43:07 i got put in a trans cringe comp like last month, it’s crazy that people are still doing those. the funny thing is that i got put in a neopronoun comp for saying my pronouns are he/him lol
can you imagine someone is like hey these are my pronouns and how I identify, and someone is like sure! just be sure to get me a MLA formatted paper explaining your identity to me thats a least 5 pages please, I'll get back in 3-5 business days whether or not I will respect you lol
finding out about your identity from tumblr may be embarrassing… but i don’t think that beats the absolutely horrifying fact that i found out about mine from wattpad
HHAHAHA, YEAH, the first time i read the word nonbinary was when someone came out in an author's note and that their parents don't accept them (sadly, i forgot which x reader was that, or if it was just a fanfiction so idk how their doing now) and yeah, realized I was nonbinary basically through wattpad ig as well oop.
I found out i was not-straight because of Santana Lopez from glee so I think mine probably takes the cake (I mean, Santana was bae af but … it’s glee 🤣)
I love both young Brennen and current Brennen. Young me would have disliked young Brennen. Young me was dealing with a lot of internalized transphobia (even though I didn’t know it yet). I cringe at 2016-2019 me. Young Brennen was just 5 years ahead of the times and was bullied for it. Hopefully the young Brennen inside you feels loved! 🥰
Same! I had a LOT of internalized transphobia and homophobia back in in 2016-2018 and I want to just sock myself in the stomach for being so hateful for the sake of validation 😭
As a 25+ adult, hearing a teenager saying ”this is my once and for all statement” is so hillariously cute! Oh hun, you’re gonna change your mind and feelings about so many things so many times through your life, and personally I thank god for that. Imagine being stuck with ALL of the opinions you had as a 17-year old for the rest of your life. I feel cringey about myself just thinking about the prospect x’D And, Brennen, thank you so much for making this video. The way you look back at yourself, acknowledging the things you still stand by, laughing about the stuff you don’t anymore, praising and loving your past self… it’s so inspiring. You are inspiring. Thank you
“Throwing my gender up in the air and seeing where it lands” !!!!!! I’m starting T in a couple months (when it cools down) and this is such a perfect way to describe why. Thank you for that!
I'll also point out, the singular they didn't change the definition with the LGBTQ+ community. It's always been (circa 1380s) used as a pronoun to describe someone of a non-specific or unknown gender and that didn't change when people started to use they/them. I always feel the need to reiterate that
@@MellowJelly I know people are like its not grammatically correct but if for example someone leaves their coat and you don't know who's it is you say "they left their coat"
As a transmasc person I REALLY related to your moment at 12:46. I can't tell you how often I felt like I wasn't completely transgender while also knowing I did not identify with my agab. I'm really glad you decided to include that vulnerable coming out video.
@@hxney_bree ah yes. RUclips was a cesspool of feminist cringe compilations and “skeptics” who essentially bashed feminism, the LGBTQ+ community, and were lowkey-highkey racists. Good times. 🤧
@@dont_harsh_my_mellow It was so disgusting! And I will admit, I was apart of that problem with my internalized homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny in those years because I was so desperate to fit in that crowd and be "cool" and it's safe to say that I would happily punch my past self in the GUT for even thinking those things were good to believe🤢
@@hxney_bree I too had so much internalized misogyny. I was also so transphobic because I would follow words of the only popular trans people at the time: mainly Kelvin and Blaire. I thought I was doing right because they are trans thus they know what’s right and wrong in the community. But I’m happy I’m still being educated and learning more and because of those days I now always look to all sides of things as opposed to just the popular view because popular doesn’t equal right. :/
When I first got interested in trans issues and topics, Kalvin and Blaire were the ones that RUclips would constantly recommend to me. It's sad that, because of this, I spent a time where I only followed them. So my first impression of trans culture was a biased one. Why not Contrapoints, why not Brennen? Why not Jammidodger? All transtubers that I wish I would have found first.
I feel like gender apathy is more common than people give it credit for. While I'm not gender apathetic, the reason I identify with nonbinary is similar - because it's vague and an umbrella under which I can really be anything. I know I wouldn't feel right identifying as a man or woman, so nonbinary is what makes sense for me lol
Hey brennen so excited to hear you're getting top surgery, in fact that we're going to the same surgeon! I got surgery with him last May. Please let me know if you have any questions about going to Scott, he's lovely and v non binary friendly. EDIT: this video made me quite emotional, because of how gentle you are with yourself. I think it's really easy to be so mean to yourself, especially as a trans person looking back at your younger self. I find it tricky after 4 1/2 years of being an out trans person to explore who I used to appear as, so I really commend you.
trender is literally just a term people would use to shut down trans and enby people instantly and now it’s not working. Some people are even embracing it. Gotta love that 💖
I've seen a lot of what was previously seen as slurs being reclaimed, with cr*p and d*ke especially gaining popularity this year by their respective communities. There are a lot of things where some people aren't comfortable and that's okay, but there are also people using these kinds of terms as empowerment, which I think is great in the right spaces where you know you aren't offending someone who has had that used against them.
I made a video when I was 14 addressed to my grandmother, and Madame made a video about me titled "transtrender throws a fit" and to this day it still hurts :c I was a 14 year old kid
Just wanna say I really appreciate how much love and understanding you show to your past self. I feel our culture tells us to be so ashamed and angry at our younger selves for... acting young and for not being perfect, so I like that you're normalizing showing appreciation for your past self even if you wouldn't say the same things today. Kids need to hear stuff like that.
3 years ago I would have say that "I could never use he/him, cuz no" 2 years ago I would have said "I'm not a they/them, that's for non-binaries!"... ...Hello! I'm a he/them binary man :3
The snark in your one video is so of the time. We felt everything had to be so sharp and biting. You were mostly so wonderfully soft and cuddly. I'm not surprised that vibe is hitting with kids now. I feel like in the 2000s and 2010s there was this edge to the world because we'd dealt with trauma that we had to spread it, so you wouldn't get hurt by the world. Or so the world couldn't hurt you first. But already kids are realizing fuck that. The harder the world is, the softer you must be to those living in it. We're all open wounds trying to stitch together the best scars for ourselves and it's better to help steady each other's hands than to slap them away.
