The Absurd Mindset That Changes Everything
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In this short fiction story, we follow a young couple moving half-way across the country to try to find excitement and purpose in life. When they arrive, however, they find themselves in a strange situation with a neighbor that changes everything.
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ngl the first half sounded like we were getting walked into a horror story lmao
this story does resembles a horror movie, its called vivarium
Exactly what I was thinking.
The music would need to be different, but the story could be word-for-word the same.
It made me think of Vivarium too !
Facts, I was waiting for a face to pop up lol
“Wherever you go, there you are”
😅
"If you lived here, you'd be home by now."?
This is lovely 💘
Isn't that from Teddy Pendergrass? His song You Can't Hide From Yourself is really good. Very introspective as well.
This is the biggest issue with my life. That wherever I go, there I am. I tried for so many years to get away from me. Money, drugs, careers, relationships, religion. I can't escape me. It's a curse. So instead of running, I'm trying to be someone that I don't want to run from. I want to be better, to be someone I want to spend time with.
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
― Rumi
Yeah, just image if our wisdom could match our ingenuity, world would be quite a bit better place.
"Conquer yourself rather than the world" -Descartes
After reaching one of the lowest points in my life, this channel has been a source of hope and peace for me.
I'm glad there's still some form of humanity amongst the chaos found in social media
Same. This channel and my doggo ❤️
Same 🙏
Awesome Comment 💝💝💝💝💝💝
This is also how my story goes ❤
You are loved.
Rather than just accepting, what I learned is that you have to also appreciate what's right in front of you including the simple things. It's the small details that actually matter.
Exactly. Acceptance and gratitude ❤
I agree inner piece will make you much happier than envy and revenge ever will.
Couldn't have said it better
Any cope is good I guess
Like breathing thru your nose not a stomA
“The struggle itself towards the heights is enough to fill a man's heart. One must imagine Sisyphus happy.”
-Albert camus
I like Camus, but Myth of Sisyphus is one of the most stupid things I ever read. How can Sisyphus be happy if he is not mentally ill?
@@Anelipka exactly
I have never looked into Sisyphus, but I find it easy for him to be happy. All it takes is being unaware. If he does not know it's a punishment, and simply sees this as his task, his goal, what he must do, why wouldn't he work on it happily?
Sisyphus was condemned by the gods to roll a boulder up a hill for eternity, only to watch it roll back down every time he reached the top. How did he cope with this endless and futile task?
Perhaps, at first, he had hope. He believed that next time would be different, that he could overcome his punishment and defy the gods. He strained his muscles and his will, pushing the boulder with all his might. But every time he failed, he felt a crushing weight on his chest, heavier than the boulder itself. He was filled with despair and anger, cursing his fate and the gods who inflicted it.
But then, something changed. He stopped caring so much about the outcome. He realized that the boulder was not his enemy, but his companion. He learned to appreciate the challenge of rolling it up the hill, the variety of the terrain, the skill and strength he developed. He even started to notice the other souls in the underworld, who were also suffering their own torments. He felt a sense of camaraderie with them, and sometimes even a spark of humor.
And suddenly, he was not so miserable anymore. He found a way to enjoy himself in his absurd situation, to make the best of what he had. He accepted his fate and his freedom, and he smiled at the boulder as if it were an old friend.
In the end, we are all Sisyphus, all pushing our own boulders up our own hills, hoping to reach the summit someday. But maybe we need to stop fixating at the goal and the pain so that we can find joy in damnation.
@@Anelipkabecause Sisyphus is aware of the indifference of the Universe?
I like how chill this space in RUclips is
Like i can be at peace here somehow
There's no one judging one another
No people fighting
Everyone is here to expand their knowledge and perhaps is looking for a new perspective
With the chaotic pace of other social media platforms
I'm glad that these type of contents will always be here offering a soft calm place for anyone who is willing to come
Beautifully said 😊
@@essoundsofsilence 😊🙌
😊 I'd love to have friends or family that enjoyed this kind of thing. Just to ponder
‼️ 👁 usually enjoy this P.O.W., But this videos message is completely idiotic and senseless ‼️
‼️ Thiz G👁 shoveling iz wasting away hiz precious time with meaningless repetitious work ⁉️
‼️ 👁'm more of uh Nihilist, but I still enjoy life to thee fullest daily, 👁 do thing's that advance mee, m👁 family & friends. This commentator seems lyke uh Democrap - do less - except less mentality 👎‼️
NEWCASTLE CALIFORNIA,USA 🇺🇸
@@ronaldpettifurd5957 Yes, that's the best. I've got few friends like that just recently and with them it just never gets dull or boring, even if you just hang out at home doing nothing.
But i needed over 30 years to find friends like that and also needed to move across my country for that.
“Then… he laughed.”
Such a profound ending. So simple. So absurd. So triumphant. Acceptance, responsibility, agency, beauty.
Bravo!
Yeah
Bro's unlocking mindfulness
real
I think he realized that, without noticing, he had just described his own life
The knowledge that dust is mostly your own skin cells, and that the thing that makes your house dusty is you being alive in it, certainly recontextualizes the whole thing.
Then you end up dust
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
It might if it wasn't a bs myth.
Is house dust mostly dead skin?
