I love how buzz feed is helping the masses understand how fluid gender and sexuality is, using their popularity to spread important messages like these. Its just awesome to see it :)
+Nathan Jones It's not really sad considering some textbook definitions of gender and sex make them seem synonymous. For example, Merriam Webster defines gender as: "The state of being male or female." So it's not much of a distinct difference between the two as you might have previously believed.
I'm biologically a girl, but I act, dress, talk, sit in a masculine way. I keep my hair in a buzzcut and wear EXCLUSIVELY guys' clothes. I have a visible 6-pack, am pretty damn muscular, and enjoy any traditionally male activities. I've always though "tomboy" was the word used to describe people like me, but so-called tomboys STILL claim to enjoy being feminine and dolled-up from time to time. I don't. If I'm wearing a dress or anything that can be considered feminine/girly, I don't feel like myself. I feel like someone else, I feel weird and terribly uncomfortable. Femininity does not define me at all. However, I'm not a transgender man, because I don't feel like a guy trapped in a girl's body. I know I am a girl, and I gladly accept that. I don't accept being feminine and delicate, it's true. But I accept my female identity. I am not a lesbian either, although many people keep assuming that. I'm just a straight girl who believes people should wear what truly defines them, and what they find comfortable. Nobody should wear a certain thing according to what's in their pants.
M A F I A BOSS what do you call a straight girl who looks like a hard butch? A straight butch? Either way, that's really cool. I've never met a straight girl like this. wonder how common women like this are.
hey. thank you for this comment. just wanted to say, gender and sexuality are completely different and your feelings about being a masculine straight woman are totally valid. you will continue discovering these parts of yourself and learning more, gender is fluid and we do not need to confine ourselves in any sort of way if it doesn't make us comfortable. you do you. rock on
Same here. I have no experience in dating because everyone assumes I'm lesbian and only women have hit on me. Men don't show any interest in me. People also find it weird in genreal that I want to be masculine and I've lost friends because I'm "too different".
i work with a feminine guy who's straight, everybody assumes he's gay even though he is married to a woman. some people tend to get jerked outta shape when something they see doesn't fit into a nice neat box.
can you not just be female who likes to dress in clothes that aren't traditionally female clothes? or doesn't act like what traditionally is considered feminine? or vice versa with a man being more "feminine". how can you complain about labels and then create all these different labels that put people into very specific groups. surely its less divisive to just be male/female or human?
Lightning Chaser I mean you can call yourself whatever, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. That goes for "bronies" too, haha. The comment is just my take on the whole thing.
Immajeanyus Biological and physiological differences create tendencies toward acting in certain ways. What you call "gender roles" is just society reinforcing that biological predisposition.
So....tomboy who thinks she's better than other tomboys. Why can't you be okay with yourself, even if it's like some else in one way? Why you have to try and make your own box to seem more unique? It doesn't help anything, but only separates people even more.
I'm a straight woman, but I feel more comfortable wearing more typically masculine clothing (pants, T-shirts, etc) and presenting myself in a more masculine way. I also like a lot of stereotypically male things (math, bikes, protecting others, holding doors open for people, etc. - like not necessarily something men should do/like, but what is typically expected), and am generally more aggressive than an average woman. I wish they had included someone who identified as a woman, was straight, and not overtly non-feminine, but still didn't feel comfortable presenting as very feminine or liking feminine things, if that makes any sense.
"Identified as a woman". Huh? They are not claiming to be trans, they accept the reality that they are women but that doesn't mean to have to conform to femininity. Are you saying that you wish they featured a woman who looked slightly feminine yet has more masculine interests? Kinda like the character Donna from That 70s Show? If so then okay, I get what you mean but just saying there, these women know they are women.
Dear people who can't accept these people or any trans people: What's the harm? Like honestly. If you can give me clear, accurately proven sources that letting trans people be respected as human beings is hurting someone, I'll be transphobic ASAP.
Just giving you a friendly public service announcement. When attempting to form a effective argument meant to persuade others, "what's the harm?" Is a terrible starter point.
blueyedbeauty99 I agree with Ryanfinder226 , your heart is in the right place, but no matter how good or bad your morals are, if you present your argument wrong you will in fact be shut down by those opposing.
blueyedbeauty99 And these women aren't trans. If they were, it wouldn't be female masculinity, it would me male masculinity. I know you're trying, but I just thought I'd let you know ;)
I love that in the English language you can just use the pronoun "them" and adjectives and verbs are the same for everyone. In my language (French), all of these vary depending on you being male or female, so there is basically nothing for non-binary people and altering the language would be so hard.
***** Exactement, ce qu'on a en français sonne terriblement artificiel, sans compter que je n'ai aucune idée de la façon dont on est censé accorder ce type de pronom. Pas de souci pour les accents, j'ai aussi parfois dû utiliser des claviers étrangers. ^^
owlnemo Same..In my language it just sounds really weird and when you're talking about yourself pretty much every word is different depending on your gender :/
Merci pour la source! Oui, c'est bien de ça que je parlais. J'avoue que quand je vois les accords que propose l'article je grince un peu des dents, car je n'arrive pas à me détacher du fait que ça sonne faux, mais c'est probablement une simple question d'habitude. Je pense comme vous qu'utiliser "la personne qui" semble effectivement être un bon compromis. Ça me rappelle le terme "Lehrperson" (littéralement personne qui enseigne, au lieu de "Lehrer"/"Lehrerin": enseignant/enseignante) qui s'est pas mal généralisé dans les écoles pédagogiques de Suisse allemande (je ne sais pas ce qu'il en est pour les autres pays germanophones).
@@owlnemo Je suis d'accord avec toi (2 ans après, coucou c'est moi) Je fréquente beaucoup d'espaces LGBT donc forcément je fais hyper attention à ça mais quand je parle de personnes qui s'identifient au-delà de la binarité en utilisant "iel", cela sonne faux, surtout lorsqu'il faut dire "iel" plusieurs fois dans la même phrase !! Mais bon, c'est comme tout, il faut s'y habituer :)
Batman I kinda agree. I get that people are becoming more accepting to other sexualities and genders, but i feel like you can't just fucking "feel" you gender... Then again, I've never been in that position
Rebekah K. Lets say you are female. What if you woke up tomorrow in a mans body? Would you feel masculine or feminine internally? Thats what it feels like. To feel your gender.
Okay, "male" clothes are just totally cool. Nothing more to say. (I confirm boobs burden when I just wanna dress up with a suit, that's kinda annoying sometimes, but boobs are great anyway **)
i honestly hate that i am a pretty masculin girl,guys will only talk to me as a friend or if they like need help to move, but i dont like flower dresses and romantic comedies,i dont cry over puppies,i'm not chatty,i hate make up,i hate fashion,epecially nowadays....but im am not any less of a woman,and i am not a lesbian,which so many of my friends believe....ofcourse i dont mean to say that being girly is a bad thing,i just dont find it a part of who i am
Maybe if you present yourself better to men they can see your feminine qualities. You're probably exaggerating in your mind how masculine you really are. There are some feminine men who prefer butch women though.
Today, about 9 hours ago I discovered that genderqueer was a thing. Today, about 9 hours ago I didn't feel alienated anymore. I'm glad this video came out because it might help others discover who they are too.
Society makes ppl the way they don't want to be and I'm proud of all these girls which truly show who they want to be without being social expectation slaves!
Guys, these genders weren't just something tumblr made up recently. The male and female binary genders are actually a very European concept. For example, many Native American cultures had "Two-Spirits", people of a gender not 100% male or 100% female, and the Hijira (I think that how it spelt) in India, which is a similar concept. There is also evidence of non-binary genders existing in parts of Italy and Mexico, as well as several other countries and cultures. Don't believe me? Do the research yourself.
