We made this video on 10 Signs Your Parents are Making You Depressed awhile back. A lot of you resonated with the video very well. Give it a watch afterwards if you haven't seen it yet: ruclips.net/video/tDcvvHeKyuw/видео.html
When i remember back to being a kid i remember this awful feelings of emptiness that would haunt me, i had no idea what it was. The oldest memory i have of this is that my parents made me a custom advent calendar and i had this wired feeling of ungratefulness, i just felt incredibly empty and sad. Its only gotten worse since.
I am a child and I am going through suicide and I need help but I’m to scared to tell anyone who can I’ve only tell my friends who wont get help because I’ve told them not to I don’t know what to do and I need help can anyone help?
The "children can't get depressed" thing happens so many times in my house, when i start to talk to my parents about what I'm going through, they ignore it by saying "Why you're depressed? Children of your age can't get depressed, it's us who are depressed". They act like depression is a thing that only occurs for adults and not suffering children, they act like childen aren't supposed to get depressed. My whole house is filled with fake superstition and it is so bad.
I am saddened to hear that because my parents think it’s my phone that is making me feel depressed but for some kids who have depression, their parents don’t understand it’s comes at any age.
I’d ask them when does it become serious? Do they want to wait until I’m unalive because of it? Will it be serious enough then? No, because they think their problems are so much worse, that they can’t even have any empathy for their off spring.
If you want them to hear what you're going through, maybe they want you to hear what they are going through as well, make this a moment to talk about things you appreciate and things you don't like on each other and maybe you can fix stuff.
You think that's bad? My step father said to me when I was eight "you know, your mother could have put you up for adoption because of your blind eye? She could have thought you'd be a burden and an invalid. But she didn't because she loves you".
“What do you have to be depressed about? You have a roof over your head, food, (etc.)” That’s what my mom says to me, as if depression is only caused by a lack of physical things. It’s very much the opposite where your parents can be there for you physically while completely lacking mentally/emotionally.
Well it sucks to be you, since I'm *_grateful_* for all those things that MY mom gave me, SO MUCH SO that she is WILLINGLY there for me emotionally, TEN TIMES AS MUCH AS THE AVERAGE CARING EMPATHIC PARENT! SUCK IT, LOSER! >:D
then they bring up something about how you should be grateful you arent a starving child in africa or sumthin like its suddenly impossible or stupid to be sad for any reason cause theres a kid in africa starving
@@punishedwhirligig3353 oh she’s done that too and internally it’s like- way to undermine your kid and raise them to internalize you’re toxicity and be traumatized by it.
What they do not understand that we in childhood also play an adult role in life we try to hide our sad feelings and struggles so they don’t worry but if we did it’s just that we are being ungrateful to them. We are grateful for what they did but sometimes it came be that we want to do something for them it’s not only them doing for us we do to by small small things they don’t recognise 😢😢
You can become depressed from a young age from your parents being overly critical and making you believe that you can't do anything right. Bonus points if you have OCD and all of those thoughts hit you out of nowhere all the time...
Sounds like my mom who insisted I couldn't be stressed or depressed because I was "just a kid and didn't have any real problems." Meanwhile I had to get her up for work every morning starting when I was 9 and my sister and I had to clean the house and make dinner by ourselves because she couldn't be bothered.
@@anderstermansen130 I can't tell if this is some sort of sick joke (thanks, autism), or if you're actually just that dense to believe that a child being depressed isn't possible. News flash, 'buddy', people of ALL ages can get depressed. People hiding being trans from relatives, people with abusive relatives, anyone can be depressed. The world isn't all sunshine and rainbows, I know people that are 13-14 that are WELL aware that there's a high likelihood of a civil war starting in America within the next few years. Stop being a dense prick and realize not everyone has life handed to them on a silver platter
"Children can't get depressed." I've been depressed since I was 12. Now I'm 18 and it's gotten even worse. My parents never took it seriously. Even now they don't and I fear the same thing is happening to my little sister.
As a 14 y/o with probable depression, I can't explain the frustration that wells inside of me when my parents just don't understand how big of a deal depression is. As a result, I began to distance myself from my parents as they aren't going to understand anyway. Being called "lazy" and "not trying" just makes me feel worse. Much thanks to the Psych2Go team for putting this video out, bringing awareness to such unnecessarily large problems. I owe everything to this channel for helping me through the toughest of times and bringing me information everyone should know.
I feel the same as you feel, dont let yourself down, i am posibly the only one to say this to you but, you are loved by someone, doesnt matter who but someone loves you.
Don't listen to them, I'm speaking from my experience. Talk with someone you know close to your age is a good friend/friends about it. Hang out with them, talk about interests, play with them, do anything with them or someone you like. It helped me with my depression
As someone who's 14 in 11 days this hits the bullseye which is the main reason I just started to draw and write and not share anything with my parents and only a select few
I'm going to send this to my family all over!! Last summer I (20F) had suspicions that a young cousin(10) had depression and I was basically told by everyone to shut my face so to prove I might not have been wrong, since they kept trying to say it was impossible for my cousin to have depression at their age, I'm going to send this for them to digest
I was 7 when i got depression...parents never understand me. Now i am 17, i am after several suicide attempts. I love you, remember, don't change, if nobody's there for you I AM.
I hope you are better now, even when things are hard please don’t you through the suicide method. I don’t know what you’re going through right now but please don’t go through the suicide method
I still remember when I was a kid, I got diagnosed with depression.... I got it at a young age that I had to get medicated at that point. I wasn't just bullied but also isolated and unable to process the world around me.
Timestamps 1). Children can't get depressed, it's adults only 0:39 2). It's just a phase it will pass 1:48 3). They're glued to that darn phone all the time 2:48 4). It's not depression, they are just lazy 4:11 5). Therapy means my child getting stuffed with meds 6:00 6). If my kid is depressed, it means I'm a bad parent 7:13 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Way back in the day when the internet and smart phones were decades away, when I was depressed, which was most of the time, my mother had the reason. Actually, a choice of two: my period or the summer heat. That added insult to injury.
I've been depressed since I was 11 ☹️ meds didn't help, therapy didn't help - and I was blamed for that. She'd say shit like: "It won't matter in x years!" (If I was upset about something) "Everyone has to go through it!" (School - when I'd talk about it being insufferable) Called lazy, selfish, and ungrateful, and vilified for sewerslide attempts. I used to look up to her, and she would shelter me and coddle me with EVERYTHING else, so I didn't understand why she did that. She said many years later that she wanted me to become independent and do it myself, so basically like walking it off with a broken leg. She isn't an idiot, she's actually wise, so I didn't understand why she saw it so, so wrongly, and continued the same method of trying to make me fix it myself (when meds and therapy weren't enough on their own), when for years it didn't help me AT ALL. Not even once. I'm almost 20, and I'm too anxious to ever drive, too anxious and depressed to work, and I'm sure as hell NOT going to college. She failed to raise me and TO THIS DAY, blames me. It legitimately just tears away at my soul.
Oh my goodness, my friend (who I call kibble in online convos) lacks any self esteem whatsoever. He may be obedient, relaxed, and an understanding man, but what Kyrie did to him made him barely trust anyone, even though only one person ever left him. Just take it one step at a time, you’ll get to a better point.
i tell my dad i think i have depression. “depression is a serious mental illness. you don’t have depression.” my therapist recently diagnosed me with depression
Both my parents (divorced) would not do anything for when one of my siblings had depression and this video covered all the things they both thought about it. I didn’t know what to do and that was a terrible time for all of us. It’s still going to this day and I keep trying my best to see both sides of the issue; I know that it will get better soon but I still have to make sure I am ready for whatever drastic change and/or action may happen during this dark time. I pray for all of you who may have struggled with child depression and probably are now 🙏🏼 Thanks again, Psych2go, for your help
"Stop crying before i hit you" and "you only came into this World to make me suffer" is stuff i hear all the time ive stopped trying to open up to my parents and ive stopped crying instead ive just been bottleing up my Feelings bc no one cares abt my Feelings anyways and the first time i opend up to my sister abt school and how all my friends were fake and rude to me she just said "oh.. ok?" And then told my mom and after that they made fun of me for a week saying things like :Mom: "why dont you hang out with your friends?" Sister: "she doesnt have any" and then they would start laughing at me and Tell me im dramatic for being upset they were making fun of me :/
I don't exactly know what to say here right now but I just want to say that you're not alone in this and there is many more other people that suffer like you and my point right now is that you are not alone in this type of he//hole and there's also someone out there that would support you if they found out about your problem, from people on the internet to someone that you might meet in real life, so you don't have to worry if you think that no-one care about you because someone,somewhere care about you and I just want to say I hope you find that person one day. Also I just want to say that I don't really know how to say something positive to help people because I have a hard time being positive and I am just trying to help here but it's okay if you just ignore me.
