I live with my six year old child and two dogs. I love not living with a man. I feel so much happier and I am blooming. The freedom is like nothing else.
Same here. I have had my home for twenty years. I have had a couple of different people in here. One was great. The other was a demon 😈 But being by myself has taught me I prefer it. I really don't want relationships. I find they make me anxious 😰 and destroy my balance. 😊 Let's normalize this
I love living alone as an introvert. I need alone time to recharge and get my thoughts together. My life path number even says co habitation is not for me and I couldn't agree more
The take away I am getting even with the sad folks is the peace. I have been doing this for decades. I am a childless dog 🐕 lady. I don't date or have sex. I just enjoy having my ph balanced and ✌🏿 peace
I live alone and travel alone. Wouldn't change a thing. This is why I don't think I could ever get married. If I'm dating someone I don't want them at my house the whole time.
Ive been living alone since 23. At first I let my ex/kids dad come and live with me and it was the worst thing I could've did😂. I was so miserable having to share my apartment. That didn't work so we broke up and i kicked him out. It was just me and my baby and we were soooo peaceful. We lived off a beautiful lake. We would walk around the park and look out at the Lake. My home was so cozy. I am now 32 living in a Condo off of a Lake and I love my home. My 2 boys are just like me. They are so quiet i forget i even have kids. Lol I couldn't ask for a better life.
My saddest moments are; Excluded in conversations Not getting invited by close friends Being Ignored by friends/family Being customized by a lover (be sexier, more beautiful, do this do that) One way relationships (I listen to your problems, when it's my turn "I'm negative") My happiest moments; Walking alone Exploring alone Watching my fave shows while eating my fave foods Relaxing alone ❤
I lived alone for a year during college in Atlanta. The building i lived had thin walls which i hated, but it was mine. I watched what i wanted, cooked my own meals which had me lose lots of weight, and i could come and go whenever I wanted. Unfortunately due to student loan debt, I'm living back home. But because of this I'm almost done with my debt. The way things are today seems dismal, but I'm not giving up on getting my own house one day and kinda living alone. (I want a Corgi 😊)
My mom has never lived alone. She has never had her own bed until my fad passed away in June, having 7 siblings. It's been extremely hard for her to transition from his loss, not only because of grief, but because she does not know herself at all and has never developed any skills to be alone and be comfortable. Yes to everything positive said about living alone - I do and I love the freedom, the peace and I need solitude as an introvert. But even aside from that, life happens and circumstances WILL change. Knowing how to take care of yourself emotionally, how to entertain yourself, how to care about your life in the absence of external validation and support is a life skill. And it needs practice. You don't want to try it for the first time at 76.
I agree once my father died, my mother moved in with one of my sisters…the single, achildfree, never married controlling sister😂. However she takes care of our mothers needs and thankfully my mom is still moving around well at age 86 and has a good mind etc as she was a teacher. TBC this sister was never a true introvert imho as she stays surrounding herself with others. I’m the introvert as I discovered at age 40 first time single, kids grown and out of the home. I’m now 50…I get a mini panic attack even thinking about living with some man or woman. I was essentially drained as a young Mom from age 18 to 40…I’m good so it really just depends on the person, their personality, and their experience dealing with people. I was always the ocd servant so yeah, hence the DRAIN, but with no one around…I avoid that crazy tick.😂
I was choking with my own saliva the other day.... I couldn't take one breath in.... there was no one there to at least hold my hand through that traumatic experience 😂 New fear unlocked 😂
Yah, you and your wife needs to have a talk. I’m married and enjoy my alone time but I have a better time with my hubby. That is why I’m married. If I felt I was better alone, I would be alone. I enjoy my alone time and I love my family time. It is about balance. You will be divorced if you don’t figure out what is hindering your marriage thriving. 🙏🏽😌
Being alone is definitely for certain type of people. Some people thrive alone and some don’t. This is life. What works for some may not work for others so always keep that in mind when speaking on what works for YOU. Funny, I enjoy being alone and have a wonderful husband and kids, and my sister always wants to be with people always wanted a family and end up being by herself, living alone. I’m guessing being happy where you are right now is the key.😊
After decades of living alone, I still can’t find any negatives! People here list having to pay their own bills as a negative. I personally never understood this as that kind of dependence is unsustainable. You will in fact at some point have to carry the load. Why not while you’re young because as you age you will come to know you have the courage, determination and ability to face any challenge coming your way. Define your own community. There are still adventures to be had!❤
I lived alone for two years, now my sister and I are roommates but we both enjoy solitude and have our own schedules while splitting bills/ saving money. It’s GREAT. I will say living alone was wonderful because I got to truly know myself and become comfortable being by myself…now I don’t care much for being around people unless I choose to be because I am just fine alone. It’s empowering and you learn not to rely on others for validation or affirmation. God is my source. ❤
People who struggle with living alone have a high aggravation threshold. What I mean by this is, they are not easily aggravated by others. This is neither good nor bad; it just is. Conversely, those who love living alone have a low aggravation threshold. This means they are easily aggravated by others and therefore value their PEACE.