As someone who was hurt greatly by kg's rhetoric who had to take years to recover in any way, it's helped so much to see how you've grown and come back from those dark times. Now I'm a trender and proud, stealing all those trans resources 💜💀 /j
I think that seeing this kind of perspective is really interesting. Coming from someone who is latino and transgender, I was constantly told (more like yelled) of what someone like me can’t and cannot be, even if those standards are misogynistic. I think that’s why, for me, seeing someone being able to express themselves as whoever they wanted to seemed so far. Being able to cry and not be judged based on strict standards in general is something I struggle with to this day tbh. I hope every trans person or any person in general can look back with a similar outlook to yours
Same here, I’ve been identifying as Non-Binary for a little over six months, and now I’m beginning to question if I’m genderfluid. Good luck figuring out your identity!
I loved how raw and honest this video was, without just sliding to the other end of the spectrum. There's an idea in psychology that not only do we view our past and future selves as different people, but that we tend to condemn and criticize our past selves as an ego defence mechanism to augment our own perceptions that we're changing for the better. You managed not to fall into that trap at all. I liked how you laughed at yourself and cringed when it was valid, but also stood up for your past self and held onto the things about you that have consistently been worth being proud of.
I really loved this video, I especially loved that you didn’t bash your past self. I noticed other youtubers that watch their older videos see the past them as "cringe" and even put their past selves down. It was really refreshing to see you look at your past self in a positive and loving way. It was also nice to learn more about you and how you’ve grown as a person. I always look forward to your videos, keep being you Brennen. 🌈✨👍
Okay but you don't at all HAVE to use pronouns! So many non-binary ppl in non English speaking countries DON'T. It's a Legit option. Free urself Brennen
'They/them' has been singular as well as plural for several hundred years. We don't get taught they/them is singular, but we use it that way all the time. Is anyone sitting here? Yes, they will be back in a minute. Someone was sitting here and they left their book, would you please give it back to them as I have to go. The only difference between he/him, she/her and they/them is with the first two, we automatically know they are singular. With they/them, it's context dependent.
"I'm throwing my gender in the air and seeing where it lands." Me too, fam. Hooray for trans joy. How can you not be joyful that you are letting yourself be who you are? I had no idea who I was until I was 26 and let me tell you, there's nothing worse than living in the dark about who you are.
dude tumblr helped me realize I was autistic and finally got a diagnosis after SO many years. it does not invalidate your identity at ALL if you find specific information about how you are through a website like that
It's so ironic that people like KG claimed that you and people like you were harming the trans community with, what was at the time, your extremely small platform - in comparison to him and others like him with a massive platform harming countless trans people. He made me insecure in my transness and made me feel like I might be faking it. I had to make sure I felt ENOUGH dysphoria, otherwise I felt I wasn't truly trans. His rhetoric made me actively choose to seek out things from within myself to feel shitty about, because I was led to believe it would validate my transness. Seeing your videos on the damage KG has done, and other creators' videos like Cops Hate Mo, made me realize how many more people he had made feel the way I felt. Specifically people under the non-binary spectrum, or people who are binary trans but don't present the way he and other truscum saw fit. KG knew how much authority he had in the community, and used it to harm real trans people knowingly. When I used to watch his content, he had enough points which did make sense to me that I thought all of what he said must have some truth to it. But, him saying that all trans people have to have dysphoria by default to be trans never sat right with me. I couldn't understand why I could never make sense of that, when I could convince myself to agree with much else of what he said. I felt dysphoria, but I thought statistically speaking there must be some trans people out there who don't. Then again, it made me feel like I was advocating for someone who possibly doesn't exist in real life, only in hypotheticals. But I thought, surely even if I didn't experience dysphoria, I would still be trans? Surely on days I have no dysphoria at all, I AM still trans? Later, it hit me as to why. I had read a post once that advocated for gender euphoria over gender dysphoria, and eeeeeeeverything made sense. It was why I knew deep down that even if I didn't have dysphoria, I would certainly still be trans. And it's because feeling too uncomfortable to be seen without a binder on doesn't make me feel trans. Being unable to look in the mirror some days because I don't have the body I want doesn't make me feel trans. Hearing a playback of my voice and cringing doesn't make me feel trans. Getting irritated when people call me "miss" or "maam" doesn't make me feel trans. Being dysphoric doesn't make me feel trans, it just makes me feel...bad. Getting told "excuse me sir?" and the heat rising to my face in excitement, makes me feel trans. Little kids calling me "that boy over there" or "that person" and reveling in the fact that to an innocent and unbiased eye I am not immediately categorized as female, makes me feel trans. My coworkers and friends using my preferred pronouns, makes me feel trans. Wearing makeup and skirts and pink bracelets and fishnets and shaving my legs and walking in heels and boys thinking I'm cute and me knowing all the while that I'm STILL not a girl, makes me feel so trans! Wearing a binder and contouring my jaw and wearing loose pants and sneakers and an oversized hoodie and looking in the mirror and getting gender envy from my own reflection makes me feel so fucking trans! I don't feel "most trans" when I am at my most sad, when I am feeling my most dysphoric, when I am disgusted and depressed and don't even want to be seen. I feel my most trans when I'm comfortable with myself and feel like I look good and when people around me use my pronouns regardless of how I present. My transness isn't defined by my worst moments, and if it is for anyone that has been made to feel that way, then I am really sad for you and hope you feel gender euphoria someday.
This comment is so underrated rn, but GOD feeling gender euphoria is so freeing. People are able to gatekeep much better using suffering, and it really sucks to see so many trans people be sabotaged in order to get affirmation. We don't have to live like that! We can enjoy ourselves and be happy in who we are
@@ArekusaSan Thanks for this! 💛 And yes, the discovery of gender euphoria was eye-opening for me and now I feel it so much more often than dysphoria! I'm glad that you have the chance to experience it as well 🌈
Thanks so much for this post. Tearing up right now. I'm 16 and trans, and have been grappling with exactly what you said here. I wanna get to where you are one day.
@@vinartiste3197 I'm 26 and have questioned my experience with gender since highschool, so it's taken me a long time to get here! But I think most of that is because we didn't have the tools back then, to explain ourselves with. Every trans person I knee thought suffering was all there is until you can afford surgery. We didn't really discuss that you don't need surgery to be trans or to be comfortable with yourself, and that being trans AND being comfortable in the body you were born with can exist at the same time. I am glad that the way we look at ourselves is becoming more and more positive while you are still so young, and that there are so many trans people setting a good example for young trans folks. I don't think it's ever to late to change, but it's a nice thought to know that so many young trans people today don't have to be brainwashed and conditioned i to hating themselves for years or decades or their whole lives. Now that these things are being said, younger trans folks like you can see trans people like us and get here much faster than we did. I hope you know, you will get here! And hopefully with a lot less suffering than those before you 💛
Dude Brennen you’re such an inspiration. Your story is and will continue to be amazing. I know as a young trans person figuring out her identity you’ve certainly helped educate me and helped me figure out a lot of stuff through your posts and videos. You’ve been through so much that you definitely didn’t deserve but as far as I can tell you have and are rising above all of it and just proved how strong you are, it’s truly beautiful! Deadass You’re my hero please keep doing what you do, Your story and your videos has such an amazing impact on trans people like me! All the best -Iris :) Ps sorry for the long ass paragraph
I feel like people making fun of finding your identity on tumbler is just like if someone said to me "oh you found out about your identity from RUclips that's ridiculous" but like your gonna find your identity from the website or app you use the most whether that be from tumbler youtube tic toc or whatever.
