Thank you so much Kris. Looking forward to studying this. What a fabulous video teaching as well. You really helped. May God continue to bless and bring your ministry from strength to strength in Jesus name amen 🙏 🙌
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Avoid sin for not felling guilty !! Empath have God inside ,put limit with children try to make them proud for themself my sister had a bad husband that must hide narcissist and don t take care about children. Just abandon children that make feel that they sucks and strating the first school they ll be not nice with a suffering children , hard to tell your dad is sick inside my empath niece told me she saw. His brother is suffering but not her , free no contact when you kick a bad parent . He come to put the devil seed and fake love . I explain children doing the good against the good ,children who feel that they are not loved or exclusion with children at school . They need to exist ,Santaclos is a bad guy talk to them about Jesus try tell children clues about the fake news and tell them that is Jesus birthday..adult narcissist 5 yo move but they are not the lonely child. Don t let them see toxics moves. It very hard . Wake up and save children before it s too late. One child like china is bad too. We need solidarity with children . Prophet are sigma empath I think .bible is good for child and empath child to think about good things. Strong was Jesus and smart hpi . Look at empathy brain and you know who trust for sure withe heart. If they bipolarity ,borderline for sure they have toxic family and then bad partner ,too much limit put more fear on children ,Jesus took all sin. Be hard with children who lies , be sincere. True people are family I save lot of children from my village younger only failed was twins .the less empath is fighting but their dad refused to see them .I didn t healed him yet he deceived me I take my time I m sigma first mistake no contact with family during years I don't speak to them I have all rare empathy I contrôle it well. Society is a lie break the illusion. Ty for helping they are more hidden destructors than we think , accomplices or no empath can turn demons too .they are in the same team to slave empath . Born in suffering place ,good family are not always good. The shame they have , they can learn from us not to be better but to their devil job better. Those who don t like marginal real kind polite empath. I can speak with everyone . I see so many angles ,crossed so many people always tell hello like naive guy ,toxic hpi hpe are not full they are targeted since they are born . They target weak or those who are different . Great job you tell the truth there is always some clouds on your vision . We stay poor and help we gave never back except with few people I gave my life to other. 20 years having contact with a covert narcissist really cruel . I understood ,Kris I m from France.i know a lot of intellectual smart people who believe in god .they are amazed about my brain . I can have a cold heart and poker face to monsters I m peace . Maybe my shy part of me introvert is from my instinct to trap bad guys those who fouled me was finishing to practice and learn to be better. Lot of projects but some real socio/psychopathe who fouled friends or me . I have my list like kill bill to mirror them, fear them make them parano broken . And make them pay not hurting them. Travel soon put feeling aside to understand things if you can . Take care ❤ worldwide are amazing people .I don t have no more "why" I have many "because" . I don't ske why to my brain seeing more clear each day ne need to write like Jesus .Put suffering in the garbage,fear and guilt too. Rewatch all your life think not twice but each time you have a new idea ,put aside god and feeling sometimes to understand. I m underground like God . We like to solve if by ourselves to understand . Be in monkey head that fouled people , know u better . I can tell what I know . Love you real humans, your instinct are essential to understand and wake up .think about freedom. I never read a book ,try to avoid psychiatry medication . Try to learn about plants . They told us humans are better but we regress. Narcissist should be sterilized lol (joke) save empath from psychiatry, some go to psychiatry to find weak people to destroy them look at lost people. Heal childrens be true and smart they could kill you ❤ give the guilt to Jesus or me and live you ll find what you really want inside . We will die enjoy life is a rare gift . Empathy is life gift or God gift but no clue for god . Clue that the message is in your heart but society make smart guy blinded . Survivalist are true but are they in the good side good against the bad .dumb presidents what do you they are doing manipulate 😅❤ destruction what they hide try to think with philosophy look at the movie not the wall
I asked myself that question yesterday. My boyfriend who's a Christian is narcissistic. I noticed this because of these signs: 1. He's nice with strangers but not with me. 2.he's emotionally abusive. 3. He never gave me any gifts(never wished me me happy birthday), despite me giving him gifts. (giving is one of my love languages) 4. He gaslight me, he's inconsistent, hot & cold emotionally. 5. Everything revolves around him. It's either his way or no way. 6. He's so self-absorbed & selfish 7. If we have any issues, he avoids to talk about it and resolve it. After being friends for 3 years & dating for 8 months, I finally gave up. I do not want to be a bitter Christian in a wrong marriage. I ended this while am single. Do I miss him, yes, but am sticking to my virtue henceforth.
Making Godly choices is best, trust God - I ran to a person and had sex with them before marriage, which made very strong soul ties. Instead of turning to God with my hurts, I ran to someone who appealed to my flesh…and I got flesh as a result. Someone who lied about being a Christian-didn’t even believe in God at all. Yes I told them what I believed and I thought anyone would run away if they heard me say God or Jesus. He would find me at church…without me inviting him. I thought he was just a “young” Christian. I realized God says-“not to be unequally yokes”- I made an excuse-it’s been hard. All the things you list he started doing after we were married. He never showed His true colors till after we were married and didn’t tell me he didn’t believe in God or the Bible until 1 1/2 years after we were married. Talk about feeling like a fool-but the fact is, I acted like one. Guard your heart! I pray you walk in the wisdom you know-life can be hard enough without being with someone who wouldn’t pray for you when times are difficult.
Traits that attract toxic people; 1. People pleasing (Set boundaries) Gal 1:10 2. Peace keeping/ avoid conflict (Peace maker is better) Eph 4:15 3. Forgiving (but Trust is earned) Eph 4:32 4. Generosity attracts takers (Do not enable) Corinthians 5. Rescuing others is not healthy or Godly (Interference with the process/weakening the weak/consequences help us learn) 6. Honesty: open and transparent. Toxic people use it against you (Guard your heart)
Same here, but no dog, my neighbor's dog barks at me because she wants a treat whenever I go into my yard. I will just continue with Bible study, my garden and piano.
Forgiveness is the most misunderstood word. Great point Kris. Forgive does not mean trust. It also does not mean reconcile. You cannot be in any relationship with someone you cannot trust.
Pastor Hagee put in this perspective: Forgiveness without change or repentance is abuse. I forgave all who have wronged me, but I won't ever trust them, nor are they allowed in my life again.
This is so me. WOW!!! I have been treated like this by my kids and husband. My kids, They dont live at home anymore. I have forgiven them but they dont se any wrong. I have had to take distence from them becouse they made me cry every time after visited them . My husband did not tell them off becouse he sad I would look weak in there eys. So now I have not seen or have had contact with them for over a year. They aboused me mentally. And when we did meet and I wanted to say something they just talked over my head. My husband too. They could say that I was to sencetive etc. I felt nervous everytime we should meet . But then I feelt that The Holy Spirit saed that its ENOUGH!! Kris!!! you have realy helpt me alot in your teachings. I thought for a very very long time that I was not a good person if I did not say yes to what they wanted. But I have told them that I need time on my own and I do not tolerate their behavior. They have even blocked me on Facebook. But I pray for them. By the way my husband is a Chatolic. So I walke with the Lord on my own I have no friends. But Jesus is my best friend ❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥🙏🙏🙏🙏 Lotta from Sweden
I have been where you've been. I completely empathise with you. My ex-husband enables them. I keep my distance and if necessary go completely non-contact just to have my peace. I am glad you find your solace in Christ as it should be. Jesus said, " I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU."
Good job standing up for yourself. Wise boundaries promote fruit of the Holy Spirit. More peace, joy, respect, etc. Free to be yourself instead of bring controlled by others. We are a new creation in Christ, he comes first.
Stay strong. " Forgive but don't trust!" ❤ I don't take abuse from anyone i live alone and have no intentions to repeat past mistakes😂They wait until you are alone with them to become abusive. No contact! FOREVER in the name of the Lord, Jesus ( No Peter's or Juda' s in my live) and the Holy ghost. AMEN! I have LOVE just for ME God, Jesus, all tge Angels that sorround me❤ SO Demons F...off and stay off! 😅😊
Try to see how to be a empath warrior . Learn about manipulation narcissist , how to recognize them ,what they think about people they take the vital energy. Learn more about you. Take a look at grey rock method. Give them back the guilt they have and try to put on people . I could help a lot . Go away from family if they are toxic , better to choose empath friend ,they will make suffering you . Protect yourself , narcissist don t know how to love it s false they are not able to love. They need you destroyed or older they will try to make you back for your kindness just use you. Stay authentic and try to don t care about people think about you. They only fake repentance we can t heal .don't juge just learn look at Tammie video too. Learn how to protect you don't try to save people. I'm sigma and heyoka empath I can heal . They accuse you about what they do. Learn to say no, you are the best if they fouled you now learn . All empath have God in their heart . Suffering not exist ,if you pity it s a victimisation technic. be strong. Life is now don t sacrify integrity you have . Lot of people hate you if you are good and devil is in their heart. Save your life. They destroyed my family with the first born uncle underground. Society make narcissist destroyers .sadness is a real feeling but they try to put you the guilt and all hard thing in life they will use it. They wait you to be weak to finish you . They feel pleasure to see you sad or play with your feelings . I know how it happens .trust empath , it s hard to explain I know how to pretect children from it. Give them limit push them to solidarity when jealousy. Children have same technic but face up . Society grow it with fight for social fight. Fear to contrôle ,don t fear of the die and be happy. Use the past to understand. If they change they fake it .let's them with the devil. They will put u in a fight and kick people who really love you
Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m a people pleaser due to my child hood and feared confrontation due to a volatile mother. I’m a giver and find a lot of takers around me. I’ve been guilted all my life to be all these things for fear of being a “bad Christian”. Thank you for opening up my eyes. This video is like gold to me.