There's a common misconception that it's mostly human skin. It's not: that mainly ends up in the bath or shower. Two thirds of the dust in your house comes from outside, as dirt tracked in on your feet, and airborne particles like pollen and soot. The rest is mostly carpet fluff, clothes fibres and pet hair.
When one works at a warehouse you can really put the ”dust is people” into perspective. A workplace that usually employs a lot of people, there are many places under automation machinery and shelves or whatnot where it isn’t easy at all to clean. Some of that lingering dust might be from people who’ve retired years ago.
@@GRORGvideotIt's not skin cells dude. It's a bs myth. Read my comment above.
"No one recovers from the disease of being born, a deadly wound if there ever was one"
-Emil Cioran
No one was born.
Disease?
Hahaha 😂
I've been severely depressed for so many years. I do not believe it will ever get better. There will be no joy, no happiness, no contentment, no relief. What I would give, to just be ok.
as a fellow romanian, didn't know until now that my man Cioran said that... damn
@@ronaldpettifurd5957 Same. I'm 45 years sold. No friends. No relationship. Horrible anxiety. I rent a room in a house. I can't even remember when the last time was that I felt excited about something or just even felt good inside. I've been trying to improve my situation for 20 years and nothing changes.
I'm really struggling right now and I hope someday I can be at peace with everything.
I am too man and I’m sorry
I am with you brother.
Same brother. My best to you.
You can think of all the others out there struggling too and not feel so alone.
I would advocate stoicism, an amor fati perspective. I often self reflect at night and weigh the day not by how good or bad it was but how well I handled it despite how good or bad it was.
Something I find very interesting is that when you’re a child, you can easily be happy with what you have. When I think about my childhood, I remember that I could easily be distracted by a simple pen or a plastic bottle. I would imagine the pen as a spaceship, and the bottle as a submarine or a boat. I had no real desires, except for the basic ones. But when you become an adult, you begin to chase some goals, and you basically think that your happiness is bound to the achievement of those goals. But unfortunately, you soon discover that you’re never satisfied with what you have, no matter how many things you’ve managed to succeed. It’s so sad that we can’t keep thinking like childs regarding how they see the world and how they can appreciate it no matter what they have or don’t have. As adults, we tend to focus a lot more on what we don’t have than what we already have. That’s, for me, the beginning of our sufferings.
Summary - be content with what you have
Unfortunately the world we live in is geared up that way. You're constantly bombarded with adverts and marketing campaigns trying to get you to desire more and more products and services, and everything costs money - or almost everything - because a small group of very, very wealthy people require everyone else to keep wanting more, more _stuff_ , because if you don't, then you won't work to get the money to get that stuff so they'll have no employees (read: slaves) to work making their products or providing their services and others won't be able to have you purchase the items that their employees (slaves) are producing - and the beat goes on.
Big corporations, their CEOs/founders claim that, in order to be an entrepreneur like them, you just need to figure out a problem people have and then solve that problem; but that isn't what they do at all, it's all a facade. What they do is this; create a want in people and then - hey presto - show them that they have the thing(s) that will quench that thirst for more, that will fulfill the desire for for the thing that they want - not need; want.
9/10 they aren't solving any kind of problem. I, for example, didn't need rubbish quality products delivered a day faster than someone else can get them to me, but hey amazon is there doing just that. Bezos didn't solve a problem, just created a want, then filled it.
Want less, be happier. That's my take. I don't want to give up over half of an already short amount of time to be alive under the sun to some super rich parasite who requires either my labour to keep him/her wealthy, or my money from labour to keep him/her wealthy. That's not what human existence is all about, it's not natural and goes against the grain of what we really are in my opinion.
Want less, be happy.
Yes to all of this, but the plural of child is CHILDREN. Seriously, how can you form perfectly coherent sentences and expressions but completely fuk up such a basic English word?! It's triggering 😬
but when you get older, you find joy in the little ordinary everyday things again, trust me 👍
Man 62 😄
I too noticed the happiness quotient I had as a child compared to now( I’m 61) Having recently become aware that my ego scrutinizes everything in my awareness, that is the catalyst to happiness . In our youth, the ego is not developed yet, as we age and experience , it turns into some “ shit kid” trying to drive you into a ditch, until you realize ego cannot be deleted, only managed( my “ shit kid” now sits quietly in the back seat until needed) my suffering can only take place when I let ego drive! A good mentor for me on this subject is “Your Higher Self” on you tube. Most all the titles and subjects antagonize my ego, and in the stoic philosophy “ The obstacle is the way!”
This is 100% true. Happiness isn’t a passive state of being, it’s an active goal that requires effort to achieve. I’ve been practicing this mindset for a few years now and it really works. It’s not difficult, but it does require awareness and intent. But if you can exercise the mindfulness required to be aware of where you are, what you’re doing, what you’re grateful for, and the goals you’re pursuing, you will, nine times out of ten, find yourself utterly and completely content.
How do you practice the mindset? Like is it the acceptance of reality and the effort put in to be happy? Hope for the future? What work do I need to do to be one of the 9 out of 10?
@evanpetroni2504 I'm with you here. I believe your definitely right but am wondering how to do that haha.
