8 months LDR (we saw each other every weekend). His ex left him a year ago and I listened to him “open up” about his feelings, fears, past, etc. But the minute I did the same, he ran. Emotional unavailability is brutal.
1: We dated consistently for 3 months. Met up weekly and spoke everyday. 2: By month 2 I asked him how he feels, and he said he still didnt want to be exclusive...so I said fine. I told him we can wait another month. 3: By month 3, he decided we have no future together :D I did everything but he didn't want to commit.
Sis, always remember when a guy tells you something he means it! So when he says he doesn't want a relationship or doesn't know what he wants or let's go with a flow, let's see where it goes then you should listen to him and save your time. Such men are not worth it. They will waste your time instead you can try finding someone who wants the same thing as you. Always listen to what a man says, and don't try to change him it's not our job and it's not worth our time. You might delay your chances of finding the right partner. This is coming from someone who wasted her time so be safe!
@@NS__ Your so right. We often think they will change but they don't, which leaves us wasting a lot of time. Your right, in those moments where were hoping they would change, we miss out on opportunities to find the right guy.
@@SirenaReads true, you might cry for a couple of days due to his response and then try to move on. A couple of days crying is better than months of wastage!! Walking into something messy will not only waste our time but also energy, emotions, so better to find someone who wants the same thing and nurture it!
Not true. Just because it feels like a relationship doesn’t mean it is. I’ve had a few men who didn’t want to commit who acted like a boyfriend. I remember being surprised to discover they didn’t want to commit (although one asked for a second chance later)
These men mutate and right now it’s what they’re doing… getting the benefits of a relationship but not wanting to have the emotional responsibility to take a woman off the market.
I was in the same situation, but at least my past person told me upfront he was noncommittal. Had the best 4 1/2 years of my life but too many past wounds on his end, otherwise, I feel he was my person. Stay strong!
When I was dating my husband he was paying and buying me everything. Now we married now he acts like his money is only his. What happened and how do I get him to happily pay for everything again?????
Maybe he resents you because you feel entitled. He probably would be fine with it if he didn't feel this way. Resentment is going to destroy your marriage and your going to loose him all together if you don't look at your own behaviour.
This is a tough one; because of feminism. The days of "chivalry". The guy wanting to be the man...well, I haven't seen it. The guy will pay, but then feel resentment. Buyer's remorse. He's talking to his buddies, they'll complain about whatever.... So if he started out with the right mindset, his friends may have gotten to him and NOT in a good way. When my husband's BFF got divorced, that's when divorce started to set in HIS mind and he started to change...weird but true.
Life and priorities change after marriage, you’re not dating any more and now have a household and those expenses to worry about. Life and its responsibilities get real once you marry.
It all sounds really complicated filled with disappointment and people rolling in and out of your life. I'd rather stay in my passionless marriage, dating sounds like a living hell
Thats why I'm staying in my peaceful yet passionless marriage with a man I don't feel romantically for. Dating sounds like a living hell and I'd end up alone
People's *little(!)* quirks shouldn't be seen as a "cost" but as sth precious about this person. If he doesn't love you completely, eff this guy, move on and *love* your little quirks. The right man will love them too. (It's obviously different and not *"little* quirks" when someone behaves destructively for themselves or/and others. That needs therapy.)
He's right. Time is a factor. A friend, high school sweethearts, college sweethearts. You think they have the relationship. He graduates. She wants to live in one area, he needs to go to a bigger city to see where his degree takes him..so she doesn't want to move..they breakup. What a mess. Technically it was NOT a commitment. Yes, she's bitter.
I’m confused with mine. He doesn’t want a relationship(label) he introduced me and my child to his kids and his parents,cousin and uncles, aunts. When weee together it’s greats. When we’re not, he disappears for the most part.
My guy wanted a committed relationship and always validated it by calling me his girlfriend. Then, all of a sudden, I messed up, and he ran. I freaked out and texted bombed him, and he blocked me. We really didn't have any arguments and enjoyed each other's company. We only saw each other once a week due to our careers, but I wanted more time as it was easier for him to change his work schedule. I think I disappointed him with my actions one morning and hurt him, causing him to cut ties with me.