The more appropriate word is enuch in India it is considered more polite :). It is ironic that i come from the country that has had a history that constitutes a spectrum of identity and sexuality, where people worship gods that are considered gender neutral but at the same time criminalises LGBT community.
there are also Fa'afafine in Samoa, Burrnesha, and many more examples.. the gender binary was forced upon people after colonization/conquest by Europeans throughout the world.... its crazy how terrible we're made out to be when we were once so admired in our cultures
the comments are so ignorant like "i dont understand this identity or lifestyle so i must reject and make fun of it immediately" like humans want to belong to a group thats human nature like how hard is that to understand i cant. honestly where yall think female and male come from like where yall think race come from? ppl saw they was different and labels helped to build identities of people who might be different and we don't have a problem with labels like "girl" "boy" or "black" and "white" like you think those labels existed from the beginning of time? no, someone had to create it and then accept it. That's culture, its 2016 we should know this by now
Elite Daily:Humans have an innate desire to place labels on everything. Labels give people a sense of order, and a way of distinguishing things. Yet, people aren’t things-people are too dynamic to be placed in boxes. A person’s race, sexuality, socioeconomic status or geographic origins does not define all that he or she is or will be, and labels often warp our perception of people. In essence, they promote both blatant and unconscious prejudice.
Male or female or races are what you are. Butch(etc,) is how you feel. No comparison. Even if people identify similarly in one way. They're still different in other ways. People are different. Just face it. That's why when people meet each other, they focus on finding many commonalities. Not sticking to one like it means everything to them.
fmadiva That's just my take on it. I can understand someone and connect with them without utilizing labels by simply spending time with them and getting to know them, rather than taking shortcuts and saying 'oh I'm [label]' and assume what comes with it. I will acknowledge that labels play a big part in communication; they're easy and quick as a method of understanding someone. But that's why they're such a delicate thing. They're not necessarily helping you understad someone by who they are, but by who you /think/ they are, because labels are very personal things with definitions and connotations that vary much from person to person. To one, the "immigrant" label may have a bad connotation and carry prejudice, while to some it is simply a statement of their social status. To connect with people through labels is to say "I'm gay, therefore I've had the same experiences as this other gay person. I feel a connection to them now." Now this could be true, or it could be a complete logical fallacy depending on the people involved. It's simply too much of a complicated topic, that of labels. I for one, though I dislike lables, admit and accept that they're an innate part of our societies, and they come in good and bad. The least we can do is realize what labels are and what they do. P.S sorry for the long post xD
This makes me feel better about myself, because in the past I was a tomboy (not as extreme as female masculinity to full extent) but people made fun of me and to this day when I like wearing dresses and more female clothing they're like "Wow you're wearing that?!" It just makes me sad to think that people can't be themselves without society judging you every move...
+blueyedbeauty99 See if they keep making normal videos and put trans women with normal women, i find that enough but when you keep making directed videos it starts to become annoying, maybe its because i already accept people for what they are and i am just tired of seeing all of these videos directed towards the LGBTQ community, and besides, this is not the content i subscribed for when i subscribed to buzzfeed.
Sarah Schneider Because at some point there'll be a time when it isn't socially acceptable to look at someone and assume they're a boy or a girl if some people get their way.
It's a shame to see so many negative comments. To everyone who isn't going what these people are going through, I suggest you stop putting them down. Stop giving assumptions, statistics, and insults. You don't have to go through what they go through, you aren't living their lives, you don't know who they are. So I recommend that if you don't know how it feels, then stop giving recommendations, because in the end, you are just going to damage people.
When someone asks you, "are you a girl or a boy?", they aren't asking "do you wear dresses?" or "do you have a beard?" they are asking what genitalia that you have. No matter what name you give yourself, there is no denying what you are, its not something to hide or be ashamed of its just like someone asking do you have arms or legs. You can be whatever you want no matter whats down there
It's sometimes very tiring being a masculine straight woman. When a man flirts with a woman you usually assume they do it because they're interested in that woman. But when you're a masculine woman you might just be an experiment to men. They flirt with you because they find you intimidating or because they see the relationship between you two as some kind of a "bromance". A good example of this is how my friends boyfriend acts towards me. He stares at me, finds me very funny and always laughs at my worst jokes when no one alse does, touches me on my shoulder and head , sits very close to me etc. Those are all things people usually do when they're attracted to someone. But because I'm masculine it isn't a problem even tho he has a girlfriend because "I'm one of the guys". If he did the same to any feminine girl it would be seen as extremely disrespectful to his girlfriend. I have no experience in dating because most guys just find me weird.
Why do you think so? I'm talking about Ruby Rose. I'm kind of neutral towards buzzfeed, don't really care a lot. But I don't think they deserve to be called to buzzfeed. Anyway, I'm just curious, wondering.. Why did you type that? :P
I love this! You can totally be a woman who has masculine energy! That masculine energy does not mean you are male. It simply means you are a female who is “gender nonconforming.” You can dress however you want and still be a woman!
I was *almost* totally with this video, based on its title anyway, until "top surgery" was talked about. I thought this video was about masculinity, not gender dysphoria. I thought it was about people accepting themselves, but then the top surgery thing came up and I was like "what"? I mean, it's slightly clickbait to make it sound like it's about female masculinity and then go into how people hate their bodies. It's fine though, I accept that some people hate their bodies. The part that I actually *didn't* like about this video is how it suggested that when guys are masculine, that it's inherently misogynistic. I highly disagree with that. Generally I'm a lot more comfortable around masculine women than feminine women. There is a certain element to stereotypical femininity, no matter what gender or sex that someone is, that makes me feel like I'm being judged in a very, very negative way. People who are really feminine usually have to prove (often just by proxy of hearing them talk about what they're about) they're not judgmental in those ways for me to eventually feel comfortable. Some of it is because I'm a masculine gay man, and there is still a bit of expectation for gay men to be somewhat feminine, and unless I'm wearing makeup or something, like when I went through a purple phase earlier this year, I end up having an uncomfortability because of some of the very things said in this video--that masculinity on guys is inherently misogynistic.
As a "cis male" who was criticised for being overly feminine as a Teen, I find all efforts to bi-polarise our genders and sexualities a total anathema. About time, in my view, we simply acknowledge that we are fluid - influenced as much by our personal choices as we are our unique 'biologies' and nurturing during psychological / emotional development.
***** ROFL That's the whole point - ain't no such thing as a 'special snowflake' - we're all in the same boat regarding discovering our 'identity' and where it lies on the spectrum - all the stereotypical 'social norms' do, is provide a traditional framework (which has morphed many times over the generations) ;-)
I still identify as female, but there has been a time in high school when I thought that I was trans. Except trying to deliberately appear more butch or pass as male didn't feel right for me, it even felt toxic because I thought that I had to reject my feminine traits (or conversely, my masculine traits) to fit into a label. There are definitely a lot of female stereotypes that I cannot relate to and I see as mere social construct, outdated norms, or fashion/aesthetics. And I honestly don't like the "I don't wear heels" or "I'm not sappy" arguments, because I think that heels are just heels, and feelings are feelings (everyone has them). I just like to be in touch with every aspect of myself regardless of whether society typically classifies it as masculine or feminine. Just be true to yourself and give traditions no f**ks.
@The Prodigy I agreed that being man is not about style, but a female can be a man. Because some females have the 'man' istinctint drive that you're talking about...
All these people are 100% fantastic. I love this video so much. Just let other people live their lives like they want and how they are the most comfortable with themselves, even if you don't quite understand or relate to it. We'll all be happier that way.
I love this video, there is so much more to people than just the labels we have been taught as children. We are people, we can dress and act anyway (providing it's not hateful) we want if it makes us comfortable The world is slowly showing more love and unity
gender is a social construct. i wish the world could live in harmony, when gender does not matter and is not judged. i wish we could live in a world where every gender is respected.