@@evanpetroni2504
May I suggest something that helps me? Ignore reality. When you walk through a park you don't bend down and lick the dog turds you see a long the way do you? In the same way unconcern yourself with whatever upsets you On a hot day you duck under the shade yes? but what if no shade exists I hear you say? You make shade.
can you elaborate more those practice in day to day activities.
@user-rj1dq1fi7f what about that decision you have to make or that work you have to do?
"Shit could be worse."
-Me
This has been my mantra for over a decade. As silly a thing as it seems, it feels good to consider the real depth of this one vulgar expression. No matter how bad you think your position is, consider that it could be much worse. In that, you discover how grateful you are for even the dreadfull tragedy that is all of our existence.
100% it actually helps you eliminate the scale of worse so that you no longer feel anything is too bad because it’s no longer relative to anyone else’s situation - past or present. You can straight away accept that something happened and maybe find a way to write off experiences as not good or bad. Just an experience.
@@JackNokeJazzCo There’s levels at which accepting something just because it could be worse becomes unbearable.
@@be_early2024 too true. I think you can shift the bar to a point where you have to look for fundamentals. Fundamental truths are just hard to fine let a lone look for. I guess you create your own reward system with yourself - measuring things against your own beliefs etc. I don’t know. I think I know what I’m trying to say but then again…..
This does help with the denial stage
@@AychNoir I think that’s fair to say. Something to be weary of - not always the case but you sure gotta check yourself from time to time.
You expressed the beauty of Camus's philosophy in this video.
We must imagine sisyphus happy.
I never thought of sisyphus as demented. Takes the bite completely out of his punishment of doing something futile if he doesn't know it is.
@@peterp-a-n4743the old man wasnt necesseraly demented.
@@peterp-a-n4743 that wasn't the point. The point is we must imagine him to be happy despite knowing what he's doing is futile, because he is us.
Well, I think the point is that not only futile things are futile... but everything is. So (if it is so) than what? Just smile and keep pushing... (or not, maybe jesus really died for our sins and we will be reunited with ultimate glory at the end)
Sisyphus was long before Camus.
No matter what happens, whether or not you find yourself in unfavorable circumstances, you will always seemingly find yourself wondering why you’re still be able to retain every part of you that makes you ‘you.’ This is essential knowledge we must take note of.
If you have dementia or brain damage you wont. Or lose memories due to old age
Depends on how you define "you". People have defined it many ways across various times and cultures. By some definitions, you're obviously always "you". By others it's obvious that you're *not* always "you". And by still other definitions, it's not obvious at all either way.
For my part, I like to define it as "the thing thinking this thought". Ultimately, reality could be a simulation or a Boltzmann brain that flashed into existence for less than a second. In either case, everything you think "you" are is illusory. It could be the case that you're a character in a video game that just booted up 5 seconds ago, and every memory up to this point is a pre-programmed fabrication. No matter what, though, one thing always seems absolutely true: you are aware of your current experience. That experience might be an illusion or not connected to "objective reality" as you expect, but you cannot deny that you're experiencing it. As far as I can reason, this is the one and only absolute certainty you are afforded in life: awareness of your immediate experience, illusory as it might (or might not) be.
So I define "you" as simply _the experiencer._ We could program a robot to perfectly mimic a human, but we would imagine (though we might be wrong) that there are no lights on upstairs -- no _thing_ to have that first person experience of what it's like to be that robot. "You", in this view, is not necessarily the thing that makes choices or goes to work or loves or cries... "you" is what gets to have the first person experience of all those things 🙂
@@dismalthoughtsThat was beautiful,A few people tell me to just be me,which I sometimes feel like I’m not but I am & as you said being you means you’re experiencing in first person of what happens around you 😄
There is no „self“.
It‘s just a construct, made by your brain and told to yourself every day, so „you“ believe it. Once you understand that, life suddenly becomes a lot easier, a lot more flexible.
@@dismalthoughtsLove this post. It reminds me of the Oneness consciousness/New Age ppl who claim that the true "I" is just the awareness that experiences all thoughts, actions, emotions etc.
The more we want, the more we suffer.
This is true
If you don't want anything, you will suffer quite a bit.
@@gLitCheRR44It doesn't say you should want nothing. It says that you will suffer if you keep wanting MORE. You have to become satisfied, at some point, in order to enjoy what you have.
True wealth doesn't come from great possessions but fewer wants.
"You can run from your life, but you are still in it"
"...unless you die"
"One must imagine Sisyphus happy" - Albert Camus
"All in a day's work." - Sisyphus (probably)
" I would prefer not to" - Slavoj the skrivner Zizek. Fuck Koi ponds, the grass is nice to stare at
I needed this- Getting older you get so wrapped up in day-to-day life trying to chase where you want to be that you stop enjoying the "now" and what you already have. When I actually think about it I already have a great life at age 30- a small house, a wife who's my best friend, a son, and I've hardly ever had to worry about having food to eat everyday and a bed to sleep in. I think life truly is an art of "balance". Mankind wouldn't be anywhere without goals and ambitions, but at the same time, you can't let it run your life to the point of never feeling happy/satisfied until you have "this" or achieve "that". I've been so consumed the past 10 years now with expectations and goals for myself that I always feel unsatisfied in life..I really need to change that and work on enjoying the "now" and what I already have in my life instead of always looking towards the future.. sooner than later there won't be a future for me anymore.
