8 Signs You Might Have Social Anxiety
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- Опубликовано: 8 июн 2024
- Social Anxiety Disorder is an anxiety disorder characterized by intense feelings of worry and distress in social situations. Do you know how to spot the difference between shyness and social anxiety? It’s very easy to mistake having social anxiety as just being shy. So, here are 8 clear signs you might have social anxiety. We also did a video on differences between shyness and social anxiety before: • 5 Signs It's Social An...
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References:
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Psycom (2017). “Social Anxiety Disorder: Symptoms, Causes, and Treatment.” Retrieved 31 March 2020 from www.psycom.net/social-anxiety...
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Hi everyone! We released several videos yesterday including one on the types of anxiety (similar to a crash course). Social anxiety disorder was mentioned in the video and many of you asked us to make one on this topic. Here you go! Previous video: ruclips.net/video/RuPPRLv_YSw/видео.html
Oh my gosh.. I relate to every one of them.. And Ik I do but my mom just thinks it’s because I’m shy. I want help but to scared to ask for it.
welp hello introverts
Thank you guys so mu h for making this. Legit social anxiety came with my manic bipolar and it's ended up leading to me getting a service dog. Gotta love mental health.
@@VinccentVanGogh maybe send her this video an/or tell her per text when she isn't hone, that way you will have some time to yourself to calm down and process how you'll react once she's home (since she'll prob confront you about it)
Please talk about Paternity Problems next! @Psych2Go
Does anyone else feel so strange walking past another teenager or someone your age?
Is it just me?
Me I can never talk to people older than me
Omg-
I prefer seeing older ppl because they don't judge as much
@@purnifest same
@@purnifest oh-
"Stop being so shy you have to speak and go out more"
My social anxiety: no, i dont think i will
F 😔
Bruh
Wow everything that she mentioned indicates that i have that kind of illness especially when i go outside but when i am alone it feels kinda soothing and peacefull.
Hexactly
Im the same way. And the fact that this showed up in my recommendations really says something 😅
Even when i talk with friends, i feel like they arent actually interested and when Im walking down the street alone It feels like everyone is waching and hating😢
Sometimes I get that feeling all the time and I just wanna close up my shell and cry
@@Hydragames648sameee I relate
"It doesn't go away with familiarity" that one is the hardest for me. It is horrible to feel like you are about to meet someone for the first time everytime you meet with a friend that you have known for years. It never goes away.
I have lived with 2 friends for years and I would still get anxiety whenever I would leave my room. Sometimes to the point where I would need to go to the bathroom and hold it in until they would leave. And these are two people thay I considered my best friends....
That’s the point that hit me the most too. I can’t even cuddle my boyfriend (who I’ve been with for a year now) because my social anxiety spikes and I start overthinking everything like am I breathing weird, is he comfortable in this position? Do I smell bad? I’m twitching, can he feel me twitching? Can he feel how tense I am? I sweat so much when I’m cuddling because my mind won’t shut up and let me just enjoy the cuddle. 😒
Somebody: *looks at me*
My social anxiety: They're judging you. They hate your outfit. They dislike you, etc etc
me too
this might sound dumb, but can you try to tell yourself that you're being watched cuz you're 'cool', and that you 'deserve' the attention? it's something that worked for me... go buy a new jacket or try a prettier outfit.. change your hairstyle and believe me when i say that upping your self-confidence game works WONDERS.
everyone can try to look the best they can ----if you give Donald Trump a face-life, and make him lose weight, he'll look decent (just don't engage in conversation with him, you can't change whatever the heck's up with his brain)... in short, do things that make you feel more confident in yourself and convinces you that the attention you receive is POSITIVE.
That is so me 😓
@@btstwitterupdates3790 How? even when I looked in the mirror, I always felt insecure
@@jakaika1414 i have been there, i know how you feel... Can you walk up to the mirror and see yourself once more? Look at the person in the mirror and find out the most attractive features they have. Maybe you have pretty eyes, or you're very satisfied with how your lips look...
Try posing, 'DO' things in front of the mirror like no one's watching--- pout, smile, try different kinds of smiles and see which one suits you the best--------but the most important thing to do here is to ENJOY this experience you're having with YOURSELF in the mirror. Play some lively pop music and dance by yourself... think of it like a self-pamper date (with 'self')
Go shopping afterwards... treat yourself... there are lots of videos on youtube that teaches you how to choose clothes based on your body---
------i have found them to be helpful... more precisely, i've found 'following' them to be useful. I am kinda dumb and can't tell the difference between how a colour-suiting shirt (warm toned) looked better on me that my 'clashing-colour' cool-toned shirt did (*just look at how nerdy this seems*, but I really felt like i 'knew' what I was wearing. The sense of 'KNOWING' gave me SO MUCH CONFIDENCE-
There's this youtube channel too--- Alexandra's Girly Talk (do it you're a girl)
Also, try something new. If you think losing weight will help you look better, by all means, go for it. Anything that makes you gains confidence.
Sometimes, the 'sense of accomplishment' after losing a few pounds really brings a lot of pride and boosts self confidence. Cuz, at the end of the day, you just need to look beautiful and worthy to YOURSELF.
I might sound like a weird, drunk life coach, but these are things that worked for me, good luck if you want to follow them!
I envy people who can just effortlessly socialize with others.
Same ;-;
Same.
Honestly same :/ i was like that 2 weeks ago when someone was able to talk to someone easy when for me I’m just like puts my head down and not want to make eye contact
same sis
same ://
I'm a veteran, was actually addicted to alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. This is something that really need to be use globally to help people with related health challenges.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Thank you for sharing this point!