The teenager me watching alot of these kind of videos so i can be a good mother in the future By the why i love your channel sm, it's very good to have joy and learning at the same time :)
Well, it works. Get over it, or go off yourself. Saying this as a 33 year old man, who survived a crippling depression, which started in childhood. Mostly through desensitization and random violence.
I’ve been depressed for most of my life and I haven’t said anything to anyone except my boyfriend because I don’t want to be put away or forced to take meds that don’t help
You will not be put away unless your psychologist has evidence you are about to be a serious danger to yourself. And it is entirely your choice to take a prescription if you're not in a facility. If you are an inpatient, you have to advocate heavily to your assigned psychologist when a medication is giving you symptoms of Serotonin syndrome (can be fatal), which typically looks like the beginning of mania. I was put on Setraline and Citalopram, both SSRIs, both gave me the jitters, insomnia and made me aggressive (way out of character, the last one). So far, Mirtazapine has been working, as I have a prolonged circadian rhythm so I need something to knock me out after being awake 30 hours. As I said, you will not be put away in an instant for speaking to someone. Someone in your childhood must have terrified you into believing that "crazy" relative got therapy and now they're in a mental hospital for "no good reason". No, there has to be a very serious reason, such as actively slicing and dicing, giving away multiple personal affects and putting affairs into order in a timeframe which is uncharacteristic. Trust, once you are given a good medication, your life changes for the better. You do not have to take the full tablet, you can split them, ask for a low dose to start and taper if the side effects are even a minor inconvenience. Honestly, the right medications don't have noticeable negative side effects. And if you outright refuse, then and this is going to sound like bogus, drink green tea for two weeks. Brew at 70⁰C with some honey, 14 days. See how you feel.
@anderstermansen130 as hard as it for you to stop being a 56yo in your mother’s basement trying to sound smart and funny when you’re the worst of the gum-chewing, rage-baiter, probably depressed in reality (get some therapy, you need it) simpletons in history.
Toxic parents who refuse to acknowledge the part they play in their children’s mental health issues are the same ones who wonder why their kids go no contact, use their phone as an escape, etc.
Respect to the parents here! Thank you for paying attention to your child! Message for children out there who need help: rest assured, the parents who actually need to see this will NEVER see it, and if you show it to them they will not understand. ❤ Goodluck! You're not alone and you will make it :)
@@Zeoroark oh I wish my parents said cuss words XD if I got caught saying one I would have to brush my teeth 3 times to "clean my mouth" also i don't know how my parents would react if they knew everything. Im so deep into the lie
the punishment for "being lazy" meant a whole added level of pressure on my depressed soul. glad this is far in my past now. for those who facing this now. in time this will pass for you also. seek help from trusted friends or professionals when you think you need it.
Pressure is a defining factor here. You break under it, you build yourself anew, then break again - until you're stable enough or untill you're crushed. No outside help can do any good.
@@vladcrow4225 No outside help maybe, I had a conversation with myself once, that saved my life. another thing is to, realize that all that hurts is because it is accepted if you really do not care it won't hurt (this is not an answer but reality) a second tip one can adjust one's brain to learn to be more happy. like a road more traveled gets obvious to walk through, like when one smiles you find yourself feeling more happy. but it goes deeper if you imprint how wonderful your day is after some weeks it gets more wonderful. accent the better thing feeling the better things want to be more brave. imprint a moment you felt brave, as your own, claim it, and recall it when you need it I swear this will work.
TW: vent/rant?? soo...who else was told "if you wanna be a boy, then stop crying" "your lucky that im not hitting you anymore" "they dont get it" "we like you better when you take ur meds" like mom, your ARE the reason i take meds, like mom you misgender me, hitted me when i was younger, didnt do ANYTHING when i was SA!!?? and you still dont check on me when im sad, im scared to talk with you, you never love me, it like im not ur child, always saying "your always in that dark room on that laptop" like mom, maybe check on me?? i always have to think bout something just to see how you'll react? i just want my mom to love me, at this point, i dont even know if im over reacting, l
I remember something my nana said in an argument a while back, when i said something about "Its my right!" And she said: "You dont have rights, you're a CHILD" Like, do children just not have rights to privacy or things of their own? Im pretty sure everyone deserves a right to things like privacy, or anything for that matter, even children. And ive never forgotten it.
I remember being depressed in first grade and being suicidal by age twelve. In college I attempted to end my life. I’m in therapy now and am doing better. I’m happier now. Parents, I say this as a once depressed child and ex-teacher: learn about your child and their feelings, love them, listen to them, and please get them help.
As a 10 year old child with possible depression I find this very useful. One time when I was 9 I told my mother I thought I had depression, my mother replied "Why do you think you're deoressed?" And I didn't have a reason to be depressed nor did I know why I'd be depressed so my mother didn't care much. One thing that also can cause depression is anxiety. I have social anxiety which makes it harder to socialize with other kids my age, and anxiety can make you fearful which makes you feel vulnerable and alone
I am not a child anymore I will never forget the way my family made me feel, they told me I becoming lazy and fat and also I needed to fix my depression otherwise a man wouldn’t stay with me.
i found this channel a few years back when i was in a bad place mentally and even if i dont follow the channel anymore, seeing a video from you guys from time to time makes me really happy now that im in a better place mentally
I would send this to my mom but I already know she'd just laugh it off and say I'm "just going thru some things and it'll pass", or, "just pray to God it'll pass". Don't get me wrong I LOVE God but it doesn't mean praying to him automatically makes my sadness fade away, he is not magic. Just bc I'm a child in my household my emotional problems NEVER gets acknowledged and they just see it as a phase or compare it to a silly little thing they felt when they were my age and LITERALLY compare my suicidal thoughts to their "oh my ice cream fell and I felt sad" situation, it's literally so draining and is one of the biggest reasons why I NEVER wanna open up again, it's literally no use at all opening up to my family, they literally just mock me later when I seem to be happier and say "oh what happened to ur sadness?" It is literally so DRAINING for me, I literally cry every.single.night. without them knowing bc I know damn well I'll get made fun of or shouted at for not opening up to them or not trusting them enough.
I'm an adult male in my late 30's and my depression began when I was 6. My Kindergarten teacher was incredibly mean-spirited and would ALWAYS lash out at me just because I was different from the other students (I was in special education from grade school through high school). She even physically assaulted me a couple of times and whenever I tried to report it, nobody did anything about it. As a result, I got very upset to the point where I eventually just broke down and cried during my classroom's visit to the school library. To add insult to injury, both the school librarian and my mom resorted to gaslighting later that same day by saying, "You're being dramatic." Later, when I was over at my babysitter's house, both her and her husband asked me if I was depressed and I answered, 'yes.' Once my mom came to pick me up and they informed her about it, she replied, "He's not depressed, he's just being dramatic." Of course, that only made things worse. I STILL remember that to this day and it has damaged me emotionally and psychologically.
