Becky's Breastfeeding Journey (ft Rachel Cole, Sarah Bonsignore & Joey Ng) You Can Sit w/ Us Ep 188
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- Опубликовано: 4 мар 2024
- Becky recounts the ups, down, and tears around breastfeeding and postpartum.
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Executive Producer | Keith Habersberger
Executive Producer | Eugene Lee Yang
Executive Producer | Zach Kornfeld
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Me, a 25 year old childless woman who never wants to have kids, watching this entire episode just to learn how to be a better ally to my parent friends
same!!! i feel so much better prepared for when my sister has kids
are we....twins? I am also 25 and dont want kids. I dont have parent friends though.
When they say “it takes a village to raise a child” Becky is so lucky to have “this village” on her side. Love, love, love ❤❤❤❤
Yes! That's what I've been saying every since Becky and Keith talked about this on YCSWU and Trypod. Their village did a great job of helping them and protecting the Habersbergers' privacy.
I never want to have children, but hearing women openly be able to express their rage and pain is so deeply important to me (currently working on my master's thesis about the exact topic) so I really appreciate this episode and the candor of all the moms on this episode.
What a great thesis topic!
It was super interesting to hear Joey talk about gender dysphoria. As a trans person, the feeling of not wanting boobs is constant and I think Joey discovering that feeling in breast feeding makes TOTAL sense. I’m sure it’s one of those moments where the physical act of what you’re doing makes you feel like not a person or an individual.
This is such a great episode!
I think I just didn't really think about my boobs ever, felt neutral about them and then once I had to use them realized I don't want them. Your feelings are VALID!
I'm trans nonbinary and I don't always relate to the conversations that a handful of cis women have (as much as I love the ladies on the pod), so it made me very happy to have Joey's voice/experience included in this conversation.
I also felt a lot of gender dysphoria during the pregnancy, delivery and post partum process, and even just during parenting as well with other people's perceptions/assumptions/expectations of me
Go to therapy
@@JoeyNoGoodget therapy
@@JoeyNoGood I feel this way about my genitals. perfectly ambiguous about them until I'm dealing with a period. then I HATE the whole set up and would rather be a ken doll
This whole episode, all I could keep thinking about was the sweet mothers in Gaza who have no access to formula and can no longer breastfeed because they aren't getting enough calories. Not to mention, going through delivery without any sort of medicine, epidurals, or C Sections without anesthesia. All of the people on the pod had different and seemingly traumatic birthing experiences. They were all in well-equipped hospitals full of doctors and nurses only devoted to their delivery care. If it was this difficult for 4 people to breastfeed with help from their husbands and a relatively stable home life, I can't imagine what it must feel like for people going through this in Gaza. I'm not saying this to derail the conversation. I'm happy this episode spoke to so many people the way it did. It just put the situation over there in a lot more perspective. Sending all of them my strength, comfort, and love while they live through something none of us can imagine, and will hopefully never experience. Fr33 P@l3stin3
Thank you so much for highlighting this. Inequality and violence and privilege isn’t brought up enough in these discussions and it really puts things in perspective.
Yes!! Thank you for commenting this. it’s so important to keep talking about Palestinians❤️🍉
Yes! #FreePalestine
I almost skipped this episode. I’ve been going through infertility for 3 years, multiple failed rounds of IVF. Getting to the point where biological children probably isn’t in the cards for me. This episode was so validating. The loss of experiences and reality vs expectation really resonated with me. Thank you for this.
You are so strong. Your feelings are so valid. No one knows what being in your shoes are like. I’m glad you found something helpful in this episode
Even if you cannot have biological children, you can still induce lactation for an adopted baby ❤ you take birth control for 9 months to simulate pregnancy, and then take a pill called Domperidone to increase your prolactin levels. This medication is well established in lactation worldwide, and is easy to order if it’s not available in your country. You also start pumping and/or nursing when taking the domperidone. This stimulation further increases your prolactin and causes lactation to start. You can also use natural herbs to help if you’re unsure about medication, but that can increase the amount of things your newborn is exposed to in their milk. Some women can induce lactation with only pumping, so you can also try that before the medication method. Even without a baby, you can donate milk to help other babies. All milk is basically the same, even if you don’t actually give birth. Even breast milk from a male is the same makeup.
