1) Humans for the most part subconsciously assign values to other individuals - Those with a higher value are obviously perceived and treated with more respect people are drawn to you automatically desire to become your friend - As for those with a lower value are not and are often ignored 2) How do we determine value? & How do we increase it? a) Hygiene, If you can't even take care of yourself people won't expect you to be able to take care of them Physical Attractiveness, Having generally good health and having characteristics such as being ill, overweight and tired. Secondly, people also look for good genetics to ensure the survival of offspring Fashion is able to obscure or take the attention away from those flaws or at least make the perception of you more appealing b) Status, How influential is this person (wealth is usually something people use to indicate this) Career is tied to status is as well the better the career the more a person tends to be valued c) Social proof, being well known or having a large number of friends, this is one of the most powerful indicators of the perception of value placed on you d) Demeanour, how a person carries themselves, IE body language e) Tonality, the way one speaks f) Frame, The ability to handle stressful conditions essentially stoicism and confidence
Only the shallow and superficially ignorant masses judge people based on these criteria. The enlightened make no judgement, but look at someone and wonder what's under the surface, because everything in this list can be nothing but a facade and you'll never know if you make judgemental preconceptions.
As harsh as it sounds, it is very eye opening. I believe that as long as you take the best of the advice and not blindely follow every word you hear on the internet, you can tremendously improve your life and that’s what it’s really about. The desire to be better is what separates us from animals :) Thank you, Improvement Pill
Indeed, there are some points in this vid that we'd preffer not to be like that , but that's just how it is and how things works on society. For those who really want to improve at making friends, these are some valid advices.
Thank you, Improvement Pill. Being high value is good but a word of warning be aware of those who try to be 'friends' with you, only to take from you and not add value. I always find there's an issue where people are always trying to make friends with those of higher value but do not operate in a state of giving value, instead they take or worse act too needy.
Amaani exactly! i feel like i‘m somewhere in a middle ground and i only rarely struggle with fake friends. friends of mine that are very attractive seem to draw them in like moths. not sure what i‘d want more lol
I feel like the title is misleading. I tried to find a video that rather made you feel worthy regardless of suiting to others. I think that is key, especially if you are in a desolate state. It is important to value yourself regardless of the circumstances.
I hate that this is called “value”. Hate it. Social significance, power, or popularity but not value. Every life has value. It’s the unfortunate ones who miss the hidden treasures all around us.
wether you like it or dont like it there, you can change it with hard work except if a accident happend and you have to accept it. you cant change the fact, crying abt it doesnt work
Everyone has value based on perspective and it's real and its will always be there no matter how much you like. You either take advantage of the social system or fall behind because you think its unimportant. The best option is to beat the system of the judgemental society be genuinely happy with your self.
To anyone reading this, don't feel pressured to have and exhibit everything. It will sap the life and love outta you. Choose one thing and work on that until it becomes unconscious and a part of you-a habit. It's not a formula. Don't lose yourself trying to gain others, but remember that no one is an island; we need others, too.
I absolutely love your videos! Thank you for deciding to make your "Be Tamed" and "Bee Friend" course free; as they provide such value, to everyone. Your hard work and passion for what you do, TRULY come through in the final products, which are your videos.
dear Mr. I.P. will you do a video about how to keep your cool when others insult and/or force you to snap out to get an unwanted reaction of you? if no, any possible advice on the topic?
I am Doctoral graduate of psychology. A lot of the information provided on this channel is pop psychology. Meaning, it’s not based on psychological theory. What separates a person with an opinion from one with a facts is empirical evidence. Psychology is based on empirical evidence and data. This video maker is just opinionated and relays pop psychology for entertainment. Every person is different and not all gestures, body language and behavior mean the same thing for everyone
Dude, people in psychology are still rolling with Freud due to his closeness to western values but undermine the ideas of Jung due to how Eastern inspired they are and how they lack large scale proper empirical evidence. But 7 times out of 10 I would go with ideas of Jung due to how applicable they are, irrelevant of background research. What you have is over reliance on work of others. Plus knowledge of cultural context is pretty obvious. I am not sure whether you try to comfort yourself by undermining value of perceived values, but information in the video was uninspiringly obvious.
True. I find some of the videos give me something interesting to think about at least, but I've also noticed a few that contain obviously bad advice. If I saw someone exhibiting all the behaviors encouraged in this particular video, I would very much not want to be friends with them, because they're showing that they feel self-important, whether intentional or not, and giving off vibes of unapproachability.
well, psychology should help us in our lives right? so it should be like subjective, right? so people like me can understand it and relate to it irl? and use real time working methods and info? I know what you mean by different people have different views. But that means, for a fraction of people, be it half, 1/4th, or 3/4th, this info is relatable.
Omg im always crossing my arms when talking with people im not close with but if im with my family or close friends they're never crossed and im always using them along with my talking. Wow that was a big realization for me 😂👍
Dude, this is so great. This is basically learning how to make friends for people who are really intelligent when it comes to most things but idiots to the basic things. Aka me. Also I’m partially a visual learner so the color coding in this entire thing seems like professional teaching. Great job bro.