I'm not a parent, and I was curious, what I learned is enlightening, but also heartbreaking for me, because this video, coupled with dozens upon dozens of other media, made me realize that I was never at fault, that I was never just lazy, just not smart enough or anything, and that I exhibits a huge amount of prominent ADHD symptoms, and clear signs of depression, thankfully I'm a bit better now, I have a few coping mechanisms, some healthy some not so much, but the point is I'm doing better now, I wish my mom knew English so I could send her this to let her see where me and my sister were or are struggling
Child me was always told to suck it up, it's a phase, and it's my phone's fault. Child me didn't get the validation he was looking for. But somehow hearing this spoken through the video makes my inner child feel validated. Thanks
As for the thumbnail of this video, I was in 2cd grade when I recognized my sadness. I never ate. I hated eating. I couldn’t see my friends which made me sad, and I was online pretty much all the time. And when I opened up to my parents (wanting therapy) I was told “you’re to young.” I cried. And few years later, my sister reached 2cd grade to. She told my parents of her depression. And I got in trouble for being mean? And my parents, they totally felt sorry for her. And my parents still wonder why I don’t tell them anything anymore.
"you have no reason to be" (and that's why y decide you're fine). "you are to sensitive" "why do you always dwell on things that happened aeons ago!" All from my mother. My father was not invested to begin with. "Kids stuff" was ridiculous to him. ... The list goes on. And my mental health is a battle field today. I'm mid 30ies and in invalidity pension because of it. I have recurrent depressions and more, with the first episode hitting me likely around age 6. I had to develop severe anorexia at 15 for a TEACHER to step in and send me to the school psych. Which first angered my mother. (Parents divorced at that point, father absent of our lives) Because she completely sheltered our private life from any outsiders, always has. No "stranger" allowed in our home. So even more shaming for me. "Now what do people think about me being such a bad mother to have a child with anorexia?!" The mental iceberg? Invisible from outside, thus not really valid. I hope you are all doing as good as you can. And parents, please take your kids seriously. Remember what was big for you when you were their age. Kids worlds are "smaller", so their problems may seem "smaller" to you. Which is not true. It's a question of proportion. Take perspectives.
I can totally relate to this. My anxiety is skyrocketing every single day. Especially in an environment where everyone already has a friend group. I hope parents can be there for their children more. Edit: sent this video to my parents. I hope they understand what im going through
I once told my mom about my depression symptomes to try and let her know about how I feel an she responded with "Why are you telling me this? Am I supposed to believe you have some kind of deep depression?!" in a tone I can't exactly describe other than angry mocking. Anyways, that day I learned that parents are not to be trusted with anything :D
I remember when I was in elementary school and had awful depression. Didn't had much friends, was bullied, couldn't talk with anyone, was ashamed of myself, thought that no one likes me or that I should just go with it until the end. Also like you stated, I had bad health and relationship, bad grades... I had to calm myself down all the time thinking "it will pass it's just a phase" or "I'm not the only one with it." I'm a guy so I also thought of that as a male I can't show how I feel to others because I'll be weak to them. My parents didn't help either, always saying I was "too lazy to go out or do something right way." Now that I finished high school, I'm not depressed anymore, I also helped one of my new friends with it because I didn't want them to feel the way I felt. I'm basically adult now and I got mad when someone says "children can't get depressed" as a matter of fact, now that I am older I don't feel depressed anymore and I'm mostly happy. From my experience It's much harder for child to go through depression than adults.
watching this video made me feel happy because when i was little everything was misunderstood but this video made me feel like as if someone has finally understood what i felt like
as someone that is probably moderate depressed I find this person so correct and rights kids can have depression to and it actually makes me sad like literally kids dont deserve to be depressed they deserve to be happy :(
I used to go to therapy when I was younger. But my mother sat directly outside the therapists door, listening in for anything she could use to belittle me. Needless to say, those years were worthless.
Another lovely video from this lovely channel, the topic is very relatable too, I see myself in similar situations a lot of times… keep the great work Psych2go 👏🏻
My parents doesn't even help me despite am depressed they all assume am lazy, inconsiderate and a bad person. Its just adding more fuel to all the stress
5:51 this reminds me of something I still struggle with. Avolition. The inability to do the bare minimum to survive. It’s a common symptom of Schizophrenia and is a negative symptom for Schizophrenia. The symptom has haunted me all my life and often I have my siblings screaming at me to do my chores and it’s like I’m aware, but I can’t convince myself to do it. They always got annoyed that I would sit on my butt everyday and my parents always ask them to my chores for me, of course I understand their prospective and my parents shouldn’t have fueled my avolition to make it harder on me, but the best way I could convince myself to do a chore was by constantly hounding myself in my mind to get it done.
I watch as the child problem is I cant tell them because if I do, they might be confused on how I even know what depression is (my mom has depression so she understands).
when parents ask "Why?" it will never have an answer because, depression comes due to unknown trauma, bullying, the parents always blemming them and making them think they're the problem, or generally school life or home life :
I really grateful my family is aware of things like these, being willing to take my big brother to a psychiatrist and actually help him improve. Though there are still those times where they kinda snap, I personally find it easy to deal with.
This is so difficult to understand when on the surface, it looks like you had a good childhood, but really it was the childhood your parents wanted, not you.
worst part is that my mom said to my face that "im too young, i get whatever i can whenever theyre able to get it, i dont have anything to be depressed about" that hurt, alot, i just cried in silence for a while after that
Im lucky to have parents who know how serious depression and other mental health issues are, been diagnosed with ADD or in german "ADS" in i think 2020, and diagnosed with depression in 2024. Im not sure how i got depressed but im happy that my parents take it seriously! Anyone reading this, i hope you have the same kind of parents and that you have a wonderful life❤
Okay, but seriously, as a neglected child in a household, I KNOW I have depression symptoms but the amount of times I'm told and convinced I'm not made my brain swirl with confusion, making me think that I'm faking it sometimes. Hearing that simple explanation at 1:59 to 2:14 made me genuinely cry, I never heard someone explain it so right it hurts
My depression surfaced when I was 11 (I think). I have autism and I had faced a lot of misunderstanding already. At its most intense moments, I've lost all emotions and it's hard to understand if it's never happened to you.
My mum helps and supports me with depression, my dad on the other hand is tolerable and most, and I'm fine being called fatherless, honestly I wish I was
Six bad misconceptions parents have about child depression: 1) "Children can't get depressed, it's an adult thing" 0:40 2) "It's just a phase, it will pass" 1:49 3) "They're glued to that DARN phone all the time" 2:49 4) "It's not depression, they're just lazy" 4:13 5) "Therapy means my child getting stuffed with meds" 6:00 6) "If my kid is depressed, it means I'm a bad parent" 7:14
I don’t walk no no no… I drag my body while worrying if I’m walking normal or right or if people are judging me, I worry if it looks like I’m following or copying how someone else walks. While mentally thinking “Why am I still here? Why can’t I just be at home?” and also thinking and worrying about my body. I try to block bad thoughts by using my imagination and cutting off the real world. Feeling like I’m about to collapse to the floor. That’s how my 15 second walk goes through a corridor to my class.
I think what's interesting about the Phone point is that as bad as constant social media can be, some need it as their only way to find people to talk to. Alternatively, it could also be their only source of happiness if the mental state of the kid is ignored. Which can loop back in to a negative. Like a constant flip flop.
I wish this was a thing when I was a child, but then again my parents still berate me for getting therapy now that I'm 31, so I doubt it would help change their views
One of the things I hate is the few times my parents asked "am I a bad parent? How did I mess up?" but not in a genuine concerned way, in a condescending way that makes me feel worse. To me it sounds like "huh? Am I a bad parent!? HOW did I mess up raising YOU"
I honestly think my parents need to see videos like these , they aren’t bad parents they are pretty nice and tried to help me with bullying even though they just would tell me to tell them to stop, I’ve said ins joke kinda manner but sometimes I wish I could get therapy , my parents once signed me up for school therapy, but there were other kids there and I don’t like others to hear my stories especially if I don’t know them and they aren’t a therapist , they even signed me up for a anxiety and anger issue class , it didn’t help, reminder these were run by my old school , and most parents need to see these types of videos too.
