when i'm in a dilemma and i cannot choose, i flip a coin, and before i look at the result, i think to myself, "what did i hope it would land on while i watched it flip in the air?" and that's my decision.
Tell that to a dead heroin user or a death row inmate or impatient driver etc etc, people make bad decisions everyday that end their lives or cause suffering and misery to others, big part of human history isn't it.
One of the hardest things I've had to deal with in growing older is the reality that there are thousands of lives I could live but I'll only ever live one.
@@ivapolovic5488 “So, even though you have broken my heart yet again, I wanted to say, in another life, I would have really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you.” 😢
It truly is. Ive managed to sabotage my life to some degree and rather would not look into the past and think about all those possibilities of "ive could have been x, y or z" and move on with life, yet, i really dont know what i want to do with my life in the future either. I kind of feel like no matter which path i take im going to have regrets, so its hard to make any sort of decision whatsoever. Yet, i kind of feel like im definately forced to make some sort of game move, since if i spend my whole life wondering on what i should do and never progress in any direction, i think would regret that the most. There's just this omnious feeling of me looking back one day realising i should have took another path.
At age 64, I look back and I can see that life has often been like driving through a large town, without a map, and randomly choosing when I turned left, right, continued straight, or even made a u-turn. And how different it would have been, if I had just made even the tiniest decisions differently along the way. All of our lives are interconnected in ways we cannot even fathom. The death of just one of us can have domino effects that spread out across the world. It’s quite a total mind-phq, if you stop and think about it.
'Karl went on a walk around a city by himself moderately drunk , he walked down the edge of the city along the harbour ..................................................' - Ah shit , here we go again
Ryan Fong it was supposed to be almost a dream or just a small look into the future, which is why despite Carl “aging” twice; he is still young at the end. It’s very much open to interpretation though on how he got those insights. So he didn’t actually see the old man three times
Bruh that quote was not even in the video, and if that is so then why is it that sooo many successful people are depressed or have a lot of problems a normal person wound not have? There is still going to be a downside to your discussion.
O O if they’re depressed then they’re not really successful? Depends whether your definition of success is financial stability and a high ranking career, or happiness and satisfaction in life.
I understand that probably came off like some lame Instagram quote lol, but "Successful" doesn't mean success in the modern sense (I.e. Financial, career, impact). It means to embrace and make the most of a situation and find happiness through it all. In this video's case, Carl is damned if does and damned if he doesn't - so since his course of action doesn't guarantee his happiness, it's not on his decision, but on his willingness to accept/embrace his decision voluntarily is the "success".
This is life . No matter the choices we make there are always regrets. For me, I would rather regret missed financial opportunities than regret not spending time with my friends and family while we are all still here and healthy on this earth together.
But sometimes something just drives you elsewhere. A passion, a relationship. The things and people you love are sometimes not in the same place and you have to make a decision.
Yes, friends and family sound great. But your family is in one place and your lifelong best friend is in another. Do you choose the family you were born into? Or the family you chose?
This video made me feel weirdly comfortable to be living my own life, just thinking about the amazing uniqueness of your life, meaning no one could live it exactly like you, and no one could ever have the exact same experiences..
"He isn't happy. But he isn't unhappy. He is a mix of both, depending on the time and day" Thank you so much for this video, The past few months I've been feeling like that, this made me realize I should stop overthinking the situation and start being more grateful for what I have.
To the person so reading this, we don't know each other, probably never will. But I felt the need to tell you that we are going to okay. The problem you face right now is temporary, temporary because we all end the same way. New love and opportunity will present itself when you're ready for it. Keep yourself open to change. I know it hurts and the pain of your loss in completely unbearable but you're not alone. I feel it too, I'm going to be okay and so will you. Please take care of yourself. I love you.
You my kind commentor friend are a love-able and amazing person and deserve all the happiness you receive in this life. I hope you have a wonderful day and a wonderful life :)
This is like a much longer, more artistic version of the famous quote by Søren Kierkegaard: "Marry, and you'll regret it. Don't marry, you will also regret it. Marry or don't marry, you'll regret it either way." I love this video.
Can't remember the author of this poem: When you're a spinster of 40 You're reduced to considering bids From husbands inclined to be naughty Or divorcees obsessed with their kids. So perhaps you should wed in a hurry But that has its drawbacks as well The answer? There's no need to worry Whatever you do life is hell
You didn't get it. The substitute for Carl that Novak chose turned out to be rather intelligent and helped the business out when things got difficult. Carl was no worse than any other partner in the business. But in the alternate timeline, Carl's substitute was much smarter. The business was never likely to succeed - because, statistically, businesses ARE difficult. You just get lucky.
"The child could not make a choice because he did not know what would happen, but now that he knows what will happen, he can not make a choice." Mr Nobody My favourite movie btw
@@carnap355 control is a illusion. But at the same time it feels like we have it. So why should it matter that we don't actually have choice? It makes no difference if we have choice or don't have choice
When I was in my senior year, I decided to ask a bunch of people what career would be right for me. I needed guidance. They all gave me answers based on their life and their choices, they claimed I would be a good fit, disregarding my passions and dreams. I realized then that no one could make such a decision for me, despite their advices, I followed a completely different route. I am happy that I did but we need to understand that choosing one option over the other is not the end. I still make many choices and direct my course according to my values. There is never an end point to reach. Set sail and direct your course as the wind blows. Because that’s all one can do.
i am a humanities student and i freezed my seat at a university for bballb( business subjects +law) and now i feel like i shouldn’t have. i hope it wouldn’t be a torture to my brain in the upcoming year in which i have to study these subjects i’m not even a bit familiar too. i should have waited to get ballb(humanities subjects +law). i don’t know why i complicate my life so much when the easy path could also lead to the same outcome. i freezed my seat thinking subjects like maths, accounting, finance and management would help my brain foster and increase my problem solving and critical thinking abilities which i consider i don’t have much now but who cares bro i have to complete my degree with the subjects i like and score A+ in and the worst part is i can’t unfreeze. i feel like i complicate things when i don’t even intend to but i also believe that i opted for bba llb because i felt like in subjects like political science and sociology i can score 100/100 but i don’t see myself enhancing and fostering that part of my brain which would help me perform at my greatest potential in the corporate sector which i plan on to go in later. i have always put grades over knowledge and i wanted to change that. so i don’t know if i did the right thing or not
@@arukshitadeswal Hey! It seems to me you have made a choice based on a set of values you have. It doesn't have to be right or wrong. Maybe you could reach the same outcome with both degrees but you know yourself the best. If you feel like this choice will make you learn more and improve yourself, then go for it! Believe me, sometimes you might think another option would be easier but every option has its own challenges. You will beat them as they come, don't worry and focus on your growth which matters the most. I wish you all the best.
In situations like this, it helps to ask yourself “if I make this choice, and it ends up failing, will I still be glad I made it?” If the answer is yes, then you have your decision. Decision making like this also depends on passion, and a lot of faith. Carl seems to lack that severely in both scenarios that played out, and only has the groundwork for it at the end. His friend offered him an opportunity. Not deciding is also a decision, and him not jumping on it after taking some time to reflect indicates he’s not that passionate about the idea to begin with. Ergo, he’s already made his decision. Also, Carl is limiting his life into what’s possible and what’s not. Who says that’s the only opportunity for him to move to Australia? There could be a 3rd scenario where he rises high up enough in his company and asks to be transferred to Australia, and his wife is more open to it at that point. And his wife seeing him hang out with his best friend and their kids makes her change her mind and they start their own family. Boom, he gets everything he wanted then.
Right? Also the option of moving to Australia in that moment was offered to him, meaning he didn't looked or searched for it. I think maybe Carl was never really in control of his life.
@@MrCassett If you think about it, maybe it applies to all of us too? That we're molded by our surroundings to a large extent. I guess the antidote would be frequent questioning of the status quo and not falling into compulsions.
nobody in particular ... yes I have endless choices to make even as I come to the age of 38. Choices that made me childless. Some choices seem fateful as if it wasn't meant to be. Other choices to stay when maybe I should leave. Waiting for others to change that will not change but wanting to be with them well wanting to be somewhere else with them. But they want to be where we are and not be somewhere else. Could get any degree I want paid for by the VA and which is the best degree to choose and how will it affect my needs and wants. Will I ever have a business of my own or work for somebody else. Will I get to work with kids and old people or will I find a new love interest and leave my wife. Or will I satisfy everything on my wife's honey doo list and never have any children of my own. Would it even be ethical to have children in a world of 7.8 billion people. To stay with the wife and not leave to wonder into the wilderness or move to a new country and learn to live off the land. Is it ethical to be driving a car on a road and typing on a computer or to own a smart phone and digital currency that use insane amounts of energy. It's not ethical. I know this. It's not ethical to have children. It's not ethical to use medicine. It's unethical to eat farmed foods and to domesticate animal. It's unethical to travel by any means besides our own feet. I know this ... the choice is there to walk away from the modern world and suffer to survive ... but then that is ethical. To live and die like a wild animal. It's the only pure form of living a moral life. The Life of a Human Being.
So now when you even make a simple choice like going to the bathroom before you leave, realize that could cause you to get into a fatal accident. Contemplate every little decision or die! 😈
This reminds me of something someone said to me when I was a teenager trying to figure out a problem. I don't remember what the problem was. Or who said this to me. But I've never forgotten those words. They were "Wherever you go, there you are". I didn't understand it at first. But as I grew older I realized that no matter what decisions I made, I was still there. Time didn't stop for me. Problems didn't disappear. I was still there. Wherever 'there' was. I still ponder this from time to time. This video just brought that back to me.
Moral of the story: "You will never be fully satisfied with whatever decision you make in life, be content with what you have, because happiness is within yourself, not outwards. Only you can make yourself happy, not anything, nor anybody can do that for you." It's your choice to make. You can choose to be happy with what you have (making you grateful and happy), or you can choose to hate what you have (which can make you miserable and live with the "what if" all your life). *But that's for you to choose. You cant blame anybody because the choice is yours to stay where you at or go where you want to be.*
After two months of watching this, whenever I think about the tough decisions I'll have to make in the future, I recall this story and feel more confident and at ease. It has truly changed my perspective on that matter, and I am very thankful to whoever helped in making this.
"The only thing I know is that on the other side of a decision, I'm there. And if I'm there, no matter what path I go, there'll always be something to love and there'll be always something to dread." So true.
As a kid, I used to hate the quote “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” And whenever there was a box of truffles, I would just get the guide for which flavors were which. However that changed when one day there wasn’t a guide, and while I ravaged the box looking for one my Grandma just said, “Just pick the one you think looks best and eat it dammit.” And to be honest, eating the truffles without a guide made them taste better. So, thank you Lola.
If only life came with a chocolate box description before you bit into it ,and decided whether you liked it or not ,or like life can be:it sends nuts to thoses without teeth lol.
@@editboris Don’t regret buddy.. every mistake we’ve made has to happen in order for us to learn. We are not computers that can compute every outcome. We are human, and our brains can only do so much of that, not to mention inaccurately most of the time. Plus, as I said, you had to make that choice in order to learn a lesson that could prove valuable in the future. Imagine for example.. a man starts a small business with his entire life savings. He makes one wrong choice and the business goes bankrupt. He’s broke, he’s sad, and has nothing left. He could have been making a few thousand in profits a month. He spends the next few months working a job he hates, regretting that once choice he made, but then one of his old employees offers him a job somewhere else. Through conversation and meeting people, the man embarrassedly tells an investor about his failed business venture, and how he had plans for other businesses in the future. The investor likes the bigger plans and now gives the man a fortune to invest and try again, this time with a bigger fund than ever. The man comes to a point in the business where he’s gotta make another important choice, and this time because he failed in the past, he has learnt to not make the same mistakes. He goes about it correctly, and in some time his business is bringing in six figure profits per month. If he hadn’t made the wrong choices in the past, he would have squandered that investment and lost it all. He went through failure and made a choice he regretted, but in the end, that choice did him a lot more good than if he had chosen the alternative. Instead of a few thousand per month, he’s making hundreds of thousands in profits all thanks to his mistakes.
What I took away from this: Its more important to be at peace with the choices we make than to toil over which choice was “right.” We'll never get it quite right. We'll never have enough information to make the best choice in every situation. We’re all destined to make bad choices…eventually. We always give up something when we take something else-one is not better than the other; they’re just different. In the end, it seems wisest to free yourself up to make as many different choices as you can, stay flexible, and keep moving.
This is exactly what I took from it. I feel like with a combination of a few different practices, such as right thought, right action from Buddhism, a bit of Taoism, and the idea that when faced with a fork on life's road, whichever path you take, even the one that appears more difficult and potentially like there's no way back, then it's the right decision. Also, inaction is action. The idea that we sit back and remove ourselves from the equation while being affected by it and not judging the effects seems totally alien to a lot of Western thought. Yet it's a freeing way to look at how not doing anything at all gives the universe room to make some of the damned decisions itself. It knows where it's going. So let it go there.
