Absolutely. No shame in being a childless housewife. You help your partner be productive in society. Too many critics (rad fems), who need to get off their high horse. I have mental disabilities and being a housewife calms me, and I love that feeling of being domestic.
Same! Especially after being mentally abused at my last place of employment and being let go from there. It really destroyed my mental health. I thank God that my husband is such a saint and has let me stay at home to build up my mental health again! Hope you ladies are doing well ❤️
I have known for years that I am not fit for motherhood. I am a Christian and wish to grow in faith everyday, but I don't see my choice of being childfree as a confliction of faith. I think I add plenty of value to the household regardless of procreation. People always say that no man wants to keep a woman without children or that choosing to be childfree is against God's will. They'll always be a negative Nancy, so I choose to do what feels right to me. I know my worth and feel secure in what I bring to the table. I am more than my womb!
I completely agree with you, I decided to be a childfree housewife since a long time ago and my mother still doesn't accept my decision. I admire women who have children and are great mothers, but I never felt that I could handle such a great responsibility. You are not alone girl, God bless you!
@@andreacannon1263 well no one can handle the responsibility of motherhood without Christ, me being one of them I depend on Jesus daily to raise my daughters…God gives tasks that seem impossible to the prophets all throughout the Bible, they can’t do it without God. It’s not about us but about Him.
Judgement & shaming is so prevalent these days. Because of social media, we can feel attacked right in the privacy of our own home. Never before have we had to deal with strangers critiquing every detail of our lives ("you use paper towels? That's BAD." "you wear lipstick when home alone? How vain.") I find it helpful to realize that everyone is probably experiencing this, not just homemakers. I'm sure working women do, too. Once you know it's a cultural thing, not personal, you can find your strength to own your choices without caring what others think. If you let criticism dictate your life, you might make others happy, but you will be miserable.
This is such an important message. I was a homemaker for 2 years with out having children. And i got comments "dont you get bored" but actually looking after a husband (even ones that are really good with cleaning & helping round the home) is a great & helpful job to do and im glad we got that two years just him and i. I learned alot about the way he likes things in this time. Now he doesnt get quite so much attention with a 1 year old in the house . But it was a really lovely time to focus on home, developing myself & caring for my husband. Love your videos as always Cynthia😙
One should never criticise people if they fint have children and its rude to ask people why they don’t have children. They perhaps cant have children or don’t want it. We are different as persons. And i think We all know persons that has children that really shouldnt have them either! And if someone wants to be a housewife- let them be that. I hope they know what they want and desires for and also are aware of the risk being it. Its a choise that doesnt suits all. But let people have their own choise without condem them. Its pros and cons with all decision in Life and its easy to know the right decidion - afterwards
OMG Cynthia! Thank you so much for the shoutout! I love your channel so much and I'm excited and grateful to have you as a logical and faithful voice in this community!
Sorry to hear it, I’m hearing that younger women are having hysterectomies… I’m 54yo with fibroids….I definitely go to God first along with natural healthy foods and even healthier meats. I don’t trust medical professionals when it comes to women’s health. Stay strong, I’m still looking to be a homemaker since I did the career thing because I had to. Now I just want to cook, clean, organize and pray with my husband first thing in the mornings. ❤🎚️🕊️
@@CynthiaL being on the other side of the coin where choosing not to have children isn’t really accepted, I get it. It’s sad that housewives, childless/childfree housewives, or just childfree women in general, get so much hate and criticism for our choices.
I am a childless homemaker as well. Recently decided after not being able to conceive for years that I should quit my job and stay home. I realized I was using becoming a mother as an excuse to be a homemaker and I didn't need to. I viewed it as finally being able to do what I wanted to do with my life! Doubts and insecurities creep in every now and then but overall its going well.
I’m now a childless housewife. I think people are just overly critical no matter what. I worked people thought I should a better job. I have a cousin who is a SAHM mom of 5 and she’s criticized of having too many children. As long as your happy just ignore rude comments.
For people who don’t understand why I’m a homemaker, sometimes I feel the need to defend it & persuade them. 😭 In actuality, everyone will not agree or understand. Im coming to terms with accepting that reality ❤️ Amazing content Cynthia!