I can guarantee that it would have taken me far longer to find labels that fit me if I hadn't been on Tumblr when I was trying to discover who I am as a queer person. I didn't even know that They/Them pronouns were a thing until I started heavily using Tumblr
this video of u speaking in 2015 about pronouns really was a blast in the past but also i've never considered how strange it is the only way to refer to someone beside their name relates to their gender
thank you for making this video :) I'm a trans man who's been struggling for so long with my identity, and the fact that someone else has the experience of switching between labels and being so so confused really helps me
Brennen is like a wine that started out great and aged super well. Young Brennen has the spirit I wish young me had, and current me should take notes on.
i really appreciate you bringing up the onceler fandom briefly without absolutely bashing it as cringe. i like you alreaedy and i just found your channel edit: i actually cried at your coming out video because it reminded me so much when i was a teen :o
just a suggestion for the editing -- don't be afraid to leave a second of silence between sentences. it allows the listener time to process what was just said before moving onto the next sentence. having a constant stream of uninterrupted speech- and speech that overlaps between cuts- just kinda turns into white noise, and its a lot to process. at least, for me it turns into white noise. being autistic plays a part in my suggestion here other than that, love seeing how you've grown brennen
You were so cute!! Makes me so sad to no what happened next and how you had to loose a lot of the pride from the videos but I’m very proud that you fought through that and came out strong!! I hope that doesn’t sound patronizing I am genuinely so impressed by your strength!! Ps- theatre major here feeling the need to apologize for your trauma with theatre, makes me so sad to see that the thing I love can hurt someone :’(
I used to believe in the whole "transtrender" bs because of my ex believing in it until I realized it was very transphobic of me to think that way so I stopped oxo
brennen, you represent me. i love your reaction to your first coming out video. it’s important to acknowledge that some things made sense to us in a different moment in life, and if they don’t anymore (or at least not in the same way), that’s okay. no need to laugh about it or criticize our past selves so harshly. it’s something i’m learning about in therapy and still working on. love how much you’ve grown. thanks for this xo
I learned about my trans identity from a friend in Highschool because he is trans and was farther on his road to being himself I have no idea where he got his info and don’t care because it lead me to embrace myself where you get your info and find yourself doesn’t matter
Tumblr hardcore made me feel the opposite. I ended up feeling like I had to make a label right then and there which resulted in a lot of lost moments. I'll admit, it helped pushed me to actually soul search and figure myself out....I mean I haven't yet but I have a clearer understanding.
I’ve been silently watching your videos ever since your amazing comeback and I really love everything you’ve been producing. I just had to comment on this one because this video brought me so much joy. Your message of living life as a happy queer person speaks so much to me. I’ve always hated the concept of needing to suffer to be “truly trans” or “truly LGBTQ+” in general. That the community is for the suffering who just can’t be as happy as cisgender, straight folks. It just makes no sense to me. I grew up in a tiny town in a third world country, was raised in catholic school and if it wasn’t for the internet I never would have found the words and the courage and the knowledge to understand myself and all of the different queer parts of my identity. And as I got deeper and deeper into the community, it’s been becoming increasingly weird to see how at first the more I knew the happier I felt, and at some point I started “knowing so much” that I only ever seemed to find new things that got me less happy. I started realizing how many people out there despise our community (and existing in a country with a disgusting conservative president such as Bolsonaro, where conservative christians are most of the country, has made this especially clear), and seeing people inside the community contributing to gatekeeping and this suffering mentality really just makes it so much worse. Now this video, seeing your happy, joyful teenage self just being happy existing as a queer individual is so refreshing. Seeing your respect for your own journey, your own growth and your experiences is so inspiring. Watching you right now, today, still advocating for living life as our best selfs and loving our transness and our queerness and thriving in the joys of being just the way we are… it’s a breath of fresh air. Thank you so much for making this. I really needed it, and I’m certain lots of other young and queer people really need it too. Lots of love from Brazil. (he/they)
my advice is before deciding on a theater program talk to someone who was in the program or who is currently in the program and ask them these things: Have you or anyone you know in the program had a mental health crisis while in the program? If so how did the professors deal with it? How do the professors discuss and deal with mental health? Do they contribute to or relieve mental health issues? Do you feel respected by your professors? Are you over worked? Do the professors encourage or discourage working in theaters outside of the program, or just working in general outside the program? Also don't go to a theater school in Florida.
i love the way you talk to/about your past self throughout this, you give yourself the kindness you deserve and that's something i am really trying to do with myself so thanks, it's an important part of healing from trauma and just growing up. younger brennen was sweet and genuine and didn't deserve any of the cruelty thrown at him.
I use to LOVE your ask a pan/queery series and overall loved your older videos. I never knew what happened to you or your older videos. I’m sorry that all happened to you, you didn’t deserve any of that!! Glad to see you’re healing 🧡
I don't understand people who want to invalidate others' identities, but then act like they're so secure. You know when I was all about invalidating people? When I was starting to figure out that being trans was a legit thing and there was a reason why I felt like I always have, but I was angry and didn't want to feel that way and took it out on others. I have, luckily, changed since then. There's no reason to try to tell someone they aren't what they say they are unless you're uncertain about something in yourself. Periodt.
Omg I probably followed your Tumblr before I subscribed to your channel. Loved finding my identity in the early 2010s in fandom culture, I cried when I got to meet Tyler because he impacted my coming out so much as well. Things sure have changed but I'm really glad you're still making content and sharing it with us
only just started the video, just wanted to say the community surrounding your channel always makes me feel so validated and and accepted 😊 also, regarding they/them, I'm pretty sure it's actually been used to refer to a single person for a very long time 🤔
man the way you talk about how you feel about your traumas and how much they are or are not a part of you and what they did and did not change/effect.... same. also about not being able to face all of it quite yet either, big big same. but hey, we made it through them and while we may never be able to get back the same joy and innocence we had before them... that doesnt mean we lost it all. we keep on going, hell yeah
From what I can see, you still maintain your sweet spirit and I hope you’ve held onto your joy. I hope you continue to heal from the terrible online experiences and grow. I’m happy that you were still kind to baby you reacting to things said. I hope if I had a chance to see videos of my younger self in this way, I would be kind to myself. Good luck and quick healing on your upcoming surgery! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. Btw I love your MCU background.