Loveeeee Sarah Bonsignore. Anytime I see her name it's an immediate listen.
The entire conversation about grieving the experiences we didn’t get was so real. I’m currently going through IVF after 4 miscarriages and 5 years of infertility and every time I see a pregnancy announcement I was to set something on fire. I’m so happy for my friends and family in their amazing news but it’s impossible not to have those huge feelings of grief for the birth announcements I never got to make and while my chances are good that things will be successfully with IVF, I’m not guaranteed to ever actually get the experiences in really hoping for. It’s so validating to hear you all talk about this because I feel so mean and petty when I’m upset by other people’s news when it’s really just a natural reaction to loss.
As someone who wants to start a family but can't, there was about a 3 month period where 7 people at work had baby announcements and I wanted to cry every day over something I'll never get to experience. I'm still doing the internal work to mourn the loss of the mother I'll never be.
I was a Montessori Infant teacher and had moms that were so stressed. I always told them if they feel resentment about breastfeeding, then stop. Feed your baby, but maybe breastfeeding isn't for you. Mom's aren't going to feel more bonded if they are struggling so hard that they build resentment for breastfeeding and their partner not being able to help.
And that resentment is going to cause WAY more harm to their relationship than missing a few antibodies and nutrients.
Rachel's retelling of the coffee shop story... A million applause for not only the way you handled it but the fact that you had the gumption to not be nice about it. What a lesson to all of us to think twice before judging another person's experience, ESPECIALLY when it deals with their own body. One shouldn't be made to feel like they just need to sacrifice/apologize for their autonomy and health because they bore a child.
Honestly niceness doesn't always help people. Kindness isn't always niceness. We should stop confusing the two.
"it'll be hard but it shouldn't be dark" - THIS is the perfect way to articulate my biggest takeaway from my breastfeeding journey with my first. The first few weeks were so rough and knowing how devastating breastfeeding can be on some people's mental health, I was constantly questioning whether I was pushing myself too hard. But ultimately I kept persevering because I saw the light at the end of the tunnel - I could tell things were incrementally improving. And then they started improving a lot and eventually it wasn't hard at all.
It's also a nearly impossible line for partners and other members of your village to walk as well - does this person need encouragement or do they need to be given permission to quit?
This was so validating, I always felt like a failure when I wanted to quit my breastfeeding journey and pushed myself to continue for 18 months even though it was detrimental to my mental health and it physically hurt. So glad to see you galls talking about it openly, it can feel so isolating and like you are a bad mom for not loving the journey.
A MOM EPISODE?!?! It feels like Christmas!!
My milk came in very late. I remember not being able to feed my baby in the hospital. I broke down at 3 am and asked for formula and the nurse was such a fucking b about it. I was at my most vulnerable moment thinking I was a failure and she just rubbed it into my face. I also had my child via c-section for safety reasons and being told by other mothers that I never actually gave birth and took the easy way out was horrible. It was the most scared I've EVER been in my life, and to just have other women bring me down was and is heartbreaking. All that should matter is happy and healthy baby AND momma.
I can't believe people have said that to you about your c section! Recovery from a section is no joke!
I'm so sorry these things happened to you. You being okay and happy is important too ❤️
That nurse is terrible. She should have been reported and shamed for discouraging you and every other mom she ever made feel terrible for using formula. Also c-sections are hard- they tend to even have a lot more emotional healing to go through along with physical because they’re safety decisions that we didn’t plan on. I’m sorry you had a not good experience from people in your village when they should have been supporting you better ❤️❤️
I’m someone without children and I don’t ever want them but I’m still engaging with this episode because it all needs to be talked about and their stories listened to xx
as an autistic person i would absolutely love to hear joey's diagnosis story on the pod if they're willing to share!
