may be...but when my partner calls me I am always available...like 99.99% available...but when I call him or try to spend time with him..he is asleep..or else he picks up the phone n asks me to hung up just bcoz he wants to sleep...N this thing frequently hurts me but I try my best to hide my pain behind my smile...stillI I fail sometimes when its unbearable...I am in that point in my life n relationship that I don't know what to do..what to say and how to react ....I really fo need a 3rd person help😢🥺😓🙏
“Some people will leave you soon no matter how, but it's not the ending of your story, it's just the ending of their role in your story. cause life goes on"
This is why I just ended my marriage. We have just about all these signs but communication was our biggest and most heart breaking thing for me. If two people don't communicate well, no matter how hard they try, maybe they're just not meant for each other...
Or when you try to talk about how you feel about something in the relationship and she starts to lash out and starts to gaslight you in always making drama...
This video hit hard! I used to miss so many red flags in my relationships, but after reading a book I found at Synfla, I finally understand the early signs of a healthy vs. toxic relationship. If you’re dating, you NEED to read it before making any big decisions! ❤
I'm not ashamed to admit I was the toxic part of the relationship. The reason being, is that I've since identified and taken care to fix those habits I'd formed. And my lovely ex, has helped facilitate my getting better as a person for it. That woman is a goddess and deserves nothing but praise for her patience.
I don't think it's not good to spend too much time together... What about people married for 20+ years n stuff? I mean as long as you both understand each other, Love them unconditionally, be honest, treat them well, respect them and their decisions and by being loyal, you can really look forward into being in a serious relationship. I don't think there is any actual problem if they spend too much time together. Well, we need to give them space, coz that's like a necessary thing in a relationship. So yeah!
Gayathri B.G Spending too much time together is most certainly a problem. We need our own interests, hobbies, friends, etc. Plus working. That’s 8 hours everyday that you don’t see them if you have a 9-5 type of job (like I do.) You’ll hate each other if you spend too much time together, and I need a few hours to myself every morning and when I come home from work simply because I will be the worst person to be around if I can’t have alone time. I will be moody, snappy, and aloof if I go a few days without having me time. And plus that’s a sign of toxicity and dependence if you and/or your partner need to be around each other or talk 24/7. My abusive ex wouldn’t even let me sleep unless I was otp with him. It got to the point where he would come with me to the bathroom when we were living together. Trust me... it’s definitely a bad thing.
In the case of my wife and I, we fought quite often early in our relationship. To the point where she didn’t think we were going to make it. One important factor was the way we resolved those fights. Through mature communication and the willingness to try and adapt we’ve been able to learn how to co-exist better. I believe being able to resolve fights is one of the keys as you’re bound to get into them eventually.
Did you and your wife sometimes stay a couple of days away from each other after a big fight? Like, you still communicate over the phone but not as often as usual?
This! I had severe trust issues in our relationship because of my upbringing. This caused a lot of fights initially because I couldn’t control my emotions even though I knew it was wrong. When I saw it was ruining our relationship, I apologised and promised to never do that again. She gave me time to slowly control my emotions and I put in the effort to do so. Communication is definitely important in a relationship. If both of you wants to make it work, you’ll do anything for it
@@malu8710 Thank you for your answer, pretty much whats been happening in my relationship where I just can't controll my constant overthinking. Probably doesnt help that it's the first relationship for the both of us. luckily she is patient, and I will take your tips and have them in the back of my head, specially with working on my trust issues :)
Hi Jeffrey! Thank you for sharing your experience! I can currently relate to your wife’s previous position. And if I may ask, what made you decide to continue that relationship? Since having a partner who didn’t think the relationship has a future can be taken as a sign of incompatibility. And thank you in advance if you decide to share your wisdom!
@@t.h.3146 For me it was easy to continue as I've never been so sure of someone. She was my best friend and I remember not being able to describe why I loved her so much - it's as if I didn't need a reason. Yes, it was a bit unnerving that she felt that way, however, something in my heart knew we were meant to be together. For my wife, she really struggled to reconcile between what her head vs heart was telling her. One day, it also clicked for her and here we are today. I hope that you also find your truth.
I was too invested in her I tried my best to be the best boyfriend for her and she said it was all a joke It’s been a good run guys I hope to die and go back to wherever I came from
I watched this about 2 months into my last relationship and went “oh thank god I don’t have any of these signs.” Came back again 7 months after that relationship ended. The signs just hadn’t surfaced yet since they were still in the lovebombing phase. This video is 100% correct 🤷
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This is me too. We broke up at almost one year then get back together, Now we live together for two months it was just very painful to separate but maybe it's for the best
*12 early signs a relationship won't last :* 1. your relationship is solely about the romantic pull 2. you don't like their friends 3. you spend too much time together 4. your relationship feels one-sided 5. you feel controlled 6. you can't control yourself around them 7. you don't feel accepted 8. you fight all the time 9. you don't trust each other 10. they're regularly mean to other people 11. they're passive aggressive 12. the timing isn't right
Yes it is but it's not always as possible as we'd like it to b unfortunately 😔. Ik this 1st handedly cuz I live in a relationship like what was discribed in the video & I am constantly questioning my true identity. Which in my opinion no one should have to do if ur in a honest, loving, caring, & trustworthy relationship.
Is there ever really a perfect time for a relationship though? I feel like if two people who are very goal driven end up falling for each other, then they’ll never really feel like it’s the perfect time fit a relationship
Yeah I think it’s really just about the mental space either person is in, even if things like work or school or other responsibilities get in the way of meeting each other’s needs, you have to know yourself and your own capacities to both give and receive love.
I strongly disagree with 4:08. I was a total sh!tbag that nobody wanted to be around until my SO forced me to basically rebuild myself from the ground up by changing everything; my personality, manners, and respect (lack thereof) completely 180d. Now I’m actually semi-tolerated by society. Not sure what it is she saw in me worth giving a chance but I’d still be a despised miscreant today if not for her.
The list for those who are in a hurry: 1. Your relationship is solely about the romantic pull 0:55 2. You don't like their friends 1:27 3. You spend too much time together 1:57 4. Your relationship feels one-sided 2:24 5. You feel controlled 2:46 6. You can't be yourself around them 3:16 7. You don't feel accepted 3:50 8. You fight all the time 4:26 9. You don't trust each other 4:59 10. They're regularly mean to other people 5:35 11. They're passive-aggressive 6:06 12. The timing isn't right 6:40 Who else is a single pringle here?
Some people may feel that this lit up the lightbulb. But YES its not good to leave someone right away just because you watched a video. But the video is information, and it that information starts the gears a-turnin' then perhaps it is better to look into your relationship a little deeper and question the things you related to the video. In that way, the video is a supplement to one of the reasons a person would walk out, but not THE definitive reason. Let's hope that anyone who broke up because of this video had other input as well, such as thinking a lot about it, input from friends, reading, etc. whatever it may be.
Im in a recent relationship with my crush and she always treated me like I’m worth something great. Everyone at my school treat us like we’re worth nothing.We always encouraged and cheered each other up when we were feeling blue. Talking to her and hanging out with her brings happiness into both of our lives. I honestly don’t want to be with any other girl but her. And watching these videos made me realize that this relationship is going to be really strong. We are both going to the ninth grade and I now know that we will still be together through high school. 😊
My wife of 20 years made me feel like I could be my truest self since day 1. Before we even got married I cried in her arms over this very fact. To this day she says she doesn’t remember that moment 😂 😆 😝. But she’s my best friend, and I can’t see myself with anyone else besides her. Here’s to another 20 years!!
This restored my faith in men a bit...I look forward to the part in my life when I meet someone who appreciates and chooses me from day 1. I entered all past relationships with an attitude to understand them, in hopes of it being reciprocated only to find out down the line that they lie, use me and dim my light. Working on myself to prevent similar relationships I have to leave in future
@@Ellie-nq6ws if you can meet a man that can connect with you on an emotional, intellectual, and more than a physical level engage him thoroughly. They exist, you’ll definitely know the difference.
The people admiting themselves and being proud of their improvement in the comments just brings smile to my face. Very brave. We got this. Not a single one of us here are perfect.
Your comment just made me smile, so thanks for paying it forward :) so true that we all are guilty of some less than ideal behaviors, and that's ok! We just all need to keep trying our best
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0:55 1. Your relationship is solely about the romantic pull 1:29 2. You don't like their friends 1:57 3. You spend too much time together 2:24 4. Your relationship feels one-sided 2:48 5. You feel controlled 3:18 6. You can't be yourself around them 3:51 7. You don''t feel accepted 4:26 8. You fight all the time 4:49 9. You don't trust each other 5:37 10. They're regularly mean to other people 6:07 11. They're passive aggressive 6:41 12. The timing isn't right hope this helped
My parents' marriage is like this, too. It's also very codependent, too. It's been like this for DECADES, in fact, and ever since I was born, I've never recalled them being loving or affectionate towards one another. They should've been divorced a long time ago, but, alas, they're still married after 40+ years. I don't count this at all, though. They've just been roommates who hate each other but became too used to it, and it's bad enough that my dad actually CHOOSES to sleep on the couch and did that for so long now that he can't fathom ever sleeping in a real bed. This affected my sister and me, too. If anybody sees these signs in their relationship, please do yourself a favor and break up with that person. Do not think about giving them a second chance, lest they take advantage. And definitely do not marry them, much less have kids to drag into this chaotic situation.
When my husband and I first started dating, we spent 8+ hours a day together. This was not due to co-dependence. But the fact that we were both in the same college classes and had the same major. We made good lab partners because we worked well together. We hung out with our friends seperately or together, but we liked and still like spending a lot of time together. We'll have been married for 6 years in May.
Opposite situation--my bf and I don't have any classes together (very different majors) and I dislike studying together because it feels like he's so focused on whatever important work he's doing, and all I can do is wait for him to be done. So right now we only spend time together when we're both free. Do you have any advice on how I can become more comfortable with studying together?
@@ben24763 I honestly don't have specific advice. We just got along very well, and even if we weren't studying together it was enough to be studying in the same room, but not necessarily studying together. I don't expect him to be constantly engaging with me. If he is focused on something, I let him finish and do my own thing and vice versa. We understand that if one of us is in the zone, then the other doesn't interrupt.
@@ben24763 had the same situation as you when I was in highschool. I would say just do your own thing (talking to friends, drawing, finishing tasks) that's what I did and I hope it helps for you too ^^
@@ktm5130 My partner and I are the same but we aren't in any schooling. He works and I'm a SAHM. It's pretty rare for us to spend any time apart because we are best friends and genuinely prefer to spend time together. 6.5 years together now. We of course have the option to do separate things, but we rarely choose to, except once or twice a year when he has a lads holiday with his mates. I don't think anyone should force themselves to spend time apart just because "experts" say it isn't healthy to spend "too much time together". I feel like they should just leave it at "Don't be codependent."