Brennen I enjoyed watching this thank you for this wonderful video. I'm a 30 year old trans man who happens to use the same identifiers as you in that I'm also a non binary trans man. For you it was Tyler Oakley, for me it was Ruby Rose's Break Free in 2014. (Though I use he/ him and have personally never felt comfortable with they / them but am often misgendered with they / them by well meaning people.) I'm living abroad and currently unable to transition here. But much like you were I try not to let it bother me much and as we speak I'm wearing pink that I fortunately found in the men's section here. Granted it was heavily discounted but still. It's terrible what happened to you and it's sad that you've had to lose some parts of that bright kid you were who was never saying anything wrong or that you feel that you can't engage with the color pink. I remember seeing a KG video once in my questioning process and his content just felt wrong so I was never interested in it. Being a little older throughout this time helped me as well to be more immune to any criticisms. Like you I initially thought I was gender fluid, I then realized there was a fundamental masculine aspect of my identity that was also androgynous, ambiguous and flamboyant. I don't mind engaging with femininity as a man. But I teared up seeing that taken from you to some degree. You never deserved it. I'm so glad to see people coming around as they get older, all of you have been so young and the transmeds clearly projecting their pain and self rejection unapologetically has been incredibly toxic. At least Storm Ryan acknowledged his behavior to some degree. I didn't expect that day to come and I'm glad he seems to have taken some degree of accountability for that. You are a solid grounded person who has retained enough of yourself to maintain the same general thought processes and the same perspective that was at its core kind, self accepting, and supportive, and seeking to spread that positivity beyond yourself to the queer and trans community and you continue to do so. You have emerged from this like a phoenix.
They looked at your videos and were mean to you because you didn’t seem miserable. You were giving out genuine positivity instead of slimy, fake, do-it-for-the-cameras positivity. They couldn’t take that someone wasn’t constantly suffering, and needed to take you down to their level. It’s very sad, really. They couldn’t be happy so you weren’t allowed to be either.
what a lovely video! i relate to you so much, you're an awesome role model!! hopefully one day i and every trans person who wants to will feel the same amount of strenght and joy about their identity as you do. i wish you the best!!
You are literally the sweetest. It baffles me how people are so nasty to people like you :( I’m so sorry for all the shit people put you through. You are so open and loving, I’d be honored to be your friend
Hi Brennen , Love your video. I feel my heart become warmer as I watch your video. You react to younger self with so much empathy and compassion. It's like you nurture your younger self. Good job. Not many people can face who they were in the past but you have grown so much as a person and activist. 👍❤️
i hate that not fitting into gender norms and still being trans isn’t seen as okay (i mean i do) but because of gender norms if you’re non-binary and don’t look completely androgynous or mtf and don’t look completely feminine or ftm and don’t look completely masculine you’ll be seen as a transtrender and i hate it :(
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I wonder what Brennen would be doing right now if Tyler Oakley didn’t exist
literally who knows
He would never come out and become a cis tradwife, I'm sure :D
@@moonpie197 what does trad mean no offense
@@fruit7726 traditional wife
He would of become spider man I’m pretty sure
43:07 i got put in a trans cringe comp like last month, it’s crazy that people are still doing those. the funny thing is that i got put in a neopronoun comp for saying my pronouns are he/him lol
he/him is now a neopronoun
wait, its all neopronouns?
always has been, i guess 🔫
oh, someone once called me the f slur for using she/her once
Guess I'm a neopronoun user now.
I’m a cis man so by that logic I use neopronouns
You weren’t a negative impact on the community, the people tearing down your identity were. We’re so grateful for you!
were all transtrenders, following the trend of being happy with ourselves and our own experience with gender that is :)
And it’s valid
period
YES
agender and happy :)
Thanks eridan
can you imagine someone is like hey these are my pronouns and how I identify, and someone is like sure! just be sure to get me a MLA formatted paper explaining your identity to me thats a least 5 pages please, I'll get back in 3-5 business days whether or not I will respect you lol
48:27 - Baby Brennan proposing trendercore years in advance what an Icon
YET ANOTHER LEGEND HAS ARRIVED
A real.......trendsetter, you could say 😂
Literal pioneer
I love how you use the word “transtrender” so sarcastically in this video, and not taking it as seriously as some people took it back in 2016-2018.
finding out about your identity from tumblr may be embarrassing…
but i don’t think that beats the absolutely horrifying fact that i found out about mine
from
wattpad
And I thought me finding out about my identity from amino was bad
I found out what bisexual means from Buzzfeed 😫😭
HHAHAHA, YEAH, the first time i read the word nonbinary was when someone came out in an author's note and that their parents don't accept them (sadly, i forgot which x reader was that, or if it was just a fanfiction so idk how their doing now) and yeah, realized I was nonbinary basically through wattpad ig as well oop.
I found out my identity from Wikipedia 😂 I guess thats why my teacher didn't accept it
I found out i was not-straight because of Santana Lopez from glee so I think mine probably takes the cake
(I mean, Santana was bae af but … it’s glee 🤣)
god, young brennen is so sweet. how the hell were people mean to them?
It's always like that, the sweeter you are the worse people treat you...
Because oooh pink haor
total sincerity without any layer of ironic distancing is often seen as very cringe even more so 5 years ago than now.
Because losers on the internet are insecure and lash out at anybody who deviates from the social norms they blindly accept. Basically, they're bullies
Yes!! Btw I love ur trans tik tok compilations
u were adorable omg
u still are adorable but
I love both young Brennen and current Brennen. Young me would have disliked young Brennen. Young me was dealing with a lot of internalized transphobia (even though I didn’t know it yet). I cringe at 2016-2019 me. Young Brennen was just 5 years ahead of the times and was bullied for it. Hopefully the young Brennen inside you feels loved! 🥰
Same! I had a LOT of internalized transphobia and homophobia back in in 2016-2018 and I want to just sock myself in the stomach for being so hateful for the sake of validation 😭
Genderwhatever is a genuinely great term ngl. I really like it at least.
haha same
LOL same i use genderweird
@@salem4301 wait doesn't that actually have technically the same definition as genderqueer lol
Genderwhat.