Oh, wait... wait a- wait a hecking moment, as a child I was someone who got angry easily, (very easily) which could be something normal, but I also was "lazy" and didn't want to play irl many times (because of smth from later) if I remember correctly. After a certain age, I was able to control my anger, and it was a big difference, but some years (1-4?) later, I tried to kms, yes as a child, which is obviously suicidal depression already, but was it just then or did I already have problems before? I think it could be that I was having problems from before because there weren't many times in which I played with my family, so yeah, I was almost at all times at the cellphone (although not as bad as today's kids, I think) because I got BORED so hecking much, but as I said not many family interactions from what I remember, which could have caused me some problems... I mean, I am not trying to say: "Oooh my, life is so bad :( " No, what I mean is it could have been. Idk, but I guess I am fine now (15M) so... yay.
Me: *tries to treat my psychological problems and depressions, whitch I know will help* My parrents:*Literally takes my own happiness away by making me do, the way they treat their depression* Also my parrents:,,Why aren't you happy? I did all I could to improve your psychical healt and I requested it! Me:*Asks for things I know will help* My parrents:,,No, your tactics are wrong, you will do what I say" *Also proceeds to beat me up* Me:*Tries to do suicide* My parrents:*Proceeds to beat me up even harder* *And the cycle goes on*
I took my kid to a therapist and within 1 visit they recommended him for "drug trials" claiming he had ADHD. He had trauma which was resolved after I switched therapist.
As a person diagnosed with ADHD at a young age and is now medicated, that's just messed up. It took years after my diagnosis to actually get prescribed a medication, and even then I had to constantly switch due to stock and side effect issues. Therapists shouldn't be able to diagnose that quick. They're probably lying for money which can be very harmful in the long run.
When my older sister found out my little sister was venting, she claimed that only older people can vent because they have reasons to. I remember thinking that I couldn’t vent about my feelings because “I wasn’t old enough to”.
I was afraid to click on the video initially because i suspect it would confirm what I already knew, and I was right - I am in fact the depressed child in my family 😭 ty for making this video.
I work at school. Due to the fact that depression is being over-popularized in the media, a majority of adolescents might use it as a sort of cover for non-doing things, whereas the real victims of depression stay unnoticed. This is a situation of the boy, who cried wolf, in which teachers cannot tell who to trust and support, and who is just lazy
The whole med one hit, except in the opposite way. She'd make sure I'd have my meds so that my "illnesses" couldn't be counted towards why I can't do things.
when youre a little kid everything seems so much bigger, both physically and mentally children not having enough life experience to be depressed doesnt make sense because if you dont have any previous experiences then you wont remember anything before the your pain and you wont be able to form a hope for a better future and letting out your emotions is healthy, and when youre younger you may not have the words to describe the pain you feel
I tell my kiddo its ok to besad and frustrated it's understandable. You need to cry you cry... You need to smile you smile you wanna scream you can i scream with her lol
Ive had depression since i was 12 and seeing my mom have a deep and long cut on her left wrist hurt me but she waited till AFTER she left when I was 14 and after I turned 15 to tell me she cut herself because of depression. Before she told me though I used to be a cutter and my dad and stepmother saw the cuts on my arms and thighs, they ended up threatening me with "If we see you do that again, we will send you to a mental hospital." I was (and still am) on medication for depression and anxiety. I'm 20 now and still suffer from depression while I'm currently pregnant. It doesn't just "go away" or can be "cured" it can be a lifelong thing for people if caught and treated at early stages. I have a tattoo that I did on my left wrist of a ; and AKF which means "Always. Keep. Fighting." My mom has the same one but smaller on her left wrist.
Hey there I’m a kid suffering from depression I do both talk therapy and take antidepressants and my mum is amazing at supporting me through tough times
My parents always tell me “you’re so lazy why can’t you help me out for once?!” Or “it’s not that hard just get up!” I can’t talk back to them cuz they’d get mad at me but sometime I just wish I could explain that my body feels heavy and it’s extremely difficult to have motivation to do anything.
One time my grandma literally told me that i couldnt miss my parents because we were on a trip, then she just brushed it off like nothing happened. Thanks grandma, this is why i dont like to hang out on my dads side of the family.
We made this video on 10 Signs Your Parents are Making You Depressed awhile back. A lot of you resonated with the video very well. Give it a watch afterwards if you haven't seen it yet: ruclips.net/video/tDcvvHeKyuw/видео.html
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When i remember back to being a kid i remember this awful feelings of emptiness that would haunt me, i had no idea what it was.
The oldest memory i have of this is that my parents made me a custom advent calendar and i had this wired feeling of ungratefulness, i just felt incredibly empty and sad.
Its only gotten worse since.
I am a child and I am going through suicide and I need help but I’m to scared to tell anyone who can I’ve only tell my friends who wont get help because I’ve told them not to I don’t know what to do and I need help can anyone help?
I wish ther are more videos like this in German so I can show it to my mother. She doesn't understand and maby don't want to.
The "children can't get depressed" thing happens so many times in my house, when i start to talk to my parents about what I'm going through, they ignore it by saying "Why you're depressed? Children of your age can't get depressed, it's us who are depressed". They act like depression is a thing that only occurs for adults and not suffering children, they act like childen aren't supposed to get depressed. My whole house is filled with fake superstition and it is so bad.
I’m sorry 🫶
I am saddened to hear that because my parents think it’s my phone that is making me feel depressed but for some kids who have depression, their parents don’t understand it’s comes at any age.
Technically, anyone in general isn't supposed to get depressed, depression is an illness after all. But it happens and we can't really deny that.
I’d ask them when does it become serious? Do they want to wait until I’m unalive because of it? Will it be serious enough then? No, because they think their problems are so much worse, that they can’t even have any empathy for their off spring.
If you want them to hear what you're going through, maybe they want you to hear what they are going through as well, make this a moment to talk about things you appreciate and things you don't like on each other and maybe you can fix stuff.
"If you dont stop crying, ill give you something to cry about". That doesnt help. Old attitudes were so harmfull.
that literally made it worse every time
My parents did this all the time..
Old formula to New Problem
Im a crybaby, they always shout and scream at me :]
been there experienced that
My mum once said something qlong the lines of "what did i do to deserve kids so lazy", ive still not gotten over it
You think that's bad? My step father said to me when I was eight "you know, your mother could have put you up for adoption because of your blind eye? She could have thought you'd be a burden and an invalid. But she didn't because she loves you".
@@audreydoyle5268hey we aren't here to make someone else feel bad I'm not denying your feelings I'm saying they're feelings are valid to
my mom has said things like this as jokes, but she doesn't know how deep her words stick.
@@The-Sarah i was hoping someone would say this, i didnt want to myselg
Alright, let's not compare trauma. Trauma is still trauma, I feel bad for everyone in here but let's not compare, it'll only make things worse
“What do you have to be depressed about? You have a roof over your head, food, (etc.)” That’s what my mom says to me, as if depression is only caused by a lack of physical things. It’s very much the opposite where your parents can be there for you physically while completely lacking mentally/emotionally.
Well it sucks to be you, since I'm *_grateful_* for all those things that MY mom gave me, SO MUCH SO that she is WILLINGLY there for me emotionally, TEN TIMES AS MUCH AS THE AVERAGE CARING EMPATHIC PARENT!
SUCK IT, LOSER! >:D
My parents have pulled that out their ass before too
then they bring up something about how you should be grateful you arent a starving child in africa or sumthin
like its suddenly impossible or stupid to be sad for any reason cause theres a kid in africa starving
@@punishedwhirligig3353 oh she’s done that too and internally it’s like- way to undermine your kid and raise them to internalize you’re toxicity and be traumatized by it.
What they do not understand that we in childhood also play an adult role in life we try to hide our sad feelings and struggles so they don’t worry but if we did it’s just that we are being ungrateful to them.