Yes. This is what we all do. We all fuck up and others look at us and might say “wtf were you thinking?” But at the end of the day, we all do what we believe was right AT THE TIME. Every decision I’ve ever made, I made because I believed it was the right thing to do at the time. Sometimes it wasn’t. That’s where regret comes in. So I always try to not judge people based on the choices they made in the past.
I knew someone once who prided himself on being remarkably well balanced. He was level headed and could find passion for anything and grow to appreciate it. When he was young, he was shy, and when he was shy he would write. Always doing well in school, he held a confidence in his mental capacity, but only inward. On the exterior level, he feared a lot of how he came off and constantly hoped to garner that warm, accepting approval, forming a likeable skin, then another, shedding and exchanging one for the next, when his surroundings suited him, finding what there was to appreciate but never really loving any of it. He wrote, wondering what it would be like to understand foreign and seemingly complex systems, to have another expressive outlet but too afraid to leave the unambiguous comfort of pen and paper. Never finding out how those things may be or the appreciation he would have for all he was afraid to try. Come high school, he found himself in a group of friends that happened to fancy engineering. He forgot about writing and started to take engineering classes, enrolling in every one, and for the first time taking a proactive role in choosing electives he thought he was interested in. He followed in his friends' footsteps because although he wasn't sure he wanted to do dry, sterile math, he knew he wanted to be around them. He felt it was his choice. The pressure of that critical decision in these high school years began rearing its head; college's where, what and when had to be figured out perhaps without ever knowing why. He realized he hated engineering and happened upon law. That cycle repeated itself, with a seemingly endless meandering to and from what could only be commitments without committing to any of them. Stumbling from one subject to the next, into the guidance counselor's office where he heard her ask him the only question he'd asked himself nonstop, across the graduation ceremony stage and into community college, he searched for that answer but never found it. With no more time to stall with generic classes, the problem plaguing his future returned and he found himself questioning what he should do, who he was with and if he enjoyed their company because it felt accepting due to their superficial common ground, or if the connection was personal. His family had always gotten by, but were perpetually burnt out and worried about things like emergency expenses, the waning likelihood of retiring at a reasonable age and most of all their son's future. Like any loving parents, they didn't want their son to worry about these things when he got older and stressed the importance of landing a good, reliable job. At this time he became incredibly enthralled in and inspired by a television show that captured him like nothing else had before. He returned to writing again, and adored the idea that one would suspend their disbelief, attaching themselves to something fictional as though it weren't. He wasn't sure he loved writing and was even less sure he liked film/television but it was something decided by him alone. In the interim between semesters, he found himself taking a tour of the film department, wearing the right skin, and enrolling in a few classes. He had never bee more scared. He found a new group to bumble into but felt less like he needed to make an effort to connect; he was already genuinely interested in most conversation topics they frequented. A year and a half later, he finished the film program there, walked along the stage, and transferred into a four year school to finish his bachelor's. Not being pushed in any other direction, he stayed in the film major, gradually growing more comfortable with complex gear and being the center of attention once in a while. He made a few projects that while rough around the edges, he was proud of for showing something he came up with. One did well at the school film festival despite its flaws and made him a little more confident. By the time he found himself on the stage again, he didn't know much more about what he wanted to do, but found comfort in the fact that he wasn't alone as he had perceived it before. Maybe no one here knew what they wanted to do or were too afraid to do it; they all preached what they had done themselves. He realized none of them were particularly happy, yet every one of them felt they needed input on his life. They were vicariously afraid for him, seeing his meandering as floundering and desired to see him in a stable lifestyle and an ordinary job so they could look on him and say "he turned out alright." only because he had turned out like them. But he saw, most of all, that their greatest fear was being wrong, having regret and choosing based out of fear and not interest, at once understanding why most of the people in the stands viewed the lucky ones who had broken the mold and found success with the utmost admiration and envy, while making an example of the less fortunate who took the same path. He shook the hand of the school's Dean, wondering if he had ever seen him before and found himself happier than the people he was surrounded by and expected to emulate, not because he graduated but because he didn't have that anxiety anymore. He thought about how he'd never know if making a choice was the correct decision and how we never truly know good from bad. He told his old engineering friends about what he planned to do for the future, how there was no cookie cutter path to get where he hoped he would go. "What if it doesn't work?" his friends asked him. "What if you're wrong?" He considered the very probable scenario that his friend's dad could land him a demanding yet well paying job and felt comfortable passing it up. He looked up at his friend and said "At least I'll have tried.", knowing full well he could be making a mistake now and a fool of himself later yet being overjoyed in doing so for it would be his and it would be the best mistake he ever made.
Omg i’m so shocked i was shaking reading this, it’s basically my story, i’m 17 and i was gonna choose to go to college to study engineering because of the pressure but then i was so scared of being unhappy in that path that i decided to get in film school and i was accepted yay (there’s more to it that made me do this of course), my classes start on March and i’m really excited and i just feel driven! I would love to know if this is a real story cause i wanna talk to that person!!
I remember I was going on a walk when I randomly decided to walk in a different street. That's when I saw someone I haven't seen in a very long time. After having a conversation with him, we both went our separate ways. I thought to myself while I was walking back home "If I didn't walk down that street, I wouldn't have had that conversation with him. I wonder how many conversations I've missed and people I didn't meet because of these small decisions I make. What if I didn't choose to go a different route? What did I miss out on when I changed routes? What are some other small decisions I made in life that had a big impact like that?" There's also this scary thought that comes to my mind very often when I'm driving and someone's with me "By simply rotating this steering wheel, I can literally end my and this person's lives in a blink of an eye. Or we can have irreversible injuries. A lot of people will come to our funeral or to the hospital to visit us. So many lives will change forever if I decide right now to simply rotate the steering wheel."
Taking risks vs bad choices and decisions is separate. Deciding to drink alcohol and drugs then getting hooked and going into crime for example. I have made a series of bad choices my whole life. If I didn't have my loving family I would be on the streets.. If I made good choices my life would be completely different and better off. So if you have the option to make a good choice vs bad. I would go with the good always. However I would have not learned this without making those bad choices first.
When I was 14, I ran away from my dad & stepmoms house to live with my real mom who lived a city away. Between that time & now alot has changed for me & my sister. She has 3 kids, I have 1 on the way. I randomly get the feeling every now & then that if I would have never ran away alot of things could/would be different. My choice to run away led to all kinds of changes. My sister would have never met her children's father, who passed away in 2010. I probably would have never met my gf who is my soon to be wife. My life has been a movie so far. Anyways just thought I'd share a little piece of my life story with all of you.
@@fantasi4037 too much to put into words that I don't even know where to begin. I just know my runaway has caused alot of changes in people's lives around me. I hope I'm not sounding selfish by saying that but I feel like it's TRUE. If I never had runaway, my sister would have never met her late bf. I would have never met my future wife. My brothers & sisters lifes would probably have been different since when I came back in the picture it brought all my brothers & sisters closer again. My mom has 9 kids. Before I started living with my mom again, everyone was distant living in different parts of the city. When me & my sister came back in the picture people started coming around, most started even living with my mom. If you really wanted to hear my lifes story I would have to tell u in person. It's too complicated to put it all in text form. I just hope me running away was the right decision. I sometimes wonder what life would be like if I'd never have ran away. Would I be more successful? Would I have killed myself if I continued to live with my dad & evil stepmom? Idk. All I know is I'm happy that I did runaway. Because I'm having a baby girl on the way. & right now she is my everything. Hope you all have a wonderful blessed day.
@@genesis11am Such a story.. the fact that you ran away and changed so much is just, its amazing. But let me ask you this, what made you make that choice that you did when you ran away? How did you even know it was the right decision to make in that moment?
I am crying my eyes out... this is exactly what i am going through right now. i guess the reason why i keep on going back and forth in making the decision is that i am so desperate to make the right choice that will make me ultimately happy. I am scared that if i take on this amazing opportunity that entails me leaving everything behind even foregoing my responsibilities to my family, i would somehow still end up being miserable. I have been dreaming for so long of moving to another country that i make myself believe i will be content once i move out and live the way i want to. but as you grow older, you know that's not how life is. Perhaps i should stop romanticizing this path as the happily ever after route. "no matter what path i go, there will always be something to love and there's always be something to dread." This is the real world. Thank you so much for this :')
I am also making this decision but I have a lot of time to make it. I feel this video found me at the perfect time and even though it doesn’t tell you what decision to make, I feel I now know what one is more true to me. I hope your choice is going well and if it isn’t, you never know how bad the other option would have been.
I feel this way too. It’s overwhelming, but I find it’s best to meditate every now and then and try to get in touch with your inner child, and understand what it really is that you want. For you, regardless of how peoples opinions have shifted your judgements. And then when you’re done meditating, come back to where you are now, and compare what you desire to where your path has led you.. it should help give you some sense of direction, and hope
As a person that moved from the UK to Canada sherely and surely at the freedom to be my fullest self with utmost passion, never feel iit's too late. The choices and plans you're able to make to fulfil your dreams, can ultimately help in the success of that dream, considering unpredictable variables also. It's the faith that no matter what hurdles, you'll make it t:)
Hello,, i hope you're doing okay now! I hope everything is good, i hope you made choices and they now are right. Youre amazing, and bright! I hope your life becomes so happy to the point, u forget meaning of Being sad haha,, random person from internet! ❤️💭
I love how your vidoes make me expand my perspective. They are not positive nor negative, but just full of thought. They make you think of things you would not think about otherwise. And oddly enough, they help me. This video in particular helped me easen the burden of the choice I need to make in life at the moment. Thank you for making such wonderful content.
This is actually called the crossroads and to come to the crossroads u need a crisis it is very difficult to find a door into the labyrinth without a crisis. It's also known as the Hanged Man Tarot card which u can see allover Google if u look it up . It means initiation is inverted .. In the Fallen World we are in the world of Time and winning to enter into the labyrinth u have to lose and throw down ,become inverted as the spiritual world Time does not exist . To get in u have to lose!!!!!! I found a way in by being in a crisis I was offered 2 choices , I maintained control chose neither but chose the spiritual path which than led me to have visions and start my initiation which spirit led me too . Culminating 15 years later in me making contact with my HGA my Holy Guardian Angel and having k and C knowledge and conversation as per the religion Thelema I'll leave a link. I used altered states to do it . If u can't have ure own crisis a coven or order will start one for u thru symbols and rituals. . The end result is I found my True Will and now I'm on a current but it was brutally hard path
In the Fallen World most worship and perform for mortals . Spiirt holds Time and Death we are only to worship spirit and spirit will guide us thru visions, dreams, magick will happen to u to guide u on ure quest . Again if ure at a point of crisis u are lucky if u can maintain control and pick the higher path spiritually, u will be guideded into the labyrinth and there ure quest will begin. We are mostly in beta and alpha brainwaves to get in u need to hit into theta brainwaves which only children are in . Theta can be reached by drumming, trance , dance etc thru that u can work ure initiation. To get into the kingdom of heaven we must be like little children , Christ wasn't talking about being like a child he was talking about being in theta
“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams
God fucking damn it, do you know how hard that song was to get out of my head after listening to it, then listening to it again while watching stranger things... This song is gonna haunt me for the rest of my life lmao
No, I know how it ends. Carl looks at the man and sheds a tear, the man asks,”well....which is it?” Carl slowly opens his mouth and responds,”neither” The old man looks in confusion,”excuse me..?” Carl pulls out a glock and says,”nothing will work out, I’ll just be wasting my life, so why do it, why live...” Carl proceeds to put the gun to his head and blows his brains out
@@Smokeymkd00912 just like Inception's end, everybody asked for the answer, was that a dream or not? So many people didnt realise that it doesn't matter whether it was a dream or reality. To Cobb, that was his reality which he was happy in.
Or that I'm consciously and subconsciously speaking with a panopticon and cannot tell whether I'm being lead or leading myself to the videos that tell me things I have long felt and not been able to articulate.
It wounds negitive but that's what I got from it too. Thinking back to the major desictions in my life I've made, I almost feel like I regret them all. I'm certain there are some I'm glad I made, but the ones that come to mind first are the "wrong" ones. Is it that when you make the right desicion, you take it for granted? You never think back years later and have regret? The way I see it as that if you're truly on the fence about something, and you're so close to just upping and starting fresh, it's always worth the risk. Worst case scenario, you end up feeling the same thing once again, but with the experience.
I took the moral to be that there is not a right or wrong choice, each will have their problems and regrets. All you can do is choose one for yourself, that way you can regret your own decision instead of someone elses.
i believe that you should be happy with what you have and worked for. no one is going to be happy on their deathbed or in their last moments unless you believe in an afterlife in which case you are alright with it but it’s still a scary thing. be happy with what you have in that moment and try your best to keep your spirits up. we came into this world with nothing and that is how we will leave it.