Unfortunately we can’t always persuade those people because they already have made up their mind 😢😢. However, we can uplift eachother in this online community 🥰🥰💛💛thank you friend
I’m so happy to have found this channel and community! It helped me so much when I was first dealing with the initial transition from being in the working world to a homemaker. This community is so lovely! ❤️
I think it's frowned upon to stay at home unless you have young children who aren't school aged yet. I'm almost in my third trimester of pregnancy and I still feel that pressure to work from some people at this point. I want to have a couple of kids back to back and stay home even after they are older. I don't currently have a baby/young child to cater to but it's a lot of work even now being the only one who cooks and cleans. I definitely feel for the women who can't have kids/don't want kids but enjoy homemaking because there is more societal judgement towards them. I'm so happy you touched on this topic 💞
Wishing you an amazing remainder of your pregnancy and a healthy birth/newborn stage for you and your baby 🥰! I know what you mean, the pressure is real even for those women who have children
I completely agree with you. I have two children, but they are both at school now so I feel like people are waiting for me to go back to work. I may be home alone half of the day, but I manage to stay busy and productive. It's amazing that people even expect a pregnant woman to work. I hope you are enjoying your pregnancy and ignoring the naysayers, it's a beautiful time in a woman's life.
@@elizabeths.770 Thank you!! I definitely worry about what people will say in the future when I am in your same situation 🙂 but at the end of the day, as long as everyone in our households are taken care of then it's nobody's business to judge what we decide to do with our time.
I have learned to ignore other people who are critical of you being a homemaker, and not having children right away! I had one child early in our marriage,it took seven years to have another! So you do what is right for you! We have to wait for Gods timing! Love your channel!
I’m child free by choice with an incredible hard working supportive husband and I’m working my way toward homemaking full time after “beating” (hitting a glass ceiling of sorts) 3 Careers in a row that just didn’t satisfy my heart; I took the first steps by going part time this spring. Thanks for the great content Cynthia!
Great topic! I was a childless homemaker for 3 years and got a lot of rude comments from my husbands family that I was not doing my share to bring in money. I was resting and learning about me. When my child was born i became a full time caregiver to a medically ill child and i treasure those days i spent childless. It was almost a preparation time. I love my family just the way it is and had i have not been able to get pregnant my husband would have wanted me to go back to work. This issue worked itself out and we are making the most of it. No you do NOT have to have children to have value!!!
Much needed video for me. I’m a brand new Homemaker and also TTC. It’s hard sometimes to not feel guilty or lazy, but I can remind myself that’s American culture talking-not God’s Word. My home was a mess and is now a sanctuary. I’ve already seen my marriage, prayer life, & Bible study improve! It’s amazing when you TRULY surrender to God. Bless you.
I love this! I’m someone who loves homemaking but I’m not necessarily sure I want to have children. This videos helps me feel like I belong in the conversation 🥰
Okay I’m so glad I found your channel. I’m a childless homemaker who works part time. Trying to get pregnant but no luck so far. Is been a long journey. Glad I’m not alone
Thank you for this video. I am newly home full time after getting married later in life. My children are grown and I worked full time outside the home for 25 years before getting married and my husband and I decided it would be best for me to be home and I love it but I also feel others do judge me. Thank you! I do feel God called me to be home 🏡 ❤
This does not imply me because I am a mom, but I hate the thought of anyone criticizing someone because they have no children. Whatever reason why. Someone who does something so horrible cannot call themselves Christians. Kids are gifts from God, but there are so many other things! The Lord doesn't love you more for having kids, he loves you because of His grace and eternal love. Because of the nature of your HEART. I feel bad thinking that videos like this one MUST be done. "Love one another" is the only command and even this we cannot understand. Thank you for your hand in this. And God bless all women, whichever features form them. Hugs💜
lovely as always Cynthia! people tend to relate their personal value to their occupations or professional life,but our identity should be more than this. so being a homemaker is just a part of who these woman are.they are valueable and also doing a very important job
I'm really struggling with this concept right now. I feel useless, I feel like I do nothing, I feel like I need to get a job... I'll take a listen to this I guess
I felt like that when I first started my homemaker journey over a year ago. I can’t tell you how many days I spent crying because I felt I had no purpose, but overtime you figure out that you do have a purpose and you don’t have to compare yourself to others.