I find this challenging. If you are civil but not overly friendly with these people, they get so offended. If you’re not fawning over them, they wonder “what’s wrong with you?” Yet they are not safe enough to be honest with them. They are so insecure and hypersensitive. It sadly doesn’t take much. For me, I found distance and disengaging is best with them. They can think what they want but they don’t accept the truth that they are hard to around and take so much the wrong way. It’s often no-win.
I hope you have also taken the time to self reflect in your own actions and behaviors as you about others. If they are too sensitive, could you be insensitive at times?
@Glittergirl This was a perfect explanation for describing interactions with them. No matter how civil we are with them, we cannot win with them. Basically to be civil is to show a fellow human respect, but they don’t want that, they want to be fawned over. They’re insufferable.
@@starrynight9999 There is always that possibility; however, when I say they are hypersensitive, it is to their own feelings but not others. That’s the major difference. Sensitive people are not only sensitive to their own feelings but others as well whereas toxic people are sensitive to themselves to the exclusion of the feelings of others. I err on the side of being too empathic and sensitive and that is what often attracts toxic people to me so I’m confident that it isn’t me being insensitive although not to say like anyone else, we can be insensitive at times. As I have grown in healthy boundaries, I find these people less drawn to me. If I were to be generally insensitive, I wouldn’t bother worrying about being civil which insensitive people often don’t care about.
Asked God for help last night and this morning because I couldn't understand why I get myself into these situations, I try so hard to be a good, kind, giving person. Jumped on RUclips this afternoon and there you were making sense of all my confusion. So thank God for you and may he bless all you do, thank you. 🙏💯
Excellent teaching. I use to struggle with 4 out the 6 traits. What helped me was Prov 3v6. Now I consult God in everything. I found out consulting God in all my ways was the best decision I ever made in my life.
I'm Karen from WV. Thank you for your Godly understanding of how to cope with toxic people. It is an eye opener for me. I'm learning so much how to deal with those who know I'm a Christian and call me hypocrite if I don't do everything they expect from me. The one person who does this is my mother. I love her very much but I can never make her happy or please her enough. A gain thank you so much❤❤
The best way I have found is: completely avoiding if you can; ignoring as much as possible if you can’t avoid; being polite but nothing more if you can’t ignore.
Yes, I was magnetic to toxic individuals until I stopped being a passive people-pleaser. I have become proactive in helping these folks become better people rather than enabling their toxic behaviors. And with the Holy Spirit, I get to the root of poor behavior and set boundaries. ❤🙏
I simply say now, "My 'no,' means" NO!" Then quickly walk away before the narc tries to engage you in an argument that lasts longer than you have the energy for.
@@sweeta17 tip the label off, read the contents. These are not bad qualities/ ingredients to have. You just can’t give yourself away to these people. They take everything out of your jar because they are too wounded to give. They can’t read their own label but you can. You can heal, they can’t.
Demons are just stepping stones for GOD chosen anointed warriors with GODS armor. Truth will make Giants fall . It's not a daycare. Courage is a talent earned
I pray for you and your dearest daughter. My advice is to Separate permanently if you cannot divorce. Go somewhere safe and far away. Perhaps get a job out of town, states or country and take your child along. Or stay with friends or relatives or rent a place of your own. If you dont, you will suffer more and more and your child is going to grow up experiencing narcissistic trauma bonding and narcissistic abuse too... directly or indirectly. Then you will have 2 narcissist victims. Dont let that happen while you still have time to escspe.. Depending on how your husband treats your child, he will surely manipulate your child to take sides, blackmail her emotionally and psychologically and he will use her to become his audience to all the dramas conflicts narcissist loves to create Everyday. This is his Everyday narcissistic supply and it would be psychologically damaging to both you and your child in the long run. I pray you will not waste anymore time hanging around anymore hoping he will change or things will get better.. Believe me...a narcissist will never change. They can only get worst with age. Its a fact So, Plan now how to leave ASAP. I pray God bless you with His strength and wisdom in all that you do. May Father God protect you and your daughter everyday.
After dealing with a toxic relationship, I suffered fear and panic attacks, couldn't express myself freely anymore, had low self esteem and got physically ill. This is very educative and empowering.
I am at the point in life that I want to escape people because I attract toxic people. It makes me feel like their is something wrong with me. Thank you so much for putting this on RUclips. I grew up in a toxic family
I find that speaking the truth in love to very toxic people often doesn’t go well. They don’t appreciate the truth and find disagreements as disrespect and disloyalty. I have tried with these highly toxic people and they refuse to see their behavior as hurtful. Matter of fact they blame others for how they act. They believe they are right and everyone else is out to get them. How do you deal with someone who has a pattern of doing this when you try to tell them the truth in love when they don’t see it as loving? I’m at the point of walls and alligator moats with these people. I’m tired of the same old stuff with them.
Ephesians 4:15 is addressed to CHRISTIANS not to unbelievers. This is false understanding and application, that's why this won't work with narcissists. Very simple.
Proverbs 9:8-9 8 Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you; rebuke the wise and they will love you. 9Instruct the wise and they will be wiser still; teach the righteous and they will add to their learning.
@@Corinna_Schuett_GER 2 Timothy 2:24-26 24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. 25 Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, 26 and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.
@@glittergirl3052 Prov 1:24-32: "Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded; But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof: I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh; When your fear cometh as desolation, and your destruction cometh as a whirlwind; when distress and anguish cometh upon you. Then shall they call upon me, but I will not answer; they shall seek me early, but they shall not find me: For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the LORD: They would none of my counsel: they despised all my reproof. Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way, and be filled with their own devices. For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them."
Narc behavior pulled out my bad behaviors within. I'm ashamed. I made changes by letting the relationship end. Its painful but it's best. I came across a video on testimony of people who saw hell, and died for a brief moment and what they described was utter terror. I was headed there if I stayed on that path with her. I had to let her go to save my soul. I know it was best to please God.
Uh oh!!! An enabling mother-“But he’s your father and he works very hard because he loves you.” Enabling father-“Son, shes been through a lot but she loves you more than you will ever know”.
I believe it's lack of knowledge about narcissist personality disorder. Now I'm in my 50's and more aware of NPD thanks to these videos I know what to look out for knowledge is the key and power.❤
I am the same in my 50s I now have the knowledge of psychopathic narcissistic disorder... Plus the spiritual attacks they do on you .. Some very sick people out there and forgiveness is all about yourself not others ..This is a major one because people think they have to forgive the other person, NO they don't ...Think more and more of yourself and get rid of them ..
I'm a caregiver in the caregiver occupation. It's almost impossible to set down boundaries with employers for a number of reasons. I have come to the realization that MOST caregivers in this occupation come from abusive backgrounds. Thus, most often, boundaries are low to nill. Employers LOVE this, so do clients. I'll go so far to saw.... I saw an employer devalue a caregiver in front of a client, thus letting the client know that it was okay to treat the caregiver in kind. This is a prevalent attitude and behavior aimed at caregivers in the field..
There's two type of people the one that says sorry you got me and the other one that says sorry I'll do anything to make it right with you. The narcissist is the first one. There's no true repentance in their heart they just feel bad that they got caught.
A narcissist usually won’t say sorry you got me. They say I’m sooo sorry I’ll never do it again yet they do .. over and over and it gets worse each time
The narcissist will never say sorry. They will refuse to take accountability for something they physically and obviously did. They will downplay it as much as possible and act like you are the one that made them do (whatever it is) to the point to where you realize you are apologizing when you didn’t even do anything wrong-and still no apology from them!
Kris, I have questioned myself SO many times. What is WRONG WITH ME? I have been a Christian for over 50 years, and I grow annually. While mistreatment hurts me, I no longer carry them on my shoulders, but simply say, "Well, I hope this will teach me and help me to grow as a Christian." (ll Cor. 4: 17) One unsaved person once told me that she could see that I had a gift of 'forgiveness.' I DO forgive, and in many cases, I carry the pain for a long time. I find myself constantly saying, "I'm sorry. Forgive me, please." Generally, I am not even sure what I have done! I have learned the HARD way just recently, I NO LONGER TRUST my HUSBAND of over 50 years, or my best friend of over 60!!! To both I have asked forgiveness, and they have NEVER asked mine of them! That should tell me something, shouldn't it? This has made me question myself even more. It helps me to understand that because I forgive, I don't have to TRUST! This is taking a lot of guilt off me right now. Thanks.