Amen brother. I wish you and your family well!
as someone that’s never really been driven by desire and always “accepted” everything, life is pretty dull and unspecial. but i like it this way, it’s my version of peace i guess
Life makes no sense at all.
Same here 👌🏻 reassuring to hear the same from someone else. Well, reassuring is the wrong word because I don’t care enough to need reassurance but comforting if you like…..
Isn't it beautiful?
I am in the exact same state but sometimes I just feel that I am being lazy by just "accepting everything" but then I really don't like working hard for something , So I am a science student and I worked hard for getting into top Universities in India and I got into one of them but again I didn't liked the grind ( I liked Phy and maths tho) on the other hand I get bored when I don't have a challenge . So it's like without challenge I get bored and almost any task doesn't make sense to me coz at the end I know I will not be at peace . I just don't know what to do
@@Naman_K2 well one thing is talk about it and see if you can learn from others - like you’ve done here. Because, like I, I’ve heard so much reciprocation with this in others to the point that I start to draw a conclusion that this is one of the many examples of what we can just call living.
Guys, this video made me tear up and cry a lot after realizing the simplicity of the meaning of life and it's purpose: to find JOY in every moment we can by inviting the struggle that precedes it.
As the saying goes "there is Joy in the struggle."
Reminds me of when my daughters mum and I moved to the other side of the country to switch it up, but of course our problems followed us to no surprise. We moved back to where we began after a couple of months due to health issues and split 4 years later. Living somewhere else is just changing the background scenery, like on a pc or phone.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
That was the case for me as well. The novelty helped for a few weeks then it was back to normal
This is my exact life. What is happening? My husband’s name is Cam and works for NASA doing exactly what you described. And we’re both still as miserable and powerless as we’ve ever been, more if you count aging. Wow!
Be happy u can hug someone in a
bed, a thing that I never experienced
@@PadreMaronnolowhat about a pet like cat or dog
@@PadreMaronnolo ikr they have deep connections with people and work to provide and protect at the least i just work for nothing.
@@PadreMaronnoloand never will possibly.
(Il giallo!)
At least you have someone. I haven't felt someone hold my hand in 10 years.
Dude made a 15-minute thesis on a philosophical paradigm shift and pitched it with a toilet-tower thumbnail 💀
Lmao it was kinda cliche and lacked substance
Guys go pick up a book !
15 min watching this waste fall changed to a crap
I've been struggling with suicidal thoughts for weeks, months. I like how this video showed me some things i forgot about life. Things can be beautiful even if i'm in a dark place, there can be light tomorrow, i just gotta look for it
This may sound silly, and i hope you don't think I'm being irreverent when I say, go ride a jet ski. I mean it. Just do it. I hope you get relief from your sadness and hope you live a happy and fulfilling life
Yes, It is tough. I am there too, fighting everyday ❤
Reflection is truly key. There are powerful lessons to be found (and learned) when one gazes into The Mirror.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
You matter. I hope you will get better! It may be not easy. It may take days weeks or months but one day i believe you will be finally happy and still alive.
Change your diet. Go animal based, no process foods, carnivore even better. You will be just fine
I honestly think this was one of your most beautiful ones yet.
Take a moment, be aware and feel that you're okay *right now*, no matter your worries for the future, no matter what will be in 5 minutes.
My car radio stop working a few years ago. Every drive is a more natural experience now. The window is down and my attention is totally aware of the moment and I am NOT rushed.
I've noticed lately, that when I'm feeling down, bored or restless, I go to my window, open it up and just watch the birds for a while in the trees outside our flat, think about them and their life of routine and repetition, but always in the moment. I do the same at night sometimes if the moon is visible, just open the window again and feel the cool night air on skin, try to count stars. One night, I opened the window just in time to see a fox scurrying about the communal garden. It was about midnight, the moon was out and it was just a lovely moment in time that I really appreciated.
Love this! I always find returning to nature helps reset me, put things into perspective. And it can be as simple as watching birds, or wind in the trees, or clouds, even if you live in a city. But also more reason to protect the nature that we have and restore what we have lost. Thanks for sharing :)
One of the things I'm trying to do in my life is savour things more, enjoying food I'm eating instead of rushing to finish it to get on to the next task. I always feel like there is too many tasks to do and not enough time to finish things. One of the last things I did for my father just before he died of cancer last year was put two bird boxes back up on his repaired fence, it was sad as I knew the end was close for him and he couldn't enjoy the garden he had spent years building but it made me realise that there is always stuff to be done and jobs you will not finish but you have to savour the beautiful things around you, food family, friends and nature.
I like that this story demonstrates absurdism in a daily modern life context, making it easier to understand for young people.
When one truly considers their very last hours of existence on the planet first--prior to doing anything at all--that individual's next actions will legitimately be in alignment with who they truly "are".
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
"Maybe one simply must try to be happy." This video closes with a good note to always remind my future self that one can be happy even in the most absurd phenomenon known as life. Thank you!