If you are watching this while you are heartbroken, because the relationship you had was perfect to you and you try to find a reason why he is gone, I feel you. I am struggling too.
Hope you are okay Gaia. Go no contact, and work on yourself. Life is short, either he comes back or someone else better will come into your life. Do the self care work and take care!
Honestly! My heart aches so much because I know how much I was willing to make it work despite everything but he just watched me put in all the efforts. I’m really begging God to heal me.
@@blessingugochi2029 just try and see it from another point of view...if you tried so hard and he didnt do anything, its good riddance! hes not the one for you, you need someone who puts equally as much effort as you did. Value yourself more and come to realise that he wasnt good enough for YOU, not the other way around. Realising this should make it a little bit easier to get over it. I know its hard in the moment, but time will show you it was a good thing to happen, not a bad one!
There was a lot of issues, the main one was the timing wasn't right. I'm a better person now, which he helped me to be. So is he, he's a better person now because of me and he told me this. But he is my soulmate, and I cannot escape this horrible crushing feeling that what is done, is done. It's too broken and the past is inescapable. He sees me as his best friend, and I wish I could do it all again as the person I am now, go back in time, start fresh. But it's over and I am having a really hard time accepting it or moving on with my life.
my boyfriend & i have been dating for 7 months & this is first healthy relationship of my life and this video just validates that to me even more. the only thing on this list thats true for us is we spend a lot of time together, but even then we still make time for friends & family as well. I'm so happy :)
Relationships last because two people make a choice to keep it, so we need to fight for and work for it. Being someone’s first love may be great, but to be their last is beyond perfect 🖖
@@monabohamad2242 He meant its a choice to stay and fight for it if you choose it to work. You can choose to make it work because you love someone. Even after the feelings arent so strong anymore.
this video validated my feelings on my relationship, it feels so good to be in a healthy relationship, and know that our small disagreements are ok, as long as we talk them out :)
My girlfriend most likely won’t see this, but I’m really lucky to have her in my life. Before we met my life was so empty because of my parents recent divorce and my dad moved away I also moved away from all my friends all in the same week I met her and at first didn’t see her romantically but we hung out more often and I just fell in love she treats me with so much respect and love ahhhh I love her so much. I am aware how grammatically incorrect that statement was but idc I love her so much
Me: *I’m your girlfriend and I saw this.* - XDD sorry this was immature of me but I just want to 😊, hopefully you both still together still, good luck! Keep it strong!
Bruh listen to me... This is comming from a person who's situation was kindof similar... Try to fight with life alone.. Win over it be happy and then share the hapiness.. Unconciously you will look for hapiness from the other person and im honestly saying that it won't last
@@welhungyongmancitywok8189 Nah, it's nothing. Message could be useful for someone else and expressing an opinion and a general piece of advice is easy to do. Braveness is something doesn't suit me, in this case. What that person does in her life is something I don't truly care: everybody does what it wants in its own life and I don't feel like looking for persons' identities for each messages on the youtube.
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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i want to break up with my boyfriend, i’ve never felt so alone when i’m with someone. he purposely humiliates me and my past in front of other people knowing i’m embarrassed about it. he calls other women hot and cute in front of me, he is more affectionate with them than he ever was and will be with me. ive spent so much money on him, he begs for money everyday and get upset w me when i say i barely have any for myself. only time he looks excited to be with me is when i give him sexual pleasure. he gets so irritated with me when i tell him in not in the mood and tells him i kill his mood all the time just by talking. he tells me “i don’t care” to everything i say or enjoy. this person is a literal cancer to me. ive never been so un attracted to someone in my life, so repulsed by someone’s personality. it took me so long to realize but i deserve better, i break up with him tomorrow. wish me luck
I completely agree: when someone doesn't accept you the way you are and want you to be someone else, stay yourself or leave, it can never be wealthy or sane
Honestly to a degree, if someone isn't ready to also changd and grow with you (of course on both sides!) then that's the biggest red flag for me. When someone is too stubborn to see that they too have flaws that might be hurtful. Of course there's a difference between changing everything on demand and having a conversation about some things that ask for compromise and maybe sacrifice. So yeah, accepting the flaws but also trying to better oneselfs and the relationship. Communication jeij
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It’s about the willingness to evolve to be the best possible person you can be. Some people may “be themselves” but have horrible habits that inhibit their own self growth. Should be motivating each other to be better.
I had a breakup yesterday| these reasons fully match my case 1. Wrong timing :his gf left him, so this time is wrong for us to be together. but still then he was the one who messaged me everyday and started flirting which made me think he was serious about us 2. It feels one sided . he would never try to message me all the time and it felt quite boring. he wouldn't share his life stories with me either. I was the one trying to care for him. 3. based on romance pull- we had a communication gap. but he was only interested in flirting with me. i actually asked him to be more free with me but he stayed quite always and wouldn't even react when i shared my stories with him. 4. he doesn't clear misunderstandings . i asked him why he minded about my telling my friends and family about our relationship. i asked him if anyone said something to him. But no he didn't try to explain. we had another argument on a religious topic. but he didn't try to share his opinion properly . instead he tried to avoid normal conversation all time 5. I can't be myself with him 6. We don't trust each other sigh my luck is too bad
I don't know how to feel about this. I always kind of felt that, that was a red flag, because not everything is a joke and when I continued watching the video and mentioned that sign. Uuuf, I was like daaamn... I could relate to 5 and I feel that is too much for too long.
I used to say this thinking my gf had a similar sense of humour as mine. I stopped doing it when she told me she didn't like it. wasn't enough of a change I guess.
I need to add, as a licensed counselor, the video focused on the "other" when the more difficult evaluation of oneself should be considered if any of those traits and behaviours describes YOU. Understanding that will help you understand why you have difficulties in sustaining or obtaining meaningful relationships.
Only problem is, people would either dismiss that any of those traits are exhibited by them or super insecure people would see everything is wrong with them.
This is so true! I noticed that most of those signs were in my (ex) relationship somehow, but sometimes he was the one who showed unhealthy behaviors (like passive-agressiveness), and sometimes it was me (not trusting him). It's important to see our own flaws too if we really don't want the story to repeat itself later.
ACCEPTANCE. Sometimes, you just have to accept that some relationships are not meant to last--and that's okay. Another great learning experience, as they say. ❤️❤️❤️
1. Watching videos or listening to people put ideas into your head about why your relationship wont last. 2. These thoughts convince you they are real. 3. Convinced it will happen, you self-fulfill these prophecies. 4. You sabotage yourself and your relationship unwittingly, but purposefully. 5. You end up being the reason the relationship doesn't last. 6. You feel vindicated in your earlier predictions. 7. You are convinced these videos and/or other people must be right since what was said came true. 8. You carry this out with every relationship you attempt regardless of any potentially different outcomes. 9. You share this so-called wisdom with your friends and family. 10. The toxicity of this mindset continues to spread like an out-of-control virus, therefor avoiding the real issue, which is yourself.
This is so damn true, it all starts with the thoughts you allow to shape your reality; your approach and your intention in relationships is what matters the most. You cannot expect to mold a relationship without the right tools. I am guilty of this cycle bc I've done it many times only to realize how blinded I was to believe my own prophecies and keep myself from working on the relationship which makes the other person exhausted bc who would want to work on it without your counterpart, right? I'm still working on this. And its not easy but having a partner who's willing to make the same efforts makes it a lot more worth it. Best wishes to you guys, let's keep working on ourselves 🧡
It's a matter of perspective and opinion that can possibly allow greater insight. It shouldn't be digested as a "one size fits all". If it doesn't apply, let it fly. Don't do the exact thing you're so adamant about. Let others formulate what works best for THEM.
Maybe deliver the "but's". For example: Your relationship feels onesided. But maybe your lovelanguages are just different. Then link the video. People want quick answers and leaving the points like that, might help someone to jump to false conclusions. People already throw away ppl way to fast rather than reflect and fix
Um no. I disagree entirely. People should be throwing partners away *sooner* than later-women especially need to learn this. It’s not my job to “fix” anyone but myself, and I spent too many years dealing with ‘fixer-upper’ men...building their sense of self-worth and making them feel better, but the relationships never improved. Once I got over that and did the work on *myself* I stopped having crappy relationships, and I feel better about myself.
Denise, yeah some people need to hear this side. But for others this might be their truth. Especially in recent times. Thts why i want a more diverse video. So everyone can find their truth.
Completely agree. Me and my husband also have different love languages. So we talk about it. When we are hurt we communicate. We both work at meeting each other's love and affection needs. Also spending too much time together? One thing we have in common that we do together is video games. That requires alot of time spent together lol.
Before when me and my girlfriend were first learning that we loved each other we were watching videos from this channel like “How you know you met your soulmate” and took quizzes online about it too, but it didn’t end up lasting but I’m happy we won’t have to feel upset because of each other anymore and we’ll learn to let go and I hope any of you that are going through anything bad in a relationship are able to find inner peace
If you are taking online quizzes to see if you should be with someone… you shouldn’t be with them… you need to clean your room and grow up. Respectfully 🤠
i really think this girl is the one, it’s crazy, we have so much in common and our only real arguments are more debates, never anything mean really, she’s so nice, the timing couldn’t be better, we feel comfortable and safe around one another. i think this is it guys. wish me luck.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
Your relationship ended for a reason. Maybe he didn't communicate, maybe you didn't understand. Please don't try to win him back. Please talk with a therapist or a friend that can tell you your mistakes as well as his, and move on.
At the beginning of my relationship, I definitely was the toxic one in the relationship. I know I had exhibited a lot of these points. My partner and I are still together now (almost 3 years) and I know I have definitely changed a lot from the past. However, I still think about whether we're still a good fit together for his sake and should continue dating because of the past. They tell me I have changed a lot for the better, but I still hate myself a lot for the behaviors I used to exhibit
@@CriS-jq6em i might not be the one to post the original comment but i think best thing to do is self reflection. It can show your true actions and discover why you formed the habits you do now. It is important in a relationship to not be you vs. them. You need to listen to them and not get defensive about it. Be honest with yourself on the stuff you have done, be apologetic, and actually attempt to change. On the other end, don't hold back on your own feelings and emotions. Talk through problems and don't avoid them. Problems are inevitbale but healthy couples can tackle them. (through talking and other things). There's also love languages test and apologetic languages tests you both can take so you understand one another. You won't have the best/healthiest relationship overnight, but there's hope!
