THIS IS WHAT MY MOM HAD A 3 HOURS LONG "CONVERSATION" (She yells and blame me for my anxiety and I shut up and stare at her) YESTERDAY, She compared my anxiety to fucking cancer just to point out that she's right. God please make her more empathic. Please.
" A: there are people who have it worse than you, you have no right to be sad B: There are also people who have it much better than you, so you have no right to be happy"
"you're acting" "you just want attention" "stop crying" "it'll be fine, you'll get over it" "stop making faces" As a friend to someone who has anxiety, I learnt that these make everything worse for them. Never say anything like this to them. Their mental state cannot handle it. Just give them a hug and stay there with them until they say that they are fine, out of THEIR own mouth. Don't force them to be "fine"
I almost lost most of my friends because they're all feed up by me... I know it's not easy to have a friend like me, but I can't help myself from anxiety attack... That's why I became somewhat introvert... I can't afford losing any friend now... I feel sorry for them for having to know me😅
"Stop overreacting" "Stop being wierd" "Its just in your head" "Here we go again" "Get off your phone" "We all have problem, just stop over reacting over it" And when i try to explain why i stop go out /hangout with others they say "its just your lazyness stop make nonsense/stupid reason" Then i done explain to anyone, i realize that they would never understand :/
If you are selective with who you spend time with, you will find people who understand you, validate you and support you. A lot of people who don't understand never went through anything like what you went through or were told similar things when feeling upset and have no capacity or idea of how to be there for someone in an emotional way. But a lot of other people do- they just seem to be more rare because we are much likelier to associate with people who are representations of childhood figures and the people that either caused or severely heightened the anxiety we felt when it started to become a part of our lives. And it's not the difficulties in our life that hurt the most- it's going through it alone. If your friends don't understand you- or don't try to understand you- then know there is much better out there waiting for you. You're not alone, there are people who truly get it and people who truly want to understand, even if they've never experienced it themselves. The more authentically you can be yourself, the faster you will bring them into your life. I know that might be the hardest thing I could ever ask but being authentic about our experience with anxiety (or anything) even the tiniest amount can be extremely helpful- it's like putting out a call to people who are seeking someone like you
7 Things Not To Say To Someone with Anxiety (Summary): 1 - It's all in your head 2 - You're getting anxious over nothing 3 - Everything is going to be fine 4 - Stop acting like that, It's weird. 5 - Oh, here we go again. 6 - I know exactly how you feel. 7 - Is it me? Did I do something wrong?
Some things I’ve been told as someone with an anxiety disorder- :”it’s that dam phone” :”You’er just scared. Get over it.” :”ppl have it way worse.” :”you have no right to act like this!” :”you have a home, don’t act like this. It’s ungrateful.”
My best friend jokingly said “I miss the old you” and he didn’t mean any harm and he never would mean it like that because he doesn’t know what that kind of thing does to me but I always feel like I’m changing, in a bad way, so the second we hung up the call I immediately started bawling.
"Stop making everything about you" "Stop overanalyzing things" "You always want to go into the negative" "It's like you like being negative all the time" "Stop thinking to deep into things" "Stop overthinking so much " "Stop crying " All of the words I hear from my mom when I try to get emotional support or sympathy 💔😭
@@northfox5368 She's not a bad mom it's just she'll say things to me out of tough love and we all say things we don't mean; it happens sometimes. We're human but it annoys me and makes me feel worse.
Yeah, and this lead me to PTSD. And my mom never know this because my parents always think psychologist are way too expensive so they claimed me never had a chance to help myself.
“You’re too young to have these feelings.” “You haven’t even matured yet. When you grow up, you’d realize that all your feelings are for no reason.” “You’ll be fine.”
I have had anxiety since I was 11 and back then my parents didn't take me seriously because I was "too young to have anxiety" and that "only teenagers and adults can have REAL anxiety". I don't think they understood how much it hurt me. They were only trying to be comforting but I wish they listened to what I was saying and didn't just push me away saying that I was "too young". It's been two years since then and now the people around me understand a little bit better. But I still don't feel comfortable to go to my parents when I'm having an anxiety or panic attack.
I’ve had anxiety since I was like 7 or 8 THAT JUST TRIGGERS ME also if they say “you’ll be fine” I automatically think of all the reasons why I wouldn’t be fine
@Deepshikha Das I feel really bad, it's always like this and it just drains me whenever I think about it. To me it feels like the already bullshit 'education system' is much more important to parents than their childrens' mental wellness, as if we're worth nothing.
If you have anxiety please tell me something, I have a friend who has anxiety and I'm worried about him. Is asking if he's OK quite often offensive? Yesterday he told me to stop asking and I can't tell if he hates it when I ask if he's OK. He also doesn't like talking about his problems so yeah I would appreciate if you answer
@@LegoCityFilms For me when someone asks if I'm ok sometimes it makes me feel like they actually care and sometimes it just makes me more anxious. I can't really tell you how it makes your friend feel but if he asked you to stop you might want stop or ask less often.
I agree!!! Why do people say these things? It is obvious that the other person is struggling so they need help. It’s like if someone was stuck in a deep hole. You would get a ladder or a rope and help the out. Same principle with anxiety and other mental issues.
"You're too young to be anxious" My therapist used to say the same thing to me and it didn't really help me get better at handling my panic attacks. My mother used violence on me to stop my attacks but obviously it made them worse No one is "too young" for anxiety
My roomate always says the word that makes my anxiety worse. And they also said "your too young to have anxiety" like it's really harmful and I can honestly choke then.
Sigh... this is why I rather stay at home. "If you want to get better I think should go out more" they say. Well sheet, no thanks if I'll end up bringing everyone down. Win.👏Win.👏
"Don't you realize you bring EVERYONE down?" Ik we're talking about anxiety but this is literally what my dad has told me about my OCD, that I ruin everyone's day and make everyone upset and I deserve to get yelled at.
@@j_iris You don't deserve to get yelled out for something you can't help. Ocd is that nobody can help, it's almost impossible to change behaviour without therapy.
Today I decided to confess to my brother again about my struggling with social anxiety in college. He kept saying that everybody goes through this stuff and told me to just go out more. If what I'm going through is normal, I wouldn't cry before and after class about how overwhelmed I feel everyday.
Exactly like no shit sherlock now if you don't know any helpful tips I suggest you shove it back up your ass because if I wanted to hear shit coming from someone's mouth I'd start talking to my mirror.
I am someone with social anxiety and everyone keep telling me”I was like you ,then by time I stopped being’shy’” it’s not about shyness it’s worse than that .Im tired that people never understand , me going out is me getting out of my comfort zone.No,I won’t get over it and no it won’t change by time but it’ll only get worse if I do nothing about it
I know what's it's like and it does get worse but I didn't know I had social anxiety until I was eleven and I continued to force myself to do things which in the end would just drain me of energy and scare me so much. I hated everything. It started since I could walk and talk and I really wish my parents took me to a doctor instead of just assuming I was overly shy
My mom and older sister said shit like that and it would never help. Social anxiety and being an introvert are two different things and people need to realize that.
Bacon Bandito yes I know what gay means but stop assuming my sexuality when u know nothing about me.if u don’t have anything to say related to my comment then just scroll away
When I say that I have anxiety or that “i just feel empty today” my sister calls me “cringey” or says that “I’m faking” and that I’m “ just saying it for attention” she’s mostly the reason I don’t tell people about my feelings
It’s really frustrating that some individuals think anxiety is an excuse and you’re just being lazy and effortless.” I’m so sorry you’re going through this situation :( I hope you are okay stranger and you get the help or support system you need :(.
honestly when somebody says “is it me did i do something wrong”, in a nice concerned way ofc, i kind of appreciate it. i personally see it as them being concerned that they hurt me, as in they care about me, so it doesn’t offend me but i definetly see how it could.
GotchaGaming L. well i don’t think that’s completely true a lot of these things even though the person saying them might have good intentions could hurt somebody with anxiety
@GotchaGaming L. To be honest, I dont even know what they lack. Its just some people thinks they did a crappy job and all and lack the information they really needed and those stuffs. Basically. The videos may not be perfect, but it is extremely helpful for many other people, honestly.
"Stop crying" "Your being a crybaby." "Stop hiding away." "Stop being so emo." "Why can't you be normal for once?" "Your too old to act like that." "You just want attention." "A teacher: "You must do this assignment with a partner, not alone." ""Do your work with your partner or else..." I don't know if these apply to everyone but it does for me..
“Don’t worry what other people think!” My mother constantly tells me this whenever I get anxious (mainly in social situations) I know it’s not always with bad intent, but it isn’t exactly helpful either...
Just the feeling of everyone's eyes on you is panic inducing. I tend to freeze like a deer in headlights in those situations where I have to go up and talk in front of everyone. If I have a question I'm often too scared to try to ask and I suffer in silence as a result. Even if I somehow get through it, my heart races throughout it and after. Even if you convince yourself to not worry about what others think, you're body will react the complete opposite in that scenario and cause you to panic.
I get "nevermind I give up on you" "I'm just gonna leave you alone" or "Your too young to feel this way" And "I think your overreacting" Also " why do you think of this all the time it's so tiring to deal with you when you act like this" ummm yeah that's it.
@@siriusly6321 Well, these lines also come out of the mother of a child I deeply care about who has severe anxiety and depression. So it's not just the students at school who are a problem. There are so many people who have things against all of us who have mental illnesses. And it sucks because some children aren't getting the medical treatment they need, just like the example I have here.
@@cherries.1143 Consider yourself lucky, I suppose. It's extremely demeaning for someone to go out of their way to invalidate your feelings and what you're going through. Remember that your feelings are valid because of your experiences, no matter what any other person may tell you. Honestly, that mother I mentioned in an earlier reply would say the same thing if I myself or her own daughter would show the fact that we've harmed ourselves.
For me it's: "You need to calm down" "You're overreacting " "Focus on your breathing " "Stop crying" "Snap out of this " "I give up on you" **goes to hug me...instead grips onto me really tight and says "Stop this now!"** **makes fun of me** "You're just trying to get attention, so stop" This causes me to just get worse. I know that when people say "focus on your breathing" and "calm down" they are trying to help, but this just makes it so much worse. I get so caught up in trying to breathe normal I freak out because I can't. And then it just goes on to get worse. And then another thing, trying to get me to leave the area I'm at because I am embarrassing that person. That sets me off more and makes me feel ashamed of myself.
I had a nasty ex who told me that I’m just “playing the victim” and it was a very painful thing to hear from someone who I loved. I carried that thought and pain for months
@@Kittihoney I'm really sorry that you went through that. I hope you find someone that treats you how you deserve to be treated. Sadly the person that treats me this way is my mother.
@GotchaGaming L. It may not make sense, but that's kind of what I prefer. A lot of people don't understand how to properly handle anxiety attacks, and often times it results with the person trying to help getting frustrated and my attack getting worse. I have talked to some of my closest friends about if I ever have an attack around them, to just give me some space, make sure people aren't crowding, and when I get calmed down enough, I'll ask for help. But it sometimes happens in different degrees of severity, so getting my attack to pass requires different methods. People have different ways of dealing with things, and my way may be difficult, but at least I'm trying to actively work on myself.
i hate it when people say "just don't care what people say about you!" it makes me feel like i can just stop the feeling. It's like telling a cancer patient to "stop having cancer"
@@justanotherrandomperson180I don't think that's what they're saying. While I agree that cancer isn't the best choice for an example, they're trying to say that telling someone with anxiety to just stop caring is the same as telling someone with something out of their control to just stop affecting them. And for the record, you can't control anxiety. There are ways to make it better, or to stop it from affecting you as much, but you can't control it.
@@thekitten_hoarder by "control" i meant there's things you can do when you're feeling anxious to help you calm down or reducing it/making it feel less miserable. I didn't mean you can stop it completely bc anxiety is a part of human nature, it can't go away forever
I have severe anxiety periods and someone telling me everything is going to be fine actually comforts me. I guess it's different for everyone. My advice would be to just try to understand genuinely how they feel and get them to talk without pressuring them. I'm usually too afraid to vocalise (or even put a finger on) what exactly causes my feelings but saying it out loud and having a conversation with someone who is not judging me usually helps to let it out and overcome it sometimes. ☺️
I was going to say the exact same thing ! I have experienced anticiptory anxiety multiple times since childhood, so hearing it from someone who knows me and current situation can really help me calm down. Something that also helps me ground myself is going back to the bare basics : "I am alive, healthy, I have a roof over a head, food, water, a loving family, and I can even afford my studies. So no matter what happens, everything IS going to be fine". And I agree that even if someone has not experienced anxiety themselves, they can still help by not being judgmental and listening. Talking about how you feel is so much easier when the other person makes you feel at ease.
@@olympe-rds yes, absolutely! With the intensity of the feelings a person with anxiety goes through, it can be very challenging to realize everything that IS going right for them that they can appreciate and find peace in. And even if "everything" is going wrong, there is always an up after a down, and it just simply needs to be heard in order to be acknowledged
I usually say: it feels really bad right now in this moment, but it will get better. It's going to be okay. You've gotten over hardships in the past, and you will be able to get through this this time too. I don't if it's the right thing to say necessarily to someone with anxiety, but my friend told me when I said that in the past, it had helped them get through a hard time in their life that I didn't know they had gone through till recently. They found out recently that they probably have anxiety.
Bacon Bandito but it won’t, even though I’m am alone in a room, that Constant feeling of being judged, that every single actions I take have huge consequences. It scares me.
•Tree Animates• • Tree animations • I have the same problem, I tried to tell some people about my anxiety and it was really difficult for me because I didn't share anything with anyone for few years , I wanted to change that, but all I got were weird looks. They said that I'm just afraid of everything and exaggerating. I though I could trust them, but now I feel even more judged and unwanted, I can't make any decisions and I have fear of an failure . The fear od being judge scares me so much i cant go outside or even say a word in grup convo . I hope we will eventually be strong enough to live without this constant fear .
I always hear “You have everything” “It’s fine” “People are worse” “Your just seeking attention” “You have me” “You have a family” “Your ungrateful” “Stop acting “ “I’ve gone through that” And each day I think of those words I think there is something wrong I’m doing and I should change myself to make them Accept me and think I’m perfect when I’m not and it doesn’t help when people say they have gone through that experience and it doesn’t help when you make people believe they are doing something wrong
No matter how much you have or if you have friends/ family with you it doesn't change the way you feel or what you struggle with. It isn't a sign of not being grateful either I hate hearing this sort of thing too, we can't control how we feel or the anxiety we experience not sure why people don't understand that.
While having a panic attack, my old friend- "Man up" "Stop being suicidal" "Your manipulative " "Your so needy" "I have anxiety to but im not crying over small things like you" This is not a way to help someone more like make it worse for someone
@@naturalLog26 You are not weird. However, just because you dont understand doesn't mean you shouldn't try to, if you want to find out/for those friends that is. As for yourself, everyone handles anxiety differently, even the people who have severe anxiety. Some people with depression cry to cope and others don't cry at all. It depends on experiences, genetics, or perspectives. Sometimes a mix of all. When I cry over "small things", I feel it's never just only/about those "small things". It's like an additive or a bad cherry on top of the already big core thoughts/feelings that spark my anxiety the most. So much stress held in already, and that small cherry, as small weighted as it is, was enough to cause balance to collapse. That small thing sort've branched me back into my core life fears. Then the situation doesn't feel like something to consider small anymore... But again, that's just me. I may not be explaining it that well but, it's more complex witnessing in my persp. And, I'm aware/understand when it's hard for others to not completely understand cause they didnt have the same walk of life. Not everyone has the same core fears. Hope this helps.