How can i find him? Is he on Instagram
Social Anxiety is like having a voice in your brain telling you 24/7 u are being watched an laughed at
A stalker reminding you constantly of everything you're are and have done wrong and predicting what you will do wrong preventing you from trying
omg yeah
Yeah right it feels like hell
Yeah,I never used my outside voice and always looks calm on the outside but there is literally world war 3 in my head
Ughh I kinda feel like I do have social anxiety. I have for a while. But I can’t get professionally diagnosed because I can’t tell anyone. Idk what to do.
Social anxiety makes you anxious even around your closest friends. You think everyone judges you, no matter who they are
How long have you experienced social anxiety for?
Sometimes i think even my parents judge me
Goddammit i just realized...
Damn this girl and psych2go are like best friends😂
@@Psych2go 2 years
As a black man my social anxiety hits harder and different. The world already hates me for my American dark skin, but the struggles have crushed me into the abyss of loneliness and confusion. I work every single day just to keep myself busy from distractions.
The world doesn't hate you. Some people may be awkward with you because they irrationally fear being perceived as racist for innocuous and well meaning behaviour. I appreciate there are vile racists you may have had extremely negative experiences with. But they are not the world. Rather they are shunned for expressing such views around solely white people.
as a fellow black man i understand. i feel like anxiety my be instilled into black ppl at a young age cuz of racism and shit, but as we get older it evolves. Now at 29, I have crippling social anxiety and depression. 0 friends 0 girlfriends. can barely talk to my own family let alone strangers or ppl i would like to get to know. i just want this shit to be over 🥲🔫
As a black female- I also relate to this. I have social anxiety, but I feel like being black in the US adds so many additional complications that it is difficult to keep yourself afloat and find resources that really help us.
Bruh what…stop being a damn victim how many times have you actually experienced real racism in your life growing??..and btw who cares if some people from another race don’t like us they can go f themselves 😂, stop worrying about what insignificant people think bro 😂
Although I am not black I want to say I'm so sorry for you. This world is so cruel and sometimes I just wish I could just disappear
Don't worry- you are not alone. Just remember everything will be okay, people may be judging, but don't let that stop you. It is completely normal to feel awkward, scared, shy, anxious or panic when you felt like you faced too many people. Take a deep breath and believe in yourself, relax, trust me, if you have true friends, they won't judge you at all. Even if there's cases where you are invited to a party, it's your choice and i'm sure they will understand. But why don't overcome your fears? Believe in yourself and people, believe that they won't press you, and it should be easy. Just don't rush, there's time, when you are ready, stand up and strike a conversation. Here's a small tip, be yourself, be natural, don't rehearse conversations and topics, just let it flow to you. Friendly and comfortable conversations are when it's not forced and it comes out of your mind. Hopes this helps, i once have social anxiety myself, i believe in you, you can do it too. ❤️
❤
thanks I have one true friend who also has social anxiety
That's what I do but still it doesn't help.
That gave me confidence though, thank you.
When you want to be in the corner but you also don’t want anyone seeing you in the corner cause you don’t want them to think that you’re asocial and you have no friends even tho that’s what’s going on.
Not antisocial, but asocial. Look up what antisocial means...
That's exactly how I feel... I want to be alone but I don't want to be seen alone
sunset OOF srry I’ll edit it rn,thx
felt this on another level
Me on a daily
I cant even walk in front of people with feeling like I'm being judged...
Same i don't think i have social anxiety i think im just a very awkward person and i dont like being judged.
same!
Same!!!
I feel 4 u
Same same
I’m not sure what I have but whenever I’m in public places I feel like people are always staring at me and judging me….. And it’s extremely hard for me to make friends
I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years.
With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean.
Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
He's Reid_myco
The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.
He’s on insta?
Whenever I talk about how I get nervous, I always start crying.
My family say to me-
"why do you distance yourself from people?"
"be close to people, make friends."
"Be social "
"Look at them, they are having fun together. Why don't you join them? "
...
I can't.
Same also they'll force you like they just don't understand how it feels, and it feels like its tearing me apart when they keep saying these things
I am sad even on my birthday, it feels like this is worst day for the world, I am going through depression also and social anxiety too. I am tired of living like this 😔
@@i_wantthatvitamindick6266 same😞
My family used to dragged me out of my room by forced once in a while
And when we need to attend a family gathering i would cry saying i don't wanna go...
I felt this
Me: has social anxiety
My mom: it's because of that damn phone
Ikr and I feel quite confident on a phone by myself but to talk to someone face to face I just cant
Yes even thoug it kinda helps me interact
Me:I have social anxiety
My mom:it’s just a phase
Scaryyy
my mom says that but actually my phone distracts me and calms me down
When I am chilling in class and someone mentions me in a way that makes everyone look at me, I automatically raise my legs to the top of the underneath of the table and my hands sweat and clench, my breathing is worse and my voice turns like a young child voice but stuttering. ❤❤😊
The problem is that I am afraid to tell anyone about my psychological condition so that they do not look at me with pity or that I am a sick #person❌.
I know that problem. How to be honest without losing your dignity?
I try to keep things pragmatic and avoid expressing emotions on the topic, because that will tempt them into pitying me.
I just clearly state my limitations, so people know what to expect of me.
Some accept it, some don't and most never understand and that's ok too.
Sure it still hurts when people get angry with me for not living up to their expectations, but if I'm clear about my limitations it's not me disappointing them.
Me: *has actual symptoms of depression and social anxiety*
My parents: “is this laziness?”
My mother calls me lazy all the time just because I don't want to go outside out of fear of people ... so yeah I feel that
It's effectively lazyness if you have no motivation . Don't try to overcome it , compensate for it .