Oh my god same situation idk why am i so toxic so clingy idk i have tried to change but now he says he is not emotionally open to me because i hurt him with my actions like fighting all the time idk we have been so much worse than this but i hope i change before its too late . 😔
some of these apply to platonic relationships as well, I used to have a really toxic friend who did most of this stuff and I was kind of blind to it for most of our friendship, right up until the end, it really made me think about what true friendship values should be
I used to be passive aggressive in my LDR. Honestly he had every right to leave because I was making our relationship difficult so instead he stayed and helped me uncover the root of the problem. We are going still dating and about to reach a 3 year mark. It's not perfect but worth making it work😊
@@kata9755 Well all I can honestly share is my experience so here goes I hope it helps:-) Since i grew up not knowing how to communicate my feelings I struggled a lot later as a young adult so he instead encouraged me to be honest about my feelings, why I felt a certain way whenever we faced challenges as a couple as well as in our individual everyday lives with others. it took time but eventually I got the hang of talking about how I felt even about past experiences. That's how I realized I was holding onto anger from childhood experiences which really wasn't dealt with in a healthy was hence I became passive aggressive. Communicating my emotions and getting to understand them was what helped me I guess.
Here ldr and I made it hard for him. I know we loved each other but it was my ego issue that ruined it. He said I'm not the only one who's wrong in this, he was too. We both can't fully make each other happy. It has ended after 10 months together
I'm in a relationship currently, and I'd really like to think it's going well, but admittedly, some of these things are what makes me overthink them, especially the spending too much time together bit. Of course we have our breaks for when we have to go to classes, but I feel like maybe that isn't even enough. It'll be our one year anniversary in a week, and I'm so nervous for it [Edit: thank you everyone for the suggestions and replies! Just letting you know that our anniversary has passed and we're working through our issues quite well! We're still happily together ❤️] [Edit 2 (March 13th 2023): Thank you all for your suggestions and your stories again. My partner and I have separated just a few weeks ago, but not for ill intent. We both agreed we were just never ready for a relationship as we can barely hold ourselves up. I will admit, it very much hurts, and I miss them a lot. I have hope that things will get better for me, and I'll improve on mental and physical health after this.]
@@SharaOrianna I was in a situation like that a couple weeks ago, the best thing you can do is be honest with him coz no one wants to be with someone where they ain't all in
It is okay to spend loads of time with each other. You have only been together for a year so you are still learning so much about each other. I think that as the relationship progresses it is important to establish independence as far as being okay with spending time without your significant other and not feeling like you absolutely have to be with them 24/7. Overthinking it is never good though, I’d say just do what you enjoy and don’t think about it too much. Relationships are all so different and there is no right or wrong way to establish them.
This one is even more hard-hitting than 10 Signs Someone is losing interest in you. You guys are so spot-on, it is unreal. Thank you guys, I will definitely be watching all videos before starting my next relationship
I met a guy and we had the most intense friendship chemistry. Sadly we tried to date and that was the worst mistake of my life... It ended pretty badly two years later we're friends again 😂
@@simonedesabata9538 some combinations of qualities are just perfect for friendship..but as a romantic/sexual relationship is different, they may not go so well together in that case (just my opinion)
Number 12 is so relatable for my relationship... We hit it off so well the first month and bad things outside of our control just keep happening to her and now we haven't talked in like 4 weeks... Sometimes you can't control these things so please don't blame yourself, trying to find faults within you when it's really out of your control... Damn I miss her :(
Speaking from experience, if you have 3 - 8 and even 11 in your relationship, it isn't the end. Basically, 3 - 5 can result in 6 - 8 in many ways; but without proper communication can cause 11 with resentment on the side. If your partner is not abusive (physical, sexual, verbal, or mental), then the relationship is definitely salvageable with serious communication, understanding and a bit of assertiveness. I had the pleasure of being with my now fiancé since our 20s, and we had a lot of growing up to do; our immaturity hurt each other a lot and we almost broke up, but we grew together and made it out the hurricane.
but what if we already broke up? i tried my best to save it, i communicated the best i could, but i didnt tell her what i needed. she isnt sure that she loves me either, and she wants to focus more on studies, but i feel like we could still date even whilst taking care of outside things. i just love her so much, i didnt ever want this to happen and i tried my best and i want to keep going. i know we should take a break at the very least to find ourselves again.
i hate to say it but i used to be "that guy" mean to everyone else but my gf, sort of controlling, saying the clothes she was wearing were a little too revealing, it was honestly super bad, but, she told me that, and got me help with it, now 2 and a half years later, im super accepting of everything she does, and am actually a really kind person now i think, i will never forget what she did for me
Been dating for 8 years, and the signs are more visible now 😔 I have started playing some couple question games like “Lovify”. To understand each other better. In this game, we have to guess each other's likes. This helped me understand my gf's expectations better. And, she is loving it. Cheers, to all couples. We all will make it through 💞
I thought I hallucinated that! Bwahahhaha! I was watching this with despair as my last relationship hit all 12 of these and then a fart noise and I was like, ok yeah- don't be too upset since I can still giggle at a toot noise
ex didnt like my friends , he made me spend way too much time with him, and got mad when i hung out with everyone else, felt suuuuperrr controlled 99% of the time, we fought a lot, we definitley didnt trust eachother, he was rude to people, and finally, he is passive agressive AF. moral of the story, this list is spot on
@@choosejoy93 any time I ever hung out with my friends, he felt the need to include himself without asking. He would also get mad if I hung out with my BFF instead of him. I have strict parents so I couldn’t go out all the time and he said mean shit to me when I wasn’t able to. basically, I couldn’t breathe if I wasn’t around him or he would get mad
@@soledadyelmar2245 oh geez... I ask because my husband and I just had our 7yr anniversary and he believes that you should always include each other and I disagree. He thinks it's mean spirited to tell your partner "no, I want to go by myself" when making plans with a friend or family member. So I include him to meet his need of being involved and I have stand here hoping he meets my need by not going (he usually doesnt). Issue is that my needs are entirely in HIS hands....he can't handle me deciding for myself that I will go alone. There are other issues but this is one that really bothers me.
@@choosejoy93 being with each other at every second is not the best. You have to have time to yourself aswell. He should learn to respect your personal space. I have a new boyfriend who understands this better than anyone. When I’m hanging out with my friends he doesn’t get mad at all. infact, when we first started dating he told me he couldn’t we attached at the hip because he still had to take time to do all his college work. personal time is essential.
@@soledadyelmar2245 well I do have a lot of time to myself because I don't work, he does. Its just gotten to the point where it almost doesn't even feel worth trying to get together with people because I'll just be irritated he came along despite saying "you can come if you want." Ugh. There are a lot of issues and I feel stuck. The same issues come up in a huge fight every year. I have a lot to think about. We got married when I was almost 20 and am 27 now. My 20s almost gone and its been a lot of struggling trying to be a good wife but I don't feel fulfilled. I over empathize which is a huge issue vlcause guilt takes over.
The final point was my reason for ending my deep connection with my person this week. It’s heartbreaking to find someone who was so good for me (and me for them), but we’re just at very different points in our life journey. It almost felt like the worst possible reason to let them go, but forcing it was just making us miserable. Thank you for a really insightful little video.
The acting different towards other people thing is so true. I had a bad feeling about my ex as soon as she started making fun of her friends’ appearances on their Instagram posts and then talking crap about them and their serious problems to me. I wish I had trusted my gut, but love is blinding.
@@dlux2809 well first off what kind of person makes fun of other people's appearences, especially their friend's? second, why would she talk crap ab them and about their private stuff? they trusted her and she broke their trust
@@dlux2809 when people show you what kind of person they are, believe them. Even if they don't treat you that way currently, eventually it WILL be your turn when they feel comfortable enough or get tired of playing nice. When you notice they have bad traits that they show to other people or how they treat them, even if they don't treat you that way, don't ignore it.
This is so eye opening, after a recent break up. I've been searching for answers. I couldn't get them from her, and I couldn't get them from myself. Thank you for explaining this like a road map. It's been really helpful, looking back on this amazing relationship I had that just exploded in a matter of months. I'm not doing that great, but understanding things in hindsight that were indicators that it wasn't going to work, makes it a bit easier to swallow
The constant conflict was a serious issue since the beginning of my relationship with my recent ex. He wouldn't elaborate on his negative feelings, accused me of everything that was wrong, gave silent treatments and kept me guessing what was wrong. We were together for 5,5 years and every day with him felt like he was a bomb waiting to explode in my face if I pushed the wrong button. When I got together with my current boyfriend I burst into tears when we had our first argument and it was resolved within 15 minutes, both being open about how we felt and then apologized to one another. My ex still says that the issues were as much of my fault as they were his. I hope he grows. For the sake of himself more than anything else.
My ex has been giving me the silent treatment, stone walling and has ghosted me for 2 weeks after I told him I want my things back. Things that are irreplaceable; heirloom things, things he wanted but I said no, and a notebook with a credit card #, exp. date and security code in it. I canceled the CC, but the only way I can get my things is to #1 find where he is (I 99% know where) and when he'll be there and then I have to drive an hour there to get my things. It's crazy making.
To expand on number 7, it’s ok if they just point out parts that they have observed may be dangerous or unhealthy. It’s a good thing if your partner points something out that you can improve on. As long as it’s healthy. Like if someone is bad at communicating or has an anger issue, it’s not a bad thing to bring it up and discuss it. And it’s not a bad thing to fix bad habits and unhealthy parts of your personality. A good partner will also help you grow into a better person.
What an eye opener. I got to see my shortcomings in a different light and I also see my partner’s flaws with better understanding. Working together to overcome these flaws can really build a strong relationship and bond. I hope it helps on my side🙏🏽
Me and my SO had most of these issues from the beginning but the fact that we have evolved from alot of these red flags means we're on a good track. Whew! 😌 Working hard to make it work!
I will not lie, these help me be a better boyfriend. I love my girlfriend to the moon and back, but I also didnt realize how I truly was acting and reading her signs wrongfully, until I started watching these videos. Forever greatful and thankful for videos like these. So many signs I've realized with my girlfriend and in myself, now I feel like I could love her better than I already do. I thought I knew how to love her before, but you know what it's been said "when you watch the truth, then you understand and realize at the same time." Thank You.
The mark of a truly deserving boyfriend is one who can both admit these things, and change for the benefit of his partner! Props to you man, hope you and your girl are doing okay and that you have the best life together!
@@ethanloch3802 hey sorry it took so long to reply. She has left me and have been single since. Thank you for your kind words, It’s because of people like yourself who show that they care is what kept me from going insane. Thank you again.
@@michaelbishop2930 I don't know why she left you, but you should know that it's people like you who are the ones who set an example for a good relationship. So many people nowadays forget how important the connection is. It's so materialistic and people think it's all about looks and money. Even money can't buy a personality. Never forget that, and I hope whatever happens you keep your attitude from your original comment with the next one, and if she doesn't leave you, I can assure you you'll make her very happy.