Alexis M Gender is a construct invented by God Almighty himself. In other words, it is normal. If gender doesn't exist, neither does the universe itself because gender itself is a law. There is male and female, nothing else.
this just made me remember of when my parents used to yell at me for breaking up with guys. They said I was too foreword. They truly asked me to repress my feelings... But they used the words "be more feminine"
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I don't get it, why the labels? If you are born a woman and you don't want to turn into a man. You are a woman, why do you have to label yourself and try to fit into a description? I'm not the most femenine woman there is. I use loose black t-shirts, practice martial arts, like having weird hair colours and I don't use makeup. But I'm a woman and I don't want to become a man, I'm not weak or look like a barbie but guess what, that's not what it means to be a woman. Just drop the stereotype...
Some people don't identify as a man or a woman or they're very fluid with what gender they feel they are, and in modern day society we label everything for some reason. I don't like labels because they feel too confined, but no one would know what anyone was talking about if we didn't have them.
Erin -Shelly- Mason What is a man or a woman in the first place? Other than having female of male body parts... You can be as femmenine or masculine as you want and still be a man or a woman. I mean the person in the video even said she felt like she had to be careful about what she did to fit into the gender neutral group. I mean you just be you, you don't need a label.
"Girly" things like clothing and activities do not determine your gender if whether or not you like things like makeup. That is just personal preference (and gender roles usually play a part in). Being genderqueer doesn't mean you do not like the typical thing a biological cis female would like or a biological cis male. It means that mentally you feel more masculine/feminine/or neither than what your body says.
The person who said they identify with just 'butch' is soooo attractive omg. Also, I apologize to that person if they have preferred pronouns I'm not using but I just really don't want to use the wrong pronouns by accident. But yeah, they're a hottie
+RaJuanJohnson you don't know a person's pronouns by just looking at them. You could see a biological man walking down the street and who knows? They could identify as a woman. You don't know that just by looking at them.
Em Rose Pronouns don't care about what a person identifies as. That's the whole damn point. A man is referred to by masculine pronouns and a female, feminine.
They're all so unique and beautiful/handsome and amazing. I'm more confused about myself, my sexuality and my identity than ever. But I like it. I'm getting closer to figuring out what exactly my mind and my heart wants. Videos like these are so helpful. Some days I like tight clothes and cleavage and girlyness. And some days I only want to shop in the "guys" section and wear shirts that are actually comfortable. Thank you for these videos, BuzzFeed. Thank you for helping me. -Bo
Yeah, I find it a bit problematic. :/ I was going to say transphobic, but I can't because some butthurt people just come whining about it "why do you say so, this is not transphobic, there is no transphobia here", and like doesn't really understand. I also know you can identify as female, as one of your identities, when you are genderfluid, but you never get to know the people in the video, what identity do they identify as, what are their prefered pronouns, etc? And then they just says female in the questions.. I don't even know if some of the people in the video feel disrespected for those kind of questions or not, bc I just know they're gender neutral, and not the whole identity of all, and the pronouns, I just feel very confused and don't know how to react about this. Yeah, I would say that the video itself is problematic, rather then transphobic. I know what they did, they tried to be including with this kind of video, but in the end: unfortunately, they failed. :/
sometimes people who are different from the societal norm (in any kind of way) feel alone, isolated, or weird. having something to identify as can unite them and allow them to find others like them. Having other people who are 'different' in the same way you are can make you feel less alone or weird. This concept goes for a lot of characteristics, not just sexuality/gender/gender expression (like for people of different nationalities living in foreign countries, just to name one example). Also, some people don't want to identify as anything and that's fine too.
Okay I don't get it. This I get, and I'm totally fine with it. Male= Male Female = Female Trans= Trans But this video was kinda pointless. Look at me I'm "gender neutral " You're just a masculine women (tomboy) who's probably a lesbian. Why is everything so over dramatic? Seems like their looking for attention. But that's just me.
No just about everyone is thinking it but the buzzfeed comments are filled with social justice warriors that believe anything someone says and will attack you if you don't give attention to causes that are not real. To any logical person the people in the video are tomboys crying for attention.
Because Masculinity is an observable set of traits, and Femininity is an observable set of traits. By extension, observable male and female traits/behavior are common in a wide variety of animal species. It comes down to hormones and biology which is scientifically observable. It's not really a stereotype if it's so common that it's the norm. Of course there's outliers like gender non-conforming people who appear in this video. The point is males tend to be masculine more than females.
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I don't see why there has to be a label for this. If you were born with female genitals you are female. It doesn't matter if you dress more masculine as there isn't anything that says that females cannot dress and act "manly". People who are identifying as non binary are stengthenring negative stereotypes. No one fits the perfect cookie cutter women, everyone has masculine traits. So be proud to be what you are and redefine gender norms not jsut use a different label. Also, I'm not referring to transgender people, this is more directed at anyone who is "non binary" or gender fluid
Genderqueer female here. It took a long time for me to understand what I was and accept it, but I'm glad I did. I'm attracted to cis men exclusively, but I don't see myself as a man or a woman. I'm sort of an "it".
I feel for these women, I was a tomboy for a looooooong time like 5th grade through a couple of years in college. Still kind of am. It wasn't even like I was a sporty girl I just didn't like dressing girly. when I got older I was pressured into thinking I was gay.... I don't like girls. Never have never will. I'm half way to 50 I've figured out who I am by now. I just never saw the appeal in dressing up all the time. I felt like it was a waste of time.you can't judge people by the way they look.
I'm unsure about how I identify, but I do dress and act pretty masculine. I feel pressured to act more feminine because the people around me, including my parents, want me to be less of a guy and more of a girl so i'll "fit in." I get called a guy a lot, and I get teased for wearing a binder. I don't see why my clothing and attitude makes it so difficult for me to be around. I dress and act to make myself comfortable, and whoever has a problem with it can leave.
Its not your appearance that makes you difficult to be around, its your constant worrying about it, your self obsession, and your constant need to fit in with those who don't fit in that makes you difficult to be around. A lot like the buffoons in this video.
Idk what to explain myself as, I identify as a girl and like being a girl and as much as I don't want to admit it, I am attracted to girls. but I just feel like sometimes I'm more masculine than feminine . What do I call that?
I've never given people labels or try to figure out "what they are". I just accept them and who they are as individuals- its simple and easy. They're just them, just a person and their traits ^v^
Of course. What I meant to say is *I* don't put the labels. Whatever they identify by I don't question- its who they are. I don't say "panromantic demisexual? That means you're like this". I just nod, move on. And if they go by "ze/hir", you bet I'll remember and respect that, yet I won't go "oh, so you're agender" even if it seems logical to assume. Maybe they're genderfluid; until they tell me I'll make no assumption. In fact, even if the next day they went by "he"- I'd just nod and accept it without thinking "genderfluid!". Labeling often warps our perception of people, conciously or unconciously promoting prejudice. Likewise, people are too unique and complicated to be categorized and placed in boxes. I can respect a person's traits and preferences without labeling them :)
Stepdad raised me with some masculine roles since he didn't get a son. He saw my behavioral patterns way before I understood them. Now I have a girlfriend
I don't think mental caracteristics have to be female or male. Some are just more prevalent in females or males because of our society constructs. Same with clothes, hair, etc. The only things male or female are sexually differentiated organs and phenotypes, and sexual chromosomes alleles.
I really don’t get it. Why do we have to have labels for how you want to dress? Gender is which genitalia you feel comfortable having, it shouldn’t be used for anything else. Your personality and “presentation” simply isn’t a gender and complicates gender-specific medical details.
I think it's wonderful to see the perspective of non-conforming/identifying and agender persons, but I would like to see a video about women who identify as female AND identify as masculine to further show that masculinity isn't exclusively male. Just because you're masculine, doesn't mean you're any less womanly than someone who wears pink frills. - I don't want or mean to further create a gender binary, but I think it's important to know that just because you have masculine traits, doesn't mean you have to identify as agender or gender non-conforming, you can still be as much of a woman and/or man as anyone else. If that's what you want.
