I'm married to a toxic man for nearly 42 years . I feel very trapped and dependent. I'm 63 years old. I've just learned of this narcissist personality about one year ago . I'm a born again believer for about 37 years . I pray for help and direction. 🙏🕊
I can relate. 44 years for me. All give and he just takes and takes and never gives. I’m grateful that God finally opened my eyes to my codependency on this narcissistic toxic man that never loved me, but only loved himself. It’s hard to come to terms with having a spouse that could care less about me and my needs because he is ALWAYS looking to his own interests. I made the mistake of thinking everybody thinks the way I do, empathetically.
Bless your heart, I will have you in my prayers and ask God that he send you strength to overcome this situation and beautiful times for the rest of your life ❤️ You are still you no matter what you’ve been through.
1.Just walk away and let the healing process begin. 2.Forgive yourself for trusting them. 3.Learn a lesson from this trauma. Life is way too precious to waste on toxic people. Make your life beautiful again 😊
Thank you Kris-the Lord brought you to me for education and enlightenment so that I’d know and I thank Him! You are so on point!! I Love you 😘 and I Support you! Keep going-
I ask God to forgive me for trusting them, or believing their lies or deception. I feel like I didn't run away fast enough. Or asking for forgiveness from God about being in fear, about what would happen if I stood up to them. I feel really bad when I think about all the mean and wicked things they did and NO ONE came to help me or get away. NO ONE would even talk about it. I resent them for their absence of help.
One thing I am learning is to stop looking at others as the problem. When I look back over my life I have to acknowledge my responsibility for so many things I did wrong. Too many times all we do is point the finger at others and stop seeing what we do. The only person I can change is myself. When I no longer allow the other person to trigger me they have no power over me. I wish I had known my triggers so many years ago. But I can't go back, I can only go forward. God bless everyone.
Yes, I remember bragging years ago that when I finally left my husband I would send out Re-birth announcements as if I would be cleansed or freed from an albatross. All these years later, he has passed and I have not had a mature relationship; I don't even feel like an adult. I am getting ready to do an inventory, too, like a fourth step. We do have to take responsibility and stop pointing the finger, although I do try to recall how I was parented and how that has affected me and my search for emotional health. Thank you for sharing.
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Just left a job. I was bullied by a toxic coworker. Management supported her because she is very organized and a highly productive employee. Just walked away and hoping God opens another workplace door very soon.
@@cmsbeth You are not shure, that you will find a better place You only were bullied, because of you‘re better than her. Bigger talent, faster, nicer and so on.
I’m going through that same exact thing right now. How did it go? I’m considering leaving as well, but it’s a great job. Thinking that it might not be worth staying though. Hope you’re doing well 👍
Just found your channel. Cried and cried to hear a Christian understand what I’ve been through the last 39 yrs. I lost my health. I lost my kids. I lost my mind and almost lost my heart. And my husband continues to torment me. Your prayer was powerful. Thank you.
You’re not alone! I’m trapped in it for now as well. Everyday is a battle. It’s like waking up next to Satan himself. Pray everyday without ceasing. Ask Jesus to fill you up with the holy spirit and cover you in the protective armor of God. Let’s all pray for each other that we are covered so they cannot continuing sucking our life force.
Losing everything could mean something much more than just relationship issues. Look at what happened to Job. It could be your time to go through the refiner's fire. Many Christians have not been there yet. It's the darkEST night of the soul, but also a HUGE LEAP into Faith and Blessings (on the other side of the tests). I have this experience in this lifetime. It will cause your old self to deconstruct and then reconstruct into your new higher self. It is extremely liberating while also extremely painful. Keep seeking God's face. He's bringing you somewhere you never thought you could go, and only He can bring you there. Just keep in mind that absolutely NO ONE will be there for you. You will be alone (meaning minus any human help). That part of the journey is one of solitude and much reflection , going inward. You will be sent MANY tests, one right after the other, and your Spirit will be open to truly seeing your enemies, inward and outward. You'll never be the same, which is THE point. Everyone will get to experience this transformation, just not necessarily in this lifetime. It's a complete blessing but feels like a huge curse. I am convinced that if one can understand the point of Jesus and the meaning of the story of Job, one has everything needed to complete the mission. God Bless you !!! It's TRULY ALL GOOD. 💥💕✝️💕💥
Losing everything could mean something much more than just relationship issues. Look at what happened to Job. It could be your time to go through the refiner's fire. Many Christians have not been there yet. It's the darkEST night of the soul, but also a HUGE LEAP into Faith and Blessings (on the other side of the tests). I have this experience in this lifetime. It will cause your old self to deconstruct and then reconstruct into your new higher self. It is extremely liberating while also extremely painful. Keep seeking God's face. He's bringing you somewhere you never thought you could go, and only He can bring you there. Just keep in mind that absolutely NO ONE will be there for you. You will be alone (meaning minus any human help). That part of the journey is one of solitude and much reflection , going inward. You will be sent MANY tests, one right after the other, and your Spirit will be open to truly seeing your enemies, inward and outward. You'll never be the same, which is THE point. Everyone will get to experience this transformation, just not necessarily in this lifetime. It's a complete blessing but feels like a huge curse. I am convinced that if one can understand the point of Jesus and the meaning of the story of Job, one has everything needed to complete the mission. God Bless you !!! It's TRULY ALL GOOD. 💥💕✝️💕💥
Silence isn’t petty. It isn’t immature. Even though there will be people who try to tell you it is. Manipulative guilt trippers, mostly. Sometimes it IS an answer. An answer saying, you are more interested in preserving your dignity and energy, rather than engaging with a toxic person.
I just went silent on a narcissist. He was my partner’s son my sister is a narc so I know all the signs. I lost my partner and her son the whole time of her transition he kept being toxic. I went ice cold it’s the only way to go with them.
pain is our biggest teacher. It is best to sit with it. Please don't hold it, let it visit, feel it, understand it, and then let it go. It may visit again, and go through the same process. If you hold onto it, or don't allow yourself to feel it and sit with it, you will find it comes out later in life, and possibly via health. The tears can come. Let them. Then get into some positive fuel from God. Ask the Holy Spirit to provide music to sooth. That is often an amazing salve to this kind of pain. God bless you. I am also a victim of narcissistic abuse. You are not alone.@@talulatree5297
My ex-husband's attitude was ," if you cross me, I'll destroy you". And he tried. He almost did. But I got 1,000 miles away from him by the grace and mercy of God.
It’s amazing how the Lord will direct you to a particular video for the time that you need it. When you said the battle is not yours it’s the Lord, it was confirmation to what the Lord revealed to me. Thank you my friend for allowing the Holy Spirit to lead you!❤
Married to a gaslighting narcissist for 51 years..am finally free..still recovering..so much more to yhis story..cant afford counseling..love these podcasts..they help me immensely..thank you..
Yes absolutely correct, feeling caught in that trap and then apologising for my reactions. It kinda reminds me of that saying: “Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”
@@clarnicpsu05 Agree, and I think such people are often unhealed still, instable, hol´ding on to what they think is biblical. I too can do such things unfortunately,although itis better to knowabout it. Just need stress reduction, sleep and meaningful social belonging to be able to really incorporate change..
I just walked out of a conversation with a toxic person. It was a no-win situation as I responded to the acuser. I am in another room and turned on tube tube videos. Kris's video popped up. I really think God is affirming who I am and telling me to listen... this is not your fault. I am thankful. Lord, help me respond in the future with this Godly advice.
Constantly forgiving, pleasing, and things settle down and they are at it again. I am an empath and am tired of abuse. I have learned for my peace of mind to sever ties it took over 20 years to do something about it.
God created SEASONS. Every thing has an EXPIRATION DATE for every thing in this universe. Some of us may be like elephants 🐘 in a circus 🎪 not knowing, we are grown, big enough to stump on the tent ⛺️
In 2008, I listened when the Holy Spirit said, “Get out and don’t go back.” Thank you, Kris for exposing the work of the enemy because toxic people are everywhere, and Christians are not defenseless in this spiritual warfare. Get in the Word and learn to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit! Excellent teaching!
