I'm a veteran, was actually addicted to cigarettes and alcohol. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder, got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
So happy for you, brother that you found mushrooms. I struggle with some of the same issues and mushrooms helped me immensely as well. God bless you keep fighting the good fight.
I am an introvert. I was a very quietly spoken child and teenager. I rarely talked to anyone because I lacked social skills and the ability to express myself openly. I was a passive naive young person. I preferred to be alone and do what I wanted in my spare time. I am not a misanthropic person because I have dealt with my inner demons and come to terms with who I am. The fact that I grew up in a toxic family who physically, emotionally, and verbally abused me made me hate everyone until I became an adult. I never knew what an introvert was until I read Dr Carl Jung's books about different personalities and archetypes. I also read Emotional Intelligence and other self-help books which improve myself. I dislike being classified into various labels, negative stereotyping and being pigeonholed into a category by certain therapists.
OMG, you mentioned the satin on the blanket! I'm 45 and still sleep with my baby blanket because of the feeling of the satin trim on it. It's so shredded and worn, but man, I have never found a satisfying replacement. Also, squeezing BIC lighters in my hand. I haven't smoked in 11 years, but that feeling of a BIC lighter in my hand helps me enter a highly creative trance state. I don't know anyone else like me in this way. I just took the Autism Spectrum Quotient test you recommended and scored a 38. I am new to following you, and now I think you are so cool for making this video. Thanks
@@Tricia-xo6fq I'm curious which came first? Did you get the blanket after the diagnosis? I've seen highly autistic kids with spoons in their hands. I assume the BIC lighter serves the same purpose for me. Lighters are more condensed, and the BIC brand has nice contours for comfortable clenching. I know it's so weird, but clenching the lighters triggers my brain to create visuals for manifesting. Squeezing the satin on the blanket at night is just comforting for sleep. It's the cooling sensation in my hand that I crave. Again, I know it's so weird, but I learned to do this before I could even speak, and I stuck with it.
My parents thought when my pediatrician said I had minimal brain dysfunction in 1963 they thought he was telling them I was mildly retarded. (Words used back then) So that was how I was treated. Like there was no hope for me and no one wanted to waste their time with me. I also had seizures. I had many behaviors and sensory issues that is normally associated only with Autism but I was higher functioning and had language. I had really bad sensory issues. I had my downs. Everything you said about autism applies to me. But didn’t find out till my mid life. Cognitively my IQ rest they gave me in grade school showed I was in the superior intelligence level but my mom said I could not use my intelligence when I asked about it a year later. I was one confused and lonely child. Although I absolutely prefer being alone more times than not I still craved humanity interactions. Because of the seizures and the TBI I had at birth people didn’t let their kids play with me because they thought I was as mentally ill and retarded. People were so ignorant to seizures back then. I was born in 1960 and people didn’t understand a lot of things that they do now in the 21st-century. I’ve never been able to keep friends. I’ve had two close friends my whole entire life. I do everything alone with no problem. But I have phobias up the ying Yang. Oh I have written too much but I get so stimulated when another piece of the puzzle falls into place for me. Thank you for taking the time to make that video.
Also, I wanted to add because I did not notice. I have the zebra disease and so did my dad. We were both quite stretchy and bendy ours was the common connective tissue type, but I was blessed not to have it too bad. Ehlers Danios survive things that they mean pop up and listen.
Thank you for sharing your story! I was born in 82 I can relay in a lot of ways that a lot of the way that people treated me was that I was just a little bit dumber than everybody else. Almost as if I had a plague I too had an IQ test At 3 years old and tested very high However I have a twin sister I did not know until recently, After two of my younger children were diagnosed ASD About female masking. I've always known I was sensitive and my mother always told me how sensitive I was I took it as it was a weakness, a flaw. Education is power. 💪
I was labeled as retarded by my 3rd grade teacher. This was in the 1970s. I think my mom knew there was something different about me, it turned out I have a very high IQ, but I was so clumsy, I couldn't tell time, and my processing speed for learning my multiplication tables was the worst in my class. I was 2 yrs behind in reading. By the time I was in 6th grade I was reading at a collegiate level. Autistic brains are weird like that. We have what is called a "spikey profile". My cousin was diagnosed with autism in the early 70s. My brother had what they termed "hyperactive kinetic disorder" in the 1960s, that diagnosis is called ADHD today. I am sorry you went through being labeled as retarded. As someone who was labeled that I understand how it follows you around for the rest of your life. I went back to college around 30 yrs old and became a scholar with perfect grades partially to prove to myself I wasn't mentally retarded. It was like I was running away from it.
Very helpful, thank you, as always. For me the route was finding HSP in 2011 but it didn’t explain everything. Then while searching for hyperempathy vs HSP I found similar women on the wrongplanet website, then found Intense World Theory, then read everything I could find. Autism is clear in me, my eggshell father (w/daily meltdowns), and other family. I am so glad to see the rise in awareness in other high-masking women. I hope your status as a psychologist helps other psychologists not be so ignorant about autism in AFABs. I’m 59, and so wish I had known about autistic me and my autistic father decades ago. Lots of grief. Having read Neurotribes and everything else I could find on autism and its history, I’m so disgusted by how badly both psychiatry and psychology have screwed this up. My psychiatrist (for TRD that’s hard to parse from autistic burnout& is likely both plus PTSD) said in 2012 that I “wasn’t odd enough”🙄 . I don’t talk about it much w/him or therapist, they just don’t want to know, want it to all be trauma. I’ve always told people close to me that I deserve an Oscar, so the recent “discovery” of masking has been so helpful in understanding myself. I also have hEDS and a bunch of the other comorbidities that also were late-diagnosed. Medicine has also really failed us. Thank you for your work and for sharing it with us. I look forward to your videos!
It’s feel weird that I completely relate to all of this but it feels like such a trend right now. It sucks when you can relate and have struggled your whole life but now it’s such a trend and everyone thinks they have ADHD, Autism or both. Makes me want to hide more.
Love your content and stretch to think about the over-laps. You’ve mentioned your marriage quite a few times, and I’m sure your focus is directed towards your children’s lives and career development. I hope at some point you could explain how your understandings of relationships dynamics from childhood… marriage…. Has influenced your choices and decisions in new relationships since your divorce and have they been successful because of your evolving interpersonal awareness’s. How are you challenging your own dynamics? Just food for another video to share what your relationship journey has been like in this last 17 years. It’s always helpful for me to see through the lens of real life experiences. Thank you Kim
Have you looked at the research on very high IQ people? They tend to have those highly sensitive tendencies, among other things mentioned here. But not the autistic tendencies. They have many interests and go wide and deep with those interests. They don't have the need for routine and repetition and actually crave novelty. They prefer dealing with abstract concepts rather than the concrete. They have interpersonal difficulties for different reasons ... They take in stimuli and learn and think at a much higher speed and remember a lot more than normal IQ individuals, making communication and interaction more difficult. They do often mask to 'fit in, particularly women. They do need more time alone to recover from these interpersonal difficulties as well as to persue their interests. Because there are so few of them, they were rarely mirrored by anyone when growing up and find it hard to locate others like themselves. But I think the neural divergence causes some of the issues you mention here.
I'd just like to say that you have such a nice, calming voice. I just went to the Autism site and the bright colors and too many choices completely overwhelmed me, and I had to click out of it. I'll try again at some point. The characters also move; it's like, "Look at me!" All I felt was panic.
Hmmm. I took the Autism quotient test at the website you mentioned. I scored 26 out of 50, which was the cut off point. I might be on the Spectrum. 52%. However, on Dr. Aron's HSP test, I scored 75%. DEFINITELY, I have the HSP temperament! There is no doubt about it... I am an INFP-A. I tend to rely on my intuition (N). 99 times out of 100, my gut reaction is correct! I have learned to pay attention to my instincts! I think that everyone has intuition to a greater or lesser degree... I used to be an INFJ. Over time, I have developed more right brain spontaneity. I remember when I needed more routine. But, now, being able to "go with the flow" is a skill that I have learned. I LIKE to think on my feet! 😀 I wouldn't be against having the Autism diagnosis. But, it sounds like I am more of an HSP... Thank you so much for making this video! I have wanted to know for some time whether or not I have autism, myself! Me and my husband have 11 year old twins who are on the Spectrum. Hopefully, with the knowledge you have given me, I will be better able to help those Precious Little Ones make the most of every situation they encounter in the future! Thanks again! Take care. Susan
17:26, many with sex chromosome abnormalities (SCA’s), like Klinefelter Syndrome, Jacobs Syndrome, etc, carry the comorbidity of autism. 13:26, in my life, the autism, and the ADHD, seem to balance each other. Having only one, or the other, would not be very nice. Good video. I feel better.
I am autistic and have ADHD. Never knew until just a couple yrrs ago so i definitely masked and found addictions of many. It wasnt until i started to heal that i found out.
Thank you for this I have been wondering for awhile now if I am hsp or HIgh masking Autism as my children are autistic I in the past just thought it is hsp this video points to my suspicion is correct oh and I have ADHD traits to boot hope you do a video on the combination of ADHD and Autism
Since my grandson was born(and the secondly in his baby sister) I have felt like I finally understood myself a little better! My youngest brother also has an autistic son. I can remember being excited about school, but being afraid of being noticed, being bullied and feeling different. My uncles telling me I didn't walk like a girl and always had my nose in a book. My mom telling me I used to drive her crazy with too many questions. Being hyper aware, hated unexpected or loud noises, very picky eaters in our line.
Thank you for your video. It is very interesting and educating. I learned important things. I am pleased that I found your video. I have subscribed to your channel.
Just like "autistic" was some well defined trait... It's not though. It's just a abstract word that is used to *try* to categorise people's behaviours...
I could not be more sick of this. Total insult to the thousands of parents of "autism" that I have known over the past 25 years. Their kids will never be independent. Many won't speak. If you're an adult and you can talk, live independently, don't need diapers or have seizures, are able to go to college and hold a job, you are NOT autistic. Leo Kanner first described autism. It was 1 in 10,000. Today's "autism" is NOTHING resembling Kanner's autism. And no, it's not better diagnosis. There were no undiagnosed kids with "autism " when I was growing up. Being HSP doesn't make you autistic. People were born with Kanner's autism. Developing normally and regressing severely after VAX is today's "autism". Kanner's term autism was coopted to hide vaccine injury. Today's autism stems from neurological damage and destroyed gut health. Heavy metals and live measles virus in the gut. Having autism in the DSM is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever seen in my life. Those I know who have recovered their children did so with biomedical intervention, not psychology.
I was always called a diva when I was a teenager because I was just too shy to speak to people. As someone now 29 years old I was just told by a psychiatrist that I may be autistic. My mum before her passing always identified with HSP but was told she had BPD and bipolar and got treatment according to those diagnosis. After 30 years of treatment nothing worked for her and she committed suicide. I wonder if she was highly masking autistic person like me and never got the right treatment.
I completely fit the definition you read of HSP. Autism: got a diagnosis, and getting to know other autistics was very validating... Check. AQ: Check. Autism creators: Check (that and recognising some autistics via their comments on the Net). World is intense - have learned to regulate (learned early to take time out, to go outside to have natural light). Check. Trail of broken friendships: Check. (Neurotypicals read into my motives and project their issues onto me.) Definitely miss social cues. Check. (Am absolute rubbish at reading indirect communication.) Bottom up processing style: Check. Special interests. Check. (Politics and decorating. However, I know about a lot of things because of ADHD.) Routine... nope... ADHD masks; I like spontaneity, need novelty. Communication style direct and authentic: Check. Self soothing: Check. (Have discarded some of them, but have ME/CFS and when I have enough energy, some stimming behaviors re-enters my life.) ADHD - don't require structure.... don't even like it. Less of a need for knowing context in advance - again ADHD. Hyper-empathy: Check. More effort when interacting with others: Check. Connective tissue disorder/fibromyalgia/allergies/chemically sensitive: Check. Have CPTSD: Check. Think that ADHD can muddy the water. I am not uncomfortable meeting others; I don't panic. I love how the ADHD compensates and makes me interested in so many topics.