As a 25+ adult, hearing a teenager saying ”this is my once and for all statement” is so hillariously cute! Oh hun, you’re gonna change your mind and feelings about so many things so many times through your life, and personally I thank god for that. Imagine being stuck with ALL of the opinions you had as a 17-year old for the rest of your life. I feel cringey about myself just thinking about the prospect x’D
And, Brennen, thank you so much for making this video. The way you look back at yourself, acknowledging the things you still stand by, laughing about the stuff you don’t anymore, praising and loving your past self… it’s so inspiring. You are inspiring. Thank you
“Throwing my gender up in the air and seeing where it lands” !!!!!! I’m starting T in a couple months (when it cools down) and this is such a perfect way to describe why. Thank you for that!
Throwing my gender at a dart board and missing the board completely
How’s it going
I'll also point out, the singular they didn't change the definition with the LGBTQ+ community. It's always been (circa 1380s) used as a pronoun to describe someone of a non-specific or unknown gender and that didn't change when people started to use they/them. I always feel the need to reiterate that
It's soooo insane how people still use the argument "it's not grammatically correct" when it completely is
@@MellowJelly I know people are like its not grammatically correct but if for example someone leaves their coat and you don't know who's it is you say "they left their coat"
i followed the trend of discovering that im nonbinary during 2020 😳
Same!
Congrats. Hope you are having a better time of it than in years of yore
same here 🤚
Saaaame
same here
I wonder how a conversation between the most extreme truscum and a metal head trans man with long hair would go
I think the truscum would leave in tears tbh
I am the metal head trans man with long hair, but I also don't care about gender roles so I would come in a dress but that doesn't mean I am nice lol
As a transmasc person I REALLY related to your moment at 12:46. I can't tell you how often I felt like I wasn't completely transgender while also knowing I did not identify with my agab. I'm really glad you decided to include that vulnerable coming out video.
It's always a shame how kind people like Brennen are treated like outcasts, while bullies like Kalvin Garrah and Blaire White become popular.
2016-2018 were really the times for the most hateful people to shine, since it was popular to be mean or "savage" on the internet 🙄
@@hxney_bree ah yes. RUclips was a cesspool of feminist cringe compilations and “skeptics” who essentially bashed feminism, the LGBTQ+ community, and were lowkey-highkey racists. Good times. 🤧
@@dont_harsh_my_mellow It was so disgusting! And I will admit, I was apart of that problem with my internalized homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny in those years because I was so desperate to fit in that crowd and be "cool" and it's safe to say that I would happily punch my past self in the GUT for even thinking those things were good to believe🤢
@@hxney_bree I too had so much internalized misogyny. I was also so transphobic because I would follow words of the only popular trans people at the time: mainly Kelvin and Blaire. I thought I was doing right because they are trans thus they know what’s right and wrong in the community. But I’m happy I’m still being educated and learning more and because of those days I now always look to all sides of things as opposed to just the popular view because popular doesn’t equal right. :/
When I first got interested in trans issues and topics, Kalvin and Blaire were the ones that RUclips would constantly recommend to me.
It's sad that, because of this, I spent a time where I only followed them. So my first impression of trans culture was a biased one.
Why not Contrapoints, why not Brennen? Why not Jammidodger? All transtubers that I wish I would have found first.
i’ve been struggling with my gender so hardcore lately and when you said gender whatever.... it hit me. it made sense.
I feel like gender apathy is more common than people give it credit for. While I'm not gender apathetic, the reason I identify with nonbinary is similar - because it's vague and an umbrella under which I can really be anything. I know I wouldn't feel right identifying as a man or woman, so nonbinary is what makes sense for me lol
Hey brennen so excited to hear you're getting top surgery, in fact that we're going to the same surgeon! I got surgery with him last May. Please let me know if you have any questions about going to Scott, he's lovely and v non binary friendly.
EDIT: this video made me quite emotional, because of how gentle you are with yourself. I think it's really easy to be so mean to yourself, especially as a trans person looking back at your younger self. I find it tricky after 4 1/2 years of being an out trans person to explore who I used to appear as, so I really commend you.
trender is literally just a term people would use to shut down trans and enby people instantly and now it’s not working. Some people are even embracing it. Gotta love that 💖
I've seen a lot of what was previously seen as slurs being reclaimed, with cr*p and d*ke especially gaining popularity this year by their respective communities. There are a lot of things where some people aren't comfortable and that's okay, but there are also people using these kinds of terms as empowerment, which I think is great in the right spaces where you know you aren't offending someone who has had that used against them.
Honestly the "but im always Brennan" was so cute. Same baby brennan same
aw baby Brennan's coming out video hit me hard..."but I'm always Brennan" please I'm tearing up-
omg you're so kind to your younger self? like the way you talk about yourself back then and react to the "cringey" bits in such a heartwarming way
"I slept with my glasses on?"
Yeah gotta dream in 4k
I made a video when I was 14 addressed to my grandmother, and Madame made a video about me titled "transtrender throws a fit" and to this day it still hurts :c I was a 14 year old kid
Im so sorry that's terrible. You were only a child
Just wanna say I really appreciate how much love and understanding you show to your past self. I feel our culture tells us to be so ashamed and angry at our younger selves for... acting young and for not being perfect, so I like that you're normalizing showing appreciation for your past self even if you wouldn't say the same things today. Kids need to hear stuff like that.
3 years ago I would have say that "I could never use he/him, cuz no" 2 years ago I would have said "I'm not a they/them, that's for non-binaries!"...
...Hello! I'm a he/them binary man :3
The snark in your one video is so of the time. We felt everything had to be so sharp and biting. You were mostly so wonderfully soft and cuddly. I'm not surprised that vibe is hitting with kids now. I feel like in the 2000s and 2010s there was this edge to the world because we'd dealt with trauma that we had to spread it, so you wouldn't get hurt by the world. Or so the world couldn't hurt you first. But already kids are realizing fuck that. The harder the world is, the softer you must be to those living in it. We're all open wounds trying to stitch together the best scars for ourselves and it's better to help steady each other's hands than to slap them away.
As someone who was hurt greatly by kg's rhetoric who had to take years to recover in any way, it's helped so much to see how you've grown and come back from those dark times.
Now I'm a trender and proud, stealing all those trans resources 💜💀 /j
I see Moe in the title and I click 😩😌😤
Legend
Lmao me too Moe
omg hi Moe!! Love your channel!
