What You Pay Attention to Defines You
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- Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
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In this fictional story, we follow a young woman as she awakes from an incident, having forgotten everything she knows and loves in life. Now, she must relearn how to live and, more crucially, what makes life worth living.
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I've spent so long chasing nostalgia and wanting to relive the past that it became a curse. When I realized that it's impossible to reattaine the happiness of the past, it made me wish I could just let go and forget this compulsion towards the past, a fresh start like this story.
Well at least you had happiness in the past idk if this is good or bad but I never had true happiness until very recently sure I had some happy moments but they never last above few days its like I was born anxious and depressed
@@Veed.l0 I realized this same lesson when I watched a video on this channel titled "the feeling that life would never be as good as it once was" and ive figuratively never looked back
Where you able to forget?
@@spaceballs4203 it's impossible to force yourself to forget. The best you can do is understand why it's a flawed mindset to cling to the past.
@@Veed.l0 i always cling to the past. I can never move forward. Im always looking for a way to bring back my happiness. Im always thinking about my ex and how i miss her. I think im even gonna start texting her tomorrow to see if we can hang but i dont want to. I want to stay strong.. but i miss her...
When you're trying to forget something and then you finally do... It's like heaven
What makes it "heaven" when you cannot remember what you forgot...?
@@movement2contact that's exactly what makes it heaven. It must've truly been horrible if I wanted to forget it
@@movement2contact i imagine myself leaving a note in my pocket before changing my brain chemistry that says "don't worry, you wanted to forget" or something along those lines
Hugz
How do you feel this if you “cant remember” … i meaning you dont feel the heaven because you “cant remember”
This hit hard. The moment she said " why did I do that?" I shed a few tears. When we are being drowned by problems and depression it can be almost impossible to see the good things in our life that took us so much time and effort to get.
I honestly appreciate having a crappy memory. It has helped me forget so many gut wrenching painful moments.
Same and agree. However the downside to that is you don't feel like you even lived your life. On the contrary, I've noticed that people with excellent memory appear more alive, and they tend to have a coherent personality
I have a good memory, out at least I’ve been told that a lot. But I don’t remember lots of things from my life, thankfully. That may be purposeful though even if I’m not consciously aware of it. I feel like I don’t have a coherent personality or that I’ve lived my life. Maybe something to what you are saying
@@yhamez37 Look up SDAM (severely deficient autobiographical memory), might be your case
I really love the shaky artstyle mixed with real pictures. It gives off an unstable feeling
I know right? I love it that way as well...
"Pay attention to what we pay attention to" - that's really a wonderfully truthful statement. If you want to have free will - notice and control what you pay attention to - otherwise you're just a reactive automaton.
Wherever our attention is drawn to , energy follows
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Thank you! Perfectly put into words!
Each day would be a fresh start, but it would feel empty without the memories that give life meaning. No nostalgia, no regrets, also no sense of continuity.
@@_TheIlluminator_ and the emptiness can slowly be replaced with a more easily fulfilled purpose without the burdens of tragic memories
The point is that you have the choice of a fresh start whenever you want
thats good tbh...
@@DashMatin right? Literally perfect stoicism can be accomplished if you aren't trapped by your ego 🙏
Im seriously crying now. I feel like so much of what I want is outside of my control. The dispair, how tight I hold on to existence, and just trying to balance it all. I think in a way my own happiness is in a fragile state. I can't help this. Seeing how this character wanted so desperately to end her suffering. The level of despair matches. Id love to be about to wipe the slate clean and people who care show up to help guide me. Just some clarity beyond the pain would help. I'd never attempt this my kids mean everything to me. I think it's best if I take the high road. I'll remember this compassion if they need it.
You've got this. Everything will be okay.
Therapy?
I've been sober for 6 months and that's how I always felt during active addiction. What helped me tremendously is basically what he said in this video. Pay attention to what you pay attention to basically. We can't control our senses and how our subconscious perceives them, but we can control where we point them and what inputs they receive.
I've always been an optimist and valued positivity and it made me happy seeing good people doing good things, but the negative slowly started taking over because we're surrounded by it and media loves to portray it.
Sadly, much of what we see is controlled by an algorithm now and you can either stop using it to the best of your ability or train it to help you have more positivity. Also, focus on your spirituality. Live in the moment and meditate. Chase the infinitesimally small measurement of time that is now. The delay between input and perception. Nothing else matters. Regretting the past and worrying about the future do nothing to serve you. Build the foundation and everything else will fall into place.
