I work in childcare and honestly she should start a series in an early years setting because it is rough sometimes XD, Love the job tho, even on the hard days but us teachers could do with calling the calvilry sometimes 🤣
Loved this vid pls do another reacting to the super nanny episode that once aired child services got called for neglecting their kids ❤❤❤love all ur vids
I used to work with autistic kids. I've had them attack me and bite me. But one time one threw a chair at me and I caught it by the leg all casually and put it down and told him to sit. Kids make you feel badass somtimes. I felt like Thanos 🤣
@@armoredgeo6621I work in a residential treatment center for kids with major issues, I too felt like Thanos when a girl punched the wall next to my head without flinching…. I looked at her and was like well okay let’s not punch things 😂
@sputnik4892 imagine you say it's all good kids act like a brat so we can get paid 😂for billions of ppl to watch how your kids act for $$$🤑 F*cked that parents agree to these scripts
Supernanny was originally a nanny to the rich and famous so she's dealt with some of the worst kids society has to offer, that's how she keeps her cool.
@@maries8364Yeah over-privileged, entitled kids who never spend time with their parents only Nannie’s, yeah they’re well behaved. 🙄 If they are well behaved that says more for their nannies than parents.
@@Witchezcat the fact that I was a nanny for different families for 9 years for the wealthies in houston as well as did lower cost care for a diversity of other families
As a teacher, I've learned to never raise my voice. Here are the reasons: 1) the energy that you give to your kids is the energy you get back 2) the teacher that constantly raises their voice is constantly raising their voice-- that becomes the baseline. 3) if I raise my voice it's for a reason and to have an effect. If you never raise your voice, and then you suddenly do, it's very very effective.
I've experienced this with professors in high school. I went to a pretty bad high school, and there was all kinds of shit going on, so you had to be tough if you wanted to teach there. Most professors were old that worked there for a long time and a certain one yelled all the time. Most of the students roddiculed her on the daily, but you lose your 'authority' in a way by yelling and trying to be tough. Meanwhile, certain other teachers who didn't yell got the correct response when they did yell, and most of them were more respected in a way.
THIS. I wouldn't be surprised if the girl yelled so much because she saw her mom doing it first. You get what you put in. Mom's literally modeling that when you're upset, you yell. Instead of modeling emotional restraint, she's making it worse by constantly overreacting.
@Angrycat-pg5iv But, she was about three to four. They were both crying and I asked them what happened. My oldest told me her sister kicked her and my youngest admitted it. Then my oldest admitted to starting it
As a teacher, I don’t get how you can’t see that all of Meghan’s behavior is picked up from her mother. Like her mother, she lashes out and screams as her main form of communication. I have worked with some “challenging” students and never have I screamed like that, maybe I’ve changed my tone, but never the aggressive yelling . The father is able to spend time with the children because his relationship with them is based in positivity and understanding. Meanwhile the mother doesn’t even try to understand her daughters, she believes that by virtue of being their mother they owe her respect. Respect is earned.
I've also seen Dads like that who won't provide guidance and discipline for the kids, leaving the entire burden for the mom. So the Dad gets to be the "fun" parent and the mom gets to be the awful one.
I think it is a little more complicated, I have raised my voice with my children, but I didn't have them doing it to me, bar one who was my fourth, and autistic. My fifth child was autistic and nonverbal, and then, being very calm was vital. Being calm is important, but raising your voice doesn't produce that behaviour. There are other things that are at play. I'm horrified that a professional is so critical of the mother. What she needs is support and lifting, just the same tactics you'd use on students. All you'd be doing is stroking the fathers ego, at the expense of his wife. As parents it vital they are a team, and just like in business utilising there strengths, needs, so things run smoothly. As for teachers, why isn't there a more affective tools to deal with bullies. These bullies can causes so much harm, yet school can't deal with it. We need less bullies so school would be the ideal place to help these families. The physical and mental harm caused, needs attention.
@@ked7426I get your point, but Meghann is literally talking to her mother the way her mother talks to her. I don’t know why you’d expect different out of a kid if you’re not displaying different behavior (obvi not meaning you specifically)
Agree the mum constantly screaming back, this has become normal for them and it doesn’t get you anywhere, but it seems like mum never spends any one on one time with any of them, they are all vying for attention, mum is so stressed and exhausted
I saw that within the first few minutes. Children don’t learn to be terrors on their own. It’s usually because they both mimic the behavior they see and aren’t properly corrected when having said behavior; they do it because they know it’ll get them what they want. This is 100% on the parents.
My mother was a daycare provider for over a decade when I was growing up, and lemme tell you kids never acted up when they were at the daycare. Not out of fear, but because they were out of their household. When a child acts up that badly - and you’re not getting messages from the school about them acting the same there - then the problem is at home. Children are children, they aren’t short adults. Always start with the parents, because 90% of the time that’s where the problem begins.
I have to disagree. You might want to read about masking. Girls are very good at it. We behave at school to fit into the environment. We explode at home because its our safe space.
I have a different point of view. My kids teachers raved about how great my kids were, so did their coaches friends parents… my husband and I would wonder who they were talking about, “THAT kid???!!!” Him/her being a terror at home sometimes. One day I was musing about this with my sister in law, a therapist, and she said, “that’s what you want, the child knows how to act and is cooperative and rational, respectful and well adjusted. That means they feel safe and comfortable at home, to show their frustration and can vent. Children who are acting out in public and perfect at home don’t feel safe and supported at home.”. All my kids have done well in life. All graduated from college, the oldest had a divorce early on but they all have successful marriages and their children are on track to do well. I’m sure there are exceptions to every rule. ☮️
This can be a mixed bag. There are children who mirror their parents and will act badly like that because of how their parents act, and they will act out more at home because they feel safer to do so. There's also a huge spectrum of experts that go from the child feeling safer to act out to the child's needs not being met and learned bad communication strategies from their parents, etc. My ex is a bully and is constantly confrontational to everyone to try to get her way. My daughter lives with her and acts the same way even in public. She'll also act out with me, but I don't yell at her or try to bully her to act appropriately like her mom does. She'll be resistant to my correction for a while, which is calm but firm verbal correction with appropriate consequences (like timeout or not going to a place we planned to go, etc) if she doesn't act appropriately, but will eventually do what I tell her. I will also try to talk to her to find out how she's feeling to make her act that way so I can try to meet whatever emotional or attention need she has. Now, it takes less time for me to get her to calm down and act appropriately and not try to bully people; however, based on what I've witnessed and her mom complains about trying to blame me for, there's been zero change in her behavior when she's with her mom.
Not always. My daughter has autism and I’m her safe person. She didn’t act up at school because it wasn’t safe to let loose at school. I got her (actually both of us) into therapy when she was age 4 and with 10 years of therapy, she’s learned emotional regulation enough to deal with life.
@@TheLozerellaYou arent saying anything against them, they said if the kids arent acting up outside of the house but are at home, then the problem is most likely at home. If a kid goes to school & is fine, then comes home & loses it, theres still a problem in the home. WHY does the kid feel the need to mask & why do they explode when they get home.
The best advice I ever got before I had my second baby was: when both children are crying, take care of the older one first. They’ll never feel Ignored or replaced, they will calm down quicker, and then have them hel with calming the baby. It give them purpose and they learn to love their sibiling. My kids are absolute best friends and I really think it’s because we started this way.
Growing up in the 2000s my mom used to threaten she’d ring super nannny to come if I didn’t behave I’d cry and beg her not to super nanny had some power 🤣
How is a kid supposed to respect their parents when A) They aren’t a team. B) The rules clearly aren’t upheld. C) They are emotionally neglected. D) The eldest child needs medical intervention for whatever disorder she clearly has. If she needs stimulation, her parents should provide her access to alternative forms of it.
@@onedaynoreason2572 Growing up I was a "problem student." From preschool to 4th grade, adults around me were fed up with my crying fits and "tantrums" and made it very, very clear to me. I was manhandled and dragged to the office, I was yelled at, I was made to sit in corners while my peers continued on. And looking back on it, my fits were always random. There wasn't a trigger, they'd just happen and I'd implode, burst into tears, beg to go home. And every single time the response from an adult was the same: punish me. Come 4th grade my teacher reamed my parents out for "allowing" me to continue this behavior at the age I was, and my mom got my psychologically evaluated. Panic disorder. I wasn't having tantrums. I was having panic attacks. And being a child who didn't even know those existed, I couldn't communicate it to anybody. I wasn't throwing a fit because I didn't get what I wanted-- I was hit with an overwhelming sense of dread and impending doom and responded how any kid would: crying and screaming. I was put on fluoxetine starting 5th grade and suddenly those "tantrums" became infrequent. Having a diagnosis meant it was on my chart, so if I were to have an attack again my teacher would actually know how to handle it. The medication lifted my mood also, before I had been a bit of a nervous wreck, but now I could socialize and make friends.. talk to people. Act like a person. Feel like I'm living as opposed to surviving. Some kids just need medication. Some don't work, that's natural, medication isn't a one size fits all, but some do and they work wonders. To deny a child that right is abuse. Full fucking stop.
It’s not mundane to swing a yo-yo when it is near other people and could accidentally hit someone in the face. When her mother said stop, she should have stopped period. There was no need for her hideous behavior.
It’s not mundane to swing a yo-yo when it is near other people and could accidentally hit someone in the face. When her mother said stop, she should have stopped period. There was no need for her hideous behavior.
It’s not mundane to swing a yo-yo when it is near other people and could accidentally hit someone in the face. When her mother said stop, she should have stopped period. There was no need for her hideous behavior.
I was friends with a girl whose sister had behavioral issues. Their mom was like "oh she'll probably outgrow it..." now Mom is stuck dealing with a 31 year old toddler. The sister has got some kind of mental health issues, but Mom made her into what she became
No good comes from just putting up one's feet and assuming that a child will magically "grow out" of a behavior or problem without *any* instruction or scaffolding. Red flags need to be taken seriously and confronted ASAP, because a lot of problematic habits, attitudes, and behaviors only get worse and become harder to change the longer they're allowed to go on.
Season 10 of South Park called “Tsst” did an episode parodying this. Both Nanny 911 and Supernanny tried and failed to help Eric Cartman. In the end, it was The Dog Whisperer who ended up helping Eric’s mom to tame Eric.
Known animal abvser caesar Milan. I know him well. Worst thing to have ever happened to dog training. Supernanny actually did some good, even if today some of her methods are a little dated.
i think this show perfectly highlights the division of labour in nuclear families because if you’re under social pressure to be the perfect mother 24/7 and you take responsibility the majority of their care you’re gonna feel like you’ve failed
@@hj-ls8pc of course she's failing: nobody ever taught her how to deal with kids properly so they end up being little nightmares and her husband just blames her for not having enough patience, when in reality he's barely around so he has no idea how exhausting is managing 3 little children on your own. If he stoped being judgmental, like you, and actually helped raise his kids she would no longer be failing because he would split that responsibility 50/50 with her...
I’m honestly surprised they haven’t come out with a follow up show, “Super Nanny Survivors - Where Are They Now?” I want to know how many of these kids/parents she may have truly helped, or how many became worse.How many “kids” from the show look back and see it as a turning point in their life or just remember it as another chapter of their downward trajectory? How many of them are humiliated to this day that their parents let such a tumultuous time in their life be aired in TV for entertainment? I saw another comment saying this girl did turn out well, but the positive changes came long after Super Nanny “helped”.
I find it ok to show to the world what can one become, when not educated. So that many people can understand what parenting truly means, not only photos, likes and nice emojis on social media. And if those parents couldn't raise their children well and called for SuperNanny's help, it's their problem, not SuperNanny's one.