Everyone's life is different and wherever that leads you remember to try to tap into what YOU truly want.💗 Society often creates this atmosphere of "the grass is greener", but it ultimately causes us to feel unfulfilled wherever we go and leaves us chasing things.
I came from Felicia's channel but I've really come to love your channel as well. I am not married nor am I a homemaker but I respect, value and appreciate your content.
This video is honestly so important to me. I aspire to be a homemaker however due to some medical issues I may not be able to carry children and for a while I felt that this would make my aspirations futile. Thank you so much for this video and all of your other videos! I absolutely love them and they bring me so much peace xx
The message at the beginning of this video really touched my heart. I’m starting my feminine homemaking journey and it really means a lot to me to hear such words of encouragement💕
Im so happy youre in my sisterhood. A cyber hug for you, and a childless home maker is a job. Add to that if youre beautiful and feminine like me and u its not easy. The critisism comes from jealosy.
I spent a year being a homemaker and it was bliss for six moths until infertility reared it’s ugly head. I literally felt like I was worthless just staying home doing nothing. But years later I realize now (especially since getting closer to God) that I was literally fighting my own feminine nature with these Modern ideals. I have even realized we were much happier and healthier because I WAS keeping house clean, paying the bills, and cooking healthy meal everyday! I have expressed to my husband how hard it is to work as much as him and try to fullfill my duties as a wife, things I desire to do for my mate. But when both just worked a 8 to 6 it kills me that I’m just too burnt out for the day to do anything and, bless his heart, my husband does not hold it against me. I don’t want equality for genders, I want fairness. How can I be equal to a man? If my husband and I do conceive, who is the one going to have to quit their job for a while? Equality is what landed us with ZERO maternity leave in at least 90% of working situations. Fairness is what we really want.
Hi Cynthia, thank you for taking the time to make this video. 💕💕No, I am not an abused housewife because I choose to stay home without having children. Quite frankly, it's quite disgusting how people can be judgemental and critical on how people choose to live their lives. I honestly get so sick of it. Sending you loads of love. 💖💜🤗
I hear ya! I got so much crap from my MIL when I was let go from my job over a year ago and my husband and I decided it was better for me to stay at home. We are trying to have children but are struggling with infertility. People just need to learn to be happy for one’s life choices especially if they’re not harmful or bothersome to people.
In my country maternity leave is only 2 months and there is no option to extend it. It’s really sad. Most women go back to work after 2 months, or give up their job completely.
I would also recommend, for all who can, getting an A.A.S Degree in Hospitality and Hotel Management or Nursing. They are one of the best education options for homemaking and security plans for life back in the workforce if the need may come.
The most important things in life are : To be happy, to feel good and if you can make other people happy around you, you just gain a bonus point. Be happy Cynthia, stay happy and make your family happy if you can. The rest God will take care of it.
Even though I don't identity as being a Christian, you do have some great tips. it is all about giving back to your community. I don't have kids but I hope to inspire the youth (especially young girls. If boys naturally gravitate to my blog that is fine) through my form of media.
You are so positive and encouraging it is wonderful. But I have to say, I have a real hard time with the fact that some people would talk trash about someone staying home without kids. First- how much would it cost to pay for a personal assistant ON STEROIDS? Second- what if you are talking about a person who desperately wants children but it hasn’t happened yet? How horrible! Third- why does it seem like only certain people have choices and others don’t? My advice to anyone out there, know who you are, and then, it doesn’t matter what someone else says about you.
But the thing is that not every woman simply can afford being in your place even if the husband works she may need to do too. Or else he must then make enough money for both himself, his wife and the children to maintain to afford this kind of lifestyle in modern society.
Hi Cynthia, I work for a daytime talk show on ABC. I have emailed you and Instagram DM’ed you, I would love to speak with you about an opportunity to be a guest on our show on Dec. 1st. If interested please DM!
Hi Cynthia I'm 19...years happy and bubbly girl.I am quite satisfied with everything in my life.And I don't want myself to be "traditionally feminine " and have personality like marlyn monroe. But when I see other feminine women..getting lot of attention from men..I feel uncomfortable and I try to be like them...but then I feel like I'm doing all this to get attention(which I actually want).what is wrong with me?
