The Shocking Truth About Being Girlfriend Material After Hooking Up (How To Do It)
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- Опубликовано: 23 июл 2024
- Guides And Coaching: liinks.co/elliotscott
In this eye-opening video, dating coach Elliot Scott dives deep into the topic of being seen as girlfriend material after hooking up. He addresses the common frustration many women experience when a guy's behavior suddenly changes after an initial connection. Elliot explores the concept that sex or lack thereof is not the sole determining factor in a man's decision to pursue a relationship. Drawing from his expertise in male psychology and dating dynamics, he provides valuable insights on how to navigate this situation and position yourself as girlfriend material.
Elliot starts by debunking the misconception that sex determines a man's commitment. He emphasizes that a guy typically already knows what he wants and the category he puts you in before hooking up. He introduces the concept of the "wider lens," where the person with more information holds the advantage. Elliot gives examples of how this plays out in different scenarios, highlighting the importance of being cautious and filtering out emotionally unavailable men.
He delves into the theory of parental investment, explaining why women need to be choosier in their relationships and require courtship from men. Elliot urges women to slow down and wait to see if a guy is genuinely interested in a relationship before becoming intimate. He emphasizes that it doesn't matter if you sleep with a guy on the first date or the tenth; what matters is his emotional availability and alignment with your relationship goals.
Elliot outlines the three possible outcomes after hooking up: he wants more, he wants the same, or he wants less. He breaks down each scenario, providing practical advice on how to navigate them. He stresses the importance of setting standards, maintaining self-respect, and not settling for being taken for granted.
To increase your chances of being seen as girlfriend material, Elliot shares five essential factors a man needs to commit to a woman. These factors include being the best option, physical attraction, making him want to be a better person, making his life better with you in it, and having a balance of assets and limited liabilities.
Throughout the video, Elliot's conversational and empathetic tone reassures viewers that they are not alone in their struggles. He offers guidance and solutions based on his experience and expertise as a dating coach. In addition, he provides links to his guides and coaching services for those seeking further assistance.
If you're tired of feeling confused or frustrated about where you stand after hooking up, this video is a must-watch. Elliot Scott's insights and advice will empower you to navigate the dating world with confidence and make informed choices when it comes to relationships. The link to the video is down below, so make sure to check it out and gain valuable knowledge that will transform your dating experiences.
CHAPTERS:
0:00 - Intro
1:07 - Differentiating Between Sex and Relationships
5:44 - Understanding Hit and Quit Situations
12:38 - Factors That Make a Man Keep You Around
17:40 - Qualities That Make a Man See You as Girlfriend Material
20:42 - Importance of Standards and Structure in Relationships
22:50 - Being Emotionally Available in a Relationship
26:13 - Strategies to Encourage Commitment from a Man
30:16 - The 5 Key Factors for a Man to Commit
32:21 - Preventing Friends With Benefits and Ensuring a Committed Relationship
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“70% of the game is finding the right guy and he has to be emotionally available and a decent guy” the most powerful thing Elliott’s ever said.🎉
I found men rush things , and if you sleep with them, they get cold feet. All I can ever be is a friend now, can't go through all that again.
I know what you mean. I tell guys we can just be platonic friends. No hooking up and being used.
Good for you stand your ground it's not worth it you know if the if the women from 1950 were alive today none of them would be happy they would be laughing at all of the women saying of course you're having problems because you sleep with them they knew what to do they didn't sleep around and they got diamond rings and the men were nice to them I am losing faith in women altogether they just want to act like s**** and us women have to stick together for our own Survival when are we going to learn stop sleeping with men just stop it just plain stop it it's not worth it we run the risk of STDs unwanted pregnancies getting a broken heart low self-esteem and the men just go on with their lives the next day like nothing ever happened it makes me sick and I don't know why any woman would ever ever ever ever ever want to go through this or make it difficult for the next Woman by being a s***
Men and woman cannot be “friends” don’t kid yourself
Right. I hate it. Thru rush bc they don't want to invest and they're being strategic.
same! i do the friendzone technique now. if they see it as a challenge, it means their interest in me was high enough. if they give up, it means they were on the take.
I love you! "These dudes are duds" and "Suck him off and have fun" took me out. So true though! It all comes down to if it's the right guy - if he's looking for a relationship or just a hook up. Holding out a little can help with showing his intentions. Girls, get courted! ❤
from personal experience, mixed signals = ' i dont like u'.....
Can you make a video about how to spot an emotional unavailable guy early on? I don’t want to get burned badly againzz
You're so hysterical in the middle of this video when the guy looks down and his stomach is in the way, I haven't laughed in such a while. thanks for this. and for all the good you're doing for women!
You always encourage women to be better to improve ourselves. I love that about you!!!
Why can't men say truth. "i can not give you a relation and i can be friend". Its simpler than the drama they create
Because Men by Nature lie by omission that's why they can't be honest they just can't they're not genetically programmed to be honest
I actually had one do that. I respect it and it was before I developed serious feelings so it was just a slight sting.
