I asked her why she doesn’t ask me questions about my life. She answered “cuz your life is none of my business” Red Flag 🚩 I should’ve run that minute.
They're such weirdos lol. Like what, we're supposed to stay strangers during our relationship? I guess it makes it easier to leave in the end because they never formed a real attachment.
I can't definitely say my ex is 100% DA, but after 6 years together, I still wasn't an emergency contact in his phone and if something happened to him, inwpuld have to wait for his best friend to tell me. I feel this is a huge indicator of something being unavailable . . . .
My best friend I know since kindergarden is proofed over decades! that he is trustworthy and will stand by my side. Just because I meet a girl doesn`t undo this and is not more important than this after a couple of months. Know your place. Asking for an additional space on the emergency list is something different.
Same with my avoidant ex, that’s why she is my ex. I ditched her sorry arse to the curb before she could discard me. I was onto that, previous experience
He had them all when we met until something happened in his life that changed course of everything.. after 4 months i saw a dismissive avoidant man also broken.. taking accountability for his behaviour so i couldn’t hate him i just walked away. I loved the secure man whose sure about me, not the avoidant one.
I'm dating a da, but he's empathizing and so on, but opening up not so fast, he can be hot and cold and sometimes he makes something only for me to be a little happier, but not because he truly understands me. But I find it ok, he understands, that he is a little closed and he attempts to be closer, but slooow
My avoidant ex possesses all there qualities at the beginning of dating. Its only after 6 months or so when they discard me out of nowhere. Does this happen?
You might find they appear to have these qualities early on but not really. They often have the most amazing ability to mirror your behaviour and way of being in a relationship. Trouble is, because it’s false they run out of energy to keep doing that and that’s when they shut down and ultimately discard you. For me, seeing this mirroring going on was just amazing, it actually felt like she was really available emotionally. Just that I was way smarter and saw the cracks appearing early on, ended up discarding her before she could discard me. They are very convincing
They bury or suppress it. You can't know you're with one till the right trigger comes along. Things are fine as long as they're superficial and lack substance. They just appear shy or introverted which has its own charm.
I like your contents but the mic touching any surface (your body, clothes etc) will create big noise … would there be ways for you to clip it someplace where it can avoid that from happening? 🥺 Otherwise thank you for the good educational contents! 👍🏽👍🏽
40 seconds in and I realize my avoidant ex wasn't at all emotionally available
Great info! More about what HEALTHY looks and sounds like!
To me it's so much more meaningful to be supportive in the stressful times! Anyone can be nice when things are happy and easy.
I asked her why she doesn’t ask me questions about my life. She answered “cuz your life is none of my business”
Red Flag 🚩
I should’ve run that minute.
They're such weirdos lol. Like what, we're supposed to stay strangers during our relationship? I guess it makes it easier to leave in the end because they never formed a real attachment.
Why does this feels like its just all ME
PROUD OF MYSELF 🌸
this was really so helpful, thank you! ❤
I can't definitely say my ex is 100% DA, but after 6 years together, I still wasn't an emergency contact in his phone and if something happened to him, inwpuld have to wait for his best friend to tell me. I feel this is a huge indicator of something being unavailable . . . .
Sounds like five and a half years too long don’t you think ?
My best friend I know since kindergarden is proofed over decades! that he is trustworthy and will stand by my side.
Just because I meet a girl doesn`t undo this and is not more important than this after a couple of months.
Know your place.
Asking for an additional space on the emergency list is something different.
Thank you Coach Ryan. My DA partner possess none of these qualities 🇦🇺
Same with my avoidant ex, that’s why she is my ex. I ditched her sorry arse to the curb before she could discard me. I was onto that, previous experience
He had them all when we met until something happened in his life that changed course of everything.. after 4 months i saw a dismissive avoidant man also broken.. taking accountability for his behaviour so i couldn’t hate him i just walked away. I loved the secure man whose sure about me, not the avoidant one.
I'm dating a da, but he's empathizing and so on, but opening up not so fast, he can be hot and cold and sometimes he makes something only for me to be a little happier, but not because he truly understands me. But I find it ok, he understands, that he is a little closed and he attempts to be closer, but slooow
Excellent !!!
My avoidant ex possesses all there qualities at the beginning of dating. Its only after 6 months or so when they discard me out of nowhere. Does this happen?
You might find they appear to have these qualities early on but not really. They often have the most amazing ability to mirror your behaviour and way of being in a relationship. Trouble is, because it’s false they run out of energy to keep doing that and that’s when they shut down and ultimately discard you.
For me, seeing this mirroring going on was just amazing, it actually felt like she was really available emotionally. Just that I was way smarter and saw the cracks appearing early on, ended up discarding her before she could discard me. They are very convincing
@@cspace1234nz nah man its out of fear. They didnt fake it thats what they really felt at the start its when things get deeper when they shutdown
They bury or suppress it. You can't know you're with one till the right trigger comes along. Things are fine as long as they're superficial and lack substance. They just appear shy or introverted which has its own charm.
Not even 5% of avoidants are like this
I’m realizing my exa was only avoidant with me, and with all her friends and family she was not
I like your contents but the mic touching any surface (your body, clothes etc) will create big noise … would there be ways for you to clip it someplace where it can avoid that from happening? 🥺
Otherwise thank you for the good educational contents! 👍🏽👍🏽