*PLEASE READ* Hello my wonderful lovelies. Within the past few weeks there has been a small spotlight on the Homemaking community here on RUclips and Instagram. A RUclipsr larger than me was privileged to have been interviewed by a large news organization. In my opinion, there was nothing wrong with her interview and she spoke so kindly about the struggles and issues that face stay at home wives and mothers. Unfortunately, after that interview other news outlets jumped on some misconceptions, exaggerated small details, and twisted the interview to mean something else. I won’t go into that. As a result I have seen an uptick in traffic here on RUclips, since my channel is in the same niche as the larger channel. Most of this traffic has been good traffic, but, as I mentioned in this video I have received some hateful and spiteful comments. I welcome and love all the loving comments I receive here on RUclips. However, from here on out I will not hesitate to filter, delete, or block hateful and spiteful comments that attack me or members of this community personally. This channel’s purpose is to promote positivity and basic life skills education, and to help other women who already are like myself, or aspire to reach goals regarding homemaking. I welcome comments that help me and others to learn about the topics I discuss here on this channel. Comments such as: suggestions on different cooking techniques; critiques or suggestions to better improve filming, advice on how I can do a skill better; ect. If you wouldn’t say it to someone’s face... don’t type it. With love, Victoria.
I too am a housewife without children.i see it this way y'all.i clearly see some jassumptions combined with a little envy bestowed her the negatives and sympathize ... Do your thing girl.and pay them no attention.i certainly it's work first-hand.and it's entailnents and let me say.theres plenty of it
The word Job is both a noun and a verb. As a verb it is defined as: do casual or occasional work. Work is defined as: activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result. So yes. Taking care of the home is considered a job.
As a feminist I will never understand how people can criticize what set up a woman and her partner has made. Feminism is all about a woman’s right to chose! Woman shouldn’t be judged for working, staying at home, working part time, having kids, not having kids, etc. As long as a woman is happy with what path she chooses, other women should congratulate and lift her up. I’ve never been a stay at home wife but I’m on an early maternity leave and you have some great tips!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. Thank you so much for this comment ❤️ 🤗. I’m proud of anyone who works, my hat is off to them! But sometimes I don’t receive the same level of respect, and I just don’t understand as well.
That's very humble. Unfortunately alot of feminists dont see it that way. They dont see homemaking as a job,its sexist to be a homemaker etc.. but as you said as long as it's not against the women's will to be a homemaker then it's fine. But you cant say it's not a real job if you haven't even tried it and experienced it yourself. Lol some feminists just want you to think the way they do. Bit I'm glad you see it the non bias way
We need more feminists like you!! Not favoring women, but giving more opportunities to them and treating them equally. Women should never be shamed for their choice!
It's so good to hear. Unfortunately a lot of people look down on women who chose to stay home. On the other hand, they will also look down on working Mums ( or childfree women ) - it seems like as a woman you will always be judged. It's so sad.
Hello! I'm a homemaker with no children, that will not have children in the future either, I love videos of others homemakers because it inspires me, I don't care what other people think about homemaking for me it's a way of show love and others opinions just don't care. Keep doing your videos and who doesn't like just don't watched dah!
I love taking care of my home and showing love as well! My husband and I have chosen to wait to have children. We want to be a little older and have things in a better position. Homemaking and having or not having children is a hugely personal decision! Decisions that should be supported and not criticized. ❤️ we all are responsible for taking care of ourselves!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Future homemaker-without-children (currently an RN ft transitioning to part time, married 11 yrs, not having children ever!) and I’ve just discovered this community... didn’t realize how much I needed it!
You're an amazing person, Noemi. Often the art of homemaking gets lost in the Stay at Home Mom mindset, however most women in history were indeed housewives. Dear soul who is reading this - Stay true to your call as a helpmate, no matter the harsh words of society. Be brave as you walk against the wind and in doing so you will anticipate the joy that each sunrise brings as you begin your daily work.
I’m 47 and I quit my job I worked at for 18 years. I’ve been working since I was 15. I don’t have children. I remember feeling so guilty when I first quit I fell into a depression. I’m struggling with some anxiety but so far this has been a wonderful experience. I’m not retired and I want to pursue a different career in the next year. I don’t feel guilty anymore. I look at each day as an experience. So I don’t get paid. I do a lot as a homemaker. I never dreamed I’d like this. There is ALWAYS something to do. I don’t sit around. I have more time to exercise, clean the way I want, get rid of stuff, nurture myself, make my husband happy to come home. Society makes us believe we are only good if we work. I made myself believe I was only good if I worked. I think as humans and of course circumstances, people need to experience different things in life.
Dear soul who is reading this - Stay true to your call as a helpmate, no matter the harsh words of society. Be brave as you walk against the wind and in doing so you will anticipate the joy that each sunrise brings as you begin your daily work.
I'm a home maker whose children have grown up and flown the nest. But my home making is just as important now that the children are gone. Caring for my husband and my home are still a major priority. There is so much more to being a home maker than just cleaning. Home making is an art, that's filled with so many skills that people today have lost.
Same! My kids are grown and on their own. I was a single, working mom for years. Since remarrying 11 years ago I've had the blessing of being a homemaker with no kids around and I love it!
I am a homemaker! I have been this way since last year. My husbend and I decided that it would be a good thing for me because I cant work because of mental health. I feel like I accomplish more when I am a homemaker.
I'm disabled and a homemaker without children. I'm so grateful to be able to live a slower lifestyle. I have trouble seeing and my husband has a demanding job so this lifestyle is what is best for us.
one day i wanna get married, but i don't ever want to have children, for a lot of personal reasons (and it doesn't mean that i don't like kids 😉), so watching videos about housewives who also don't want to have children makes me feel less guilty about my choice for the future 🥰
Hi! I’m a homemaker with grown children. I have been one on and off since I was 18. I absolutely am fulfilled being at home. We are a military family and move a lot so my job was always family first. I have never been career oriented. I have been a single working mom too. I felt awful leaving babies at daycare. I still enjoy taking care of my husband and our home!
