I'm 23 and have never had a girlfriend...
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
- Recently I've just felt my heart broken, feel like I'll always be alone but I know I gotta just keep on improving as a person and see if things get better eventually.
Thanks for watching and the support, love you guys.
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Worst feeling, ur family asks about it all the time. It hurts.
Yeah
worst feeling: they know you don’t have a chance so they don’t ask at all
@@mjesns77
My family ask about me also. They think I'm gay because I never had a GF before. I tell them I liked over 60 girls in my lifetime and not even 1 of the has ever like me. I'm too ugly
Fr
Thankfully mine doesn’t care if I have one or not
I'm a grandmother. Let me tell you, young man, youre on the right track! However most girls these days are superficial. Finding your soulmate isn't easy anymore, but don't give up hope and pray on it. I never did. Probably missed him by 100 years! You are very handsome and have a good heart, guard it well. I will pray for you, my Dear!
What a beautiful energy your comment has!
He's going to be married in two years People do love each other.
Great post.
@@pinkpigletparker8703cope
Thank you grandma
I'm the same age as you bro and I can totally relate. We are NOT weirdos, we are perfectly normal. We've been taught about a world that is completely different from reality. Discover your passion and go for it, enjoy the little things and strive for great things and if you find someone along the way, good on you, but you must learn to be confortable with being alone because relationships are mostly bs right now.
we are weirdos, i've thought maybe i should off myself so i won't be a weirdo no more
@@tonymontana8741 brutal
Having a few drinks , like beers when i went out helped me relax and talk to people...now i can talk to anyine without needing alcohol. I just had to get out of my head and enjoy life cos i went through a tough time at school cos i was shy.
Sometimes you just gotta jump and get out of that hole you are stuck in. Stop talking about it and just do it, Quote: ' Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear'.
THANK YOU. Finally someone says it. Most relationships don’t even go anywhere after a few months.
A lotta the time, it’s just people liking how someone looks and imagining who the other person is rather than knowing them.
It’ll happen when it happens and if it doesn’t, oh the fuck well. 🤷♂ Getting with someone isn’t the only thing I look forward to in life. 😴
Straight up bro I feel you.
24 after 3 months. I just gave up at this point. I think some people destined to live alone forever. I'm one of them.
Yeah man same maybe its not for us
Truth spoken. I'm 25 and I'm the only one in the family whose never been with anybody, despite me trying with 30 years ago, for them to reject me altogether. That's why I gave up a year ago because it's like pulling teeth.
What if I want biological children and I want them to be the first born?
What @@MadeAnointed7
You could find a Woman that gets pregnant with your sperm for Money, I'm Not Sure what its called @@MadeAnointed7
You have a lot of balls to speak of these personal things. It's admirable. You've actually given me the idea of doing it myself here on RUclips.
Do it! Just start talking about how you feel! It really helps people who are going through the same thing!
He died.. because of suicide
@@omg-lk5hw no he didnt lil bro
@@omg-lk5hw Arab hattin on the white man
Hi Mari...my relationship story as a young man was so much like yours! I finally found a girl that I really was drawn to, and I got the "wobbles" for awhile n she almost gave up on me. One day I stepped out and took her out. ...we started getting together to have fun, walk on the beach and stuff. We got engaged. then married. I was 29! ...next August, we will have been married for 50 years. It does happen. My prayers are with you, friend!!
Sounds horrible why she almost gave up 😂
You're lucky, not many have that and hard for many young people I think despite social media and all as it's rife with large chunk of un genuine people too
You would still be a virgin if you were from his generation. Women are ruthless now
wow must be nice
That was a long time. That was an era when there was no social media to influence women's standards on men. In that era, dating and women's views on men were still traditional and based on religious values. Today, majority of women are looking for a specific type of male and hence only a minority of men are getting women.
You're handsome and well-spoken and articulate, your lady is out there somewhere. Keep living and improving yourself and following your dreams and desires.
Nut wiman ha te handsime men they will be 2 insecure and theynthink the hamsome men is getting all the attention. Woman are more then ever insecure.otherwise plastic surgey is going to.the doctor or dentist.
cope
@@christiandimitrov8908yep
@@christiandimitrov8908bro please
Keep grinding keep hustling keep rotting
Shoot for your dreams
I have depression since 10 years, have been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder 3 years ago and also borderline personality disorder 2 years ago, I'm 25 and never had a boyfriend, got mercilessly bullied in school, physically and emotionally abused by my father, and never ever had any friends. We all are struggling in this life no matter how much people show you their vacation pictures, new car, house, perfect partner etc on social media.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Nobody has life figured out. Remember that. Stay resilient, focus on the good, stop comparing and keep going. You are stronger and braver than you think. You've got this.
I got bullied, cyberbullied and have been suffering from depression as well.
You Look So Good @cassandra62684 Getting into Contact with me would be nice any Plans to Travel to Italy? Around 26 Years of age then there is a good Friend who will be there you and me.
Do you have any idea why boys are not attracted to you ? Do you take care of your looks and body, or are you isolated 24/7 in your room or something ?
Of course not, the life that many show on social networks is much better than that of others, I would like to have their problems, believe me.
I can't stop laod the comparison is not that simple, I have been trying to improve for years and nothing so it is clear that some of us do not have opportunities to get ahead, we just were not lucky
It’s rare for someone with NPD or BPD to have any level of awareness or to take any accountability for their actions. You do, and you’re on the right track.
Gosh, this was so relatable. I've been feeling the same way lately about love. I like to watch those movies with the wholesome love stories, but it's all a lie, and reality kinda sucks. I definitely know what you're going through, man, and you are a good-looking dude, and you seem like a nice guy. I know it doesn't mean much, but I hope you find you a nice girl, bro.
23 too bro. Good on you for having the balls to speak your mind. I feel somewhat the same about life right now and always have. I was recently the closest to ever having a girlfriend and did things for this girl I had never done in my life for anyone. She broke my heart yesterday bro. Move forward the time and place will present itself. Gods timing. PS I am 6ft 6, I work out am in shape, play football, am in a band and yet I am deep down extremely awkward when it comes to intimacy and opening myself up. Out in public I am confident but not when it comes down to meaningful relationships. I will strive to improve always. Keep your head up we in this together.
This is probably one of the most relatable videos I've ever seen! God bless you man! The girls these days are just not like how they were before. One day you'll find the one. I hope I do as well.
How are we ? Bc i feel excactly like this man. 😭 I feel like most boys are not like they used to be. Like imagine the time without stupid fake love movies, internet, porn (wich I eel is so normalized to watch, especially for guys ?...), insta, face, tktk, videogames, etc.... how different we all would have been !?!?
Who gaves a shit about it. No cares about this shit.
This illusion keeps you working and paying taxes but nothing else
I’m 29 and I’ve had 1 girlfriend. You are not missing out on anything bro. It’s not normal for people to just bounce around having relationships but for some messed up reason we think it is normal today
Rs.
But life is better with friends with benefits relationship, always
Never saw any harm
After 45 youth will be long gone, life is short
definitely are missing out lmao
When the nagging starts (which is roughly a couple of months at most) you soon realize that it’s better off being alone. Dude doesn’t realize how lucky he is not being tied down to an ungrateful split-tail. He has plenty of time right now to save up plenty of money to rent a 10 anytime he wants.