Personally I don't see the point in being a childless housewife. The only reason to stay home honestly is to take care of your children, but if you don't have them your pretty much just staying home wasting your time. Thats pretty much why I decided to stop being a house wife, because I realized deep down I didn't want kids. I personally don't think it's healthy to stay home unless you raising a family....
If you're a Christian, your home is an embassy from Heaven. Your home can be a blessing for so many people besides from your children. A housewife doesn't limit herself to the walls of her home. She creates community everywhere she goes and provides with grace everything she touches. A housewife pours her love in personal relations and building the others up. It has little to do with physical walls but with the walls you set in the grace you could be giving others.
I respectfully disagree. Being a childfree housewife isn't a waste of time. Personally, I manage finances, cook, clean, run errands. Making sure that my husband can put all of his focus into his job and enriching our household financially. It's not like I'm sitting around playing candy crush all day. I feel that I'm worthy of being provided for. He wouldn't be as successful as he is without my support. However, if you feel that you are bettering yourself by working, then more power to you ♥️
My husband and I live in a very dense population area and it was a nightmare with both of us having 3 hour plus commutes a day. Once I stopped working, it was a blessing and we have such a better balance now. There are benefits to being home without children.
@@pipnails333 I feel mean for saying this, I've experienced both worlds, I've been a career focused military women and a house wife (Just to try it out). And honestly my house was extremely clean. mainly because when your husband is working all day, your basically cleaning up after yourself. which isn't a lot. I had all the time in the world to cook, work on hobbies, workout. it was nice it really was, but I felt super shitty all the time because my husband was working his ass off and I was chilling at home, yes being productive, but it's not the same value as working. Sometimes doing things you don't want to do like working is good for you! I also found having a job took a huge burden off my husband, more so then being at home. I feel like most men just want us to be happy, so they will let us live anyway we like....
Absolutely. No shame in being a childless housewife. You help your partner be productive in society.
Too many critics (rad fems), who need to get off their high horse. I have mental disabilities and being a housewife calms me, and I love that feeling of being domestic.
I also have a partner who values my mental health above the salary I could bring.
@@Discordia5 Good. We value money too much, and we don't value people enough.
Same! Especially after being mentally abused at my last place of employment and being let go from there. It really destroyed my mental health. I thank God that my husband is such a saint and has let me stay at home to build up my mental health again! Hope you ladies are doing well ❤️
@@Saturn890 We are. Good for your sweet angelic man.
Yes! ❤️
I have known for years that I am not fit for motherhood. I am a Christian and wish to grow in faith everyday, but I don't see my choice of being childfree as a confliction of faith. I think I add plenty of value to the household regardless of procreation. People always say that no man wants to keep a woman without children or that choosing to be childfree is against God's will. They'll always be a negative Nancy, so I choose to do what feels right to me. I know my worth and feel secure in what I bring to the table. I am more than my womb!
Ya I don’t believe it’s against God’s will to not have children. Not everyone wants to be a mom and that’s not a sin
great point ❤️
I completely agree with you, I decided to be a childfree housewife since a long time ago and my mother still doesn't accept my decision. I admire women who have children and are great mothers, but I never felt that I could handle such a great responsibility. You are not alone girl, God bless you!
@@andreacannon1263 well no one can handle the responsibility of motherhood without Christ, me being one of them I depend on Jesus daily to raise my daughters…God gives tasks that seem impossible to the prophets all throughout the Bible, they can’t do it without God. It’s not about us but about Him.
If youre a Christian just look at it this way, if no one has children then no one can go to hell.
I'm not a Christian BTW.
Judgement & shaming is so prevalent these days. Because of social media, we can feel attacked right in the privacy of our own home. Never before have we had to deal with strangers critiquing every detail of our lives ("you use paper towels? That's BAD." "you wear lipstick when home alone? How vain.") I find it helpful to realize that everyone is probably experiencing this, not just homemakers. I'm sure working women do, too. Once you know it's a cultural thing, not personal, you can find your strength to own your choices without caring what others think. If you let criticism dictate your life, you might make others happy, but you will be miserable.