"I get to spend rest of the day with myself" she says sad. My dude it sounds like either a. Its not for you, maybe live with roomates or get a dog or b. It sounds like you don't know yourself at all. Spend time getting to know youself. Its not sad like you make it out to be. Spending time alone is impt to do at some point cuz u gotta know your needs and who you are. It can help with dating. And not knowing how to live alone and be yourself (the lady seems to be doing stuff she doesn't even genuinely enjoy) in itself is a learning lesson if ur willing to learn
This is so odd watching the “self helpification” of something so simple as living alone. I’ve lived on my own since I was 18 (over 20 years) and hearing “I had to plan all of my meals and wash my own clothes!” Is wild. Duh! Of course you had to, you chose to be an independent, self sustaining adult. Come on, not everything is a revelation.
Actually is the opposite 😂😂 i felt lonely at first then adapt and loveeee it now, no drama in my life, no enemy, no friends, just family members that live 20 minutes away from me i'm 29
I live alone and love it
I live with my six year old child and two dogs. I love not living with a man. I feel so much happier and I am blooming. The freedom is like nothing else.
Yes. Not having them leave their mess all around or eat up all the food you cook feels great!
I'm 52 and lived mostly alone.
Best times ever.
Would never change it.
It is so peaceful 😊
Same here. I have had my home for twenty years. I have had a couple of different people in here. One was great. The other was a demon 😈 But being by myself has taught me I prefer it. I really don't want relationships. I find they make me anxious 😰 and destroy my balance. 😊 Let's normalize this
I love living alone as an introvert. I need alone time to recharge and get my thoughts together. My life path number even says co habitation is not for me and I couldn't agree more
I live alone and have always wanted to. Can control the temp, smells, etc.
Exactly. Seemingly small things make a really big difference.
The take away I am getting even with the sad folks is the peace. I have been doing this for decades. I am a childless dog 🐕 lady. I don't date or have sex. I just enjoy having my ph balanced and ✌🏿 peace
A balanced PH😊!!! OH YESS!!!❤
❤ same
I love my own company
Me too😊.. I really don't understand why some people don't enjoy their own company
I miss living alone. I haven't since before marriage and kids..... I MISS IT!!!
Same! Glad I experienced it in my young life
I live alone and travel alone. Wouldn't change a thing. This is why I don't think I could ever get married. If I'm dating someone I don't want them at my house the whole time.
I hate living with Men I get annoyed so easily by their presence that even if I get a bf I don’t want to Live with him he can Live at his house
I’ve ALWAYS felt this same way
Im sure they feel the same about you. You should have no issue achieving your friends w benefits. I doubt any guy would cuff you 😂
Same here
Same here
I’m glad I’m not the only one 😆
Ive been living alone since 23. At first I let my ex/kids dad come and live with me and it was the worst thing I could've did😂. I was so miserable having to share my apartment. That didn't work so we broke up and i kicked him out. It was just me and my baby and we were soooo peaceful. We lived off a beautiful lake. We would walk around the park and look out at the Lake. My home was so cozy. I am now 32 living in a Condo off of a Lake and I love my home. My 2 boys are just like me. They are so quiet i forget i even have kids. Lol I couldn't ask for a better life.
You are describing my dream life! I plan to be a single mother by choice, so no man can destroy my peace with the co-parenting stuff
@@TheMotArt That's so smart
Wow. That sounds so amazing. All the best to you and your boys!
@@thepragmatist ty!
So happy for you. I’m the same way, but with only kid and it’s so peaceful.
I live alone and love it!
Best way of life... no one to fight with and no one to make excuses for.
I lived alone since 27 from my divorce until present, 41. I love it
My saddest moments are;
Excluded in conversations
Not getting invited by close friends
Being Ignored by friends/family
Being customized by a lover (be sexier, more beautiful, do this do that)
One way relationships (I listen to your problems, when it's my turn "I'm negative")
My happiest moments;
Walking alone
Exploring alone
Watching my fave shows while eating my fave foods
Relaxing alone ❤
I lived alone for a year during college in Atlanta. The building i lived had thin walls which i hated, but it was mine. I watched what i wanted, cooked my own meals which had me lose lots of weight, and i could come and go whenever I wanted.
Unfortunately due to student loan debt, I'm living back home. But because of this I'm almost done with my debt.
The way things are today seems dismal, but I'm not giving up on getting my own house one day and kinda living alone. (I want a Corgi 😊)
This my everyday life baby my nickname is freedom 😂
IT'S THE BEST FEELING...SOLITUDE IS AMAZING.
Women! adopt girls🩷
💯 My home is my castle.💜👑
I have such a girly style that I can’t imagine sharing a home with a guy again. I need to live around color and so many have a problem with that
My current struggle too😂😂I even have a pink duvet
My mom has never lived alone. She has never had her own bed until my fad passed away in June, having 7 siblings. It's been extremely hard for her to transition from his loss, not only because of grief, but because she does not know herself at all and has never developed any skills to be alone and be comfortable. Yes to everything positive said about living alone - I do and I love the freedom, the peace and I need solitude as an introvert. But even aside from that, life happens and circumstances WILL change. Knowing how to take care of yourself emotionally, how to entertain yourself, how to care about your life in the absence of external validation and support is a life skill. And it needs practice. You don't want to try it for the first time at 76.