Other people: Actually reading it
Me: laughing at the pfp
FORGET EVERYTHING I SAID . WREAK IT ! FORCE YOURSELF ... when needed ... BECAUSE NOBODY'S GONNA DO IT FOR YOU !
same, they think it’s just a phase
Anyone else get called boring because of your social anxiety
@Synthea Vo samee
Omgggg yesssss
Yep
PS4 GAMING omg yes ! my friends always tell me i’m boring but it’s literally just cause i’m scared to do anything that will embarrass me or have people judge me :(
Yeah
At night I get this sad emotion of thinking everyone hates me or thinks I’m annoying and I get this sharp pain in my chest every time I have to cry I haven’t told anyone
Same. I always feel like I’m the problem of everything and that I should just give up.😣😢
@@Zia._20210 I as well. It's so depressing when I think that cause it makes me avoid going out with people
@@NAURRRRR_ yeah
is it just me, or when u just wanna talk to someone about ur feelings and ur social anxiety but then ur like "oh they wont understand" or "its a stupid reason and its not normal." and also sometimes you just randomly cry
Moral of the story:
Social anxiety is WAY WORSE then shyness.
so so SO much worse, it really suckw
Yep that's super true-
So true
So true!(me acting having it)
@@Angie-nu5yh it really is pain--
My teacher gives me anxiety--
What breaks my heart is the fact I *want* to socialize, connect, branch out and speak to people but never end up doing it.
Same. I hate it.
same
Same
me toooo ;-;
Me too😭😭
I think I started off shy as a kid because with my elementary friends I felt awkward and afraid to talk compared to now where I can easily talk to them. Ever since my freshman year of high school I always feel anxious and self conscious around people even if I frequently hang out with them. Although, online it's a lil easier being myself and talking to them but still feeling awkward.
Right now I feel like I have to say all the right things and I constantly touch my face to make sure there's nothing on it or check my clothes. I feel as though I have to please everyone and make sure they don't hate me but that's kinda separate from social anxiety I think.
As a person with social anxiety, it does make me feel different from others, embarrass myself, interfering with how I perform, and my relationships, and even though I’ve known my classmates for 2 whole years, I still am scared of them. I overthink things A LOT, and also makes me feel sick all the time. Everything here is correct about social anxiety, but the turning point is that I’m the EXACT OPPOSITE OUTSIDE OF SCHOOL. I talk with my only 2 friends a lot.
I cant even write a comment without feeling judged
edit: thank yall for all the nice replies 🙏
Sameee
Same here
Well now u did
I wanted to say the same thing-
Same!
At this point I can’t even go shopping without getting overwhelmed
agoraphobia?
THISSS, even if i need help with something i just stay quiet
Heh that's why I ask my parents to go shopping for me instead of me.
I can’t even go get something out of the fridge when there are people around so going shopping is basically a nightmare for me
@@merowfangs Atiny? :P
I have terrible social anxiety if I’m being honest. I feel like I’m being judged every second, words can’t leave my mouth because I don’t wanna be questioned for what I say, overthink/overanalyze everything, and I’m just so awkward and introverted every minute. I feel like I like being alone, but it’s just people who make me feel embarrassed about it. It honestly sucks, but I can’t help it.
I have anxiety That what people Think of me and judge me... Before few days Teacher yelled at me and called me liar loudly and my classmates was Behind me .. i was holding my tears and i was so scared that i imagine people whispering about me..i literally felt so Anxious
Now why would she do such a thing. That was so mean of her>:3
Here’s another huge sign: when you’re in a store and you get like, nervous when people walk by you because you think they’ll judge you
Omgg i hate going to the shops cause like am the only one there
and they guy is wating for me am like hurry up u need to go
And i don't think i have anxiety but i guess im really shy when im at the store there will always (sometimes) be an enploye to help me fine the stuff right. Well i freak out i like to fine the stuff on my own but there just doing there job. But it freaks me out i will be very shy and i hate that
I don’t feel like they’re judging me but judging the stuff I buy :(
Notcrazy same
Yea that's me .-.
The fact that this appeared in my recommendations says a lot.
same bro same
me too ~_~
Same 😭💀
Same
sAme
I struggle to explain social anxiety to people. They say they understand but then get agitated or confused when I don’t want to do certain things- like go to an event with a bunch of people I don’t know. I literally struggle walking down the hall at work because preparing for how to ‘be’ or ‘act’ when a person walks past me nearly sends me into a panic attack. It is so difficult, draining, and isolating to try and get people to understand that in recent years I have just started to give up.
I'm an introvert and have social anxiety, I'm scared to go out, i feel like everyone's looking at me judging me, i hate having it, when thinking about my future, it creeps me out,I want to cry when somebody wants to meet me, i don't know how to explain it, it's like my heart want to explode,I just want to cry, but i can't because they're just gonna tell me I'm sensitive etc,I hate having s.a
Who else feels like their social anxiety has got worse in quarantine
Yess!! A 100%, I'm not even sure if I'll be able to handle 5 college days a week once all this is over.
yeah because i haven’t really seen anyone
yep.
Me I’m surprised I can even go outside my house tbh
Bc I dont wanna wear a mask and everyone stares at you like you is a big deal...I dont even wanna see anyone
does anyone else get anxious when u hear people laughing and think that they are laughing at u and judging u ?
edit: yooo thanks for all the likes lol. it’s nice to have so many people to relate to :)
omg YES
YESSS
Guys i dont know if this social anxiety or not but i always scared to order my food to cashier,and when people give my order wrong i doesn't do anything but just drink or eat that food without complain,my hand also will sweaty a lot and my mouth will shaking when i have to perform something😭😭
YES I FELT THIS
same all the time 😔
I've had to deal with my social anxiety for my whole life, before even realizing what social anxiety even is. That's why I choose not to be at events or gatherings, I always feel awkward talking to others, fearing what they'll think of me, especially after experiencing fake friends.