There is so much truth here! The amount of criticism we all now have to face is so much greater due to social media and culture!
This is such an important message. I was a homemaker for 2 years with out having children. And i got comments "dont you get bored" but actually looking after a husband (even ones that are really good with cleaning & helping round the home) is a great & helpful job to do and im glad we got that two years just him and i. I learned alot about the way he likes things in this time. Now he doesnt get quite so much attention with a 1 year old in the house . But it was a really lovely time to focus on home, developing myself & caring for my husband. Love your videos as always Cynthia😙
One should never criticise people if they fint have children and its rude to ask people why they don’t have children. They perhaps cant have children or don’t want it. We are different as persons. And i think We all know persons that has children that really shouldnt have them either! And if someone wants to be a housewife- let them be that. I hope they know what they want and desires for and also are aware of the risk being it. Its a choise that doesnt suits all. But let people have their own choise without condem them. Its pros and cons with all decision in Life and its easy to know the right decidion - afterwards
Being childless or childfree doesn't make you less of a person or a woman.
OMG Cynthia! Thank you so much for the shoutout! I love your channel so much and I'm excited and grateful to have you as a logical and faithful voice in this community!
Awh you’re the best! 💛☺️✨
Thank you ❤ I'm a homemaker that had to have a hysterectomy. I'm only 31. I loved this video. Value is not by having kids.
I'm sorry you had to go through that
@@lilcutie5082 thank you but please dont be sorry
Enjoy your beautiful life 🥰❤️
i am 32 and had a partial hysterectomy a few years ago. Live life for you! Society puts too much pressure on women for having kids.
Sorry to hear it, I’m hearing that younger women are having hysterectomies… I’m 54yo with fibroids….I definitely go to God first along with natural healthy foods and even healthier meats. I don’t trust medical professionals when it comes to women’s health. Stay strong, I’m still looking to be a homemaker since I did the career thing because I had to. Now I just want to cook, clean, organize and pray with my husband first thing in the mornings. ❤🎚️🕊️
I’m not a housewife or even married but thank you for making this video.
I may be childfree by choice, but I respect childless/free housewives. :)
I wish more people had this accepting mindset 💛
@@CynthiaL being on the other side of the coin where choosing not to have children isn’t really accepted, I get it. It’s sad that housewives, childless/childfree housewives, or just childfree women in general, get so much hate and criticism for our choices.
I am a childless homemaker as well. Recently decided after not being able to conceive for years that I should quit my job and stay home. I realized I was using becoming a mother as an excuse to be a homemaker and I didn't need to. I viewed it as finally being able to do what I wanted to do with my life! Doubts and insecurities creep in every now and then but overall its going well.
I’m not married yet but my wife and I would be childfree.
I’m now a childless housewife. I think people are just overly critical no matter what. I worked people thought I should a better job. I have a cousin who is a SAHM mom of 5 and she’s criticized of having too many children. As long as your happy just ignore rude comments.
For people who don’t understand why I’m a homemaker, sometimes I feel the need to defend it & persuade them. 😭 In actuality, everyone will not agree or understand. Im coming to terms with accepting that reality ❤️ Amazing content Cynthia!
Unfortunately we can’t always persuade those people because they already have made up their mind 😢😢. However, we can uplift eachother in this online community 🥰🥰💛💛thank you friend
@@CynthiaL I’m really happy I found your channel. It’s very encouraging to me! ❤️💗
I’m so happy to have found this channel and community! It helped me so much when I was first dealing with the initial transition from being in the working world to a homemaker. This community is so lovely! ❤️
You don't have to explain. Just enjoy.
I think it's frowned upon to stay at home unless you have young children who aren't school aged yet. I'm almost in my third trimester of pregnancy and I still feel that pressure to work from some people at this point. I want to have a couple of kids back to back and stay home even after they are older. I don't currently have a baby/young child to cater to but it's a lot of work even now being the only one who cooks and cleans. I definitely feel for the women who can't have kids/don't want kids but enjoy homemaking because there is more societal judgement towards them. I'm so happy you touched on this topic 💞
Wishing you an amazing remainder of your pregnancy and a healthy birth/newborn stage for you and your baby 🥰! I know what you mean, the pressure is real even for those women who have children
I completely agree with you. I have two children, but they are both at school now so I feel like people are waiting for me to go back to work. I may be home alone half of the day, but I manage to stay busy and productive. It's amazing that people even expect a pregnant woman to work. I hope you are enjoying your pregnancy and ignoring the naysayers, it's a beautiful time in a woman's life.