I do think those families are at serious risk at reverting to their old patterns once supernanny is gone, even if we skip possible effects of TV exposure. If parents have internalized certain vision of their kid, advise of supernanny, even if good, might not presist for long in their brains once frustration or resentment get reignited - and kids might re-test the boundries when the strong authority figure leaves
I feel like it will be like Kitchen Nightmares. Many families will continue to struggle, but a greater percentage will do better than if Supernanny never came at all. When you start with a situation that is already so bad, there's only so much you can do in a week. The show is a wake up call but then the families/restaurants have to do the sustained work.
3:24 she doesnt have warts, but if you watch this show often enough you may notice that after the observation stage is over and she's given her recomendations to the parents, she usually appears in casual clothing with her hair loose around her face and sometimes even without her spectacles; you could argue this is the producers way of making her seem less stern, more approachable, and more likeable once the positive behavioural changes have been filmed, a bit like the Nanny McPhee effect you mentioned
My brother acted like this when he was little. Ended up he had an intolerance to high fructose corn syrup. We stopped feeding him anything that had HFCS and all of a sudden he was the sweetest child.
Honestly Super Nanny is super iconic and is in my opinion the real life Marry Poppins. She descends down upon your house in her cab and then flys away in her cab
When Cam said the portable dvd player was a ‘cd rom player’ and that he has never seen one of them before is proper triggering hahaha! ‘like fully reminding me just how old I actually am. 😂
Im and I would have been picking up teeth and I did the same thing my parents did. I began to discipline my children at age one Not at age 11. They never had a choice to be disobedient to me in that way. If any of my kids had hit me all hell would have broke loose. I assure you they value their life and their health too much to do that because I don't play that game!
@@lindah5011 And if that was my brat, there would be a healthy application of the hand of wisdom to the seat of knowledge, followed by sitting in the corner so the former action sinks in. Repeat application as needed.
it used to be like that hear their was a law brought in in 1980 were the belt at school was banned and a few years after a law banning parents from hitting their kids in anyway
Honestly, I see myself in megan. As an undiagnosed autistic child this was the way I acted a lot of the time, because i was always overwhelmed. The aggression was just a defense mechanism. Hope she's doing well now. (not diagnosing anyone just relating)
I feel this, I was the same as a kid and found out I'm ADD and autistic when I got older, I see the same traits in my own daughter too, same with my niece
Saaaaame. I never acted out to this extent, but I can see myself in her, and my (also AuDHD) son even moreso. Poor kid was struggling and probably spent most of her life feeling overwhelmed and disliked and out of control and angry without really knowing why. That walk where her mum asked her about doing an American accent, she was fiddling with her coat and kinda trailing behind and not really paying attention, and then suddenly her mum is in her face... Like, I get her mum probably had no clue and was trying to joke and be fun, but I can see how if Megan was already either distracted or overwhelmed, suddenly having her mum right up close like that with no warning asking her for a response while (gently but still) pulling on her arm could trigger something. I'm glad things improved for her as she grew up, but honestly, the fact that THE professional nanny didn't even suggest they get her tested, or even if she couldn't for whatever reason, didn't suggest some of the more common accomodations and supports for neurodivergent kids, leaves me feeling that 'Supernanny' is a lot less knowledgeable than she likes to think.
As an autistic adult with trauma, I had the exact same feeling. Couldn't help but notice a lot of the young girl's "aggressive" behaviors were things I saw her mother doing herself. Tired of seeing children exhibiting signs of trauma or emotional distress and then being treated as "bad kids" when in reality their environment is the problem. Megan isn't lashing out in a sadistic or manipulative way, she seems genuinely and extremely overwhelmed and lashes out the way a cornered animal would--not as someone who enjoys it, but as someone who feels they NEED to defend themselves, and I know firsthand how difficult those feelings are to understand when so young.
I’m the same sadly I’m currently being diagnosed and going to therapy 😢😢 I started acting like this when I was 9 I’m 13 now so it’s been 4 year and it’s taking my mum (my dad cheated on my mum 2 year2 ago which I knew about 😢) 3 years to realise after I went to her crying at 10 saying I’ve got some problems 😢😢 and that I’m weird and a freak and all that but ever since it’s been a real challenge because I snap at my mum 4 times a day because I always think she doesn’t love me even though I know she does but I also have social anxiety possibly autism and bipolar disorder as well
I'm a former "bad kid" that got an autism diagnosis at age 30. I see myself in a lot of these clips. Behaviour is communication. All I've ever wanted is to be listened to and understood.
So true, this is how my sibings are/ were and we're all neurodivergent. I was a bit different, was generally a 'good' kid, mostly because I am the eldest and basically made myself a persona of 3rd parent. This obviously was exhausting & my autistic meltdowns came when I was 15/16. My parents were mortified because they'd never really seen me like that before... I then got an autism diagnosis at 17, and now I also suspect ADHD. Going through this has really allowed me to empathise with kids that are like this, a lot of the time there is more to it than just 'bad behaviour', so glad this is being understood more recently.
Children mirror their parents, if you act badly then your children will. The child’s response to being reprimanded will reflect their parents response to conflict. Mum in this situation is always ready for a fight, so the child is always ready for a fight. If you are calm, and give the child chance to calm down, then they will listen to you and be respectful if you are also listening and being respectful. “I’m the parent! You’ll do as you’re told!” does not work. I’ve been a nanny and childcare provider for over 30 years, and a mother of three teenagers. Maybe I should start my own tv show 😂
Honestly its always confused me how parents think "im the adult, you listen to me" would actually work. It doesnt. My parents did it with me and id get more and more angry when they did, and they wouldnt listen to me and whats on my mind. Parents need to learn how to deal with kids misbehaving, because being a dictator doesnt work. Being a parent does
But: neurodiversity and mental health issues exist, too. Shaming parents for "missbehaving" adhd Kids for example is damaging too. It's a matter of finding out what brings them to be destructive.
@@wmdkitty Look, the person you replied to was actually talking about how some stuff neuro divergent kids do can be misinterpreted as misbehavior, and that we should be careful to not shame the parents if that's the case Just saying that to clarify things, and so the discussion doesn't spiral out of control
The girl who’s biting probably has oppositional defiance disorder, biting to release extra cortisol anxious energy is extremely common and one of the tell tales of that specific disorder. Its disease state is basically anxiety disorder in children often comes with ADHD and OCD.
@ I disagree, most kids who are not nice have some level of rationale or some kind of response to the techniques shown here. This girl having literally no response to training or therapy or discipline is certainly not normal, even for a “mean” child. Biting especially at her age is linked to many neural pathway damage and she could be fixed with intensive care psychiatric care and food restrictions (specifically things like dyes in candies and what not that damage your neural pathway responses) and a lot of patience.
@ I said probably bro, meaning I’m guessing, it’s a simple opinion she’s never gonna see this nor should you ever take RUclips comments so seriously lol
Not everything is a diagnosis. Outsourcing the cause of the problem to some third-party, such as an arbitrarily defined disorder with no real medical basis, is a very great way of avoiding the actual cause of the problem, which is usually the parents
There is a massive difference between asking for something and being heard, to demanding it like a devil child and kicking off. All the parent has to do is tell the child I will answer your question when I have finished this conversation with your father, then you have all of my attention. Demanding it and giving a mouthful of abuse won't get HER or anyone else anywhere, other than ignored. So let's not all throw in that she has mental health problems or ADHD or anything else. Ignoring a demanding child is a form of punishment for being disrespectful in the first place. You then explain why she was ignored and teach her the correct way to ask for something.
I agree. This child needs to vent her feelings. She hasn't been given enough opportunities for that. That's why the feeling box made her smile. Children just need to learn to regulate their emotions when they are stressed and need supportive, empathetic and calm parents to teach them that.
Parents in the early 00s would be like ‘do I need family counseling and possibly a pediatric psych evaluation? Could my child’s behavior be the result of some dysfunction on my part, or maybe some trauma I don’t know about? Nah, I’m gonna put my kids on tv showing how awful they are.’
PARENTS ARE ALWAYS THE ISSUE. I did behavior management for years. The biggest thing we have to change are the parents. Edit: yes, people, disabilities and medical diagnosis exist, but, want to know how we help children deal with those? BY TRAINING THE PARENTS
This. It’s very very rare for the child to be the problem. And in the rare events that they are it’s generally related to severe difficult to treat mental illness. Otherwise anytime I hear about a “problem child” that tells me all I need to know about their caretakers.
Absolutely. Children absorb everything that happens around them and they spend a majority of their time around their parents. If the children are acting like demon spawns, it's highly likely that the parents are the problem.
We can’t always blame the parent tho, my mom is always a balanced parent, doing punishments and also rewarding us with stuff like gift cards or smth. My brother is STILL hateful and never listens.
I mean, Super Nanny taught them the basics - you need to speak to the child calmly, discipline them consistently, encourage good behaviour and give out responsibilities. If the family can't follow simple instructions, it's on them. It's like paying a fitness guru £500 for a custom diet and then complain you've not lost weight when you've in fact not followed the diet!
Yeah that's why I didn't like the follow up where she said it didn't have an impact on their family. I mean clearly Super Nanny's techniques worked. But she isn't going to be there so the parents have to continue to use the things she taught them going forward for it to have an impact. It's on them to continue to practice what she taught them.
As someone who works with kids that have behavioral and mental health problems… when you get hit, scratched, pinched, bit, or cussed at. You have to act like nothing bothers you even if it does hurt. It shows them that their only way they know how to cope is not a way to get help or express emotions. It helps teach reflection and regulation. It is also important to do the debriefs that super nanny does. I can now understand super nanny ways now I am in a similar job. I always grew up on this show and never understood how this works. Yes sometimes it doesn’t but most times it does
Rbt, YES THIS THIS EXACTLY!! I've been bitten when I was trying to help put on shoes- but guess what kid? You're now still- so I just let the bite happen and used it to put on the shoe...they were absolutely FLABBERGASTED
I had 3 children with autism and adhd. It was hell. Just like this lot. So I changed everything. They were not coping at school, so I took them out. Many years of me not coping and me being scared of school hols made me see I was doing it wrong. So home schooling was great, I made myself start to have fun. It worked. I had been so so tired, but I forced myself. Things changed faster than I thought . Kids attitude changed they loved going to home school groups there are loads. They made new friends that were so different from schooled kids.. They reached goals they never could before. We went camping just me and the kids. We worked together. Now they are adults 2 are brilliant. One is trying, he is severly ADHD and ODD and autism. But they are doing things psychologists said they never would. Happy finally❤
Couldn’t help feeling the school environment was in part responsible for Meghan’s aggression. We are all brainwashed into thinking that school will help them learn appropriate behaviour in a social interaction, if that were true, why does bullying exist🤔
i always wondered if Megan was a little neurodivergent/autistic only due to her resist at the changes brought into the house, her inability to soothe herself and resort to violence, getting completely overwhelmed over things that seem simple, and she's incredibly intelligent but also very manipulative and controlling, and when things don't go how she planned she spirals. She needs constant engagement and uses logic in each of her arguments. I could be wrong but its just something i've always wondered.
she seems very creative though and very capable of abstract thinking.. She was just resistant to change because it meant not getting her own way all the time. She's into rage because that is what her mother has role modeled for her and there have been no consequences for hitting her sisters in the past
@@ineedhoezYou joke, but autistic kids being wrongly diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder is a very real problem in the mental health field.
thank you for the bit where children arent born bad. they arent, actually its the children who behave like megan are the ones who need to most love. but the second comming of chucky comment made me spit my drink out 😂😂😂
@foxpatternedferret476 No? They're saying yes, that is the case for some children, BUT Meghan isn't one of those cases since ut isn't born evil it's mismanagement
Cam, I absolutely love how no matter what subject you're talking about, you always bring so much compassion and empathy and try to see things from all sides. That quality, along with how genuinely hilarious you are, has quickly made you one of my favorite youtubers since I first saw one of your videos only a couple of months ago. That kind of nuance can be pretty lacking across the internet in general and I really applaud you for being so thoughtful! I was an avid Supernanny watcher (the US version anyway, as that's where I'm from) when I was in my late teens/early 20s, so I know I've got a bias toward trusting Jo's methods, and I really like how you both praise her methods but also question if they're always as effective as they could be. It's really cool for me since it broadens how I think about this show that I used to love and kind of blindly trust before I got a better idea of how reality television works in general. But it's also not just ragging on her methods for the sake of entertainment. Also loved that you showed Meghan's tiktok to see how she's doing now and her thoughts on the experience. I wonder if her parents have the same opinion that she does about Jo not necessarily helping their family much, or if they might have a slightly different perspective on it? Like how she didn't notice much change but maybe they at least felt more empowered as parents? Or maybe they feel exactly the same. But I'd be interested to know how other members of the family feel about it as well!