I disengage. I stop the conversation or I shut up and walk away. When it’s not possible to walk away the power of silence was taught to me by my grandmother may she Rest In Peace. She was a very spirit filled Christian woman and very wise. I also mentally in my mind rebuke the spirit in that person attacking me I do it in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. All demons must depart at his name.
Thank you for your channel, I was married to a narcissistic for 17 years. Praise the Lord I am out, 3 years now. Still in process of healing. Christ is my strength
Have a schizophrenic daughter who is delusional and blames me for all her delusions. I normally just ignore until I blow my lid. Then feel guilty for handling it that way. I pray in Jesus name he redeems my daughter and breaks our curses to heal us.
I too had a Daughter who blamed me for everything. I Prayed for her and myself for years. We now have a good relationship, Praise the Lord! I stopped letting her words get to me, and gave them to the Lord. I started Reading more Bible every day. We now meet on Zoom once a week with her sisters for a Bible study. That has brought all of us closer together and to God. God is good even when we don't deserve it.Go to God.
My mom was schizophrenic, I also just worked with one. Has she tried Haldol? Not sure if spelled right, also heard it referred to as something with “dog” in it. I know it sounds weird but I’m sure her doc would know what I’m referring to. I heard lots of good stuff from people on that medication, we know it’s the hardest thing to get them to stay on their meds. Also, many doctors say people with this is extremely low in D3 vitamin buy you can’t take D3 without K2 and most don’t know that. It was the only time my mom was the happiest when she was receiving her vitamin injections. I know it definitely had something to do with it!! Almost every med failed her but receiving those vitamins made a HUGE difference in her life after being a guinea pig for several years.
Mental illness is another situation. Your daughter is capable of respect in spite of her illness though. You have the right to let her know she's being disrespectful. But please try to find help for yourself too.
@@AletaBoyette This is spot on. People with mental illness are still responsible for their behavior. I know that because I'm mentally ill, and I had to learn how to take responsibility for myself. People weren't putting up with my bad behavior.
Australia - Yes, in a 10 year spat with a Narcissist. I fell for a quiet, well educated, senior man who was charming. Even tho he sometimes attacked etc., I plodded on thinking I could change things, until one day of no peace or privacy - I lost it and became a screaming shrew, I had lost myself in his slow destruction of me as a human being. I suddenly walked out. It took me a long time to realise how I was manipulated when the word Narcissist began to be used and explained. 👀😣
I cannot get over the grief of not having the parents & sibling that I wish I had because of narcissism. I continually mourn and don't know how to get past it. I'm so envious of people that have close families. 😢
You are not alone. After realizing my own family’s toxic dynamic, i’ve had to grieve not only my connection with them but also the person i became under those circumstances. Not to mention the challenge of relearning how to navigate those relationships. God has plans for us so grand that the enemy had to start at the root to try and turn our hearts to stone. I pray your envy can transform into the peace of God that surpasses all understanding 🙏 He has a purpose & a place for you! Don’t get lost in the wilderness, my friend! Don’t lose hope! We have to learn how to let God’s love move us so we can rejoice in our trials. 1 Peter 1:7 says that our trials of faith are much more precious than gold. Our familial struggles are part of that. Praying for you 💛
Already just listening I can relate and needed this! I've been soooo verrry discouraged dealing with my 2nd round of being married to a very toxic narc! Exactly what your saying, I sadly live it daily! And I've gotten judged from other Christians, when they lack discernment and they actually have been turned on me and believe him instead! I've been praying and prafor Jesus to break me free, which is also going to mean finances. I pray for all of you going through the same or similar. 💝🙏❤ So Thank you!
I left my husband after 31 years of narcissistic abuse, I don't love him anymore and I look at him in pure disgust. I had to go no contact . He is trying to control me 2000 miles away. Prayers 💞🙏❣💞🙏for all whom are going through this 🙏🙌❤
I want to leave myself but financially waiting for SS so I can decide. But I feel so caught up in not sinning. I’m supposed to shine my light and he will come around. So all my fellow born again Christians say. But I am not at peace, feeling if I leave I’m breaking my covenant but I stay at give only to be corrected told how to talk walk and do. I can’t take another moment. He’s not emotional at all. Not God fearing, he’s does not care at all for me or even sees me. He is over bearing , all knowing, uncaring man. Who loves me, what a joke. I battle for my own grace, feeling like Jesus is not happy with me. He’s toxic and doesn’t see me at all. I’m so unhappy. I don’t get comfort after my moms death no comfort no companion at all, cold??????? I’m at a lose, I have let go and given up, I just let him be the unkind person he is. I never thought he’d be so unkind. It’s sad. My grown children just want me to hang in and save him. He is beyond this, doesn’t want to be saved. I’m feeling like I’m may not be Raptured bc I want to get out of this turmoil. I’m in pain and sadness, I am getting eaten by his lack of being my loving husband. I am at such loss, I pray but feel stuck.
My husband asked me for a divorce on September 10th, 2023. Today is May 2, 2024. Our anniversary of 22 years will be in 4 days on the 6th of May. Once, I gave him the go-ahead 2 file because he claims he's getting older and wants to have a baby, somehow, he has become confused. I simply took my power back from him by setting him free without a fight! I am nearly at the end of this phase of toxicity. God is so gracious in how he is gently making a way of peaceful escape for me. God is not the author of confusion and I thank Him for His peace over understanding 🙏🏽
Very helpful. Toxic people can't be trusted or respected. Instead, be AWARE of their tricks & false blame. Keep a safe distance as they care more about themselves most & will throw you under the bus to protect themselves.
I am learning to recognize the “triggers” and resist responding to them because when I do, he wins. This is exactly what he wants me to do. I am stronger and smarter than him because I have God on my side, helping me battle this evil and wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12). I have to keep reminding myself that “The battle belongs to the Lord.”🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Was just praying just now in my quiet time with the Lord and literally asking Him for wisdom as I'm currently living in a perpetual pressure cooker....then I see this video.....thank you Lord for answering my prayer
Yes, the Pressure Cooker eventually explodes and it's exhausting trying to make things work 24 hours a day when your other half doesn't put in the same energy.
I do the same thing with my family and problems...I pray for the wisdom, courage and strength to cope with the issue. King Solomon prayed for wisdom and the Lord gave it to him. Amen!
I just found out thru your teaxhings what has been wrong with my marriage all this time. That is, I've been married to a Narcissit for 37 years not known that was the issue. I always thought I was the misfit, the twisted and awkward one. Thanks you, Lord Jesus for responding my prayers. I know now everything will be straightened up.
Know your triggers. Once I understood what was happening, that I wasn’t crazy, I started my journey to learn how to live the best I could in my situation. Know your triggers is a key part of my journey. So very helpful to me. Thank you. Not the life I expected, not the relationship I want but it is what it is. God is helping me.
Yep, I have had many narcissists in my life, they always leave us feeling as though there is no way to make them listen or explain well enough that they understand what you are saying. I can honestly say that I have not reacted badly when attacked by these people because of the shock that sent me into embarrassment and silence. It is possible the Holy Spirit kept me silent so those who attacked had nothing to accuse me of doing or saying.
Oh yes yes yes I agree……soooooo many times I kept my peace and said nothing and I was so happy afterwards! Nothing to take back…..I had nothing to be sorry for! Sometimes you gotta just rise above it all! But you are also right some of it could be shock….but I have never been sorry for keeping my mouth shut!
The thing about staying silent is that it takes away their supply, takes away their power - they hope to get a reaction and by giving none, you, as the targeted victim, become boring to the narcissist and they will need to find another source of supply. When you reach a point of complete understanding and can control your emotions and literally not care what they say or do, that is freedom from the narcissist.