We are grateful for what they did but sometimes it came be that we want to do something for them it’s not only them doing for us we do to by small small things they don’t recognise 😢😢
You can become depressed from a young age from your parents being overly critical and making you believe that you can't do anything right.
Bonus points if you have OCD and all of those thoughts hit you out of nowhere all the time...
Sounds like my mom who insisted I couldn't be stressed or depressed because I was "just a kid and didn't have any real problems." Meanwhile I had to get her up for work every morning starting when I was 9 and my sister and I had to clean the house and make dinner by ourselves because she couldn't be bothered.
@@littlesongbird1 sounds like she was also the one who hated her life and was depressed
Uhm no you cant tho.
@@anderstermansen130 I can't tell if this is some sort of sick joke (thanks, autism), or if you're actually just that dense to believe that a child being depressed isn't possible.
News flash, 'buddy', people of ALL ages can get depressed. People hiding being trans from relatives, people with abusive relatives, anyone can be depressed. The world isn't all sunshine and rainbows, I know people that are 13-14 that are WELL aware that there's a high likelihood of a civil war starting in America within the next few years.
Stop being a dense prick and realize not everyone has life handed to them on a silver platter
Um I feel so called out
"Children can't get depressed." I've been depressed since I was 12. Now I'm 18 and it's gotten even worse. My parents never took it seriously. Even now they don't and I fear the same thing is happening to my little sister.
You have been depressed since you turned 18*
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@anderstermansen130 did you watch the video? Depression can start at an age.
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@@brocklytle3028depression can start at age of 18. Thats when youre an adult.
"if you watched as a parent who suspects your child is depressed," **I am that child**
Bro, same here. Same here…
same
ikr like pfft the parents who need to see this will NEVER see this, rest assured.
Same brother
I was that child I’m an adult now but I still have depression
As a 14 y/o with probable depression, I can't explain the frustration that wells inside of me when my parents just don't understand how big of a deal depression is. As a result, I began to distance myself from my parents as they aren't going to understand anyway. Being called "lazy" and "not trying" just makes me feel worse.
Much thanks to the Psych2Go team for putting this video out, bringing awareness to such unnecessarily large problems. I owe everything to this channel for helping me through the toughest of times and bringing me information everyone should know.
I feel the same as you feel, dont let yourself down, i am posibly the only one to say this to you but, you are loved by someone, doesnt matter who but someone loves you.
Praying for you and yes you are loved more than you could ever know
I feel like a burden when my parents say I'm not trying because I am and my trying just isn't good enough for them I guess?
Don't listen to them, I'm speaking from my experience. Talk with someone you know close to your age is a good friend/friends about it. Hang out with them, talk about interests, play with them, do anything with them or someone you like. It helped me with my depression
As someone who's 14 in 11 days this hits the bullseye which is the main reason I just started to draw and write and not share anything with my parents and only a select few
I'm going to send this to my family all over!! Last summer I (20F) had suspicions that a young cousin(10) had depression and I was basically told by everyone to shut my face so to prove I might not have been wrong, since they kept trying to say it was impossible for my cousin to have depression at their age, I'm going to send this for them to digest
so true
Did they agree?
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I was 7 when i got depression...parents never understand me. Now i am 17, i am after several suicide attempts.
I love you, remember, don't change, if nobody's there for you I AM.
No you aren't
I hope you are better now, even when things are hard please don’t you through the suicide method. I don’t know what you’re going through right now but please don’t go through the suicide method
Oh my,you got it when 7,i am so lucky i got it at 12
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Thanks man
I still remember when I was a kid, I got diagnosed with depression.... I got it at a young age that I had to get medicated at that point. I wasn't just bullied but also isolated and unable to process the world around me.
I'm sorry you experienced this😢
Lol right. Children cant have depression.
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@@anderstermansen130 Did you even watch the video?
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Timestamps
1). Children can't get depressed, it's adults only 0:39
2). It's just a phase it will pass 1:48
3). They're glued to that darn phone all the time 2:48
4). It's not depression, they are just lazy 4:11
5). Therapy means my child getting stuffed with meds 6:00
6). If my kid is depressed, it means I'm a bad parent 7:13
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
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"You're too young to be depressed!"
Well then you're too old to be in debt (☞ ͡ ͡° ͜ ʖ ͡ ͡°)☞
Yep
And then you get deeper into your depression realizing you’re gonna be in the same debt as them in the future
nah avoid it@@DrakeOVOofficia
''You're too old to be that naive'' is a perfect response
I dont have the balls to say it
Way back in the day when the internet and smart phones were decades away, when I was depressed, which was most of the time, my mother had the reason. Actually, a choice of two: my period or the summer heat. That added insult to injury.
Congrats I'm proud of you for keeping on going.
I've been depressed since I was 11 ☹️ meds didn't help, therapy didn't help - and I was blamed for that. She'd say shit like:
"It won't matter in x years!" (If I was upset about something)
"Everyone has to go through it!" (School - when I'd talk about it being insufferable)
Called lazy, selfish, and ungrateful, and vilified for sewerslide attempts. I used to look up to her, and she would shelter me and coddle me with EVERYTHING else, so I didn't understand why she did that.
She said many years later that she wanted me to become independent and do it myself, so basically like walking it off with a broken leg. She isn't an idiot, she's actually wise, so I didn't understand why she saw it so, so wrongly, and continued the same method of trying to make me fix it myself (when meds and therapy weren't enough on their own), when for years it didn't help me AT ALL. Not even once. I'm almost 20, and I'm too anxious to ever drive, too anxious and depressed to work, and I'm sure as hell NOT going to college. She failed to raise me and TO THIS DAY, blames me. It legitimately just tears away at my soul.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
Suicide is spelled suicide not sewerslide. Please learn how to write in english.
@@anderstermansen130i think it was on purpose to censor it
Oh my goodness, my friend (who I call kibble in online convos) lacks any self esteem whatsoever. He may be obedient, relaxed, and an understanding man, but what Kyrie did to him made him barely trust anyone, even though only one person ever left him. Just take it one step at a time, you’ll get to a better point.
I got depressed when I was 9 and tried to kill myself when I was 10
I love the visuals of the parents, the more negative acting parents being de-humanized by shadows and more positive being shown in the cartoony form.
i tell my dad i think i have depression.
“depression is a serious mental illness. you don’t have depression.”
my therapist recently diagnosed me with depression
Both my parents (divorced) would not do anything for when one of my siblings had depression and this video covered all the things they both thought about it. I didn’t know what to do and that was a terrible time for all of us. It’s still going to this day and I keep trying my best to see both sides of the issue; I know that it will get better soon but I still have to make sure I am ready for whatever drastic change and/or action may happen during this dark time. I pray for all of you who may have struggled with child depression and probably are now 🙏🏼 Thanks again, Psych2go, for your help
Im sorry for that dude i hope you are okay now
also the Pxrge flag goes hard
"Stop crying before i hit you" and "you only came into this World to make me suffer" is stuff i hear all the time ive stopped trying to open up to my parents and ive stopped crying instead ive just been bottleing up my Feelings bc no one cares abt my Feelings anyways and the first time i opend up to my sister abt school and how all my friends were fake and rude to me she just said "oh.. ok?" And then told my mom and after that they made fun of me for a week saying things like :Mom: "why dont you hang out with your friends?" Sister: "she doesnt have any" and then they would start laughing at me and Tell me im dramatic for being upset they were making fun of me :/
Good lord that's awful
Dang the people in replies of ur comment care about u more than your parents
I don't exactly know what to say here right now but I just want to say that you're not alone in this and there is many more other people that suffer like you and my point right now is that you are not alone in this type of he//hole and there's also someone out there that would support you if they found out about your problem, from people on the internet to someone that you might meet in real life, so you don't have to worry if you think that no-one care about you because someone,somewhere care about you and I just want to say I hope you find that person one day.