“Stop acting that way.” “No ones paying attention to you.” “You need to stop.” These words along with the ones in the video, are what I hear on a daily by my parents. They don’t help me but instead, give up on me and then make me feel like shit. My sister (who is 27) took me out to eat and told me to order my food. Of course, I hesitated. Instead of her getting annoyed with me, she sat me down and encouraged me and help me earn that confidence to order my own food. And in the end, I did. She was proud of me and that made me feel happy. When you struggle with anxiety, it’s something that messes with you 24/7 and it’s so tiring. In order to work with it and overcome it, you need people to encourage you. Sadly, not all of us have people around us who can help. When you tell a person with anxiety to “get over it.” It makes the whole situation 10 times worse and that person gets even MORE anxious. So please, for those of you who don’t have anxiety, watch what you say and at least try to understand us.
my parents don't understand. my mom has anxiety, but i get close to having panic attacks when it comes to order my own food. my parents say, "you're a big girl, you can order it yourself. we're not doing it for you." and i get so panicked that i just don't eat.
I wish my sister would be like that :( when we’re out in town she’ll pressure me to go into shops and buy stuff when I clearly explain to her I’m not comfortable doing that, then she’ll proceed to call me a coward and how my mum too thinks I’m unable to do anything. I’m turning 16 soon and I’m so fed up of hearing such unhelpful comments :/
“Here you go again” “Calm Down” “You don’t have to cry” “It’s all in your head” Or how about….. “My friends has anxiety, I know how you feel” This one hit a soft spot 😭
“stop being overdramatic“ “you’re too young to be feeling that way“ “you should appreciate you’re childhood more“ “it’ll only get worse when you’re an adult, so get over it“ “there’s no reason for you to feel that way“ “you’re just seeking attention“ “you’re lying“ “then tell me what your issue is. Cause you obviously have one“ “why can’t you just act normal for once?“ “why do you cause so many issues for everyone else?“ “you should be grateful that I even stick around“ “you arent social enough“ “you never get out of the house. No wonder why“ “its your fault for feeling that way“ “learn to control yourself“ “you’re at an age where you cant have this ridiculous behavior“ “if you keep acting like that, I’ll treat you like a child“ “you should learn to control how you feel“ “i got you help, what more do you want from me“ “so you keep nagging me, what? You wanna take meds for it?“ “just tell me or I’ll force you to“ “why do you have to be so difficult“ “you’re only being a waste of time with this bullshit“ Edit: I never expected this comment to blow up at all. I’m sorry to hear that a lot of people relate to this comment. Just know you aren’t alone, even if the voice in your head tells you that! ❤️ Edit 2: If anyone ever wants to talk, or play video games, text me @DexterPlays427#0164 on discord. I’m not usually online, but I check once in a while. Just know you’re worth it and you aren’t alone!
Dexter Smith I don’t have anxiety and reading this made me feel bad, ( my point is: this is something that could hurt anyone and just saying this things to someone is not right). I’m really sorry that a lot of people gets hurt with such harmful words. And specially the ones that get the worse time dealing with it.
Dexter Smith you didn‘t hurt anyone ;) But I think you let several people (myself included) remember how they got hurt with one of these sentences. I rememberd that I could add a dozen more to your list. And THIS feeling, THIS memory sucks :( Not your comment :) And to be honest, I strongly believe your comment is helping a lot of people to confront their feelings! ,e for example. I‘m now in a position (because of external help) to challenge my problems. Now I have the strength to do so. But I keep coming back because I am so afraid and I still try to avoid any position I could get hurt and therefore I still am very lonely. So, actually your comment reminded me that I am much more capable than I tell myself I am! Great job 😄😋
I hate it when my mom says stuff like, “Dont put us through this AGAIN!” “You have no idea what its like to be around you.” “STOP YELLING AT ME!!” (When i get panic attacks I scream which I understand why she is mad but that will make me way worse-)
As a parent, it's their job to help you. If she says shit like "don't put ME through this," then she should've swallowed. Going through this comment section, some parents don't get the point of being a parent
If it’s ok may I suggest you take your mum off your ‘safe’ list. This is a list of people you can discuss your anxiety triggers with. Sounds simple but having a safe an a unsafe list can help you manage your boundaries and keep you mentally well
I hate hearing people make comments like that.Even tho I’m a girl,my heart goes out for you.It seems at times that society is harsher on guys that have mental illness
@@xar91 Hi. I sincerely hope you never experience anxiety attacks. Anyway, after fighting anxiety for three years now, here's what I can tell you: 1. "It's all in your head" isn't exactly true. Anxiety is not a byproduct of mere imagination. It's a mental struggle; a manifestation that something isn't right with the way your brain is processing information. 2. "Nobody else can help you but yourself" isn't a definite truth as well. While making a deliberate decision to help yourself is the pivotal step to healing, someone suffering from anxiety requires more than himself to get better. Going to a professional is always strongly encouraged (just like how Psych2Go has always reminded us). Of course, reliable support systems are also as crucial as the first two mentioned. 3. "Just stop it. Don't think about it" cannot be true/applicable at all. It's like saying to someone with a cough, "Just stop it. Don't cough." Anyone who experiences anxiety attacks will tell you how much they want to avoid the episodes. That is why most of us stay away from the triggers, regardless how miserable it can be (imagine skipping a sentimental dinner with someone special just because you're afraid of people that surrounds you). I wish we could just stop it. Life could have been so much easier. Sadly, no matter how much we try to distract ourselves, it always finds its way back to our minds.
@@xar91 Again people who have no PHD,first Hand experience or anything speaking on subjects they know nothing about. There’s physical symptoms that come from it so I’d suggest doing some research on things first.
Some things that my parents always say to me are: “Your only like this because of your iPad “ “Your just like me when I was a child” “You don’t need any help, your fine” “Talking to a therapist isn’t gunna help you” Because of these I’ve stopped telling them about any of it, luckily I have many great friends that have anxiety as well and they know how to comfort me
My school AEP teacher told me," its all in ur head, make urself busy with work. You r over thinking things bcuz u r idle" and all this when I went to her and just said I feel really sad and depressed. She didn't listen to the things I wanted to say...other than that everything listed above has been said to me but I especially quoted that bcuz it was coming from someone who was supposed to help.
@@DontInterractWithMeBetween9-5. I don't know what you mean but of course I care about people with anxiety and many problems and I try to help people the best I can always! This person was my cousin, I was living with her and she hurt me pretty bad, and when I was having anxiety attacks or panic attacks she would leave me alone and critizise me because for her I was "overreacting" to everything, even to the most quiet noise in the house. If she told me she was facing some things I would've helped her the best way I could, with anxiety or not. Instead, she told me nothing and kept telling me these things.
"At least you don't have bills to pay" "Go back to sleep, you're fine" "You'll grow out of your problems" "Other people have anxiety too" What I like to hear: "Hey, it's alright to feel like this, i'm always going to be here to comfort you when you need it"
“It’s all in your head” Austin Jamie- “You’re getting anxious over nothing” Mum, Dad Jamie and My teacher- “Everything is going to be fine” My singing teacher and mum- “Stop acting like that! It’s weird” Cooper, Cousins, My mum, my dad- “Oh here we go again” Austin, Dad and Jamie- “I know exactly how you feel” My mum, Indi and Zahlii- “Is it me? Did I do something wrong?” Izzie, James, Zahlii
@Bacon Bandito tell the part of our brain that is telling us that everyone will hate us and you'll do it all wrong, that. Thank you That's not everything that going through a mind of someone with social anxiety I just tried to think of something quick
@Bacon Bandito I'm seeing you in a lot of these comments saying some pretty rude stuff. You clearly don't understand anxiety so you should be makeing such bold statements.
"You're just an attention seeker."/"Stop attention-seeking." 1. It's called a rant. 2. How would _you_ feel if you were told this when you needed help? 3. You don't know everything about someone's life.
@@anagonzalez-mm4sz i was raged about all of them are saying same thing sorry i didnt mean that i usually erase all my comment in weeks also sorry if i offended you you, here some cake for the damage 🍰
I'm tired of people telling me or other people with anxiety "you're only doing this for attention" or "you're only having a panic attack because you want to" I feel like more people need to address comments like these.
Was brought to my school counsellor today - she normally deals with ADHD students all that from what I’ve heard apparently I’ve got moderate-severe social anxiety and it’s gotten to the point I am beginning to avoid school. I’m always arriving late (usually 5-10min) When she counselled me this morning, she told me to tell my brain if I’m overthinking, to just say “I’ve got work to do!” So to basically like push the overthinking and anxiety to the side Normally I see the other counsellor (who works Thursday/Friday, but this one works Monday/Tuesday) Sent me to class half crying. It was overall already a while later, but... hell.. I can’t just tell myself “hey let’s stop overthinking, I’ve got work to do !!”
At least you get that my parents don't belive that I have anxiety everything I bring up they won't get me diagnosed and its getting harder and harder by the day. J have school. So I'm missing assignments. My mom won't get off my back. And I have to share a room with my little sister who is always yelling
@@dyamondwomack549 my parents believe I have anexiety and the therapist and doctor confirmed it but they are like oh it’s nothing we all get scared and nervous all the time like bruh it’s not that simple and yea it’s hard to do school work when ur constantly scared of something bad happening
*"I know how you feel"* *"You're not the only one, loads of people have anxiety"* - yeah but how does that help me in the moment. I'm not having a breakdown because I have anxiety and think I'm the only one... *"It's all in your head"* - I know it is, but I can't escape my head so.... *"You're not thinking rationally"* - I'm thinking rationally for myself 🙄 *"There are people worse off than you"* - oh great, so now I'm supposed to feel guilty for struggling, start worrying about other people and in general just make myself feel like a bad person, all while I have no control of my body...
"You're not thinking rationally " yeah maybe because I have a fucking mental illness that makes me be on the top of weird scary thoughts and many mixed emotions, don't you think mister rationally?
Oh boy I just hate when people think just because it's a mental illness you gonna get through it and be fine alone. Whenever this statement pops up I say : imagine if you broke your arm in a time that medicine couldn't understand so well how to treat, and what's going on inside your body. If you have money and conditions, maybe you'll go see a doctor, but the bone still takes quite some time to be fine again. Imagine feeling the pain, the suffering and all the bad stuff and having to hear: yeah but your father lost his leg on the war, and you haven't even went for one. You're pain is nothing compared to his you know that, you should stop being dramatic, it'll be fine soon, quite the winning, at least you still have your arm with you, starving homeless people are struggling more than you, you're just making this little thing a big deal. Mental illness are diseases, and pain it's not a fucking number to be compared.
So all people break downs with themselfves but don' be so over dramatic deal with it . And keep to your self 😂BFD. Tell a professal because some in your life should kept privete only between medical professinal and you i donot brocast presonal probelm all around keep it to your self😂😂lol BFD .NOW DAYS WHO CARRS#$$^*?●○◇😮😂😂😮😢😂🎉😂🎉🎉🎉🎉
my dad once told me, “stop being so dramatic.” when i was having a panic attack. later he told me, “i’m sorry, i know you have teenage problems.” I don’t think i’ve ever felt more degraded in my life.
'least your dad apologised. I have depression and possibly anxiety, and I was in my room and my dad said: "you can't have depression you're to young!" And he never apologised.
Oh... I kinda understand you. My mom said things like "you want attention", "you like to have a problem", "you don't try to solve your problems". But it is true that teenage make this things worse... Beeing a teen while having mental illness is hard...
My dad does this shit all the time. edit:this was super long and turned into a vent so ignore the rest. If you're curious, tldr is I relate to the posts here, dad make panic worse and never apologises , I'm socially awkward and this idiot discovers they might have emotional trauma. Might delete this because I just complain for like a million pages and noone needs to hear that. edit 2: I shouldn't have written this, everyone has their own (most likely worse)problems and this probs just sounds like I want attention ... Today he said I should just grow up and get over it while I was already having a panic attack. One of my triggers is people yelling and/or getting mad at me for things I can't control or stop(yes it's because of him) so him saying things along the line of "quit it" or "grow up" or "that shouldn't bother you" were a lovely addition. At least my mom was there to correct him and explain that what he said just made it worse(I was almost out of the woods but then he had to open his mouth and I started having a worse attack reacting to my trigger). What's worse is he never apologises for the things he says or does even when corrected or told they hurt someone, he just moves on and never acknowledges he hurt me and made it worse. He always gets annoyed at the loudness of my panic and anxiety attacks (I sometimes have fits of uncontrollable screaming, expecially if I try to talk or if I get one that wakes me up while sleeping). Sometimes I can't talk for a while after a panic attack and I have to wither mime stuff out or write it down and ApParEntLY that's annoying too(to wait for me to finish writing or when my mom has to guess what I'm signing/mimeing. He constantly invalidates my anxiety, sleep disorder, depression and panic disorder and doesn't listen to me when I try to explain how it affects me or what's going on during an attack. And that's just if he shows interest in "helping" at all (he usually just leaves me on my own when I have an attack and thinks I should get over it myself w/out help and sometimes even tells my mom to leave me too, but bc she's a good person and parent she has never left me unless it's really important, like to take care of a pot on the stove or to get me something that might help me and she always asks if/ makes sure I'll be ok on my own for a bit: helps me to floor or sit down, makes sure I can breath properly,etc). He likes to make assumptions about what's bothering me or what should be done about it. My mom (who is super supportive) tries to explain based on conversations we have (I feel more comfortable talking to her because she actually listens to me, knows more about what helps/how it affects me bc she is usually taking care of me during an attack and talking to my dad is like talking to a brick wall so we have an agreement that she can speak on my behalf to my dad because I really don't want to) but he only half listens (rarely adjusts his behaviour) and ignores my contributions or specification on the points my mom brings up. He makes me feel unwanted and like my anxiety and panic/anxiety attacks are a burden on everyone else(especially my mom) Sorry I rambled the words just kept coming, I guess I needed to vent... Reading this over I think I have unresolved emotional childhood trauma regarding my dad which affects me more in the present. I'd talk to therapist about it but I have trouble waking up and I don't feel comfortable doing it in person (cause I'm afraid of getting covid even tho I'm double vaxxed)or over a video call(there's nowhere in my house where my family won't hear and there's stuff that is about them that id rather keep private (my mom would feel like she didn't do enough to help or that she could've prevented things from happening, my sibling would make fun of me and my dad is well... my dad). And for SoMe damn rEAsOn talking at a bunch of random strangers is somehow less difficult than reconnecting with my friends and telling them what's wrong. I'll probably delete this, I need to sleep.
Idk why but it's comforting to know this. My mom does all but two and all this time I've been feeling like I was too stubborn to take it correctly. She's not trying to be harmful but I think that "there is nothing to worry about" and "I know what you're going through" are the worst. Those phrases stick In my mind.
“Deep breathes” “Many people feel this but they don,t overreact like you” “Did I do something” “Here we go again” “Stop being so sensitive” “You have it so good compared to others” “Oh just stop crying”
Does "did i do something wrong" actually annoy you guys, i don't have anxiety and i don't know what it's like, I'm trying to help someone who had it tho, i didn't say that sentence but i might, now i don't understand why it annoys because someone that says that means that they care and suspect themselves making a mistake, so why does it annoy, i don't get it, someone please explain
@@Joe-ou1iw Deep breaths can make a person with anxiety hyperventilate. And did I do something wrong will make the person feel bad because they think it's their fault you feel bad about it.
“Haveing depression and anxiety is like being scared and tired at the same time. It’s the fear of failure without the urge to be more productive. It’s wanting friends but hating socializing. It’s wanting to be alone but not lonely.Its feeling everything at once and then feeling paralyzingly numb.” 💜💜💜💜💜💜
ohgawd, that's another comment I hate from people (not yours, yours is absolutely valid), the whole 'don't you want to go out somewhere? Aren't you lonely? Always by yourself?' Like... no. I feel FAR more lonely in a group full of people than I could ever feel when I'm alone.
