As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Doctor Greg Mushrooms he is a great man of God who has the great insight on psychedelic and mushroom. He will guide you on how to use mushrooms to get good trip.
I received my diagnoses for both 5 months ago. While I’m relieved to finally have some answers, I’m also overwhelmed because there isn’t much help for middle age women. Your videos have been helpful 🙏🏽
I don't really want the help, but it would be nice to connect the dots genetically in my family tree. A whopping $3000 to get tested, I think that is ridiculous. There must be other ways that are cheaper.
I do coaching and counselling at work and outside of work and never charge it's not fair if person already hadxacprobbthey shud not pay for treatment t.sonthamks for people who help for free this Lady above is great well done
looking at the good effects of psilocybin mushrooms on depression I had a test, the effects of just one dose of psilocybin mushroom gave me an encouraging result.
Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada) Literally changed my life
After I got laid off from work, I started taking drugs and alcohol, I became a shadow of myself, isolating from the world, not until I went on a trip and tried out shrooms I cried like a baby and since then I've been the best of myself then I can say.
Who thinks the DSM is outdated and is in need of some serious revisions with respect to Autism and ADHD especially in females? Also NPD and cluster B personality disorders across the board needs to be reassessed imho.
Massively outdated! Not only that but potentially damaging, lots of examples but a glaring one in terms of ADHD is that big old ‘H’ that was reinserted into the previous ‘ADD (with or without hyperactivity)’, meaning that so many women who are ADHD-I (primarily inattentive) fly under the radar Or are actively dismissed. I’m personally ADHD-C (combined presentation) but have still been dismissed by psychiatrists. One subscribed to the extremely old-school view that it’s basically just ‘naughty little boys’ and told me that it was absolutely impossible that I had ADHD because 1) I was a woman (🤯🤦🏻♀️🤬) and 2) I had an education (the autism helped me in school, though I still struggled massively at uni - I realised about the ADHD 3 years ago - still not treated, and struggling- and the autism only this year - I’m 49) and had been a teacher. Yes, the most chaotic one ever, teaching English to foreign adults at university, then freelance in Spain (bliss!)…I kept my job at the former because I was apparently the students’ favourite teacher- they liked my, erm, ‘organic’ approach, the fact that I didn’t follow the textbook but used real-life and their personal needs as the subjects. They used to say that they always learnt most from my tangents (a word they learned early, haha). I could not do the admin to save my life and the students used to sort out collecting and filing papers at the end of class. Oops, a tangent. Point being, I knew dinosaurs like this psychiatrist existed, but genuinely thought it was more of a thing of the past as I’d read about so many women previously being misdiagnosed and treated for bipolar for years before finding out it was ADHD - but that’s exactly what he said ‘clearly bipolar, no need for further discussion’. It was horrendous. This was on the NHS after a private diagnosis where the doctor disappeared on me, long story but horrendous. And I’m now trying to get myself together to approach a centre who are up to speed with the Us psychiatrists in terms of understanding etc. I’ve gone downhill so much in the interim that the ADHD is stopping me getting help for ADHD 🙈). Speaking of psychiatrists in the US there are many who agree with your comment and are fighting to get the DSM changed…it’s heartening that they see it, though they admit it’d be a battle.
@@AriElfyn Agreed, The insertion of the H for boys led to a massive dismissal of girls symptoms. They should include both ADD and ADHD as well as the seven documentated types according to Dr. Amen.
I had the DSM-4 in college. I let my daughter borrow it and I never got it back. Oh well. I had a PDR also. I want to get the most recent DSM-5. Thank you Dr. Sage. You have a wonderful day and stay safe.
I'm AUDHD and only recently at 68 figured out how to call a cease fire on the war in my brain. I remind myself that this activity is an ADHD one and allow it to take control and enjoy the moment, then I give my Autism time to unwind with full on quiet and acalm regularity. I let ADHD know that this is Autism time with the promise that I will take care of both of them. For the first time in my life, I have some control - autonomy - over my brain and it feels great for the war to be over finally! It got me into so much trouble, but now they're working together. Loved this video! It is spot on!
Hope you find this helpful and validating! Sorry for the band aid if it triggers you:). I stabbed my finger last night while cutting fruit and was too scared to take it off:). sending Sunday love! xo
The fact that it is so tough for others to see the combination of autism and ADHD in us, is precisely why it often takes so long to diagnose us. Even my very obvious son didn’t get his second of the two diagnoses until years later.
My wife was diagnosed with ADHD in her twenties and diagnosed with autism in her fifties, we have two sons with autism and two granddaughters with autism, one granddaughter diagnosed with ADHD. So glad you acknowledge that it runs in families. Before my father-in-law passed away my wife noticed that her dad would not look people in the eye, remembering that he was massive intelligent in math and very socially inept she believed he was as well.
Yep, this captures the experience pretty succinctly. Diagnosed ASD1 and ADHD-C, and this explains the overlap in a very relatable way! To all those out there figuring themselves out, you're valid and doing great and I hope you find the answers you seek! 💙
I have ended jobs and not picked up the last paycheck. Never closed out banks accounts when I moved. Moved 17 times in 50 years. Been homeless twice. I've also traveled the country several times over. Veteran, and have constructed a life alone and isolated at 70. Never had a long term relationship over 3 years. I wish there was someone around here to talk to about this.
@@sarahfellows3074 Thanks. I don't do social media, or own a smart phone. I've had smart phones, But I never used them enough to justify the cost. I'm a Veteran. I'll run this across someone there. Thanks..
There are others like you out there. All diagnosis does is create another customer for the pharmaceutical companies. I'm sure you have good reasons for moving around. Everyone blames themselves. But how do you expect to adjust to the craziness of our culture without difficulties? It gets lonely out there as we get older. Relationships or not.I do hope you find comfort somehow.
I thank you so much for your videos. Without you I may have never been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD as well as CPTSD. Haven't been able to get much help yet but I finally know what's going on for me and why I am the way I am. Thank you. ❤
I really appreciate the work you are doing here. I was ADHD diagnosed in my early 40s and it was a revelation that created a lot of opportunity for healing and self awareness. Now I'm my mid fifties after much RUclips etc research I convinced my therapist that autism testing felt warranted. She wasn't convinced but arranged it and I ended up testing very high for autism as well. I'm less than a year in already feeling so much more empowered and well regulated, using information I've collected from these videos here. Soooooooo thank you! I'd also like to add (as someone for whom design and lighting are clearly focal interests) that your lighting and makeup and wallpaper are looking beautiful here. I think for many of us well balanced, calm and attractive design can make a huge difference in our ability to stay focused on a video presentation!
Thank you so much for your passion and research! 🙏 I love this conversation! I am so grateful that you share your personal stories in your videos, it's precious. You are an inspiration, Dr. Kim 💗 Much love 🤲✨💖
This video just confirmed what I've been thinking. I do jump between tasks. Because brain gets bored with one. Also when speaking I can easily start with one topic then move to next, third and then go back to the first. It does confuse other people easily.
I do a lot of switching & hyperfocus on what interests me. Procrastination is huge also . It’s a mess. Medication has been withdrawn for adhd lately also bc of lack of availability.
@DrKimSage thank you for opening my eyes to the person I really am. I've had a great struggle at work not being able to attend because of physical problems. I have the classic burnout that you describe. What is the best way to show my supervisor that I really have a disability?
Thankyou!!! I am literally in Tears right now!! I am almost 50 years old and you have just described my Soul and Spirit for the first time I’ve been seen and heard and understood so many answers
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with Bipolar, spent my whole life fighting bipolar. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
As a child, I had a fairly rigid routine imposed on me by both my parents and school, and I thrived in it. As I got older and needed to start managing that routine on my own, everything just fell apart.
Time MGMT is a fundamental lifeskill that should be taught in schools or homeschooling IMHO. Much like budgeting, cooking and problem solving so our young people can make sound independent choices.
That’s interesting, and I can relate. Up until about age 11 I never had to worry about schedules because at my infant school everything was planned out for us and there was no homework. When I went to secondary school (high school) the entire day was organised into hour-long segments of specific subjects, and stayed that way all year; I only struggled with homework. Then I went to what we in the UK call Sixth Form College (an optional advanced education, usually between ages 16-18) and that’s when things started to fall apart for me, as I no longer had to attend every class and homework was always optional (though failure to do either would result in bad marks at the end of the two years, as it did for me). I managed to do quite well in one subject - philosophy - likely because I was genuinely interested in it, and that got me to university, but I’ve continued to suffer from problems with time organisation.
@@thefuturist8864 ya high school went ok for me, but that's because I was kinda smart. I could either not do there homework or just do it really quickly and still get fairly good marks. University was a bit harder but I joined a couple really good study groups that held me accountable. It's the real world that ate me alive.
the push pull dynamic 😭😭 it's like I'm always in this internal battle, where I want to do so many things, but I can't because I need to cocoon and take a long time to process change!
This is the first of your videos I've seen, thank you very much for making it. I've come to realize I'm probably not just on the spectrum but ADD as well, you really helped me here to contextualize the similarities and differences in a way that will help me better communicate them and advocate for myself. Again, thanks so much, I'm about to deep dive into your videos!
G*dd**m*t now I have to go see about a secondary diagnosis and the first one took so loooong 😂 I always called myself a ditzy perfectionist growing up. I knew my patterns of what tripped me up and compensated with routine and perfectionism (and anxiety). Got a late ADHD diagnosis and have wondered for a while about autism, since in addition to forgetful, scattered and hyperactive I also can be socially awkward and am very routine- and goal-driven. Your video will stick with me and might be the motivation to look into it more - I could relate to every sign. Thank you!