@@CynthiaL aww thank you!!
@@elizabeths.770 Thank you!! I definitely worry about what people will say in the future when I am in your same situation 🙂 but at the end of the day, as long as everyone in our households are taken care of then it's nobody's business to judge what we decide to do with our time.
I have learned to ignore other people who are critical of you being a homemaker, and not having children right away! I had one child early in our marriage,it took seven years to have another! So you do what is right for you! We have to wait for Gods timing! Love your channel!
I admire you for being able to do that! It shows you have great resilience ☺️. Thank you lovely 💛
I’m child free by choice with an incredible hard working supportive husband and I’m working my way toward homemaking full time after “beating” (hitting a glass ceiling of sorts) 3 Careers in a row that just didn’t satisfy my heart; I took the first steps by going part time this spring. Thanks for the great content Cynthia!
Great topic! I was a childless homemaker for 3 years and got a lot of rude comments from my husbands family that I was not doing my share to bring in money. I was resting and learning about me. When my child was born i became a full time caregiver to a medically ill child and i treasure those days i spent childless. It was almost a preparation time. I love my family just the way it is and had i have not been able to get pregnant my husband would have wanted me to go back to work. This issue worked itself out and we are making the most of it. No you do NOT have to have children to have value!!!
I love hearing how things work out for the best when we follow the path we feel is meant for us❤️
Much needed video for me. I’m a brand new Homemaker and also TTC. It’s hard sometimes to not feel guilty or lazy, but I can remind myself that’s American culture talking-not God’s Word. My home was a mess and is now a sanctuary. I’ve already seen my marriage, prayer life, & Bible study improve! It’s amazing when you TRULY surrender to God. Bless you.
I love this! I’m someone who loves homemaking but I’m not necessarily sure I want to have children. This videos helps me feel like I belong in the conversation 🥰
I'm so glad to hear!! You do belong ❤️ :)
I needed this & I’m in the same boat as you TTC. I’m struggling to leave my job for this reason. Thank you
Awh thoughts and prayers to you friend 💛💛, it is such a rollercoaster of emotions!!
@@CynthiaL yes it is! Thank you💕 praying for your journey as well
Okay I’m so glad I found your channel. I’m a childless homemaker who works part time. Trying to get pregnant but no luck so far. Is been a long journey. Glad I’m not alone
Thank you for this video. I am newly home full time after getting married later in life. My children are grown and I worked full time outside the home for 25 years before getting married and my husband and I decided it would be best for me to be home and I love it but I also feel others do judge me. Thank you! I do feel God called me to be home 🏡 ❤
Child free, was recently laid off. Hubby would like for me to stay home. Struggling with being ok with that. Thank you for this!! ❤
This does not imply me because I am a mom, but I hate the thought of anyone criticizing someone because they have no children. Whatever reason why.
Someone who does something so horrible cannot call themselves Christians. Kids are gifts from God, but there are so many other things! The Lord doesn't love you more for having kids, he loves you because of His grace and eternal love. Because of the nature of your HEART. I feel bad thinking that videos like this one MUST be done.
"Love one another" is the only command and even this we cannot understand.
Thank you for your hand in this. And God bless all women, whichever features form them. Hugs💜
yes ❤️❤️❤️! We also don't know everyone's story, so we have to be careful not to jump to conclusions
lovely as always Cynthia! people tend to relate their personal value to their occupations or professional life,but our identity should be more than this. so being a homemaker is just a part of who these woman are.they are valueable and also doing a very important job
Well put! I agree we really need to start steering away from job titles defining us and instead look at people for who they are as a person!
I'm really struggling with this concept right now. I feel useless, I feel like I do nothing, I feel like I need to get a job... I'll take a listen to this I guess
I felt like that when I first started my homemaker journey over a year ago. I can’t tell you how many days I spent crying because I felt I had no purpose, but overtime you figure out that you do have a purpose and you don’t have to compare yourself to others.