Thank you so much for making this video. I am never going to have kids and I'd also like to hopefully be a stay-at-home homemaker someday. Maybe with a part time job. I think there need to be more child-free homemaker creators like you to give us a voice and inspiration. If I am lucky enough to be able to be a homemaker I'd love to do things like: keep my house clean & pristine, care for my pets, care for my husband, cook us healthy homemade meals, host a book club, host dinners for family/friends, volunteer, crochet blankets for the homeless, and be able to exercise to stay fit & attractive. Thank you for reading ❤
Loved this video! It makes me so sad that you are getting negative comments. About homemaking without kids, I definitely think there are so many things to do! I think people often assume that homemaking is simply “cleaning”. I think the homemaking community is so positive in showing people that there is more to it 😊💕
I’m a homemaker with no kids on a night shift schedule; I have a lot of struggles with my parents and in-laws judging and not understanding the importance of me staying at home, I wish everyone thought this way. I’m so glad I found your channel iv been thinking I was crazy for so long, debating on trying to find some job to be “normal” again. I love these ideas thanks so much!
My husband used to work night shift occasionally. My heart goes out to you! It is so nice to be home with a night shift schedule otherwise it feels like you’re just two ships passing in the night!
My father was the main person against me "not using my degree". Whatever that means. 😒 As if, my profession is everything. It's not. 99.9% of who I am was cultivated outside of my profession.
Good for you!! I’m still a stay at home mom with my youngest being 15 years old! Every time I worry that I “should” be out making money, my husband reminds me that he loves having the house being cared for and that I am available to help others in our family and community. I love being home and am thankful we can afford to have me home. Whatever works for each of us is great! Wanna have a career out of the home? Great! Wanna have homemaking as your career? Great!
I'm so glad I'm finding people like yourself. I plan to become a housewife soon, we chose not to have children. I sometimes feel bad but my husband always reminds me that he loves that I'm going to be a housewife, it makes me so happy. I think, aside from just having kids, people should recognize that being a housewife can also be a passion just like some jobs and careers. Some people genuinely do enjoy cleaning, cooking, and looking after their homes and partners.
being a homemaker means just that. . making of the home. . with or without children, or after the children have flown the nest. .back in the day .. no one thought any different of a woman staying at home . . .whether they had children or not .. appreciate your channel.
Thank you! I have friends who have kids and I often talk to them and take advice from them. The biggest thing they always advised was to set in place habits and routines before you have kids. ❤️
You're welcome! Your friends are absolutely right. I think you said this in your video, but it's important to not let those routines you put in place become something that discourages you if you can't stick to it exactly. Kids are the best thing ever, they're so free and not rigid in the slightest. Which is what can make it difficult to stuck to a routine. Not to mention the babies. THEY are the ones running the place 🤣. My routines have evolved with each child and each age. Nothing's really set in stone. 😊
I am not yet a stay at home wife but I’ve had that discussion with my hubby and it is our goal...I am always happy to see women like you. It encourages those of us who aren’t there yet, that this is possible for us too. Stay at home wives are just as important. God bless you.
I just quit my daytime job so I’m new to homemaking and I felt guilty at first because I didn’t have children yet. (we’re planning on starting to try in June!!) I’m so happy you filmed this because it is a job. We help our husbands save money and fulfill their lives (and our own) in other ways by creating a peaceful, warm environment. This was a struggle for me to keep up with my home and have a full time job. I was stretched thin and my marriage was suffering. A book I started reading recently is Fascinating womanhood by Helen Andeline. I believe any homemaker or any woman who likes female/male gender roles should read this book.
This May twenty years ago I decided to stay at home. Even though it has been challenging at times I would not change that decision. Your tips are very good for anyone who stays at home with or without children. I had negative feedback from some family members especially for "wasting" my degree and having "so many children" (I had 4.) I wish I had RUclips back then for the encouragement I so desperately needed...you are doing a wonderful thing by your "hobby."
Hello Victoria! I am not a full time homemaker yet but aspire to be one when I get married. I love all the helpful tips so that I can start making routines and learning more about full time homemaking for when I am blessed and fortunate enough to make the transition. 😊
Good for you!! I don’t have children and probably never will.. And I am a homemaker 100%.. That person had a lot of nerve judging you.. probably just jealous of your beautiful life and spirit.. honestly, some people are just bitter:( You are a wonderful homemaker ❤️
I’m a homemaker that has left working outside of the home not to take care of a husband, but my ailing, elderly parent. I’ve taken up gardening and canning. Never thought I would embrace this somewhat slower lifestyle but it’s growing on me 😊.
Thank for you making this video. I’m 27 and just recently became a homemaker. It’s something I’ve always wanted. I hope to be blessed with a baby in the near future. I had been struggling & feeling guilty with the switch from owning a cleaning service to this. Your advice helps a lot!
Might be a little unexpected, but my biggest take away from this video is to treat homeking as I treat my job. I work from home as an entrepreneur for 5 years now and have no problem doing the job. Homemaking however has been a challenge. Transfering how I feel about and set up my job tasks may actually help a lot with keeping my home, food and looks up to a better standard.
I don’t have kids and have been a housewife since I married over a year ago. I’ve heard comments from my dad “what, you watch TV and eat Bonbon all day…” I could choose to be offended - but I’ve reached a point where I don’t tell anyone. If they judge, that’s there problem more so than mine. If my husband has an issue with a beautiful home and home cooked meals and iron pressed suits for work, he will tell me to get a job. As for my husband, he is completely content having me home . He is thinking about getting me a puppy 🐶
I would LOVE to be a SAHW despite not having any kids. It would help me get better at cleaning, build more of a homemaking routine, and relieve me from the stresses of my job. Because I work full-time, I don't have time to do all the things that are required around the house. This impacts my mental health sometimes, so there are so many reasons why a wife without kids should become a SAHW.