I can’t describe how much this resonated with me. I haven’t been diagnosed with either, but I have been having a really hard time recently, especially in quarantine. Usually I’ll have my friends to distract me from what I’m thinking at school, but now I’m stuck with my thoughts constantly. My procrastination is out of hand, I’m in my last year of school and am so behind but can’t find it in myself to do anything about it. I also hate talking about how I feel, especially to my parents. My mum keeps telling me that it is something ‘deeper’ that is influencing my procrastination, but doesn’t think it’s anything as serious as depression or anxiety, but I’m honestly not sure anymore...and maybe she says that because she doesn’t really understand what either truly can be
When I'm having a panick attack and someone says to me "Calm Down". I usually start breathing and crying even harder and I just don't know why. That's why I usually hide from others when I feel it will star again... It's just horrible
I feel you man, i have panic disorder so I experience it on a daily basis, but I've been trying some meditation and having some peaceful time by myself lately and it helped me so much. The first time i had a panic attack i was surrounded by my friends and cus they don't know what's going on it just make some things more worse. So now whenever i had one I'll just ran off into somewhere quite and just keep on slowly breathing until it all stops.
That's human nature. When in an excited mental state, humans will tend to do exactly the opposite of whatever they're told. Police and especially "negotiators" and "public relations" train on this very point. I honestly don't know why more people aren't taught this. If you want an otherwise excitable crowd to turn into a mob, just tell them not to panic... and in record time, you will instigate a riot. SO in that particular manner, you're actually relatively normal. It might only be anecdotal, but I've never EVER seen someone told to "Calm down" who actually didn't get even worse than they started... It's the fastest way to get punched in the face when trying to stop someone with violent tendencies... AND may well be the single most useless phrase in all of the English language. ;o)
"Get used to it" "You're just looking for attention" "Stop acting like you have it worse. I *insert their problem here*" "You don't get to feel that way" "This ain't about you" "Just talk to us/me" (This one hurts when they've done nothing but belittle me or make me feel like shit very time)
"If you don't quit doing that, I really am going to ignore you" "Thanks for not acting like an idiot in so long" (when not relapsing for a while) "I don't want to hear any more excuses" "You never improve" "Stop being so anxious" "Don't start doing that, please" "Here we go again..." And the list of things I've been told goes on and on and on...
Honestly, I don't know who that is, but that doesn't sound like a good person and that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. You're having a real problem if you have anxiety or fear or anything like that. This person sounds like it's not even trying to relate. Instead they make it about them and you being weird eland bothersome to them. Sorry about my rant, but my poisonous people alarm bells are ringing...
@@Navi405 no you will feel down because of the lack of understanding your parents have. Don't blame yourself for that. Also that list is discusting how dare anyone say that to anyone. How do they expect you to get better if they are saying such things. sorry if I'm being rude this makes me really angry and your parents really need to be educated on this if they want to make your life easier
@@Smartie234 You are not wrong. This person has been abusive to me many times already. Gaslighting, manipulating, threatening, insulting, humilliating, belittling, invalidating, guilt tripping, and so much more he has done to me, then calls me a problem. When we were in a relationship, he would also cheat, dismiss and ignore my needs and wants, break up with me and then take me back, made me feel guilty for attempting suicide once when being with him ("You don't even deserve me here with you"), got angry if I used meds to cope with my symptoms, locked me up and abandoned me while going out to cheat on me, and it all ended up with a physical fight where his own mother helped me escape because I had no money at that moment. I left, blocked him everywhere, went several months with no contact, then suddenly I get an e-mail from him asking me to have a talk, he apologized, I forgave him, we stayed in contact, the emotional toying started again, and that's how I got here.
@@Navi405 It feels like shit when it happens. Mostly because compared to this person, I actually do thorough research and practice things that are meant to help me improve, I even got back to therapy and meds.
@Bxtsh. s I kinda relate. The person who would tell me these things doesn't want to talk to me anymore ever since I told one of their friends what he was doing to me, he called me two-faced and cut me off. He was the only person I felt comfortable being around with in real life, so yeah...
When I had my first anxiety attack, I had trouble calming myself down until one of my friends walked up to me and I asked her for a hug. Now note, she didn't know I was having an anxiety attack in the first place. But she still hugged me and kept me calm. She didn't even ask why. The best part was the next day, she asked me if I was feeling better and at that moment I realized how great of friends I have ❤❤
Why would asking "why?" Or "what happened?" be a bad thing? I wanna know because i think one of my friends has anxiety and i think this would help alot
i love getting hugged out of no where i have two teachers i love dearly and there like my moms to me whenever they randomly hug me and tell me there proud of me it makes me smile and think abt how i have people who love me but then sometimes i feel alone they make me not feel alone
@@saviourr69 Idk about other people,but for me as a person who have depression and anxiety I think im sick and tired of this damn question the thing i do in school is just put my head down and try to rest like school the classes and staying without moving and sometimes i feel gonna throw up and like something i just cant control anyway so i always in school as i said i put my head down SOMETIMES I DO IT BECAUSE IM TIRED SOMETIMES I NEED TO REST OR I JUST DO IT CAUSE I DONT WANT TO TALK TO ANYONE and i have been anxious in front of the class when i was doing a presentation I realized for the first time i had anxiety and the next time i did presentation i make sure that i have anxiety And no one talked about it THAT FEELING I CANT SAY IT IN ANY LANGUAGE IN ANY WORDS CAUSE KNOWING PEOPLE THERE SITTING JUST KNOWING THEY ARE ALL FUCKING KNOW THAT I HAD ANXIETY AND THEY JUST SITTING THEY JUST !!!!!! And after that i never asked anyone about how did i looked CAUSE I KNEW HOW DID I LOOKED MYSELF so one time a girl she talked about how our presentation and she said to me that “ you was a little nervous “ And i knew that she was fucking lying she is fucking okay im not gonna talk and be racist cause it had nothing with her country AGH aanyway i knew she was lying cause i freaked the shit out !!!! i knew it wasnt a little idk if this one of the symptoms of being a person with anxiety that i think in this way Also asking someone if he is fine i mean i get this question a lot in my life and the fact that im not fine and its fucking clear that im not all my god damn actions it shows that im not even a little god damn fine !!!! im depressed and i have anxiety and i have childhood trauma i have ibs-c im god damn sick physically and mentally !!!!!!! So asking someone if he is fucking god damn fine HE IS FUCKING NOT LIKE SINCE I HAVE BEEN FUCKING BORN IN THIS FUCKING WORLD I HAVE NEVER BEEN OKAY !!!!!! So for my opinion i see this as a dumb question i hate people who is trying to be good but they actually dont give a single damn about u cause even therapists they get sick of you when the therapist get sick of you they said like im gonna send ya to other goddamn therapist Anyway so like if u dont wanna be like with that person like really idk if u are serious Of your love to that person if u truly think that u wanna be with that person forever as friends or whatever i think at the end maybe u gonna get to the point that they gonna believe that u truly care but thats( for me ) it will be difficult to be close to me or i trust that u gonna love me through this shit anxiety or like idk anyway .. thats my answer and its about my personality and idk the others maybe they will disagree .
I honestly get tired of always being told to "Get over it" or "just do it, it's not that difficult". No one knows what you as an individual are thinking or feeling and assume that you can just shut it off and "act normal". Being told that you are "faking it" hurts so much because it feels as though you can't confine to anyone because they will just judge you and put it to the side, ignoring your mental state. Another thing for my anxiety is that when trying to comfort me, saying "no one's looking or paying attention to you" does not help or make me comfortable because to me one wrong move and everyone WILL THEN look at me and think of me negatively while silently analyzing all my flaws making me insecure and go through the physical pain of an anxiety attack even if it's just minor.
"your to ung to have anxiety" "your always smiling, i don't believe you" "get of your phone" "just make some friends" "i will never leave you" and then the next day they block you. "i don't need to hear about this, go find someone else" like i have my own problems to deal with, yes i might be 13 but i have been going through some stuff over the years.
Emma Grønborg dude, I know. I'm almost 15 and my 'dad' denied the fact I had signs of autism when Mum did a search online. People don't like change, so they pretend it never happened.
"Why won't you just tell me what's wrong?!" "Get over it already" "You're just dragging me down, why can't you just learn to love yourself?" "I don't get why you're overreacting" "You have no reason to feel this way" "So many other people have it worse than you"
1. "I came over anxiety and so can you" for me I had anxiety my whole life since I was a kid and it's really hard to get over my anxiety so that's one phrase I'm tired of hearing but great video! I love your videos and content 💕 keep up the good work! 😊👍
@@Alisonsgachaverse I'm sorry that your dad does that to you I understand the feeling when someone says that but you can get through this with your anxiety and just don't let anxiety get the best of you I have both anxiety and social anxiety but just listen to calm and relaxing music and do whatever makes you happy while listening to music😊 you got this! I believe in you!
Honestly, the things that people mostly say to me are: *”You get anxiety over the slightest things!”* *”Stop pretending to be anxious to get what you want!”* *”You think you have it bad? Well you haven’t been through what I have! You aren’t me!”* Edit: Thanks for 100 likes. Feel free to vent to me in the replies, I’ll try my best to help
i once panicked because my dad was in a bad mood and he told me to hoover, but the head of the hoover was missing. was looking every way desperately and i had a panic attack because i was scared my dad would shout at me any minute that i hadn’t started yet. i started crying and my mom asked me what was wrong. i told her i had an anxiety attack and she didn’t believe me. she set “no you didn’t. you’re just trying to get out of hoovering. just do it” i tried to convince her i really did but she wouldn’t believe me. my dad wouldn’t even believe me either and it just mad him more mad at me. that isn’t the first time she didn’t believe me. a few months ago in school i started feeling anxious and i didn’t know why and it lasted for 2 hours and started getting worse and worse. this was the first time i felt that bad and nothing even triggered it. when i wasn’t sure what to do so i went and found my favourite teacher that i’m most comfortable with and told him how i felt. he called my parents and my dad got me and did seem to believe me but when i went home and my mom asked me what happened or why it happened and when i didn’t have a reason she just didn’t seem to really believe me anymore. the worst thing is my mom has anxiety. she is diagnosed and even takes meds for it because it was severe enough. but she doesn’t believe i truly have it because she for some reason thinks i’m pretending to have it because she does. i haven’t been brought to a doctor or gotten any diagnosis because my parents won’t believe me. i don’t even know what to do about it. i think i may have depression as well because a lot i just feel empty or like i there’s no point to bother with anything. especially nowadays. i tried to tell my parents about this, i told them i feel sad a lot because i wasn’t sure how else to explain it, and they just said “you need a break from your technology” the only one who understands me is my only friend. she has anxiety and has actually been diagnosed and got help because her mom believed her. i don’t even know what to do at this point. i’ve given up on telling my parents about anything and suffer silently, even if it happens in school.
AzureDust That is completely fucked (sorry for my language) up. Your parents should believe you! You’re their child! I hardly know you, but if you ever need somebody to talk to I’m here :)
AzureDust As manipulative as this sounds, stop talking to your parents until they start considering your anxiety-if a parent, a farmer that's supposed to grow a seed-stops watering it, and someone else ends up doing it for them(your friends and teachers, apparently,) then they're the new farmers. Just stick with the people that seem to care about you the most. Only interact with them when you **have to**, like chores or grocery shopping. And this one sounds pretty outlandish, but works: even if they ask "how was your day?" as you go to your bed, you can just straight up ignore them-days have problems, and they're denying one of the biggest problems of your life. When they finally confront you about it in a caring, passive way, that's when you tell them how you feel.
Cockroach but i love my parents. i like spending time with them. they just won’t believe me about anxiety. it’s sucks but that doesn’t seem right. i like reading with my mom.. playing video games with my dad.. i just don’t tell them anything anymore. i have my best friend for that. she’s great
@Bacon Bandito you try hyperventilating a lot unable to stop it for what feels like forever, shaking, cold and hot at the same fucking time and then come back and laugh
"Don't think about it", "We've already talked about this" (I tend to vent a lot about the same thing when I get anxious about something in particular) and "You seem to always look for problems where there aren't"
This one was common for me: *”if you had’ve done [insert task] you wouldn’t be in this mess”* - like, say you got distracted and forgot to do something important and suddenly realised that you did, and that there’d be consequences if it didn’t get done. It’s so important that once you find the cause of the attack, DON’T blame the person or try to “solve” their problem like that. It just makes them feel worse since they’ve probably internally acknowledged their mistake already and feeling horrible about it, so having that negativity reinforced by someone else just escalates those feelings. If you’re going to try and help them solve whatever is making them anxious, guide them with supportive questions and give them the safety and freedom to determine their course of action. NEVER try and solve it for them - that’s disempowering and condescending. For me, such discussions about what to do to fix it are best left until after I’ve calmed down and can rationally discuss options - in the meantime, it’s best to let them know that you’re there for them and to comfort and support them through the worst of the attack before helping them to solve the issue.
Another one that might seem controversial Bringing religion into the matter “Don’t worry God has a plan” or “Remember God loves and care for you” and I know they mean good but it always feels like they don’t want to put the time in to actually empathize or that maybe they’re too scared to acknowledge that they don’t know, and I don’t know if this applies to others but I’m fine with it if they don’t know how to help me, I want someone to help me through it not give me “answers” to it
I used to hate that all the time when I was younger too, but now at 27, going through the things that I have, I realize that they were just trying to encourage me. The faith and trust I had in God even when I was still skeptical He even existed, is honestly the only thing that got me through my most difficult times. It's funny that now I'm thanking the people who used to say that to me 😅 I'm sorry you're going through what you are and I do recommend seeking help or therapy (especially if the thought has ever crossed your mind before). If you're young, it's not wise to rely solely on friends (they're young, not fully mature yet, and all going through their own things too), especially if your situation is more severe. We all have our trials to go through to become who we're meant to be and growing up is the hardest thing you'll ever do (especially if you're battling mental illness with it...). My mother told me that as a young teen and I fully believe that now. And just because it really helped me to keep this in the back of my head... I would like to advise you keep in mind that *it does get better*. It honestly, truly does. I believe in you ❤️
Ti Q yeah I understand thanks for the reply, I’m 17 currently and I don’t really have friends per Seay but even so I don’t want to burden others with my problems, I guess meaning I’m mostly trying to sort things out my self and of course it’s pretty stressful especially since I’m finishing school soon Btw after this lockdown I asked my parents if we can book a visit to a psychiatrist/psychologist/therapist (can’t remember which one is which) and thank you again for replying, it really helps knowing someone else understands what I meant
@@makotoyuki345 Oh, that is wonderful news! I was admittedly too arrogant at your age to admit I needed help and let it go on for far too long, so really, I'm so glad to hear that :) I wish you all the best and pray for you and your family's safety! I know people always say this lol but college is way different than k-12 (and not in the bs way teachers would always try to tell us middle was from elementary or high school from middle). You'll still come across people your age that have growing up to do, but there will be other, older, more mature people there too, with similar interests (depending on the class ofc). I hope you find good, supportive people to surround yourself with 😉 It really makes all the difference.
Makoto Yuki Especially if you're an atheist. You do you, but don't assume everyone's doin you, ya know? That came out wrong Mentioning "God" in reply to any of my problems just makes me more edgy and cynical that day. Not that I don't love religious people, my grandparents are the best people I know, and they're in a cult(Jehovah's Witnesses, the one I was raised in), and while it's annoying when they get pushy, they're the most positive people I know personally. But after dealing with everyone in my family except my dad shoving that form of Christianity down my throat, I just don't wanna think about a god.
@Cockroach yeah I know what you mean, like I love my parents I really do But from time to time we have bible studies where we read a verse and talk about it’s meaning but you see I have symptoms of anxiety and depression and some of them I feel they’re trying to direct at me cuz the verses say stuff like: “cast your anxieties on the lord for he cares” or “pray to god and he will relive your anxious mind” etc I know they’re just trying to help the best way they can but I don’t want to speak out, cuz I’m afraid they might think I’m going against the word of god or something like that
I’ve had anxiety since I was 6 diagnosed officially at 8 and this video is the most accurate one I’ve ever seen these all trigger me and makes it much worse
My mom has a masters in psychology and she said that anxiety is the “elegant” mental illness and the best mental illness you could have, and that it didn’t even have much stigma like depression and others. It was really invalidating as someone with anxiety, especially knowing that she has expert knowledge on the subject, and I’m hoping all psychologists don’t have this mindset when helping others with anxiety.
