Been married for 20 years and my wife and I are just opening our eyes to this point. The saying “opposites attract” definitely points to this. Husbands and wives can give off too much feminine or masculine energy and throw the relationship’s balance off. We both knew that something was off but couldn’t put our finger on it. This is exactly it.
As a muslim woman, im very proud of the content you make, your values match my values so much and i feel like your channel is on the bright side of the internet, when everything is going completely insane and chaotic your content is calm and grounded and reminds us of our core values. Thank you so much jasmine i really love your channel and always watch your videos as soon as they’re up cause you feel like an older sister to me 💜
The making things smaller point is definitely relatable... my highly emotional personality was punished as a child. I used to think that being highly emotional was a character flaw, but now I've realized that I just need to surround myself with an environment that will appreciate it. Thankyou Jasmine for helping me loath my feminine nature less
I've learned some people have the ability to experience and express a greater depth and complexity of feeling than others, and that this attribute is fairly fixed for each person. When we are accused of "being emotional", what the other person is saying is that we are pouring our kiddie pool of water into their gallon jug. They can't handle it. But for someone who is equally or more expansive to us, they can more than handle and appreciate our feelings with care.
As a man, I really enjoyed listening to this. I love the quiet strength of women and love their softness and love of comfort and beauty. Men built the world but women make it a place you want to be in. It may sound trite, but it made me think of one of my favorite moments in the Disney movie Brave where the queen calmly and quietly walks through the melee and without raising her voice stops the fighting and cows the entire room with simply her presence. I feel like feminism has downplayed, ignored, or outright vilified this quiet strength. We all have lost something from that and I hope we can get it back.
Tip: If you’re embracing feminity(the biological design) ensure you practice at home and meditate on it. Also, practice discerning character through psychology books, psychology videos, the book of proverbs and the book of psalms, etc to guard against Ill minded people who will attempt to hurt you. By doing this when you express your feminity and the moment you see the signs of an sick minded individual, you will properly guard your peace and know how to handle those individuals. Whether it be cutting them off or preparing yourself if you have to be around them.
I love your point about goal orientation versus experience orientation! We definitely live in a goal-oriented economy, and i have long been motivated by hitting goals, but i have noticed that it erodes my personality and makes me enjoy the journey less and even care less about other people. Honestly, i don't even really know how to conduct myself in a non-goal-oriented way (especially at work and academically), so i might appreciate another video about this topic specifically!
I absolutely loved this point too. To me it feels like feminism is so integrated in our lives that feminine qualities are seen as "weak", both men and women perpetuate these ideas that women should be like men without even realizing what we're doing! No wonder our kids are confused! Jasmyne your videos have given me a whole new perspective on femininity!
Nicely put! I've struggled recently with my traumatized reaction to an earthquake in my area, feeling weak and silly because of my panic, having to sleep at my parents at 30yo seemed exaggerated compared to how others dealt with it. But I'm a highly sensitive woman, I'm feminine and crave protection and get anxious being left alone...and I got triggered. I'm doing what I need to get better, but I won't feel ashamed for being softer and maybe more sensitive or fragile than others.
May God bless you and protect you Irene. Staying soft in such a harsh world will come with its blessings and pitfalls. But your health and body will appreciate it in the long run. As someone who dealt with the consequences of trauma and hardening my heart, life became alot harsher and harder that way. (In corcern to my health) ❤❤❤ it's worth it going a slower pace... Hope you feel better soon ❤❤❤
i genuinely love this channel, as a 17 yr old girl trying to reconnect with myself and my femininity your videos are so helpful 💛 sometimes i have days where i feel so masculine it hurts , but your videos are helping tremendously thank you so much
I really enjoyed this video. Thank you so much for allowing those of us that have been traumatized into fight or flight to relax and be ourselves comfortably. I loved the point about not shouting for attention. I am surrounded by mothers who shouted to get their point across so just having a woman say that there is another softer way to get attention was actually a huge relief to realize! Thank you! I’m excited to implement this in my every day life.
This is something I am struggling with. I think my dad wanted a son and he pushed me really hard when I was younger. Now I cannot express emotion or find the beauty and ease in things. I am pregnant now and having to slow down is really bothering me because I am used to bulldozing through and occupying all my free time with goal directed activities. This video is very eye opening
You should sooo do a video on advice to take/ avoid for girls in their early 20s. I hear a lot of advice like ‘be crazy and wild in your early 20s, do whatever you want while you’re young, your early 20s is made for trying everything, being promiscuous and non-committal with the goal of ‘learning yourself’, etc.’ I don’t think that advice narrative is good for young women and I cringe when older women say this. Why must we be foolish in order to become wise? Why don’t we teach young women wisdom and biblical femininity first? A video on this might be helpful!
Depends on who advised you. Such advises I have heard from women are those who have been a 'good girl' and 'wise girl' their whole life so they tell me to have fun while you can. So it truly depends.
@@Taebear374 Also, "crazy and wild in your 20s" doesn't permanently equate to casual sex, drugs, etc. It's ambiguous. There's many who're on the middle or closer to the white spectrum of black and white. And some people will have trials in general that they never thought they would have that involve messiness. It can happen even to the "good ones". I'm a "good/wise" girl, but I'm not going to place myself above others who aren't even that bad.