Very interesting video! I am not a homemaker and I do not have kids but I enjoy learning about other things. Also was shocked to see when I took a look at your “about” section that you’re in Southern Maryland! This is the first Southern Maryland channel I’ve come across and I’m so excited! Most of the other channels I follow that talk about home things are in the Midwest or West and life is just so different in Southern Maryland!
I’ve just found your channel, I can’t believe I’ve never watched your videos before!!! I’m an aspiring homemaker (my boyfriend and I live together, our goal together is for me to be a homemaker!!) and I ABSOLUTELY love all of your tips in this video! Especially about taking care of yourself, that is so important! Definitely subscribed, thank you for doing what you do!!!
I'm a single 53 year old woman with no children. By choice. Due to current circumstances, I am not working, I am living on savings and I am purely a homemaker for myself and my two cats. Does that mean that I am not worth, or worthy of, making a home for myself? Of course not! Hopefully, within a couple of months, I'll be back in work. Does that make me more worthy of homemaking for myself? Of course not! I wish people would understand that not everyone is the same and to let things be. What if you were in a situation where you desperately wanted children, but couldn't have them? How hateful those comments would have been!! You carry on doing what you want to do for this time in your life. Your followers will support you. Hateful people can just go elsewhere!!
I love your videos and they are super helpful even though I’m single and still live with my parents lol these videos really help me gain skills that I can use to help myself and that I can use in the future. Being a new adult things can be confusing sometimes but your videos help with the small things! Thank you so much :)
This is a great video topic that I often get asked to make a video on. I was a stay at home wife prior to having my son. My biggest mistake was not having a routine the way I do now. My favorite hobbies are cooking, baking, painting, knitting, soap making, sewing and RUclips 🤍
Really enjoyed your video. Will be discovering your channel in the next few days. I really appreciate the recent interest in homemaking. I believe videos like yours will help bring back the appreciation and respect homemaking used to command. Thank you.
Hello! I am currently 20 and engaged! Getting married this October! I came across your RUclips video of what’s in your doula bag as I am finally completing a long time goal and dream of mine (since middle school) to become a doula! I am so so glad I found your channel! I work part time at a office but the hours allow me to be the homemaker in our house which I can’t wait to fill with children someday. I relate so much to this video, thank you for sharing. I can’t wait to watch more! I feel like I can relate so much!
Thyme and Tenderness -Like and Subscribe!!! Thank you ❤️ it’s so exciting! I’m so glad that I’m not the only young one to settle early and become a homemaker, and absolutely love it. It’s my dream job! My friends support but we’re all at different stages in our lives and it’s hard for them to understand that I would rather be home caring for my husband (and cat) then going out to parties and such! So thank you ❤️
Hi! I am a homemaker with no kids (and I don't plan to have any in the near future). I feel so bad when my husband's relatives start asking me like what can you do all day when your husband WORKS (they emphasise this word)? Are still applying resumes?? So sad no one wants to hire you, we wish you luck to find a job soon....It literally makes me cry
I’m so sorry you get that criticism! I get it too from acquaintances. Eventually the criticism will stop. One thing that helped people “swallow” the idea better was having a very constructive hobby, a hobby that might even bring in a few extra dollars. Just a thought! ❤️
@@thymeandtenderness I am not authorised to work in the States so I can't earn a dime legally..And it's very hard to find a company that will sponsor entry-level position in business. I volunteer in a cat shelter twice a week but it doesn't bring any money which therefore becomes a bad hobby for relatives.
@@noemigold558 I agree, there's always something to do! Lazy days happen to me as well but I simply let them be. I started IG not that long ago, but you are welcome to check it out! My name is ekaaatya there
1. This background music 🎶 is so soothing. 2. I think it’s horrible how people tend to say “only those with kids should stay home and be homemakers”. Well how do you know that the couple isn’t actually trying to have kids but it hasn’t happened yet? Or what if they physically CANNOT have kids? It’s terrible how judgmental people are. Love your videos! 💕
I make long to do lists which I don't even accomplish often in one day, still I sometimes feel like what I do is not enough as other woman are having children and are working and we have no children yet and I am a homemaker
My all time favorite job ever was, was being a house wife. I have no children. I was constantly shamed on the regular. But it was definitely the best. I had time and energy to have cooked meals all day. I hope to again be a housewife again. I think what most judgemental people don't understand, is the actual necessity of being able to live on one income with small children. I absolutely support young couples living on one income before having children.
I had thought of getting into the custodial or maid careers because I find that work relaxing and enjoyable. No offense, but my partner is VERY messy, and finds having me at home financially possible, and beneficial as it keeps his spaces and clothing clean, I can grab him things while he’s working in his office, etc. I’m trying to start enjoying my time, crafting and being creative, as well as keeping the home clean, neat, and organized. It’s been rough but I finally think I’m starting to settle into this current career choice ^v^
I heard another video creator say that it's funny how it's considered ok to hire or be hired as a nanny, but somehow that's not considered a job when you take on those exact same responsibilities in your own home with your own kids. This could apply just as much to hiring someone to come in and clean your home or cook your meals or act as a caregiver for a family member - those are all jobs until you stay home to do those same things yourself. Do that and suddenly you're some lazy, useless person. How very odd indeed!
Do you know any tips for homemakers with kids or with only 1 toddler while pregnant? Thankyou, your shirt is so pretty btw and love your clean home, looks so welcoming!
when my fiancé and i get married, we decided that i will be staying home. working is not for everyone, and it is not everyone’s dream. it had honestly brought so much stress off of us.