+misha ask I find it strange that you comment something rude and then use a smiley face. bipolar? or attempting to mask the insult? i think its the latter.
People should just be allowed to look and be whoever makes them happy. End of story. Credit to all the people who're doing that and cheers to all of those trying to get there
Harry Reeve Those are radfems, and feminists don't want anything to do with them, thank you very much :) I would love a video on Male Femininity, but I fear for the safety of the men that would take part in it, as they're often targeted and abused because of it.
+BombGames They mean more like a female and less like a male so other women know its not a man approaching. I personally don't bother to do it, because women are gonna deal with men walking around so one extra wont make a difference.
You know the hardest part about being a masculine woman? It's difficult when you're a STRAIGHT one. A straight MARRIED woman who wears her husband's clothes. The perk is very few men check me out. xD
I’m a cis male (pansexual) and I’ve always been completely comfortable with being more feminine than others around me in certain aspects, but most of the time I like being the alpha, even with women and trans people . Not because of any social brainwashing but because that is what I like, I like being the aggressor/Top.
I identify with this so strongly, it's making me a little emotional, I'm so glad that we're on our way to a world where people can just be unapologetically themselves
I'm so angry at what this society has come too, basically all the popular girls looks the same and people are afraid to be who they are. everyone thinks its a big deal but in a good way to be different but its not. I actually hate society and no one understands that we are falling in this world, teenage girls slap on makeup and have a full on stare out when there is another girl, for some reasons boys cant show emotion for fear of appearing "girly"? wtf?
I love how buzz feed is helping the masses understand how fluid gender and sexuality is, using their popularity to spread important messages like these. Its just awesome to see it :)
Ciara Cooper dumb people mixing sex and gender up is funny but sad at the same time.
+Nathan Jones are you saying she mixed them up?
+Nathan Jones It's not really sad considering some textbook definitions of gender and sex make them seem synonymous. For example, Merriam Webster defines gender as: "The state of being male or female." So it's not much of a distinct difference between the two as you might have previously believed.
Brenna Bug
no i mean the stupid commenters, mixing up sex = biologiccal, and gender = mental feeling .
I'm biologically a girl, but I act, dress, talk, sit in a masculine way. I keep my hair in a buzzcut and wear EXCLUSIVELY guys' clothes. I have a visible 6-pack, am pretty damn muscular, and enjoy any traditionally male activities. I've always though "tomboy" was the word used to describe people like me, but so-called tomboys STILL claim to enjoy being feminine and dolled-up from time to time. I don't. If I'm wearing a dress or anything that can be considered feminine/girly, I don't feel like myself. I feel like someone else, I feel weird and terribly uncomfortable. Femininity does not define me at all.
However, I'm not a transgender man, because I don't feel like a guy trapped in a girl's body. I know I am a girl, and I gladly accept that. I don't accept being feminine and delicate, it's true. But I accept my female identity. I am not a lesbian either, although many people keep assuming that. I'm just a straight girl who believes people should wear what truly defines them, and what they find comfortable. Nobody should wear a certain thing according to what's in their pants.
M A F I A BOSS what do you call a straight girl who looks like a hard butch?
A straight butch?
Either way, that's really cool. I've never met a straight girl like this. wonder how common women like this are.
hey. thank you for this comment. just wanted to say, gender and sexuality are completely different and your feelings about being a masculine straight woman are totally valid. you will continue discovering these parts of yourself and learning more, gender is fluid and we do not need to confine ourselves in any sort of way if it doesn't make us comfortable. you do you. rock on
I don't even define what you do as masculine, to me female and male are just genders and nothing more
Trust me by all means I would like this comment
But
It’s at 69 likes I just can’t I’m sorry
THE KILLER You’re just a boring lesbian.
I’m a straight woman but I’m not feminine at all and am constantly assumed to be a lesbian because of this. It can be very isolating.
Yessss sameeee
Im very sorry! Hopefully you can meet people who appreciate you!!!!!
Same here. I have no experience in dating because everyone assumes I'm lesbian and only women have hit on me. Men don't show any interest in me. People also find it weird in genreal that I want to be masculine and I've lost friends because I'm "too different".
i work with a feminine guy who's straight, everybody assumes he's gay even though he is married to a woman.
some people tend to get jerked outta shape when something they see doesn't fit into a nice neat box.
Well stop acting like a man. Simple
the individual with the green hair. OMG your skin is amaaaaazing!
They're gorgeous!!
+Brianna Heckel They*
Frida Marklund I apologize, my intention was not to offend.
+Brianna Heckel No problem! We all make mistakes, and all I think is that we should keep learning from them. Have a nice day!
Frida Marklund I couldn't agree more! You have a nice day as well. :)
this comment section has two VERY different sides to it
You mean sane people with morals, and then degenerate freaks who want to burn society to the ground?
Nicole Llih I know it's old but that's an awesome response
thisjerksaguy Basically. But you won't like where you fall.
They are so stunning wow *-*
No
Nope
hmu bby girl ;) I am one! ^.^/
Men disagree
can you not just be female who likes to dress in clothes that aren't traditionally female clothes? or doesn't act like what traditionally is considered feminine? or vice versa with a man being more "feminine".
how can you complain about labels and then create all these different labels that put people into very specific groups. surely its less divisive to just be male/female or human?
Baw Jaws omg coudnt have said it better
Baw Jaws I wonder how many people who have your opinion hate on bronies... lol
Well said tho
-13 yr old girl lelelelele
Lightning Chaser I mean you can call yourself whatever, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. That goes for "bronies" too, haha. The comment is just my take on the whole thing.
+mlg scoper lol
***** Your sister is insane
Hopefully she grows out of it
hey what if gender roles didnt exist? what are we basing gender on?
Gina Yu Completely different biology.
Gina Yu if there werent gender roles then gender really wouldnt exist. gender is mostly a human construct.
Immajeanyus Biological and physiological differences create tendencies toward acting in certain ways. What you call "gender roles" is just society reinforcing that biological predisposition.
based on ur organs lol
MapzOr` Nah, that's 'sex'. Gender is more mental identification.
I like this, being genetically a girl but acting, trying to look, etc. etc. more masculine, even though I'm not trans.
No, more than that.
thats me
Samuel115s - It's trans because you don't want to follow the arbitrary societal rules of what a girl is? Okay.
So....tomboy who thinks she's better than other tomboys. Why can't you be okay with yourself, even if it's like some else in one way? Why you have to try and make your own box to seem more unique? It doesn't help anything, but only separates people even more.
thats me...
I'm a straight woman, but I feel more comfortable wearing more typically masculine clothing (pants, T-shirts, etc) and presenting myself in a more masculine way. I also like a lot of stereotypically male things (math, bikes, protecting others, holding doors open for people, etc. - like not necessarily something men should do/like, but what is typically expected), and am generally more aggressive than an average woman.
I wish they had included someone who identified as a woman, was straight, and not overtly non-feminine, but still didn't feel comfortable presenting as very feminine or liking feminine things, if that makes any sense.
"Identified as a woman". Huh? They are not claiming to be trans, they accept the reality that they are women but that doesn't mean to have to conform to femininity. Are you saying that you wish they featured a woman who looked slightly feminine yet has more masculine interests? Kinda like the character Donna from That 70s Show? If so then okay, I get what you mean but just saying there, these women know they are women.
Dear people who can't accept these people or any trans people:
What's the harm? Like honestly. If you can give me clear, accurately proven sources that letting trans people be respected as human beings is hurting someone, I'll be transphobic ASAP.
Just giving you a friendly public service announcement. When attempting to form a effective argument meant to persuade others, "what's the harm?" Is a terrible starter point.
blueyedbeauty99 I agree with Ryanfinder226 , your heart is in the right place, but no matter how good or bad your morals are, if you present your argument wrong you will in fact be shut down by those opposing.