Yes me too ❤
I feel like the same people who judge a mom for pumping or giving formula are the same people who judge a breastfeeding mom for nursing her child in public. As a mom myself, we just can't win no matter what we do or the decisions we make. Hugs to all of you. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable! We need to have more conversations like this.
I had always heard this idea "we can't win". But I really felt it in a heavy way when I became a mom. Now that my kid is 2.5, I feel like if she's acting like a toddler in public, I get judged. But if I give her something to occupy her (sometimes thats a tablet 🤷🏻♀️) then I get judged too. We literally can't win and it's freaking hard sometimes.
Parenting (of toddlers especially) is SO hard, and you really just have to do what works for you and your family. Sometimes that means doing whatever it takes to survive to the next day. If your child is fed, clothed, and loved, then you're doing exactly what you should be doing as a parent. I wish more people would realize that and have grace for parents. Sounds like you're doing a great job- hugs to you as well!
I was SO MAD and heartbroken after I had my first!! NO ONE, NONE OF THE HUNDREDS OF ARTICLES I READ TALKED ABOUT THE REALITY OF MOTHERHOOD!!! It's fucking TERRIFYING! All of the good parts are obvious! But for me, I wish someone would have THOROUGHLY explained that even though my oldest is almost 10 now, I'm still terrified every moment of every day that something is going to happen to him at any second. It never goes away! You just love this person and you have to live with the deepest fear imaginable.
It's unfortunate that any time I've witnessed people trying to give realistic accounts of motherhood and parenthood I always see them get dog-piled as being "negative", "bitter", "trying to scare [expectant parents]" etc. 😔 there are obviously tonnes of great parts but I wish we were allowed to talk about the challenging or even horrible-feeling parts too. I love my child more than anything in the world but delivery and post-partum/the newborn stage were still a living nightmare for me and my mental & physical health
REMINDERS: please vote!!! With all of the pro-birth legislation being passed, especially in the southern states, it is so important to make our voices known!
This episode was emotional and cathartic to listen to. It brought back a flood of emotions. I didn’t experience the love for breastfeeding I heard so much about until my baby was 9 months. He finally increased in weight percentile. Solids were well established and I no longer felt like I was the sole provider of his nutrition. I’m 18 months in and can’t imagine stopping anytime soon. Hell, it was a ROUGH journey to get to this point. Because of my experience, I 100% support women breastfeeding, formula feeding, or both.
This was very insightful and emotional. My husband and I really want kids but I’m so terrified because of my epilepsy. Hearing Rachel talk about convulsing was triggering. Seizures are so traumatic and just thinking about the lack of sleep, the lack of proper nutrition - it’s scary! Surrogacy and adoption might be options but they are very pricey (and timely) options 😢
Thank you ladies for being so open about your experiences.
I'm only ten minutes in, but I'm gonna add that I literally could not produce enough milk for either of my babies. I asked a few doctors about it later, and the consensus is I probably had a thyroid problem during puberty and my breasts didn't fully develop. I had so wanted to breastfeed, but had to learn and accept that FED is best. There's no shame in formula, no matter why.
Not a parent but I'm a neuroemergent guide and nonbinary and I loved Joey's (sp?) contributions! We SO need more resources for autistic kids BY autistic parents + resources FOR autistic parents. I try to find stuff for my clients who have kids and so often you can find stuff about parenting the ND kids, but not for ND parents (or both together). I'll try to remember to figure out where to find Joey and get in touch (ha, my own spoons and AuDHD may not help much...) cause I'd love to refer folks to them ❤❤
I love that we're shedding light on topics like this. There's waaaaay too much misinformation around nursing and parenthood in general. Would've loved to see maybe a trans/gnc person who's experienced pregnancy. Intersectionality is lovely❤️
Joey is non binary!