I’m now in my mid 50’s and I have always felt different. I never understood how I was different, just that I was different to others. I’m very sensitive and I remember as a child my older sister laughing at me and mocking me, particularly in front of my relatives. I remember how embarrassed and humiliated she made me feel. To this day if I see someone being mocked or teased I see the discomfort that person is feeling and I try to distract them in a nice way so that they don’t feel embarrassed or humiliated. My son has been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD. I understand that both are hereditary and I believe I too have both. I have not had contact with my siblings for almost eight years because I finally realised that I don’t deserve to be poorly treated by those that I have known all my life simply because they are related to me.
Thank you, I also was bullied and made fun of by my sister in front of friends and family. I stepped away for over 10 years now but she has been trying to reconnect again. I don’t trust her.
This sounds just like me! I've had no contact with my siblings for over a decade now. They treated me terribly! It took me so long to realise. We deserve to be treated with respect and it serves us and our mental health to remove ourselves from painful relationships. I am also in my 50's and only last year did I find out it may be ASD and ADHD. It explains my whole life! Find the people that help you feel good and I will too. 🙏 x
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
Being significantly disregulated by the hyper materialistic,insular, isolated society we've built seems like a healthy human response . We need extensive family groups and connection to nature. Instead we've encased ourselves in concrete with a bunch of chemicals. Fewer and fewer are thriving in this.
Yes, and the more society becomes materialistic and narcissistic, the more it creates suffering, and the more people try to compensate acting selfishly, like chain reaction in a nuclear bomb .
THIS. I'm definitely an HSP, maybe autistic, but I think you'd have to be nuts to think the way culture forces us to live is healthy or normal. All I want to do is walk my dog through parks and gardens and look at the flowers. It's all so unbelievably beautiful, but I'm always alone because no matter how many people I invite to come with me, they all want to do is zoom around having status competitions and being fake with people they hardly know. And yes, probably with chemicals on concrete. We're living wrong. HSPs/autistic, whatever you want to call them, are just the ones who see and feel the level of sickness that is the rest of the world. Maybe we're just the old souls who've mostly outgrown this planet.
This is so my life. I have always been the odd one out. Been accused of being annoying, needing structure, rocking side to side or swinging my foot, can't handle being in large groups of people very long without becoming agitated, over sharing, sensitive to materials and food textures, etc., and never knowing Why! Until my son was diagnosed with high functioning autism. When I was researching, trying to help my son, I came upon all of this information and I just, wow, this is me, too! I always tried to hide it because I was made fun of a lot by my 4 older sisters. I'm 68 years old now and can say, I'm me and I'm not putting that mask on for anyone any more. It's been a ride! 😊
Congrats!! At 62, I have finally found out why I was not like them my whole life! I wish you the best-now you and I can start living our own true lives.😊
My psychiatrist was not very nice when I brought this up. I brought up ADHD first and he responded with "everybody has ADHD now and you can't even get the meds because everybody is taking it". He made me feel so uncomfortable that I didn't even bring up the autism. I had a full sheet of paper to go over with him, but he made me feel so dumb that I didn't bother. He sent me out for ADHD testing and once I'm through with that, I'm switching doctors.
I’m SOO glad to hear you’re switching immediately. Regardless of the diagnosis no healthcare provider should EVER have you feeling this way. It is just plain wrong. I applaud your self advocacy!! Sending you much strength and positivity on your journey of self discovery 💞✨
@@commonsense571 No one MAKES anyone else feel ANYTHING. You, and you alone, are in charge of your emotions. How do you know this person isn't reading something into the situation that simply wasn't there?
@@lisahinton9682 when you are visiting a psychiatrist, there is an expectation of professionalism and a duty of care. And when said ‘professional’ has limited experience and knowledge of autism in females, of COURSE it can make you feel something. We are conditioned to believe this person has way more knowledge so it causes us to question our own experiences. I too had a psychiatrist who caused me (in the moment) to feel this way. Human beings are deeply affected by our interactions with others, it is the way we have evolved to live in a society,
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with Bipolar, spent my whole life fighting bipolar. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
theres heaps of free authentic online tests I recently met a psychiatrist who specialises in this field and he put me onto them after doing a few you’ll have a very clear idea of where you sit on the spectrum
I'm 68. I've never understood how people work. I had a friend that I trusted teach me how to do the "hug greeting" when I was 65. Before that, I had always either avoided it or did this awkward bobbing dance, leaning the wrong way and then looking like those weird bird mating dances. I got pretty good at just shoving out my hand in front of myself for a handshake. Awkward, but less awkward than that dance. I have zero understanding of the majority of social cues and small talk makes me want to claw out my own eyes. I took some of those on-line tests and they were like if you score 27 you might be autistic.... as I stare at a score of 134. Does getting an actual diagnosis at this age really help?? I hope you answer even if the answer is no. Thank you.
@@Cy-bz9jh Nice work on getting the hug greeting down! I'm often doing the bird mating dance or just feeling awkward & anxious, "Too short? Long? Am I sweaty? Were they even expecting or wanting a hug?" I've been asking how or if diagnoses have helped people for a while now & feel quite conflicted as to whether it's something to pursue personally. Most people have said it helped them understand themselves. I think I need strategies & skills to function better, rather than a reason why I don't. But maybe that comes with understanding onesself? This is the first video I've seen where the topic of diagnosis was discussed as a possible negative & I'm interested to hear more of her thoughts on it. I hope you find the path that's right for you X
My ex-husband, who was high ranking USAF, worked WITH (not for) John Bolton (don’t ask my opinion about him) at the Department of State, and worked at Area 51, was diagnosed in 2009, with Asperger’s. Of course they no longer give that diagnosis and it’s just Levels 1-3. Here’s the kicker, I’m 60 and NEVER in a million years, as someone who is highly educated and highly experienced in working with (for decades) and observing CHILDREN with ASD, would have even considered I could be on The Spectrum. But after looking at the distinct differences in females and then sitting down to make a list of my own traits and behaviors, I now have a 9 page, single space, 12 pt Times New Roman don’t document that exhibits all the ways I fit the diagnosis. My evaluation is coming up in early August!
I’ve detached from “normal life” and chose to be a stay at home mom because it was the most I could do in the world without living in shutdown/meltdown. It’s the only way I could function with any Grace. Still many days I get overwhelmed, which lead me to try to understand why. As I have started homeschooling, I’ve also noticed things in my children that I did - and because they are being homeschooled, they aren’t treated as bad or wrong or disordered for doing them. Just recognized and accommodated and then we work thru the things that are disruptive so they can have a better experience and give a better experience to others (which is something highly sensitives want, even tho ASD sensitives may not inherently know how to achieve.) This lead me to research autism, which lead me to Embrace Autism. Been down the rabbit hole for a bit today. My results: MQ 4.7 (221/235) - more monotropic than 95% of autistic people and 100% of allistic people. RAADS-R: 193 (highest autistic score is 227 and anything over 160 is highly indicative of autism) Aspie Quiz: 160 of 200 (100% probability of being atypical) AQ score: 45 of 50 (“a score of 32 or higher tends to identify respondents with clinically significant levels of autism-related traits.”) This makes my entire life make so much sense. It actually kind of feels liberating - even though I know no one is going to believe it and everyone is going to think it’s a cop out. So I will just keep this information for me. Allow it to help me develop kinder tools to assist myself and my children, and be a better mother and wife.
No. I actually believe you and your research does help me a lot. I'll start my own journey of tests and researches. My congrats to you for accepting yourself as you are- whatever that may be (and it may actually be an invaluable asset, as it is. This I do not know yet, but maybe it is better than being "just normal". All the best🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀
Up until you posted your test results, I was thinking is this me? You see, I have yet to take the tests. It's so great seeing people getting validated after all these years. It feels great to be validated, too. ❤
Thank you for being available on RUclips Kim , I'm attempting another doctor tomorrow I will keep you all posted.... I'm 50 and all my life felt like I'm not from here (my soul took a wrong turn & landed on earth) my daughters are autistic Asperger's & ADHD xx
I NEVER felt like I belonged here either !!! I felt soooooo different like a foreigner & couldn't understand why! I'm 46 & just starting to appreciate how really different & sensitive I am . Much love
I just wanted to let you know my doctor heard me & asked me to fill in a questionnaire, I am not sure what he is going to do now (I have never been good at appointments I can't remember what he said either) it's a start I think 💚 love to everyone
I've benefited from taking notes while listening, giving myself time to write by pausing the video. Many videos also have a transcript which helps for following along.
I’ve always felt off and different from people in society. I’ve been misdiagnosed in the past. At first I got told I just had general learning disabilities. Then as an adult I got diagnosed with adhd. But I truly think I’m mildly autistic. The over sensitivity to everything hits home. The social difficulty resonates a lot with me as well. Told I’m annoying, I over share, I’m weird. My entire life lol. I’m married now, and have learned how to function most days, but the over stimulation and needing an off day, is so true for me.
I'm highly sensitive and AuDHD and this video is very good! I labeled myself as highly sensitive for a while before I started listening to content creators and psychologists and it was mind blowing to me. It felt like everything I experience and struggle with was validated and it has become a passion to understand more. It's very fascinating and now I understand why I've always felt like I'm a very complex person! Thank you so much for talking about it!
Well I just went to Embrace Autism and took several of the tests on their website, and it looks like - according to their tests - that I am not autistic. So I must be highly sensitive, because I relate to EVERYTHING you said about HSP.
I am a newly diagnosed with ASD. The neuropsychologist that diagnosed me told me that to understand my place on the spectrum that I am highly masking, highly functional, barely detectable on the autism spectrum with many tests. I am highly imaginative, I am highly empathetic and sensitive to others. But socializing is exhausting for me. I point this out because the way they screen for autism in women has been transformed very recently. The thing to understand about autism is that autistic brains process information differently. Sometimes that looks very different from the outside, other times not to much. If you have ADHD and autism, which the majority of autistic people do have co-occuring ADHD on top of their autism, you are probably not going to screen as autistic on online tests because ADHD masks the autism and the autism masks the ADHD. I think it is much more helpful to think back on your childhood and your experiences. Did you feel excluded socially? Were you bullied? Were you a picky eater? Did you engage in repetitive behaviors? Lots of my repetitive behaviors were inside my head. I would count things when I couldn't physically stim. I think that we can mask so thoroughly and completely that we've convinced ourselves we are "normal" when we are not. I still think "I can't be autistic because I have a sense of humor, I am not literal, I can engage in small talk easily", but the neuropsychologist told me she could spot my autism right away. She said that autistic women have a certain type of way we relax our faces. We seem more serious than the average person, It is hard to mask our resting face for hours.
Rather a lot of labelling going on in this world. Great video,in the end we have to find skills to cope with the world no matter our diagnosis. Sadly getting a good diagnosis mostly sucks
Thank you for all your videos on autism. I am 53 & was just diagnosed with autism & adhd. I thought it was trauma & it caused me to be an HSP! Someone in my family who works with autistic children still doesn't believe my diagnosis. They said it's just CPTSD.
@ladyhagaming it hurt, but she doesn't make light of CPTSD. She has it too, and I also know she loves me. She only knows what she was taught. I'm hoping she'll be willing to watch videos like this. If not, it's her choice
I read Elaine's books several years ago, and scored extremely high on HSP. I notice subtleties in body language, tone, what's said and unsaid. I also have fibromyalgia and CFS caused by a car wreck. I just want to express that these illnesses are possible with being a HSP and not just autistic. A lot of the medical community don't even recognize HSP. So, studies are sorely lacking.
And it all can overlap or hide other traits. I am very sure I would be diagnosed as Autist, but when I think back when I worked in science, all was different. People understood my jokes, and supposedly weird thoughts were considered interesting, and smart, not weird. So how much of my so called social awkwardness is people just not grasping what I am saying, so I tend to be quiet even more, and how much is really autism.
In Australia HSP stands for "Halal Snack Pack" which is a tray of fries topped with kebab meat, sometimes cheese, and a variety of sauces. Very tasty. Great video, very informative. But it also made me very hungry! 😂
Maybe you are right but I still believe they follow small-t / big-t traumas and I hope to prove it fully (in my case at least). After almost a decade of hell a Faster EFT coach seriously reduced my Mold / MCS symptoms in just 5x sessions. Good luck!