FACTS. A change in OUR PERCEPTION AND REACTIONS (Taking responsibility ONLY for OURSELVES)... STOP GIVING THEM POWER GIVE POWER BACK WHERE IT BELONGS TO OUR CREATOR AND THE MOST GENEROUS OF ALL
I am not a people pleaser. I have good upbringing but I also can change that instantly by removing myself and distancing myself from people who I see as a problem
Exactly! What happened to treating others like you would like to be treated? Being a good person with a good upbringing doesn’t mean you’re a ‘people pleaser’ and like u said …I choose to just remove myself from toxic ppl . I can forgive but also remove myself
Kris thank you for teaching and equipping us. More than going to worldly councilors, we need Christian councilors to help and equip the body of Christ. Thank you for staying grounded in The Word of God
Elated you are addressing this !!! Forgiveness doesn't mean being a doormat ! Self sacrifice also does not mean dishonouring oneself ! True repentance knows what's behind it and involves atonement & making genuine amends !
I relate to all this. I wish I knew about narcissists and toxic people years ago, I could have stopped allowing myself to be manipulated a long time ago.
WOW! Hi. This is really good. I was looking up things about people who narcissistic. I am a born again Christian but I never thought of it of looking at it from this point of view meaning that God made me the way I am but not to be abused. What a revelation.
I’ve FINALLY figured it out after a lifetime of this crap 💩-husbands or even friends that just use me. It was low self-esteem. At 58, I finally said, NO MORE. No, I won’t be disrespected; NO, I won’t lend you money; NO, you may NOT talk to me like that. No more. Jesus loves me, so I love ❤ me, and so, I DESERVE BETTER.
Thank you for teaching on this. It’s everything I feel after searching for biblical answers about toxic people and how to handle them in a Godly way. That it’s ok and even biblical to walk away. I don’t feel like I was ever taught that in church. I feel I was taught to just keep being a doormat, that’s what a “good Christian” does. I no longer believe that but it’s been a struggle to break free from that deception bc my circle of family and friends are all in that “good Christian” mentality. I have felt so alone in this journey so to hear your teachings have helped me confirm I am no less a Christian bc I don’t tolerate toxic people. 💜
Thank you for posting your thoughts and experience with these type of people. I could truly empathise with you Karen. As you stated, people do battle with the correct way of behaving towards toxic people and do feel so guilty when being firm with them. I have found that we are the one who pays the price for this stance and yes feel alone on our journey. I used to think I have lost so many people in my life, friends ,family, 'Christians' , but I would rather be alone than surrounded with people who don't give a toss about me , use me and who want to destroy me. But I am thankful that you are still running the race. Be you!!!!! God has called to be one of His people and may you now go forward with that wisdom you have gained through this. No experience is wasted but can be used for His Glory.. Shalom Karen
Narcissistic love conflicts too. Just not showing your triggers. No pleasing. But no open conflicts. Not being personally involved. They will find another victim.
God bless you my sister. Great teachings. Great wisdom from God. I am so glad I found you a couple months ago. I wish your words reach far and wide. This message need to be send in the churches as well.
I struggled with forgiveness until you explained. Thank you. I have no bad feelings towards who hurt me but I felt uneasy communicating with them it felt like I didn't really forgive. Thank you so much for clearing this up.
Steffie Beffie, I agree. It's really hard for me struggling with forgiving myself not other people. I feel really uneasy communicating with people about my hurt & pain. I try to save people, but who's going to save me?
Kris, Speaking the truth in love is useless when dealing with prideful, manipulative, immature "adults". I'm talking about these (young) 20 something's who are 'Triggered" by behavior and certain language. They are TRAINED to LISTEN for and attack individuals who exhibit kindness, then exclaim that they are being ATTACKED by discrimination and/or unfairness. They are wholely ususeful.
This video resonates so well with me. I have all of these qualities, and I seem to go from one toxic relationship/friendship to the next. I am now in a toxic marriage for going on 6 years. I've tried everything to get away, except God's way. Now is the time to do it. God's way, and I feel this is what he's been calling me to do. Thank you so much for this confirmation.
I've learned not to be so kind and giving to everyone. I used to get take advantage of all the time but I woke up one day and decided no more of that. Standing up for myself and setting boundaries have been the best decisions I've made in my life besides cutting off toxic, manipulative people's access to me. I'm truly happy for the first time as an adult because of the change I made within myself. God and spirit are looking out for me big time because I'm well protected now.
Yes I noticed that people that try to push you around notice if you push back and if you don't they walk all over you because they have nothing to fear... Thank you for bringing up repentance... everyone today runs around forgiving the unrepentant and that isn't what God calls us to do...
I'm TOTALLY BLESSED by this and others! I just found you yesterday and thank the Lord for that. It makes me less crazy - I've dealt with toxic people in my family all my life.
THANK YOU HEAVENLY FATHER for giving the opportunity to Kris, to share YOUR WORD, to help other, to advice your children's to walk in your Word, .. 🙏❤️🙏
When you prayed for the ones like myself with C-PTSD, I felt Gods presence and the Holy Spirit working through you and Him receiving it through me. I felt that rawness and his love, so much so that I cried. Thank you for what you do and for serving the Lord. 💝🕊
My Ex is a big hypocrite. Didn’t want to go to Church when we were together. All the while having an affair with a married woman down the street from us. After divorce now he is back at Church and lies about me and brags about his snakeskin boots his girlfriend bought him. No one stands up to him about his lies. They tell me that he looks 95 years old now and beyond help. I was a peacekeeper and enabler to bad behaviour. Glad I left and slowly healing. It’s a hard journey.
This message is answer to my prayers. Thank You,Father,for speaking Your truth through my sister in Christ. I struggle with toxic people alot in my family, with my ex-husband, and a co-worker. I need to know God's perspective in dealing with toxic people,so the enemy can stop using them against me and causing me to do things that are displeasing to Him...Love this💖😊
I was a peace maker first and when that didn’t work lol I became a peace keeper and omg it got even worse, where I got physically ill and had to walk away! I didn’t know , I was dealing with narcissists, until God showed me when I was in isolation with God! ❤️
My husband is also watching women on the Internet and tell me it’s all in my head and I caught him numerous times. He says he doesn’t do anything. I never could figure out what I was dealing with until yesterday and I was googling and your videos popped up my mind. Feels like I’m going crazy.
I stand with you in prayer for God himself died for you to have a sound mind, you are healed and will feast before your spiritual enemies, may God humble everyone around you with what's really in your head, speak and create the world around you since words alone have been used to create the world, may you see things hidden in the spirit that will shake the core of others, may you rest in peace on your throne knowing the vengence belongs to the Lord, may you overflow with all qualities of full life that can't be found in the world unless God himself hands them over by grace, may you be the corner stone that makes the building stand.
@@darthvadersmom1192 thank you you so much for your prayer and the words. Yes you are right I need to start speaking words over my life that is life I will start right now 💗
@@tammyleclair6972 Sister there is LIFE in you breathed in by our Lord, you shall PASSOVER into your promised land, the Lord himself will split the ocean you are his girl, you are loved beyond, I speak victory over your mind, heart, body and soul for the blood of Jesus covers you who hangs unto him, he is near to the broken hearted this is what he himself promised, by the courts of heaven what is already judged above shall take place to see for yourself on earth glory to God amen.💝
Thank you so much for this, Kris! Praise God! I was convicted listening to this because all 6 traits I have done. I always thought I was a "good person" for offering these things. But God helped me to see that I was actually putting myself in His place...and I was actually going to other people to get MY needs and wants met...I wanted people to be proud of me, and happy with me, and to give people answers and rescue them to their hurt. If I step out of God's way and place people into His hands, and tell people to call to Him Jer 33:3 etc. and that Faithful and True will answer their seeking of Him. AND they will have a tailor-made testimony to tell others and to praise God for. So, essentially, stepping away from a toxic person, and pointing them to God, is an act of LOVE....I want the toxic to go to God and get healed of their reasons for being mean. I want them to know the joy of forgiving your enemy. I am stunting their growth in God potentially...by NOT turning away from their non-Christ-like behavior. I find that many of the Names of God give me comfort...His Name that says He Heals me, or Provides for me, etc. so I don't need to seek people to get my needs met. Going to God is our responsibility too, to make sure we are getting our needs met by Him and not people. That He would search our hearts and cleanse them of anything that doesn't please Him. Thank you, please know that God used you to bless me! What a great Daddy, Abba, we have!!!
Oh wow! I did the same thing, but l am done with that, now instead of rescuing people l need to concentrate on my emotional well being and heal from narcissistic abuse.
It is so amazing the judgement of 'not forgiving' and yet the passing over of what needs to be forgiven. Just say "hmmm. I guess you should just forgive me for not 'forgiving' the way you think I'm supposed to."
I've had a person breaking up with me at my worst, and he said that if you're a true Christian why don't you just forgive me and move on, although that did push me away from him eventually anyway but still!
I just got put of a Rollercoaster of a relationship with what I now know to be a covert, vulnerable (and violent) narcissist. I truly believed that he loved me and was in love with me (his words, not mine). At this point, I am just sick to death and weary of these toxic people that keep coming into my life. I'm starting to turn into a hermit to keep myself from getting hurt any further. 💔😑
Married 3 times. 1st and current husband's are narcissist. The second was a drug addict (scripted medication) and alcoholic. I seem to attract the narcissist and the 2nd husband I was attracted to him because I was trying to 'save' him. He self destruction anyways. I'm learning now and trying to heal despite still being married to a covert narcissist. He has no idea what is going on in my life or where I am at. He's only concern is how I serve HIM. I'm trusting God in this process of learning to let go of the anger and stay emotionally unavailable to him. I have to try and safeguard myself and my children and get us through this process. I'm sure it's just a matter of time till he chooses to leave since I have nothing left to give.