Just saying
@@A_Sen_0 You're just ignorant to the harm. Actually, research the topic and see the damaging effects multiple partners can bring upon someone. Pair bonding, trust issues, etc.
Ever since I was a teen, my grandparents would ask me if I already have a girlfriend every time I see them. I'm 26 by now and sometimes I now feel like saying "No, I don't and you'll two will probably die and will never see me with one. Same goes for me."
Dude get remote job then become ppb!
I totally get how you feel, I never had a gf until I turned 23 precisely. If you want my advice, don't have any rush man, I ended up sacrificing my mental health for a whole year just because I needed to "fit" and don't feel weird about myself for not having a girlfriend. If you get together with someone make sure you REALLY are into her.
Hope this helps, and thanks for sharing your experience ❤
Look man, I understand its hard. Dont give up. You cant choose where your story begins but you can decide how it ends. Work on yourself and you'll realize its not depression, its you longing for something you always wanted and never achieving it. Go out there and get at it dawg 💪🏾
wow ive never seen anyone put it like that.
Why not better find was to feel happy with yourself. Not everyone was born to be loved.
cope
lol 🤦
are you trying to convince him, or yourself?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You're handsome, well-spoken and a deep thinker.
His problem
Is he’s thinking WAY too much! He needs to get out of his head more
Then why isn’t he getting girls? You only say he’s all that, but don’t explain why he’s not getting some
@@LilXancheXThey are bluepilled normies bro, don’t expect them to have an ounce of logic.
Wyd you up?
@@Based4LifeWhat's the blue pill ? Meaning.
Dude, honestly never have I ever related to a video more than yours in my entire life. I’m 25 and let me tell you I’ve always been a social outcast my whole entire life girls don’t find me interesting at all. I can be the kindest person in the entire world with a great big heart but no one cares to see that all people care about is the superficial stuff which I just don’t understand, and I agree with all the points that you made that it’s just weird and how we is human beings need to be noticed is odd. Honestly bro I’ve given up as well. I’ve tried everything I possibly can and it just doesn’t work out if you’re too boring, they want nothing to do with you. Not only that but they don’t even know what they want and then they’ll accuse us of not knowing what we want. It’s just kind of this weird game that we’re all playing that no one wants to be playing anymore. Not to mention these days with how girls act online and on social media platforms it’s disturbing because you can’t find a good honest, passionate woman these days that’s also my biggest problem is most of the girls that are beautiful either do some type of work that isn’t really good online, it’s just a mess dude, an absolute mess 7:14 And I understand what you mean. I wish things could be like the way they are in TV shows and anime a lot as well but real life isn’t like that and it’s a damn shame that it can’t be.
Don't focus on being kind. Instead focus on self improvement, accept responsibility at an early age, become an engaged citizen and glean knowledge about the world. Inner confidence only comes with accomplishment. Nothing comes easy and men are born and exist with no value whereas young women start with inherent value because they are beautiful. The qualities that attract women are not looks, but leadership, competence, confidence. These must be forged through adversity and no other way.
Did you try to go to church and John youth group?
Don't be kind , one of the worst things you could do to yourself in today's world , nice people fall first , know your worth , have more self respect , focus on money and health , finding "true" love is almost impossible nowadays so don't care much , we are all on the same path
I feel exactly the same way. it really hurts because so many people get into relationships so quickly and I feel like I'm never the one people pick. keep fighting, I hope better things come your way.
I’ve often wondered the same thing. I’ve had so many romantic interests run away from me and hide over the years. I kept wondering what I was doing wrong. Then I took the bold move of looking elsewhere-I mean literally, geographically. I’m not sure where you live, but I had been living in the U.S. and had found relationships of all kinds incredibly complicated. I went to the Philippines and found the people there generally (but not always) to be easier to interact with and less complicated. And whereas in the U.S., I had always had to chase after friends and romantic interests alike, there it was they who were doing the chasing. There is nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with the people who run away from you. Look somewhere else, and you will probably find someone who chases after you for once. And if you really like that person, then maybe you’ve finally found your soul mate! I don’t know when or where it will happen. What I do know is that you are very much deserving of it.
It depends on where you are located in the United States to be honest.
Areas like the East, Midwest or the South(similarly to the Philippines), are significantly different from the likes of New York and California.
I joined the Peace Coups and was able to experience relationships and connections that were truly rewarding and on a completely different level in my life. Think 🤔 about it.
Good women are hard to find anymore, but so are good men!
@@ginakelley749 True for both sexes these days. My sister's about to turn 34 and laments about giving up on relationships because of one toxic relationship after another with awful men, while I'm a year older and never been in a relationship at all due to trust issues and my past being bullied by everybody. But then, I also see a lot of good guys out there with awful girlfriends/wives. Values are very important.
Really feel this man, 24 and have only had a couple of relationships but nothing lasts. Was lucky to get them off the ground to begin with. No matter how much I’ve tried self improvement and holding myself accountable for my flaws, nothings ever good enough for anyone. I hope more ppl will empathize rather than point and laugh because that’s just inhuman imo. It’s very sad to see so many videos like this now but it’s just becoming a staple on every platform because of how alone so many ppl are, including myself.
Im by no means normal and have had a lot of mental health issues develop over time that I’m doing my best to tackle, so I can understand why there isn’t an appeal there. It’s like deep affection is something that no one will ever show towards me and it’s so painful.
Here's what you should know: Everytime you get into romance, you are risking yourself of a heartbreak. Trust me, it would be like walking barefoot on a burning charcoal. Betrayal is the most painful thing in this lifetime. If you wanna give romance a try, be ready to get hurt. Despite of that, it's not the end of the world.
Facts
I agree. I just find that the risk of heartbreak is even higher than it has been especially when so many are fearful of commitment and you don’t find out until after two months. It’s a hopeless venture anymore
For me, I'm more worried about getting false charges and taking anything from me than getting heartbroken though
It is not the failures that hurt the most duma55, it is the absense of constructive feedback. Your heart just got broken and confidence gor shakem and you received nothing for your effort, neither a constructive feedback, nor a harsh truth. Girls simply can't and don't want to tell you what did you do wrong or where you were wrong neither do others. You have spent energy, but you received nothing not a mere lesson - this is why this the most frustrating experience
damn bruh. its just kinda crazy how nobody is talking about the forbidden e-book that is called crushanygirl
What’s it about?
@@ozzieg2415 Teaches you how to find a gf as insecure american.
@@ozzieg2415 its about crushing ANY girl
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23 year old guy here too and I relate to you bro. At this point I feel a kind of apathy towards the thought of me ever being a relationship or even talking to a woman but for some reason it brings me peace? Like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
Having a relationship isn’t a requirement to enjoy life or to get fulfillment. I think we’re gonna be ok and I hope the best for all of you, whatever path you take.
It is a requirement TRUST ME having a cute beautiful girl you love from the bottom of your heart will make your life so much better, cuddling and sleeping with her every day, feeling her soft skin, her breath, kissing her on bed, its just the best thing on earth its so beautiful. You're 23 never lose hope your soulmate may be waiting for you out there
Don't overthink.There is nothing wrong with you.