When faced with the scariest of things, all you want to do is turn away, hide in your own invisible place. But you can't. That's why it's not only important for us to be seen, but to have someone to look for us, as well. - : Sarah Dessen
I read that as Sahara desert lol
@@adammorra3813 Same
"The eyes are useless... if the mind is blind ." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
Feeling unfulfilled by life has plagued me since I was a teenager. Having to 'be better' is at the base of this feeling but I don't even know why I feel this way.
I recommend reading or listening to Eckhart Tolle
God/Jesus is the only one that can fill this hole. And even then it won’t be perfect but you will be at peace and no longer be searching.
That feeling “must make better” creates DESIRE. This defines our human experience. It is the very idea that generates a sense of suffering. But there is a solution to the quandary. Act on desires that emanate from the heart (Love, Fearlessness, Create Beauty, Freedom, Uplift Others), while passing on desires that arise from Fear and Avoidance.
@@LeeAdrian777 While I respect your right to worship as you see fit; I wish I could agree with you. However, please remember that there are many belief structures and religions other than the three Abrahamic Religions.
For you, Christ and faith may be enough. For others, both may be ill suited.
Please keep the above in mind.
@@LeeAdrian777this
“One must picture Sisyphus happy”
I feel like I’m digging the same hole and never getting anywhere every time I try to date. Finding a date once every ten years that never goes anywhere. Trying to stay positive and not internalize all the rejection. Trying not to feel like once I’ve been rejected by thousands of women in different locations on dating apps that it’s all over and I should just give up. I have to believe that someone somewhere might be capable of having feelings for me, and that I’m not an ugly worthless pile of poo. Hopeful that some day I’ll know what it’s like to be in love and be loved back. Even if it doesn’t last it would be nice to feel loved.
I love you
Try going to Thailand, or the Philippines, possibly Vietnam. Plenty of beautiful women in Asia think of Western men as Rockstars. Dating and mating does not have to be as difficult as our current Western society has made it.
Try giving up on purpose. Sometimes try the complete opposite of what your doing. Meaning let them approach you which is a ridiculous idea.
I dont normally comment but I just hace some food for thought ig. I think the phrase "one must picture sisyphus happy" relates mostly to the idea that he finds peace in simply roling the bolder, not the end goal of reaching the top, not the success or failure or anything else. Just pushing. When it comes to dating I feel that having the mindset of "I must get in a relationship" can be fairly toxic. Assuming that you cant get a relationship because you are ugly or worthless is not helpful to yourself. You are you for a reason.
It might be helpful to just enjoy the dates rather, enjoy the prospect of getting to meet new people. Its not one day I will have been rejected by thousands of women, but one day I will be able to say that I have met thousands of women and gotten to interact and learn from them on a one on one basis. Through meeting thousands of women I have learned more about myself and my preferences. The desire to be in a relationship is whats causing the pain. If you can focus on enjoying each date, meeting each individual who has their own life and their own perspective and philosophy. Truly dating for the people rather than the relationship.
Obviously this is not easy by any means. One could even think its impossible. I just find that "reflecting", "meditating", "thinking" or whatever over this topic every day might help change your perspective in the long run. I would love to hear what you think.
@@dbuck1964 And what would you tell a Thai/Philippino/Vietnamese man going through something similar?
"You're white! Go to Asia, they'll kiss the ground you walk on!" Fuck this mindset.
this is probably my favorite of your videos in a while man. You’ve really crystallized the message you’re trying to get across and you did so beautifully.
I get caught up in all the daily things like work, chores, fixing things just trying to stay ahead of everything. On top of that I feel this endless need to advance and succeed more and more, until I finally stop to notice my kids playing and my wife relaxing enough to watch and laugh with them. Thats what makes me happy and its right in front of me all the time, you just have to stop everything sometimes and just enjoy that moment everytime it happens, because you never know when it will be the last time.
There’s always more to do. I hate that. But there is always tomorrow to do it and today to live
@@alimiller6589 It ends when we end
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I had no idea where this was going. I have a magnet on my fridge. It has the following quote,
"The foolish man seek happiness in the distance a wise man grows it under his feet."
I did not buy it but I have held on to it for many years, it spoke to me but I wasn't quite sure what it was saying. I was in the thinking mans position the other day and I was thinking about attractiveness, purpose, maintenance, ctrong towns, community, eco villages, the barter system myth and came to understand what that magnet quote was truly saying, that happiness is not only a choice, like everyone of the other things it takes effort. I am a negative person but I did not get this way overnight. It took years of training habits. I am now HABITUALLY negative. I have to not only choose to be positive, I have to put in effort to keep choosing it. After watching this video I now have a catchy quote of my own lol.
Happiness is a participation sport!
Thus I remained to myself an unhappy lodging where I could neither stay nor leave.
For where could my heart fly from my heart? Where could I fly from my own self?
-Saint Augustine
I remember this! Which part of the confessions was this?
The last 20 seconds bring alot of freedom if you HEAR it rather than just listen. Love this.