Yes i do agree.... Of late i hav got in to the core of the problem.. God you are my peace You are my defender.. Lord fight my battle and save me and my children from such narcisstic people... Everything is under your souvereign arrangement.. Help me how to get out of those entanglements by your discerning Spirit
I relate. My calm response to a raging friend served to further validate her irrational toxic behavior as it was displayed before others who witnessed it firsthand. When we respond in a Godly manner in such situations, it testifies to the indwelling Holy Spirit being in control in contrast to the blatant unrighteous toxic behavior of the other person. Matthew 7:15-20 warns about false prophets and us knowing them by their fruits, but those who are professing Christians whose lives do not yield the fruits of the Holy Spirit could also fall into this category. I’ve had to learn that not everyone who professes to be a Christian has an actual relationship with God through Jesus Christ, as many people have “religion” only. Unfortunately, these can end up being some of the most toxic people you’ll encounter in churches. 2 Timothy 3:5 talks about such people…”having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!” 😕
Was raised by a narc, and caught in many narc relationships through my life being stuck in the sick cycle, but did some intense recovery around it 10 yrs ago.. upon coming to Christ 4 yrs ago, I misinterpreted what a Christian would do and let down my boundaries. Your videos are helping me re-establish what I learned with a Christ centered focus. Thank you so much ❤
Never knew till after 30 years of marriage.This is so helpful. Thank God for your videos. I prayed and asked God to reveal to me what I'm dealing with and to lead me to someone who would share on this subject from a Christian prospective and God whispered the word NARCISSIST and then he led me to your videos. It's horrifying, I'm trusting God for deliverance and healing for myself and daughters.🙏🙏🙏
I know a woman that is treated so poorly by her narcisst husband. They even go to church and he cheats on her with gay men and trans. She is constantly crying and she wont leave him. I had to leave the friendship. I pray for them. Some people need to be left in Gods hand, and just pray. I was actually getting PTSD from watching my friend cry every other day. I was literally getting infected by both of them! Counselors told her to leave him and she wont. She is even financially set from inheritance yet still stays with this man that cheats, belittles and constantly lies to her, and he doesnt live with her. They have separate homes. God says to Guard your heart, God is RIGHT 100%!❤
@@liabeachy I think you were programmed to take other peoples feeling more seriously than your own, and to constantly be looking out for their moods. I bet you had a very needy or volatile parent.
Oh yes! Toxic people pushed me right over the edge recently, and the worst is their twisted smile when they know they have done their damage! I was gracious but made myself sick!
Tell them GOD BLESS YOU. If they claim to be a Christian, they understand what you are doing and it ticks them off... Romans 12:14 NIV Bless those who persecute you; bless and do NOT curse. Acts 3:26 NIV... LastVerse... Gives meaning of GOD BLESS YOU 26 When GOD raised up his servant, he sent him first to you to BLESS YOU by turning each of you from your wicked ways.”
living with a alcoholic/narcissist has been hell. all i have is my silence and numbness to the pain he's caused me. my emotional state is beyond repair. at this point i am an empty shell 😢
I was married to a narcissist for 15yrs, divorced & he has done everything to strip & hurt me. The healing process is difficult but freedom has come. Thank God for setting me free from his demonic influences & torment in my life.
I’m married to someone who doesn’t take responsibility for hurting me and continues to hurt me with trigger words on purpose. I have PTSD from what he did and regardless if I tell him please stop countless times he keeps doing it, I do think he is gaslighting….can’t wait to go to heaven.
I am SURROUNDED by narcs, and I hate that this is my life. It makes me wonder if there are any normal people in the world: no joke. What you describe is EXACTLY what I experience every day.
OMG this is absolutely what I'm literally dealing with in my life right now on so many levels and I'm definitely mentally emotionally spiritually and psychologically exhausted
Sis Maima a Liberia was in a toxic marriage, which made me depressed, but today I am out and we'll.thanks be to God for his grace that took me through. How I wish I had met your teaching I won't have been depressed .
1 John 4:4 Greater is he that is within me than he who is in the world. Starting today, I will no longer be a slave to toxic people! Romans 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Thank you Jesus! 🙌🏽 🙏🏽❤
Last night after confusion with my neighbour from 4 houses further, when I woke up God spoke to me: YOU ARE NOT HER BAG-CARRIER. I heard it loud and clear. I could never have invented this myself. I was feeling guilty, until I heard these words. It completelety changed my view
I have the feeling the community that is listening all have a blessing from God to be empathetic and humble . That is why we are being attacked💕This video is so helpful. Thank you!
I am so glad I learned Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud’s book and taking a two month classes. You can’t change people no matter what you do, no matter how much you love it it’s never enough it’s never good enough. The best thing I ever did after 34 years was get out. The only regret I have is that I didn’t do it sooner but I still have half of my life to live, and I will never let anyone verbally emotionally mentally financially exactly abuse me again, and you shouldn’t either the Bible says if you rescue and angry man, you’re only gonna have to do it again.
When I was working in Sandiego, I found myself worst version of myself... I had this feeling that something isn't right, but I didn't know what. Finally I realized I am working for toxic people, who seek my weaknesses and focus only on those , they bring out worst in you.
You're right on point ☝️ my husband made me feel exactly 💯 💯 the way you are describing. I feel so bad and so guilty I was going crazy I thought I was a bad person until I find out that he is a narcissistic he destroyed me mentally emotionally physically. But now I remove myself and my daughter from his life. I pray God for your ministry 🙏 thank you for helping us 🙏
New here…once married to a malignant narcissist …horrific…my reaction at times were terrible…meltdown 20 years ago and so grateful to be alive and free having had to flee across the nation and relocate …and closer to Christ than ever❤️💕
Amen , its ALL about God ... everything!!!!! Well said Kris... Accept or reject, cant serve two masters... serve sin or serve God! Jeaus christ died for our sins. By FAITH Believe and accept his gift of grace/ unmerrited favor.
I'm so glad that I have turned away from toxic people. There is so much peace in walking away and letting God heal. We can finally be exactly who God creates us to be❤❤❤❤❤
My beautiful earthly father passed away a week today... he was an strong man of faith and would mentor me on the Bible and becoming a better christian and showed me consistent love, I haven't seen him for 20yrs as he lives in the states, we were due to be reunited this year. Nor my Mother or her side of family have called. They are incredibly toxic , I pray God will give me the strength and protection I need to carry on and be the woman he has planned for me to be.
I grew up without the presence of my father, my mom left the country when I was 12, me and two other siblings got separated each in a different house. Mom continued to talk to us on the phone but as I grew noticed our relationship was more and more difficult, then the realization that she is a cover narc. my ex-husband was an over narc. Needless to say there is a big hole in my life, only God has been able to help me and heal me. I still wish a had a family though, hopefully I find a man of God that I can marry that has a beautiful family that can adopt me. 🤷🏻♀️ When I see Kris I wish she was my mother 💗
There are a number of Christian women here that are experiencing trouble this way. We are going to get together every night and pray for them as God tells us to, as well as pray to God for strength and wisdom to bear this. We think this will stop us from feeling so isolated and alone.
The joy of the Lord is my strength, thank you for you teaching, Holy Spirit answering my prayer 🙏 sent this message praying to be released from toxic husband 🙏
New… I’ve been the one that’s been made out to be the problem due to reactive abuse. Because my now ex would subtly abuse me and I’d react. He would never take responsibility for his actions, behaviors and never would apologize. Thank God for giving me the strength to finally walk away for good and stay away!!
Amen! Amen! Amen! I so needed this and God directed me to you tonight. Everything you said is so true. I knew a lot of this but I needed someone to remind me and reinforce. I cried out loud “Abba Father!” over and over last evening as one of the toxic members of my family said hurtful things to me via texts and emails. It took leaning on God to help me ignore the hurtful words and allow him to give me the strength I needed not to reply. Thanks so much for this talk. It helped me see that I did the right thing. “Vengeance is mine says the Lord…I will repay!”
