Man I haven't been able to stop watching your videos since I've come across them. Thanks for the great advice and content man, I'm 18 and getting through this breakup by trying to learn as much as I can as to why I feel the way I do, what I did wrong in the relationship and what standards to hold for myself. Your videos are very helpful.
Such a powerful message here! It really made me think of the false consensus effect, where we assume others have similar experiences or thoughts about self-worth, often comparing ourselves unfairly. A close friend once shared how they believed everyone else had life figured out, leaving them feeling inadequate. Your breakdown of how self-love stems from compassion, not comparison, is a game changer. We need more of this perspective in the world
Yeah even I could not relate to the line ‘Love yourself’ though it is wise to do so but somehow felt that that was just not it or enough. Your perspective is refreshing and agreeable. Thank you :)🙏
I genuinely appreciate this video. Needed to hear it in a way I could understand and you have accomplished that. Literally can't afford therapy right now so I'm therapizing myself 👍 ...couldn't do it without people like you so from the bottom of my heart and soul Thank You
It's certainly possible that I haven't learned the proper affirmation procedure. Really I think there's nothing inherently wrong with affirmations at all, so long as they're paired with a bit of insight and genuine understanding. In fact, with that added perspective and context, affirming those inner child parts of yourself might be very helpful! I think my problem has more to do with the fact that some people might find advice online encouraging them to do affirmations without any of the greater context, and those people might get discouraged or disheartened if it doesn't work.
@@andrewvanhoff thanks for responding and sharing your content as well. The self reliant, independent person you encourage is hard. Do you see a reason for friends or a relationship?
Absolutely! There are so many reasons for friends and relationships. The entire point of understanding yourself and your attachments and getting some internal clarity is that it allows you to actually connect with people. The challenge is that normally we're so caught up in our insecurities, our programming, and our fears about things and people. And those make it difficult to actually be connected with somebody. We tend to cling to people who we think will compensate for our weaknesses. And it's absolutely fine to have a relationship where you and your partner complement each other's flaws and support each other. It's more that without understanding your own insecurities you're very likely to destroy that connection over the long run. We're all human at the end of day and socializing and connecting is a hugely meaningful part of our lives. I simply advocate for doing that from an inner place of wholeness, rather than an inner feeling of lack.
@@andrewvanhoff Thank you for responding. Once we understand our issues and let go of them or use them as strengths. Then with confidence well attract people easily? What do we do when we get tired of our own jokes lol
That confidence you describe, in my opinion at least, comes from a combination of understanding and action. I think a lot of people (including myself at times) can get stuck on the philosophy of letting go and miss the practical side, which is that it's not something you need to master before you apply it. The energy of attraction you mention comes when we let go of our inner resistance. That might mean going up and talking to somebody that feels intimidating, or putting yourself into new situations because part of you knows that's good for you. Focusing too heavily on the intellectual side of detachment or letting go can be it's own prison, where we keep putting off our life in the hope that someday we'll get it. From my perspective, that energy of attraction you mention is the energy of allowing yourself to be alive, make mistakes, try things out, connect with people, and ultimately to be seen in the world. Don't worry about mastering the theory first, try it out in your life and see what happens. Letting go isn't meant to be an armor that will prevent you from being hurt ever again, it's to understand that armor gets in the way of living and connecting and being free.
Man I haven't been able to stop watching your videos since I've come across them. Thanks for the great advice and content man, I'm 18 and getting through this breakup by trying to learn as much as I can as to why I feel the way I do, what I did wrong in the relationship and what standards to hold for myself. Your videos are very helpful.
You're very welcome!
I do IFS. It’s brilliant. Completely healed my brother. Highly recommend.
Such a powerful message here! It really made me think of the false consensus effect, where we assume others have similar experiences or thoughts about self-worth, often comparing ourselves unfairly. A close friend once shared how they believed everyone else had life figured out, leaving them feeling inadequate. Your breakdown of how self-love stems from compassion, not comparison, is a game changer. We need more of this perspective in the world
Yeah even I could not relate to the line ‘Love yourself’ though it is wise to do so but somehow felt that that was just not it or enough. Your perspective is refreshing and agreeable. Thank you :)🙏
I genuinely appreciate this video. Needed to hear it in a way I could understand and you have accomplished that. Literally can't afford therapy right now so I'm therapizing myself 👍 ...couldn't do it without people like you so from the bottom of my heart and soul Thank You
I connected with the point about others being higher then you when they are not. And the mind game
Thank You
Great stuff man. Powerful overall. You don’t know enough about affirmations - I would be happy to teach you and also self love.
It's certainly possible that I haven't learned the proper affirmation procedure. Really I think there's nothing inherently wrong with affirmations at all, so long as they're paired with a bit of insight and genuine understanding.
In fact, with that added perspective and context, affirming those inner child parts of yourself might be very helpful! I think my problem has more to do with the fact that some people might find advice online encouraging them to do affirmations without any of the greater context, and those people might get discouraged or disheartened if it doesn't work.
Your graphics and quality are amazing for being at 18k subs. 😊
Thank you! I'm glad you think so!
@@andrewvanhoff thanks for responding and sharing your content as well. The self reliant, independent person you encourage is hard. Do you see a reason for friends or a relationship?
Absolutely! There are so many reasons for friends and relationships. The entire point of understanding yourself and your attachments and getting some internal clarity is that it allows you to actually connect with people.
The challenge is that normally we're so caught up in our insecurities, our programming, and our fears about things and people. And those make it difficult to actually be connected with somebody.
We tend to cling to people who we think will compensate for our weaknesses. And it's absolutely fine to have a relationship where you and your partner complement each other's flaws and support each other. It's more that without understanding your own insecurities you're very likely to destroy that connection over the long run.
We're all human at the end of day and socializing and connecting is a hugely meaningful part of our lives. I simply advocate for doing that from an inner place of wholeness, rather than an inner feeling of lack.
@@andrewvanhoff Thank you for responding. Once we understand our issues and let go of them or use them as strengths. Then with confidence well attract people easily? What do we do when we get tired of our own jokes lol
That confidence you describe, in my opinion at least, comes from a combination of understanding and action. I think a lot of people (including myself at times) can get stuck on the philosophy of letting go and miss the practical side, which is that it's not something you need to master before you apply it.
The energy of attraction you mention comes when we let go of our inner resistance. That might mean going up and talking to somebody that feels intimidating, or putting yourself into new situations because part of you knows that's good for you. Focusing too heavily on the intellectual side of detachment or letting go can be it's own prison, where we keep putting off our life in the hope that someday we'll get it.
From my perspective, that energy of attraction you mention is the energy of allowing yourself to be alive, make mistakes, try things out, connect with people, and ultimately to be seen in the world. Don't worry about mastering the theory first, try it out in your life and see what happens. Letting go isn't meant to be an armor that will prevent you from being hurt ever again, it's to understand that armor gets in the way of living and connecting and being free.
Your movements wonderfull ❤😁