BruhByers I KNOW RIGHT I start to feel super nauseous and my heart starts racing and I feel like I’m about to faint and sometimes I throw up, and IM BEING DRAMATIC like what 👁 👄 👁
"She's fed on drama, the more attention you give, the worse it gets." "Now, let me be your therapist, tell me whats going on. (but doesn't listen properly and interrupts at all time)" (Sorry if there's any grammar or spelling error, English is not my mother language. If there is any, please point it out.)
I said the second sentence to someone once and she got mad. But I said it because I myself was feeling anxious, and she have certain kind of anxiety too I think. She was talking to me about something and I said to her "Do you want me to be your therapist?" and she said "No I don't, I have a therapist, I just wanted you to be my friend" and I got really sad and I said sorry to her and she said sorry to me also, she said she was having a bad time. But I said what I said because of my own insecurities, in my insides I was thinking I may being annoying always talking by my experience. I still remember that because I hated the way she answered me and I don't know, I'm very empathic and I don't think I would answer like that to someone even if I'm going trough a bad time.
"don't be so overdramatic" "Such a crybaby" "What's wrong with you?" "Stop crying" "This is why you don't have any real friends" These were all things said to me by my childhood bully, causing me to have even worse anxiety now and severely low self-esteem. I'm so thankful that my brother was there to protect me. But once he went on to middle School, I was alone and free to be picked on, picked apart, get dust kicked in my eyes and left on the ground in pain. I'm in a much better place now than I was then as he changed schools and I'm in middle school, but I still think about what he said and did to me when I was still so young. Granted, I'm still a child but now I have the courage to stand up for myself when noone else can. Thank you to my brother for his protection Thank you to my therapist for helping work out my emotions Thank you to my friends who will sit next to me and just talk when I'm on the verge of screaming And thank you to my bully for my stronger bonds with the people above. I hope you are a better person now, But I still don't want to talk to you
wapaloosie a. I’m not diagnosed with anxiety, but I have no doubt I have some kind. I’m scared to talk to people/tell peopel how I feel it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like it, so I don’t ever ;-;. My dad says to me “why are you crying?” I live in a house full of boys bc my mom passed away and what he says at times just makes me feel worse...
@@shelbysnow1288 thanks for the laugh 🤣. He's actually my neighbor so I see him a lot. Don't worry, he doesn't normally try to come up to me. Even if he does, I usually just quicken my pace and look at the ground. Besides, my brother said that he's changed for the better.
"You don't know what 'real' stress is." "You're making this harder than it actually is." "Everyone feels anxiety from time to time." "You can't keep taking those meds forever." "You seem to have life under control." "Just do it!" "Attention seeking." "Anxiety doesn't define you."(said while having or just had an attack) *that FFS look on their face after you tell them you have anxiety*
Some phrases I’m tired of hearing, as a person with anxiety: “I understand how you feel” “Just don’t think about it” “It’s ok” “I know how it is, Ive been through it before” “It’s in your head” “Get over it” Most of these have been said to me from a very close relative in my life. They say they know how it is like, but they’ve experienced it many, many years ago, and most likely dont remember. Another close person in my life who has anxiety tell them not to say those things because it can make the other feel like you really don’t understand. They’ve tried telling the other person many times, but they don’t understand.
@@reevparish3802maybe instead of saying anything, you can ask them if they want to hug, or have a shoulder to cry on. I know if I was your friend I would be extremely greatful, but that’s just me so maybe you can ask your friend what you can do to comfort them! :>
My friend has anxiety, and while I try my very best to support them sometimes I just feel like the therapist friend. I know they can’t help it and they don’t want to be anxious, but I still have this voice in the back of my head like “why are they crying over that?”. But i think I do a pretty alright job of only being nice to them. They just seem to forget about all the people who support them sometimes.
Timecodes: 0:46 - It's all in your head. 1:11 - You're getting anxious over nothing. 1:42 - Everything is going to be fine. 2:22 - Stop acting like that! It's weird. 3:02 - Oh, here we go again. 3:40 - I know exactly how you feel. 4:19 - Is it me? Did I do something wrong?
I'm suffering from anxiety too. Your videos are really helpful. I've been watching one of your videos and helped me realize that I'm not the only one alone. I'm learning a lot from it cause I've been suffering from anxiety for years and taking medication for it. Thank you for uploading these videos on RUclips!!
Never tell someone in a panic attack to calm down, drives me nuts when people say that to me, using grounding techniques is helpful but takes practice, marginal success so far
From what I've heard, try naming your environment to calm yourself. 1) Name 5 things you see 2) Name 5 things you hear (feel) 3) Name 5 things you know Hope this helps
Ikr! For me I'll just tell them why whatever they say is false if (it hasn't happened) they say it to me, but it hurts worse when it's someone else. Like, only you truly know you.
i was having a panic attack at school and my teacher (who is the teacher who is supposed to be helping me with all this btw) was like “there’s people that have it worse then you” and “stop crying your making it worse” like... EXCUSE ME
Ali-Bee time that's horrible. I'm so sorry your mum is being so indifferent towards your anxiety. If she just did a google search, she'd find out for herself.
i hate going places alone so once i asked my mum to come somewhere and she told me "you need to grow up!" and i was like "anxiety mum" nd she told me anxiety is just me being immature
Me: finally calmed down and trying to move on and hold back tears Someone: are you okay Me: *burst into tears again* It’s honestly the thing that affects me the most. After I have a lot of anxiety I just want to be treated normally, that’s helps me bounce back. If someone treats me like I’m a hurt puppy it makes it worse
@@dragonzrsick2543 saying "are you ok?" Makes me feel like there's something wrong with me, which doesn't help my spiraling. It only adds to the hundreds of thoughts going through my head. I don't want sympathy, I need empathy and to be treated like a human
@@wapaloosie9512 Yeah . . . I need human comfort from my family, not a therapist. They just won't give it to me when I hole it up. They don't know me well enough to understand when I need it but don't express that I need it.
@@Kai-iy3kk Personally, I think someone asking “are you okay” to me would help (to be fair, the only panic attacks I’ve had are in my bed late at night for no reason, not around people). I have a very close friend that I value a lot (though I don’t know if she sees me the same way 😔) and one night she asked me if I was okay after an argument with my brother, and it made me feel so relieved that I had someone in my life that cared
Only one I dissagree with is the reassurance one. When it comes to my anxiety reassurance is what helps the most, it helps me feel more secure. And without it I’m a wreck. So being told everything is gonna be okay, and being reassured that I am loved, is very helpful for me.
“What’s wrong with you!” “Can’t you just be like everyone else” “What are you in, Depression?!?” “Nothing is wrong!” Why would you EVER say this to someone! This can affect them in every way. Actually, I have some anxiety and I’ve heard some of those cruel words said to my face..
Something I've heard from my mother "Only poor people have anxiety" "You are ungreatful" She thinks only poor people have anxiety because her boyfriend who's a taximetrist and has 0 studies in this domain said so.
@@shelbysnow1288 As a poor person with various mental illness mostly related to anxiety. The reason why someone would say that is because poor people have less resources to deal with their illnesses as a result their symptoms are more obvious because they unable to get help. That's why a high portion of homeless people have some form of mental illness. They're homeless because they don't have resources to help them function in society. Mental illness is higher in poverty stricken individuals because they can't afford resources to help or their illness makes it difficult for them to get help. Mental illness doesn't discriminate but it's easier to get help for it when you have a support system and money.
@@WindspielArt Exactly that's why I listed a support system first. You can be poor with mental illness and be fine because you have a support system. You can be wealthy and unable to get help because of stigmatization from your family.
I can so much relate to every 7 things that are said ! “ I’m sure it will be fine” “ is it because of me “ “ started again … stop being sad and upset all the time “ … It’s all so annoying to hear and I do most of the time from ppl around me. And this is one of reason I do not open up to talk with others , coz they don’t understand !!!! I mean it ... They never do :/ I rather prefer to have it all in me because I’m the only who understands
"There's people that have it worse than you."
No duh, Sherlock, but that's not helping the person right in front of you.
THIS IS WHAT MY MOM HAD A 3 HOURS LONG "CONVERSATION" (She yells and blame me for my anxiety and I shut up and stare at her) YESTERDAY, She compared my anxiety to fucking cancer just to point out that she's right. God please make her more empathic. Please.
" A: there are people who have it worse than you, you have no right to be sad
B: There are also people who have it much better than you, so you have no right to be happy"
Big Leo this is precise
Big Leo IK people always says that with me!🙄
It doesn't matter people don't have to invalidate other's feelings
"you're acting"
"you just want attention"
"stop crying"
"it'll be fine, you'll get over it"
"stop making faces"
As a friend to someone who has anxiety, I learnt that these make everything worse for them. Never say anything like this to them. Their mental state cannot handle it. Just give them a hug and stay there with them until they say that they are fine, out of THEIR own mouth. Don't force them to be "fine"
Depression too actually.
Yup...loseing weight stres related is acting
Btw i agree with you
I almost lost most of my friends because they're all feed up by me... I know it's not easy to have a friend like me, but I can't help myself from anxiety attack... That's why I became somewhat introvert... I can't afford losing any friend now... I feel sorry for them for having to know me😅
"stop crying" but they are screaming at you
“every student feels like that sometimes“ ...duh thank you mom
1. “There’s someone at the phone who wants to speak with you”.
Omg yes.
Omg yes
Wow exactly
OMG yes
So relatable
"Stop overreacting"
"Stop being wierd"
"Its just in your head"
"Here we go again"
"Get off your phone"
"We all have problem, just stop over reacting over it"
And when i try to explain why i stop go out /hangout with others they say "its just your lazyness stop make nonsense/stupid reason"
Then i done explain to anyone, i realize that they would never understand :/
I hope you find someone that will understand you :")
@@cheeseycheezy thanks
Yes this is what my family said 😔
If you are selective with who you spend time with, you will find people who understand you, validate you and support you. A lot of people who don't understand never went through anything like what you went through or were told similar things when feeling upset and have no capacity or idea of how to be there for someone in an emotional way. But a lot of other people do- they just seem to be more rare because we are much likelier to associate with people who are representations of childhood figures and the people that either caused or severely heightened the anxiety we felt when it started to become a part of our lives.
And it's not the difficulties in our life that hurt the most- it's going through it alone. If your friends don't understand you- or don't try to understand you- then know there is much better out there waiting for you. You're not alone, there are people who truly get it and people who truly want to understand, even if they've never experienced it themselves. The more authentically you can be yourself, the faster you will bring them into your life. I know that might be the hardest thing I could ever ask but being authentic about our experience with anxiety (or anything) even the tiniest amount can be extremely helpful- it's like putting out a call to people who are seeking someone like you
My sis said everyone will have anxiety is just that how high the anxiety level is😒
7 Things Not To Say To Someone with Anxiety (Summary):
1 - It's all in your head
2 - You're getting anxious over nothing
3 - Everything is going to be fine
4 - Stop acting like that, It's weird.
5 - Oh, here we go again.
6 - I know exactly how you feel.
7 - Is it me? Did I do something wrong?
This is the summary of my mother
@@gio9789 lol 😀 relatable...
@@gio9789 It scares me how relatable your comment is
My boyfriend likes to say number 3 and number 7 to me all the time
So pretty much say nothing to someone with anxiety. Give me a fucking break
Some things I’ve been told as someone with an anxiety disorder-
:”it’s that dam phone”
:”You’er just scared. Get over it.”
:”ppl have it way worse.”
:”you have no right to act like this!”
:”you have a home, don’t act like this. It’s ungrateful.”
why do people blame everything on phones
ATS Gaming:
I don’t know tbh, but that’s something my tells me overtime when my anxiety disorder is brought up
I need Sleep I want to rightfully slap the shit out of those people.
@@teraspeXt THAT'S WHAT I WANNNAA KNOWW
@@ginthemaid112 I've never related to smth so much-
My best friend jokingly said “I miss the old you” and he didn’t mean any harm and he never would mean it like that because he doesn’t know what that kind of thing does to me but I always feel like I’m changing, in a bad way, so the second we hung up the call I immediately started bawling.
You are not alone, we're in this together
omg ikr..my dad said "i miss the old you" to me and it makes me cry harder :(
Yes I totally agree with you this is also my story it's awful thinking of you sending you love and light and many blessings stay safe lovely 🤗🤗💐💐💐💐💐❤
Rachel Casey omg I hate this too - I would love to be the old, carefree me, but that’s impossible now. It feels worse to hear it from someone else
BlueeyedCat that’s so kind thank you so much i hope if you’re going through anything too you can overcome that. we’re in it together.❤️
"Stop making everything about you"
"Stop overanalyzing things"
"You always want to go into the negative"
"It's like you like being negative all the time"
"Stop thinking to deep into things"
"Stop overthinking so much "
"Stop crying "
All of the words I hear from my mom when I try to get emotional support or sympathy 💔😭
Been there. I don't talk to my family anymore.
Who knows a it true😕
oh wow we have the same parent
That's a bad mom
@@northfox5368 She's not a bad mom it's just she'll say things to me out of tough love and we all say things we don't mean; it happens sometimes. We're human but it annoys me and makes me feel worse.
“You’re faking it”
“Stop crying”
“Calm down”
“You chose this life”
“You’ll be fine”
Who chooses the anxiety life
Maybe bts (jk)
I want Hobi to step on me
I smell...Army
Nil space 😑🙄
@@unapple8374 its joke :/
The most annoying and toxic thing I hear is that “kids don’t have stress”
Oh and Tysm for 1k likes!
Agreed, literally anyone can stress and many people stress without even knowing it.
why i don’t like r/im14andthisisdeep
Been told this many times
Yeah, and this lead me to PTSD. And my mom never know this because my parents always think psychologist are way too expensive so they claimed me never had a chance to help myself.
@Tale Teller lol so relatable
“You’re too young to have these feelings.”
“You haven’t even matured yet. When you grow up, you’d realize that all your feelings are for no reason.”
“You’ll be fine.”
I have had anxiety since I was 11 and back then my parents didn't take me seriously because I was "too young to have anxiety" and that "only teenagers and adults can have REAL anxiety". I don't think they understood how much it hurt me. They were only trying to be comforting but I wish they listened to what I was saying and didn't just push me away saying that I was "too young". It's been two years since then and now the people around me understand a little bit better. But I still don't feel comfortable to go to my parents when I'm having an anxiety or panic attack.
I’ve had anxiety since I was like 7 or 8 THAT JUST TRIGGERS ME
also if they say “you’ll be fine” I automatically think of all the reasons why I wouldn’t be fine
That's really really bad to say To kiddos like me
😖
@Deepshikha Das I feel really bad, it's always like this and it just drains me whenever I think about it. To me it feels like the already bullshit 'education system' is much more important to parents than their childrens' mental wellness, as if we're worth nothing.
Something that I hate hearing is: Everyone feels this way.
No everyone does not feel this way, and all you're doing is making me feel worse
If you have anxiety please tell me something, I have a friend who has anxiety and I'm worried about him. Is asking if he's OK quite often offensive? Yesterday he told me to stop asking and I can't tell if he hates it when I ask if he's OK. He also doesn't like talking about his problems so yeah I would appreciate if you answer
@@LegoCityFilms For me when someone asks if I'm ok sometimes it makes me feel like they actually care and sometimes it just makes me more anxious. I can't really tell you how it makes your friend feel but if he asked you to stop you might want stop or ask less often.
@@bluebookchair4301 ok thanks for replying
wooow my mom said that t me when i told her i have anxiety lmaooo
I agree!!! Why do people say these things? It is obvious that the other person is struggling so they need help. It’s like if someone was stuck in a deep hole. You would get a ladder or a rope and help the out. Same principle with anxiety and other mental issues.
'Your not anxious.'
'Your weren't anxious yesterday. Your lieing.'