Wonderful. Thank you. 🌺I'm 59 y/o and have not been diagnosed with what I strongly believe is Autism and ADHD. My daughter was diagnosed, as well as her son, with Autism. Looking back I believe my mom had this as well as her brothers, and mother. I was diagnosed with a variety of anxiety disorders, (among a few other diagnoses), which seem to all correlate to Autism/ADHD. I wish my Amygdala would settle down for one moment, hahaha!! I'm in perpetual fight or flight. Thank you, again. Much appreciation. 💗
@@catlifechannel3886 Thank you. 😊I learned about EFT many years ago. I never thought to begin doing this technique again. Great advice. I really appreciate that. 😊
Dr. Sage, I have recently discovered your videos starting with the ones about attachment styles then onto the ones addressing BPD and its effects on parenting. I am a mom raising a 15-year-old daughter and I am struggling a lot trying to figure out how to Navigate it not only because of being a (single)mother of a teenage daughter; but also being a mother diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and disorganized attachment. My goal originally was to be the exact opposite of my parents and basically just be better in all aspects especially when it came to preparing her for the world around her and what to expect. However as I am finding out… you live what you know and you can only exhibit what you’ve been taught until you are able to see the behavior for what it is, learn more and do better. I watched your “borderline mothers and daughters” video thinking that you would talk about strategies to achieve success in that dynamic… and that’s not at all what it was. As Extremely difficult as it was to watch, I did anyway with the intent of learning what harm I might be causing my daughter that I could possibly be unaware of. Some of the traits you talked about exhibited by the mother with borderline are absolutely not present in my situation. I know this because I actively work to make sure that those traits are not present in the relationship with her and that healthy boundaries ALWAYS maintained. It seems like most of your videos focused on parenting (especially having to do with a borderline parent)focus more on villainizing that parent and how to heal from the trauma having inevitably developed after having this seemingly “evil” almost psychopathic, type of parent with BPD that apparently lacks all traces of empathy, which you describe in a lot of your videos. As I am trying to learn how to be the best mother I can be in spite of this disorder, which by the way I did not ask for… I would love to see a video from you that focused on strategies for the borderline parent specifically the “mom”. Moms that in fact are aware of their issues and helpful parenting strategies to overcome them. Understanding that we were once a child too with less than nurturing parents and now dealing with our own abandonment issues. The last thing I wanna do is to pass this dysfunction onto my child, further perpetuating the generational cycle; even though more often than not that is exactly what ends up happening without professional help. I don’t want to harm my daughter psyche only for her to do the same thing to her kids and I’m trying to do everything in my power to ensure that does not happen.
Tiffany, you are a darling! It sounds to me that you are doing a good job with yoir motherong of your daughter. Thankfully there are all kinds of RUclips teachers out there who are helpful. There is one on Family systems (Bowen), another kindly woman, Roberta, who sadly passed recently but hopefully her messages are still out there. In the end she was supplemented with oxygen to help her breathe but she persisted for her followers. Roberta had a huge heart and gave her all. I found her very helpful as the mother of a daughter with BPD. BEST WISHES!!
I was diagnosed with BPD and ADHD 4 years ago, but right now, taking medicines for 4 years and more than 6 years doing therapy, I’m seeing some signs that can’t be explained with those diagnoses. I think I might also be autistic, but I’m trying to study a little more about it, specially the differences between BPD, ADHD and Autism, to understand and talk about in therapy. Thanks for the video 🩵
thanks for being a leader in the neurodiversity movement. hopefully with you as a guide, many therapists will be able to find out why they have an intense interest in human behavior. then they can "come home" to our fabulous community.
This was really helpful, thank you Dr. Kim Sage! Please post more videos about ADHD and Autism co-existence! I've just discovered that I'm both and I've struggled to really understand who I am for a long time, feeling like I'm a "living paradox" (like my husband likes to call it) at times where I'm one way and then another. I'd like to learn how to work with my strengths more than trying to fix and focus on my weaknesses and letting them make me have low self-esteem. I'd also like to learn how to balance the needs I have to satisfy my ADHD at times and my Autism other times and/or how to balance both I guess. If you can make a video including some of that information it would be of great help to me, and others like me too I'm sure! Thank you again! You're amazing!
Definitely not my first video on the subject or that has me thinking "yeah, that sounds like me", but absolutely helpful the way you broke everything down.
Thank you Dr. Sage. I was diagnosed with ADHD on my birthday basically last year in June or, within a few days actually. I have learned a bunch like we do and I have started to realize that I have autism aswell. I took the online test and scored 32 out of 50 at the Autism Association web page. The results said from 24 to 32 is " some Asbergers " as you probably know. I don't remember if I told you last week when you posted "13 signs you are not just highly sensitive and I recognize the description not only in myself but, also in my deceased mother and an adult child.
@@DrKimSage I haven't yet. Is it online to ? I can see it now in myself and my sons were diagnosed and a grandson to. So, even though I had 130ish hrs completed at a University and 36 of those being in psychology I still thought that everything that I was experiencing was a response to childhood trauma and as I began to finally unravel this and see the difference plus I found out that our family has the Gene that is responsible for nuerodivergence. Finally, I put the rest of the puzzle together and yes I wish I would have known sooner. I am now 61 however, I feel blessed to have found a neurologist to back up my thoughts about me having ADHD and I have discussed autism some with her. As you know, the test is expensive. Thank you for your reply. I need to remember to wear my reading glasses because I cannot see my phone very well and it is very hard on my eyes.
I was diagnosed with Autism in 2019 when I was 31 as I knew I had many issues but didn't know what they were. It was only when I saw on TV, a man interviewing two teenagers who had autism that things clicked with me. When I watched that, I noticed how they acted and some of the things they said just parallel my life and how I acted sometimes. I didn't know at the time you could be tested for both so only got tested for Autism. I really think I have ADHD as well and have been waiting over a year to get an ADHD test so far. I have a cousin on my dads side with Autism and my dad and sister have Dyslexia so I am sure that is where I got my Autism from. My siter also thinks she might have traits of Autism or ADHD but has not gotten a test yet. I don't stim but I do fidget and often find it hard to sit still. I have hyperfocus and can spend hours focused on something, especially my special interests, but other times I can't concentrate and find it hard to focus. I could be doing something but my mind will wander to something else and I'd lose focus, or I'd just stop what I am doing and stare into space and some time would pass and I wouldn't realise it. For this reason, I sometimes find it hard to finish tasks that don't have a deadline. I have also tried to learn to drive but due to my concentration being bad, I was unbale to do that well due to my mind starting to wander after a certain period of time through the lessons. I also find it hard to sleep at normal hours of the night, but when I do get to sleep, I can sleep a full 7-8 hours. There are times when I feel a bit hyper when I don't have much energy at all. I like to try new things, but when I do, rarely am I fully engaged with what I am doing and my mind will often wander and I'll start thinking of things like what I might do later on that day or I'll be thinking of a familiar project I'd like to be doing, rather than focusing on this new experience. This isn't something I like as I feel I need new experiences in my life sometimes. I find it difficult in social situations often and find it hard to make small talk so I don't make and maintain friendships easily,. I also have Dyspraxia which I was diagnosed with when I was 12. One part of it is that I have Verbal Developmental Dyspraxia. This means I'll sometimes know what I want to say to someone, but sometimes find it physically hard to get the words out I want to say as this effects your mouth movements when you speak. I used to talk fast and mumble. I spent years learning to slow down and speak properly and rarely speak fast or mumble anymore, just mess up saying the odd word now and then. I know I want to be in social situations and make and maintain friendships but sometimes when I am in a social situation, I often think that I'd rather be doing something on my own, but when I am on my own, I feel bad because I'd rather have social interaction. It's like a double edged sword for me.
This is exactly me. Im still not 100% convinced that i could have autism added on to my adhd diagnosis, but knowing that there's a good chance that those pesky autism traits are not just personality flaws is validating. For example, i homeschool 3 kids through the summer for the sake of routine, however, the summer routine is so different from the rest of the year and far less structured at that, that it doesn't take long for me to burn out. I seriously look forward to the fall where we can get back into a structured rhythm.
Thank you so much very helpful one of my child has asd and my other child is on waiting list for ADHD and he has a lot of sensory problems this makes sense very much 😊❤❤😊
Really appreciate this, thanks. My whole family is autistic, but we suspect my wife and daughter may also be ADHD (me and my son definitely aren't). I'll talk about this with them, but I think this is supporting the hypothesis.
Thank you for you info. Ive been struggling with adhd my whole life but only diagnosed at 21. 46 now and with all the new info out there im realizing i likely have autism as well. Any info on who i should talk to for diagnosis? This is all so novel and strange.
I have to watch again later😅. I got distracted by taking the quizes, then with the sudden need to see and pet my dog in the other room, also because my thoughts drifted off somewhere else while the video continued to play😅
Me! It's almost like this struggle within me. Because I crave familitary and routine but I also crave novelty and I have a very rigid way of viewing my life and the way it goes. I have OCD so it makes it even worse... Because I need to know what to expect and I struggle with transitions and it's what I need to fee safe. Yet ADHD is another beast and it's like I'm always trying to tame it.
How did you learn to cope? My son is in his 20s, been seeing a therapist for a couple of years, and still has problems living an independent life. He’s high functioning, diagnosed only with ADHD but he is definitely on the spectrum. This video pretty much describes him. He smokes weed to cope with, but he struggles with anxiety, procrastination, additive and compulsive tendencies, trouble making friends, he has no grit, fatigue, motivation. He’s tried adderal, Prozac. Both helped with side effects. He never wanted to stay on them.
Well I have taken both autism tests before, retook them and still scored high in the range to have autism. But the ADHD tests were new, took those...and drumroll😅 I am in the range for ADHD too😅. Honestly I was just talking to my mom about the possiblity that she has ADHD as I have been suspecting I could have both as one or the other alone don't match up with all my issues I have been dealing with all my life. Issues that just seem more pronounced to me over the last year and some since my work environment has changed. The amount of change happening all the time, how noisey and busy it is... its all causing my issues to be more prominent on a day-to-day basis that I just couldn't ignore them anymore, or at least try and convince myself they were normal anymore😅.
Thank you so much for work. For me it is really astonishing that the possibilitity of having both seems to be a relativy new idea. Why not? As you can have a bicycle and a car, flu and asthma;… Are there any studies about high intelligent women with autism/adhd/both. Who even might have gone through very early trauma, having CPTSD and being now extraordinary good in masking? Maybe so good because the high Intelligence is unconcious working to regulate everything? Please excuse any spelling mistakes and maybe my akward way of writing. My native tongue is German . Oh and thank you so much for saying in another video that you got traumatised even later because of your devorce (might have said it differently but I think that was the „essenz“). All of your personal stories and your talk how you (as a studied professionel in these areas) find out much more about yourself is extremly helpful.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 7. Now I'm in my mid 30s and I if AuDHD very interesting. I have watched hours on hours of videos on this topic in the past weeks. And I think I might have autistic traits but way below any diagnostic level. But it helps we explain a few of my quirks.