Same here haha. I remember my mum always threatening to call social services and get me taken away lmfaooo. I’m glad she seems to have turned out okay, but good fucking god how did nobody even think of maybe getting at least a GP appointment??
Absolutely, the other two children in this situation are better behaved than the oldest, if they all received the same disciplinary measures and one is acting out way more, chances are she has some sort of disorder, she should be seen by a neurologist and a childhood behavioral specialist for sure.
I agree. Also possibly for bipolar because she hyper emotional. But even if she was diagnosed, Super Nanny's help wouldve been the same except they would also give the child medication for her to take.
That's what I was thinking because kids and teens having the same repetitive behaviour that doesn't actually change for the better but only gets worse.
I was diagnosed with ODD when I was a kid! I was hoping to find a comment about it. I also have ADHD so the meds I take control my emotions somewhat. However, most of my anger was controlled because I learned how my actions affected other people. I guess I just decided one day to stop reacting so much. (meds help for sure)
Glad you mentioned Nanny McPhee because for the longest time, I thought the Supernanny was her so when I finally watched the show I was like "what is this? this isn't Supernanny!" It took me years to realize that Supernanny is a TV show and Nanny McPhee are movies
Yes, definitely. I immediately thought of that episode when he made the comment about how the children never call for Super Nanny, it's always the parent. Sad episode, that one
Can we just take a moment to address how oddly romantic it looks at 8:27 with the mom and Jo sat so weirdly on the couch holding hands. Faces less than 3 feet from each other with the husband behind em like "What's goin on 'ere?"
21:56 my stepmam recommended that my mam, stepdad my little sister and myself would do a thought box, the idea was we just write any issues we had, any questions, how we felt through the week, literally the first time we read a slip of paper, my mam read out something I wrote about “not feeling like I can talk” to my stepdad… so he stood up shouted that he “wasn’t going to be treated like a child in his own house and put up with stupid bullshit like this” then stormed off… so needless to say there was no more thought box
@@choukaspic4712 they’re married still and they have their own kids, I have a much better relationship with them both now, but to this day I can only see a man child that can’t control his emotions, that takes his anger out on the people around him and someone who values “respect”(it’s just pure arse licking) and I made it clear when I was growing up that I was taught you earn respect I fucking hate the sentence “I demand respect” and I’ve learned not everyone was raised with human decency, it’s up to us to break that trauma and not pass it on It’s all good tho, everyone’s learning til the day we leave this planet
@@rachelkrumpelman5131 the irony is unreal the “man” is a living contradiction but I’m at a point where I can see it now so it doesn’t bother me as much
Sad to say, getting attacked by children is a daily occurrence for most teachers. 😢 Most of us don’t quit either (until we hit a breaking point) and have the patience of saints as well! To me, it appears that Meghan has undiagnosed ADHD or autism (possibly both) and she’s just constantly overstimulated and overwhelmed so she lashes out. It’s a very familiar scene.
@@kendalllitzsinger1559no babes her parents don’t appear to be violent and she isn’t watching bad girls club on the weekend there is no way she is neurotypical or maybe just some mental health that needs therapy her "growing out of it " means she’s learnt coping mechanisms
Finally somebody that doesn't glaze Supernanny and act like she's a godsend and also tries checks up on the development of the kids! I remember watching a few commentary RUclipsrs, and don't get me wrong, they were funny and I love them, but they act like it was necessary for the family to get host from a tv show and broadcast it for things to finally the better. I like that he points out a lot of things that most people don't seem to. He points out that the child doesn't understandably doesn't want the power dynamic flipped, points out that she often is doing something to help pay attention, etc. It's rare to see ppl that aren't automatically on the parents side just because the children are very disrespectful or because if they tried the same thing they would have been scared of the consequences, which is crazy to me cuz like how do we forget for the first decade of our life *we* were kids at one point, we didn't like beatings or being back talked to, that kids need a lot more grace and empathy than most or some adults give them? The world needs to work on its empathy so bad. (And no I'm not saying to kiss the kids butt either).
I forget the name of the family, but the one I'll never forget is the family with 10 kids, and the mom kept insisting she wanted 2 more, even though she already couldn't handle the 10 she already had without parentifying the 2 oldest. Things seemed to get better at the end, but if you look up the family, the mom divorced the dad cause he wouldn't give her 2 more kids, and then remarried to have 3 more kids, making her new step children parent the littles.
Isnt it great how all the parents on these shows have an attitude of "its not me its my child", as if 9 times out of 10 their monster child wasnt of their own making 😃😃
Also I'm only 5 minutes in right now, but as for "why is this child so angry?" I can already tell the biggest reason; the only form of discipline they receive is aggressive, either yelling or using physical force to take things away without explanation. Oh God why is my child that I yell at all the time so angry? 🤨🤨
At the beginning of the video I thought the same, but after watching the whole thing not so much anymore. It stood out to me how much Megan attacked her siblings and imo there's something about her being jealous of them. @@pandakats5154
See the thing I hate is that as a teacher, I was blamed for the student behavior as if I had anything to do with their creation. Like I’m not their parent! Their behavior shouldn’t be my fault!
I love that you approach this with so much empathy for how EVERYONE is feeling, rather than treating it like it’s a black and white situation and laughing at them for not knowing better (like how I imagine a lot of YT reactors probably do tbh). It’s also fascinating to see where the kids in the episodes are today! I never thought to do that before
Add two kids like that among 30 kids, and that's how public education is. You have to have "strength through calmness" when dealing with immature people and their children.
Right? Same here. My mom wouldn't have beat us, but my dad would have been more than happy to get the belt out. Then again, we wouldn't have DREAMED of acting anything like Meghan. And yes, we're Texans, too.
My daughter is 9 with diagnosed ADHD, ODD and potentially autism (we’re in line for testing) and she’s VERY aggressive at times. It’s like flipping a light switch and when she gets that way it takes a long time for her to calm down. I’ve been bruised up pretty bad from her biting me and she’s closed her daddy’s arm in the car door, damaged a car that isn’t ours, and almost got thrown into the back of a cop car with restraints on and taken to the therapy office because she got so bad at school one day. We’re thinking puberty is also now a factor. It’s genuinely so hard with just her so I can’t imagine having 2 other kids while trying to handle a Meghan or a kid like mine. It’s exhausting and it’s so easy to feel like a failure. I really feel for the mom. I also can’t really take my daughter places because the smallest things can trigger her behaviors. I hope things have gotten better for the family.
This what im sying i reckon megan is neurodivergent but not diagnosed along with alot of kids on this show because it was the 2000s and no one gave a shit, im about the same age as her and was exactly like her, but i was an only child, i was diagnosed autistic at 22. We were just seen as problem children and nothing else
Not sure if you're interested in medication but I'm diagnosed with ADHD and OCD and had a lot of the behavior problems you described as a child. No medication really helped me until I got on Jornay PM, it's a newer ADHD med and it is so much better than any other ADHD med out there. Buspirone is also a really great non-addictive anti-anxiety med. It can be taken in very small doses as needed and it really helps ease excess tension.
@@shelbyg6057 She’s on Vyvanse at the moment but because she’s had such a drastic relapse back into the violent outbursts they are considering changing it. They’ve already just made a change so we have to wait a bit for this other medicine to take effect to see if anything changes. We’re pretty sure they’ll switch her ADHD meds, though. I’ll keep that one in mind and ask about it with her next upcoming appointment. It’s honestly gotten to the point where we’ve had to have difficult discussions about the possibility of having her temporarily hospitalized because of how dangerous she can be to herself and others. It came up for the first time a little over a year or two ago when therapy first started and we’ve fought to keep from going that route but with every outburst we seem to be getting closer to that conclusion.
My youngest daughter is about to turn 9 and has ADHD, possible Autism (our doctor said EVERYONE ADHD has Autism) Dyslexia. But also talks incredibly well and easily talks to adults and is so clever and creative (and deeply mischievous! Something both good and bad depending on what evil plan She might have just thought up!) She is the cutest little blonde haired, blue eyed angelic looking girl that can turn into a wild animal in an instant. I feel your pain! I call her Bear for this very reason, cute n cuddly but also dangerous haha! When she flips out her voice goes demonic sounding, deep and growly (another reason why I call her Bear!) She will punch, bite, scratch, try and kick me in the balls, headbutt etc. When she flips you literally can't talk her down. I try giving her a big cuddle but she won't let you near her. You just have to leave her to calm down/burn out as there's nothing that will stop her! Yes it certainly makes you feel useless, like you're not up to being a parent. But we stick with it and carry on regardless. When she's calmed down she is back to being like her brother and sister. It is major stressful, hard work but choosing to be a parent this is what we bought into. But dealing with a child with ADHD is at least TWICE as difficult!
My daughter appears to randomly go after her brother or sister over seemingly nothing. But she has a photographic memory, incredibly detailed too and our doctor says that she might suddenly remember that her brother annoyed her 2 weeks ago and then she wants revenge. Or her sister wound her up last week and now it's retribution time! So to me it looks random but in her mind it's all remembered and planned! The most difficult thing I found with siblings is that they then get jealous because she obviously needs more attention. But I know you are a good parent as you are discussing your situation. That shows you love and care and only want the best. Nothing wrong in that.
Majority of the time when kids misbehave it's usually because their parents let them get away with things all the time, they feel like they are being ignored or that they aren't being heard. Always start with trying to give your kids more attention and listening to them
A lot of kids will act out when there is a lack of boundaries and consistency. Kids will feel scared and push to see where the boundaries are. Parents who just let kids do anything or do not follow through with consequences are not being nice. The fact Megan has an answer says she feels she has to take care of herself because she doesn't feel loved and secure. The mother seems to give in to her feelings rather than think of the child and what she needs.
Yeah I really can’t help but see a kid trying to defend their reality. She has no structure to rely on and no safety net. Her parents have completely robbed her of a safe space to identify her emotions, she shuts down at any big feeling because she can’t process how she’s feeling. She seems to also get unfairly punished for things in relation to her siblings. I mean they leave her at home because they’re worried she’ll do something! She has to feel SO isolated, I’d act out too! Her parents are too afraid of validating her feelings and the invalidation will literally make ANYONE go crazy and test boundaries at some point. It’s definitely beyond being able to fix the situation on their own at the point of filming so I’m glad they actually asked for help.