They're some of the most painful things. I hear.
"Your arm wasn't broken yesterday so it can't be broken today"
That's how stupid that sounds wtf
Evelynn Bowte people are so clueless and stupid...
Request(?): *Things Not to Say to Someone with Suicidal Thoughts*
That's a good idea. :)
yes please
that's a very very great idea. i hope they see this. ^^
They made one already
Yes please!
"You could be In war."
"You're overreacting"
"Youre to young you have nothing to be anxious"
"Youre Excusing"
Oh my god I hate the "you're too young". I get that at work all the time, it's the dumbest thing.
Someone said to me, "your to young to have anxiety" and it really annoyed me and frustrated me.
No one is too young for anxiety. Mental illness does not discriminate .
"You're too young to be anxious"
My therapist used to say the same thing to me and it didn't really help me get better at handling my panic attacks. My mother used violence on me to stop my attacks but obviously it made them worse
No one is "too young" for anxiety
My roomate always says the word that makes my anxiety worse. And they also said "your too young to have anxiety" like it's really harmful and I can honestly choke then.
“You’re getting yourself worked up” - my mum whiles I was having a panic attack.
Seriously, I am so sick of hearing that from people.
“Don’t you realize you bring EVERYONE down?”
“WHY do you have to act like this now?”
“EVERYONE is going through hardship, don’t make yourself special”
Okay yeah that hit hard.
Sigh... this is why I rather stay at home. "If you want to get better I think should go out more" they say. Well sheet, no thanks if I'll end up bringing everyone down. Win.👏Win.👏
Oh yeah, I definitely relate to that. I always worry I'm bringing everyone down when I get in my "moods" because I've heard things like that too.
"Don't you realize you bring EVERYONE down?"
Ik we're talking about anxiety but this is literally what my dad has told me about my OCD, that I ruin everyone's day and make everyone upset and I deserve to get yelled at.
@@j_iris You don't deserve to get yelled out for something you can't help. Ocd is that nobody can help, it's almost impossible to change behaviour without therapy.
“Calm down!”
**gasp** Anxiety gone! Woah! Idk why I didn’t try that sooner!
Ikr smh
I'm always sarcastic to cover up my anxiousness
ikr! that's the most *HELPFUL* thing anybody has ever said to me!
Yay sarcasm my cover up!
I love the sarcasm XD
"ive been worse before!"
"youre so fortunate though."
"you werent like this"
"you dont even have a reason."
y e a
Lmao my parents always say those.
I sigh
those seem like something someone who seeks alot of attention would say, like they are making the problem worse instead of being supportive
@@wut6251 sameeee
Today I decided to confess to my brother again about my struggling with social anxiety in college. He kept saying that everybody goes through this stuff and told me to just go out more. If what I'm going through is normal, I wouldn't cry before and after class about how overwhelmed I feel everyday.
How relatable 😭
“Stop overthinking so much” “stop thinking so much” yea you don’t think I’ve tried
Tilda Decerein I hate when they list things you already know. Like please stop your not helping your just making me feel frustrated and annoyed.
This is pretty accurate. One phrase I’m tired of is “there’s something wrong with you”.
I'd be like no shit sherlock ugh
What about people telling you to "learn how to handle it" I have anxiety and someone said that to me.
@@dulciewatson6349 i hate that my family sucks at trying to help but..I know they doing it bc they love me lol
Someone said that to you!! I'm so sorry.😢hugs
Exactly like no shit sherlock now if you don't know any helpful tips I suggest you shove it back up your ass because if I wanted to hear shit coming from someone's mouth I'd start talking to my mirror.
I am someone with social anxiety and everyone keep telling me”I was like you ,then by time I stopped being’shy’” it’s not about shyness it’s worse than that .Im tired that people never understand , me going out is me getting out of my comfort zone.No,I won’t get over it and no it won’t change by time but it’ll only get worse if I do nothing about it
I know what's it's like and it does get worse but I didn't know I had social anxiety until I was eleven and I continued to force myself to do things which in the end would just drain me of energy and scare me so much. I hated everything. It started since I could walk and talk and I really wish my parents took me to a doctor instead of just assuming I was overly shy
Bacon Bandito What if I am ?what’s wrong with that?
Jiminie is a cutie it sucks really.
Im even scared to work even though I really want to work ,I know I can’t face people
My mom and older sister said shit like that and it would never help. Social anxiety and being an introvert are two different things and people need to realize that.
Bacon Bandito yes I know what gay means but stop assuming my sexuality when u know nothing about me.if u don’t have anything to say related to my comment then just scroll away
When I say that I have anxiety or that “i just feel empty today” my sister calls me “cringey” or says that “I’m faking” and that I’m “ just saying it for attention” she’s mostly the reason I don’t tell people about my feelings
Oh my god my situation is same as yours
Yup. Same case. Times 3. I dont talk with them anymore
Same, but it is my father.
It’s really frustrating that some individuals think anxiety is an excuse and you’re just being lazy and effortless.”
I’m so sorry you’re going through this situation :( I hope you are okay stranger and you get the help or support system you need :(.
Same
honestly when somebody says “is it me did i do something wrong”, in a nice concerned way ofc, i kind of appreciate it. i personally see it as them being concerned that they hurt me, as in they care about me, so it doesn’t offend me but i definetly see how it could.
I Agree. Not sure why they see it as something bad.
@GotchaGaming L. At least they helped many people.
GotchaGaming L. well i don’t think that’s completely true a lot of these things even though the person saying them might have good intentions could hurt somebody with anxiety
@GotchaGaming L. Yeah, they at least helped many other people on other videos. They may lack a few things, but I believe it is extremely helpful
@GotchaGaming L. To be honest, I dont even know what they lack. Its just some people thinks they did a crappy job and all and lack the information they really needed and those stuffs. Basically. The videos may not be perfect, but it is extremely helpful for many other people, honestly.
"Stop crying"
"Your being a crybaby."
"Stop hiding away."
"Stop being so emo."
"Why can't you be normal for once?"
"Your too old to act like that."
"You just want attention."
"A teacher: "You must do this assignment with a partner, not alone."
""Do your work with your partner or else..."
I don't know if these apply to everyone but it does for me..
I had the teacher one so many times. ;-; and some of the others...
Ah, The fist 2 is me, And it always hurts me when they keep saying it over and over
I had all of them besides the crybaby or you just want attention one.
I hate doing work with a partner. It either I'm the one doing all the work or the other way around.
I’ve been told this so many times all of them especially “ You just want attention “ and “ Your being a crybaby “ and the teacher ones
“Don’t worry what other people think!”
My mother constantly tells me this whenever I get anxious (mainly in social situations) I know it’s not always with bad intent, but it isn’t exactly helpful either...
SB Draws people without social anxiety don’t understand how it feels when you feel like you have all eyes on you... if that makes sense.
Just the feeling of everyone's eyes on you is panic inducing. I tend to freeze like a deer in headlights in those situations where I have to go up and talk in front of everyone. If I have a question I'm often too scared to try to ask and I suffer in silence as a result. Even if I somehow get through it, my heart races throughout it and after. Even if you convince yourself to not worry about what others think, you're body will react the complete opposite in that scenario and cause you to panic.
She doesn't know how you feel.
Alex The Raptor
Exactly, we don’t choose the feel this way, we just...do
SB Draws EXACTLY! My mother doesn’t seem understand that it’s hard to do when that’s all your surrounded by.
The one i hate the most “we all feel anxious sometimes”
my own dad has told me this multiple times, i feel ya
And „I know how you feel.“
Really hate it when people say that. U fucking don't know what I'm going through
My teacher told me that
I hate the one that people said is: you choose to be like this
I get "nevermind I give up on you"
"I'm just gonna leave you alone" or
"Your too young to feel this way"
And "I think your overreacting"
Also " why do you think of this all the time it's so tiring to deal with you when you act like this" ummm yeah that's it.
I hope u the best
...I'm sorry you have to go through that!
I get the "I think you're overreacting" all the time. I'm sorry you go through this ❤️
I get most of these and "you have everything I went through many things when i was little and I still did many things"
Omg. I'd want to murder somebody if they said something like that to me.
I have a couple I've heard:
"You're just doing it for attention"
"They're just faking it"
"It's acquired, not genetic"
@Bacon Bandito It's also often used interchangeably with "a few".
The “You’re just doing it for attention” are usually from the smarties at my school.
@@siriusly6321 Well, these lines also come out of the mother of a child I deeply care about who has severe anxiety and depression. So it's not just the students at school who are a problem. There are so many people who have things against all of us who have mental illnesses. And it sucks because some children aren't getting the medical treatment they need, just like the example I have here.
ive never heard the "you're just doing it for attention" but its most likely what people will say if i ever show someone my arm :/
@@cherries.1143 Consider yourself lucky, I suppose. It's extremely demeaning for someone to go out of their way to invalidate your feelings and what you're going through. Remember that your feelings are valid because of your experiences, no matter what any other person may tell you. Honestly, that mother I mentioned in an earlier reply would say the same thing if I myself or her own daughter would show the fact that we've harmed ourselves.
For me it's:
"You need to calm down"
"You're overreacting "
"Focus on your breathing "
"Stop crying"
"Snap out of this "
"I give up on you"
**goes to hug me...instead grips onto me really tight and says "Stop this now!"**
**makes fun of me**
"You're just trying to get attention, so stop"
This causes me to just get worse. I know that when people say "focus on your breathing" and "calm down" they are trying to help, but this just makes it so much worse. I get so caught up in trying to breathe normal I freak out because I can't. And then it just goes on to get worse.
And then another thing, trying to get me to leave the area I'm at because I am embarrassing that person. That sets me off more and makes me feel ashamed of myself.
Yes hate it when said to me "Use your breathing exercises " Makes me want throw a spit ball on their face.
I had a nasty ex who told me that I’m just “playing the victim” and it was a very painful thing to hear from someone who I loved. I carried that thought and pain for months
People who crowd around you and tell you to “breathe” just make everything worse...
@@Kittihoney I'm really sorry that you went through that. I hope you find someone that treats you how you deserve to be treated.
Sadly the person that treats me this way is my mother.
@GotchaGaming L. It may not make sense, but that's kind of what I prefer.
A lot of people don't understand how to properly handle anxiety attacks, and often times it results with the person trying to help getting frustrated and my attack getting worse.
I have talked to some of my closest friends about if I ever have an attack around them, to just give me some space, make sure people aren't crowding, and when I get calmed down enough, I'll ask for help. But it sometimes happens in different degrees of severity, so getting my attack to pass requires different methods.
People have different ways of dealing with things, and my way may be difficult, but at least I'm trying to actively work on myself.
i hate it when people say "just don't care what people say about you!" it makes me feel like i can just stop the feeling. It's like telling a cancer patient to "stop having cancer"
but cancer and anxiety are two different things. You can learn to control your anxiety, you can't control cancer though
@@justanotherrandomperson180I don't think that's what they're saying. While I agree that cancer isn't the best choice for an example, they're trying to say that telling someone with anxiety to just stop caring is the same as telling someone with something out of their control to just stop affecting them. And for the record, you can't control anxiety. There are ways to make it better, or to stop it from affecting you as much, but you can't control it.
@@thekitten_hoarder by "control" i meant there's things you can do when you're feeling anxious to help you calm down or reducing it/making it feel less miserable. I didn't mean you can stop it completely bc anxiety is a part of human nature, it can't go away forever
I have severe anxiety periods and someone telling me everything is going to be fine actually comforts me. I guess it's different for everyone. My advice would be to just try to understand genuinely how they feel and get them to talk without pressuring them. I'm usually too afraid to vocalise (or even put a finger on) what exactly causes my feelings but saying it out loud and having a conversation with someone who is not judging me usually helps to let it out and overcome it sometimes. ☺️
I was going to say the exact same thing ! I have experienced anticiptory anxiety multiple times since childhood, so hearing it from someone who knows me and current situation can really help me calm down. Something that also helps me ground myself is going back to the bare basics : "I am alive, healthy, I have a roof over a head, food, water, a loving family, and I can even afford my studies. So no matter what happens, everything IS going to be fine". And I agree that even if someone has not experienced anxiety themselves, they can still help by not being judgmental and listening. Talking about how you feel is so much easier when the other person makes you feel at ease.
@@olympe-rds yes, absolutely! With the intensity of the feelings a person with anxiety goes through, it can be very challenging to realize everything that IS going right for them that they can appreciate and find peace in. And even if "everything" is going wrong, there is always an up after a down, and it just simply needs to be heard in order to be acknowledged
"Everything will be allright" can be good but it has to be said the right way by the right person.
I mean you’re not wrong
I usually say: it feels really bad right now in this moment, but it will get better. It's going to be okay. You've gotten over hardships in the past, and you will be able to get through this this time too.
I don't if it's the right thing to say necessarily to someone with anxiety, but my friend told me when I said that in the past, it had helped them get through a hard time in their life that I didn't know they had gone through till recently. They found out recently that they probably have anxiety.
"It's fine, everyone goes through it at some point. It'll go away."
Bacon Bandito but it won’t, even though I’m am alone in a room, that Constant feeling of being judged, that every single actions I take have huge consequences. It scares me.
•Tree Animates• • Tree animations • I have the same problem, I tried to tell some people about my anxiety and it was really difficult for me because I didn't share anything with anyone for few years , I wanted to change that, but all I got were weird looks. They said that I'm just afraid of everything and exaggerating. I though I could trust them, but now I feel even more judged and unwanted, I can't make any decisions and I have fear of an failure .
The fear od being judge scares me so much i cant go outside or even say a word in grup convo . I hope we will eventually be strong enough to live without this constant fear .
@Bacon Bandito it's not
The worst one is when you don't want to talk and they say "are you ignoring me?"
I'm hollering at this comment!!!! So accurate
Buff Clash I'd say "Well *now* I am"
Everything is ego with a lot of people. Just "me, me, me, me!"
That's when you let them know you need some time and patience. It's not you, I'm just trying to take care of myself.
Yup
“Your problems always get in the way” Is the most hurtful thing that someone has said to me
I always hear
“You have everything”
“It’s fine”
“People are worse”
“Your just seeking attention”
“You have me”
“You have a family”
“Your ungrateful”
“Stop acting “
“I’ve gone through that”
And each day I think of those words I think there is something wrong I’m doing and I should change myself to make them
Accept me and think I’m perfect when I’m not and it doesn’t help when people say they have gone through that experience and it doesn’t help when you make people believe they are doing something wrong
No matter how much you have or if you have friends/ family with you it doesn't change the way you feel or what you struggle with. It isn't a sign of not being grateful either I hate hearing this sort of thing too, we can't control how we feel or the anxiety we experience not sure why people don't understand that.
While having a panic attack, my old friend-
"Man up"
"Stop being suicidal"
"Your manipulative "
"Your so needy"
"I have anxiety to but im not crying over small things like you"
This is not a way to help someone more like make it worse for someone
That person wasn't trying to help. 😂
That person was trying to hurt you . . .
@@naturalLog26 It's fine, some forms of anxiety have symptoms of depression intertwined.
someone like that should never be considered a friend
@@naturalLog26 You are not weird. However, just because you dont understand doesn't mean you shouldn't try to, if you want to find out/for those friends that is. As for yourself, everyone handles anxiety differently, even the people who have severe anxiety. Some people with depression cry to cope and others don't cry at all. It depends on experiences, genetics, or perspectives. Sometimes a mix of all.
When I cry over "small things", I feel it's never just only/about those "small things". It's like an additive or a bad cherry on top of the already big core thoughts/feelings that spark my anxiety the most. So much stress held in already, and that small cherry, as small weighted as it is, was enough to cause balance to collapse. That small thing sort've branched me back into my core life fears. Then the situation doesn't feel like something to consider small anymore...
But again, that's just me. I may not be explaining it that well but, it's more complex witnessing in my persp. And, I'm aware/understand when it's hard for others to not completely understand cause they didnt have the same walk of life. Not everyone has the same core fears.