I attracted my first husband because he needed saving . It’s called savior complex. I also tend to gravitate to friends who need saving. I’m so happy I’ve recognized this trait so I can put an end to it
Wow. Just asked myself this question. Left a 5 year toxic relationship and in the meantime a lady I just happened to go to lunch who is contracted worker at my job befriended me and wow what I saw was unbelievable behavior I can't even type it all . Thank you for this video. .
Going from one terrible abusive toxic narcissist to a new partner who is abusive - that's me 😢 and I acknowledge that I am the one that needs to change if I'm going to stop this awful problem continuing ❤
Thank you so much for clinging to Jesus and being trustworthy. I really have trouble knowing how to set healthy boundaries, as my mom and brother were very toxic. God has helped me to fully forgive them and love them, but I need to learn Biblical wisdom in recognising toxicity and setting boundaries, as I seem surrounded by people I cannot avoid, and it has brought me very low. Your advice is needed by me and many others. Thank you.
I am very easy going and very forgiving. I try to look at everything from everyone else's point of view and constantly try to keep myself in check. I kind of just assumed everyone did that, but I have since realized that many do not... They want to blame everyone and everything else instead. Never once thinking about anyone else's feelings besides their own. 😮 Anyways, I have done exactly what you said in the first couple sentences of this video. I bounced from toxic relationship to toxic relationship my entire life, thus wasting most of it feeling betrayed rejected and heartbroken. 😢
🥺 i can't believe I'm guilty of all of these things 😓 does this make me the real toxic person 😩 thank you for bringing these things to 💡 🙏 I'll try to be less of a good person in my own capacity and turn to faith to God to change the 🌎 around me 🥺👌
You’ve exactly described my life exploited my walk w Jesus. Im not lukewarm and studied the Bible 25 years. The enemy has confused sacrifice for the sake of Christ. I’m a strong rooted believer and yet the enemy is such a deceiver warping the word of truth in order to destroy us using godly virtues. Your correct, Forgiveness demands change and satan distorts forgiveness. Forgiveness has become a trap for believers and we shouldn’t trust traits of Judas. God bless you for helping clear my confusion and many others confirming the rightly divided word of truth.
I just realized that a Christian friend of mine has many of the toxic traits you mention. The mask came off when I said no to his group because one individual caused me much trouble and lied to me twice...which is why I said "no". He couldn't handle it and after four years of having lunch once a week, he brought his Bible to show me my wrong...that I was unloving and unforgiving. It was disgusting. He used the openers I shared against me. I asked him if I was on trial here. He was more like a Pharisee than anything else.
I found mysekf nodding through pretty much the whole video! Love your videos, Kris! Soo informative, and I like the way you explain toxic people from a Christian perspective!
Yes very generous, I love giving to the ones I love and care about . If I find a something that I love and had good use of it, I buy 2 or 3 because I want my friend to have one too., A thief thinks everyone steals an honest person thinks everyone is honest until they've been taken too many times and now they're paranoid and suspicious of all.
Thank you I am going through all of this I have been 11 yrs old now that I am 61yrs old after the loss of my o ly child loss of my 2nd husband left me after my child passed away and my only sister and her family are toxic to me I have been trying to live the rest of my life for the lord I am involved in everything you are saying. I thank God for your words that is making more sense to me that I can breath bless you I want to walk with jesus
I've been a beast of burden my entire life Have a bleeding heart for those that are suffering. And my trade is if I am a reliable good friend willing to help in needy times then they will appreciate it and want to return the brotherly love. They don't, they haven't even thought about you ever.
WOW!! This is confirmation for me!! I was crippled and abused by my husband and Holy Spirit taught me everything you are saying!! I was left alone and isolated from everyone because he was afraid I would “tell” My husband used the scriptures against me to keep the manipulation going. God has since Healed me and led me out of the relationship and helped me to renew my mind to receive the abundant life that Jesus has died to give me!! I had/have all these qualities and Jesus is working powerfully to change me!! It’s a miracle!! God told me to stop giving him anything. The Lord is powerfully helping me through the divorce!! Praise God!! All Glory To Him🙌🙌🔥🔥
You are right on the money. I don't know what I am doing wrong but being yelled at. I walk away and people get angry more. I'm scared and tired. I'm TIRED OF BEING BULL I ED
The begging is annoying especially for those I know or in a relationship. When you call them out it is ridculous how they change their tunes . I ghosted so many and took them to court and it is alot to hear how they viewed me along. My hands will never exchange my hard earned cash !!!!!
God loves a cheerful giver He does not love a selfish takers attitude nor the problems it causes for those abused for it Be aware Wise Most of us need this advice !! ❤
That’s me from childhood till today whether it’s real life or online I am the one that’s always struggles and ends up being misjudged.... it’s not that I haven’t tried no matter how nice and respectful I try to be they try to take advantage of me. Sometimes I think about how I could become a strong villain in people’s life but then I remember my family and God. I’m a sinner I will fully sin sometimes but I don’t wish bad for others or hurt others because I believe in Karma of God exists for everyone.
Our Lord has directed me to your posts at a time when I was falling apart due to cptsd from childhood abuse and ptsd due to 50 years of spousal abuse and painful and extremely destructive parental alienation manipulation due to the master narcissist that is my children’s ‘father.’ I feel so broken and worthless but I feel a building up and restoration from the Hand of our Faithful Savior… Thank you for allowing God to use you as a vessel for His Wisdom.
Thank you for your advice-I wish I would’ve heard it when I was young. I have an estranged covert violent narcissist brother, my father, who has passed away was a grandiose narcissist, my ex-wife had BPD, I have a difficult gay brother, and I tend to be initially attracted to those type of people-I tend to run into them. If it wasn’t for my deceased mother and Jesus Christ, I hate to wonder where I would be.
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Avoid sin for not felling guilty !! Empath have God inside ,put limit with children try to make them proud for themself my sister had a bad husband that must hide narcissist and don t take care about children. Just abandon children that make feel that they sucks and strating the first school they ll be not nice with a suffering children , hard to tell your dad is sick inside my empath niece told me she saw. His brother is suffering but not her , free no contact when you kick a bad parent . He come to put the devil seed and fake love . I explain children doing the good against the good ,children who feel that they are not loved or exclusion with children at school . They need to exist ,Santaclos is a bad guy talk to them about Jesus try tell children clues about the fake news and tell them that is Jesus birthday..adult narcissist 5 yo move but they are not the lonely child. Don t let them see toxics moves. It very hard . Wake up and save children before it s too late. One child like china is bad too. We need solidarity with children . Prophet are sigma empath I think .bible is good for child and empath child to think about good things. Strong was Jesus and smart hpi . Look at empathy brain and you know who trust for sure withe heart. If they bipolarity ,borderline for sure they have toxic family and then bad partner ,too much limit put more fear on children ,Jesus took all sin. Be hard with children who lies , be sincere. True people are family I save lot of children from my village younger only failed was twins .the less empath is fighting but their dad refused to see them .I didn t healed him yet he deceived me I take my time I m sigma first mistake no contact with family during years I don't speak to them I have all rare empathy I contrôle it well. Society is a lie break the illusion. Ty for helping they are more hidden destructors than we think , accomplices or no empath can turn demons too .they are in the same team to slave empath . Born in suffering place ,good family are not always good. The shame they have , they can learn from us not to be better but to their devil job better. Those who don t like marginal real kind polite empath. I can speak with everyone . I see so many angles ,crossed so many people always tell hello like naive guy ,toxic hpi hpe are not full they are targeted since they are born . They target weak or those who are different . Great job you tell the truth there is always some clouds on your vision . We stay poor and help we gave never back except with few people I gave my life to other. 20 years having contact with a covert narcissist really cruel . I understood ,Kris I m from France.i know a lot of intellectual smart people who believe in god .they are amazed about my brain . I can have a cold heart and poker face to monsters I m peace . Maybe my shy part of me introvert is from my instinct to trap bad guys those who fouled me was finishing to practice and learn to be better. Lot of projects but some real socio/psychopathe who fouled friends or me . I have my list like kill bill to mirror them, fear them make them parano broken . And make them pay not hurting them. Travel soon put feeling aside to understand things if you can . Take care ❤ worldwide are amazing people .I don t have no more "why" I have many "because" . I don't ske why to my brain seeing more clear each day ne need to write like Jesus .Put suffering in the garbage,fear and guilt too. Rewatch all your life think not twice but each time you have a new idea ,put aside god and feeling sometimes to understand. I m underground like God . We like to solve if by ourselves to understand . Be in monkey head that fouled people , know u better . I can tell what I know . Love you real humans, your instinct are essential to understand and wake up .think about freedom. I never read a book ,try to avoid psychiatry medication . Try to learn about plants . They told us humans are better but we regress. Narcissist should be sterilized lol (joke) save empath from psychiatry, some go to psychiatry to find weak people to destroy them look at lost people. Heal childrens be true and smart they could kill you ❤ give the guilt to Jesus or me and live you ll find what you really want inside . We will die enjoy life is a rare gift . Empathy is life gift or God gift but no clue for god . Clue that the message is in your heart but society make smart guy blinded . Survivalist are true but are they in the good side good against the bad .dumb presidents what do you they are doing manipulate 😅❤ destruction what they hide try to think with philosophy look at the movie not the wall
Thank you for the support by the love of the LORD!