Also I just want to say that I don't really know how to say something positive to help people because I have a hard time being positive and I am just trying to help here but it's okay if you just ignore me.
Maybe just dont become born next time, eh?
@@anderstermansen130 not funny.
The teenager me watching alot of these kind of videos so i can be a good mother in the future
By the why i love your channel sm, it's very good to have joy and learning at the same time :)
Same, hope we will be able to do it in the future. 🤞🏻🥺🤧☺️😊🥰🤍🤍🤍🤍♥️
"He just has low self-esteem."
"SORT YOUR FUCKING LIFE!"
Well, it works. Get over it, or go off yourself. Saying this as a 33 year old man, who survived a crippling depression, which started in childhood. Mostly through desensitization and random violence.
I’ve been depressed for most of my life and I haven’t said anything to anyone except my boyfriend because I don’t want to be put away or forced to take meds that don’t help
Hang in there, friend. It will get better. Seeking help is not a bad or shameful thing. We all deserve love, friends, and safety
You will not be put away unless your psychologist has evidence you are about to be a serious danger to yourself. And it is entirely your choice to take a prescription if you're not in a facility. If you are an inpatient, you have to advocate heavily to your assigned psychologist when a medication is giving you symptoms of Serotonin syndrome (can be fatal), which typically looks like the beginning of mania.
I was put on Setraline and Citalopram, both SSRIs, both gave me the jitters, insomnia and made me aggressive (way out of character, the last one). So far, Mirtazapine has been working, as I have a prolonged circadian rhythm so I need something to knock me out after being awake 30 hours.
As I said, you will not be put away in an instant for speaking to someone. Someone in your childhood must have terrified you into believing that "crazy" relative got therapy and now they're in a mental hospital for "no good reason". No, there has to be a very serious reason, such as actively slicing and dicing, giving away multiple personal affects and putting affairs into order in a timeframe which is uncharacteristic.
Trust, once you are given a good medication, your life changes for the better. You do not have to take the full tablet, you can split them, ask for a low dose to start and taper if the side effects are even a minor inconvenience. Honestly, the right medications don't have noticeable negative side effects. And if you outright refuse, then and this is going to sound like bogus, drink green tea for two weeks. Brew at 70⁰C with some honey, 14 days. See how you feel.
Just stop being depressed and start being happy👍 How hard can it be, sheesh...
@@anderstermansen130your not funny. Depression is key leader in suicide. Geez
@anderstermansen130 as hard as it for you to stop being a 56yo in your mother’s basement trying to sound smart and funny when you’re the worst of the gum-chewing, rage-baiter, probably depressed in reality (get some therapy, you need it) simpletons in history.
Toxic parents who refuse to acknowledge the part they play in their children’s mental health issues are the same ones who wonder why their kids go no contact, use their phone as an escape, etc.
Imagine on top of that, to be the middle child of 3. IE, the ignored and unloved one.
Respect to the parents here! Thank you for paying attention to your child!
Message for children out there who need help: rest assured, the parents who actually need to see this will NEVER see it, and if you show it to them they will not understand. ❤ Goodluck! You're not alone and you will make it :)
Not only will they not understand they will most likely punish you calling an ungrateful child and depending on the parent a few cuss words too
@@Zeoroark oh I wish my parents said cuss words XD if I got caught saying one I would have to brush my teeth 3 times to "clean my mouth"
also i don't know how my parents would react if they knew everything. Im so deep into the lie
the punishment for "being lazy" meant a whole added level of pressure on my depressed soul. glad this is far in my past now.
for those who facing this now. in time this will pass for you also. seek help from trusted friends or professionals when you think you need it.
Pressure is a defining factor here. You break under it, you build yourself anew, then break again - until you're stable enough or untill you're crushed. No outside help can do any good.
@@vladcrow4225 No outside help maybe, I had a conversation with myself once, that saved my life. another thing is to, realize that all that hurts is because it is accepted if you really do not care it won't hurt (this is not an answer but reality) a second tip one can adjust one's brain to learn to be more happy. like a road more traveled gets obvious to walk through,
like when one smiles you find yourself feeling more happy. but it goes deeper if you imprint how wonderful your day is after some weeks it gets more wonderful. accent the better thing feeling the better things want to be more brave. imprint a moment you felt brave, as your own, claim it, and recall it when you need it I swear this will work.
Idk how I am gonna come through this when I am basically have little to no trusty or friends here 😓
@@rainbowalex12akanhatduyvu95 I know it is hard but keep up hope and some trust in better times coming.
TW: vent/rant??
soo...who else was told "if you wanna be a boy, then stop crying" "your lucky that im not hitting you anymore" "they dont get it" "we like you better when you take ur meds" like mom, your ARE the reason i take meds, like mom you misgender me, hitted me when i was younger, didnt do ANYTHING when i was SA!!?? and you still dont check on me when im sad, im scared to talk with you, you never love me, it like im not ur child, always saying "your always in that dark room on that laptop" like mom, maybe check on me?? i always have to think bout something just to see how you'll react? i just want my mom to love me, at this point, i dont even know if im over reacting, l
I remember something my nana said in an argument a while back, when i said something about
"Its my right!"
And she said:
"You dont have rights, you're a CHILD"
Like, do children just not have rights to privacy or things of their own? Im pretty sure everyone deserves a right to things like privacy, or anything for that matter, even children. And ive never forgotten it.
I remember being depressed in first grade and being suicidal by age twelve. In college I attempted to end my life. I’m in therapy now and am doing better. I’m happier now. Parents, I say this as a once depressed child and ex-teacher: learn about your child and their feelings, love them, listen to them, and please get them help.
As a 10 year old child with possible depression I find this very useful. One time when I was 9 I told my mother I thought I had depression, my mother replied "Why do you think you're deoressed?" And I didn't have a reason to be depressed nor did I know why I'd be depressed so my mother didn't care much. One thing that also can cause depression is anxiety. I have social anxiety which makes it harder to socialize with other kids my age, and anxiety can make you fearful which makes you feel vulnerable and alone
Have you tried not having depression, and go play Nintendo like normal kids at 10 years old, do?
@@anderstermansen130 bro shut up
@@anderstermansen130 least obvious bait 🙏
Dont go around telling your age online, creeps are out there
@@anderstermansen130ah, yes, I found someone who doesn’t understand anything about anything
I am not a child anymore I will never forget the way my family made me feel, they told me I becoming lazy and fat and also I needed to fix my depression otherwise a man wouldn’t stay with me.
Heh, glad I'm not the only one.
Your voice is so mesmerising 😭
@@Psych2go awwww thannnnkkk youuuu so so so much for reply psy 😄❤️
As a 12 year old kid that has depression i have to say thank you for helping people understand depression better
i found this channel a few years back when i was in a bad place mentally and even if i dont follow the channel anymore, seeing a video from you guys from time to time makes me really happy now that im in a better place mentally
I would send this to my mom but I already know she'd just laugh it off and say I'm "just going thru some things and it'll pass", or, "just pray to God it'll pass". Don't get me wrong I LOVE God but it doesn't mean praying to him automatically makes my sadness fade away, he is not magic. Just bc I'm a child in my household my emotional problems NEVER gets acknowledged and they just see it as a phase or compare it to a silly little thing they felt when they were my age and LITERALLY compare my suicidal thoughts to their "oh my ice cream fell and I felt sad" situation, it's literally so draining and is one of the biggest reasons why I NEVER wanna open up again, it's literally no use at all opening up to my family, they literally just mock me later when I seem to be happier and say "oh what happened to ur sadness?" It is literally so DRAINING for me, I literally cry every.single.night. without them knowing bc I know damn well I'll get made fun of or shouted at for not opening up to them or not trusting them enough.