Honestly? Same xD ;)
That’s fair
You inspire us to be better to others and ourselves.
I think that seeing this kind of perspective is really interesting.
Coming from someone who is latino and transgender, I was constantly told (more like yelled) of what someone like me can’t and cannot be, even if those standards are misogynistic.
I think that’s why, for me, seeing someone being able to express themselves as whoever they wanted to seemed so far.
Being able to cry and not be judged based on strict standards in general is something I struggle with to this day tbh.
I hope every trans person or any person in general can look back with a similar outlook to yours
At this point I have no idea what the hell my gender is but I know I’m not cis and I’m just glad there’s a trans youtubers around to help
Same here, I’ve been identifying as Non-Binary for a little over six months, and now I’m beginning to question if I’m genderfluid. Good luck figuring out your identity!
maybe the real transtrender was the friends we made along the way
Holy shit, you still use the same font for video titles that you did back then. I love that so much
yeah I gotta stick to the brand (and choosing a new font stresses me out)
@@brennenbeckwith Both are totally fair and understandable reasons tbh
I loved how raw and honest this video was, without just sliding to the other end of the spectrum. There's an idea in psychology that not only do we view our past and future selves as different people, but that we tend to condemn and criticize our past selves as an ego defence mechanism to augment our own perceptions that we're changing for the better. You managed not to fall into that trap at all. I liked how you laughed at yourself and cringed when it was valid, but also stood up for your past self and held onto the things about you that have consistently been worth being proud of.
Baby you was so adorable. Kind, sweet and positive.
How did anyone see that and think "mh yes. This person is ruining our community!"
I really loved this video, I especially loved that you didn’t bash your past self. I noticed other youtubers that watch their older videos see the past them as "cringe" and even put their past selves down. It was really refreshing to see you look at your past self in a positive and loving way.
It was also nice to learn more about you and how you’ve grown as a person. I always look forward to your videos, keep being you Brennen. 🌈✨👍
Brennen: "I'm blue now"
Me: starts singing "Blue (Da Ba Dee)"
Okay but you don't at all HAVE to use pronouns! So many non-binary ppl in non English speaking countries DON'T. It's a Legit option. Free urself Brennen
'They/them' has been singular as well as plural for several hundred years. We don't get taught they/them is singular, but we use it that way all the time.
Is anyone sitting here?
Yes, they will be back in a minute.
Someone was sitting here and they left their book, would you please give it back to them as I have to go.
The only difference between he/him, she/her and they/them is with the first two, we automatically know they are singular. With they/them, it's context dependent.
"I'm throwing my gender in the air and seeing where it lands." Me too, fam. Hooray for trans joy. How can you not be joyful that you are letting yourself be who you are? I had no idea who I was until I was 26 and let me tell you, there's nothing worse than living in the dark about who you are.
dude tumblr helped me realize I was autistic and finally got a diagnosis after SO many years. it does not invalidate your identity at ALL if you find specific information about how you are through a website like that
It's so ironic that people like KG claimed that you and people like you were harming the trans community with, what was at the time, your extremely small platform - in comparison to him and others like him with a massive platform harming countless trans people. He made me insecure in my transness and made me feel like I might be faking it. I had to make sure I felt ENOUGH dysphoria, otherwise I felt I wasn't truly trans. His rhetoric made me actively choose to seek out things from within myself to feel shitty about, because I was led to believe it would validate my transness.
Seeing your videos on the damage KG has done, and other creators' videos like Cops Hate Mo, made me realize how many more people he had made feel the way I felt. Specifically people under the non-binary spectrum, or people who are binary trans but don't present the way he and other truscum saw fit.
KG knew how much authority he had in the community, and used it to harm real trans people knowingly. When I used to watch his content, he had enough points which did make sense to me that I thought all of what he said must have some truth to it. But, him saying that all trans people have to have dysphoria by default to be trans never sat right with me. I couldn't understand why I could never make sense of that, when I could convince myself to agree with much else of what he said. I felt dysphoria, but I thought statistically speaking there must be some trans people out there who don't. Then again, it made me feel like I was advocating for someone who possibly doesn't exist in real life, only in hypotheticals. But I thought, surely even if I didn't experience dysphoria, I would still be trans? Surely on days I have no dysphoria at all, I AM still trans? Later, it hit me as to why.
I had read a post once that advocated for gender euphoria over gender dysphoria, and eeeeeeeverything made sense. It was why I knew deep down that even if I didn't have dysphoria, I would certainly still be trans.
And it's because feeling too uncomfortable to be seen without a binder on doesn't make me feel trans. Being unable to look in the mirror some days because I don't have the body I want doesn't make me feel trans. Hearing a playback of my voice and cringing doesn't make me feel trans. Getting irritated when people call me "miss" or "maam" doesn't make me feel trans. Being dysphoric doesn't make me feel trans, it just makes me feel...bad.
Getting told "excuse me sir?" and the heat rising to my face in excitement, makes me feel trans. Little kids calling me "that boy over there" or "that person" and reveling in the fact that to an innocent and unbiased eye I am not immediately categorized as female, makes me feel trans. My coworkers and friends using my preferred pronouns, makes me feel trans. Wearing makeup and skirts and pink bracelets and fishnets and shaving my legs and walking in heels and boys thinking I'm cute and me knowing all the while that I'm STILL not a girl, makes me feel so trans! Wearing a binder and contouring my jaw and wearing loose pants and sneakers and an oversized hoodie and looking in the mirror and getting gender envy from my own reflection makes me feel so fucking trans!
I don't feel "most trans" when I am at my most sad, when I am feeling my most dysphoric, when I am disgusted and depressed and don't even want to be seen. I feel my most trans when I'm comfortable with myself and feel like I look good and when people around me use my pronouns regardless of how I present. My transness isn't defined by my worst moments, and if it is for anyone that has been made to feel that way, then I am really sad for you and hope you feel gender euphoria someday.
This comment is so underrated rn, but GOD feeling gender euphoria is so freeing. People are able to gatekeep much better using suffering, and it really sucks to see so many trans people be sabotaged in order to get affirmation. We don't have to live like that! We can enjoy ourselves and be happy in who we are
@@ArekusaSan Thanks for this! 💛 And yes, the discovery of gender euphoria was eye-opening for me and now I feel it so much more often than dysphoria! I'm glad that you have the chance to experience it as well 🌈
Thanks so much for this post. Tearing up right now. I'm 16 and trans, and have been grappling with exactly what you said here. I wanna get to where you are one day.
