This was a great discussion! At 50 I just started therapy to deal with my issues that mainly deal with my parents. They are now elderly and I plan to help them as they age but realized I don't have the tools to go into a toxic household and manage myself effectively. I understand my parents will never change and I'm ok with that but I want to do the best for them and myself.
I totally needed to hear this at this very moment! I’m 51 and I can’t believe how long it’s taken me to realize how much of people pleasing queen I’ve been my entire life… Thank you for this video.
Setting boundaries is so important for your physical health and mental health. When you protect others bad behavious can really hurt you in the long run.
The reflex of obligation, duty, responsibility, and service to whichever entity we were conditioned to automatically respect, defer to, lower and leverage our power to is sooooo innately internalized.
When we have been a chronic people pleaser and then change the dance by setting boundaries, we can expect unhealthy people to push back and show displeasure. I have found it necessary to sit with the uncomfortable reactions and be unmovable with the necessary boundaries. Growth requires self reflection and a desire to break the old patterns that no longer serve us. Great interview!
Dr. Hyman, this was a fantastic interview with Ms. Tawwab! So much good information and helpful strategies! The piece of breaking the generational dysfunctional patterns is so spot on. I would just like to share that I recently received confirmation from my grandchildren that the cycle of abuse in my family has been broken. I decided that in raising my son, I would not repeat my parents' mistakes. My grandchildren (both grown) are aware of the family history of abuse and both have told me "you broke the cycle, Nana." Both have confirmed that their childhoods were ideal & that there was never a moment of doubt for either of them that they were loved. If this is the only legacy I leave, it's more than enough for me. 😊
Super interview 💚 Over time, loving yourself, flaws and all, and NOT trying to please everyone else has become a relief mentality and physically! As a nurse forever 😁 people pleasing and codependency WERE second nature. Exhausting to say the least. I work at it daily, working at doing what’s best for me nicely but firmly. Other’s benefit as well when boundaries are set ! Thanks Doc and guest 🌞🌾🍃.
After I got up to $300k trading with Mrs Mary Margaret Schimweg i bought a new House and I'm now able to send my kids to a better school in the states thanks to her. When someone is straight forward with what he or she is doing people will always speak up for them.
This was a very insightful and hope filled video. Thank you both for the collaboration. Will you be offering any affordable services for these kinds of issues for people who may not be able to afford them at regular price? Perhaps one on one online videos that show real people who consent to being recorded experiencing growth and healing through education and the unpacking of their trauma and fears?
Especially when we disagree with someone and we see how they respond to us. And if it's an unhealthy response we then have the opportunity to grow for ourselves.
Interesting interview; seems to play on Gabor Mate's research. I have NEVER seen Dr. Hyman look so serious as when he told the story of when he was 7 y/o (around 6:00). So traumatic for a little one. I think the majority of us have similar tales ... some worse.
Downtown Motown Checking In; Dr. Hyman; intriguing, let's talk about it and we did; thanks a million!!! Drama free; I'm In can't wait to read by the intellectual poetic therapist Nedra Tawwab; great host!!!
Check game: I usually start with those things that keep me up at night; and I am starting to show up differently; in how I respond to others and they way I show up in the world period; I choose sobriety and NO, I don't need a golden star but it's much clearly on this end and who knew I became an avid runner at 52....Yahoooo; showing my age with that one.
It was E-Z to stay to the end especially when recognizing unhealthy patterns and setting healthy boundaries; I think we're on to something here: Where to Draw The Line by Ann Katherine is a great start must read!!!
Breaking generational issues is long and hard. You have reprogram your own brain. Or you just walk away because you sometimes can change people's minds. For me I just walked away from toxic family. I feel much better and healthy.
"You can't be in two places emotionally (past and present) without resentment". This resonates for me. Thank you Nedra.
“We can’t go to unwell spaces and expect healing”. It can be retraumatizing . Phew! ❤
This was a great discussion! At 50 I just started therapy to deal with my issues that mainly deal with my parents. They are now elderly and I plan to help them as they age but realized I don't have the tools to go into a toxic household and manage myself effectively. I understand my parents will never change and I'm ok with that but I want to do the best for them and myself.
Go Tammy ! 🎉
Not trying to figure out if something should be a problem but allowing yourself to have a problem...ooh I love this!!
I totally needed to hear this at this very moment! I’m 51 and I can’t believe how long it’s taken me to realize how much of people pleasing queen I’ve been my entire life… Thank you for this video.
Setting boundaries is so important for your physical health and mental health. When you protect others bad behavious can really hurt you in the long run.
The reflex of obligation, duty, responsibility, and service to whichever entity we were conditioned to automatically respect, defer to, lower and leverage our power to is sooooo innately internalized.
undiagnosed mental health issues explain a lot. Adjustment to the new situation is a massive process. it's one of the best discussions, Thanks.