I have social anxiety because of my parents they donot let me go outside of my house or even my room and this is where I feel started to feel uncomfortable around people or normal public places, even at the school when the teacher asks a question to the class and even If I know It I cannot say it I don't have the confidence to raise my hands in class... Even if I don't go outside of my room but whenever I am going to school or coming back from school I feel like "look they are laughing at you they are judging you again" and finally when I came home I lock my room's door and sit on the corner of my room...I will never forgive my parents and forget what they did and how much I am suffering because of them.
I kinda grew up the same as you but it was more for safety I usually either just go out with friends or family never been anywhere alone and I am 21! But when I was in school I felt social anxiety. Mine comes and goes, but now I am doing much better even though I still have it. I push it away breathing and repeating that no one is looking at me no one's paying me attention and it works quite well :). In school I even raised my hand to answer a question I knew I surprised myself lol. Also the pandemic took my last year in school from my senior year I did all of it at home on the laptop and I kinda liked it. I even read a chapter of the book to the class through the laptop I am always happy with small accomplishments getting better and better everyday you got this! Finding a friend also can be easy just sit down next to someone eating alone at lunch and get to know them. It might be hard but it helps you get out of a bubble. Try to go on walks with family and when someone comes by say hey I love your dog, or hi Nice day, or I like your outfit. Doing this will help a lot. You got it take it one step at a time :)
No one:
Me: *hates public speeches, crowds, socialization, and having attention*
School: All your nightmares have come true.
I'm literally nervous to go to school because of social situations-
I could relate to this so much-
So relatable.
I like and hate having attention
Like i want the attention on me if im saying something cuz i will overthink that their not listening
And i hate them since i will think their judging me
@@hirogamer01o46 Lol same here.
Social anxiety: ~exists~
Teachers: I’m going to call out 5 people to state their opinion
And when u raise ur hand and the teachers ignore u, but then call on you when u dont
And they ALWAYS call you. My fourth grade teacher literally yelled at me in front of the whole class because I couldn’t answer the question. I was panicking I didn’t know what to do..
I had this one teacher who would avoid eye contact.....guess who got picked on... ALOT
The worst is when you are shy and have social anxiety like me they feel the same but hit in different ways bieng shy is not fun but if its mixed with social anxiety i cant stand this anymore
Well maybe it can help reduce it instead of staying in a shadow making your social anxiety worse
ive felt like ive had this for a while because ive always thought that ive been judged or that someone doest like me, or that i get really anxious around alot of people. ive also usually had headaches, being tense and had sweaty palms around people. i also feel better working/being alone.
Since primary school, I have had fear of talking to people in class and having presentations in front of the class, teachers keep commenting that I'm shy on my report card and telling my parents I don't talk or participate in class. At that time I was less insecure about myself and i had gained confidence at school when I reached year 5-6. But as soon as after covid hit, when I was going onto year 7, I moved to a new country, where everywhere's unfamiliar and I knew no one at school. I was terrified about my frist day, I thought that everything is going to be alright since the people are going to be new anyways, but few days in I realised almost everyone at school have at least one friend, while I'm sitting on a bench in the sun alone every single break. I didn't make any friends until halfway through year 7. I eventually made some friends, which are still the only friends I have until now (year 9). Puberty hit me hard, where I started comparing myself to others, thinking I'm too ugly, too fat, too short, every awful thing I could imagine of myself. At year 8, after a whole year of high school, I was still that unknown quiet kid at the back of the class, everyday walking into the school had became a huge challenge for me, I put my head down and avoid every single eye contact possibly to any students or teachers. As I feel like everyone is severely judging me for how i look like and behave. The only time I would ever put my head up is when my parents or friends are around as I could think that people would be judging them instead of me. I barely talked to anyone in my class for 3 years straight, everytime I tried to speak I couldn't start myself, I keep fidgeting with my nails and I would pinch myself with nails whenever I think I did something embarassing. I couldn't speak normally to strangers, ordering a meal at the counter would be the death of me. My parents don't understand how hard it was for me to ''speak up'' and have conversations with others. I would get scared to talk to people I know and seen a lot after 1 month of not talking and I would lock myself in my room to avoid contact. I couldn't answer people's question normally sometimes as I am often having a hard time thinking of an answer that wouldn't possibly embarass myself and sound normal. I never knew social anxiety was a thing, and I thought it's completely normal or how i behave. After I got to know about it, I tried telling my parents that I might be more than an introvert and being shy, they wouldn't litsen, they said I was being crazy. Well, I'm still not sure if I really have social anxiety or not. Either way I'm still trying to fight through it everyday, telling myself while walking to put my head up and talk with more people, trying to make as most memories of myself at this age, having more friends and all. To everyone who's like me, you are definately not alone, you got this, we will all fight through this some day, stay strong love
aw you are never alone I have social anxiety and do you want to talk
I can relate man I moved to a different country at year 7 as well, and my anxiety just worsened from then on. Thankfully after lockdown it kind of alleviated and I made many friends but I moved countries AGAIN. New school, new everything, I don't even feel like talking to my old friends let alone my new ones... its weird, sometimes I can be very talkative but other times I'm borderline silent for months on end. Really annoying and hope that I can get over it..
Telling someone with social anxiety to "just talk and be social" Is like telling a person with asthma to "just breathe"
right
true
This omfggg
no, i think telling a person with SAD to just talk is worse. (i don’t think i have SAD btw so idk BUT . . . as an asthmatic, we have our inhalers and yes, it is near impossible to breath but medications help a ton :3 i think there are very few medications with SAD? idk lol
Search -'Sean Cooper social anxiety' that's the best one I found how as to overcome social anxiety
Mother: "If you don't socialize, you are grounded for 2 months."
Social Anxiety: "Heck nah."
for me, when i get grounded she just takes away my phone and computer and then is like, "WhY aRe YoU sO uPsEt??? HaVe A bEtTeR mOoD oR yOu WiLL bE GrOuNdEd FoR lOnGeR."
and i have no life in real life, this will sound kinda cringy but the only place i accually enjoy things is on the internet so i despise when this happens with every fiber in my being :D
i-
This
sorry, i wrote those last two comments at 2:00 am
Ugh I hate when people say “oh, you could just be shy, you’re not introverted or have social anxiety” or “oh you could just be sad, you’re not depressed” like who are you specifically to say so?