I was diagnosed for ADHD and started medication. Only then did I notice that I don’t follow social rules. However, I think most of the social norms are stupid. Like the pointless small talk and asking about how someone is doing and not actually meaning it. Yet I realize that my non-conforming to social norms is getting in the way of me getting raises and making friends. So I am trying not to be socially awkward anymore… but I also can’t get myself to take part in small talk which feels so fake that it disgusts me. I don’t have the patience to go through that relationship development needed to get to the point to actually have deep conversations worth having 🤷
Exactly, people don't get promoted because of their problem solving and creative skills, but purely on how much they can bs themselves inside upper management. This has been the case since forever. You're worthy, don't compare yourself to the typicals, typicals are boring anyway. 😎
Ive got Asperger's syndrome dislexia borderline personality disorder bi-polar and skitzophrenia with deep depression . My comand centre's ( my brain) fried and broken
I had an ADHd Diagnosis back in 2012. Oddly I managed it very well with set routines. Then when I started working in a large workforce, I started to realise that I definitely have social problems too. After 3 months of therapy with a psychologist provided by work, she says I most likely have autism too. Her report was incredibly helpful and insightful. Perseverance being a key word. I have experienced trauma and emotional neglect as a child. But the perseverating has been holding me back. I would get quite angry with the therapist for not letting me talk about my traumas on repeat. Now I can see how that's an autistic trait not only trauma. Just signed up for emdr. I'm obsessed with dirt bikes at the moment, i will know every single detail of the cbr300l before i buy it next year 😂
I have been diagnosed ADHD but could never figure out what was the rest of me so many misdiagnoses so many medications so much missing of everything and judged and treated so many ways…
Hello hello. I am diagnosed with ADHD and BPD, but BPD also has a lot of overlap with both ADHD and Autism. (Things like bad impulse control, stimming, ...). It would be great if you could make a video comparing the three. I think about getting evaluated for ASD but want to learn more about the factors that BPD may have. I am also just in my perimenopause, and that screws with my ADHD symptoms on a scale I have never experienced before. ADHD and Perimenopause would maybe also an interesting topic.
I wonder what it is about both that make it so hard to make phone calls. My son and I are both diagnosed and I suspect my adult daughter... well no, I KNOW, but she's not formally diagnosed. Anyway all three of us really struggle with this. Both making and receiving. I am okay talking to a friend or family but I am not one to do the calling. But when it comes to making appointments or handling something that requires it, all three of us freeze up. I know my son has pretty severe auditory processing issues and I wonder if that's what it is, but we are just SO phobic about it at this point.
I have no idea what it is exactly, but it feels like I have to *pretend* being a normal human being while talking to people on the phone... it leaves me tired. It is also true for social interactions with people around whom I don't feel comfortable, even some of the family friends. Maybe the need to mask is what makes it exhausting, and then you tend to avoid it. I am diagnosed with ADHD, and my brother has Asperger's (he was diagnosed when it was not all ASD yet)
Because it’s a sensory processing issue texting is our best friend we prefer written communication over other forms. Plus the social anxiety of not being able to read social cues properly
I have adhd (diagnosed 2 years ago) but i always feel like I'm split in two. I crave newness and become agitated and depressed if i get stuck in a routine, but at the same time i need things to be a certain way or i get lost. For example, i wear a fanny pack that has specific items arranged in a specific way. This CANNOT be altered. The weight is also very comforting. I wear a limited range of clothing because i can't stand the feeling of scratchy foreign objects like labels, or materials that don't feel right on my skin. My workdesk is organised a specific way and i get disoriented and flustered if i change my workspace or of someone misplaces something. I also have very niche interests and tend to bombard others with information as soon as they express the slightest interest in them. My partner has to tap my arm lightly if she notices I'm drowning others in information 😂. If rules are explained to me i adhere to them strictly, but i have also been described as "eccentric" and "non conforming". I have learned to ignore social etiquette and just do what feels comfortable. I realise that my stimming can be distracting (rocking, touching my ear, or rubbing my shaved head) but i need to do this to regulate what's going on in my head. I also dislike eye contact because i feel there is too much information. My partner always has to remind me to look at her when she is talking to me. I find it easier to listen when I'm NOT looking at someone. They might find it rude but i don't know what else to do other than stim which is even ruder. So yeah 😅
I've been told I'm on the autism spectrum, but don't have ADHD... I'm NOT impulsive, I don't procrastinate, I can regulate my emotions, I can focus and finish a project. I have been in recovery with 28 years sobriety so my addictions have a program to work. But I am a deep dive photographer and woodworker. I paint furniture and do art...it's my lifeline.
Congratulations on your sobriety milestones, keep up the amazing work. Sobriety has been a game changer for me, as I am diagnosed with adhd and asd, it has helped keep me on course
I have ADHD. Many of the points you brought up make me wonder if I might also have autism. I have one brother with ADHD and another with severe autism.
Could you make a video on how to differientiate autism and adhd, as there are a lot of similarities in symptoms? I was convinced I had audhd, so both... went for an autism assesment and the specialist told me all my problems were adhd, though I had some autistic traits. I still don't know wether it was a correct diagnosis (she didn't diagnose me as adhd, but said she suspected it and we should test it), for me it felt rushed though (2hours, for AQ, ADOS, ADI-R and some introduction talk), I scored very high on the AQ 40, but to low on the rest, but she didn't take the AQ in account because that's not objective enough. Biggest reasons why she didn't think I was autistic, because I've got a face full of expressions (I'm an actor, btw. And I actually use facial expressions because they are more easy than talking, like when I'm stressed I've got more trouble talking so if I don't understand something, putting up a highly distressed/confused face is more easy than saying "I don't understand"), can tell stories (litterally that's my obsession since I'm a kid, I do everything with stories it's my life basically), and was a social kid (though often in my own world, like just hanging by) with empathy. Why do I think I have autism? Because I'm non-stop on hypervigilance while I've got no clues what I could have gotten c-ptsd from, I had quite a good childhood), have a lot of social difficulties, often misreading social cues (and not from inattention, I'm pretty sure), actually tend to do the same things always on the same way. Like I love cooking, totally... but really cook anything new or even change a receipy (except though if I miss certain things)... though I intelectually know it might taste better... but this is just the way how I always do it, it feels safe. I really have to be in a fantastic mood to try out new things. I hate social gatherings, while I'm totally like meeting up with people, but more then two-three and I'm very fast overstimmulated, I only go in parties with earbuds in or I cannot handle it. I stimm a lot, the more stressed I am the more. From hand-rubbing, to rocking, to flapp or piano with my hands to bite my carwheel... I wear a hat non-stop and feel stressed without something on my head (only exceptions being if I'm feeling very well, than I don't need a had). I've had 5 friends (one after the other, from 13 to 23) whom I was with all convinced that they were my bestfriend, only to learn they barely saw me as a friend. I mean, they sprend time with me, we chat, the like to hang out with me, like 2x a months... that's being a good friend no? Apparently no. I cannot handle change in plans well, especially if I'm already stressed out, though I do actually probably also have adhd so I can myself never stick to my own planning, but will still stick to my plan... to the point of sometimes eating at 3 o'clock in the morning because I was distracted when wanting to start to cook... but once I got back to cooking it was to late to do the actual plan (that would take a few hours), but I've trouble changing that plan because I had planned to eat this and do not want to eat anything else... so eitherwise i don't eat, or I sleep very late because I have to make this. So yeah
Wow well I guess I have both now that I'm learning about both of them more I noticed lots of things and don't beat myself up about so much anymore but I still hate when I get mad cause my child doesn't listen at times cause it's really hard for me and I don't think others understand how hard it is every day for a person when suffering with these things cause as I'm learning about it I'm almost learning how I handle stress when it comes to my child not respecting what I ask of her because it's like 10 times of me saying it to her calm it's much more stressful when suffering with adhd and autism and a single mother with the whole raising her is up too me and I'm the only one trying to make her understand right from wrong sometimes I just feel like we are not a team and we are just working against each other it's hard when you need your 5 minutes too regulate but your child just won't let you get it instead of destressing you get more stressed I just wish I had the help I need so it won't be so hard on me it might be easy for normal people but not for me all I can't do is keep trying the best way I can I'm just figuring things out as I go I wasn't shown any of these things no one is perfect we all fall short we just need too be easier on ourselves and not worry about what outside world has too say about how your doing things we are doing the best we can as we go yes I could do things differently at times but how are we gonna leave if we don't mess up from time to time
I am the youngest of my other 2 siblings. The oldest and I being under the transgender umbrella. I believe I received the first diagnosis of ADHD between my siblings and I, when I was about 21. Then the oldest got diagnosed with ADHD and little later, and the middle child recently got a diagnosis that he is both ADHD and ASD. My oldest sibling and I have previously thought that we were on the autism spectrum as well, and thought the diagnosis of our brother with both confirmed our suspicion. Our parents are not diagnosed with anything other than our father having bipolar depressive disorder. But other family members have ADHD as well as others with some traits of autism. I mean almost every guy on my dads side is a car guy/engine guy, my grandpa having a strong love for engines and had a lawnmower shop he ran and worked repairing them. Also, I’ve been wondering the connection between transgender/nonbinary people and the autism spectrum. I’m trying to think of a different or better way to say it, like gender expression, or gender diversity.
I truly believe my son has ADHD/Autism. he was exposed to Brethine in utero to stop premature labor. We had him tested last year at age 22 for autism and the diagnosis came back ADHD. I really believe he is autistic and may qualify for disability. How do I get him the right help?