Just binge watched every single relationship video. My first relationship just ended, and since it was my first I think I deserve some leeway, but I messed up in well over 70% of the problems voiced in all of your videos... Im still recovering, but once I feel well with myself Ill be ready to not make those mistakes again!
Generally it comes a time when you need to stop relationship because it isn’t working for you anymore and it isn’t making you happy and you don't enjoy. Be careful to the signs you should look out for to know when it’s time to let go the relationship. Here we have respectful list of signs. It takes time to move on, but let yourself feel and grieve and just be. Remember that you deserve love. And the right person will be near you.
my gf always played the victim, couldnt communicate, seemed like she didnt want to be around me, and our relationship was one- sided. she broke it off with me a while ago, and im glad.
Me and my boyfriend have the same friend group, and it's actually how we met. We share a lot of the same experiences with our mental health and even though I don't understand his interests I listen and learn about what he's into so I can understand things better They mean a lot to me and I know that our relationship is healthy because we may have arguments or something annoys us but we always solve the problems
watching this makes me feel so much better about my relationship, I love my girlfriend so much and this made me realize how great we are for eachother. Of course not everything is sunshine and rainbows constantly, but we care enough, have the teamwork, trust and maturity to work through shit together.
I’m on a relationship and watching this makes me feel in peace. I love my partner and he is such a great person. Maybe lack of vulnerability, but I know he is working on it. Since he is open up on things I know is hard for him to express. Im very proud of both of us.
@@stephaniep1761 I absolutely understand. We all crave love but at the end of day, every human being is different and no matter how hard they try, they cannot give you the exact some love you except. The best way would be to be open towards all form of love that comes your way including yours.
@@shivamnow Actually, men and women should both learn what the opposite gender needs. It is fairly universal, but in our age of equality, we have blurred the divide.
The thing is the world is shitty enough, if they are really going through a rough time then it would be selfish to expect something from them. But when everything is cool you should be having an exciting time With your partner. And if they don’t want to have a good time then what are you together for, to bitch and moan to eachother?
I experienced some of these things in my first marriage that only lasted 8 years. Left that mess and toxic man. Now in a different state, both mentally and geographically, i have the exact opposite with my currant marriage. Just celebrated our 14th anniversary on the 3rd of August. I have for years now know what a good, healthy relationship is supposed to look like, and feels.
I'm single for years now, coming from a toxic relationship. Watching this video is entirely about guiding myself away from the trauma that I have been through
Honestly, I just got out of a relationship a few months ago and most, if not everything mentioned in this video, applies to how things were in that past relationship. This cleares up many things and now I know how to avoid such a toxic relationship like that one. So thank you for making this kind of videos. They help a lot!! ❤️❤️❤️
I think it’s natural to have more disagreements the more you spend time with someone. You shouldn’t be bickering all the time, but I think there’s a learning curve / adjustment period. To me, what matters is how productively you confront each other, rather than how frequently - coming from a place of love and understanding, rather than the need to be right.
@@jodiarias4688 what does any of that even mean?and you're not saying that there's anything wrong with not wanting to be lonely are you? cuz if there's nothing wrong with being lonely and maybe even WANTING to be lonely then there's nothing wrong with wanting to not be lonely I guess it's kinda of all a Matter of Perspective
I wish I watched this before I decided to officially be in a relationship with my last ex. Got at least half of these signs before and during our relationship and I'm so glad that the relationship I'm in now has none of these
I dont have any of this signs, except the timing, we are in quarantine, separated, and we used to hang out together, its a little difficult, but i love her, and we are trying to pass this
The last one definitely hit me the most because I was in a long distance relationship with a girl who was 8 hours ahead of me who was sacrificing her sleep schedule and mental health so she can talk to me.
Same for a month and a half, and I don't think she quite cared about it, and when we met in person she was good but a week later I brought lunch to her and set her off because I was 'going to fast' in the relationship then proceeded to tell me that we don't have enough 'common interests' and ended it right there, and won't respond to texts
Stayed in a relationship for 7 years with a guy who didn't respect me or took my opinions in consideration. I saw him lie to his family and friends constantly and somehow innocently thought that he didnt do that to me... Saw him flirting with other women, but if i brought it up i was histerical. If one "new" guy talked to me he would be mad at me cause i was being innocent and didnt understand that the guy was flirting with me (sometimes coworkers with whom i simply had to talk to). This relationship caused me my first depression and numerous self esteem issues from which i am recovering from. If you ask me why i stayed it was simply because there were short periods of time when he was fantastic and made me feel like the most loved person in the world, so i expected that he would grow up with time and start treating me better in the long term, not just in these short periods. I have no idea how i was so gullible. I hope you guys are smarter than me and dont get fooled just because you feel a deep love for someone. Love is blind, but you shouldnt be
I feel like if you watch this, you definitely care about your relationship.
I really do but I feel like my relationship is one sided
Then there’s me watching even tho I’m not in a relationship lol
@@xxvain lol
I'm in a relationship...but I feel like I'm giving to much n getting too less....its actually silly to think..may be...but when my partner calls me I am always available...like 99.99% available...but when I call him or try to spend time with him..he is asleep..or else he picks up the phone n asks me to hung up just bcoz he wants to sleep...N this thing frequently hurts me but I try my best to hide my pain behind my smile...stillI I fail sometimes when its unbearable...I am in that point in my life n relationship that I don't know what to do..what to say and how to react ....I really fo need a 3rd person help😢🥺😓🙏
I should've cared when we were still together
“Some people will leave you soon no matter how, but it's not the ending of your story, it's just the ending of their role in your story. cause life goes on"
What a nice, true quote.
hey bucky. you assasinated anyone yet?
@@MercenaryFox Yep. He doesn't look like he was ever loved anyone.
Trueee
Beautiful
Bad comunication and not being able to resolve conflicts and collisions is what ends relationships for me.
This is why I just ended my marriage. We have just about all these signs but communication was our biggest and most heart breaking thing for me. If two people don't communicate well, no matter how hard they try, maybe they're just not meant for each other...
Or when you try to talk about how you feel about something in the relationship and she starts to lash out and starts to gaslight you in always making drama...
Especially when communication is slowly disappearing not like the usual before
That's why I ended the relationship....
Relatable, we were never the wiser back then, Happy life stranger.
This video hit hard! I used to miss so many red flags in my relationships, but after reading a book I found at Synfla, I finally understand the early signs of a healthy vs. toxic relationship. If you’re dating, you NEED to read it before making any big decisions! ❤
Not everything we lose is a loss. Sometimes, you're relieved free from the pain of holding on to the ones who aren't meant to be in our life.
I felt that😭💖
Wow Anjali
Yess...this is exactly what I've been dealing with recently.
Facts
Yes, I'm starting to see how true this is.
I'm not ashamed to admit I was the toxic part of the relationship. The reason being, is that I've since identified and taken care to fix those habits I'd formed. And my lovely ex, has helped facilitate my getting better as a person for it. That woman is a goddess and deserves nothing but praise for her patience.
Kudos for being man enough to admit it.
Becoming responsible for your own words can help your self esteem build character. Speak positive for what you believe and you will get what you need,
love this energy
More power to you! And we need more people like her!
You’re very lucky! I’m in your day one shoes right now
"You spend too much time together"
Couples living together during quarantine: ...
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😂😂me rn. But we’re both introverts so i actually only see my bf for like half the day
I don't think it's not good to spend too much time together... What about people married for 20+ years n stuff? I mean as long as you both understand each other, Love them unconditionally, be honest, treat them well, respect them and their decisions and by being loyal, you can really look forward into being in a serious relationship. I don't think there is any actual problem if they spend too much time together. Well, we need to give them space, coz that's like a necessary thing in a relationship. So yeah!
@The Angry Introverted Scotsman I wouldn't say no to that... :)
Gayathri B.G Spending too much time together is most certainly a problem. We need our own interests, hobbies, friends, etc. Plus working. That’s 8 hours everyday that you don’t see them if you have a 9-5 type of job (like I do.) You’ll hate each other if you spend too much time together, and I need a few hours to myself every morning and when I come home from work simply because I will be the worst person to be around if I can’t have alone time. I will be moody, snappy, and aloof if I go a few days without having me time. And plus that’s a sign of toxicity and dependence if you and/or your partner need to be around each other or talk 24/7. My abusive ex wouldn’t even let me sleep unless I was otp with him. It got to the point where he would come with me to the bathroom when we were living together. Trust me... it’s definitely a bad thing.
In the case of my wife and I, we fought quite often early in our relationship. To the point where she didn’t think we were going to make it. One important factor was the way we resolved those fights. Through mature communication and the willingness to try and adapt we’ve been able to learn how to co-exist better. I believe being able to resolve fights is one of the keys as you’re bound to get into them eventually.
Did you and your wife sometimes stay a couple of days away from each other after a big fight? Like, you still communicate over the phone but not as often as usual?
This! I had severe trust issues in our relationship because of my upbringing. This caused a lot of fights initially because I couldn’t control my emotions even though I knew it was wrong. When I saw it was ruining our relationship, I apologised and promised to never do that again. She gave me time to slowly control my emotions and I put in the effort to do so. Communication is definitely important in a relationship. If both of you wants to make it work, you’ll do anything for it
@@malu8710 Thank you for your answer, pretty much whats been happening in my relationship where I just can't controll my constant overthinking. Probably doesnt help that it's the first relationship for the both of us. luckily she is patient, and I will take your tips and have them in the back of my head, specially with working on my trust issues :)
Hi Jeffrey! Thank you for sharing your experience! I can currently relate to your wife’s previous position. And if I may ask, what made you decide to continue that relationship? Since having a partner who didn’t think the relationship has a future can be taken as a sign of incompatibility. And thank you in advance if you decide to share your wisdom!
@@t.h.3146 For me it was easy to continue as I've never been so sure of someone. She was my best friend and I remember not being able to describe why I loved her so much - it's as if I didn't need a reason. Yes, it was a bit unnerving that she felt that way, however, something in my heart knew we were meant to be together. For my wife, she really struggled to reconcile between what her head vs heart was telling her. One day, it also clicked for her and here we are today.
I hope that you also find your truth.
"Tell me who your friends are and I tell you who you are"
Has no friends.
Deadass tho, explains a lot for me
You're a nobody
You dont exist
@@MattBG67 let me hope thats a joke
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the fact that my girfriend literally broke up with me over text while i was in the middle of watching this video 💀💀💀
Damn, I hope you're alright
@@parklez3250 thank you haha, I'm going to be okay, I just need a little time to heal
I’m gonna end it or try to
She’s said she never loved me
I was too invested in her
I tried my best to be the best boyfriend for her and she said it was all a joke
It’s been a good run guys I hope to die and go back to wherever I came from
Not me getting ready to overthink my non existent relationship🤡
mood
mood
Literally me 😭
Stay single. Trust me😎
Not me overthinking my current.