I know it's easier said than done. I'm only 6 months sober but I feel like I've been given a new lease on life. This isnt my first time attempting sobriety and a change in my mindset, but this is the first time I've focused on myself rather than just what chemicals I ingest.
Go get professional help to start off and get you going down the right path. Take suggestions, get physically active, and feed your mind and body good things.
I'm not religious, so many people find "God" and it helps them tremendously, but I find it's often temporary because nothing else about them has changed other than verbally praising some deity. I'm not knocking it, if your spirituality leads you to a religion or if you're already devout, so be it. But do yourself and your loved ones a favor and work on your mental health.
@@Wheresmy240well said…
I'm glad she has her family. I hope anyone recovering from S attempts can get the help they need to manage the underlying issues, and to recover from the attempt itself.
Pure Mindfulness, so simple and impactful, the pursuit of wonder, great and inspiring and so immersive. 🙏😉
This made me cry and it came in a really good moment, thank you so much, you might have saved a part of me, or at least helped a part of me come out from a dark place.
My partner of 18 years is in residential treatment for alcoholism and our relationship is likely ending because of what has happened over the past few years….really challenging time to say the least, and have a bunch of memories I wish I couldn’t remember so well. Still though, like in the video, I find contentment and purpose in the small things. My fav music that hits deep, poking around my garden to marvel at nature, a mindful walk around my neighborhood, and sharing a meal with friends. Realizing that at least for me, right now, my purpose is to connect. With all those things/people I mentioned and the world around me. Videos like this are a great reminder and now I want a tapestry for a visual :)
You truly make philosophy that a lot of people find monotonous truly entertaining, Thank you.❤
Truly
You're wrong if you're studying philosophy to be entertained.
@@user-zp8kj2cl9g it's not that deep bro😭
@@user-zp8kj2cl9g Sounds like that's YOUR philosophy- User-zp8. Perhaps Danny finds the material more approachable in the style of this content and there's nothing wrong with that. Each to their own.
@@joshy2joshyPhilosophy is a general field of study and discipline. Saying "that's your philosophy" is like saying "that's your science"... It makes no sense.
I'm from a palliative care hospital to visit my uncle who's suffering from prostate cancer stage four. To distract myself from the awareness of the miserable heartbreaking scenarios I had encountered, I had decided to rewatch the true detective season one......now I'm here
This video is absolutely perfect for all that has suffered a painful loss.
New fear unlocked: suddenly losing my memory in a freak accident, because there is NO-ONE who would ever be able to help me remember who I am because basically no one currently in my life actually knows me. Like, at all. My own family wouldn’t be able to say much more about me than a casual acquaintance.
I’d have to rely almost exclusively on journal entries and digital files if I ever wanted to piece myself together again 😐
I know how you feel. Sometimes I don't even know myself.
u dont need to figure out who u were, just create yourself anew
That might be a blessing in some cases
@@DittersGustavI would love it. I don’t like who I am, how I am, how I live, what I think about. A reset would be amazing
My name is Anastasia pronounced just like how you say it in this video. Was pleasantly surprised to hear my name as an example
These are the videos that I truly love. You are seriously the best RUclips channel I’ve ever seen and every time I watch a video you make it always gets me thinking and I leave a better man. Keep it up, you are doing so great!
Ok, I'll watch true detective
Real gem today, thank you
Another beautiful and touching story. This channel is a real gem.
thank you pursuit of wonder. You’re changing lives
I'm so sick of everyone telling me I'm the fucked up one. Everyone else is fucked up for letting things get this way in the first place.
Amerikkka is a fucked up place if not the most fucked up
i don't think you or anyone else is the fucked up. things just happen, good or bad. no one really gets to choose the way their life goes. we can make plans and have goals and do as much as we want, but in the end, things can just happen. today you could win the lotto or you could get into car crash and no one really has control over these things. whatever you're going through, i sincerely hope you get through it. i know that bad things do happen, but that doesn't mean that good things don't happen. if you only look for the bad, that's all you'll see. if you try to look for the good, you might find something unexpected. and who knows, maybe one day you'll be that unexpected good thing someone else is looking for too :)
@@mathw1-1 Tell that to my native ancestors, the rising tides of suicide, and all the wildlife both plant and animal wiped out by brainwashed apologists like you who don't even think about the damage you cause every day. Everyone is sick, and have been for so long that they think it's normal. Governments, corporations, religions, militaries, all institutes of control justifying endless atrocities for mere comfort. You disgust me. At least I would rather end this world mercifully than slowly bleed it to death for amusement.