I actually relate to Megan in some way. I have severe adhd and as a child I was an absolute nut case, due to being under stimulated 27/4. I'd often act out if things didn't went my way or bite and punch other kids bc i had this uncontrollable rage inside of me. I often got put into timeout at elementary school and once even threw my backpack at a teacher 💀. What really helped me personally was being taken seriously. I often didn't even know why I was acting out and having someone like a nanny or teacher actually try to figure out why I acted this way helped me sm! My parents often resulted to harsh punishments or shouting, when all I needed was a heartfelt conversation. I love supernanny bc she knows how important it is to just communicate with kids instead of constantly punishing them for smth they maybe aren't even able to control!!
I do find it a bit much that the furthest it seemed to ever go for Megan was acknowledging that she was angry. Like, yeah, good start... how about listening when she says something is "sissy" and when she talks about how she wants to be in control of her own possessions and body (even if it's not always 100% practical at that age), and how she obviously has no healthy outlet for her emotions if even that stupid box was enough to make her excited. Like, if someone had spoken to me in that way at her age "yeah, you're angry, this is Megan being angry" in that awful patronising tone, I'd have f*cking mauled them too tbh.
i acted like this from like 11-17 and for my 21st (after autism and personality disorder diagnoses) wrote a letter to my parents for handling me when i was a monster
Facts!!!! Thats why my husband and I agreed to 2 children only 4 years apart. 1 child per parent so no one felt ignored and the 4 year difference so that while the older one was at school I could dedicate the same amount of attwntion to the younger that I had to the older whem she was a baby so neither felt favored. End result, these two are each others best friends. They're equally comfortable going to either myself or my husband and they also know the old mom/dad said I could won't work because we check in with one another. Our family has placed a huge amount of emphasis on healthy communication and asking for help from others if we need it. Both my husband and I came from abusive childhoods of different types and we swore to do better by our children. We are not perfect by any means but we must be doing something right because my kids are the only great grandkids my grandma is willing to babysit
Having raised two kids, one with Autism....the best way to deflect tension is not to make eye contact with the child. She was doing her nails, to put the girl at ease. BTW your commentary was hilarious, Love. haha
26:20 no this is so true!! it’s sooo common for neurodivergent kids to act out on extremities because we’re not taught how to properly control, manage and/or express certain emotions. i hate how often tantrums are labelled as a disturbance rather than adults who are supposed to guide their kids trying to figure out the cause of the issue. most people aren’t that consistently angry!!
I watched this show often as a new parent, and the way Supernanny would always say, "unasseptable" annoyed me, especially since it was one of her favourite things to say when children would misbehave. Kudos to Megan for finally pointing it out. I can confirm that following this episode, she actually stopped saying it, so I guess Supernanny learned something of value from this episode, too.
I was jumping up and down when you said she reminds you of Veruca Salt cuz that’s EXACTLY what I thought straight away when I watched it! She sounds like her as well I bet she’d play her so well🤭
I have five daughters. They are wonderful adults with families of their own. They NEVER behaved like that. We didn't yell or shout. We worked it out by building trust through communication.
I am a new foster parent and I got a 4 year old non-verbal autistic kid for respite(emergency or overnight care) and he didn’t sleep well the first night but I did the super nanny bed actions(from my memory 10 years prior) and he slept the rest of the week. The foster mom was stunned and couldn’t get him to sleep right for 8 months… foster mom displaced and I took him and I nearly made his old therapist cry because she saw a kid rocking back and forth transform into an oddly social and happy kid, learning to communicate(with ASL) I love super nanny, she is actually really amazing, a family trainer( with training, you train not only the dog/kid but mainly the owner/parent).
Well done! I also believe her methods work. A lot of parents object to the idea that they are the ones that need to put in the work, rather than just drop them at the therapist every week for the rest of their lives. There’s got to be follow through. Thanks for your comment.
I used to be OBSESSED with supernanny and nanny 911 as a teen(despite never wanting kids) to the point where I’d get stress headaches. Seeing this makes me laugh but also brings back embarrasing memories 😅😂
Apparently, Megan is now the mother to a 6 year old daughter and works as a School teacher. Imagine being some kid in school and you are scrolling through like TikTok or something and you see highlights from old Supernanny episodes and you see your teacher as a kid full on beating the shit out of their parents and siblings.
4:02 when we were younger, my brother was a bit of a trouble maker and he wanted me to get into trouble for something, as that didn't happen often. So he BIT HIMSELF and ran to mum to blame it on me, but because he's slmost 4 years younger than me, the teeth marks on him were so obviously his and not mine that I didn't get in trouble and he had basically just bit himself for nothing🤣
1:36 "is this from the future?" Ooooooh boy!😂 These were the best! We watched DVD's during holidays with these, my mom brought one of these to her workplace during quiet hours
5 minutes in, and I've already subscribed! Your commentary is hysterical. I'm a nanny for a family of 4, and I can tell you that it is a HARD job. The kids I watch are insanely smart, they all have ADHD, the oldest boy has Asperger's, and the middle girl is Veruca Salt. She wants an Oompa Loompa NOOOOOOOWWWWWWW!!!!!!
It’s terrible kids literally drive parents Into pure depression. Literally in ‘a dark place’ but it’s half the parent’s fault. Literally no discipline.
I looked up what happened to this family after watching this episode... the mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and the father left the family 😳 they apparently have no relationship with him. How terrible!
Megan needs to be medically evaluated. This is not just simple bullying. She has most likely either been a) traumatized (abused), b) has a mental health issue going on, c) dealing with a sensory intergration disorder - like autism, or a combination.
I actually rate that supernanny chose this as a job, she’s a better woman than me
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PLEASE
I work in childcare and honestly she should start a series in an early years setting because it is rough sometimes XD, Love the job tho, even on the hard days but us teachers could do with calling the calvilry sometimes 🤣
Loved this vid pls do another reacting to the super nanny episode that once aired child services got called for neglecting their kids ❤❤❤love all ur vids
@emmaherbison9538 which episode was that?
The way Super Nanny didn't even flinch when Meghan practically jumped the table to swing at her, the woman is simply built different😭😭
Jo Frost is a trained then mega experienced childcare expert. Kids or parents in her face are nothing new.
I used to work with autistic kids. I've had them attack me and bite me. But one time one threw a chair at me and I caught it by the leg all casually and put it down and told him to sit. Kids make you feel badass somtimes. I felt like Thanos 🤣
@@armoredgeo6621I work in a residential treatment center for kids with major issues, I too felt like Thanos when a girl punched the wall next to my head without flinching…. I looked at her and was like well okay let’s not punch things 😂
This woman is the navy seal of nannies. She’s seen everything a hundred times.
Bro if super nanny came to my house I’d be the best person in the world
My Indian mom said she got tensed watching this episode. If your child’s behavior is so bad it scares an Indian mom, you know you fucked up.
Ahahaha that's brilliant! (I've Indian grandparents) and yes.... if they're worried you absolutely f-ed up! 😂😂😂
Yes, but loads of it is staged, it's TV 😅
Omg yes. That’s when you know that shit’s bad
My mexican Mom will use the chancla on our asses idgaf what anyone says I'm 32& im glad I got my ass whooped.
@sputnik4892 imagine you say it's all good kids act like a brat so we can get paid 😂for billions of ppl to watch how your kids act for $$$🤑
F*cked that parents agree to these scripts
Supernanny was originally a nanny to the rich and famous so she's dealt with some of the worst kids society has to offer, that's how she keeps her cool.
Those kids aren't that bad. Middle and lower class are worse most of the time
Haha I can see that could be a Nanny Boot Camp
@@maries8364Yeah over-privileged, entitled kids who never spend time with their parents only Nannie’s, yeah they’re well behaved. 🙄 If they are well behaved that says more for their nannies than parents.
@@maries8364oh please ! What are u basing that on ?
@@Witchezcat the fact that I was a nanny for different families for 9 years for the wealthies in houston as well as did lower cost care for a diversity of other families
As a teacher, I've learned to never raise my voice. Here are the reasons:
1) the energy that you give to your kids is the energy you get back
2) the teacher that constantly raises their voice is constantly raising their voice-- that becomes the baseline.
3) if I raise my voice it's for a reason and to have an effect. If you never raise your voice, and then you suddenly do, it's very very effective.
I had sergeant major voice which rarely got used coz it took a hell of a lot of energy project,but effective.
i have 4 kids and I completely agree!!
Agreed, shouting should be saved for potentially dangerous situations when you need your child to listen immediately.
I've experienced this with professors in high school. I went to a pretty bad high school, and there was all kinds of shit going on, so you had to be tough if you wanted to teach there. Most professors were old that worked there for a long time and a certain one yelled all the time. Most of the students roddiculed her on the daily, but you lose your 'authority' in a way by yelling and trying to be tough. Meanwhile, certain other teachers who didn't yell got the correct response when they did yell, and most of them were more respected in a way.
THIS. I wouldn't be surprised if the girl yelled so much because she saw her mom doing it first. You get what you put in. Mom's literally modeling that when you're upset, you yell. Instead of modeling emotional restraint, she's making it worse by constantly overreacting.
"I didn't pinch her...I HIT HER !"
Damn, that girl has some straight A comedic timing and delivery.
My youngest kicked my oldest and did not deny it, when I asked her
@@Jesuslovesus4ever-o3b your kid's either got a good sense of telling the truth or knows what she did was not right
@@Angrycat-pg5iv Both.
@@Jesuslovesus4ever-o3b ah thought so
@Angrycat-pg5iv But, she was about three to four. They were both crying and I asked them what happened. My oldest told me her sister kicked her and my youngest admitted it. Then my oldest admitted to starting it
As a teacher, I don’t get how you can’t see that all of Meghan’s behavior is picked up from her mother. Like her mother, she lashes out and screams as her main form of communication. I have worked with some “challenging” students and never have I screamed like that, maybe I’ve changed my tone, but never the aggressive yelling . The father is able to spend time with the children because his relationship with them is based in positivity and understanding. Meanwhile the mother doesn’t even try to understand her daughters, she believes that by virtue of being their mother they owe her respect. Respect is earned.
I've also seen Dads like that who won't provide guidance and discipline for the kids, leaving the entire burden for the mom. So the Dad gets to be the "fun" parent and the mom gets to be the awful one.
I think it is a little more complicated, I have raised my voice with my children, but I didn't have them doing it to me, bar one who was my fourth, and autistic. My fifth child was autistic and nonverbal, and then, being very calm was vital. Being calm is important, but raising your voice doesn't produce that behaviour. There are other things that are at play. I'm horrified that a professional is so critical of the mother. What she needs is support and lifting, just the same tactics you'd use on students. All you'd be doing is stroking the fathers ego, at the expense of his wife. As parents it vital they are a team, and just like in business utilising there strengths, needs, so things run smoothly. As for teachers, why isn't there a more affective tools to deal with bullies. These bullies can causes so much harm, yet school can't deal with it. We need less bullies so school would be the ideal place to help these families. The physical and mental harm caused, needs attention.
@@ked7426I get your point, but Meghann is literally talking to her mother the way her mother talks to her. I don’t know why you’d expect different out of a kid if you’re not displaying different behavior (obvi not meaning you specifically)
Agree the mum constantly screaming back, this has become normal for them and it doesn’t get you anywhere, but it seems like mum never spends any one on one time with any of them, they are all vying for attention, mum is so stressed and exhausted
I saw that within the first few minutes. Children don’t learn to be terrors on their own. It’s usually because they both mimic the behavior they see and aren’t properly corrected when having said behavior; they do it because they know it’ll get them what they want. This is 100% on the parents.
My mother was a daycare provider for over a decade when I was growing up, and lemme tell you kids never acted up when they were at the daycare. Not out of fear, but because they were out of their household. When a child acts up that badly - and you’re not getting messages from the school about them acting the same there - then the problem is at home. Children are children, they aren’t short adults. Always start with the parents, because 90% of the time that’s where the problem begins.