@@vinartiste3197 I'm 26 and have questioned my experience with gender since highschool, so it's taken me a long time to get here! But I think most of that is because we didn't have the tools back then, to explain ourselves with. Every trans person I knee thought suffering was all there is until you can afford surgery. We didn't really discuss that you don't need surgery to be trans or to be comfortable with yourself, and that being trans AND being comfortable in the body you were born with can exist at the same time. I am glad that the way we look at ourselves is becoming more and more positive while you are still so young, and that there are so many trans people setting a good example for young trans folks. I don't think it's ever to late to change, but it's a nice thought to know that so many young trans people today don't have to be brainwashed and conditioned i to hating themselves for years or decades or their whole lives. Now that these things are being said, younger trans folks like you can see trans people like us and get here much faster than we did. I hope you know, you will get here! And hopefully with a lot less suffering than those before you 💛
@@lemonb121 Thank you very much, Lemon. :)
young Brennen is so cute 🥺
wait did that Matt person also make a video like "ACTUAL TRANS MAN REACTS TO GENDERFLUID!!!!!" cus i think i deserve reparations
damn congrats on the sponsor legend
me crying because the first coming out video was so sweet :’)
OMG young Brennan is so sweet! I'd never seen your coming out video before and I just want to give him a hug.
"i really want my human rights violated today" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I should use that when people say I'm faking my disability, LOL! Sad but true.
Dude Brennen you’re such an inspiration. Your story is and will continue to be amazing. I know as a young trans person figuring out her identity you’ve certainly helped educate me and helped me figure out a lot of stuff through your posts and videos. You’ve been through so much that you definitely didn’t deserve but as far as I can tell you have and are rising above all of it and just proved how strong you are, it’s truly beautiful! Deadass You’re my hero please keep doing what you do, Your story and your videos has such an amazing impact on trans people like me!
All the best
-Iris :)
Ps sorry for the long ass paragraph
I feel like people making fun of finding your identity on tumbler is just like if someone said to me "oh you found out about your identity from RUclips that's ridiculous" but like your gonna find your identity from the website or app you use the most whether that be from tumbler youtube tic toc or whatever.
I can guarantee that it would have taken me far longer to find labels that fit me if I hadn't been on Tumblr when I was trying to discover who I am as a queer person. I didn't even know that They/Them pronouns were a thing until I started heavily using Tumblr
this video of u speaking in 2015 about pronouns really was a blast in the past but also i've never considered how strange it is the only way to refer to someone beside their name relates to their gender
thank you for making this video :) I'm a trans man who's been struggling for so long with my identity, and the fact that someone else has the experience of switching between labels and being so so confused really helps me
Brennen is like a wine that started out great and aged super well. Young Brennen has the spirit I wish young me had, and current me should take notes on.
i really appreciate you bringing up the onceler fandom briefly without absolutely bashing it as cringe. i like you alreaedy and i just found your channel
edit: i actually cried at your coming out video because it reminded me so much when i was a teen :o
just a suggestion for the editing -- don't be afraid to leave a second of silence between sentences. it allows the listener time to process what was just said before moving onto the next sentence. having a constant stream of uninterrupted speech- and speech that overlaps between cuts- just kinda turns into white noise, and its a lot to process. at least, for me it turns into white noise. being autistic plays a part in my suggestion here
other than that, love seeing how you've grown brennen
Young Brennen so cute also ya you should’ve got paid ^_^
You were so cute!! Makes me so sad to no what happened next and how you had to loose a lot of the pride from the videos but I’m very proud that you fought through that and came out strong!! I hope that doesn’t sound patronizing I am genuinely so impressed by your strength!!
Ps- theatre major here feeling the need to apologize for your trauma with theatre, makes me so sad to see that the thing I love can hurt someone :’(
I used to believe in the whole "transtrender" bs because of my ex believing in it until I realized it was very transphobic of me to think that way so I stopped oxo
brennen, you represent me. i love your reaction to your first coming out video. it’s important to acknowledge that some things made sense to us in a different moment in life, and if they don’t anymore (or at least not in the same way), that’s okay. no need to laugh about it or criticize our past selves so harshly. it’s something i’m learning about in therapy and still working on. love how much you’ve grown. thanks for this xo
You: and I have a date
Me: yaaay that's cute
You: ...for top surgery
Me: oh thats even better lmao
I learned about my trans identity from a friend in Highschool because he is trans and was farther on his road to being himself I have no idea where he got his info and don’t care because it lead me to embrace myself where you get your info and find yourself doesn’t matter
Man your hair is always *chefs kiss*
I had my top surgery at the SF gender confirmation center one month ago! The staff there are fantastic. Good luck with everything!
THE PUN EXPLANATION WAS SO FUNNY😭😭😭
Tumblr hardcore made me feel the opposite. I ended up feeling like I had to make a label right then and there which resulted in a lot of lost moments. I'll admit, it helped pushed me to actually soul search and figure myself out....I mean I haven't yet but I have a clearer understanding.
you know you’ve grown as a person when you look back at your past self and go “awnnn…sweetie” 😅
Two of the most adorable youtubers
Truth
This was a really great video! The ending was really nice and it really uplifted my spirits ❤️
I really love seeing how gentle you are with your past self, it's really inspiring to me
I’ve been silently watching your videos ever since your amazing comeback and I really love everything you’ve been producing. I just had to comment on this one because this video brought me so much joy. Your message of living life as a happy queer person speaks so much to me. I’ve always hated the concept of needing to suffer to be “truly trans” or “truly LGBTQ+” in general. That the community is for the suffering who just can’t be as happy as cisgender, straight folks. It just makes no sense to me. I grew up in a tiny town in a third world country, was raised in catholic school and if it wasn’t for the internet I never would have found the words and the courage and the knowledge to understand myself and all of the different queer parts of my identity. And as I got deeper and deeper into the community, it’s been becoming increasingly weird to see how at first the more I knew the happier I felt, and at some point I started “knowing so much” that I only ever seemed to find new things that got me less happy. I started realizing how many people out there despise our community (and existing in a country with a disgusting conservative president such as Bolsonaro, where conservative christians are most of the country, has made this especially clear), and seeing people inside the community contributing to gatekeeping and this suffering mentality really just makes it so much worse. Now this video, seeing your happy, joyful teenage self just being happy existing as a queer individual is so refreshing. Seeing your respect for your own journey, your own growth and your experiences is so inspiring. Watching you right now, today, still advocating for living life as our best selfs and loving our transness and our queerness and thriving in the joys of being just the way we are… it’s a breath of fresh air. Thank you so much for making this. I really needed it, and I’m certain lots of other young and queer people really need it too. Lots of love from Brazil. (he/they)
Brennen watching the first video and saying "idk why I am crying so much" as I sit here fully sobbing. Ugh, my heart.