@@ksref then he is worthy of respect
Bc they won't get laid which js what a lot of them seek.
It’s bc it hurts their ego. they cannot accept that you are okay with only looking at them as a friend lol
All your videos are great, but this is the best one yet 👍🏼
Elliot said “she can be the perfect woman but if he’s emotionally unavailable he won’t commit.” (Something to that effect). But he’s also said even emotionally unavailable men will commit to the right woman (he calls it the Jenn Aniston effect). So which is it? Will an emotionally unavailable man commit to the perfect woman then or not? These are two contradictory messages and they can’t both be true.
Great question!
It's called the JA Effect for the fact that it's so unrealistic to be that person he commits to that these men never commit. It's the irony of it all.
The reason this doesn’t make sense to me is because when I’m really into someone, they’re even better than any unrealistic celebrity. I’d take the guy I’m in love with over Henry Effin Cavill
All about timing in my opinion. He’s either at a stage in maturity and /or financial stability where he wants to commit or not.
However, making him wait, he will long remember how much work he put in to get his needs met and I think that’s helpful.
Just my opinion.
Love avoidant men are awful they get you to the point where they want to marry you then become scared and end it.
Loving your no-nonsense videos. Wish i had seen these years ago.
Thank you for making this video. I’m in the process of making a guy wait until we’re together before getting intimate it’s going great.
You are so on point . Love you have no filter. Say it like it is.
Love this content!! Just discovered your channel 🎉
Struggling so much in the dating world in my 30s 😢
So most guys are jerks in other words ...
Basically 😂
I loooove not only your content but they way in which you share it. Sometimes it feels like that slap on the face that makes you wake up from a trance 😅
it's true..it's risky putting out straight away. they always go cold after - he knows theres nothing for him to work towards
another great video!
Excellent video 🌹
This video is so good 👍
I don't care what category they put me in,I'd go have a good time and that's it,no games,no waste of time,is easier 😂😂
You're gonna care sooner than you think, suddenly you're 40
@@adday. Almost 40 and I still don't care lol
@@tormentors😂
@tormentors you're on this channel so you do care lol 😂.nice try
@@softlife45 Don't project yourself into others...nice try 😘
This is your best video, to me ❤ thank you
I'm so lucky I have your videos and I recently purchased your guide :) brutally honest but extremely helpful :)
I don't know but sometimes I wonder what was Elliot Scott like when he was 8 years old. I say this because the way he talks is so adorable.
17:56. GREAT tip....time to re-calibrate my thinking of my worth & not downgrade, regardless of what any man may rank me as.
Thank you Elliot an amazing video so true it needs to feel like a relationship before hooking up
Thank you Elliot that you are
The passion. Get the course!
the best coach..i think i will buy the books or i will do one session xxx
Thank you❤
Omfg Elliot I needed this video as of today lol … THANK YOU.
So helpful. My daughter, ice skating. I tried to stop 2 hockey players whom well, were getting her attention. I was afraid she wouldn't want to skate there anymore after this. It's that age where half of them are going off to college too. Fast forward one year; sure enough things and people have changed. There was no courting. It was this weird , I don't know what it was. He's right, he has TO COURT you. Neither of those two hockey players did that and sure enough they're onto other things BUT she didn't get too involved so she's okay with still skating there. INVESTMENT... time..........Example, Taylor Swift. She dates a guy for what 5 years and it's off?????? If Taylor Swift couldn't make it happen, He's right. It doesn't matter how perfect you are. The guy has to be in the right frame of mind.
Yay momma! (Most) Hockey players are bad news
Dating is not serious. A man has to propose in 18 months
I love watching ur vids eliott as it gives a gd insight into how a mans mind works theres no magic key. Its emotional intelligence iv said to guys before i can see ur not ready for a relationship so im not carrying on this any further
hello Elliot its a great video.
i was wondering if i could help you edit your videos and make it more enagaging.
No sex girls..no sex ..
Looking good Elliot 🤩
I love that you’re getting irritated and saying it how it needs to be did… really trying to hammer it in.
18:41 LMAOOOOO
18:45!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Elliott can you please send me the attraction academy link? I’m not sure if It’s the link you have in the bio with the 6 videos that say master the dating game and how to took a guy ect ect ?
Closed it. The only thing I sell is my coaching or guides
Pure gold 😂
this guy says im “everything he’s looking for” but he doesnt want a relationship bc we live two hours away and he “can’t give me what i deserve” but then gets mad at me if i was to be seeing another guy.. 😐 its so stupid
if he was *that* mad, he'd be in a relationship with you...
They use distance as an excuse to dump you!
It's about control for him. Do you.
NEXT just play with him and say you go on constant dates
Guys can get jealous without having true feelings. Also he doesn’t want another guy getting his benefits
I really think the term “emotionally unavailable” is over used! Unless he’s widowed, has ptsd or on drugs (which would be the most common reason today) I call BS, Thoughts? @Elliot Scott
The men are having a free-for-all like never before in history of any country in the world.