Needing recovery time and social struggles caught my attention. Eventually being alone became the sought after goal … It seems completely natural to keep people at a distance, and to have lost any desire for a partner. It is enormously stressful to interact with others for very long, yet I don’t really feel like I chose a solitary lifestyle, more like I do well with what others don’t tolerate well , conditions Funny , I once looked into being a Light House Keep, until I remembered they also have to use a fog horn.
Yes. Sudden change is really hard for me because of the need and comfort gained from routine, repetition and need to focus/fixate on something I’m passionate about. Currently in that place and it’s been really hard.
I am a 58 year old woman, and have read and watched so many things surrounding this topic since a health crisis a few years ago blew everything wide open and provided me with greater awareness of myself, and clarity about my whole life. I want to thank you for your work, and for this video, which finally absolutely confirms to me my suspicions of autism. Ticking every box here. It makes my whole life make sense, and will hopefully make the rest of it a little easier, with greater self compassion. This was a genuine gift to me . Thank you, with all my heart, Dr. Kim.
I've been diagnosed with anxiety, depression and PTSD/CPTSD. I'm still really struggling to ascertain if all of the social unease is due to these or whether I may also be autistic. I have to consciously make myself hold eye contact, i'm constantly processing in my mind what is an appropriate way to respond to someone i'm having a conversation with. I overshare a lot and am very sensitive to anything that I perceive as social rejection, but I also prefer time alone and don't like events where i'd be socially expected to interact with a lot of other people. At 37 years old i'm not sure what i'd gain from a diagnosis apart from a greater understanding/acceptance of myself as I don't believe any real support is offered for autistic people if they are deemed capable of work.
There seems to be a misunderstanding in the autistic community about the meaning of the word "disorder". It is not a derogatery term, but it is a way of allowing therapists to assess whether or not the condition is causing (severe) social, emotional or even physical distress and impairment for normal functioning. If so the diagnosis will allow you access to therapy, training, as well as give you the right to have extra aids and facilities available for you during education or at work. For example, noise blocking headphones, extra time to make a test, a seperate room to sit quietly, or an educational assistant to help with structuring school work. Those who fight the so called stigma of the word disorder and wish to see autism as some different ( and possibly in somevterms superior) wiring of the brain, greatly underestimate the debilitating impairments of some autistic people and the hardships of their caretakers. Some may never be able to support themselves independently. If your own symptoms are milder, consider yourself blessed, but please do not downplay this disorder, for you may harm those that depend on a clear diagnosis.
I can assure you that it IS a derogatory term. That is why real experts distinguish between clinically relevant, i.e. disease, and just a trait or personality structure. Please do not downplay the devastating effects such labels can have on careers, and lives in general.
@@NoName-pd7uf We really need to be careful how we describe personal characteristics. When I first started teaching special education, my students were called perceptually handicapped.
I'm confused but i see the world with pure heart, caring & loving the nature , animals and peoples ✨ Also have deep understanding.. I love to give happiness into others ❤️🌠
I am an empath which means I'm highly sensitive. However it is very clear that I'm not autistic. Having said that it is extremely interesting to me how much overlap I do have with autistic traits. What I think that most people don't get is that autism is just what we call a part of the spectrum of how the human brain works. It isn't actually separate. It seems to be separate because we have historically in this society only catered to what we were falsely taught to be what all humans were supposed to be like. The reality is that each of us are the very definition of what it means to be human for us. We are getting better at recognizing that we each have different needs and we are slowly changing the way we are setting up society to accommodate all of us... but we have a long way to go. Having said all this I may actually be labeled as autistic in the future simply because I do have too much empathy and have many similarities to my autistic counterparts. But I don't actually display the sensory problems more than most neuro-typical individuals. Peace.
A teacher asked me if I was a loner, others said I needed to come out of my shell, and one teacher said my friends weren’t as intelligent as me. I got no help, this was the 1980s.
43 years old.. and i hit the mark on almost all of these .. it’s been a long journey 😪 i didn’t talk till is was 5, not that i didn’t know how, i didn’t want to, everything was to intense .. im really good at seeing patterns in life, not good at maintaining friendships 🥺 that one hurt saying.. can’t wear on sleep on certain fabric ( i like 100 percent natural fabrics) in need a lot of alone time to make sense of things .. i fell into a drug addiction.. because everything was to intense ( im now almost 6 years sober 🙏🏻) i get over stimulated around to many people and stim ? i could go on.. but im sure others here know. btw im James 👋🏼 i wanna also remind you all out there how beautiful we are 🥹 we are creative, fun, caring, interesting.. we see life differently.. we see life in a vary special way.. and you are so special ❤ i also wanna say sorry if you have been hurt by others because they don’t understand. .. i truly believe we are like this for a purpose 🙏🏻 ❤️🩹
I've always felt this way. I could talk, but I chose not to because everything was so intense. I didn't want to break this silence. How can you talk when soooo much is going on? I feel like I came to this earth to observe, not to participate. My life has been so difficult, almost a constant suffering. When there are people around, it's hard. I always try to go as far away as possible, as alone as possible. I always tried to find places to hide to eat (sometimes I even went to hide in the toilet ;) ) like a small animal that needs to protect itself while eating. Just being there takes a lot out of me. Eating at the same time... a major challenge. When I'm in nature, alone with the majesty of the trees, I feel infinitely good (and even more so if there are animals - I feel good with animals(I like talking to crows when I see them :D - I say to them if they squawks: ''don't be afraid, I am Marianne, I am a good girl''. Ha ha! I just make sure I'm alone in the vicinity ;) ;) ), they and I speak the same language ;) ).
My granddaughter is definitely a highly sensitive person. She is still dealing with the trauma caused by her alcoholic, unstable mother, and she also deals with OCD. She’s 16 now and could probably tick off most of the boxes for autism, but she had no noticeable indicators as an infant and young child. I have quite a few indicators myself, and I recently read an article about the possibility of something like sub clinical autism, where the indicators are present, but not to the degree where a clinical diagnosis of autism could be given. I’m not fond of crowded, noisy places, but have discovered if I stay on the fringes, those situations are more tolerable. I don’t like small talk because I don’t like talking to people in general, unless it’s someone I know. I like to stick to certain routines, and feel a little unsettled if things are out of order, but at 73 years of age, 53 years of marriage, 4 kids and 3 grandkids, I’ve learned to adapt, even if it’s uncomfortable and irritable. Anyway, who knows… but great video and great info.
@@ladyhagamingyes, autism and OCD can go hand in hand, but my granddaughter’s traits didn’t begin in early childhood, only after she began experiencing the trauma caused by her mother, starting when she was about 10. Thanks for the input.
@@katherinehealy6534 my ocd seemed to be triggered when stress and trauma when I was a tween. I was an undiagnosed with autism as a child and no one thought I had autistic traits as a child, but now looking back, my adults at the time realized they were there the whole time and I learned to mask real quickly so many of the traits can be hidded. so I wouldn't rule out the possibility of having the diagnosis of both
Have you looked into CPTSD (Complex PTSD)? Dr. Kim has a fairly recent video comparing it with autism. You might also find Heidi Priebe's channel helpful for info on CPTSD.
What makes you think that your granddaughter is a highly sensitive person? It can appear the same as trauma symptoms. SPS has a positive side too though.
I especially cant stand it when bill collectors ask "how are you today?".....i mean really?? Not only is small talk pointless, but i KNOW you dont care how im doing
To me as a European (Dutch) that is not just a "bill collector's" thing, but ALL AMERICANS. If a Dutch person (bill collector or not) asks you how you are doing, they ask because they are interested and WANT and expect to hear your real answer, because we CARE!
@@Keyboardje not just Americans, Swiss, Turks, other cultures, too. I am Swiss, and I had to outright train myself to ask how people are before saying anything else to a client. People are shocked if you are answering anything other than "fine, thx, hbu". My Finnish teacher told me even Finns ask that as small talk, and Finland is the country where being silent for an hour counts as a nice visit or party.
Small Talk maybe pointless to you but to somebody that is very socially awkward it makes a big difference whenever you are having to interact with somebody. Whenever my brain is literally exploding with anxiety I have to be saying something I feel like I'm going to explode. So small talk is not pointless to everybody and not everyone is thinking like you are saying. I do care if I ask because otherwise I feel like my brain is going to explode. I do care if I am asking. Otherwise I wouldn't waste my breath
I thought HSP was sorta "debunked" meanwhile, as in that Elaine Aaron based this HSP concept on her nephews or some kind of relatives, and those were later diagnosed as autistics. Maybe HSPs exist but at least the ones that birthed the original idea were actually just ASD, so that does not hold up anymore. Has it been renewed based on other research?
Yes me too because she has a gift of explaining that helps us see these complex ways we may be different and accept them and even finally to be able to thrive in life with joy! Thank you Dr. 😅👏👏💐🙋♀️🌞
I also think it would be useful to distinguish between autism, HSP and social anxiety/social awkwardness, as I think there's a fair bit of overlap between these. Also, I think empathy is in many ways a socially conditioned trait, I feel like I needed to learn how to appropriately express empathy as a kid. Many kids aren't necessarily empathetic, e.g. they'll torment bugs out of curiosity or for the fun of it. I've always been sensitive and socially anxious. Been considering if autism might be a part of it for quite a while, but I'm still very conflicted on whether it applies to me or not - mainly because I don't have extreme sensory sensitivities and feel like my special interests aren't intense/obsessive enough.
SPS is definitely not autism. Too often when people discribe SPS they don't include extroverts who make up approximately 30% of HSPs or high sensation seakers or HSPs who've been brought up in a healthy environment. Even HSPs who have trauma have a higher ability for healing than non HSPs. Someone can be HSP and autistic. Being autistic doesn't mean that someone is 'highly sensitive' as in HSP/SPS.
Thank you, Dr Kim.😊 Early this year, I was dx as autistic and adhd at 62 yrs old. I love the Embrace Autism website, and I follow a content creater's channel who's also autistic and adhd called Mom on the Spectrum. I'm glad that I found you! 😊
I'm an Aspie. Thank you so much for this video. You've explained so many symptoms (which) I can't explain. I'm 46, got my diagnosis when I was 41 and I'm continuing on my personal adventure to understand myself better so I can learn to adapt to function in a world that is not made for a person like myself. I'm going to add you to my list of experts who I follow and learn from. Live long and prosper! (L)
Small talk is a lie. It's the equivalent of saying. 'Tell me that everything is fine and dandy in your world so I can assure my ego that there are no problems in the world and my delusion is safe and secure.' I refuse to answer the question. 'How are you?' The asker doesn't care. They just want validation.
@@theryn4376 Yes. Occasionally it's a person that you know and they are asking a genuine question. But in the context of small talk. It is always a lie. I know because I have told the truth. People get visibly annoyed or dismissive. I have said nothing and people get butt hurt with a 'how dare you be so rude to me' face. I tell the lie that they want to hear and it makes them happy to have their ego affirmed. Small talk is a lie. I agree with David Mitchell. Abolish small talk and replace it with open, honest massive talk.
I used to think like you, but over the years my thinking has changed about that. Most of the time the words "How are you?" are meant to be open-ended enough of a question to allow someone the space to share whatever they are comfortable to in the moment. It is a way to say to someone "I would like to know you more" without being too pushy. If someone is not in the mood to talk or share anything about themselves, they can always just say "ok". If someone wants to share more, they may say how they are feeling then tell why they are feeling that way.
I was told by English speaking person that it is rude to talk about our problems when someone asks us "how are you?". to that, I stated that asking the question makes absolutely no sense, and that is probably one of the reasons why there are so many depressed people.
Great video. I do need to research this more. I am hyper sensitive. I have fybromyalgia. I am also known as very safe person. I also don’t make eye contact with people. I said to a friend that I LOVE people and spending time with them but I don’t have the songs, you might call them, of what to say to people. I find spending time with them absolutely exhausting. My friend comes from an extremely safe home. I blamed my upbringing because my parents prided themselves on the great put downs they would come up with. Maybe this is a more accurate reason. I do know that I need to sit on the end whether it is a dinner with best friends a movie or a conference. I need to research this more. I do know that even making phone calls to set up important medical appointments really bothers me even though it is no big deal. Thanks for the test idea. I will definitely be researching this more.