Walking into work and everyone greets you happily and giving our self-made handshakes before the managers get mad is the best feeling on Earth. It makes me feel wanted
Be yourself is relative. Of course it is important to be authentic. But Who you are today and who you were five years ago is probably not The same person. What if you do not want to be yourself? What if you want to improve?
it's the second day of school and I watched so many videos last night because I was having a hard time speaking to people and now I have an entire friend group, ur videos work wonders my man
Being self-reliant is far more important than having friends. I deleted the social aspect of my existence long ago. I require no approval, nor attention, from anybody. I learned the hard waym. Being social has an enormous amount of negatives. However, it offers very few benefits. I have no friends, no girlfriend. I have no value to others. I require no social status. However, my self-reliance, independence, resourcefulness, level of peace, freedom, amounts of free time, and inventiveness are far higher than that of any social person.
What i've seen - most (90% of) ppl ignored and isolated me becuz i was so called [low valued] person. A loner, who nobody respected. I never fit in much.... is what i felt, so it becomes a dream for ppl like me to have a loot of friends and stuff. Yes prolly low self esteem, but as we achieve some stuff, we can see our self esteem grow a lil bit!! But, tell me, does anyone have a 100% of self esteem at all times? No right If yes.pls tell meWhat to do to get such agreat self esteem power
Even if we don't like the advice in this video let's be honest what he's saying is true. We'd all rather hang out with our friends than with the rude, narcissistic teacher that we all had at one point
I really thank you that you showed the biggest factor of relationships even in kids being the tall or handsome kid at class can give you popularity guess is just instict.
Personally, thinking of our own worth depending on our social status or assets is wrong and only leads us to demise. That led me to see myself as worthless all these years, so i decided to stray away from it.
I think that... it cannot be ignored that value exists. Some you wear(like clothes) Some you are (personality) Some are part of you ( skills like fixing stuff playing instruments)
Bro a new guy game to our class. It was his 2nd day in our school and there was a small test of 25 marks. The teacher gave him a exemption from writing the test since he’s new. But he rejected the offer and wrote the test instead. He scored the highest marks. Everyone ever since looked at him as a valuable person He don’t socialise or talk much. He socialise only when others socialise with him. He’s not rich he’s not handsome but he got a whole huge gang. He just stays idle in that group, like he dosnt do anything but his gang does everything for him.
This is very narrowminded to say the least. Expressing somebody's "value" like that. I think that having the same value is more important it make you feel like you have something in common. For instance millonaires are more likely to have friends that are also millionaires. And most often both partners like to have a comparable value in looks and finance.
It’s crushing to know that looking sick/tired lowers how other people perceive you. “Hit the gym, improve your diet” what if I’m chronically ill? I’m constantly fatigued and in pain. I am sick, and that’s just how things are. I’m still beautiful & worthy but I know in social situations people notice how “unhealthy” I look:
Hopefully going to make a video on this in the not to distant future. A few things, make a to do list, remove all distractions until the task is complete, break down the goal into actionable chunks and reward yourself with little treats on completing actions
Me and my friends spend half of our time insulting each other and laughing it off with sarcastic remarks. But that’s only with friends I know don’t mind. Every now and then I slip a joke to some of my other friends and they get upset and it just leaves me with an unpleasant feeling.
Reminder for me to start implementing changes in my life so that at least 1 year from now i can be high value worth person. For my satisfaction and having some nice impression on world while i m living.
What if you literally feel exhausted by having to maintain a ton of relationships, and just feel happy with having a solid group of great friends? Other people might perceive you to have less worth but that doesn't mean you should think that of yourself.
Question: you mentioned Social Proof as a factor, you gave the example that if someone sits in a corner people are less likely to interact and care as opposed to witnessing someone who’s more popular than the quiet corner guy. Personally, I find myself finding more easy to reach out to and interact with the quiet guy in the corner because I think they’re more approachable vs the guy who seems more popular and is all over the room because I perceive it as less threatening and more accepting I guess. Maybe it’s because I’m an introvert idk. So, is it the case that some people may have opposing views about this? Maybe some of us and intimidated by the popular guys and feel more comfortable reaching out to the guy in the corner.
Don't take everything said in this video for granted. this guy isn't some kind of seer or prophet. this is just a general theory and honestly most of these improvement channels say all of these as if they would be undeniable facts, they sound like know it all smartasses. not saying they are bad, they can be helpful sometimes. but the amount of advices i listened from these people and figured out to be complete BS later in life is quite alot. In the past i was the same but i gained confidence over the years and now i find it easier to talk to popular people and im slightly more anxious to talk to less popular people especially if they have a cool or qurky personality or appearance (for girls). mainly because i dont care anymore if i get ignored or rejected by popular people since it happend so many times in the past. but being rejected by someone on "the lower end of the social ladder" would really fucking hurt. its not even as if i ignore them because i think less of them, i dont know, the roles somehow switched for me over the years. i'd have no stress dating a girl who is considered "super hot and mainstream" by the general society but i would be pretty anxious if i would date a girl who is less popular but has a personality that i find interesting
I'll be your friend even if all we can give each other is a smile. Death will take every thing from us any way, billionaire or beggar we all exit empty handed. Our spirits will be strengthened by soul connection and unity consciousness, the love that we give when others have nothing to give us in return. Life will humble all of us.
Iv been using your method of climber to socialize with new people and have found that it gets me to a much stronger relationship very quickly and now I am able to network much. thank you
I am a teenage guy with no self esteem no friends no talent terrible at social skills and I can see how many mistakes I made every freaking day Thanks for this series
To be honest, i don't give a damn who they know. Even if they know someone that well off, they are still working under me. As long as they are in my space/my place/area of my control, i dont give a damn who they are associated with. They are under my command now(i am responsible for their doing). Either they listen, or they can get the f out, i can do this myself with or without them!!! Just know who is in control. Wolfs follow the leader, and no one will cares about their past, either follow the lead, or you can find someone else
I am always amazed by the quality of the content Improvement pill comes with. The quality gets better and better and that's such an inspiration for people like me who just started their animation channel. Keep up the amazing work. You deserve each and every subscriber!