Kris Reece, your materials have proven you and your ministry are divinely appointed for such a time as this. Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to work through you, and for imparting this Godly wisdom to my thirsty, healing soul, for my good and His Glory, ♥️
This message was full of revelation for me in dealing with a toxic mother and other family members- I need to control my reaction...as you stated-- they don't care about my opinion and I can't change them... they reject the true word of God so they most certainly will reject and dismiss my stance based in love and truth...So true!
My grandkids have been used against me so much that they were maid to stop going to Church and now being raised in an environment that Satan has a hold of. The paternal grandmother. can't say a single sentence without saying, G. D, GDMF, FY. SO MUCH FOUL LANGUAGE AND IM AFFRAID THAT THEY will lose their respect for God each other siblings & have already turned against me. I pray about it but they are now13 & 16 from 10, & 7. Lot of water under the bridge but
Your video are such a help to me especially as a Christian woman. We’ve been taught/brainwashed into believing its ok to take abuse but it is never loving to make it easy for someone to sin against you!
When someone struggles & tries… to trigger me, I just tell myself that I will 🙏 PRAY for them!!! I need to start telling them in the moment that I will PRAY 🙏 for them & see what their reaction is. ✝️🙏🕊️💜😊😃😁🥰
I ended my relationship from my X-Girlfriend of 5 months. Your video explains everything to the “T”. It appears of what I read, studied and learned that she fit the personality of a Christian Covert Narcissist. You are 💯% right about me blowing up at her! I had enough. That gave her the ammunition of her calling me the crazy one or being the narcissist. What is sad is that she moved on within a few days to find her next source of supply. Here I am still recovering from the psychological, spiritual aftermath praying for Gods Guidance, help, healing and strength.🙏
Praying for your complete healing. What the enemy meant for evil, God uses for your good and His purposes! May you recover become even a greater, stronger version of your previous self‼️🙏💪
Thank you so much for helping me understand how to deal with toxic people. I'm a child of God and I'm trying to cope Jesus's way. It gets difficult but I'm avoiding the toxic personality the best way I can. It's a family member. God Bless you and thank you again for your gift of encouragement & prayers. I pray for you and your family too.
Yep! Know who you are in Jesus. In Jesus we are More than Conquerors! Grey wall them and keep your sense of value in yourself. They come up to your standard not you down to theirs. Let Gods love shine thru you to them. The God kind of love conquers all. Eventually they will see they cannot win.
I am experiencing exactly what you are saying. I am dealing with toxic in laws from the day that I said that I don"t want my mother in law to come and stay with us, I've been through this in my previous marriage. Now my sister in law and mother in law, managed to talk behind my back and I'm experiencing everything that you talk about in your podcasts. Also my husband drinks every night and sometimes he supports me but sometimes he also judge me as the wrong one. I am listening to your videos everyday to help to cope
I am so thankful that I found your videos. You are such a gift of grace for me. Trying for 9 years to navigate a toxic relationship and struggling not to lose myself and my natural kindness and love for others in the process. It’s so hard. Thank you 🙏🏻
this video is a literal God Send. this has helped me cope and understand a smear campaign from a Narc that I am dealing with. Thank you so much for this. Jesus Saves Us! God bless you!
I love your channel. I'm going thru exactly 💯 what you're saying... for more than 2 years now. I've been connecting to God but I cannot disconnect from this toxic relationship. Thank you for helping me see I'm not the only one. I feel like like I must be toxic too bc I'm involved w them. I feel trapped.
This word from God is so wonderful. Thank you. My Mom married a very toxic man. It wasn't evident in the beginning. They were together for about 30 years. She recently passed and I've been having a very difficult time. I tried so hard to help her but never could. The anger and sadness I've been experiencing has been a challenge but luckily I've been in therapy for well over a year with a christian therapist. Your help has made it possible for me to apply the things I've learned.
Darkness can not comprehend light. Don't waste your energy. Let go and let God.
I'm married to a toxic man for nearly 42 years . I feel very trapped and dependent. I'm 63 years old. I've just learned of this narcissist personality about one year ago . I'm a born again believer for about 37 years . I pray for help and direction. 🙏🕊
Leave him! You don’t have to divorce if you feel that that’s wrong, but I think a separation is in order for your own health and sanity.
I can relate. 44 years for me. All give and he just takes and takes and never gives. I’m grateful that God finally opened my eyes to my codependency on this narcissistic toxic man that never loved me, but only loved himself. It’s hard to come to terms with having a spouse that could care less about me and my needs because he is ALWAYS looking to his own interests. I made the mistake of thinking everybody thinks the way I do, empathetically.
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You should try a trial separation. You can bet he's cheated. No doubt. Your still young, relatively speaking. I support you. God wants you at peace.
Bless your heart, I will have you in my prayers and ask God that he send you strength to overcome this situation and beautiful times for the rest of your life ❤️ You are still you no matter what you’ve been through.
I divorced my bullying narcissist husband at 58 after a long marriage. I am 63 and live in peace. The Lord has never failed me and he won’t fail you!
Me too!
Good for you ❤
Thank you 🙏🏽
Amen!
How did you get away? I have a friend whose malignant narc husband is causing her so much pain.
1.Just walk away and let the healing process begin.
2.Forgive yourself for trusting them.
3.Learn a lesson from this trauma.
Life is way too precious to waste on toxic people. Make your life beautiful again 😊
Thank you Kris-the Lord brought you to me for education and enlightenment so that I’d know and I thank Him! You are so on point!! I Love you 😘 and I Support you! Keep going-
That’s really beautiful advice ❤
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I ask God to forgive me for trusting them, or believing their lies or deception. I feel like I didn't run away fast enough. Or asking for forgiveness from God about being in fear, about what would happen if I stood up to them. I feel really bad when I think about all the mean and wicked things they did and NO ONE came to help me or get away. NO ONE would even talk about it. I resent them for their absence of help.
One thing I am learning is to stop looking at others as the problem. When I look back over my life I have to acknowledge my responsibility for so many things I did wrong. Too many times all we do is point the finger at others and stop seeing what we do. The only person I can change is myself. When I no longer allow the other person to trigger me they have no power over me. I wish I had known my triggers so many years ago. But I can't go back, I can only go forward. God bless everyone.
I am working now on my personal inner inventory. It's extremely difficult living in the same space with another. 😢
Yes, I remember bragging years ago that when I finally left my husband I would send out Re-birth announcements as if I would be cleansed or freed from an albatross. All these years later, he has passed and I have not had a mature relationship; I don't even feel like an adult. I am getting ready to do an inventory, too, like a fourth step.
We do have to take responsibility and stop pointing the finger, although I do try to recall how I was parented and how that has affected me and my search for emotional health.
Thank you for sharing.
@@kellyh5250 Thank you for sharing.
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Just left a job. I was bullied by a toxic coworker. Management supported her because she is very organized and a highly productive employee. Just walked away and hoping God opens another workplace door very soon.
I've been through that. I hope you found new employment. Don't put up with that
@@diamondgirl7997 Thank you! ❤️
@@cmsbeth You are not shure, that you will find a better place
You only were bullied, because of you‘re better than her.
Bigger talent, faster, nicer and so on.
How did it go?
I’m going through that same exact thing right now. How did it go? I’m considering leaving as well, but it’s a great job. Thinking that it might not be worth staying though. Hope you’re doing well 👍
There is a difference between speaking ill of an abusive parent and simply speaking the truth about what they’ve said or done.
Just found your channel. Cried and cried to hear a Christian understand what I’ve been through the last 39 yrs. I lost my health. I lost my kids. I lost my mind and almost lost my heart. And my husband continues to torment me. Your prayer was powerful. Thank you.
My heart goes out to you! Keep listening and be blessed. ❤🙏🏽☝🏽
You’re not alone! I’m trapped in it for now as well. Everyday is a battle. It’s like waking up next to Satan himself. Pray everyday without ceasing. Ask Jesus to fill you up with the holy spirit and cover you in the protective armor of God. Let’s all pray for each other that we are covered so they cannot continuing sucking our life force.
