Dear person whoever reading this, we may not know each others but I wish you all the best in life ! Stop blaming yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious 🥰
2:41 chemical countdown 3:18 find your roots 4:07 sources of resentment 4:55 name your emotions 5:39 manage your stress 6:21 opportunities for expression 7:07 channel your feelings 7:46 the empathy routine 8:33 possess your emotions 9:05 the boiling point 9:38 create your mantra 10:28 the power of breath
It's not hard, it's just dedication and learning not to let your amygdala (primitive brain) hijack your frontal lobe and make you say or react in a way you will regret later. I was fortunate enough to marry a psychologist and learned about anger management for free. Just live by this Motto: "What other people think about you, is none of your business". Life is to short for anger a resentments, so make the best of it. Or take a course in NLP (Neuro linguistics programming). So don't worry and be happy 😊
@@bigfitfrogalphaHitler was a sociopath, there is no cure for that. The video is talking about people who don't have a personality disorder. Sociopath, what you would consider a madman. He lacked empathy which a dificciency in some people like Narcissist and Psychopaths. I believe the video is in relation to give advise to sensitive people. Hitler you can google about his personality traits in another video, or read about it. But if you are not an avide reader then go the Google way for your info.
@@bigfitfrogalpha Oh, now I get it. You are really funny, you should do stand up comedy. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Sorry English is my second language, my first is Spanish. I know, nobody's perfect. That was a joke too. Para que te rias 😉.
I used to bottle my feelings up a lot and so I'd have outbursts out of nowhere and be offended about nothing at all. I started journaling and reflecting about my day. I made sure to write how I really feel too. I now have much less outbursts and am not angry all the time anymore. I still get triggered about certain things but I am working to heal those. Here's to self-growth for everyone.
I struggled alot with arguing and wanting to get my point across especially when I felt I was in the right. But than I learned this instead of arguing just say "THANKS I'LL TAKE A LOOK AT IT" and say it as sincere as possible and nothing else. You'll see it works and even be blown away by how the person reacts that u say it to. Learning to say that and nothing more has made it clear to me people's intentions. I've had them realize I wasn't upset and than they try harder to argue to get u out of character showing there true colors. And all u continue to say is THANKS I'LL TAKE A LOOK AT IT. If u can learn to say just that you'll always be in control. And this for me is a proven thing that really works. You just gotta smile and tell em thanks I'll take a look at it..
Maybe someone already said this: do not be a victim of your past. No matter what it was that happened to you, try to tell yourself that you will not let it control you any longer. If you have someone to help you with this, it works even better. I helped my sister finally to stop doing this. Usual story-a rotten childhood. Sister 4 years older than me, so she took the brunt of the emotional & verbal abuse. She held onto those negative feelings for decades and it affected her attitude toward life. Yes, you could still think of yourself as broken; but as you hold on to this idea, years of your life are passing by while you let misery control you. You have to love yourself and think of all the positive aspects of your personality. Of course a therapist could help you along the way. Don’t let the weight of your misery hold you down. Think of it as a heavy boulder that you can toss away, so that you can feel a hundred lbs. lighter. And when you are lighter, walk on air to the next part of your life and never look back!
Socialisation and self care can impact on the way that you react. You will have to choose the right role models. If your parents were the types of parents to overreact, be concious that you aren't obliged to overreact like them. If you're the type of person who doesn't take breaks, lives too much in the past, and doesn't eat the right foods, try to change that. You have to become kinder to yourself and others. When you talk to someone and it turns into an argument, try to take pauses in between. You can leave the room to think about it more clearly. Try to reconsider if it's worth your energy, which can be used elsewhere. ( for example polishing your skills and increasing your knowledge.) Don't wait for peace in your environment; this will bring chaos in your mind. Try to become peaceful and resilient even in chaos. Try to build an interior peace; not an exterior peace.
My mom has been like a toxic mother and have been hurting me mentally and sometimes physically. Feel grateful for this kind of videos to teach us how to have better control of our own life.
My mother is incredibly toxic, she will make me cry and insult me, hit me or tell me off, for no reason. Not reacting makes her so mad but she backs off. Thank you.
this is my mom too she likes provoking, she barges into my room and put her displaced anger on me all time. It's not easy living with someone like that. You are really strong I hope you know that.
I’m a very shy person so I don’t talk much but my reactions always show on my face, I can’t control my expressions and I know some people who like to purposely put me in uncomfortable situations because they enjoy seeing my reactions. Im trying to learn to control them so they will leave me alone, I figured that if they don’t see a reaction and I act unbothered they will stop caring
Don't forget you are a person too, not a joke. I thrive on being a joke but keep the secret that I'm smart, just funny to others. Do not devalue yourself. You are here you are noticed, you are important. Coming from a stranger who knows you
@@sjohnson4675 Thank you, I really appreciate what you said. Those people aren’t in my life anymore thankfully, I still haven’t learned to control my facial expressions, and it’s still a bit frustrating but I’m learning to remain calm and stop myself from crying over small things. I will try to give myself some slack and not worry as much :)
Always ask myself "will this matter tomorrow? A week? A month? A year? Will my reaction make it better or worse? And if i do react , is it easy to take back? (Ex. Yell at my kid because he upsetted me. I can apologize and actively work on improving it before he's old enough for it to affect our relationship) OR (ex.2 if my reaction is to yell at my boss because I'm upset/overwhelmed. I will lose my job which spiral my life further out of control , and whatever it was didn’t even matter after the moment passed)
I had been fighting someone annoying lately, This video motivated me to talk things out instead of escalating it into a physical fight. and things somewhat worked out for the better. Thank you.
Same here... So recently I've been giving back the attitude they give me but I realized I acted out of emotions and later feel like I could've handled situations better. But now I think I'll just go back to my "I don't care" era
True, ppl just take advantage of that. Tho its hard to confront at workplace when ur being mistreated by ppl with higher job positions (eg.manager/ boss). Any advice on how to handle this?