The moment you let go of expectations, overthinking, and try to focus on you, everything will fall into place at the right time.
That's what i learned after strugling for many, and many years.
Just keep moving and growing, you will get there 100% ❤👊🏻
Bro are you serious or is it just a scam? Do you have a girlfriend right now or at what age you found a girlfriend in your life?
damn bro, this hit deep. i’m 22, and in your exact same situation. as a songwriter, i feel so fundamentally disconnected from so many common themes in music, and it leads to a lot of heartbreak and frustration. props for being so vulnerable, here’s to hoping things turn around for us both.
You have no idea how much I relate. I've never had special feelings for someone and just don't know how to get a girlfriend. I basically feel like giving up in even trying.
I'm 23 also bro i feel you i have never been in a relationship as well bro had behavioral issues too growing up i 'm average as well its the generation we live in nobody socializes in person anymore and some women have some of the highest standards known to man kind but there are women out there that want an average normal guy out there i see it daily. don't give up bro and don't settle for less keep doing you
As you get older it gets worse, i am barely 40 and i have a hard time meeting girls , my village has more man then girls , and if there are any girls they are taken or lesbian. I am single for 4 years now after a short relation of 2 years . And the girl did not love me but used me but i was to blind to notice.
That happens bcs women think too highly abt themselves. If you hit a girl whos above you in terms of attractiveness, I guarantee you won't really suceed 99% of times. The only way out is to date down or make the world for your looksmatch. At this point in the west, it's almost over if you're sub 6 in terms of looks.
Go to Latin America. Woman there are not as shallow as some western countries. I’m originally from Peru and I know what I’m talking about.
I used to think like you and was very much the same, But i met this girl while traveling and we connected on the first date, i ended up staying the night, and spending multiple days with her at the end of my trip. After that we kept in contact, I came back to revisit and then she visited me in my country. Ended up being a 3 year relationship. In the end we didn't work out but im thankful for finally getting that intimacy and connection you are talking about. We still remain friends to this day. Now being single im back to square one. But i know it's out there, even though it is extremely hard to find again.
You’re not the only one, bro! I *loosely* dated when I was in my early 20’s and didn’t have my first official gf until I was like 26! My best advice is that you are being TOO analytical, just like how I use to be. Don’t look too much into things and just live in the moment! You ARE a good looking dude, so girls WILL like you. Just keep joking around with people and don’t take life too seriously, but DON’T give up!
This is a blessing - in almost EVERY way...I think you are blessed in every way but the comparison to what is "normal" makes you feel like you are not BLESSED af.
I'm 50, never had a girlfriend and a virgin. What I've learned in life is that girls always go for jerks because they view them as the alpha males, and toss the nice guys away. Later in life, all the single moms who ruined their lives want nothing more than to find a nice guy to settle down with, but by that time it's too late. The ones that do stay together are absolutely miserable, and so are the couples trying to fool themselves into thinking they found love. Staying true to yourself is a virtue, not a curse. I always say if it doesn't feel natural, you're living a lie.
Damn man really at 50? Have you been on a date before? I am a guy who turned 23 last month(on 22nd December) and never had a girlfriend before. I went on my first ever date 4 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 few days ago) and we went to the mall, ate in Mcdonalds there and got my first hug from a girl but still yet to get my first kiss and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she was cute. But 2 weeks after the date she became toxic and mean to me and blocked me on all social media. She basically used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her so she can post them on social media. I also have massive crush on this another girl for the past 6 months where I go for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college about 6 months ago and going to study MBA next. She also turned 23 just a few days ago. She has even called me cute several times and I pulled her cheeks too but I am shy near women in person so she is the one who initiates conversation with me. Few months ago I gave her a chocolate too but I often see her with her male friends so I get worried whether I have chance with her or not.
3 months ago, I went out with this another girl in the same class who is also 23 but so far we are just friends. We just roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant and I pulled her cheeks a bit too when we took selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. It was a fun day and we might go out again probably next month. I also have been following some girls on Instagram who are in the 21-25 age range from the same institute but different classrooms and messaged few of them and had been chatting with 2 or 3 of them who are also about 22 and 23 year olds. Since July 2023, I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who is 19(turning 20 in April). We were in the same school but didn't know each other in school days so we only have been knowing each other for 6 months. We also send each other virtual hugs and she is very sweet and we have many things in common like we are both foodies, like similar types of movies and many more and we plan to meet up to eat somewhere very soon too but in the end I am still single.
@@manosijroy8282 Yes I've been on quite a few dates. I'm hetero-romantic, but I'm also asexual and on the autistic spectrum. Sex and dating are not for everyone, and I do not believe I'm even capable.
It’s hard to find a good lady these days they expectations are to high
Here's the truth and it might be a little harsh but you need it. In this day and age being 23 and single doesn’t surprise me. With all the tech everyone is socially awkward but that's another topic. You are super likable and attractive but you are gloomy. Just from what I’ve witnessed in your few videos if things don’t come easily you tend to say they aren’t worth it. For instance, life and love. You are too self-conscious. You need to focus on whether or not you like the girl and not care if they like you because they all aren’t going to and that’s fine. You are letting off a vibe and it's probably making the girls you interact with confused. They probably can’t tell you are interested. As a guy you have to put yourself out there and they will choose. The girl in school liked you. I don’t know if you still have a shot. Try asking them to study with you privately. Coffee, whatever. If they say yes, you're half way there. If they say no you won’t die, it doesn’t mean you’re ugly or that life isn't worth it. You are making everything harder than it has to be. Get on it. You aren’t going to be young, fit and good looking forever. And if you show your sensitive side right away, they will run but you haven't got that far yet. Don’t tell them all your problems. Try to have a good time. SHIT YOU WANT TAKES WORK. It's a pain in the ass but that's the way it is. You have all the tools you just have to take them outta the box. Hope this helps.
Good advice
This is so cute 😁. Very good brotherly advice
Best advice I’ve seen in a hot minute ngl Fr.
Study privately? 🤣😂 it’s not the 1990s anymore. No one says “hey you wanna study with me later” anymore.
@@frankiemartin3333 it depends on type of a girl...
There are girls who like to study at libraries, dark academia chicks 😁.
I'm right there with you brother. I'm 23 and never had a girlfriend.
Relationships are not easy. I've been with someone for 18 years and there's some moments that are really great and some moments that are really painful and depressing. Being single has its problems. Being in a relationship has a different set of problems.
I was single until I was 26. It's pretty common. We live in a society that asks 10 year olds if they have a girlfriend. It's so weird. Like, people need to chill. There's no time frame for being in a relationship. This societal pressure to get a girlfriend or a boyfriend is so unhealthy. There's no shame in struggling to find someone to date. That's a part of life. I wish there were adults who would make it a point of talking to teenagers about this. To take the pressure off. Just focus on school and on becoming the best version of yourself. It's not the job of another person to fill the void you have. You need to be confident in yourself and in your own abilities. Making these videos is a good idea. You get to see that other people are just like you. You get feedback from people and advice from people who are older than you. You're going in the right direction. It's a process that takes whatever time it takes. You're not unattractive or weird. You don't come off that way on video at all. Maybe it's because you're alone with the camera. Anyway, I think you're doing pretty good at expressing yourself.