I asked myself that question yesterday. My boyfriend who's a Christian is narcissistic. I noticed this because of these signs:
1. He's nice with strangers but not with me.
2.he's emotionally abusive.
3. He never gave me any gifts(never wished me me happy birthday), despite me giving him gifts. (giving is one of my love languages)
4. He gaslight me, he's inconsistent, hot & cold emotionally.
5. Everything revolves around him. It's either his way or no way.
6. He's so self-absorbed & selfish
7. If we have any issues, he avoids to talk about it and resolve it.
After being friends for 3 years & dating for 8 months, I finally gave up. I do not want to be a bitter Christian in a wrong marriage. I ended this while am single. Do I miss him, yes, but am sticking to my virtue henceforth.
I am so proud of you, may the Lord reward you with a Godly husband soon in Jesus’s name.
God bless you with the right husband in due time Mathew 7:16-20; ye shall know them by their fruits
Making Godly choices is best, trust God - I ran to a person and had sex with them before marriage, which made very strong soul ties. Instead of turning to God with my hurts, I ran to someone who appealed to my flesh…and I got flesh as a result. Someone who lied about being a Christian-didn’t even believe in God at all.
Yes I told them what I believed and I thought anyone would run away if they heard me say God or Jesus. He would find me at church…without me inviting him. I thought he was just a “young” Christian. I realized God says-“not to be unequally yokes”- I made an excuse-it’s been hard. All the things you list he started doing after we were married.
He never showed His true colors till after we were married and didn’t tell me he didn’t believe in God or the Bible until 1 1/2 years after we were married. Talk about feeling like a fool-but the fact is, I acted like one.
Guard your heart! I pray you walk in the wisdom you know-life can be hard enough without being with someone who wouldn’t pray for you when times are difficult.
I wish I knew and did this 15 years ago!!!
A Christian is a new creation whose goal is to grow more Christlike.
Traits that attract toxic people;
1. People pleasing (Set boundaries) Gal 1:10
2. Peace keeping/ avoid conflict (Peace maker is better) Eph 4:15
3. Forgiving (but Trust is earned) Eph 4:32
4. Generosity attracts takers (Do not enable) Corinthians
5. Rescuing others is not healthy or Godly (Interference with the process/weakening the weak/consequences help us learn)
6. Honesty: open and transparent. Toxic people use it against you (Guard your heart)
Thanks 😊
Thank you
Sounds like someone raised according to Christian principles
Thank you. God bless you 💜
Thank you ❤
Regarding forgiveness and repentance...I do not trust words. I do not trust actions. I trust patterns.
Interesting. I havent thought of it in those words/terms.🤔
So does God, the creator.
Gospel!
Jesus Christ is the word...he's the only one you can trust
Now thats wise!!!! Never really thought of it that way!
You totally nailed me...all of them! And I've attracted toxic people my whole life. Now, it's just me, my dog, and Jesus.
Same here . I can’t wait to get a dog .
Me too!
Me three. I would love a dog too.
Me two and I do have a dog😊
Same here, but no dog, my neighbor's dog barks at me because she wants a treat whenever I go into my yard. I will just continue with Bible study, my garden and piano.
A recent saying came up - “I’d rather stand with God and have the world judge me than stand with the world and be judged by God”.
People pleasers are so busy trying to keep the peace,they always are lost,and depressed! Not true to themselves or anyone else! Easy targets!
Forgiveness is the most misunderstood word. Great point Kris. Forgive does not mean trust. It also does not mean reconcile. You cannot be in any relationship with someone you cannot trust.
Brilliant and it answered my question beautiful. Thank you so much and God Bless you .🌈🙏🙏🙏🌈
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Pastor Hagee put in this perspective: Forgiveness without change or repentance is abuse. I forgave all who have wronged me, but I won't ever trust them, nor are they allowed in my life again.
This is so me. WOW!!! I have been treated like this by my kids and husband. My kids, They dont live at home anymore. I have forgiven them but they dont se any wrong. I have had to take distence from them becouse they made me cry every time after visited them . My husband did not tell them off becouse he sad I would look weak in there eys. So now I have not seen or have had contact with them for over a year. They aboused me mentally. And when we did meet and I wanted to say something they just talked over my head. My husband too. They could say that I was to sencetive etc. I felt nervous everytime we should meet . But then I feelt that The Holy Spirit saed that its ENOUGH!! Kris!!! you have realy helpt me alot in your teachings. I thought for a very very long time that I was not a good person if I did not say yes to what they wanted. But I have told them that I need time on my own and I do not tolerate their behavior. They have even blocked me on Facebook. But I pray for them. By the way my husband is a Chatolic. So I walke with the Lord on my own I have no friends. But Jesus is my best friend ❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥🙏🙏🙏🙏 Lotta from Sweden
I have been where you've been. I completely empathise with you. My ex-husband enables them. I keep my distance and if necessary go completely non-contact just to have my peace. I am glad you find your solace in Christ as it should be. Jesus said, " I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU."
Good job standing up for yourself. Wise boundaries promote fruit of the Holy Spirit. More peace, joy, respect, etc. Free to be yourself instead of bring controlled by others. We are a new creation in Christ, he comes first.
Stay strong. " Forgive but don't trust!" ❤ I don't take abuse from anyone i live alone and have no intentions to repeat past mistakes😂They wait until you are alone with them to become abusive. No contact! FOREVER in the name of the Lord, Jesus ( No Peter's or Juda' s in my live) and the Holy ghost. AMEN! I have LOVE just for ME God, Jesus, all tge Angels that sorround me❤ SO Demons F...off and stay off! 😅😊
amazing thats about the same thing going on in my life i know how you feel
Try to see how to be a empath warrior . Learn about manipulation narcissist , how to recognize them ,what they think about people they take the vital energy. Learn more about you. Take a look at grey rock method. Give them back the guilt they have and try to put on people . I could help a lot . Go away from family if they are toxic , better to choose empath friend ,they will make suffering you . Protect yourself , narcissist don t know how to love it s false they are not able to love. They need you destroyed or older they will try to make you back for your kindness just use you. Stay authentic and try to don t care about people think about you. They only fake repentance we can t heal .don't juge just learn look at Tammie video too. Learn how to protect you don't try to save people. I'm sigma and heyoka empath I can heal . They accuse you about what they do. Learn to say no, you are the best if they fouled you now learn . All empath have God in their heart . Suffering not exist ,if you pity it s a victimisation technic. be strong. Life is now don t sacrify integrity you have . Lot of people hate you if you are good and devil is in their heart. Save your life. They destroyed my family with the first born uncle underground. Society make narcissist destroyers .sadness is a real feeling but they try to put you the guilt and all hard thing in life they will use it. They wait you to be weak to finish you . They feel pleasure to see you sad or play with your feelings . I know how it happens .trust empath , it s hard to explain I know how to pretect children from it. Give them limit push them to solidarity when jealousy. Children have same technic but face up . Society grow it with fight for social fight. Fear to contrôle ,don t fear of the die and be happy. Use the past to understand. If they change they fake it .let's them with the devil. They will put u in a fight and kick people who really love you
Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m a people pleaser due to my child hood and feared confrontation due to a volatile mother. I’m a giver and find a lot of takers around me. I’ve been guilted all my life to be all these things for fear of being a “bad Christian”. Thank you for opening up my eyes. This video is like gold to me.
I find this challenging. If you are civil but not overly friendly with these people, they get so offended. If you’re not fawning over them, they wonder “what’s wrong with you?” Yet they are not safe enough to be honest with them. They are so insecure and hypersensitive. It sadly doesn’t take much. For me, I found distance and disengaging is best with them. They can think what they want but they don’t accept the truth that they are hard to around and take so much the wrong way. It’s often no-win.
I hope you have also taken the time to self reflect in your own actions and behaviors as you about others. If they are too sensitive, could you be insensitive at times?
@Glittergirl This was a perfect explanation for describing interactions with them. No matter how civil we are with them, we cannot win with them. Basically to be civil is to show a fellow human respect, but they don’t want that, they want to be fawned over. They’re insufferable.
Perfectly said! 100%
@@starrynight9999 There is always that possibility; however, when I say they are hypersensitive, it is to their own feelings but not others. That’s the major difference. Sensitive people are not only sensitive to their own feelings but others as well whereas toxic people are sensitive to themselves to the exclusion of the feelings of others. I err on the side of being too empathic and sensitive and that is what often attracts toxic people to me so I’m confident that it isn’t me being insensitive although not to say like anyone else, we can be insensitive at times. As I have grown in healthy boundaries, I find these people less drawn to me.
If I were to be generally insensitive, I wouldn’t bother worrying about being civil which insensitive people often don’t care about.
