Wow I really appreciate Ezra talking about his journey in relation to transness. It’s very easy to see trans people you idolize and wish you could snap your fingers and be like that. It’s refreshing and comforting in a way to know they struggled to.
"When we're mad at each other the people who are actually oppressing us, get away with it". This statement holds so much truth not just within the trans community, but society as a whole.
34:48 DUDE…. I’m literally speechless I’ve always felt exactly what Ezra described but I was so worried it invalidated my transness… thank you you don’t know how much I needed to here this
Same here, I don't identify with lesbianism but I'm a t4t gay guy and TERF narratives about "lost lesbian sisters" used to really scare me :/ So seeing transmascs who do identify as lesbian/sapphic in some way is kinda reassuring if that makes sense
My first "maybe being trans is okay" moment was when I went to a trans-owned barber shop and had my hair cut by a trans man. He was so cool and comfortable, and he cracked jokes about uniquely trans experiences in a way that made them feel so normal. It was the first time I realized that yeah, they *are* normal. I am absolutely living for this. Ezra's story really resonated, and I know I'm far from alone in feeling that. Trans people just having conversations with each other and sharing their stories is so emotionally stirring. I wish I'd had content like this when I was young and struggling with my gender identity, but I think of all the young trans people whose lives are going to be brighter because of what you guys are doing, and it makes me so hopeful. tl;dr: salkjdksjds my feelings aaaaaaa
My first trans haircut was when I shaved my head in my kitchen with my friends at sixteen - before that I had hair so long I could sit on it and my ma absolutely didn't want me to cut it, but feeling all that weight falling off my head was like a baptism into who I really am
Ezra is very charming… e.g. how he gently took the lead when Ryan was nervous in the chair, and Ezra gave tips on making conversation flow in a podcast, then started low-key interviewing Ryan … also how Ezra was so relaxed about having his hair cut, brushing off any risk of it looking bad or being cut with the clippers 🤙😎
When I got my first trans hair cut, from shoulder length to a pixie cut, it changed so much for me in ways I couldn’t have even imagined. It definitely helped with imposter syndrome feelings because I had just come out when that happened. The same thing happened when I shaved my head for the first time. Hair is important to some people, head or body hair, and to think that getting a haircut doesn’t help relieve dysphoria is just plain ignorant. I love this episode 🖤❤️
Even before I realized I was nonbinary, I felt so happy when I stopped removing my body hair. I felt some sort of strange relief, like I had taken control of my own body and was treating it right. Like I stopped hurting it, just to make it more palatable to others. But honestly, I don't think it even was 100% about gender, but just about having agency over your body. Everybody should have that.
This video is fantastic. I love the power of a haircut and a barbershop, it's such a peaceful and transformative place, and holds such a unique place in many marginalized communities. I appreciate the conversation about mentors and elders so much, it makes a lot of sense. We need people to show us how to live in, as Brennan said, "cis-tematic oppression!" And it's ok to be confused! My friend used to say that, and yeah, words can't fully express identity, and they don't always need to. I love the visual gags. I feel influenced. Trans supremacy.
I will never forget my first short-short haircut because I had to fight so hard for it. I made the mistake of asking for hair like my brothers had. Stupid fourteen-year-old me thought that because she cut my brothers' hair she could, and would, do mine as well. Nope. To this day she refuses to cut it because then "I'll look like a boy". When I first asked for her to cut it I wasn't trying to look like a boy, I was just sick of having to brush eighteen freaking inches of hair twice a day every day. About the time I wanted it cut I was also starting to wear more masculine clothes. Again, I wasn't consciously trying to be a guy. I didn't know being trans was even a thing. After two years my mom relented, but only because I said I wanted to donate my hair to a charity that makes wigs for kids with cancer. I figured if I didn't want all that hair someone else might as well use it and I encourage trans guys or anyone else chopping off their hair to do the same. Anyway, I had a bob for three months because that was as short as I was allowed to go at first but for my sixteenth birthday my mom took me to a salon and I got my first pixie cut. It was amazing because I looked in the mirror and saw myself for the first time in god only knows how long. I was grinning for three days straight. My mom even admitted once that she was surprised how happy it made me. She doesn't know that I'm trans but evidence suggests has suspected for longer than I have. The ultimate acceptance from my mom wouldn't be her using the right pronouns or calling me by a male name. Nope. It would be her cutting my hair.