@@sonnybear5029 I'm glad Joey is, she seems like a badass human(Apologies if these aren't correct pronouns, just going off what the ladies were using). But the rest of my comment still stands. I caught the gender dysphoria discussion around the beginning, but trans and gender non-conforming people experience a lot during pregnancy and parenthood that wasn't present in this video. This is coming from someone who has experienced pregnancy as a nonbinary person. There's a lot that comes with that experience that wasn't discussed here and is hardly discussed in a lot of parenting conversations that aren't explicitly queer. There's a lot of nuance around this topic, as they said at the beginning regarding the Try Guys Breastfeeding video and it seems like a podcast episode would be the ideal place to include that nuance.
@@ambrosemoonchild1985This episode wasn’t about pregnancy. It was about breastfeeding. Kind of feels like your invalidating Joey because you don’t think she’s ‘trans enough’.
I needed this episode six years ago. This reinforced so many things that I felt crazy or alone for. When I was a week postpartum after a traumatic birth experience and a friend came over and I told her we were only having one. She responded oh wow I just love my kids so much I can’t imagine ever being done. I felt so small and already like a failure. Now my six year old is living her best only child life and is the kindest most loving thing. We know what is best we got this! ❤❤
I said from the very beginning my husband and I were one and done. Everyone told me we'd regret it if we did. My husband got a vasectomy when our son was 6 months. Two friends have had babies since and I was afraid I'd suddenly want another one.
Nope. I am the best Aunt for those kids and the best mom for my one but I have no desire for another one.
I don't have children but hearing this just felt so real and raw and I'm so proud of you all!
i don’t have kids and i’m sitting here crying listening to all your stories. just love y’all🫶🏼
I just wanted to comment that I initially skipped the note/disclaimer at the beginning of the episode (because I knew I would be OK), but then I went back and listened to it anyways. Huge respect to you for the thoughtfulness and consideration you put into the topics you decide to speak on, how you speak on them, and the sensitivity to prep a disclaimer in the first place. Big hearts in this room!!!
Another episode that I sobbed through. My 26 week preemie will be 2 next week and I can’t allow myself to think about the first 14 weeks of his life and everything I missed out on. This was so validating. Thank you guys SO much
I love that these women are sharing the realities that breastfeeding can be really freaking hard, but I would have loved for them to have one woman on who actually enjoyed breastfeeding for a broadening of experiences shared.
I just came to comment this! As a person 2.5 years into a truly beautiful experience, it would have been validating to see my experience represented
I am so thankful for this episode. My kids are 27 and 24 years old. I was not able to breastfeed for more than 3 months or so for each kid. I felt like I was failing my kids. There were a lot of tears and guilt. It was very difficult for me to deal with, while everyone was chanting "breast is best". All that time later, I look at my wonderful children who are both amazing human beings (and coincidentally labeled as "gifted") and realize that was a bunch of crap. I tell parents now, who are struggling with this decision, that modern formula has come so far, and their child will not be missing nutrients, just snuggle with the baby while you eat.
I'm an anxious first time mum to a 6 week old little girl and I cannot tell you how healing this episode feels. Being a mum is hard.
I have my three kiddos and am done having babies, but WOW how I would’ve loved to have a video like this when I was in the trenches. This is so important ❤ hope it reaches all the mamas who desperately need to know it’s ok no matter what. Fed is truly best!
MOM SQUAD!!! ❤❤❤❤
We need a quarterly (at least) mom squad pod!
RACHEL!!!!!!❤❤❤❤
Again, I adore the usual lineup, but tis always a treat when we get the Second Try Mom up in da house!
So good to see Joey again!
When I was in my early 20's I worked in community pharmacy (in Australia) because of my background I took on the baby health section.