I really hope that one day I can love my transness like you. Thank you for creating a better safer space for trans people on the internet.
Damn I hope that theatre video comes out before I need to submit my university application lol
my advice is before deciding on a theater program talk to someone who was in the program or who is currently in the program and ask them these things:
Have you or anyone you know in the program had a mental health crisis while in the program? If so how did the professors deal with it?
How do the professors discuss and deal with mental health? Do they contribute to or relieve mental health issues?
Do you feel respected by your professors?
Are you over worked?
Do the professors encourage or discourage working in theaters outside of the program, or just working in general outside the program?
Also don't go to a theater school in Florida.
i love the way you talk to/about your past self throughout this, you give yourself the kindness you deserve and that's something i am really trying to do with myself so thanks, it's an important part of healing from trauma and just growing up. younger brennen was sweet and genuine and didn't deserve any of the cruelty thrown at him.
Your journey is incredible. The only trend you're a part of is embracing who you are and being proud of it
I use to LOVE your ask a pan/queery series and overall loved your older videos. I never knew what happened to you or your older videos. I’m sorry that all happened to you, you didn’t deserve any of that!! Glad to see you’re healing 🧡
I don't understand people who want to invalidate others' identities, but then act like they're so secure. You know when I was all about invalidating people? When I was starting to figure out that being trans was a legit thing and there was a reason why I felt like I always have, but I was angry and didn't want to feel that way and took it out on others. I have, luckily, changed since then. There's no reason to try to tell someone they aren't what they say they are unless you're uncertain about something in yourself. Periodt.
People who are genuinely secure in their identities don’t do stuff like that. That’s why KG’s legion of bullies online are pretty much all under 18.
Omg I probably followed your Tumblr before I subscribed to your channel. Loved finding my identity in the early 2010s in fandom culture, I cried when I got to meet Tyler because he impacted my coming out so much as well. Things sure have changed but I'm really glad you're still making content and sharing it with us
only just started the video, just wanted to say the community surrounding your channel always makes me feel so validated and and accepted 😊
also, regarding they/them, I'm pretty sure it's actually been used to refer to a single person for a very long time 🤔
I know! Idk what I was talking about back then lmfao
man the way you talk about how you feel about your traumas and how much they are or are not a part of you and what they did and did not change/effect.... same. also about not being able to face all of it quite yet either, big big same.
but hey, we made it through them and while we may never be able to get back the same joy and innocence we had before them... that doesnt mean we lost it all. we keep on going, hell yeah
2018 Brennen totally isn't giving me gender envy 👀
It’s amazing to learn and better yourself I have also come a long way with my identity and I am still questioning as well :)
From what I can see, you still maintain your sweet spirit and I hope you’ve held onto your joy. I hope you continue to heal from the terrible online experiences and grow. I’m happy that you were still kind to baby you reacting to things said. I hope if I had a chance to see videos of my younger self in this way, I would be kind to myself. Good luck and quick healing on your upcoming surgery! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. Btw I love your MCU background.
Whoot youse are awesome! Thank you both for being amazing and putting out amazing content and being yourselves. Happy one year on T!
Brennen I enjoyed watching this thank you for this wonderful video. I'm a 30 year old trans man who happens to use the same identifiers as you in that I'm also a non binary trans man. For you it was Tyler Oakley, for me it was Ruby Rose's Break Free in 2014. (Though I use he/ him and have personally never felt comfortable with they / them but am often misgendered with they / them by well meaning people.) I'm living abroad and currently unable to transition here. But much like you were I try not to let it bother me much and as we speak I'm wearing pink that I fortunately found in the men's section here. Granted it was heavily discounted but still. It's terrible what happened to you and it's sad that you've had to lose some parts of that bright kid you were who was never saying anything wrong or that you feel that you can't engage with the color pink. I remember seeing a KG video once in my questioning process and his content just felt wrong so I was never interested in it. Being a little older throughout this time helped me as well to be more immune to any criticisms. Like you I initially thought I was gender fluid, I then realized there was a fundamental masculine aspect of my identity that was also androgynous, ambiguous and flamboyant. I don't mind engaging with femininity as a man. But I teared up seeing that taken from you to some degree. You never deserved it. I'm so glad to see people coming around as they get older, all of you have been so young and the transmeds clearly projecting their pain and self rejection unapologetically has been incredibly toxic. At least Storm Ryan acknowledged his behavior to some degree. I didn't expect that day to come and I'm glad he seems to have taken some degree of accountability for that. You are a solid grounded person who has retained enough of yourself to maintain the same general thought processes and the same perspective that was at its core kind, self accepting, and supportive, and seeking to spread that positivity beyond yourself to the queer and trans community and you continue to do so. You have emerged from this like a phoenix.
your words are so powerful, im proud to be a transtrender
i'm about to cry from happiness, thanks for educating us brennen :')
MTV DIDNT PAY YOU??? Ugh!! I hate that.
They looked at your videos and were mean to you because you didn’t seem miserable. You were giving out genuine positivity instead of slimy, fake, do-it-for-the-cameras positivity. They couldn’t take that someone wasn’t constantly suffering, and needed to take you down to their level. It’s very sad, really. They couldn’t be happy so you weren’t allowed to be either.
what a lovely video! i relate to you so much, you're an awesome role model!! hopefully one day i and every trans person who wants to will feel the same amount of strenght and joy about their identity as you do. i wish you the best!!
You are literally the sweetest. It baffles me how people are so nasty to people like you :( I’m so sorry for all the shit people put you through. You are so open and loving, I’d be honored to be your friend
OMG I loved that episode of MTV's "True Life" & it helped my transition, so thank you!
Hi Brennen , Love your video. I feel my heart become warmer as I watch your video. You react to younger self with so much empathy and compassion. It's like you nurture your younger self. Good job. Not many people can face who they were in the past but you have grown so much as a person and activist. 👍❤️
i hate that not fitting into gender norms and still being trans isn’t seen as okay (i mean i do) but because of gender norms if you’re non-binary and don’t look completely androgynous or mtf and don’t look completely feminine or ftm and don’t look completely masculine you’ll be seen as a transtrender and i hate it :(
DHSHDH IM DEAD EY REUSED THE PROUDTOBE HASHTAG
youtube automatically put that on and I can't figure out how to take it off 😭