I am a very sensitive person, and when put in a situation where voices have been raised, or I get into a little (usually not important) argument with my partner (or anyone) - I tend to cry. I’m going to try and put the things I’ve learned in this video into play and hope it helps me not react with tears every time. Thank you 😊
One of the thing reading the scriptures does for me is to help me not be sensitive.... try it , you will be shocked the wonders. God's word helps us fights away those voices and help us reduce being emotional.... meaning you don't allow your feelings and emotions to control you. I have a verse in my head to counter every insult etc.
I get angry easily and panic attacks and anxiety over the small things I need to relax and take a deep breath and write in my notebook 📒📓 everyday and talk things out with my mom thank you for this video 😊😊
This video gave me some perspective. I'm trying to work on myself because I have begun to realise that I'm pushing people out of my life without even actually wanting to. My emotions hurt me and those around me. I hope to be better☺️✌🏻
When I feel like something is going wrong I get this extreme overwhelming feeling that if I don't stop this now these wrong thoughts will get embedded in me . As a result I end up raising my voice and the matter turns worse . I only fight at home though , never outside . I will do my best to stop this habit and try to use it when necessary. Then my points will be more logical and impactful too
Number 5- finding a way to lower the stress level. I think and believe that a pet (for me,it's my pet French Bulldog) helps to achieve this in an amazing way. I used to get irked quite easily and it was causing me harm to my psychological and physiological health. Then I adopted Mishka,an adorable female Frenchie. Trust me,she acts like a sponge and soaks my tension and stress every single time. After a bad, tiring or unsuccessful day,I just come back home and spend time with her playing, talking and snuggling. After that,I feel as fresh as a daisy. The quality of my life has improved drastically.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I‘ve been struggling a lot with my feelings lately and it seemed as if every little thing caused me to feel such strong emotions that then lead to a fight between me and one of my most dear people in my life. I‘m currently figuring out my feelings and this video described me,how i‘ve been acting and feeling perfectly. I now know how to deal with my emotions because if you‘re video. Thank you so so much and have a great day!
The Advice of the Prophet PBUH in Controlling Anger Sit down if one is standing, lie down if one is sitting… that’s same as the counting till 5 I think😍
Thank you for this so much. I was close to quiting my current job and this is what I needed. Took notes and I will be applying them to good use. Wish I've seen this a few years back, but it's time to move forward, thank you again. Cheers.
I know why I’m feeling what I’m feeling is I’ve just educated myself on narcissism and I’m realizing that for most of my life I’ve been mentally abused and conditioned that I deserve to be treated that way because I was the escape goat. Some of my abusers have passed away so I can’t confront them and even if they were alive most likely they would deny any wrongdoing, which is what the still living people in my life would do. I understand other peoples frustration after having been abused and the abusers just get to walk away while the rest of us have to get help in order to work through our issues. I get folks but in order to move forward getting help is the only way we can work on changing our own lives and to be healthy. Those abusers are going to walk through life in denial without making any changes but we don’t have to, we are empaths and we can still reach out to give real love because that is who we are 👍💪💪💪✡️✡️✡️
same here. i let someone step on me for many years, yelling and insulting and disrespecting me, now i don’t want to let other people disrespect me so i get angry and my body gets scared so i start crying at the slight sign of disrespect… i don’t know how to keep my peace without letting people be disrespectful to me
@@noemarie8 how do people respond when you start crying? Are you given the opportunity to let them know that they just disrespected you. I usually keep what’s called a poker face when I recognize that someone is being disrespectful to me or insulting. If I give it away I’m met with a smirk meaning “I got ya”. The last intimate relationship I had the guy finally pushed the ultimate button on me and I let him have it as food went flying in his car, only because I missed his face. I told him later over the phone that it wasn’t about the girl. It was because I came to the realization that he hurt my dog so actually he should count himself lucky that food was all he got. My little dog has sense passed away and I’m having to deal with a lot now. She never did anything to anyone to deserve what the two narcissists did to her, she was just a little dog full of love for everyone but what a perfect form of supply for these insane creatures. I stopped her a couple of times trying to kill a mouse while her cat friend egged her on. I never wanted her to get a feel for that even though she was the perfect breed that’s used for flushing out vermin. I miss her every day 😢💔
Great recommendation. Thanks! Me and my little sister constantly argue with each other. And she doesn't deserve to have that happen to her all the time. I want her to remember her childhood as something other than being yelled at constantly, so i really needed this video. And really just to better myself
This is nice, finding our roots really powerful way of understanding one's self. I am a reactive person until I get to know myself in a deeper level, study and accept yourself, my sister even told me start mothering yourself....we have to be very aware of how we react and interact in adulthood is a product of how we are raised and cared during childhood...So love, understand, study and accept yourself Then improve for the better... Breathing is powerful tool to handle the day to day dynamics of people and situation that we face, back to our breath because Breath is one that God has gave us....we are form through Breath!!! Pray and.be thankful!!God bless us all
I really agree with mothering oneself as much of my rage from childhood had to do with my absent birthmother and cold stepmother. Internally talking to myself empathically really helps validate feelings.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I‘ve been struggling a lot with my feelings lately and it seemed as if every little thing caused me to feel such strong emotions that then lead to a fight between me and one of the most dear people in my life. I‘m currently figuring out my feelings and this video described me,how i‘ve been acting and feeling perfectly. I now know how to deal with my emotions because if you‘re video. And also how i can properly apolagize to said person. Thank you so so much and have a great day!
if you truly are an empath, you know that everyone is just boiling their emotions at that point. You can help by having a snack break or go by boba or something, so it gives you some time to think and relax a bit.