The number of women I saw who would stand in the formula section and just sob out of guilt and shame broke my heart. It taught me that there no one way to feed a baby that's better than another.....when the time came for my own children and breastfeeding wasn't something that couldn't continue, I remembered those women who I'd sat with and encouraged and helped to choose then right food for their theor baby's needs....please, please take care of yourself feeding parents! Your are just as important as your babies xx
Thank you so so so much for making this podcast. I am literally breastfeeding my 9 month old listening to this and it felt so validating to hear all of your stories. I have had such an up and down journey with breastfeeding and I have felt so torn and felt so much pressure because I want to stop. But this has helped make me feel brave 💜 you all are so brave and such wonderful mothers. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Currently 11 months into breastfeeding and I have loved it, but Jesus Christ it is tough too! The bleeding nipples, the psychological impact of just how dependent he is on me (he's a bottle refuser), feeding even when you have food poisoning and are literally detaching him to puke... I definitely went into it naively. But I have also been fortunate enough to have the good times. When he's nuzzled against me at 3am, holding my hand, I do feel proud and grateful for what my body has achieved ❤️.
Thank you for sharing your stories. So so important that we hear all the complicated, messy, diverse experiences of motherhood ❤❤❤. We are each others' village.
I breastfed for 4 months and I just never felt like we got into the groove, my supply dipped and I said no more! The week we started formula he PERKED UPPPP. Tummy time was no longer a nightmare and he slept better. I just KNOW that my milk wasn’t enough but bc I was so ingrained with the breastfeeding idea I let it go on too long honestly. Thanks for this episode, made me feel like a part of a bigger community 💕
This entire conversation is beautiful and so interesting and informative! I also think the photo of Zach’s face just chillin on the wall next to Sarah is truly hilarious😂
As someone who has been battling CMPA, soy protein allergy, and egg allergy in my 3 month old son that I have been exclusively pumping breastmilk for, this episode made me weep. I have been so isolated and nutrient deprived on this elimination diet to breastfeed my son. Pumping every 3 hours around the clock for 13 weeks now. I just feel like this episode gave me permission to stop and that its okay. I have put my body through so much to feed my child and I need to grieve and move on. Taking care of myself is what is going to make me a better mom❤️
I loved this. As a new therapist and mom to a 16 month old, I want to create more accessible spaces like this for moms. We just need it. It’s so healing to talk about our experiences. Even though I’ve had a relatively positive breastfeeding experience these 16 months, I felt so heard and seen by you ladies. ❤
❤this is needed - every new mum has to watch this!
“Fed is best” stop the societal pressure of breastfeeding is best!
I love that you are talking about this so openly, thank you! People never talk about this!
This was one of my favorite episodes. Thanks for being so vulnerable - I know it must have been so hard ❤❤ this will help so so many people
Listening to this while nursing my 5 month old and struggling between decisions on whether to do combo feeding, and I just have to say thank you. The pressures to do this all perfectly is unreal. Glad we can all love and support each other with where we are.
My daughter was formula fed from day one, then needed high calorie formula because of a CHD. Everyones circumstances are different, shes 19 months now and i havent spoken about formula/breastfeeding since she stopped having milk, and other mums of kids the same age dont mention it either, it is so so nice 😂 at the end of the day they all want a mcdonalds over an apple 😂❤❤
This is so encouraging ❤ Thank you all for this.
The amount of genuine love and support shown in this episode is just the sweetest thing I've ever seen. Y'all are so incredible.
im so glad this is being shared and talked about now! no more suffering in silence!
Thank you deeply to all of you. Thank you for this video interview.
What a phenomenal episode! One of my favorite yet. I am so looking forward to the future episode on being diagnosed with autism, parenting with autism, etc.
Thank you for talking about the grief and rage we feel as mothers. As a mom with insufficient glandular tissue who formula fed from early on, I feel so inferior to my mom friends who breastfed for several months/years. I’m happy they got to experience that, but it makes my stomach sink when they talk about it. I’m angry that I didn’t get that experience too. It makes me feel a little less alone to know others mom feel this too!
This episode came out at the exact right time for me and where I am in my breastfeeding journey. Thank you so much for your honesty. This is the validation I needed.