I was just dx’d ND, but have always been a HSP, but have, as you said, am high functioning & also have several comorbidities/mental illnesses (ADHD/CPTSD/3 anxiety dx’s, BPD, BP1, MDD), and when I learned, in 222, that I was ASD, so much of my life made sense! I’m in Trauma Therapy & have a great PsyMD (neuropsychiatrist) & support from friends & family. I also suffered a TBI in October of 2021, which led to my AuDHD/ASD dx. Thank you for your videos & insight, bc it makes us feel seen & heard. Much love & light from N.C., Ms. Kim!❤
I'm so sorry to say that this video is extremely confusing in terms of emeshment of HSP vs Autism like never before! Your description of both are very much intertwined which is NOT HELPFUL at all!!! I can feel your anxiety through the phone screen which confirms that your info is very erratic!
As a highly sensitive empath, I have struggled with anxiety and depression for 40 years. I realized however that I was not able to express myself to the degree I was feeling, and so the core issue was a spiritual deficiency, not a prozac or lithium deficiency. Having a vision in my life allowed me to work toward a long term goal and expressing myself writing songs and singing. However, I have fully recovered from all depression and anxiety as I no longer feel this darkness any more. This is a recent breakthrough this week. A couple weeks ago I still was struggling. It is fully gone now this feeling. I feel like my life is just beginning. It was a gradual experience though bc I have done holotropic breathwork, energy work, reiki, cranio sacral therapy, lymphatic bodywork, neuromuscular therapy, gestalt, hypnosis, meditation, yoga, soul retrieval, endless tears, and prayer gradually allowed me to fully transform the darkness into light while embracing both
I don't really like the term 'empath' - it's like some elitist new age garble. Empaths are just highly emotional people, usually having dealt with trauma as a child. It's not a title.
@@vingedheart Empaths that go through trauma and develop specialized hyper awareness and extra sensory perception have fine-tuned their emotions to an advanced degree.
@@EnergyCenterTV I agree that that's why we are more empathic - but a lot of people who call themselves 'empath' aren't even aware of that. They see it as some 'special' title like 'Indigo children' that I am not a fan of either.
These videos are so helpful when it comes to gaining perspective and knowledge. I'm currently 'investigating' myself, have quite certainly ruled out a few things and found others that where a much better fit. Not ready to go seeking an actual diagnosis yet, but amongst other things my work situation tells me that maybe I should. It'll probably take years to get an assessment.
I think that the label of being "highly sensitive" might help people who feel stigmatized by the label of autism. As a newly diagnosed autistic woman who is also "highly sensitive" I think this is sad. The more people we can bring under the umbrella of neurodivergency the stronger we can be when we try to advocate for ourselves. Because I can tell you there are lots of people out there that want to keep autism as a stigmatized condition and they spread disinformation about what we know it is, and how it manifests in different people. This is particularly true for organizations that represent parents of autistic kids, like Autism Speaks. That organization spreads junk science, caters to the idea that parents are victimized by their autistic kids, and works to conflate intellectual disability with autism. Their survival as the best funded organization for autism centers on keeping the association of autism as a childhood disease, instead of recognizing that autistic kids grow up to be autistic adults, and we need resources too We will spend most of our lives as adults, after all.
Very informative. I have a friend who is HSP and I will send her this video. She sent me a book about it and I related to everything in it but I am more severe. I did an Autism test and I off the scale in certain areas but don't fit the stereotype in others it made me realise that a lot of things I did and do to get me through the day are coping mechanisms and masking. I am also 90% mute. No coping mechanism can cope with shutdowns and long periods of recovery. Replaying everything in my head until I could process and move on. A living nightmare at times.
I rarely get sick and have little allergies but I have a lot of the autism traits and ADHD. I'm very empathetic, I stem, I need structure and routine but have yet to figure it out, I am very direct, I can't read between the lines and despise people who speak in riddles or circles. I need deep connections, have no friends, a history of broken friendships, relationships and familyships. I've walked alone in life since 27. I need direct communication. Wjen working, I need a specific list of direction before I ca begin.
I have been going down the rabbit hole, trying to see what this whole "autism" thing is all about. Today, during this video, i burst out in tears when i realized that i am, in fact, autistic. It's no longer a question in my mind. What put me over the edge was the part about self soothing. Keep up the great work, Dr. Sage
Well.done I hope you are OK I'm.not sure about me but my son has aspetgets I'm.definatly on ADhd I have most if what she dr Sage is saying too empathy as well.tjank God
I FINALLY got my official autism diagnosm after a second opinion with health care professionals. Had to "fight" for it SO hard, took me 1.5 year in total. And now, after fightening all the way, i feel nothing about it anymore.😢 i hope the feeling will return & i can get more peace with it
I have (self-diagnosed) bipolar, anxiety, social anxiety, CPTSD, extreme HSP and aspergers. The list goes on and on. I'm a recluse now, but I was abused as a child, which caused trauma. As an adult, I chose a career as a merchandiser, which was a bad mistake. I also had my own mentally abusive nuclear family. I moved alone, quit my day job (to become an independent artist), gradually cut off all contact with everyone. All this helped me a lot, but my mind was tormenting me about my past. The only solution for me was my spiritual awakening, which finally got me off the hook of that vicious circle that tormented my mind.
Spiritual awakening is the only constant thing I can rely on. Thank you for sharing your life changing with spirituality, because it's rare in this current world.
I think I have to be autistic. I know I have adhd but things don’t fully line up.. it’s far more severe. And maybe so bad I don’t even know where to go for a diagnosis.
Thanks for the food for thought. I've always claimed neurodivergence for several reasons but you're the first person who has made me truly consider if I am autistic. I have an autistic son and he struggles so much with social stuff and doesn't read social cues well. I have always said I would be autistic if not for that I DO read people especially well and am highly aware of social stuff and unspoken social cues such as subtle body language that most don't pick up on. I have extreme sensory issues as well as the other traits including hypermobility disorder. Now I'm thinking I am more like you and I have learned to excel at reading these social cues because I am an expert scanner, which I think is my nature but then I also had to become and expert because of my traumatic childhood. I have been in a similar field or work to you, as well. I chuckled about the eating others' food at gatherings, too, since potlucks are my nightmare!
I don’t know whether I’m highly sensitive or autistic. I’m English. I’ve spoke to many psychiatrist and they have put me forward for a diagnosis. I think this self diagnosis thing is rubbish. You are either autistic or you are not. Yes, maybe I have black-and-white thinking but you cannot diagnose yourself or identify yourself to be more precise as autistic if you have not had a review. Unfortunately, I couldn’t watch the whole video because I was triggered by the vocal fry.
I found out last year at age 64 that I have autism spectrum disorder. A few months before that, I learned that I am a.d.h.d., ocd, and dyslexia. 😮 Last year was complex with kidney cancer and 5 1/2 hours of major surgery. My surgery was a success, which I would enjoy more, but my daughter, my brother, his wife, my nephew, and their 2 daughters, All Abandoned me! Last December, the hospital had to send me home knowing that I had no family. No emergency call person now for 7 months They would say that when I get excited, my voice volume goes high. Also, I am stupid, or weird, too much for them. Nothing is good enough for me. I do not know much good info on my unique traits, HELP NEEDED, PLEASE
I’m going to need this video after my evaluation because I have a strong feeling I have ASD. And I know my family and friends are NOT going to be accepting of it!
I'm starting to get a fairly pessimistic view of all of this. Hypervigilance means you can read microexpressions well, and you can tell when people are 'faking' and masking. Most people have a dishonest view of themselves to protect their ego. They'll fight tooth and nail to say you're reading them wrong, you're not empathetic. They want you to empathize with the fantasy version of themselves, not with the real person in front of you. I think 'high functioning / high masking' autistic people are dealing with a lot of stress and trauma (stimmung, masking, etc) and have been trained to be hypervigilant. What if this is gaslighting, and there's literally nothing 'wrong' with us?
Do I really care? I don't think I do. I've lived with me all my life and knowing something new like that really wouldn't impact my life one bit. I am kinda pissed tho that I've been put under a microscope and dissected for someone elses curiosity. On the real, turn that high powered microscope on yourself and tell me what you see. Really, I'm not special at all. Concentrate your energy else where
I can relate to so much of this but wouldn’t have considered autism. I am very highly sensitive, highly empathetic and make eye contact. It is only recently that I realised during conversation that I am asking myself to remember to look away and not hold constant eye contact. I hate small talk, hate being in social situations and am exhausted by them. I have learned to ask people questions about themselves if I have to try to make conversation. I have always felt different and not sure where I fit in. I consider myself extremely intelligent and wonder now if I do have autism but have been masking. I have Fibromyagia, ME/CFS, POTS and other coxmorbidities.
I'm a veteran, was actually addicted to cigarettes and alcohol. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder, got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
YES very sure of mycologist Predroavaro. This treatment worked for me. Helped me got rid of my life long depression and BPD.
So happy for you, brother that you found mushrooms. I struggle with some of the same issues and mushrooms helped me immensely as well. God bless you keep
fighting the good fight.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
I am an introvert. I was a very quietly spoken child and teenager. I rarely talked to anyone because I lacked social skills and the ability to express myself openly. I was a passive naive young person. I preferred to be alone and do what I wanted in my spare time. I am not a misanthropic person because I have dealt with my inner demons and come to terms with who I am. The fact that I grew up in a toxic family who physically, emotionally, and verbally abused me made me hate everyone until I became an adult.
I never knew what an introvert was until I read Dr Carl Jung's books about different personalities and archetypes. I also read Emotional Intelligence and other self-help books which improve myself.
I dislike being classified into various labels, negative stereotyping and being pigeonholed into a category by certain therapists.
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Well said
OMG, you mentioned the satin on the blanket!
I'm 45 and still sleep with my baby blanket because of the feeling of the satin trim on it. It's so shredded and worn, but man, I have never found a satisfying replacement. Also, squeezing BIC lighters in my hand. I haven't smoked in 11 years, but that feeling of a BIC lighter in my hand helps me enter a highly creative trance state. I don't know anyone else like me in this way.
I just took the Autism Spectrum Quotient test you recommended and scored a 38.
I am new to following you, and now I think you are so cool for making this video. Thanks
Not the lighter but my child has a satin blanket and has been diagnosed with Autism.
@@Tricia-xo6fq I'm curious which came first? Did you get the blanket after the diagnosis?
I've seen highly autistic kids with spoons in their hands. I assume the BIC lighter serves the same purpose for me. Lighters are more condensed, and the BIC brand has nice contours for comfortable clenching. I know it's so weird, but clenching the lighters triggers my brain to create visuals for manifesting.
Squeezing the satin on the blanket at night is just comforting for sleep. It's the cooling sensation in my hand that I crave. Again, I know it's so weird, but I learned to do this before I could even speak, and I stuck with it.
@@mindfulmaximalism Well, they say "my baby blanket", so clearly it came first, not the diagnosis.
@@handebarlas6248 Actually, she said her child had a satin blanket. Have you had your eyes checked recently?
Thank you so much for this video. Very important content.
My parents thought when my pediatrician said I had minimal brain dysfunction in 1963 they thought he was telling them I was mildly retarded. (Words used back then) So that was how I was treated. Like there was no hope for me and no one wanted to waste their time with me. I also had seizures. I had many behaviors and sensory issues that is normally associated only with Autism but I was higher functioning and had language. I had really bad sensory issues. I had my downs. Everything you said about autism applies to me. But didn’t find out till my mid life. Cognitively my IQ rest they gave me in grade school showed I was in the superior intelligence level but my mom said I could not use my intelligence when I asked about it a year later. I was one confused and lonely child. Although I absolutely prefer being alone more times than not I still craved humanity interactions. Because of the seizures and the TBI I had at birth people didn’t let their kids play with me because they thought I was as mentally ill and retarded. People were so ignorant to seizures back then.
I was born in 1960 and people didn’t understand a lot of things that they do now in the 21st-century. I’ve never been able to keep friends. I’ve had two close friends my whole entire life. I do everything alone with no problem. But I have phobias up the ying Yang. Oh I have written too much but I get so stimulated when another piece of the puzzle falls into place for me. Thank you for taking the time to make that video.