I have to disagree. You might want to read about masking. Girls are very good at it. We behave at school to fit into the environment. We explode at home because its our safe space.
I have a different point of view. My kids teachers raved about how great my kids were, so did their coaches friends parents… my husband and I would wonder who they were talking about, “THAT kid???!!!” Him/her being a terror at home sometimes. One day I was musing about this with my sister in law, a therapist, and she said, “that’s what you want, the child knows how to act and is cooperative and rational, respectful and well adjusted. That means they feel safe and comfortable at home, to show their frustration and can vent. Children who are acting out in public and perfect at home don’t feel safe and supported at home.”.
All my kids have done well in life. All graduated from college, the oldest had a divorce early on but they all have successful marriages and their children are on track to do well. I’m sure there are exceptions to every rule. ☮️
This can be a mixed bag. There are children who mirror their parents and will act badly like that because of how their parents act, and they will act out more at home because they feel safer to do so. There's also a huge spectrum of experts that go from the child feeling safer to act out to the child's needs not being met and learned bad communication strategies from their parents, etc. My ex is a bully and is constantly confrontational to everyone to try to get her way. My daughter lives with her and acts the same way even in public. She'll also act out with me, but I don't yell at her or try to bully her to act appropriately like her mom does. She'll be resistant to my correction for a while, which is calm but firm verbal correction with appropriate consequences (like timeout or not going to a place we planned to go, etc) if she doesn't act appropriately, but will eventually do what I tell her. I will also try to talk to her to find out how she's feeling to make her act that way so I can try to meet whatever emotional or attention need she has. Now, it takes less time for me to get her to calm down and act appropriately and not try to bully people; however, based on what I've witnessed and her mom complains about trying to blame me for, there's been zero change in her behavior when she's with her mom.
Not always. My daughter has autism and I’m her safe person. She didn’t act up at school because it wasn’t safe to let loose at school. I got her (actually both of us) into therapy when she was age 4 and with 10 years of therapy, she’s learned emotional regulation enough to deal with life.
@@TheLozerellaYou arent saying anything against them, they said if the kids arent acting up outside of the house but are at home, then the problem is most likely at home.
If a kid goes to school & is fine, then comes home & loses it, theres still a problem in the home. WHY does the kid feel the need to mask & why do they explode when they get home.
The dad looks like he’s shat somewhere n is worried someone is gonna find it
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Fckin hell 😂😂😂
he's acting like it's treasure
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The best advice I ever got before I had my second baby was: when both children are crying, take care of the older one first. They’ll never feel
Ignored or replaced, they will calm down quicker, and then have them hel with calming the baby. It give them purpose and they learn to love their sibiling. My kids are absolute best friends and I really think it’s because we started this way.
nanny: "Can you do an American accent?"
child: **punches her sister**
It was the perfect accent
That's deep. Lmao
She kinda ate with that impression, I'm afraid
child: i can do one better *pulls out gun*
AMERRRIIICAAAAAAAA!!
Growing up in the 2000s my mom used to threaten she’d ring super nannny to come if I didn’t behave I’d cry and beg her not to super nanny had some power 🤣
bahaha
This & childline 😂😂😂
@@oliviamaelovick yes 😭🤣
I used to tell my girl that I had SuperNannys' phone number lol 😂
Same!! My mum would threatened my sister and I with super nanny 😂
How is a kid supposed to respect their parents when
A) They aren’t a team.
B) The rules clearly aren’t upheld.
C) They are emotionally neglected.
D) The eldest child needs medical intervention for whatever disorder she clearly has.
If she needs stimulation, her parents should provide her access to alternative forms of it.
Lol medical intervention 😂 you are insane if you want to medicate that child.
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@@onedaynoreason2572she clearly needs medication.
@@onedaynoreason2572 Medical intervention doesn't always involve medication.
@@onedaynoreason2572 Growing up I was a "problem student." From preschool to 4th grade, adults around me were fed up with my crying fits and "tantrums" and made it very, very clear to me. I was manhandled and dragged to the office, I was yelled at, I was made to sit in corners while my peers continued on. And looking back on it, my fits were always random. There wasn't a trigger, they'd just happen and I'd implode, burst into tears, beg to go home. And every single time the response from an adult was the same: punish me.
Come 4th grade my teacher reamed my parents out for "allowing" me to continue this behavior at the age I was, and my mom got my psychologically evaluated.
Panic disorder.
I wasn't having tantrums. I was having panic attacks. And being a child who didn't even know those existed, I couldn't communicate it to anybody. I wasn't throwing a fit because I didn't get what I wanted-- I was hit with an overwhelming sense of dread and impending doom and responded how any kid would: crying and screaming.
I was put on fluoxetine starting 5th grade and suddenly those "tantrums" became infrequent. Having a diagnosis meant it was on my chart, so if I were to have an attack again my teacher would actually know how to handle it. The medication lifted my mood also, before I had been a bit of a nervous wreck, but now I could socialize and make friends.. talk to people. Act like a person. Feel like I'm living as opposed to surviving.
Some kids just need medication. Some don't work, that's natural, medication isn't a one size fits all, but some do and they work wonders. To deny a child that right is abuse. Full fucking stop.
What annoys me is parents telling kids off for completely mundane things like swinging a yoyo. Give a bit of wiggle room and pick your battles
I think she was just saying not to swing it close to where she could hit someone in the face
@@ritasand8854that’s exactly what she meant
It’s not mundane to swing a yo-yo when it is near other people and could accidentally hit someone in the face. When her mother said stop, she should have stopped period. There was no need for her hideous behavior.
It’s not mundane to swing a yo-yo when it is near other people and could accidentally hit someone in the face. When her mother said stop, she should have stopped period. There was no need for her hideous behavior.
It’s not mundane to swing a yo-yo when it is near other people and could accidentally hit someone in the face. When her mother said stop, she should have stopped period. There was no need for her hideous behavior.
This is why therapy and mental health tests diagnosis etc are so important and not all kids “grow out of it”
I was friends with a girl whose sister had behavioral issues. Their mom was like "oh she'll probably outgrow it..." now Mom is stuck dealing with a 31 year old toddler. The sister has got some kind of mental health issues, but Mom made her into what she became
No good comes from just putting up one's feet and assuming that a child will magically "grow out" of a behavior or problem without *any* instruction or scaffolding. Red flags need to be taken seriously and confronted ASAP, because a lot of problematic habits, attitudes, and behaviors only get worse and become harder to change the longer they're allowed to go on.
Yes! This is how I found out my daughter was AuDHD with Tourette's. Doesn't excuse the behavior but does explain it
I was forced out of it Wdym therapy?
@@Pookiegothepotg some people need different methods to help them get out of it like therapy
Season 10 of South Park called “Tsst” did an episode parodying this. Both Nanny 911 and Supernanny tried and failed to help Eric Cartman. In the end, it was The Dog Whisperer who ended up helping Eric’s mom to tame Eric.
I love that episode lol but then the mom undoes it because the dog whisperer doesn't want to date her / keep hanging out 😅
Yes. Dogs and toddlers, are very much the same creature.
Known animal abvser caesar Milan. I know him well. Worst thing to have ever happened to dog training.
Supernanny actually did some good, even if today some of her methods are a little dated.
i think this show perfectly highlights the division of labour in nuclear families because if you’re under social pressure to be the perfect mother 24/7 and you take responsibility the majority of their care you’re gonna feel like you’ve failed
This!!
Yes this!!!!!!
She is failing tho
@@hj-ls8pcdrastically the behaviour from the daughter is abhorrent
@@hj-ls8pc of course she's failing: nobody ever taught her how to deal with kids properly so they end up being little nightmares and her husband just blames her for not having enough patience, when in reality he's barely around so he has no idea how exhausting is managing 3 little children on your own. If he stoped being judgmental, like you, and actually helped raise his kids she would no longer be failing because he would split that responsibility 50/50 with her...
I’m honestly surprised they haven’t come out with a follow up show, “Super Nanny Survivors - Where Are They Now?”
I want to know how many of these kids/parents she may have truly helped, or how many became worse.How many “kids” from the show look back and see it as a turning point in their life or just remember it as another chapter of their downward trajectory? How many of them are humiliated to this day that their parents let such a tumultuous time in their life be aired in TV for entertainment?
I saw another comment saying this girl did turn out well, but the positive changes came long after Super Nanny “helped”.
Yeah she’s perfectly fine she has a tik tok
I find it ok to show to the world what can one become, when not educated. So that many people can understand what parenting truly means, not only photos, likes and nice emojis on social media. And if those parents couldn't raise their children well and called for SuperNanny's help, it's their problem, not SuperNanny's one.
@@jskywalker58But how many families are facing similar issues and can watch these videos and learn from them how to sort out issues they are having.
I do think those families are at serious risk at reverting to their old patterns once supernanny is gone, even if we skip possible effects of TV exposure.
If parents have internalized certain vision of their kid, advise of supernanny, even if good, might not presist for long in their brains once frustration or resentment get reignited - and kids might re-test the boundries when the strong authority figure leaves
I feel like it will be like Kitchen Nightmares. Many families will continue to struggle, but a greater percentage will do better than if Supernanny never came at all. When you start with a situation that is already so bad, there's only so much you can do in a week. The show is a wake up call but then the families/restaurants have to do the sustained work.
The mom is permanently on edge, is course the dad looks chill in comparison.
3:24 she doesnt have warts, but if you watch this show often enough you may notice that after the observation stage is over and she's given her recomendations to the parents, she usually appears in casual clothing with her hair loose around her face and sometimes even without her spectacles; you could argue this is the producers way of making her seem less stern, more approachable, and more likeable once the positive behavioural changes have been filmed, a bit like the Nanny McPhee effect you mentioned
It actually bugs the crap out of me the way Super nanny says “unacceptable” and when that girls corrects her pronunciation of it, I laughed so hard 😂
Bugs me too
Thought she was mocking her, but ok.
Same 😅
My brother acted like this when he was little. Ended up he had an intolerance to high fructose corn syrup. We stopped feeding him anything that had HFCS and all of a sudden he was the sweetest child.
Love the irony of that
Honestly Super Nanny is super iconic and is in my opinion the real life Marry Poppins. She descends down upon your house in her cab and then flys away in her cab
(distant whistling of a falling object coming closer until a cab crashes through the roof)
When Cam said the portable dvd player was a ‘cd rom player’ and that he has never seen one of them before is proper triggering hahaha! ‘like fully reminding me just how old I actually am. 😂
“Is this from the future” no child it’s from the past 😪
I am like, 2 or 3 years younger than cam. Me and my younger sibling used to own a portable DVD player each. It's not an age thing haha
im 21 and shocked because we had those for the car growing up lolol
lmaooo I'm pretty sure I'm younger than him but my family had one when I was a kid until it broke
I know this made me feel so old 😂😂
Latin here. If I behaved like this. In any way shape or form. I'd have a permanent tattoo of a sandle on my rear.
Absolutely not
This little girl will hit you and bite you.
Im and I would have been picking up teeth and I did the same thing my parents did. I began to discipline my children at age one Not at age 11. They never had a choice to be disobedient to me in that way. If any of my kids had hit me all hell would have broke loose. I assure you they value their life and their health too much to do that because I don't play that game!
@@lindah5011 And if that was my brat, there would be a healthy application of the hand of wisdom to the seat of knowledge, followed by sitting in the corner so the former action sinks in. Repeat application as needed.