As someone who has had a miscarriage due to an abusive relationship when I was young (i since moved on and i am now happily married and hoping to start a family soon)....I find it extremely inappropriate when ppl make comments about ppl not having children, choosing not to have children, or even asking if I have children, or if I’m planning on having them. These things don’t cross ppls minds because most people are lucky enough to have a pregnancy end with having a child, once you experience a loss you realize that children are not a guarantee from pregnancy. All this to say I hate when ppl make rude comments like “you shouldn’t stay home if you don’t have children,” you never know ppls situations, I know the situation I went through isn’t everyone’s situation....but that’s exactly why you don’t make comments on others choices, because you just never know. Also deciding to be a stay at home wife is such a personal thing, and involves a lot of sacrifice from both ppl in the relationship. It’s also hard because a lot of ppl tend to judge your decision, like as women we can choose to be anything....except a stay at home wife/mom lol
I agree. People need to keep their comments to themselves. I had three boys then three miscarriages then a little girl. All my births were c sections, and after four I was falling apart and could not get pregnant again even though I really wanted more. I was in Wal-Mart one day with all of them (they were 8,6,4, and 0 at the time). A stranger comes up to me commenting: Oh now that you have a girl you can stop now. She turned around and left, and I burst out crying. I have also had rude comments about me staying at home and what a waste my degree is.
I wish you wouldn't say "don't have kids -yet-" like it's an inevitability. Not all wives or homemakers desire or are able to have kids and that phrasing feels exclusionary towards us. There tends to be this assumption in society if you don't want or can't have kids that there is something wrong with you and such phrasing can perpetuate that idea. Other than that, I enjoyed your video as someone just starting their homemaking journey.
Women who “bash” or attempt to harass homemakers are those who are jealous. Traditional Women select to sustain their biblical lifestyles as servants to God. Thus, wisely select their partners for pursuing their careers as homemakers. Hypothetically, the nasty woman who commented earlier is jealous because she has children and is unable to properly raise her children as a homemaker. Perhaps, the nasty woman would love to be a homemaker but she chose the wrong guy who is financially unstable to commit to. Regardless, the best motion is to pray for those who have jealousy. Hopefully, jealous women shall see the light by accepting God. And I love your wavy hair. I truly enjoyed watching your informative video. ☺️
I welcome opinions! But sometimes there is a line that is crossed where it’s no longer an opinion but an attack. I VERY RARELY ever delete comments. I do know however if a user is commenting an excessive amount of times, editing their comments an excessive amount of times, or has had their account reported for harassment by other users, RUclips will flag and remove their comments. Other times a user might leave a comment and then later on change their minds and delete it themselves. :)
Do all of your videos have this loud music? It's such a huge distraction. It's like when your at a restaurant trying to listen to someone talk and they have to talk over the music. If you are giving tips.. maybe just turn it off, so the focus is on what you are saying
I would check the settings on the device you’re watching on. I know some of my much older videos, with RUclips changing formatting the volume has changed.
I do not like that you kept on saying "if you don't have kids YET" - it is so NOT INCLUSIVE. Yet? Yet? what if having children is not possible? The title of this video should be "Make the Most Out Of Homemaking Without Children YET"
Hello. I was speaking based on my own personal experience as children are very much wanted in my life and I hope to have some of my own one day. I am still new to more public speaking so I am constantly working on marking sure my messages are more inclusive, but sometimes I do make mistakes. I hope I can be forgiven.
Not everyone has to be inclusive. Her and her husband have decided they want kids. Hence her content is geared towards that. If you don’t like it simply don’t watch it instead of spending your time making a rude comment.
@@cassiesparkman7826 I watched it because of the title "Make the Most Out Of Homemaking Without Children" - she should have added the word "YET" or "...while waiting to have children"
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Hello my wonderful lovelies. Within the past few weeks there has been a small spotlight on the Homemaking community here on RUclips and Instagram. A RUclipsr larger than me was privileged to have been interviewed by a large news organization. In my opinion, there was nothing wrong with her interview and she spoke so kindly about the struggles and issues that face stay at home wives and mothers. Unfortunately, after that interview other news outlets jumped on some misconceptions, exaggerated small details, and twisted the interview to mean something else. I won’t go into that.
As a result I have seen an uptick in traffic here on RUclips, since my channel is in the same niche as the larger channel. Most of this traffic has been good traffic, but, as I mentioned in this video I have received some hateful and spiteful comments.
I welcome and love all the loving comments I receive here on RUclips. However, from here on out I will not hesitate to filter, delete, or block hateful and spiteful comments that attack me or members of this community personally.
This channel’s purpose is to promote positivity and basic life skills education, and to help other women who already are like myself, or aspire to reach goals regarding homemaking. I welcome comments that help me and others to learn about the topics I discuss here on this channel. Comments such as: suggestions on different cooking techniques; critiques or suggestions to better improve filming, advice on how I can do a skill better; ect.
If you wouldn’t say it to someone’s face... don’t type it.
With love,
Victoria.
I too am a housewife without children.i see it this way y'all.i clearly see some jassumptions combined with a little envy bestowed her the negatives and sympathize ... Do your thing girl.and pay them no attention.i certainly it's work first-hand.and it's entailnents and let me say.theres plenty of it
Been a homemaker for 21 years with no children. No problem!🤗
Taking care of your home and husband is a job within itself. The most important as a matter of fact.
Yes!
Im sorry but its not a job if you are not getting payd for it but im not denying its hard
The word Job is both a noun and a verb. As a verb it is defined as: do casual or occasional work.
Work is defined as: activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result.
So yes. Taking care of the home is considered a job.