What's the harm? It's stupid way of thinking that I don't want my children to be around.
+RevucumberTechUSA well then HAVE IGNORANT CHILDREN
blueyedbeauty99 And these women aren't trans. If they were, it wouldn't be female masculinity, it would me male masculinity.
I know you're trying, but I just thought I'd let you know ;)
I love that in the English language you can just use the pronoun "them" and adjectives and verbs are the same for everyone.
In my language (French), all of these vary depending on you being male or female, so there is basically nothing for non-binary people and altering the language would be so hard.
***** Exactement, ce qu'on a en français sonne terriblement artificiel, sans compter que je n'ai aucune idée de la façon dont on est censé accorder ce type de pronom.
Pas de souci pour les accents, j'ai aussi parfois dû utiliser des claviers étrangers. ^^
owlnemo Same..In my language it just sounds really weird and when you're talking about yourself pretty much every word is different depending on your gender :/
Merci pour la source!
Oui, c'est bien de ça que je parlais. J'avoue que quand je vois les accords que propose l'article je grince un peu des dents, car je n'arrive pas à me détacher du fait que ça sonne faux, mais c'est probablement une simple question d'habitude.
Je pense comme vous qu'utiliser "la personne qui" semble effectivement être un bon compromis.
Ça me rappelle le terme "Lehrperson" (littéralement personne qui enseigne, au lieu de "Lehrer"/"Lehrerin": enseignant/enseignante) qui s'est pas mal généralisé dans les écoles pédagogiques de Suisse allemande (je ne sais pas ce qu'il en est pour les autres pays germanophones).
owlnemo same in polish! I love english for that too 😁
@@owlnemo Je suis d'accord avec toi (2 ans après, coucou c'est moi)
Je fréquente beaucoup d'espaces LGBT donc forcément je fais hyper attention à ça mais quand je parle de personnes qui s'identifient au-delà de la binarité en utilisant "iel", cela sonne faux, surtout lorsqu'il faut dire "iel" plusieurs fois dans la même phrase !! Mais bon, c'est comme tout, il faut s'y habituer :)
Aaaaand this is the point where I begin to question humanity..
And why is that?
Batman Yeah, the point started with the comment you just made.
Batman I kinda agree. I get that people are becoming more accepting to other sexualities and genders, but i feel like you can't just fucking "feel" you gender...
Then again, I've never been in that position
Rebekah K. Lets say you are female. What if you woke up tomorrow in a mans body? Would you feel masculine or feminine internally? Thats what it feels like. To feel your gender.
+Del Heidari you cannot just wake up in another body. That's not how biology works.
Okay, "male" clothes are just totally cool. Nothing more to say.
(I confirm boobs burden when I just wanna dress up with a suit, that's kinda annoying sometimes, but boobs are great anyway **)
Agree
I have to agree, I suppose. XD
I agree with the guy clothes!
Very relatable
Yeah xD To be honest I have no problem with my boobs sometimes I just wish they were slightly smaller
i honestly hate that i am a pretty masculin girl,guys will only talk to me as a friend or if they like need help to move, but i dont like flower dresses and romantic comedies,i dont cry over puppies,i'm not chatty,i hate make up,i hate fashion,epecially nowadays....but im am not any less of a woman,and i am not a lesbian,which so many of my friends believe....ofcourse i dont mean to say that being girly is a bad thing,i just dont find it a part of who i am
Maybe if you present yourself better to men they can see your feminine qualities. You're probably exaggerating in your mind how masculine you really are. There are some feminine men who prefer butch women though.
Same be
@@AlexOjideagu2
Nah I've seen some very masculine women
Me too
Today, about 9 hours ago I discovered that genderqueer was a thing. Today, about 9 hours ago I didn't feel alienated anymore. I'm glad this video came out because it might help others discover who they are too.
SomeoneNamedNoOne I'm very happy for you :)
I'm so happy for you!
SomeoneNamedNoOne yeah sex is a biological thing, but gender and masculine and femine can change per person
+Dzung Le Lol.
Society makes ppl the way they don't want to be and I'm proud of all these girls which truly show who they want to be without being social expectation slaves!
It's FINE if you are a woman and do "man" stuff (idk why "man" stuff exists or "woman" stuff) but you are stuck with your gender DEAL WITH IT!!!
Guys, these genders weren't just something tumblr made up recently. The male and female binary genders are actually a very European concept. For example, many Native American cultures had "Two-Spirits", people of a gender not 100% male or 100% female, and the Hijira (I think that how it spelt) in India, which is a similar concept. There is also evidence of non-binary genders existing in parts of Italy and Mexico, as well as several other countries and cultures. Don't believe me? Do the research yourself.
agreed
The more appropriate word is enuch in India it is considered more polite :). It is ironic that i come from the country that has had a history that constitutes a spectrum of identity and sexuality, where people worship gods that are considered gender neutral but at the same time criminalises LGBT community.
Italy is a European country though.
there are also Fa'afafine in Samoa, Burrnesha, and many more examples.. the gender binary was forced upon people after colonization/conquest by Europeans throughout the world.... its crazy how terrible we're made out to be when we were once so admired in our cultures
Well, you'd be able to tell if tumblr made it up.
I'm straight but I genuinely think they're all so pretty; there's something beautiful about female masculinity
the comments are so ignorant like "i dont understand this identity or lifestyle so i must reject and make fun of it immediately" like humans want to belong to a group thats human nature like how hard is that to understand i cant. honestly where yall think female and male come from like where yall think race come from? ppl saw they was different and labels helped to build identities of people who might be different and we don't have a problem with labels like "girl" "boy" or "black" and "white" like you think those labels existed from the beginning of time? no, someone had to create it and then accept it. That's culture, its 2016 we should know this by now
And what's wrong with labels?
Elite Daily:Humans have an innate desire to place labels on everything. Labels
give people a sense of order, and a way of distinguishing things.
Yet, people aren’t things-people are too dynamic to be placed in boxes. A person’s race, sexuality, socioeconomic status or geographic origins does not define all that he or she is or will be, and labels often warp our perception of people. In essence, they promote both blatant and unconscious prejudice.
Male or female or races are what you are. Butch(etc,) is how you feel. No comparison. Even if people identify similarly in one way. They're still different in other ways. People are different. Just face it. That's why when people meet each other, they focus on finding many commonalities. Not sticking to one like it means everything to them.
fmadiva
That's just my take on it. I can understand someone and connect with them without utilizing labels by simply spending time with them and getting to know them, rather than taking shortcuts and saying 'oh I'm [label]' and assume what comes with it. I will acknowledge that labels play a big part in communication; they're easy and quick as a method of understanding someone. But that's why they're such a delicate thing. They're not necessarily helping you understad someone by who they are, but by who you /think/ they are, because labels are very personal things with definitions and connotations that vary much from person to person. To one, the "immigrant" label may have a bad connotation and carry prejudice, while to some it is simply a statement of their social status. To connect with people through labels is to say "I'm gay, therefore I've had the same experiences as this other gay person. I feel a connection to them now." Now this could be true, or it could be a complete logical fallacy depending on the people involved. It's simply too much of a complicated topic, that of labels. I for one, though I dislike lables, admit and accept that they're an innate part of our societies, and they come in good and bad. The least we can do is realize what labels are and what they do.
P.S sorry for the long post xD
mrinsano555 lolololololol still social constructs
Cool video. The only person who can define you is you. :)
Geek Remix such a coincidence to see you here! I love your videos! :)
Juraj Jakubec I was born black but identify as white.
@@ranmashin were you that girl on dr phil?? XD
God the creator has defined us.
@@stevenbooth751 who tf is that who cares
This makes me feel better about myself, because in the past I was a tomboy (not as extreme as female masculinity to full extent) but people made fun of me and to this day when I like wearing dresses and more female clothing they're like "Wow you're wearing that?!" It just makes me sad to think that people can't be themselves without society judging you every move...