This is so on point!!
Asked God for help last night and this morning because I couldn't understand why I get myself into these situations, I try so hard to be a good, kind, giving person. Jumped on RUclips this afternoon and there you were making sense of all my confusion. So thank God for you and may he bless all you do, thank you. 🙏💯
Isn't He wonderful? It was similar with me running into her.
Amen! Me too.😊
God was leading you.
Excellent teaching. I use to struggle with 4 out the 6 traits. What helped me was Prov 3v6. Now I consult God in everything. I found out consulting God in all my ways was the best decision I ever made in my life.
Amen
Amen Amen!
Hallelujahs Praise Jesus Christ
Awesome, thanks for sharing 😊 I'm having the same idea 😁
I'm Karen from WV. Thank you for your Godly understanding of how to cope with toxic people. It is an eye opener for me. I'm learning so much how to deal with those who know I'm a Christian and call me hypocrite if I don't do everything they expect from me. The one person who does this is my mother. I love her very much but I can never make her happy or please her enough. A gain thank you so much❤❤
People think I am suppose to immediately trust. But trust needs to be earned. People get so mad at me.
The best way I have found is: completely avoiding if you can; ignoring as much as possible if you can’t avoid; being polite but nothing more if you can’t ignore.
The exact words I am working within my current toxic entanglement attempt.
Yes, I was magnetic to toxic individuals until I stopped being a passive people-pleaser. I have become proactive in helping these folks become better people rather than enabling their toxic behaviors. And with the Holy Spirit, I get to the root of poor behavior and set boundaries. ❤🙏
I simply say now, "My 'no,' means" NO!" Then quickly walk away before the narc tries to engage you in an argument that lasts longer than you have the energy for.
Yes ma’am.
Amen :) That's great
Praise be to God, me too. Through His guidance of my experiences He has taught me so well. Hallelujah, no more.
Yes my entire life I have been a toxic relationship magnet! I now understand that being the victim is just as unbalanced as being the narcissist.
a friend and i said its like we have a label on our foreheads saying who ever can miss treat me because i am too soft for my own good .
@@sweeta17 tip the label off, read the contents. These are not bad qualities/ ingredients to have. You just can’t give yourself away to these people. They take everything out of your jar because they are too wounded to give. They can’t read their own label but you can. You can heal, they can’t.
Thank you! That's me too. If the toxic person keeps me busy then I don't have to think about my own problems.
That is so true!
Demons are just stepping stones for GOD chosen anointed warriors with GODS armor. Truth will make Giants fall . It's not a daycare. Courage is a talent earned
This is me! My mom is covert narcissistic and I'm in a bad 23 year relationship with a covert. My five year old daughter and I need prayer.
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Praying🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Divorce
I pray for you and your dearest daughter. My advice is to Separate permanently if you cannot divorce. Go somewhere safe and far away. Perhaps get a job out of town, states or country and take your child along.
Or stay with friends or relatives or rent a place of your own.
If you dont, you will suffer more and more and your child is going to grow up experiencing narcissistic trauma bonding and narcissistic abuse too... directly or indirectly.
Then you will have 2 narcissist victims.
Dont let that happen while you still have time to escspe..
Depending on how your husband treats your child, he will surely manipulate your child to take sides, blackmail her emotionally and psychologically and he will use her to become his audience to all the dramas conflicts narcissist loves to create Everyday. This is his Everyday narcissistic supply and it would be psychologically damaging to both you and your child in the long run.
I pray you will not waste anymore time hanging around anymore hoping he will change or things will get better.. Believe me...a narcissist will never change. They can only get worst with age. Its a fact
So, Plan now how to leave ASAP.
I pray God bless you with His strength and wisdom in all that you do.
May Father God protect you and your daughter everyday.
Praying for you and your situation. God bless 🙏🙏🙏
After dealing with a toxic relationship, I suffered fear and panic attacks, couldn't express myself freely anymore, had low self esteem and got physically ill. This is very educative and empowering.
I am at the point in life that I want to escape people because I attract toxic people. It makes me feel like their is something wrong with me. Thank you so much for putting this on RUclips. I grew up in a toxic family
I find that speaking the truth in love to very toxic people often doesn’t go well. They don’t appreciate the truth and find disagreements as disrespect and disloyalty.
I have tried with these highly toxic people and they refuse to see their behavior as hurtful. Matter of fact they blame others for how they act. They believe they are right and everyone else is out to get them. How do you deal with someone who has a pattern of doing this when you try to tell them the truth in love when they don’t see it as loving? I’m at the point of walls and alligator moats with these people. I’m tired of the same old stuff with them.
Ephesians 4:15 is addressed to CHRISTIANS not to unbelievers. This is false understanding and application, that's why this won't work with narcissists. Very simple.
Proverbs 9:8-9 8 Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you;
rebuke the wise and they will love you.
9Instruct the wise and they will be wiser still;
teach the righteous and they will add to their learning.
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2 Timothy 2:24-26
24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. 25 Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, 26 and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.
@@glittergirl3052 ALL the epistles of the Bible are addressed to BELIEVERS, not unbelievers.
@@glittergirl3052 Prov 1:24-32: "Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded; But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof: I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh; When your fear cometh as desolation, and your destruction cometh as a whirlwind; when distress and anguish cometh upon you. Then shall they call upon me, but I will not answer; they shall seek me early, but they shall not find me: For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the LORD: They would none of my counsel: they despised all my reproof. Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way, and be filled with their own devices. For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them."
Never never never blame yourself for God given gift qualities !!! This is foremost and makes you good for us Kris !!! Much gratitude ! 🥰🙏🏼💞
This message is for me. God directed me to spot this.
Narc behavior pulled out my bad behaviors within. I'm ashamed. I made changes by letting the relationship end. Its painful but it's best. I came across a video on testimony of people who saw hell, and died for a brief moment and what they described was utter terror. I was headed there if I stayed on that path with her. I had to let her go to save my soul. I know it was best to please God.
Peace keepers are enablers.
Uh oh!!! An enabling mother-“But he’s your father and he works very hard because he loves you.”
Enabling father-“Son, shes been through a lot but she loves you more than you will ever know”.
I believe it's lack of knowledge about narcissist personality disorder. Now I'm in my 50's and more aware of NPD thanks to these videos I know what to look out for knowledge is the key and power.❤
I am the same in my 50s I now have the knowledge of psychopathic narcissistic disorder...
Plus the spiritual attacks they do on you ..
Some very sick people out there and forgiveness is all about yourself not others ..This is a major one because people think they have to forgive the other person, NO they don't ...Think more and more of yourself and get rid of them ..
I am all 6 .. I have been praying and asking GOD to help me. I thank God he led me to this video and I thank you sis.. ❤
I'm a caregiver in the caregiver occupation.
It's almost impossible to set down boundaries with employers for a number of reasons. I have come to the realization that MOST caregivers in this occupation come from abusive backgrounds. Thus, most often, boundaries are low to nill. Employers LOVE this, so do clients. I'll go so far to saw.... I saw an employer devalue a caregiver in front of a client, thus letting the client know that it was okay to treat the caregiver in kind. This is a prevalent attitude and behavior aimed at caregivers in the field..
Pray for all in involved wisdom,direction, respect on all sides.😪💖😊🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🔑💡
Hospitals are notorious for taking advantage of
Their employees .
True
Someone needs to respectfully point that out to the boss.
@@k.stannard9940
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Amen so much truth
There's two type of people the one that says sorry you got me and the other one that says sorry I'll do anything to make it right with you. The narcissist is the first one. There's no true repentance in their heart they just feel bad that they got caught.
A narcissist usually won’t say sorry you got me.
They say I’m sooo sorry I’ll never do it again yet they do .. over and over and it gets worse each time
The narcissist will never say sorry. They will refuse to take accountability for something they physically and obviously did. They will downplay it as much as possible and act like you are the one that made them do (whatever it is) to the point to where you realize you are apologizing when you didn’t even do anything wrong-and still no apology from them!
Yes I do all the time
Kris, I have questioned myself SO many times. What is WRONG WITH ME? I have been a Christian for over 50 years, and I grow annually. While mistreatment hurts me, I no longer carry them on my shoulders, but simply say, "Well, I hope this will teach me and help me to grow as a Christian." (ll Cor. 4: 17) One unsaved person once told me that she could see that I had a gift of 'forgiveness.' I DO forgive, and in many cases, I carry the pain for a long time. I find myself constantly saying, "I'm sorry. Forgive me, please." Generally, I am not even sure what I have done! I have learned the HARD way just recently, I NO LONGER TRUST my HUSBAND of over 50 years, or my best friend of over 60!!! To both I have asked forgiveness, and they have NEVER asked mine of them! That should tell me something, shouldn't it? This has made me question myself even more. It helps me to understand that because I forgive, I don't have to TRUST! This is taking a lot of guilt off me right now. Thanks.
Thank you 😊 💓 GRATEFUL 🙏
Forgiving will get an Empath hurt !!!
The narc will take advantage of our forgiveness !!
ALWAYS!