Yes, I was driving while listening😊❤
Love the way you said,
“…and they brought
everything with them…”
A few months ago I was walking around the building where I live in. There was a man that kept asking me if I ever got bored. I told him no. I never get bored in my life. I'm a person that always has something to do. Since then I stopped walking around, and he walks now. I do other things for fitness. Many have asked me if I still walk. I say that I do other things. You do things, because you want to. Enjoying doing things is important. I had a family member that told me once life was boring. They committed suicide. Life is not boring. Do something nice to pass time. Read, create art, learn something new. Go to the library read. Just do something. Learn a new skill. Just enjoy life.😊
And that is the secret - keep moving
"Wise is the warrior who carries a weapon, but rarely reveals it." --Master Dupree'
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
Meaning of life? Participate
Who's to say what's hopeless and futile. It took me age and life experience to realize that. I never 'amounted' to anything, professionally. I thought I should but didn't. Spent some years thinking I was a failure. Skip to this day - I'm living the tiniest life that I love. Hubby, 2 dogs and myself. Loving to be home and out in the yard, crafting and gardening. But apart from pretty pictures sent to my family showing my flowers, veggies or creations, they don't 'amount' to anything. They give me joy and I learn a lot. I don't really care what will be said about me after I'm gone (yes, some positive words would be nice but what would I know by then). I don't need people to cry or miss me. What would be the point for them? I'm happy now and that's enough.
this is so beautifully written and narrated. i've been experiencing and having thoughts like this about my life and how i should live. like maybe there is really no greater purpose in everything that i do or in my existence but just to live and accept the moment where we are. good or bad, that's just what it is and we have a part in it.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
Really? I thought it was drab and boring and the Narrator sounds as depressed as the characters in the story.
I am a recovering addict. I will be 2 years sober on September 7th. Fentanyl. I had nothing. I have been getting my life back together the past year .I have a good job. I have a nice home. I had someone special in my life. Until last night. I have maybe 2 people I consider friends. I never see my family any more (by my choice). I stopped therapy about a month ago. I stopped working on myself. Almost every night I feel alone, and I dream about drugs. All I want to do is go drive downtown and get some fentanyl... obviously, depression is a big part of every addiction. Honestly no idea why I am even posting my shit to a bunch of strangers. I am on the path once again to self-sabotage, and I don't care - I want to - but I don't care. Life is hard, and I don't know what it will take to give me at least just satisfaction. That's all I want. Just to be satisfied.
I think you wrote this because you still care about yourself and your future, don't let the primal addiction in your head tell you otherwise. Something that has helped me overcome my difficulties/addictions was realizing that there is no satisfaction to be gained at the end (philosophically, where is the means to an end besides death?), real satisfaction comes from 'digging that hole.' I've picked up old studies, hobbies, and books I don't really know I'll become proficient at or finish; but that doesn't mean I can't enjoy the *process* of gaining this satisfaction. Even if naught. Living in the moment, truly, and seeing that the process is better than the end goal - that is the true goal. Stay safe, stranger.
It is ok to have the desire to relapse, your awareness of it is what will keep you sober. Life is very very hard. Satisfaction is a fleeting feeling, and you will always feel low again just as you will sometimes feel satisfaction. Stay strong. You are doing the right thing even in the hardest of times, which is incredibly admirable. You are worth saving, so continue to save yourself. ❤
You can be satisfied all alone with yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself.
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Hang in there! At least one more day. I don't know a thing about you. I just know that many struggle on this path. I wish i could help. But do words even do anything?
I think you are posting this because there is this part of you that wants a change. Alone we are weak, but together still weak... but at bit less weak i guess.
I don't know you but please be strong and resist your desires, do that for me
When you said “then… he laughed” I too was smiling with my teeth’s out, cause I felt the ending. You just describe me. When ever I try to explain why I like to see a bird chirping Amidst my work no body understands. But did a great job explaining this concept
"The things you run from are inside you."
The key is really the part where CAM goes "Am I tripping" in fact he is tripping his balls off....Halucinating reality and being nosey af. the man digging the hole is diggin through his SOUL! No for real though as men get older... I have met quite a few people that are always doing slightly pointless busy work or hobby stuff in a silly cycle just to keep busy and stay sane nothing wrong with that.
Some of my favorite things are clouds and puddles. When walking around outside you can look at whatever wild form the clouds are making today or all the different things you see reflected through puddles. Admiring the small things is just really cool to me. The old man’s appreciation of the weather gives me a similar feeling.
i love clouds! i've never really intently looked at puddles, but now i will :)
It's not the destination, it's the journey. I hope we can all enjoy it.
❤ yes
No its the destination. I dont care about commuting to work, i just want to get to work, the destination.
@@adammorra3813 work is not life.
@@saurab9771 u dont get to tell me what is life
@@adammorra3813for what?
Beautiful, thanks! "Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats." -Voltaire
I absolutely love this channel. Your stories and your insight have really helped open my eyes to things or reminded me of things that I need to be aware of through the past couple years that I’ve been watching. If nothing else at least that day, you just really made me think and appreciate things around me and I really appreciate it.
Sometimes it does not take too much to realise that we just need to try to be happy instead of procrastinating that process of saying "ill be happy when i get this or after i get this done or that etc" sometimes just a prolly dementic man digging makes us realise that life is just there that's all there is it to.. you just have to live it with the fullest of your capability possible and try be happy and makes others happy. Such a deep message for all the people of all ages in the midst of a epidemic of existential crisis among people of the world, especially for the younger generation like us.
This reminds me of something I have read somewhere... we don't look at sunsets and say what we want to change about it. we just look up and appreciate its beauty.