Every time you are presented with a challenge, think of it as a choice point. These moments are precious opportunities. Life will get more interesting if you evolve along the way. You already know the old tune. Ask yourself if it is time for a new one. Paulo Coehlo said, “Never allow waiting to become a habit. Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening now.”
This is what I’m trying to achieve right now. My emotions go from 0-100 and a lot of times I don’t even notice that I’m upset because it happened so fast. I’m trying to slow down now and realize when I’m getting there so I can choose to come back down.❤
Thank you so much for this. I act on my frustration and irribility sometimes and I really want to stop it. I think your advice will really help me. My goal is to regulate my emotions and keep positivity even if my emotions are triggered to be able to take control of my response to it. Thank you for this video!!
Very helpful video. These techniques, along with some stoic principles have helped me get control of my strong emotions. I'm a much happier person today.
@3:18 Sometime Constipation also make you angry whole day! Try to alter your food habits, minimize tea/coffee & regularly do yoga & jogging at morning, take minimum 7 hour sleep!
I used to never handle my emotions well and reacted in destructive ways. One of the things I did was alcohol and drugs to escape my problems and it never solved anything and created more problems. Because my addiction caused me problems I got treatment and therapy and it helped me solve my problems and made me happier. I processed through these things and worked through them. Another thing was my resentments and built up anger. I realized when I was told that resentments only hurt you. I realized that these people will get their karma if they don't change and if they do good for them. I learned to not have ill will towards people because I wouldn't want that for anyone and they would get karma anyways. Plus I saw my part and it helped me to change. It's a healing process and worth it.
Thank you for creating such impactful content! After watching this video, I learned that emotional control is not about suppressing our feelings but understanding them. By practicing habits like empathy, stress management, and pausing before reacting, we can navigate tough situations with clarity and composure.
A very valuable video! Thank you so much! ❤💫 It also calmed me down and helped to understand that my emotions are really normal. And all you need to do is try to control them and not let them get the better of you After all, it is you who should manage your emotions, not the other way around 🌱
I think I'm watching this at the right time. Because someone's been provoking my anger , my boundaries and also make me worry about things I've never did (they comment on how I look, which I don't like even if it's positive or negative. Like I didn't care till they kept on saying stuffs). I'm practically the verge of snapping at them. I was like "the next time they comment I'm going full on rage" .
Remember:- Not every situation is worth controlling our emotions. There are situations that sometimes you really need to outburst but decently, just channelise your emotions. Learn how to show your anger. But the choice is you can stay unreactive to most bullshits in this world unless it is affecting you directly.
This video is so amazing that I decided to subscribe immediately, that's how much it impressed me! Thank you, I will write all this down in my notebook for important notes and will follow them, and in order not to forget, I will repeat it until all these actions become automatic for me when resolving various disagreements and conflicts 😉
My mantra: We feel temporary pleasures and pains because when our senses get connected or dependent on our expectations. These emotions are as temporary as the coming and going of seasons. It's better to try experienceing it without being overwhelmed with this emotion.
#4 is great for PTSD since PTSD makes you feel stuck and enable to feel. So practice identifying to process and move on from it. All are very helpful! ❤
Try exhale and hold for 20 seconds. Your emotional pain will be removed 👍 Also try holding a smile, your brain will have no option but to change your mood :)
Number 2 is a long process, especially for anyone with multiple childhood wounds. It helps to apply number 4 to know what you need to do for yourself (never rely on others) to ease your triggers. Living with ptsd is no joke.
Controlling one’s emotions especially anger is important especially in the workplace but there are moments that you do have to release those emotions especially sadness, frustrations etc becauee bottling them up can also lead to depression and suicide or self harm. It is ok to cry and express your frustrations as long as you are hurting someone physically.
if ever any, i’d rather teach my children “don’t expect ppl not to do something back to you, especially after they’ve told you to stop. you’re no longer entitled to their reaction, all due to YOUR actions.” there’s justifiable anger, bullying is one!
I like the video. However, we need a video of people with legitimate reasons to be angry. To be clear, I am not pointing the finger at the creator, but in many cases, people have legitimate reasons to be angry. Personally, I have been told to withdraw my anger many times, when only it turned out it was legitimate; for once, I was so injured that I went to ICU, and I am still trying to be nice. Later on, I find that keeping the anger in only makes it build up more and more.
Its mean and its teach you to be love yourself and know about yourself than anyone, just simple like you know your feeling its mean you already win because you know to calm your self. This life full of up and down FIGHTHING. I think this mantra or arfimasi for yourseld its good "DO WHATRVER YOU WANT"
Here's my issues. First I'm not always capable of doing any of this . Because I go from A to B in 0 point 1 seconds. Like there's no time to even be rational . Next . When I let it go. Or try to discuss not argue with the person , even days later they absolutely will not do anything but argue. They want it dropped , ignored and to pretend it never happened. So then I stew about it and get more mad. And they say " you always go on and on "
Omg I relate to this so much! :`) Had similar thoughts after watching. Like Idk how to think about before giving the reaction, or taking 5 seconds or anything. If I got mad at something I'll let it out in an automatic response I cannot control. Idk what to do lol
I think its time I really start my journaling ! I find myself getting easily angered and annoyed anymore! Some are good days, and others not! I deal with anxiety, ADHD, some depression .
A very good mantra for me is: if your spirit is a river and angry fold in it in mixt with your spirit, but it’s doesn’t means your spirit is a great I can clean the water, and my spirit still there clean so as the river return to clean water. The anger does not become my mind it’s just passing into it for a moment
In analyzing y outbursts I realized they occurred when I was taken off guard, I wasn’t expecting some behavior from someone or I was denied something I wanted. My mantra: When taken off guard react with compassion not entitlement
I'm just going to blame myself for any problem that occurs whether it's my fault or not because I don't have the patience, time, or ability to effectively communicate my thoughts. I struggle with my emotions heavily, and when I'm criticized for even the tiniest thing, I don't know how to react, and the majority of the time I'll just cry. I feel like if I always blame myself, problems would be resolved a lot quicker.