That sounds hot.
it used to be like that hear their was a law brought in in 1980 were the belt at school was banned and a few years after a law banning parents from hitting their kids in anyway
Honestly, I see myself in megan. As an undiagnosed autistic child this was the way I acted a lot of the time, because i was always overwhelmed. The aggression was just a defense mechanism. Hope she's doing well now. (not diagnosing anyone just relating)
I feel this, I was the same as a kid and found out I'm ADD and autistic when I got older, I see the same traits in my own daughter too, same with my niece
Saaaaame. I never acted out to this extent, but I can see myself in her, and my (also AuDHD) son even moreso. Poor kid was struggling and probably spent most of her life feeling overwhelmed and disliked and out of control and angry without really knowing why. That walk where her mum asked her about doing an American accent, she was fiddling with her coat and kinda trailing behind and not really paying attention, and then suddenly her mum is in her face... Like, I get her mum probably had no clue and was trying to joke and be fun, but I can see how if Megan was already either distracted or overwhelmed, suddenly having her mum right up close like that with no warning asking her for a response while (gently but still) pulling on her arm could trigger something.
I'm glad things improved for her as she grew up, but honestly, the fact that THE professional nanny didn't even suggest they get her tested, or even if she couldn't for whatever reason, didn't suggest some of the more common accomodations and supports for neurodivergent kids, leaves me feeling that 'Supernanny' is a lot less knowledgeable than she likes to think.
I WAS JUST THINKING THAT OH MY GOD
i’m so glad i’m not the only one
As an autistic adult with trauma, I had the exact same feeling. Couldn't help but notice a lot of the young girl's "aggressive" behaviors were things I saw her mother doing herself. Tired of seeing children exhibiting signs of trauma or emotional distress and then being treated as "bad kids" when in reality their environment is the problem. Megan isn't lashing out in a sadistic or manipulative way, she seems genuinely and extremely overwhelmed and lashes out the way a cornered animal would--not as someone who enjoys it, but as someone who feels they NEED to defend themselves, and I know firsthand how difficult those feelings are to understand when so young.
I’m the same sadly I’m currently being diagnosed and going to therapy 😢😢 I started acting like this when I was 9 I’m 13 now so it’s been 4 year and it’s taking my mum (my dad cheated on my mum 2 year2 ago which I knew about 😢) 3 years to realise after I went to her crying at 10 saying I’ve got some problems 😢😢 and that I’m weird and a freak and all that but ever since it’s been a real challenge because I snap at my mum 4 times a day because I always think she doesn’t love me even though I know she does but I also have social anxiety possibly autism and bipolar disorder as well
Paul ended up abandoning the family when his wife got cancer, so he truly was a shitty person all-around.
How do u know?
@@Stumpybear7640 Apparently Megan made a tiktok video explaining what happened to the family.
Welp….its normal for men to leave their wife’s after getting a life altering illness like cancer
@@bubblebrooke3338woman also refuse dating amputees simply because they "think " we are useless
@@bubblebrooke3338In no way is that normal or be condoned
He doesn't have a higher tolerance...he's checked out
I feel like a lot of the ‘bad kids’ are neurodivergent and their needs aren’t being met.
Exactly!!
I feel a lot of the 'bad kids' are just spoilt tards who's parents never said no or set boundaries.
I'm a former "bad kid" that got an autism diagnosis at age 30. I see myself in a lot of these clips. Behaviour is communication. All I've ever wanted is to be listened to and understood.
So true, this is how my sibings are/ were and we're all neurodivergent. I was a bit different, was generally a 'good' kid, mostly because I am the eldest and basically made myself a persona of 3rd parent. This obviously was exhausting & my autistic meltdowns came when I was 15/16. My parents were mortified because they'd never really seen me like that before... I then got an autism diagnosis at 17, and now I also suspect ADHD. Going through this has really allowed me to empathise with kids that are like this, a lot of the time there is more to it than just 'bad behaviour', so glad this is being understood more recently.
Well then, how come it was so rare when I was a kid! These brats are allowed to behave this way
Children mirror their parents, if you act badly then your children will. The child’s response to being reprimanded will reflect their parents response to conflict. Mum in this situation is always ready for a fight, so the child is always ready for a fight. If you are calm, and give the child chance to calm down, then they will listen to you and be respectful if you are also listening and being respectful. “I’m the parent! You’ll do as you’re told!” does not work. I’ve been a nanny and childcare provider for over 30 years, and a mother of three teenagers. Maybe I should start my own tv show 😂
Do it!
Honestly its always confused me how parents think "im the adult, you listen to me" would actually work. It doesnt. My parents did it with me and id get more and more angry when they did, and they wouldnt listen to me and whats on my mind. Parents need to learn how to deal with kids misbehaving, because being a dictator doesnt work. Being a parent does
But: neurodiversity and mental health issues exist, too. Shaming parents for "missbehaving" adhd Kids for example is damaging too. It's a matter of finding out what brings them to be destructive.
@@jelenar1939 No. Parents should be shamed for not keeping their kids in line. Neurodivergence is no excuse.
@@wmdkitty Look, the person you replied to was actually talking about how some stuff neuro divergent kids do can be misinterpreted as misbehavior, and that we should be careful to not shame the parents if that's the case
Just saying that to clarify things, and so the discussion doesn't spiral out of control
The girl who’s biting probably has oppositional defiance disorder, biting to release extra cortisol anxious energy is extremely common and one of the tell tales of that specific disorder. Its disease state is basically anxiety disorder in children often comes with ADHD and OCD.
I dont think she needs the disorder label, shes just not nice. She needs to learn about empathy and respect.
@ I disagree, most kids who are not nice have some level of rationale or some kind of response to the techniques shown here. This girl having literally no response to training or therapy or discipline is certainly not normal, even for a “mean” child. Biting especially at her age is linked to many neural pathway damage and she could be fixed with intensive care psychiatric care and food restrictions (specifically things like dyes in candies and what not that damage your neural pathway responses) and a lot of patience.
Diagnosing strangers is absolutely ridiculous. 🙄
@ I said probably bro, meaning I’m guessing, it’s a simple opinion she’s never gonna see this nor should you ever take RUclips comments so seriously lol
Not everything is a diagnosis. Outsourcing the cause of the problem to some third-party, such as an arbitrarily defined disorder with no real medical basis, is a very great way of avoiding the actual cause of the problem, which is usually the parents
Don't understimate the power of rage. Children act like that when they arent being heard, unless they have an obvious mental illness.
There is a massive difference between asking for something and being heard, to demanding it like a devil child and kicking off. All the parent has to do is tell the child I will answer your question when I have finished this conversation with your father, then you have all of my attention. Demanding it and giving a mouthful of abuse won't get HER or anyone else anywhere, other than ignored. So let's not all throw in that she has mental health problems or ADHD or anything else. Ignoring a demanding child is a form of punishment for being disrespectful in the first place. You then explain why she was ignored and teach her the correct way to ask for something.
@@bravobr9725this child is a demon
Or when they think themselves above others. Is not always a sorry case of being misunderstood.
@@DevelE7 These demons are made, no child is born this way unless there are underlying mental issues.
I agree. This child needs to vent her feelings. She hasn't been given enough opportunities for that. That's why the feeling box made her smile. Children just need to learn to regulate their emotions when they are stressed and need supportive, empathetic and calm parents to teach them that.
Yes Cam, so glad you covered this episode, it's my favourite of all episodes. "i didn't pinch her, I hit her" hahaha
Iconic
@@CamKirkham definitely :)
@jackfrawley5187 I feel bad but I've loved Megan since I first saw her. Veruca is the best kid from Willy Wonka too 🤭
@@xletragedyx haha, definitely :)
Parents in the early 00s would be like
‘do I need family counseling and possibly a pediatric psych evaluation? Could my child’s behavior be the result of some dysfunction on my part, or maybe some trauma I don’t know about? Nah, I’m gonna put my kids on tv showing how awful they are.’
PARENTS ARE ALWAYS THE ISSUE. I did behavior management for years. The biggest thing we have to change are the parents.
Edit: yes, people, disabilities and medical diagnosis exist, but, want to know how we help children deal with those? BY TRAINING THE PARENTS
This. It’s very very rare for the child to be the problem. And in the rare events that they are it’s generally related to severe difficult to treat mental illness. Otherwise anytime I hear about a “problem child” that tells me all I need to know about their caretakers.
Absolutely. Children absorb everything that happens around them and they spend a majority of their time around their parents. If the children are acting like demon spawns, it's highly likely that the parents are the problem.
Nailed it!!!!! It's crazy how people blame the children and call them evil. Parents are the biggest poblem and some don't want to get fixed.
We can’t always blame the parent tho, my mom is always a balanced parent, doing punishments and also rewarding us with stuff like gift cards or smth.
My brother is STILL hateful and never listens.
@@Gumbo425 at this age, yes, you absolutely can.
I mean, Super Nanny taught them the basics - you need to speak to the child calmly, discipline them consistently, encourage good behaviour and give out responsibilities. If the family can't follow simple instructions, it's on them. It's like paying a fitness guru £500 for a custom diet and then complain you've not lost weight when you've in fact not followed the diet!
Yeah that's why I didn't like the follow up where she said it didn't have an impact on their family. I mean clearly Super Nanny's techniques worked. But she isn't going to be there so the parents have to continue to use the things she taught them going forward for it to have an impact. It's on them to continue to practice what she taught them.
I'm surprised that this guy doesn't have 1,000,000 Views yet, he's legit humour incarnate
As someone who works with kids that have behavioral and mental health problems… when you get hit, scratched, pinched, bit, or cussed at. You have to act like nothing bothers you even if it does hurt. It shows them that their only way they know how to cope is not a way to get help or express emotions. It helps teach reflection and regulation. It is also important to do the debriefs that super nanny does. I can now understand super nanny ways now I am in a similar job. I always grew up on this show and never understood how this works. Yes sometimes it doesn’t but most times it does
Same. im in ABA and never understood it until I started and see it work first hand.
Rbt, YES THIS THIS EXACTLY!! I've been bitten when I was trying to help put on shoes- but guess what kid? You're now still- so I just let the bite happen and used it to put on the shoe...they were absolutely FLABBERGASTED
CAM its TOMFOOLERY😂😂 ya just cant stop thinking of toon😂
ITS NOT MAN
Bro hate to break it to u but it is man😭😭
@@CamKirkham aye 100% tom foolery. Me uncle uses it as cockey rhyming slang for jewelery as I wear a couple rings haha
@CamKirkham it def is tomfoolery 😂😂 I'm one of your older donuts 🍩 but I gotta say the toon done me 😂😂
🤣
I had 3 children with autism and adhd. It was hell. Just like this lot. So I changed everything. They were not coping at school, so I took them out. Many years of me not coping and me being scared of school hols made me see I was doing it wrong. So home schooling was great, I made myself start to have fun. It worked. I had been so so tired, but I forced myself. Things changed faster than I thought . Kids attitude changed they loved going to home school groups there are loads. They made new friends that were so different from schooled kids.. They reached goals they never could before. We went camping just me and the kids. We worked together. Now they are adults 2 are brilliant. One is trying, he is severly ADHD and ODD and autism. But they are doing things psychologists said they never would. Happy finally❤
Thats amazing. Im sure your kids appreciate ur willingness to think outside the box to connect with them.
The school system is so rigid and sometimes its just a bad fit for some kids. Your kids are lucky to have a mum that went all out to help them ❤
I'm so glad they got diagnosed. I got mine at age 44, never got the help I needed
Couldn’t help feeling the school environment was in part responsible for Meghan’s aggression. We are all brainwashed into thinking that school will help them learn appropriate behaviour in a social interaction, if that were true, why does bullying exist🤔
i always wondered if Megan was a little neurodivergent/autistic only due to her resist at the changes brought into the house, her inability to soothe herself and resort to violence, getting completely overwhelmed over things that seem simple, and she's incredibly intelligent but also very manipulative and controlling, and when things don't go how she planned she spirals. She needs constant engagement and uses logic in each of her arguments. I could be wrong but its just something i've always wondered.