Losing everything could mean something much more than just relationship issues. Look at what happened to Job. It could be your time to go through the refiner's fire. Many Christians have not been there yet. It's the darkEST night of the soul, but also a HUGE LEAP into Faith and Blessings (on the other side of the tests). I have this experience in this lifetime. It will cause your old self to deconstruct and then reconstruct into your new higher self. It is extremely liberating while also extremely painful. Keep seeking God's face. He's bringing you somewhere you never thought you could go, and only He can bring you there. Just keep in mind that absolutely NO ONE will be there for you. You will be alone (meaning minus any human help). That part of the journey is one of solitude and much reflection , going inward. You will be sent MANY tests, one right after the other, and your Spirit will be open to truly seeing your enemies, inward and outward. You'll never be the same, which is THE point. Everyone will get to experience this transformation, just not necessarily in this lifetime. It's a complete blessing but feels like a huge curse. I am convinced that if one can understand the point of Jesus and the meaning of the story of Job, one has everything needed to complete the mission. God Bless you !!! It's TRULY ALL GOOD. 💥💕✝️💕💥
Losing everything could mean something much more than just relationship issues. Look at what happened to Job. It could be your time to go through the refiner's fire. Many Christians have not been there yet. It's the darkEST night of the soul, but also a HUGE LEAP into Faith and Blessings (on the other side of the tests). I have this experience in this lifetime. It will cause your old self to deconstruct and then reconstruct into your new higher self. It is extremely liberating while also extremely painful. Keep seeking God's face. He's bringing you somewhere you never thought you could go, and only He can bring you there. Just keep in mind that absolutely NO ONE will be there for you. You will be alone (meaning minus any human help). That part of the journey is one of solitude and much reflection , going inward. You will be sent MANY tests, one right after the other, and your Spirit will be open to truly seeing your enemies, inward and outward. You'll never be the same, which is THE point. Everyone will get to experience this transformation, just not necessarily in this lifetime. It's a complete blessing but feels like a huge curse. I am convinced that if one can understand the point of Jesus and the meaning of the story of Job, one has everything needed to complete the mission. God Bless you !!! It's TRULY ALL GOOD. 💥💕✝️💕💥
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I Pray You Are Making Plans To Get Out Of That Environment Soon!!
God Bless You On Your Journey!! ✝️
Its amazing how they can say "I love you" if someone loves you, they wouldn't treat you that way. They only look out for themselves
Isn't that the truth!
That is not love
Silence is its own language🌟
And it’s says plenty.
Silence isn’t petty. It isn’t immature. Even though there will be people who try to tell you it is. Manipulative guilt trippers, mostly.
Sometimes it IS an answer. An answer saying, you are more interested in preserving your dignity and energy, rather than engaging with a toxic person.
I just went silent on a narcissist. He was my partner’s son my sister is a narc so I know all the signs. I lost my partner and her son the whole time of her transition he kept being toxic. I went ice cold it’s the only way to go with them.
@@debb789ok, that's what I am doing, but the tears won't stop. How do you ignore pain?
pain is our biggest teacher. It is best to sit with it. Please don't hold it, let it visit, feel it, understand it, and then let it go. It may visit again, and go through the same process. If you hold onto it, or don't allow yourself to feel it and sit with it, you will find it comes out later in life, and possibly via health. The tears can come. Let them. Then get into some positive fuel from God. Ask the Holy Spirit to provide music to sooth. That is often an amazing salve to this kind of pain. God bless you. I am also a victim of narcissistic abuse. You are not alone.@@talulatree5297
Yes, often it says ‘go ahead and continue abusing me’
Ephesians 6:10 - be strong in the lord and his mighty power. Put on the full armor of god ❤❤❤
My ex-husband's attitude was ," if you cross me, I'll destroy you". And he tried. He almost did. But I got 1,000 miles away from him by the grace and mercy of God.
It’s amazing how the Lord will direct you to a particular video for the time that you need it. When you said the battle is not yours it’s the Lord, it was confirmation to what the Lord revealed to me. Thank you my friend for allowing the Holy Spirit to lead you!❤
Amen!
Amen 🙏
Amen
Your so right
It truly is amazing. God knows what we need❤
Married to a gaslighting narcissist for 51 years..am finally free..still recovering..so much more to yhis story..cant afford counseling..love these podcasts..they help me immensely..thank you..
There is free counseling and there is a Christian counseling service I went through and it was free. Let me know if you would like the information.
🙏🏻 Terry, God Bless! You must be a Saint… 51 Years! Forgive & Know that your Spouse’s Toxic Behavior was caused from their Childhood Trauma! 🙏🏻💛🕊🍃
@@christinamorales6887Please let us know of the free counseling. 🙏 Thank you!
@@christinamorales6887 info on counseling please.
That's along time, did he die or did u leave?
Yes absolutely correct, feeling caught in that trap and then apologising for my reactions. It kinda reminds me of that saying: “Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”
That’s a great parable, and it is very very true
"Be sill & know that I Am God!"
So thankful to find biblically based videos on this topic!
Amen♥️🙏
Awesome information and I am listening and going to heed these warnings
Thank you. Some of the toxicity comes from religious people who are quick to use the Bible as a weapon. This is very helpful.
@@clarnicpsu05 Agree, and I think such people are often unhealed still, instable, hol´ding on to what they think is biblical. I too can do such things unfortunately,although itis better to knowabout it. Just need stress reduction, sleep and meaningful social belonging to be able to really incorporate change..
Amen 🙏🏾
I just walked out of a conversation with a toxic person. It was a no-win situation as I responded to the acuser. I am in another room and turned on tube tube videos. Kris's video popped up. I really think God is affirming who I am and telling me to listen... this is not your fault. I am thankful. Lord, help me respond in the future with this Godly advice.
Constantly forgiving, pleasing, and things settle down and they are at it again. I am an empath and am tired of abuse. I have learned for my peace of mind to sever ties it took over 20 years to do something about it.
Thank you for this. Confirmation.
I am too. I’m tired of decades of abuse.
❤Amen 🙏
God created SEASONS. Every thing has an EXPIRATION DATE for every thing in this universe.
Some of us may be like elephants 🐘 in a circus 🎪 not knowing, we are grown, big enough to stump on the tent ⛺️
Good for you girl.
Thank you! This very helpful. Even Jesus walked away from toxic people, that’s what I needed to hear.
In 2008, I listened when the Holy Spirit said, “Get out and don’t go back.” Thank you, Kris for exposing the work of the enemy because toxic people are everywhere, and Christians are not defenseless in this spiritual warfare. Get in the Word and learn to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit!
Excellent teaching!
I disengage. I stop the conversation or I shut up and walk away. When it’s not possible to walk away the power of silence was taught to me by my grandmother may she Rest In Peace. She was a very spirit filled Christian woman and very wise. I also mentally in my mind rebuke the spirit in that person attacking me I do it in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. All demons must depart at his name.
Thank you for your channel, I was married to a narcissistic for 17 years. Praise the Lord I am out, 3 years now.
Still in process of healing.
Christ is my strength
Praise God….Amen.
17 years for me too .. divorced & remarried to a wonderful godly man . Never thought I’d be here .. still pinch myself. God bless you ❤
Have a schizophrenic daughter who is delusional and blames me for all her delusions. I normally just ignore until I blow my lid. Then feel guilty for handling it that way. I pray in Jesus name he redeems my daughter and breaks our curses to heal us.
I too had a Daughter who blamed me for everything. I Prayed for her and myself for years. We now have a good relationship, Praise the Lord! I stopped letting her words get to me, and gave them to the Lord. I started Reading more Bible every day. We now meet on Zoom once a week with her sisters for a Bible study. That has brought all of us closer together and to God. God is good even when we don't deserve it.Go to God.