I guess society has not figured out a lot of learning disabilities could be because of ADHD and autism. And because they are so intertwined, i'm surprised they have not melded them together into one yet, and make it just one diagnosis, the way it is looking genetically. I'm learning about my family as well, and autism/ADHD runs through my kids and grandkids, and figuring out I have it.....probably my grandmother on my dad's side, even my dad, i'm guessing. it goes on and on and on.
whelp I'm pretty sure I have autism along with my adhd because I had a meltdown while listening to this because I wanted to find out what the 2 seconds of music is (the name of the song so I can listen to the whole thing). I took music history classes and remember learning about the song being a ballet warm up composition written by a french romantic composer, but the rabbit hole google led me down with no positive results made me start melting down, followed by playing the 2 seconds of music at the beginning of this vid to shazam and shazam had no idea what it was. Yeah I lose my mind when I want to find something simple and it's impossible to access because nothing knows what I'm talking about even when I'm being specific. Thanks for driving me insane again technology! Good video tho. edit- it's gymnopedie #1 by erik satie if anyone is wondering like me lol. I kind of just randomly remembered the name post meltdown, no thanks to google/shazam/anything.
I am 57 and have combined presentations of ADHD. Was diagnosed at 3 years in 1970. Does it matter at this point and my age if I seek an Autism diagnosis at my age? Talking to my psych on Wed. I don't want to be around people unless I have to like my fam or work. Only one friend I like t hang out with. But even that is. Limited. I do not take meds for this as they don't work. But my anxiety med I put myself on has been life changing. Do I really need to have a concrete diagnosis. My oldest son is ASD.
I score fairly high on online autism tests. As a toddler I'd rock and bang my head off cupboards, walls, doors, appliances and furniture. My mother gloatingly told me about this when I was a teen and also her 'cure' for my very annoying habit. She'd kick my bottom so I'd wop my head enough to be dazed. To this day I love to rock and I'm pretty sure heaven has spinning chairs or I don't want to go. ~ I'm kidding but also serious. ~ I struggle to learn. Since the advent of yt I can turn the speed down on videos and not look at faces while I listen. Doing this I can actually understand what people are saying without re-listening several times. When I was young school was very challenging but I wanted to learn. It just took me so much more time than everyone else. 1 hour of homework for my peers was 2 or 3 hours for me. I have difficulty talking or listening to people while looking at their face, another annoying habit my mother made me aware of when I was a teen. I didn't realize I did that and now I try my best to look at faces. There are also a few other indicators in my behavior as well. I was diagnosed with adhd-i and ptsd in my 40s. I'll be 60 soon. Is there any reason for someone my age to be formally diagnosed if I am ASD? Or would it just be for personal information?
If I may say so, personal. I've been diagnosed with both last year at 64. Doctors don't do nothing for autism. They have some therapy for adhd and such. Almost all my professional life, I have worked with autistic children, not knowing I'm one of them, but understanding them perfectly. After my diagnosis, I went through all the emotions, from anger through despair, to finally understanding (with still anger at how rude and inconsiderate people are, including my offsprings, unfortunately). Now I am trying to take everything slower and make sure I am OK with the tasks and changes. I look inwards and listen to my body and soul. I was considered selfish by one of my children recently. I started to be selfish after looking deeply into the invective, as I figured I have to earn it. So yes, it is good to know for yourself, it helped me to stop blaming myself for all my failures, as now I understand that there was no way I could avoid them, but they happened despite of my efforts. My advice would be to check all the online questionnaires because they are really good and they will give you a good grasp. Unless you can get the diagnosis for free. I payed thousands but I am glad. There was no other way for 4 of my closest to change ever so slightly their view and opinion of me. The rest still treats me badly. Got to get used to it. Good luck!
Yes, it certainly sounds like you have a number of autistic traits - and given our lack of understanding the presentation in women and girls it makes sense you would get exactly adhd and ptsd - i wouldn't be surprised if you had also received a diagnosis of bpd (given the recent research i've seen). It seems unlikely it would benefit you unless you were going to "attempt" to receive services..however.....it has changed the course of my life and my internal (harsh) narrative, my self compassion about "why am I like this?" and also justified why I am an a-hole sometimes - lol - when it comes to my environment, challenges, as much as my strengths. All that to say, if you feel like it can help improve your life, and many autistics have felt like an official diagnosis helped this - then it also makes sense. Lastly, given your age, and i am just 4 years behind you, so i say with love, that if we were younger it might make a bigger difference or even have negative consequences- because it seems some places deny you things (adoption, military service) in some places. Sending love today!
@@lechini4827 Thank you for sharing:). You are not alone in this experience and yes, that is what I said as well. Sending support and well being today!
@@lechini4827 I'm very sorry to hear about some of your family's lack of acceptance. If they would graciously accept your ASD diagnosis it might cause them to re-evaluate their past and present experiences with you. Maybe they need more information about your challenges or information about adjusting their expectations. Sadly too few people are willing to take the time to do this. I hope they come around and learn to be supportive of you. If I'm hearing you correctly a diagnosis would be for personal acceptance and adjusted coping strategies. That's pretty much where I'm at now. Thank you for responding. I hope you have a wonderful and peaceful day. 🌹
@@DrKimSage Omgosh the a //h ole comment had me roling! Lmfo Right! That's me too. I just say the truth and people get so bent out of shape. I don't fully get it. But I do try I really really try because I don't want to hurt anyone. I just ... don't get what they get or I don't get the dance. It's beyond me. I'm trying. *sigh* Being a shut-in for the past few years helps (or hurts, or helps, not sure). Alone, not lonely, well sometimes a smidgen lonely but always definitely at peace. :) Thank you for the love and sincerely thank you for all the good information you're helping me and all of us with. 🎯🤗🌹❤
What about the signs when you're a woman but don't have any diagnosis? It's very hard for me to tell if I have or don't... My oldest son has autism (asperger syndrome), ADHD without hyperactivity and dyspraxia. While on the other hand, my youngest son (from another partner) who has a more severe form of Autism and general development delay. This may my sign that I might have also Autism or/and ADHD? Been through a lot of child and adulthood trauma, so it's hard to say if it's due my past or genetics...
I was diagnosed with adhd at age 3 in 1970. Was put on Ritalin and felt.like a zombie. My parents took me off of Rit at i think age 12. Ive been without ever since. Cant function on any adhd meds. I dont feel normal. Lol. How do i take a test to see if i have Autism as well. My oldest son is on the spectrum. Can you help me with that info?
Yep, i have both! what do i do? how do i get help? my family is throwing me out! i 'm scared! i am 74. i have a graduate degree ,so i'm not an idiot but all these symptoms have amplified with age and it has all led to rejection and abandonment. Can not stand living with these traits nor how my family acts enraged and rejecting. They say they wish me dead. Where can i go for help and get support for living or dying? I am exhausted living with these cognitive and behavioral disorders and when you are my age your family is just as fed up. I don't blame them. I am as frustrated as they are. So, is going to sleep permantlly the best solution all around? Seems like the American government doesn't even give a damn about us elderly suffering with these conditions. I'm not talking about dementia! What do aging women do who have add/autism to find adequate and respectful help
Everybody has autism and ADHD these days. Is anybody not getting a diagnosis? I saw a psychiatrist and walked out with both conditions. I wasn't after a diagnosis.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Doctor Greg Mushrooms he is a great man of God who has the great insight on psychedelic and mushroom. He will guide you on how to use mushrooms to get good trip.
Please, how do I reach doctor Greg?
He’s on the internet
I received my diagnoses for both 5 months ago. While I’m relieved to finally have some answers, I’m also overwhelmed because there isn’t much help for middle age women. Your videos have been helpful 🙏🏽
I don't really want the help, but it would be nice to connect the dots genetically in my family tree. A whopping $3000 to get tested, I think that is ridiculous. There must be other ways that are cheaper.
S I'm 64 and trying to figure out why I'm.not able to get friends while In past I had nompronlem with this
@@fireflyfree311s I'm. So tired of people who charge people for helpmwhen they're not well traumatized or autistic spectrum how can they pay
I do coaching and counselling at work and outside of work and never charge it's not fair if person already hadxacprobbthey shud not pay for treatment t.sonthamks for people who help for free this Lady above is great well done
@@annettewright467 ❤️ it’s tough!
looking at the good effects of psilocybin mushrooms on depression I had a test, the effects of just one dose of psilocybin mushroom gave me an encouraging result.
Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada)
Literally changed my life
Magic mushrooms are the safest "recreational" drug to take and those who take them are the most sensible and well prepared.
After I got laid off from work, I started taking drugs and alcohol, I became a shadow of myself, isolating from the world, not until I went on a trip and tried out shrooms I cried like a baby and since then I've been the best of myself then I can say.
Do you know any trustworthy suppliers for good psychedelic products ?
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Who thinks the DSM is outdated and is in need of some serious revisions with respect to Autism and ADHD especially in females?
Also NPD and cluster B personality disorders across the board needs to be reassessed imho.
Massively outdated! Not only that but potentially damaging, lots of examples but a glaring one in terms of ADHD is that big old ‘H’ that was reinserted into the previous ‘ADD (with or without hyperactivity)’, meaning that so many women who are ADHD-I (primarily inattentive) fly under the radar Or are actively dismissed. I’m personally ADHD-C (combined presentation) but have still been dismissed by psychiatrists. One subscribed to the extremely old-school view that it’s basically just ‘naughty little boys’ and told me that it was absolutely impossible that I had ADHD because 1) I was a woman (🤯🤦🏻♀️🤬) and 2) I had an education (the autism helped me in school, though I still struggled massively at uni - I realised about the ADHD 3 years ago - still not treated, and struggling- and the autism only this year - I’m 49) and had been a teacher. Yes, the most chaotic one ever, teaching English to foreign adults at university, then freelance in Spain (bliss!)…I kept my job at the former because I was apparently the students’ favourite teacher- they liked my, erm, ‘organic’ approach, the fact that I didn’t follow the textbook but used real-life and their personal needs as the subjects. They used to say that they always learnt most from my tangents (a word they learned early, haha). I could not do the admin to save my life and the students used to sort out collecting and filing papers at the end of class.