I'm currently living in Japan, and was given an opportunity to work at a university in Istanbul (a city I visited and really enjoyed). It literally took me two months to decide, but ultimately chose to stay here due to a variety of factors. I do questions if it was the right move, but then again, I'm sure I would have questioned it if I had decided to move. Fantastic video. I wish I had discovered it two months ago.
quite interesting how the old man says "might get robbed or something", i took that as the man warning him about robbing him of his life. it's as though he's like a symbol of knowledge or had the same thing happen at the same bench years before.
A choice made by another person for you will always be wrong. If you, yourself, make the wrong choice, your sense of responsibility can help you get out of it. But if you let others do it and it goes awry, it traps you in cycles of blame that ultimately locks you in a miserable life. Great video!
It's funny, I'm in a similar situation as Carl. And when the old man said "you're staying" I immediately knew that I would NOT be staying. So I guess I have decided now...
The old man was himself that went back in time to try to help himself and he knew that it would take 3 time loops before he was able to exit with the right choice.
I think it was just his mind and his way of making a content decision. Bc I have something similar in my life that I have already decided on and the first time the old man approached I was like damn this is like me except the old man was just in my head.
The thing is... there's infinite loops. Whatever choice he made, there's then another choice later that can affect it all. Maybe the best choice was not to make it such a binary decision to begin with.
This is literally my life right now. 27, sitting on the couch, staring at the ceiling, trying to decide should i or shouldnt i move to another city, leave everthing behind and start fresh.
i do not know you nor your situation, but assuming that you have a roof over your head, food in your fridge, and at least $1,000 to your name... as long as you do n't have severe limitations, be legal or personal, that will restrict your ability to move away from your city, you should leave everything and move to another city! (if you don't like your current city). Reason i say this is because one day you won't be as young as 27 and won't have the freedom to pick up your bags and start your life somwehere else. you might have more responsiblities, or just a different life situation that may not allow you to have the freedom to do somethingn like this if you want to (in the future). If there is a part of you that wants to and has wanted to for some time now, then jump. Who knows what tomorrow may bring. You are alive today because the universe chose to keep you alive, and one day we'll all be gone. Long story short, if you don't like your city, move, see what being naked in the world feels like. Take that jump. Make that leap. You don' tknow what's on the other side until you do it. Much love from the Bay area to you and everyone reading this, P. S.
I've listened to this one many times. Played it to other people too. And everytime without fail for my self and for the person I'm introducing it to, are absolutely blown away by the story. The flow, timing and narration make it all that much better too Thank you Persuit of Wonder
I watch and follow a ton of philosophical, spiritual, historical, and universe/scientific channels and I have been in a constant search of answers. In a way, this video has brought me more comfort than I’ve had from any of the above in years. Thanks!
Thats what i have been saying the past few days. Without our health we have nothing, follow your gut, not money, and god would never give us anything we cant handle. So glad you said these words. Thank you. 💃
Im 46 and after 21 years at the good/reasonable IT job, I had a break down. I’d convinced myself my job was who I was since I excelled at it, got promoted multiple times and got paid really well for it, that was until I was calling the suicide prevention hotline one night. I got therapy and I’m better now.I found out what I’ve been doing for 21 years wasn’t who I was. Im still in love with the woman I married 22 years ago and my kids are amazing. You aren’t what you do. My job is something I do, but who I am is an artist. So, I create art and design things I love because my life depends on it.
You're a great artist already since you have great wife and two amazing children. Thanks for sharing your experience and advise🙆♂️ I was lost and confused for a week before the big decision. You saved me.
I am exactly 46 now. I have a wonderful family but face a difficult decision. I realised that it does not matter what I will chose. Important is only to live the outcome with a smile on my face and fully assume the decision. Enjoy life, that's all there is to it. There is no meaning as a meaning. And no limitation as limitation. 🙏
At 27 Carl felt an urge to leave home and forge a life for himself “while he was still young.” Sigh, it’s this kind of thinking that sucks all hope away for those who are older, like every risk you take has to be when you’re young. I’m 49, I don’t see myself as old, and I made a radical, life changing decision over a year ago. I’m currently selling everything I have, 25 years worth of my life, and I will soon be moving across the country and starting a new life. I am pursuing a dream and I left a relationship of 14 years that, though financially secure, was toxic. Being yelled at every day by a man who saw the worst in me was not the life I had envisioned for myself. I am teaching myself 2 other languages and preparing to go back to school and train for a new career. It is NEVER too late, you can always take risks and make radical changes and you don’t have to be “young” to do it (although people older than me applaud me for my move saying I’m “still young enough” to make such a change, and that makes me sad; it shows this attitude that youth is a requirement of change is one held by all age groups). I have my whole life ahead of me, I have zero regrets and I can’t wait to start a happier and more prosperous life with my 2 dogs on the east coast. Yes, it was a little more complex - I owned a home with my ex and couldn’t just hop in a car and leave, I had to wait to get bought out for my half of the house, plus I had decades of accumulated stuff I had to part with. I’m leaving with my dogs and whatever belongings will fit into my car, that’s it. It has been freeing to sell, donate, recycle and throw away decades of unnecessary purchases. The only things I am taking with me will fit into my small car. I’m also letting go of friendships with those who don’t encourage and support me. You really find out who your true friends are when you make a major change in your life. You can always make radical, positive changes, at any age, as long as you have your mind and your dreams. Don’t stay in that secure but horrible relationship with someone who no longer loves you, treasures you or gets you, don’t stay in that high paying but stressful job. You can change at any age.
At 72, 28 years after becoming a paraplegic and initially spending a year in physical therapy to be able to walk with crutches, I got on a plane and flew to a country on the other side of the planet which I had never been to. For me, it wasn't much effort to give up my settled life in the US to finish my years in the Philippines. I got on that plane enthusiastically with absolutely no hesitation and I have been here for six years now. I don't expect to ever go back. Life is life, but don't forget the element of adventure and meeting new people. I am happy now in the tropical sun in my second life, riding my small motorcycle around every day. "Dare to do it" is my advice!
I think that “while we are still young” is now just a colloquial phrase we use to say “while we are open to change/before we get rooted down” It’s my personal opinion that if you want and accept your life changing without regret, then you can do it. It’s fatalistic to think that it’s only in youth, but i think the point is we refer to youth as “youth” because it’s a position where they are free’er than us. I’d consider you more youthful than myself who is approaching closer and closer to 30. Why? Because i can’t see a deep enough want to change myself out of my position. So you’ve got this bruh ❤️
You are so perceptive and right! I like your open minded perspective around age and change. You've made a courageous decision that must have been tough in many ways but you carried on anyway. It sounds like an exciting beginning to a new chapter in your life that will bring adventure and joy. I wish you the very best on your new journey. Joe (51!) UK.
I wondered that too at first, but then I began entertaining the thought that the old man in the park can be understood as a manifestation of the devil at the crossroads. (The thumbnail has a person standing at what appears to be a crossroad.) Carl sells his soul to the devil by giving up the personal responsibility of making his own choices. That said, in this story the “devil” isn’t evil, he’s actually good and uses unorthodox supernatural means to help Carl become more wise (I’m going to assume it was all real and not just a dream). In this interpretation, the old man is a very untraditional version of the devil. It’s so untraditional that the old man could actually turn out to be a good angel or even God himself.
@@dasMobius Interesting insight. Metaphorically, the Devil at the Crossroads / The Old man is actually himself as well. If there's someone that can hinder you, mostly it was you. We are too anxious about anything to the point we don't have clear judgement to make not the "right" decision, but the right decision for ourselves. In fact, we can never tell if it's right or wrong until the events were unfold, not until we see the consequences. I'm not a religious person, does not believe at all, however your interpretation with the old man being God is interesting. This only implies that everything that happened here happen for some reason (until it wasn't). We were forced to believe that we were tied to some sort of web, no matter what our actions, it still comes to particular set of endings. It fits the description of the old man being the Godhead as he says "Why don't you find it yourself" after being asked why did he choose that. This simply states that even Godhead wouldn't interfere with us humans, thus the concept of human will.
that title reminds me of the lyrics "the road not taken looks real good now" in the context of this video, no matter which road is taken, the other one seems more desirable
I just ended a 2.5 year dating relationship. I found that either way it went, marriage or breakup, there was no “right choice.” I hope every day that someone will come along that will provide her the life she has always wanted. Hell it could be me if things just work out... All I know is that the choice had to be made there and I made it.
Jus got out of a nearly a 4 year relationship. Coming up to 7months now I’ve had a cloud following me along. I fake being fine and all good because it’s easier. I’ve been off social media for quite some time now coming up to 8 months besides RUclips and Snapchat for my buddies. Life has been off and honestly I do want to know when does it get better. I do hope you are well boss. Not everyone will feel the feelings but a handful of us do. What a life we live. We hope that they are the right decisions & move forward.
@@DroppinGearsNotTears I just passed 1 year and I miss her tremendously. I’m doing alright, and I’ve stayed pretty busy with work, but it still hangs in the back of my mind. What if I agreed to keep going with the relationship that night? Would I be moved out of my parents house? Would I be married? Would I have put on so much weight? I don’t want to live in the hypothetical, but it sure makes you think.
I’m currently going through a similar situation. I talked to close friends, family, and even strangers for a sense of choosing which path was the right one. I listened to all kinds of answers and it just made me more unsure as the time slowly approaches for me to choose my path. Watching this video didn’t give me an answer, but made me sure that whatever path I do choose will be my choice and as I’ll love and dread it, it will be my choice and I’ll do my best and therefore knowing it will be the right choice. :)
I think it’s important to point out that the outcomes of either decision ALSO depend on the thousands of smaller choices made every day. I think those are the most important ones because no matter what the situation is, you always have the chance to pivot and make the most of the situation. We get too hung up on the big decisions and forget that we can change our lives through small decisions too
Agreed. The weird thing about the video, is that in each case, there are hundreds or thousands of decisions being made between what seem like "The Big Decisions" every single day. Those decisions, and how you view everyday life with the people around you, THAT is your life. I actually feel the video is about the opposite of what it appears to be about. The fork has many other forks and it can be endless, really, but a way of approaching life and how you react (or not, cause that's an option) to the results of either decision is what your life consists of. That approach arguably determines more of how you feel about every decision than the outcome of the decisions.
This reminds me of an advice I had for a female friend few years back. She is a fun loving gal but decided reluctantly few years ago to marry before 30 to have kid. She got kinda stressed after that, dealing with married life, kids, mother in law, less control of her own time, etc. Then she asked me (who is still a single guy) do I like being married or single? I told her both have benefits and disadvantages, although I slightly favour being single, but if I'm married, I'll appreciate and enjoy and embrace it's benefits, if I'm single, I'll also appreciate and enjoy and embrace it's benefits. We move along with the situation we are in and make the best of it. After that she felt much better. I felt that was one of the best advice I've given to someone.
The fallacy with this is that it is one binary, either/or choice in the moment. But in each intersection of life, it isn't either left or right, or straight ahead. There are endless possibilities at every junction, sometimes even when there doesn't seem to be a junction at all. Maybe he neither stayed in Boston nor moved to Australia; maybe he moved to New Hampshire, or Montreal, or San Diego, and became a welder, or a pilot, or a truck driver. Maybe he married his girlfriend and it didn't work out, or maybe she went with him and it worked out great. All I can really add, here, at this junction, 45 years old, with a lot to look back on, both good and bad, and hopefully still a lot more to look forward to, and hopefully more good than bad, is that I have never, ever regretted any decision I made to do something- even if it blew up in my face- nearly as much as I regret the decisions I left unmade, the things I never did, the avenues I wanted to explore but never did, and because the opportunity was fleeting, never will. Go. Do. You can't know whether it will work out or not. You can only find out in hindsight. You will definitely have failures, and you will definitely have regrets. But regrets are unavoidable. You're going to have regrets no matter what you do. So go. Do.
I agree with what you said, but it's not a fallacy. Practically there are infinitely many paths to choose from and the video shows just 2 of them, but the point of this video is not paths, it is choices. And tries to show the importance of making decisions and accepting the consequences.
This reminds me of my second boyfriend. We were stationed together in Germany. We knew each other when I was with my fiancée, but never let me know how he felt. When my fiancée wanted a kid, until our kid was a year old, the second boyfriend and I were together for three years. He finally said he loves me, loves the kid, but can’t imagine raising someone else’s kid. He wanted a relationship to be about him (I was 23-27, he was 27-31). I was disappointed I gave the rest of my youth and my sons early formative years to him, but I cared about him so thanked him for his honesty and we’ve kept in touch over the years. I’m now in my mid 40s and he’s in his late 40s. He found his Catholic roots and found himself a good girl from a southern family. And he got what he wanted I guess… she can’t have kids, so it’s always been about him. And he gets to support her because she’s not going to work! I feel kind of bad telling him about my life working in the woods, fighting fires, living overseas when my son was younger. He expressed envy when I got my pilot license during COVID because he started his as a teenager. He says he has to work work work to pay for retirement for him and his wife. I have regretted a lonely life as a single parent, and not being able to follow my dreams, but at least I have a fantastic son and good memories to show for it. I don’t dare ask him if he has any regrets, because that’s all I can sense when we talk.