This is all Bs if women everywhere just stopped sleeping with men they would be lining up with diamond rings
I agree. Emotionally unavailable is also when you’re not over someone else, but other than that, it’s an excuse.
can you make a video on identifying whether an encounter is a hangout or a date? sometimes its obviously a hangout like if he texts you to come over at 2am. and sometimes its obviously a date like taking you to the restaurant and paying for you. but sometimes its a grey area like taking you on a hike. i believe the dates we agree to or decline in the beginning can play a part in whether a guy will see us as gf material or not
I say don't fall for the hang out cheap skate bull. The first date sets the precedent for the relationship. Raise your value.
@@juliefall2892 facts sister 💯
2am is a booty call lol
If he is serious about you and you hold out, and take it slow to get to know each other a little ,you can see his true intentions. I very chosey about who I let have access to me, my time, my trust, ad my love.
Love u ...don't just see u as a "coach"-just see u as a friend and we're just hanging out. Like your company
Like our old Polish busia used to say, “Why buy the goat when you can get the cheese for free “.
It’s just biology.
Straight up🙌🙌🙌🙌
Honestly, sometimes I wonder if there aren’t any other women that are emotionally unavailable and afraid of commitment. I feel these things myself and I’m not a dude. It has to do with your childhood attachment style and mine is avoidant
I'm like that
There is something you can do about "hooking up".
DON'T DO IT!!
Elliot says filter the guy out. That means go sloooooow. Very, very slowly....
That means there will be no one left 😅
@@Philphil2024better for you then! Better no one than an asshole
Most men like to have the leverage and trick women
Mother Nature is a MOTHER - she actually cares . She does give a shit
yeah karma is real
Women bond through sex , we produce oxytocin ( feel good hormone ) . We can literally think We are in love after sex
It’s the best reason to not have sex too early
18:11 best part😂🙌 ahahahaha
Either he sees your worth and value. If he doesn't ,there is someone else will be deserving of you.
The liability think is true 😢I hate it but it is. My guy sees me that way. He's so afraid because of his kids, how they will feel. He is very protective of his peace with them. And afraid I will distract him. It breaks my heart. I get his POV.
I'm taking a break to figure out what I want rn.
The guide is not free 😂
And getting to know someone is that letting him come over for the first date. There are a lot of women do in this and it seems men can not tell the difference of a woman who has respect and standards and boundaries cause so many women don't have it when they met one who has standard respect boundaries they don't know how to handle it cause sometimes they have it themselves as well.
When Elliot said “this mf who looks down and can’t even see his own weiner because his guts covering it?! Get that shit outta here.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 hilarious!! I know that’s right.
So whats up with the guy I had that said the sex was amazing yet then tells me that 2 "bangs" are enough for now and that we arent hooking up anymore... I told him to have a nice life then stormed off.. 2 days later he starts messaging me again.. ugghhh
I slept with guy on 1 meeting after talking to him 3 month we are still going strong❤
I don't agree I think because I've been married twice when it moves fast it's because it's meant to be in that moment and you need that connection and I feel like it's better than trying to manipulate someone to spend money on you. That's just my personal opinion.
Turns out the guy I really liked who I thought was on the same page as me was pulling away to talk to other men. I didn’t even know he was bisexual…
Jeez, that happened to me too!! But I was so turned off after I found out he was bi that it was really easy to move on!!
Not us woman crying over a man who would put us on antibiotics. & men crying over a woman who would take everything they own and run when he IS a good man to her. This world is shitttt.
around 18th minute 😁😆😆😁
😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉
Hook ups are for big girls who don’t care about outcomes.
Who don’t need outcomes, sis.
Yup, as you get older and create your own sense of security and a full life, it's much easier to detach from outcome.
What if I don't want to have sex til marriage? Will he leave?
He will leave regardless if a pettier woman accepts him
I can’t believe some women would send this video to the guy they like to make them understand what they’re both going through lmao 😂
I really wonder how I managed to get 3 LTR in the past without knowing shit while it all seems like rocket science currently how to hook a guy. I feel so stupid 😄
What if the sex ist really good but he even don‘t want the assets anymore bc he says he don‘t want to string me along bc I am a good girl & he don‘t want a RP bc he has alot of problems going on.
He has somebody else!
Ouch , run
Say Thank You, I appreciate that and mean it...much better than if he strings you along
@@annab2796 okey but still he came around after that
Don’t thank him. Let him go.
Or just stop hooking up with men altogether
It so does not make sense to me that a relationship is a cost. I mean I can understand that things like marriage or Xmas situps are dreadful. I hate those things myself. But having a best friend do fun things go to a festival a holiday aren’t those benefits? Waking up on a Sunday croissant a hike playing billiards. Don’t guys want to do that with a beautiful and fun woman? I mean don’t they miss so much out as well if only focusing on sex? That’s the part I really don’t understand.
You sound sick Elliot. I hope you're okay.
Noooooo hoookup. Noooooooooooooooo