Hope this helps.
“Stop acting that way.”
“No ones paying attention to you.”
“You need to stop.”
These words along with the ones in the video, are what I hear on a daily by my parents. They don’t help me but instead, give up on me and then make me feel like shit.
My sister (who is 27) took me out to eat and told me to order my food. Of course, I hesitated. Instead of her getting annoyed with me, she sat me down and encouraged me and help me earn that confidence to order my own food. And in the end, I did. She was proud of me and that made me feel happy.
When you struggle with anxiety, it’s something that messes with you 24/7 and it’s so tiring. In order to work with it and overcome it, you need people to encourage you. Sadly, not all of us have people around us who can help.
When you tell a person with anxiety to “get over it.” It makes the whole situation 10 times worse and that person gets even MORE anxious.
So please, for those of you who don’t have anxiety, watch what you say and at least try to understand us.
my parents don't understand. my mom has anxiety, but i get close to having panic attacks when it comes to order my own food. my parents say, "you're a big girl, you can order it yourself. we're not doing it for you." and i get so panicked that i just don't eat.
I wish my sister would be like that :( when we’re out in town she’ll pressure me to go into shops and buy stuff when I clearly explain to her I’m not comfortable doing that, then she’ll proceed to call me a coward and how my mum too thinks I’m unable to do anything. I’m turning 16 soon and I’m so fed up of hearing such unhelpful comments :/
“Here you go again”
“Calm Down”
“You don’t have to cry”
“It’s all in your head”
Or how about…..
“My friends has anxiety, I know how you feel”
This one hit a soft spot 😭
Hi
“stop being overdramatic“
“you’re too young to be feeling that way“
“you should appreciate you’re childhood more“
“it’ll only get worse when you’re an adult, so get over it“
“there’s no reason for you to feel that way“
“you’re just seeking attention“
“you’re lying“
“then tell me what your issue is. Cause you obviously have one“
“why can’t you just act normal for once?“
“why do you cause so many issues for everyone else?“
“you should be grateful that I even stick around“
“you arent social enough“
“you never get out of the house. No wonder why“
“its your fault for feeling that way“
“learn to control yourself“
“you’re at an age where you cant have this ridiculous behavior“
“if you keep acting like that, I’ll treat you like a child“
“you should learn to control how you feel“
“i got you help, what more do you want from me“
“so you keep nagging me, what? You wanna take meds for it?“
“just tell me or I’ll force you to“
“why do you have to be so difficult“
“you’re only being a waste of time with this bullshit“
Edit: I never expected this comment to blow up at all. I’m sorry to hear that a lot of people relate to this comment. Just know you aren’t alone, even if the voice in your head tells you that! ❤️
Edit 2: If anyone ever wants to talk, or play video games, text me @DexterPlays427#0164 on discord. I’m not usually online, but I check once in a while. Just know you’re worth it and you aren’t alone!
Dexter Smith I don’t have anxiety and reading this made me feel bad, ( my point is: this is something that could hurt anyone and just saying this things to someone is not right). I’m really sorry that a lot of people gets hurt with such harmful words. And specially the ones that get the worse time dealing with it.
"It's better to be alone than in bad company"!
just reading this is giving me anxiety
I-I never expected this to get so many likes.... and I’m sorry if this comment upsets anyone. I didn’t mean this to trigger or to hurt anyone.
Dexter Smith you didn‘t hurt anyone ;)
But I think you let several people (myself included) remember how they got hurt with one of these sentences. I rememberd that I could add a dozen more to your list. And THIS feeling, THIS memory sucks :(
Not your comment :)
And to be honest, I strongly believe your comment is helping a lot of people to confront their feelings!
,e for example. I‘m now in a position (because of external help) to challenge my problems. Now I have the strength to do so. But I keep coming back because I am so afraid and I still try to avoid any position I could get hurt and therefore I still am very lonely.
So, actually your comment reminded me that I am much more capable than I tell myself I am!
Great job 😄😋
I hate it when my mom says stuff like,
“Dont put us through this AGAIN!”
“You have no idea what its like to be around you.”
“STOP YELLING AT ME!!” (When i get panic attacks I scream which I understand why she is mad but that will make me way worse-)
As a parent, it's their job to help you. If she says shit like "don't put ME through this," then she should've swallowed.
Going through this comment section, some parents don't get the point of being a parent
Sheep Tail I get that too :( I’m sorry. I hope they put more effort into understanding you and panic attacks are the worst agh. Keep going peeps
Sheep Tail I am sorry but if your parents say that, then they don’t deserve great kids like you
If it’s ok may I suggest you take your mum off your ‘safe’ list. This is a list of people you can discuss your anxiety triggers with. Sounds simple but having a safe an a unsafe list can help you manage your boundaries and keep you mentally well
Totally feel you!!!!
The phrase that I’m sick of hearing is “Can you stop crying,boys don’t cry”even when they know I have anxiety and a low self.
Guys who cry are no less strong than guys who don’t. Emotions aren’t exclusive to gender.
Everyone can cry and everyone deserves to be supported
Sadness isn’t a bad feeling. Don’t live up to what others think.
I hate hearing people make comments like that.Even tho I’m a girl,my heart goes out for you.It seems at times that society is harsher on guys that have mental illness
Fuck that in particular. Being a boy doesn’t make you alien and you feel things like everyone else would.
"It's all in your head!"
"Nobody else can help you but yourself"
"Just stop it. Don't think about it."
Never felt so alone after hearing these
Same here, my mom thinks saying these things helps 🤦🏻♀️
It's true though
@@xar91 Hi. I sincerely hope you never experience anxiety attacks. Anyway, after fighting anxiety for three years now, here's what I can tell you:
1. "It's all in your head" isn't exactly true. Anxiety is not a byproduct of mere imagination. It's a mental struggle; a manifestation that something isn't right with the way your brain is processing information.
2. "Nobody else can help you but yourself" isn't a definite truth as well. While making a deliberate decision to help yourself is the pivotal step to healing, someone suffering from anxiety requires more than himself to get better. Going to a professional is always strongly encouraged (just like how Psych2Go has always reminded us). Of course, reliable support systems are also as crucial as the first two mentioned.
3. "Just stop it. Don't think about it" cannot be true/applicable at all. It's like saying to someone with a cough, "Just stop it. Don't cough." Anyone who experiences anxiety attacks will tell you how much they want to avoid the episodes. That is why most of us stay away from the triggers, regardless how miserable it can be (imagine skipping a sentimental dinner with someone special just because you're afraid of people that surrounds you). I wish we could just stop it. Life could have been so much easier. Sadly, no matter how much we try to distract ourselves, it always finds its way back to our minds.
@@xar91 Again people who have no PHD,first Hand experience or anything speaking on subjects they know nothing about. There’s physical symptoms that come from it so I’d suggest doing some research on things first.
Some things that my parents always say to me are:
“Your only like this because of your iPad “
“Your just like me when I was a child”
“You don’t need any help, your fine”
“Talking to a therapist isn’t gunna help you”
Because of these I’ve stopped telling them about any of it, luckily I have many great friends that have anxiety as well and they know how to comfort me
CarminaKalula if you want you could talk to me and I could try and help you, it’s up to you tho
CarminaKalula your welcome ^w^
This is another one:
“I know people who have been through this too and have overcome this. Why can’t you too?”
To the person who said that: you can't just get over it dumdum.
Actually don't tell them please-
My school AEP teacher told me," its all in ur head, make urself busy with work. You r over thinking things bcuz u r idle" and all this when I went to her and just said I feel really sad and depressed. She didn't listen to the things I wanted to say...other than that everything listed above has been said to me but I especially quoted that bcuz it was coming from someone who was supposed to help.
Maybe hes doing bad like you but you cant understand him because you cant think but your anexity and stress others dont matter to you huh?
@@DontInterractWithMeBetween9-5. I don't know what you mean but of course I care about people with anxiety and many problems and I try to help people the best I can always! This person was my cousin, I was living with her and she hurt me pretty bad, and when I was having anxiety attacks or panic attacks she would leave me alone and critizise me because for her I was "overreacting" to everything, even to the most quiet noise in the house. If she told me she was facing some things I would've helped her the best way I could, with anxiety or not. Instead, she told me nothing and kept telling me these things.
@@suchitrabhattacharjee3283 that sucks! I hope you find the help you need and the best one!
"At least you don't have bills to pay"
"Go back to sleep, you're fine"
"You'll grow out of your problems"
"Other people have anxiety too"
What I like to hear:
"Hey, it's alright to feel like this, i'm always going to be here to comfort you when you need it"
“It’s all in your head” Austin Jamie-
“You’re getting anxious over nothing” Mum, Dad Jamie and My teacher-
“Everything is going to be fine” My singing teacher and mum-
“Stop acting like that! It’s weird” Cooper, Cousins, My mum, my dad-
“Oh here we go again” Austin, Dad and Jamie-
“I know exactly how you feel” My mum, Indi and Zahlii-
“Is it me? Did I do something wrong?” Izzie, James, Zahlii
"Just do it by yourself, there's nothing to be scared of"
Imagine somebody with social anxiety hear this in a social situation.
........actually I have social anxiety so this is actually a bad thing to say for my situation 😂
@@angelacavon9256 yea same bro
@Bacon Bandito tell the part of our brain that is telling us that everyone will hate us and you'll do it all wrong, that. Thank you
That's not everything that going through a mind of someone with social anxiety I just tried to think of something quick
@Bacon Bandito I'm seeing you in a lot of these comments saying some pretty rude stuff. You clearly don't understand anxiety so you should be makeing such bold statements.
foreveruseless HURRAY! *high fives!*
"You're just an attention seeker."/"Stop attention-seeking."
1. It's called a rant.
2. How would _you_ feel if you were told this when you needed help?
3. You don't know everything about someone's life.
ATS Gaming exactly
"stop faking it"
"dont be so dramatic"
"u aint having anxiety"
"stop trying to get attention"
Stop staying back and tell them this is wrong
My fake friend is always saying I want attention and he's always pressuring me to speak (I have selective mutism) and I feel terrible
@@DontInterractWithMeBetween9-5. I would if I could but I can't :)
Roger Taylor's pair of maracas I feel you. Here's a hug.♥️
@@anagonzalez-mm4sz i was raged about all of them are saying same thing sorry i didnt mean that i usually erase all my comment in weeks also sorry if i offended you you, here some cake for the damage 🍰
I'm tired of people telling me or other people with anxiety "you're only doing this for attention" or "you're only having a panic attack because you want to" I feel like more people need to address comments like these.
“Just relax, calm down it’s gonna be fine” like gee thanks didn’t think of that one
Was brought to my school counsellor today - she normally deals with ADHD students all that from what I’ve heard apparently
I’ve got moderate-severe social anxiety and it’s gotten to the point I am beginning to avoid school. I’m always arriving late (usually 5-10min)
When she counselled me this morning, she told me to tell my brain if I’m overthinking, to just say “I’ve got work to do!” So to basically like push the overthinking and anxiety to the side
Normally I see the other counsellor (who works Thursday/Friday, but this one works Monday/Tuesday)
Sent me to class half crying. It was overall already a while later, but... hell.. I can’t just tell myself “hey let’s stop overthinking, I’ve got work to do !!”
At least you get that my parents don't belive that I have anxiety everything I bring up they won't get me diagnosed and its getting harder and harder by the day. J have school. So I'm missing assignments. My mom won't get off my back. And I have to share a room with my little sister who is always yelling
Exactly
@@dyamondwomack549 my parents believe I have anexiety and the therapist and doctor confirmed it but they are like oh it’s nothing we all get scared and nervous all the time like bruh it’s not that simple and yea it’s hard to do school work when ur constantly scared of something bad happening
@@ppank277 I'm sorry about that
*"I know how you feel"*
*"You're not the only one, loads of people have anxiety"* - yeah but how does that help me in the moment. I'm not having a breakdown because I have anxiety and think I'm the only one...
*"It's all in your head"* - I know it is, but I can't escape my head so....
*"You're not thinking rationally"* - I'm thinking rationally for myself 🙄
*"There are people worse off than you"* - oh great, so now I'm supposed to feel guilty for struggling, start worrying about other people and in general just make myself feel like a bad person, all while I have no control of my body...
"You're not thinking rationally " yeah maybe because I have a fucking mental illness that makes me be on the top of weird scary thoughts and many mixed emotions, don't you think mister rationally?
Oh boy I just hate when people think just because it's a mental illness you gonna get through it and be fine alone. Whenever this statement pops up I say : imagine if you broke your arm in a time that medicine couldn't understand so well how to treat, and what's going on inside your body. If you have money and conditions, maybe you'll go see a doctor, but the bone still takes quite some time to be fine again. Imagine feeling the pain, the suffering and all the bad stuff and having to hear: yeah but your father lost his leg on the war, and you haven't even went for one. You're pain is nothing compared to his you know that, you should stop being dramatic, it'll be fine soon, quite the winning, at least you still have your arm with you, starving homeless people are struggling more than you, you're just making this little thing a big deal.
Mental illness are diseases, and pain it's not a fucking number to be compared.
So all people break downs with themselfves but don' be so over dramatic deal with it . And keep to your self 😂BFD. Tell a professal because some in your life should kept privete only between medical professinal and you i donot brocast presonal probelm all around keep it to your self😂😂lol BFD .NOW DAYS WHO CARRS#$$^*?●○◇😮😂😂😮😢😂🎉😂🎉🎉🎉🎉
my dad once told me, “stop being so dramatic.” when i was having a panic attack. later he told me, “i’m sorry, i know you have teenage problems.” I don’t think i’ve ever felt more degraded in my life.
'least your dad apologised. I have depression and possibly anxiety, and I was in my room and my dad said: "you can't have depression you're to young!" And he never apologised.
Oh... I kinda understand you. My mom said things like "you want attention", "you like to have a problem", "you don't try to solve your problems". But it is true that teenage make this things worse... Beeing a teen while having mental illness is hard...
my mom says the same thing a lot
me while being in my room because I am having a panic attack
mom: "why are you such a teenager?"
My dad does this shit all the time.
edit:this was super long and turned into a vent so ignore the rest. If you're curious, tldr is I relate to the posts here, dad make panic worse and never apologises , I'm socially awkward and this idiot discovers they might have emotional trauma. Might delete this because I just complain for like a million pages and noone needs to hear that.
edit 2: I shouldn't have written this, everyone has their own (most likely worse)problems and this probs just sounds like I want attention ...
Today he said I should just grow up and get over it while I was already having a panic attack. One of my triggers is people yelling and/or getting mad at me for things I can't control or stop(yes it's because of him) so him saying things along the line of "quit it" or "grow up" or "that shouldn't bother you" were a lovely addition. At least my mom was there to correct him and explain that what he said just made it worse(I was almost out of the woods but then he had to open his mouth and I started having a worse attack reacting to my trigger). What's worse is he never apologises for the things he says or does even when corrected or told they hurt someone, he just moves on and never acknowledges he hurt me and made it worse. He always gets annoyed at the loudness of my panic and anxiety attacks (I sometimes have fits of uncontrollable screaming, expecially if I try to talk or if I get one that wakes me up while sleeping). Sometimes I can't talk for a while after a panic attack and I have to wither mime stuff out or write it down and ApParEntLY that's annoying too(to wait for me to finish writing or when my mom has to guess what I'm signing/mimeing. He constantly invalidates my anxiety, sleep disorder, depression and panic disorder and doesn't listen to me when I try to explain how it affects me or what's going on during an attack. And that's just if he shows interest in "helping" at all (he usually just leaves me on my own when I have an attack and thinks I should get over it myself w/out help and sometimes even tells my mom to leave me too, but bc she's a good person and parent she has never left me unless it's really important, like to take care of a pot on the stove or to get me something that might help me and she always asks if/ makes sure I'll be ok on my own for a bit: helps me to floor or sit down, makes sure I can breath properly,etc). He likes to make assumptions about what's bothering me or what should be done about it. My mom (who is super supportive) tries to explain based on conversations we have (I feel more comfortable talking to her because she actually listens to me, knows more about what helps/how it affects me bc she is usually taking care of me during an attack and talking to my dad is like talking to a brick wall so we have an agreement that she can speak on my behalf to my dad because I really don't want to) but he only half listens (rarely adjusts his behaviour) and ignores my contributions or specification on the points my mom brings up. He makes me feel unwanted and like my anxiety and panic/anxiety attacks are a burden on everyone else(especially my mom)
Sorry I rambled the words just kept coming, I guess I needed to vent... Reading this over I think I have unresolved emotional childhood trauma regarding my dad which affects me more in the present. I'd talk to therapist about it but I have trouble waking up and I don't feel comfortable doing it in person (cause I'm afraid of getting covid even tho I'm double vaxxed)or over a video call(there's nowhere in my house where my family won't hear and there's stuff that is about them that id rather keep private (my mom would feel like she didn't do enough to help or that she could've prevented things from happening, my sibling would make fun of me and my dad is well... my dad). And for SoMe damn rEAsOn talking at a bunch of random strangers is somehow less difficult than reconnecting with my friends and telling them what's wrong. I'll probably delete this, I need to sleep.