As a feminist I will never understand how people can criticize what set up a woman and her partner has made. Feminism is all about a woman’s right to chose! Woman shouldn’t be judged for working, staying at home, working part time, having kids, not having kids, etc. As long as a woman is happy with what path she chooses, other women should congratulate and lift her up. I’ve never been a stay at home wife but I’m on an early maternity leave and you have some great tips!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. Thank you so much for this comment ❤️ 🤗. I’m proud of anyone who works, my hat is off to them! But sometimes I don’t receive the same level of respect, and I just don’t understand as well.
Thyme and Tenderness -Like and Subscribe!!! People just need to be nice and respect each other!
That's very humble. Unfortunately alot of feminists dont see it that way. They dont see homemaking as a job,its sexist to be a homemaker etc.. but as you said as long as it's not against the women's will to be a homemaker then it's fine. But you cant say it's not a real job if you haven't even tried it and experienced it yourself. Lol some feminists just want you to think the way they do. Bit I'm glad you see it the non bias way
We need more feminists like you!! Not favoring women, but giving more opportunities to them and treating them equally. Women should never be shamed for their choice!
It's so good to hear. Unfortunately a lot of people look down on women who chose to stay home. On the other hand, they will also look down on working Mums ( or childfree women ) - it seems like as a woman you will always be judged. It's so sad.
Hello! I'm a homemaker with no children, that will not have children in the future either, I love videos of others homemakers because it inspires me, I don't care what other people think about homemaking for me it's a way of show love and others opinions just don't care. Keep doing your videos and who doesn't like just don't watched dah!
I love taking care of my home and showing love as well! My husband and I have chosen to wait to have children. We want to be a little older and have things in a better position. Homemaking and having or not having children is a hugely personal decision! Decisions that should be supported and not criticized. ❤️ we all are responsible for taking care of ourselves!!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Future homemaker-without-children (currently an RN ft transitioning to part time, married 11 yrs, not having children ever!) and I’ve just discovered this community... didn’t realize how much I needed it!
You're an amazing person, Noemi. Often the art of homemaking gets lost in the Stay at Home Mom mindset, however most women in history were indeed housewives.
Dear soul who is reading this - Stay true to your call as a helpmate, no matter the harsh words of society. Be brave as you walk against the wind and in doing so you will anticipate the joy that each sunrise brings as you begin your daily work.
I’m 47 and I quit my job I worked at for 18 years. I’ve been working since I was 15. I don’t have children. I remember feeling so guilty when I first quit I fell into a depression. I’m struggling with some anxiety but so far this has been a wonderful experience. I’m not retired and I want to pursue a different career in the next year. I don’t feel guilty anymore. I look at each day as an experience. So I don’t get paid. I do a lot as a homemaker. I never dreamed I’d like this. There is ALWAYS something to do. I don’t sit around. I have more time to exercise, clean the way I want, get rid of stuff, nurture myself, make my husband happy to come home. Society makes us believe we are only good if we work. I made myself believe I was only good if I worked. I think as humans and of course circumstances, people need to experience different things in life.
Yes!!! You can be happy no matter what!!!
This comment is from two years ago, I’m curious though, what ended up happening with you. I hope everything went well.❤
Dear soul who is reading this - Stay true to your call as a helpmate, no matter the harsh words of society. Be brave as you walk against the wind and in doing so you will anticipate the joy that each sunrise brings as you begin your daily work.
I'm a home maker whose children have grown up and flown the nest.
But my home making is just as important now that the children are gone. Caring for my husband and my home are still a major priority.
There is so much more to being a home maker than just cleaning.
Home making is an art, that's filled with so many skills that people today have lost.
Same! My kids are grown and on their own. I was a single, working mom for years. Since remarrying 11 years ago I've had the blessing of being a homemaker with no kids around and I love it!
Me too. Are there any vlogs specifically for older homemakers with no children at home?
@@beethechange257
I’m sorry I don’t know of any vlogs
I am a homemaker! I have been this way since last year. My husbend and I decided that it would be a good thing for me because I cant work because of mental health. I feel like I accomplish more when I am a homemaker.
I'm disabled and a homemaker without children. I'm so grateful to be able to live a slower lifestyle. I have trouble seeing and my husband has a demanding job so this lifestyle is what is best for us.
I just retired. I am a new to stay-at-home. I am starting my homemaker journey at 62. Thank you for this video!
one day i wanna get married, but i don't ever want to have children, for a lot of personal reasons (and it doesn't mean that i don't like kids 😉), so watching videos about housewives who also don't want to have children makes me feel less guilty about my choice for the future 🥰
Hi! I’m a homemaker with grown children. I have been one on and off since I was 18. I absolutely am fulfilled being at home. We are a military family and move a lot so my job was always family first. I have never been career oriented. I have been a single working mom too. I felt awful leaving babies at daycare.
I still enjoy taking care of my husband and our home!
Thank you so much for making this video. I am never going to have kids and I'd also like to hopefully be a stay-at-home homemaker someday. Maybe with a part time job. I think there need to be more child-free homemaker creators like you to give us a voice and inspiration. If I am lucky enough to be able to be a homemaker I'd love to do things like: keep my house clean & pristine, care for my pets, care for my husband, cook us healthy homemade meals, host a book club, host dinners for family/friends, volunteer, crochet blankets for the homeless, and be able to exercise to stay fit & attractive. Thank you for reading ❤
Loved this video! It makes me so sad that you are getting negative comments. About homemaking without kids, I definitely think there are so many things to do! I think people often assume that homemaking is simply “cleaning”. I think the homemaking community is so positive in showing people that there is more to it 😊💕
Yes we do so much more! I could have gone on and on about what I do in my free time! I do so much more than clean and cook!