Oops, a tangent. Point being, I knew dinosaurs like this psychiatrist existed, but genuinely thought it was more of a thing of the past as I’d read about so many women previously being misdiagnosed and treated for bipolar for years before finding out it was ADHD - but that’s exactly what he said ‘clearly bipolar, no need for further discussion’. It was horrendous. This was on the NHS after a private diagnosis where the doctor disappeared on me, long story but horrendous.
And I’m now trying to get myself together to approach a centre who are up to speed with the Us psychiatrists in terms of understanding etc. I’ve gone downhill so much in the interim that the ADHD is stopping me getting help for ADHD 🙈). Speaking of psychiatrists in the US there are many who agree with your comment and are fighting to get the DSM changed…it’s heartening that they see it, though they admit it’d be a battle.
@@AriElfyn
Agreed,
The insertion of the H for boys led to a massive dismissal of
girls symptoms. They should include both ADD and ADHD as well as the seven documentated types according to Dr. Amen.
C-PTSD sorely needs to be codified into the DSM.
I had the DSM-4 in college. I let my daughter borrow it and I never got it back. Oh well. I had a PDR also. I want to get the most recent DSM-5. Thank you Dr. Sage. You have a wonderful day and stay safe.
All of the neurodiverse conditions. It wouldnt suprise me that in 50 years they discover everything neurodiverse is a spectrum.
I'm AUDHD and only recently at 68 figured out how to call a cease fire on the war in my brain. I remind myself that this activity is an ADHD one and allow it to take control and enjoy the moment, then I give my Autism time to unwind with full on quiet and acalm regularity. I let ADHD know that this is Autism time with the promise that I will take care of both of them. For the first time in my life, I have some control - autonomy - over my brain and it feels great for the war to be over finally! It got me into so much trouble, but now they're working together. Loved this video! It is spot on!
Hope you find this helpful and validating! Sorry for the band aid if it triggers you:). I stabbed my finger last night while cutting fruit and was too scared to take it off:). sending Sunday love!
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The fact that it is so tough for others to see the combination of autism and ADHD in us, is precisely why it often takes so long to diagnose us. Even my very obvious son didn’t get his second of the two diagnoses until years later.
Agreed
My wife was diagnosed with ADHD in her twenties and diagnosed with autism in her fifties, we have two sons with autism and two granddaughters with autism, one granddaughter diagnosed with ADHD. So glad you acknowledge that it runs in families. Before my father-in-law passed away my wife noticed that her dad would not look people in the eye, remembering that he was massive intelligent in math and very socially inept she believed he was as well.
It’s more than 90 percent genetic got mine from my dad
Yep, this captures the experience pretty succinctly. Diagnosed ASD1 and ADHD-C, and this explains the overlap in a very relatable way!
To all those out there figuring themselves out, you're valid and doing great and I hope you find the answers you seek! 💙
I have ended jobs and not picked up the last paycheck. Never closed out banks accounts when I moved. Moved 17 times in 50 years. Been homeless twice. I've also traveled the country several times over. Veteran, and have constructed a life alone and isolated at 70. Never had a long term relationship over 3 years. I wish there was someone around here to talk to about this.
Try and do courses, join clubs, set Facebook groups up of local people who want to meet up ❤️
@@sarahfellows3074 Thanks. I don't do social media, or own a smart phone. I've had smart phones, But I never used them enough to justify the cost. I'm a Veteran. I'll run this across someone there. Thanks..
@@sarahfellows3074stfu, do NOT ‘help’ losers Pickmeesha 🚮🤡
Hi. You're an interesting person. I wish you the best.
There are others like you out there. All diagnosis does is create another customer for the pharmaceutical companies.
I'm sure you have good reasons for moving around. Everyone blames themselves. But how do you expect to adjust to the craziness of our culture without difficulties?
It gets lonely out there as we get older. Relationships or not.I do hope you find comfort somehow.
Well explained. Now I feel comfortable ruling out also having ADHD after wondering recently.
I thank you so much for your videos. Without you I may have never been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD as well as CPTSD. Haven't been able to get much help yet but I finally know what's going on for me and why I am the way I am. Thank you. ❤
I really appreciate the work you are doing here. I was ADHD diagnosed in my early 40s and it was a revelation that created a lot of opportunity for healing and self awareness. Now I'm my mid fifties after much RUclips etc research I convinced my therapist that autism testing felt warranted. She wasn't convinced but arranged it and I ended up testing very high for autism as well. I'm less than a year in already feeling so much more empowered and well regulated, using information I've collected from these videos here. Soooooooo thank you! I'd also like to add (as someone for whom design and lighting are clearly focal interests) that your lighting and makeup and wallpaper are looking beautiful here. I think for many of us well balanced, calm and attractive design can make a huge difference in our ability to stay focused on a video presentation!
Thank you so much for your passion and research! 🙏 I love this conversation! I am so grateful that you share your personal stories in your videos, it's precious. You are an inspiration, Dr. Kim 💗 Much love 🤲✨💖
so kind - thank you and i appreciate you being here with me!
This video just confirmed what I've been thinking. I do jump between tasks. Because brain gets bored with one. Also when speaking I can easily start with one topic then move to next, third and then go back to the first. It does confuse other people easily.
Gosh me too, just bananas!
@@Barklessparkles Hey leave Bananas out of this ; D
I do a lot of switching & hyperfocus on what interests me. Procrastination is huge also . It’s a mess. Medication has been withdrawn for adhd lately also bc of lack of availability.
Yes me too - it's quite the challenge some days! The med thing is something I just don't understand....sending love and support!
@DrKimSage thank you for opening my eyes to the person I really am. I've had a great struggle at work not being able to attend because of physical problems. I have the classic burnout that you describe. What is the best way to show my supervisor that I really have a disability?
Thankyou!!! I am literally in Tears right now!! I am almost 50 years old and you have just described my Soul and Spirit for the first time I’ve been seen and heard and understood so many answers
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with Bipolar, spent my whole life fighting bipolar. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Hey! Yes Predroavaro
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
As a child, I had a fairly rigid routine imposed on me by both my parents and school, and I thrived in it. As I got older and needed to start managing that routine on my own, everything just fell apart.
My daughter
Time MGMT is a fundamental lifeskill that should be taught in schools or homeschooling IMHO. Much like budgeting, cooking and problem solving so our young people can make sound independent choices.
That’s interesting, and I can relate. Up until about age 11 I never had to worry about schedules because at my infant school everything was planned out for us and there was no homework. When I went to secondary school (high school) the entire day was organised into hour-long segments of specific subjects, and stayed that way all year; I only struggled with homework. Then I went to what we in the UK call Sixth Form College (an optional advanced education, usually between ages 16-18) and that’s when things started to fall apart for me, as I no longer had to attend every class and homework was always optional (though failure to do either would result in bad marks at the end of the two years, as it did for me). I managed to do quite well in one subject - philosophy - likely because I was genuinely interested in it, and that got me to university, but I’ve continued to suffer from problems with time organisation.
@@thefuturist8864 ya high school went ok for me, but that's because I was kinda smart. I could either not do there homework or just do it really quickly and still get fairly good marks. University was a bit harder but I joined a couple really good study groups that held me accountable. It's the real world that ate me alive.
the push pull dynamic 😭😭 it's like I'm always in this internal battle, where I want to do so many things, but I can't because I need to cocoon and take a long time to process change!
You are helpful. I am exploring and identifying with both autism and ADHD. Wow.
This is the first of your videos I've seen, thank you very much for making it. I've come to realize I'm probably not just on the spectrum but ADD as well, you really helped me here to contextualize the similarities and differences in a way that will help me better communicate them and advocate for myself. Again, thanks so much, I'm about to deep dive into your videos!
I am interested in learning what ADHD + childhood trauma (CPTSD) have in common.
Doc Snipes, Patrick Teahan helped me too )
CPTSD can have effects that mimic ADHD. If you have both, it just makes it more pronounced.
The C in CPTSD is “Complex” where it is the result of chronic trauma. Childhood traumas that are prolonged can fall into CPTSD though
I have been diagnosed with BPD, ADHD and have c-ptsd due to childhood abuse.
They both go hand in hand can’t have one without the other
G*dd**m*t now I have to go see about a secondary diagnosis and the first one took so loooong 😂 I always called myself a ditzy perfectionist growing up. I knew my patterns of what tripped me up and compensated with routine and perfectionism (and anxiety). Got a late ADHD diagnosis and have wondered for a while about autism, since in addition to forgetful, scattered and hyperactive I also can be socially awkward and am very routine- and goal-driven. Your video will stick with me and might be the motivation to look into it more - I could relate to every sign. Thank you!
Thank you. Things are very hard right now, and this and your video on autism/hsp have been so helpful. I'm so grateful.
Wonderful. Thank you. 🌺I'm 59 y/o and have not been diagnosed with what I strongly believe is Autism and ADHD. My daughter was diagnosed, as well as her son, with Autism. Looking back I believe my mom had this as well as her brothers, and mother. I was diagnosed with a variety of anxiety disorders, (among a few other diagnoses), which seem to all correlate to Autism/ADHD. I wish my Amygdala would settle down for one moment, hahaha!! I'm in perpetual fight or flight. Thank you, again. Much appreciation. 💗
Good luck. I’ve recently done a course in Emotional Freedom Technique, aka tapping. It’s great for calming the amygdala and reducing anxiety.