Sure, there are always edge cases. Travel for example, is an adventurous thing that older people often advise younger people to do in their 20s. Among other things, I think that is wonderful. Some older people give great sound advice, so yes it depends on who you’re around - I agree! I suppose I am primarily concerned with the western cultural narrative of what being liberated, wild, and fun is for women in their 20s. Older women often embody the harmful rhetoric and seems that lots of girls hear bad advice and may take it with the guise that it’s wisdom. I only wish to acknowledge a counter-narrative that there’s nothing wrong with being a gentle, quiet spirit in your 20s. Getting married in your early 20s or saving yourself isn’t strange. Partying or turning up isn’t the requirement (esp in college). It doesn’t make you unfun or ‘old’. And you’re definitely not missing on the opportunity to find out ‘who you truly are’. All things I’ve heard before. Given, the messengers tend to be bitter, feminist women (sometimes unhappily married, often single) who clearly didn’t get wisdom the first time, so they’re sharing their foolish advice with whoever will listen. Just want young women to avoid that at all costs, I definitely am.
@@shamarrmckinney-vanburen1608 I agree there are Good and Bad advice. And women should give a lot of thought before following any. I hope women have a clear understanding of their own identity as human beings, defining their core values and morals first before listening to others. You don't have to categorize "feminists' as bitter women. I am from India which is a patriachy-dominated country. Most women are 'traditional homemakers' here and most of them are very bitter. Yet I never said 'bitter traditional women'. For me 'bitter' is more of a personality trait which can be found in anyone. And from what I have seen most women regardless of age or job are passively competing with each other. And sometimes method women use is giving 'foolish advice' 'spreading malicious rumours' and many more. Growing up, there were no working women around me. Only traditional homemakers. Was the environment around me peaceful, loving, caring and supportive? NOPE. Someone's husband got a big promotion, and other women were jealous and tried to sabotage the marriage in a subtle way. One woman didn't clean her wash basin enough, so there was actually a discussion for almost half an hour degrading her and those women were trying to put themselves in a holy light of how they are so good at managing homes. There are many more but the comment will get too long. What I am trying to say is 'bitter' and 'jealous' and such negative emotions are emotional traits and shouldn't be the identity of a certain group.
Thia video was super insightful amd educational I also realized that i do exactly all of these masculine things😂 But of course part of self improvement is being aware of your weaknesses or in this case masculinity to shift it to femininty Masculinity isnt necessarily bad or a flaw its a just a thing that we ve learned to embody to survive not knowing that we can find even more peace in the feminine
That fourth point is really good. I came to similar (albeit more "utlilitarian"... I still employ quite a bit of so-called stereotypically masculine behaviors, but now in the service of my tasks as mother) conclusions for not over-packing my day, but for entirely different reason as a mom. Essentially if you are a mother you need a buffer between activities and a lot of flexibility because your life is no longer purely under your control. Buffering your time gives you the needed flexibility to adjust when things go wrong and makes you resilient to complications in your day. I cannot optimize for efficiency anymore as a mom of 2 pregnant with a third child, and when I tried to do it my days would often fall apart because something almost always came up. I've had to optimize for resilience instead.
Another great video! I would love to see you make a video about how Christian women can thrive when single, when they really want to settle down and just haven’t found the right person. Lila rose made a video about that, but I’d love to hear the Orthodox perspective!!
Every time I watch your videos, I am appalled at how indoctrinated I had been in masculinity. There is so much I am unlearning😣 these poor young girls today…..it’s even worse for so many, especially those in govt schools.
Thanks again for helping us think through our behaviors and make better choices. The one thing you talked about that I struggle with the most is the balance between full-on materialism/coveting and admiring beauty in things. I seem to swing back and forth and often feel like functionality/necessity should be my only guide in buying anything.
Femininity is to be celebrated. sometimes we feel we have to hide our femininity but the softness of a woman is the most beautiful thing. It’s so elegant. I cringe when I hear young girls using foul language it’s so unattractive. They can be so beautiful if they chose to be.
Im a woman and I HATE writing emails like a woman or receiving feminine emails its such a Waste of my time Truly. Please I Just want to get from point A to B. The connection is implied. I only want to enjoy and spend quality time establishing connections with a select few. This feminine rambling is a waste of my precious energy. I dont care how most peoples day is going I just want to complete the transaction. Dont ask me how Im feeling in an email either. If you really care you can ask me in person when we both have free time.
I mean I dont blame her for the suggestion but its so not me. and I dont feel unfeminine for not writing rambling emails with useless niceties. people getting my emails have a Job to do thats the only thing that matters to either of us imo its not like were pals.@@schoolworkaccount3887
I really resonate with the fact of just buying things because you really like how they look or how they make you feel. I just moved in my first home and I remember myself just trying to buy things that have a purpose and not spend money on extra things, but it actually feels good to splurge sometimes on yourself even if you don’t need it.
This video was very practical and understandable. Very easy to take in. I love the points made. I can really see that as I mature these points on femininity are coming into play without me consciously choosing to. Mind you, I have prayed for God to transform me into the God fearing feminine woman that He desires for me to be. God is so awesome❤
Man should also be emotionally aware and sensitive sometimes. I have been abused many times but my father and parnter didn't care at all.. They just said it was past,forget it and from now be careful,watch your dressing. I also love to be ambitious,I want to make contributions to world,do invention just like marie curie. But people say feminine women should not be ambitious but good homemakers.😔💔 These things demotivate me...please suggest me what should I do or where I am wrong.
@@francescabuonanno2333 I haven't watched her videos but if that's true, then I agree with you. Patriarchy harms both men and women. I want to go beyond masculinity and femininity. You seems to be knowledgeable if you dont mind can we chat somewhere else.
Enjoyed this video👩🏻💻 I was asked to provide the meal for coffeehouse after divine liturgy... I ended up co hosting with a brother in Christ. It ended up being a great outcome. I cooked much food after we went grocery shopping. He paid and I cooked. I adore cooking. I made Nativity Fast appropriate food i.e. lentils, orzo pasta w olives, fresh berry medley, bulgar wheat pomegranate salad
I think many people miss the goal oriented part point. That is, as a woman you can be goal oriented, but don't go about it in the way of men. Go ahead as you enjoy the process and not the way a man would like a bullet.