So when i joined a new school i knew nobody but there was this girl who really didn't have that presence in class but had some ok friends and i spoted that almost everything in these videos are the things she didn't have
6:31 is Frame the same thing as self-control. If someone calls you insultingly, or a car cuts you off, ignoring it means you are unaffected but you are also able to control your resulting emotions and actions.
Gotta work on those multiplier to increase my perceived value! It's something that I have been lazing about, but to be honest, other people quickly judge you for a lot of things nowadays. What mentioned here are things that can be work overtime (may take years of practice). But once you give in halfway, well, get back up!
I'm sorry but for for some reason, the "Looks" and "wealth" section just lowered my self-esteem, even if I'd conquered one of them. Its like your telling me to don't be yourself and do this instead. Remember guys, working on your looks and wealth in ORDER TO MAKE FRIENDS will only increase you SELF CONFIDENCE, not make you high value or automatically attractive IMO. If your doing it to make friends, your seeking validation and thats a bad thing to do, only do it for yourself, not others. Dress whatever you want, not what people tell you to wear or do. I.e. I'm dressed emo and I feel more confident than looking like what every stereotypical handsome guys are etc. and more people admired that because I was "being Myself/original' an made me more of an interesting person. And gym is not the only way to get fit, I skateboard and I'm fine with being skinny than swole, and that makes me feel more valuable (I'm not saying don't go to the gym, I'm saying there's so many ways to exercise, like it can be your favorite sport and such). Hence, learn how to LOVE YOURSELF in order to increase value. And with wealth, its kindof a different subject, again, work on wealth to value your time and freedom, not validate to others. And it doesn't matter how much money you make just as long as you feel fulfilled, you don't need to be millionaire in order to be wealthy. LOVING YOURSELF is the best way to be high value than any other, even if you are poor and fat but happy as ever, its superfine. Remember that guys.
This is actually an awesome subject to talk about. Be yourself will always be your best option in order to be happy and gain real friends but it’s also true that if you are looking for get “status” (status is a tricky subject) then you will need to fit into some of the categories that society thinks that are valuable. Not saying that this is how things should be but if you want a nice job or search for network then being entirely yourself (unless your true self happens to be everything society likes) is not going to always help you. Let’s say that you need booth a being you persona and a social approved persona, talking about the real world this is more convenient that just being yourself regardless of anything. With that being said I really dream of a world when people can just be however they like and none judge them, but meanwhile if you want to have conventional “success” then this is the best I think you can do.
Okay if you feel like looking less attractive and having less money it’s okay, but it’s a fact that the more attractive you look and the more money you have in your bank account the more people will want to be with you. Anyhow, social proof (personality basically) is worth much more than looks and wealth. So even looking “emo” and being “broke” you could get friends. Being rich and looking as attractive as you can would just make the process of getting friends easier.
I just want to say, he's right we judge people because of their heath, looks, and wealth. But If we go and talk to them for a while then they may judge us differently, Depending on our or they're personality. I call it the power of personalities.
Any advice on how to remember a lot of names in short time? I am meeting a bunch of new people and in the future it will be likely that we'll meet again. What should I do to not forget their names? So that I will not embarass myself. Btw Good video, simply aims to the point.
@@InumnantOmnia Ikr, but it's kinda hard when you meeting 15 people for about an hour. In this time I may miss the topic. Anyway thanks for advice, I'll try to use it more often.
I just write people's names down. The first time people find it funy, but when you can recall their name (don't read while speaking to them, do it a minute before) they are ok with it c:
I have a couple friends in highschool... although i m not that outgoing and i m generally concious about my appearance and how i look to others. One of those things is my height cause i know that a tall guy is more attractive, and i m like the second shorter one in my class (1,74 cm)... Still trying to be positive
I disagree with the most things in the video because it teaches you to look for surface things. I think the most important is what you are inside, a person who is possibly broke, has asymmetrical face, is a bit clumsy, but is generous and kind will have a much higher value than someone who is wealthy, with expensive perfume and perfect make up. To change how people perceive you you should first change who you are inside
I don't like this at all. People should just stop placing labels of how much a certain person is worth. This is supporting the fact that it's okay to calculate the worth of a person which in my opinion should not be. I believe everyone is of equal worth and are all capable of so much. We should in fact look past their appearance, their money, their demeanor, and try to get to know what makes their individuality unique. If you're not genuine and are trying to act your way through life to become more likable, you won't be happy at all and possibly end up lashing out onto people due to your unhappiness. Just be more compassionate and patient to everyone around you, and approach those who aren't always approached. Talk to a homeless person on the street or a coworker or classmate, regardless of how they look and speak, and get to know them more. Respect everyone and most importantly, be yourself. :)
Increasing your own value is not "not being yourself". When one learns to love and respect themselves, one naturally improves and works on impressing /oneself/. Also, when you respect yourself you don't let just anyone into your life. There are standards you out onto yourself, and being selective with who you interact with shows who you really are. This video isn't asking you to go out of your way. This video is asking you to love yourself
You can complain about human nature or you can take advantage of it. Bring value to yourself, and use that to bring value to others. Be a positive force in the world. Use psychology and use it virtuously.
there is this guy on RUclips called Universal Man, when he talks about stuff like this, he always differentiates between „dignity“ and „status“, saying that every person has an equal amount of inherent dignity as soon as they‘re born, but everyone has a different status. Status would then be what I.P talks about here. Maybe it sounds better to you to say „he has a higher status“ than „he is worth more“. Hope this made any sense 🙂
idk I feel like this doesn't work if the other person's value is too out of your league. Like even with your own rules, why would someone with high value want to be friends with some peon, some low-class peasant with no value? They might talk with you if you go up to them, but they're not going to consider you in their friend category if you've got nothing to offer them in return. It's easier to become friends with someone who is in your own league, someone who can see you as relatable.