(Using mantra like he said) Another way you can save yourself from these kinds of situations is using bible verses that shifts you to be wise in those situations from reacting regretfully.😊👍🏼
I live in the Uk and people are always angry loud and over the top they tend to be quite rude aggressive and disrespectful to the point that if they don’t like you they will immediately result to insult and mockery you do not have to do anything and suddenly they become triggered. I have even been out in public when I have had people scream and get angry at me just for walking down the street. and yet I don’t do anything but mind my own business.
In times like this and the one Your talking to just wants to "WIN", i just think and tell to myself, LET HIM, GIVE WAY, THAT'S WHAT MAKES HIM HAPPY, SO LET GO. At least im not the one stressed
I find i get very frustrated, hurt and even angry when i am putting effort into trying to show understanding and empathy twds the other in a disagreement or conflict but they refuse to do the same and hold to only seeing their side of things. I'm now coming to realise that instead of going in frustrating and painful cycle of continuing to reach for shared understanding and empathy, i just end the cycle by saying, i don't feel I'm being heard or understood here, fullstop. It then puts it bck to the other to reflect/or not..on why i don't feel heard or understood and raise questions and clarification (placing them in an energy of wanting to understand)
Same. It may be the ‘straw on the camels back’, built up anger or resentment or stress factors. Some days, allow anap!!! Forgive the past and let it go. Good luck!
It is good to have no reaction but after long time those emotion will come back in more painful way. As for me i never reacted in any event. And now i easily get annoyed and in the chat (when i am not face to face with anyone) i vent all my angers frustration, which make me look totally different from real life. And it is painful sometimes.
It is not at all easy But at least try Because try try u will succeed Because YES I have succeeded👍🙏and yes these techinques WORK. It took 5 years of work but yes it WORKS.
I’m literally watching this right now because I’m making it a point to change my behaviors, one of them being my emotional reactions. But man is it hard! Especially with one particularly emotionally immature person. I’m sitting on some pretty intense anger rn.
Dear person whoever reading this, we may not know each others but I wish you all the best in life ! Stop blaming yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious 🥰
Ohh come on ❤❤
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❤ Same to you
Thank you😊😊
🥰🙏and to you as well 🥰
2:41 chemical countdown
3:18 find your roots
4:07 sources of resentment
4:55 name your emotions
5:39 manage your stress
6:21 opportunities for expression
7:07 channel your feelings
7:46 the empathy routine
8:33 possess your emotions
9:05 the boiling point
9:38 create your mantra
10:28 the power of breath
thanks! the intro was a whole movie lol
I think whit out I would be obliged to watch again special thank's
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Thank you :DD
The hardest part is working on oneself; everyone who does it is the bravest warrior and deserves all my respect.
what if its hitler
It's not hard, it's just dedication and learning not to let your amygdala (primitive brain) hijack your frontal lobe and make you say or react in a way you will regret later. I was fortunate enough to marry a psychologist and learned about anger management for free. Just live by this Motto: "What other people think about you, is none of your business". Life is to short for anger a resentments, so make the best of it. Or take a course in NLP (Neuro linguistics programming). So don't worry and be happy 😊
@@bigfitfrogalphaHitler was a sociopath, there is no cure for that. The video is talking about people who don't have a personality disorder. Sociopath, what you would consider a madman. He lacked empathy which a dificciency in some people like Narcissist and Psychopaths. I believe the video is in relation to give advise to sensitive people. Hitler you can google about his personality traits in another video, or read about it. But if you are not an avide reader then go the Google way for your info.
@@bettybeteta2028 its a joke
@@bigfitfrogalpha Oh, now I get it. You are really funny, you should do stand up comedy. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Sorry English is my second language, my first is Spanish. I know, nobody's perfect. That was a joke too. Para que te rias 😉.
"Do you know someone who gets angry, anxious, or upset over the smallest things?" *me, literally*
🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️
at first I thought the video was about how to deal with those people, but at the end we ourselves are those people
Me
Same 😭
you say what I want to say
I used to bottle my feelings up a lot and so I'd have outbursts out of nowhere and be offended about nothing at all. I started journaling and reflecting about my day. I made sure to write how I really feel too. I now have much less outbursts and am not angry all the time anymore. I still get triggered about certain things but I am working to heal those. Here's to self-growth for everyone.
Great tip thanks
It doesn’t matter how good you’re doing, those sad nights will creep up on you from time to time and that’s ok. Doesn’t mean all your progress is gone
Totally agree, but this video is exactly how to react and rationalize when those bad times creep in
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Thank you
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My mantra: I have big dreams to achieve so I have to live long so i gotta save my energy
❤❤❤love it 🍀I’m going to “ steal” it from you 😊
Very nice mantra😊
Nice mantra
I struggled alot with arguing and wanting to get my point across especially when I felt I was in the right. But than I learned this instead of arguing just say "THANKS I'LL TAKE A LOOK AT IT" and say it as sincere as possible and nothing else. You'll see it works and even be blown away by how the person reacts that u say it to. Learning to say that and nothing more has made it clear to me people's intentions. I've had them realize I wasn't upset and than they try harder to argue to get u out of character showing there true colors. And all u continue to say is THANKS I'LL TAKE A LOOK AT IT. If u can learn to say just that you'll always be in control. And this for me is a proven thing that really works. You just gotta smile and tell em thanks I'll take a look at it..
Thanks for this great tipp, I‘ll try it. 🧡
Brilliant! I will try that!!