It takes me a long time to open up to people. A lot of that stems from my early childhood and being bullied and excluded by other kids at school. As I got older, I really wanted to make friends, but I'd always be so afraid of rejection that I never tried. When I was around 15 or 16, I started pushing myself to change. I'd force myself to talk to people at lunch, in class, at grocery stores, literally anywhere. And over time, I stopped being afraid of people. I realized that there was nothing they could say or do to me that I hadn't already been through. I stopped caring as much. I'd had a crush on this girl forever, and I told myself that senior year, I'd asked her to prom. And let me tell you, it took every once of my courage to ask her out. This was my first time ever asking someone out. And I told myself over and over: 'If you don't ask her out, you'll regret it forever'. And I knew I would because we'd be graduating the next year and I knew I'd never see again. But after she said no, I thought: 'I kind of regret saying anything, because now she knows how I feel, she now she'll tell everyone she knows, and blah blah blah.' It's been a couple of years since then, and I cringe at how awkward and shy I was. It's so embarrassing. Part me feels like I made the wrong choice, but at least it was my choice, and I've grown so much because of it. If I had never done it, I wouldn't be the person I am today. Update 10/8/22: I've made even more progress since I wrote this. It still takes me a long time to open up to people but I've accepted that it's just part of who I am
It's really impressive that you overcame your fear and expressed your feelings. I get a feeling of being excluded all the time even though I don't get bullied, it's that people forget about my existence. But then I remind myself that I can control what I'm doing and I can talk to people because that's what brings me joy and makes me a little bit more confident... And other times I feel too scared and judged to talk but it's all in my head. I'm 17 btw and growing up is confusing to say the least. I hope that I can be strong enough to eventually not be so afraid of people
@@klaudiaklaudia7155 I'm also 17 and everything is going fine but sometimes I still feel left out and a weird sense of feeling. I feel like I'm so dependent on others to make me happy n all that I don't feel happy with myself.
@@harleennnnn yes, it's like when I'm with other people I can be happy but then I go home and get the feeling that something is missing... It's so hard to explain to anyone but I think we have the same feeling. At least I'm not alone :)
@@klaudiaklaudia7155 right and u know we all are growing day by day so I have hope that all this weird phase will pass and I'm trying to be the best version of myself so maybe one day all this weird sense of feeling will also pass. It's good that I'm not the only one who is feeling this. So I hope that u will achieve whatever that u want. : )
@@harleennnnn or maybe it'll never pass, we just have to figure out a way to deal with it... I wish you the best too :) wow I love that we can have a meaningful convesation even though we don't know each other at all
This made me emotional to the point of crying and wanting to throw up. It's painful and dramatic to think where your own life might or might not end up based on choices.
It's not definite If you know what exactly you wanna do then the choices that has the highest probable for your success would be suggested by you gut and through experience you would know better We all end up somewhere eventually and that doesn't change but what does is the constant ideas and interest that varies through age Ofcourse people are there living their life to being their one single idea to life and if that's what you wanna be it's never too late You define your own ends and life choices so make the ones that you won't regret later
I've been in a similar existential crisis before, and kind of refused to make a decision because I couldn't come around which one was the better choice. I've told myself that I'll make the choice when I know more, waiting for a better time. Now 20 years later, I find myself in that same situation, still having the same paradox. What I've realized is that by postponing and not choosing at all, I've still made a choice, which I regret just as much. So, there is no right choice; you just gotta choose something, stick with it and make that the right one. We gotta play the hand we're dealt with, just always do your best with it.
I’m 42 and can go back and think about different decisions I made throughout my life. Some good, some dumb, some embarrassing at the time, and everything in between. Suffered through my own personal struggles like everyone else. Then I come back to the present and my 3 month old baby boy is smiling at me and seems to think I’m a pretty funny guy. If some of that stuff led me to him then I wouldn’t change anything. Life Is certainly not easy. Sometimes it’s quite painful. My only advice I suppose is just hang in there. Try not to take yourself to seriously and just do your best. When you make mistakes just learn from them and give yourself a break and keep at it. Peace.
Summary: there is no wrong or right decision, just go with your gut feeling. Also you can only regret your decision if something goes wrong in your decision that you took, but at the same time you cant be certain of the series of events that might happen in your life if you made the other choice. So chill and cherish your decision that your heart told you to take.
I honestly broke down crying at the end of this video. I've been dealing with a sense of regret with a choice I made just less than a week prior to writing this and I lost a bunch of friends with the choice that I made. I had been fighting between which option to choose and I finally decided one. I was hurting before the decision and I feel as though I'm hurting more now, but life isn't so easy sometimes and there will be times that we have to make a choice never knowing which way it will lead us. As emotionally torn as I am right now and feeling like I'll always regret the decision I made, I don't want to admit it but in time I know that there is a fate for me and this was one of the forks in the road that I had to get by.
@@raychl3964 I am doing well, I still miss the people that I lost but my decision as well as the effects from it are part of my story. I wouldn't change anything.
when i'm in a dilemma and i cannot choose, i flip a coin, and before i look at the result, i think to myself, "what did i hope it would land on while i watched it flip in the air?" and that's my decision.
same works everytime
Yep. Works every time
Thanks for the tip
I do a very similar thing... I ask someone else to tell me what they think... And whatever i wish they would say before they say it i do
Pretty pointless coin toss then innit
When I was at the lowest point of my life my father said this to me :
"We don't make right choices.
We make choices and prove them right."
Well done, dad. Amen
But the pain, loneliness and boredom remain.
Or wrong.
Tell that to a dead heroin user or a death row inmate or impatient driver etc etc, people make bad decisions everyday that end their lives or cause suffering and misery to others, big part of human history isn't it.
"We don't make right choices.
We make choices and prove them right." - Sujata Rai's husband
One of the hardest things I've had to deal with in growing older is the reality that there are thousands of lives I could live but I'll only ever live one.
Everything everywhere all at once movie did that thing miraculously!
@@ivapolovic5488 “So, even though you have broken my heart yet again, I wanted to say, in another life, I would have really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you.” 😢
It truly is. Ive managed to sabotage my life to some degree and rather would not look into the past and think about all those possibilities of "ive could have been x, y or z" and move on with life, yet, i really dont know what i want to do with my life in the future either. I kind of feel like no matter which path i take im going to have regrets, so its hard to make any sort of decision whatsoever. Yet, i kind of feel like im definately forced to make some sort of game move, since if i spend my whole life wondering on what i should do and never progress in any direction, i think would regret that the most.
There's just this omnious feeling of me looking back one day realising i should have took another path.
That's deep!!
Well..until you decide to change ypur your path, you'll only live the life you've chosen earlier.
“Whichever you choose, there’s always something there to love and to dread”
Life changing quote
Answered so many questions in my mind with that just one mere quote
Great quote
For being only 20 minutes, this video felt like an hour.
Brilliant.
watched while mindlessly playing games, it works
Yeah, pretty boring.
Felt like 2 lifetimes to me.
@@3lit3gn0m3 dang. That's a good one
@@3lit3gn0m3 Lol nice one
It's crazy how detailed your stories are.
He’s a good writer, that’s for sure
wait so the stories aren't real?
Muntazir nigga they’re like dramas the Greeks used to do
@@yashdhikle4825 oooh ok
thats why his father magically comes back to life 5 weeks after he died. other than that loved the story
I needed to hear this today.
Same here.
Same I don’t know how but this is exactly what I needed
Yup u are not alone
Same, and I'm really grateful
SAME
At age 64, I look back and I can see that life has often been like driving through a large town, without a map, and randomly choosing when I turned left, right, continued straight, or even made a u-turn. And how different it would have been, if I had just made even the tiniest decisions differently along the way.
All of our lives are interconnected in ways we cannot even fathom. The death of just one of us can have domino effects that spread out across the world.
It’s quite a total mind-phq, if you stop and think about it.
damn
do you think anyone has a map?
And suddenly, Carl awoke, sitting drunkenly at the bench he had sat in years before, realizing he was robbed
@@RicardoRodrigues3 no, he is the old man
😂
Oh I get it XD
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Is that my long lost brother?
Edit: how dare ye change ur profile pic, youve been disowend brother
'Karl went on a walk around a city by himself moderately drunk , he walked down the edge of the city along the harbour ..................................................'
- Ah shit , here we go again
It's strange how he didn't realize the same old man three times
Ryan Fong it was supposed to be almost a dream or just a small look into the future, which is why despite Carl “aging” twice; he is still young at the end. It’s very much open to interpretation though on how he got those insights. So he didn’t actually see the old man three times
@@jasminelouise6100 ok
I didn't get this at first but 😂😂😂😂
@@jasminelouise6100 Personally, I think he did see the man three times. His time kinda loops when he sits at the bench and closes his eyes
"Successful people don't make the right choice. They make their choice right."
I Know, Right?😊
Cringe
Bruh that quote was not even in the video, and if that is so then why is it that sooo many successful people are depressed or have a lot of problems a normal person wound not have? There is still going to be a downside to your discussion.
O O if they’re depressed then they’re not really successful? Depends whether your definition of success is financial stability and a high ranking career, or happiness and satisfaction in life.
I understand that probably came off like some lame Instagram quote lol, but "Successful" doesn't mean success in the modern sense (I.e. Financial, career, impact). It means to embrace and make the most of a situation and find happiness through it all. In this video's case, Carl is damned if does and damned if he doesn't - so since his course of action doesn't guarantee his happiness, it's not on his decision, but on his willingness to accept/embrace his decision voluntarily is the "success".
This is life . No matter the choices we make there are always regrets. For me, I would rather regret missed financial opportunities than regret not spending time with my friends and family while we are all still here and healthy on this earth together.
I just want to gently suggest that it is also possible for there to be no regrets, no matter the choice.
@scrubfive I completely agree with you. Money comes and goes…it is those special people in our lives that really matter,
But sometimes something just drives you elsewhere. A passion, a relationship. The things and people you love are sometimes not in the same place and you have to make a decision.
Yes, friends and family sound great. But your family is in one place and your lifelong best friend is in another. Do you choose the family you were born into? Or the family you chose?
@@firestickkoala1371 I guess we'll never know
Storytelling is the best technique to deliver any idea. Good job POW.
Exactly. Through one of these Videos u learn more for life than any "life coach" will ever be able to teach you.
I saw POW and my brain immediately went to prisoner of war, yikes.
@@Turtle828 same
Turtle I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s mind jumped there 😂
Turtle good thing that I wasn’t the only one
This channel can not be expressed by words
It can by numbers though 9.5/10
It can, there are subtitles...
@@cesarpitruzzello6022 you didn't understand my comment I guess
Ineffable
You just did explain it by words
I showed this to my little brother and he thought that the old man was his future self.
I thought that too..
Same!
I thought the same
I thought the same
same
This video made me feel weirdly comfortable to be living my own life, just thinking about the amazing uniqueness of your life, meaning no one could live it exactly like you, and no one could ever have the exact same experiences..
"He isn't happy. But he isn't unhappy. He is a mix of both, depending on the time and day" Thank you so much for this video, The past few months I've been feeling like that, this made me realize I should stop overthinking the situation and start being more grateful for what I have.
Right. And remember new mental patterns take time to develop.
Same here!
I just watched this video and saw your comment from 8 months ago. I'm an overthinker myself so I can relate. I hope you're doing fine!
Yoou don't need to thinkk FEEL IT.
That’s the case with almost everyone, even people who look like they have perfect lives aren’t happy all the time
Why does it feel like I’m watching a horror movie whenever the scene with the old man comes up?
Same, esp with the bgm lmao
Frikin three times
It’s the music. It gets creepy.
Lmao ikr
😭😭
To the person so reading this, we don't know each other, probably never will. But I felt the need to tell you that we are going to okay. The problem you face right now is temporary, temporary because we all end the same way. New love and opportunity will present itself when you're ready for it. Keep yourself open to change. I know it hurts and the pain of your loss in completely unbearable but you're not alone. I feel it too, I'm going to be okay and so will you. Please take care of yourself. I love you.
❤️❤️❤️
You my kind commentor friend are a love-able and amazing person and deserve all the happiness you receive in this life. I hope you have a wonderful day and a wonderful life :)
Hey buddy how are you? Stranger here from Germany :)
Wow, it's weird, what I'm going through right now, your comment...fits? Works? I donno
...but it's uncanny.
Thank you brother. I wish you the same
This is like a much longer, more artistic version of the famous quote by Søren Kierkegaard: "Marry, and you'll regret it. Don't marry, you will also regret it. Marry or don't marry, you'll regret it either way." I love this video.
Kierkegaard sucked.
Can't remember the author of this poem:
When you're a spinster of 40
You're reduced to considering bids
From husbands inclined to be naughty
Or divorcees obsessed with their kids.
So perhaps you should wed in a hurry
But that has its drawbacks as well
The answer? There's no need to worry
Whatever you do life is hell
Can we just talk about how Carl single handedly made Novak's business fail.