My mom was schizophrenic, I also just worked with one. Has she tried Haldol? Not sure if spelled right, also heard it referred to as something with “dog” in it. I know it sounds weird but I’m sure her doc would know what I’m referring to. I heard lots of good stuff from people on that medication, we know it’s the hardest thing to get them to stay on their meds. Also, many doctors say people with this is extremely low in D3 vitamin buy you can’t take D3 without K2 and most don’t know that. It was the only time my mom was the happiest when she was receiving her vitamin injections. I know it definitely had something to do with it!! Almost every med failed her but receiving those vitamins made a HUGE difference in her life after being a guinea pig for several years.
Mental illness is another situation. Your daughter is capable of respect in spite of her illness though. You have the right to let her know she's being disrespectful. But please try to find help for yourself too.
@@AletaBoyette This is spot on. People with mental illness are still responsible for their behavior. I know that because I'm mentally ill, and I had to learn how to take responsibility for myself. People weren't putting up with my bad behavior.
Australia - Yes, in a 10 year spat with a Narcissist. I fell for a quiet, well educated, senior man who was charming. Even tho he sometimes attacked etc., I plodded on thinking I could change things, until one day of no peace or privacy - I lost it and became a screaming shrew, I had lost myself in his slow destruction of me as a human being. I suddenly walked out. It took me a long time to realise how I was manipulated when the word Narcissist began to be used and explained. 👀😣
I cannot get over the grief of not having the parents & sibling that I wish I had because of narcissism. I continually mourn and don't know how to get past it. I'm so envious of people that have close families. 😢
You are not alone. After realizing my own family’s toxic dynamic, i’ve had to grieve not only my connection with them but also the person i became under those circumstances. Not to mention the challenge of relearning how to navigate those relationships. God has plans for us so grand that the enemy had to start at the root to try and turn our hearts to stone. I pray your envy can transform into the peace of God that surpasses all understanding 🙏 He has a purpose & a place for you! Don’t get lost in the wilderness, my friend! Don’t lose hope! We have to learn how to let God’s love move us so we can rejoice in our trials. 1 Peter 1:7 says that our trials of faith are much more precious than gold. Our familial struggles are part of that. Praying for you 💛
@@lalalaurenmae Thank you so much!!!
@@rebekahsommers4744 all Glory to God!! 💛🙌
@@lalalaurenmae Absolutely! He is GOOD! Already on my healing journey. 😊
Already just listening I can relate and needed this!
I've been soooo verrry discouraged dealing with my 2nd round of being married to a very toxic narc!
Exactly what your saying, I sadly live it daily!
And I've gotten judged from other Christians, when they lack discernment and they actually have been turned on me and believe him instead!
I've been praying and prafor Jesus to break me free, which is also going to mean finances.
I pray for all of you going through the same or similar. 💝🙏❤
So Thank you!
I left my husband after 31 years of narcissistic abuse, I don't love him anymore and I look at him in pure disgust. I had to go no contact . He is trying to control me 2000 miles away. Prayers 💞🙏❣💞🙏for all whom are going through this 🙏🙌❤
Good for you praise god❤
Nobody can control you unless you allow them to.
I want to leave myself but financially waiting for SS so I can decide. But I feel so caught up in not sinning. I’m supposed to shine my light and he will come around. So all my fellow born again Christians say. But I am not at peace, feeling if I leave I’m breaking my covenant but I stay at give only to be corrected told how to talk walk and do. I can’t take another moment. He’s not emotional at all. Not God fearing, he’s does not care at all for me or even sees me. He is over bearing , all knowing, uncaring man. Who loves me, what a joke. I battle for my own grace, feeling like Jesus is not happy with me. He’s toxic and doesn’t see me at all. I’m so unhappy. I don’t get comfort after my moms death no comfort no companion at all, cold??????? I’m at a lose, I have let go and given up, I just let him be the unkind person he is. I never thought he’d be so unkind. It’s sad. My grown children just want me to hang in and save him. He is beyond this, doesn’t want to be saved. I’m feeling like I’m may not be Raptured bc I want to get out of this turmoil. I’m in pain and sadness, I am getting eaten by his lack of being my loving husband. I am at such loss, I pray but feel stuck.
I know exactly how you feel. I have the same type of husband. God help us.
My husband asked me for a divorce on September 10th, 2023. Today is May 2, 2024. Our anniversary of 22 years will be in 4 days on the 6th of May. Once, I gave him the go-ahead 2 file because he claims he's getting older and wants to have a baby, somehow, he has become confused. I simply took my power back from him by setting him free without a fight! I am nearly at the end of this phase of toxicity. God is so gracious in how he is gently making a way of peaceful escape for me. God is not the author of confusion and I thank Him for His peace over understanding 🙏🏽
Very helpful. Toxic people can't be trusted or respected. Instead, be AWARE of their tricks & false blame. Keep a safe distance as they care more about themselves most & will throw you under the bus to protect themselves.
So true
I am learning to recognize the “triggers” and resist responding to them because when I do, he wins. This is exactly what he wants me to do. I am stronger and smarter than him because I have God on my side, helping me battle this evil and wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12). I have to keep reminding myself that “The battle belongs to the Lord.”🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
“They are not just affecting us they are infecting us…”- wowwww yes 🙌
Thank you for serving God by serving us this wisdom ❤️
I've been in the pressure cooker to win time to spend 12 years 14 years dating a narcissist
I sleep too much to avoid him
I am always caught in that trap
Praise God
Yes they are inhabited by parasitic demons.
Was just praying just now in my quiet time with the Lord and literally asking Him for wisdom as I'm currently living in a perpetual pressure cooker....then I see this video.....thank you Lord for answering my prayer
Denise Doray: did the video help you ease the pressure?
Yes, the Pressure Cooker eventually explodes and it's exhausting trying to make things work 24 hours a day when your other half doesn't put in the same energy.
I do the same thing with my family and problems...I pray for the wisdom, courage and strength to cope with the issue. King Solomon prayed for wisdom and the Lord gave it to him. Amen!
That’s exactly what happened to be …
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I just found out thru your teaxhings what has been wrong with my marriage all this time. That is, I've been married to a Narcissit for 37 years not known that was the issue. I always thought I was the misfit, the twisted and awkward one. Thanks you, Lord Jesus for responding my prayers. I know now everything will be straightened up.
Know your triggers. Once I understood what was happening, that I wasn’t crazy, I started my journey to learn how to live the best I could in my situation. Know your triggers is a key part of my journey. So very helpful to me. Thank you. Not the life I expected, not the relationship I want but it is what it is. God is helping me.
Same, so important to know yourself
Not only know your triggers, but heal your trauma. Then the triggers will fade away.
@@InspiredRenegadeI like that
Agreed. Know your triggers
@@InspiredRenegade How do you heal your traumas?
Yep, I have had many narcissists in my life, they always leave us feeling as though there is no way to make them listen or explain well enough that they understand what you are saying. I can honestly say that I have not reacted badly when attacked by these people because of the shock that sent me into embarrassment and silence. It is possible the Holy Spirit kept me silent so those who attacked had nothing to accuse me of doing or saying.
Oh yes yes yes I agree……soooooo many times I kept my peace and said nothing and I was so happy afterwards! Nothing to take back…..I had nothing to be sorry for! Sometimes you gotta just rise above it all! But you are also right some of it could be shock….but I have never been sorry for keeping my mouth shut!
The thing about staying silent is that it takes away their supply, takes away their power - they hope to get a reaction and by giving none, you, as the targeted victim, become boring to the narcissist and they will need to find another source of supply. When you reach a point of complete understanding and can control your emotions and literally not care what they say or do, that is freedom from the narcissist.
Yes i do agree....
Of late i hav got in to the core of the problem..
God you are my peace You are my defender.. Lord fight my battle and save me and my children from such narcisstic people...
Everything is under your souvereign arrangement..