Seeing the interactions between you guys and hearing those conversations was healing beyond words. I'm so thankful for this podcast and Ezra really vibed with the vibe of the show. And his smile literally lights up the whole room. Thanks for existing you guys.
I appreciate that Brennan makes eye contact when talking to people, but the anxiety was at a high for me because he refused to keep from moving his head while the clippers are actually shaving his head. Mad props to Ezra for still doing a great job despite that.
man. the conversation about queer elders and the need to know our history. so important. a few years ago i was volunteering for the parade in my town and this older butch was telling us about how it was back in the day, during the aids crisis and how lesbians were fighting for the right to marry and have children. i think about her so often. i wish i had asked to keep in contact so i could interview her. i’ve read a lot on queer history but i deeply want to meet older lgbtq folk because it doesn’t compare. talking to someone who really lived it is just not the same. does anyone know of any intergenerational events for young queer people to learn their history and meet their elders? if there aren’t any it would be so cool to make this a thing
THIS IS SUCH A GOOD EPISODE!!!! I love the conversation and interaction between all of you, and you discuss so many important things in such an eloquent and intelligent way!!!
I remember cutting my hair after I came out and I went to the bathroom and cried because I was so happy with it. I think haircuts are often the first step many of us take to transition. I really love watching you guys, I see my younger self in both of you and I'm so happy that trans youth have the opportunity to find this content and feel affirmed by it. Ezra was super fun, too. Sometimes it's nice just to see other trans people existing and living life since the media portrays us as some deviants or something.
I wish I had curly hair. My hair is pin-straight and a bit on the thinner side. I'd like to do something queer with it, but everyone says that I can't have any layers with my hair type or else it will look even thinner. I don't want to shave it or have it super short either. Gaaaaah
When I was little I got my hair cut super short and it made me bawl. I looked like a boy and I hated it. Now I'm navigating how to look like neither a boy or a girl and my hair is short and I look at it and want to cry for a different reason
My first trans haircut was before I knew I was trans. I was in 4th grade and kept begging my parents for a “boy haircut”. After months of convincing I was able to cut my hair from my shoulders, to the stereotypical Justin Bieber haircut. It was one of the happiest days of my life, I remember running around at school the next day, and feeling so free.
I just went to the bootleg barber shop near the train station to get my hair cut. Not sure if it’s the same anywhere but they never questioned me going there. Passed well enough, they thought I was younger but cut my hair anyways. Real chill, I suggest one of those walk in places cause they’re so casual about haircuts anyways lol.
Ok but the reason I say “handsome” and not “hot” is because I’m not sure how comfortable people would be with it. I will tell someone who I legitimately find attractive “handsome”, but out of respect. I’m sorry if there seems to be any ulterior motive.
Wow I really appreciate Ezra talking about his journey in relation to transness. It’s very easy to see trans people you idolize and wish you could snap your fingers and be like that. It’s refreshing and comforting in a way to know they struggled to.
blaming ty turner for mullets chokehold in the transmasc community
so true... 80's androgynous looks are to blame as well
paradoxal mess literally why I grew my hair out 😭😭😭 I gotta live out my 80’s rocker mullet hair style... 😔💖
I wanted to grow one after seeing Shea Coulee with one.
@@realemmcee fair, she is always the moment
and cavetown honestly
"When we're mad at each other the people who are actually oppressing us, get away with it". This statement holds so much truth not just within the trans community, but society as a whole.