Thank you Mark for sharing so much of your childhood
When we have been a chronic people pleaser and then change the dance by setting boundaries, we can expect unhealthy people to push back and show displeasure. I have found it necessary to sit with the uncomfortable reactions and be unmovable with the necessary boundaries. Growth requires self reflection and a desire to break the old patterns that no longer serve us. Great interview!
Suppressing, not working through or processing issues within a family always have long-term effects.
Excellent guest'. Thank you.
Dr. Hyman, this was a fantastic interview with Ms. Tawwab! So much good information and helpful strategies! The piece of breaking the generational dysfunctional patterns is so spot on. I would just like to share that I recently received confirmation from my grandchildren that the cycle of abuse in my family has been broken. I decided that in raising my son, I would not repeat my parents' mistakes. My grandchildren (both grown) are aware of the family history of abuse and both have told me "you broke the cycle, Nana." Both have confirmed that their childhoods were ideal & that there was never a moment of doubt for either of them that they were loved. If this is the only legacy I leave, it's more than enough for me. 😊
Super interview 💚 Over time, loving yourself, flaws and all, and NOT trying to please everyone else has become a relief mentality and physically! As a nurse forever 😁 people pleasing and codependency WERE second nature. Exhausting to say the least. I work at it daily, working at doing what’s best for me nicely but firmly. Other’s benefit as well when boundaries are set ! Thanks Doc and guest 🌞🌾🍃.
Wow thank you so much for talking about this ❤
Excellent discussion. As a parented child who has overcome much in a healthy way, I'm sharing this far and wide. Thank you.
I love Ms. Nedra Tawwab. So informative and awakening. Thank you Dr. Hyman!
I love Nedra Tawwab! Two of my favs. Excited to hear this! ❤
*
After I got up to $300k trading with Mrs Mary Margaret Schimweg i bought a new House and I'm now able to send my kids to a better school in the states thanks to her. When someone is straight forward with what he or she is doing people will always speak up for them.
I will leave her info below this comment.
┼𝟏𝟕𝟏𝟕𝟕𝟖𝟖𝟎𝟒𝟖𝟗👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾✴️✴️☎️
She’s Active on What’s apps.
Dude, I also trade with Mrs Mary services what a coincidence!!
We become solvers then the indifference and watchful guard! Survivors
Wow! This was amazing….ty💯
This was a very insightful and hope filled video. Thank you both for the collaboration. Will you be offering any affordable services for these kinds of issues for people who may not be able to afford them at regular price? Perhaps one on one online videos that show real people who consent to being recorded experiencing growth and healing through education and the unpacking of their trauma and fears?
It would take a really big person to agree to unpack it while being recorded if they were the one perceived as inflicting the trauma.
Gratitude.
We grow through disagreement…
Especially when we disagree with someone and we see how they respond to us. And if it's an unhealthy response we then have the opportunity to grow for ourselves.
@@leahv.2537 So well put. It doesn’t cost a thing to be civil and respectful even if there are differences of opinion.
Interesting interview; seems to play on Gabor Mate's research. I have NEVER seen Dr. Hyman look so serious as when he told the story of when he was 7 y/o (around 6:00). So traumatic for a little one. I think the majority of us have similar tales ... some worse.
Downtown Motown Checking In; Dr. Hyman; intriguing, let's talk about it and we did; thanks a million!!! Drama free; I'm In can't wait to read by the intellectual poetic therapist Nedra Tawwab; great host!!!
Check game: I usually start with those things that keep me up at night; and I am starting to show up differently; in how I respond to others and they way I show up in the world period; I choose sobriety and NO, I don't need a golden star but it's much clearly on this end and who knew I became an avid runner at 52....Yahoooo; showing my age with that one.
It was E-Z to stay to the end especially when recognizing unhealthy patterns and setting healthy boundaries; I think we're on to something here: Where to Draw The Line by Ann Katherine is a great start must read!!!
cant pleas everyone so i hav to please myself
Loved the video! Very interesting concept ❤
very informative and helpful
Very good !
Breaking generational issues is long and hard. You have reprogram your own brain.
Or you just walk away because you sometimes can change people's minds.
For me I just walked away from toxic family. I feel much better and healthy.
We are dealing w privileged contrary to those who have worked on themselves.
Poor Doc that story was hard to hear😢 only at 7 years old
Be the parent and missed
We cut it off
No is a complete sentence
The only way to grow is stop watching social media. Everyone is an expert. Lol
Make sure not adopt unhealthy, add on to one's unnecessary life.
Don't owe anyone
Most be arrested and currently not skip culturally accepted as some norms.
Cognitive as changing mindset
Don't adopt, Frankly the meaning of life. Read in early 80's unknowing that it was an academic literary book.
Not an open forum to playing shrink on individuals.