Also for men. Whether religious or non religious. There’s a pastor named Paul Washer. He speaks on biblical and biological masculinity and embracing it. He helped my male sibling. Check him out if you want and if you’re not religious I still encourage you to do it and simply watch and listen with an open heart and take whatever you know you need and apply it.
Wow, my husband has been trying to make me into a man the whole time!!! Uhh, I’m all about the process and he constantly tells me to be goal driven 🤦🏻♀️ and that my emails are too lengthy, now I get that I’m just a feminine girl
I feel like this is so true for me. I've been very interested in balancing my energy latley and i did amazing also the benefits are unbeliveble. But some people that i took information from said that you must have muscline energy like working hard or being very discipline and i've felt so bad while i'm doing these things it's feels like i'm fighting or like i'm in war with life but it feels good and i feel like myself when i'm trying to enjoy working on my goals instead of working hard and delay my happniess till i achieve them. I tottaly agree with what you said.
Me, as a guy, realising I'm an effeminate soyboy with my emails ☠️ Now that you are mentioning it, I realise the difference between men and women with their emails... And that a couple women i know have their emails the way men typically do, and they happen to be very goal-oriented, hard-working people. I do believe being friendly and considerate is important as your saying.
didnt expect a elliot hulse mention. also if u havent watched yet, knowland knows channel is a really good speaker on these christian topics but for masculinity. him and elliot make podcasts together too
It's hard because I know God has made me softer in nature but because of abuse both sexual and mental I've fallen under fawning and people-pleasing before. I do not want my reconciliation with my femininity to be policed (by either men or me) but I want to obey and participate in my healing with God. I also do not want to be soft and have to account for men (whom I have no interest in being with) either having feelings for me or telling me I am a tease just for being nice. I now desire to be kind to the opposite gender as gracefully as possible, but some men really give me the ick. Lol how do I go about this? I desire to be kind to humanity as Christ taught and as God intended but I do not want to account for the accumulation of lustful approaches that come my way. I struggle to trust men, because they usually dont just want to be my friend (unless they are on the spectrum).
I think this is a little misleading. I know lots of women (including myself) who are very goal oriented and ambitious when it comes to building a career/bussiness. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in this type of work as a woman and it sure doesn’t diminish your femininity if you know how to nurture it
That point was not about neglecting goals or outcomes. Rather, it’s about not *only* focusing on the end-goal. Also taking time to slow down and savor the process, savor connections, etc… not (only) focusing on the results. 💛
I dont know if you have a video on this but if you could talk about *how* to express our emotions properly to the people in our lives? People have always told me "you're overreacting", "you're too emotional" to now where I'm 32 and hide a lot of emotions. I worry this is whats being projected onto my 11 year old daughter now, and I'd like to help her cultivate her femininity, not hide it.
An unpopular idea would be that converts should always use their baptismal name, not only when receiving Holy Communion but even when sending e-mails...please discuss.
I disagree. Animus and anima can be fully integrated in both man and woman, creating completely new level of unions - instead of enmeshment and dependency we witnessed so far, new unions are possible. However, I do find your advices valuable for balancing both aspects of the psyche. Kindly, K. ;)
Hi lovelies. Just a friendly reminder, The wisdom of this world does not compare the wisdom of God. I pray that we all embody the Proverbs 31 woman, a woman of character, love, kindness and who is a strong support to her husband and family. True femininity is knowing how to submit to God, walking with Jesus daily and being a breath of fresh air to those around you (spouse, boyfriend, family, friends, collegues etc.). God bless this beautiful woman in the video and all who are watching. God bless my lovelies 💖🤗
@@JasmyneTheodora keep on doing what you are doing. Many of us need to soften up sometimes lol. Especially when many women are expected to toughen up). But what's wrong with being soft and tough. Keep it up beautiful and God bless you 🙏💖
There is a RUclips channel called “the feminine universe “, please watch that-it has actual actionable advice than this one which is more oriented to women taking all the onus and not holding men accountable.
1:02 i would agree for the most part, except i think Jordan Peterson can actually be quite biased. Always take information with a grain of salt, wether you are a man or a woman.
Thank you for this safe place. This is the video I’ve been waiting for. Everyone says be more feminine, live in your femininity. But no one breaks it down and explains what that really looks like. This is the “how to” girls like myself need to start our journey. I want to be feminine but I honestly just don’t know how to be. Thank you for this video, please make this a series and keep it going!
The second point is REALLY insightful. We just got back from urgent care with my baby, because she had a suspicious rash. It turned out to be an infection (what I had suspected). This was our conversation on the way home: Him: “well, I’m glad you made a big deal about it and brought her to the doctor, because if it had been up to me, you know what I would have said…” Me “you would have said ‘she’s probably fine’ and done nothing.” Him “yep”
I’ve been saying for several years that one of the most important phrases and ideals for maintaining a good relationship is simply, “I was wrong.” Glad you guys have the relationship that you do and glad your daughter was ok. P-)
Another amazing video 🤍. Definitely difficult to be a feminine woman in today's world, especially when I don't have a husband and male protection yet, my father passed away so I just need to survive in this world somehow.... trying my best to remain soft and feminine woman 🌸💕
@@viktorijabogdanaite5167 yes dear! My father was not active in my life but the Lord really took care of me. He will take care of you and protect you in ways that your earthly fathers eyes could not even reach! Jesus will take even MORE care of you to because your earthly father is not here 💕
I love being feminine, soft and elegant buy I'm very resilient. Strong, when it's warranted. Men love it but some women get mad at me for being 'girly'. Tough! I don't have a spouse or dad but my protector is the Lord! He's a great dad. Never forget that.