Help me how to get out of those entanglements by your discerning Spirit
I relate. My calm response to a raging friend served to further validate her irrational toxic behavior as it was displayed before others who witnessed it firsthand. When we respond in a Godly manner in such situations, it testifies to the indwelling Holy Spirit being in control in contrast to the blatant unrighteous toxic behavior of the other person. Matthew 7:15-20 warns about false prophets and us knowing them by their fruits, but those who are professing Christians whose lives do not yield the fruits of the Holy Spirit could also fall into this category. I’ve had to learn that not everyone who professes to be a Christian has an actual relationship with God through Jesus Christ, as many people have “religion” only. Unfortunately, these can end up being some of the most toxic people you’ll encounter in churches. 2 Timothy 3:5 talks about such people…”having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!” 😕
Amen! I learned your silence is louder than your yell! Stay encouraged and keep holding your peace and allow God to fight your battles. 🙏🏽
Was raised by a narc, and caught in many narc relationships through my life being stuck in the sick cycle, but did some intense recovery around it 10 yrs ago.. upon coming to Christ 4 yrs ago, I misinterpreted what a Christian would do and let down my boundaries. Your videos are helping me re-establish what I learned with a Christ centered focus. Thank you so much ❤
Never knew till after 30 years of marriage.This is so helpful. Thank God for your videos. I prayed and asked God to reveal to me what I'm dealing with and to lead me to someone who would share on this subject from a Christian prospective and God whispered the word NARCISSIST and then he led me to your videos. It's horrifying, I'm trusting God for deliverance and healing for myself and daughters.🙏🙏🙏
I know a woman that is treated so poorly by her narcisst husband. They even go to church and he cheats on her with gay men and trans. She is constantly crying and she wont leave him. I had to leave the friendship. I pray for them. Some people need to be left in Gods hand, and just pray. I was actually getting PTSD from watching my friend cry every other day. I was literally getting infected by both of them! Counselors told her to leave him and she wont. She is even financially set from inheritance yet still stays with this man that cheats, belittles and constantly lies to her, and he doesnt live with her. They have separate homes. God says to Guard your heart, God is RIGHT 100%!❤
Doing Bible studies on fear of man (as opposed to fearing God) cured me of being an empath! And lots of prayer too of course!
Same
Cured ? Being an empath isn’t a choice . It’s like saying I cured myself of compassion
@@liabeachy I think you were programmed to take other peoples feeling more seriously than your own, and to constantly be looking out for their moods. I bet you had a very needy or volatile parent.
Oh yes! Toxic people pushed me right over the edge recently, and the worst is their twisted smile when they know they have done their damage! I was gracious but made myself sick!
Tell them GOD BLESS YOU. If they claim to be a Christian, they understand what you are doing and it ticks them off...
Romans 12:14 NIV
Bless those who persecute you; bless and do NOT curse.
Acts 3:26 NIV... LastVerse...
Gives meaning of GOD BLESS YOU
26 When GOD raised up his servant, he sent him first to you to BLESS YOU by turning each of you from your wicked ways.”
I can totally understand that smirk of delight on their face. It’s their supply to see us argue back or defend ourselves!
Amen to that
Amen
living with a alcoholic/narcissist has been hell. all i have is my silence and numbness to the pain he's caused me. my emotional state is beyond repair. at this point i am an empty shell 😢
I was married to a narcissist for 15yrs, divorced & he has done everything to strip & hurt me. The healing process is difficult but freedom has come. Thank God for setting me free from his demonic influences & torment in my life.
Amen! I am learning to die to myself and live for Christ. You cannot hurt a dead person. Getting better at it the older I get. 😊
I’m married to someone who doesn’t take responsibility for hurting me and continues to hurt me with trigger words on purpose. I have PTSD from what he did and regardless if I tell him please stop countless times he keeps doing it, I do think he is gaslighting….can’t wait to go to heaven.
I am not required to fix everything and everyone. Step away from toxicity. It doesnt require words or a reaction. Learn to love and trust in yourself.
I am SURROUNDED by narcs, and I hate that this is my life. It makes me wonder if there are any normal people in the world: no joke. What you describe is EXACTLY what I experience every day.
Sometimes we stay too long around toxic people , prolonging the time they have to cause damage to our psyche. Start moving on sooner!
This is my life 😔
Praying for more consistent control over my tongue
Me too! Praying for you 🙏
That is so beautiful. Jesus transforms what we bring to Him, turning our weaknesses into strengths
OMG this is absolutely what I'm literally dealing with in my life right now on so many levels and I'm definitely mentally emotionally spiritually and psychologically exhausted
Omg...so sad
Me 2 😢🙏🤺
Me x3
Me 4
We pray for eachother to God in the name of Yahshuah.
Me 5. Literally last week! I really need this video, thank you Jesus.
I have already stopped reacting to toxic people. I felt powerful
Amen sister! "Jesus said nothing to toxic people even with the cross"
Sis Maima a Liberia was in a toxic marriage, which made me depressed, but today I am out and we'll.thanks be to God for his grace that took me through. How I wish I had met your teaching I won't have been depressed .
1 John 4:4 Greater is he that is within me than he who is in the world.
Starting today, I will no longer be a slave to toxic people!
Romans 8:28
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
Thank you Jesus! 🙌🏽 🙏🏽❤
Last night after confusion with my neighbour from 4 houses further, when I woke up God spoke to me: YOU ARE NOT HER BAG-CARRIER. I heard it loud and clear. I could never have invented this myself. I was feeling guilty, until I heard these words. It completelety changed my view
This is very helpful. I don't like toxic people 😒
I have the feeling the community that is listening all have a blessing from God to be empathetic and humble . That is why we are being attacked💕This video is so helpful. Thank you!
Amen sister. I have to remind myself of this.
New. I remove them from my life.
I am so glad I learned Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud’s book and taking a two month classes. You can’t change people no matter what you do, no matter how much you love it it’s never enough it’s never good enough. The best thing I ever did after 34 years was get out. The only regret I have is that I didn’t do it sooner but I still have half of my life to live, and I will never let anyone verbally emotionally mentally financially exactly abuse me again, and you shouldn’t either the Bible says if you rescue and angry man, you’re only gonna have to do it again.
When I was working in Sandiego, I found myself worst version of myself... I had this feeling that something isn't right, but I didn't know what. Finally I realized I am working for toxic people, who seek my weaknesses and focus only on those , they bring out worst in you.
Silence is so powerful no need to react just be silent . It’s hard not to react, but stay quiet and let go in love
Amen! We all need to heal. Be set free and be at peace.
Kris you have helped me release the
Control of my toxic child for 60 years. Thank Jesus and you.
You're right on point ☝️ my husband made me feel exactly 💯 💯 the way you are describing. I feel so bad and so guilty I was going crazy I thought I was a bad person until I find out that he is a narcissistic he destroyed me mentally emotionally physically. But now I remove myself and my daughter from his life. I pray God for your ministry 🙏 thank you for helping us 🙏
I hear you. Went through this with a couple of ppl. But almost lost myself recently.
New here…once married to a malignant narcissist …horrific…my reaction at times were terrible…meltdown 20 years ago and so grateful to be alive and free having had to flee across the nation and relocate …and closer to Christ than ever❤️💕
Amen , its ALL about God ... everything!!!!!
Well said Kris...
Accept or reject, cant serve two masters... serve sin or serve God!
Jeaus christ died for our sins. By FAITH Believe and accept his gift of grace/ unmerrited favor.
I'm so glad that I have turned away from toxic people. There is so much peace in walking away and letting God heal.
We can finally be exactly who God creates us to be❤❤❤❤❤
My beautiful earthly father passed away a week today... he was an strong man of faith and would mentor me on the Bible and becoming a better christian and showed me consistent love, I haven't seen him for 20yrs as he lives in the states, we were due to be reunited this year. Nor my Mother or her side of family have called. They are incredibly toxic , I pray God will give me the strength and protection I need to carry on and be the woman he has planned for me to be.