@@insamitygacha2468 dude, it isn’t a competition. don’t phrase it like that
Idk why but it's comforting to know this. My mom does all but two and all this time I've been feeling like I was too stubborn to take it correctly. She's not trying to be harmful but I think that "there is nothing to worry about" and "I know what you're going through" are the worst. Those phrases stick In my mind.
“Deep breathes”
“Many people feel this but they don,t overreact like you”
“Did I do something”
“Here we go again”
“Stop being so sensitive”
“You have it so good compared to others”
“Oh just stop crying”
Deep breathing does not work for me, I feel like I will run out of breath
Those are normal things said to me and the “Dissorder group” in my school
Does "did i do something wrong" actually annoy you guys, i don't have anxiety and i don't know what it's like, I'm trying to help someone who had it tho, i didn't say that sentence but i might, now i don't understand why it annoys because someone that says that means that they care and suspect themselves making a mistake, so why does it annoy, i don't get it, someone please explain
abood tube396 yeah im not sure why “deep breaths” and “did i do something wrong” are on this list. people are just trying to help. sheesh.
@@Joe-ou1iw Deep breaths can make a person with anxiety hyperventilate. And did I do something wrong will make the person feel bad because they think it's their fault you feel bad about it.
“Haveing depression and anxiety is like being scared and tired at the same time. It’s the fear of failure without the urge to be more productive. It’s wanting friends but hating socializing.
It’s wanting to be alone but not lonely.Its feeling everything at once and then feeling paralyzingly numb.”
💜💜💜💜💜💜
This perfectly describes what I'm feeling now.
That's how I feel but I still don't want to admit I have depression...
ohgawd, that's another comment I hate from people (not yours, yours is absolutely valid), the whole 'don't you want to go out somewhere? Aren't you lonely? Always by yourself?' Like... no. I feel FAR more lonely in a group full of people than I could ever feel when I'm alone.
I can’t describe how much this resonated with me. I haven’t been diagnosed with either, but I have been having a really hard time recently, especially in quarantine. Usually I’ll have my friends to distract me from what I’m thinking at school, but now I’m stuck with my thoughts constantly. My procrastination is out of hand, I’m in my last year of school and am so behind but can’t find it in myself to do anything about it. I also hate talking about how I feel, especially to my parents. My mum keeps telling me that it is something ‘deeper’ that is influencing my procrastination, but doesn’t think it’s anything as serious as depression or anxiety, but I’m honestly not sure anymore...and maybe she says that because she doesn’t really understand what either truly can be
Lol sorry for writing an entire book
When I'm having a panick attack and someone says to me "Calm Down". I usually start breathing and crying even harder and I just don't know why.
That's why I usually hide from others when I feel it will star again... It's just horrible
Little Tae it happens to me too , it's completely normal from what I can tell
I feel you man, i have panic disorder so I experience it on a daily basis, but I've been trying some meditation and having some peaceful time by myself lately and it helped me so much. The first time i had a panic attack i was surrounded by my friends and cus they don't know what's going on it just make some things more worse. So now whenever i had one I'll just ran off into somewhere quite and just keep on slowly breathing until it all stops.
That's human nature. When in an excited mental state, humans will tend to do exactly the opposite of whatever they're told. Police and especially "negotiators" and "public relations" train on this very point. I honestly don't know why more people aren't taught this.
If you want an otherwise excitable crowd to turn into a mob, just tell them not to panic... and in record time, you will instigate a riot. SO in that particular manner, you're actually relatively normal.
It might only be anecdotal, but I've never EVER seen someone told to "Calm down" who actually didn't get even worse than they started...
It's the fastest way to get punched in the face when trying to stop someone with violent tendencies... AND may well be the single most useless phrase in all of the English language. ;o)
Same
same,
"Get used to it"
"You're just looking for attention"
"Stop acting like you have it worse. I *insert their problem here*"
"You don't get to feel that way"
"This ain't about you"
"Just talk to us/me" (This one hurts when they've done nothing but belittle me or make me feel like shit very time)
My friend has anxiety and I will protect her not matter what
Do you like Soup?
First.......is that your real name if it is that’s amazing
(I’m only joking)
Second.....you’re such a good friend 😊
I wish I have friends like you
Bat... Soup?
Same
you’re a good friend
"If you don't quit doing that, I really am going to ignore you"
"Thanks for not acting like an idiot in so long" (when not relapsing for a while)
"I don't want to hear any more excuses"
"You never improve"
"Stop being so anxious"
"Don't start doing that, please"
"Here we go again..."
And the list of things I've been told goes on and on and on...
Honestly, I don't know who that is, but that doesn't sound like a good person and that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. You're having a real problem if you have anxiety or fear or anything like that. This person sounds like it's not even trying to relate. Instead they make it about them and you being weird eland bothersome to them. Sorry about my rant, but my poisonous people alarm bells are ringing...
@@Navi405 no you will feel down because of the lack of understanding your parents have. Don't blame yourself for that. Also that list is discusting how dare anyone say that to anyone. How do they expect you to get better if they are saying such things. sorry if I'm being rude this makes me really angry and your parents really need to be educated on this if they want to make your life easier
@@Smartie234 You are not wrong. This person has been abusive to me many times already. Gaslighting, manipulating, threatening, insulting, humilliating, belittling, invalidating, guilt tripping, and so much more he has done to me, then calls me a problem. When we were in a relationship, he would also cheat, dismiss and ignore my needs and wants, break up with me and then take me back, made me feel guilty for attempting suicide once when being with him ("You don't even deserve me here with you"), got angry if I used meds to cope with my symptoms, locked me up and abandoned me while going out to cheat on me, and it all ended up with a physical fight where his own mother helped me escape because I had no money at that moment. I left, blocked him everywhere, went several months with no contact, then suddenly I get an e-mail from him asking me to have a talk, he apologized, I forgave him, we stayed in contact, the emotional toying started again, and that's how I got here.
@@Navi405 It feels like shit when it happens. Mostly because compared to this person, I actually do thorough research and practice things that are meant to help me improve, I even got back to therapy and meds.
@Bxtsh. s I kinda relate. The person who would tell me these things doesn't want to talk to me anymore ever since I told one of their friends what he was doing to me, he called me two-faced and cut me off. He was the only person I felt comfortable being around with in real life, so yeah...
When I had my first anxiety attack, I had trouble calming myself down until one of my friends walked up to me and I asked her for a hug. Now note, she didn't know I was having an anxiety attack in the first place. But she still hugged me and kept me calm. She didn't even ask why. The best part was the next day, she asked me if I was feeling better and at that moment I realized how great of friends I have ❤❤
You got awesome friends
Friends are hard to find
Why would asking "why?" Or "what happened?" be a bad thing? I wanna know because i think one of my friends has anxiety and i think this would help alot
I have advice for you:
When you have an anxiety attack, look around the room and say the things you see. And blow on your thumb, it lowers heart rate.
i love getting hugged out of no where i have two teachers i love dearly and there like my moms to me whenever they randomly hug me and tell me there proud of me it makes me smile and think abt how i have people who love me but then sometimes i feel alone they make me not feel alone
@@saviourr69
Idk about other people,but for me as a person who have depression and anxiety
I think im sick and tired of this damn question the thing i do in school is just put my head down and try to rest like school the classes and staying without moving and sometimes i feel gonna throw up and like something i just cant control anyway so i always in school as i said i put my head down SOMETIMES I DO IT BECAUSE IM TIRED SOMETIMES I NEED TO REST OR I JUST DO IT CAUSE I DONT WANT TO TALK TO ANYONE and i have been anxious in front of the class when i was doing a presentation I realized for the first time i had anxiety and the next time i did presentation i make sure that i have anxiety
And no one talked about it THAT FEELING I CANT SAY IT IN ANY LANGUAGE IN ANY WORDS CAUSE KNOWING PEOPLE THERE SITTING JUST KNOWING THEY ARE ALL FUCKING KNOW THAT I HAD ANXIETY AND THEY JUST SITTING THEY JUST !!!!!! And after that i never asked anyone about how did i looked CAUSE I KNEW HOW DID I LOOKED MYSELF so one time a girl she talked about how our presentation and she said to me that “ you was a little nervous “
And i knew that she was fucking lying she is fucking okay im not gonna talk and be racist cause it had nothing with her country AGH aanyway i knew she was lying cause i freaked the shit out !!!! i knew it wasnt a little idk if this one of the symptoms of being a person with anxiety that i think in this way
Also asking someone if he is fine i mean i get this question a lot in my life and the fact that im not fine and its fucking clear that im not all my god damn actions it shows that im not even a little god damn fine !!!!
im depressed and i have anxiety and i have childhood trauma i have ibs-c im god damn sick physically and mentally !!!!!!!
So asking someone if he is fucking god damn fine HE IS FUCKING NOT LIKE SINCE I HAVE BEEN FUCKING BORN IN THIS FUCKING WORLD I HAVE NEVER BEEN OKAY !!!!!! So for my opinion i see this as a dumb question i hate people who is trying to be good but they actually dont give a single damn about u cause even therapists they get sick of you when the therapist get sick of you they said like im gonna send ya to other goddamn therapist
Anyway so like if u dont wanna be like with that person like really idk if u are serious
Of your love to that person if u truly think that u wanna be with that person forever as friends or whatever i think at the end maybe u gonna get to the point that they gonna believe that u truly care but thats( for me ) it will be difficult to be close to me or i trust that u gonna love me through this shit anxiety or like idk anyway .. thats my answer and its about my personality and idk the others maybe they will disagree .
I honestly get tired of always being told to "Get over it" or "just do it, it's not that difficult". No one knows what you as an individual are thinking or feeling and assume that you can just shut it off and "act normal". Being told that you are "faking it" hurts so much because it feels as though you can't confine to anyone because they will just judge you and put it to the side, ignoring your mental state. Another thing for my anxiety is that when trying to comfort me, saying "no one's looking or paying attention to you" does not help or make me comfortable because to me one wrong move and everyone WILL THEN look at me and think of me negatively while silently analyzing all my flaws making me insecure and go through the physical pain of an anxiety attack even if it's just minor.
"your to ung to have anxiety"
"your always smiling, i don't believe you"
"get of your phone"
"just make some friends"
"i will never leave you" and then the next day they block you.
"i don't need to hear about this, go find someone else"
like i have my own problems to deal with, yes i might be 13 but i have been going through some stuff over the years.
Emma Grønborg dude, I know. I'm almost 15 and my 'dad' denied the fact I had signs of autism when Mum did a search online. People don't like change, so they pretend it never happened.
smiling doesn't mean anything but also that our soul is slowly dying...
Telling someone with anxiety calm down is just like telling someone with asthma just to breath🙂
man, why didn't I think to just not have a panic attack?
"thank you that was helpful" i say right before passing out
I have both xD
@@MacaroniBalloni same..
Omg I love this comparison so much ☺
@@MacaroniBalloni *hands you a inhaler along with sound canceling headphones and just smiles*
"Why won't you just tell me what's wrong?!"
"Get over it already"
"You're just dragging me down, why can't you just learn to love yourself?"
"I don't get why you're overreacting"
"You have no reason to feel this way"
"So many other people have it worse than you"
it just hurts
I’ve heard these before
1. "I came over anxiety and so can you" for me I had anxiety my whole life since I was a kid and it's really hard to get over my anxiety so that's one phrase I'm tired of hearing but great video! I love your videos and content 💕 keep up the good work! 😊👍
My dad tells me that all the time and uses his childhood fear of Thunder as an example 💀
@@Alisonsgachaverse I'm sorry that your dad does that to you I understand the feeling when someone says that but you can get through this with your anxiety and just don't let anxiety get the best of you I have both anxiety and social anxiety but just listen to calm and relaxing music and do whatever makes you happy while listening to music😊 you got this! I believe in you!
Honestly, the things that people mostly say to me are:
*”You get anxiety over the slightest things!”*
*”Stop pretending to be anxious to get what you want!”*
*”You think you have it bad? Well you haven’t been through what I have! You aren’t me!”*
Edit: Thanks for 100 likes. Feel free to vent to me in the replies, I’ll try my best to help
i once panicked because my dad was in a bad mood and he told me to hoover, but the head of the hoover was missing. was looking every way desperately and i had a panic attack because i was scared my dad would shout at me any minute that i hadn’t started yet. i started crying and my mom asked me what was wrong. i told her i had an anxiety attack and she didn’t believe me. she set “no you didn’t. you’re just trying to get out of hoovering. just do it” i tried to convince her i really did but she wouldn’t believe me. my dad wouldn’t even believe me either and it just mad him more mad at me.
that isn’t the first time she didn’t believe me. a few months ago in school i started feeling anxious and i didn’t know why and it lasted for 2 hours and started getting worse and worse. this was the first time i felt that bad and nothing even triggered it. when i wasn’t sure what to do so i went and found my favourite teacher that i’m most comfortable with and told him how i felt. he called my parents and my dad got me and did seem to believe me but when i went home and my mom asked me what happened or why it happened and when i didn’t have a reason she just didn’t seem to really believe me anymore.
the worst thing is my mom has anxiety. she is diagnosed and even takes meds for it because it was severe enough. but she doesn’t believe i truly have it because she for some reason thinks i’m pretending to have it because she does. i haven’t been brought to a doctor or gotten any diagnosis because my parents won’t believe me. i don’t even know what to do about it. i think i may have depression as well because a lot i just feel empty or like i there’s no point to bother with anything. especially nowadays. i tried to tell my parents about this, i told them i feel sad a lot because i wasn’t sure how else to explain it, and they just said “you need a break from your technology”
the only one who understands me is my only friend. she has anxiety and has actually been diagnosed and got help because her mom believed her.
i don’t even know what to do at this point. i’ve given up on telling my parents about anything and suffer silently, even if it happens in school.
AzureDust That is completely fucked (sorry for my language) up. Your parents should believe you! You’re their child! I hardly know you, but if you ever need somebody to talk to I’m here :)
AzureDust As manipulative as this sounds, stop talking to your parents until they start considering your anxiety-if a parent, a farmer that's supposed to grow a seed-stops watering it, and someone else ends up doing it for them(your friends and teachers, apparently,) then they're the new farmers. Just stick with the people that seem to care about you the most.
Only interact with them when you **have to**, like chores or grocery shopping.
And this one sounds pretty outlandish, but works: even if they ask "how was your day?" as you go to your bed, you can just straight up ignore them-days have problems, and they're denying one of the biggest problems of your life.
When they finally confront you about it in a caring, passive way, that's when you tell them how you feel.
Cockroach yes.
Cockroach but i love my parents. i like spending time with them. they just won’t believe me about anxiety. it’s sucks but that doesn’t seem right. i like reading with my mom.. playing video games with my dad..
i just don’t tell them anything anymore. i have my best friend for that. she’s great
“You’re being dramatic” while almost having an anxiety attack, i felt so invalidated it was scarring.