I’m a homemaker with no kids on a night shift schedule; I have a lot of struggles with my parents and in-laws judging and not understanding the importance of me staying at home, I wish everyone thought this way. I’m so glad I found your channel iv been thinking I was crazy for so long, debating on trying to find some job to be “normal” again. I love these ideas thanks so much!
My husband used to work night shift occasionally. My heart goes out to you! It is so nice to be home with a night shift schedule otherwise it feels like you’re just two ships passing in the night!
My father was the main person against me "not using my degree". Whatever that means. 😒 As if, my profession is everything. It's not. 99.9% of who I am was cultivated outside of my profession.
This!!!!
Good for you!! I’m still a stay at home mom with my youngest being 15 years old! Every time I worry that I “should” be out making money, my husband reminds me that he loves having the house being cared for and that I am available to help others in our family and community. I love being home and am thankful we can afford to have me home. Whatever works for each of us is great! Wanna have a career out of the home? Great! Wanna have homemaking as your career? Great!
I'm so glad I'm finding people like yourself. I plan to become a housewife soon, we chose not to have children. I sometimes feel bad but my husband always reminds me that he loves that I'm going to be a housewife, it makes me so happy. I think, aside from just having kids, people should recognize that being a housewife can also be a passion just like some jobs and careers. Some people genuinely do enjoy cleaning, cooking, and looking after their homes and partners.
being a homemaker means just that. . making of the home. . with or without children, or after the children have flown the nest. .back in the day .. no one thought any different of a woman staying at home . . .whether they had children or not .. appreciate your channel.
I wish I was a homemaker before I had kids. I love being a homemaker.
I am a stay at home wife with adult children and I love it! and I am so busy!! and there is soo much to do.
Being a homemaker is awesome
The funny thing is your tips for homemaking when you don't have kids work just as well for a homemaker who does have kids! Great tips😊
Thank you! I have friends who have kids and I often talk to them and take advice from them. The biggest thing they always advised was to set in place habits and routines before you have kids. ❤️
You're welcome! Your friends are absolutely right. I think you said this in your video, but it's important to not let those routines you put in place become something that discourages you if you can't stick to it exactly. Kids are the best thing ever, they're so free and not rigid in the slightest. Which is what can make it difficult to stuck to a routine. Not to mention the babies. THEY are the ones running the place 🤣. My routines have evolved with each child and each age. Nothing's really set in stone. 😊
Thank you!! I’m single , no kids but Love homemaking !!
I am not yet a stay at home wife but I’ve had that discussion with my hubby and it is our goal...I am always happy to see women like you. It encourages those of us who aren’t there yet, that this is possible for us too. Stay at home wives are just as important. God bless you.
Thanks so much for this, I feel like crying because I finally found someone I relate to 😢
I just quit my daytime job so I’m new to homemaking and I felt guilty at first because I didn’t have children yet. (we’re planning on starting to try in June!!) I’m so happy you filmed this because it is a job. We help our husbands save money and fulfill their lives (and our own) in other ways by creating a peaceful, warm environment. This was a struggle for me to keep up with my home and have a full time job. I was stretched thin and my marriage was suffering. A book I started reading recently is Fascinating womanhood by Helen Andeline. I believe any homemaker or any woman who likes female/male gender roles should read this book.
My personal experience is people that are critical of another person and their choices are not truly happy with theirs. 🍁
Yes staying sane and taking care of yourself should be your first priority.
It keeps you happy and creative❤
This May twenty years ago I decided to stay at home. Even though it has been challenging at times I would not change that decision. Your tips are very good for anyone who stays at home with or without children. I had negative feedback from some family members especially for "wasting" my degree and having "so many children" (I had 4.) I wish I had RUclips back then for the encouragement I so desperately needed...you are doing a wonderful thing by your "hobby."
Hello Victoria! I am not a full time homemaker yet but aspire to be one when I get married. I love all the helpful tips so that I can start making routines and learning more about full time homemaking for when I am blessed and fortunate enough to make the transition. 😊
Oh that’s so wonderful to hear!!! I wish you well!!!!! ❤️
@@thymeandtenderness Thank you 😊
Good for you!! I don’t have children and probably never will.. And I am a homemaker 100%.. That person had a lot of nerve judging you.. probably just jealous of your beautiful life and spirit.. honestly, some people are just bitter:(
You are a wonderful homemaker ❤️
I’m a homemaker that has left working outside of the home not to take care of a husband, but my ailing, elderly parent. I’ve taken up gardening and canning. Never thought I would embrace this somewhat slower lifestyle but it’s growing on me 😊.
Thank for you making this video. I’m 27 and just recently became a homemaker. It’s something I’ve always wanted. I hope to be blessed with a baby in the near future. I had been struggling & feeling guilty with the switch from owning a cleaning service to this. Your advice helps a lot!
Might be a little unexpected, but my biggest take away from this video is to treat homeking as I treat my job. I work from home as an entrepreneur for 5 years now and have no problem doing the job. Homemaking however has been a challenge. Transfering how I feel about and set up my job tasks may actually help a lot with keeping my home, food and looks up to a better standard.
You have saved my life as a new homemaker. ❤ thank you. Also huge compliment here but you have similar traits to Miranda cosgrove and she’s my fave.
I don’t have kids and have been a housewife since I married over a year ago.
I’ve heard comments from my dad “what, you watch TV and eat Bonbon all day…”
I could choose to be offended - but I’ve reached a point where I don’t tell anyone. If they judge, that’s there problem more so than mine. If my husband has an issue with a beautiful home and home cooked meals and iron pressed suits for work, he will tell me to get a job. As for my husband, he is completely content having me home . He is thinking about getting me a puppy 🐶
I would LOVE to be a SAHW despite not having any kids. It would help me get better at cleaning, build more of a homemaking routine, and relieve me from the stresses of my job. Because I work full-time, I don't have time to do all the things that are required around the house. This impacts my mental health sometimes, so there are so many reasons why a wife without kids should become a SAHW.