I watched this about 2 months into my last relationship and went “oh thank god I don’t have any of these signs.” Came back again 7 months after that relationship ended. The signs just hadn’t surfaced yet since they were still in the lovebombing phase. This video is 100% correct 🤷
Literally had the same experience except i watched it a year into our relationship
@@Nya-Nya-Blue. Amy wiillmas crush 😻 on. JoMurry friends best 1.
2. in Relationships. all. Love ❤️ together.
3. staring. at. each other.
4. Smile.😊.
5. metal. where college
6. from lost years 20201.
7. Filst kiss 😘
@@Nya-Nya-Blue. AmyJoMurry Relationships 2 years ago after
Strong friendship all. Love ❤️ together
20201. AmyJoMurry woking together.
Staring at. each other.
like you.
Samee!!
This is me too. We broke up at almost one year then get back together, Now we live together for two months it was just very painful to separate but maybe it's for the best
*12 early signs a relationship won't last :*
1. your relationship is solely about the romantic pull
2. you don't like their friends
3. you spend too much time together
4. your relationship feels one-sided
5. you feel controlled
6. you can't control yourself around them
7. you don't feel accepted
8. you fight all the time
9. you don't trust each other
10. they're regularly mean to other people
11. they're passive aggressive
12. the timing isn't right
Gank you bruhva
6(u can't be yourself around them)💜
For me it’s numbers #2, 4, 5, & #7.
for me its 3
We spend too much ti!e together cos we are married( ；∀；)..is it okay then?
It is important to maintain your identity in any and all relationships...
More important is to keep your money far from them...
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Daniel Esteve lmfao I have made some bad investment calls
Daniel Esteve I’ve made some bad decisions too regarding sharing my coins , sigh
Yes it is but it's not always as possible as we'd like it to b unfortunately 😔. Ik this 1st handedly cuz I live in a relationship like what was discribed in the video & I am constantly questioning my true identity. Which in my opinion no one should have to do if ur in a honest, loving, caring, & trustworthy relationship.
me: is in a healthy and loving relationship
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I had the exact same thought. 😄
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I hope your relationship is still going steady and you both are happy! Have a good day :)
so true haha
Is there ever really a perfect time for a relationship though? I feel like if two people who are very goal driven end up falling for each other, then they’ll never really feel like it’s the perfect time fit a relationship
you rather feel free
Yeah I think it’s really just about the mental space either person is in, even if things like work or school or other responsibilities get in the way of meeting each other’s needs, you have to know yourself and your own capacities to both give and receive love.
I strongly disagree with 4:08. I was a total sh!tbag that nobody wanted to be around until my SO forced me to basically rebuild myself from the ground up by changing everything; my personality, manners, and respect (lack thereof) completely 180d.
Now I’m actually semi-tolerated by society. Not sure what it is she saw in me worth giving a chance but I’d still be a despised miscreant today if not for her.
When your boyfriend is a red flag but you're colourblind 💀
😂😂😂
😹😹 No love blind
Damn... 😕
Yooooh 😂
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The list for those who are in a hurry:
1. Your relationship is solely about the romantic pull 0:55
2. You don't like their friends 1:27
3. You spend too much time together 1:57
4. Your relationship feels one-sided 2:24
5. You feel controlled 2:46
6. You can't be yourself around them 3:16
7. You don't feel accepted 3:50
8. You fight all the time 4:26
9. You don't trust each other 4:59
10. They're regularly mean to other people 5:35
11. They're passive-aggressive 6:06
12. The timing isn't right 6:40
Who else is a single pringle here?
I am I I'm kinda proud to be.
Just Broke up with my 28th girlfriend
Spending too much time together huh, should I break things off even before there could(if there could ever be) an us😞
@@vasigheroef.2635 I don't know
@@tanyadegurechaffhellspawn3784 WHAT
No hate but, dont break up with someone just because of this video
look out though
@@deen_771 ye
What if someone is getting depressed for these exact reasons?
Some people may feel that this lit up the lightbulb. But YES its not good to leave someone right away just because you watched a video. But the video is information, and it that information starts the gears a-turnin' then perhaps it is better to look into your relationship a little deeper and question the things you related to the video. In that way, the video is a supplement to one of the reasons a person would walk out, but not THE definitive reason. Let's hope that anyone who broke up because of this video had other input as well, such as thinking a lot about it, input from friends, reading, etc. whatever it may be.
kinda think this 😭🥺
Im in a recent relationship with my crush and she always treated me like I’m worth something great. Everyone at my school treat us like we’re worth nothing.We always encouraged and cheered each other up when we were feeling blue. Talking to her and hanging out with her brings happiness into both of our lives. I honestly don’t want to be with any other girl but her. And watching these videos made me realize that this relationship is going to be really strong. We are both going to the ninth grade and I now know that we will still be together through high school. 😊
Oh poor baby Stfu wuss
How’s it going?
I hope it works out for you!
Are you still together?
good 4 u
My wife of 20 years made me feel like I could be my truest self since day 1. Before we even got married I cried in her arms over this very fact. To this day she says she doesn’t remember that moment 😂 😆 😝. But she’s my best friend, and I can’t see myself with anyone else besides her. Here’s to another 20 years!!
Aww this is so sweet☺️happy 20 year anniversary for you guys!!
This restored my faith in men a bit...I look forward to the part in my life when I meet someone who appreciates and chooses me from day 1. I entered all past relationships with an attitude to understand them, in hopes of it being reciprocated only to find out down the line that they lie, use me and dim my light. Working on myself to prevent similar relationships I have to leave in future
@@stararmy7219 thank you.
@@Ellie-nq6ws if you can meet a man that can connect with you on an emotional, intellectual, and more than a physical level engage him thoroughly. They exist, you’ll definitely know the difference.
I love hearing these stories!
All the best!
The people admiting themselves and being proud of their improvement in the comments just brings smile to my face. Very brave. We got this. Not a single one of us here are perfect.
Your comment just made me smile, so thanks for paying it forward :) so true that we all are guilty of some less than ideal behaviors, and that's ok! We just all need to keep trying our best
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thank you, i needed this
6 reasons why Psych2Go is an awesome channel
1. The girl's voice is *calming*
2. They post every day
3. Their videos are helpful
4. They sometimes heart/reply to comments
5. They make learning fun
6. The drawings have adorable lil sprouts on their heads
So their content is to a high standard
7. Always amazing 😉
This channel totally helped me get thru a divorce last summer. Thanks psych2go
The girls voice is calming what-
Agreed
0:55 1. Your relationship is solely about the romantic pull
1:29 2. You don't like their friends
1:57 3. You spend too much time together
2:24 4. Your relationship feels one-sided
2:48 5. You feel controlled
3:18 6. You can't be yourself around them
3:51 7. You don''t feel accepted
4:26 8. You fight all the time
4:49 9. You don't trust each other
5:37 10. They're regularly mean to other people
6:07 11. They're passive aggressive
6:41 12. The timing isn't right
hope this helped
Oh thank you
God bless you
Thanks dude
Gosh. Literally EVERY "relationship" I've ever had. 😕
My parents' marriage is like this, too. It's also very codependent, too. It's been like this for DECADES, in fact, and ever since I was born, I've never recalled them being loving or affectionate towards one another. They should've been divorced a long time ago, but, alas, they're still married after 40+ years. I don't count this at all, though. They've just been roommates who hate each other but became too used to it, and it's bad enough that my dad actually CHOOSES to sleep on the couch and did that for so long now that he can't fathom ever sleeping in a real bed. This affected my sister and me, too.
If anybody sees these signs in their relationship, please do yourself a favor and break up with that person. Do not think about giving them a second chance, lest they take advantage. And definitely do not marry them, much less have kids to drag into this chaotic situation.
When my husband and I first started dating, we spent 8+ hours a day together. This was not due to co-dependence. But the fact that we were both in the same college classes and had the same major. We made good lab partners because we worked well together. We hung out with our friends seperately or together, but we liked and still like spending a lot of time together. We'll have been married for 6 years in May.
Opposite situation--my bf and I don't have any classes together (very different majors) and I dislike studying together because it feels like he's so focused on whatever important work he's doing, and all I can do is wait for him to be done. So right now we only spend time together when we're both free. Do you have any advice on how I can become more comfortable with studying together?
@@ben24763 I honestly don't have specific advice. We just got along very well, and even if we weren't studying together it was enough to be studying in the same room, but not necessarily studying together. I don't expect him to be constantly engaging with me. If he is focused on something, I let him finish and do my own thing and vice versa. We understand that if one of us is in the zone, then the other doesn't interrupt.
@@ben24763 had the same situation as you when I was in highschool. I would say just do your own thing (talking to friends, drawing, finishing tasks) that's what I did and I hope it helps for you too ^^
Wow... Sounds wonderful... Congrats and wish you both many many more loving years ahead!
@@ktm5130 My partner and I are the same but we aren't in any schooling. He works and I'm a SAHM. It's pretty rare for us to spend any time apart because we are best friends and genuinely prefer to spend time together. 6.5 years together now. We of course have the option to do separate things, but we rarely choose to, except once or twice a year when he has a lads holiday with his mates.
I don't think anyone should force themselves to spend time apart just because "experts" say it isn't healthy to spend "too much time together". I feel like they should just leave it at "Don't be codependent."
If you are watching this while you are heartbroken, because the relationship you had was perfect to you and you try to find a reason why he is gone, I feel you. I am struggling too.
Hope you are okay Gaia. Go no contact, and work on yourself. Life is short, either he comes back or someone else better will come into your life. Do the self care work and take care!
Honestly! My heart aches so much because I know how much I was willing to make it work despite everything but he just watched me put in all the efforts. I’m really begging God to heal me.
💜💜💜
@@blessingugochi2029 just try and see it from another point of view...if you tried so hard and he didnt do anything, its good riddance! hes not the one for you, you need someone who puts equally as much effort as you did. Value yourself more and come to realise that he wasnt good enough for YOU, not the other way around. Realising this should make it a little bit easier to get over it. I know its hard in the moment, but time will show you it was a good thing to happen, not a bad one!
There was a lot of issues, the main one was the timing wasn't right. I'm a better person now, which he helped me to be. So is he, he's a better person now because of me and he told me this. But he is my soulmate, and I cannot escape this horrible crushing feeling that what is done, is done. It's too broken and the past is inescapable. He sees me as his best friend, and I wish I could do it all again as the person I am now, go back in time, start fresh. But it's over and I am having a really hard time accepting it or moving on with my life.
