I wish he was taught in schools and in universities- so many people I know live in denial, who never want to acknowledge any wrongdoing. John Bradshaw’s books should be given to pregnant mothers by their midwives, if we don’t educate/ make aware women we are doomed.
it disturbs me how eager this audience was to laugh. there's absolutely nothing remotely funny about anything in this video and the audience will laugh at any chance. "and then the child was abused...." audience- HAHAHAHAHA. if anything I think it just proves how revolutionary John Bradshaw was, that these were entirely new concepts he was trying to educate the public about. and this was what, the 70s?
I agree, but laughing is how some people cope with uncomfortable emotions. These types are very uncomfortable with emotions. This era was so disconnected from real emotions.
@@DanielleMM-ct8ip I agree, I think this was nervous laughter, and it was a sign of just how uncomfortable these people were with facing the truth that was being spoken and the emotions it was stirring in them. They made the choice to show up to these talks and were ready to challenge themselves, but they were still clearly unsettled by what was being said. We have to remember they would all have been raised in the 1930s-60s, in a very different cultural context, and ideas like this were revolutionary at the time. A lot of them were likely dealing with unprocessed trauma from their own upbringings as well. I think perhaps the laughter was a sort of mechanism where the group was trying to soothe their unsettled feelings, creating some kind of positive communal noise to reassure each other. It's like they were trying to take a momentary breather, saying "it's ok, these truths may be big and destabilising, but we're not going to abandon everything from our old perspective in one go, that would make us feel too vulnerable. We can still laugh at this, we still have our egos to hide behind for now." This talk was stripping away a lot of layers of dissociation and ego protection very quickly, leaving people feeling exposed to all sorts of repressed and hidden feelings. So the laughter was their way of grasping back a couple of layers of protection for a moment, creating some distance from the intensity of those truths and those emotions. From our perspective now it might seem callous, but perhaps it was actually them gathering strength so they could keep going through a difficult process. At least that's my interpretation. And honestly I think some audiences today might still laugh in the same way, depending on their background and how repressed they are.
I rarely ask how a person is doing due to the fact that most people will lie to me. If I want to know how they are. I will just not shame them and then patiently wait for them to show me....
This man validates me more than my abusive parents ever could. So grateful.
I hope my inner child heals- I have a lot of hope for her
He’s totally mesmerizing. Wish I could have been one of the fortunate ones to take his workshops.
Likewise!
I wish he was taught in schools and in universities- so many people I know live in denial, who never want to acknowledge any wrongdoing. John Bradshaw’s books should be given to pregnant mothers by their midwives, if we don’t educate/ make aware women we are doomed.
And fathers. IDK why we'd only try and educate half of the sexes.
Ahead of his time!! I wish I was there to some of his workshops..
You went to seminary, but you're serving God in a different way now.
the lead us snot thing is so relatable hahah
Praise Jesus that he loves children just as they are:)
16:00 The child needs consistency so it can trust its environment. No trust = no self love.
Absolutely amazing 👏
Spot on! 👏
Theres no bad children just bad adults
7:45. People sometimes wonder why I don't follow religions. I would but I am too busy being the person I was ment to be.
it disturbs me how eager this audience was to laugh. there's absolutely nothing remotely funny about anything in this video and the audience will laugh at any chance. "and then the child was abused...." audience- HAHAHAHAHA. if anything I think it just proves how revolutionary John Bradshaw was, that these were entirely new concepts he was trying to educate the public about. and this was what, the 70s?
I agree, but laughing is how some people cope with uncomfortable emotions. These types are very uncomfortable with emotions. This era was so disconnected from real emotions.
@@DanielleMM-ct8ip I agree, I think this was nervous laughter, and it was a sign of just how uncomfortable these people were with facing the truth that was being spoken and the emotions it was stirring in them. They made the choice to show up to these talks and were ready to challenge themselves, but they were still clearly unsettled by what was being said. We have to remember they would all have been raised in the 1930s-60s, in a very different cultural context, and ideas like this were revolutionary at the time. A lot of them were likely dealing with unprocessed trauma from their own upbringings as well.
I think perhaps the laughter was a sort of mechanism where the group was trying to soothe their unsettled feelings, creating some kind of positive communal noise to reassure each other. It's like they were trying to take a momentary breather, saying "it's ok, these truths may be big and destabilising, but we're not going to abandon everything from our old perspective in one go, that would make us feel too vulnerable. We can still laugh at this, we still have our egos to hide behind for now."
This talk was stripping away a lot of layers of dissociation and ego protection very quickly, leaving people feeling exposed to all sorts of repressed and hidden feelings. So the laughter was their way of grasping back a couple of layers of protection for a moment, creating some distance from the intensity of those truths and those emotions. From our perspective now it might seem callous, but perhaps it was actually them gathering strength so they could keep going through a difficult process.
At least that's my interpretation. And honestly I think some audiences today might still laugh in the same way, depending on their background and how repressed they are.
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Out of all his presentions. He said anything about someone with a shame based childhood. That has unregulated ADD/HD, anxiety, bi-polar and etc.
I rarely ask how a person is doing due to the fact that most people will lie to me.
If I want to know how they are. I will just not shame them and then patiently wait for them to show me....
36:27 Mister Rogers
🦄 Dolt by John Rickel 🦄
I’m all for John Bradshaw, but think he missed mark with the schizoid thing..
Theres a lot of sexual abuse going on