That's because sunsets don't inherently cause us pain, life does.
@@PistonAvatarGuy this is the kind of thread you see all over the internet because it’s all poetry and relatable. Kudos hope life is treating u alright
This is one of my favorite videos. Thank you for making it. Dealing with stress is very difficult in trying to purposely be happy. It feels impossible. But all good days when you try to be happy and don’t think about work as some endless loop. Life is not about that.
I am truly happy and blessed that I was born with this mindset 🙏💙 I have always found happiness where others lost hope. I see the architecture everywhere I go and hear the birds every time I step out the door. I don't just look at the flowers I smell them. I admire the bug that is resting on it. Life can be beautiful if you allow it to be . Namaste my friends 🙏💙💚
I have all the way things could go and I love the prompts, I rarely use journals but when I want to I find myself picking up that one always out of my collection, love this channel, always has spoken to me.
This video really made me shed some tears. Though I’m currently struggling right now, I believe peace awaits me.
I hope you find peace soon❤
Going back to the starting line, that's what I have been doing, I guess life's not linear like it's been potrayed, starting fresh is not something to be afraid of, hope is what keeps a man going. Enjoying while it lasts.
It’s 3:33 a.m. and I’m still awake. This story filled that empty space in me that needed to be filled. Perhaps I will go for a drive……
Once you realize that enjoying the journey is the only meaning in all our lives...
Do the best you can be present and be grateful you're not going to be significant but you can spend life appreciating the beauty of that which is around you
Man! This is one of the best stories I've heard, short and full of meaning. Thanks for this.
Thank you for this video it taught me that at least I’m trying to be happy,not to give up what I search for,maybe it will work but in the end at least I’m doing something & that counts,I feel hopeless & I feel like I failed at so much,I used to believe good things would happen that I get to where I want,This teaches me maybe I’ll get to what I’m looking for,we’re not stuck,we’re on the right path we need to continue going no matter what it is,life will re direct us no matter where we go,maybe you feel like a failure right now but trust me in the end you may get to what you’re looking for,& if not you’ll get a new better path,life is full of uncertainty.You know the muck you go through is beautiful not as bad as you think it is,you may still curse at the heavens & even at yourself for all that didn’t happen,& yeah at the moment it sucks,whoever reads this I hope one day you will be happy or happy for a while then get to a new path life throws you! :)
Because if you’re always completely happy it would mean your story is over,in the end you’ll die happy because it is what it is,at the end of happy endings you don’t know if the people are going to come back,I’m not sure but again life is full of uncertainty.My own words about this is jumbled but I hope I got this point out if not,At least I’m trying to be happy :)
this channel makes videos you didn’t know you needed
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**PLOT TWIST** The following day Cam and Maria would go for a walk never to return home. The old man's son was a serial killer, and the old man was digging their graves!
I realized that the prostitution wound was not just my own -
but a collective wound that many women experience.
It's the fear of being taken advantage of,
of selling out, of being rejected for daring to ask for what we're worth...
Through deep introspection and soul healing, I cleared the prostitution wound,
reclaiming my power and finding my own rhythm!
Now I am creating a thriving, soulful business!
What is a prostitution wound? Like a emotional trauma after being a prostitute?
last year I had a health condition that made it so my body reset every single night. every morning I would wake up in searing pain, hardly able to stand at all, shaking, crying. it was blinding. The only way to deal with it was to walk, to walk through the pain. sitting and laying down made it worse, standing was impossible because it hurts so bad, so I had to walk.
I'd go to bed the night before feeling almost normal. everything I did that day was to build my body up to feel less pain. I would sleep in my walking clothes knowing what was coming. and I knew that the moment I laid down, it would begin again. I would have to hold very still so I could sleep, I could only sleep for 4, maybe 5 hours.
I walked with a stick and the pain was so bad that I couldn't help but shake, usually couldn't even see. but I kept going. and there was always a point every morning when I could see the sky again a bit. I could smell the air. and through the tears on my face I would say "what a beautiful day." sometimes people would ask me how I was doing, to which I would say "my best!"
I walked over 450 mi last year like that, every morning. it was like groundhog Day. and at the beginning of it I had to learn to look for the good to keep going. to know that no matter how painful everything was, there would be a moment where I could feel again. and it was worth fighting for that moment every day.
So you recovered? How are you now?
You are much stronger than i am and u inspire me
Plot twist: The husband's laugh at the end was an evil, demented laugh because he's the one who fills the hole every time whether he knows it or not.
oh he's filling that hole alright, every night
This video reminds me of the movie "It's Such a Beautiful Day" by Don Hertzfeldt. They share a similar powerful message: when we come to understand our own impermanence, we awaken to the preciousness and beauty of the fleeting moments that compose our lives.
This video really touch me, sounds so soothing, and helps to be more kind to myself, to not be so hard on myself. Thank you much❤
I might just have found my favorite RUclips channel. This Is profoundly beautiful and I really needed to hear it as someone who has accepted that life is just an endless cycle that leads to nothingness.
Oh gosh this is exactly what I'm going through 😮 thank you
Me too 😢
Your welcome
Love how you named him "Cam". One must imagine Sisyphus happy
Thank you so much for your channel and videos. I often find hope in these videos. Also, finding metaphors like this video to explain existential hope and meaning is so great. So thank you!