Very interesting video! I am not a homemaker and I do not have kids but I enjoy learning about other things. Also was shocked to see when I took a look at your “about” section that you’re in Southern Maryland! This is the first Southern Maryland channel I’ve come across and I’m so excited! Most of the other channels I follow that talk about home things are in the Midwest or West and life is just so different in Southern Maryland!
Haha welcome! I’m so glad you’re here! Yes. To my knowledge I’m the only SOMD Homemaking channel!
Great video :) I think of Cynthia L as well because she is a homemaker without children.
I love her channel
And Ebony Nikita Okeke!
Nothing makes me happier than the idea of working in the home. I love this. Keep up the great content!
I’ve just found your channel, I can’t believe I’ve never watched your videos before!!! I’m an aspiring homemaker (my boyfriend and I live together, our goal together is for me to be a homemaker!!) and I ABSOLUTELY love all of your tips in this video! Especially about taking care of yourself, that is so important! Definitely subscribed, thank you for doing what you do!!!
Welcome!!!! 🤗
I'm a single 53 year old woman with no children. By choice. Due to current circumstances, I am not working, I am living on savings and I am purely a homemaker for myself and my two cats. Does that mean that I am not worth, or worthy of, making a home for myself? Of course not! Hopefully, within a couple of months, I'll be back in work. Does that make me more worthy of homemaking for myself? Of course not! I wish people would understand that not everyone is the same and to let things be. What if you were in a situation where you desperately wanted children, but couldn't have them? How hateful those comments would have been!! You carry on doing what you want to do for this time in your life. Your followers will support you. Hateful people can just go elsewhere!!
I love your videos and they are super helpful even though I’m single and still live with my parents lol these videos really help me gain skills that I can use to help myself and that I can use in the future. Being a new adult things can be confusing sometimes but your videos help with the small things! Thank you so much :)
Awww you’re very welcome!!!!
This is a great video topic that I often get asked to make a video on. I was a stay at home wife prior to having my son. My biggest mistake was not having a routine the way I do now.
My favorite hobbies are cooking, baking, painting, knitting, soap making, sewing and RUclips 🤍
I used to love soap making! I should get back into it!
Thanks for sharing these amazing tips!!!! I’m so inspired
Great video 👍🏼 I can totally relate to everything you’re saying. Thanks so much for sharing. Love your channel. ❤️
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I cant have my own children so it's nice being represented here :) 😀
Love this advice and music!
Great to see you still going strong on your way to 1K subscribers 👌
Really enjoyed your video. Will be discovering your channel in the next few days. I really appreciate the recent interest in homemaking. I believe videos like yours will help bring back the appreciation and respect homemaking used to command. Thank you.
Good on you! Home making is one of the most important careers I woman can choose.
It truly is!
Hello! I am currently 20 and engaged! Getting married this October! I came across your RUclips video of what’s in your doula bag as I am finally completing a long time goal and dream of mine (since middle school) to become a doula! I am so so glad I found your channel! I work part time at a office but the hours allow me to be the homemaker in our house which I can’t wait to fill with children someday. I relate so much to this video, thank you for sharing. I can’t wait to watch more! I feel like I can relate so much!
Oh I’m so glad you’re here! And congratulations on your engagement that is so exciting!!!!!
Thyme and Tenderness -Like and Subscribe!!! Thank you ❤️ it’s so exciting! I’m so glad that I’m not the only young one to settle early and become a homemaker, and absolutely love it. It’s my dream job! My friends support but we’re all at different stages in our lives and it’s hard for them to understand that I would rather be home caring for my husband (and cat) then going out to parties and such! So thank you ❤️
Hi! I am a homemaker with no kids (and I don't plan to have any in the near future). I feel so bad when my husband's relatives start asking me like what can you do all day when your husband WORKS (they emphasise this word)? Are still applying resumes?? So sad no one wants to hire you, we wish you luck to find a job soon....It literally makes me cry
I’m so sorry you get that criticism! I get it too from acquaintances. Eventually the criticism will stop. One thing that helped people “swallow” the idea better was having a very constructive hobby, a hobby that might even bring in a few extra dollars. Just a thought! ❤️
@@thymeandtenderness I am not authorised to work in the States so I can't earn a dime legally..And it's very hard to find a company that will sponsor entry-level position in business. I volunteer in a cat shelter twice a week but it doesn't bring any money which therefore becomes a bad hobby for relatives.
I have no visa to work either, but I feel like I never finish the home duties there is always something to do. Do you have Instagram?
@@noemigold558 I agree, there's always something to do! Lazy days happen to me as well but I simply let them be. I started IG not that long ago, but you are welcome to check it out! My name is ekaaatya there
@@ekadud1670 I'm following you 🤓
This video-- I have no children because I am not able to (unless the good Lord does a miracle) This video is what my heart needed to hear.
1. This background music 🎶 is so soothing.
2. I think it’s horrible how people tend to say “only those with kids should stay home and be homemakers”. Well how do you know that the couple isn’t actually trying to have kids but it hasn’t happened yet? Or what if they physically CANNOT have kids? It’s terrible how judgmental people are. Love your videos! 💕
I really appreciate this! Thanks for sharing.
I make long to do lists which I don't even accomplish often in one day, still I sometimes feel like what I do is not enough as other woman are having children and are working and we have no children yet and I am a homemaker
My all time favorite job ever was, was being a house wife. I have no children. I was constantly shamed on the regular. But it was definitely the best. I had time and energy to have cooked meals all day. I hope to again be a housewife again. I think what most judgemental people don't understand, is the actual necessity of being able to live on one income with small children. I absolutely support young couples living on one income before having children.
I had thought of getting into the custodial or maid careers because I find that work relaxing and enjoyable.