How are shyness, social anxiety, and introversion different? That doesn’t make any sense. You are shy for a reason, you are socially anxious for a reason, you are introverted for a reason and that is all associated with the idea that you are afraid to be around people. Why are we dividing synonymous terminology as it’s own separate thing? They’re the same. You avoid people because you lack the skills to effectively talk to people or talk to a lot of people than what you are used to, that’s not enough of a difference to separate these three concepts apart.
You’re shy, you’re not that good at dealing with people, and although you CAN deal with people, you chose not to. They’re all the same thing.
Felt all of this and even seeing people stories and relatable moment as well. For me I feel like it was something developed as I got older because I started to know and become more aware. It’s so bad to the point where like I could finally break the ice and have a full blown conversation with someone new or even familiar and in the midst of the conversation my brain reminds me of how abnormal it is for me to hold conversations or that it doesn’t want me to. So it start going downhill mid conversation for me and I start to think of what to say next to keep the conversation going or avoid eye contact. Later on I remember the whole conversation and replay it in my head and think of all the things I could’ve said better or start thinking that the other person maybe thinks I’m weird or something. It’s still an ongoing issue and I wish it could go away but I realize what seems to work is distractions and being delusional. Like I started surrounding myself with encouraging quotes and watching you tubers like thewizliz and basically developed this I don’t give a f*ck mindset or like no one is better than me and I am not any better than anyone and we’re all equal so who care. Also like a I’ll never see this person ever again and they probably don’t care. It has helped me having these mindsets and sometimes I can feel my brain trying to creep in and destroy the progress and it does win sometimes but you know it’s a working progress and every you practice it consistently you’ll overpower the negative messages from your mind. Also you can also pretend you’re still your younger self because as children we don’t really process what we’re doing or saying and we’re authentically ourselves not giving a care in the world what others think. Like have you ever heard two children having a conversation. Yes it is funny and lacks structure but sometimes structure ruins things. Sometimes not knowing and just letting the conversation effortlessly flow turns out to be one of the best moments
Fruit for thought: Your thoughts aren’t always right. They’re imaginary. Fiction. Disguised to look real but is very fake. Tell these thoughts to “stfu nobody cares...and I don’t care” or “not today” cause if you give in to these thoughts, when you finally feel the urge to fight the battle, you’ll lose half of your life, opportunities that could’ve been, fun times and relationships/friendship that’s could’ve been long lasting. You’ll miss out on a whole lifetime and you’re going to reminisce on “what it could’ve been”. So fight the battle while you still can. It’s going to be hard but that’s the proof that you’re fighting and that you want your mind back!
People who dont feel like this are so lucky
ikr🥺
Smh it's the worst
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I feel fucking lonely with this shit
@@lukesmith4509 Same
Me having:social anxiety
My family: you’re just shy
tell them that social anxiety is a mental illness and shyness is a person’s trait.
exactly, my mom always says “its nothing”
Yup i defnetly have social anxiety
Accurate
Same
I hate the times my mom sends me alone to the supermarket. I can't breathe or make eye contact and I just want it to end quickly.
social anxiety in one phrase:
"hello, i'm sorry"
edit: wow thanks for the likes ☺️
That's how I introduce myself tbh. I'm like hi, sorry bye
someone would step on the back of my shoe and i would tell them sorry for being in the way
I fedl the same way
Feel sorry
😳
Social anxiety is like having Conspiracy theories but only about yourself.
So true 😔
Thank you for making my day! I was bawling my eyes out, then I stumbled upon this comment, and more snot came out of my nose. 😅
hahahah Illuminati go brrrrrr
I have social anxiety and now my mom is making me see a therapist. But I feel like it’s still not gonna help. Also it cost money when I could just watch RUclips videos on social anxiety and how to overcome it. I feel like I am just a weird person who just wants to be alone all the time and that I’m wasting peoples time when I am talking to them because I freeze up and that I am afraid to talk to other people because of my stutter and speech impediment. I just play video games to make me feel happy and feel like I’m worth something because I want to be a youtuber who plays games.😞😔☹️
The most accurate comment ever
Social anxiety is caused by anxiety. Anxiety is mental illness. What I realized by my own experiences, is that I can’t control my emotions. The way that I am and my vision of how I perceive the world are included by the way that I think and feel. I know for sure anxiety shyness are related. I think it’s also because I am a very reserved and antisocial person.
Thank you so much, Psych2Go. I have ALL these symptoms, and after therapists and doctors, I found out I have social anxiety. Whenever I just think about going to the dentist for example,my heart starts to beat so fast and I start to have trouble with breathing because of the communication I have to make with people there, and I get so scared when I have to talk to someone,scared to embarrass myself and what the person will think about me after. Love you.
When you’ve thought you have social anxiety for a while now, but now you REALLY THINK YOU HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY
It do be like that doe
True
I have a diagnosis lol so I know I do
THATS ME
How long has it been? The quarantine can make it worse lol.. when you have to go back out there and interact with people.
Sometimes I feel embarrassed because I cant look at people in the face.