I'm guilty of the "overcrowding" one. It is extremely hard to not do this since we value busyness so much as a culture--it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman. Making room for stillness feels like failure to me, like I'm not making good use of my time. It's hard to fight against that mindset!
I am going through the same thing. The phone, news, trying to survive has kept my mind so busy, plus my health! I started journaling. Even that was kind of hard (just getting started) and I started to borrow books from the library as a way to stay away distracted from my phone and TV. I feel like a failure when I can't build a good habit. But am trying. Taking a walk outside at night has also been so calming for me. We just need to remind ourselves of how it's like to regain the habits back again.
It's so true. We've gotten to the point where staring at two screens (with several tabs open) isn't good enough. We also need additional audio of some kind playing in our earbuds and snacks to eat while we do all this. Hahaha. Not to mention the 100 things on our minds at once. We need to SLOW DOWN in order to get ahead.
I can relate. Since childhood I was always really sensitive and whenever I cried... There you go.. omg you're so sensitive.. omg you're such a drama queen. When actually I'm just expressing myself. Women in my surrounding are so in their Masculine energy.. they sometimes even shame me & try to lecture me on why femininity is weak. This is so exhausting. Your videos are home for me.
I really appreciate the content you produce. You are one of the few I know in the Orthodox space presenting the feminine case for women, which I think is very valuable. This said, and take it for what it is, the disagreement of an anonymous stranger on the internet, I disagree with you on women not having any masculine essence. It seems to me that women do have a masculine essence and men have a feminine essence, *however* woman is predominantly feminine and men are predominantly masculine. Consider the classic yin-yang: each is a dance with the other, yet both have a bit of the other inside of it. The problem is when you try expand that dot to predominate the sphere, crowding out the natural presence and ruining the dance. To take a crude example, consider a mathematician who dabbles in literature. There is nothing wrong with this, and doing so may even enhance his study and understanding of mathematics (e.g. St Pavel Florensky regarding Dante in "Imaginaries in Geometry"). However, the mathematician would suffer if he treated approached mathematics like literature, tried to embody the latter while operating in the former. Similarly, a student and writer of literature could benefit from mathematics, but trying to embody the mathematician within that role would produce formulaic, heartless pieces and analysis. I think Christians must say that men and women have both masculine and feminine energy. After all, both are told to imitate Christ (masculine) and both are the bride of Christ (feminine). However, our primary essence and mode in the world is different, for man qua man symbolizes (that is, where meaning meets embodiment) the groom, while woman qua woman symbolizes the bride.
I withheld so much emotion because I was told I was being too emotional sometimes by women who were themselves traumatized from their past experiences. Even in church my mom and I were told we were too emotional because we cried a lot. When I listened to them it made me hard, cold, sad and feel alone. I’m expressing it better now and accepting my biological clock and better planning my life to suit it. Even at work, when I know aunt flow is coming in advance I will buy Midol, Advil, chocolate, water , decaffeinated tea, to prepare myself for a long day then rest. Thank you again Jazmyne.
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I like how you talk about masculinity and femininity. This is the only thing that will keep both of the people attracted to each other long term.
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True!
Been married for 20 years and my wife and I are just opening our eyes to this point. The saying “opposites attract” definitely points to this. Husbands and wives can give off too much feminine or masculine energy and throw the relationship’s balance off. We both knew that something was off but couldn’t put our finger on it. This is exactly it.
@@donharris8846 I'm happy for you!😅
I like how this is not only about getting guys, but about just being a healthy woman in general.
As a muslim woman, im very proud of the content you make, your values match my values so much and i feel like your channel is on the bright side of the internet, when everything is going completely insane and chaotic your content is calm and grounded and reminds us of our core values. Thank you so much jasmine i really love your channel and always watch your videos as soon as they’re up cause you feel like an older sister to me 💜
So happy to hear this 🥹
I'm a Muslim woman too and completely agree with what you have said
I agree so much as a Muslim young girl ! ^_^
Being on survival mode resulted in loosing my feminity this is really helpful.
Im learning to take a step back
The making things smaller point is definitely relatable... my highly emotional personality was punished as a child. I used to think that being highly emotional was a character flaw, but now I've realized that I just need to surround myself with an environment that will appreciate it. Thankyou Jasmine for helping me loath my feminine nature less
I've learned some people have the ability to experience and express a greater depth and complexity of feeling than others, and that this attribute is fairly fixed for each person. When we are accused of "being emotional", what the other person is saying is that we are pouring our kiddie pool of water into their gallon jug. They can't handle it. But for someone who is equally or more expansive to us, they can more than handle and appreciate our feelings with care.
Me too… even when story telling, I will explain deadly turbulences we had on the plane in 1 minute
As a man, I really enjoyed listening to this. I love the quiet strength of women and love their softness and love of comfort and beauty. Men built the world but women make it a place you want to be in. It may sound trite, but it made me think of one of my favorite moments in the Disney movie Brave where the queen calmly and quietly walks through the melee and without raising her voice stops the fighting and cows the entire room with simply her presence. I feel like feminism has downplayed, ignored, or outright vilified this quiet strength. We all have lost something from that and I hope we can get it back.
Tip:
If you’re embracing feminity(the biological design)
ensure you practice at home and meditate on it.
Also, practice discerning character through psychology books, psychology videos, the book of proverbs and the book of psalms, etc to guard against Ill minded people who will attempt to hurt you.
By doing this when you express your feminity and the moment you see the signs of an sick minded individual, you will properly guard your peace and know how to handle those individuals. Whether it be cutting them off or preparing yourself if you have to be around them.