"We often settle for less in a relationship, than the things required to have a fulfilling one"
-Thanks.
my boyfriend & i have been dating for 7 months & this is first healthy relationship of my life and this video just validates that to me even more. the only thing on this list thats true for us is we spend a lot of time together, but even then we still make time for friends & family as well. I'm so happy :)
I don't even know you but I'm very happy for you!
You give me hope
Happy 1 year :)
Still going strong??
@@Persononyoutube78 yes!!! actually on vacation with him rn:)
Relationships last because two people make a choice to keep it, so we need to fight for and work for it. Being someone’s first love may be great, but to be their last is beyond perfect 🖖
So truee💕💕
Long story short, love is a choice :)
@Bekah L. so how do you guys choose who to love?
and since when is love a choice?
@Bekah L. if what you guys said includes Family love then maybe I don't really choose to love them maybe I do maybe I don't
@@monabohamad2242
He meant its a choice to stay and fight for it if you choose it to work.
You can choose to make it work because you love someone. Even after the feelings arent so strong anymore.
Ive been overthinking my relationship and this def made me overthink it more
Same..
Samw
Literally same :,)
So I'm not the only one...
Hahahaha
this video validated my feelings on my relationship, it feels so good to be in a healthy relationship, and know that our small disagreements are ok, as long as we talk them out :)
My girlfriend most likely won’t see this, but I’m really lucky to have her in my life. Before we met my life was so empty because of my parents recent divorce and my dad moved away I also moved away from all my friends all in the same week I met her and at first didn’t see her romantically but we hung out more often and I just fell in love she treats me with so much respect and love ahhhh I love her so much. I am aware how grammatically incorrect that statement was but idc I love her so much
Me: *I’m your girlfriend and I saw this.*
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XDD sorry this was immature of me but I just want to 😊, hopefully you both still together still, good luck! Keep it strong!
OMG I LOVE YOU IM SO GREATFILL TO HAVE U IN MY LIFE YOURE THE BEST
Bruh listen to me... This is comming from a person who's situation was kindof similar... Try to fight with life alone.. Win over it be happy and then share the hapiness.. Unconciously you will look for hapiness from the other person and im honestly saying that it won't last
@Maja bruh
@@welhungyongmancitywok8189 Nah, it's nothing. Message could be useful for someone else and expressing an opinion and a general piece of advice is easy to do. Braveness is something doesn't suit me, in this case. What that person does in her life is something I don't truly care: everybody does what it wants in its own life and I don't feel like looking for persons' identities for each messages on the youtube.
Bold of you to assume I'll end up in a relationship someday.
WOOOOOOW SAME
😂😂
They don't assume, you're the one who clicks the video
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LOL, jk jk jk XD
Yeah, I'm too ugly and short to even TRY
Lol, good comment.
i don’t even have a relationship, *why* am i watching this.
Probably to get Educated
well I'm only making a guess
You best get into one
It is not a fault to admit you do not know.
It’s the bold why for me
Hahahaa me too
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
i want to break up with my boyfriend, i’ve never felt so alone when i’m with someone. he purposely humiliates me and my past in front of other people knowing i’m embarrassed about it. he calls other women hot and cute in front of me, he is more affectionate with them than he ever was and will be with me. ive spent so much money on him, he begs for money everyday and get upset w me when i say i barely have any for myself. only time he looks excited to be with me is when i give him sexual pleasure. he gets so irritated with me when i tell him in not in the mood and tells him i kill his mood all the time just by talking. he tells me “i don’t care” to everything i say or enjoy. this person is a literal cancer to me. ive never been so un attracted to someone in my life, so repulsed by someone’s personality. it took me so long to realize but i deserve better, i break up with him tomorrow. wish me luck
I know you didn’t ask, but you deserve so much more and I hope you find someone who makes you feel soooo loved 🥰
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
Whtsaap him"**
How’d it go?
i hope all went well. you deserve so much better than that!! best of luck
when your boyfriend is a red flag, but you're a bull ☠️
:)
😂😂😂😂
@MAYUR TRIVEDI_X_I_19 how did u comment that emoji?-
XD UNDERRATED
:awesome:
I completely agree: when someone doesn't accept you the way you are and want you to be someone else, stay yourself or leave, it can never be wealthy or sane
That's exactly what everybody does...
Honestly to a degree, if someone isn't ready to also changd and grow with you (of course on both sides!) then that's the biggest red flag for me. When someone is too stubborn to see that they too have flaws that might be hurtful. Of course there's a difference between changing everything on demand and having a conversation about some things that ask for compromise and maybe sacrifice. So yeah, accepting the flaws but also trying to better oneselfs and the relationship. Communication jeij
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It’s about the willingness to evolve to be the best possible person you can be. Some people may “be themselves” but have horrible habits that inhibit their own self growth. Should be motivating each other to be better.
I had a breakup yesterday|
these reasons fully match my case
1. Wrong timing :his gf left him, so this time is wrong for us to be together. but still then he was the one who messaged me everyday and started flirting which made me think he was serious about us
2. It feels one sided . he would never try to message me all the time and it felt quite boring. he wouldn't share his life stories with me either. I was the one trying to care for him.
3. based on romance pull- we had a communication gap. but he was only interested in flirting with me. i actually asked him to be more free with me but he stayed quite always and wouldn't even react when i shared my stories with him.
4. he doesn't clear misunderstandings . i asked him why he minded about my telling my friends and family about our relationship. i asked him if anyone said something to him. But no he didn't try to explain. we had another argument on a religious topic. but he didn't try to share his opinion properly . instead he tried to avoid normal conversation all time
5. I can't be myself with him
6. We don't trust each other
sigh my luck is too bad
"You can't take a joke ugh"
...I heard that a million times
I don't know how to feel about this. I always kind of felt that, that was a red flag, because not everything is a joke and when I continued watching the video and mentioned that sign. Uuuf, I was like daaamn... I could relate to 5 and I feel that is too much for too long.
Saying that is a tell tale sing of a total asshole.
you probably cant
Gaslightingg
I used to say this thinking my gf had a similar sense of humour as mine. I stopped doing it when she told me she didn't like it. wasn't enough of a change I guess.
I need to add, as a licensed counselor, the video focused on the "other" when the more difficult evaluation of oneself should be considered if any of those traits and behaviours describes YOU. Understanding that will help you understand why you have difficulties in sustaining or obtaining meaningful relationships.
Only problem is, people would either dismiss that any of those traits are exhibited by them or super insecure people would see everything is wrong with them.
Saumya and that’s why counselors and therapists have jobs!👍🏽😂
This is so true! I noticed that most of those signs were in my (ex) relationship somehow, but sometimes he was the one who showed unhealthy behaviors (like passive-agressiveness), and sometimes it was me (not trusting him). It's important to see our own flaws too if we really don't want the story to repeat itself later.
ACCEPTANCE. Sometimes, you just have to accept that some relationships are not meant to last--and that's okay. Another great learning experience, as they say. ❤️❤️❤️
Yeah understanding something and learning from it is healthy.
@@ronaldvasquez6488 I agree, Ronald! Truly, it pains us but the learnings are our rewards. ❤️❤️❤️
Not great. But a learning experience for sure.
1. Watching videos or listening to people put ideas into your head about why your relationship wont last. 2. These thoughts convince you they are real. 3. Convinced it will happen, you self-fulfill these prophecies. 4. You sabotage yourself and your relationship unwittingly, but purposefully. 5. You end up being the reason the relationship doesn't last. 6. You feel vindicated in your earlier predictions. 7. You are convinced these videos and/or other people must be right since what was said came true. 8. You carry this out with every relationship you attempt regardless of any potentially different outcomes. 9. You share this so-called wisdom with your friends and family. 10. The toxicity of this mindset continues to spread like an out-of-control virus, therefor avoiding the real issue, which is yourself.
WHY ARE YOU SO RIGHT???? 😭😭😭😭😭
This is so damn true, it all starts with the thoughts you allow to shape your reality; your approach and your intention in relationships is what matters the most. You cannot expect to mold a relationship without the right tools. I am guilty of this cycle bc I've done it many times only to realize how blinded I was to believe my own prophecies and keep myself from working on the relationship which makes the other person exhausted bc who would want to work on it without your counterpart, right? I'm still working on this. And its not easy but having a partner who's willing to make the same efforts makes it a lot more worth it. Best wishes to you guys, let's keep working on ourselves 🧡
It's a matter of perspective and opinion that can possibly allow greater insight. It shouldn't be digested as a "one size fits all". If it doesn't apply, let it fly. Don't do the exact thing you're so adamant about. Let others formulate what works best for THEM.
Damn, thank you for this
Yep. Forget about these crappy "psychologists", they're just trying to make a buck with these videos
Maybe deliver the "but's".
For example: Your relationship feels onesided.
But maybe your lovelanguages are just different. Then link the video.
People want quick answers and leaving the points like that, might help someone to jump to false conclusions.
People already throw away ppl way to fast rather than reflect and fix
This is very true. Me and my partner have different love languages and had to learn to speak each others love language. 😊
Um no. I disagree entirely. People should be throwing partners away *sooner* than later-women especially need to learn this. It’s not my job to “fix” anyone but myself, and I spent too many years dealing with ‘fixer-upper’ men...building their sense of self-worth and making them feel better, but the relationships never improved. Once I got over that and did the work on *myself* I stopped having crappy relationships, and I feel better about myself.
Denise, yeah some people need to hear this side.
But for others this might be their truth. Especially in recent times.
Thts why i want a more diverse video.
So everyone can find their truth.
Yeah. They oversimplify everything but some of those points are just much more than they seem to be.
Completely agree. Me and my husband also have different love languages. So we talk about it. When we are hurt we communicate. We both work at meeting each other's love and affection needs. Also spending too much time together? One thing we have in common that we do together is video games. That requires alot of time spent together lol.
Before when me and my girlfriend were first learning that we loved each other we were watching videos from this channel like “How you know you met your soulmate” and took quizzes online about it too, but it didn’t end up lasting but I’m happy we won’t have to feel upset because of each other anymore and we’ll learn to let go and I hope any of you that are going through anything bad in a relationship are able to find inner peace
Ty🤍
If you are taking online quizzes to see if you should be with someone… you shouldn’t be with them… you need to clean your room and grow up. Respectfully 🤠
i really think this girl is the one, it’s crazy, we have so much in common and our only real arguments are more debates, never anything mean really, she’s so nice, the timing couldn’t be better, we feel comfortable and safe around one another. i think this is it guys. wish me luck.
How do you feel about it now?
Update?
good luck you got this!!!!!
How is it going now? 7/13/22
What’s the status
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is Father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
Your relationship ended for a reason. Maybe he didn't communicate, maybe you didn't understand. Please don't try to win him back. Please talk with a therapist or a friend that can tell you your mistakes as well as his, and move on.