Good luck to you. Have a great end of the week.
Joi no one cares about what you have to say or your terrible opinion
Agreed with you. I’m dealing with that pressure to get a gf. Cuz my family pressuring me into it. It has nothing to do with my cousins being pregnant and have a bf. Now my cousin is coparenting with a dude or being single mom now. Their relationship didn’t last longer.
dude it's because you're an awesome guy! You're intelligent and different. In a good way. God is protecting you from the evil in this world. STD,etc. God is with you brother.
I feel like that too western culture is so toxic and depraved that’s probably why all the good people are lonely all good people should move to the east living in LA destroyed me mentally as well I get so much respect from people outside of LA
he doesnt get women because hes an awesome guy. If he was a horrible douchebag women would like him more, tbqh
Holy cope
I'm 22 and I haven't had an IRL boyfriend yet. And I haven't had anything too serious online. meanwhile I'm definitely attractive, I try to be kind and caring and loving and think I am at least, etc. idk, man.
Also I'm glad my comments to you about you being attractive clearly did help lol. At least now you think you're decent.
As a man, my advice to you is this: there's ultimately no such thing as an online boyfriend, haha
i agree w this other dude down here. internet relationships are an absolute waste of time if both of you are not financially independent and things like that. there's so much that would have to go the right way for that kind of thing to work, and it's a LOT of work. It's easier to connect with someone who's already there in your personal life (physically) without those hurdles and barriers.
@@FraterOculuswrong, there is.
@@Aubreezy In the end it will never be really real and never give you what you want though, I know women would like to believe this because so many cannot get a man IRL in an exclusive relationship, but they will never be truly fulfilled this way
Why not try message him? You two might be a match.
I am 23 years old too. The worst thing about this issue is that it can come into my mind suddenly and unintentionally in the middle of a day and cannot do and focus on anything else just because of overthinking about this. 😢
Bro.. as a man to man I can say you ARE beautifull! Go out there and bless yourself making contact with the ladies around you! Be genuine and never forget to love yourself more than anything in the world. If you love yourself, you are getting better at recieving and sending love. We all go through rough periods of doubts and insecurity. Fuck that shit and pull yourself together to go fishing in the pond of love. You deserve it! 🍻 🎉
I'm 27, and I am in the same situation, bro. I feel you, totally.
I blame women for rejecting me even though I have good personality
@@Logic756, their loss, not yours then.
I am exactly like you Mari, except I'm gay and I've never had a partner and wonder what is wrong with me. I also grew up having behavioural issues and dropping out of college, and one can't help but become depressed and bitter when you see people, who are simply themselves, getting overflowing love, admiration, opportunities, etc. because of their presentation. I do believe that energy has a lot to do with this, confidence, optimism and authenticity is something very palpable to others, and it can be off-putting if you don't have it. However, it's unfair since at one point in our lives we were all those things but told that we weren't enough, that we needed to change to fit in. When you can't be comfortable or at peace in your own skin or in your mind then anxiety creeps in as well as hypervigilence, you don't know who to be and eventually it's easier to avoid or push people away as a defense mechanism to protect our hearts. Since our society is so individualist, you're expected to mend these internal wounds yourself... But that's why it's great that you are opening up - it's the only true way to let people in again, and find solidarity through your suffering. I for one would love to be friends with you, you seem so honest, and perceptive.
You are very cute and you aren’t weird. You haven’t met the right girl, that all. Be patient there are so many of us who are single and have been for years.
Stop the junk, its not like 1 girl will find him desirable and fix his problems. He needs to be attractive to multiple women and then find one that works. Being average looking is not enough today which is why he is invisible to most women. Your advice is garbage.
"The right" girl does not exist. Compromises do.
@@gantstar5267what exactly is your problem
i suppose the hardest thing about that kind of thing is just not knowing who's single and who isn't. it's easy to fall into the trap of "i'm just going to assume everyone i meet is taken, so i probably just won't bother."
the mind plays these dastardly tricks on us and it's pretty annoying. just have to go for it, i guess.
@microsoftpain What i have noticed is that they will straight up mention it if they do. But, if they dont, they wont mention anything and smile alot. At least woman i decide to talk to.
I understand everything your saying.
People like ourselves have these issues at a very complex level. The depths of complexity goes so far it's difficult to explain and describe
Hey, I just turned 24 and have the same feelings. I’m former military, been to college, fit, and making a decent salary but still nothing. I haven’t given up but I’ve definitely withdrawn and have to lie about my life to everyone. I do so because I’ve been beaten and seriously harassed, lost my career, to the impact of bullying simply because I have no intimate experience. The lies are working but corroding my heart. Honestly I can’t keep doing this anymore
I got married at 21. We clicked very well. We met at work so dont give up. Dont over think it. Just go to the gym go out more and Focus on yourself and be happy. Invest, save money, buy property. Make friends that is the key.
You're golden bro. Stay authentic in your interactions with others and get out and meet people. Beleive me some girls will swoon over you but you have to be okay with the fact that not everyone will resonate with you, everyone is at a different place in life and what they're attracted to depends on where they're at. Love isn't just a serial drama trope, it exists and it's profound. It doesn't have to be limited to the confides of romantic relationships either. The doubts and lows are all part of the ride and they accentuate the highs when they role around❤. Was nice to hear you speak your mind 😊
I’m 19 and never had a girlfriend either. I am also lost in life and basically relate to you very much, keep on going, you never know how things can take a 180 turn in the moments where you would not expect it.
Youre 19.. chill buddy. 19 is young af, im 27 and still lost, but you need to find something and give it 100% tho
100% same I'm 19 too
But you are staying child you are just 19 no need to rush enjoy ,learn some basic skills❤
I’m 18 and it seems like an insurmountable mountain
Mari, I'll be honest with you man, sometimes it's best to be alone. With a majority of the relationships I've been in, I honestly sometimes want to be alone and by myself. Sometimes when you seek something, you'll put yourself through hell just because you think it'll make you happy. It honestly and sadly is only a temporary happiness. Typically it's either an abusive relationship, or they want too much, or they want to rule you. People that come across vulnerable, will sadly be taken advantage of. I've sadly been in that rut my whole life. It's honestly best to work on yourself before you get with someone else. I used to think I needed someone to help me through these things, but what people say is true. You really have to work on and love yourself before you can accurately love another person.
This is for real. Good advice.
@pwilson3000 Thanks man. I try my best. I don't want to lead anyone astray.
I know you are trying to help him and I appreciate u for that, but that advice is cope in my opinion. Yes, most relationships are a waste of time and energy, but that is not to say that you should give up on having one entirely. Nothing that's worth something in life comes easy. There are good women out there who every single one of us would enjoy and love being together with. My piece of advice instead is to stop complaining and start taking responsibility and ownership of your life. Once women see that, they will take interest in you and no, it does not really matter what you look like, as log as you are not dirty, musty and hairy, you are good, I can speak from my own experience regarding that so dont worry. Wish u both all the best and good luck 👍🏼
@@NemanjaTanackovic2K I agree with you honestly. I don't think you should give up on it entirely either, but I do think working on yourself, as you said taking accountability for your own actions, and striving to improve will really help out a lot in life. I know you weren't being disrespectful my dude, you're trying to give good advice as well, and pieces of your advice are honestly better than mine. I think that waiting for the right one is the way to go, instead of trying to rush into things or rushing something. It'll save a lot of heartache, from my personal experience.
