How To Set Boundaries & Stop People Pleasing For Happiness & Longevity | Nedra Tawwab
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- Опубликовано: 15 авг 2023
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So many of us struggle with relationships. In fact, our relationships determine the quality of our life more than anything else. Unfortunately, the relationships many of us grew up around-and might consider “normal”--are, in fact, dysfunctional, creating a negative cycle we often don’t even realize we’re in.
Today on The Doctor’s Farmacy, I’m excited to talk to Nedra Tawwab about how to identify dysfunctional patterns in our relationships and what we can do to break the cycle and move forward.
Nedra Glover Tawwab is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace. A licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, she has practiced relationship therapy for more than fifteen years. Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including The School of Greatness, We Can Do Hard Things, and Ten Percent Happier. Nedra runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and relationships.
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“We can’t go to unwell spaces and expect healing”. It can be retraumatizing . Phew! ❤
This was a great discussion! At 50 I just started therapy to deal with my issues that mainly deal with my parents. They are now elderly and I plan to help them as they age but realized I don't have the tools to go into a toxic household and manage myself effectively. I understand my parents will never change and I'm ok with that but I want to do the best for them and myself.
Go Tammy ! 🎉
"You can't be in two places emotionally (past and present) without resentment". This resonates for me. Thank you Nedra.
I totally needed to hear this at this very moment! I’m 51 and I can’t believe how long it’s taken me to realize how much of people pleasing queen I’ve been my entire life… Thank you for this video.
Not trying to figure out if something should be a problem but allowing yourself to have a problem...ooh I love this!!
Setting boundaries is so important for your physical health and mental health. When you protect others bad behavious can really hurt you in the long run.
Suppressing, not working through or processing issues within a family always have long-term effects.
The reflex of obligation, duty, responsibility, and service to whichever entity we were conditioned to automatically respect, defer to, lower and leverage our power to is sooooo innately internalized.
undiagnosed mental health issues explain a lot. Adjustment to the new situation is a massive process. it's one of the best discussions, Thanks.
Wow thank you so much for talking about this ❤
When we have been a chronic people pleaser and then change the dance by setting boundaries, we can expect unhealthy people to push back and show displeasure. I have found it necessary to sit with the uncomfortable reactions and be unmovable with the necessary boundaries. Growth requires self reflection and a desire to break the old patterns that no longer serve us. Great interview!
Excellent guest'. Thank you.
I love Nedra Tawwab! Two of my favs. Excited to hear this! ❤
Wow! This was amazing….ty💯
cant pleas everyone so i hav to please myself
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She’s Active on What’s apps.
Dude, I also trade with Mrs Mary services what a coincidence!!
Loved the video! Very interesting concept ❤
Super interview 💚 Over time, loving yourself, flaws and all, and NOT trying to please everyone else has become a relief mentality and physically! As a nurse forever 😁 people pleasing and codependency WERE second nature. Exhausting to say the least. I work at it daily, working at doing what’s best for me nicely but firmly. Other’s benefit as well when boundaries are set ! Thanks Doc and guest 🌞🌾🍃.
Excellent discussion. As a parented child who has overcome much in a healthy way, I'm sharing this far and wide. Thank you.
very informative and helpful
I love Ms. Nedra Tawwab. So informative and awakening. Thank you Dr. Hyman!
Dr. Hyman, this was a fantastic interview with Ms. Tawwab! So much good information and helpful strategies! The piece of breaking the generational dysfunctional patterns is so spot on. I would just like to share that I recently received confirmation from my grandchildren that the cycle of abuse in my family has been broken. I decided that in raising my son, I would not repeat my parents' mistakes. My grandchildren (both grown) are aware of the family history of abuse and both have told me "you broke the cycle, Nana." Both have confirmed that their childhoods were ideal & that there was never a moment of doubt for either of them that they were loved. If this is the only legacy I leave, it's more than enough for me. 😊
Very good !
Gratitude.
We grow through disagreement…
Especially when we disagree with someone and we see how they respond to us. And if it's an unhealthy response we then have the opportunity to grow for ourselves.
@@leahv.2537 So well put. It doesn’t cost a thing to be civil and respectful even if there are differences of opinion.
This was a very insightful and hope filled video. Thank you both for the collaboration. Will you be offering any affordable services for these kinds of issues for people who may not be able to afford them at regular price? Perhaps one on one online videos that show real people who consent to being recorded experiencing growth and healing through education and the unpacking of their trauma and fears?
It would take a really big person to agree to unpack it while being recorded if they were the one perceived as inflicting the trauma.
We become solvers then the indifference and watchful guard! Survivors
Downtown Motown Checking In; Dr. Hyman; intriguing, let's talk about it and we did; thanks a million!!! Drama free; I'm In can't wait to read by the intellectual poetic therapist Nedra Tawwab; great host!!!
Check game: I usually start with those things that keep me up at night; and I am starting to show up differently; in how I respond to others and they way I show up in the world period; I choose sobriety and NO, I don't need a golden star but it's much clearly on this end and who knew I became an avid runner at 52....Yahoooo; showing my age with that one.
It was E-Z to stay to the end especially when recognizing unhealthy patterns and setting healthy boundaries; I think we're on to something here: Where to Draw The Line by Ann Katherine is a great start must read!!!
Breaking generational issues is long and hard. You have reprogram your own brain.
Or you just walk away because you sometimes can change people's minds.
For me I just walked away from toxic family. I feel much better and healthy.
Interesting interview; seems to play on Gabor Mate's research. I have NEVER seen Dr. Hyman look so serious as when he told the story of when he was 7 y/o (around 6:00). So traumatic for a little one. I think the majority of us have similar tales ... some worse.
We are dealing w privileged contrary to those who have worked on themselves.
Poor Doc that story was hard to hear😢 only at 7 years old
No is a complete sentence
We cut it off
Be the parent and missed
The only way to grow is stop watching social media. Everyone is an expert. Lol
Cognitive as changing mindset
Don't owe anyone
Make sure not adopt unhealthy, add on to one's unnecessary life.
Most be arrested and currently not skip culturally accepted as some norms.
Not an open forum to playing shrink on individuals.
Don't adopt, Frankly the meaning of life. Read in early 80's unknowing that it was an academic literary book.