Buzzfeed political correctness has gone too far...
Brighton Dunkley if you dont like it why not just stop watchin their stuff?
Buttons Bruh That doesn't make any sense. I enjoy most of their stuff so why would I stop watching just because of one video I dislike?
Is there something wrong with being correct?
+blueyedbeauty99 See if they keep making normal videos and put trans women with normal women, i find that enough but when you keep making directed videos it starts to become annoying, maybe its because i already accept people for what they are and i am just tired of seeing all of these videos directed towards the LGBTQ community, and besides, this is not the content i subscribed for when i subscribed to buzzfeed.
The person in the Slayer top is a total babe
+cookiekennedy so true
+cookiekennedy was just thinking that wow. she's incredible.
+cookiekennedy ikr and the girl with her.
Has anyone found their @??
@tylerleeaubrey
"Sometimes I'm not male or female".
Yup. Now we get to choose to be neither a boy OR a girl now. Progress?
Lmfao I'm sayin the same thing lol!
search non binary
Who are they hurting? Honestly, how on earth are their choices harming you? They aren't. Chill.
Sarah Schneider Because at some point there'll be a time when it isn't socially acceptable to look at someone and assume they're a boy or a girl if some people get their way.
They're saying they don't fit in really with either gender.. Like how mixed people aren't really white or black (if that even makes sense)
It's a shame to see so many negative comments. To everyone who isn't going what these people are going through, I suggest you stop putting them down. Stop giving assumptions, statistics, and insults. You don't have to go through what they go through, you aren't living their lives, you don't know who they are. So I recommend that if you don't know how it feels, then stop giving recommendations, because in the end, you are just going to damage people.
When someone asks you, "are you a girl or a boy?", they aren't asking "do you wear dresses?" or "do you have a beard?" they are asking what genitalia that you have. No matter what name you give yourself, there is no denying what you are, its not something to hide or be ashamed of its just like someone asking do you have arms or legs. You can be whatever you want no matter whats down there
this needs to be taught in school honestly. There are so many people who put down gender roles and sexuality differences because its unheard of.
Can we start seeing people as HUMANS, instead of male or female???
Ok 👍
No
God made us male and female
It's sometimes very tiring being a masculine straight woman. When a man flirts with a woman you usually assume they do it because they're interested in that woman. But when you're a masculine woman you might just be an experiment to men. They flirt with you because they find you intimidating or because they see the relationship between you two as some kind of a "bromance". A good example of this is how my friends boyfriend acts towards me. He stares at me, finds me very funny and always laughs at my worst jokes when no one alse does, touches me on my shoulder and head , sits very close to me etc. Those are all things people usually do when they're attracted to someone. But because I'm masculine it isn't a problem even tho he has a girlfriend because "I'm one of the guys". If he did the same to any feminine girl it would be seen as extremely disrespectful to his girlfriend. I have no experience in dating because most guys just find me weird.
This just made me think of Ruby Rose and how badly I want her to be in buzzfeed videos
Buzzfeed is cancer. So is Ruby skank Rose.
Why do you think so? I'm talking about Ruby Rose. I'm kind of neutral towards buzzfeed, don't really care a lot. But I don't think they deserve to be called to buzzfeed. Anyway, I'm just curious, wondering.. Why did you type that? :P
Owning womanhood while being who you want to be. Slay.
I love this! You can totally be a woman who has masculine energy! That masculine energy does not mean you are male. It simply means you are a female who is “gender nonconforming.” You can dress however you want and still be a woman!
This video has only been up for five minutes and there are already so many stupid comments.
Squirtle and Diglett Like yours.
I was *almost* totally with this video, based on its title anyway, until "top surgery" was talked about. I thought this video was about masculinity, not gender dysphoria. I thought it was about people accepting themselves, but then the top surgery thing came up and I was like "what"? I mean, it's slightly clickbait to make it sound like it's about female masculinity and then go into how people hate their bodies. It's fine though, I accept that some people hate their bodies.
The part that I actually *didn't* like about this video is how it suggested that when guys are masculine, that it's inherently misogynistic. I highly disagree with that.
Generally I'm a lot more comfortable around masculine women than feminine women. There is a certain element to stereotypical femininity, no matter what gender or sex that someone is, that makes me feel like I'm being judged in a very, very negative way. People who are really feminine usually have to prove (often just by proxy of hearing them talk about what they're about) they're not judgmental in those ways for me to eventually feel comfortable.
Some of it is because I'm a masculine gay man, and there is still a bit of expectation for gay men to be somewhat feminine, and unless I'm wearing makeup or something, like when I went through a purple phase earlier this year, I end up having an uncomfortability because of some of the very things said in this video--that masculinity on guys is inherently misogynistic.
I totally agree with your statement...
As a "cis male" who was criticised for being overly feminine as a Teen, I find all efforts to bi-polarise our genders and sexualities a total anathema.
About time, in my view, we simply acknowledge that we are fluid - influenced as much by our personal choices as we are our unique 'biologies' and nurturing during psychological / emotional development.
***** Gender and sex are not the same thing.
Kizzume Fowler im just messing around, but to be honest I dont buy it.
People just freaks.
*****
ROFL
That's the whole point - ain't no such thing as a 'special snowflake' - we're all in the same boat regarding discovering our 'identity' and where it lies on the spectrum - all the stereotypical 'social norms' do, is provide a traditional framework (which has morphed many times over the generations) ;-)
I still identify as female, but there has been a time in high school when I thought that I was trans. Except trying to deliberately appear more butch or pass as male didn't feel right for me, it even felt toxic because I thought that I had to reject my feminine traits (or conversely, my masculine traits) to fit into a label. There are definitely a lot of female stereotypes that I cannot relate to and I see as mere social construct, outdated norms, or fashion/aesthetics. And I honestly don't like the "I don't wear heels" or "I'm not sappy" arguments, because I think that heels are just heels, and feelings are feelings (everyone has them). I just like to be in touch with every aspect of myself regardless of whether society typically classifies it as masculine or feminine. Just be true to yourself and give traditions no f**ks.
Im female but am very masculine and have cut my hair. I still like the opposite of my birth gender though :3
FootyStyles , I'm the same exact way except I'm pansexual
SAFCidiot I'm a woman who's very feminine but I have my butch moments. I'm a police officer and it's an asset to a police women to be butch.
@The Prodigy I agreed that being man is not about style, but a female can be a man. Because some females have the 'man' istinctint drive that you're talking about...
Just say men,lol.
@@LeafyPeach Eyyy guys, I found a christian. 😂
All these people are 100% fantastic. I love this video so much. Just let other people live their lives like they want and how they are the most comfortable with themselves, even if you don't quite understand or relate to it. We'll all be happier that way.
I love this video, there is so much more to people than just the labels we have been taught as children. We are people, we can dress and act anyway (providing it's not hateful) we want if it makes us comfortable
The world is slowly showing more love and unity
gender is a social construct. i wish the world could live in harmony, when gender does not matter and is not judged. i wish we could live in a world where every gender is respected.
+Sergio Gutierrez I'm laughing so hard right now... :'D
Alexis M Gender is a construct invented by God Almighty himself. In other words, it is normal. If gender doesn't exist, neither does the universe itself because gender itself is a law. There is male and female, nothing else.
There are a lot of men that love being men/male. It's not your place or right to try and make people abandon that word
+richboyk1 hey can i have your address so i can come to your house and throw pasta at you until you stop being so ignorant?
wow congratulations that's an extremely irrelevant argument
Why can't we just accept how people identify because they aren't effecting us. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
this just made me remember of when my parents used to yell at me for breaking up with guys. They said I was too foreword. They truly asked me to repress my feelings... But they used the words "be more feminine"
I identify myself as no.6666969 im not a label. Im myself. i am an impure soul.
Lol
Btw i didnt post this to offend anyone i dont think anyone should have any label on them. Be yourself. Be who you want to be.