I think the problem is more when guys make the relationship the focus of their lives rather then having something else going on and the relationship is just there. Also people getting into relationships with out the goal of forming a family and making a linage end up making the person feeling empty. Relationships arent just about fucking and playing board games lol
Dude, you are literally blessed!! For now, u might think that ur unlucky cuz u didn't find love, but trust me, ur blessed cuz u don't know how happy you'll be later on. Maintain this single streak, and you'll eventually realize why u were so lucky never having a girlfriend
I'm the same age as you and we share the same situation. I have no experience with love, but it is a very powerful emotion, and it can either build up or wreck your life so be careful. But I don't believe true love by itself is that bad. It takes sacrifice, commitment, and it supersedes all reason and rational thinking. It is not something you can comprehend with the logical mind, and I think that is why it can seem so dark and scary, fear of the unknown. Hats off to you man and hang in there. Peace.
same, but dude, its out there. its just a crazy world at the moment, so dont take it personal. youre a young man, finding himself in this experience. be strong and true to yourself and believe it or not, the rest will fall into place :) it sure is tough, i know, but this and feelings like this will make you a greater, wiser man. there will be great tests in life, and this is one of the tougher ones. i promise most other hurdles after this will seem so easy. give your self some credit, we are mirrors to our environment. stand tall, and be proud of the path you can choose to go down. if you can respect what you do, others will too! your good bro! feel what you want to become and take tiny steps to make that possible
Damn if he can’t get a girlfriend there is absolutely no hope for me. lmaooo
There is a lot more to life than being in relationship anyways
@@prakhargupta3949 there is always someone yapping this. We know bro we know but I want other things like I want gf too so for ffs shut up
@@prakhargupta3949 yup
@@prakhargupta3949cope
@@prakhargupta3949 So you are willing to live your whole life without love? If not, swallow your fake words.
I feel you bro like I don't want to go to a family reunion and hear stuff like "when will you wanna have a girlfriend"? People think its that easy to have one and shit, its not.
Ain’t nothing wrong with you man … At least from what I see
My son feeling the same way
You just gotta living and moving bro … Keep staying positive also … Negativity will do your body a lot of damage
You will meet the right person for you … Maybe not soon but you will
With all that being said bro you gotta be aware of the snakes and the users though … They are everywhere
You will be fine
Right now it may feel weird currently in your life. But love can be described in different ways. When that time comes you will know. But try not to doubt yourself. Everyone deserves to be loved. Don't give up too quickly. Don't listen to negativity that's set in your mind.
Sometimes your purpose isnt supposed to be average. God has a plan for you. You just gotta find it. I found mine. never had a gf either. your gonna be ok bro.
Sup bro. I happened to run across your videos and imma just say that we have all been where you are in life at one point in time. You gotta find out what really makes you happy as a man and work on yourself. Fuck other people bro. First step is spending some time at the gym and getting your body right. It will help you gain confidence and you’ll feel better about yourself. Take time to get in touch with God. Find ways to improve your financial situation. And as far as females, if you become a better version of yourself they will come. If you’re persistent you’ll get one eventually. You can’t be afraid of rejection because 90% of women will reject you. Stay persistent bro. I hope what I said could help you. Much love bro!!
Stay strong brother. Life can change for the good in the blink of an eye 👍
i am proud of you, because you really try hard to improve your life. Nothing is wrong with you. The communication style in your Generation is broken. People hardly connect during the spare time. Everybody is online. I am sorry for you, because I relate to you very much. My life was also difficult because of a difficult start in the family.
Dude I promise you, you're not missing much. It's far, far better on paper than in practice. And women these days, are not to be trusted.
hey dude i am in the same situation. I am 23 years old like you. Watching your video I really felt the part when you explained that there were signs this girl liked you but you got overwhelmed with your fears to take it into a deeper level, (a very similar experience happened to me in high school. To this day I really regret it because at one point she came to know that I liked her and was willing to give me a chance until she perceived that I was making no move at all . I really regret it and used to beat me up for it .....because inside I know she would have been worth the struggle. But thankfully it's all getting better, I have accepted the fact that I am just not made for love, and so I m spending my days improving my own flaws and aspects of my life (almost a master degree level computer engineer whatupppp). All the best ahahah
bro you're not alone. I'm a bi guy, only ever had one girlfriend when I was 13....never had sex, never really had a girlfriend and trying to talk to girls now feels weird and foreign. Dating apps have made me feel depressed. I completely understand what you mean about feel about giving up altogether
Bro I feel the same way about love in those days. I just feel like love is not for me, like I understand What love means chemicaly and thats it, so whenever some girl likes me I just think, that its just because I make some chemicals go crazy in her and thats it…like the love is not for the real me. I don’t know man but I dont want to fight this, I just let it flow in hope that someday something will happen. Thank you for sharing this experience with us!♥️
dude. literally explained my life. you and me are the same my dude. im abt to turn 17, ive always been quiet but my social anxeity and skills have improved a decent amount. However it seems like girls think im weird no matter what i do. I feel the same as you man I might be younger but I understand exactly what your saying
I am 28 years old and I can say confidently that you are very mature and intelligent guy. Don't give up, I can relate with you a lot. Even though I am attractive girl who get quite a lot of attention, it seems like impossible to find a guy who will truly fit me. Twenty first centuary is fuc*ed.
Easy for you as a woman because you're the gender that gets approached and pursued
Who will truly fit you? It honestly just sounds like you’re too picky
She wants the 6'6 gigachad obv@@JohnnyWalkerBlack142
@giovaniamor9 lmao what 😨should ppl just settle for any average joe
@@lizzspo There is a reasonable middle ground between settling for anything and being so delusional and picky that you end up single the rest of your life
Man you are so on point about the movies it promotes fake love😢
Worst feeling ever man. Am 23 turning 24 and never went on a date, don't even know what it feels to touch a woman.
Had few crushes in the past, tried with them all and got rejected, had this one girl I really really liked in high school, got brutally shot down and went into depression for months.
went to gym, read books, focused on studies, now 23, still no love.
Out of sheer desperation, tried online way, chatted with this awesome girl for like 10 days, but she also started ignoring me, rarely replying and that too just emojis.
I have watched many YT videos, tried almost all kinds of approaches, ran endless simulations in my mind, practicing what to speak or not when approaching her.....But still at square 1.
At this point I don't even know if it is really meant to be or not.
I want to give up but that little sliver of hope is what keeps me optimistic but at the same time it's the hope that kills me.