Because of having to deal with narcissists my entire life NOW I’m constantly on guard against any narcissistic behavior against me.
Kris, You could write an entire book based on this one particular video AND THE VIEWER COMMENTS! Tons of help and encouragement!
I grew up without the presence of my father, my mom left the country when I was 12, me and two other siblings got separated each in a different house. Mom continued to talk to us on the phone but as I grew noticed our relationship was more and more difficult, then the realization that she is a cover narc. my ex-husband was an over narc. Needless to say there is a big hole in my life, only God has been able to help me and heal me. I still wish a had a family though, hopefully I find a man of God that I can marry that has a beautiful family that can adopt me. 🤷🏻♀️ When I see Kris I wish she was my mother 💗
Please ask God for that man and family! I am praying for you
Amen
There are a number of Christian women here that are experiencing trouble this way. We are going to get together every night and pray for them as God tells us to, as well as pray to God for strength and wisdom to bear this. We think this will stop us from feeling so isolated and alone.
I'm so glad I found your minstry last night. It is already giving me hope.
The same here, sister. I feel equipped to handle toxic situations and the enemy.
I just bumped into her today 🎉🎉🎉
So much wisdom, Kris. Thank you for confirming that staying in Christ and choosing forgiveness over contending keeps one in peace
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I AM LIVING. TY SO MUCH FOR ALLOWING HOLY SPIRIT TO SPEAK THROUGH YOU! Amen
Thank you! Stop trying to help change toxic ppl- God’s job! I needed that reminder!
The joy of the Lord is my strength, thank you for you teaching, Holy Spirit answering my prayer 🙏 sent this message praying to be released from toxic husband 🙏
Olivia my prayers for you. Lord Jesus Christ son of God have mercy on us. Protect our sister Olivia from all evil in the name of Jesus Amen
Same prayer here🙏
New…
I’ve been the one that’s been made out to be the problem due to reactive abuse. Because my now ex would subtly abuse me and I’d react.
He would never take responsibility for his actions, behaviors and never would apologize.
Thank God for giving me the strength to finally walk away for good and stay away!!
Amen! Amen! Amen! I so needed this and God directed me to you tonight. Everything you said is so true. I knew a lot of this but I needed someone to remind me and reinforce. I cried out loud “Abba Father!” over and over last evening as one of the toxic members of my family said hurtful things to me via texts and emails. It took leaning on God to help me ignore the hurtful words and allow him to give me the strength I needed not to reply. Thanks so much for this talk. It helped me see that I did the right thing. “Vengeance is mine says the Lord…I will repay!”
Kris Reece, your materials have proven you and your ministry are divinely appointed for such a time as this. Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to work through you, and for imparting this Godly wisdom to my thirsty, healing soul, for my good and His Glory, ♥️
I’m looking for her website????
Thank you for your Biblical advice. ❤
Thank you Kris for continuing to keep God at the centre of your message! Without Christ we are nothing!
AMEN!✝️
I want peace so much that I'll do anything God directs me to do.
This message was full of revelation for me in dealing with a toxic mother and other family members- I need to control my reaction...as you stated-- they don't care about my opinion and I can't change them... they reject the true word of God so they most certainly will reject and dismiss my stance based in love and truth...So true!
Amen. I am so glad that God lead me to you.
Amen amen. Amen. Amen. I look to God every day for the strength to deal with my toxic family and again I say amen
I am new mom marcey california
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Its terrible when the enemy uses your kids against you ! Im learning alot Christhank you i will own up to what triggers me ans give it to Jesus 🙏🙏🙏
My grandkids have been used against me so much that they were maid to stop going to Church and now being raised in an environment that Satan has a hold of. The paternal grandmother. can't say a single sentence without saying, G. D, GDMF, FY. SO MUCH FOUL LANGUAGE AND IM AFFRAID THAT THEY will lose their respect for God each other siblings & have already turned against me. I pray about it but they are now13 & 16 from 10, & 7. Lot of water under the bridge but
Oh boy. Totally relating to what you've said & praying for you too.
Your video are such a help to me especially as a Christian woman. We’ve been taught/brainwashed into believing its ok to take abuse but it is never loving to make it easy for someone to sin against you!
It's hard not to feel bad when people you love don't want the best for you and get some kind of joy when you are in a bad situation.
When someone struggles & tries… to trigger me, I just tell myself that I will 🙏 PRAY for them!!!
I need to start telling them in the moment that I will PRAY 🙏 for them & see what their reaction is.
✝️🙏🕊️💜😊😃😁🥰
I ended my relationship from my X-Girlfriend of 5 months. Your video explains everything to the “T”. It appears of what I read, studied and learned that she fit the personality of a Christian Covert Narcissist.
You are 💯% right about me blowing up at her! I had enough. That gave her the ammunition of her calling me the crazy one or being the narcissist.
What is sad is that she moved on within a few days to find her next source of supply. Here I am still recovering from the psychological, spiritual aftermath praying for Gods Guidance, help, healing and strength.🙏
Make Sure The Next Lady Is A (Christian) Giver And Not A Taker!!!!!!!
Praying for your complete healing. What the enemy meant for evil, God uses for your good and His purposes! May you recover become even a greater, stronger version of your previous self‼️🙏💪
Thank you, now I know I can honor my narcissistic mom without being with her and dealing with her disrespect to my boundaries.
Thank you cries the whole time
Thank you so much for helping me understand how to deal with toxic people. I'm a child of God and I'm trying to cope Jesus's way. It gets difficult but I'm avoiding the toxic personality the best way I can. It's a family member. God Bless you and thank you again for your gift of encouragement & prayers. I pray for you and your family too.
Yep! Know who you are in Jesus. In Jesus we are More than Conquerors! Grey wall them and keep your sense of value in yourself. They come up to your standard not you down to theirs. Let Gods love shine thru you to them. The God kind of love conquers all. Eventually they will see they cannot win.
Thankyou so much for this message and God bless you! Thank you!! I pray that all who are watching this message are also blessed! 💕💕
Praying for you as well beautiful bros and sisters God bless everyone always!!♥️🙏
Thank you Jesus for bringing this video to me today. It is such an answer to prayer 🙏🏻 praise His holy name
For me too, God is do faithful 🙏🙏
For me aswell
Amen💜🙏
I am experiencing exactly what you are saying. I am dealing with toxic in laws from the day that I said that I don"t want my mother in law to come and stay with us, I've been through this in my previous marriage. Now my sister in law and mother in law, managed to talk behind my back and I'm experiencing everything that you talk about in your podcasts. Also my husband drinks every night and sometimes he supports me but sometimes he also judge me as the wrong one. I am listening to your videos everyday to help to cope
I am so thankful that I found your videos. You are such a gift of grace for me. Trying for 9 years to navigate a toxic relationship and struggling not to lose myself and my natural kindness and love for others in the process. It’s so hard. Thank you 🙏🏻
Get out of the relationship. Problem solved. 😊
this video is a literal God Send. this has helped me cope and understand a smear campaign from a Narc that I am dealing with. Thank you so much for this. Jesus Saves Us! God bless you!
I love your channel. I'm going thru exactly 💯 what you're saying... for more than 2 years now. I've been connecting to God but I cannot disconnect from this toxic relationship. Thank you for helping me see I'm not the only one. I feel like like I must be toxic too bc I'm involved w them. I feel trapped.
Thank you for sharing Barbara. I pray you stay focused on our Lord.
Are you in a bad relationship with a man? Be careful and prayerful because it could cost you your life. I care.
I can go back and say what I think I should have said but I can’t go back and say what I said. Pure gold.
This word from God is so wonderful. Thank you. My Mom married a very toxic man. It wasn't evident in the beginning. They were together for about 30 years. She recently passed and I've been having a very difficult time. I tried so hard to help her but never could. The anger and sadness I've been experiencing has been a challenge but luckily I've been in therapy for well over a year with a christian therapist. Your help has made it possible for me to apply the things I've learned.