To me I think it doesnt matter the worth of other people, also if you are befriending the most valued people, the lower valued people wouldn’t have any friends. Also if you befriended the higher valued people they might have people if more to them then you, and uf you friended the lower valued they would appreciate you more because if your openness to them. If you have any thoughts on this that would be appreciated
Without diminishing the value of the video, i think fundamentally your point of just making friends regardless of value is right, rather than complicating relationships too much. As long as they're not toxic, no reason not to befriend them
Improvement Pill not to put your video down but, I know its to make friends with higher value but, to me making friends with lower value people makes them feel more valued in a personal and emotional way, regardless of the way you perceive peoples values.
Improvement Pill, I once loved you, but as time goes by you seem to have developed delusions of grandeur. You sent me an email contaning "Want To Talk To Me On The Phone For Almost Free?!?!?!!" - Dude, this is unacceptable.
Your own value is determined by the sum of the values of the positive attributes you posses. And the value of each positive attribute is determined by the socially necessary labor time required to achieve it. Which is determined by what type of society you live in. For example modern societies in the developed world will value higher being thin and muscular than being fat and weak because in that scenario for the average person it takes more work to be thin than to be fat. The opposite is true for developing countries. There might be exceptions that contradict this which are usually caused by society developing fast and their culture doesn't catch up on it yet.
Having self respect is much more important than seeking people's attention 😎🤘🏻
Exactly period
Big facts
if people view you as low value they just proved their value to you
Using those emojis is much more important than seeking people's attention😎🤘
I needed to see this
Really though the most important thing is how you value yourself, not how other people view you :)
Self esteem- a pure opinion about yourself and feeling of security, and having contentment with your flaws.
Ora Ora the thing is, when u’re a cat. And u see you self as a lion. U’ll become one.
Yes yourself value is definitely the most important
If you value yourself enough, you don’t need friend
But it the video about making friend so...
There some people who value themself but still have hard time having friend you know
That’s really important, but his point is that if you wanna gain friends easily, you have to increase the value that people assigned of you.
1) Humans for the most part subconsciously assign values to other individuals
- Those with a higher value are obviously perceived and treated with more respect people are drawn to you automatically desire to become your friend
- As for those with a lower value are not and are often ignored
2) How do we determine value? & How do we increase it?
a) Hygiene, If you can't even take care of yourself people won't expect you to be able to take care of
them
Physical Attractiveness, Having generally good health and having characteristics such as being ill, overweight and tired.
Secondly, people also look for good genetics to ensure the survival of offspring
Fashion is able to obscure or take the attention away from those flaws or at least make the perception of you more appealing
b) Status, How influential is this person (wealth is usually something people use to indicate this)
Career is tied to status is as well the better the career the more a person tends to be valued
c) Social proof, being well known or having a large number of friends, this is one of the most powerful indicators of the perception of value placed on you
d) Demeanour, how a person carries themselves, IE body language
e) Tonality, the way one speaks
f) Frame, The ability to handle stressful conditions essentially stoicism and confidence
Cool
You're valuable.
Thank you for summerize the video
Only the shallow and superficially ignorant masses judge people based on these criteria. The enlightened make no judgement, but look at someone and wonder what's under the surface, because everything in this list can be nothing but a facade and you'll never know if you make judgemental preconceptions.
Thanks for ur summaries,and u're already worthy now.（￣︶￣）
As harsh as it sounds, it is very eye opening. I believe that as long as you take the best of the advice and not blindely follow every word you hear on the internet, you can tremendously improve your life and that’s what it’s really about. The desire to be better is what separates us from animals :)
Thank you, Improvement Pill
Indeed, there are some points in this vid that we'd preffer not to be like that , but that's just how it is and how things works on society. For those who really want to improve at making friends, these are some valid advices.
First value yourself..
Because empty cup can't fill another cup..
❤️❤️
1. looks
- hygiene, physical attractiveness, fashion
2. status
- wealth, career, social proof
3. demeanor
- body language, tonality/voice, frame
Thx
Rule no. 1 - Remember you are priceless ♥️
Your videos keep reminding me that there are always so many areas we can improve upon, regardless of the position that we are currently in...
Ok mr president
Thank you, Improvement Pill.
Being high value is good but a word of warning be aware of those who try to be 'friends' with you, only to take from you and not add value. I always find there's an issue where people are always trying to make friends with those of higher value but do not operate in a state of giving value, instead they take or worse act too needy.
Amaani exactly! i feel like i‘m somewhere in a middle ground and i only rarely struggle with fake friends. friends of mine that are very attractive seem to draw them in like moths. not sure what i‘d want more lol
as someone with ASD (autism spectrum disorder) this is a great source for starting learning social skills.
I feel like the title is misleading. I tried to find a video that rather made you feel worthy regardless of suiting to others.
I think that is key, especially if you are in a desolate state. It is important to value yourself regardless of the circumstances.