FACTS. A change in OUR PERCEPTION AND REACTIONS (Taking responsibility ONLY for OURSELVES)... STOP GIVING THEM POWER
GIVE POWER BACK WHERE IT BELONGS
TO OUR CREATOR AND THE MOST GENEROUS OF ALL
So true David
I am not a people pleaser. I have good upbringing but I also can change that instantly by removing myself and distancing myself from people who I see as a problem
Exactly! What happened to treating others like you would like to be treated? Being a good person with a good upbringing doesn’t mean you’re a ‘people pleaser’ and like u said …I choose to just remove myself from toxic ppl . I can forgive but also remove myself
Kris thank you for teaching and equipping us. More than going to worldly councilors, we need Christian councilors to help and equip the body of Christ. Thank you for staying grounded in The Word of God
Elated you are addressing this !!!
Forgiveness doesn't mean being a doormat !
Self sacrifice also does not mean dishonouring oneself ! True repentance knows what's behind it and involves atonement & making genuine amends !
Sadly you Will never hear this in Church..😢😢😢.
I relate to all this. I wish I knew about narcissists and toxic people years ago, I could have stopped allowing myself to be manipulated a long time ago.
So calm so peaceful so respectful , I love you girl ! Even you are old ! Focus on healthy girls only !
WOW! Hi. This is really good. I was looking up things about people who narcissistic. I am a born again Christian but I never thought of it of looking at it from this point of view meaning that God made me the way I am but not to be abused.
What a revelation.
I am tired of always taking the high road when nobody else is. It's time to go park on the low road.
Yes experienced this. Was a people pleaser and now unlearning this to follow the Lord better.
I’ve FINALLY figured it out after a lifetime of this crap 💩-husbands or even friends that just use me. It was low self-esteem. At 58, I finally said, NO MORE. No, I won’t be disrespected; NO, I won’t lend you money; NO, you may NOT talk to me like that. No more. Jesus loves me, so I love ❤ me, and so, I DESERVE BETTER.
Thank you for teaching on this. It’s everything I feel after searching for biblical answers about toxic people and how to handle them in a Godly way. That it’s ok and even biblical to walk away. I don’t feel like I was ever taught that in church. I feel I was taught to just keep being a doormat, that’s what a “good Christian” does. I no longer believe that but it’s been a struggle to break free from that deception bc my circle of family and friends are all in that “good Christian” mentality. I have felt so alone in this journey so to hear your teachings have helped me confirm I am no less a Christian bc I don’t tolerate toxic people. 💜
Very well put, thank you, had to go mo
Thank you for posting your thoughts and experience with these type of people. I could truly empathise with you Karen. As you stated, people do battle with the correct way of behaving towards toxic people and do feel so guilty when being firm with them. I have found that we are the one who pays the price for this stance and yes feel alone on our journey. I used to think I have lost so many people in my life, friends ,family, 'Christians' , but I would rather be alone than surrounded with people who don't give a toss about me , use me and who want to destroy me. But I am thankful that you are still running the race. Be you!!!!! God has called to be one of His people and may you now go forward with that wisdom you have gained through this. No experience is wasted but can be used for His Glory.. Shalom Karen
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2 Timothy 3:1-5
@@reesedaniel5835 I have clung to these verses!
Narcissistic love conflicts too. Just not showing your triggers. No pleasing. But no open conflicts. Not being personally involved. They will find another victim.
God bless you my sister. Great teachings. Great wisdom from God. I am so glad I found you a couple months ago. I wish your words reach far and wide. This message need to be send in the churches as well.
No good deed goes unpunished.
I struggled with forgiveness until you explained. Thank you. I have no bad feelings towards who hurt me but I felt uneasy communicating with them it felt like I didn't really forgive. Thank you so much for clearing this up.
Steffie Beffie, I agree. It's really hard for me struggling with forgiving myself not other people. I feel really uneasy communicating with people about my hurt & pain. I try to save people, but who's going to save me?
Kris,
Speaking the truth in love is useless when dealing with prideful, manipulative, immature "adults". I'm talking about these (young) 20 something's who are 'Triggered" by behavior and certain language. They are TRAINED to LISTEN for and attack individuals who exhibit kindness, then exclaim that they are being ATTACKED by discrimination and/or unfairness. They are wholely ususeful.
I wasn't born Christian but truly enjoyed this video, so spot-on, it resonates strongly.
I am so happy I stumbled upon your channel this is amazing and gives such great tools and biblical teachings.
I believe finding this channel is an answer to prayer for wisdom and insight. Thank you for what you do.
I love that: when you continue to help the weak the become WEAKER ❤
See Romans and 1Cornthians for Details.
This video resonates so well with me. I have all of these qualities, and I seem to go from one toxic relationship/friendship to the next. I am now in a toxic marriage for going on 6 years. I've tried everything to get away, except God's way. Now is the time to do it. God's way, and I feel this is what he's been calling me to do. Thank you so much for this confirmation.
I've learned not to be so kind and giving to everyone. I used to get take advantage of all the time but I woke up one day and decided no more of that. Standing up for myself and setting boundaries have been the best decisions I've made in my life besides cutting off toxic, manipulative people's access to me. I'm truly happy for the first time as an adult because of the change I made within myself. God and spirit are looking out for me big time because I'm well protected now.
So if there is no forgiveness without confession and repentance…would you forgive someone who trespasses you but doesn’t confess for those trespasses?
Yes I noticed that people that try to push you around notice if you push back and if you don't they walk all over you because they have nothing to fear... Thank you for bringing up repentance... everyone today runs around forgiving the unrepentant and that isn't what God calls us to do...
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Thank God i found you you have made
Me see alot of things about myself
God Bless You
Oh my God yes...this is so me. I equate being Christian to being people pleasing
❤thank you from a granny in Norway!
I'm TOTALLY BLESSED by this and others! I just found you yesterday and thank the Lord for that. It makes me less crazy - I've dealt with toxic people in my family all my life.
THANK YOU HEAVENLY FATHER for giving the opportunity to Kris, to share YOUR WORD, to help other, to advice your children's to walk in your Word, ..
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When you prayed for the ones like myself with C-PTSD, I felt Gods presence and the Holy Spirit working through you and Him receiving it through me. I felt that rawness and his love, so much so that I cried. Thank you for what you do and for serving the Lord. 💝🕊
Oftentimes feelings aren't the best but His veracity and the Book. Feelings are never static. So hard to go w feelings.
Yes, please make a video about how to speak the truth in love.
"But Jesus came so we could have life and have it in abundance" that line spoke to me
My Ex is a big hypocrite. Didn’t want to go to Church when we were together. All the while having an affair with a married woman down the street from us. After divorce now he is back at Church and lies about me and brags about his snakeskin boots his girlfriend bought him. No one stands up to him about his lies. They tell me that he looks 95 years old now and beyond help. I was a peacekeeper and enabler to bad behaviour. Glad I left and slowly healing. It’s a hard journey.
This message is answer to my prayers. Thank You,Father,for speaking Your truth through my sister in Christ. I struggle with toxic people alot in my family, with my ex-husband, and a co-worker. I need to know God's perspective in dealing with toxic people,so the enemy can stop using them against me and causing me to do things that are displeasing to Him...Love this💖😊
I was a peace maker first and when that didn’t work lol I became a peace keeper and omg it got even worse, where I got physically ill and had to walk away! I didn’t know , I was dealing with narcissists, until God showed me when I was in isolation with God! ❤️
My husband is also watching women on the Internet and tell me it’s all in my head and I caught him numerous times. He says he doesn’t do anything. I never could figure out what I was dealing with until yesterday and I was googling and your videos popped up my mind. Feels like I’m going crazy.
I stand with you in prayer for God himself died for you to have a sound mind, you are healed and will feast before your spiritual enemies, may God humble everyone around you with what's really in your head, speak and create the world around you since words alone have been used to create the world, may you see things hidden in the spirit that will shake the core of others, may you rest in peace on your throne knowing the vengence belongs to the Lord, may you overflow with all qualities of full life that can't be found in the world unless God himself hands them over by grace, may you be the corner stone that makes the building stand.
@@darthvadersmom1192 thank you you so much for your prayer and the words. Yes you are right I need to start speaking words over my life that is life I will start right now 💗
@@tammyleclair6972 Sister there is LIFE in you breathed in by our Lord, you shall PASSOVER into your promised land, the Lord himself will split the ocean you are his girl, you are loved beyond, I speak victory over your mind, heart, body and soul for the blood of Jesus covers you who hangs unto him, he is near to the broken hearted this is what he himself promised, by the courts of heaven what is already judged above shall take place to see for yourself on earth glory to God amen.💝
Wow I so much need encouragement thank you so much ♥️
Keep your prayers going to Jesus Christ, He will deliver you from this difficulty, don’t give up. God bless. ✝️🙏🏻
I have been a magnet of both toxic and healthy relationships. As of right now i do not have any toxic relationships in my personal life. Praise God.🙏🙌
Thank you so much for this, Kris! Praise God! I was convicted listening to this because all 6 traits I have done. I always thought I was a "good person" for offering these things. But God helped me to see that I was actually putting myself in His place...and I was actually going to other people to get MY needs and wants met...I wanted people to be proud of me, and happy with me, and to give people answers and rescue them to their hurt. If I step out of God's way and place people into His hands, and tell people to call to Him Jer 33:3 etc. and that Faithful and True will answer their seeking of Him. AND they will have a tailor-made testimony to tell others and to praise God for. So, essentially, stepping away from a toxic person, and pointing them to God, is an act of LOVE....I want the toxic to go to God and get healed of their reasons for being mean. I want them to know the joy of forgiving your enemy. I am stunting their growth in God potentially...by NOT turning away from their non-Christ-like behavior.