Also, I wanted to add because I did not notice. I have the zebra disease and so did my dad. We were both quite stretchy and bendy ours was the common connective tissue type, but I was blessed not to have it too bad. Ehlers Danios survive things that they mean pop up and listen.
Thank you for sharing your story! I was born in 82
I can relay in a lot of ways that a lot of the way that people treated me was that I was just a little bit dumber than everybody else.
Almost as if I had a plague
I too had an IQ test
At 3 years old and tested very high
However I have a twin sister
I did not know until recently,
After two of my younger children were diagnosed ASD
About female masking.
I've always known I was sensitive and my mother always told me how sensitive I was
I took it as it was a weakness, a flaw.
Education is power. 💪
I was labeled as retarded by my 3rd grade teacher. This was in the 1970s. I think my mom knew there was something different about me, it turned out I have a very high IQ, but I was so clumsy, I couldn't tell time, and my processing speed for learning my multiplication tables was the worst in my class. I was 2 yrs behind in reading. By the time I was in 6th grade I was reading at a collegiate level. Autistic brains are weird like that. We have what is called a "spikey profile".
My cousin was diagnosed with autism in the early 70s. My brother had what they termed "hyperactive kinetic disorder" in the 1960s, that diagnosis is called ADHD today.
I am sorry you went through being labeled as retarded. As someone who was labeled that I understand how it follows you around for the rest of your life. I went back to college around 30 yrs old and became a scholar with perfect grades partially to prove to myself I wasn't mentally retarded. It was like I was running away from it.
It's disgusting what I telling advanced people have to deal with...a planet of ignorant apes it seems..
It is better to have fewer good friends than many fake ones. You are not the only one with 2 friends. Did your seizures continued in adulthood?
Very helpful, thank you, as always. For me the route was finding HSP in 2011 but it didn’t explain everything. Then while searching for hyperempathy vs HSP I found similar women on the wrongplanet website, then found Intense World Theory, then read everything I could find. Autism is clear in me, my eggshell father (w/daily meltdowns), and other family. I am so glad to see the rise in awareness in other high-masking women. I hope your status as a psychologist helps other psychologists not be so ignorant about autism in AFABs. I’m 59, and so wish I had known about autistic me and my autistic father decades ago. Lots of grief. Having read Neurotribes and everything else I could find on autism and its history, I’m so disgusted by how badly both psychiatry and psychology have screwed this up. My psychiatrist (for TRD that’s hard to parse from autistic burnout& is likely both plus PTSD) said in 2012 that I “wasn’t odd enough”🙄 . I don’t talk about it much w/him or therapist, they just don’t want to know, want it to all be trauma. I’ve always told people close to me that I deserve an Oscar, so the recent “discovery” of masking has been so helpful in understanding myself. I also have hEDS and a bunch of the other comorbidities that also were late-diagnosed. Medicine has also really failed us. Thank you for your work and for sharing it with us. I look forward to your videos!
It’s feel weird that I completely relate to all of this but it feels like such a trend right now. It sucks when you can relate and have struggled your whole life but now it’s such a trend and everyone thinks they have ADHD, Autism or both. Makes me want to hide more.
Everyone probably does. We are all suffering tremendously on this unhealthy planet.
Love your content and stretch to think about the over-laps. You’ve mentioned your marriage quite a few times, and I’m sure your focus is directed towards your children’s lives and career development. I hope at some point you could explain how your understandings of relationships dynamics from childhood… marriage…. Has influenced your choices and decisions in new relationships since your divorce and have they been successful because of your evolving interpersonal awareness’s. How are you challenging your own dynamics? Just food for another video to share what your relationship journey has been like in this last 17 years. It’s always helpful for me to see through the lens of real life experiences. Thank you Kim
Have you looked at the research on very high IQ people? They tend to have those highly sensitive tendencies, among other things mentioned here. But not the autistic tendencies. They have many interests and go wide and deep with those interests. They don't have the need for routine and repetition and actually crave novelty. They prefer dealing with abstract concepts rather than the concrete. They have interpersonal difficulties for different reasons ... They take in stimuli and learn and think at a much higher speed and remember a lot more than normal IQ individuals, making communication and interaction more difficult. They do often mask to 'fit in, particularly women. They do need more time alone to recover from these interpersonal difficulties as well as to persue their interests. Because there are so few of them, they were rarely mirrored by anyone when growing up and find it hard to locate others like themselves. But I think the neural divergence causes some of the issues you mention here.
Your video was so well done, so informative and so compassionate.
I'd just like to say that you have such a nice, calming voice. I just went to the Autism site and the bright colors and too many choices completely overwhelmed me, and I had to click out of it. I'll try again at some point. The characters also move; it's like, "Look at me!" All I felt was panic.
Can you do a similar breakdown on HSP vs ADHD?
Wow❤This is a brilliant video. Ive been HSP since I can remember,everything you say here really resonates with me and no doubt many others ❤
Hmmm. I took the Autism quotient test at the website you mentioned. I scored 26 out of 50, which was the cut off point. I might be on the Spectrum. 52%. However, on Dr. Aron's HSP test, I scored 75%. DEFINITELY, I have the HSP temperament! There is no doubt about it...
I am an INFP-A. I tend to rely on my intuition (N). 99 times out of 100, my gut reaction is correct! I have learned to pay attention to my instincts! I think that everyone has intuition to a greater or lesser degree...
I used to be an INFJ. Over time, I have developed more right brain spontaneity. I remember when I needed more routine. But, now, being able to "go with the flow" is a skill that I have learned. I LIKE to think on my feet! 😀
I wouldn't be against having the Autism diagnosis. But, it sounds like I am more of an HSP... Thank you so much for making this video! I have wanted to know for some time whether or not I have autism, myself! Me and my husband have 11 year old twins who are on the Spectrum. Hopefully, with the knowledge you have given me, I will be better able to help those Precious Little Ones make the most of every situation they encounter in the future! Thanks again! Take care. Susan
I’d love for you to talk about being in a relationship with someone who is autistic.
For the record I have eaten food at meetings and gotten very ill.
The first thing I noticed is that you have Arizona green tea wallpaper.
Love it!! You're so observant. Nice. 😊😊😊
17:26, many with sex chromosome abnormalities (SCA’s), like Klinefelter Syndrome, Jacobs Syndrome, etc, carry the comorbidity of autism. 13:26, in my life, the autism, and the ADHD, seem to balance each other. Having only one, or the other, would not be very nice. Good video. I feel better.
I am autistic and have ADHD. Never knew until just a couple yrrs ago so i definitely masked and found addictions of many. It wasnt until i started to heal that i found out.
Wait, did HSP become a DSM diagnosis???
Very thorough descriptions of these traits.
Thank you for this I have been wondering for awhile now if I am hsp or HIgh masking Autism as my children are autistic I in the past just thought it is hsp this video points to my suspicion is correct oh and I have ADHD traits to boot hope you do a video on the combination of ADHD and Autism
Since my grandson was born(and the secondly in his baby sister) I have felt like I finally understood myself a little better! My youngest brother also has an autistic son. I can remember being excited about school, but being afraid of being noticed, being bullied and feeling different. My uncles telling me I didn't walk like a girl and always had my nose in a book. My mom telling me I used to drive her crazy with too many questions. Being hyper aware, hated unexpected or loud noises, very picky eaters in our line.
Yep, very shy, wanted to lose myself in Nature. Very much either being over-prepared or procrastinating. Love music, art, and patterns. I have a stim.
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Nice summary of comparisons, very useful
Thank you for your video. It is very interesting and educating. I learned important things. I am pleased that I found your video. I have subscribed to your channel.
Just like "autistic" was some well defined trait... It's not though.
It's just a abstract word that is used to *try* to categorise people's behaviours...
I could not be more sick of this. Total insult to the thousands of parents of "autism" that I have known over the past 25 years. Their kids will never be independent. Many won't speak. If you're an adult and you can talk, live independently, don't need diapers or have seizures, are able to go to college and hold a job, you are NOT autistic. Leo Kanner first described autism. It was 1 in 10,000. Today's "autism" is NOTHING resembling Kanner's autism. And no, it's not better diagnosis. There were no undiagnosed kids with "autism " when I was growing up. Being HSP doesn't make you autistic. People were born with Kanner's autism. Developing normally and regressing severely after VAX is today's "autism". Kanner's term autism was coopted to hide vaccine injury. Today's autism stems from neurological damage and destroyed gut health. Heavy metals and live measles virus in the gut. Having autism in the DSM is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever seen in my life. Those I know who have recovered their children did so with biomedical intervention, not psychology.
The feeling is mutual . We are also sick of people like you
Everyone with autism needs to read GAPS by Natasha Campbell Mcbride
Thank you 🙏 that was very helpful
I was always called a diva when I was a teenager because I was just too shy to speak to people. As someone now 29 years old I was just told by a psychiatrist that I may be autistic. My mum before her passing always identified with HSP but was told she had BPD and bipolar and got treatment according to those diagnosis. After 30 years of treatment nothing worked for her and she committed suicide. I wonder if she was highly masking autistic person like me and never got the right treatment.
So helpful, thank you so much !
I completely fit the definition you read of HSP. Autism: got a diagnosis, and getting to know other autistics was very validating... Check. AQ: Check. Autism creators: Check (that and recognising some autistics via their comments on the Net). World is intense - have learned to regulate (learned early to take time out, to go outside to have natural light). Check. Trail of broken friendships: Check. (Neurotypicals read into my motives and project their issues onto me.) Definitely miss social cues. Check. (Am absolute rubbish at reading indirect communication.) Bottom up processing style: Check. Special interests. Check. (Politics and decorating. However, I know about a lot of things because of ADHD.) Routine... nope... ADHD masks; I like spontaneity, need novelty. Communication style direct and authentic: Check. Self soothing: Check. (Have discarded some of them, but have ME/CFS and when I have enough energy, some stimming behaviors re-enters my life.) ADHD - don't require structure.... don't even like it. Less of a need for knowing context in advance - again ADHD. Hyper-empathy: Check. More effort when interacting with others: Check. Connective tissue disorder/fibromyalgia/allergies/chemically sensitive: Check. Have CPTSD: Check.
Think that ADHD can muddy the water. I am not uncomfortable meeting others; I don't panic. I love how the ADHD compensates and makes me interested in so many topics.
I’m now in my mid 50’s and I have always felt different. I never understood how I was different, just that I was different to others. I’m very sensitive and I remember as a child my older sister laughing at me and mocking me, particularly in front of my relatives. I remember how embarrassed and humiliated she made me feel. To this day if I see someone being mocked or teased I see the discomfort that person is feeling and I try to distract them in a nice way so that they don’t feel embarrassed or humiliated. My son has been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD. I understand that both are hereditary and I believe I too have both. I have not had contact with my siblings for almost eight years because I finally realised that I don’t deserve to be poorly treated by those that I have known all my life simply because they are related to me.
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Thank you, I also was bullied and made fun of by my sister in front of friends and family. I stepped away for over 10 years now but she has been trying to reconnect again. I don’t trust her.
This sounds just like me! I've had no contact with my siblings for over a decade now. They treated me terribly! It took me so long to realise. We deserve to be treated with respect and it serves us and our mental health to remove ourselves from painful relationships. I am also in my 50's and only last year did I find out it may be ASD and ADHD. It explains my whole life! Find the people that help you feel good and I will too. 🙏 x
Agreed. Sending 🫂
Good for you for staying no contact. Home is where we feel safe 🙏
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Ann Brandon.
She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
God is more than enough for us, and his mercy is new every morning.
Being significantly disregulated by the hyper materialistic,insular, isolated society we've built seems like a healthy human response . We need extensive family groups and connection to nature. Instead we've encased ourselves in concrete with a bunch of chemicals. Fewer and fewer are thriving in this.
Yes, and the more society becomes materialistic and narcissistic, the more it creates suffering, and the more people try to compensate acting selfishly, like chain reaction in a nuclear bomb .
This comment makes me happy I work in play-based outdoor all-weather year-round early childhood camp/schools.
@@flowersafeheart Way more of that please.