Thanks I’ll take a look at it
@@blklagoon76😂
I have the same problem. Thank you for sharing your method. I will try
Maybe someone already said this: do not be a victim of your past. No matter what it was that happened to you, try to tell yourself that you will not let it control you any longer. If you have someone to help you with this, it works even better. I helped my sister finally to stop doing this. Usual story-a rotten childhood. Sister 4 years older than me, so she took the brunt of the emotional & verbal abuse. She held onto those negative feelings for decades and it affected her attitude toward life. Yes, you could still think of yourself as broken; but as you hold on to this idea, years of your life are passing by while you let misery control you. You have to love yourself and think of all the positive aspects of your personality. Of course a therapist could help you along the way. Don’t let the weight of your misery hold you down. Think of it as a heavy boulder that you can toss away, so that you can feel a hundred lbs. lighter. And when you are lighter, walk on air to the next part of your life and never look back!
thank you stranger
The best reaction is no reaction ✌️♥️😔
Yes, sometimes I can't manage & control my emotions, but if I triggered all of my angerness is destroyed 😢
Mind can be altered when you stay calm stop thinking and start breathing calmly
Can also leave you dead 😐
@@Omni-King2099 I’m dead 🫥
FR FR 😭❤
Socialisation and self care can impact on the way that you react. You will have to choose the right role models. If your parents were the types of parents to overreact, be concious that you aren't obliged to overreact like them. If you're the type of person who doesn't take breaks, lives too much in the past, and doesn't eat the right foods, try to change that. You have to become kinder to yourself and others. When you talk to someone and it turns into an argument, try to take pauses in between. You can leave the room to think about it more clearly. Try to reconsider if it's worth your energy, which can be used elsewhere. ( for example polishing your skills and increasing your knowledge.) Don't wait for peace in your environment; this will bring chaos in your mind. Try to become peaceful and resilient even in chaos. Try to build an interior peace; not an exterior peace.
Nice ⭐
My mom has been like a toxic mother and have been hurting me mentally and sometimes physically. Feel grateful for this kind of videos to teach us how to have better control of our own life.
My mother is incredibly toxic, she will make me cry and insult me, hit me or tell me off, for no reason. Not reacting makes her so mad but she backs off. Thank you.
Are you a child or grown. If you are being abused call someone or tell someone
Can you go no contact with your mom? I don't know your situation at all, but it seems you would be better off without that behavior in your life.
this is my mom too she likes provoking, she barges into my room and put her displaced anger on me all time. It's not easy living with someone like that. You are really strong I hope you know that.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made Jesus ❤you !
samee literally both of my parents do that 😭
I’m a very shy person so I don’t talk much but my reactions always show on my face, I can’t control my expressions and I know some people who like to purposely put me in uncomfortable situations because they enjoy seeing my reactions. Im trying to learn to control them so they will leave me alone, I figured that if they don’t see a reaction and I act unbothered they will stop caring
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Для тренировки можно носить солнцезащитные очки. Так будет гораздо трудней увидеть вашу реакцию))
Don't forget you are a person too, not a joke. I thrive on being a joke but keep the secret that I'm smart, just funny to others. Do not devalue yourself. You are here you are noticed, you are important. Coming from a stranger who knows you
It is so easy to disregard yourself. That is the last thing you want to do. Just shine.
@@sjohnson4675 Thank you, I really appreciate what you said. Those people aren’t in my life anymore thankfully, I still haven’t learned to control my facial expressions, and it’s still a bit frustrating but I’m learning to remain calm and stop myself from crying over small things. I will try to give myself some slack and not worry as much :)
I fear speaking up will make people leave. But after realising that staying mute will do the same…I’m trying speaking up more.
Always ask myself "will this matter tomorrow? A week? A month? A year?
Will my reaction make it better or worse?
And if i do react , is it easy to take back? (Ex. Yell at my kid because he upsetted me. I can apologize and actively work on improving it before he's old enough for it to affect our relationship) OR (ex.2 if my reaction is to yell at my boss because I'm upset/overwhelmed. I will lose my job which spiral my life further out of control , and whatever it was didn’t even matter after the moment passed)
"The lion does not turn around when a small dog barks" - African Proverb
huh 😢 no he eats it for dinner ...
I had been fighting someone annoying lately, This video motivated me to talk things out instead of escalating it into a physical fight. and things somewhat worked out for the better. Thank you.
I am always so calm, but sometimes I feel like people just take advantage of that, which makes me to confront them, showing that I dominate.
Me too. I’m very chill. People befuddle me and I get overwhelmed being in groups.
Same here... So recently I've been giving back the attitude they give me but I realized I acted out of emotions and later feel like I could've handled situations better. But now I think I'll just go back to my "I don't care" era
@@misty3787 the middle is always the best.
True, ppl just take advantage of that. Tho its hard to confront at workplace when ur being mistreated by ppl with higher job positions (eg.manager/ boss). Any advice on how to handle this?
But they're trying to get you mad. Not everyone, the abusive people
I am a very sensitive person, and when put in a situation where voices have been raised, or I get into a little (usually not important) argument with my partner (or anyone) - I tend to cry. I’m going to try and put the things I’ve learned in this video into play and hope it helps me not react with tears every time. Thank you 😊
One of the thing reading the scriptures does for me is to help me not be sensitive.... try it , you will be shocked the wonders.
God's word helps us fights away those voices and help us reduce being emotional.... meaning you don't allow your feelings and emotions to control you.
I have a verse in my head to counter every insult etc.
Me too
@@johnjustice4420I’m definitely gonna keep reading the scriptures. Thanks 🙏🏾
I get angry easily and panic attacks and anxiety over the small things I need to relax and take a deep breath and write in my notebook 📒📓 everyday and talk things out with my mom thank you for this video 😊😊
This video gave me some perspective. I'm trying to work on myself because I have begun to realise that I'm pushing people out of my life without even actually wanting to. My emotions hurt me and those around me. I hope to be better☺️✌🏻
you got this!!!