34:48 DUDE…. I’m literally speechless I’ve always felt exactly what Ezra described but I was so worried it invalidated my transness… thank you you don’t know how much I needed to here this
Same here, I don't identify with lesbianism but I'm a t4t gay guy and TERF narratives about "lost lesbian sisters" used to really scare me :/
So seeing transmascs who do identify as lesbian/sapphic in some way is kinda reassuring if that makes sense
@@hyobro8392 sounds weird to me but whatever fits for you don’t feel bad about it
* hear
My first "maybe being trans is okay" moment was when I went to a trans-owned barber shop and had my hair cut by a trans man. He was so cool and comfortable, and he cracked jokes about uniquely trans experiences in a way that made them feel so normal. It was the first time I realized that yeah, they *are* normal.
I am absolutely living for this. Ezra's story really resonated, and I know I'm far from alone in feeling that. Trans people just having conversations with each other and sharing their stories is so emotionally stirring. I wish I'd had content like this when I was young and struggling with my gender identity, but I think of all the young trans people whose lives are going to be brighter because of what you guys are doing, and it makes me so hopeful.
tl;dr: salkjdksjds my feelings aaaaaaa
“Ezra” means “help” in Hebrew. So in Israel, when you request/offer help, you say “… ezra” (or conjugation). A cool name, classic/timeless.
that’s what i’m changing my middle name to :)
Another Israeli brenemies listener?
@@yonakana1247 I’m not Israeli, but I’ve been to Israel and know some Hebrew.
I think a lot of.ppl just pick ezra after the famous ezra
My first trans haircut was when I shaved my head in my kitchen with my friends at sixteen - before that I had hair so long I could sit on it and my ma absolutely didn't want me to cut it, but feeling all that weight falling off my head was like a baptism into who I really am
that’s beautiful!
Haircuts can be SO difficult as a trans/non-binary person but they can also be SO wonderful and affirming. Thank you for such an amazing episode!!!
This is making me want to be one of Ezras clients
you can become his client!! his booking link is in the description!
I legit picked my cat up and said to her "EZRA'S ON THE PODCAST YAYAYAYA" ilyyyy ezraaa
Ezras energy is so pure but also intimidating
Ezra is such a gorgeous human in every sense of the word wow
babe wake up new brenemies episode just dropped
The scrappy back and forth 😭😭😭 I would feel so comfortable w Ezra
Ezra is very charming… e.g. how he gently took the lead when Ryan was nervous in the chair, and Ezra gave tips on making conversation flow in a podcast, then started low-key interviewing Ryan … also how Ezra was so relaxed about having his hair cut, brushing off any risk of it looking bad or being cut with the clippers 🤙😎
the comedy in this podcast is always on point
When I got my first trans hair cut, from shoulder length to a pixie cut, it changed so much for me in ways I couldn’t have even imagined. It definitely helped with imposter syndrome feelings because I had just come out when that happened. The same thing happened when I shaved my head for the first time. Hair is important to some people, head or body hair, and to think that getting a haircut doesn’t help relieve dysphoria is just plain ignorant. I love this episode 🖤❤️
Even before I realized I was nonbinary, I felt so happy when I stopped removing my body hair. I felt some sort of strange relief, like I had taken control of my own body and was treating it right. Like I stopped hurting it, just to make it more palatable to others. But honestly, I don't think it even was 100% about gender, but just about having agency over your body. Everybody should have that.
Okay but Ryan is me getting a haircut like I have no clue what to talk about all conversation topics leave my brain😭😭
I could not stop staring at the hanging banana in the background. It's just floating there off the shelf. It's magical.
this comment ruined my viewing experience because now I can’t unsee it either akshddjjfjgjg help
Last time I went on trans RUclips (during college) it was filled with trans med stuff.
This is so much better 💜💜THANK YOU!!!!!!
This video is fantastic. I love the power of a haircut and a barbershop, it's such a peaceful and transformative place, and holds such a unique place in many marginalized communities. I appreciate the conversation about mentors and elders so much, it makes a lot of sense. We need people to show us how to live in, as Brennan said, "cis-tematic oppression!" And it's ok to be confused! My friend used to say that, and yeah, words can't fully express identity, and they don't always need to. I love the visual gags. I feel influenced. Trans supremacy.
you guys are all so sweet
This is definitely my favorite episode of this podcast. Ezra is so charismatic and so chill!