I hate that this is called “value”. Hate it. Social significance, power, or popularity but not value. Every life has value. It’s the unfortunate ones who miss the hidden treasures all around us.
Well, so stop going to the gym, caring about your diet, having friends, and being respected, and then tell me if you didn't value all that.
It’s just people who are powerful and not lmao
Me too! It shouldn't be called "value" how well are your social skillls doesn't make you more or less human than anyone else.
wether you like it or dont like it there, you can change it with hard work except if a accident happend and you have to accept it. you cant change the fact, crying abt it doesnt work
I feel like I’m worth something now…. Didn’t feel worth anything till recently
Everyone has value based on perspective and it's real and its will always be there no matter how much you like. You either take advantage of the social system or fall behind because you think its unimportant. The best option is to beat the system of the judgemental society be genuinely happy with your self.
this is why i got online friends the only thing that matters to them is your personality
To anyone reading this, don't feel pressured to have and exhibit everything. It will sap the life and love outta you. Choose one thing and work on that until it becomes unconscious and a part of you-a habit. It's not a formula. Don't lose yourself trying to gain others, but remember that no one is an island; we need others, too.
Hygiene
Health
Fitness
Wealth
Career
Social Proof
Demeanor too 😋
I fail in most of these.
That is your fault mate, all of these you can get if you just put in the work for it. Please don't missunderstand me.
Sarah Tonin they say failure leads to success
that's so general and vague
You forgot intelligence for value
How do people determine your intelligence? By the things you say, how you carry yourself, and your appearance.
@@tnatstrat7495 Yh you can tell someone is intelligent with those factors.
But mostly it is the way you talk and carry yourself.
@@dariuspalmer2829 Exactly. Demonstrating intelligence (aka value) is different than actually being intelligent.
Idk I was trying to be intelligent dammit
I absolutely love your videos! Thank you for deciding to make your "Be Tamed" and "Bee Friend" course free; as they provide such value, to everyone.
Your hard work and passion for what you do, TRULY come through in the final products, which are your videos.
appreciate all you do man u changed so much for me and putting everything together to keep simple pls don’t stop
dear Mr. I.P. will you do a video about how to keep your cool when others insult and/or force you to snap out to get an unwanted reaction of you?
if no, any possible advice on the topic?
Improvement Pill what should non -humourous people do??
You dont have to be witty to be humorous.. it's also a skill, you can learn to be funnier, check out the ted talk on that topic
hey, if it's of interest I've literally just released a video on patience that's related to this that has a few tips on how to be patient
Read The Power of NOW. In it is the answer for your question.
Just exaggerate the insult, with a smirk or go into the role where you over the top pretend you are really offended (tonality is key).
4:46 Hey! Last week I walked into a room with my friends inside. Very loudly they screamed my name.Helped me a lot.
I am Doctoral graduate of psychology. A lot of the information provided on this channel is pop psychology. Meaning, it’s not based on psychological theory. What separates a person with an opinion from one with a facts is empirical evidence. Psychology is based on empirical evidence and data. This video maker is just opinionated and relays pop psychology for entertainment. Every person is different and not all gestures, body language and behavior mean the same thing for everyone
Dude, people in psychology are still rolling with Freud due to his closeness to western values but undermine the ideas of Jung due to how Eastern inspired they are and how they lack large scale proper empirical evidence.
But 7 times out of 10 I would go with ideas of Jung due to how applicable they are, irrelevant of background research.
What you have is over reliance on work of others.
Plus knowledge of cultural context is pretty obvious. I am not sure whether you try to comfort yourself by undermining value of perceived values, but information in the video was uninspiringly obvious.
True. I find some of the videos give me something interesting to think about at least, but I've also noticed a few that contain obviously bad advice.
If I saw someone exhibiting all the behaviors encouraged in this particular video, I would very much not want to be friends with them, because they're showing that they feel self-important, whether intentional or not, and giving off vibes of unapproachability.
well, psychology should help us in our lives right? so it should be like subjective, right? so people like me can understand it and relate to it irl? and use real time working methods and info?
I know what you mean by different people have different views. But that means, for a fraction of people, be it half, 1/4th, or 3/4th, this info is relatable.
Right.
Its common sense, if you respect yourself, then you constantly improve; and people see that from the outside.
So I'm basically worthless
You are not, BUT you might be in some other peoples eyes not all but some. If you want to change it just do it.
Yah
No you’re NOT!
No
And even if you are, you can improve your value
I don’t get it, why is value about humans mean anything
It sounds so wrong
Omg im always crossing my arms when talking with people im not close with but if im with my family or close friends they're never crossed and im always using them along with my talking. Wow that was a big realization for me 😂👍
Daym, this is probably one of the most important videos out there.
It makes sense, but it's absolutely not obvious.
Dude, this is so great. This is basically learning how to make friends for people who are really intelligent when it comes to most things but idiots to the basic things. Aka me. Also I’m partially a visual learner so the color coding in this entire thing seems like professional teaching. Great job bro.
What dragon's trying to say is, this explains it well
Im here early today! I just want to say thank you so much for all of your hard work! Your channel has and continues to benefit me!
Walking into work and everyone greets you happily and giving our self-made handshakes before the managers get mad is the best feeling on Earth. It makes me feel wanted
there is always a person for everyone regardless of what this video series talks about; be yourself, and people will come.
Be yourself is relative. Of course it is important to be authentic. But Who you are today and who you were five years ago is probably not The same person. What if you do not want to be yourself? What if you want to improve?
I know it sucks to admit but he does have a point.