Everyone's life is different and wherever that leads you remember to try to tap into what YOU truly want.💗 Society often creates this atmosphere of "the grass is greener", but it ultimately causes us to feel unfulfilled wherever we go and leaves us chasing things.
I came from Felicia's channel but I've really come to love your channel as well. I am not married nor am I a homemaker but I respect, value and appreciate your content.
This video is honestly so important to me. I aspire to be a homemaker however due to some medical issues I may not be able to carry children and for a while I felt that this would make my aspirations futile. Thank you so much for this video and all of your other videos! I absolutely love them and they bring me so much peace xx
The message at the beginning of this video really touched my heart. I’m starting my feminine homemaking journey and it really means a lot to me to hear such words of encouragement💕
Im so happy youre in my sisterhood. A cyber hug for you, and a childless home maker is a job. Add to that if youre beautiful and feminine like me and u its not easy. The critisism comes from jealosy.
I’m here from The Feminine Fancy! I haven’t missed a video from you since i first got the suggestion from her back in the spring ❤️❤️❤️
Wow thank you so much!! 🤩💛💛
This has been my first month as a homemaker and I've gotten so much value out of your channel already. Thank you for this great content.
I am so happy to hear that!! I'm always hoping the channel gives practical tips that help ❤️❤️
I spent a year being a homemaker and it was bliss for six moths until infertility reared it’s ugly head. I literally felt like I was worthless just staying home doing nothing. But years later I realize now (especially since getting closer to God) that I was literally fighting my own feminine nature with these Modern ideals. I have even realized we were much happier and healthier because I WAS keeping house clean, paying the bills, and cooking healthy meal everyday! I have expressed to my husband how hard it is to work as much as him and try to fullfill my duties as a wife, things I desire to do for my mate. But when both just worked a 8 to 6 it kills me that I’m just too burnt out for the day to do anything and, bless his heart, my husband does not hold it against me. I don’t want equality for genders, I want fairness. How can I be equal to a man? If my husband and I do conceive, who is the one going to have to quit their job for a while? Equality is what landed us with ZERO maternity leave in at least 90% of working situations. Fairness is what we really want.
Thanks so much for this, I feel like crying because I finally found someone I relate to 😢
Awh you are not alone! ☺️💛
Hi Cynthia, thank you for taking the time to make this video. 💕💕No, I am not an abused housewife because I choose to stay home without having children. Quite frankly, it's quite disgusting how people can be judgemental and critical on how people choose to live their lives. I honestly get so sick of it.
Sending you loads of love. 💖💜🤗
I hear ya! I got so much crap from my MIL when I was let go from my job over a year ago and my husband and I decided it was better for me to stay at home. We are trying to have children but are struggling with infertility. People just need to learn to be happy for one’s life choices especially if they’re not harmful or bothersome to people.
@@Saturn890 I am truly sorry to hear what happened to you, my heart goes out to you and your spouse
Awh I love it! ❤️ I agree, it is so odd how people feel as though they can make judgments on the lives of others lol
Love this! Especially the part about being fruitful in other ways! Great stuff!!!
Yay Cynthia! Thank you for creating a community of homemaker goddesses!!
In my country maternity leave is only 2 months and there is no option to extend it. It’s really sad. Most women go back to work after 2 months, or give up their job completely.
Only 2 moths!! That is so sad :( Which country you live in, if I may ask?
I would also recommend, for all who can, getting an A.A.S Degree in Hospitality and Hotel Management or Nursing. They are one of the best education options for homemaking and security plans for life back in the workforce if the need may come.
My husband and I move into our house February and I’m so excited 😍
I really like what you had to say about fruitfulness and multiplying.
Thank you!! 💛💛 I heard about the concept first from the podcast I recommended last vlog ☺️
The most important things in life are : To be happy, to feel good and if you can make other people happy around you, you just gain a bonus point. Be happy Cynthia, stay happy and make your family happy if you can. The rest God will take care of it.
Very true! 💛👏
Thank you so much, Cynthia!! Your video is helpful as always. Continue like that!!