The introspection on the transiency of being alive here is insanely good! - "you are you right now - for the first time, and in every moment to come."
I think that way in the future, when none of us who are currently here are not here anymore, you will be regarded as one of the greatest philosophers of this generation. I already know you are.
Been loving your channel for a while, this one is particularly meaningfully, well done
There is a really beautiful quote from Warren Zevon during an interview to VH1 “Bad Luck doesn’t define you, it makes you the person you are” I’ve been telling this to myself for a while now.. I have cancer, and it’s all over my body. It’s also very rare, and aggressive. I can see my body getting sicker and sicker.
Have I thought about throwing in the towel (not suicide)
Our experiences truly makes us for better and worse. I hope you beat the sickness ❤
I liked the first title more... But the past is the past😉😢
What was it?
@@LiamCantArt something along the lines of "Woman explains what it feels like to have memory loss"
I don't remember the title, but the thumbnail that caught my interest the most had a guy who looked like a character from DragonBallZ
I wish there was a place where he collected the various titles and thumbnails he makes for his vids...
If there was a pill i could take to sleep forever, with no dreams, i would take it. No question.
i feel you bro
All your videos are great, this one really speaks to me in this moment. Thanks.
Most needed video rn 😊
This is so beautiful. Thank you so so much!! I had to deal with a lot of pain and anxiety in my life. As a help I‘ve been reading, listening and watching a lot about philosophy the past years. From stoicism to absuridsm and taoism. From tolle and watts to some weird new age stuff. This video sums up my thoughts and feelings so well. Your channel is amazing. I hope you know how many people you are helping! A lot of love from Germany!
This is beautiful.
Great video..R.I.P. Mac Miller
Mac still and always will be helping me and other with that pure authentic love and passion for music and life. Hes still here, he just turned into the music, the vibrations
@@completelytransparent6320 most definitely 🙏
I'll try not to get ahead of myself but I think this video just unexpectedly began to snap me out the survival mode paralysis I've been in for the past week and a half.
'Unexpectedly' because it wasn't one of those kind of snap. Just a gentle nudge, a soft and slow realization of something I already knew but needed to be reminded of from a different angle.
"Every day is day one"... 'I already know that' and yet...
So I ordered the book, wrote a note for my future self because this is a gift and then, in the strangest way, almost immediately got up to start the piano lessons I have procrastinated on for too long, and from there on, it's been one little task after another for the past 2 hours.
All this to say, whether this is a temporary jolt of clarity or the actual way out of the hole, thank you. Thank you for helping me help myself. And thank you for reminding me that the internet is sometimes a really good place to hangout.
❤
every one of us in the comments needs to form an online support group! i tear up ecausr i want to get past my addiction and live a real life again. :(
As always, amazing
LOVE LOVE LOVE that short story at the beginning WOW that was good!!!
This is so beautiful
Viktor Frankl wrote about the three values one can find in life; Adlerian (achievement), Freudian (pleasure) and his own (Logos, or meaning itself). Through his time in the Concentration camps of WW2, Frankl observed that Adlerian or Freudian value won't save a desperate prisoner or an invalid in great pain. Instead, Frankl suggests that the best value, in fact very _meaning of life_ is the meaning _one finds in life_ (even through great suffering) and that this meaning can help sustain a person through any unpleasant condition. I'll buy that from a guy who survived Auschwitz.
when you are trying to forget somethign but instead you start seeing so much more. Thats what we should all strive for i think...
That hit hard❤
Mannnn this hits hard.
Thank you! ❤
Beautiful:). Thank you👊🏽
To anyone going on their journey of life
Always know there will be bumps in the road. We will fall time to time. But the reason we fall is to pick ourselves back up. Learn from your mistakes and grow from them. If you're sad, angry anxious identify the reason why. Not just the general reason but the deeper reason. Go in layers ask yourself "what caused that reason?" Then you will know where you need to start from. Rebuild your foundation the way you want it to be. After you have a solid foundation that's when you can truly build yourself back up. If you learn to love yourself you can love anybody. Don't rely on external factors for happiness just learn how to suffice with just yourself then everything else is an added bonus to your world. You yourself are the foundation of life
love this
Amazing Video
Great video
I wish I could forget the moment they stopped loving me, but I'm still stuck partly because we never broke contact and they keep stirring the waters with nostalgia. It might just be a game for them but I slip back into grief everytime I feel them close. And no matter how much I cling onto them, I know they're no longer the person I fell in love with. Nothing's the same, it will never be, and maybe that's what best for the two of us cause none of this is right...