Integrity, self-reliance, self-love and self-respect… attracts the best people.
it's the second day of school and I watched so many videos last night because I was having a hard time speaking to people and now I have an entire friend group, ur videos work wonders my man
Being self-reliant is far more important than having friends. I deleted the social aspect of my existence long ago. I require no approval, nor attention, from anybody. I learned the hard waym. Being social has an enormous amount of negatives. However, it offers very few benefits. I have no friends, no girlfriend. I have no value to others. I require no social status. However, my self-reliance, independence, resourcefulness, level of peace, freedom, amounts of free time, and inventiveness are far higher than that of any social person.
This is why people develop low self esteem. Because they really believe self worth is based on outside factors.
Idk!!!
What i've seen - most (90% of) ppl ignored and isolated me becuz i was so called [low valued] person. A loner, who nobody respected. I never fit in much.... is what i felt, so it becomes a dream for ppl like me to have a loot of friends and stuff. Yes prolly low self esteem, but as we achieve some stuff, we can see our self esteem grow a lil bit!! But, tell me, does anyone have a 100% of self esteem at all times? No right
If yes.pls tell meWhat to do to get such agreat self esteem power
Improvement Pill, are you okay. You haven't done a video in almost a month. When does part 5 come out?
hey didn't you get it his wasting your time thinking about his content which you lose time and time is worth more than money
Even if we don't like the advice in this video let's be honest what he's saying is true. We'd all rather hang out with our friends than with the rude, narcissistic teacher that we all had at one point
I really thank you that you showed the biggest factor of relationships even in kids being the tall or handsome kid at class can give you popularity guess is just instict.
Personally, thinking of our own worth depending on our social status or assets is wrong and only leads us to demise. That led me to see myself as worthless all these years, so i decided to stray away from it.
I think that... it cannot be ignored that value exists.
Some you wear(like clothes)
Some you are (personality)
Some are part of you ( skills like fixing stuff playing instruments)
Bro a new guy game to our class.
It was his 2nd day in our school and there was a small test of 25 marks. The teacher gave him a exemption from writing the test since he’s new. But he rejected the offer and wrote the test instead. He scored the highest marks. Everyone ever since looked at him as a valuable person
He don’t socialise or talk much. He socialise only when others socialise with him. He’s not rich he’s not handsome but he got a whole huge gang. He just stays idle in that group, like he dosnt do anything but his gang does everything for him.
me thinking self confidence will solve every social problems in my life
Self worth, how we see our selves, is really imho, what matters.
Caring too much about how others view us has its place...but is not the priority.
This is very narrowminded to say the least. Expressing somebody's "value" like that. I think that having the same value is more important it make you feel like you have something in common. For instance millonaires are more likely to have friends that are also millionaires. And most often both partners like to have a comparable value in looks and finance.
It’s crushing to know that looking sick/tired lowers how other people perceive you. “Hit the gym, improve your diet” what if I’m chronically ill? I’m constantly fatigued and in pain. I am sick, and that’s just how things are. I’m still beautiful & worthy but I know in social situations people notice how “unhealthy” I look:
This course is just as important for me as your Tamed course. Wonderful work.
Hi Improvement Pill,
How do you stick to your goals without procastinating?
Keep up the good work!
Hopefully going to make a video on this in the not to distant future. A few things, make a to do list, remove all distractions until the task is complete, break down the goal into actionable chunks and reward yourself with little treats on completing actions
Think about the results!!
Me and my friends spend half of our time insulting each other and laughing it off with sarcastic remarks. But that’s only with friends I know don’t mind. Every now and then I slip a joke to some of my other friends and they get upset and it just leaves me with an unpleasant feeling.
this series is genius!!! the way you present social interactions as a math equation is so helpful! all that you said is very true
This is what I do first I make friends with the low values then I move on to high while not ignoring them and becoming friends with all of them
Reminder for me to start implementing changes in my life so that at least 1 year from now i can be high value worth person. For my satisfaction and having some nice impression on world while i m living.
What if you literally feel exhausted by having to maintain a ton of relationships, and just feel happy with having a solid group of great friends? Other people might perceive you to have less worth but that doesn't mean you should think that of yourself.
You've gone through the shallow friends phase frfrfr
Question: you mentioned Social Proof as a factor, you gave the example that if someone sits in a corner people are less likely to interact and care as opposed to witnessing someone who’s more popular than the quiet corner guy. Personally, I find myself finding more easy to reach out to and interact with the quiet guy in the corner because I think they’re more approachable vs the guy who seems more popular and is all over the room because I perceive it as less threatening and more accepting I guess. Maybe it’s because I’m an introvert idk. So, is it the case that some people may have opposing views about this? Maybe some of us and intimidated by the popular guys and feel more comfortable reaching out to the guy in the corner.
Me and my high school friend literally become friend because we're both outcasts that happens to like kdramas
Same for me because sometimes those social butterflies too drag you into spotlight, btw I'm a typical introvert.
Don't take everything said in this video for granted. this guy isn't some kind of seer or prophet. this is just a general theory and honestly most of these improvement channels say all of these as if they would be undeniable facts, they sound like know it all smartasses. not saying they are bad, they can be helpful sometimes. but the amount of advices i listened from these people and figured out to be complete BS later in life is quite alot.