People who disliked realized there relationship is about to hit rock bottom.
just two people XD
@@hugegander9477 perfect XD
No, they're too blind to realize these 12 facts
Edrick Wilson haters have their notifications on :/
@@earllawrence7108 its a good thing tho
At the beginning of my relationship, I definitely was the toxic one in the relationship. I know I had exhibited a lot of these points. My partner and I are still together now (almost 3 years) and I know I have definitely changed a lot from the past. However, I still think about whether we're still a good fit together for his sake and should continue dating because of the past. They tell me I have changed a lot for the better, but I still hate myself a lot for the behaviors I used to exhibit
i hope you can forgive yourself 💕
Can you help me? I have just started a relationship and I dont wanna ruin it
What did you use to do wrong? And How have you started to change?
@@CriS-jq6em i might not be the one to post the original comment but i think best thing to do is self reflection. It can show your true actions and discover why you formed the habits you do now. It is important in a relationship to not be you vs. them. You need to listen to them and not get defensive about it. Be honest with yourself on the stuff you have done, be apologetic, and actually attempt to change. On the other end, don't hold back on your own feelings and emotions. Talk through problems and don't avoid them. Problems are inevitbale but healthy couples can tackle them. (through talking and other things). There's also love languages test and apologetic languages tests you both can take so you understand one another. You won't have the best/healthiest relationship overnight, but there's hope!
@@brienna224 fantastic answer Thank you, I’ll take a screenshot😂 have a nice day!!!
Oh my god same situation idk why am i so toxic so clingy idk i have tried to change but now he says he is not emotionally open to me because i hurt him with my actions like fighting all the time idk we have been so much worse than this but i hope i change before its too late . 😔
some of these apply to platonic relationships as well, I used to have a really toxic friend who did most of this stuff and I was kind of blind to it for most of our friendship, right up until the end, it really made me think about what true friendship values should be
I am very glad to say that my relationship is fine, but I also realized throughout this video that my relationship with my mom is toxic.
Me: single
Also me: oh no he’s leaving me
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I used to be passive aggressive in my LDR. Honestly he had every right to leave because I was making our relationship difficult so instead he stayed and helped me uncover the root of the problem. We are going still dating and about to reach a 3 year mark. It's not perfect but worth making it work😊
its amazing
@@kata9755 Well all I can honestly share is my experience so here goes I hope it helps:-) Since i grew up not knowing how to communicate my feelings I struggled a lot later as a young adult so he instead encouraged me to be honest about my feelings, why I felt a certain way whenever we faced challenges as a couple as well as in our individual everyday lives with others. it took time but eventually I got the hang of talking about how I felt even about past experiences. That's how I realized I was holding onto anger from childhood experiences which really wasn't dealt with in a healthy was hence I became passive aggressive. Communicating my emotions and getting to understand them was what helped me I guess.
Hi, Are you still in LDR with your partner?
Here ldr and I made it hard for him. I know we loved each other but it was my ego issue that ruined it. He said I'm not the only one who's wrong in this, he was too. We both can't fully make each other happy. It has ended after 10 months together
in your Lana Del Rey?
I'm in a relationship currently, and I'd really like to think it's going well, but admittedly, some of these things are what makes me overthink them, especially the spending too much time together bit. Of course we have our breaks for when we have to go to classes, but I feel like maybe that isn't even enough. It'll be our one year anniversary in a week, and I'm so nervous for it
[Edit: thank you everyone for the suggestions and replies! Just letting you know that our anniversary has passed and we're working through our issues quite well! We're still happily together ❤️]
[Edit 2 (March 13th 2023): Thank you all for your suggestions and your stories again. My partner and I have separated just a few weeks ago, but not for ill intent. We both agreed we were just never ready for a relationship as we can barely hold ourselves up. I will admit, it very much hurts, and I miss them a lot. I have hope that things will get better for me, and I'll improve on mental and physical health after this.]
it doesnt have to apply to your specific situation i guess. u can pull it off if everything else is fine
I’m in the same situation except the year has passed and I don’t know how to tell him it’s too much time for me
@@SharaOrianna I was in a situation like that a couple weeks ago, the best thing you can do is be honest with him coz no one wants to be with someone where they ain't all in
I would suggest trying on some days to just hang out with other people, like they have a guys/girls (not assuming or judging) night out or you do.
It is okay to spend loads of time with each other. You have only been together for a year so you are still learning so much about each other. I think that as the relationship progresses it is important to establish independence as far as being okay with spending time without your significant other and not feeling like you absolutely have to be with them 24/7. Overthinking it is never good though, I’d say just do what you enjoy and don’t think about it too much. Relationships are all so different and there is no right or wrong way to establish them.
This one is even more hard-hitting than 10 Signs Someone is losing interest in you. You guys are so spot-on, it is unreal. Thank you guys, I will definitely be watching all videos before starting my next relationship
I met a guy and we had the most intense friendship chemistry. Sadly we tried to date and that was the worst mistake of my life... It ended pretty badly two years later we're friends again 😂
so relatable...
May I ask why it didn't work as a couple, but did (and does again) as friends?
agree with ^
@@simonedesabata9538 have the same question
@@simonedesabata9538 some combinations of qualities are just perfect for friendship..but as a romantic/sexual relationship is different, they may not go so well together in that case (just my opinion)
Number 12 is so relatable for my relationship... We hit it off so well the first month and bad things outside of our control just keep happening to her and now we haven't talked in like 4 weeks... Sometimes you can't control these things so please don't blame yourself, trying to find faults within you when it's really out of your control... Damn I miss her :(
Speaking from experience, if you have 3 - 8 and even 11 in your relationship, it isn't the end. Basically, 3 - 5 can result in 6 - 8 in many ways; but without proper communication can cause 11 with resentment on the side. If your partner is not abusive (physical, sexual, verbal, or mental), then the relationship is definitely salvageable with serious communication, understanding and a bit of assertiveness. I had the pleasure of being with my now fiancé since our 20s, and we had a lot of growing up to do; our immaturity hurt each other a lot and we almost broke up, but we grew together and made it out the hurricane.
He is the best when it comes In recovery of relationship :((
Text him via""whatsa:pp :)(
thank you so much this gives me a lot of hope
It’s the 4, 6, and sometime 9 for me when I got in relationships, I was the biggest simp for the girls I got into a relationship with at the club
but what if we already broke up? i tried my best to save it, i communicated the best i could, but i didnt tell her what i needed. she isnt sure that she loves me either, and she wants to focus more on studies, but i feel like we could still date even whilst taking care of outside things. i just love her so much, i didnt ever want this to happen and i tried my best and i want to keep going. i know we should take a break at the very least to find ourselves again.
i hate to say it but i used to be "that guy" mean to everyone else but my gf, sort of controlling, saying the clothes she was wearing were a little too revealing, it was honestly super bad, but, she told me that, and got me help with it, now 2 and a half years later, im super accepting of everything she does, and am actually a really kind person now i think, i will never forget what she did for me
"It's one thing when your partner tells you they love you and care for you, but another one they don't show it in their actions." 2:26
Been dating for 8 years, and the signs are more visible now 😔
I have started playing some couple question games like “Lovify”. To understand each other better. In this game, we have to guess each other's likes. This helped me understand my gf's expectations better. And, she is loving it. Cheers, to all couples. We all will make it through 💞
“Sometimes no matter how much you wanna be with someone, the timing just won't allow it” felt that pain but just accept the fact.
Its such a confusing and obsessive pain
4:23 that fart startled me a bit 😂
I laughed so hard 😂😂😂
I thought I hallucinated that! Bwahahhaha!
I was watching this with despair as my last relationship hit all 12 of these and then a fart noise and I was like, ok yeah- don't be too upset since I can still giggle at a toot noise
Fuck I can't stop laughing 😂
I DIED HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
Me too😂😂😂😂
12 early signs a relationship wont last: seeing this video on your fyp
Relationships can also end due to simple misunderstandings, as I have learned
This is why communication is so important!
ex didnt like my friends , he made me spend way too much time with him, and got mad when i hung out with everyone else, felt suuuuperrr controlled 99% of the time, we fought a lot, we definitley didnt trust eachother, he was rude to people, and finally, he is passive agressive AF. moral of the story, this list is spot on
Did he expect you to include him everytime you wanted to spend time with a friend? In what ways did he expect you to spend too much time with him?
@@choosejoy93 any time I ever hung out with my friends, he felt the need to include himself without asking. He would also get mad if I hung out with my BFF instead of him. I have strict parents so I couldn’t go out all the time and he said mean shit to me when I wasn’t able to. basically, I couldn’t breathe if I wasn’t around him or he would get mad
@@soledadyelmar2245 oh geez... I ask because my husband and I just had our 7yr anniversary and he believes that you should always include each other and I disagree. He thinks it's mean spirited to tell your partner "no, I want to go by myself" when making plans with a friend or family member. So I include him to meet his need of being involved and I have stand here hoping he meets my need by not going (he usually doesnt). Issue is that my needs are entirely in HIS hands....he can't handle me deciding for myself that I will go alone. There are other issues but this is one that really bothers me.
@@choosejoy93 being with each other at every second is not the best. You have to have time to yourself aswell. He should learn to respect your personal space. I have a new boyfriend who understands this better than anyone. When I’m hanging out with my friends he doesn’t get mad at all. infact, when we first started dating he told me he couldn’t we attached at the hip because he still had to take time to do all his college work. personal time is essential.
@@soledadyelmar2245 well I do have a lot of time to myself because I don't work, he does. Its just gotten to the point where it almost doesn't even feel worth trying to get together with people because I'll just be irritated he came along despite saying "you can come if you want." Ugh. There are a lot of issues and I feel stuck. The same issues come up in a huge fight every year. I have a lot to think about. We got married when I was almost 20 and am 27 now. My 20s almost gone and its been a lot of struggling trying to be a good wife but I don't feel fulfilled. I over empathize which is a huge issue vlcause guilt takes over.
The final point was my reason for ending my deep connection with my person this week. It’s heartbreaking to find someone who was so good for me (and me for them), but we’re just at very different points in our life journey. It almost felt like the worst possible reason to let them go, but forcing it was just making us miserable. Thank you for a really insightful little video.
Was career or him/her going abroad the reason ?
Only last for three months, realization, awakening, acceptance, and healing. I learned a lot to love myself better.
The acting different towards other people thing is so true. I had a bad feeling about my ex as soon as she started making fun of her friends’ appearances on their Instagram posts and then talking crap about them and their serious problems to me. I wish I had trusted my gut, but love is blinding.
Would you mind explaining why this turned out to be a problem?