😂
lmao xD
😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
You didn't get it. The substitute for Carl that Novak chose turned out to be rather intelligent and helped the business out when things got difficult. Carl was no worse than any other partner in the business. But in the alternate timeline, Carl's substitute was much smarter.
The business was never likely to succeed - because, statistically, businesses ARE difficult. You just get lucky.
"The child could not make a choice because he did not know what would happen, but now that he knows what will happen, he can not make a choice."
Mr Nobody
My favourite movie btw
odix glad someone else remembers this movie 💕
Great movie. A favourite. No doubt part of the inspiration for this video.
concept of free will is meaningless therefore we are committed to the belief that choice is an illusion
@@carnap355 control is a illusion. But at the same time it feels like we have it. So why should it matter that we don't actually have choice? It makes no difference if we have choice or don't have choice
This movie came into my mind the moment I read the title of this video.
"the possibilities are limited only by your imagination" -anyone who's ever done LSD
I guess not because of imagination instead because of consciousness of being present or thinking
@@Representing4II0I7 This ain't the imagination, it's visual thoughts.
@@Representing4II0I7 This ain't the imagination, it's visual thoughts.
Damnit, I am too afraid to do acid because of my traumatic history. I wish I had the balls.
@@mgal6234 do it when ure over 24 so u dont mess up your brain
When I was in my senior year, I decided to ask a bunch of people what career would be right for me. I needed guidance. They all gave me answers based on their life and their choices, they claimed I would be a good fit, disregarding my passions and dreams. I realized then that no one could make such a decision for me, despite their advices, I followed a completely different route. I am happy that I did but we need to understand that choosing one option over the other is not the end. I still make many choices and direct my course according to my values. There is never an end point to reach. Set sail and direct your course as the wind blows. Because that’s all one can do.
i am a humanities student and i freezed my seat at a university for bballb( business subjects +law) and now i feel like i shouldn’t have. i hope it wouldn’t be a torture to my brain in the upcoming year in which i have to study these subjects i’m not even a bit familiar too. i should have waited to get ballb(humanities subjects +law). i don’t know why i complicate my life so much when the easy path could also lead to the same outcome. i freezed my seat thinking subjects like maths, accounting, finance and management would help my brain foster and increase my problem solving and critical thinking abilities which i consider i don’t have much now but who cares bro i have to complete my degree with the subjects i like and score A+ in and the worst part is i can’t unfreeze. i feel like i complicate things when i don’t even intend to but i also believe that i opted for bba llb because i felt like in subjects like political science and sociology i can score 100/100 but i don’t see myself enhancing and fostering that part of my brain which would help me perform at my greatest potential in the corporate sector which i plan on to go in later. i have always put grades over knowledge and i wanted to change that. so i don’t know if i did the right thing or not
@@arukshitadeswal Hey! It seems to me you have made a choice based on a set of values you have. It doesn't have to be right or wrong. Maybe you could reach the same outcome with both degrees but you know yourself the best. If you feel like this choice will make you learn more and improve yourself, then go for it! Believe me, sometimes you might think another option would be easier but every option has its own challenges. You will beat them as they come, don't worry and focus on your growth which matters the most. I wish you all the best.
@@SirRegenerator thankyou so much
I HAD SEVEAR CHILLS when the old man said that he would choose for him the second time
Bruuuuhhh riiiiiggghhhttt 😩😩😩 I was like wait wAit wahaaaaatt?
I had to sit up for that one!
I was like "wait did i just went back in the video by accident?"
@@Josuh me too
Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved.
It is what is is. That for certain, perhaps, maybe.
@Caishen Salelius 6022 come on no its not
The problem is that the only thing to experience in life is suffering. Why would I want to keep going in this journey?
@@franacha I can only hope that you find some joy in your life, and that you keep looking. Best wishes.
Life is a journey of misery and suffering. This world is the true hell
I have literally been thinking about leaving everything behind and moving to Australia from denmark for the past few days. Who is spying on me?
Maybe it's a sign ?
@@demeta3201 ya, but at 18, its not going to be easy, and i will probably have some time pn the streets in the beginning
Gumball089 just remember that its your choice and that there is no wrong choice
Australia is a ruin. Denmark is a functional country.
@@whocares2087.1 Yeah, but i os a VERY small country, i cant get away from the people i know, i need a new start.
In situations like this, it helps to ask yourself “if I make this choice, and it ends up failing, will I still be glad I made it?” If the answer is yes, then you have your decision.
Decision making like this also depends on passion, and a lot of faith. Carl seems to lack that severely in both scenarios that played out, and only has the groundwork for it at the end. His friend offered him an opportunity. Not deciding is also a decision, and him not jumping on it after taking some time to reflect indicates he’s not that passionate about the idea to begin with. Ergo, he’s already made his decision.
Also, Carl is limiting his life into what’s possible and what’s not. Who says that’s the only opportunity for him to move to Australia? There could be a 3rd scenario where he rises high up enough in his company and asks to be transferred to Australia, and his wife is more open to it at that point. And his wife seeing him hang out with his best friend and their kids makes her change her mind and they start their own family. Boom, he gets everything he wanted then.
Right?
Also the option of moving to Australia in that moment was offered to him, meaning he didn't looked or searched for it.
I think maybe Carl was never really in control of his life.
Your first point is spot on!
@@MrCassett If you think about it, maybe it applies to all of us too? That we're molded by our surroundings to a large extent.
I guess the antidote would be frequent questioning of the status quo and not falling into compulsions.
Carl should have moved to Thailand and opened a 7-Eleven. Slipping the horns of the dilemma is usually the best path.
Literally all the point you made are good
Every person is one choice away from changing everything.
**anxiety has entered the chat**
nobody in particular ... yes I have endless choices to make even as I come to the age of 38. Choices that made me childless. Some choices seem fateful as if it wasn't meant to be. Other choices to stay when maybe I should leave. Waiting for others to change that will not change but wanting to be with them well wanting to be somewhere else with them. But they want to be where we are and not be somewhere else. Could get any degree I want paid for by the VA and which is the best degree to choose and how will it affect my needs and wants. Will I ever have a business of my own or work for somebody else. Will I get to work with kids and old people or will I find a new love interest and leave my wife. Or will I satisfy everything on my wife's honey doo list and never have any children of my own. Would it even be ethical to have children in a world of 7.8 billion people. To stay with the wife and not leave to wonder into the wilderness or move to a new country and learn to live off the land. Is it ethical to be driving a car on a road and typing on a computer or to own a smart phone and digital currency that use insane amounts of energy. It's not ethical. I know this. It's not ethical to have children. It's not ethical to use medicine. It's unethical to eat farmed foods and to domesticate animal. It's unethical to travel by any means besides our own feet. I know this ... the choice is there to walk away from the modern world and suffer to survive ... but then that is ethical. To live and die like a wild animal. It's the only pure form of living a moral life. The Life of a Human Being.
You can not fast travel while making decisions
Xanax enters chat and knocks out anxiety for a bit.
So now when you even make a simple choice like going to the bathroom before you leave, realize that could cause you to get into a fatal accident. Contemplate every little decision or die! 😈
@@jeramykennedy6813 lol!
If you’ve found your way here, i hope you’re doing alright.
thanks man
thank you ma man hope ur alright to
I am consumed by existencial dread
@@LarsMartinGihle Me too
This reminds me of something someone said to me when I was a teenager trying to figure out a problem. I don't remember what the problem was. Or who said this to me. But I've never forgotten those words. They were "Wherever you go, there you are". I didn't understand it at first. But as I grew older I realized that no matter what decisions I made, I was still there. Time didn't stop for me. Problems didn't disappear. I was still there. Wherever 'there' was. I still ponder this from time to time. This video just brought that back to me.
Carl then moved the DMT pipe away from his face.
lmao
Lmaoooooooo, i died
im dead
Lol.
😂 😂 💀
Moral of the story:
"You will never be fully satisfied with whatever decision you make in life, be content with what you have, because happiness is within yourself, not outwards. Only you can make yourself happy, not anything, nor anybody can do that for you."
It's your choice to make. You can choose to be happy with what you have (making you grateful and happy), or you can choose to hate what you have (which can make you miserable and live with the "what if" all your life).
*But that's for you to choose. You cant blame anybody because the choice is yours to stay where you at or go where you want to be.*
Thank you.
Nice
Thank you! 🙏
youjohan shinwa taikei
Ploploo
Carl is not happy but he isn't unhappy. He's a mix of both, depending on the time or day.
*Carl is me.*
Carl is all of us. That's the point. There's no such thing as a happy life or a cursed life, only life.
That's bipolar syndrome
@@lolkitchen2208 wtf?? 😒😒Kbye
Redie Bear exabior中华大病毒 what? He said its bipoler syndrome. Hes not insulting you.
@@我恨我自己 ikr
After two months of watching this, whenever I think about the tough decisions I'll have to make in the future, I recall this story and feel more confident and at ease. It has truly changed my perspective on that matter, and I am very thankful to whoever helped in making this.
Every path is the right path. Everything could've been anything else. And it would have just as much meaning.
Mr nobody
There's no right. You prove your choices right.
Best movie
I also thought exactly of that Movie.
Do I
A.) Go in a murder spree
B.) Be a normal human
Option A is the right path
@@__Pre We all will...
1) Make genuine comment and interact with you
2) Ignore stupidity
Option 2 is the right path.
" I tried so hard and got so far but in the end it doesn't even matter"
Is this Numb?🎧🎸
"in the end"
Linkin Park
@@cheekybastard1018 tom torero is that you
I think that way sometimes, but when I realize that each of us are all special beings, it does matter in the end. Cheer up; I know how you feel.
there is no wrong choice, everything is a life experience.
Well, he had two right situations to consider. He had to figure out which would be better.
Paedophilia is, I think, generally accepted to be a "wrong" choice, no?
@@swine13 generally accepted to be wrong yes. I don't think they compile a pros and cons of paedophilia though.
I hope not. If we can’t make wrong choices, how will we learn to make right ones?
I am not Sean Lock mood killer
I always go back to this video whenever I'm having trouble choosing a major decision.
"The only thing I know is that on the other side of a decision, I'm there. And if I'm there, no matter what path I go, there'll always be something to love and there'll be always something to dread." So true.
That line made my day
Me too
As a kid, I used to hate the quote “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” And whenever there was a box of truffles, I would just get the guide for which flavors were which. However that changed when one day there wasn’t a guide, and while I ravaged the box looking for one my Grandma just said, “Just pick the one you think looks best and eat it dammit.”
And to be honest, eating the truffles without a guide made them taste better. So, thank you Lola.
If only life came with a chocolate box description before you bit into it ,and decided whether you liked it or not ,or like life can be:it sends nuts to thoses without teeth lol.
lola sounds like a great name
I thank my lola too
THANK YOU!! MOW I WANT TO EAT CHOCOLATE THANX TO YOU
:-(
u a filipino
Someone once told me ”it’s better to do something and regret it than not to do something and regret it“
is that true....... i wonder :(((( /really kind of regret a decition and still wondering what i shoud do
@@editboris Don’t regret buddy.. every mistake we’ve made has to happen in order for us to learn. We are not computers that can compute every outcome. We are human, and our brains can only do so much of that, not to mention inaccurately most of the time. Plus, as I said, you had to make that choice in order to learn a lesson that could prove valuable in the future. Imagine for example.. a man starts a small business with his entire life savings. He makes one wrong choice and the business goes bankrupt. He’s broke, he’s sad, and has nothing left. He could have been making a few thousand in profits a month. He spends the next few months working a job he hates, regretting that once choice he made, but then one of his old employees offers him a job somewhere else. Through conversation and meeting people, the man embarrassedly tells an investor about his failed business venture, and how he had plans for other businesses in the future. The investor likes the bigger plans and now gives the man a fortune to invest and try again, this time with a bigger fund than ever. The man comes to a point in the business where he’s gotta make another important choice, and this time because he failed in the past, he has learnt to not make the same mistakes. He goes about it correctly, and in some time his business is bringing in six figure profits per month. If he hadn’t made the wrong choices in the past, he would have squandered that investment and lost it all. He went through failure and made a choice he regretted, but in the end, that choice did him a lot more good than if he had chosen the alternative. Instead of a few thousand per month, he’s making hundreds of thousands in profits all thanks to his mistakes.
It was said by the Butthole Surfers.
Idk...
What I took away from this: Its more important to be at peace with the choices we make than to toil over which choice was “right.” We'll never get it quite right. We'll never have enough information to make the best choice in every situation. We’re all destined to make bad choices…eventually. We always give up something when we take something else-one is not better than the other; they’re just different. In the end, it seems wisest to free yourself up to make as many different choices as you can, stay flexible, and keep moving.
This is exactly what I took from it. I feel like with a combination of a few different practices, such as right thought, right action from Buddhism, a bit of Taoism, and the idea that when faced with a fork on life's road, whichever path you take, even the one that appears more difficult and potentially like there's no way back, then it's the right decision. Also, inaction is action. The idea that we sit back and remove ourselves from the equation while being affected by it and not judging the effects seems totally alien to a lot of Western thought. Yet it's a freeing way to look at how not doing anything at all gives the universe room to make some of the damned decisions itself. It knows where it's going. So let it go there.