+Eternal Kitty just say what you wanna say and let the words fly out, honestly I wanna see you be brave
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Lmao wtf
+Eternal Kitty . Lol @ 'impure soul'. Aren't we all, ha?
I don't get it, why the labels? If you are born a woman and you don't want to turn into a man. You are a woman, why do you have to label yourself and try to fit into a description? I'm not the most femenine woman there is. I use loose black t-shirts, practice martial arts, like having weird hair colours and I don't use makeup. But I'm a woman and I don't want to become a man, I'm not weak or look like a barbie but guess what, that's not what it means to be a woman. Just drop the stereotype...
Some people don't identify as a man or a woman or they're very fluid with what gender they feel they are, and in modern day society we label everything for some reason. I don't like labels because they feel too confined, but no one would know what anyone was talking about if we didn't have them.
Erin -Shelly- Mason What is a man or a woman in the first place? Other than having female of male body parts... You can be as femmenine or masculine as you want and still be a man or a woman. I mean the person in the video even said she felt like she had to be careful about what she did to fit into the gender neutral group. I mean you just be you, you don't need a label.
"Girly" things like clothing and activities do not determine your gender if whether or not you like things like makeup. That is just personal preference (and gender roles usually play a part in). Being genderqueer doesn't mean you do not like the typical thing a biological cis female would like or a biological cis male. It means that mentally you feel more masculine/feminine/or neither than what your body says.
+Kyndatss But why are femininity and masculinity tied to genders.?
RobinFlysHigh That's just a social construction, apparently you are masculinne if you do what men "are supposed to do".
Idk where I fit in this spectrum. I'm a bi girl who's attracted to femininity and I dress like a femme but act like a butch.
You don't have to fit into somewhere. Just be your own unique self.
Jesus Princess We don't need your Jesus here, bye
I agree with crazy but I'll tell you anyway I think that's STEM but honestly just be who you are
@TheMisogynist Do you even know what socialism is?
FINALLY THEY DISCUSS GENDERFLUIDITY/GENDER NONCONFORMING PEOPLE
all of these people are so attractive
I love female masculinity. Thanks for putting you’re handsome selves out there. ❤️
The person who said they identify with just 'butch' is soooo attractive omg. Also, I apologize to that person if they have preferred pronouns I'm not using but I just really don't want to use the wrong pronouns by accident. But yeah, they're a hottie
You're talking about a female, so call her a female. You're not being disrespectful or offensive by using the proper pronoun (her). She's a her.
+RaJuanJohnson you don't know a person's pronouns by just looking at them. You could see a biological man walking down the street and who knows? They could identify as a woman. You don't know that just by looking at them.
Em Rose Pronouns don't care about what a person identifies as. That's the whole damn point. A man is referred to by masculine pronouns and a female, feminine.
RaJuanJohnson preferred pronouns do and many people opt for them
But you just said she called herself butch so she's definitely a woman
They're all so unique and beautiful/handsome and amazing. I'm more confused about myself, my sexuality and my identity than ever. But I like it. I'm getting closer to figuring out what exactly my mind and my heart wants. Videos like these are so helpful. Some days I like tight clothes and cleavage and girlyness. And some days I only want to shop in the "guys" section and wear shirts that are actually comfortable. Thank you for these videos, BuzzFeed. Thank you for helping me. -Bo
This has got to be one of the most interesting things to me rn
Being a girl who’s masculine doesn’t make you a different gender. Trans men and masculine women are VERY different, to conflate the two is insulting.
"female" * has gender neutral people *
***** oh thanks. didn't know.
+SometimesImStupid MY EXACT THOUGHTS
:l
You can still be gender neutral and identify with being feminine or having femininity
buttercup it says female not feminine, but anyway they're all biologically female
Yeah, I find it a bit problematic. :/ I was going to say transphobic, but I can't because some butthurt people just come whining about it "why do you say so, this is not transphobic, there is no transphobia here", and like doesn't really understand. I also know you can identify as female, as one of your identities, when you are genderfluid, but you never get to know the people in the video, what identity do they identify as, what are their prefered pronouns, etc? And then they just says female in the questions..
I don't even know if some of the people in the video feel disrespected for those kind of questions or not, bc I just know they're gender neutral, and not the whole identity of all, and the pronouns, I just feel very confused and don't know how to react about this. Yeah, I would say that the video itself is problematic, rather then transphobic.
I know what they did, they tried to be including with this kind of video, but in the end: unfortunately, they failed. :/
Why do they need to idendify as something? They are just masculine women. I don't get it
sometimes people who are different from the societal norm (in any kind of way) feel alone, isolated, or weird. having something to identify as can unite them and allow them to find others like them. Having other people who are 'different' in the same way you are can make you feel less alone or weird. This concept goes for a lot of characteristics, not just sexuality/gender/gender expression (like for people of different nationalities living in foreign countries, just to name one example). Also, some people don't want to identify as anything and that's fine too.
In a few years later, they'll grow up. Unfortunately there will be a new crowd that follows.
Samantha exactly thank you that's how I feel
Samantha omg that's why there are labels, that makes a lot more sense now
Okay I don't get it.
This I get, and I'm totally fine with it.
Male= Male
Female = Female
Trans= Trans
But this video was kinda pointless. Look at me I'm "gender neutral " You're just a masculine women (tomboy) who's probably a lesbian.
Why is everything so over dramatic? Seems like their looking for attention. But that's just me.
No just about everyone is thinking it but the buzzfeed comments are filled with social justice warriors that believe anything someone says and will attack you if you don't give attention to causes that are not real. To any logical person the people in the video are tomboys crying for attention.
Bella SimsTomboy that's the word I was looking for.
***** Most social justice warriors are bigot hypocritical 12 year olds.
+Kenneth Klein (This is a late reply) You come across as pretty rude to a large community.
Joxii I'm really sorry if that was the case.
What do they classify as masculine? They're basically just stereotyping female and male behaivour.
Because Masculinity is an observable set of traits, and Femininity is an observable set of traits. By extension, observable male and female traits/behavior are common in a wide variety of animal species. It comes down to hormones and biology which is scientifically observable. It's not really a stereotype if it's so common that it's the norm. Of course there's outliers like gender non-conforming people who appear in this video. The point is males tend to be masculine more than females.
Try speaking English next time....
Kat Sam Yes, my husbands are very masculine.
i find the person (sorry unsure which pronouns they prefer) in the surfboard shirt extremely attractive
If you ever need to give someone pronouns but you don't know their gender just go with they/ them :D It helps a lot when describing a person
Anime Life For Me I know I just didn't have another way to word it in this instance 🙊
Jamie-lee Hutchings
I know how you feel :)
Woman. She is a woman , all the people in the video are women .
Wow she literally said she's a BUTCH WOMAN this is homophobic
I identify as an Apache helicopter.
Rare Pepes pls no steel i support the apache community & if you don't agree with my opinion then you're all heliphobe bigots. get with the 21st century! #apachepride
Lol, perfect RUclips comment 101
Best youtube name, too. GG you win the internet today, man.
😕😅😅😅😁yeah great....for u
Can we all just be human and get along none of this labelling crap
Maybe someday, but probably not anytime soon.
I don't see why there has to be a label for this. If you were born with female genitals you are female. It doesn't matter if you dress more masculine as there isn't anything that says that females cannot dress and act "manly". People who are identifying as non binary are stengthenring negative stereotypes. No one fits the perfect cookie cutter women, everyone has masculine traits. So be proud to be what you are and redefine gender norms not jsut use a different label.
Also, I'm not referring to transgender people, this is more directed at anyone who is "non binary" or gender fluid
Genderqueer female here. It took a long time for me to understand what I was and accept it, but I'm glad I did. I'm attracted to cis men exclusively, but I don't see myself as a man or a woman. I'm sort of an "it".