Same buddy give me distance high five 😂😫
especially their eyes
Same here. 😢😥
@@justinnesamantha2432 yeah, the eyes. It scares me idk why...
yeah and then you go home and think they hate you or think you hate them cuz you didnt look them in the eyes.......maaan social anxiety can go jump off a microwave
I have this fear of when I eat it public because I think people will judge me for being overweight and they’ll say something like “Can’t you tell you’ve eaten enough, like just go fast or something”? This really upsets me and puts me in the mind zone of “don’t eat that much in public” and yes I show like 5 of the symptoms
Feels kinda comforting knowing I’m not the only one feeling like this and being like this
I wish I could socialise like other people can
Can we speak i am also sufferings because of social anxiety
Having social anxiety is like difficulty to make eye contact to someone , Being quiet and alone in school , Fear of being judged , Meeting new people or making new friend will be difficult and people will find it hard to understand to you and the only things they will said is you have to talk more or you have to stop being shy . I seriously hate all this it ruined my life so much
Pikachu 01 EXACTLY. Finally someone understands
Same 🥺🔪
Same
growing up shy until you realize that you're actually growing up with social anxiety.
yeah..
🙂yeahhh...
Omgg yh. 😭😭
mhm
Same
my social anxiety around family: 25%
social anxiety around strangers: 79%
social anxiety around my close friends: 0%
social anxiety while being watched/public speaking: 256%
I used to be really extroverted and social, and then I found out that my friends were talking trash about me behind my back, calling me annoying for just being myself. Then, my entire class found my old youtube channel and started making fun of me to the point where I wanted to switch schools, which I did. Ever since then I’ve just been feeling anxious that my new friends will judge me and talk trash about me like my old friends did. It’s exhausting. I don’t think I have social anxiety ’cause I didn’t relate to most of these, but it’s just that I can never leave a conversation without always being like ”sh* I shouldn’t have said that, I was probably being so annoying”. It doesn’t help that some of my friends that still go to my old school tell me that my old class is still making fun of me and talking about me, and on top of that one of my friends recently came to ME and started saying how much they hated one of their friends ’cause they were being annoying but they didn’t want to say anything to them cause they’d be sad so they told me. That friend didn’t know about everything I listed above and I’m sure it wasn’t meant to illude to anything but now I just feel scared that they say that same stuff about me.
I don’t like to self diagnose but I’m pretty sure I have social anxiety..
Best thing is to ask a professional abt it and see if you can start treatment.
It’s actually self diagnosable but it’s best to seek professional help to understand it better and receive help so it dosent gradually get worse ❤️❤️
@@yesmaam3536 like I don't know if this also consider anxiety but from I was like 3 year old my mom told me I was different from the other kid didn't like to play or associate with people but now it becomes extremely bad I feel upset angry or drown of energy when people coming home some time just don't like part or anything to do with more that 5 people
That’s why you post your face on the internet...? I would go to a professional, it may be something else (not trying to be mean or question anyone’s mental health)
Zena Ally when your small it could be introversion
i thought i was just shy but it's scary how much i relate to this 😭
me too 🥹
Social phobia has destroyed my life. Life is scary! People mock me and insult me. I have read many books and watched videos, but improvement is very slow. I am 60 years old now, but this freaking disease never leaves me because of inheritance and environment in my childhood
I’m so tired of having social anxiety
same ;(
Then go out and changed for the better.
@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 its not easy
@@samuels1506
No sht. I'm working as promoter and seller to overcome my social anxiety and the amount of awkward moments gives me nightmare during night. But that's how it's is. Life is hard :(
Just like what jaiden said "stop it" (joke. Dont worry i also have social anxiety)
Reading these comments is really comforting.
Agreed. It's much more comforting to know others go through the same thing.
For sure, I have literally all of these and i cried watching
Yea, I always thought I'm just an exceptionally weird and person
I agreee
@@reptile9337 yeah..
I have it... at my school 3 periods before lunch we have mid morning, (where we can buy snacks) i never have any money and my whole class sits at on table (9 kids) and since i never have money, my whole class has snacks and im just sitting there thinking, "do they notice me?" "my arms look skinny..." "i look awkward" “how are they viewing me rn?” and more. I just sit there staring at the ceiling every single mid morning questioning my existence, and nobody in my class talks to me.
I get really overwhelmed and stressed and uncomfortable around a lot of people and crowds and sometimes I get so overwhelmed and stressed that I can’t find people
I can’t even cross the road without feeling anxious
Yep I know this feeling like when I was like 11 years old and everytime im crossing in the road with my uncle and if I EVER almost got hit by a bicycle he would say that I'm an idiot or even swear at me. and look at me now feelin anxious every time that I cross a road with many people around me because I feel like they're talking about me because I'm an idiot that can't even cross a road... Also I look so stupid when I cross a road
Thanks to my uncle for making me feel anxious every time I cross a road :")
@@cni7435 what
@@throatking5445 nvm... sorry if my grammar is bad.
@@cni7435 I said what for no reason don't mind it
@@throatking5445 oohhhhhhh okay haha!
My social anxiety is so bad omg. I remember one day when i was in middle school, i asked my teacher to not make me present my project, but she said i would fail if not. While i was presenting istg i thought i was gonna faint. My heart was beating hella fast, i couldn't even speak properly, felt like i couldn't breathe, i was shaking and extremely light headed. I just think teachers should be more informed about mental issues like social anxiety before forcing triggers upon students unknowingly.
ugh I know that feeling, I hate that because I’ve always being good in studies but presentations were so hard for me. I looked dumb and unprepared a lot of times, like reading my script without looking up and with my hands shaking. I couldn’t even read it well. Now I hide my irrational nervousness better but it’s still there.
Yeah it’s important to know how to talk in public and all that shit but... It’s really unfair to some people, because they never teach you techniques to calm yourself or something like that, they’re just like “don’t get nervous” 😀.
I relate so much. I one time had a really rough month where my social anxiety was more bad than any other months and I had to presented my presentation and I literally BEGGED my teacher not to do it she said I have to or she will give me an F so I asked if I at least can do it at my seat she said no I have to go in front of the class but I was able to sit on a chair I got red as heck my heart started racing so fast and I was sweating a bit I thought too that I will faint and I the whole time just talked quiet stuttert and looked at my notes I avoided eye contact it was a disaster. I was able to pass it luckily but I was so close of to fail it. It was just extreme for me
I feel that :( it’s extremely ableist when teachers dock points off your grade for not being able to make eye contact, hands shaking, etc. during presentations. Teachers should be more aware about mental illnesses and disabilities and listen to the student.