I find that many of the Names of God give me comfort...His Name that says He Heals me, or Provides for me, etc. so I don't need to seek people to get my needs met. Going to God is our responsibility too, to make sure we are getting our needs met by Him and not people. That He would search our hearts and cleanse them of anything that doesn't please Him.
Thank you, please know that God used you to bless me! What a great Daddy, Abba, we have!!!
Oh wow! I did the same thing, but l am done with that, now instead of rescuing people l need to concentrate on my emotional well being and heal from narcissistic abuse.
Very well said. 👏
It is so amazing the judgement of 'not forgiving' and yet the passing over of what needs to be forgiven. Just say "hmmm. I guess you should just forgive me for not 'forgiving' the way you think I'm supposed to."
You don’t forgive until the boundaries are met. One needs to know how to set boundaries.
You are such a gift from God! So grateful! Now I am very mindful not to lean to my own understanding....i practice the pause too. Thank you
You are such a gift from God! So grateful! Now I am very mindful not to lean to my own understanding....i practice the pause too. Thank you
You are such a gift from God! So grateful! Now I am very mindful not to lean to my own understanding....i practice the pause too. Thank you
We have a God that has the ability to take what's bad and turn it into what's good.
I've had a person breaking up with me at my worst, and he said that if you're a true Christian why don't you just forgive me and move on, although that did push me away from him eventually anyway but still!
I just got put of a Rollercoaster of a relationship with what I now know to be a covert, vulnerable (and violent) narcissist. I truly believed that he loved me and was in love with me (his words, not mine). At this point, I am just sick to death and weary of these toxic people that keep coming into my life. I'm starting to turn into a hermit to keep myself from getting hurt any further. 💔😑
Same
Same.
Same
Married 3 times. 1st and current husband's are narcissist. The second was a drug addict (scripted medication) and alcoholic. I seem to attract the narcissist and the 2nd husband I was attracted to him because I was trying to 'save' him. He self destruction anyways. I'm learning now and trying to heal despite still being married to a covert narcissist. He has no idea what is going on in my life or where I am at. He's only concern is how I serve HIM. I'm trusting God in this process of learning to let go of the anger and stay emotionally unavailable to him. I have to try and safeguard myself and my children and get us through this process. I'm sure it's just a matter of time till he chooses to leave since I have nothing left to give.
Been there. Keep on with the positive vibes. Follow the path you see in front of you.
@@lambcatmeans3400 thank you.
I attracted my first husband because he needed saving . It’s called savior complex. I also tend to gravitate to friends who need saving. I’m so happy I’ve recognized this trait so I can put an end to it
Gentle as a dove, wise as a serpent…. So true.
People pleasing… leads to self denial. Perplexing.
Wow. Just asked myself this question. Left a 5 year toxic relationship and in the meantime a lady I just happened to go to lunch who is contracted worker at my job befriended me and wow what I saw was unbelievable behavior I can't even type it all . Thank you for this video. .
Going from one terrible abusive toxic narcissist to a new partner who is abusive - that's me 😢 and I acknowledge that I am the one that needs to change if I'm going to stop this awful problem continuing ❤
Thank you so much for clinging to Jesus and being trustworthy. I really have trouble knowing how to set healthy boundaries, as my mom and brother were very toxic. God has helped me to fully forgive them and love them, but I need to learn Biblical wisdom in recognising toxicity and setting boundaries, as I seem surrounded by people I cannot avoid, and it has brought me very low. Your advice is needed by me and many others. Thank you.
I am very easy going and very forgiving. I try to look at everything from everyone else's point of view and constantly try to keep myself in check. I kind of just assumed everyone did that, but I have since realized that many do not... They want to blame everyone and everything else instead. Never once thinking about anyone else's feelings besides their own. 😮
Anyways, I have done exactly what you said in the first couple sentences of this video. I bounced from toxic relationship to toxic relationship my entire life, thus wasting most of it feeling betrayed rejected and heartbroken. 😢
🥺 i can't believe I'm guilty of all of these things 😓 does this make me the real toxic person 😩 thank you for bringing these things to 💡 🙏 I'll try to be less of a good person in my own capacity and turn to faith to God to change the 🌎 around me 🥺👌
Cursed is the man who puts his trust in man.
Blessed is the man whose trust is the Lord.
You’ve exactly described my life exploited my walk w Jesus. Im not lukewarm and studied the Bible 25 years. The enemy has confused sacrifice for the sake of Christ. I’m a strong rooted believer and yet the enemy is such a deceiver warping the word of truth in order to destroy us using godly virtues. Your correct, Forgiveness demands change and satan distorts forgiveness. Forgiveness has become a trap for believers and we shouldn’t trust traits of Judas. God bless you for helping clear my confusion and many others confirming the rightly divided word of truth.
I just realized that a Christian friend of mine has many of the toxic traits you mention. The mask came off when I said no to his group because one individual caused me much trouble and lied to me twice...which is why I said "no". He couldn't handle it and after four years of having lunch once a week, he brought his Bible to show me my wrong...that I was unloving and unforgiving. It was disgusting. He used the openers I shared against me. I asked him if I was on trial here. He was more like a Pharisee than anything else.
You are speaking to me in this message!
I found mysekf nodding through pretty much the whole video! Love your videos, Kris! Soo informative, and I like the way you explain toxic people from a Christian perspective!
Your program should be a requirement in every institution of EDUCATION. 💖
Yes very generous, I love giving to the ones I love and care about . If I find a something that I love and had good use of it, I buy 2 or 3 because I want my friend to have one too., A thief thinks everyone steals an honest person thinks everyone is honest until they've been taken too many times and now they're paranoid and suspicious of all.
Thank you I am going through all of this I have been 11 yrs old now that I am 61yrs old after the loss of my o ly child loss of my 2nd husband left me after my child passed away and my only sister and her family are toxic to me I have been trying to live the rest of my life for the lord I am involved in everything you are saying. I thank God for your words that is making more sense to me that I can breath bless you I want to walk with jesus
Thanks for allowing God to use you to speak to me I needed this confirmation God is works in mysterious ways 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Sometimes people are just exploitative and manipulative and it's not about one being a people pleaser at all!. It's about who they are!
I've been a beast of burden my entire life
Have a bleeding heart for those that are suffering. And my trade is if I am a reliable good friend willing to help in needy times then they will appreciate it and want to return the brotherly love. They don't, they haven't even thought about you ever.
So true. Good people seem so hard to find.
It is important to realize that we are in a toxic culture and that these toxic behaviours are considered normal.
@@myleshagar9722 exactly.
WOW!! This is confirmation for me!! I was crippled and abused by my husband and Holy Spirit taught me everything you are saying!! I was left alone and isolated from everyone because he was afraid I would “tell” My husband used the scriptures against me to keep the manipulation going. God has since Healed me and led me out of the relationship and helped me to renew my mind to receive the abundant life that Jesus has died to give me!! I had/have all these qualities and Jesus is working powerfully to change me!! It’s a miracle!! God told me to stop giving him anything. The Lord is powerfully helping me through the divorce!! Praise God!! All Glory To Him🙌🙌🔥🔥
You are right on the money. I don't know what I am doing wrong but being yelled at. I walk away and people get angry more. I'm scared and tired. I'm TIRED OF BEING BULL I ED
The begging is annoying especially for those I know or in a relationship. When you call them out it is ridculous how they change their tunes . I ghosted so many and took them to court and it is alot to hear how they viewed me along. My hands will never exchange my hard earned cash !!!!!
God loves a cheerful giver
He does not love a selfish takers attitude nor the problems it causes for those abused for it
Be aware
Wise
Most of us need this advice !! ❤
That’s me from childhood till today whether it’s real life or online I am the one that’s always struggles and ends up being misjudged....
it’s not that I haven’t tried no matter how nice and respectful I try to be they try to take advantage of me.
Sometimes I think about how I could become a strong villain in people’s life but then I remember my family and God.
I’m a sinner I will fully sin sometimes but I don’t wish bad for others or hurt others because I believe in Karma of God exists for everyone.
Our Lord has directed me to your posts at a time when I was falling apart due to cptsd from childhood abuse and ptsd due to 50 years of spousal abuse and painful and extremely destructive parental alienation manipulation due to the master narcissist that is my children’s ‘father.’ I feel so broken and worthless but I feel a building up and restoration from the Hand of our Faithful Savior… Thank you for allowing God to use you as a vessel for His Wisdom.
Thank you for your advice-I wish I would’ve heard it when I was young. I have an estranged covert violent narcissist brother, my father, who has passed away was a grandiose narcissist, my ex-wife had BPD, I have a difficult gay brother, and I tend to be initially attracted to those type of people-I tend to run into them. If it wasn’t for my deceased mother and Jesus Christ, I hate to wonder where I would be.