When I feel like something is going wrong I get this extreme overwhelming feeling that if I don't stop this now these wrong thoughts will get embedded in me . As a result I end up raising my voice and the matter turns worse . I only fight at home though , never outside . I will do my best to stop this habit and try to use it when necessary. Then my points will be more logical and impactful too
same here. it’s especially hard when you are dealing with false accusations about you. guess i have to accept that my own family doesn’t understand me
How's it going?
@@noemarie8yea same here :/
@@noemarie8 i feel like you took my words. I am in the exact same situation.
Sameeee here....
Number 5- finding a way to lower the stress level. I think and believe that a pet (for me,it's my pet French Bulldog) helps to achieve this in an amazing way. I used to get irked quite easily and it was causing me harm to my psychological and physiological health. Then I adopted Mishka,an adorable female Frenchie. Trust me,she acts like a sponge and soaks my tension and stress every single time. After a bad, tiring or unsuccessful day,I just come back home and spend time with her playing, talking and snuggling. After that,I feel as fresh as a daisy. The quality of my life has improved drastically.
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Totally agree! Dog or Cat work wonders to relieve stress😊
That is a beautiful story! Much love to you and your fur baby! ❤️
On my wishlist
Good advice. Not so easy to put into practice though…but the old saying is right if at first you don’t succeed try try and try again!!❤️
For me, this a simple but it helps a lot to those people can't control & manage there emotions like me... This is meditation for me 😊
Sometimes, succeeding is not bothering. Like the phrase in "War Games" , "The Way to Win is Not to play" true!
Thank you so much for posting this video. I‘ve been struggling a lot with my feelings lately and it seemed as if every little thing caused me to feel such strong emotions that then lead to a fight between me and one of my most dear people in my life. I‘m currently figuring out my feelings and this video described me,how i‘ve been acting and feeling perfectly. I now know how to deal with my emotions because if you‘re video.
Thank you so so much and have a great day!
Anybody else here AFTER losing their cool? 🤚🏽
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Yes! I was on my period and it made me crazy at school! I want to control these terrible hormones 😢
😅....Maybe
@@MargaretWaggoner-gq5wl Same girl same 😔
I work in detox/residential treatment from addiction. This video has been super helpful!!
The Advice of the Prophet PBUH in Controlling Anger
Sit down if one is standing, lie down if one is sitting… that’s same as the counting till 5 I think😍
being human can be a challenge we must continue by practicing balance always🙏🏾
Thank you for this so much. I was close to quiting my current job and this is what I needed. Took notes and I will be applying them to good use. Wish I've seen this a few years back, but it's time to move forward, thank you again. Cheers.
Better late than never
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Good luck ❤
I know why I’m feeling what I’m feeling is I’ve just educated myself on narcissism and I’m realizing that for most of my life I’ve been mentally abused and conditioned that I deserve to be treated that way because I was the escape goat. Some of my abusers have passed away so I can’t confront them and even if they were alive most likely they would deny any wrongdoing, which is what the still living people in my life would do. I understand other peoples frustration after having been abused and the abusers just get to walk away while the rest of us have to get help in order to work through our issues. I get folks but in order to move forward getting help is the only way we can work on changing our own lives and to be healthy. Those abusers are going to walk through life in denial without making any changes but we don’t have to, we are empaths and we can still reach out to give real love because that is who we are 👍💪💪💪✡️✡️✡️
Thank you. God bless you💜
same here. i let someone step on me for many years, yelling and insulting and disrespecting me, now i don’t want to let other people disrespect me so i get angry and my body gets scared so i start crying at the slight sign of disrespect… i don’t know how to keep my peace without letting people be disrespectful to me
@@noemarie8 how do people respond when you start crying? Are you given the opportunity to let them know that they just disrespected you. I usually keep what’s called a poker face when I recognize that someone is being disrespectful to me or insulting. If I give it away I’m met with a smirk meaning “I got ya”. The last intimate relationship I had the guy finally pushed the ultimate button on me and I let him have it as food went flying in his car, only because I missed his face. I told him later over the phone that it wasn’t about the girl. It was because I came to the realization that he hurt my dog so actually he should count himself lucky that food was all he got. My little dog has sense passed away and I’m having to deal with a lot now. She never did anything to anyone to deserve what the two narcissists did to her, she was just a little dog full of love for everyone but what a perfect form of supply for these insane creatures. I stopped her a couple of times trying to kill a mouse while her cat friend egged her on. I never wanted her to get a feel for that even though she was the perfect breed that’s used for flushing out vermin. I miss her every day 😢💔
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I needed this. I've suffered many years of emotional and physical abuse. I need to let go.
Me too😅
Same
I definitely need this video because of how I cant control my emotions when I cry, get angry, get sad, and any negativity to my emotions..
Excellent advice! If it’s difficult to practice, then listen to this video every day until it sinks in.
Great recommendation. Thanks! Me and my little sister constantly argue with each other. And she doesn't deserve to have that happen to her all the time. I want her to remember her childhood as something other than being yelled at constantly, so i really needed this video. And really just to better myself
I tried naming my emotions. Even wrote them on my journal. Helps everytime 🙂
This is nice, finding our roots really powerful way of understanding one's self. I am a reactive person until I get to know myself in a deeper level, study and accept yourself, my sister even told me start mothering yourself....we have to be very aware of how we react and interact in adulthood is a product of how we are raised and cared during childhood...So love, understand, study and accept yourself
Then improve for the better... Breathing is powerful tool to handle the day to day dynamics of people and situation that we face, back to our breath because Breath is one that God has gave us....we are form through Breath!!! Pray and.be thankful!!God bless us all
I really agree with mothering oneself as much of my rage from childhood had to do with my absent birthmother and cold stepmother. Internally talking to myself empathically really helps validate feelings.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I‘ve been struggling a lot with my feelings lately and it seemed as if every little thing caused me to feel such strong emotions that then lead to a fight between me and one of the most dear people in my life. I‘m currently figuring out my feelings and this video described me,how i‘ve been acting and feeling perfectly. I now know how to deal with my emotions because if you‘re video. And also how i can properly apolagize to said person.