@@catlifechannel3886 Thank you. 😊I learned about EFT many years ago. I never thought to begin doing this technique again. Great advice. I really appreciate that. 😊
We love you and appreciate your passion for doing this work! Love from a 56yo recently/late identified asd/adhd/cptsd 🎉
Dr. Sage, I have recently discovered your videos starting with the ones about attachment styles then onto the ones addressing BPD and its effects on parenting. I am a mom raising a 15-year-old daughter and I am struggling a lot trying to figure out how to Navigate it not only because of being a (single)mother of a teenage daughter; but also being a mother diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and disorganized attachment. My goal originally was to be the exact opposite of my parents and basically just be better in all aspects especially when it came to preparing her for the world around her and what to expect. However as I am finding out… you live what you know and you can only exhibit what you’ve been taught until you are able to see the behavior for what it is, learn more and do better. I watched your “borderline mothers and daughters” video thinking that you would talk about strategies to achieve success in that dynamic… and that’s not at all what it was. As Extremely difficult as it was to watch, I did anyway with the intent of learning what harm I might be causing my daughter that I could possibly be unaware of. Some of the traits you talked about exhibited by the mother with borderline are absolutely not present in my situation. I know this because I actively work to make sure that those traits are not present in the relationship with her and that healthy boundaries ALWAYS maintained. It seems like most of your videos focused on parenting (especially having to do with a borderline parent)focus more on villainizing that parent and how to heal from the trauma having inevitably developed after having this seemingly “evil” almost psychopathic, type of parent with BPD that apparently lacks all traces of empathy, which you describe in a lot of your videos. As I am trying to learn how to be the best mother I can be in spite of this disorder, which by the way I did not ask for… I would love to see a video from you that focused on strategies for the borderline parent specifically the “mom”. Moms that in fact are aware of their issues and helpful parenting strategies to overcome them. Understanding that we were once a child too with less than nurturing parents and now dealing with our own abandonment issues. The last thing I wanna do is to pass this dysfunction onto my child, further perpetuating the generational cycle; even though more often than not that is
exactly what ends up happening without professional help. I don’t want to harm my daughter psyche only for her to do the same thing to her kids and I’m trying to do everything in my power to ensure that does not happen.
Being mindful and course correction moving forward while being self accountable is my two scents 🕊️ cheers Sister
Tiffany, you are a darling!
It sounds to me that you are doing a good job with yoir motherong of your daughter.
Thankfully there are all kinds of RUclips teachers out there who are helpful. There is one on Family systems (Bowen), another kindly woman, Roberta, who sadly passed recently but hopefully her messages are still out there. In the end she was supplemented with oxygen to help her breathe but she persisted for her followers. Roberta had a huge heart and gave her all. I found her very helpful as the mother of a daughter with BPD.
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I was diagnosed with BPD and ADHD 4 years ago, but right now, taking medicines for 4 years and more than 6 years doing therapy, I’m seeing some signs that can’t be explained with those diagnoses. I think I might also be autistic, but I’m trying to study a little more about it, specially the differences between BPD, ADHD and Autism, to understand and talk about in therapy. Thanks for the video 🩵
thanks for being a leader in the neurodiversity movement. hopefully with you as a guide, many therapists will be able to find out why they have an intense interest in human behavior. then they can "come home" to our fabulous community.
This was really helpful, thank you Dr. Kim Sage! Please post more videos about ADHD and Autism co-existence! I've just discovered that I'm both and I've struggled to really understand who I am for a long time, feeling like I'm a "living paradox" (like my husband likes to call it) at times where I'm one way and then another. I'd like to learn how to work with my strengths more than trying to fix and focus on my weaknesses and letting them make me have low self-esteem. I'd also like to learn how to balance the needs I have to satisfy my ADHD at times and my Autism other times and/or how to balance both I guess. If you can make a video including some of that information it would be of great help to me, and others like me too I'm sure! Thank you again! You're amazing!
Definitely not my first video on the subject or that has me thinking "yeah, that sounds like me", but absolutely helpful the way you broke everything down.
Thank you Dr. Sage. I was diagnosed with ADHD on my birthday basically last year in June or, within a few days actually. I have learned a bunch like we do and I have started to realize that I have autism aswell. I took the online test and scored 32 out of 50 at the Autism Association web page. The results said from 24 to 32 is " some Asbergers " as you probably know. I don't remember if I told you last week when you posted "13 signs you are not just highly sensitive and I recognize the description not only in myself but, also in my deceased mother and an adult child.
Thank you for sharing - did you take the AQ and other tests on embrace autism . com?
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I haven't yet. Is it online to ? I can see it now in myself and my sons were diagnosed and a grandson to. So, even though I had 130ish hrs completed at a University and 36 of those being in psychology I still thought that everything that I was experiencing was a response to childhood trauma and as I began to finally unravel this and see the difference plus I found out that our family has the Gene that is responsible for nuerodivergence. Finally, I put the rest of the puzzle together and yes I wish I would have known sooner. I am now 61 however, I feel blessed to have found a neurologist to back up my thoughts about me having ADHD and I have discussed autism some with her. As you know, the test is expensive. Thank you for your reply. I need to remember to wear my reading glasses because I cannot see my phone very well and it is very hard on my eyes.
I was diagnosed with Autism in 2019 when I was 31 as I knew I had many issues but didn't know what they were. It was only when I saw on TV, a man interviewing two teenagers who had autism that things clicked with me. When I watched that, I noticed how they acted and some of the things they said just parallel my life and how I acted sometimes. I didn't know at the time you could be tested for both so only got tested for Autism. I really think I have ADHD as well and have been waiting over a year to get an ADHD test so far. I have a cousin on my dads side with Autism and my dad and sister have Dyslexia so I am sure that is where I got my Autism from. My siter also thinks she might have traits of Autism or ADHD but has not gotten a test yet.
I don't stim but I do fidget and often find it hard to sit still. I have hyperfocus and can spend hours focused on something, especially my special interests, but other times I can't concentrate and find it hard to focus. I could be doing something but my mind will wander to something else and I'd lose focus, or I'd just stop what I am doing and stare into space and some time would pass and I wouldn't realise it. For this reason, I sometimes find it hard to finish tasks that don't have a deadline. I have also tried to learn to drive but due to my concentration being bad, I was unbale to do that well due to my mind starting to wander after a certain period of time through the lessons.
I also find it hard to sleep at normal hours of the night, but when I do get to sleep, I can sleep a full 7-8 hours. There are times when I feel a bit hyper when I don't have much energy at all.
I like to try new things, but when I do, rarely am I fully engaged with what I am doing and my mind will often wander and I'll start thinking of things like what I might do later on that day or I'll be thinking of a familiar project I'd like to be doing, rather than focusing on this new experience. This isn't something I like as I feel I need new experiences in my life sometimes.
I find it difficult in social situations often and find it hard to make small talk so I don't make and maintain friendships easily,. I also have Dyspraxia which I was diagnosed with when I was 12. One part of it is that I have Verbal Developmental Dyspraxia. This means I'll sometimes know what I want to say to someone, but sometimes find it physically hard to get the words out I want to say as this effects your mouth movements when you speak. I used to talk fast and mumble. I spent years learning to slow down and speak properly and rarely speak fast or mumble anymore, just mess up saying the odd word now and then.
I know I want to be in social situations and make and maintain friendships but sometimes when I am in a social situation, I often think that I'd rather be doing something on my own, but when I am on my own, I feel bad because I'd rather have social interaction. It's like a double edged sword for me.
I am enjoying your videos and I really love your wallpaper. Thank you.
I like 10 min long videos 😊 and this topic in particular
This is exactly me. Im still not 100% convinced that i could have autism added on to my adhd diagnosis, but knowing that there's a good chance that those pesky autism traits are not just personality flaws is validating.
For example, i homeschool 3 kids through the summer for the sake of routine, however, the summer routine is so different from the rest of the year and far less structured at that, that it doesn't take long for me to burn out. I seriously look forward to the fall where we can get back into a structured rhythm.
Thanks so much for your work, it is incredibly illuminating!
I can't get bored. My mind entertains me. If you're boring me, sorry 😞 😅😂.
Thank you so much very helpful one of my child has asd and my other child is on waiting list for ADHD and he has a lot of sensory problems this makes sense very much 😊❤❤😊
Really appreciate this, thanks. My whole family is autistic, but we suspect my wife and daughter may also be ADHD (me and my son definitely aren't). I'll talk about this with them, but I think this is supporting the hypothesis.
Thank you for you info. Ive been struggling with adhd my whole life but only diagnosed at 21. 46 now and with all the new info out there im realizing i likely have autism as well. Any info on who i should talk to for diagnosis? This is all so novel and strange.
A clinical psychologist who specialises in autism in adults
really appreciate your authentic spirit
Thank you!
We love you, too!
Also, I don't mind videos by you that are "5 hours long" :)
Absolutely she's so gentile and her voice is so warm it hits certain parts of my brain in positive ways.
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Thank you so much! I don't take you or your time here for granted! I am happy my rambling is sometimes appreciated lol:)
oh i love hearing that - thank you so much!:)
@@spottedfawn639 and I still feel like I didn't explain or express myself well. It's a certain sensory stimulation
My son has Asperger’s, my daughter has ADD. I tend to jump in socially, then fizzle out, freak out, or freeze. 🤔
Hi Kim! You make really good videos and you talk about everything that I experience, it's so weird but also validating!
Thanks Dr Kim. Dr Spicy says this is very helpful.
I have to watch again later😅. I got distracted by taking the quizes, then with the sudden need to see and pet my dog in the other room, also because my thoughts drifted off somewhere else while the video continued to play😅
I loved the way you explain things.
Thank you so much!
I relate to this.
Me! It's almost like this struggle within me. Because I crave familitary and routine but I also crave novelty and I have a very rigid way of viewing my life and the way it goes. I have OCD so it makes it even worse... Because I need to know what to expect and I struggle with transitions and it's what I need to fee safe. Yet ADHD is another beast and it's like I'm always trying to tame it.
How did you learn to cope?
My son is in his 20s, been seeing a therapist for a couple of years, and still has problems living an independent life. He’s high functioning, diagnosed only with ADHD but he is definitely on the spectrum. This video pretty much describes him.
He smokes weed to cope with, but he struggles with anxiety, procrastination, additive and compulsive tendencies, trouble making friends, he has no grit, fatigue, motivation.
He’s tried adderal, Prozac. Both helped with side effects. He never wanted to stay on them.
What's wild is that my partner and I are both autistic and ADHD, yet mostly in different ways from one another. 😅
Well I have taken both autism tests before, retook them and still scored high in the range to have autism. But the ADHD tests were new, took those...and drumroll😅 I am in the range for ADHD too😅.
Honestly I was just talking to my mom about the possiblity that she has ADHD as I have been suspecting I could have both as one or the other alone don't match up with all my issues I have been dealing with all my life. Issues that just seem more pronounced to me over the last year and some since my work environment has changed. The amount of change happening all the time, how noisey and busy it is... its all causing my issues to be more prominent on a day-to-day basis that I just couldn't ignore them anymore, or at least try and convince myself they were normal anymore😅.