@@dlux2809 well first off what kind of person makes fun of other people's appearences, especially their friend's? second, why would she talk crap ab them and about their private stuff? they trusted her and she broke their trust
@@dlux2809 when people show you what kind of person they are, believe them. Even if they don't treat you that way currently, eventually it WILL be your turn when they feel comfortable enough or get tired of playing nice. When you notice they have bad traits that they show to other people or how they treat them, even if they don't treat you that way, don't ignore it.
I don’t wanna be in a relationship with someone I can’t gossip with …if I talk about my friends dressing I can talk about my partner’s own too
@@Food00 toxic
1.When they never accept their mistakes..
2.Lying
3.When they don't respect you
“Is your partner the only person you see?”
Well yes... we are in a pandemic 😂
Facts
plus not everyone loves to hang out with friends especially they do not have friends they love to hang out to
@@acaken7269 🥲it's the "do not have friends" for me
from the way you dress to the way you speak ... hits home
This is so eye opening, after a recent break up. I've been searching for answers. I couldn't get them from her, and I couldn't get them from myself. Thank you for explaining this like a road map. It's been really helpful, looking back on this amazing relationship I had that just exploded in a matter of months. I'm not doing that great, but understanding things in hindsight that were indicators that it wasn't going to work, makes it a bit easier to swallow
Well this video just proved my overthinking wasnt "just overthinking"
The constant conflict was a serious issue since the beginning of my relationship with my recent ex. He wouldn't elaborate on his negative feelings, accused me of everything that was wrong, gave silent treatments and kept me guessing what was wrong. We were together for 5,5 years and every day with him felt like he was a bomb waiting to explode in my face if I pushed the wrong button. When I got together with my current boyfriend I burst into tears when we had our first argument and it was resolved within 15 minutes, both being open about how we felt and then apologized to one another. My ex still says that the issues were as much of my fault as they were his. I hope he grows. For the sake of himself more than anything else.
Your ex sounds toxic af. Glad u got out
Congratulations 🎊
My ex has been giving me the silent treatment, stone walling and has ghosted me for 2 weeks after I told him I want my things back. Things that are irreplaceable; heirloom things, things he wanted but I said no, and a notebook with a credit card #, exp. date and security code in it. I canceled the CC, but the only way I can get my things is to #1 find where he is (I 99% know where) and when he'll be there and then I have to drive an hour there to get my things. It's crazy making.
To expand on number 7, it’s ok if they just point out parts that they have observed may be dangerous or unhealthy. It’s a good thing if your partner points something out that you can improve on. As long as it’s healthy. Like if someone is bad at communicating or has an anger issue, it’s not a bad thing to bring it up and discuss it. And it’s not a bad thing to fix bad habits and unhealthy parts of your personality. A good partner will also help you grow into a better person.
What an eye opener. I got to see my shortcomings in a different light and I also see my partner’s flaws with better understanding. Working together to overcome these flaws can really build a strong relationship and bond. I hope it helps on my side🙏🏽
Me and my SO had most of these issues from the beginning but the fact that we have evolved from alot of these red flags means we're on a good track. Whew! 😌 Working hard to make it work!
I will not lie, these help me be a better boyfriend. I love my girlfriend to the moon and back, but I also didnt realize how I truly was acting and reading her signs wrongfully, until I started watching these videos. Forever greatful and thankful for videos like these. So many signs I've realized with my girlfriend and in myself, now I feel like I could love her better than I already do. I thought I knew how to love her before, but you know what it's been said "when you watch the truth, then you understand and realize at the same time." Thank You.
The mark of a truly deserving boyfriend is one who can both admit these things, and change for the benefit of his partner! Props to you man, hope you and your girl are doing okay and that you have the best life together!
This is so beautiful, I wish you and your girlfriend the best.
@@Irenebloom she has left me been single now since. Anyways I wish nothing but the best for you!
@@ethanloch3802 hey sorry it took so long to reply. She has left me and have been single since. Thank you for your kind words, It’s because of people like yourself who show that they care is what kept me from going insane. Thank you again.
@@michaelbishop2930 I don't know why she left you, but you should know that it's people like you who are the ones who set an example for a good relationship. So many people nowadays forget how important the connection is. It's so materialistic and people think it's all about looks and money. Even money can't buy a personality. Never forget that, and I hope whatever happens you keep your attitude from your original comment with the next one, and if she doesn't leave you, I can assure you you'll make her very happy.
“Perfection is a Myth”
That quote hits different
This video hits the nail on the head. I just had to break things off with someone and after watching this I believe I made the right decision
👏🏼
Just binge watched every single relationship video. My first relationship just ended, and since it was my first I think I deserve some leeway, but I messed up in well over 70% of the problems voiced in all of your videos... Im still recovering, but once I feel well with myself Ill be ready to not make those mistakes again!
Generally it comes a time when you need to stop relationship because it isn’t working for you anymore and it isn’t making you happy and you don't enjoy. Be careful to the signs you should look out for to know when it’s time to let go the relationship.
Here we have respectful list of signs. It takes time to move on, but let yourself feel and grieve and just be. Remember that you deserve love. And the right person will be near you.
my gf always played the victim, couldnt communicate, seemed like she didnt want to be around me, and our relationship was one- sided. she broke it off with me a while ago, and im glad.
She was cheating
She defo used you. Anyways there's always other fish in the sea. Keep your head up
Indeed
My ex did the same to me, i was not happy when he dumped me but grateful now, kinda
Me and my boyfriend have the same friend group, and it's actually how we met. We share a lot of the same experiences with our mental health and even though I don't understand his interests I listen and learn about what he's into so I can understand things better They mean a lot to me and I know that our relationship is healthy because we may have arguments or something annoys us but we always solve the problems
watching this makes me feel so much better about my relationship, I love my girlfriend so much and this made me realize how great we are for eachother. Of course not everything is sunshine and rainbows constantly, but we care enough, have the teamwork, trust and maturity to work through shit together.
🥰🥰 Aww I wish you both the best for your relationship 😄😄
Good luck to both of you! :D
@@meowmeow8457 Thank you >w
@@MrJgreenwell2000 :DD
I’m on a relationship and watching this makes me feel in peace. I love my partner and he is such a great person. Maybe lack of vulnerability, but I know he is working on it. Since he is open up on things I know is hard for him to express. Im very proud of both of us.
Most important one is when there is too much of mutual dependency and a belief that a relationship is always meant to be exciting.
but to a woman, it is! That is why we fall in love...we believe you will always offer that same level of love. Boy, are we wrong!
@@stephaniep1761 I absolutely understand. We all crave love but at the end of day, every human being is different and no matter how hard they try, they cannot give you the exact some love you except. The best way would be to be open towards all form of love that comes your way including yours.
@@shivamnow Actually, men and women should both learn what the opposite gender needs. It is fairly universal, but in our age of equality, we have blurred the divide.
@@stephaniep1761 Absolutely. It's applicable for both the genders Stephanie
The thing is the world is shitty enough, if they are really going through a rough time then it would be selfish to expect something from them. But when everything is cool you should be having an exciting time With your partner. And if they don’t want to have a good time then what are you together for, to bitch and moan to eachother?
I experienced some of these things in my first marriage that only lasted 8 years. Left that mess and toxic man. Now in a different state, both mentally and geographically, i have the exact opposite with my currant marriage. Just celebrated our 14th anniversary on the 3rd of August. I have for years now know what a good, healthy relationship is supposed to look like, and feels.
I'm single for years now, coming from a toxic relationship. Watching this video is entirely about guiding myself away from the trauma that I have been through
Remember, “Every new beginning comes from some Other beginning’s end “
Closing time coded 😂
You don’t have to go home, but you can’t stay here
Honestly, I just got out of a relationship a few months ago and most, if not everything mentioned in this video, applies to how things were in that past relationship. This cleares up many things and now I know how to avoid such a toxic relationship like that one. So thank you for making this kind of videos. They help a lot!! ❤️❤️❤️
Awww nobody cares
@@Datboiiijoshua If you don't care, why do you even read AND answer these messages. You are definitely a very rude and toxic person.
@@Datboiiijoshua But I do.
I think it’s natural to have more disagreements the more you spend time with someone. You shouldn’t be bickering all the time, but I think there’s a learning curve / adjustment period. To me, what matters is how productively you confront each other, rather than how frequently - coming from a place of love and understanding, rather than the need to be right.
The guy am with always wanna be right it’s always a competition
Relationships are overrated and our media is pretty convincing that we won't ever be happy if we are single.
If relationships are overrated then so is being single
Im single and its better that way why be in a relationship when 99 of the time it wont work out
@@jodiarias4688
so why do people get to be in a Romantic Relationship at all if it's so terrible and overrated and doesn't even work 99 of the time?
@@monabohamad2242 because they are lonely or they want something else from my pride is so big i wont let anyone destroy that 🤡
@@jodiarias4688 what does any of that even mean?and you're not saying that there's anything wrong with not wanting to be lonely are you? cuz if there's nothing wrong with being lonely and maybe even WANTING to be lonely then there's nothing wrong with wanting to not be lonely
I guess it's kinda of all a Matter of Perspective
HOMICIDAL Rage and SUICIDAL grief
consume every cell of my being.
I wish I watched this before I decided to officially be in a relationship with my last ex. Got at least half of these signs before and during our relationship and I'm so glad that the relationship I'm in now has none of these
u ok? :(
I dont have any of this signs, except the timing, we are in quarantine, separated, and we used to hang out together, its a little difficult, but i love her, and we are trying to pass this
The last one definitely hit me the most because I was in a long distance relationship with a girl who was 8 hours ahead of me who was sacrificing her sleep schedule and mental health so she can talk to me.
Yeah, I had to do that for someone who was 15 hours ahead of me and it didn't last
Same for a month and a half, and I don't think she quite cared about it, and when we met in person she was good but a week later I brought lunch to her and set her off because I was 'going to fast' in the relationship then proceeded to tell me that we don't have enough 'common interests' and ended it right there, and won't respond to texts
Sounds like pen pal love lol
I’ve been this girl… Didn’t work out either
Stayed in a relationship for 7 years with a guy who didn't respect me or took my opinions in consideration. I saw him lie to his family and friends constantly and somehow innocently thought that he didnt do that to me... Saw him flirting with other women, but if i brought it up i was histerical. If one "new" guy talked to me he would be mad at me cause i was being innocent and didnt understand that the guy was flirting with me (sometimes coworkers with whom i simply had to talk to). This relationship caused me my first depression and numerous self esteem issues from which i am recovering from. If you ask me why i stayed it was simply because there were short periods of time when he was fantastic and made me feel like the most loved person in the world, so i expected that he would grow up with time and start treating me better in the long term, not just in these short periods. I have no idea how i was so gullible. I hope you guys are smarter than me and dont get fooled just because you feel a deep love for someone. Love is blind, but you shouldnt be
Wow I did not expect to get instantly relaxed by their voice