I am 25, I've had 1 girlfriend in the past. After we broke up every girl I ever tried to talk to either become a close friend of mine, rejected me, ignored me, ghosted me, or chose another man over me. I had fallen for someone I knew recently, but she is in a relationship and that sucks big time. At times I truly wonder if I ever get to be in another relationship soon. I know I am still young but, the thought of being alone for the rest of my life scares me. Also My confidence basically at zero after everything that happened, after talking to a lot of girls and failed in forming a relationship. It just makes me think sometimes if I am the problem. Is it my attitude, appearance, the way I talk. Life sucks man. One thing I can say tho. Hang in there King. We just have to work on ourselves and improve our mental and emotional health even before thinking of going into a relationship. Also unlike me, you are good looking. Everything will fall into place. Just believe in love.
Be glad that a gf hasn't come your way. I wish I stayed focused and never got completely distracted. The wrong person can destroy you. It's best to focus on your future. Get a career and better yourself each day. Love shouldn't be a game. If people try to play games, then that's not the person to be with. It's a total waste of your time unless you plan on having a serious life partner. There is nothing wrong with you my friend. Focus on being a good person, money, and building a future. I know it's hard but that's what's mostly important and your family.
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@@Continential safe behind a screen arent you?
agreed I wasted so much time with the wrong useless people and regret it now that I’m 39
That's because of you're smart. Won't let chaotic come to your life, it's great that you focus on yourself. God Bless You
I'm going more insane than you brother... Ive been isolated since the day I was born. Not just no girls; but no friends, nothing.
I feel my end is nigh...
Same here! I've always felt like a social outcast my whole life, even though I've always wanted to just be normal and have a friend group like everyone else.
@professional.commentator
I know exactly what you mean. And it isn't like it is because of my appearance, or inability to speak, or something.
The common advice is usually given to put oneself out there. So I do, I try visiting my Orthodox Church, Clubs, and the sort. Yet it's worse; like being invisible in plain sight. And when it comes to invisibility, It is far less insulting to be invisible alone, than in the eyes of apathetic masses- including the eyes of my so called fellow "Christians" who are supposed to be in communion with me.
Nonetheless, my spirituality and faith (primarily), then secondly my physical fitness, and my extreme life and academic goals are the only things keeping me sane to some level. I hope things sincerely get better for you too, you'll be in my prayers.
No one deserves to be isolated for that long, I should know.
@@Codreanu_Prezent Thank you man! I've been focusing on my goals too. I wish you the best!
The struggle is definitely real! 🙃 I'm turning 25 in late December and I've never had a girlfriend either. A few of the 'popular' girls used to talk to me (every now and then) at HS and college, but I found them kinda shallow... So I tried to avoid them as much as possible.
I've been told by a few people (women 😅) on social media that I'm 'handsome' and 'good looking'... But it doesn't seem that way in my personal life. I feel invisible to pretty much every female I walk past. Every time I try to say hi/be friendly... they just look at me like I'm a creep and ignore me. 😕
Of course this is just my experience tho. And I'm not trying to blame all females for my lack of success so far. I'm definitely not an 'incel' or anything like that. And quite frankly... I prefer my own company anyway. 🤷🏻♂️
I think women evolved to be guarded around strangers. Especially now with there being such a lack of community and common experiences everyone is a potential threat. They only really open up in friend groups unless you're really good at approaching and making them feel comfortable. Since friend groups are almost non-existent now it's pretty rough for anyone to find a partner these days.
@@tmstani23 💯 Yup... This is the sad truth.
It’s natural for women to protect themselves from strangers that’s why they act like that most of the time. 😂
@@Toreythegoat Fair point 😂👌🏻
@@Toreythegoat cut the bs, they willingly aproach themselves and start talking to some men, if they don't you're unattractive to them, that's all there is to it
I came across this video and I know that feeling mate! I’m 24 years old and I’ve never had a gf either. I’ve dated a couple of girls but it didn’t go as planned I used to think that it was my fault cuz I’m a complicated person and sometimes I’ve felt judged because of being myself and it doesn’t matter you’ll be fine just don’t give up and that person who is willing to love you the way you’re are will come to your life. It’s all about patience I know it’s frustrating and it sucks but it is what it is. Just be confident keep doing your best. Make yourself proud and all the good things will come to you sooner or later. Thanks for sharing this video!
The issue for me is that I think too far ahead. Not like anxiety, but like: “this relationship’s just going to end anyway, so why start it?”
i'm a girl but everything you said i relate to - at this point, love doesn't feel real and yes, lots of relationships around me do not work out - they are not forever (like our fiction worlds)
it just constantly reaffirms that love is just something not meant for us
or we haven't found someone yet
but knowing that there is someone out there, a guy, who thinks the same as me is so reassuring and i thank you for that
You know because I've been single my whole life, I sometimes wonder if there are any good women left. I also sometimes wonder if I was never meant to have a girlfriend, but that's just me on this and I honestly don't really care anymore
Hi, bro! Focus on hobbys and the things you love to do. The older you get the more you understand that no one actually loves anyone, everybody just simulates love etc just getting what they need from their partner. You'll see these problems will be dissapearing slowly. You just need some time to get used to new acknowledges. Good luck anyway!
You got my support, I understand you completely, keep having faith and I know easier said than done , but you got this I believe in u bro
I got my girlfriend at 23, now almost two years later we're slated to get married, she came to me in a rough time when i started having suicidal thoughts. When we started off dating i didn't think we'd work out as well as we have, but when i made the effort for it to work well, it surely did. Just because women nowadays are superficial and silly doesn't mean you shouldgive up ifthats what you want chief, like i almost did. You never know what could be around the corner in life
Did she come to you and where ? Because Im 20 dealing with suicidal thoughts as well and have no hope in getting into a relationship. I go to the gym and soon will be attending college to get a degree and make money for my future.
@@soccerlegend9780 yes, we were friends first and she expressed interest first
For me, suicidal thoughts are ingrained into the fragment of my being.
I’m 44 bro . I have watched these women go from fun to be around to a complete nightmare to be around . When I was young I was excited to be with women . Now I can’t stand them . Things and people were different back in the day . I have been engaged and have had a lot of relationships. Meeting won isn’t hard for me but meeting one I want to spend time with is near impossible. You’re a good looking kid and articulate. The thing about the other guys is they don’t care , they have other interests that that value higher than women . I hope you gain some experience and realize your of higher value than the stress your putting on yourself. Relationships sound good in our mind but in reality it’s a ton of work . Focus on you , work hard , learn interesting things and enjoy life .
The thing that helps me the most, is just being friends with people. Trying to love people for who they are. I've never dated someone who was not my very close friend, and I don't think that I would. I think that is how love can happen organically. It takes away the pressure somewhat, I think. Don't give up. I really believe it will happen when you aren't expecting it, try to find hobbies and things you love to do. Idk if you are religious or have a faith, but church is wonderful to meet people if you do. Volunteering for something you care about to meet like minded people, and then just care about them and be their friend. Then you would have a deep love for that person from friendship, it just makes it much easier imo. Don't give up, you are kind and handsome, the former being far more important. I know it doesn't seem like that, but as a girl,I always feel closer to boys who show genuine caring for my wellbeing.
He doesn't want to be your friend. He wants to be a husband and to be respected by you which you don't. If you respected him you wouldn't try to be his friend but you don't respect him which is why you are trying to compromise with friendship. No advice is better than bad advice.