This was actually really nice and wholesome to see trans people hanging out and doing day to day things
Ezra is so incredibly insightful and knowledgeable and raw and i loved this colab so much! 💗
Edit: and and i love both of your haircuts!!
I really want Ezra to be my friend. He seems so happy and joyful to be around
I will never forget my first short-short haircut because I had to fight so hard for it. I made the mistake of asking for hair like my brothers had. Stupid fourteen-year-old me thought that because she cut my brothers' hair she could, and would, do mine as well. Nope. To this day she refuses to cut it because then "I'll look like a boy". When I first asked for her to cut it I wasn't trying to look like a boy, I was just sick of having to brush eighteen freaking inches of hair twice a day every day. About the time I wanted it cut I was also starting to wear more masculine clothes. Again, I wasn't consciously trying to be a guy. I didn't know being trans was even a thing. After two years my mom relented, but only because I said I wanted to donate my hair to a charity that makes wigs for kids with cancer. I figured if I didn't want all that hair someone else might as well use it and I encourage trans guys or anyone else chopping off their hair to do the same. Anyway, I had a bob for three months because that was as short as I was allowed to go at first but for my sixteenth birthday my mom took me to a salon and I got my first pixie cut. It was amazing because I looked in the mirror and saw myself for the first time in god only knows how long. I was grinning for three days straight. My mom even admitted once that she was surprised how happy it made me.
She doesn't know that I'm trans but evidence suggests has suspected for longer than I have. The ultimate acceptance from my mom wouldn't be her using the right pronouns or calling me by a male name. Nope. It would be her cutting my hair.
Seeing the interactions between you guys and hearing those conversations was healing beyond words. I'm so thankful for this podcast and Ezra really vibed with the vibe of the show. And his smile literally lights up the whole room. Thanks for existing you guys.
I looked at the thumbnail and was wondering why Ezra looked so familiar then when I saw the pictures of Bob it clicked haha
let ezra be a revolving host
I appreciate that Brennan makes eye contact when talking to people, but the anxiety was at a high for me because he refused to keep from moving his head while the clippers are actually shaving his head. Mad props to Ezra for still doing a great job despite that.
man. the conversation about queer elders and the need to know our history. so important. a few years ago i was volunteering for the parade in my town and this older butch was telling us about how it was back in the day, during the aids crisis and how lesbians were fighting for the right to marry and have children. i think about her so often. i wish i had asked to keep in contact so i could interview her. i’ve read a lot on queer history but i deeply want to meet older lgbtq folk because it doesn’t compare. talking to someone who really lived it is just not the same.
does anyone know of any intergenerational events for young queer people to learn their history and meet their elders? if there aren’t any it would be so cool to make this a thing
EZRA MICHEL ON BRENEMIES HOLY SHIT
I LOVED THIS EPISODE!!! and ezra’s personality is so cool I love his vibe and how he’s so kind and chill🤍🤍🤍
NOT THE MOE-HAWK SKSSKKSK
45:05 Ryan trying to cover Ezra’s crotch with a pillow hahaha
EZRA REVOLVING HOST
please have Ezra on again!!! I LOVE HIM🥺
these podcasts never miss, always heartwarming
I _adore_ Ezra and the energy he brought to the podcast, i hope we get to see him again in the future!!
I literally gave myself a haircut listening to this episode
Very trans
this is the best youtube video of 2021
OMG I gasped when I saw the title… I love Ezra!!
omg this is absolutely iconic im such a huge fan of ezra!!!!!
Great choice!
I really enjoyed this video! Ezra is so nice and I appreciated the stories he shared about his past.
i feel like Brennen's outfits are getting more emo every episode.
THIS IS SUCH A GOOD EPISODE!!!! I love the conversation and interaction between all of you, and you discuss so many important things in such an eloquent and intelligent way!!!