Thank you!! I try my best to share what I learn 💗 :)
Thank you, I needed this video!
This always makes me happy to hear 💗💗
Even though I don't identity as being a Christian, you do have some great tips. it is all about giving back to your community. I don't have kids but I hope to inspire the youth (especially young girls. If boys naturally gravitate to my blog that is fine) through my form of media.
I love that you made this video topic!🙌🥰
You are so positive and encouraging it is wonderful. But I have to say, I have a real hard time with the fact that some people would talk trash about someone staying home without kids. First- how much would it cost to pay for a personal assistant ON STEROIDS? Second- what if you are talking about a person who desperately wants children but it hasn’t happened yet? How horrible! Third- why does it seem like only certain people have choices and others don’t? My advice to anyone out there, know who you are, and then, it doesn’t matter what someone else says about you.
What they are worried about mostly is if something happened to my husband I would not be able to take care of myself
Wait what? What do u mean? Can you elaborate please? I’m a childless homemaker too for over 4 years and I love it!
This is a good point. Hopefully his family would be able to help.
I really needed this thank you
But the thing is that not every woman simply can afford being in your place even if the husband works she may need to do too.
Or else he must then make enough money for both himself, his wife and the children to maintain to afford this kind of lifestyle in modern society.
Yes, I know. I wish it was more affordable for everyone to genuinely have the choice
awe i really love when you look so so beautiful!!! 💖✨✨
Thank you :) ❤️
Hi Cynthia! Are you familiar with the Enneagram personality system?
I like you. Your sound quality is a little high and ear piercing though. ♡ Just letting you know. Thank you. 😊
It took 10 years to become a mom
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Hi Cynthia, I work for a daytime talk show on ABC. I have emailed you and Instagram DM’ed you, I would love to speak with you about an opportunity to be a guest on our show on Dec. 1st. If interested please DM!
Thank you for reaching out!! I won’t be available around this time, but I appreciate you thinking of asking me ☺️
Hi Cynthia I'm 19...years happy and bubbly girl.I am quite satisfied with everything in my life.And I don't want myself to be "traditionally feminine " and have personality like marlyn monroe. But when I see other feminine women..getting lot of attention from men..I feel uncomfortable and I try to be like them...but then I feel like I'm doing all this to get attention(which I actually want).what is wrong with me?
Personally I don't see the point in being a childless housewife. The only reason to stay home honestly is to take care of your children, but if you don't have them your pretty much just staying home wasting your time. Thats pretty much why I decided to stop being a house wife, because I realized deep down I didn't want kids. I personally don't think it's healthy to stay home unless you raising a family....
If you're a Christian, your home is an embassy from Heaven. Your home can be a blessing for so many people besides from your children. A housewife doesn't limit herself to the walls of her home. She creates community everywhere she goes and provides with grace everything she touches.
A housewife pours her love in personal relations and building the others up. It has little to do with physical walls but with the walls you set in the grace you could be giving others.
I respectfully disagree. Being a childfree housewife isn't a waste of time. Personally, I manage finances, cook, clean, run errands. Making sure that my husband can put all of his focus into his job and enriching our household financially. It's not like I'm sitting around playing candy crush all day. I feel that I'm worthy of being provided for. He wouldn't be as successful as he is without my support. However, if you feel that you are bettering yourself by working, then more power to you ♥️
My husband and I live in a very dense population area and it was a nightmare with both of us having 3 hour plus commutes a day. Once I stopped working, it was a blessing and we have such a better balance now. There are benefits to being home without children.
@@pipnails333 I feel mean for saying this, I've experienced both worlds, I've been a career focused military women and a house wife (Just to try it out). And honestly my house was extremely clean. mainly because when your husband is working all day, your basically cleaning up after yourself. which isn't a lot. I had all the time in the world to cook, work on hobbies, workout. it was nice it really was, but I felt super shitty all the time because my husband was working his ass off and I was chilling at home, yes being productive, but it's not the same value as working. Sometimes doing things you don't want to do like working is good for you! I also found having a job took a huge burden off my husband, more so then being at home. I feel like most men just want us to be happy, so they will let us live anyway we like....
@@jenns37 like what??