A beautiful story. Thank you.
To me, Cam has the perfect life. He seems to have a job that pays well and one that he is competent at and a woman who loves him. That’s really all you need. I have a crappy job that I can barely do and get paid adequate, I guess and come home to a wife that can’t stand the sight of me and I don’t know why. I’d give anything to be Cam. I’d love to be Cam. I’d love to be anyone.
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The days before feminism turned women against men 😅. It was a wonderful life for a few generations.
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Why to wish to be someone else? Become what you really desire. If u are healthy and have at least some financial stability then you can change your whole life around if you really want to. But that requires getting out of the comfort zone which is hurtful, painful and seems like impossible. Only then will u be really happy. Don’t settle for less brother❤
Once when I was lost I asked a policeman to help me find my parents. I said to him, 'Do you think we'll ever find them?' He answered, 'I don't know, kid. There are so many places they can hide. - Author: Rodney Dangerfield
What's the meaning here?
@@Johan_Steffensen It's a joke.
@@Johan_Steffensenshooting arrow in the darkness mindset, and shoot forever until you quiver goes empty
This was beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
In my early life I clung hard to the belief in god and an afterlife because I couldn't accept my own finitude. I didn't want my consciousness to end! I wanted to learn everything, be everything, reach the heights of the human experience.
Now I understand just a little better. Life is a kind of suffering, albeit beautiful... an ultimately unfulfilling never-ending and futile quest to find peace and contentment... and death? the void? bliss.
As soon as I could accept nihilism, I felt free from fear and uncertainty. I can now enjoy the moments of pleasure, and those of struggle, without the ulterior judgment of my responses to each. I have children and a wife that I strive to provide a better life for. Though it all be for naught in the end, I may as well live what I have to the fullest. Not for some reward or acknowledgement on the other side, but rather just for the sake of doing it.
This video just magically appeared on my suggested just at the right time. So weird. But I'm glad! Thank you. 🙏
This little story pretty much sums up the human journey in such a concise and wonderful way!
You are an amazing writer and storyteller. Your videos are so inspiring to me!
I truly find your work insightful, thought provoking and intellectually stimulating. Thanks for doing it and keep the journey going!
we are always either looking forward for enjoyment or looking back on previous enjoyment, never trying to find the enjoyment in the now
"The realization that life is absurd cannot be and ending, but only a beggining" - Camus
This one really hits me. Thank you so much. It must be very difficult to keep creating contents like this but I really enjoy everything that you make!
I’m so happy I found this channel, love you.
Spectacular, thank you!
I’m just gonna tell my story. Maybe it goes into the void maybe it goes to the masses. I’m a college student going into my second year of college however I’ve got credits from HS and I’ve been going year round. In the beginning of my college year I cut off my father who was choosing to buy drugs and alcohol instead of caring that I was dead broke and scared I wouldn’t be able to pay for next year. After I did that I wrote a dependency appeal to the office of financial aid and got it and then secured 10k in extra aid the next year. I then got offered a job making 18 an hour related to my field. Three months after I got into a car accident where a gate that wasn’t secure swung in high wind and hit my car. Because of this my car was totaled and I had no way to get to work and was forced to quit my job. I now found a new car and am suing my uni because it was their gate. Things will be better in months to come but right now I’m making minimum wage with car and full coverage insurance payments. It sucks right now and I hate it.
hey, i was scrolling and saw this comment. i’m really sorry you’re going through this, i hope things work out in your favor. give yourself more credit you kept going despite all the adversity. you’re doing great
And when he laughed, I also laughed a bit, at all the possibilities to see the good, the fun and the exciting amidst our bleak reality
wow this one hit HARD. Another incredible video and thought, thank you.
Thanks! That was reflective, fun and helpful.
Summary of video: we are all just digging our hole (grave), only for it to be filled when we die. Even though it’s pointless, it still can be beautiful.
love your videos always so intresting to watch
Great analogy. Great way to introduce someone to existentialism and philosophy.
Incredible video, thank you so much for creating.
The message that was delivered through storytelling is really good.
I mean ,yeah we're in a void but let that hope pave the way :)
"Bill dropped his keys on the counter and stood there staring at them, wondering how many times he's done that before, and repeating all his little tasks and rituals in his apartment, over and over again, but then he wondered, realistically, this was his life and the unusual part was the time spent doing other things." -Everything Will Be Okay
I have made 180 degrees of change of sceneries in my life; at age 18 I moved from Germany to the United States, then at age 50, I moved from Florida to Britain where I currently reside, life events and people I’ve met along the way of my life’s journey have shaped who I am. Personally I think that life is not meant to be lived in one place, if at one point we no longer feel satisfied where we live and work, we must move, we aren’t trees or plants to remain in the same spot. I went through poverty in my teen years of existence and I greatly appreciate that experience, because it taught me a valuable lesson about our purpose in society and made me appreciate the abundance I currently have.
The most important asset we have is health, nothing else matters but health.
Today I wrote down what I appreciated. And the things that would potentially change that list. It’s my list. You have your own list. I also was happy. Tomorrow I will look at that list again.