I was diagnosed with autism 2 years ago at age 56 but have always suspected I have ADHD as well
Thank you so much for work. For me it is really astonishing that the possibilitity of having both seems to be a relativy new idea. Why not? As you can have a bicycle and a car, flu and asthma;…
Are there any studies about high intelligent women with autism/adhd/both. Who even might have gone through very early trauma, having CPTSD and being now extraordinary good in masking? Maybe so good because the high Intelligence is unconcious working to regulate everything?
Please excuse any spelling mistakes and maybe my akward way of writing. My native tongue is German .
Oh and thank you so much for saying in another video that you got traumatised even later because of your devorce (might have said it differently but I think that was the „essenz“). All of your personal stories and your talk how you (as a studied professionel in these areas) find out much more about yourself is extremly helpful.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 7. Now I'm in my mid 30s and I if AuDHD very interesting. I have watched hours on hours of videos on this topic in the past weeks. And I think I might have autistic traits but way below any diagnostic level. But it helps we explain a few of my quirks.
I like the length of this video.
I was diagnosed for ADHD and started medication. Only then did I notice that I don’t follow social rules. However, I think most of the social norms are stupid. Like the pointless small talk and asking about how someone is doing and not actually meaning it. Yet I realize that my non-conforming to social norms is getting in the way of me getting raises and making friends. So I am trying not to be socially awkward anymore… but I also can’t get myself to take part in small talk which feels so fake that it disgusts me. I don’t have the patience to go through that relationship development needed to get to the point to actually have deep conversations worth having 🤷
Exactly, people don't get promoted because of their problem solving and creative skills, but purely on how much they can bs themselves inside upper management. This has been the case since forever. You're worthy, don't compare yourself to the typicals, typicals are boring anyway. 😎
I have both and didn’t get complete diagnosis until last year at the tender age of 42
Ive got Asperger's syndrome dislexia borderline personality disorder bi-polar and skitzophrenia with deep depression . My comand centre's ( my brain) fried and broken
Thank you. This is very helpful.
I had an ADHd Diagnosis back in 2012. Oddly I managed it very well with set routines. Then when I started working in a large workforce, I started to realise that I definitely have social problems too. After 3 months of therapy with a psychologist provided by work, she says I most likely have autism too. Her report was incredibly helpful and insightful. Perseverance being a key word. I have experienced trauma and emotional neglect as a child. But the perseverating has been holding me back. I would get quite angry with the therapist for not letting me talk about my traumas on repeat. Now I can see how that's an autistic trait not only trauma. Just signed up for emdr. I'm obsessed with dirt bikes at the moment, i will know every single detail of the cbr300l before i buy it next year 😂
Emdr changed/ saved my life. It us a game changer and such an amazing therapy. I highly recommend it.
All the best
@paihobbes8680 That's really good to know, thank you 😊
I have been diagnosed ADHD but could never figure out what was the rest of me so many misdiagnoses so many medications so much missing of everything and judged and treated so many ways…
Yeah. I think I have ADD. I'm not so hyperactive. I also see austistic things, bipolar things, borderline, and on and on.
Hello hello. I am diagnosed with ADHD and BPD, but BPD also has a lot of overlap with both ADHD and Autism. (Things like bad impulse control, stimming, ...). It would be great if you could make a video comparing the three. I think about getting evaluated for ASD but want to learn more about the factors that BPD may have.
I am also just in my perimenopause, and that screws with my ADHD symptoms on a scale I have never experienced before. ADHD and Perimenopause would maybe also an interesting topic.
Female hormones across the lifespan screw with symptoms and medication sensitivity and levels
Yes yes yes and yes. Love your content
Great Video, thank you!
I wonder what it is about both that make it so hard to make phone calls. My son and I are both diagnosed and I suspect my adult daughter... well no, I KNOW, but she's not formally diagnosed. Anyway all three of us really struggle with this. Both making and receiving. I am okay talking to a friend or family but I am not one to do the calling. But when it comes to making appointments or handling something that requires it, all three of us freeze up. I know my son has pretty severe auditory processing issues and I wonder if that's what it is, but we are just SO phobic about it at this point.
Same!
Oh, man... Phone calls are a nightmare! I need to take my ADHD meds before I am able to make a phone call
I have no idea what it is exactly, but it feels like I have to *pretend* being a normal human being while talking to people on the phone... it leaves me tired.
It is also true for social interactions with people around whom I don't feel comfortable, even some of the family friends.
Maybe the need to mask is what makes it exhausting, and then you tend to avoid it. I am diagnosed with ADHD, and my brother has Asperger's (he was diagnosed when it was not all ASD yet)
We can often have phone phobia because we communicate more effectively via text than phone call as it takes longer for us to process information
Because it’s a sensory processing issue texting is our best friend we prefer written communication over other forms. Plus the social anxiety of not being able to read social cues properly
I have adhd (diagnosed 2 years ago) but i always feel like I'm split in two. I crave newness and become agitated and depressed if i get stuck in a routine, but at the same time i need things to be a certain way or i get lost. For example, i wear a fanny pack that has specific items arranged in a specific way. This CANNOT be altered. The weight is also very comforting. I wear a limited range of clothing because i can't stand the feeling of scratchy foreign objects like labels, or materials that don't feel right on my skin. My workdesk is organised a specific way and i get disoriented and flustered if i change my workspace or of someone misplaces something. I also have very niche interests and tend to bombard others with information as soon as they express the slightest interest in them. My partner has to tap my arm lightly if she notices I'm drowning others in information 😂. If rules are explained to me i adhere to them strictly, but i have also been described as "eccentric" and "non conforming". I have learned to ignore social etiquette and just do what feels comfortable. I realise that my stimming can be distracting (rocking, touching my ear, or rubbing my shaved head) but i need to do this to regulate what's going on in my head. I also dislike eye contact because i feel there is too much information. My partner always has to remind me to look at her when she is talking to me. I find it easier to listen when I'm NOT looking at someone. They might find it rude but i don't know what else to do other than stim which is even ruder. So yeah 😅
I've been told I'm on the autism spectrum, but don't have ADHD... I'm NOT impulsive, I don't procrastinate, I can regulate my emotions, I can focus and finish a project. I have been in recovery with 28 years sobriety so my addictions have a program to work. But I am a deep dive photographer and woodworker. I paint furniture and do art...it's my lifeline.
Congratulations on your sobriety milestones, keep up the amazing work. Sobriety has been a game changer for me, as I am diagnosed with adhd and asd, it has helped keep me on course
I have ADHD. Many of the points you brought up make me wonder if I might also have autism. I have one brother with ADHD and another with severe autism.
I only have ADHD and throughout the video, I kept wondering if the wallpaper in the background is from Graham & Brown 😅
Could you make a video on how to differientiate autism and adhd, as there are a lot of similarities in symptoms? I was convinced I had audhd, so both... went for an autism assesment and the specialist told me all my problems were adhd, though I had some autistic traits. I still don't know wether it was a correct diagnosis (she didn't diagnose me as adhd, but said she suspected it and we should test it), for me it felt rushed though (2hours, for AQ, ADOS, ADI-R and some introduction talk), I scored very high on the AQ 40, but to low on the rest, but she didn't take the AQ in account because that's not objective enough. Biggest reasons why she didn't think I was autistic, because I've got a face full of expressions (I'm an actor, btw. And I actually use facial expressions because they are more easy than talking, like when I'm stressed I've got more trouble talking so if I don't understand something, putting up a highly distressed/confused face is more easy than saying "I don't understand"), can tell stories (litterally that's my obsession since I'm a kid, I do everything with stories it's my life basically), and was a social kid (though often in my own world, like just hanging by) with empathy. Why do I think I have autism? Because I'm non-stop on hypervigilance while I've got no clues what I could have gotten c-ptsd from, I had quite a good childhood), have a lot of social difficulties, often misreading social cues (and not from inattention, I'm pretty sure), actually tend to do the same things always on the same way. Like I love cooking, totally... but really cook anything new or even change a receipy (except though if I miss certain things)... though I intelectually know it might taste better... but this is just the way how I always do it, it feels safe. I really have to be in a fantastic mood to try out new things. I hate social gatherings, while I'm totally like meeting up with people, but more then two-three and I'm very fast overstimmulated, I only go in parties with earbuds in or I cannot handle it. I stimm a lot, the more stressed I am the more. From hand-rubbing, to rocking, to flapp or piano with my hands to bite my carwheel... I wear a hat non-stop and feel stressed without something on my head (only exceptions being if I'm feeling very well, than I don't need a had). I've had 5 friends (one after the other, from 13 to 23) whom I was with all convinced that they were my bestfriend, only to learn they barely saw me as a friend. I mean, they sprend time with me, we chat, the like to hang out with me, like 2x a months... that's being a good friend no? Apparently no. I cannot handle change in plans well, especially if I'm already stressed out, though I do actually probably also have adhd so I can myself never stick to my own planning, but will still stick to my plan... to the point of sometimes eating at 3 o'clock in the morning because I was distracted when wanting to start to cook... but once I got back to cooking it was to late to do the actual plan (that would take a few hours), but I've trouble changing that plan because I had planned to eat this and do not want to eat anything else... so eitherwise i don't eat, or I sleep very late because I have to make this. So yeah
Wow well I guess I have both now that I'm learning about both of them more I noticed lots of things and don't beat myself up about so much anymore but I still hate when I get mad cause my child doesn't listen at times cause it's really hard for me and I don't think others understand how hard it is every day for a person when suffering with these things cause as I'm learning about it I'm almost learning how I handle stress when it comes to my child not respecting what I ask of her because it's like 10 times of me saying it to her calm it's much more stressful when suffering with adhd and autism and a single mother with the whole raising her is up too me and I'm the only one trying to make her understand right from wrong sometimes I just feel like we are not a team and we are just working against each other it's hard when you need your 5 minutes too regulate but your child just won't let you get it instead of destressing you get more stressed I just wish I had the help I need so it won't be so hard on me it might be easy for normal people but not for me all I can't do is keep trying the best way I can I'm just figuring things out as I go I wasn't shown any of these things no one is perfect we all fall short we just need too be easier on ourselves and not worry about what outside world has too say about how your doing things we are doing the best we can as we go yes I could do things differently at times but how are we gonna leave if we don't mess up from time to time
I am the youngest of my other 2 siblings. The oldest and I being under the transgender umbrella. I believe I received the first diagnosis of ADHD between my siblings and I, when I was about 21. Then the oldest got diagnosed with ADHD and little later, and the middle child recently got a diagnosis that he is both ADHD and ASD. My oldest sibling and I have previously thought that we were on the autism spectrum as well, and thought the diagnosis of our brother with both confirmed our suspicion. Our parents are not diagnosed with anything other than our father having bipolar depressive disorder. But other family members have ADHD as well as others with some traits of autism. I mean almost every guy on my dads side is a car guy/engine guy, my grandpa having a strong love for engines and had a lawnmower shop he ran and worked repairing them.