@@williamlevy6964 It's good to hear your perspective. I don't understand why being a friend is disrespectful. This is before you date someone or marry them, when you first meet them and get to know them, not after you are married. When you get to know someone, from one girl's perspective, I would find it very creepy and controlling if a man thought he could treat me like he was my husband at that point. I was speaking from my lived experience, the deep relationships I've had have foundations of strong friendship first before you fall in love. It's really important to have that, imo,to truly be best friends.
@@elle7856 Every guy that you were "just friends" with was actively trying to convince you to be there girlfriend. At every point in your friendship with that guy, if you asked would they like to kiss you they would say yes. You may have saw them as a friend but they were crushing on you the entire time and never thought of you as just a friend. Its dissrespectfull to do that to men because it waste there time if there is no hope for you ever becoming there girlfriend. If you thought there was no possibility of a relationship with them you should have told them that and I assure you he would have moved on to being friends with another girl who had more potential.
First things first, since you happen to be a woman, your own experiences will obviously significantly differ from those of men.
Dating is far easier for women, because they tend to have more options, as a result of usually being the selectors in the entire process.
The vast majority of relationships do not start out as friendships, if anything, such an approach tends to complicate things even further because one party eventually feels manipulated if the other seeks to turn their friendship into something more.
And lastly, physical attraction is an important aspect of any romantic relationship(unless you happen to be Asexual), regardless of gender that is.
Personally, would you really date someone you did not find attractive at all?
We both know the answer to the above question.
@@michaeleornelas4952 So, you are effectively advising individuals to be dishonest, lie and hide their true intentions and pursue a "friendship" with someone they actually fancy, in the hopes of turning it into a relationship?
Do you realise how creepy and manipulative your advise even sounds?
What you are feeling is normal but it shows taht you are also deeply affraind of failure.
There’s nothing wrong with you. I have a similar thing were I find it really hard to get close to others. I think people like us tend to have idealistic attitudes towards relationships. The world generally has twisted views towards it. I think a lot of us like these have traumas to heal in terms of attachment and being ourselves and that’s why getting close to others is hard. Getting over these and our fears is key. It takes a lot of work to get something real. Most people have pretty fake relationships even if it doesn’t look like it. We don’t want that, and so it’s harder. The more we walk our own path the more we start to see life in a way like how “the movies” portray it sometimes. It’s hard to se the world as real when we feel like the only real thing in it. Focus on what we love, that’s what is real too.
I understand your feelings. I have to be honest with you, people in this generation are not worth your time. People dont even know what love is anymore. What people feel now days is infatuation. Love is a rare thing. Your 23 take your time. I am 21,female and I have had "boyfriends" but they weren't relationships still have my v card. One day I woke up and stopped caring. I stopped wanting a relationship and now all i feel is love and happiness in my own company because I see my values. I hustled, self improved, became focus, bought a muscle car and truth be told it keeps me happy too its a passion of mine, and I just do my job earn money, set goals. You can do the same. You will attract someone some day but the best thing you can do now is hustle for you. And hey as humans, yes humans can procreate but its up to you if you want kids or not. Intimacy is truly about knowing someone, its about understanding them and them not needing to say anything because there is an unspoken connection. Your not doing anything wrong either just be you. Hyperfocus on you and people will take notice.
Imagine everyone thinks like this Humanity is doomed. Lol.
@@chaosinfernoid9008She’s not wrong, gen z is fucked romantically
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Well a mentality like this is why it's like that. And well our so called western freedom is whats ruining us. So called Liberalism mainly. Not long time ago people were regulated mainly through Religion. It still has a big influence and is increasing again. I think humans now lose true value. You don't have anything to follow, your lost in the wind if you know what i mean. What after the big car and Villa? Think about it. Ah yea lets just decide not the procreate seems like a really good idea. Lets have gay sex. (Which is practically the same) Stupid Idiot western world is destroying itself. So called Love is a Illusion created by Hollywood and consorts. For example If you wouldnt be your moms son she wouldnt give a shit about you. If someone doesn't get a benefit elsewhise they don't give a dip shit about you. I don't know how else to put it into perspective. You need to explain yourself a bit better what exactly you mean with "fucked" though. Believing in yourself is important though like she said and focusing on your own value and growth to a degree. But we aren't alone on this planet.
@@anaccount7923Definitely
same bro, at this point i'm afraid of intimacy and i think the damage of never experience any love leave me beyond repair
Hey man, don't give up and idk if ur religious but start praying to God and truly know that he always lives you and answers you prayers, might take some time for a few of those prayers but God does not do thing without purpose. I will pray for and just know that when you look for a girl, make pros and cons list of what you like and don't like don't settle for the first thing and when it comes to talking to them, just try not to think about it too hard. Your not ugly in any way. You just gotta pray to God work on your thoughts and your self before trying to get with someone. You can go to the gym it helps alot of us out and just focus on urself first and then start talking to thes girls, don't give up, the right girl doesn't care how you look. The on eyou want is the one that loves you for you try your best man and God bless i will keep you in my prayers bro.
I'm 31. Ever Single. It never got better. I think Zoloft helped and as a plus it shut down part of my sexual desire. The less I care the less depressed I am. The hard thing is finding a way to sincerely not care.
You are very intelligent and very handsome. Those traits are intimidating to many woman. Not your issue. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you. Don’t give up on love!
Literally the exact same as me I’ve been out of school for a little over 3 years with no dates in school and I’ve been stuck in my childhood home which has a bit of trauma and I can’t fucking leave I’m so god damn lonely and being sheltered and isolated along with only having the internet doesn’t fucking help my own mental heal and hearing all this shit about women hating nice guys and wanting all this alpha man with 6 everything it hurts everyone’s chances where it matters most the people who just love to love nothing more nothing less and just want the normal embrace of a lover is that TO MUCH TO ASK FOR!?
Im 25 year old virgin starting to work on my confidence and my social anxiety. You're not alone dude just don't give up hope
I have given up, there's no way life is gonna go my way, and if I try to control my life it will show me my non existant worth
It takes a very strong soul to live an entire life without love. But it is worth it. To learn how to be happy, even if you were to spend an entire lifetime by yourself, is priceless, and definitely worth the pain of spending an entire lifetime single.
I agree no one can
Cheat or backstab you so you end up in shock and despair from another. Useless person and their fake fucking feelings
jesus christ the cope is unreal
Your way too young to have this outlook brother. You are a good looking guy and your very smart and inquisitive and you seem to deeply analyze things such as the meaning of life. You will meet a girl who also has always felt a little “weird” like you describe in this video and everything will be fine. Don’t rush into this…there’s no rush at all. There’s nothing wrong with you…this is unfortunately a natural growing trend amongst young men, single men in their 20s and 30s. A lot of it is caused by the new dynamics of our society. I hope the feedback on your videos helps give you the confidence you should have. Just go with the flow brother, don’t force anything and don’t feel down on yourself. Maybe you’ll be one of those guys where the female approaches you…I’m the same way…too shy…some women like that. Your a sensitive guy and that’s a very good thing don’t let anyone tell you that makes you “soft”. To share your vulnerability with the world in this format takes the ultimate courage, if you can do that, you can do anything.