THIS. I'm definitely an HSP, maybe autistic, but I think you'd have to be nuts to think the way culture forces us to live is healthy or normal. All I want to do is walk my dog through parks and gardens and look at the flowers. It's all so unbelievably beautiful, but I'm always alone because no matter how many people I invite to come with me, they all want to do is zoom around having status competitions and being fake with people they hardly know. And yes, probably with chemicals on concrete. We're living wrong. HSPs/autistic, whatever you want to call them, are just the ones who see and feel the level of sickness that is the rest of the world. Maybe we're just the old souls who've mostly outgrown this planet.
@@doctorberkowitz Fake! Everything feels fake. It also feels impossible to ignore.
This is so my life. I have always been the odd one out. Been accused of being annoying, needing structure, rocking side to side or swinging my foot, can't handle being in large groups of people very long without becoming agitated, over sharing, sensitive to materials and food textures, etc., and never knowing Why! Until my son was diagnosed with high functioning autism. When I was researching, trying to help my son, I came upon all of this information and I just, wow, this is me, too! I always tried to hide it because I was made fun of a lot by my 4 older sisters. I'm 68 years old now and can say, I'm me and I'm not putting that mask on for anyone any more. It's been a ride! 😊
Congrats!! At 62, I have finally found out why I was not like them my whole life! I wish you the best-now you and I can start living our own true lives.😊
Same, omg the nervous foot thing.. rocking side to side .. not liking crowds ( my brother also) over sharing... Etc.
Theres no such thing as a normal human being, we all have different traits going on
@@angelstarr495 I didn't say anything about “normal“.
@@magiegainey5036 what i meant is that you cant put anyone into a bracket, we are all individuals..
My psychiatrist was not very nice when I brought this up. I brought up ADHD first and he responded with "everybody has ADHD now and you can't even get the meds because everybody is taking it". He made me feel so uncomfortable that I didn't even bring up the autism. I had a full sheet of paper to go over with him, but he made me feel so dumb that I didn't bother. He sent me out for ADHD testing and once I'm through with that, I'm switching doctors.
I’m SOO glad to hear you’re switching immediately. Regardless of the diagnosis no healthcare provider should EVER have you feeling this way. It is just plain wrong. I applaud your self advocacy!!
Sending you much strength and positivity on your journey of self discovery 💞✨
@@commonsense571 Thanks for your support ❤❤
@@commonsense571
No one MAKES anyone else feel ANYTHING. You, and you alone, are in charge of your emotions.
How do you know this person isn't reading something into the situation that simply wasn't there?
Change doctors as fast as you can. Lack of compassion is harmful. Glad you are on top of this and wish you the best!
@@lisahinton9682 when you are visiting a psychiatrist, there is an expectation of professionalism and a duty of care. And when said ‘professional’ has limited experience and knowledge of autism in females, of COURSE it can make you feel something. We are conditioned to believe this person has way more knowledge so it causes us to question our own experiences. I too had a psychiatrist who caused me (in the moment) to feel this way.
Human beings are deeply affected by our interactions with others, it is the way we have evolved to live in a society,
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with Bipolar, spent my whole life fighting bipolar. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Hey! Yes Mr.medmushies
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
I found out I have autism by such a test. It explains alot now at age 60. All my life I felt misunderstood.
How to afford $3000 for a test though?
theres heaps of free authentic online tests
I recently met a psychiatrist who specialises in this field and he put me onto them
after doing a few you’ll have a very clear idea of where you sit on the spectrum
I'm 68. I've never understood how people work. I had a friend that I trusted teach me how to do the "hug greeting" when I was 65. Before that, I had always either avoided it or did this awkward bobbing dance, leaning the wrong way and then looking like those weird bird mating dances. I got pretty good at just shoving out my hand in front of myself for a handshake. Awkward, but less awkward than that dance. I have zero understanding of the majority of social cues and small talk makes me want to claw out my own eyes. I took some of those on-line tests and they were like if you score 27 you might be autistic.... as I stare at a score of 134. Does getting an actual diagnosis at this age really help?? I hope you answer even if the answer is no. Thank you.
@@Cy-bz9jh Nice work on getting the hug greeting down! I'm often doing the bird mating dance or just feeling awkward & anxious, "Too short? Long? Am I sweaty? Were they even expecting or wanting a hug?"
I've been asking how or if diagnoses have helped people for a while now & feel quite conflicted as to whether it's something to pursue personally. Most people have said it helped them understand themselves. I think I need strategies & skills to function better, rather than a reason why I don't. But maybe that comes with understanding onesself? This is the first video I've seen where the topic of diagnosis was discussed as a possible negative & I'm interested to hear more of her thoughts on it. I hope you find the path that's right for you X
@@waynefay8210 Do you know where I can find these authentic tests or could you provide any links? Thanks.
Also high intelligence can impact the traits that are mentioned here.
IT IS NOT A DISORDER, it’s a different way in which a brain is wired.
Agreed!!!!
We must label it sadly! Annoying! I think this is true of
Highly sensitive people too
1000%
You are absolutely correct.
I found a definition that it always involves a slow developing frontal lobe?
As a person w aspergers, diagnosed by a doctor when I just turned 20 in year 2001... it truly has been a journey of acceptance....
My ex-husband, who was high ranking USAF, worked WITH (not for) John Bolton (don’t ask my opinion about him) at the Department of State, and worked at Area 51, was diagnosed in 2009, with Asperger’s. Of course they no longer give that diagnosis and it’s just Levels 1-3.
Here’s the kicker, I’m 60 and NEVER in a million years, as someone who is highly educated and highly experienced in working with (for decades) and observing CHILDREN with ASD, would have even considered I could be on The Spectrum. But after looking at the distinct differences in females and then sitting down to make a list of my own traits and behaviors, I now have a 9 page, single space, 12 pt Times New Roman don’t document that exhibits all the ways I fit the diagnosis. My evaluation is coming up in early August!
@@prodigalson1870 Hi there. Sounds Interesting! Good luck to you ☺️
@@Celta81 Healing with you
@@seed.meditation thanks ❤️
@@Celta81 kindly jam in my world
I survived 😅, I'm 70 and this is my best time. I'm strong and free, at last 🙂
Why is it your best time?
I’ve detached from “normal life” and chose to be a stay at home mom because it was the most I could do in the world without living in shutdown/meltdown. It’s the only way I could function with any Grace. Still many days I get overwhelmed, which lead me to try to understand why. As I have started homeschooling, I’ve also noticed things in my children that I did - and because they are being homeschooled, they aren’t treated as bad or wrong or disordered for doing them. Just recognized and accommodated and then we work thru the things that are disruptive so they can have a better experience and give a better experience to others (which is something highly sensitives want, even tho ASD sensitives may not inherently know how to achieve.)
This lead me to research autism, which lead me to Embrace Autism.
Been down the rabbit hole for a bit today.
My results:
MQ 4.7 (221/235) - more monotropic than 95% of autistic people and 100% of allistic people.
RAADS-R: 193 (highest autistic score is 227 and anything over 160 is highly indicative of autism)
Aspie Quiz: 160 of 200 (100% probability of being atypical)
AQ score: 45 of 50 (“a score of 32 or higher tends to identify respondents with clinically significant levels of autism-related traits.”)
This makes my entire life make so much sense. It actually kind of feels liberating - even though I know no one is going to believe it and everyone is going to think it’s a cop out. So I will just keep this information for me. Allow it to help me develop kinder tools to assist myself and my children, and be a better mother and wife.
No. I actually believe you and your research does help me a lot. I'll start my own journey of tests and researches. My congrats to you for accepting yourself as you are- whatever that may be (and it may actually be an invaluable asset, as it is. This I do not know yet, but maybe it is better than being "just normal". All the best🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀
Up until you posted your test results, I was thinking is this me?
You see, I have yet to take the tests. It's so great seeing people getting validated after all these years. It feels great to be validated, too. ❤
Thank you for being available on RUclips Kim , I'm attempting another doctor tomorrow I will keep you all posted.... I'm 50 and all my life felt like I'm not from here (my soul took a wrong turn & landed on earth) my daughters are autistic Asperger's & ADHD xx
I know how you feel!
That is word for word how I describe my life.
I hope it goes well and they listen to you.
I NEVER felt like I belonged here either !!! I felt soooooo different like a foreigner & couldn't understand why! I'm 46 & just starting to appreciate how really different & sensitive I am . Much love
I just wanted to let you know my doctor heard me & asked me to fill in a questionnaire, I am not sure what he is going to do now (I have never been good at appointments I can't remember what he said either) it's a start I think 💚 love to everyone
5 minutes in. I feel overwhelmed. Maybe I can listen to this at half speed. Some other time.
Me too.
I've benefited from taking notes while listening, giving myself time to write by pausing the video. Many videos also have a transcript which helps for following along.
lol i tried to walk away from this 20 times in 4 minutes lol im forcing myself to stay bc of that
Thanks! I’m listening slower and big help!
Agreed. I would rather there were clear lists on the screen, not just talk talk talk at this speed.
I’ve always felt off and different from people in society. I’ve been misdiagnosed in the past. At first I got told I just had general learning disabilities. Then as an adult I got diagnosed with adhd. But I truly think I’m mildly autistic. The over sensitivity to everything hits home. The social difficulty resonates a lot with me as well. Told I’m annoying, I over share, I’m weird. My entire life lol. I’m married now, and have learned how to function most days, but the over stimulation and needing an off day, is so true for me.
I'm highly sensitive and AuDHD and this video is very good! I labeled myself as highly sensitive for a while before I started listening to content creators and psychologists and it was mind blowing to me. It felt like everything I experience and struggle with was validated and it has become a passion to understand more. It's very fascinating and now I understand why I've always felt like I'm a very complex person! Thank you so much for talking about it!
Well I just went to Embrace Autism and took several of the tests on their website, and it looks like - according to their tests - that I am not autistic. So I must be highly sensitive, because I relate to EVERYTHING you said about HSP.
Same for me. I am a HSP for sure, however, not autistic.
I am a newly diagnosed with ASD. The neuropsychologist that diagnosed me told me that to understand my place on the spectrum that I am highly masking, highly functional, barely detectable on the autism spectrum with many tests. I am highly imaginative, I am highly empathetic and sensitive to others. But socializing is exhausting for me. I point this out because the way they screen for autism in women has been transformed very recently. The thing to understand about autism is that autistic brains process information differently. Sometimes that looks very different from the outside, other times not to much. If you have ADHD and autism, which the majority of autistic people do have co-occuring ADHD on top of their autism, you are probably not going to screen as autistic on online tests because ADHD masks the autism and the autism masks the ADHD.
I think it is much more helpful to think back on your childhood and your experiences. Did you feel excluded socially? Were you bullied? Were you a picky eater? Did you engage in repetitive behaviors? Lots of my repetitive behaviors were inside my head. I would count things when I couldn't physically stim. I think that we can mask so thoroughly and completely that we've convinced ourselves we are "normal" when we are not. I still think "I can't be autistic because I have a sense of humor, I am not literal, I can engage in small talk easily", but the neuropsychologist told me she could spot my autism right away. She said that autistic women have a certain type of way we relax our faces. We seem more serious than the average person, It is hard to mask our resting face for hours.
Rather a lot of labelling going on in this world. Great video,in the end we have to find skills to cope with the world no matter our diagnosis. Sadly getting a good diagnosis mostly sucks
Did you take the HSP test?
@@crystalclear6864 Labels can be good, bad or neutral. They aren't inherently bad
Thank you for all your videos on autism. I am 53 & was just diagnosed with autism & adhd. I thought it was trauma & it caused me to be an HSP!
Someone in my family who works with autistic children still doesn't believe my diagnosis. They said it's just CPTSD.
oh "just " cptsd😮 wow and I am sorry that person doesn't get it or understand.
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@ladyhagaming it hurt, but she doesn't make light of CPTSD. She has it too, and I also know she loves me. She only knows what she was taught. I'm hoping she'll be willing to watch videos like this. If not, it's her choice
Same.
I think I have both.. CPTSD and autism❤
I read Elaine's books several years ago, and scored extremely high on HSP. I notice subtleties in body language, tone, what's said and unsaid. I also have fibromyalgia and CFS caused by a car wreck. I just want to express that these illnesses are possible with being a HSP and not just autistic. A lot of the medical community don't even recognize HSP. So, studies are sorely lacking.
Plus, illness is related to trauma and stress. HSPs are very likely to have trauma and stress.