Beautiful.
Great vid
This is a classical pursuit of wonder at it's best
So beautiful her brother really knew her best lifes memories ❤
Not many people have the wonderful experience of being loved in this sweet example.
Really good 👍
EXCELLENT!!!!!!!
This was a super hard watch, but thank you.
My process to forget and let go can take years sometimes. When I hear the instruction to “Let go” it’s meaningless and laughable. What you resist, persists. Letting go, for me, is slow and gradual.
Definitely a nice sentiment, but it's much easier said than done. Letting go just isn't in our human nature. It's more of a coping skill that must be learned and takes practice. I doubt I'll ever be able to fully master it.
@@slantedandenchanted.1992exactly!!
Bro changed the title and thumbnail like 4 times by now 💀
I wish there was a place where he collected all the different thumbnails and titles he makes for these vids...
The thumbnail/ title that I clicked on, was not the version that I liked the most
The one I liked most was a thumbnail with a guy who almost looked like a DragonBallZ character...
wow. I think this is one of my favorites. it applies equally to anybody, anytime, even if they never hit rock bottom and had an "incident"....
I created a playlist to keep my favorite Pursuit of Wonder 'story-videos' in one place... it's great for a quick reference when I feel the need to remember something profound about life that I have forgotten 😢
Since I have time, Iam going to re-watch this one right now...:
The Tragedy of Being Too Early - The Timeline Effect
yo this story was so good wth
Good luck guys 👍
Thanks for making True Detective her favourite TV show, it matches perfectly
Beautiful…😭
I realize it. I feel it. I'll start again and succeed.
"losing all hope was the antidote"
The culmination of our life's experiences makes us who we are in the present. They directly connect us to the world. So, who are we really without our memories?
Or...
Maybe our memories truly are not our own, but instead data to be unloaded to a forever expansive etheric library.
Excuse me while I go ice my brain.
If you remember then it's no longer the new you. You will forget your new self when you remember your past self. It's like a new life.
This. This video title gave me hope.
Thankyou you are a wonderful mind and a Muse ......music ..... to the ears 😊
encouraging people
creative ❤
To continue to work with their chosen expressions of how they see 👀 😊
So deep, my first video was on this topic. Stay Uncommon!
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind....
The problem with memory is forgetting about the person with their feet in the water.
Cried :,D
Thank you 🙏🏼 new subscriber. 😊 this video motivated me to remember what I love about my life after a nasty divorce.
I tried to order your journal 📓 from your Pursuit of Wonder page; but they are out of stock. Do you know when you might get some in stock?
I’d rather order from you directly instead of from Amazon. I will order from Amazon though if you’re not getting any in stock for awhile.
Thank you again. ❤😊
Edited for clarity
The advantage of a bad memory is that one enjoys several times the same good things for the first time.
~ Friedrich Nietzsche
Very touchy ❤
I'm jealous, she's going to watch treu detective again 🙂❤
Don't do bad,
Do good,
Purify own mind...
I can see it too ❤.
Can you do something about addiction on social media in our days?
'You are you right now for the first time.'
If you're reading this, that means you too.
Damn this one hit different
I had a stroke almost 3 months ago. I'm not crying. You're crying.
La vida puede ser un desafío para muchos, pero cuando logramos entender que entre todas las posibilidades nos tocó a nosotros el regalo de la existencia, y con ella un mundo por descubrir, ahí es donde empezamos a disfrutar el simple hecho de vivir
Are we only memory 💔🌌?
The title is completely misleading.
Is there a new book coming soon ?
I’ve read every book so far. 😎
Sometimes it's good to reset
hello i really really love your philosophical videos but i also need to read the books you have written but im in india so i really not able to access the books so can you please help me how to get your books like pdf or something. please
Reminds of the book "Restart" by gordan korman 👑
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You can choose to pay attention to these things
damn. she's fortunate to have an understanding family. mine will lay on the guilt n shame. idiots. they'll only drive me back to it. lol
You can always start over.
this video came at the perfect time. thanks man
I should suffer an anoxyic brain injury to unf**k my head? Nah, I got it bro. Great episode as always.
I mistook Anastasia for Anaesthesia in the first 20 seconds
I awear to god i ve seen this video like almost a year ago
Retrograde amnesia sounds pretty nice
For some it would be a blessing, for others a curse.
I dont get it, so how do you unfuk your mind?
Well if it's not broke don't fix it