My life asked me to choose between this video and a gaming video, I chose this and it changed everything
Not quite.... But you almost got the message
One of my friends used to say: "Perhaps I made a wrong choice but I did what I believed to be right"
Yes. This is what we all do. We all fuck up and others look at us and might say “wtf were you thinking?” But at the end of the day, we all do what we believe was right AT THE TIME.
Every decision I’ve ever made, I made because I believed it was the right thing to do at the time. Sometimes it wasn’t. That’s where regret comes in.
So I always try to not judge people based on the choices they made in the past.
Your friend is right!
Was your friend Hitler?
So what? Your friend talks too much about nothing.
@ayla8345 at least we tried than doing nothing.
I knew someone once who prided himself on being remarkably well balanced. He was level headed and could find passion for anything and grow to appreciate it. When he was young, he was shy, and when he was shy he would write. Always doing well in school, he held a confidence in his mental capacity, but only inward. On the exterior level, he feared a lot of how he came off and constantly hoped to garner that warm, accepting approval, forming a likeable skin, then another, shedding and exchanging one for the next, when his surroundings suited him, finding what there was to appreciate but never really loving any of it. He wrote, wondering what it would be like to understand foreign and seemingly complex systems, to have another expressive outlet but too afraid to leave the unambiguous comfort of pen and paper. Never finding out how those things may be or the appreciation he would have for all he was afraid to try.
Come high school, he found himself in a group of friends that happened to fancy engineering. He forgot about writing and started to take engineering classes, enrolling in every one, and for the first time taking a proactive role in choosing electives he thought he was interested in. He followed in his friends' footsteps because although he wasn't sure he wanted to do dry, sterile math, he knew he wanted to be around them. He felt it was his choice. The pressure of that critical decision in these high school years began rearing its head; college's where, what and when had to be figured out perhaps without ever knowing why. He realized he hated engineering and happened upon law. That cycle repeated itself, with a seemingly endless meandering to and from what could only be commitments without committing to any of them. Stumbling from one subject to the next, into the guidance counselor's office where he heard her ask him the only question he'd asked himself nonstop, across the graduation ceremony stage and into community college, he searched for that answer but never found it.
With no more time to stall with generic classes, the problem plaguing his future returned and he found himself questioning what he should do, who he was with and if he enjoyed their company because it felt accepting due to their superficial common ground, or if the connection was personal. His family had always gotten by, but were perpetually burnt out and worried about things like emergency expenses, the waning likelihood of retiring at a reasonable age and most of all their son's future. Like any loving parents, they didn't want their son to worry about these things when he got older and stressed the importance of landing a good, reliable job. At this time he became incredibly enthralled in and inspired by a television show that captured him like nothing else had before. He returned to writing again, and adored the idea that one would suspend their disbelief, attaching themselves to something fictional as though it weren't. He wasn't sure he loved writing and was even less sure he liked film/television but it was something decided by him alone. In the interim between semesters, he found himself taking a tour of the film department, wearing the right skin, and enrolling in a few classes. He had never bee more scared. He found a new group to bumble into but felt less like he needed to make an effort to connect; he was already genuinely interested in most conversation topics they frequented. A year and a half later, he finished the film program there, walked along the stage, and transferred into a four year school to finish his bachelor's.
Not being pushed in any other direction, he stayed in the film major, gradually growing more comfortable with complex gear and being the center of attention once in a while. He made a few projects that while rough around the edges, he was proud of for showing something he came up with. One did well at the school film festival despite its flaws and made him a little more confident. By the time he found himself on the stage again, he didn't know much more about what he wanted to do, but found comfort in the fact that he wasn't alone as he had perceived it before. Maybe no one here knew what they wanted to do or were too afraid to do it; they all preached what they had done themselves. He realized none of them were particularly happy, yet every one of them felt they needed input on his life. They were vicariously afraid for him, seeing his meandering as floundering and desired to see him in a stable lifestyle and an ordinary job so they could look on him and say "he turned out alright." only because he had turned out like them. But he saw, most of all, that their greatest fear was being wrong, having regret and choosing based out of fear and not interest, at once understanding why most of the people in the stands viewed the lucky ones who had broken the mold and found success with the utmost admiration and envy, while making an example of the less fortunate who took the same path.
He shook the hand of the school's Dean, wondering if he had ever seen him before and found himself happier than the people he was surrounded by and expected to emulate, not because he graduated but because he didn't have that anxiety anymore. He thought about how he'd never know if making a choice was the correct decision and how we never truly know good from bad. He told his old engineering friends about what he planned to do for the future, how there was no cookie cutter path to get where he hoped he would go. "What if it doesn't work?" his friends asked him. "What if you're wrong?" He considered the very probable scenario that his friend's dad could land him a demanding yet well paying job and felt comfortable passing it up. He looked up at his friend and said "At least I'll have tried.", knowing full well he could be making a mistake now and a fool of himself later yet being overjoyed in doing so for it would be his and it would be the best mistake he ever made.
Is this a real story ?
Sounds like the opening of a great biography/ story
Omg i’m so shocked i was shaking reading this, it’s basically my story, i’m 17 and i was gonna choose to go to college to study engineering because of the pressure but then i was so scared of being unhappy in that path that i decided to get in film school and i was accepted yay (there’s more to it that made me do this of course), my classes start on March and i’m really excited and i just feel driven! I would love to know if this is a real story cause i wanna talk to that person!!
omg wtf bruh lol omg oof lmao smh
What if it's not a real story? What would it change.
I remember I was going on a walk when I randomly decided to walk in a different street. That's when I saw someone I haven't seen in a very long time. After having a conversation with him, we both went our separate ways. I thought to myself while I was walking back home "If I didn't walk down that street, I wouldn't have had that conversation with him. I wonder how many conversations I've missed and people I didn't meet because of these small decisions I make. What if I didn't choose to go a different route? What did I miss out on when I changed routes? What are some other small decisions I made in life that had a big impact like that?"
There's also this scary thought that comes to my mind very often when I'm driving and someone's with me "By simply rotating this steering wheel, I can literally end my and this person's lives in a blink of an eye. Or we can have irreversible injuries. A lot of people will come to our funeral or to the hospital to visit us. So many lives will change forever if I decide right now to simply rotate the steering wheel."
Sometimes wrong decisions end up being the most valuable choices to get us to where we need to go
I felt this on a spiritual level.
I hope so. I'm still suffering the consequences of my choices waiting on God. Hoping that I can endure this period in my life.
@@chantelltaylor4461 you can
Taking risks vs bad choices and decisions is separate. Deciding to drink alcohol and drugs then getting hooked and going into crime for example. I have made a series of bad choices my whole life. If I didn't have my loving family I would be on the streets.. If I made good choices my life would be completely different and better off. So if you have the option to make a good choice vs bad. I would go with the good always. However I would have not learned this without making those bad choices first.
@@chantelltaylor4461 any update?
Its funny how every decision you’ve made in life led you to my comment
It's funny how every decision you've made in your life lead you to reading my reply.
haha XD
Damn
@@supercomputer0448 it is funny how every decision today, led me to waste my time answering you at 01.40 am. Beep boop beep.
This is the only meaningful thing in my life
When I was 14, I ran away from my dad & stepmoms house to live with my real mom who lived a city away. Between that time & now alot has changed for me & my sister. She has 3 kids, I have 1 on the way. I randomly get the feeling every now & then that if I would have never ran away alot of things could/would be different. My choice to run away led to all kinds of changes. My sister would have never met her children's father, who passed away in 2010. I probably would have never met my gf who is my soon to be wife. My life has been a movie so far. Anyways just thought I'd share a little piece of my life story with all of you.
Amazing! Id love to hear even more if you don't mind : )
Thanks for sharing your story
@@fantasi4037 too much to put into words that I don't even know where to begin. I just know my runaway has caused alot of changes in people's lives around me. I hope I'm not sounding selfish by saying that but I feel like it's TRUE. If I never had runaway, my sister would have never met her late bf. I would have never met my future wife. My brothers & sisters lifes would probably have been different since when I came back in the picture it brought all my brothers & sisters closer again. My mom has 9 kids. Before I started living with my mom again, everyone was distant living in different parts of the city. When me & my sister came back in the picture people started coming around, most started even living with my mom. If you really wanted to hear my lifes story I would have to tell u in person. It's too complicated to put it all in text form. I just hope me running away was the right decision. I sometimes wonder what life would be like if I'd never have ran away. Would I be more successful? Would I have killed myself if I continued to live with my dad & evil stepmom? Idk. All I know is I'm happy that I did runaway. Because I'm having a baby girl on the way. & right now she is my everything. Hope you all have a wonderful blessed day.
@@genesis11am Such a story.. the fact that you ran away and changed so much is just, its amazing.
But let me ask you this, what made you make that choice that you did when you ran away? How did you even know it was the right decision to make in that moment?
are you mr nobody?
I am crying my eyes out... this is exactly what i am going through right now. i guess the reason why i keep on going back and forth in making the decision is that i am so desperate to make the right choice that will make me ultimately happy. I am scared that if i take on this amazing opportunity that entails me leaving everything behind even foregoing my responsibilities to my family, i would somehow still end up being miserable. I have been dreaming for so long of moving to another country that i make myself believe i will be content once i move out and live the way i want to. but as you grow older, you know that's not how life is. Perhaps i should stop romanticizing this path as the happily ever after route.
"no matter what path i go, there will always be something to love and there's always be something to dread." This is the real world.
Thank you so much for this :')
I am also making this decision but I have a lot of time to make it. I feel this video found me at the perfect time and even though it doesn’t tell you what decision to make, I feel I now know what one is more true to me. I hope your choice is going well and if it isn’t, you never know how bad the other option would have been.
I feel this way too. It’s overwhelming, but I find it’s best to meditate every now and then and try to get in touch with your inner child, and understand what it really is that you want. For you, regardless of how peoples opinions have shifted your judgements. And then when you’re done meditating, come back to where you are now, and compare what you desire to where your path has led you.. it should help give you some sense of direction, and hope
As a person that moved from the UK to Canada sherely and surely at the freedom to be my fullest self with utmost passion, never feel iit's too late. The choices and plans you're able to make to fulfil your dreams, can ultimately help in the success of that dream, considering unpredictable variables also. It's the faith that no matter what hurdles, you'll make it t:)
Hello,, i hope you're doing okay now! I hope everything is good, i hope you made choices and they now are right. Youre amazing, and bright! I hope your life becomes so happy to the point, u forget meaning of Being sad haha,, random person from internet! ❤️💭
What did you choose
I love how your vidoes make me expand my perspective. They are not positive nor negative, but just full of thought. They make you think of things you would not think about otherwise. And oddly enough, they help me.
This video in particular helped me easen the burden of the choice I need to make in life at the moment. Thank you for making such wonderful content.
i think about stuff like this....i feel many people dont think like this....ii have a tattoo that says "life is about choices"
This is actually called the crossroads and to come to the crossroads u need a crisis it is very difficult to find a door into the labyrinth without a crisis. It's also known as the Hanged Man Tarot card which u can see allover Google if u look it up . It means initiation is inverted ..
In the Fallen World we are in the world of Time and winning to enter into the labyrinth u have to lose and throw down ,become inverted as the spiritual world Time does not exist . To get in u have to lose!!!!!!
I found a way in by being in a crisis I was offered 2 choices , I maintained control chose neither but chose the spiritual path which than led me to have visions and start my initiation which spirit led me too . Culminating 15 years later in me making contact with my HGA my Holy Guardian Angel and having k and C knowledge and conversation as per the religion Thelema I'll leave a link. I used altered states to do it .
If u can't have ure own crisis a coven or order will start one for u thru symbols and rituals. . The end result is I found my True Will and now I'm on a current but it was brutally hard path
In the Fallen World most worship and perform for mortals . Spiirt holds Time and Death we are only to worship spirit and spirit will guide us thru visions, dreams, magick will happen to u to guide u on ure quest . Again if ure at a point of crisis u are lucky if u can maintain control and pick the higher path spiritually, u will be guideded into the labyrinth and there ure quest will begin. We are mostly in beta and alpha brainwaves to get in u need to hit into theta brainwaves which only children are in . Theta can be reached by drumming, trance , dance etc thru that u can work ure initiation.
To get into the kingdom of heaven we must be like little children , Christ wasn't talking about being like a child he was talking about being in theta
Job!!!! There is a path which no fowl knoweth and which the Hawks eye hath not seen
“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams
Eye opening.
Read the power of now! By Eckhart tolle
Is it not also imagination?
😱
I like him almost as much as South Carolina Johnson.
_"Should I Stay or Should I Go" starts playing_
It'd be easier I know. I can't feel a thing from my head down to my toes.
They should play that the whole time he is talking to the old man. Like full volume blast so you can't even hear them talk.
Now it's stuck in my head.
God fucking damn it, do you know how hard that song was to get out of my head after listening to it, then listening to it again while watching stranger things...