You have my prayers
Reading and church also helps a lot
I'm an adult male in my late 30's and my depression began when I was 6. My Kindergarten teacher was incredibly mean-spirited and would ALWAYS lash out at me just because I was different from the other students (I was in special education from grade school through high school). She even physically assaulted me a couple of times and whenever I tried to report it, nobody did anything about it. As a result, I got very upset to the point where I eventually just broke down and cried during my classroom's visit to the school library. To add insult to injury, both the school librarian and my mom resorted to gaslighting later that same day by saying, "You're being dramatic." Later, when I was over at my babysitter's house, both her and her husband asked me if I was depressed and I answered, 'yes.' Once my mom came to pick me up and they informed her about it, she replied, "He's not depressed, he's just being dramatic." Of course, that only made things worse. I STILL remember that to this day and it has damaged me emotionally and psychologically.
I'm not a parent, and I was curious, what I learned is enlightening, but also heartbreaking for me, because this video, coupled with dozens upon dozens of other media, made me realize that I was never at fault, that I was never just lazy, just not smart enough or anything, and that I exhibits a huge amount of prominent ADHD symptoms, and clear signs of depression, thankfully I'm a bit better now, I have a few coping mechanisms, some healthy some not so much, but the point is I'm doing better now, I wish my mom knew English so I could send her this to let her see where me and my sister were or are struggling
Child me was always told to suck it up, it's a phase, and it's my phone's fault. Child me didn't get the validation he was looking for. But somehow hearing this spoken through the video makes my inner child feel validated. Thanks
As for the thumbnail of this video, I was in 2cd grade when I recognized my sadness. I never ate. I hated eating. I couldn’t see my friends which made me sad, and I was online pretty much all the time. And when I opened up to my parents (wanting therapy) I was told “you’re to young.” I cried. And few years later, my sister reached 2cd grade to. She told my parents of her depression. And I got in trouble for being mean? And my parents, they totally felt sorry for her. And my parents still wonder why I don’t tell them anything anymore.
"you have no reason to be" (and that's why y decide you're fine).
"you are to sensitive"
"why do you always dwell on things that happened aeons ago!"
All from my mother. My father was not invested to begin with. "Kids stuff" was ridiculous to him.
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The list goes on.
And my mental health is a battle field today. I'm mid 30ies and in invalidity pension because of it.
I have recurrent depressions and more, with the first episode hitting me likely around age 6.
I had to develop severe anorexia at 15 for a TEACHER to step in and send me to the school psych. Which first angered my mother. (Parents divorced at that point, father absent of our lives) Because she completely sheltered our private life from any outsiders, always has. No "stranger" allowed in our home.
So even more shaming for me.
"Now what do people think about me being such a bad mother to have a child with anorexia?!" The mental iceberg? Invisible from outside, thus not really valid.
I hope you are all doing as good as you can.
And parents, please take your kids seriously. Remember what was big for you when you were their age. Kids worlds are "smaller", so their problems may seem "smaller" to you. Which is not true. It's a question of proportion. Take perspectives.
I can totally relate to this. My anxiety is skyrocketing every single day. Especially in an environment where everyone already has a friend group. I hope parents can be there for their children more.
Edit: sent this video to my parents. I hope they understand what im going through
I once told my mom about my depression symptomes to try and let her know about how I feel an she responded with "Why are you telling me this? Am I supposed to believe you have some kind of deep depression?!" in a tone I can't exactly describe other than angry mocking. Anyways, that day I learned that parents are not to be trusted with anything :D
I remember when I was in elementary school and had awful depression. Didn't had much friends, was bullied, couldn't talk with anyone, was ashamed of myself, thought that no one likes me or that I should just go with it until the end. Also like you stated, I had bad health and relationship, bad grades...
I had to calm myself down all the time thinking "it will pass it's just a phase" or "I'm not the only one with it." I'm a guy so I also thought of that as a male I can't show how I feel to others because I'll be weak to them. My parents didn't help either, always saying I was "too lazy to go out or do something right way."
Now that I finished high school, I'm not depressed anymore, I also helped one of my new friends with it because I didn't want them to feel the way I felt.
I'm basically adult now and I got mad when someone says "children can't get depressed" as a matter of fact, now that I am older I don't feel depressed anymore and I'm mostly happy. From my experience It's much harder for child to go through depression than adults.
watching this video made me feel happy because when i was little everything was misunderstood but this video made me feel like as if someone has finally understood what i felt like
as someone that is probably moderate depressed I find this person so correct and rights kids can have depression to and it actually makes me sad like literally kids dont deserve to be depressed they deserve to be happy :(
I used to go to therapy when I was younger. But my mother sat directly outside the therapists door, listening in for anything she could use to belittle me. Needless to say, those years were worthless.
Another lovely video from this lovely channel, the topic is very relatable too, I see myself in similar situations a lot of times… keep the great work Psych2go 👏🏻
My parents doesn't even help me despite am depressed they all assume am lazy, inconsiderate and a bad person. Its just adding more fuel to all the stress
I had depression for a while when I was a kid, and I still do, but this video helped me understand it more.
5:51 this reminds me of something I still struggle with. Avolition. The inability to do the bare minimum to survive. It’s a common symptom of Schizophrenia and is a negative symptom for Schizophrenia. The symptom has haunted me all my life and often I have my siblings screaming at me to do my chores and it’s like I’m aware, but I can’t convince myself to do it. They always got annoyed that I would sit on my butt everyday and my parents always ask them to my chores for me, of course I understand their prospective and my parents shouldn’t have fueled my avolition to make it harder on me, but the best way I could convince myself to do a chore was by constantly hounding myself in my mind to get it done.
5:30 as someone who doesnt like cleaning or going outside with friends, i do know that positive words do help.
off topic but you’re profile picture is so awesome
When I was still very young i learned more then i should've i was basically raised by the Internet and its still the only thing that comforts me
I love it when Psy2go makes these kind of videos, spreading awareness of taboos and issues that are not talked about enough. Thank you.
I watch as the child problem is I cant tell them because if I do, they might be confused on how I even know what depression is (my mom has depression so she understands).
when parents ask "Why?" it will never have an answer because, depression comes due to unknown trauma, bullying, the parents always blemming them and making them think they're the problem, or generally school life or home life
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I watched this so many times in a playlist BEFORE it was posted
I think they put it in there so they could post it at a different day
My mom one day say to me " I'm tired, you know why? Because I had you." that words sill in my mind and can never fucking forget.
I was depressed as a kid but I was trying to hide it behind a fake smile…
Im feeling like this guy is either emo or seeking attention
How tf are you saying that being suicidal means you are seeking for attention @@PinBFDI_101
@@YourWorstNightmareyes im pretty sure you didn’t read what I said carefully
@@PinBFDI_101 point it out what I said wrong please
@@YourWorstNightmareyes by saying "seeking attention" I mean this person is trying to get attention from pretending to be depressed
I really grateful my family is aware of things like these, being willing to take my big brother to a psychiatrist and actually help him improve. Though there are still those times where they kinda snap, I personally find it easy to deal with.
This is so difficult to understand when on the surface, it looks like you had a good childhood, but really it was the childhood your parents wanted, not you.
worst part is that my mom said to my face that "im too young, i get whatever i can whenever theyre able to get it, i dont have anything to be depressed about" that hurt, alot, i just cried in silence for a while after that
Same here i just cry in silence when all of them are asleep because they just bleam me
This not only affects children, also includes teenagers.. right??
Yes depression can affect everyone
Oh, I see. Thank you. 🙂
YES!!! FUCKING YES!!! IS THIS EVEN A GODDAMN QUESTION?!?!?!