Also, I’ve been wondering the connection between transgender/nonbinary people and the autism spectrum. I’m trying to think of a different or better way to say it, like gender expression, or gender diversity.
I wonder if "difficulty with self diagnosis" is also a sign of adhd &/or autism ?
On Occation , I fell I may have PTSD + Turret's Syndrome .
Am getting tested for both .
I truly believe my son has ADHD/Autism. he was exposed to Brethine in utero to stop premature labor. We had him tested last year at age 22 for autism and the diagnosis came back ADHD. I really believe he is autistic and may qualify for disability. How do I get him the right help?
I love you , thanks 🙏
I guess society has not figured out a lot of learning disabilities could be because of ADHD and autism. And because they are so intertwined, i'm surprised they have not melded them together into one yet, and make it just one diagnosis, the way it is looking genetically. I'm learning about my family as well, and autism/ADHD runs through my kids and grandkids, and figuring out I have it.....probably my grandmother on my dad's side, even my dad, i'm guessing. it goes on and on and on.
whelp I'm pretty sure I have autism along with my adhd because I had a meltdown while listening to this because I wanted to find out what the 2 seconds of music is (the name of the song so I can listen to the whole thing). I took music history classes and remember learning about the song being a ballet warm up composition written by a french romantic composer, but the rabbit hole google led me down with no positive results made me start melting down, followed by playing the 2 seconds of music at the beginning of this vid to shazam and shazam had no idea what it was. Yeah I lose my mind when I want to find something simple and it's impossible to access because nothing knows what I'm talking about even when I'm being specific. Thanks for driving me insane again technology! Good video tho.
edit- it's gymnopedie #1 by erik satie if anyone is wondering like me lol. I kind of just randomly remembered the name post meltdown, no thanks to google/shazam/anything.
I am 57 and have combined presentations of ADHD. Was diagnosed at 3 years in 1970. Does it matter at this point and my age if I seek an Autism diagnosis at my age? Talking to my psych on Wed. I don't want to be around people unless I have to like my fam or work. Only one friend I like t hang out with. But even that is. Limited.
I do not take meds for this as they don't work. But my anxiety med I put myself on has been life changing.
Do I really need to have a concrete diagnosis. My oldest son is ASD.
The best description is having Garfield and Olie inside your head at the same time
Two years ago for me an ASD diagnosis I am 61
I want to go to the coffee shop, but I want it to be a different coffee shop than the one I went to yesterday.
What if you have a hard time focusing and can't pay attention to this video?
Oh my.. is this why I feel so exhausted? I feel like I exhaust myself all the time.
It is exhausting just existing and NTs just don’t get it
I score fairly high on online autism tests. As a toddler I'd rock and bang my head off cupboards, walls, doors, appliances and furniture. My mother gloatingly told me about this when I was a teen and also her 'cure' for my very annoying habit. She'd kick my bottom so I'd wop my head enough to be dazed. To this day I love to rock and I'm pretty sure heaven has spinning chairs or I don't want to go. ~ I'm kidding but also serious. ~ I struggle to learn. Since the advent of yt I can turn the speed down on videos and not look at faces while I listen. Doing this I can actually understand what people are saying without re-listening several times. When I was young school was very challenging but I wanted to learn. It just took me so much more time than everyone else. 1 hour of homework for my peers was 2 or 3 hours for me. I have difficulty talking or listening to people while looking at their face, another annoying habit my mother made me aware of when I was a teen. I didn't realize I did that and now I try my best to look at faces. There are also a few other indicators in my behavior as well. I was diagnosed with adhd-i and ptsd in my 40s. I'll be 60 soon. Is there any reason for someone my age to be formally diagnosed if I am ASD? Or would it just be for personal information?
If I may say so, personal. I've been diagnosed with both last year at 64. Doctors don't do nothing for autism. They have some therapy for adhd and such. Almost all my professional life, I have worked with autistic children, not knowing I'm one of them, but understanding them perfectly.
After my diagnosis, I went through all the emotions, from anger through despair, to finally understanding (with still anger at how rude and inconsiderate people are, including my offsprings, unfortunately). Now I am trying to take everything slower and make sure I am OK with the tasks and changes. I look inwards and listen to my body and soul. I was considered selfish by one of my children recently. I started to be selfish after looking deeply into the invective, as I figured I have to earn it. So yes, it is good to know for yourself, it helped me to stop blaming myself for all my failures, as now I understand that there was no way I could avoid them, but they happened despite of my efforts. My advice would be to check all the online questionnaires because they are really good and they will give you a good grasp. Unless you can get the diagnosis for free. I payed thousands but I am glad. There was no other way for 4 of my closest to change ever so slightly their view and opinion of me. The rest still treats me badly. Got to get used to it.
Good luck!
Yes, it certainly sounds like you have a number of autistic traits - and given our lack of understanding the presentation in women and girls it makes sense you would get exactly adhd and ptsd - i wouldn't be surprised if you had also received a diagnosis of bpd (given the recent research i've seen). It seems unlikely it would benefit you unless you were going to "attempt" to receive services..however.....it has changed the course of my life and my internal (harsh) narrative, my self compassion about "why am I like this?" and also justified why I am an a-hole sometimes - lol - when it comes to my environment, challenges, as much as my strengths. All that to say, if you feel like it can help improve your life, and many autistics have felt like an official diagnosis helped this - then it also makes sense. Lastly, given your age, and i am just 4 years behind you, so i say with love, that if we were younger it might make a bigger difference or even have negative consequences- because it seems some places deny you things (adoption, military service) in some places. Sending love today!
@@lechini4827 Thank you for sharing:). You are not alone in this experience and yes, that is what I said as well. Sending support and well being today!
@@lechini4827 I'm very sorry to hear about some of your family's lack of acceptance. If they would graciously accept your ASD diagnosis it might cause them to re-evaluate their past and present experiences with you. Maybe they need more information about your challenges or information about adjusting their expectations. Sadly too few people are willing to take the time to do this. I hope they come around and learn to be supportive of you. If I'm hearing you correctly a diagnosis would be for personal acceptance and adjusted coping strategies. That's pretty much where I'm at now. Thank you for responding. I hope you have a wonderful and peaceful day. 🌹
@@DrKimSage Omgosh the a //h ole comment had me roling! Lmfo Right! That's me too. I just say the truth and people get so bent out of shape. I don't fully get it. But I do try I really really try because I don't want to hurt anyone. I just ... don't get what they get or I don't get the dance. It's beyond me. I'm trying. *sigh* Being a shut-in for the past few years helps (or hurts, or helps, not sure). Alone, not lonely, well sometimes a smidgen lonely but always definitely at peace. :) Thank you for the love and sincerely thank you for all the good information you're helping me and all of us with. 🎯🤗🌹❤
Why am i drawn to the pattern of the wall paper.....is that birds on the branches?
There's
the ADHD comment 😅
We are good with pattern recognition
good video
What about the signs when you're a woman but don't have any diagnosis? It's very hard for me to tell if I have or don't... My oldest son has autism (asperger syndrome), ADHD without hyperactivity and dyspraxia. While on the other hand, my youngest son (from another partner) who has a more severe form of Autism and general development delay. This may my sign that I might have also Autism or/and ADHD? Been through a lot of child and adulthood trauma, so it's hard to say if it's due my past or genetics...
If you always feel disconnected and different it’s possible you do
Daily internet diagnosis check✅😅
Why don't you put may in the title as well please?
Is it for better clicks?
Thank you ❤
I was diagnosed with adhd at age 3 in 1970. Was put on Ritalin and felt.like a zombie. My parents took me off of Rit at i think age 12. Ive been without ever since. Cant function on any adhd meds. I dont feel normal. Lol. How do i take a test to see if i have Autism as well. My oldest son is on the spectrum. Can you help me with that info?
while i wouldn't solely diagnose using it - the website embrace autism . com is a great place to start
Still need more testing even with ADHD. This is amazing. Thank you 🫧🤍
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Ant stop focusing on the bandaid on your finger. 👀I need to remove the flap. ✂️
Yep, i have both! what do i do? how do i get help? my family is throwing me out!
i 'm scared! i am 74. i have a graduate degree ,so i'm not an idiot but all these symptoms have amplified with age and it has all led to rejection and abandonment. Can not stand living with these traits nor how my family acts enraged and rejecting. They say they wish me dead. Where can i go for help and get support for living or dying? I am exhausted living with these cognitive and behavioral disorders and when you are my age your family is just as fed up. I don't blame them. I am as frustrated as they are. So, is going to sleep permantlly the best solution all around? Seems like the American government doesn't even give a damn about us elderly suffering with these conditions. I'm not talking about dementia!
What do aging women do who have add/autism to find adequate and respectful help
Everybody has autism and ADHD these days. Is anybody not getting a diagnosis? I saw a psychiatrist and walked out with both conditions. I wasn't after a diagnosis.
Wrong society is finally identifying those of us who have it who were missed forty plus years ago we’ve always been here
@@Dancestar1981Wrong. Quiet, high functioning, well behaved, verbal girls have been getting diagnosed since theate 80s.
@Dancestar1981 Identification by diagnosing every woman who is willing to pay for a diagnosis.