This song is gonna haunt me for the rest of my life lmao
This song is literally my life's Rick Roll
“Life doesn’t come with a purpose. Never has. You’re the one who gives your life purpose.”
God gives u the purpose
Did you really just leave us on the best cliffhanger of all time.
No, I know how it ends.
Carl looks at the man and sheds a tear, the man asks,”well....which is it?”
Carl slowly opens his mouth and responds,”neither”
The old man looks in confusion,”excuse me..?”
Carl pulls out a glock and says,”nothing will work out, I’ll just be wasting my life, so why do it, why live...” Carl proceeds to put the gun to his head and blows his brains out
@@cheesymac6732 boo
You missed the whole point of this video if youre asking what he chose, it doesnt matter
@@Smokeymkd00912 just like Inception's end, everybody asked for the answer, was that a dream or not? So many people didnt realise that it doesn't matter whether it was a dream or reality. To Cobb, that was his reality which he was happy in.
Even Nolan confirmed this himself in a speech in Princeton University.
I am starting to think that the RUclips algorithm is trying to kill me.
Lol😂
😆 LOL....hopefully not.
This one was a bit too dreary..
Honesty me too. It's keeping me stuck in one spot
Or that I'm consciously and subconsciously speaking with a panopticon and cannot tell whether I'm being lead or leading myself to the videos that tell me things I have long felt and not been able to articulate.
"Do it or dont do it, you'll regret both" that's the message i take from this video
I thought that too for a bit but that's too depressing. More like pick something and live with it. Never wrong
It wounds negitive but that's what I got from it too. Thinking back to the major desictions in my life I've made, I almost feel like I regret them all. I'm certain there are some I'm glad I made, but the ones that come to mind first are the "wrong" ones. Is it that when you make the right desicion, you take it for granted? You never think back years later and have regret?
The way I see it as that if you're truly on the fence about something, and you're so close to just upping and starting fresh, it's always worth the risk. Worst case scenario, you end up feeling the same thing once again, but with the experience.
I took the moral to be that there is not a right or wrong choice, each will have their problems and regrets. All you can do is choose one for yourself, that way you can regret your own decision instead of someone elses.
Michael Scott I like that Michael, that’s a good way to look at things.
i believe that you should be happy with what you have and worked for. no one is going to be happy on their deathbed or in their last moments unless you believe in an afterlife in which case you are alright with it but it’s still a scary thing. be happy with what you have in that moment and try your best to keep your spirits up. we came into this world with nothing and that is how we will leave it.
I'm currently living in Japan, and was given an opportunity to work at a university in Istanbul (a city I visited and really enjoyed). It literally took me two months to decide, but ultimately chose to stay here due to a variety of factors. I do questions if it was the right move, but then again, I'm sure I would have questioned it if I had decided to move.
Fantastic video. I wish I had discovered it two months ago.
quite interesting how the old man says "might get robbed or something", i took that as the man warning him about robbing him of his life.
it's as though he's like a symbol of knowledge or had the same thing happen at the same bench years before.
Dudeeeeee
deep
The old man is the knowledge of what would happen either way, and that knowledge being revealed to Carl basically eliminates his free will.
i took it as he might acutally get robbed
So deeep ughhh go deeper
If you make a difficult choice, do it with your whole heart.
And what if your heart is in both choices?
@@Anonymous38572 Then, there is a chance that you're either be fine with or regret both of them. It depends on how you'll see it.
Moral of the story: Getting drunk and starting to drift around the city at 2 am will solve all your problems.
The sailors wisdom indeed.
This just got me 😂😂
😂
🤣🤣🤣
Only for men tf
A choice made by another person for you will always be wrong. If you, yourself, make the wrong choice, your sense of responsibility can help you get out of it. But if you let others do it and it goes awry, it traps you in cycles of blame that ultimately locks you in a miserable life. Great video!
This!!! This the essence of this story!! ❤
It's funny, I'm in a similar situation as Carl. And when the old man said "you're staying" I immediately knew that I would NOT be staying. So I guess I have decided now...
Good luck then
@@thejuicymop8128 thank you 🙏
@@OneMeInMyself ur welcome
@@OneMeInMyself I hope you doing good
How did it go?
The old man was himself that went back in time to try to help himself and he knew that it would take 3 time loops before he was able to exit with the right choice.
Dark
I think it was just his mind and his way of making a content decision. Bc I have something similar in my life that I have already decided on and the first time the old man approached I was like damn this is like me except the old man was just in my head.
I thought the same, that when he was old he would come back and tell himself
No, I think the old man didnt actually exist, and is just his mind, I mean it is implied when he gets up and the old man is just gone.
The thing is... there's infinite loops. Whatever choice he made, there's then another choice later that can affect it all. Maybe the best choice was not to make it such a binary decision to begin with.
This is literally my life right now. 27, sitting on the couch, staring at the ceiling, trying to decide should i or shouldnt i move to another city, leave everthing behind and start fresh.
Tell me something about the situation and I'll tell you what to choose
Reprogramming your mind is must.
Before you can change your external
i do not know you nor your situation, but assuming that you have a roof over your head, food in your fridge, and at least $1,000 to your name... as long as you do n't have severe limitations, be legal or personal, that will restrict your ability to move away from your city, you should leave everything and move to another city! (if you don't like your current city). Reason i say this is because one day you won't be as young as 27 and won't have the freedom to pick up your bags and start your life somwehere else. you might have more responsiblities, or just a different life situation that may not allow you to have the freedom to do somethingn like this if you want to (in the future). If there is a part of you that wants to and has wanted to for some time now, then jump. Who knows what tomorrow may bring. You are alive today because the universe chose to keep you alive, and one day we'll all be gone. Long story short, if you don't like your city, move, see what being naked in the world feels like. Take that jump. Make that leap. You don' tknow what's on the other side until you do it.
Much love from the Bay area to you and everyone reading this,
P. S.
Same here just 25
You could get robbed or something sleeping out here
I've listened to this one many times. Played it to other people too. And everytime without fail for my self and for the person I'm introducing it to, are absolutely blown away by the story. The flow, timing and narration make it all that much better too
Thank you Persuit of Wonder
_"Everyone has a choice to make; no one has the right to take those choice away from us. Not even out of love."_
*~ Cassandra Clare*
In this case both choices didn't make him happy
@@ferxanixoxo3088 that's not the point dude
@@birleacosmin7838 im just sayinggggg jeez
@@ferxanixoxo3088 oo okay=)) sorry
@@ferxanixoxo3088 still no point
Wow its strangely coincidental how much I needed this at this point in my life
I think it's not coincidental
SAME
Everything that happens to you is the universe trying to make you more conscious of life.
@@vesicapiscis9717 I'm reading your comment at 4:00 am.
And that which you saying is the same thing I told someone last evening.
I thought the old man was just himself, knowing both outcomes.
Nauzet 1387 same
Thats a concept thats been ingrained into the collective psyche
@@rolandhatton2668 huh
@@samuelbrott that premise has been done in many ways
He was...
I watch and follow a ton of philosophical, spiritual, historical, and universe/scientific channels and I have been in a constant search of answers. In a way, this video has brought me more comfort than I’ve had from any of the above in years. Thanks!
One of the greatest things I've ever heard is: damned if you do, damned if you don't.
You ought to get out more.
is that a j cole lyric lol
Thats what i have been saying the past few days. Without our health we have nothing, follow your gut, not money, and god would never give us anything we cant handle. So glad you said these words. Thank you. 💃
butters getting philosophical
@@ratrad1597 No wtf
I remembered my friend once told me: "We decide the roads, but the roads we choose decide our destiny."
Im 46 and after 21 years at the good/reasonable IT job, I had a break down. I’d convinced myself my job was who I was since I excelled at it, got promoted multiple times and got paid really well for it, that was until I was calling the suicide prevention hotline one night. I got therapy and I’m better now.I found out what I’ve been doing for 21 years wasn’t who I was. Im still in love with the woman I married 22 years ago and my kids are amazing. You aren’t what you do. My job is something I do, but who I am is an artist. So, I create art and design things I love because my life depends on it.
Are you sure you're not just a replicant? Lol
RA. STAR I’m a nexus 6, so we don’t deal well with emotions :).
Good for you king Slay. You're a Chad in my heart!
You're a great artist already since you have great wife and two amazing children. Thanks for sharing your experience and advise🙆♂️ I was lost and confused for a week before the big decision. You saved me.
I am exactly 46 now. I have a wonderful family but face a difficult decision. I realised that it does not matter what I will chose. Important is only to live the outcome with a smile on my face and fully assume the decision. Enjoy life, that's all there is to it. There is no meaning as a meaning. And no limitation as limitation. 🙏
At 27 Carl felt an urge to leave home and forge a life for himself “while he was still young.”
Sigh, it’s this kind of thinking that sucks all hope away for those who are older, like every risk you take has to be when you’re young.
I’m 49, I don’t see myself as old, and I made a radical, life changing decision over a year ago.
I’m currently selling everything I have, 25 years worth of my life, and I will soon be moving across the country and starting a new life. I am pursuing a dream and I left a relationship of 14 years that, though financially secure, was toxic. Being yelled at every day by a man who saw the worst in me was not the life I had envisioned for myself.
I am teaching myself 2 other languages and preparing to go back to school and train for a new career.
It is NEVER too late, you can always take risks and make radical changes and you don’t have to be “young” to do it (although people older than me applaud me for my move saying I’m “still young enough” to make such a change, and that makes me sad; it shows this attitude that youth is a requirement of change is one held by all age groups).
I have my whole life ahead of me, I have zero regrets and I can’t wait to start a happier and more prosperous life with my 2 dogs on the east coast.
Yes, it was a little more complex - I owned a home with my ex and couldn’t just hop in a car and leave, I had to wait to get bought out for my half of the house, plus I had decades of accumulated stuff I had to part with. I’m leaving with my dogs and whatever belongings will fit into my car, that’s it. It has been freeing to sell, donate, recycle and throw away decades of unnecessary purchases. The only things I am taking with me will fit into my small car. I’m also letting go of friendships with those who don’t encourage and support me. You really find out who your true friends are when you make a major change in your life.
You can always make radical, positive changes, at any age, as long as you have your mind and your dreams. Don’t stay in that secure but horrible relationship with someone who no longer loves you, treasures you or gets you, don’t stay in that high paying but stressful job. You can change at any age.
At 72, 28 years after becoming a paraplegic and initially spending a year in physical therapy to be able to walk with crutches, I got on a plane and flew to a country on the other side of the planet which I had never been to. For me, it wasn't much effort to give up my settled life in the US to finish my years in the Philippines. I got on that plane enthusiastically with absolutely no hesitation and I have been here for six years now. I don't expect to ever go back. Life is life, but don't forget the element of adventure and meeting new people. I am happy now in the tropical sun in my second life, riding my small motorcycle around every day. "Dare to do it" is my advice!
Your story is very inspiring. Hope you are still happy with your decision!
thank you for sharing.
I think that “while we are still young” is now just a colloquial phrase we use to say “while we are open to change/before we get rooted down”
It’s my personal opinion that if you want and accept your life changing without regret, then you can do it.
It’s fatalistic to think that it’s only in youth, but i think the point is we refer to youth as “youth” because it’s a position where they are free’er than us.
I’d consider you more youthful than myself who is approaching closer and closer to 30. Why? Because i can’t see a deep enough want to change myself out of my position.
So you’ve got this bruh ❤️
You are so perceptive and right! I like your open minded perspective around age and change. You've made a courageous decision that must have been tough in many ways but you carried on anyway. It sounds like an exciting beginning to a new chapter in your life that will bring adventure and joy. I wish you the very best on your new journey. Joe (51!) UK.
The old man has to be Carl. I'm calling it now.
Carl is the narrator and runs this very channel. This literally happened to him. Calling it now.
@@prakash_77 Damn this dude must be older than he sounds then
The old man is actually Carl.
I wondered that too at first, but then I began entertaining the thought that the old man in the park can be understood as a manifestation of the devil at the crossroads. (The thumbnail has a person standing at what appears to be a crossroad.) Carl sells his soul to the devil by giving up the personal responsibility of making his own choices.
That said, in this story the “devil” isn’t evil, he’s actually good and uses unorthodox supernatural means to help Carl become more wise (I’m going to assume it was all real and not just a dream). In this interpretation, the old man is a very untraditional version of the devil. It’s so untraditional that the old man could actually turn out to be a good angel or even God himself.
@@dasMobius Interesting insight. Metaphorically, the Devil at the Crossroads / The Old man is actually himself as well. If there's someone that can hinder you, mostly it was you. We are too anxious about anything to the point we don't have clear judgement to make not the "right" decision, but the right decision for ourselves. In fact, we can never tell if it's right or wrong until the events were unfold, not until we see the consequences.