This is by far my favorite Pod episode yet. It is so hard in general to be a mom and it can feel like walking through the world blindly and it is so comforting to see 4 women open up and be so truthful and vulnerable
As a “mom in training,” I love learning from other expert moms’ experiences! I found this episode very informative and inspiring, and I appreciate how raw you allowed it to be and how openly you four shared your parenthood journey, educating all those willing to listen. One of my favorite podcast episodes to date! We’re here for you all, and we’re always ready to extend a hand whenever you may need it
Gosh, I don't even have/want kids and I found this so affirming, validating and beautiful! I'm also a late-diagnosed autistic woman and thanks to Joey sharing their experience, I think I might be experiencing some gender dysphoria as well. I loved this episode, and I look forward to any episodes with Joey!!
This is so nice to hear! I feel like the mom world we don’t talk enough about the struggles and our true feelings towards motherhood because we are scared what other people think
thank you so much for sharing your journeys ladies! I am a FTM to a 2 month old and hearing your perspectives was so refreshing!!
This was such a great topic to discuss. You all brought up different experiences and I hope you all are willing to share more "Mom" topics and have more podcasts like this one. I am about to have my 2nd child and my breastfeeding journey...has been a journey. Love the YCSWU!
These conversations need to be had and I’m so glad you’re having them. It’s amazing to see them speak so candidly on such real issues that effect so many. If we could embrace each other’s stories with love and care the way they have in this video, the world would become a better place. Let’s start listening to each other and holding each other up like this.
Thank you so much for having this conversation! There is so much pressure put on mothers (most of which I think comes from ourselves) and I don't think it gets talked about as much as it should. I had problems breast-feeding too and nobody told me it would be that hard. I felt like I was failing my baby, and.I am sure it contributed to my PPD. And having an IVF baby too added to the feelings of guilt and shame; like how could I have gone through all of that to have this baby, and still feel like this? I felt like I was being ungrateful. And my baby is now diagnosed as neurodivergent so I would have loved to hear Joey talk more on that, because that brings its own truckload of challenges!
At the end of the day most of us are doing the best we can so we really need to support each other.
I'm a fellow NICU momma, and a PPD but didn't know it momma. I feel all of yall and every one of your struggles. Props to you for coming on to such a public platform and telling your stories. Love to you all :)
Thank you for this episode! Motherhood has been the hardest experience for me! I made it to 11 months of breastfeeding my daughter, it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done! She is now 19 months and during those first 11 months it was the darkest time for my mental health! I’m slowly starting to get out of that postpartum depression and hearing y’all talk about your experiences is very helpful!
as the oldest child in my family, this podcast has been an amazing resource for me - becky, maggie, rachel and all guests feel like my older sisters and their cool friends giving me advice ❤ i love hearing you talk about your experiences and offer you own perspectives
I am 24 and had my son a year ago. I’m 10 minutes in and already I am crying. This is so validating and honest. I was very alone in my pregnancy and breastfeeding was a disaster with tongue and lip ties, the baby’s dairy allergy, engorgement, bleeding nipples, and so many other issues. Thank you so much for this.
I think it is very important to talk about these topics, I want a part two of this ❤
Hearing their experiences with everything was great! As a new mommy who also had a baby that had to be in the NICU, a lot of what was said is so validating. Thank you for this episode, it is so helpful to hear!
In the beginning stages of figuring out what having a kid is gonna look like after thinking I would never have one and I’m so grateful for episodes like this. The validation and openness is so appreciated. Thank y’all for this episode
I’m crying watching this. Currently 3 months postpartum exclusively pumping. Love you girls!
5 weeks post partum, and this episode was so validating. Thank you ladies!
I didn’t know how much I was going to need this episode. My mom died a few years before I had my (now) one year old and I don’t have almost any mom friends I can lean on. I was crying hearing all of this because it was so validating. I’ve spent a year feeling like I’m making nothing but bad choices for my child but she’s still here and she’s thriving and I don’t give myself a break for that.