Same... So I have social anxiety?? I thought I'm just super shy....
Exactly, teachers should not force the socially anxious students to answer in front of so many people. These days during the online classes, it is even more pathetic, they threaten you to switch on your camera and microphones to answer or else they will mark us absent and attendance affects the academy. I always break down when my teacher forcefully makes me answer. UGH!
btw, i'm one of your subscribers, didn't know you are socially anxious too. i love your videos, we're from the same fam (coz kpop, bruh)
I was very concerned i might have it. It's just a personality trait (being very shy)
I am experiencing many of these symptoms. Learning ways to fight seems very important.
I really wish people who don't experience social anxiety can feel this for just ONE day. Just to better understand us.
Yaaa
Yesss they be like, why are u always alone come join us and then when we finally say something they be like omg u actually talk
Same. My mum and sis are like "oh it's not that hard" "just put yourself out there" well yea if I could I would've tried that ages ago .-.
Unfortunately people who don't have social anxiety will not understand 😫
For real.
This comment section is the only place where I feel safe and understood.
Same
Yeah, but it kinda lowkey sucks that a comment section is the only place I can let my thoughts out ya know?
Same
I'm still nervous to comment lol
Me too
I have all of these symptoms! I haven’t been diagnosed, but I do have social anxiety because I go through this everyday! It’s very hard for me and It even makes me not talk to my bestfriends sometimes.
I have really bad anxiety and I always bring a fidget or just anything I can find, and I bring it to class and even when I’m not nervous, I still bring it and it makes me just feel like something is wrong with me. I have thoughts like, “what if she thinks I’m annoying?” Or “what if he doesn’t like me?” The main sign of my anxiety, is moving, or fidgeting NONSTOP. I also have a VERY short attention span which is usually about 3 minutes. The average child’s attention span is about 7, so that says a lot lol. I am also a REALLY bad nail biter. When I have a performance I have to do, I’ll get sweaty, and maybe even feel sick. I also might sound or do worse than I might do if I didn’t have anxiety. I am also going to put 5 tips for my anxiety besties out there!💜
1. Tell someone. Tell someone how you feel, and how your anxiety may affect your daily tasks.
2. No one is perfect. Everyone has experienced anxiety at least once. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
3. Live your life. Even though you may feel your anxiety is stopping you from having fun, it’s not. You are letting it stop you. Let loose and do something you enjoy.
4. Don’t force yourself. Take baby steps in trying to set a goal. For example, set a goal to pay attention 5 minutes more that you usually do. If you complete that goal, go on to 10 minutes, and so on. Don’t put pressure on yourself to do everything in one big step. Take your time.
5. Breathing. Focus on your breathing. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold it, let it out for 4 seconds, hold it, and so on. Breathing will help you and your brain to focus on what’s important. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF BEFORE YOU TAKE CARE OF OTHERS!
Also, this took me about 25 minutes to type, so PLEASE like this comment❤️
On my bed with my social anxiety spending a great time doing nothing.
same
this comment hit different...
LITERALLY
Same
it's comforting!
It sucks when you have social anxiety AND social awkwardness at the same time
Yes
That's me:/
Oh God, this reminds of the time we had lab practice in school...and my worst nightmare happened. My arm accidentally brushed past a test tube stand and broke 4 out of 6 of them. I was in the middle of the lab and EVERYONE turned to look at me (almost 50 kids) I tried to pick up the test tubes from the ground and one of the broken tubes I had already picked up fell out of my hand and broke even further and the entire class went "OOOHH" and my then I started to feel nauseous but thankfully nothing more happened. I was able to hold back my tears till I got home and then I had a huuuuge bawling session. I still get a nauseous feeling in my stomach when I think about it even though it was 2 years ago.
@@anotherszastannoooooo I feel so sorry for you:( forreal I would *literally* die of embarrassmant:(
@@Lucy_TheFox1234 Thank you for sympathizing with me
Ummm…..hey I know this comment is late this was posted a while ago but hearing your calm voice and watching this video made me feel better so thank you 😊
I’m not diagnosed but I think I have social anxiety and I really easily get attached to people. Whenever I’m really fully able to talk to the person and get over my social anxiety I feel attached to them. When my anxiety gets bad I see them as comfort, but t the same time I overanalyze them and feel as though I’m being annoying and the anxiety comes flowing back like a never ending cycle.
Everyone at school: “I have social anxiety I can’t perform in front of people”
Me -is self conscious about the way I walk talk eat act and perform- “I’m fine”
Potato Weirdo, to be honest same.. I’m even scared to eat at school so I just don’t eat.. at all
I am afraid of laughing, like what if I'm laughing in a weird way...so i just tend to cover my mouth and so sometimes ppl say stuff like remove your hand! and why are you covering your mouth? And I just-
I do this even when ppl are around me when I am walking because i look weird from the side so I feel like ppl are looking at me and judging me and so I-
I cannot explain this feeling very well I'm sorry😅
I'm scared to walk talk eat and just do anything in public XD also I have all those signs.. Welp guess I have social anxiety my sister says she has it but then she makes friends with the people at the cash register XD we're I live we don't call it cash register so I don't really know how to spell it so sorry if I'm wrong
@@ayushim2754 I think that to XD I'm afraid to do anything in public cause I feel like people are watching me and gonna judge me
@@emuified same, i feel like my classmates are judging the way i eat or what i got for lunch or breakfast, so i just don't eat until i get home :(
Does anyone else also have anxiety about quarantine ending because then you have to go back to school in person?