And it all can overlap or hide other traits. I am very sure I would be diagnosed as Autist, but when I think back when I worked in science, all was different. People understood my jokes, and supposedly weird thoughts were considered interesting, and smart, not weird. So how much of my so called social awkwardness is people just not grasping what I am saying, so I tend to be quiet even more, and how much is really autism.
Have you been through extreme trauma ?
@@NoName-pd7uf Highly intelligent is another thing that makes it hard being in society.
In Australia HSP stands for "Halal Snack Pack" which is a tray of fries topped with kebab meat, sometimes cheese, and a variety of sauces. Very tasty. Great video, very informative. But it also made me very hungry! 😂
This sounds like a rip off of the Dutch Kapsalon which is the same thing 😂
Now you’re making me hungry ! 🤣
Love an HSP
Doordash?!😂
😅 good one, greetings from Texas
Yes!!! Autoimmune: EDS, MCAS, POTS & neurodiversity go together.
Ehlers, AuDHD and PMDD 👋
@@philly8184 hugs. I get it
Maybe you are right but I still believe they follow small-t / big-t traumas and I hope to prove it fully (in my case at least). After almost a decade of hell a Faster EFT coach seriously reduced my Mold / MCS symptoms in just 5x sessions. Good luck!
Needing recovery time and social struggles caught my attention. Eventually being alone became the sought after goal …
It seems completely natural to keep people at a distance, and to have lost any desire for a partner. It is enormously stressful to interact with others for very long, yet I don’t really feel like I chose a solitary lifestyle, more like I do well with what others don’t tolerate well , conditions
Funny , I once looked into being a Light House Keep, until I remembered they also have to use a fog horn.
Lol
Yes. Sudden change is really hard for me because of the need and comfort gained from routine, repetition and need to focus/fixate on something I’m passionate about. Currently in that place and it’s been really hard.
I relate to being in a hard place right now and the change was not of my own doing but I am seriously affected by it. 🙏 Keep fighting the good fight..
I have watched over a hundred YT videos on autism, and this is the best one I've seen. Excellent analysis.
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I am a 58 year old woman, and have read and watched so many things surrounding this topic since a health crisis a few years ago blew everything wide open and provided me with greater awareness of myself, and clarity about my whole life. I want to thank you for your work, and for this video, which finally absolutely confirms to me my suspicions of autism. Ticking every box here. It makes my whole life make sense, and will hopefully make the rest of it a little easier, with greater self compassion. This was a genuine gift to me . Thank you, with all my heart, Dr. Kim.
I've been diagnosed with anxiety, depression and PTSD/CPTSD. I'm still really struggling to ascertain if all of the social unease is due to these or whether I may also be autistic.
I have to consciously make myself hold eye contact, i'm constantly processing in my mind what is an appropriate way to respond to someone i'm having a conversation with. I overshare a lot and am very sensitive to anything that I perceive as social rejection, but I also prefer time alone and don't like events where i'd be socially expected to interact with a lot of other people.
At 37 years old i'm not sure what i'd gain from a diagnosis apart from a greater understanding/acceptance of myself as I don't believe any real support is offered for autistic people if they are deemed capable of work.
There seems to be a misunderstanding in the autistic community about the meaning of the word "disorder". It is not a derogatery term, but it is a way of allowing therapists to assess whether or not the condition is causing (severe) social, emotional or even physical distress and impairment for normal functioning. If so the diagnosis will allow you access to therapy, training, as well as give you the right to have extra aids and facilities available for you during education or at work. For example, noise blocking headphones, extra time to make a test, a seperate room to sit quietly, or an educational assistant to help with structuring school work. Those who fight the so called stigma of the word disorder and wish to see autism as some different ( and possibly in somevterms superior) wiring of the brain, greatly underestimate the debilitating impairments of some autistic people and the hardships of their caretakers. Some may never be able to support themselves independently. If your own symptoms are milder, consider yourself blessed, but please do not downplay this disorder, for you may harm those that depend on a clear diagnosis.
I can assure you that it IS a derogatory term. That is why real experts distinguish between clinically relevant, i.e. disease, and just a trait or personality structure. Please do not downplay the devastating effects such labels can have on careers, and lives in general.
@@NoName-pd7uf We really need to be careful how we describe personal characteristics. When I first started teaching special education, my students were called perceptually handicapped.
I'm confused but i see the world with pure heart, caring & loving the nature , animals and peoples ✨
Also have deep understanding..
I love to give happiness into others ❤️🌠
So please!!!! Never change 😊
@@soniacalcagno1121 Never Ever ✅ I'm a true Indian 🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳
Love is in my blood ❤️
I am an empath which means I'm highly sensitive. However it is very clear that I'm not autistic. Having said that it is extremely interesting to me how much overlap I do have with autistic traits. What I think that most people don't get is that autism is just what we call a part of the spectrum of how the human brain works. It isn't actually separate. It seems to be separate because we have historically in this society only catered to what we were falsely taught to be what all humans were supposed to be like. The reality is that each of us are the very definition of what it means to be human for us. We are getting better at recognizing that we each have different needs and we are slowly changing the way we are setting up society to accommodate all of us... but we have a long way to go. Having said all this I may actually be labeled as autistic in the future simply because I do have too much empathy and have many similarities to my autistic counterparts. But I don't actually display the sensory problems more than most neuro-typical individuals. Peace.
A teacher asked me if I was a loner, others said I needed to come out of my shell, and one teacher said my friends weren’t as intelligent as me. I got no help, this was the 1980s.
That was better than him saying you are not as intelligent as your friends. Take it as a compliment.
Yes, wasn’t saying it was all negative. It just made clear the situation I was in.
For me it was the 50's so have spent most of my life unfulfilled & never will know due to lack of resources.
Yeah a late diagnosis is a bummer but it’s given me a great perspective as any difficulties in life do.
43 years old.. and i hit the mark on almost all of these ..
it’s been a long journey 😪
i didn’t talk till is was 5, not that i didn’t know how, i didn’t want to, everything was to intense .. im really good at seeing patterns in life, not good at maintaining friendships 🥺 that one hurt saying..
can’t wear on sleep on certain fabric ( i like 100 percent natural fabrics)
in need a lot of alone time to make sense of things ..
i fell into a drug addiction.. because everything was to intense ( im now almost 6 years sober 🙏🏻)
i get over stimulated around to many people and stim ?
i could go on.. but im sure others here know.
btw im James 👋🏼
i wanna also remind you all out there how beautiful we are 🥹
we are creative, fun, caring, interesting.. we see life differently.. we see life in a vary special way.. and you are so special ❤
i also wanna say sorry if you have been hurt by others because they don’t understand. .. i truly believe we are like this for a purpose 🙏🏻 ❤️🩹
I've always felt this way. I could talk, but I chose not to because everything was so intense. I didn't want to break this silence. How can you talk when soooo much is going on? I feel like I came to this earth to observe, not to participate. My life has been so difficult, almost a constant suffering. When there are people around, it's hard. I always try to go as far away as possible, as alone as possible. I always tried to find places to hide to eat (sometimes I even went to hide in the toilet ;) ) like a small animal that needs to protect itself while eating. Just being there takes a lot out of me. Eating at the same time... a major challenge. When I'm in nature, alone with the majesty of the trees, I feel infinitely good (and even more so if there are animals - I feel good with animals(I like talking to crows when I see them :D - I say to them if they squawks: ''don't be afraid, I am Marianne, I am a good girl''. Ha ha! I just make sure I'm alone in the vicinity ;) ;) ), they and I speak the same language ;) ).
@@mariannelabanane2589 I was talking to an owl the other day and I showed my grandson and he was so amazed and that made my chest expand with 😊❤
My granddaughter is definitely a highly sensitive person. She is still dealing with the trauma caused by her alcoholic, unstable mother, and she also deals with OCD. She’s 16 now and could probably tick off most of the boxes for autism, but she had no noticeable indicators as an infant and young child. I have quite a few indicators myself, and I recently read an article about the possibility of something like sub clinical autism, where the indicators are present, but not to the degree where a clinical diagnosis of autism could be given. I’m not fond of crowded, noisy places, but have discovered if I stay on the fringes, those situations are more tolerable. I don’t like small talk because I don’t like talking to people in general, unless it’s someone I know. I like to stick to certain routines, and feel a little unsettled if things are out of order, but at 73 years of age, 53 years of marriage, 4 kids and 3 grandkids, I’ve learned to adapt, even if it’s uncomfortable and irritable. Anyway, who knows… but great video and great info.
ocd can be part of austisme
@@ladyhagamingyes, autism and OCD can go hand in hand, but my granddaughter’s traits didn’t begin in early childhood, only after she began experiencing the trauma caused by her mother, starting when she was about 10. Thanks for the input.
@@katherinehealy6534 my ocd seemed to be triggered when stress and trauma when I was a tween. I was an undiagnosed with autism as a child and no one thought I had autistic traits as a child, but now looking back, my adults at the time realized they were there the whole time and I learned to mask real quickly so many of the traits can be hidded. so I wouldn't rule out the possibility of having the diagnosis of both
Have you looked into CPTSD (Complex PTSD)? Dr. Kim has a fairly recent video comparing it with autism. You might also find Heidi Priebe's channel helpful for info on CPTSD.
What makes you think that your granddaughter is a highly sensitive person? It can appear the same as trauma symptoms. SPS has a positive side too though.
I am ADHD, but have many friends and family members on the Austic spectrum, who've also experienced trauma. This video makes sense.
I especially cant stand it when bill collectors ask "how are you today?".....i mean really?? Not only is small talk pointless, but i KNOW you dont care how im doing
It's fake & not ok. I usually just ignore that question & ask on professional questions to bypass the fake weird questions.
To me as a European (Dutch) that is not just a "bill collector's" thing, but ALL AMERICANS.
If a Dutch person (bill collector or not) asks you how you are doing, they ask because they are interested and WANT and expect to hear your real answer, because we CARE!
@@Keyboardje not just Americans, Swiss, Turks, other cultures, too. I am Swiss, and I had to outright train myself to ask how people are before saying anything else to a client. People are shocked if you are answering anything other than "fine, thx, hbu". My Finnish teacher told me even Finns ask that as small talk, and Finland is the country where being silent for an hour counts as a nice visit or party.
Small Talk maybe pointless to you but to somebody that is very socially awkward it makes a big difference whenever you are having to interact with somebody. Whenever my brain is literally exploding with anxiety I have to be saying something I feel like I'm going to explode. So small talk is not pointless to everybody and not everyone is thinking like you are saying. I do care if I ask because otherwise I feel like my brain is going to explode. I do care if I am asking. Otherwise I wouldn't waste my breath
@@Keyboardje, yeah… I get that feeling also 😍
I feel like the ADHD/Autism combo is like the two-wolves fighting meme.
I thought HSP was sorta "debunked" meanwhile, as in that Elaine Aaron based this HSP concept on her nephews or some kind of relatives, and those were later diagnosed as autistics. Maybe HSPs exist but at least the ones that birthed the original idea were actually just ASD, so that does not hold up anymore. Has it been renewed based on other research?
Very informative. I'd love a video on Autism and ADHD from you.
Yes me too because she has a gift of explaining that helps us see these complex ways we may be different and accept them and even finally to be able to thrive in life with joy! Thank you Dr. 😅👏👏💐🙋♀️🌞
I also think it would be useful to distinguish between autism, HSP and social anxiety/social awkwardness, as I think there's a fair bit of overlap between these.
Also, I think empathy is in many ways a socially conditioned trait, I feel like I needed to learn how to appropriately express empathy as a kid. Many kids aren't necessarily empathetic, e.g. they'll torment bugs out of curiosity or for the fun of it.
I've always been sensitive and socially anxious. Been considering if autism might be a part of it for quite a while, but I'm still very conflicted on whether it applies to me or not - mainly because I don't have extreme sensory sensitivities and feel like my special interests aren't intense/obsessive enough.
SPS is definitely not autism. Too often when people discribe SPS they don't include extroverts who make up approximately 30% of HSPs or high sensation seakers or HSPs who've been brought up in a healthy environment. Even HSPs who have trauma have a higher ability for healing than non HSPs. Someone can be HSP and autistic. Being autistic doesn't mean that someone is 'highly sensitive' as in HSP/SPS.