I love your point about goal orientation versus experience orientation! We definitely live in a goal-oriented economy, and i have long been motivated by hitting goals, but i have noticed that it erodes my personality and makes me enjoy the journey less and even care less about other people. Honestly, i don't even really know how to conduct myself in a non-goal-oriented way (especially at work and academically), so i might appreciate another video about this topic specifically!
Thanks for commenting here, Myriam! You’re so sweet.
@@JasmyneTheodora of course!!! Gotta boost your channel in the algorithm :-D
I absolutely loved this point too. To me it feels like feminism is so integrated in our lives that feminine qualities are seen as "weak", both men and women perpetuate these ideas that women should be like men without even realizing what we're doing! No wonder our kids are confused! Jasmyne your videos have given me a whole new perspective on femininity!
Nicely put! I've struggled recently with my traumatized reaction to an earthquake in my area, feeling weak and silly because of my panic, having to sleep at my parents at 30yo seemed exaggerated compared to how others dealt with it. But I'm a highly sensitive woman, I'm feminine and crave protection and get anxious being left alone...and I got triggered. I'm doing what I need to get better, but I won't feel ashamed for being softer and maybe more sensitive or fragile than others.
Mexico?? Oaxaca?
May God bless you and protect you Irene. Staying soft in such a harsh world will come with its blessings and pitfalls. But your health and body will appreciate it in the long run. As someone who dealt with the consequences of trauma and hardening my heart, life became alot harsher and harder that way. (In corcern to my health) ❤❤❤ it's worth it going a slower pace... Hope you feel better soon ❤❤❤
There are so many blessing with living at home financially of course but also that time with you’re parents that you won’t get back .
Why didn't you feel protected with your Jamaican husband
I really struggle with showing or being comfortable in my femininity, thank you for making these veidos.
i genuinely love this channel, as a 17 yr old girl trying to reconnect with myself and my femininity your videos are so helpful 💛 sometimes i have days where i feel so masculine it hurts , but your videos are helping tremendously thank you so much
I love the last tip about being graceful in approaching and addressing people. Never thought of it!
I love and appreciate your content🤍You’re vocal, yet maintain your calm/class. I’m the same way. Keep it coming🥰
Thank you, I will
I really enjoyed this video. Thank you so much for allowing those of us that have been traumatized into fight or flight to relax and be ourselves comfortably. I loved the point about not shouting for attention. I am surrounded by mothers who shouted to get their point across so just having a woman say that there is another softer way to get attention was actually a huge relief to realize! Thank you! I’m excited to implement this in my every day life.
This is something I am struggling with. I think my dad wanted a son and he pushed me really hard when I was younger. Now I cannot express emotion or find the beauty and ease in things. I am pregnant now and having to slow down is really bothering me because I am used to bulldozing through and occupying all my free time with goal directed activities. This video is very eye opening
Some of the things u said really hit home for me thanks for your sharing your wisdom love your channel and ur faith!
I'm so glad!
You should sooo do a video on advice to take/ avoid for girls in their early 20s. I hear a lot of advice like ‘be crazy and wild in your early 20s, do whatever you want while you’re young, your early 20s is made for trying everything, being promiscuous and non-committal with the goal of ‘learning yourself’, etc.’ I don’t think that advice narrative is good for young women and I cringe when older women say this. Why must we be foolish in order to become wise? Why don’t we teach young women wisdom and biblical femininity first? A video on this might be helpful!
Regarding what you heard, its dependent on who's giving the advice. Most of the people I've been around in public and private never advised such.
Depends on who advised you. Such advises I have heard from women are those who have been a 'good girl' and 'wise girl' their whole life so they tell me to have fun while you can. So it truly depends.
@@Taebear374 Also, "crazy and wild in your 20s" doesn't permanently equate to casual sex, drugs, etc. It's ambiguous. There's many who're on the middle or closer to the white spectrum of black and white.
And some people will have trials in general that they never thought they would have that involve messiness. It can happen even to the "good ones". I'm a "good/wise" girl, but I'm not going to place myself above others who aren't even that bad.
Sure, there are always edge cases. Travel for example, is an adventurous thing that older people often advise younger people to do in their 20s. Among other things, I think that is wonderful. Some older people give great sound advice, so yes it depends on who you’re around - I agree! I suppose I am primarily concerned with the western cultural narrative of what being liberated, wild, and fun is for women in their 20s. Older women often embody the harmful rhetoric and seems that lots of girls hear bad advice and may take it with the guise that it’s wisdom. I only wish to acknowledge a counter-narrative that there’s nothing wrong with being a gentle, quiet spirit in your 20s. Getting married in your early 20s or saving yourself isn’t strange. Partying or turning up isn’t the requirement (esp in college). It doesn’t make you unfun or ‘old’. And you’re definitely not missing on the opportunity to find out ‘who you truly are’. All things I’ve heard before. Given, the messengers tend to be bitter, feminist women (sometimes unhappily married, often single) who clearly didn’t get wisdom the first time, so they’re sharing their foolish advice with whoever will listen. Just want young women to avoid that at all costs, I definitely am.
@@shamarrmckinney-vanburen1608 I agree there are Good and Bad advice. And women should give a lot of thought before following any. I hope women have a clear understanding of their own identity as human beings, defining their core values and morals first before listening to others.
You don't have to categorize "feminists' as bitter women. I am from India which is a patriachy-dominated country. Most women are 'traditional homemakers' here and most of them are very bitter. Yet I never said 'bitter traditional women'.
For me 'bitter' is more of a personality trait which can be found in anyone. And from what I have seen most women regardless of age or job are passively competing with each other. And sometimes method women use is giving 'foolish advice' 'spreading malicious rumours' and many more.
Growing up, there were no working women around me. Only traditional homemakers. Was the environment around me peaceful, loving, caring and supportive? NOPE.