My quarantine already ended and its not going good but i believe that you will get through it ur not alone and u r gorgeos
@@Valeria-wc5rg thanks, I hope it gets better for you also
Ye
Yes! I always have my camera off in fear like “the lighting looks bad, let’s move.” “They’re probably looking me.” Or I just have thoughts of everyone just judging me. It gets so much easier to speak because my camera is off. It gives much more relaxation knowing that people aren’t judging me because they can’t see me. It gets to the point where I’m just really nervous to turn it on and has it off unless I’m just really forced to. I can’t even really type in the chat, always deleting my previous sentences like: “they might find that weird.” “They gonna think of me as weird.” “Whys does that look like something a small child would say?” “I shouldn’t even be speaking anyway.” “No one is gonna care about that opinion.”
It gets to the point where I just don’t even choose to open the chat unless I need to inform my teacher about something really important.
I find myself liking online school so much better, being able to hide behind a screen without the struggle to worry about the way I’m sitting in front of people.
Quarantine already ended for me for a month or so already and it got even worse.
I think i have social anxiety, but there's a lot of bad things about having social anxiety , the most common one is that it's a mental illness and, that is bad but the other thing is that a lot of people actually don't believe in social anxiety ,and make fun of you in lot of situations which is not good😶
These symptoms match my friend's symptoms exactly, and she also has problems with her family, I hope she is fine
I feel like everyone's talking bad about me when I'm not there
yeah me too
That’s backstabbing not social anxiety it’s when you think someone is judging you or giving you weird looks but they don’t even pay attention to you
It’s worse when you _know_ they are
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yeah, me too. i feel like my friends are talking sh*ts about me everytime they hangout without me
That moment when you relate to all the
symptoms, but you’re too scared of going to see a professional because you think they’re gonna judge you.
Edit: happy news
I feel like the real me Is stuck behind a Brick wall in my head and he can’t get out
I was forced to talk to a school counselor once and the whole time I was trembling, my voice was shaky as fuck, I was tryna hide my face by holding a hand over my nose, I was crossing my legs and uncrossing them constantly, I was getting really lightheaded, and I had a tear or two stream down my face. I felt like I could not breathe well because of my runny nose and tried to not sniffle. To add on, my mind was overthinking immensely and I was scared to talk to her so my replies came out in short muffled shaky breaths.
@@misfortunee9949i’m so sorry you had to go through that
😔😔😔
me too i also want to go but im afraid what they'll think and treat me differently 😕 i dont know what to do
I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety. The only thing on this list I don't feel constantly is the one about feeling on edge with friends. I feel it with new friends but mostly the anxiety happens after. On bad days it's constant, but not always. Definitely planning on trying to get diagnosed.
I always felt like everyone was severely judging me at school, I don't even have the confidence to talk to others. I got my social anxiety at school when I was only 10
I don't understand how some people aren't always scared of being judged all the time
Ikrrr imagine have that confidence to ask an employee where the dish sope iss💀💀🙅🙅
I mean I’m scared and all but I hide who I really am
Life to short to care about what other people say Nd think
@@stvrrlight7 stggg
@@stvrrlight7 just remember no ones perfect and your only benefiting yourself asking where the dish soap is. Plus how often to you pay attention to other people’s flaw. I know I’m focused on my own world I don’t even noticed love u
Me: *dresses up and feels confident then loses all my confidence on the way or when I get there*
Omg yea like if I do my hair rlly nice for school I feel so confident and then when I get there I feel judged and lose my confidence and just take it out ;-;
Happened 2 hours ago 😂
Same
I can totally relate to that, well at least I know I'm not the only one
OMG I hate when that happens
The fact I relate to all says a lot, my mental health has been effed up lately
Social anxiety hits the worst in school😔
yeah😢
This is so relatable, but my parents go like : "It's just shy phase, you'll grow out of it."
My parents say the same thing.
I don't even talk to my parents about it
@@sloortje1601 same but when they ask me about why im like it, i tell them so, this is their usual answer
@@yuuzer but they don't talk to me about that for some reason
@@sloortje1601 oh i see
I hate it when people say "stop being shy and just speak up more" to me when they dont know how it feels to have social anxiety😔
Me too. Especially when it’s my parents that say it.
I know!
My teacher once told me to not be shy but .. it's not easy...
My mom said to me "YoU'rE jUsT sHy yOu'lL gRoW oUt oF iT" like- no- thats not how it works-
Everybody tells me that...ofc here not
Me too :) I've heard it so many times now :)
I relate to all of these, all of them I have nodded to. I always felt skeptical, feeling like I did something wrong most of the time, like you mentioned.
I have social anxiety and I get so sweaty when a stranger or even someone I know talks to me it feels like I'm about to pass out. Thank you! I've thought I had social anxiety for a while.
I told my mom that I think I might have social anxiety and she said “everyone goes through it” soo..that went well.
Edit: sorry:( I can’t reply to all of the comments but I’m sorry that you guys have to go through the same thing😔
Omg same! I keep on telling my parents I need to seek help but they will just say, it's normal to feel stressed, you just lack confidence. I missed my basketball trials cause I had a panic attack in front of older boys and had to leave the facility as my heart rate was too high. I dont think that's lack of confidence bro
Phoenix zard One time, I played table tennis because I volunteered. I regretted it. I lost at that time because I have zero experience in sports. I was shaking so much because there was a lot of people and I couldn't concentrate. I went to the comfort room and cried. My team called me and wanted me to play again for the 2nd round but I turned them down because I was afraid I was going to make a fool of myself.
@@caelum811 it's a horrible feeling isnt it, hopefully you are coping better now, it's hard when it stops you from doing things you love, and no one understands what your feeling
Phoenix zard frrr🤦🏾♀️ I’m so sorry that that happened to you!
Phoenix zard I hope you are also coping better now.