You mean she's a psychopath?
@@ineedhoez 😂
@@ineedhoezno, psycopathy is different
she seems very creative though and very capable of abstract thinking.. She was just resistant to change because it meant not getting her own way all the time. She's into rage because that is what her mother has role modeled for her and there have been no consequences for hitting her sisters in the past
@@ineedhoezYou joke, but autistic kids being wrongly diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder is a very real problem in the mental health field.
thank you for the bit where children arent born bad. they arent, actually its the children who behave like megan are the ones who need to most love. but the second comming of chucky comment made me spit my drink out 😂😂😂
Some are, though I think they’ve badly mismanaged her
@kathybrem880 And yet you call her a brat in the same breath? Bit hypocritical isn't it?
@foxpatternedferret476 No? They're saying yes, that is the case for some children, BUT Meghan isn't one of those cases since ut isn't born evil it's mismanagement
@@H3llo_Fr1ends I don't think any child is born bad
@@kathybrem880 I disagree
Cam, I absolutely love how no matter what subject you're talking about, you always bring so much compassion and empathy and try to see things from all sides. That quality, along with how genuinely hilarious you are, has quickly made you one of my favorite youtubers since I first saw one of your videos only a couple of months ago. That kind of nuance can be pretty lacking across the internet in general and I really applaud you for being so thoughtful!
I was an avid Supernanny watcher (the US version anyway, as that's where I'm from) when I was in my late teens/early 20s, so I know I've got a bias toward trusting Jo's methods, and I really like how you both praise her methods but also question if they're always as effective as they could be. It's really cool for me since it broadens how I think about this show that I used to love and kind of blindly trust before I got a better idea of how reality television works in general. But it's also not just ragging on her methods for the sake of entertainment.
Also loved that you showed Meghan's tiktok to see how she's doing now and her thoughts on the experience. I wonder if her parents have the same opinion that she does about Jo not necessarily helping their family much, or if they might have a slightly different perspective on it? Like how she didn't notice much change but maybe they at least felt more empowered as parents? Or maybe they feel exactly the same. But I'd be interested to know how other members of the family feel about it as well!
As someone with ODD (oppositional defiance disorder) she should of been assessed. I was a chaotic child
Same here haha. I remember my mum always threatening to call social services and get me taken away lmfaooo. I’m glad she seems to have turned out okay, but good fucking god how did nobody even think of maybe getting at least a GP appointment??
Absolutely, the other two children in this situation are better behaved than the oldest, if they all received the same disciplinary measures and one is acting out way more, chances are she has some sort of disorder, she should be seen by a neurologist and a childhood behavioral specialist for sure.
I agree. Also possibly for bipolar because she hyper emotional. But even if she was diagnosed, Super Nanny's help wouldve been the same except they would also give the child medication for her to take.
That's what I was thinking because kids and teens having the same repetitive behaviour that doesn't actually change for the better but only gets worse.
I was diagnosed with ODD when I was a kid! I was hoping to find a comment about it. I also have ADHD so the meds I take control my emotions somewhat. However, most of my anger was controlled because I learned how my actions affected other people. I guess I just decided one day to stop reacting so much. (meds help for sure)
Glad you mentioned Nanny McPhee because for the longest time, I thought the Supernanny was her so when I finally watched the show I was like "what is this? this isn't Supernanny!"
It took me years to realize that Supernanny is a TV show and Nanny McPhee are movies
It's crazy how Meghann is literally 28 now and literally has a child😭
I wonder what kind of mother she is? 🤔
Cam you should react to the episode where the two teenage girls called supernanny themselves!! I find that one rlly interesting
That was sad
Yes, definitely. I immediately thought of that episode when he made the comment about how the children never call for Super Nanny, it's always the parent. Sad episode, that one
I remember that one. I’d love to know how these girls got on. I hope they got their freedom and are doing well.
@@willowtabby4926 it wasn't them though. IT was their little siblings that were out of control and their parents weren't doing anything
So glad the algorithm offered me this video. Your commentary is golden!
18:40 "I didn't pinch her; *I HIT her!"* Lol, sounds like the neighbourhood drunk😅
She was honest at least.
Everything she did or said reminded me of a drunk dude trying to pick a fight and brawl.
as a child i was undiagnosed autistic and my nan used to threaten supernanny on me ALL the time, actually traumatised me
I’m so sorry
R U okay...?
you had a nan?
@@whatever4566Everyone has a nan (alive or dead that is)
Super nanny is really nice though? Even most of the kids like her
Can we just take a moment to address how oddly romantic it looks at 8:27 with the mom and Jo sat so weirdly on the couch holding hands. Faces less than 3 feet from each other with the husband behind em like "What's goin on 'ere?"
21:56 my stepmam recommended that my mam, stepdad my little sister and myself would do a thought box, the idea was we just write any issues we had, any questions, how we felt through the week, literally the first time we read a slip of paper, my mam read out something I wrote about “not feeling like I can talk” to my stepdad… so he stood up shouted that he “wasn’t going to be treated like a child in his own house and put up with stupid bullshit like this” then stormed off… so needless to say there was no more thought box
It was a good idea in theory
damn... was tour step-dad still in the picture after this stunt ? that's actually so sad 😅
@@choukaspic4712 they’re married still and they have their own kids, I have a much better relationship with them both now, but to this day I can only see a man child that can’t control his emotions, that takes his anger out on the people around him and someone who values “respect”(it’s just pure arse licking) and I made it clear when I was growing up that I was taught you earn respect I fucking hate the sentence “I demand respect” and I’ve learned not everyone was raised with human decency, it’s up to us to break that trauma and not pass it on
It’s all good tho, everyone’s learning til the day we leave this planet
He said, "I won't be treated like a child!" As he immediately acted like a child. Wow. I'm sorry.
@@rachelkrumpelman5131 the irony is unreal the “man” is a living contradiction but I’m at a point where I can see it now so it doesn’t bother me as much
Sad to say, getting attacked by children is a daily occurrence for most teachers. 😢 Most of us don’t quit either (until we hit a breaking point) and have the patience of saints as well! To me, it appears that Meghan has undiagnosed ADHD or autism (possibly both) and she’s just constantly overstimulated and overwhelmed so she lashes out. It’s a very familiar scene.
that's not what this is at all, she's totally neurotypical, this is just an arrogant child and she did grow out of it.
@kendalllitzsinger1559 Or she got treatment for a mental disability and proper care. There's no need to be so rude, my guy.
@@kendalllitzsinger1559 why do you care so much to keep replying this same comment to people?
@@kendalllitzsinger1559She is copying her mother.
@@kendalllitzsinger1559no babes her parents don’t appear to be violent and she isn’t watching bad girls club on the weekend there is no way she is neurotypical or maybe just some mental health that needs therapy her "growing out of it " means she’s learnt coping mechanisms
Finally somebody that doesn't glaze Supernanny and act like she's a godsend and also tries checks up on the development of the kids!
I remember watching a few commentary RUclipsrs, and don't get me wrong, they were funny and I love them, but they act like it was necessary for the family to get host from a tv show and broadcast it for things to finally the better. I like that he points out a lot of things that most people don't seem to. He points out that the child doesn't understandably doesn't want the power dynamic flipped, points out that she often is doing something to help pay attention, etc. It's rare to see ppl that aren't automatically on the parents side just because the children are very disrespectful or because if they tried the same thing they would have been scared of the consequences, which is crazy to me cuz like how do we forget for the first decade of our life *we* were kids at one point, we didn't like beatings or being back talked to, that kids need a lot more grace and empathy than most or some adults give them? The world needs to work on its empathy so bad. (And no I'm not saying to kiss the kids butt either).
I forget the name of the family, but the one I'll never forget is the family with 10 kids, and the mom kept insisting she wanted 2 more, even though she already couldn't handle the 10 she already had without parentifying the 2 oldest. Things seemed to get better at the end, but if you look up the family, the mom divorced the dad cause he wouldn't give her 2 more kids, and then remarried to have 3 more kids, making her new step children parent the littles.
Stories of these kinds of people are, to me at least, always very interesting. I believe the family you’re talking about was the “Costello Family”.
Isnt it great how all the parents on these shows have an attitude of "its not me its my child", as if 9 times out of 10 their monster child wasnt of their own making 😃😃
Also I'm only 5 minutes in right now, but as for "why is this child so angry?" I can already tell the biggest reason; the only form of discipline they receive is aggressive, either yelling or using physical force to take things away without explanation. Oh God why is my child that I yell at all the time so angry? 🤨🤨
Most of the time is because they have other children raised the same that don't behave bad.
At the beginning of the video I thought the same, but after watching the whole thing not so much anymore. It stood out to me how much Megan attacked her siblings and imo there's something about her being jealous of them. @@pandakats5154
See the thing I hate is that as a teacher, I was blamed for the student behavior as if I had anything to do with their creation. Like I’m not their parent! Their behavior shouldn’t be my fault!
I love that you approach this with so much empathy for how EVERYONE is feeling, rather than treating it like it’s a black and white situation and laughing at them for not knowing better (like how I imagine a lot of YT reactors probably do tbh).
It’s also fascinating to see where the kids in the episodes are today! I never thought to do that before
Cam really said: “You donuts are in a crisis. I’m on my way.”
I just read that in Cam's voice 😅
It’s funny I actually came across Megan on TikTok earlier talking about her experience after supernanny left
And... ?
What's her name on tiktok?
And what happened?
@@amanda-al01it's meghanncooke
@@amanda-al01Meghan cook x
Add two kids like that among 30 kids, and that's how public education is. You have to have "strength through calmness" when dealing with immature people and their children.
If I acted like this with my Texan mom, I would've been uppercut into the moon.
I don't think I would have made it out alive.
Right? Same here. My mom wouldn't have beat us, but my dad would have been more than happy to get the belt out. Then again, we wouldn't have DREAMED of acting anything like Meghan. And yes, we're Texans, too.
Exactly. I can't relate.
Me too.
corsaircarl I am willing to bet your Mother's approach has kept you out of jail, too.
My daughter is 9 with diagnosed ADHD, ODD and potentially autism (we’re in line for testing) and she’s VERY aggressive at times. It’s like flipping a light switch and when she gets that way it takes a long time for her to calm down. I’ve been bruised up pretty bad from her biting me and she’s closed her daddy’s arm in the car door, damaged a car that isn’t ours, and almost got thrown into the back of a cop car with restraints on and taken to the therapy office because she got so bad at school one day. We’re thinking puberty is also now a factor. It’s genuinely so hard with just her so I can’t imagine having 2 other kids while trying to handle a Meghan or a kid like mine. It’s exhausting and it’s so easy to feel like a failure. I really feel for the mom. I also can’t really take my daughter places because the smallest things can trigger her behaviors. I hope things have gotten better for the family.
This what im sying i reckon megan is neurodivergent but not diagnosed along with alot of kids on this show because it was the 2000s and no one gave a shit, im about the same age as her and was exactly like her, but i was an only child, i was diagnosed autistic at 22. We were just seen as problem children and nothing else
Not sure if you're interested in medication but I'm diagnosed with ADHD and OCD and had a lot of the behavior problems you described as a child. No medication really helped me until I got on Jornay PM, it's a newer ADHD med and it is so much better than any other ADHD med out there. Buspirone is also a really great non-addictive anti-anxiety med. It can be taken in very small doses as needed and it really helps ease excess tension.