Someone's husband got a big promotion, and other women were jealous and tried to sabotage the marriage in a subtle way. One woman didn't clean her wash basin enough, so there was actually a discussion for almost half an hour degrading her and those women were trying to put themselves in a holy light of how they are so good at managing homes. There are many more but the comment will get too long. What I am trying to say is 'bitter' and 'jealous' and such negative emotions are emotional traits and shouldn't be the identity of a certain group.
Your curls are lovely
Thank you ☺️
God Bless you... you've spoken my truth. I've battled with my feminine needs. With your help, I'll embrace my softness and gentle pace. 💜🙏🏾
Thia video was super insightful amd educational
I also realized that i do exactly all of these masculine things😂
But of course part of self improvement is being aware of your weaknesses or in this case masculinity to shift it to femininty
Masculinity isnt necessarily bad or a flaw its a just a thing that we ve learned to embody to survive not knowing that we can find even more peace in the feminine
The technology aspect is so true! Something I’m sure a lot of us struggle with (including myself)
That fourth point is really good. I came to similar (albeit more "utlilitarian"... I still employ quite a bit of so-called stereotypically masculine behaviors, but now in the service of my tasks as mother) conclusions for not over-packing my day, but for entirely different reason as a mom. Essentially if you are a mother you need a buffer between activities and a lot of flexibility because your life is no longer purely under your control. Buffering your time gives you the needed flexibility to adjust when things go wrong and makes you resilient to complications in your day. I cannot optimize for efficiency anymore as a mom of 2 pregnant with a third child, and when I tried to do it my days would often fall apart because something almost always came up. I've had to optimize for resilience instead.
Ahhhh...you feel like THE WOMAN I needed as a friend...so much to learn to appreciate being a woman...thank you ~~~ :)
Another great video! I would love to see you make a video about how Christian women can thrive when single, when they really want to settle down and just haven’t found the right person. Lila rose made a video about that, but I’d love to hear the Orthodox perspective!!
Lovely video as always, I hope u can keep on delivering such content to us. Highly educational especially for those who weren't taught any of this🥰🥰
Thank you! Will do!
Every time I watch your videos, I am appalled at how indoctrinated I had been in masculinity. There is so much I am unlearning😣 these poor young girls today…..it’s even worse for so many, especially those in govt schools.
Thanks again for helping us think through our behaviors and make better choices. The one thing you talked about that I struggle with the most is the balance between full-on materialism/coveting and admiring beauty in things. I seem to swing back and forth and often feel like functionality/necessity should be my only guide in buying anything.
Femininity is to be celebrated. sometimes we feel we have to hide our femininity but the softness of a woman is the most beautiful thing. It’s so elegant. I cringe when I hear young girls using foul language it’s so unattractive. They can be so beautiful if they chose to be.
Im at the start of the video but I know its wonderful, really enjoy your content!💜🙏
Thank you!!
This content makes me sane
Im a woman and I HATE writing emails like a woman or receiving feminine emails its such a Waste of my time Truly. Please I Just want to get from point A to B. The connection is implied. I only want to enjoy and spend quality time establishing connections with a select few. This feminine rambling is a waste of my precious energy. I dont care how most peoples day is going I just want to complete the transaction. Dont ask me how Im feeling in an email either. If you really care you can ask me in person when we both have free time.
Yeah I really don’t like that. I don’t want to act opposite of my nature.
I mean I dont blame her for the suggestion but its so not me. and I dont feel unfeminine for not writing rambling emails with useless niceties. people getting my emails have a Job to do thats the only thing that matters to either of us imo its not like were pals.@@schoolworkaccount3887
Thank you ❤ the subject of this video is very important
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I really resonate with the fact of just buying things because you really like how they look or how they make you feel. I just moved in my first home and I remember myself just trying to buy things that have a purpose and not spend money on extra things, but it actually feels good to splurge sometimes on yourself even if you don’t need it.
Congratulations on your new home..
This video was very practical and understandable. Very easy to take in. I love the points made. I can really see that as I mature these points on femininity are coming into play without me consciously choosing to. Mind you, I have prayed for God to transform me into the God fearing feminine woman that He desires for me to be. God is so awesome❤
It would be so cool to see you do a collab with Jamie Dyer! ❤
Some of these are rather difficult because of my job and because I’m engaged to a military veteran.
Man should also be emotionally aware and sensitive sometimes.
I have been abused many times but my father and parnter didn't care at all..
They just said it was past,forget it and from now be careful,watch your dressing.
I also love to be ambitious,I want to make contributions to world,do invention just like marie curie.
But people say feminine women should not be ambitious but good homemakers.😔💔
These things demotivate me...please suggest me what should I do or where I am wrong.
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I haven't watched her videos but if that's true, then I agree with you.
Patriarchy harms both men and women.
I want to go beyond masculinity and femininity.
You seems to be knowledgeable if you dont mind can we chat somewhere else.
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Enjoyed this video👩🏻💻 I was asked to provide the meal for coffeehouse after divine liturgy... I ended up co hosting with a brother in Christ. It ended up being a great outcome. I cooked much food after we went grocery shopping. He paid and I cooked. I adore cooking. I made Nativity Fast appropriate food i.e. lentils, orzo pasta w olives, fresh berry medley, bulgar wheat pomegranate salad
Hey Jasmine, I don’t know if you have already, but would you consider making a video about having a fear of one’s own femininity and being feminine?
I think many people miss the goal oriented part point. That is, as a woman you can be goal oriented, but don't go about it in the way of men. Go ahead as you enjoy the process and not the way a man would like a bullet.
Also for men. Whether religious or non religious. There’s a pastor named Paul Washer. He speaks on biblical and biological masculinity and embracing it. He helped my male sibling. Check him out if you want and if you’re not religious I still encourage you to do it and simply watch and listen with an open heart and take whatever you know you need and apply it.