I absolutely love how creative all of you are for this podcast :)
holy shit im loving this energy
i love you guys PLUS ezra this is so cool
I remember cutting my hair after I came out and I went to the bathroom and cried because I was so happy with it. I think haircuts are often the first step many of us take to transition. I really love watching you guys, I see my younger self in both of you and I'm so happy that trans youth have the opportunity to find this content and feel affirmed by it. Ezra was super fun, too. Sometimes it's nice just to see other trans people existing and living life since the media portrays us as some deviants or something.
eyy is my favourite podcast to draw to
Ezra is so hot i literally can't get over it
I wish I had curly hair. My hair is pin-straight and a bit on the thinner side. I'd like to do something queer with it, but everyone says that I can't have any layers with my hair type or else it will look even thinner. I don't want to shave it or have it super short either. Gaaaaah
Oh my gosh my names Ezra!!!
AHHHHHH I LOVE TGIS PODCAST SOOOO MUUUUCCHHH
I don’t even have words. Incredible episode guys. Really made me do a lot of introspection on my own place in the trans community. Much love
This is the best episode yet
When I was little I got my hair cut super short and it made me bawl. I looked like a boy and I hated it. Now I'm navigating how to look like neither a boy or a girl and my hair is short and I look at it and want to cry for a different reason
My first trans haircut was before I knew I was trans. I was in 4th grade and kept begging my parents for a “boy haircut”. After months of convincing I was able to cut my hair from my shoulders, to the stereotypical Justin Bieber haircut. It was one of the happiest days of my life, I remember running around at school the next day, and feeling so free.
I love your haircut Brennen! ❤️
I just went to the bootleg barber shop near the train station to get my hair cut. Not sure if it’s the same anywhere but they never questioned me going there. Passed well enough, they thought I was younger but cut my hair anyways. Real chill, I suggest one of those walk in places cause they’re so casual about haircuts anyways lol.
you guys seem like the perfect people to go to a show with
I enjoy this episode so much!!
the transmasc urge to love Steve Buscemi!!!
This was lovely to watch. :) Thanks for making this video.
Wow Wow wow hella appreciative that I’ve introduced me to Ezra god dammmmmm
14:43 Moe, where is the Moe-Town pun?
I love every video but I think this might have been my favorite yet!
By far my favorite episode!
this look is SO GOOD on brennen
I may have to show this video to my hairdresser cuz idfk how to explain how I want my mullet lmao.
My first trans haircut was when I was like 7 and I had my friend chop all my hair off, and then blamed him for it 😅
Ok but the reason I say “handsome” and not “hot” is because I’m not sure how comfortable people would be with it. I will tell someone who I legitimately find attractive “handsome”, but out of respect. I’m sorry if there seems to be any ulterior motive.
The daniel johnston background :0
Love y’all and Ezra!
I got my first tattoo today. It’s nothing to do with the video I just wanna talk about it 😅
what did u get?
That's so cool how'd it go?
@@carofrias7418 I got a lil mouse with flowers nd leaves around it on my calf 😄
@@nicothenecromancer it was not as bad as I thought. It stung a lil but it was ok. I love the outcome 😄 a moment of pain for a lifetime of pretty 😅
@@gamenewb777 he'll yeah great to hear
i totally agree that being called handsome is patronizing. bruh im BEAUTIFUL (but i appreciate the compliment nonetheless)
Ezra has to be a Leo
yeeeeeeees y'all always make my week :)
TFW the barber is a better counsellor than most counsellors lol.
Truly poggers
I love Ezra so much
This was so great!
YOOOOOO THIS FUCKING CROSSOVER THOUGH!!!!!!!!!
Yeah it feels like how they compliment little boys
just 47 minutes of Ryan and Brennen not knowing what they want. Ezra is a saint, lol.
Only now noticing the banana hanging from the ceiling lol
I love this show a ton but please 🙏 get better mics 🙏🙏🙏
I love this so much.
woah i also filmed my first headshave lmao
Very swag
First hair cut I can remember, was me crying cause they wanted to cut it short.
yasss i love ezra!!
HIIIIII!!!
As someone who has went divorce. I can honestly say the process is very hard…
I love this
for my first haircut my friend helped me cut it all off in the playground behind my house
hi sibs 🤘🏽💞 y’all cute af
I cut my hair during a mid-pandemic dysphoria fueled panic attack 😅