Thank you guys for this episode. ❤
4 years of infertility here and totally empathize with the feeling of grieving what you didn’t get. I am so happy for my friends when they announce a pregnancy and seeing them and their children hit milestones but I want to cry every time because of the grief. This episode really helped me feel seen
I needed this episode. I tried BF for 1 months total and it was a nightmare the entire time. My son just could not latch fully even with a nipple shield. I realized I needed to change because I was starting to resent my baby for not breastfeeding. So I exclusively pumped for 15mos over covid. I could never and would never pump for that long again, I was motivated by giving my son antibodies before the vaccine existed.
What I appreciated most was your honesty, which felt so freeing to hear other moms go through similar things to me. I’m still grieving my early experiences when I’m reminded of them, but it’s nice to also think that I did the best I can and others’ opinions don’t matter.
Also, I love Joey. She is so informative and thoughtful, I love hearing about systemic issues and how it related so well with personal experiences.
I needed to watch this today. When Rachel talked about motherhood not being what she envisioned, I felt that. I still feel that at times. Thank you for sharing!
Loved this episode. I haven't had any kids yet, but i want to in the future and i want to hear it all! I dont want to go into it thinking it's all rainbows and flowers.
Which also made me think I'd love an episode talking about your decisions to be mothers and especially Rachel's perspective, which she's mentioned has changed since having her own lovely babies.
Love you all. I look forward to new episodes every week.
Thank you all so much for this episode! I wish I had this when I was in the midst of breastfeeding issues with my first. Oh the rage I felt. Love you all ❤
I loved this ep! I’d listen to a whole baby/pregnancy/parenthood podcast with this crew! I’m due with my first in July and just loved this!
Such a beautiful conversation!!❤️❤️
I ignorantly decided to breastfeed thinking it was going to save us money. Seeing so many overproducing moms on social media made me think this was the norm and that I would be too. I spent so much money on different pumps, pump parts, supplements, bras, feeding friendly clothes, donor milk, etc. No one really speaks about the cost of trying to breastfeed.
Yes, not to mention if you need to get a lactation consultant! So much $
Thank you for this. I am a first time mom who had a c section at 34 weeks. They tried so hard to let me touch him in the OR but his breathing wasn’t stabilizing so they whisked him away. I didn’t get to go to the NICU to see him until 12 hours later and held him for the first time until 32 hours after birth. Then of course breastfeeding wasn’t going well for either of us but nurses were pushing it and when I did feel brave enough to try I had to time how long he ate and every time his “percentage” of food by mouth would go down…which means it kept him from going home longer. I finally made the decision to exclusively breastfeed after a few weeks and his feeding tube came out two days later. The pressure of BF is so real. But there are sooo many ways to bond with a baby. Dads don’t BF but still bond just as well. My husband loves to bottle feed our little guy and gets that quality time together. I agree that we all made the right decision for our babies, but it’s hard not to feel the guilt or pressure from society.
My due date is tomorrow and I’ve been stressing so bad and just completely worried about so much of what you all talked about and it just made me feel so much better! Thank you for being so open and honest with all of your experiences 😭❤️
I absolutely love Sarah! It was good to see her back on the pod
This episode was honestly so amazing. I really understood what Becky said when she mentioned being jealous of people who had a good experience. My son’s birth was traumatic and two years later I’m still recovering mentally. It’s so refreshing to hear other mothers speak about how challenging motherhood truly is. Thank you ladies! Lots of love from Ireland. 🇮🇪
Thank you so much for this Try Moms. I am 6 days PP and going through the dilemma of how to provide for my baby, take care of my mental health, and include my partner. I really appreciate the honesty and the reality of each of your motherhood experiences. 💕 This was so needed.
You’ve got this! One day, one minute at a time. Just remember that YOU matter in this equation, too. If you need to make a decision to care for yourself, that’s a right choice.
I feel like us mommas needed this today!! Much love!! 🤗🫶🏻 and always remember you were someone before you were momma!! Always remember that!!