Love your vids!
Thank you so much
Thanks for this video!🦋
Of course!
Could u plz make a morning and night routine video!!!
you are always spot on with these topics
Wow, my husband has been trying to make me into a man the whole time!!! Uhh, I’m all about the process and he constantly tells me to be goal driven 🤦🏻♀️ and that my emails are too lengthy, now I get that I’m just a feminine girl
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I love this message I love how self accepting this message is I just love it 😍
I feel like this is so true for me. I've been very interested in balancing my energy latley and i did amazing also the benefits are unbeliveble. But some people that i took information from said that you must have muscline energy like working hard or being very discipline and i've felt so bad while i'm doing these things it's feels like i'm fighting or like i'm in war with life but it feels good and i feel like myself when i'm trying to enjoy working on my goals instead of working hard and delay my happniess till i achieve them. I tottaly agree with what you said.
Your point on going to where the person is I tell my teenager's all the time.
Me, as a guy, realising I'm an effeminate soyboy with my emails ☠️
Now that you are mentioning it, I realise the difference between men and women with their emails...
And that a couple women i know have their emails the way men typically do, and they happen to be very goal-oriented, hard-working people. I do believe being friendly and considerate is important as your saying.
What about women who work in positions of authority? (Army, police force)
The last tip was my favorite
Very well explained. Thank you so much! 🙏😊❤
Can you explain how to embrace love in a relationship while y’all are both learning true femininity and masculinity
I'm learning a lot from you
I really love your video sist, thank you❤
Love this,thank u Jasmyne ❤👍🏻
They say it's lame to be a man who can control his emotions. There is a need to comfort and support his woman. Hug and kiss her tears away. 🫂😂😎
didnt expect a elliot hulse mention. also if u havent watched yet, knowland knows channel is a really good speaker on these christian topics but for masculinity. him and elliot make podcasts together too
He was talking about masculinity before it became trendy! He’s great.
It's hard because I know God has made me softer in nature but because of abuse both sexual and mental I've fallen under fawning and people-pleasing before. I do not want my reconciliation with my femininity to be policed (by either men or me) but I want to obey and participate in my healing with God. I also do not want to be soft and have to account for men (whom I have no interest in being with) either having feelings for me or telling me I am a tease just for being nice. I now desire to be kind to the opposite gender as gracefully as possible, but some men really give me the ick. Lol how do I go about this? I desire to be kind to humanity as Christ taught and as God intended but I do not want to account for the accumulation of lustful approaches that come my way. I struggle to trust men, because they usually dont just want to be my friend (unless they are on the spectrum).
This is great! Also what song did you use at the end of the video?
Thank you so much for this!
Happy to help!
Yep, best not to overuse masculinity for women.
I think this is a little misleading. I know lots of women (including myself) who are very goal oriented and ambitious when it comes to building a career/bussiness. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in this type of work as a woman and it sure doesn’t diminish your femininity if you know how to nurture it
This video doesn’t contradict that in the slightest 😊
That point was not about neglecting goals or outcomes. Rather, it’s about not *only* focusing on the end-goal. Also taking time to slow down and savor the process, savor connections, etc… not (only) focusing on the results. 💛
I concluded that feminism as feminine as it sounds as a term, it calls for masculinity.
agreed
@@JasmyneTheodoraYou didn't reply me...please I need your advice.
I love this !
Im not in to this how to make myself more feminine and masculine but im curious so this is an interesting video
I dont know if you have a video on this but if you could talk about *how* to express our emotions properly to the people in our lives? People have always told me "you're overreacting", "you're too emotional" to now where I'm 32 and hide a lot of emotions. I worry this is whats being projected onto my 11 year old daughter now, and I'd like to help her cultivate her femininity, not hide it.
It also depends on who you're sending the email to
An unpopular idea would be that converts should always use their baptismal name, not only when receiving Holy Communion but even when sending e-mails...please discuss.
Can you do a video can single women be friends with married women !!?? PLEASSSEEEEE
Many thanks 🤍🌷
I disagree. Animus and anima can be fully integrated in both man and woman, creating completely new level of unions - instead of enmeshment and dependency we witnessed so far, new unions are possible. However, I do find your advices valuable for balancing both aspects of the psyche. Kindly, K. ;)
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Thank you for commenting!
Good content
I appreciate that! Thanks!
Create a podcast pls!
Hi lovelies. Just a friendly reminder, The wisdom of this world does not compare the wisdom of God. I pray that we all embody the Proverbs 31 woman, a woman of character, love, kindness and who is a strong support to her husband and family. True femininity is knowing how to submit to God, walking with Jesus daily and being a breath of fresh air to those around you (spouse, boyfriend, family, friends, collegues etc.). God bless this beautiful woman in the video and all who are watching. God bless my lovelies 💖🤗
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@@JasmyneTheodora keep on doing what you are doing. Many of us need to soften up sometimes lol. Especially when many women are expected to toughen up). But what's wrong with being soft and tough. Keep it up beautiful and God bless you 🙏💖
Are you on Apple podcasts ?
Where can I find your book Club?
My Patreon!
@@JasmyneTheodora in which one. I am a Student so I have to be really cautious how to spend my money
The $3 one 😊
I loove being a girly girl 💞
Hey jasmyne, i wanna know what's you're favorite colour? 🐰
Either yellow or blue!
Jasmyne you better have 1 mil subs by 2025
There is a RUclips channel called “the feminine universe “, please watch that-it has actual actionable advice than this one which is more oriented to women taking all the onus and not holding men accountable.
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1:02 i would agree for the most part, except i think Jordan Peterson can actually be quite biased. Always take information with a grain of salt, wether you are a man or a woman.