Hey man don't beat yourself up. As someone who has been in a relationship before I wouldn't recommend focusing on getting a girlfriend as modern women nowadays wants to be competitive against men but stay true to yourself and love the person you are today. Try working on self-love and do the things that'll make you happy like focusing on your goals, gaming, watching your favorite shows, etc. It can be difficult to find someone and I struggle with that too but once you decide and learn to love yourself things will get better and you'll view life very differently. There's nothing wrong with you and you're right where you're supposed to be so follow your dreams and always watch your heart too and don't give up on love as it's something that is inside all of us and that love can come in many wonderful and different ways for everyone even when you least expect it so keep doing good and stay safe too king!
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is searching for love. You'll find it, but it won't be lasting. Let love find you. Live your life, and you will find someone that fits. In the very rare case that you don't, you'll be happier alone anyhow.
bullshit advice and your wrong
I'm 24, and I'm not into girls, I'm into guys. I as well, never have been in a relationship. When I was 23, I had the closest thing to a relationship, though I was never official with him. We didn't work, out and it broke my heart - took several months to get over. It doesn't help that I also have attachment issues too, so that's been a huge disadvantage on my end too.
I'm currently in therapy and the thing that they told me (after I ranted to them about me and my personal life) is that I have a void in myself, that I'm trying to get others to fill for me, as I don't have it within myself. As a result, I'm going to others, looking for that acceptance, validation, and looking to be valued. So in a sense for me, I have to better myself, and learn to love myself. Cuz I always hear ... that you can't truly love someone or expect someone to love you, if you don't love yourself. So I think that most of us just need to work on ourselves first and learn to love ourselves before getting into a relationship.
For myself, I know that is very true, as I basically have no self-love, and when I am in a relationship, I'm certain it won't work out until I work on myself.
There is nothing wrong with you, keep pushing through, you got this.
Be fair with yourself brother, you have a much smaller pool of possible partners to choose from than most
ew, Dont be gay.
f bro, thats gonna be hard bc not that many guys are gay, but hope the best for you
I know EXACTLY how you feel and I'll be 100% with you. I'm 20 years old soon to be 21 and I've seen a LOT of things for someone my age. And let me just do a mic drop....which means I'm about to tell you just EXACTLY what's going on.
#1 The reason why you don't get close to anyone is because you have that internal guide telling you "This person isn't right" and tbh it's a protection. It's literally sparing you all the heartache, baggage and regrets that come from a lot of relationships that form and you see how people treat it.
#2 You're a pure-hearted honest soul that isn't about anyone or anything phoney and I can tell that the little show people put on *doesn't* impress you at all. Neither does it impress me either. But those girls can sense that they can't manipulate you and immediately lose interest because they're looking for a puppet so they can pull on the strings.
3# It's not you, it's them. I've been through this too many times. They have yet to grow up in ways. People nowadays are very selfish but I can tell you're quite the opposite. That in itself is attractive.
#4 Those boys that seem to get relationships all quick and that seem so "successful" are usually not that developed mentally, emotionally, or psychologically. Nor do they realize that internal growth is *needed* for a relationship. You on the other hand, are someone who recognizes that there are things to work on within yourself and you're growing in those areas. Because you're taking the time to work on those areas, you'll be more successful than them. Most guys I've been in a relationship with, I've come to find out that they have a lot of unresolved and unhealed childhood traumas that they need to fix themselves instead of thinking a mate will undo all of that. And as a result I've been through *so much* unnecessary pain because they WOULDN'T own up to their actions. You on the other hand are working on your communication skills which are *vital* for a relationship. So again, you'll be more successful because as a man you recognize the need to improve in those areas. That's highly respectable and attractive.
#5 The media portrays a lot of falsehoods in general including romantic love. That's expected. Reality on the other hand can be painful but you're sparing yourself from a lot of unnecessary baggage that comes from all of that.
#6 When it comes to myself, my issue is no one cares long enough to make a relationship last. Even though I'm fully capable I can't hold up 100% of that, it should be 50-50 but sometimes it's 89-11 or 67-33 or 45-55. As you may notice, all of these equal 100 but not everyone wants to do their part to keep it 100% with you. People do this in general. So don't worry you're not alone.
#7 Don't give up--in any area of your life. I know it may be difficult because people contribute their two cents to a situation and make it difficult for you at times. You're growing to be more at peace with the fact you're a work in progress. Continue. There is nothing wrong with you. By age 23, folks usually have a bunch of exes, kids, child support, unstable relationships, and have baggage. You on the other hand, are choosing a better route which will be better in the long run.
#8 I think you're a great guy. You have integrity which most don't. I'd be more than happy to be close to someone like that because you stand for the truth and don't fall for anything. It's still very possible to be close to someone. I believe in you. If you ever need a close friend, I'm here. _caramel_curlfriend_4u is my insta.
I'm glad you are honest with yourself. It'll make the process more bearable and more possible for you to grow. Thanks for sharing. Feel free to give me a follow on my IG or here. I'm here to support.
Damn, friendzoned bro in the first message 😂😂
@@andrewgillim5952 Not necessarily, more of just relating.
Outstanding comment. Always refreshing to find that other people like us actually exist lol. But seriously, being as wise as you are at 21 is such a powerful gift. And it’s not one people around our age are well-equipped to appreciate (and if you’re more introverted, you probably don’t display it much).
@@oliverlinehan8701 Thank you so much
You'll be okay man. Take this from someone who hasnt had a "girlfriend" since I was 15. I am now 24, i struggle with anxiety/depression and very much low self doubt/confidence
You know what that teaches me though? That I am simply not mentally stable to have a girlfriend and settle down right now. I need to be able to look after my self before I am capable of having a partner and settling down.
Maybe its the same with your situation but I dont know for sure. What Im really trying to say that if youre not confident on finding a girl yet. Then work on your confidence, otherwise you literally have no other shot.
Build yourself first before worrying about relationships. You're still young and got your whole life ahead of you. If I can still have faith within myself, then there should be no reason you cant either.
Focus on you it will suck you will be lonely but it’s better than sitting around feeling sorry for yourself that paths doesn’t lead to anything good
Don’t give up yet it will happen for you just be patient 🖤
I'm 34 and I never had a girlfriend - never kissed, never held hands. I don't even have female friends. But I did go to a professional - I didn't want to become a 30 year old virgin. I felt the same when I was 22-26. Then I just gave up and now I just don't feel anything. You look fine, by the way - you will find your GF!
I don't wanna end up like an abomenation, The pressure at 19 is scary I pray il find someone because il rather be dead than pay for love
grow up, who cares@@Darkinse
@@frv6610no one does thank god, that's the point of the anonynous comments
@@martin61812 how is your response related to my comment?
Same age as you brother. Asked out a girl at work on whom i had an interest. Maybe I have gone too fast too soon..it was my first time taking a shot at a chance...she wasn't interested, but i would never give up that opportunity given the option for doing nothing. .cause it's about trying to push yourself and about bettering yourself as a man. These small rejections and firsthand embarrassments are that what make us or break us. So if you wanna take a shot , take it. You ain't gonna lose much and take failure like a champ. Good Luck!!