I agree once my father died, my mother moved in with one of my sisters…the single, achildfree, never married controlling sister😂. However she takes care of our mothers needs and thankfully my mom is still moving around well at age 86 and has a good mind etc as she was a teacher. TBC this sister was never a true introvert imho as she stays surrounding herself with others. I’m the introvert as I discovered at age 40 first time single, kids grown and out of the home. I’m now 50…I get a mini panic attack even thinking about living with some man or woman. I was essentially drained as a young Mom from age 18 to 40…I’m good so it really just depends on the person, their personality, and their experience dealing with people. I was always the ocd servant so yeah, hence the DRAIN, but with no one around…I avoid that crazy tick.😂
I love it been living alone for about 17 years and I love it.♥️♥️♥️
I’ve lived alone and I’ve lived w/ people. All the times I’ve been happiest is when I’ve lived alone.❤❤❤
I was choking with my own saliva the other day.... I couldn't take one breath in.... there was no one there to at least hold my hand through that traumatic experience 😂
New fear unlocked 😂
And still enjoy it ❤😂
I’ve never lived alone but after 18 years of marriage, I’m ready at 40
Yah, you and your wife needs to have a talk. I’m married and enjoy my alone time but I have a better time with my hubby. That is why I’m married. If I felt I was better alone, I would be alone. I enjoy my alone time and I love my family time. It is about balance. You will be divorced if you don’t figure out what is hindering your marriage thriving. 🙏🏽😌
@@sg5720 I’m the wife. Men don’t listen or talk.
Being alone is definitely for certain type of people. Some people thrive alone and some don’t. This is life. What works for some may not work for others so always keep that in mind when speaking on what works for YOU. Funny, I enjoy being alone and have a wonderful husband and kids, and my sister always wants to be with people always wanted a family and end up being by herself, living alone. I’m guessing being happy where you are right now is the key.😊
Your last sentence is such good advice!
I miss living alone. I have the most inconsiderate roommates and they ghetto af with all types a nijjas in here every weekend 😭😭😭
I'm sorry😔
😂😂😂😂
😐 sorry...I can only imagine🫣
That's dangerous. Pickmeishas can get you hurt or worse Please keep yourself safe❤
You know what it is you gotta do!
i am no longer living alone because i bought a car and need to pay it off…
I do miss it.
Understandable Sis
After decades of living alone, I still can’t find any negatives! People here list having to pay their own bills as a negative. I personally never understood this as that kind of dependence is unsustainable. You will in fact at some point have to carry the load. Why not while you’re young because as you age you will come to know you have the courage, determination and ability to face any challenge coming your way. Define your own community. There are still adventures to be had!❤
I wish I could afford to live alone
You will😘
@@mskabue thank you 🙏
I lived alone for two years, now my sister and I are roommates but we both enjoy solitude and have our own schedules while splitting bills/ saving money. It’s GREAT. I will say living alone was wonderful because I got to truly know myself and become comfortable being by myself…now I don’t care much for being around people unless I choose to be because I am just fine alone. It’s empowering and you learn not to rely on others for validation or affirmation. God is my source. ❤
Great video ! It is always good to talk about things like this.
People who struggle with living alone have a high aggravation threshold. What I mean by this is, they are not easily aggravated by others. This is neither good nor bad; it just is. Conversely, those who love living alone have a low aggravation threshold. This means they are easily aggravated by others and therefore value their PEACE.
"I get to spend rest of the day with myself" she says sad. My dude it sounds like either a. Its not for you, maybe live with roomates or get a dog or b. It sounds like you don't know yourself at all. Spend time getting to know youself. Its not sad like you make it out to be. Spending time alone is impt to do at some point cuz u gotta know your needs and who you are. It can help with dating. And not knowing how to live alone and be yourself (the lady seems to be doing stuff she doesn't even genuinely enjoy) in itself is a learning lesson if ur willing to learn
This is so odd watching the “self helpification” of something so simple as living alone. I’ve lived on my own since I was 18 (over 20 years) and hearing “I had to plan all of my meals and wash my own clothes!” Is wild. Duh! Of course you had to, you chose to be an independent, self sustaining adult. Come on, not everything is a revelation.
Off topic but ppl putting on makeup while they're talking nonstop is so weird 2 me. I don't wear makeup but if I did I'd put it on in private.
It's cool for awhile until you get lonely.
ThTs what dogs and cats are for. What?! Never lonely for me 💖
I don't own a pet.
Some of us love being alone and feel unsafe around other people. I ain't ever getting lonely but I do hope you're okay!
THAT is a codependence issue.
Actually is the opposite 😂😂 i felt lonely at first then adapt and loveeee it now, no drama in my life, no enemy, no friends, just family members that live 20 minutes away from me i'm 29
Can save $ by buying less makeup and accessories. Think light.