No offense, but my partner is VERY messy, and finds having me at home financially possible, and beneficial as it keeps his spaces and clothing clean, I can grab him things while he’s working in his office, etc. I’m trying to start enjoying my time, crafting and being creative, as well as keeping the home clean, neat, and organized. It’s been rough but I finally think I’m starting to settle into this current career choice ^v^
I heard another video creator say that it's funny how it's considered ok to hire or be hired as a nanny, but somehow that's not considered a job when you take on those exact same responsibilities in your own home with your own kids. This could apply just as much to hiring someone to come in and clean your home or cook your meals or act as a caregiver for a family member - those are all jobs until you stay home to do those same things yourself. Do that and suddenly you're some lazy, useless person. How very odd indeed!
Do you know any tips for homemakers with kids or with only 1 toddler while pregnant? Thankyou, your shirt is so pretty btw and love your clean home, looks so welcoming!
when my fiancé and i get married, we decided that i will be staying home. working is not for everyone, and it is not everyone’s dream. it had honestly brought so much stress off of us.
Thank you!!
I highly appreciated this video :)
Love this. I’m a future homemaker. Don’t plan on having kids.
As someone who has had a miscarriage due to an abusive relationship when I was young (i since moved on and i am now happily married and hoping to start a family soon)....I find it extremely inappropriate when ppl make comments about ppl not having children, choosing not to have children, or even asking if I have children, or if I’m planning on having them. These things don’t cross ppls minds because most people are lucky enough to have a pregnancy end with having a child, once you experience a loss you realize that children are not a guarantee from pregnancy. All this to say I hate when ppl make rude comments like “you shouldn’t stay home if you don’t have children,” you never know ppls situations, I know the situation I went through isn’t everyone’s situation....but that’s exactly why you don’t make comments on others choices, because you just never know. Also deciding to be a stay at home wife is such a personal thing, and involves a lot of sacrifice from both ppl in the relationship. It’s also hard because a lot of ppl tend to judge your decision, like as women we can choose to be anything....except a stay at home wife/mom lol
I agree. People need to keep their comments to themselves. I had three boys then three miscarriages then a little girl. All my births were c sections, and after four I was falling apart and could not get pregnant again even though I really wanted more. I was in Wal-Mart one day with all of them (they were 8,6,4, and 0 at the time). A stranger comes up to me commenting: Oh now that you have a girl you can stop now. She turned around and left, and I burst out crying. I have also had rude comments about me staying at home and what a waste my degree is.
I wish you wouldn't say "don't have kids -yet-" like it's an inevitability. Not all wives or homemakers desire or are able to have kids and that phrasing feels exclusionary towards us. There tends to be this assumption in society if you don't want or can't have kids that there is something wrong with you and such phrasing can perpetuate that idea. Other than that, I enjoyed your video as someone just starting their homemaking journey.
Lovely video! What camera do you film with?
Hi! I film with the Canon g7x markii
Beautiful 😍
Women who “bash” or attempt to harass homemakers are those who are jealous.
Traditional Women select to sustain their biblical lifestyles as servants to God. Thus, wisely select their partners for pursuing their careers as homemakers.
Hypothetically, the nasty woman who commented earlier is jealous because she has children and is unable to properly raise her children as a homemaker. Perhaps, the nasty woman would love to be a homemaker but she chose the wrong guy who is financially unstable to commit to. Regardless, the best motion is to pray for those who have jealousy. Hopefully, jealous women shall see the light by accepting God.
And I love your wavy hair.
I truly enjoyed watching your informative video. ☺️
You can do anything you want. Kids or no kids. You owe no one anything. If it works for you and your husband, that's what it's all about.
When you're the kid and the homemaker
👁👄👁 power move!
I firmly believe you can be a homemaker night matter what your age is!!! Haha!
Anyone who is giving you negative comments is probably jealous.
What color is your lipstick? - a stay at home wife with no kids 🥰
I can't believe that youtube would delete a comment for being "rude". So we aren't allowed to share an opinion.
I welcome opinions! But sometimes there is a line that is crossed where it’s no longer an opinion but an attack. I VERY RARELY ever delete comments. I do know however if a user is commenting an excessive amount of times, editing their comments an excessive amount of times, or has had their account reported for harassment by other users, RUclips will flag and remove their comments.
Other times a user might leave a comment and then later on change their minds and delete it themselves. :)
Heloo goud Luck ure beoutiful your vidéo m'y dear lov this routin
Well, women still have to be homemakers when their children are adults. Then they are available for babysitying grandkids.
Do all of your videos have this loud music? It's such a huge distraction. It's like when your at a restaurant trying to listen to someone talk and they have to talk over the music. If you are giving tips.. maybe just turn it off, so the focus is on what you are saying
I would check the settings on the device you’re watching on. I know some of my much older videos, with RUclips changing formatting the volume has changed.
Ugh I need a hobby, but don't like anything.
I do not like that you kept on saying "if you don't have kids YET" - it is so NOT INCLUSIVE. Yet? Yet? what if having children is not possible? The title of this video should be "Make the Most Out Of Homemaking Without Children YET"
Hello. I was speaking based on my own personal experience as children are very much wanted in my life and I hope to have some of my own one day.
I am still new to more public speaking so I am constantly working on marking sure my messages are more inclusive, but sometimes I do make mistakes. I hope I can be forgiven.
Not everyone has to be inclusive. Her and her husband have decided they want kids. Hence her content is geared towards that. If you don’t like it simply don’t watch it instead of spending your time making a rude comment.
@@cassiesparkman7826 I watched it because of the title "Make the Most Out Of Homemaking Without Children" - she should have added the word "YET" or "...while waiting to have children"
@@peppotguerreiro647 that makes no sense. And that would also disregard your point about the video not being “inclusive.” 🤦🏼♀️