Thank you for this episode, I listened over several pumping sessions while at work and it was so uplifting for me. I related so much to feeling like I have to stick to "my plan" and soldiering through. Presently on month 11 of breastfeedng/pumping my goal has been 12 months and because baby is in daycare I started worrying about my stash in the freezer. This podcast made me realize it will be ok if my stash runs out around that 12 month mark and we will just adjust as needed. So much good insight from parents who have been through so many ups and downs. Thank you!!
Love you all. Thanks for sharing. Had me tearing up multiple times.
Having Joey on this podcast added so much! Thanks Joey for being on this podcast 💕💕💕
I was very nervous going into listening to this pod, but I am SO happy I did! I wanted to breastfeed my 16 month old SO badly, and I wasn’t really able to due to an infection in one of my breasts. I wasn’t able to provide enough milk for my son. The mom shame is so real from so many people. I don’t have a local support system outside of my husband, which I’m grateful to have him and my distant support. The emotional turmoil that it brings when other moms shame us for choosing to do what is best for OUR children is wild. I cried with y’all, as I feel this so much. I am so so happy that you have each other to support one another!!! And thank you so much for sharing and being open about your experiences! Love yall!!!
I really needed this ❤️ FTM here at age 26 and I always knew I didn’t want any kids but I am truly grateful I have my little one now but the first 3 months of his life have been the hardest for me mentally, physically, emotionally and it’s just not what I had thought motherhood would be especially with breastfeeding and getting mastitis every 3 weeks. I always think about “when is this going to end” because I truly feel like I can’t do it again. I love my little one but he is definitely going to be my last one. I can’t imagine or feel like I can do it again, especially living in a new state with no family
Please have these moms on more often! Love hearing all your honest experiences and perspectives on breastfeeding and would love to hear more about other parenting topics (I am a first time mom without many mom friends of my own to understand my experiences)
It makes me immediately cry whenever any of you started crying, especially Sarah and Rachel ❤ and Sarah, my immediate thought when you were telling your story of your friend’s brother who welcomed a newborn and how well they were doing, is that that person probably doesn’t know how unwell they really may be and it looks like pure bliss on the outside but it may not be the truth if you asked them directly ❤ it is so freaking hard
Thank you for having these conversations! I wish I had heard this before I gave birth to my first. I also had HG, a home birth, a bad hemorrhage, and severe PPD and PPA. It didn’t meet the expectations I had of a beautiful journey…it was hell. The more we share our stories, the less we all feel alone. Love you ladies. ❤
big props to moms and woman in general, going through so much like that
Such a great episode! Thank you
I wanted to like this so many times watching this video. Love this group of ladies, please have all of you back!
This episode brings back many memories. I have a love hate relationship with breastfeeding and one thing that really helped is to get as much information as possible. They keep saying boobs is best but also shame or pressure you if your child is not gaining enough weight. I have also had nurses telling to my face that I don't have milk (which is ridiculous as it was only the 2nd day, milk wasn't supposed to be coming in yet) and the first few days was hell and pain. However I then met a yuesao that taught me proper way to breastfeed and it is like magic, no pain anymore! I do love the feeling of closeness I had and am blessed with plenty of milk but they do come with a cost. The feeling like I am a milk cow or round the clock feeder coz u have to feed and pump in between, the worry of your child not getting enough, the pressure from society, the postpartum depression I had that lasted a year! the preparations you have to do when going out and most importantly how my breast changes after. It is definitely loose now as I breastfed till she was 2. will I do it again? maybe. Maybe not. I just hope WOMEN will be less judgemental to other WOMEN, however from what I see the one that hurts me the most were actually women. and that is sad.
Becoming a FTM made me realize how much work it is to feed a tiny baby. Breastfeeding is HARD and formula feeding is also hard. Shout out to these ladies to these ladies for their candidness.
Listening while breastfeeding my 1week old, love the honesty throughout