If a man actually admits to being "emotionally unavailable" then you know they will waste your time lol. That's his way of saying he will reap the benefits but you won't get anything long term out of me
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8 months LDR (we saw each other every weekend). His ex left him a year ago and I listened to him “open up” about his feelings, fears, past, etc. But the minute I did the same, he ran. Emotional unavailability is brutal.
That's a lose lose situation. Don't go back. He next to grow the fuck up and do the work.
1: We dated consistently for 3 months. Met up weekly and spoke everyday.
2: By month 2 I asked him how he feels, and he said he still didnt want to be exclusive...so I said fine. I told him we can wait another month.
3: By month 3, he decided we have no future together :D
I did everything but he didn't want to commit.
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Sis, always remember when a guy tells you something he means it! So when he says he doesn't want a relationship or doesn't know what he wants or let's go with a flow, let's see where it goes then you should listen to him and save your time. Such men are not worth it. They will waste your time instead you can try finding someone who wants the same thing as you. Always listen to what a man says, and don't try to change him it's not our job and it's not worth our time. You might delay your chances of finding the right partner. This is coming from someone who wasted her time so be safe!
@@NS__ Your so right. We often think they will change but they don't, which leaves us wasting a lot of time. Your right, in those moments where were hoping they would change, we miss out on opportunities to find the right guy.
@@SirenaReads true, you might cry for a couple of days due to his response and then try to move on. A couple of days crying is better than months of wastage!! Walking into something messy will not only waste our time but also energy, emotions, so better to find someone who wants the same thing and nurture it!
Next time, don’t wait ❤ keep dating and remember if he wants to be with you he will come running !
If they don't want to talk, I just skip them.
I watched your videos a few years ago. Your content and presentation has improved over time and there are so many gems in this video! Thank you!
I followed what you said for a few months and ended up married 😂🎉❤
Really 😂😂🎉
Same here lol👰🏾♀️🤵🏾♂️
Girls I am so happy for you both ❤❤❤❤❤❤ God bless you sending you lots of love 😍
@@JaccQueen23congratulations 🎉🎉🎊🎈🍾❤️❤️
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Not true. Just because it feels like a relationship doesn’t mean it is. I’ve had a few men who didn’t want to commit who acted like a boyfriend. I remember being surprised to discover they didn’t want to commit (although one asked for a second chance later)
These men mutate and right now it’s what they’re doing… getting the benefits of a relationship but not wanting to have the emotional responsibility to take a woman off the market.
I was in the same situation, but at least my past person told me upfront he was noncommittal. Had the best 4 1/2 years of my life but too many past wounds on his end, otherwise, I feel he was my person. Stay strong!
@@CelestineFord-q5g what did you do when he told you upfront? I’m in a similar situation. I had cut him off shortly after
I’m not a pick me ho. Let him go
This is very hard work
When I was dating my husband he was paying and buying me everything. Now we married now he acts like his money is only his. What happened and how do I get him to happily pay for everything again?????
Maybe he resents you because you feel entitled. He probably would be fine with it if he didn't feel this way. Resentment is going to destroy your marriage and your going to loose him all together if you don't look at your own behaviour.
Finish how you started...don't switch up after marriage....
This is a tough one; because of feminism. The days of "chivalry". The guy wanting to be the man...well, I haven't seen it. The guy will pay, but then feel resentment. Buyer's remorse. He's talking to his buddies, they'll complain about whatever.... So if he started out with the right mindset, his friends may have gotten to him and NOT in a good way. When my husband's BFF got divorced, that's when divorce started to set in HIS mind and he started to change...weird but true.
Life and priorities change after marriage, you’re not dating any more and now have a household and those expenses to worry about. Life and its responsibilities get real once you marry.
Maybe marriage has more financial responsibilities and he cannot afford to be spending on those things he was spending on when you were just dating.
It all sounds really complicated filled with disappointment and people rolling in and out of your life. I'd rather stay in my passionless marriage, dating sounds like a living hell
It really sounds impossible to get a guy to choose you. I don't know how other girls do it. I think I'm just going to move on with my life. >.>
Thats why I'm staying in my peaceful yet passionless marriage with a man I don't feel romantically for. Dating sounds like a living hell and I'd end up alone
@@fluffythebluepersian4888how is it going? Do you regret choosing him? I am in similar situation but in my early twenties
People's *little(!)* quirks shouldn't be seen as a "cost" but as sth precious about this person. If he doesn't love you completely, eff this guy, move on and *love* your little quirks. The right man will love them too.
(It's obviously different and not *"little* quirks" when someone behaves destructively for themselves or/and others. That needs therapy.)
He's right. Time is a factor. A friend, high school sweethearts, college sweethearts. You think they have the relationship. He graduates. She wants to live in one area, he needs to go to a bigger city to see where his degree takes him..so she doesn't want to move..they breakup. What a mess. Technically it was NOT a commitment. Yes, she's bitter.
She found out he wasn’t that into her and can move on with no question.
I feel like it's some fcking cosmic joke that the Universe finally sent me a great guy but he's not ready. Wtf?!?
You had me at apple orchard
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My new favorite dating coach. I appreciate you!
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I’m confused with mine. He doesn’t want a relationship(label) he introduced me and my child to his kids and his parents,cousin and uncles, aunts. When weee together it’s greats. When we’re not, he disappears for the most part.
My guy wanted a committed relationship and always validated it by calling me his girlfriend. Then, all of a sudden, I messed up, and he ran. I freaked out and texted bombed him, and he blocked me. We really didn't have any arguments and enjoyed each other's company. We only saw each other once a week due to our careers, but I wanted more time as it was easier for him to change his work schedule. I think I disappointed him with my actions one morning and hurt him, causing him to cut ties with me.
He isn't serious. He would have ran anyway.. Don't blame yourself but learn from this experience.
Smart advice Elliot! 🙌👏
You're good ❤ thank you for this video
Hi when should you come clean to a man you’re dating about having a health condition like ibs ? It’s kind of like a liability :( . 4-5 dates in ?
Don't. Men are turned off by a woman having an illness. It's unsexy and unattractive in their eyes.
Don’t mention it. Casually just say you have a sensitive stomach
Why are men the prize 😂. They should be trying to step up first
I don’t get it either
I think it’s bc sex has gotten abundant
Women's fault in most cases, cause we treat them like a prize often times 🏆
@@edithk2997 can you tell me why you have ghosted or pulled away from someone you knew liked you? from personal experience or your friends
@@us5freaak cause I didn't like them. I'm not obligated to stick to someone just because THEY LIKE ME. If I don't feel the same way
Hi. Does this work for men that say they're EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE? Can someone kindly answer 🙏 ❤
It could but probably won't.
So...NO! Got it! Thanks ❤
If a man actually admits to being "emotionally unavailable" then you know they will waste your time lol. That's his way of saying he will reap the benefits but you won't get anything long term out of me
@@sansadrake4133 thank you. Lesson learned. 🙂
@@sansadrake4133 100% correct
This won't work with emotionally unavailable men.
You are the best ❤
Right person wrong timing, is there such a thing?
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Become girlfriend and boyfriend then the real person shows that’s all for show
Eliot I ❤ you!
Men are such gold diggers.
Like or love doesn't factors at all huh
Especially if your very wealthy
@@juliefall2892Thank god I’m not wealthy.
@@AnimeNewsRadio101 yes because then it would be even harder to know if they were genuine or after money
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Mathematical 😂🤣😂😭🧐?
Hey Elliott I need help on a situation can I email you is there some way I can contact you?
His tribe? Wtf ....the cave days are gone😮
Tribe is people you get on with.. you are comfortable with them. They get you.. familiar. Try and read between the lines not everything is literal.
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