In the past i was the same but i gained confidence over the years and now i find it easier to talk to popular people and im slightly more anxious to talk to less popular people especially if they have a cool or qurky personality or appearance (for girls). mainly because i dont care anymore if i get ignored or rejected by popular people since it happend so many times in the past. but being rejected by someone on "the lower end of the social ladder" would really fucking hurt. its not even as if i ignore them because i think less of them, i dont know, the roles somehow switched for me over the years. i'd have no stress dating a girl who is considered "super hot and mainstream" by the general society but i would be pretty anxious if i would date a girl who is less popular but has a personality that i find interesting
Person is cool => They are relaxed => people feel relaxed around the person => people admire person.
Improvement pill,god bless you man.Your videos are life changing.I just gotta say thank you man.Hope I can see you one day.
All of this sounds so superficial and beneath my dignity but I realise that if I want my life to improve I need to make these changes
I'll be your friend even if all we can give each other is a smile. Death will take every thing from us any way, billionaire or beggar we all exit empty handed. Our spirits will be strengthened by soul connection and unity consciousness, the love that we give when others have nothing to give us in return. Life will humble all of us.
AND of course I appreciate your self improvement idealogy
How to get friends -> have high value
How to have high value -> have many friends
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Lmao relatable comment but you can definitely change yourself to be a better person just fucking do it believe in yourself! :D
Just be yourself and the right people will come to you.
This was NOT just an improvement pill, but a crash course for social interaction. Great video!
Iv been using your method of climber to socialize with new people and have found that it gets me to a much stronger relationship very quickly and now I am able to network much. thank you
I am a teenage guy with no self esteem no friends no talent terrible at social skills and I can see how many mistakes I made every freaking day
Thanks for this series
To be honest, i don't give a damn who they know. Even if they know someone that well off, they are still working under me.
As long as they are in my space/my place/area of my control, i dont give a damn who they are associated with.
They are under my command now(i am responsible for their doing). Either they listen, or they can get the f out, i can do this myself with or without them!!!
Just know who is in control.
Wolfs follow the leader, and no one will cares about their past, either follow the lead, or you can find someone else
I wanna have more friends but I also wanna enjoy my solitude...
I thought this lesson about " how to give others value " so they will like you. Not the other way ...
This is just making me feel bad about myself xD
I am always amazed by the quality of the content Improvement pill comes with. The quality gets better and better and that's such an inspiration for people like me who just started their animation channel. Keep up the amazing work. You deserve each and every subscriber!
So when i joined a new school i knew nobody but there was this girl who really didn't have that presence in class but had some ok friends and i spoted that almost everything in these videos are the things she didn't have
This is so true and very useful information! Very well conveyed!
6:31 is Frame the same thing as self-control. If someone calls you insultingly, or a car cuts you off, ignoring it means you are unaffected but you are also able to control your resulting emotions and actions.
Gotta work on those multiplier to increase my perceived value! It's something that I have been lazing about, but to be honest, other people quickly judge you for a lot of things nowadays. What mentioned here are things that can be work overtime (may take years of practice). But once you give in halfway, well, get back up!
How do you make friends?
“Have friends”
-improvement Pill 💊
No. His message is even worse: "CHANGE YOURSELF, you're not worthy, you have 0 value. Become plastic!"
This was really helpful I can't wait for the next episode I just got a job and I am unable to make new friends 😣
yeahh my tip is just to chill and not worrying about something like that
I'm sorry but for for some reason, the "Looks" and "wealth" section just lowered my self-esteem, even if I'd conquered one of them. Its like your telling me to don't be yourself and do this instead. Remember guys, working on your looks and wealth in ORDER TO MAKE FRIENDS will only increase you SELF CONFIDENCE, not make you high value or automatically attractive IMO. If your doing it to make friends, your seeking validation and thats a bad thing to do, only do it for yourself, not others. Dress whatever you want, not what people tell you to wear or do. I.e. I'm dressed emo and I feel more confident than looking like what every stereotypical handsome guys are etc. and more people admired that because I was "being Myself/original' an made me more of an interesting person. And gym is not the only way to get fit, I skateboard and I'm fine with being skinny than swole, and that makes me feel more valuable (I'm not saying don't go to the gym, I'm saying there's so many ways to exercise, like it can be your favorite sport and such). Hence, learn how to LOVE YOURSELF in order to increase value. And with wealth, its kindof a different subject, again, work on wealth to value your time and freedom, not validate to others. And it doesn't matter how much money you make just as long as you feel fulfilled, you don't need to be millionaire in order to be wealthy. LOVING YOURSELF is the best way to be high value than any other, even if you are poor and fat but happy as ever, its superfine. Remember that guys.
This is actually an awesome subject to talk about. Be yourself will always be your best option in order to be happy and gain real friends but it’s also true that if you are looking for get “status” (status is a tricky subject) then you will need to fit into some of the categories that society thinks that are valuable. Not saying that this is how things should be but if you want a nice job or search for network then being entirely yourself (unless your true self happens to be everything society likes) is not going to always help you. Let’s say that you need booth a being you persona and a social approved persona, talking about the real world this is more convenient that just being yourself regardless of anything. With that being said I really dream of a world when people can just be however they like and none judge them, but meanwhile if you want to have conventional “success” then this is the best I think you can do.
Okay if you feel like looking less attractive and having less money it’s okay, but it’s a fact that the more attractive you look and the more money you have in your bank account the more people will want to be with you. Anyhow, social proof (personality basically) is worth much more than looks and wealth. So even looking “emo” and being “broke” you could get friends. Being rich and looking as attractive as you can would just make the process of getting friends easier.
I’m loving this course so much! I can’t believe it’s really free!
That multiplier (and some ways you think it is achieved) brings this phrase to me: Quality over Quantity...