Im lucky to have parents who know how serious depression and other mental health issues are, been diagnosed with ADD or in german "ADS" in i think 2020, and diagnosed with depression in 2024. Im not sure how i got depressed but im happy that my parents take it seriously! Anyone reading this, i hope you have the same kind of parents and that you have a wonderful life❤
Adults dont think that children can be deppresed and can make something new adults think that children cant invent something they ignore children
Okay, but seriously, as a neglected child in a household, I KNOW I have depression symptoms but the amount of times I'm told and convinced I'm not made my brain swirl with confusion, making me think that I'm faking it sometimes. Hearing that simple explanation at 1:59 to 2:14 made me genuinely cry, I never heard someone explain it so right it hurts
Omg I hope you're okay
I hope a lot of people see this. The way children are misunderstood these days just makes me upset and ruins my mood
6:18 bro my first thought was "oh no whats in this next scene" my mind is so dirty 💀
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I have never ever heard anyone say the phone causes sore throat, or hunger! 🙄
My mom has but like just once
@@Faunadude oh wow lol
@@Katrica670 yeah it was strange
That could be because of where you happen to live as sometimes the wrong ideas people have can vary from one region to another.
My depression surfaced when I was 11 (I think). I have autism and I had faced a lot of misunderstanding already. At its most intense moments, I've lost all emotions and it's hard to understand if it's never happened to you.
My mum helps and supports me with depression, my dad on the other hand is tolerable and most, and I'm fine being called fatherless, honestly I wish I was
Six bad misconceptions parents have about child depression:
1) "Children can't get depressed, it's an adult thing" 0:40
2) "It's just a phase, it will pass" 1:49
3) "They're glued to that DARN phone all the time" 2:49
4) "It's not depression, they're just lazy" 4:13
5) "Therapy means my child getting stuffed with meds" 6:00
6) "If my kid is depressed, it means I'm a bad parent" 7:14
If parents are not the ones to make you depressed, some parents can make your depression worse. Like mines.
I don’t walk no no no…
I drag my body while worrying if I’m walking normal or right or if people are judging me, I worry if it looks like I’m following or copying how someone else walks. While mentally thinking “Why am I still here? Why can’t I just be at home?” and also thinking and worrying about my body. I try to block bad thoughts by using my imagination and cutting off the real world. Feeling like I’m about to collapse to the floor.
That’s how my 15 second walk goes through a corridor to my class.
i feel like i have childhood depression but my parents tell me its just a phase
I think what's interesting about the Phone point is that as bad as constant social media can be, some need it as their only way to find people to talk to.
Alternatively, it could also be their only source of happiness if the mental state of the kid is ignored. Which can loop back in to a negative. Like a constant flip flop.
I wish this was a thing when I was a child, but then again my parents still berate me for getting therapy now that I'm 31, so I doubt it would help change their views
My parents usually say being depressed is just life not a mental issue, along with anxiety and adhd
One of the things I hate is the few times my parents asked "am I a bad parent? How did I mess up?" but not in a genuine concerned way, in a condescending way that makes me feel worse. To me it sounds like "huh? Am I a bad parent!? HOW did I mess up raising YOU"
Who else love this channel so much ❤️? 👇
I honestly think my parents need to see videos like these , they aren’t bad parents they are pretty nice and tried to help me with bullying even though they just would tell me to tell them to stop, I’ve said ins joke kinda manner but sometimes I wish I could get therapy , my parents once signed me up for school therapy, but there were other kids there and I don’t like others to hear my stories especially if I don’t know them and they aren’t a therapist , they even signed me up for a anxiety and anger issue class , it didn’t help, reminder these were run by my old school , and most parents need to see these types of videos too.
The art style is so cute:DD
sometimes when i need to express something i mix memes and vents to not make everything sad but also say something thats been on my mind
Oh, wait... wait a- wait a hecking moment, as a child I was someone who got angry easily, (very easily) which could be something normal, but I also was "lazy" and didn't want to play irl many times (because of smth from later) if I remember correctly.
After a certain age, I was able to control my anger, and it was a big difference, but some years (1-4?) later, I tried to kms, yes as a child, which is obviously suicidal depression already, but was it just then or did I already have problems before?
I think it could be that I was having problems from before because there weren't many times in which I played with my family, so yeah, I was almost at all times at the cellphone (although not as bad as today's kids, I think) because I got BORED so hecking much, but as I said not many family interactions from what I remember, which could have caused me some problems... I mean, I am not trying to say: "Oooh my, life is so bad :( " No, what I mean is it could have been.
Idk, but I guess I am fine now (15M) so... yay.
Thank you! My mom always say “hah! Depressed?” I sent this to my mom so she will understand better tysm
Me: *tries to treat my psychological problems and depressions, whitch I know will help*
My parrents:*Literally takes my own happiness away by making me do, the way they treat their depression*
Also my parrents:,,Why aren't you happy? I did all I could to improve your psychical healt and I requested it!
Me:*Asks for things I know will help*
My parrents:,,No, your tactics are wrong, you will do what I say" *Also proceeds to beat me up*
Me:*Tries to do suicide*
My parrents:*Proceeds to beat me up even harder*
*And the cycle goes on*
I took my kid to a therapist and within 1 visit they recommended him for "drug trials" claiming he had ADHD. He had trauma which was resolved after I switched therapist.
As a person diagnosed with ADHD at a young age and is now medicated, that's just messed up. It took years after my diagnosis to actually get prescribed a medication, and even then I had to constantly switch due to stock and side effect issues. Therapists shouldn't be able to diagnose that quick. They're probably lying for money which can be very harmful in the long run.
When my older sister found out my little sister was venting, she claimed that only older people can vent because they have reasons to. I remember thinking that I couldn’t vent about my feelings because “I wasn’t old enough to”.
I swear if i see 11 year olds saying "👇👇early teem" or "first"
I remember my aunt telling me that I was too young to be depressed. Years later, my cousin told me that I was the least happy child she'd ever seen.
I was afraid to click on the video initially because i suspect it would confirm what I already knew, and I was right - I am in fact the depressed child in my family 😭 ty for making this video.
I work at school. Due to the fact that depression is being over-popularized in the media, a majority of adolescents might use it as a sort of cover for non-doing things, whereas the real victims of depression stay unnoticed. This is a situation of the boy, who cried wolf, in which teachers cannot tell who to trust and support, and who is just lazy
The whole med one hit, except in the opposite way. She'd make sure I'd have my meds so that my "illnesses" couldn't be counted towards why I can't do things.
when youre a little kid everything seems so much bigger, both physically and mentally
children not having enough life experience to be depressed doesnt make sense because if you dont have any previous experiences then you wont remember anything before the your pain and you wont be able to form a hope for a better future
and letting out your emotions is healthy, and when youre younger you may not have the words to describe the pain you feel
I tell my kiddo its ok to besad and frustrated it's understandable. You need to cry you cry... You need to smile you smile you wanna scream you can i scream with her lol
Ive had depression since i was 12 and seeing my mom have a deep and long cut on her left wrist hurt me but she waited till AFTER she left when I was 14 and after I turned 15 to tell me she cut herself because of depression. Before she told me though I used to be a cutter and my dad and stepmother saw the cuts on my arms and thighs, they ended up threatening me with "If we see you do that again, we will send you to a mental hospital." I was (and still am) on medication for depression and anxiety. I'm 20 now and still suffer from depression while I'm currently pregnant. It doesn't just "go away" or can be "cured" it can be a lifelong thing for people if caught and treated at early stages. I have a tattoo that I did on my left wrist of a ; and AKF which means "Always. Keep. Fighting." My mom has the same one but smaller on her left wrist.
Thank you so much for this video. Very interesting and informative.
Hey there I’m a kid suffering from depression I do both talk therapy and take antidepressants and my mum is amazing at supporting me through tough times
My parents always tell me “you’re so lazy why can’t you help me out for once?!” Or “it’s not that hard just get up!” I can’t talk back to them cuz they’d get mad at me but sometime I just wish I could explain that my body feels heavy and it’s extremely difficult to have motivation to do anything.
Same and if i don't get up they schold me and says i'm so lazy and is all because of this phone every thought is not i just cant tell them
This made me cry because I relate so much and I know things will never change
I am fortunate enough to have parents who did everything to help me when I was depressed
One time my grandma literally told me that i couldnt miss my parents because we were on a trip, then she just brushed it off like nothing happened.
Thanks grandma, this is why i dont like to hang out on my dads side of the family.
sending a hug