Chloe Barraza I know my first anxiety attack was scary 😂😂😂
@Bacon Bandito you try hyperventilating a lot unable to stop it for what feels like forever, shaking, cold and hot at the same fucking time and then come back and laugh
@Bacon Bandito you think I'm still gonna be fully energised after that
@Bacon Bandito why don't you just stop leaving these hateful comments?
Has someone said this to you before?
Idk if there’s already a video but oh well, “Good things to say to someone with anxiety”
Agree!
I would like to know what to say to my friend so it can actually helps and not make it worse
That's an interesting topic! We will discuss this with the team :)
Love it!!!
yeah I honestly think that's better.
"Don't think about it", "We've already talked about this" (I tend to vent a lot about the same thing when I get anxious about something in particular) and "You seem to always look for problems where there aren't"
This one was common for me: *”if you had’ve done [insert task] you wouldn’t be in this mess”* - like, say you got distracted and forgot to do something important and suddenly realised that you did, and that there’d be consequences if it didn’t get done.
It’s so important that once you find the cause of the attack, DON’T blame the person or try to “solve” their problem like that. It just makes them feel worse since they’ve probably internally acknowledged their mistake already and feeling horrible about it, so having that negativity reinforced by someone else just escalates those feelings. If you’re going to try and help them solve whatever is making them anxious, guide them with supportive questions and give them the safety and freedom to determine their course of action. NEVER try and solve it for them - that’s disempowering and condescending. For me, such discussions about what to do to fix it are best left until after I’ve calmed down and can rationally discuss options - in the meantime, it’s best to let them know that you’re there for them and to comfort and support them through the worst of the attack before helping them to solve the issue.
So true ..... i feel that.
Another one that might seem controversial
Bringing religion into the matter
“Don’t worry God has a plan” or “Remember God loves and care for you” and I know they mean good but it always feels like they don’t want to put the time in to actually empathize or that maybe they’re too scared to acknowledge that they don’t know, and I don’t know if this applies to others but I’m fine with it if they don’t know how to help me, I want someone to help me through it not give me “answers” to it
I used to hate that all the time when I was younger too, but now at 27, going through the things that I have, I realize that they were just trying to encourage me. The faith and trust I had in God even when I was still skeptical He even existed, is honestly the only thing that got me through my most difficult times. It's funny that now I'm thanking the people who used to say that to me 😅
I'm sorry you're going through what you are and I do recommend seeking help or therapy (especially if the thought has ever crossed your mind before). If you're young, it's not wise to rely solely on friends (they're young, not fully mature yet, and all going through their own things too), especially if your situation is more severe.
We all have our trials to go through to become who we're meant to be and growing up is the hardest thing you'll ever do (especially if you're battling mental illness with it...). My mother told me that as a young teen and I fully believe that now. And just because it really helped me to keep this in the back of my head... I would like to advise you keep in mind that *it does get better*. It honestly, truly does. I believe in you ❤️
Ti Q yeah I understand thanks for the reply, I’m 17 currently and I don’t really have friends per Seay but even so I don’t want to burden others with my problems, I guess meaning I’m mostly trying to sort things out my self and of course it’s pretty stressful especially since I’m finishing school soon
Btw after this lockdown I asked my parents if we can book a visit to a psychiatrist/psychologist/therapist (can’t remember which one is which) and thank you again for replying, it really helps knowing someone else understands what I meant
@@makotoyuki345 Oh, that is wonderful news! I was admittedly too arrogant at your age to admit I needed help and let it go on for far too long, so really, I'm so glad to hear that :) I wish you all the best and pray for you and your family's safety!
I know people always say this lol but college is way different than k-12 (and not in the bs way teachers would always try to tell us middle was from elementary or high school from middle). You'll still come across people your age that have growing up to do, but there will be other, older, more mature people there too, with similar interests (depending on the class ofc). I hope you find good, supportive people to surround yourself with 😉 It really makes all the difference.
Makoto Yuki Especially if you're an atheist. You do you, but don't assume everyone's doin you, ya know?
That came out wrong
Mentioning "God" in reply to any of my problems just makes me more edgy and cynical that day.
Not that I don't love religious people, my grandparents are the best people I know, and they're in a cult(Jehovah's Witnesses, the one I was raised in), and while it's annoying when they get pushy, they're the most positive people I know personally. But after dealing with everyone in my family except my dad shoving that form of Christianity down my throat, I just don't wanna think about a god.
@Cockroach yeah I know what you mean, like I love my parents I really do
But from time to time we have bible studies where we read a verse and talk about it’s meaning but you see I have symptoms of anxiety and depression and some of them I feel they’re trying to direct at me cuz the verses say stuff like:
“cast your anxieties on the lord for he cares” or “pray to god and he will relive your anxious mind” etc
I know they’re just trying to help the best way they can but I don’t want to speak out, cuz I’m afraid they might think I’m going against the word of god or something like that
Anyone feels like the voice is so satisfying?
I’ve had anxiety since I was 6 diagnosed officially at 8 and this video is the most accurate one I’ve ever seen these all trigger me and makes it much worse
My mom has a masters in psychology and she said that anxiety is the “elegant” mental illness and the best mental illness you could have, and that it didn’t even have much stigma like depression and others. It was really invalidating as someone with anxiety, especially knowing that she has expert knowledge on the subject, and I’m hoping all psychologists don’t have this mindset when helping others with anxiety.
Me: *has GAD*
Everyone: WhY cAnT yOu OrDeR fOoD bY yOuRsElF yOuRe So DrAmAtIc
Relatable
BruhByers I KNOW RIGHT I start to feel super nauseous and my heart starts racing and I feel like I’m about to faint and sometimes I throw up, and IM BEING DRAMATIC like what 👁 👄 👁
Yeah,,,
Yeah
My mom: "Go ask that Walmart employee where the _____ are."
Me: "But can't we just look for it using those signs up there?"
Mom: "No, you gotta."
"She's fed on drama, the more attention you give, the worse it gets."
"Now, let me be your therapist, tell me whats going on. (but doesn't listen properly and interrupts at all time)"
(Sorry if there's any grammar or spelling error, English is not my mother language. If there is any, please point it out.)
I said the second sentence to someone once and she got mad. But I said it because I myself was feeling anxious, and she have certain kind of anxiety too I think. She was talking to me about something and I said to her "Do you want me to be your therapist?" and she said "No I don't, I have a therapist, I just wanted you to be my friend" and I got really sad and I said sorry to her and she said sorry to me also, she said she was having a bad time. But I said what I said because of my own insecurities, in my insides I was thinking I may being annoying always talking by my experience. I still remember that because I hated the way she answered me and I don't know, I'm very empathic and I don't think I would answer like that to someone even if I'm going trough a bad time.
Ya pretty much
1. "Don't get anxious" when I am going to perform something and am actually not anxious. That straight away triggers it
"don't be so overdramatic"
"Such a crybaby"
"What's wrong with you?"
"Stop crying"
"This is why you don't have any real friends"
These were all things said to me by my childhood bully, causing me to have even worse anxiety now and severely low self-esteem. I'm so thankful that my brother was there to protect me. But once he went on to middle School, I was alone and free to be picked on, picked apart, get dust kicked in my eyes and left on the ground in pain. I'm in a much better place now than I was then as he changed schools and I'm in middle school, but I still think about what he said and did to me when I was still so young. Granted, I'm still a child but now I have the courage to stand up for myself when noone else can.
Thank you to my brother for his protection
Thank you to my therapist for helping work out my emotions
Thank you to my friends who will sit next to me and just talk when I'm on the verge of screaming
And thank you to my bully for my stronger bonds with the people above. I hope you are a better person now, But I still don't want to talk to you
You just brought tears in my eyes...
wapaloosie a. I’m not diagnosed with anxiety, but I have no doubt I have some kind. I’m scared to talk to people/tell peopel how I feel it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t like it, so I don’t ever ;-;.
My dad says to me “why are you crying?” I live in a house full of boys bc my mom passed away and what he says at times just makes me feel worse...
Ok thats it, where does he live? Oh don't worry, I'ma just give him a little... talk...
@@shelbysnow1288 thanks for the laugh 🤣. He's actually my neighbor so I see him a lot. Don't worry, he doesn't normally try to come up to me. Even if he does, I usually just quicken my pace and look at the ground. Besides, my brother said that he's changed for the better.
"You don't know what 'real' stress is."
"You're making this harder than it actually is."
"Everyone feels anxiety from time to time."
"You can't keep taking those meds forever."
"You seem to have life under control."
"Just do it!"
"Attention seeking."
"Anxiety doesn't define you."(said while having or just had an attack)
*that FFS look on their face after you tell them you have anxiety*
Some phrases I’m tired of hearing, as a person with anxiety:
“I understand how you feel”
“Just don’t think about it”
“It’s ok”
“I know how it is, Ive been through it before”
“It’s in your head”
“Get over it”
Most of these have been said to me from a very close relative in my life. They say they know how it is like, but they’ve experienced it many, many years ago, and most likely dont remember. Another close person in my life who has anxiety tell them not to say those things because it can make the other feel like you really don’t understand. They’ve tried telling the other person many times, but they don’t understand.
I also have to hear:
“My anxiety is worst than yours”
Then what should i say if as simple as "its ok" Also shouldnt be said? ;-; i just want to comfort my friend
@@reevparish3802maybe instead of saying anything, you can ask them if they want to hug, or have a shoulder to cry on. I know if I was your friend I would be extremely greatful, but that’s just me so maybe you can ask your friend what you can do to comfort them! :>
@@artistahoy9103 what if it's over a call cause quarantine
@@clairinewilmer6458 I mean what’s the difference? It would still be nice to have a shoulder to cry on, someone vent to, or even just a hug.
My friend has anxiety, and while I try my very best to support them sometimes I just feel like the therapist friend. I know they can’t help it and they don’t want to be anxious, but I still have this voice in the back of my head like “why are they crying over that?”. But i think I do a pretty alright job of only being nice to them. They just seem to forget about all the people who support them sometimes.
"7 Things Not To Say To Someone With Anxiety"
Me: *Laughs anxiously*
Timecodes:
0:46 - It's all in your head.
1:11 - You're getting anxious over nothing.
1:42 - Everything is going to be fine.
2:22 - Stop acting like that! It's weird.
3:02 - Oh, here we go again.
3:40 - I know exactly how you feel.
4:19 - Is it me? Did I do something wrong?
*"It's all in your head."*
*"You need to stop over thinking things."*
I'm suffering from anxiety too. Your videos are really helpful. I've been watching one of your videos and helped me realize that I'm not the only one alone. I'm learning a lot from it cause I've been suffering from anxiety for years and taking medication for it. Thank you for uploading these videos on RUclips!!
"Just Breathe"
"Calm Down"
I have Panic Attacks and this is what people tell me to try and calm me down
One time i was with my friend n had a panic attack n she said those things to me n i felt even worse n people were just staring at me
Never tell someone in a panic attack to calm down, drives me nuts when people say that to me, using grounding techniques is helpful but takes practice, marginal success so far
A: **have a panic attack**
B: hey calm down
A: Oooh wow! thank you mate you are so COMFORTING
Same here I had a public Panic Attack and my brother wanted to fight me because he thought I was tripping.
From what I've heard, try naming your environment to calm yourself.
1) Name 5 things you see
2) Name 5 things you hear (feel)
3) Name 5 things you know
Hope this helps
I hate it when people have told me or other with anxiety/depression to “just pray” or “you’ll get through it.”
Ikr! For me I'll just tell them why whatever they say is false if (it hasn't happened) they say it to me, but it hurts worse when it's someone else. Like, only you truly know you.
i was having a panic attack at school and my teacher (who is the teacher who is supposed to be helping me with all this btw) was like
“there’s people that have it worse then you”
and
“stop crying your making it worse”
like...
EXCUSE ME
"You're just acting shy. You'll get over it"
Is one that affects me tbh.
"everyone feels anxious sometimes." Feeling a little anxious or nervous from time to time is different to having anxiety.
I think that's a big thing most people don't realise or understand, mostly because they haven't experienced anxiety before.
My mom says “your just paranoid, it’s getting annoying”
If you ever need to talk, as someone with anxiety, I'm here for you.
Ali-Bee time that's horrible. I'm so sorry your mum is being so indifferent towards your anxiety. If she just did a google search, she'd find out for herself.
i hate going places alone so once i asked my mum to come somewhere and she told me "you need to grow up!" and i was like "anxiety mum" nd she told me anxiety is just me being immature
Me: finally calmed down and trying to move on and hold back tears
Someone: are you okay
Me: *burst into tears again*
It’s honestly the thing that affects me the most. After I have a lot of anxiety I just want to be treated normally, that’s helps me bounce back. If someone treats me like I’m a hurt puppy it makes it worse
It would be so much more helpful if people just said things like, "Do you want someone to talk to?" or "Is there anything I can do to help?"
@@dragonzrsick2543 saying "are you ok?" Makes me feel like there's something wrong with me, which doesn't help my spiraling. It only adds to the hundreds of thoughts going through my head. I don't want sympathy, I need empathy and to be treated like a human
@@wapaloosie9512 Yeah, same.
@@wapaloosie9512 Yeah . . . I need human comfort from my family, not a therapist. They just won't give it to me when I hole it up. They don't know me well enough to understand when I need it but don't express that I need it.
@@Kai-iy3kk Personally, I think someone asking “are you okay” to me would help (to be fair, the only panic attacks I’ve had are in my bed late at night for no reason, not around people). I have a very close friend that I value a lot (though I don’t know if she sees me the same way 😔) and one night she asked me if I was okay after an argument with my brother, and it made me feel so relieved that I had someone in my life that cared
Only one I dissagree with is the reassurance one. When it comes to my anxiety reassurance is what helps the most, it helps me feel more secure. And without it I’m a wreck. So being told everything is gonna be okay, and being reassured that I am loved, is very helpful for me.
“What’s wrong with you!”
“Can’t you just be like everyone else”
“What are you in, Depression?!?”
“Nothing is wrong!”
Why would you EVER say this to someone! This can affect them in every way. Actually, I have some anxiety and I’ve heard some of those cruel words said to my face..
LET ME AT 'UM LET ME AT 'UM
😂, thx
Something I've heard from my mother
"Only poor people have anxiety"
"You are ungreatful"
She thinks only poor people have anxiety because her boyfriend who's a taximetrist and has 0 studies in this domain said so.
I don't even know what to say, why does she believe this? Can they explain the correlation between the two?
@@shelbysnow1288
As a poor person with various mental illness mostly related to anxiety.
The reason why someone would say that is because poor people have less resources to deal with their illnesses as a result their symptoms are more obvious because they unable to get help.
That's why a high portion of homeless people have some form of mental illness. They're homeless because they don't have resources to help them function in society.
Mental illness is higher in poverty stricken individuals because they can't afford resources to help or their illness makes it difficult for them to get help.
Mental illness doesn't discriminate but it's easier to get help for it when you have a support system and money.
@@desireeloveros1055 and sometimes if you aren't poor yet, when you struggle with mental illness and didnt get the help you need, you end up poor :(
@@WindspielArt
Exactly that's why I listed a support system first. You can be poor with mental illness and be fine because you have a support system. You can be wealthy and unable to get help because of stigmatization from your family.
That's extremely curious, because according to people who live in poor countries, anxiety and depression are first world diseases.
It really hurts when people say “stop being so hyper-sensitive.” When it is a real thing that I embrace
I can so much relate to every 7 things that are said !
“ I’m sure it will be fine”
“ is it because of me “
“ started again … stop being sad and upset all the time “
…
It’s all so annoying to hear and I do most of the time from ppl around me. And this is one of reason I do not open up to talk with others , coz they don’t understand !!!! I mean it ... They never do :/ I rather prefer to have it all in me because I’m the only who understands
tbh i ask my anxious friends if i did anything because I’m anxious too :/