Thank you so so much and have a great day!
Although this video is mostly about anger controlling, it can also be used in facing those bad feelings in our mind. Thank you!
when i feel im about to burst out, i whistle and think positively. Now its a habbit of mine.😊
Right on time! Thank you! Useful & practical
As a empath empathy doesn’t help at all in stressful situations if anything it makes it worse
if you truly are an empath, you know that everyone is just boiling their emotions at that point. You can help by having a snack break or go by boba or something, so it gives you some time to think and relax a bit.
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Every time you are presented with a challenge, think of it as a choice point. These moments are precious opportunities. Life will get more interesting if you evolve along the way. You already know the old tune. Ask yourself if it is time for a new one.
Paulo Coehlo said, “Never allow waiting to become a habit. Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening now.”
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This is what I’m trying to achieve right now. My emotions go from 0-100 and a lot of times I don’t even notice that I’m upset because it happened so fast. I’m trying to slow down now and realize when I’m getting there so I can choose to come back down.❤
Is dealing with the narc ever worth it? No! I am changing the channel on my radio!
Thank you so much for this comment. It opened my eyes
Thank you so much for this. I act on my frustration and irribility sometimes and I really want to stop it. I think your advice will really help me. My goal is to regulate my emotions and keep positivity even if my emotions are triggered to be able to take control of my response to it. Thank you for this video!!
Very helpful video. These techniques, along with some stoic principles have helped me get control of my strong emotions. I'm a much happier person today.
Practicing empathy helps a lot. My mother introduced this concept to me and it changed my life..
@3:18 Sometime Constipation also make you angry whole day! Try to alter your food habits, minimize tea/coffee & regularly do yoga & jogging at morning, take minimum 7 hour sleep!
I used to never handle my emotions well and reacted in destructive ways. One of the things I did was alcohol and drugs to escape my problems and it never solved anything and created more problems. Because my addiction caused me problems I got treatment and therapy and it helped me solve my problems and made me happier. I processed through these things and worked through them. Another thing was my resentments and built up anger. I realized when I was told that resentments only hurt you. I realized that these people will get their karma if they don't change and if they do good for them. I learned to not have ill will towards people because I wouldn't want that for anyone and they would get karma anyways. Plus I saw my part and it helped me to change. It's a healing process and worth it.
The Disney movie "Turning Red" is a perfect example on how you can control your anger, this video reminded me of it! 😄
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Thank you for creating such impactful content! After watching this video, I learned that emotional control is not about suppressing our feelings but understanding them. By practicing habits like empathy, stress management, and pausing before reacting, we can navigate tough situations with clarity and composure.
fun fact : i cry in the argument
Us bro us
Us bro us😢
Bro ❤❤
Same here
It's okay ❤️
A very valuable video! Thank you so much! ❤💫
It also calmed me down and helped to understand that my emotions are really normal. And all you need to do is try to control them and not let them get the better of you
After all, it is you who should manage your emotions, not the other way around 🌱
💫No reaction is still the best choice in 90% cases. Years of experiences showed me that.
This is the real world. These ideas r easier said than done.
Seems # 1 recommendation, one counting in the chemical countdown, can be coupled with # 12 recommendation -- breathing. Thanks for the video.
I think I'm watching this at the right time. Because someone's been provoking my anger , my boundaries and also make me worry about things I've never did (they comment on how I look, which I don't like even if it's positive or negative. Like I didn't care till they kept on saying stuffs). I'm practically the verge of snapping at them. I was like "the next time they comment I'm going full on rage" .
Sadness is a natural part of life, no matter how successful you are. Allow yourself to feel it, knowing it doesn't define your journey.
My mantra : Life is too short to argue to such shitty people, so take a deep breath and move ahead💀
You are all Wellness Warriors! I love it. Keep searching and never stop growing.
Remember:- Not every situation is worth controlling our emotions. There are situations that sometimes you really need to outburst but decently, just channelise your emotions. Learn how to show your anger.
But the choice is you can stay unreactive to most bullshits in this world unless it is affecting you directly.
This video is so amazing that I decided to subscribe immediately, that's how much it impressed me! Thank you, I will write all this down in my notebook for important notes and will follow them, and in order not to forget, I will repeat it until all these actions become automatic for me when resolving various disagreements and conflicts 😉
My mantra:
We feel temporary pleasures and pains because when our senses get connected or dependent on our expectations. These emotions are as temporary as the coming and going of seasons. It's better to try experienceing it without being overwhelmed with this emotion.
#4 is great for PTSD since PTSD makes you feel stuck and enable to feel. So practice identifying to process and move on from it. All are very helpful! ❤
Who says not reacting to people who makes life difficult for you is good for PTSD? They continue to make your life difficult
I need to learn fast at not reacting to negative people in my life.
Try exhale and hold for 20 seconds. Your emotional pain will be removed 👍 Also try holding a smile, your brain will have no option but to change your mood :)
I watched this video for my English but at the end it make me mentally aware! What a great information ❤
I have difficulty controlling my emotions while under the influence of alcohol. So I have become sober!
When you are in spiritually awakened journey this thing usually happens to you without any reason. thank you for this useful tips it will help a lot.
Wow 🤩 this video was really helpful for me 😊! Much love for this channel all the way from Uganda 🇺🇬, Africa 🎉
Number 2 is a long process, especially for anyone with multiple childhood wounds. It helps to apply number 4 to know what you need to do for yourself (never rely on others) to ease your triggers. Living with ptsd is no joke.
Controlling one’s emotions especially anger is important especially in the workplace but there are moments that you do have to release those emotions especially sadness, frustrations etc becauee bottling them up can also lead to depression and suicide or self harm. It is ok to cry and express your frustrations as long as you are hurting someone physically.
Cry or express your emotions in private, not public. It is like farting, no one wants to share it with you.
@@ohsweetmystery Or they can cry in public and choose to ignore. You don't know what people go through in the moment.
if ever any, i’d rather teach my children “don’t expect ppl not to do something back to you, especially after they’ve told you to stop. you’re no longer entitled to their reaction, all due to YOUR actions.” there’s justifiable anger, bullying is one!
I like the video. However, we need a video of people with legitimate reasons to be angry.
To be clear, I am not pointing the finger at the creator, but in many cases, people have legitimate reasons to be angry. Personally, I have been told to withdraw my anger many times, when only it turned out it was legitimate; for once, I was so injured that I went to ICU, and I am still trying to be nice. Later on, I find that keeping the anger in only makes it build up more and more.
Its mean and its teach you to be love yourself and know about yourself than anyone, just simple like you know your feeling its mean you already win because you know to calm your self. This life full of up and down FIGHTHING. I think this mantra or arfimasi for yourseld its good "DO WHATRVER YOU WANT"
Here's my issues. First I'm not always capable of doing any of this . Because I go from A to B in 0 point 1 seconds. Like there's no time to even be rational .
Next . When I let it go. Or try to discuss not argue with the person , even days later they absolutely will not do anything but argue. They want it dropped , ignored and to pretend it never happened. So then I stew about it and get more mad. And they say " you always go on and on "
Omg I relate to this so much! :`)
Had similar thoughts after watching. Like Idk how to think about before giving the reaction, or taking 5 seconds or anything. If I got mad at something I'll let it out in an automatic response I cannot control. Idk what to do lol
I think its time I really start my journaling ! I find myself getting easily angered and annoyed anymore! Some are good days, and others not! I deal with anxiety, ADHD, some depression .
I feel already relaxed by watching this video ❤
A very good mantra for me is: if your spirit is a river and angry fold in it in mixt with your spirit, but it’s doesn’t means your spirit is a great I can clean the water, and my spirit still there clean so as the river return to clean water. The anger does not become my mind it’s just passing into it for a moment
I like this - thank you!
In analyzing y outbursts I realized they occurred when I was taken off guard, I wasn’t expecting some behavior from someone or I was denied something I wanted. My mantra: When taken off guard react with compassion not entitlement
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Oh man, that’s so tough tho!!
I'm just going to blame myself for any problem that occurs whether it's my fault or not because I don't have the patience, time, or ability to effectively communicate my thoughts. I struggle with my emotions heavily, and when I'm criticized for even the tiniest thing, I don't know how to react, and the majority of the time I'll just cry. I feel like if I always blame myself, problems would be resolved a lot quicker.
(Using mantra like he said) Another way you can save yourself from these kinds of situations is using bible verses that shifts you to be wise in those situations from reacting regretfully.😊👍🏼
and this is why i consider emotion a weakness! now before you overreact ask yourself to name 1 decision better made with emotion over logic
Doing what your wife asks simply bcuz she ask.
@kareemdowner9600 the fact that someone does something without considering it for no other reason than they were asked makes them a simp
@icedemond24 What it makes you is irrelevant. It is, however, (a lot of times) a better decision than if logic was allowed to "crowd" the space
@@kareemdowner9600 how so?
@@icedemond24 it can't be explained. It has to be experienced 🙂 and that's why logic doesn't apply 😄
Thanks for sharing this information have a great day ❤
Best just avoid people as far as possible. This what I've got into doing lately. Reckon I'll stick wiv it
I live in the Uk and people are always angry loud and over the top they tend to be quite rude aggressive and disrespectful to the point that if they don’t like you they will immediately result to insult and mockery you do not have to do anything and suddenly they become triggered. I have even been out in public when I have had people scream and get angry at me just for walking down the street. and yet I don’t do anything but mind my own business.
Tell me about it! Such a miserable place I hate it here
really?
i thought, polite people live there..
the introduction will test your emotions
Actual content starts at 2:40
In times like this and the one Your talking to just wants to "WIN", i just think and tell to myself, LET HIM, GIVE WAY, THAT'S WHAT MAKES HIM HAPPY, SO LET GO. At least im not the one stressed
Learned a lot here to manage my emotions. Thank you!
I find i get very frustrated, hurt and even angry when i am putting effort into trying to show understanding and empathy twds the other in a disagreement or conflict but they refuse to do the same and hold to only seeing their side of things. I'm now coming to realise that instead of going in frustrating and painful cycle of continuing to reach for shared understanding and empathy, i just end the cycle by saying, i don't feel I'm being heard or understood here, fullstop. It then puts it bck to the other to reflect/or not..on why i don't feel heard or understood and raise questions and clarification (placing them in an energy of wanting to understand)
I have problem controlling my emotions but i will try these methods. I can get angry at little things
Same. It may be the ‘straw on the camels back’, built up anger or resentment or stress factors. Some days, allow anap!!! Forgive the past and let it go. Good luck!
I really need this video to control my anger issues 😩 so thank u so much :D for the advice
It is good to have no reaction but after long time those emotion will come back in more painful way.
As for me i never reacted in any event. And now i easily get annoyed and in the chat (when i am not face to face with anyone) i vent all my angers frustration, which make me look totally different from real life.
And it is painful sometimes.
Special thanks to you for creating this video to help us...❤😊
Number 8,9,11 is new for me. Thanks.
I need to practice this everyday. No, reaction is a better action. Need to focus.😳
Very helpful insights thank you.
It is not at all easy
But at least try
Because try try u will succeed
Because YES I have succeeded👍🙏and yes these techinques WORK.
It took 5 years of work but yes it WORKS.
I’m literally watching this right now because I’m making it a point to change my behaviors, one of them being my emotional reactions. But man is it hard! Especially with one particularly emotionally immature person. I’m sitting on some pretty intense anger rn.
Amazing!! I needed this :)