I'm not a religious person, does not believe at all, however your interpretation with the old man being God is interesting. This only implies that everything that happened here happen for some reason (until it wasn't). We were forced to believe that we were tied to some sort of web, no matter what our actions, it still comes to particular set of endings. It fits the description of the old man being the Godhead as he says "Why don't you find it yourself" after being asked why did he choose that. This simply states that even Godhead wouldn't interfere with us humans, thus the concept of human will.
it sounds like i need to get drunk somewhere an wait for an old man.
or maybe smoke something that will make the old man appear
Why would you need the old man,,,
wear a buttplug
And why can’t it be an old woman you evil misogynist?
@@Gaggerlotion well shii. Tbh I'd much rather listen to an old lady. They seem too know so much more
This reminds me of the poem _The Road Not Taken_ by Robert Frost.
We had that poem for the exams lmao
@@ap7744 We had that last year XD
Ted
when that poem was originally written as a joke
that title reminds me of the lyrics "the road not taken looks real good now"
in the context of this video, no matter which road is taken, the other one seems more desirable
This is beautiful,"there's no right choice".
I just ended a 2.5 year dating relationship. I found that either way it went, marriage or breakup, there was no “right choice.” I hope every day that someone will come along that will provide her the life she has always wanted. Hell it could be me if things just work out... All I know is that the choice had to be made there and I made it.
I hope things will work out well for you , it's hard to make such a decision knowing that the reason behind it is out of your control :(
time will tell brother 💯 update ?
@@geekinvibe it’s still rough. I’ve gone on a few dates and they just weren’t close to right
Jus got out of a nearly a 4 year relationship. Coming up to 7months now I’ve had a cloud following me along. I fake being fine and all good because it’s easier. I’ve been off social media for quite some time now coming up to 8 months besides RUclips and Snapchat for my buddies. Life has been off and honestly I do want to know when does it get better. I do hope you are well boss. Not everyone will feel the feelings but a handful of us do. What a life we live. We hope that they are the right decisions & move forward.
@@DroppinGearsNotTears I just passed 1 year and I miss her tremendously. I’m doing alright, and I’ve stayed pretty busy with work, but it still hangs in the back of my mind. What if I agreed to keep going with the relationship that night? Would I be moved out of my parents house? Would I be married? Would I have put on so much weight?
I don’t want to live in the hypothetical, but it sure makes you think.
I’m currently going through a similar situation. I talked to close friends, family, and even strangers for a sense of choosing which path was the right one. I listened to all kinds of answers and it just made me more unsure as the time slowly approaches for me to choose my path. Watching this video didn’t give me an answer, but made me sure that whatever path I do choose will be my choice and as I’ll love and dread it, it will be my choice and I’ll do my best and therefore knowing it will be the right choice. :)
so what did you decide
What happened?
Happens to everyone you know, first one being the subjects to study & pursue for normal people
One of the best videos I've ever watched.
Yea
I think it’s important to point out that the outcomes of either decision ALSO depend on the thousands of smaller choices made every day. I think those are the most important ones because no matter what the situation is, you always have the chance to pivot and make the most of the situation. We get too hung up on the big decisions and forget that we can change our lives through small decisions too
Agreed. The weird thing about the video, is that in each case, there are hundreds or thousands of decisions being made between what seem like "The Big Decisions" every single day. Those decisions, and how you view everyday life with the people around you, THAT is your life. I actually feel the video is about the opposite of what it appears to be about. The fork has many other forks and it can be endless, really, but a way of approaching life and how you react (or not, cause that's an option) to the results of either decision is what your life consists of. That approach arguably determines more of how you feel about every decision than the outcome of the decisions.
@@WoodsUlmannwell said
This reminds me of an advice I had for a female friend few years back. She is a fun loving gal but decided reluctantly few years ago to marry before 30 to have kid. She got kinda stressed after that, dealing with married life, kids, mother in law, less control of her own time, etc. Then she asked me (who is still a single guy) do I like being married or single? I told her both have benefits and disadvantages, although I slightly favour being single, but if I'm married, I'll appreciate and enjoy and embrace it's benefits, if I'm single, I'll also appreciate and enjoy and embrace it's benefits. We move along with the situation we are in and make the best of it. After that she felt much better. I felt that was one of the best advice I've given to someone.
love that :)
cool.
Wow
good move
Can we just take a moment to appreciate how deep and moving these stories are
....no.
😠
The fallacy with this is that it is one binary, either/or choice in the moment. But in each intersection of life, it isn't either left or right, or straight ahead. There are endless possibilities at every junction, sometimes even when there doesn't seem to be a junction at all. Maybe he neither stayed in Boston nor moved to Australia; maybe he moved to New Hampshire, or Montreal, or San Diego, and became a welder, or a pilot, or a truck driver. Maybe he married his girlfriend and it didn't work out, or maybe she went with him and it worked out great.
All I can really add, here, at this junction, 45 years old, with a lot to look back on, both good and bad, and hopefully still a lot more to look forward to, and hopefully more good than bad, is that I have never, ever regretted any decision I made to do something- even if it blew up in my face- nearly as much as I regret the decisions I left unmade, the things I never did, the avenues I wanted to explore but never did, and because the opportunity was fleeting, never will.
Go. Do. You can't know whether it will work out or not. You can only find out in hindsight. You will definitely have failures, and you will definitely have regrets. But regrets are unavoidable. You're going to have regrets no matter what you do. So go. Do.
penguinsscareme agreed. At 40, I feel the same way.
Thank you.
thank you.
It’s not a fallacy it’s a story with a set storyline
I agree with what you said, but it's not a fallacy. Practically there are infinitely many paths to choose from and the video shows just 2 of them, but the point of this video is not paths, it is choices. And tries to show the importance of making decisions and accepting the consequences.
This reminds me of my second boyfriend. We were stationed together in Germany.
We knew each other when I was with my fiancée, but never let me know how he felt.
When my fiancée wanted a kid, until our kid was a year old, the second boyfriend and I were together for three years.
He finally said he loves me, loves the kid, but can’t imagine raising someone else’s kid. He wanted a relationship to be about him (I was 23-27, he was 27-31).
I was disappointed I gave the rest of my youth and my sons early formative years to him, but I cared about him so thanked him for his honesty and we’ve kept in touch over the years.
I’m now in my mid 40s and he’s in his late 40s.
He found his Catholic roots and found himself a good girl from a southern family.
And he got what he wanted I guess… she can’t have kids, so it’s always been about him. And he gets to support her because she’s not going to work!
I feel kind of bad telling him about my life working in the woods, fighting fires, living overseas when my son was younger.
He expressed envy when I got my pilot license during COVID because he started his as a teenager. He says he has to work work work to pay for retirement for him and his wife.
I have regretted a lonely life as a single parent, and not being able to follow my dreams, but at least I have a fantastic son and good memories to show for it.
I don’t dare ask him if he has any regrets, because that’s all I can sense when we talk.
It takes me a long time to open up to people. A lot of that stems from my early childhood and being bullied and excluded by other kids at school. As I got older, I really wanted to make friends, but I'd always be so afraid of rejection that I never tried.
When I was around 15 or 16, I started pushing myself to change. I'd force myself to talk to people at lunch, in class, at grocery stores, literally anywhere. And over time, I stopped being afraid of people. I realized that there was nothing they could say or do to me that I hadn't already been through. I stopped caring as much.
I'd had a crush on this girl forever, and I told myself that senior year, I'd asked her to prom. And let me tell you, it took every once of my courage to ask her out. This was my first time ever asking someone out. And I told myself over and over: 'If you don't ask her out, you'll regret it forever'. And I knew I would because we'd be graduating the next year and I knew I'd never see again. But after she said no, I thought: 'I kind of regret saying anything, because now she knows how I feel, she now she'll tell everyone she knows, and blah blah blah.' It's been a couple of years since then, and I cringe at how awkward and shy I was. It's so embarrassing. Part me feels like I made the wrong choice, but at least it was my choice, and I've grown so much because of it. If I had never done it, I wouldn't be the person I am today.
Update 10/8/22: I've made even more progress since I wrote this. It still takes me a long time to open up to people but I've accepted that it's just part of who I am
It's really impressive that you overcame your fear and expressed your feelings. I get a feeling of being excluded all the time even though I don't get bullied, it's that people forget about my existence. But then I remind myself that I can control what I'm doing and I can talk to people because that's what brings me joy and makes me a little bit more confident... And other times I feel too scared and judged to talk but it's all in my head. I'm 17 btw and growing up is confusing to say the least. I hope that I can be strong enough to eventually not be so afraid of people
@@klaudiaklaudia7155 I'm also 17 and everything is going fine but sometimes I still feel left out and a weird sense of feeling. I feel like I'm so dependent on others to make me happy n all that I don't feel happy with myself.
@@harleennnnn yes, it's like when I'm with other people I can be happy but then I go home and get the feeling that something is missing... It's so hard to explain to anyone but I think we have the same feeling. At least I'm not alone :)
@@klaudiaklaudia7155 right and u know we all are growing day by day so I have hope that all this weird phase will pass and I'm trying to be the best version of myself so maybe one day all this weird sense of feeling will also pass. It's good that I'm not the only one who is feeling this. So I hope that u will achieve whatever that u want. : )
@@harleennnnn or maybe it'll never pass, we just have to figure out a way to deal with it... I wish you the best too :) wow I love that we can have a meaningful convesation even though we don't know each other at all
I like how the clock said "Now" on every hour.
Nice man!
This made me emotional to the point of crying and wanting to throw up. It's painful and dramatic to think where your own life might or might not end up based on choices.
It's not definite
If you know what exactly you wanna do then the choices that has the highest probable for your success would be suggested by you gut and through experience you would know better
We all end up somewhere eventually and that doesn't change but what does is the constant ideas and interest that varies through age
Ofcourse people are there living their life to being their one single idea to life and if that's what you wanna be it's never too late
You define your own ends and life choices so make the ones that you won't regret later
Achieving your dream at the cost of everything is not worth it if you don’t have the people you love to share it with.
*20 minute video*
People 2 minutes after posting "These videos are great, keep it up!!"
Bruh
i watch yt on 2 speed whats ur problem
They allready know the video is gonna be good
🤣🤣🤣
they're supporting the channel, nothing wrong there
Furst!
16:05 “The worst part wasn’t even that his life was bad or good, but that in this moment, it almost felt that it wasn’t even his to regret...” wow
I've been in a similar existential crisis before, and kind of refused to make a decision because I couldn't come around which one was the better choice. I've told myself that I'll make the choice when I know more, waiting for a better time. Now 20 years later, I find myself in that same situation, still having the same paradox. What I've realized is that by postponing and not choosing at all, I've still made a choice, which I regret just as much. So, there is no right choice; you just gotta choose something, stick with it and make that the right one. We gotta play the hand we're dealt with, just always do your best with it.
Wise words.
I’m 42 and can go back and think about different decisions I made throughout my life. Some good, some dumb, some embarrassing at the time, and everything in between. Suffered through my own personal struggles like everyone else.
Then I come back to the present and my 3 month old baby boy is smiling at me and seems to think I’m a pretty funny guy. If some of that stuff led me to him then I wouldn’t change anything. Life Is certainly not easy. Sometimes it’s quite painful. My only advice I suppose is just hang in there. Try not to take yourself to seriously and just do your best. When you make mistakes just learn from them and give yourself a break and keep at it. Peace.
life is so easy ... we just continue to make it difficult not easy
@@UnlimitlesslyFunnyDude
I agree. For the most part we make it more difficult
@@tomd1434 its just our perception of feeling hard and easy,
things are not actually hard or easy they are just physical static/kinetic bodies
For the longest time, I always let others decide the littlest things. I feel that now, I've been awakened. It's time I learn to choose for myself.
Uncertainty seems to be the key with a universe of outcomes, but living for the moment at all times. What a great story!
Summary: there is no wrong or right decision, just go with your gut feeling.
Also you can only regret your decision if something goes wrong in your decision that you took, but at the same time you cant be certain of the series of events that might happen in your life if you made the other choice.
So chill and cherish your decision that your heart told you to take.
Before watching this video I was feeling really lost and weirdly insecure about myself. It really helped me change my perspective. Thank you xx
I honestly broke down crying at the end of this video. I've been dealing with a sense of regret with a choice I made just less than a week prior to writing this and I lost a bunch of friends with the choice that I made. I had been fighting between which option to choose and I finally decided one. I was hurting before the decision and I feel as though I'm hurting more now, but life isn't so easy sometimes and there will be times that we have to make a choice never knowing which way it will lead us. As emotionally torn as I am right now and feeling like I'll always regret the decision I made, I don't want to admit it but in time I know that there is a fate for me and this was one of the forks in the road that I had to get by.
What happened if you don’t mind me asking mate? Here for you if you want someone to hear you out. ❤️❤️And if not I still wish you the best.
@@vincentyou266 it's a long and somewhat personal story, not something I would prefer to write in the public youtube comments.
@@nicksmindfultips is there somewhere you be okay with telling me?
@@raychl3964 I am doing well, I still miss the people that I lost but my decision as well as the effects from it are part of my story. I wouldn't change anything.
@@nicksmindfultips that's good to hear you're doing well (: