Honesty is definitely the best policy. . Me and my girlfriend were together for 2 years, she came clean to me about cheating during the 3rd month we were going out and I respect her for it. We're still together :) . Well, kind of together... she's buried in my garden.
Honesty is supposed to always come first. If someone cheats on the person they love, they should be honest. How the other person handles the honesty is up to them. If the person doesn't tell their partner of their infidelity due to the possible fear of their leaving them and breaking up with them, then they are stealing that choice from them. Always be honest, even if it hurts.
What if honesty can cause devastating result? Every situation is different, and it should be a case by case basis. If you are still dating then telling the truth is a good policy but if you are married or have kid, it is more complicated. For example, in my particular case, if my wife tell me she had an affair and all my kids are not mine. I will be decimated, get drunk everyday, quit my job, do drugs, you name it. If it is a one night stand, I will forgive and move on from that. I am an odd case, for most, telling the truth will only make the situation worse doesn't matter if it was a one night stand or a long affair. Lie is the best option most of the times, if you can't live with the secret, find a reason for divorce, move out of the city and stay out of his/her life.
@@super_hero2 People should never lie to anyone the way they wouldn't want to be lied to. If they knew the choices they made will hurt the person they love, then they'll have to prepare for possible consequences.
@@eddieevans2212 "People should never lie to anyone the way they wouldn't want to be lied to" the problem with this sentence is that it does not take into account what the spouse would want. Have you ever thought that the spouse might want to be lied to instead? This is about the spouse not the cheater. You have to decide with the spouse's best interest. Can he/she handle the truth? If not, best course of action is to find a less hurtful reason for divorce and stay out of his/her life. A few years later, when the spouse has moved on, the cheater can tell the truth if he/she wants.
@@eddieevans2212 Totally agree, cheating almost always has consequences. I must say I could never forgive cheating if you are in a committed relationship. I made a mistake, I was drunk and whatever other excuse you come up with does not change the fact that you made a conscious decision to sleep with another person disappear.
@@super_hero2 So you cheat on your wife and she will be hurt if you tell her, so you just do not tell her. You get off scott free and able to do it again and again. I do not think so.
+Athiel Azaia How so? I'm saying if you feel that you and your partner lost your spark for one another, at least have the courtesy to end the relationship instead of seeking out new girls/guys to sleep with while you're still IN that relationship.
I don't condone cheating but if the affair is well and truly over, there is no point in telling because it is only going to hurt the relationship/marriage and that benefits no -one. Just don't do it again.
So you really think you can get away without telling your partner and if they found out what you goona do?? playing victim card and crying for forgiveness ?? Sorry it's not going to work
Guilt, pain, regret, stress, heartache, all that crap will kill you slowly at night when you try to sleep if you’re still with the girl and you know it happened. Trying to forget almost never works unless You can somehow manage to forget something like that. It happened to me last night:/ I did something a couple of months ago that I regret terribly but I couldn’t hold it for any longer and before I hit a year with her (next month) I felt that I had to come clean with her in order for us to be in a relationship where we’re not just hiding shit from each other and honestly it’s probably one of the hardest things to do when you truly love that person. I know many people say “you can’t love someone if you cheated on them” and in many cases you’re right, but when it was a one time thing, should’ve never happened, and the relationship wasn’t as strong as it is now, you pretty much do truly love that person. The Relationship has been great after it happened, maybe not instantly but over time you guys start to work things out and it feels pretty solid and happy and loved but that one thing that happened will always be in the back of your head and sooner or later it will get to you. It’s gonna hurt😔
@@ProjectMercy1 What if honesty can cause devastating result? Every situation is different, and it should be a case by case basis. If you are still dating then telling the truth is a good policy but if you are married or have kid, it is more complicated. For example, in my particular case, if my wife tell me she had an affair and all my kids are not mine. I will be decimated, get drunk everyday, quit my job, do drugs, you name it. If it is a one night stand, I will forgive and move on from that. I am an odd case, for most, telling the truth will only make the situation worse doesn't matter if it was a one night stand or a long affair. Lie is the best option most of the times, if you can't live with the secret, find a reason for divorce, move out of the city and stay out of his/her life.
hmmmm very tough question that has many variables depending on the cheating circumstance. For the most part women never forget, so if a man told her he cheated, that is all she would visualize when they had sex. Many men are territorial about their woman & I'm not sure their ego would be able to get passed the fact that his woman was able to give herself to another man while he was in a committed relationship with her.
yeah, cheating and being honest about it isn't the best way to go. i did it 3 times and confessed each time, and it ruined my relationship. nothing but fights, insecurity on both sides, etc.
Hey dumbass, maybe the first time it ruined it you should've learned and not cheated again, and when you did and ruined your relationship again, you should have LEARNED not to cheat again and then YOU DID IT AGAIN!!! Honesty didn't ruin these relationships, your dumb ass did.
@bebegurl91 You are absolutely right. If you ask me, you should get a divorce, coz it doesnt really seem like he truely loves you. but if you dont wana get a divorce, then you guys should go for marriage councelling. I hope everything goes out fine between you 2.
Honesty is definitely the best policy.
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Me and my girlfriend were together for 2 years, she came clean to me about cheating during the 3rd month we were going out and I respect her for it. We're still together :)
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Well, kind of together... she's buried in my garden.
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Honesty is supposed to always come first. If someone cheats on the person they love, they should be honest. How the other person handles the honesty is up to them. If the person doesn't tell their partner of their infidelity due to the possible fear of their leaving them and breaking up with them, then they are stealing that choice from them. Always be honest, even if it hurts.
What if honesty can cause devastating result? Every situation is different, and it should be a case by case basis. If you are still dating then telling the truth is a good policy but if you are married or have kid, it is more complicated. For example, in my particular case, if my wife tell me she had an affair and all my kids are not mine. I will be decimated, get drunk everyday, quit my job, do drugs, you name it. If it is a one night stand, I will forgive and move on from that. I am an odd case, for most, telling the truth will only make the situation worse doesn't matter if it was a one night stand or a long affair. Lie is the best option most of the times, if you can't live with the secret, find a reason for divorce, move out of the city and stay out of his/her life.
@@super_hero2 People should never lie to anyone the way they wouldn't want to be lied to. If they knew the choices they made will hurt the person they love, then they'll have to prepare for possible consequences.
@@eddieevans2212 "People should never lie to anyone the way they wouldn't want to be lied to" the problem with this sentence is that it does not take into account what the spouse would want. Have you ever thought that the spouse might want to be lied to instead? This is about the spouse not the cheater. You have to decide with the spouse's best interest. Can he/she handle the truth? If not, best course of action is to find a less hurtful reason for divorce and stay out of his/her life. A few years later, when the spouse has moved on, the cheater can tell the truth if he/she wants.
@@eddieevans2212 Totally agree, cheating almost always has consequences. I must say I could never forgive cheating if you are in a committed relationship. I made a mistake, I was drunk and whatever other excuse you come up with does not change the fact that you made a conscious decision to sleep with another person disappear.
@@super_hero2 So you cheat on your wife and she will be hurt if you tell her, so you just do not tell her. You get off scott free and able to do it again and again. I do not think so.
Lol until the cheater gets cheated on...
I don't believe it's that high % that cheated.
I honestly don't agree with this.
If you're gonna cheat, at least get out of the relationship without hurting anyones feelings.
+Athiel Azaia How so?
I'm saying if you feel that you and your partner lost your spark for one another, at least have the courtesy to end the relationship instead of seeking out new girls/guys to sleep with while you're still IN that relationship.
I don't condone cheating but if the affair is well and truly over, there is no point in telling because it is only going to hurt the relationship/marriage and that benefits no -one. Just don't do it again.
So you really think you can get away without telling your partner and if they found out what you goona do?? playing victim card and crying for forgiveness ?? Sorry it's not going to work
Guilt, pain, regret, stress, heartache, all that crap will kill you slowly at night when you try to sleep if you’re still with the girl and you know it happened. Trying to forget almost never works unless You can somehow manage to forget something like that. It happened to me last night:/ I did something a couple of months ago that I regret terribly but I couldn’t hold it for any longer and before I hit a year with her (next month) I felt that I had to come clean with her in order for us to be in a relationship where we’re not just hiding shit from each other and honestly it’s probably one of the hardest things to do when you truly love that person. I know many people say “you can’t love someone if you cheated on them” and in many cases you’re right, but when it was a one time thing, should’ve never happened, and the relationship wasn’t as strong as it is now, you pretty much do truly love that person. The Relationship has been great after it happened, maybe not instantly but over time you guys start to work things out and it feels pretty solid and happy and loved but that one thing that happened will always be in the back of your head and sooner or later it will get to you. It’s gonna hurt😔
@@ProjectMercy1 What if honesty can cause devastating result? Every situation is different, and it should be a case by case basis. If you are still dating then telling the truth is a good policy but if you are married or have kid, it is more complicated. For example, in my particular case, if my wife tell me she had an affair and all my kids are not mine. I will be decimated, get drunk everyday, quit my job, do drugs, you name it. If it is a one night stand, I will forgive and move on from that. I am an odd case, for most, telling the truth will only make the situation worse doesn't matter if it was a one night stand or a long affair. Lie is the best option most of the times, if you can't live with the secret, find a reason for divorce, move out of the city and stay out of his/her life.
Bullshit advice, the person who was cheated on needs to know. That’s an absolute backstab they deserve to be aware of.
That therapist is nuts, their goal is not to have a healthy relationship - but to have A relationship
its not going to end up well regardless, rather it comes from you then someone else or years later
Like the WOPR said in WarGames when David Lightman typed in, “People sometimes make mistakes.”
WOPR: Yes they do.
hmmmm very tough question that has many variables depending on the cheating circumstance. For the most part women never forget, so if a man told her he cheated, that is all she would visualize when they had sex. Many men are territorial about their woman & I'm not sure their ego would be able to get passed the fact that his woman was able to give herself to another man while he was in a committed relationship with her.
yeah, cheating and being honest about it isn't the best way to go. i did it 3 times and confessed each time, and it ruined my relationship. nothing but fights, insecurity on both sides, etc.
Hey dumbass, maybe the first time it ruined it you should've learned and not cheated again, and when you did and ruined your relationship again, you should have LEARNED not to cheat again and then YOU DID IT AGAIN!!! Honesty didn't ruin these relationships, your dumb ass did.
I think the problem was that you did it 3 times
Yeah well it wasn't worth being honest about
Stereotypical black woman is stereotypical.
@bebegurl91 You are absolutely right. If you ask me, you should get a divorce, coz it doesnt really seem like he truely loves you. but if you dont wana get a divorce, then you guys should go for marriage councelling. I hope everything goes out fine between you 2.
Loni Love is emberassing
LAWLZ Dawg.
@1caroline2 Have you told your current bf bout this.
Women cheated more