Thank you, Dr Kim.😊
Early this year, I was dx as autistic and adhd at 62 yrs old.
I love the Embrace Autism website, and I follow a content creater's channel who's also autistic and adhd called Mom on the Spectrum.
I'm glad that I found you! 😊
I'm an Aspie. Thank you so much for this video. You've explained so many symptoms (which) I can't explain. I'm 46, got my diagnosis when I was 41 and I'm continuing on my personal adventure to understand myself better so I can learn to adapt to function in a world that is not made for a person like myself.
I'm going to add you to my list of experts who I follow and learn from.
Live long and prosper!
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Small talk is a lie. It's the equivalent of saying. 'Tell me that everything is fine and dandy in your world so I can assure my ego that there are no problems in the world and my delusion is safe and secure.' I refuse to answer the question. 'How are you?' The asker doesn't care. They just want validation.
Wish i had more than one thumb to give you
Sometimes the asker truly does care.
@@theryn4376 Yes. Occasionally it's a person that you know and they are asking a genuine question. But in the context of small talk. It is always a lie. I know because I have told the truth. People get visibly annoyed or dismissive. I have said nothing and people get butt hurt with a 'how dare you be so rude to me' face. I tell the lie that they want to hear and it makes them happy to have their ego affirmed. Small talk is a lie. I agree with David Mitchell. Abolish small talk and replace it with open, honest massive talk.
I used to think like you, but over the years my thinking has changed about that. Most of the time the words "How are you?" are meant to be open-ended enough of a question to allow someone the space to share whatever they are comfortable to in the moment. It is a way to say to someone "I would like to know you more" without being too pushy. If someone is not in the mood to talk or share anything about themselves, they can always just say "ok". If someone wants to share more, they may say how they are feeling then tell why they are feeling that way.
I was told by English speaking person that it is rude to talk about our problems when someone asks us "how are you?". to that, I stated that asking the question makes absolutely no sense, and that is probably one of the reasons why there are so many depressed people.
Great video.
I do need to research this more.
I am hyper sensitive.
I have fybromyalgia.
I am also known as very safe person.
I also don’t make eye contact with people.
I said to a friend that I LOVE people and spending time with them but I don’t have the songs, you might call them, of what to say to people. I find spending time with them absolutely exhausting. My friend comes from an extremely safe home. I blamed my upbringing because my parents prided themselves on the great put downs they would come up with. Maybe this is a more accurate reason.
I do know that I need to sit on the end whether it is a dinner with best friends a movie or a conference.
I need to research this more.
I do know that even making phone calls to set up important medical appointments really bothers me even though it is no big deal.
Thanks for the test idea.
I will definitely be researching this more.
I was just dx’d ND, but have always been a HSP, but have, as you said, am high functioning & also have several comorbidities/mental illnesses (ADHD/CPTSD/3 anxiety dx’s, BPD, BP1, MDD), and when I learned, in 222, that I was ASD, so much of my life made sense! I’m in Trauma Therapy & have a great PsyMD (neuropsychiatrist) & support from friends & family. I also suffered a TBI in October of 2021, which led to my AuDHD/ASD dx.
Thank you for your videos & insight, bc it makes us feel seen & heard. Much love & light from N.C., Ms. Kim!❤
I'm so sorry to say that this video is extremely confusing in terms of emeshment of HSP vs Autism like never before! Your description of both are very much intertwined which is NOT HELPFUL at all!!!
I can feel your anxiety through the phone screen which confirms that your info is very erratic!
As a highly sensitive empath, I have struggled with anxiety and depression for 40 years. I realized however that I was not able to express myself to the degree I was feeling, and so the core issue was a spiritual deficiency, not a prozac or lithium deficiency. Having a vision in my life allowed me to work toward a long term goal and expressing myself writing songs and singing. However, I have fully recovered from all depression and anxiety as I no longer feel this darkness any more. This is a recent breakthrough this week. A couple weeks ago I still was struggling. It is fully gone now this feeling. I feel like my life is just beginning. It was a gradual experience though bc I have done holotropic breathwork, energy work, reiki, cranio sacral therapy, lymphatic bodywork, neuromuscular therapy, gestalt, hypnosis, meditation, yoga, soul retrieval, endless tears, and prayer gradually allowed me to fully transform the darkness into light while embracing both
I don't really like the term 'empath' - it's like some elitist new age garble. Empaths are just highly emotional people, usually having dealt with trauma as a child. It's not a title.
@@vingedheart Empaths that go through trauma and develop specialized hyper awareness and extra sensory perception have fine-tuned their emotions to an advanced degree.
@@EnergyCenterTV I agree that that's why we are more empathic - but a lot of people who call themselves 'empath' aren't even aware of that. They see it as some 'special' title like 'Indigo children' that I am not a fan of either.
These videos are so helpful when it comes to gaining perspective and knowledge. I'm currently 'investigating' myself, have quite certainly ruled out a few things and found others that where a much better fit. Not ready to go seeking an actual diagnosis yet, but amongst other things my work situation tells me that maybe I should. It'll probably take years to get an assessment.
I think that the label of being "highly sensitive" might help people who feel stigmatized by the label of autism. As a newly diagnosed autistic woman who is also "highly sensitive" I think this is sad. The more people we can bring under the umbrella of neurodivergency the stronger we can be when we try to advocate for ourselves. Because I can tell you there are lots of people out there that want to keep autism as a stigmatized condition and they spread disinformation about what we know it is, and how it manifests in different people. This is particularly true for organizations that represent parents of autistic kids, like Autism Speaks. That organization spreads junk science, caters to the idea that parents are victimized by their autistic kids, and works to conflate intellectual disability with autism. Their survival as the best funded organization for autism centers on keeping the association of autism as a childhood disease, instead of recognizing that autistic kids grow up to be autistic adults, and we need resources too We will spend most of our lives as adults, after all.
Very informative. I have a friend who is HSP and I will send her this video. She sent me a book about it and I related to everything in it but I am more severe. I did an Autism test and I off the scale in certain areas but don't fit the stereotype in others it made me realise that a lot of things I did and do to get me through the day are coping mechanisms and masking. I am also 90% mute. No coping mechanism can cope with shutdowns and long periods of recovery. Replaying everything in my head until I could process and move on. A living nightmare at times.
I rarely get sick and have little allergies but I have a lot of the autism traits and ADHD. I'm very empathetic, I stem, I need structure and routine but have yet to figure it out, I am very direct, I can't read between the lines and despise people who speak in riddles or circles. I need deep connections, have no friends, a history of broken friendships, relationships and familyships. I've walked alone in life since 27. I need direct communication. Wjen working, I need a specific list of direction before I ca begin.
I have been going down the rabbit hole, trying to see what this whole "autism" thing is all about. Today, during this video, i burst out in tears when i realized that i am, in fact, autistic. It's no longer a question in my mind. What put me over the edge was the part about self soothing.
Keep up the great work, Dr. Sage
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Well.done I hope you are OK I'm.not sure about me but my son has aspetgets I'm.definatly on ADhd I have most if what she dr Sage is saying too empathy as well.tjank God
I FINALLY got my official autism diagnosm after a second opinion with health care professionals. Had to "fight" for it SO hard, took me 1.5 year in total. And now, after fightening all the way, i feel nothing about it anymore.😢 i hope the feeling will return & i can get more peace with it
I have (self-diagnosed) bipolar, anxiety, social anxiety, CPTSD, extreme HSP and aspergers.
The list goes on and on.
I'm a recluse now, but I was abused as a child, which caused trauma.
As an adult, I chose a career as a merchandiser, which was a bad mistake.
I also had my own mentally abusive nuclear family.
I moved alone, quit my day job (to become an independent artist), gradually cut off all contact with everyone.
All this helped me a lot, but my mind was tormenting me about my past.
The only solution for me was my spiritual awakening, which finally got me off the hook of that vicious circle that tormented my mind.
Trauma responses, behaviours are similar to the conditions you have described and sometimes we are diagnosed, yet it is a trauma behaviours....
@@Kali5000 Thank you. I have just recently come to that same conclusion.
Spiritual awakening is the only constant thing I can rely on. Thank you for sharing your life changing with spirituality, because it's rare in this current world.
@@nee-na6874 Thank you! It takes a long journey to get, that I don't exist and that I'm all there is in this simulation.
I didn't understand the "Bottom Up" one. Could you please elaborate a bit on that one?
No idea what bottom up processing means.
The first description of a sensitive person described me exactly.I don't know if I am also autistic, but I know I'm different and have always been.
I think I have to be autistic. I know I have adhd but things don’t fully line up.. it’s far more severe. And maybe so bad I don’t even know where to go for a diagnosis.
Thanks for the food for thought. I've always claimed neurodivergence for several reasons but you're the first person who has made me truly consider if I am autistic. I have an autistic son and he struggles so much with social stuff and doesn't read social cues well. I have always said I would be autistic if not for that I DO read people especially well and am highly aware of social stuff and unspoken social cues such as subtle body language that most don't pick up on. I have extreme sensory issues as well as the other traits including hypermobility disorder. Now I'm thinking I am more like you and I have learned to excel at reading these social cues because I am an expert scanner, which I think is my nature but then I also had to become and expert because of my traumatic childhood. I have been in a similar field or work to you, as well. I chuckled about the eating others' food at gatherings, too, since potlucks are my nightmare!
Same.
I don’t know whether I’m highly sensitive or autistic. I’m English. I’ve spoke to many psychiatrist and they have put me forward for a diagnosis. I think this self diagnosis thing is rubbish. You are either autistic or you are not. Yes, maybe I have black-and-white thinking but you cannot diagnose yourself or identify yourself to be more precise as autistic if you have not had a review. Unfortunately, I couldn’t watch the whole video because I was triggered by the vocal fry.
Can someone just list them?
I found out last year at age 64 that I have autism spectrum disorder. A few months before that, I learned that I am a.d.h.d., ocd, and dyslexia. 😮
Last year was complex with kidney cancer and 5 1/2 hours of major surgery. My surgery was a success, which I would enjoy more, but my daughter, my brother, his wife, my nephew, and their 2 daughters, All Abandoned me! Last December, the hospital had to send me home knowing that I had no family. No emergency call person now for 7 months
They would say that when I get excited, my voice volume goes high. Also, I am stupid, or weird, too much for them. Nothing is good enough for me.
I do not know much good info on my unique traits, HELP NEEDED, PLEASE
Hyposensitivity and sensory seeking were the main reasons why I did not believe I was an HSP.
What are the 13 signs, someone respond with the 13...help out the ADHDers
I’m going to need this video after my evaluation because I have a strong feeling I have ASD. And I know my family and friends are NOT going to be accepting of it!
I'm starting to get a fairly pessimistic view of all of this. Hypervigilance means you can read microexpressions well, and you can tell when people are 'faking' and masking. Most people have a dishonest view of themselves to protect their ego. They'll fight tooth and nail to say you're reading them wrong, you're not empathetic. They want you to empathize with the fantasy version of themselves, not with the real person in front of you. I think 'high functioning / high masking' autistic people are dealing with a lot of stress and trauma (stimmung, masking, etc) and have been trained to be hypervigilant. What if this is gaslighting, and there's literally nothing 'wrong' with us?
I always need people to just get straight to the point
Do I really care? I don't think I do. I've lived with me all my life and knowing something new like that really wouldn't impact my life one bit. I am kinda pissed tho that I've been put under a microscope and dissected for someone elses curiosity. On the real, turn that high powered microscope on yourself and tell me what you see. Really, I'm not special at all. Concentrate your energy else where
Always have to look at menu before going to a restaurant (mostly due to food allergies & being picky). 😊
I can relate to so much of this but wouldn’t have considered autism. I am very highly sensitive, highly empathetic and make eye contact. It is only recently that I realised during conversation that I am asking myself to remember to look away and not hold constant eye contact. I hate small talk, hate being in social situations and am exhausted by them. I have learned to ask people questions about themselves if I have to try to make conversation. I have always felt different and not sure where I fit in. I consider myself extremely intelligent and wonder now if I do have autism but have been masking. I have Fibromyagia, ME/CFS, POTS and other coxmorbidities.