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I dont know why, but the example of the male email cracked me up 😂
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I love being a delicate flower. 🌺🌷🌸
Wonderful
i love being a delicate beautiful flower too
Thank you for this safe place. This is the video I’ve been waiting for. Everyone says be more feminine, live in your femininity. But no one breaks it down and explains what that really looks like. This is the “how to” girls like myself need to start our journey. I want to be feminine but I honestly just don’t know how to be. Thank you for this video, please make this a series and keep it going!
The second point is REALLY insightful. We just got back from urgent care with my baby, because she had a suspicious rash. It turned out to be an infection (what I had suspected). This was our conversation on the way home:
Him: “well, I’m glad you made a big deal about it and brought her to the doctor, because if it had been up to me, you know what I would have said…”
Me “you would have said ‘she’s probably fine’ and done nothing.”
Him “yep”
I’ve been saying for several years that one of the most important phrases and ideals for maintaining a good relationship is simply, “I was wrong.” Glad you guys have the relationship that you do and glad your daughter was ok. P-)
Another amazing video 🤍. Definitely difficult to be a feminine woman in today's world, especially when I don't have a husband and male protection yet, my father passed away so I just need to survive in this world somehow.... trying my best to remain soft and feminine woman 🌸💕
Jesus Christ said that He is a father to the fatherless, seek Him he is the best Father anyone could have
@@nevergoin28 thank you for this reminder, yes, that's definitely something I need to remember more often 🤍
@@viktorijabogdanaite5167 yes dear! My father was not active in my life but the Lord really took care of me. He will take care of you and protect you in ways that your earthly fathers eyes could not even reach! Jesus will take even MORE care of you to because your earthly father is not here 💕
I love being feminine, soft and elegant buy I'm very resilient. Strong, when it's warranted. Men love it but some women get mad at me for being 'girly'. Tough! I don't have a spouse or dad but my protector is the Lord! He's a great dad. Never forget that.
I'm guilty of the "overcrowding" one. It is extremely hard to not do this since we value busyness so much as a culture--it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman. Making room for stillness feels like failure to me, like I'm not making good use of my time. It's hard to fight against that mindset!
I am going through the same thing. The phone, news, trying to survive has kept my mind so busy, plus my health! I started journaling. Even that was kind of hard (just getting started) and I started to borrow books from the library as a way to stay away distracted from my phone and TV. I feel like a failure when I can't build a good habit. But am trying. Taking a walk outside at night has also been so calming for me. We just need to remind ourselves of how it's like to regain the habits back again.
It's so true. We've gotten to the point where staring at two screens (with several tabs open) isn't good enough. We also need additional audio of some kind playing in our earbuds and snacks to eat while we do all this. Hahaha. Not to mention the 100 things on our minds at once. We need to SLOW DOWN in order to get ahead.
Well. I actually hate the fast life and hustle. It literally makes me sick and it's very boring.
I can relate. Since childhood I was always really sensitive and whenever I cried... There you go.. omg you're so sensitive.. omg you're such a drama queen. When actually I'm just expressing myself. Women in my surrounding are so in their Masculine energy.. they sometimes even shame me & try to lecture me on why femininity is weak. This is so exhausting. Your videos are home for me.
Same thing here, I was always told to "stop being a victim" when I was a child. It's nice to know I'm not alone
@@VictoriaAnne-w2c It's ok sis. We will get through this together.. with the help of God. Stay strong. Much love. And ignore the negative people ❤️🌹
i can relate to this! 🙏🌸🌷🤍 our femininity is a gift from God
@@flowersandlace yeah. Let's embrace Femininity.
Extreme Feminism
I realized how much I've been forced to be this masculine persona in my family, as an only child :O
This woman changed my whole life. I'm inlove with my soft eraaaa!🪴✨️
I really appreciate the content you produce. You are one of the few I know in the Orthodox space presenting the feminine case for women, which I think is very valuable. This said, and take it for what it is, the disagreement of an anonymous stranger on the internet, I disagree with you on women not having any masculine essence. It seems to me that women do have a masculine essence and men have a feminine essence, *however* woman is predominantly feminine and men are predominantly masculine. Consider the classic yin-yang: each is a dance with the other, yet both have a bit of the other inside of it. The problem is when you try expand that dot to predominate the sphere, crowding out the natural presence and ruining the dance.
To take a crude example, consider a mathematician who dabbles in literature. There is nothing wrong with this, and doing so may even enhance his study and understanding of mathematics (e.g. St Pavel Florensky regarding Dante in "Imaginaries in Geometry"). However, the mathematician would suffer if he treated approached mathematics like literature, tried to embody the latter while operating in the former. Similarly, a student and writer of literature could benefit from mathematics, but trying to embody the mathematician within that role would produce formulaic, heartless pieces and analysis.
I think Christians must say that men and women have both masculine and feminine energy. After all, both are told to imitate Christ (masculine) and both are the bride of Christ (feminine). However, our primary essence and mode in the world is different, for man qua man symbolizes (that is, where meaning meets embodiment) the groom, while woman qua woman symbolizes the bride.
Have you watched my video on this topic? 😊
Could you make a video on hobbies that bring out inner femininity? ❤
I withheld so much emotion because I was told I was being too emotional sometimes by women who were themselves traumatized from their past experiences. Even in church my mom and I were told we were too emotional because we cried a lot.
When I listened to them it made me hard, cold, sad and feel alone.
I’m expressing it better now and accepting my biological clock and better planning my life to suit it.
Even at work, when I know aunt flow is coming in advance I will buy Midol, Advil, chocolate, water , decaffeinated tea, to prepare myself for a long day then rest.
Thank you again Jazmyne.