I'm glad you are openly saying this
+Kinetic AJ You are so nice! You are commenting on every single positive comment. Thank you❤
So people with mental health issues lack personhood in your eyes...that's nice to know.
I just feel like a human, but I am female. I don't care that I don't wear heels and make-up. I feel like human and that's enough for me.
I feel for these women, I was a tomboy for a looooooong time like 5th grade through a couple of years in college. Still kind of am. It wasn't even like I was a sporty girl I just didn't like dressing girly. when I got older I was pressured into thinking I was gay.... I don't like girls. Never have never will. I'm half way to 50 I've figured out who I am by now. I just never saw the appeal in dressing up all the time. I felt like it was a waste of time.you can't judge people by the way they look.
Every time they say 'butch' my heart feels lighter.
The girl with the green hair gives me Billie Eilish vibes.
I'm unsure about how I identify, but I do dress and act pretty masculine. I feel pressured to act more feminine because the people around me, including my parents, want me to be less of a guy and more of a girl so i'll "fit in." I get called a guy a lot, and I get teased for wearing a binder. I don't see why my clothing and attitude makes it so difficult for me to be around. I dress and act to make myself comfortable, and whoever has a problem with it can leave.
Its not your appearance that makes you difficult to be around, its your constant worrying about it, your self obsession, and your constant need to fit in with those who don't fit in that makes you difficult to be around.
A lot like the buffoons in this video.
Zoe Davis Just don't pressure yourself, with the time you'll figure it out and people who deserve you will accept you for who you are
Idk what to explain myself as, I identify as a girl and like being a girl and as much as I don't want to admit it, I am attracted to girls. but I just feel like sometimes I'm more masculine than feminine . What do I call that?
+Lauryn Ceritez it's called being a woman who sometimes acts masculine.
mrinsano555 lol prolly right. I never got into the labelling thing
tom boy! : D like me!!
secreteeyo stitcheeeyo maybe but not so much
Genderfluid
Yes! This is me! Masculine presenting!
I don't understand how people can "feel" like a particular gender. Like, I don't "feel" like a girl, I just know I am one.
Two genders
Male
Female
That's it
nope, there are many more amazing gender identities out there you should educate yourself :)
+TrueEnvy99 you are dumb
TrueEnvy99 this video isn't even about genders
OMG they all look so aesthetic I love every and each one of them. I love them all.
I've never given people labels or try to figure out "what they are". I just accept them and who they are as individuals- its simple and easy. They're just them, just a person and their traits ^v^
Labels are important to some people. If they tell you they identify a certain way you should respect that.
Of course. What I meant to say is *I* don't put the labels. Whatever they identify by I don't question- its who they are. I don't say "panromantic demisexual? That means you're like this". I just nod, move on. And if they go by "ze/hir", you bet I'll remember and respect that, yet I won't go "oh, so you're agender" even if it seems logical to assume. Maybe they're genderfluid; until they tell me I'll make no assumption. In fact, even if the next day they went by "he"- I'd just nod and accept it without thinking "genderfluid!". Labeling often warps our perception of people, conciously or unconciously promoting prejudice. Likewise, people are too unique and complicated to be categorized and placed in boxes. I can respect a person's traits and preferences without labeling them :)
the girl with the grey-ish blue hair is so so sos pretty oh mygod
We live in such an interesting time. There's such a wide range of people in our society coming to the spotlight. I'm so excited to see where we go.
The girl with bangs and green hair is so pretty!! I can't 😻😻😻
sigh...these new gays and their 94,567,445 labels.
Can we just throw away 'gender' and just be whoever we want to be?
+Feckle Maginon i don't think we need to throw out gender. i think we need to throw out the gender binary.
No but anyone could be whoever, men can wear skirts if they want
Ideally, yes. But if it ever does happen, it is going to take a VERY long time. We've lived one way for so long it would be hard to change like that.
We can't throw away gender but we need to remove gender role and stereotypes
Just like what Barbie commercial says "Be what you want"
Stepdad raised me with some masculine roles since he didn't get a son. He saw my behavioral patterns way before I understood them. Now I have a girlfriend
I don't think mental caracteristics have to be female or male. Some are just more prevalent in females or males because of our society constructs. Same with clothes, hair, etc. The only things male or female are sexually differentiated organs and phenotypes, and sexual chromosomes alleles.
Just be yourself.
Couldn't have said it any better, now people just need to except everyone.
Maybe its better to twerk your problems and the assholes away.
I really don’t get it. Why do we have to have labels for how you want to dress? Gender is which genitalia you feel comfortable having, it shouldn’t be used for anything else. Your personality and “presentation” simply isn’t a gender and complicates gender-specific medical details.
I love this so much, I've definitely become more in touch with my masculine side. I identify as a girl but I dress really masculine !
Cool
@Glory ForFreedom Now who cares
You do you!
I think it's wonderful to see the perspective of non-conforming/identifying and agender persons, but I would like to see a video about women who identify as female AND identify as masculine to further show that masculinity isn't exclusively male. Just because you're masculine, doesn't mean you're any less womanly than someone who wears pink frills.
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I don't want or mean to further create a gender binary, but I think it's important to know that just because you have masculine traits, doesn't mean you have to identify as agender or gender non-conforming, you can still be as much of a woman and/or man as anyone else. If that's what you want.
respect someone's identity instead of labeling . basically what i just realized
Sigh... Seems like everyone has their own stuff to deal with... Trying to find that comfortable spot...
Good lord -_-
+GoodThingsGaming no one asked you
***** i didnt tell you not to comment i just told you that no one caers what u comment:)
+misha ask I find it strange that you comment something rude and then use a smiley face. bipolar? or attempting to mask the insult? i think its the latter.
are you stupid or is it just how you are normaly?
***** well good for you you got 17 likes on a commet and you realy think someone cares you are a special guy you know that
People should just be allowed to look and be whoever makes them happy. End of story. Credit to all the people who're doing that and cheers to all of those trying to get there
Where's the video on Male Femininity?
ALazyLemon either coming soon... or "men have no feelings, they're all misogynistic!'' - some feminists (the misandrist ones)
Harry Reeve Those are radfems, and feminists don't want anything to do with them, thank you very much :)
I would love a video on Male Femininity, but I fear for the safety of the men that would take part in it, as they're often targeted and abused because of it.
Nah I can feel the feminists ready to pounce at them.
Masculine represent,short hair,soft hands,totally a softie yep thats me
Seeing this 4 years after the fact and I'm so glad! Finally don't feel alone
"because screw logic, reason, reality, and all that"
How does one present them self as less threatening instantly while walking? I'm curious. 1:47
Apparently they're walking around at night too... Why are they walking around at night enough to mention it?
BombGames They moonwalk?
+BombGames They mean more like a female and less like a male so other women know its not a man approaching. I personally don't bother to do it, because women are gonna deal with men walking around so one extra wont make a difference.
You know the hardest part about being a masculine woman? It's difficult when you're a STRAIGHT one. A straight MARRIED woman who wears her husband's clothes. The perk is very few men check me out. xD
I’m a cis male (pansexual) and I’ve always been completely comfortable with being more feminine than others around me in certain aspects, but most of the time I like being the alpha, even with women and trans people . Not because of any social brainwashing but because that is what I like, I like being the aggressor/Top.
The world falling apart.
I identify with this so strongly, it's making me a little emotional, I'm so glad that we're on our way to a world where people can just be unapologetically themselves
I sexually identify as a attack helicopter
being fat doesnt make you masculine
wow...
just wow...
👏👏👏
*sarcasm*
(._.)
I’m just a women who generally wears “men’s ” clothing ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I'm so angry at what this society has come too, basically all the popular girls looks the same and people are afraid to be who they are. everyone thinks its a big deal but in a good way to be different but its not. I actually hate society and no one understands that we are falling in this world, teenage girls slap on makeup and have a full on stare out when there is another girl, for some reasons boys cant show emotion for fear of appearing "girly"? wtf?