Career, demeanor, appearance, Money, social proof
This reminds me of Black Mirror episode where people rate other people. Tsk
Well you and me are doing it already!
I just want to say, he's right we judge people because of their heath, looks, and wealth. But If we go and talk to them for a while then they may judge us differently, Depending on our or they're personality. I call it the power of personalities.
if you don't judge people for who they are (unless they're doing something harmful) you're worth a lot, that's it.
Okay dude, you seriously need to PAUSE.
YOUR.
SENTENCES.
I'm halfway through this course, and the talking is literally CONSTANT. Take a breather, man!
Any advice on how to remember a lot of names in short time? I am meeting a bunch of new people and in the future it will be likely that we'll meet again. What should I do to not forget their names? So that I will not embarass myself. Btw Good video, simply aims to the point.
@@InumnantOmnia Ikr, but it's kinda hard when you meeting 15 people for about an hour. In this time I may miss the topic. Anyway thanks for advice, I'll try to use it more often.
I just write people's names down. The first time people find it funy, but when you can recall their name (don't read while speaking to them, do it a minute before) they are ok with it c:
For me, having self respect and motivated are much more essential than having much friends.
This is the most realistic video I have ever seen.
Where is that lesson 5?! Haha im addicted to this series
It has been two weeks, I demand a new video of this course
Do not befriend everyone , not everyone wants to befriend even after improving yourself . Quality over Quantity
I have a couple friends in highschool... although i m not that outgoing and i m generally concious about my appearance and how i look to others. One of those things is my height cause i know that a tall guy is more attractive, and i m like the second shorter one in my class (1,74 cm)...
Still trying to be positive
So much things, you have to consider
I disagree with the most things in the video because it teaches you to look for surface things. I think the most important is what you are inside, a person who is possibly broke, has asymmetrical face, is a bit clumsy, but is generous and kind will have a much higher value than someone who is wealthy, with expensive perfume and perfect make up. To change how people perceive you you should first change who you are inside
I don't like this at all. People should just stop placing labels of how much a certain person is worth. This is supporting the fact that it's okay to calculate the worth of a person which in my opinion should not be. I believe everyone is of equal worth and are all capable of so much. We should in fact look past their appearance, their money, their demeanor, and try to get to know what makes their individuality unique. If you're not genuine and are trying to act your way through life to become more likable, you won't be happy at all and possibly end up lashing out onto people due to your unhappiness. Just be more compassionate and patient to everyone around you, and approach those who aren't always approached. Talk to a homeless person on the street or a coworker or classmate, regardless of how they look and speak, and get to know them more. Respect everyone and most importantly, be yourself. :)
Yeah well this is a harsh world and you need to accept it or fall under a bad category in people's eyes
Increasing your own value is not "not being yourself".
When one learns to love and respect themselves, one naturally improves and works on impressing /oneself/.
Also, when you respect yourself you don't let just anyone into your life. There are standards you out onto yourself, and being selective with who you interact with shows who you really are.
This video isn't asking you to go out of your way. This video is asking you to love yourself
You can complain about human nature or you can take advantage of it.
Bring value to yourself, and use that to bring value to others. Be a positive force in the world. Use psychology and use it virtuously.
Welcome to the real world
there is this guy on RUclips called Universal Man, when he talks about stuff like this, he always differentiates between „dignity“ and „status“, saying that every person has an equal amount of inherent dignity as soon as they‘re born, but everyone has a different status. Status would then be what I.P talks about here. Maybe it sounds better to you to say „he has a higher status“ than „he is worth more“. Hope this made any sense 🙂
idk I feel like this doesn't work if the other person's value is too out of your league. Like even with your own rules, why would someone with high value want to be friends with some peon, some low-class peasant with no value? They might talk with you if you go up to them, but they're not going to consider you in their friend category if you've got nothing to offer them in return. It's easier to become friends with someone who is in your own league, someone who can see you as relatable.
To me I think it doesnt matter the worth of other people, also if you are befriending the most valued people, the lower valued people wouldn’t have any friends. Also if you befriended the higher valued people they might have people if more to them then you, and uf you friended the lower valued they would appreciate you more because if your openness to them. If you have any thoughts on this that would be appreciated
Without diminishing the value of the video, i think fundamentally your point of just making friends regardless of value is right, rather than complicating relationships too much. As long as they're not toxic, no reason not to befriend them
Improvement Pill not to put your video down but, I know its to make friends with higher value but, to me making friends with lower value people makes them feel more valued in a personal and emotional way, regardless of the way you perceive peoples values.
I would replace value with social perception.
Improvement Pill, I once loved you, but as time goes by you seem to have developed delusions of grandeur. You sent me an email contaning "Want To Talk To Me On The Phone For Almost Free?!?!?!!" - Dude, this is unacceptable.
XD
True
Omg hahaha
It’s basically saying if your not pretty you have no worth
I really dislike the financial part, it was shown like you can buy people's attention and it's worth it.
Your own value is determined by the sum of the values of the positive attributes you posses. And the value of each positive attribute is determined by the socially necessary labor time required to achieve it.
Which is determined by what type of society you live in.
For example modern societies in the developed world will value higher being thin and muscular than being fat and weak because in that scenario for the average person it takes more work to be thin than to be fat. The opposite is true for developing countries.
There might be exceptions that contradict this which are usually caused by society developing fast and their culture doesn't catch up on it yet.
Higher value and power you possess more people wanna be befrind you
Low value people ignore u
Improvement Pill’s videos have helped me in so many way and continue helping me, thank you