@@shelbyg6057 She’s on Vyvanse at the moment but because she’s had such a drastic relapse back into the violent outbursts they are considering changing it. They’ve already just made a change so we have to wait a bit for this other medicine to take effect to see if anything changes. We’re pretty sure they’ll switch her ADHD meds, though. I’ll keep that one in mind and ask about it with her next upcoming appointment. It’s honestly gotten to the point where we’ve had to have difficult discussions about the possibility of having her temporarily hospitalized because of how dangerous she can be to herself and others. It came up for the first time a little over a year or two ago when therapy first started and we’ve fought to keep from going that route but with every outburst we seem to be getting closer to that conclusion.
My youngest daughter is about to turn 9 and has ADHD, possible Autism (our doctor said EVERYONE ADHD has Autism) Dyslexia. But also talks incredibly well and easily talks to adults and is so clever and creative (and deeply mischievous! Something both good and bad depending on what evil plan She might have just thought up!)
She is the cutest little blonde haired, blue eyed angelic looking girl that can turn into a wild animal in an instant. I feel your pain! I call her Bear for this very reason, cute n cuddly but also dangerous haha!
When she flips out her voice goes demonic sounding, deep and growly (another reason why I call her Bear!) She will punch, bite, scratch, try and kick me in the balls, headbutt etc. When she flips you literally can't talk her down. I try giving her a big cuddle but she won't let you near her. You just have to leave her to calm down/burn out as there's nothing that will stop her!
Yes it certainly makes you feel useless, like you're not up to being a parent. But we stick with it and carry on regardless. When she's calmed down she is back to being like her brother and sister. It is major stressful, hard work but choosing to be a parent this is what we bought into. But dealing with a child with ADHD is at least TWICE as difficult!
My daughter appears to randomly go after her brother or sister over seemingly nothing. But she has a photographic memory, incredibly detailed too and our doctor says that she might suddenly remember that her brother annoyed her 2 weeks ago and then she wants revenge. Or her sister wound her up last week and now it's retribution time! So to me it looks random but in her mind it's all remembered and planned!
The most difficult thing I found with siblings is that they then get jealous because she obviously needs more attention.
But I know you are a good parent as you are discussing your situation. That shows you love and care and only want the best. Nothing wrong in that.
Majority of the time when kids misbehave it's usually because their parents let them get away with things all the time, they feel like they are being ignored or that they aren't being heard. Always start with trying to give your kids more attention and listening to them
A lot of kids will act out when there is a lack of boundaries and consistency. Kids will feel scared and push to see where the boundaries are. Parents who just let kids do anything or do not follow through with consequences are not being nice.
The fact Megan has an answer says she feels she has to take care of herself because she doesn't feel loved and secure. The mother seems to give in to her feelings rather than think of the child and what she needs.
Agreed. Parents have to be leaders. It creates security and peace for children
Yeah I really can’t help but see a kid trying to defend their reality. She has no structure to rely on and no safety net. Her parents have completely robbed her of a safe space to identify her emotions, she shuts down at any big feeling because she can’t process how she’s feeling. She seems to also get unfairly punished for things in relation to her siblings. I mean they leave her at home because they’re worried she’ll do something! She has to feel SO isolated, I’d act out too!
Her parents are too afraid of validating her feelings and the invalidation will literally make ANYONE go crazy and test boundaries at some point. It’s definitely beyond being able to fix the situation on their own at the point of filming so I’m glad they actually asked for help.
I actually relate to Megan in some way.
I have severe adhd and as a child I was an absolute nut case, due to being under stimulated 27/4. I'd often act out if things didn't went my way or bite and punch other kids bc i had this uncontrollable rage inside of me. I often got put into timeout at elementary school and once even threw my backpack at a teacher 💀.
What really helped me personally was being taken seriously. I often didn't even know why I was acting out and having someone like a nanny or teacher actually try to figure out why I acted this way helped me sm!
My parents often resulted to harsh punishments or shouting, when all I needed was a heartfelt conversation.
I love supernanny bc she knows how important it is to just communicate with kids instead of constantly punishing them for smth they maybe aren't even able to control!!
I do find it a bit much that the furthest it seemed to ever go for Megan was acknowledging that she was angry. Like, yeah, good start... how about listening when she says something is "sissy" and when she talks about how she wants to be in control of her own possessions and body (even if it's not always 100% practical at that age), and how she obviously has no healthy outlet for her emotions if even that stupid box was enough to make her excited.
Like, if someone had spoken to me in that way at her age "yeah, you're angry, this is Megan being angry" in that awful patronising tone, I'd have f*cking mauled them too tbh.
She’s just a nasty little brat-they allow it
Yo I am N from another multiverse where instead of ptsd I have ptsd and adhd I was assaulted on my 8th birthday
she isn't neurodivergent, and diagnosis isn't a hall pass to be an asshole, sorry
When did you grow out of it? Also what consequences DID work for you? My child is the same way and we are struggling as her parents!
"It's that bastard school isn't it? As soon as you went there you turned evil" had me cackling 😅
i acted like this from like 11-17 and for my 21st (after autism and personality disorder diagnoses) wrote a letter to my parents for handling me when i was a monster
Each child requires a personal connection with their parents. It can’t always be everyone all the time.
Facts!!!! Thats why my husband and I agreed to 2 children only 4 years apart. 1 child per parent so no one felt ignored and the 4 year difference so that while the older one was at school I could dedicate the same amount of attwntion to the younger that I had to the older whem she was a baby so neither felt favored. End result, these two are each others best friends. They're equally comfortable going to either myself or my husband and they also know the old mom/dad said I could won't work because we check in with one another. Our family has placed a huge amount of emphasis on healthy communication and asking for help from others if we need it. Both my husband and I came from abusive childhoods of different types and we swore to do better by our children. We are not perfect by any means but we must be doing something right because my kids are the only great grandkids my grandma is willing to babysit
@ I could’ve written the same thing.
Yeah it seems none of them are getting any individual attention, its hard i had 3 but we always tried to do different things with each
Having raised two kids, one with Autism....the best way to deflect tension is not to make eye contact with the child. She was doing her nails, to put the girl at ease. BTW your commentary was hilarious, Love. haha
26:20 no this is so true!! it’s sooo common for neurodivergent kids to act out on extremities because we’re not taught how to properly control, manage and/or express certain emotions. i hate how often tantrums are labelled as a disturbance rather than adults who are supposed to guide their kids trying to figure out the cause of the issue. most people aren’t that consistently angry!!
A 'tantrum' that lasts for hours sounds much more like a meltdown going on. An outside perspective has a hard time telling the two apart.
Super nanny's show is a good birth control add 😅
I watched this show often as a new parent, and the way Supernanny would always say, "unasseptable" annoyed me, especially since it was one of her favourite things to say when children would misbehave. Kudos to Megan for finally pointing it out. I can confirm that following this episode, she actually stopped saying it, so I guess Supernanny learned something of value from this episode, too.
I was jumping up and down when you said she reminds you of Veruca Salt cuz that’s EXACTLY what I thought straight away when I watched it! She sounds like her as well I bet she’d play her so well🤭
Thought the exact same!😊
As a mother of four I believe you create your own Monsters
I have five daughters. They are wonderful adults with families of their own.
They NEVER behaved like that. We didn't yell or shout. We worked it out by building trust through communication.
I’m glad that you are a perfect mother.
Even after seeing all the Super Nanny episodes on their own, your commentary makes it so much more hilarious XD
20:09 megan reminds me of those kids that hate school and shit on everyone but are still somehow not suspended or expelled yet..
I thought Violet from Willy Wonka was an over exaggerated child. This girl sounds just like her, the poor mom
Like varuca salt 😅
I am a new foster parent and I got a 4 year old non-verbal autistic kid for respite(emergency or overnight care) and he didn’t sleep well the first night but I did the super nanny bed actions(from my memory 10 years prior) and he slept the rest of the week. The foster mom was stunned and couldn’t get him to sleep right for 8 months… foster mom displaced and I took him and I nearly made his old therapist cry because she saw a kid rocking back and forth transform into an oddly social and happy kid, learning to communicate(with ASL)
I love super nanny, she is actually really amazing, a family trainer( with training, you train not only the dog/kid but mainly the owner/parent).
Well done! I also believe her methods work. A lot of parents object to the idea that they are the ones that need to put in the work, rather than just drop them at the therapist every week for the rest of their lives. There’s got to be follow through. Thanks for your comment.
What's your skin and hair routine haha aha, looks so great xx
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Self love
Idk but he has good style damn BOI
Something that shines through Cam is that you’re going to be a brilliant dad one day! ❤
I’ve never regretted my decision to stay child free, especially when I see something like this.
I used to be OBSESSED with supernanny and nanny 911 as a teen(despite never wanting kids) to the point where I’d get stress headaches. Seeing this makes me laugh but also brings back embarrasing memories 😅😂
Omg that’s me now!!
I was such a naughty kid, I was like Megan. I just had undiagnosed autism and adhd 😂
Apparently, Megan is now the mother to a 6 year old daughter and works as a School teacher.
Imagine being some kid in school and you are scrolling through like TikTok or something and you see highlights from old Supernanny episodes and you see your teacher as a kid full on beating the shit out of their parents and siblings.
Something tells me she's still insufferable as an adult
Tbf I don't think many people would recognise their teacher as a child. She looks super different now, and Cook is a super common name.
School kids will find out believe me. I wonder if she’s one of those bullying teachers. Leopards and spots. Likely just better at hiding it now.
She’s actually grew up well adjusted and is raising her son, she’s on TikTok
I’m sure she learned a lot about how NOT to parent from her own experience poor girl 😢
4:02 when we were younger, my brother was a bit of a trouble maker and he wanted me to get into trouble for something, as that didn't happen often. So he BIT HIMSELF and ran to mum to blame it on me, but because he's slmost 4 years younger than me, the teeth marks on him were so obviously his and not mine that I didn't get in trouble and he had basically just bit himself for nothing🤣
This is the craziest RUclips recommendation I’ve ever seen and I’m all for it
Portable DVD players were the height of technology in 2004
Maybe super nanny filed meghans nails for her own protection haha
that's what I was thinking haha but I when he said that it was to help her regulate, I thought it was pretty great insight!
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1:36 "is this from the future?"
Ooooooh boy!😂 These were the best! We watched DVD's during holidays with these, my mom brought one of these to her workplace during quiet hours
Portable DVD player* In response to "what is this? a cd rom player?" x3
Ye olden days 👵
I forgot they existed til this moment! We used to have one 💿 Ahhh the nostalgia!
Imagine her having kids and they all turn out to be horrendous criminals
She has two adult sons and they seem pretty well-adjusted 😂
A chav’s dream 😂
Adult sons?? How old is this programme?
@@lyndabyrne6080 about 20 years ago it started I think
5 minutes in, and I've already subscribed! Your commentary is hysterical. I'm a nanny for a family of 4, and I can tell you that it is a HARD job. The kids I watch are insanely smart, they all have ADHD, the oldest boy has Asperger's, and the middle girl is Veruca Salt. She wants an Oompa Loompa NOOOOOOOWWWWWWW!!!!!!
It’s terrible kids literally drive parents Into pure depression. Literally in ‘a dark place’ but it’s half the parent’s fault. Literally no discipline.
Literally this
The appearance of roadmen coincides pretty well with the end of Supernanny... I reckon she could've saved us all
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Supernanny was doing more than simply buffing Meghan's nails, she was removing one of her weapons of pain and destruction. 😂
my black mom saw her scream in the preview then slam on the table and she looked at me like i did it 😂
I looked up what happened to this family after watching this episode... the mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and the father left the family 😳 they apparently have no relationship with him. How terrible!
For once, I don't blame the Father for leaving.
Megan needs to be medically evaluated. This is not just simple bullying. She has most likely either been a) traumatized (abused), b) has a mental health issue going on, c) dealing with a sensory intergration disorder - like autism, or a combination.
You nailed the correlation to the girl on Willy Wonka